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| 402 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/ | DISCUSSION | Suspicious-Traffic-1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Mood | QUEEN SH*T | Suspicious-Traffic-1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 05:20 PM |
| 1 | The fact that this was probably approved by multiple people before it was published says a lot about our society. | DISCUSSION | Suspicious-Traffic-1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:13 PM |
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| 61 | On flaky “friends” and why I understand when women overinvest in their romantic relationships. I think we can have pickme tendencies without being a full blown pickme.So many female friendships end over dudes it’s sad and pathetic really. One of my (ex) closest friends and I went travelling together, she cut me off right after the trip because we met this guy on the trip and she couldn’t handle that he hit on me too, lol. Apparently she developed strong feelings for him after hanging out for like one week and got annoyed that he hit on me. I don’t think I even thought about this guy once after I came back, but to her it was enough to end our friendship. I tri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:20 PM |
| 14 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.That’s what I don’t understand, for what? Why would they do that? What did they get out of it? Disgusting creeps. All they did was make me feel violated, I highly doubt they got any pleasure from rubbing their shoulder on my back like wtf? And the thing that angered me even more was this motherfucker trying to pretend to be asleep like OH OK BECAUSE MEN GROPE WOMEN WHILE SLEEPING. I’m still angry but thankfully I’ve worked through the shame of it all! Thankfully it did not stop me from my travel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 06:55 PM |
| 38 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.Exactly what happened to me I’ve always wanted to talk about this. My first time travelling solo (I was only 21) I boarded my flight got the window seat and was seated beside two men. As the flight departed the man beside me starting pushing himself close to me, putting his face and shoulders on me while he pretended to ducking sleep. He started rubbing his shoulders and face against mine, I even turned away and he started doing that o my back!!!! For a LONG time I just froze, eventually I physi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:07 PM |
| 18 | I found my underwear in my brothers room, I am seriously paranoid & starting to think the worst. Just Why. Perversion needs to stop invading my life.Bro what, and your mum just told you that so casually? Wasn’t she freaking out about why your brother took your undies? EW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:58 PM |
| 18 | She kicked him out of her house mid stroke lol. Don't let them use you as a fleshlight.This is so iconic I’m dying 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 08:51 AM |
| 3 | Dating a woman and ignoring the men who want me has been the best dating decision I’ve ever made.Aww this is so sweet ☺️ so happy for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 07:45 AM |
| 2 | Gay couples versus straight couples.Who is he? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 08:18 AM |
| 84 | “You seem expensive”What a weirdo, why is he so mad she is spending her own money on herself. Weird | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 02:10 PM |
| 4 | To My Divorced Women- How Are Things?You go lady! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 05:43 PM |
| 16 | Just in case the men do not believe the previous picture of them separately is taken at the same time, here they are taking a selfie together. The cast of Friends. There is no Wall for women.This is true. But sadly in this capitalistic world a lot of women are too overworked (and used by men for domestic labour) to be able to have time to prioritise their health and self care :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 12:47 PM |
| 8 | Just in case the men do not believe the previous picture of them separately is taken at the same time, here they are taking a selfie together. The cast of Friends. There is no Wall for women.Oh I understand that point completely. But then the post should’ve said that, instead of ‘ there is no wall for women ‘ because that implies that women magically age like fairies. If the post focused on the misconception that men age like wine, it would’ve made a lot more sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 12:43 PM |
| 79 | Just in case the men do not believe the previous picture of them separately is taken at the same time, here they are taking a selfie together. The cast of Friends. There is no Wall for women.Also Lisa Kudrow has visibly aged. She has lots of wrinkling and jowling and she doesn’t seem to care at all. She clearly doesn’t look as good as she did when she was on friends but who cares, she’s still beautiful and an amazing woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:26 AM |
| 465 | Just in case the men do not believe the previous picture of them separately is taken at the same time, here they are taking a selfie together. The cast of Friends. There is no Wall for women.I’m sorry, I want to buy into this mindset that there is no wall for women because the concept of the wall is ridiculous in itself. (And mysogynistic as fuck) But using 3 multimillionaire actresses who have access to the best trainers, surgery and skincare as examples of women not hitting the wall makes no sense to me. Jennifer Anniston is not what regular 50 year old women look like. A lot of 50 year old do look like shit, and that’s ok. Instead of trying to prove that women continue to magical… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:14 AM |
| 56 | British/ European woman in their twenties, how do you navigate dating while sticking to FDS principles?Off topic, but it really bothers me that drinking is normalised as a first date. I am not going drinking with a strange man the first time I meet him. Sounds like something men normalised because it 100% benefits them but 100% putting the woman in danger or in a place where she can be easily sexually coerced. No respectful dude I have ever met in my life has asked me to go drinking with him on a first date, it’s an absolute Nono and a red flag to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/21 11:30 AM |
| 16 | YEP👏🏼YES LOVE IT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 07:36 PM |
| 20 | Discussion: why do men think they can bring nothing to the table and still be valued? Why should we value a man who offers NOTHING?Because they constantly are. Some women will accept anything, and these men are aware that lots of women are so desperate to just not be single they’ll take anything. So these men DO get valued, that’s the sad truth lolll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 06:44 AM |
| 17 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.Your mom is amazing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:35 PM |
| 14 | Chronicles of my LVM ex + my former pick me self.You too BRO? Are you fucking kidding me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:34 PM |
| 7 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻I think after years of dating toxic men I’m now learning how to relax around actually nice men. Thanks. Let’s see how it goes :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 6 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻Very true. I’ve stayed fully single for over 3 years and really worked on my healing, now I do feel I’m ready for something stable and healthy. I guess I’ll see where this goes :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:57 PM |
| 11 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻He makes me feel special but he’s not making me feel ‘desired’ if that makes sense. He’s good with communication, cancels plans with his friends to come hang out with me, plans dates, is super sweet and kind to me in general, has told his closest friends and family about me, stuff like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:53 PM |
| 8 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻Honestly, I’m probably just traumatised from my past. Working through it step by step. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻We met through family! He’s a family friend. I think yes he’s into me in general. He’s a super shy reserved guy in general so that’s definitely a factor. The thing is I’m used to men who are VERY forward, and try to escalate sexually right from the get go and this dude is the polar opposite so I’m feeling a little wary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 02:44 PM |
| 16 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻He does but they’re usually pretty low key. No overt you look beautiful, or compliments me in any way that indicates that he really desires me. Which confuses me, I’m used to men trying to escalate right from date one. I quite like it but at the same time I wish he would give me like a quick good night kiss at the end of the night now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:20 PM |
| 28 | Not even two days 🤦🏻♀️✌🏻Question, what do you guys think of men who are the opposite? I’ve been on 3 dates with this guy and he’s super sweet and respectful, but he has made like 0 affectionate/physical contact with me. We’ve hugged, but he’s not tried to kiss me yet or honestly sexualised me in any way. Now the logical part of my brain is refusing to believe that he’s just a good dude 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:36 PM |
| 14 | Maybe this will help somebodyWatched this yesterday, it broke my heart. The amount of abuse it takes to somehow convince your mind that it’s ok that your boyfriend doesn’t allow you to wear lipstick. God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:48 PM |
| 239 | So it finally happened; a NVM from my past came crawling back.Bumped into the NVM I was in full on love with 2 weeks ago at a house party. He had the audacity to cling to me all night, then at 2 am asked me to come home with him. I laughed, downed my drink and walked out in 5 mins. Felt fucking amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 08:52 AM |
| 7 | Guess I'm Strange AF ThenStrange and HAPPY AND IN FUCKING PEACE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 12:36 PM |
| 5 | I guess this is my cue to delete bumble cuz I’ve finally seen it allCan’t even fucking spell Photo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 07:21 AM |
| 4 | How do women in developing nations adhere to FDS given that women’s rights are basically non-existent and laws jail women for walking outside without a headscarf or for dancing in public?I live in a developing country and I have a love/hate relationship with it. There is an intense pressure to get married. I’m only 25 and it’s already intense. I’m lucky that I don’t get it from my parents, I handle our business and I’m bringing in money and they trust me to be able to take care of myself. They raised me to be very independent, encouraged me to travel alot alone (so I did, a lot of my early 20s I spent making money for 10 months and travelling for 2) and find self security. My da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:06 AM |
| 18 | Why “50/50” is so often still unequal...I knew Ben was Bullshit when he called a WAP a medical condition, frankly made me feel super sorry for his wife 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 12:14 PM |
| 58 | From The "Book Of Negs" (Negging). This Is What Seduction/Red Pill/Pick-Up Artists Have Been Teaching Males To Do To UsA man once told me at a bar that I was boring because I simply wasn’t interested and distracted. He said ‘ you’re one of those girls whose mildly hot so gave up on a personality didn’t you ‘. I gave him the iciest look of my entire life and walked away. Dude chased me around all night. Men are losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:15 PM |
| 2 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.Good point! I think cultural context is very important here, since this is normal in my culture (I live in a conservative country) but frankly that doesn’t matter because I personally prefer men who take charge myself. After thinking about it for 2 days, it’s going to be a no from me. I’m beautiful and capable and run my own business, I don’t have to settle. I’m also a very private person and having other people involved my relationships is extremely off putting to me, so yep. Not gonna be mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 09:30 AM |
| 94 | "Deadbeat" by TMG (Cody Ko and Noel Miller) had me dying of laughter this morning. I had to share it here 😂There is nothing FDS about Girl defined. Their belief that women should be ‘godly’ and ‘submissive’ is nothing but deep internalised misogyny and they constantly shame other women and put women down all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 07:24 AM |
| 3 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.Makes perfect sense actually and I think that’s exactly what he’s trying to set up, a courtship period. I’ve essentially been told that he’s not expecting me to say yes to an engagement immediately, but he wants to get to know me in a more serious setting and he’s eventually looking to date for marriage now (not a fwb/hooking up vibe) The weird part is even though we live in a technically conservative country our daily lifestyle is extremely liberal. My family is liberal, casual dating/hookup cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 02:21 PM |
| 5 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.It is culturally appropriate behaviour, I live in a conservative country. And that is exactly what I told her, that he should be having this conversation with me first and I don’t have any interest in marriage with him as of yet. If I get to know him and that changes sure but I can’t promise marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:59 PM |
| 2 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.That’s literally exactly why I’m asking for advice? I personally think this is way too fast. I don’t KNOW what I want yet with him, so I am not committing to him. I don’t feel obligated to say yes to him I have a backbone and am quite capable of figuring out what I want in DUE time, my question is simply- is this a red flag or no for a guy to approach you this seriously right from the get to? Because I have seen mixed messages about this on this forum. Some people are of the belief that a guy sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 01:56 PM |
| 63 | Cut my date short at the first sign of disrespectVery well done. That one sentence of his exposed his entire mentality. GOOD FOR YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:08 AM |
| 2 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.I will keep this in mind. Thank you so much :) this really helped. When he comes back we will talk and I’ll see if he’s willing to give me time, if yes then I will give it a shot, if no then well, it’s over. Thankfully I am attracted to him but I don’t have feelings yet, so it’s not going to be too hard! Again, being downvoted for thanking someone for giving me good advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:46 AM |
| 20 | Georgia Tech Student Celebrates Her Work On Mars RoverYES HER AND DR SWATI MOHAN ARE MY FOREVER role models now soooooo proud of them!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:44 AM |
| 8 | TELL YO DADDY WE DON'T CARE!!! I remember seeing this show a few years back and really really wanting to high five this boss babes!!Holy shit I’m saving this. This was boss bitch level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:34 AM |
| 4 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.The actual issue is the opposite, he IS extra committal. Ideally he wants to get engaged to me by 2022 but max 2023 and then get married whenever I please, willing to do it early/wait however long I need. I’m freaked out because honestly no man has ever in my life shown me serious interest like this, and I don’t feel ready to commit to a 1-2 year timeline. Although he is willing to wait but that’s his preference, he’s 29 I’m 25. His stem mom wants me to marry him, basically lock it down also bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:22 AM |
| 8 | The only worthwhile heterosexual relationships are where both people love each other, but the man loves the woman slightly more than she loves him.This is the perfect post for me rn. Can someone please give me some advice? :( I’ve been talking to this guy for the past 2 months and we’ve been hanging out as friends for over one year now. He’s a great guy, kind and good looking. He’s never spoken to me about his feelings or anything like that. To note, we are family friends, and I’ve known his stem mom since I was 12 y/o. Well long story his mom calls me over for lunch a couple days ago and let’s me know that the guy is really into me, and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:47 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/I think this is a perfect answer. Thank you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:26 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/I think usually people do this when the party IS winding down and the host starts to pick up some stuff. In my culture that’s generally when other people will join the host and start picking up some stuff too. No one deep cleans, it’s just a polite thing to do to make the hosts life a little bit easier and thank them for the good time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:17 AM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/It’s not that people ‘ expect ‘ you to clean in my culture, but 99% of the time people offer as a nice gesture to thank the host. We don’t go around deep cleaning, but we do help the host pick up stuff here and there when we’re winding down. People do the same in my home, including the men. And some people will sit back and chill, and you’re not judged for that either. Everyone takes turns, it’s honestly not seen as such a big deal to us. Definitely not something we’ll be side eyeing women for p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 05:14 AM |
| 17 | What are your thoughts on this? I was raised to pick up after myself, and help the host clean up if needed. Male/female doesn’t matter. Does that make me a pick me? :/I think in a big party it’s very awkward and weird especially when it’s full of people you don’t even know like why will I clean after random people. but in my friend group (very close) we all help each other clean up when they host. They do the same at my home ( including the boys ). Everyone just takes turns. Idk how that’s pick me behaviour tbh. I think it’s toxic to think every woman who does this anywhere and everywhere is a pick me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 08:39 AM |
| 2 | This is what a real man is aboutLucky you 😊 My dad is an amazing man too and now that I’m older (25) and not a bratty teenager I realise how lucky I am to have such an amazing male role model in my life. He set the bar very very high. My mom has dealt with addiction for the past 15 years, and not once has my dad even considered leaving her. She has been so cruel to him sometimes, as she has been to me and my brother. But my dad has not given up on her. He continues to believe things will be okay ( even though I believe it’s no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:03 PM |
| 36 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I’m the friend my friends bitch to after a disappointing hookup, so I know 😂 I’ve Also always been acutely aware that I only open up sexually when I’m very close and comfortable with someone. So a casual hookup has never appealed to me, I’m kind of shy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:28 PM |
| 33 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I’m not ashamed :) I was until I was 24 but I turned 25 in December and decided; you know what this is just who I am and I am proud of it :D if I don’t want to sleep around it’s my choice, but I do admit it makes dating difficult | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 02:26 PM |
| 146 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I get indirectly shamed semi regularly for my choice not to engaged in casual sex. It has led to be being a virgin at 25 y/o and for some reason this information incites a very strong reaction from people. I’m constantly told that I am either ‘ wasting my twenties ‘ or ‘ will regret not enjoying my youth ‘ when I’m 50. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:19 PM |
| 75 | Proud of myselfThis! You saved yourself OP. Good riddance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:58 PM |
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