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| 630 | Times you need confort are good for vetting... | RANT | Suspicious_Bad_5178 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 11:44 AM |
| 201 | FDS stance on BDSM | SHOWER THOUGHT | Suspicious_Bad_5178 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:07 PM |
| 3 | How to handle LV father | Suspicious_Bad_5178 | /r/askFDS | 09/06/21 02:09 PM | |
| 1 | Poor social skills vs just an introvert | Suspicious_Bad_5178 | /r/askFDS | 08/11/21 06:44 PM |
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| 6 | Relation between abuse and surgery, beauty practices aren’t discussedYess! People constantly abuse and humiliate others and then just say "well you should love yourself" Everyone is responsible for their own healing and growth, of course, but that doesn't take away other people's accountability for the damage done. Yeah she should love herself but also they should go f* themselves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:04 PM |
| 29 | Absurd Things Your Ex's Mom Would Say That Are REDFLAGSOh god my ex mother in law used to say that. And when we broke up, she called me asking me to talk to him, get some sense into his head because he was pushing his family away and not doing well in college. I don't remember my answer, but I remember feeling flatterned that she thought I was such a good influence etc etc. Now I see it for what it was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 02:03 PM |
| 143 | Men discuss heartache on Reddit’s relationship forum more than women, study finds… but we’re the ones who are missing out. Suuuure.more like Egoache ffs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 04:19 PM |
| 18 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeLOL an ex publicly cheated on me the night before my first SAT because he wasn't taking his (we were the same age, he should be) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Yeah I saw on AskWomen "You can ask your ex one question with a guaranteed truthful answer. What do you ask?" And you know what? There's not one thing I need to know, I know everything that matters. I just don't ever want to be associated with them ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 02:46 PM |
| 68 | FDS Gift Guide?Well, in my case he mentioned that he wanted to buy me something. So I spent $40 on a gift that can be easily regifted just in case. I will only give it if he gives me a gift first. It's a new relationship so I don't really know for longer relationships, for I only had those pre-FDS and I would NOT recommend doing anything I did back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 12:29 PM |
| 19 | Lmao at his whiny edit. The holidays really bringing the scrotes out.It's so annoying how men never expect the sh!t they do to have consequences! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:25 AM |
| 12 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?Oh and how could I forget. Be with guys you're not attracted to and you're actually embarrassed to be with! They'll treat you better! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:55 AM |
| 13 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?I was OnE oF tHe BoYzzzz they respected and appreciated my friendship! If I was cheated on it was obviously my own fault If I don't have sex right away how will I know if we are compatible?????? Yeah I starve myself so I look skinny but it's not like I CARE to look hot, I'm just so cool and I don't care! I'm just obliviously hot! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:46 AM |
| 5 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.LOL he was very much of a butt nugget indeed | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:24 AM |
| 121 | yes. yes I am here because of the Hair Towel :D - share you're favourite LVM stories if they fit the rules of my post, as told in the main body.Wow this just unlocked a memory of my ex. I was nervous to travel with him and his family and worried about how I would do my hair (very very thick hair) because my hair dryer wasn't working. This wouldn't stop me from going or anything but I was worried about it. He threw a fit and it was a Whole Thing for the rest of our, fortunately, short relationship. What the f* and I mean he never complained about having his arm candy all dolled up all the time but I couldn't be seen "worrying about it". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:29 PM |
| 6 | What made you finally decenter men from your life?I think I'm still in the process, but for me it was working towards my goals. Having a well kept home, working out, dedicating myself to my job and my studies, it just takes a lot of time! So I didn't have time to center my life around men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:24 PM |
| 14 | How do you tell the difference between your gut telling you something about the present vs what you've been conditioned to expect?Yes, I'm seeing someone now and I had a situation recently where my head was ringing an alarm but my gut - the physical gut- just felt.... calm. And the situation ended up alright, with my gut being right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:24 PM |
| 15 | Ladies, can you help me interpret these yellow/orange/red flags?After years of being gaslighted by everyone including myself, I like these discussions where I can validate feelings and thoughts with other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:08 PM |
| 46 | Ladies, can you help me interpret these yellow/orange/red flags?I think he didn't want her to see if any notification popped up. From other women, dating apps, escorts apps, whatever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 12:06 PM |
| 4 | Tropes I’m tired ofI hate the "mom competition" tropes also! Funny how moms have to be perfect and dads are just "wow chillax live life..." and that's the lesson of the film. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:58 AM |
| 9 | Tropes I’m tired ofThe perfect physique despite never going to the gym is so damaging! As a chubby teen I never got it how people were so skinny and why I wasn't, with led to ED and depression. And in the movies they are always eating pizza, drinking beers, having ice cream and caloric food in general. It is so confusing for young girls, always made me feel like there was something wrong with me that I couldn't do those things and be a size 0. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:55 AM |
| 11 | 🎵All of my LEAST favorite things...🎵Yeahh like I get it taking a little bit of the free food but come on!!! Are you preparing for the apocalypse? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:42 AM |
| 65 | When you find out and they gaslight you anywayslol when this guy told me he was exclusively with me and then I found him on a dating app.... first he said he wasn't using it (there was a picture from just a few days before), then he said he didn't remember telling me he was exclusive, and then he just acted dumb. Good riddance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 11:36 AM |
| 75 | Shawn Mendes dumped Camilla Cabello and called the relationship “stale and complacent”… this happened conveniently after she gained weight and publicly spoke about her cellulite, fat and stretch marks. Coincidence?Oh not again LVM with the "I have a darkness inside of me" thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 12:58 PM |
| 37 | Piggybacking off of the not clapping back at men who neg you post. What are some examples of negging that men have done to you?Yessss what the f*ck has this guy ever even payed for meat to even know what it costs??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 12:02 PM |
| 4 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.It's such a crazy coincidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | An ugly reason why some men start familiesI grew up in a tradicional setting, both parents present etc and I was comparing my issues with a friend that was raised by a single mom. Guess what, we have similar issues and father-related traumas. My father being in the house instead of out like hers made nothing better, it was actually damaging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:30 AM |
| 25 | FDS when you're down on your looks" I still feel like if a short, obese dude who didn't shave and had facial problems didn't want me, no HVM will." I feel this and understand how it must have felt. But let's reframe it? He KNEW he was an obese dude who didn't shave and had facial problems. He wanted to knock your confidence down so you didn't acknowledge you were much better than him and deserved much better than him. The only boyfriend who would call me fat was...... fat. And hairy. And short. So yeah, it affected me for a whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:32 PM |
| 39 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sI think the pickme culture of creating a never ending competition between women is what makes us think that female friendships suck. If you are friends with pickmes it really WILL suck, you can never trust them, they will throw you under the bus anytime they feel like it, you will be lied to, treated badly and have your secrets exposed. But a good female friendship with HVW?? It's just the best. You will be valued, plan fun activities together, receive and give respectful advices without overwhe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 01:23 PM |
| 16 | Netflix Love Hard movie - typical storyline of giving LVM chances (spoiler alert)|We agreed its a propaganda movie to get women to lower their standards and settle for less. Exactly this. Painful to watch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:05 PM |
| 5 | Share your experiences with violent homeless men. I'll start: he punched me in the face on public transport...Once a homeless man grabbed my ass, it was the most disgusting thing ever. I was just paralyzed and shocked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 12:00 PM |
| 14 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.This reminds me of a time my friend was texting this guy from tinder, they arranged a date for the next day (saturday). He proceeds to talk to her saturday pretending that didn't happen, he even asked her what her weekend plans were. WHUUUT Her and pre-FDS I were baffled and really confused to why would he do that, or how she should respond. Now I know this is straight up disrespect and a move to make us insecure and eager for their attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 06:24 PM |
| 27 | Weight neggingTBT to when my LVX would show me my pictures of when I was a teen "look how much cuter you were when you were thinner" I should have dumped him right then and there ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 12:36 PM |
| 4 | A weird form of negging, but I can’t quite put a finger on what I should call itEven at the peak of my pickme days I was just so annoyed when I was telling a guy that I was looking for an internship and he was trying to define me "oh you look like you prefer in this and this area, that you couldn't handle this and that" like hm excuse me? We've met 15 minutes ago? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 05:03 PM |
| 181 | I did it. (TW: r*pe)I'm sorry that life made you have to be that strong, but I'm glad that you found said strength. You're inspiring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 11:31 AM |
| 18 | Buzzfeed pushing dangerous LV shitThe reason I came to reddit was because BuzzFeed would make """articles""" that were mainly copy paste of interesting reddit posts. Since I got here I'm free of that joke | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:27 AM |
| 37 | Banned from r/dating?Yeah, me too. Honestly I couldn't save anyone on that subreddit anyway so it's fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:34 PM |
| 12 | A List of LovebombsThe big plans part is what really makes me angry - to this day I have difficulty trusting when people say they have plans with me and they actually go through with it. I always think it's some kind of future faking and lovebombing :/ (working on that on therapy!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 11:56 AM |
| 8 | A List of Lovebombsoh god, I have fallen for this once ughhhhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 11:54 AM |
| 8 | Don’t tell a man about your past sex life ever…I remember questioning an ex-fling once, he was telling me his ex had cheated but it was with a girl so it was okay. I asked if he was watching, if he enjoyed it and he told me he wasn't even there. I asked what he had gained with it other than being cheated on and he went quiet. People are so weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 11:38 AM |
| 2 | FDS stance on BDSMYesss! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 11:20 AM |
| 40 | FDS stance on BDSMThis is the first book by her that I read, and it's actually painful how pickmeisha the character is. I haven't finished but I think your opinion is right, she is just *so different*, so much smarter and into politics and beautiful but doesn't know it and whatever. Oh please. But I'm actually finding it interesting to see "from the outside" something similar to what I used to be. It's embarassing but I'm finding it helpful to remind me to not EVER be like that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:43 PM |
| 12 | Rory Gilmore is a pickme & a bad example to young girls (spoiler alert)I think Lane's journey was what made me so scared of having an unwanted pregnancy! It was awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 12:03 PM |
| 15 | What coping mechanisms did you not know you had (or developed) after post-breakup reflection?For me it's the opposite: being too negative. So i suffer in advance and when things go wrong (self sabotage mainly), I just think "see? I knew it would go wrong. I don't deserve good things" Working hard on therapy to stop doing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 04:43 PM |
| 11 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.Thanks <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 02:27 PM |
| 71 | From Lundy Bancroft, "Why does he do that?". Re-reading and came across one of my favourite section of the book. It helped me recognise that "sorry" doesn't mean shit from men. If he wanted to, he would.Sometimes I come across these informative contents and it still hits me hard how abusive my former relationships were. And that they were actually mean and evil and they WANTED and CHOSE TO hurt me. Excellent post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:25 PM |
| 24 | Two recent "dating" experiences.I think your feelings regarding #1 are valid, his message is basically that you're worth the effort only if fuckable, but as a person and a friend you're not. It's insulting and I understand why it would upset you. I think the lesson on this one is that 99,9999% of men are not friend material. And #2 ah well, OLD am i right? Looking for a needle in the haystack | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:07 PM |
| 20 | Whenever I get mixed feelings about a man's actions...Yess! Sometimes we know exactly what to do and what we got ourselves into, but the tough love and validation from FDS can give us so much strengh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:42 AM |
| 26 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.Came here to say this. It's completely disgusting but let me f*ck it so that you're in pain as a sign that you're submissive to me anyway, men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:35 AM |
| 6 | Having men casually admit their depravity makes my stomach turn.Hmmm you're not wrong, I see your point, but I didn't feel the "ick" you know? I think she just told me as a curiosity and conversation starter, we hadn't spoken in a while and then she asked me how I was etc... But I see what you mean because she does know that I am heterosexual. The rest of the conversation was not sexual at all but I'll keep that in mind in future conversations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:13 PM |
| 3 | Having men casually admit their depravity makes my stomach turn.Funny thing is a lesbian friend of mine just texted me to say she had a wet dream about me lol this is definitely a sign!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:04 PM |
| 12 | TEA ☕️: If a guy has a small dick, he WILL very likely (try) to cheat.yessss reminds me of when I found my small-penised-LVX's diary (? he was 28 at the time) and he wrote how he was so proud of how many women he had fucked, that he loved showing off to his friends etc what the actual fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:38 AM |
| 96 | Having men casually admit their depravity makes my stomach turn.I feel you. I used to be quiet, and then I went through a phase that I always spoke up, but they were both draining. Currently I choose my battles, but it's horrible to have to listen to this type of thing on a daily basis. Makes me wish there was a straight cure to turn me into a lesbian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:34 AM |
| 3 | Sick of short males crying "discrimination"We don't think about it because we simply don't judge every man that crosses our path on their looks. If we're not interested, there's no reason to do so. To this day it baffles me that man are unable to see a woman anywhere near their visual range and not evaluate if they think she's hot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:25 AM |
| 69 | Sick of short males crying "discrimination"LOL the new CEO at my company is probably like 5'2". Discrimination my a$$ And I have dated many short guys because pickmeisha and guess what??? They all screwed me over So yeah I don't give a damn if your feefees are hurt because you're short | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:09 PM |
| 54 | Why it Never Works When Forever Gf Finally Gets the Ring"I saw my boss in a forever relationship with his gf of over 10 years. He referred to her as his wife but later on laughed openly when one of the guys asked if he was married." I work with someone just like that and it's disgusting. She makes his meals every single day (and he obviously complains about it). It's just so sad. He is proud to have cheated on every single girlfriend he ever had (but not this one he says, I'm sure it's true!!!) and to never having wore a condom in his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:19 PM |
| 64 | 🙄🙄 let’s idolize a couple that’s clearly miserable!!!not that different from normalizing hookup culture - which is just a form of self harm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 11:34 AM |
| 16 | Miya Marcano: Another woman missing at the hands of a manevery single time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 04:15 PM |
| 6 | Realizations from an LVM Dumping MeThank you! I have been a mechanical engineer since 2018. That's exactly the point, everytime I failed a class I knew exactly what went wrong. There was a specific class that I decided to give myself a break and not take it the next semester, because I didn't feel mentally ready. When I took it 2 semesters later, I aced it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Realizations from an LVM Dumping MeI'm so sorry you went through that, it must have been so lonely. Thank you for sharing, this list is so important to realize the things we don't want in relationships and start choosing better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:38 PM |
| 2 | 3 days, a whole 72 hours on NC .. Spent the weekend distracting myself with my family; had a lot of first times: bowling, mini golf, laser tag ✨ saw the city at night after what feels like a decade 🌃, then drank until I cried - but DIDN'T stalk him. Thanks so much for being patient with me 🙏🏽Heyy how are you today? How is the NC plan going? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 02:30 PM |
| 22 | Realizations from an LVM Dumping MeAlso, from an engineer's POV, never trust a person when they say it's too hard and it's okay to fail a class 3 times. I failed a couple classes (all of them just once) but honestly, it's not THAT hard and it's completely doable, men make it look harder so they'll have an excuse to be mediocre. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:37 PM |
| 9 | Realizations from an LVM Dumping MeIf you don't mind, could you share your list with us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:34 PM |
| 34 | Let me guess, she initiates every single date, too. Oh wait, she confirmed in the comments that, she in fact, does.I've been there too and it's sooooo embarassing to look back! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 05:07 PM |
| 8 | Coping with the early stages of a breakupSpend more time with your friends, occupy your time and mind. Start a new tv show, a book, anything that helps distracting your anxious mind. Are you happy with your daily routine? Maybe start cooking more, exercising more, decorate a room... Basically any project that will improve your life and take time. Cry it out! Watch stupid romantic clichés until you feel you got it out of your system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:51 PM |
| 5 | 3 days, a whole 72 hours on NC .. Spent the weekend distracting myself with my family; had a lot of first times: bowling, mini golf, laser tag ✨ saw the city at night after what feels like a decade 🌃, then drank until I cried - but DIDN'T stalk him. Thanks so much for being patient with me 🙏🏽So happy for you!! Looks like your weekend was so much fun! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 04:38 PM |
| 6 | 1 DAY OF NO CONTACT!You've got this!! You can do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:51 PM |
| 16 | This just in. Baldness - A systemic issue we should all be taking seriously.LOL the fragility. Now imagine if Gabby was fat - how many comments of how "the fat bitch had it coming" we would have to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 11:39 AM |
| 3 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateHappy cake day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:57 AM |
| 530 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Adding to that: A HVM that wants you won't put himself in the position of losing you. AKA If he wanted to, he would. He would text, he would call, he would make you feel special, he would propose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:40 PM |
| 543 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?Do not send long texts, do not ask "why", do not engage with LVM. Block and delete as soon as you identify him as one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:28 PM |
| 12 | How do you date man while knowing their depravitySo this is my take after therapy and months of FDS and it's not an easy one. Yes, most men suck (nOt AlL mEn lol) but I finally see that the common denominator was... me. I allowed them to treat me that way, I stayed, I had no boundaries and no self respect. It hurts and I have a hard time forgiving myself for being in those situations but the thing is: I KNEW they sucked, I had hard evidence of them sucking and zero evidence of them not-sucking. Once you are healed (I'm on my way) and you start… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 04:35 PM |
| 26 | Methods they use to stealth unsuspecting womenYou're not overeaching. That happened to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 11:32 AM |
| 3 | This quote from Cruella/ 101 Dalmatians rings truer than ever before… How many good women have we lost from our lives? How many ‘feminists’ have abandoned our movement for men/ marriage?Wow this is so great! I had never thought of the stories that way until I watched the movie! Yessss that line was so beautiful and powerful! My sister gave me the pallete of the Snow White's witch (I hate that I don't even know her name - does she have one?) and I love it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 01:20 PM |
| 27 | This quote from Cruella/ 101 Dalmatians rings truer than ever before… How many good women have we lost from our lives? How many ‘feminists’ have abandoned our movement for men/ marriage?Yesss just like they showed in the Maleficent movie!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:17 PM |
| 93 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?For me it's that I don't need to understand "why" anymore. I'm breaking free from the habit of trying to understand "why" did he say this, "why" did he act like that, "why" does this bother me if it looks harmless.... If there ever is a reason for a man to do something, it hardly ever is a good one. It doesn't matter why it bothers me, if it does it's my gut telling me to let him GO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 50 | Why? Just why?LOL in my pickme days I had one guy do this to me - and then proceed to not being able to perform when we tried to have sex. Not my proudest moment but wow I wish I could sue him for false advertisement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 11:23 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inI don't know about that because I don't listen to The Weeknd but I'm with Kelly Clarkson's "Catch my Breath" song stuck in my head and I actually think the lyrics are pretty FDS-y, as in a former pickme finally seeing the light and being set free | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:07 PM |
| 9 | First date quick vetting tipsI usually go for my nose. I used to be super insecure about it when I was a teenager but nowadays I like it, so it's a lie based on a former truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 02:37 PM |
| 8 | What YOU do wrongYeah I agree because I KNOW when I was at pickme peak I would dress way too revealing. It was the clother + the attitude and I'm sure I smelled desperate. Now I dress as I want, sometimes more revealing sometimes less, but it doesn't have the male gaze desperation, it's just for me. I definitely believe it's different and it was a consequence of my changed intentions and self esteem. I believe that's what OP meant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:50 PM |
| 22 | First date quick vetting tipsGirl, the money I could have saved It's liberating but also frustrating to realize all that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:26 PM |
| 63 | First date quick vetting tipsExactly this. If I had found FDS earlier, none of the guys that made me suffer so much wouldn't have even gotten a 2nd date. NOT ONE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:11 PM |
| 91 | What was your moment of clarity?I only remember one very specific one. I had tried to break up with him before but he didn't "let me", promising he would change, etc. Then, one week later, I called him and he just said he was at a party (that he never told me about...) and hung up on me. That was IT for me, I sent a text saying it was over. He didn't believe me! It took weeks of me telling him "we're not together, you don't need to tell me those things" for him to acknowledge that I broke up with him. Then he came running to m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 07:17 PM |
| 2 | For all the ladies who feel lonely sometimes...I remember one time my NVX took a beautiful picture of us kissing and posted to his IG... it was so cute and sweet! But what IG followers didn't know is that he posted it and said "there you go, I'll post it and maybe you won't nag me for the rest of the day" So yeah, it's okay to want love and romance, but comparing to IG's fake realities is never a good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 06:11 PM |
| 2 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?LOL I'm an engineer and I vouch for that. Storytime. I dated a fellow engineer student for 6 months. The first time he told me he loved me was when I was traveling (without him) and via e-mail. This isn't a joke, that ACTUALLY happened. Even my pickme self thought it was strange, but I was just so happy a man told me he loved me. Also, he was, indeed, a fuckboy, mommaboy, kinda fat (i was heavier at the time, but I was the only one who needed a diet in his opinion) and had the smallest dick on e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:47 PM |
| 1 | What makes YOU so amazing??!I am smart and I can talk about many different subjects I can be very empathetic, sweet and nurturing too! Sometimes I get insecure about it, but the truth is that I have never looked as beautiful and fit as I do right now Loyal I'm a great cook and baker, and I love feeding the people I love I am funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:48 PM |
| 2 | He asked to borrow moneyWhat the actual f! I was just talking to my friends about how weird and wrong it is to ask friends for money. We were saying how we only owe friends in situations like trips and dinners that we split costs, etc, but never directly asking for money. If I absolutely had to, I would ask my family! But imagine the audacity to ask a CLIENT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 59 | listening to Gotye song “Somebody that I used to know” after discovering FDS made me laugh at the whiney scrote lyrics ..I like this part of the song because I've been there so many times. It pointed out exactly how it feels to be in an abusive relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:56 PM |
| 29 | If a man has a female best friend it is a red flagI was once the female best friend and after a year, I was his girlfriend. Nothing physical happened while they were together but there definitely was flirting. She reached out to me to say she was hurt and she had to warn me that he still was stringing her along while he was with me. I ignored the warning....... #pickmeishaatbest I played a stupid game and won a stupid prize, it was one of my worst relationships ever and I have no doubts that when he broke up with me he had one of his female fri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:50 PM |
| 8 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?For me too, I am terrible at cleaning. I don't like it , I don't do it well... So I work hard to afford paying someone else to do it for me so my house is clean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:17 PM |
| 17 | True Crime DiscussionI love reading and watching True Crime. Unfortunately there aren't many weapons I can carry in my country also, but I usually focus on the profile of the perpetrators - which guys to avoid and which behaviours to look out for. For example, if FDS existed back then, many of Ted Bundy's victims could have been safe because they would know that men don't ever ask women for help being genuine. There's always an ulterior motive and it's never a good one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 3 | Cheating isn't okay butttttt FIANCE of 11 years? Bro you basically asked her to leave. Court marriages are still valid & cheap. There's no excuse for this.I hope when he sees her they can communicate and work this out /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:17 PM |
| 103 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...It just baffles me how theses people can be SO fake and actually not give a single F* about the person they're with. Even my LVX took ~~some care of me when I was in a similar situation. It must have been awful to go through that. Good for you for being able to end it even with pickmeisha mindset, I think the hardest part of my journey is knowing when to let people go and actually doing it - but I will let this one go, I can do it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:42 PM |
| 26 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...That sounds awful and so lonely! Thank you for the advice. It will hurt now but it would hurt more in the long run. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 43 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Yes, looking back I can see moments when he could have been more caring towards me but I think this made crystal clear where he stands with me (nowhere!!) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:35 PM |
| 10 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Thank you so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:34 PM |
| 92 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Exactly! It's not that hard to just be available to listen when someone is in need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:33 PM |
| 44 | Times you need confort are good for vetting...Thank you so much for your kind words. And yes, that's exactly it. I don't think anyone knows exaclty how to act in these moments but I think it's so clear that just being there for people in the best way you can is enough. It was so weird to confort my mother (she was her sister) but I still did it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Welcome to FDS!Hello mods, thank you for this amazing community you guys created and mantain. I would love to be assigned a flair :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 05:22 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Check-inJust a rant. How shameless can man be ffs. How can he say he is of the old ways, a gentleman... then proceed to ask to split the f* bill. Oh so you mean you open doors? WOW that's so impressive. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:15 PM |
| 58 | Of all the pick-me BS! Is this empowering?I also think that attractive women are even more used to being objectified, so she starts objectifying herself before he can. Does that make sense? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 5 | When I Should Have LeftI should have left when I caught you on a lie. I should have left when you didn't show up for my birthday. I should have left when you belittled my career. I should have left when you told me to lose weight. I should have left when you cheated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 01:38 PM |
| 5 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyI am a woman engineer and can guarantee there are no men engineers worth a damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Letting Go of the Fear of MarriageAre you me? Did I write this? Excellent post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 6 | HOW TO TEXT LIKE A QUEEN 📱👑lol I would complain to my LVX that he did that and he couldn't care less. One day I spent the whole day not starting a text conversation and he LOST IT saying that I was ignoring him. I simply said "ignoring messages you DIDN'T send me?" wow that relationship sucked | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Why you shouldn’t date down or give out sympathy chances - the manipulative strategies of low status men.This spoke so closely to me, I had a ""guy friend"" (pre-FDS...) that saw me only as a friend when I was 26 pounds heavier. This man is U G L Y. No gym will change that face. Or the girly voice. He always talked to me about this beautiful girl he was hooking up with and later they were boyfriend and girlfriend. She came to her senses and broke up with him, he was "devastated", didn't understand why she would do that, he was such a "nice guy", etc. I fell for it (defended him, said he didn't dese… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Weird Red Flags?My father ALWAYS does the "gentle!" thing. Since I can't just cut him off, I don't know what to do when he does that!! Any tips?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:59 PM |
| 5 | I literally cannot remember the last time a woman approached me in public for anything.A few years back I read in the news that a homeless men had raped a girl that had given him food. He broke into her student house with another guy, raped her and when she asked why was he doing that if she helped him, he said "because you were so nice". The other guy couldn't rape her because police got there first, but he was there to do so. Since them I NEVER help homeless men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:18 PM |
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