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| 72 | Why you ladies shouldn’t cohabitate with a man without a ring!Absolutely. These benefits should only be SHARED as much as (or less than) what the man does. Effort matches effort, whether you’re single, engaged, or married. You being a mrs entitles him to n o t h i n g. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:52 PM |
| 146 | Transactional dates = I buy food, you give sexHe probably had this gross entitled attitude during the date, hence no sex. Men like this are so stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:00 PM |
| 180 | What are they even thinking when they send messages like this??Probably why he felt comfortable enough to do this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:39 PM |
| 19 | Is this pickmeism? (90 day fiance and publically thirsting over men)There is a looooot of misogyny by the 90DF fan base online. One user in particular on the subreddit says disgusting horrible things about every effing woman on the show (and this is a woman!). A lot of it is cultural and internalized misogyny, I think. Really sad and offensive :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 28 | I just realized that "nOT aLL mEN" includes male family members and I'm floored.Unless his family are lv, and this does happen :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 10 | From mildlyinteresting - the OP (appears to be male) said he and gf got each other the exact same gift. Nope, the one from her to him is show accurate and therefore better, ofc 🤣Yesss I’m so glad I’m not the on by one whose mind went there. Women are wasted on men, I swear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 04:04 AM |
| 18 | Would love to hear your thoughts on this video.I’m sorry but I don’t have the patience to listen to a man navel gaze about quitting porn. Maybe a more patient sister can help you out 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 04:00 AM |
| 74 | Thankfully all the comments said he was in fact the a**holeNine year age gap 😒 I’m sorry but if they’re 43 and have never had a successful relationship, there is a reason! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:08 PM |
| 188 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!He should have been doing it in the first place, and 2. This won’t last | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 03:24 PM |
| 12 | What?Girl, you are sorry with this sorry ass pickme attitude. The rest of us? Not so much 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 09:18 PM |
| 8 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Congrats! And what a beautiful ring 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 29 | HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3Maybe it was a character limit on the card? Not to excuse, but as someone who writes long notes on cards this has happened to me lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Redditor makes an argument for not reporting rape. I can’t help but wonder how many of these upvoters are male...Ugh the amount of rewards this enabling post has 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 58 | I wish I had been taught to be unconcerned instead of nice. And isn’t this proof?I find her charming. And what do we get with men in OLD? Asking about kinks or trying to neg us 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 02:50 AM |
| 80 | My ex asked me for a divorce for bullshit reasons that prove exactly how low value his priorities are. I filed the petition, and now he's not sure he wants it, when faced with being alone and losing my assets + income. My response included, and his first "breakup" text.Good for you, stand your ground! In your reply though something stood out to me. It looks like a map of things he could (potentially) still do to win you back. But even if he were to go to couples counseling, completely change his tune, and swear off those hobbies if WOULD NOT be a reason to take him back. It would just be him (temporarily) taking the steps he has to in order to keep you hanging on. So please please please whatever he does, hold your bottom line. And if he starts pretending that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 29 | I was scrolling through a post discussing school stress management and happened along this little number. Absolutely appalling. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is how most men view their wives and children.And in true Reddit fashion he’s congratulated by another NVM for “hOnEsTy.” Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Broadchurch on NetflixI just couldn’t with season 1... the storyline with the old sympathetic pedo who married a teenage girl, but it’s okay because “love,” together with the main storyline pedo relationship where we’re supposed to believe the husband only held and maybe kissed the kid (but murdered him over it?). Just too much toxic male behavior that’s brushed aside or portrayed SUPER unrealistically. Then again I only watched the first season 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 21 | Ah, haven't we all been the crazy ex at some point?“So you poke that beat till her claws come out and you find something to wrap your noose around. Nothing like a mad woman” thanks to t swift for spreading the message this is common, fucked, and not okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 11:05 PM |
| 16 | Ok too and a relational relationship. Do my mom a d coworkers count? Promised friends I’d have a social date by the weekend. Feeling the pressure.Umm you’re literally setting yourself up to settle for whatever trash presents itself by your deadline. You deserve better men and better friends. If your friends have an issue with you not having a date, just tell them the options weren’t acceptable. If they don’t take that for an answer, fuck em. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 02:00 PM |
| 212 | Another cautionary tale of the dangers of choosing a LVM: they will not hesitate to hurt you to sexually please themselves, even when you might be literally dyingYup. And he’s likely the source of at least half of her insecurity issues about the mastectomy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 02:51 PM |
| 40 | We made it! FDS has 100,000 members!I legit just don’t read my messages 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 08:22 PM |
| 4 | How can I level up as someone with severe depression and PTSD?EMDR literally saved my life after suffering through PTSD for 8 years with minimal results from traditional therapy and medication. Please find a therapist who offers it! Unfortunately Cognitive Behavioral Therapy just does not work for PTSD like it does for other illnesses. Check out “The Body Keeps The Score” to understand the mechanisms of trauma in the brain and body, and what treatments are most effective. But most of all, be patient with and loving towards yourself. Healing is a journey wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 04:05 AM |
| 201 | Don’t do it sis.I understand the sentiment completely, and support it wholeheartedly for most women. However, what about those of us not interested in marriage? Please don’t hate, I swear I’m not a pickme 😅 I just love my vetted partner and want to cohabitate without marriage (ever) 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:26 PM |
| 2 | this feeds into the notion that women change their appearance in order to please men. this has nothing to do with a mans 'ability' to be a good husband but rather a woman acting like and independent person and not like a reflection of her husbands opinions of her.Totally agree with the title. It’s about what WE women want and choose to do with our own bodies. Men’s opinions don’t mean shit, even if they are our partners. I got Botox and only told my partner because I couldn’t work out with him the day after. Not only was he not judgmental or dramatic, he did all the chores that required bending down or any exertion. Men need to remember their place in the relationship -not as your guardian or boss, but your PARTNER who is just happy to have the privilege… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 81 | The audacity these men have. Haven’t even gone out with him and already pulling the attitude card. Fair to say I will be cancelingExactly. Remember, sisters, this is why we keep our standards high! It should be a high-effort, interesting/fun sounding date for you to even CONSIDER taking time out of your day. Men ain’t sh*t. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:12 PM |
| 19 | Blocked my lvm ex on seemingly everything and now he is getting creative.Same here. But it escalated to a scary stalking situation a couple of years ago with one of them :/ just in case, keep a folder of screenshots on your phone. You can never be too careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:09 PM |
| 34 | How can I date older men while still maintaining my power?If you aren’t attracted to men your age, wait until you are older to date. Seriously it’s not worth it, you will not be missing out on anything. You state that you are susceptible to abuse, so if you seek out these relationships you’re setting yourself up for failure. Just focus on yourself, your health, skills, goals, and interests for the next 5 years until you are strong and developed enough that it will be nearly impossible to take advantage of or trick you. Also your life would benefit imme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 12:12 PM |
| 44 | This “me, me, me” guy that my friend matched with on Hinge is looking for the unconditional love of a Mommy.Oh god absolutely. The last message is what he actually typed out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:43 AM |
| 52 | This “me, me, me” guy that my friend matched with on Hinge is looking for the unconditional love of a Mommy.Ugh I almost downvoted as a reflex to this bs behavior. Talk about exhausting. And he has the gall to congratulate himself on “expressing his feelings” (more like entitlement 😂). Also is it just me, or is there a common theme of lazy/garbage men outing themselves by not using punctuation, specifically question marks with questions? Lazy af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 11:42 AM |
| 2 | Sums it up pretty wellBeen going on for centuries. Check out the poem “Hombres necios que acusáis” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 33 | Just more proof of men being trash, the most he said was “yeah”Someone please write a script of this so we can test the men we talk to 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:01 PM |
| 5 | Love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong, you recognise it!And when you truly love yourself it’s much easier to find/be attuned to others who also love you and see your worth. No more settling 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:31 AM |
| 18 | What happened when I invested all my time and energy in myselfCongrats!🍾🎉these reminders are important. Women can be and do soooo much more than our societies try to prescribe for us, and more often than not we are better off without men❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 13 | Love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong, you recognise it!Yes, we need to cultivate a rich inner life so our happiness and well-being are not subject to the whims of fate and our external circumstances! Ladies, make your head (intellect/reason) and heart (spirit/ intuition) good places to be. Rediscover all the good that is within you (and it’s still there somewhere, I swear! even if you’ve been hurt or tricked into thinking there was only bad inside of you). You deserve nothing less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:34 AM |
| 13 | This is how LVM on Reddit see FDS - I have to laugh.Amen! This is the difference between power over others (domination) and power over the self (dominion). We need to stop seeing the former as the only way of having power, and step into the latter which is cooperative and believes there is enough for all! My being powerful does and should not take away from your power. It’s all about asserting and maintaining boundaries over the SELF. When others try to violate or manipulate those boundaries, take yourself out of the situation bc they are playing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 32 | Louder for the pickmeishas in the back!!Wish I knew girls like her when I was that age | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:28 PM |
| 54 | Does anyone else constantly marvel at how women manage integration of their personality/interests SO MUCH BETTER than men?I see this aaaaall the time. Honestly men are so fucking boring. If you find ONE interesting thing about them you’re lucky 😩 I compensate by severely limiting my time with them. I’ve got hobbies and interests galore, so I can’t be bothered with being bored and watching Netflix because that’s all they know to do beside their ONE thing. Please don’t waste your time, ladies. Maintain boundaries to protect your energy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:18 PM |
| 32 | Have you watched "Indian Matchmaking" on Netflix? Girls allll over the world do it.Her story had a happy ending! And yeah she has a successful business and some seemingly great female relationships. After a match didn’t work out, she was talking to her friend about how she wanted to forget men and get a house and share it with her friends, just being chill and happy. Super adorable and grounded woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:14 PM |
| 61 | Anyone else watching the Indian Matchmaker show on Netflix. Wasn’t sure how to “flair” this one!He had major Buster Bluth energy 👶🏻 🍼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 05:42 PM |
| 5 | How to level up during the pandemic?Btw I’m also a SA survivor and I want to say I’m so sorry you experienced that and just know that we are all on your side and rooting for you. Trauma can be so destructive to self-care and self-discipline, but you DESERVE your best life. Sending lots of love! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:48 AM |
| 1 | How to level up during the pandemic?How does obé compare to just using YouTube videos, in your experience? I’ve been practicing some of the Yoga With Adriene which I love, but am interested in branching out fitness-wise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:45 AM |
| 10 | How to level up during the pandemic?I’ve got one! 🙋🏻♀️ Take “The Science of Well-Being” on Coursera. It’s an online Yale class you can audit 100% free and complete at your own pace. It has literally changed my life by giving me knowledge about myself, how the mind works, and practical things to improve happiness and well being, no matter what else is going on in life. Since I started the “rewirements” I’ve improved my Physical and mental health and work. Also enjoying my leisure time much more now 😊 Seriously at least try week 1 … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:42 AM |
| 7 | From a Facebook group I recently joined called "kink shaming isn't oppression". I'm in a fair few groups on FB that vilify "vanillas" and openly excuse any and all behaviour so long as it's a "kink" 🤮Please seek help. No one will have a single “solution” but it can get better. You don’t deserve to suffer so much. I’ve dealt with CPTSD and substance abuse and it’s taken years and I’m not 100% better or anything, but my life looks nothing like it did before, for the better :) Sending love 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Reporting a teacherIt’s not too late. PLEASE report, for yourself and future students. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:09 AM |
| 4 | Just wanted to say, I’ve got your back.Online dating :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 05:03 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else been polishing their looks lately?My nails were always chipping and breaking until I found out I had deficiencies of vitamins b12 and d. I now take a methyl b12 supplement (doc said to use that specifically) and a liquid d3 as well. Now for the first time in my life my nails are AMAZING they honestly look like beautifully done fakes! Maybe you have a vitamin deficiency? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 54 | Men be like: Women’s standards are too high!! They won’t even look at a guy unless he’s a 10/10!! When so many couples look like this:Love both of their music but yeah it’s not a looksmatch 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 03:36 AM |
| 10 | “DoNt LoOk FoR a SeRiOuS rElAtIoNsHiP oN tInDeR”They can fuck off while you keep your standards high ☺️My brother (absolute hvm) met his wife (a total 👸🏻) on tinder and for years now they have had the cutesiest most respectful relationship I know of. Personally I don’t use it but there are in fact SOME good dudes on there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 05:12 PM |
| 16 | NVM writes an essay on what he wants in his partner. It is not a satire. Comedy Gold.“As an intellectual” he should know the difference between criteria and criterion 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 07:32 PM |
| 24 | Horrifying. Largest men's "advice" company teaches men techniques to rape women. They post secret footage of themselves using their "techniques" on unsuspecting women as educational videos for men who want to rape.I thought I’d seen it all, but holy shit this is a horrifying new low. They are so unabashed. Literal predators. Please be safe out there, ladies :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 12:00 AM |
| 16 | Is there anyone willing to give input? It’s a super long story.Block and delete. And instead of wasting hours analyzing texts of what are common NVM behaviors while trying to justify them because of the idiosyncrasies of your situation, read the handbook. You’ve already wasted too much time and energy on someone you admit “really doesn’t care about how [you] feel”. It sucks but there are countless men in this world who will try to do you dirty while getting everything they can out of you. The best you can do is learn from your mistakes and arm yourself with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:25 AM |
| 27 | I am still terrified that my nudes are floating around out there.Ugh I know the feeling. My abuser took (and likely still has) explicit photos of me as a child. It’s sickening knowing they’re still out there, and not knowing whether (or how many times) they’ve been shared. One thing that helps me not feel dirty/bad/gross about it is keeping in mind how I would never, ever even remotely consider doing something like what they are. In using and sharing those images, they are hardening their hearts and making themselves into monsters. Yeah maybe it’s not as bad … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 08:43 PM |
| 16 | LVM (specifically white) are uncomfortable talking about issues the concern the oppression of any minority.I’m really sorry you went through that, but so happy you are growing and healing! As you become a better and stronger person, those cretins will stay in the dust. By the way I love your username 💕can’t imagine sticking to keto when ugali’s an option, though 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:54 PM |
| 6 | Sheryl Sandberg deserves an honorable mention hereUh-oh is there something bad I don’t know about Paulo Freire? He’s one of my heroes but if he’s done shady shit I will drop him ASAP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 07:25 PM |
| 2 | I didn't forget you because I wanted to fuck you.Your font choice alone shows you’re too good for this clown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 02:02 AM |
| 3 | I didn't forget you because I wanted to fuck you.Oh my god you’re right that’s horrifying! Men are so casual about their depravity 😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 02:01 AM |
| 6 | What a great song! Let's support each other <3Love how she keeps supporting her friend while on a date, walking in on an armed robbery, and incarcerated lol. Female friendships are the real prize! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:43 PM |
| 14 | Is it normal to feel afraid for your safety when you break up with an LVM?Here are some resources: https://www.loveisrespect.org/for-yourself/safety-planning/ https://www.thehotline.org/help/path-to-safety/ https://www.dvrc-or.org/safety-planning/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:24 AM |
| 34 | Is it normal to feel afraid for your safety when you break up with an LVM?Like another woman mentioned, separating/ breaking up is statistically the most dangerous time with abusive men. Can you create a safety plan? Maybe call YWCA or another DV hotline? You aren’t wasting their time. Prevention is a HUGE part of SA/DV work. Please be safe. Even something small like moving around the furniture can give you a few extra seconds if he were to break in and fall over something that was previously elsewhere in your apartment (and seconds count in a situation like that). DV… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Yeah 😕If you don’t mind me asking, how long after quitting the pill did you begin to see a real difference? I am wondering if I might be experiencing this but being off bc (very) short term I didn’t notice a difference for my body. Might not have been long enough though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 05:29 PM |
| 14 | Blocking and deleting made me realizeAnd think of all the wonderful things you can do with that time now! It really is so freeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:51 AM |
| 91 | You can always rely on me. Except when I’m too busy or don’t want to when you’re most vulnerable, then I’ll just let you know. 🙄“In a hypothetical scenario where we’re living together” 🤢 girl he is messing with you on purpose. Also gives me the creeps he’s saying you’re “never not allowed” like he gets to dictate what you can and can’t do. He’s not your parent. Please save yourself some time and next him. These avoidant guys do. Not. Change. And honestly keeping you at an emotional distance is a control tactic. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 04:32 PM |
| 48 | In another episode of Things Men Say When Bored in Quarantine 😒 Story in comments“Sent from my iPhone” piece of sh*t 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 06:37 PM |
| 11 | Thought: the sitcom Schitts Creek premise is really helpful actually...Never thought about it like this before, but I love it! Every time I watched that show I felt a little better afterwards, lots of positive messages. Just waiting on the last season to come to Netflix 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:47 AM |
| 5 | Opinion about "Love Languages"?How they’re using it in OLD seems like bs, but it’s helped me in the past to understand why my boyfriend was always so eager to help out and do things for me (“acts of service” was his love language). Understanding that he does these things not because I’m a burden but because he loves me really helped alleviate the guilt I’d been feeling. My “language” was gifts 😅 which I agree with, considering how much I love making and giving gifts to people I care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 05:58 AM |
| 19 | ...and nothing of value was lost - these are the men who whine about "hypergamy" and "misandry" online:😂From the sad bedrooms alone you can tell most of them are in daddy and mommy’s basement. Real fine specimens here lmfao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 10:37 PM |
| 16 | These types of posts mortify me. How is this remotely acceptable?Aside from the horrible traumatic sexual ordeal, it breaks my heart that SHE spent hours and hours of her time researching it and how to make it possible, just so HE could benefit from her humiliation and pain. Reminds me of the endless emotional labor I used to put up with to try to please my LVM exes, reading articles, advice columns, message boards trying to fix problems they created. Hope she can gtfo and see the light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 10:34 PM |
| 8 | Vintage FDS from a 90s Dateline episode <3 Take this energy into the weekend, ladies!Great video! His comment toward the end though, “but what if men don’t like it?” 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 11:06 PM |
| 12 | Virgin at 27As others have stated, you’ll want to vet any new guys (whether for FWB, boyfriend, or future spouse). The weird/creepy reactions you’ve received from past men upon learning about your virginity are not how a HVM would react, IMO. FWIW, I didn’t have intercourse until I was 27. In my teens and early 20s I felt so self-conscious about it (and I had vaginismus to deal with), but looking back I’m so glad I didn’t give myself to the manipulative, controlling, or just plain low value men I’ve dated (… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Is asking me to slow down during sex pornsick?I am inexperienced sexually and i need help!Could be any number of things, sex is so different depending on the partner (IMO). I would look at his other behaviors before jumping to conclusions, but most importantly you’ve got to consider whether he’s worth your time, whether the sex is something you want again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 06:22 PM |
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