SuzyZeusHasACold Archive

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118	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk	LESSON LEARNED	SuzyZeusHasACold	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/20 06:18 PM
1	If you could wave a magic wand and exchange only ONE "bad" core belief in your LVM exes' minds with a better one, which one would you choose to have the biggest impact on their attitude/behavior?	DISCUSSION	SuzyZeusHasACold	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/11/20 04:37 PM

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4	Is it fair of working class poor women (like myself) to be with a HVM? I think I deserve one, but society beginning to act like only high earning women deserve high value men and its not fair. Why do you deserve to be looked after financially by ANYBODY as an adult human? Forget the "by a man" part. Look, I'm as sick of the patriarchy as the next gal, but I don't want to use the same objectifying strategies that the worst men use on women, ever - I never want to actively reduce human beings to sex dolls and dollar signs. If a potential dating partner is just a wallet to you, then stay single! People aren't things. More to the point, I feel like one of the whole points of this sub is t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/01/21 05:34 PM
2	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk "He tricked me with all the body language of someone who loved me so much for being his mommy bangmaid (he was bizarrely physically gentle, but emotionally cruel and psychologically terrorizing)..." Literally the exact same experience. Love-bombed me in the first few weeks of our relationship; blew up my phone every day, told me he loved me on week 3 and threw a tantrum when I didn't say it back. These should have been glaring red flags but I've got my own baggage and took this as proof of devot…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/20 04:17 PM
1	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk Uuuuughhhhh!!! What finally made you decide to leave him? Was there a "straw that broke the camel's back" moment/incident?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/20 03:50 PM
13	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk Completely agree that it must have been something shady, though it never felt like my place to push this line of thought further because he would think I was calling his mother a liar. :( My own mum was a single mother and I just feel bad for all of them. They truly do it all with very little reward.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 08:24 PM
5	Can you recommend action movies with strong female leads? I cannot recommend "Hanna" (2011) with Saoirse Ronan more highly! There is zero objectification of any woman in it. It's kickass, slightly funny in places, and actually kind of philosophically interesting. It passes the Bechdel test easily. Cate Blanchett stalks the perimeter of the action as the villain being scary and awesome.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 08:21 PM
9	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk Yes the unconditional love part!!! Drives me nuts reading this!! I bet your guy like my guy never felt like he had a reciprocal "duty to care" for you. Mine was always asking me to give him a break because of "his stress" (my leg hurts, my advisor sent me a terse email, my stomach feels weird, I'm tired) but my stress meant absolutely nothing to him. The memories flooding back: I kid you not, this man actually claimed that there was NO WAY the people involved in the black lives matter movement (…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 08:15 PM
15	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk This is another odd part of the whole thing. The official story is his father died of cancer when he was a baby, around 2-3 years old. The only other things I know about the father are that he had bipolar disorder, had an engineering-type job, and liked to play guitar a lot (which my ex latched onto because he is also musically inclined). However, my ex's mother never talked about his father beyond those broad details, changed her last name as well as my ex's last name back to her maiden name wh…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 08:01 PM
23	On mothers of LVMs: I keep thinking about the glass of milk Ditto to Alpha_Aries, can you tell me some of your takeaways from dating an only son? Among many things, I found he experienced a kind of infantile "emotional object impermanence". The second a conversation about my feelings or desires stopped, they disappeared from his mind, as if he'd never heard of them in the first place. There was also this special kind of hypocrisy/double standards? He hated me hanging out with my female roommate and her boyfriend without him because of jealousy...but when…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 05:48 PM
22	From Erich Fromm (lol) - Art of Loving. Describing mommy-gf syndrome in most articulate way. You were the underappreciated student who did all the work for group projects in high school, I can tell ;-) Thank you!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/12/20 08:33 PM
9	This is genius. But it’s sad men need visual representations (they probably still won’t watch 😒) Amazing. Unfortunately I think another category of response is "lol you're not actually on fire though, what you're calling "fire" is all in your head, you're exaggerating. Also hypothetically if you WERE on fire, it's not actually that painful and at least you get set on fire for free when you go to bars hehe I mean I would love that privilege! Lucky!"	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/11/20 04:57 PM
4	Am I the only one who is heterosexual and would - in theory - love having a loving partner and a family, but after seeing all the degeneracy of men, has just given up on it completely and deemed men in general to be undateabl/unwantable? omg dogs are 100% > men 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/20 11:17 PM
61	Am I the only one who is heterosexual and would - in theory - love having a loving partner and a family, but after seeing all the degeneracy of men, has just given up on it completely and deemed men in general to be undateabl/unwantable? Hell no you're not alone!!! I guess my particular sadness is that I feel like I have so much love to give? I love showering my friends and family with gifts. I love telling them how specifically gorgeous and smart and funny and talented they are. I love seeing a person's eyes brighten when I listen to them, when I laugh at their joke, when I sympathize with their sorrow. I love celebrating their successes. It's so rewarding...with friends and family. They love me back so hard. But it's not rewar…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/11/20 03:40 AM
10	Almost married a LVM and I miss him, can y’all knock some sense into me? My two cents as someone who has gotten straight-up addicted (addickted? :D ) to LVMs in the past and have sometimes missed them after breakups even when they treated me AWFULLY: You miss him because you're a good, caring, fully-rounded emotionally available human being who didn't just use him for sex or money or anything. You formed a real connection of care with him because that's an understandable reaction to spending a lot of time with someone, for a psychologically normal person who has a de…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 03:34 AM
11	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Ooooh nothing chaps my ass more than a "friend" getting involved like that!! WTF! Not her business.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 03:12 PM
45	"Do you have any ideas?" Yes: LEAVE HIM! Thank goodness we are "allowed" to own our own property and have credit cards and bank accounts in our own names now. I feel so sad for women who are not allowed to be financially independent (now around the world or back in time) so they HAVE to just put up with whatever the men in their lives desire.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 02:51 PM
1	And they wonder why we call them incels... Right?? He also acts like men don't make fun of our anatomy ALL THE TIME?? The way it looks, tastes, smells, too loose, too small. Or our weight, waist-size, cup size, ass size...and on and on. I also liked the "Just imagine a girl being scared shitless..." part - you don't have to imagine it buddy, trust me, we're all used to being scared of men losing their temper over some stray look or word and murdering us over nothing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/11/20 06:51 PM