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Most recent gift too - but it was tickets to a charity event where my favorite band was playing an acoustical set in another town and a night in a bed and breakfast. I've seen this band many times but it is always a big stadium show. There is nothing like up close and personal. Plus it was for a good cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/19 09:01 PM
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No. I would not bring a child into the world knowing that they would grow up without one parent. Taking care of a child would also prevent me from giving 100% to my dying partner. I would not do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 09:16 PM
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I tell people that too and it drives me crazy they keep calling every 30 minutes anyway :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 12:47 PM
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I think it is that men actually mean what they say. They don't mean what we think they say or the 100 things we add into the statement, they actually mean exactly what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 01:02 AM
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Maybe it is a constant state of trying to improve and not necessarily complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 01:11 AM
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I think the answer is a balance of the trust you have for your SO and your level of insecurity. I don't try to control what my SO does or really get involved with his work contacts unless they involve me. The defining line for me is that he is not trying to hide anything and it is not detracting from time with our family. I don't care who he goes to lunch with or if he goes out with a group but there is no reason to be texting every day until late in the night or if there is, he will tell me wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/19 08:12 PM
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That is unfortunate. When you truly connect with someone it should be based on more than sex but everyone has a different level of emotional strength. I guess if you can’t overcome those feelings, the easiest thing to do would be move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 01:48 AM
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I really don't think of my friends in categories of male and female. Just friends. I never assume or even wonder if someone secretly wants to have sex with me. I think there is a one in a billion connection that you are going to feel if that is ever the case and neither party is naive about it. No, I wouldn't be mad if someone didn't want to be my friend and I don't feel like I have ever exploited a friend for gain. The reason for that is simply I am a good friend. Need 20 bucks, ask. Your car b…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 01:03 AM
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I think it is because of dishonesty and betrayal. When a guy has ulterior motives and pretends to be something else it is upsetting. Maybe it is that we are mad at our selves for trusting or not being able to see the truth. A guy who is honest and says the only reason I'm being nice to you is because I want to sleep with you isn't going to upset me at all. We both just move along.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:49 PM
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I'm having trouble following why you think someone would want to be friends once they found out you did not want to be friends? My instinct is that people just naturally loose interest if there is no reciprocation. You get what you give.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 09:40 PM
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I've seen him tell someone to back off for their own good. He might call them a dumbass. I've seen him stand up to someone and say "say what you want to say". The reality is that someone looks like an idiot if they just stand and yell without interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 01:54 AM
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It doesn't unless it is a terroristic threat of some sort but he is not going to engage any idiot in shouting or insults. Definitely not a possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 01:42 AM
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I would to even though I have no doubt I wouldn’t need to. It is just not worth the risk and possibility of loosing his job if arrested.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/19 12:36 AM
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No, I would have more respect for him for walking away if at possible. The financial and legal problems that would arise from him getting in a fight would be far more harmful than any momentary satisfaction. Insults wouldn't bother me but we have a way of staying out of trouble. I have no doubt that he would prevent someone from harming me or our children. I have a lot of confidence that any intruder in our harm won't be leaving on their own accord.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 10:15 PM
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You are absolutely right. Most of the time he will just comment privately that someone is lying or just be careful. He just ignores it and goes about life. It is just odd how often he is right. He can see someone on the news and just say they are lying. It will come out a couple of days later that it is a fraud.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 10:08 PM
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Yes. The kid seemed very normal to me but husband just knew something wasn’t right and then pursued it enough to follow up before letting the kid come back. That is just one of many examples. The last kid we took on vacation when we picked her up, he shook the kids grandmothers hand and went and got in the car and said this isn’t going to work. I had to call the kids mom within 48 hours and send her home. He just knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 08:29 PM
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It probably has a lot to do with the fact he leans toward the negative with most people and is unfortunately right. Odd story- our son had a friend spend the night about 12 years old. Super nice kid, polite, manners, helped with dishes. SO had taken lock off our daughters door because she had been a brat. At midnight- SO is swapping the handle on her door without saying anything so it locked. Next day he researches our son's friend and it turn out he had been accused of raping his 3 year old cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:07 PM
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Not sure if this is what you are looking for but - my SO leads a large group of men. I've always thought it was funny when he is on the phone with any of them his voice is deeper and he speaks in commands and gives them follow up accountabilities. I could always tell within 5 seconds of him taking a call if it was his mother or sister. His voice changed and he tries to come to agreeable terms about things like where to meet. It is very interesting when you pay attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 12:04 PM
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I think it is real but some men have it to. It is more of an ability to take in lots of cues from the environment and quickly process them to put people in a good or bad category. I feel like I am very good at it but I have the problem of thinking that even though I know someone is not good, I think they can change for the better. My SO can judge someone in 5 seconds, have no hope they can be better and be right 100% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 11:52 AM
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From what I can tell some people have multiple episodes over time the fantasies just change. I've been busy being a wife and mother and really haven't even had daydreams for a long time. Not even an interest or a crush but this just hit me out of the blue. I can't swear I wouldn't have acted on it if the chance had come up but I didn't so I am back to ground zero trying to be back on course. SO is aware of the situation, maybe not all my thoughts but I am sure he has some thoughts I don't know a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 02:04 AM
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It is an intense crush. It has more to do with brain chemicals and basically getting dopamine hits from a fantasy you create in your head. Once people start to understand it gets easier to manage but it is good for taking a good hard look at your life and what might be missing. The sub is good for thinking through all the questions people ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:45 AM
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I would probably say the opposite - many people have a perception that beauty is defined by what looks like them. If you look at the Miss Universe groups from most countries, the women are very genetically similar. The US is one place that is broadening and there are beautiful people both mixed and non but I think a persons socialization of what is beautiful is still more powerful than the idea that diversity creates stronger genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:13 AM
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I'm just doing the best I can to deal with a very difficult work situation. I do not hide things from my spouse and would be very honest if I were to make life changes. It is the best I've got right now. I use the limerence group for support and do my best to help other people. I answer question on purplepilldebate to add data or ideas to whatever information people are seeking. I have no desire to conflict, criticize or mislead. I just am what I am and trying to get better everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 01:05 AM
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So yet another person who projecting their opinions and behaviors into something they know nothing about. Clearly demonstrated by the list of questions you have. I am not claiming to be anything. I am not bragging about a low count or judging those who seem to be sensitive about otherwise. I answered a question. If you want me to live by your rules, it would be best for you to clearly define them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 12:42 AM
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Please explain your point and how it applies to the topic. I don't understand what you are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/19 12:24 AM
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I am not sure I agree with the idea of compensation but I will respond to increase the data. My partner is not tall by male standards and he was incredibly poor when I met him. He is built like a brick wall and can crush most any man of any height easily. Plus now he makes a ton of money. Does that support your theory?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 10:36 PM
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Then by all means, please stop and let me suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:34 PM
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You are charming.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:30 PM
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Imagine online trolls being judgmental. We are all having fun today.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:19 PM
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I've always tried to look at red pill from the male perspective. It is a tool kit- one of many that can be used to improve their lives. As long as it is customized and continually updated, it is not a bad plan to be successful. It only becomes a problem when it is viewed as hard core rules that aren't as flexible as life is. Life is full of nuance and circumstance and having general knowledge guides you to the right tool. With these guidelines, I would be a 6'3 gorgeous male. I would continue da…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:13 PM
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Again you are projecting your own experience into something in which you are not involved. I assure you he needs no pity.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:45 PM
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See, we at least have that in common.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:03 PM
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I certainly hope that making Sneid omments about people, timelines and circumstances you know nothing about makes you feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 02:54 PM
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I have 2 and he has 2 (I think). I honestly wouldn't mind if he had more time to play the field. He thought my count was much higher because several of his social group claimed to have been with me. One of his best friends (that I thought I politely turned down) actually told him I was a slut and no way marriage material. They are not friends anymore and that guy has been divorced 5 times. The wholesome girl who wants to be a sex kitten for the right man is a 100% reality. There is nothing wrong…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:32 PM
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I don't think much about it but based on just pure experience and a large sample of both gay and straight male friends- my straight male friends do not order fruity drinks. The only exception is a margarita if it is on sale.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 06:18 AM
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Exactly. Rules and checkboxes are common. Connections are rare. It is hard to make rules for something you don't experience often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:09 AM
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I agree but when the right person comes along, even if they are actually the wrong person, even the definition of what is enough boxes checked becomes flexible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 12:34 AM
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I think often what we say we want and what we actually want don't match up. My standard may be a may with a low N count but if someone I really like comes around, the truth is I probably won't even ask. I set this mental standard in my mind but there will always be exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 12:17 AM
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Probably just my perspective but "I like your feet" isn't a normal tough guy comment. Most cat calls are "hey baby" or "where you going". When I volunteered in a homeless shelter a guy tried to kill me because he said I stole his socks so I relate feet to crazy. Homeless or high crime- I am not visualizing a good neighborhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 07:17 PM
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I think the headline is trying to make an example of male toxic behavior when in reality this is probably a mental health issue. I don't live in a metropolitan city but I know the feeling when I am in one. There is a different vibe when people are just hanging out on the street in groups. A person approaching with the line "I like your feet" says mental health problem to me and a general lack of security in the area allowed the incident to escalate (2 hours for an ambulance?). While the headline…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/19 07:06 PM
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I would consider 10 high, 10-19 a turnoff but might over look and 20+ probably a deal breaker. I guess it would depend on the different relationships and how good of a person they were but if you consider every person you sleep with leaves with a little piece of your soul, there is a point where there just wouldn't be much left.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:42 PM
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Society actually does not reward men for being players. Maybe in movies or the fantasy realm but no where else. My husband is in a 90% male profession. The men who are in charge represent the highest moral fabric - good ethics, strong families, well behaved children. No one is a senior position is a player. The men who rotate through women are often discussed by the group as unstable and immature. They may get an occasionally pat on the back for she's hot but it is never a pat an of admiration o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 10:53 AM
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I (F) do most of the inside stuff and he does the outside stuff. He does iron because he does it better. I cook inside and he grills outside. He has a couple of indoor dishes that are his alone to prepare such as chili or pancakes but I don't remember the evolution of how those became manly meals. Most likely if he does it better - then he does it. I don't think chores correlate to sex- just my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 02:00 AM
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Female- I want a connection. I just can't ever imagine the effort being worth the reward with a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 04:59 PM
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I didn't realize there is a sexless epidemic going on but you have a very good point. Excess sugar and carbs alone lead to decreased energy over time. Eating large meals just gives you a gross feeling that discourages sex. And being overweight leads to being less comfortable/feeling less sexy so overall I don't see how that can't be part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 10:41 PM
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I've had several jump on me online. Usually starts out with them name calling, insulting me or just assuming I have some untrue opinion. Usually by the end of the conversation we are being friendly or they are actually flirting. My impression has always been they are just lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 10:35 PM
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It's been awhile but one sure way I always knew I would not go on a second date was if a guy ate a french fry off the tray while waiting for our food at the counter. Funny, it didn't bother me that we actually went to fast food at the time, but that he would stand in front of the cashier and eat. Second most annoying was to take food off my plate without asking. Used to drive me crazy but I have grown up a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 07:26 PM
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That was kind of my point. You can be part of how she turns out although you have no obligation at all. It is hard to see now but the things that will really matter in life won't be money or material things. It will be how you view your place in the world and what you have contributed.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:55 PM
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It sounds like you are struggling more with do you want to put good in the world or just look out for yourself? You have no obligation whatsoever. You can choose to be a good brother and uncle while setting boundaries for yourself but there really is time for both. When I was 19/20 I worked in a shelter for abused children and still had time to go to college and have friends. Be as good as you want to be but the real benefits don't come until you can take pride in seeing your niece become a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 10:35 PM
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I used to think I would get upset but I am not sure I would really care anymore. The part that always bothered me was if he wanted to go off and sleep with someone and I am stuck cooking, cleaning, taking his laundry to the dry cleaners, making his lunches, and all the other not fun stuff - we need to at least share those responsibilities too. No one should get only the good stuff (dinners, hotels, sex, money) and not have to see the mundane side as well. So is that socialization?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 09:32 PM
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Even if you could average the averages you still have to factor chemical attraction and expectations. In the post that was linked, there was an over emphasize that the guy made 6 figures but likes Bud Light as if those should be mutually exclusive. Essentially a snobby perception of what someone who makes that salary should like. People just don't fit in nice buckets like that and you still have to factor in the bucket that is making the assessment as well as their bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 07:24 PM
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I don't doubt that. I just can't get past my own perspective. Even as a semi- extroverted person, I get tired of meeting new people and crave more depth in relationships. I'm not criticizing - just saying it wouldn't be a choice for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 04:57 PM
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My definition of a a great man would be funny, smart, sincere, driven, decisive, passionate and romantic. I've done pretty well in the past but did not vet for passion or being able to show emotion. Knowing what I've been missing will bump these to the top of my list. I want someone who enjoys life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 12:26 AM
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I don't think we label ourselves that way. What you call top tier is not what I call top tier. I do think people tend to be attracted to others that are similar in interests or something specific but I really don't think anywhere other than Twitter are people actually walking around thinking that person is beneath me. It is just attractive or not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 09:30 PM
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I will never be able to get out of my own head. It is probably arrogant of me to think this but I just can not accept that a player lifestyle is a happy lifestyle. I've never been with a player but the whole idea of it just runs the whole Groundhog Day movie over and over in my head. Connect, text, first date, kiss, same conversations over and over. They are probably happy but I can't get past my own prejudice to see it. So yes, I would date one under the fairy tale that they just haven't met th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 06:30 PM
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Jealousy is something I really can control. I am genuinely happy when other people are happy. There was a new position created in my company and I had lots of feelings that I was qualified for it and I could do a better job at it but I was still happy for the people who got the title. I think that may have been more envy than jealousy. I don't think my behavior was ever negatively impacted because of what I was feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 11:27 AM
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Being treated equally as well as I treat is the standard I set for myself. It doesn't mean just anyone has treat me well, it just means I will not be with someone who doesn't
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 05:05 AM
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Fair point. Not the best choice of a word but in the sense of being worthy of- I think I put forth effort and should be treated well in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 12:37 AM
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Interesting question. I don't think I deserve a man "better" than me but I think I deserve a Prince Charming to treat me like a princess. In that sense, I was probably born with it or it came about when I read my first fairy tale. Unfortunately there are no perfect men and the woodland creatures won't help clean my house.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 10:08 PM
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My guess would be that the men who consistently pay for escorts do so more to maintain control and eliminate the emotional parts of a relationship that come with being human. You don't have to worry if an escort likes you, they will be available on schedule and you basically know how the night will end. As long as you pay there is no uncertainty. Non-escort relationships involve ups and down, mixed messages, testing and uncertainty. To a purely logical mind, those things are inefficient when you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 06:14 PM
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Money matters to a certain point because of the things it takes away. When you don't have to worry about things like paying bills and you can go and do fun things - eat out, it is just simply easier to be happy. So in that sense, when you can be more laid back, free of worry - yes it adds to attractiveness. When things like obtaining material possessions like jewelry or extreme gifts become important to a woman then you have a clue that it is actually only the money that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 08:38 PM
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Divorce parties are tacky and I would not attend one. A marriage should be honored no matter how it ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 07:03 PM
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Female. I think I lean purple but can delve in all shades of blue. I think of a "career man" as someone who is driven by high satisfaction in his work- not just putting in hours for a paycheck but someone putting his mind and soul into a purpose in addition to his self and his family. Someone who wants to go to work and is energized by it. I can't imagine ever dating someone who isn't a career man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 07:00 PM
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A Fuck Boy is just the male term for a slut. It is not that they realized they can not lock him down in a relationship, they don't want him in one. It is just something easy to get in the moment. I don't know if it is meant as an insult so much as just an indicator that it will never become anything other then what it is - sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 11:23 AM
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"There's a sucker born every minute" . People buy air and moon rocks. It makes the world more interesting. Tax her and make her pay her parents water bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 09:53 PM
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This is nothing short of entitlement. I have never met a woman who would do this. Learning to read people better and not getting caught up in physical appearance would be a good defense starter.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 08:31 PM
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No, I would not find it insulting unless they added an insult to it. Something like I really want to sleep with you but you are annoying as heck. But if they have their own stuff going on and was just generally attracted I think I would be flattered. Wouldn't do it, but would be flattered.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 08:27 PM
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Some people are just genuine and never learned how to play games. I personally don't see the point unless you want to keep it up the rest of your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 08:36 PM
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As bad as it was, maybe it is part of what helps you realize how good you have it now. Can't see the stars without darkness kind of thing. I think everyone burns out on being treated poorly so I can't imagine it would ever work long term- but some people don't want long term. Everyone has different goals. Good for you for finding something worth holding on to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 06:23 PM
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Being on the cusp of a child free life, I always think my rule would be no kids under 5. Yes, there are exceptions for someone special. I actually love kids and easily fall into a "family" role but I wouldn't want to go back to the toddler at dinner thing without a great reason. I never act on these thoughts but my judgmental silent brain usually assesses two 1st impressions - # of different baby mamas speaks to stability and men over say 35-40 with no kids are very much into themselves. ​ Sayin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:27 PM
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The whole premise of the question is interesting to me. The idea that any set of rules is going to work most of the time doesn't seem logical unless your target is consistently women who are the same. I personally would never stay in a long term relationship with someone constantly running dread/manipulating naturally or not. I see the effort put into those games as actually detracting from the things a man would benefit from focusing on - his career, his family or his hobbies. I see both option…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 12:16 PM
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Normally pretty good. Sometimes I read stuff online and it gets me down as I know I am not perfect. I also think a lot of times I intentionally don't think of myself as anything special in an attempt to not be cocky. Ups and downs but mostly ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 02:31 AM
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I'm not disagreeing with you at all. I think the increase in women investigating was more a niche response to our overall victim culture mentality. Victims need someone like themselves in a time of crisis so it opened an almost guaranteed career path for female officers. I still question the data on any of it - especially overtime. I think we are seeing many of the false accusations come from decade old circumstance defined under current political constructs. Definitions seem to be blurry enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 07:20 PM
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I don’t usually talk about those either. Honestly anyone who goes after the 18 year old set and doesn’t verify ID gets what they get. Kids the same age as the victim are a different story though. I don’t think those should be prosecuted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 05:37 PM
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I would argue a different perspective. Except in the case of violent rapes, talking hospital or random attacks, men are more likely to view themselves as potentially in that circumstance and would look deeper for the truth. The circumstances matter and I don’t think it is fair to say police have a white knight desire. So many things get factored into each case. If the guy is an ass to the police, that’s an influence. If they have been to the couples house a dozen times and told her to leave, tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 05:31 PM
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I had the opportunity to pull some data for a large metropolitan police department for awhile. Granted it was rich white suburbia but the % of rape cases that went from reported to charges almost would not register once you took out statutory cases. I’m sure big cities are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 05:20 PM
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Withdrawn accusations are not considered false but still can be damaging. In some places false accusations have to be proven just as the original rape did. Most of the time "false" only gets proven if the victim admits it or their is video to contradict the story. In my little perspective of the world, one of the things that I find interesting is how many men actually perpetuate filing reports that turn out to be false. This is when they catch their wives cheating and need to "document" it was r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 01:23 PM
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Yes we agree. I doubt you could get a majority of states to agree on what the definition of a false accusation even is based on how complicated laws are.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 12:57 PM
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There is no way to know. The data just isn't collected in a meaningful way. What falls out of the count are the many times charges are dropped by the accuser - attrition. That is a charge was made but the case was stopped before a charge is made. This could be a realization by the victim that regret is not rape or being overwhelmed by the process. The percent of times a rape charge results in a conviction is very low. There is a lot of police bashing going on in this thread but it seems to be ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 12:30 PM
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I think I have great feminine energy, exude positivity, fun and sincerity. I'm pretty creative and always trying new things. Easy going and smart. Top that with blue eyes, a sweet voice, nice legs and a contagious smile. I don't have trouble finding people who are drawn to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 11:57 AM
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For me it always seems to work in the short term but things seem to resort back to the way they were eventually. Either I learn to deal with it or ask again and repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 12:49 AM
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I think I see all the red flags but still want to trust they are good people, or at least have the potential to be. Trust but verify. I tend to find things out and then wait to see what it really means. Sometimes good people do bad things but that doesn't make them bad people. Drugs, alcohol, life circumstances can make a lot of red flags. So yes, I think I am good at discerning but to hopeful it is not true evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/19 12:13 AM
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Would make for good percentages. 25% of my lovers did x, 75% did this. Must be true even though a relatively small sample size logic. Easy calculations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 02:39 PM
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Never intentionally and wouldn't agree that I do. Some of it is perception though. On twitter, some guy argued that supporting movies like National Lampoon's Vacation series was an over looming plot to make men look incompetent. I like the movies and I would personally be happy to have a great guy like Clark Griswold and apparently that makes some people perceive me as toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 01:07 AM
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Female - I would prefer them not to remember my name. If I had to get over them once, I don't want to do it again. Makes it easier to just let it go and not rehash old feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 12:10 AM
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I don't argue. "Too nice" is probably the best description. I am honestly happy to just make other people happy and it seems to annoy some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/19 01:28 AM
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That is the best possible option. Having a supportive partner just becomes frosting at that point. I think everyone has slumps or could use an extra push or an extra reason, maybe a problem that needs an extra idea. Having someone that motivates you in addition to your self motivation just makes life easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 09:30 PM
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I guess it is certainly possible. I have trouble recognizing faces IRL so unattractive doesn't really register but other characteristics like smell, hair, clothing make up my image of people. Even in peer groups, people tend to bond with people who are similar to themselves but I can see what you are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 09:12 PM
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I would never say those aren’t admirable but I would not see them as goals. To me it would be , I want to do x with my life which will allow me to be a good husband and father. My family cheered me on in the beginning but I’ve got momentum to keep going.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 03:11 PM
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It does t matter what motivates you as long as the vision or goal was yours. If a woman motivates you to be a better man, it is because you know what kind of man you want to be. It is not her telling you what kind of man to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 02:45 PM
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Outside of sex and Hollywood, men exceed based on their performance not their looks. Looks did not determine the Mark Zuckerbergs or Elon Musks of today. You can look at the CEO's of pretty much any company and they are not attractive. The examples may be outliers in that they are extreme but that is the only way to visualize an ugly male. Drive and motivation can make up for looks in any industry except maybe modeling/hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 01:56 PM
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Doesn't that just make it important to chase the careers that we really want and not just the ones that pay the highest? Success would be independent of anyone else. Too much emphasis on success is tied to money. Even people who know how to be successful can have an easier time with support.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 12:35 PM
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I am honored to be an inspiration for a man to want to do better in life but I don't think it is that simple. What starts out to look like he is motivated to achieve more for me ends up being a complicated, almost partnership of giving back and forth. Example - a man might have a goal and want to give his woman everything she dreams of but he hasn't figured out the path to get there. She can help and encourage him along the way, support him, increase his confidence making him love her more and w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 12:12 PM
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I don't agree. He was very average and some versions of his story are that he actually stole the ideas from better looking guys. He was a coder who worked hard. Smart - not attractive. There are 1000's we just don't know their names but they are successful. Beautiful people get treated poorly because they are poor, uncoordinated, dress poorly, or are not smart. The problem is the people who treat others poorly - not unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 01:06 AM
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I don't think that is conclusive. All men like boobs but not every girl has considerable. Just because women like height, it doesn't disqualify 50%. Women 5'1 might think 5'4 is tall. This is all over generalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/19 12:58 AM
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The only reason I know about them and can use them as an example is because they are now 1%. Mark Z was just an average guy who got an idea- his looks didn't help or hurt him. Every one has some talent. Their looks don't impede them from using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 11:55 PM
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The Big Bang Theory and Modern Family are two current. Men are given more range in having more to offer than just looks. Women are still primarily judged on looks so the standard hasn't changed for them. Anytime media tries to show an average women people go into "body positivity" and "accept yourself is not normal" mode. People don't even question unattractive men on TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 11:03 PM
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Interesting question. I would say easier. Even though media is more available to push us towards "ideal" the same media is giving us the real picture of how vastly different people are. I'm not sure how to account for all the factors but when you look at some of the really unattractive people in the world Mark Zuckerberg, Kevin Bacon, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates - there is a path or a niche for them to become successful. Using Mark Zuckerberg as an example- he grew up equal in his peer group, felt co…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/19 10:35 PM
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I use them interchangeably for anyone who catches my attention. Cute is more of a crush type experience that incorporates great personality. Hot is more impersonal. I prefer cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 09:59 PM
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I rarely ever think the men my friends find attractive are actually attractive. You could march Brad Pritt, Leonardo Di Caprio or any other blonde look alike in front of me and I would not look twice. It is just not my thing. We pretty regularly disagree about which men are attractive. For the most part extreme obesity is agreed as unattractive because it generally brings a disshoveled look. I think we all like a little height (5'10 and up). Balding can go either way. I would say I have seen pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 06:57 PM
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This may be over simplifying but I think of thirst as wanting anything he can get. An elevated desire for a specific wine for instance isn't thirst. When it is a true - I want you more than anything passionate desire - it isn't a turnoff unless there was really never a connection to start with. I'm not going to loose interest in someone just because he wants me. But I will loose interest very quickly if he wants to taste test everything around him. Christian Grey really wanted Annastasia even th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 02:05 PM
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I appreciate honesty and am not impressed by games at all. I do like playfulness, fun, flirting and teasing however I don't care for the lack of authenticity created by what I consider "games". Those are delaying responses to messages, slowing contact, pretending to be with others, acting indifferent, following "rules" because someone wrote them in a book, and pretending to be something you are not. The strongest facade will eventually fade and there is little worse than a fake person these days…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 12:21 PM
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Sometimes it is just genetics but I do think processed sugar, dairy, whey protein and fast foods make it worse. It seems like years ago it cleared up on people must younger but that is just my observation. Or maybe it is becoming resistant due to all the over the counter medications. I've always thought sunlight helped also.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/19 11:55 AM
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I just use the Olay Eyes Deep Hydrating Eye Gel. It is a blue gel and just rub a little under the eyes and in the corners where wrinkles start. It is relatively inexpensive and available everywhere. You see a difference in about a week. It is just to easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 07:30 PM
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I honestly think older men are attractive. Not to be mean, but there are a lot of younger guys these days who still have acne well into adulthood (probably diet). Having said that, I don't love the bags under the eyes that make guys look exhausted. And it really isn't that they look bad, it is just as a female I could rub a little cream under their eyes and help them look 10 years younger in a week. I just so want to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 07:11 PM
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So in a hook-up culture where women can support themselves, what is the difference in how sex is viewed? What are women looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 12:58 AM
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I always enjoyed the TV show Criminal Minds but it was for the psychology of the show and I always wanted the good guys to win. I'm just curious how their wiring can be so messed up. To fall in love with one of the killers has to be mental illness. Maybe incredibly low self-esteem and a desire to be treated bad? Another idea might be a strong desire to change them - to make them better men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 11:47 PM
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I'm not following that exactly but I will assume you know what you like and are going after it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:49 PM
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I am fine with the dings to my self-confidence if the trade off is thinking abortion is a means to justify my behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:36 PM
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That's ok. Personally I need a connection and I don't know if they have transcended some mental block I have or if I have a better perspective. Or if there even is a right answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:05 PM
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That was the second part of my comment. When it is satisfying for a woman, they want it for both reasons. We can't put everyone in a bucket of only x reasons. I just named what I think is the foundation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:03 PM
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No doubt there are a lot of reasons and ego can be one but I think if given the option of jerking off with a body and no strings whatsoever or by themselves most men would choose with someone. I think it is biological and stress can be managed through chemicals released in the brain. It all works together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 06:00 PM
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Different opinions. Different perspectives and most likely just different definitions of sufficient rapport. I could not sufficiently get to know 500 men well enough to sleep with them. That is just my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:36 PM
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Women want sex for emotional reasons (love, committment) and men want sex for physical reasons (stress relief, pleasure). ​ A woman who is lucky enough to find a man good at it will want it for both reasons (emotional and physical).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:12 PM
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I don't even know 500 men. The people at Disneyworld with the clicker counters don't ever bother to get to know you. How could you ever connect with someone who rotates people that fast?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 04:05 PM
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Use lots of shapes and colors. Wins every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 01:04 AM
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If a man says something in the woods, and a woman isn't there to hear it, is he still wrong? ​ Just kidding, I've always wanted a place to use that. Personally I would concede any argument if the evidence included appropriate excel sheets, graphs, power points and white papers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/19 12:38 AM
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I think it is because we are random and it is what we feel when you ask. When someone asks me, I am going to say whatever I am focused on at the time. But the truth is we simply just want it all. ​ I think it is a myth that we want aggressive, dominant, loud, muscular (whose life clearly does revolve around the gym), cheaters, players, insensitive, not good listeners etc. Very few women I know want that and the ones who actually do for some reason think they can change him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 08:15 PM
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Agreed. I have tried to think of it in non hippie terms, like creativity vs. logic but in all honesty I like the feeling so I am just going to give the hippies a little credit for the free love thing and enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 02:26 PM
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I am leaning towards being a hippie on this idea. But I think chemistry is an energy. It is your bodies way of saying this is a person you should be with. I think of it mostly as sexual but it could be a really good connection with a friend. Sometimes our brains get involved to early and we start rationalizing reasons why we shouldn't be with that person. The "spark" is the body trying to jump start the brain out of all its socialized conditioning. That is why you can accidentally touch a comple…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 11:00 AM
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I know instantly and wouldn't waste someone's time or money. I probably need to be more flexible.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/19 01:02 AM
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Not my first choice but if it was a job he really loved - yes. You get adjusted to it and you work around the schedule. It is really tough if both of you work but it is not something you can't make the best of. My SO worked holidays, nights, weekends for years. Now that he is at the top, he has M-F hours but his phone rings 24/7. I don't love it but it would be worse if he hated his job. It is a pretty good thing to experience someone who loves their work at least once in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 07:31 PM
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I (F) look mostly at women and children. For women I am usually looking at their form or something else I admire or something I could do different. For children, I am looking for a little happiness or whatever is intriguing them at the moment. If I do notice a man, it is usually his attire. The only exception is if he fits 100% my idea of the attractive man. I might do a double take but am quick to look down because men tend to notice they are being observed quickly and look back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 07:00 PM
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The only thing that would matter to me was that he was working toward the career that will make him happy for the long term. The ideal formula in life for me is a man who loves going to work but can't wait to get home to me. If he is in a job he hates, even good pay, he is probably not going to be happy. He needs to be on the way to an ideal job (which I will support) and not just doing the minimum he can to get by in life. I am not all about the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 06:55 PM
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If you don't live together and aren't working towards marriage, I don't see much difference. An SO is someone your future becomes intertwined with logistically and financially as well as your everyday life. But in a world where those aren't goals you need the added label of "exclusive/non-exclusive" to determine which friend is actually the SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 06:50 PM
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Mostly because society has grown to overemphasize victim hood and not value personal responsibility. We value the vulnerable and those who need assistance or to be protected. When you assume someone can't make decisions like saying "no", walking away or control their alcohol intake then they are not responsible for the outcome. Not today or not in 20 years. You can probably draw a line down the sides of the consent argument based on how willing people are to hold others accountable for their cir…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 01:06 AM
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I'm not talking about big material things but when you are in a relationship, you actively want to help and do things for someone you care about. Examples would be like my SO is running out of his favorite drink or his clothes need to go the dry cleaners. He wants it done but doesn't have to ask because I want to make him happy. He might fill my car up or wash it, make my favorite dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 09:37 PM
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Helping to help shouldn't be an extreme. That should be the norm. Even just appreciating the "thank you" is still being nice. When it becomes an expectation that wasn't communicated it is no longer nice -it was a transaction. I do link nice to moral code but in the sense that you are nice, indifferent or mean. I see more than Alpha Bucks being genuinely helpful. And you can see it their presence by their attentiveness to the world around them, the way they speak to people and body language. Ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:52 PM
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I guess a lesson my dad taught me is that you can't argue by yourself. My last boss used to yell and scream at the staff and I would watch people get upset and start crying and it just never went anywhere. He tried escalating with me several times but without a response he would spin in circles and we could talk about it later when he calmed down. We could talk about different scenarios all day but in the end I have limited things I will stand for and the rest I can let go.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:33 PM
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I do think we could use a little more tolerance. I am constantly surprised by how normal the men deemed "Creepy" by society really are. They may keep to themselves but are still people. And yes, I have come across some that have real mental health issues but that is not the majority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:27 PM
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But people see him through their perception of life. If you are looking through a negative dirty lens, you see negative dirty things. There is nothing creepy about carrying an old ladies groceries so you have to look deeper at the people who see it that way. But the question was about being genuinely nice. Is he carrying the groceries to go in her apartment and rob her? Or is he helping her purely to help her. All I'm saying is I want the one who genuinely wants to help and it shows in his prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:22 PM
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Definitely one of my fears. The curse of being nice is giving to much of yourself with no balance.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 02:06 AM
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I think there is always context to every situation. Not sure about the breaking up marriage part, but a nice guy may or may not care about fashion or any of the other other things. It is more about being content with who he is and just letting other people be who they are. The women I know are married to some of the best men I know so it is just a mixed bag. I think we are all struggling along different paths. My hope is that the good guys always win in the end but we never how hard their strugg…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 01:27 AM
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I went to one bar that had males on one side and females on the other. You had to bring your own alcohol though. I just go along with the fun. I can enjoy just about anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 12:11 AM
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Twice. Once I was breaking up and leaving. Nothing was going to change my mind. Other time a guy slapped me off a chair. Several guys grabbed him kicked him out of the bar. Not sure if he was crying over me or getting kicked out the bar. Either way, my respect was lost way before either started to cry.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 12:09 AM
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I have. I saw the Chippendale Dancers awhile back. They are not my type and I was very embarrassed. Alcohol wasn't enough to make it fun. Drag shows are way better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 12:06 AM
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I don't feel like I am competing with anyone. My friends may travel or get material things I want, but I didn't want them until they told me about it. More awareness than competing. I'm happy for everyone. people who compete are generally Type A- high achievers. I am old but not mature. Either way I have what I need. I am not really more or less attractive than my friends. Women flirt with my SO but no one has ever tried to steal him. I've got way more to offer than any of them ever could. I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 12:04 AM
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I suppose it can be. Any group has the fakers. People pretending to be something they are not solely for the purpose of getting something. No different than a guy who is nice to get sex or girl who is nice to get presents. But there are people who genuinely live happiness and kindness to others and it is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 11:54 AM
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I agree. Everyone probably looses their temper sometimes but learning to control it is an elevated status. You never know what people are going through or what has been communicated incorrectly and simply never will if you shout and swear. I would always choose walking away over a shouting match.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 06:32 PM
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We all see the world from our own perspective and if this is your choice, more power to you. I do not think positivity is BS and seldom need to tell anyone to fuck off. I just walk away. You have assumed a very either or stance about my statements. I can ask for what I want and still have admiration for someone who can anticipate my needs. It is not magic. It is a bond- connection. A desire to make someone besides yourself happy. It doesn’t have to be expected - just appreciated. I get happy sad…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 05:15 PM
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No. I don't know any women who have. My sad world is actually that I have never heard women talk about sex being so great with any guy that this idea would come up :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 12:46 PM
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A genuinely nice guy would be among my first choice for a partner. A distinction does exist and I don't really want anything to do with a nice guy who is keeping score to be rewarded for his niceness without displaying his prices. A genuine nice guy is going to have an all around good aura. He will be good to people all around him - above , below, wait staff, gardeners, smile at strangers. He will offer to help without being asked and for me , he might even anticipate what I need without being o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 12:41 PM
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I think it is harmful to a young male. I think he will feel guilt and shame and eventually powerless that he did not speak up. He is missing out on some of the developmental things that come with fumbling your way through it with someone else equally inexperienced. It sets him up for a submissive role in life regardless of his natural inclination. I suspect it is not taken as seriously because men have to be biologically ready and that can't be hidden. Generally brute force is not involved, more…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 09:31 PM
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I've always dated younger men. My SO is 2 years (not a big gap) younger and it has given him endless material for negs over the years. When the kids want to know about dinosaurs - "ask mommy, she was there". No one ever believes I'm older. Not that I am immature :), he's just an old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 06:38 PM
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The counter theory is be a good man. Marry someone who loves you and you love based on more than physical beauty. Date long enough to get to know the real person and make sure they know the real you. Then don't change, get lazy, or take them for granted. You will be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 11:32 AM
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I can pick up chemistry in a movie or TV show between people way before the story ever unfolds on screen. Maybe it is the actors real chemistry or I just have romantic brain syndrome. At the lowest level, chemistry is just wanting to be around each other and that is easy to spot. Smiles, nervous excitement, enthusiasm. Being drawn to someone. I think I have that with lots of friends - male and female. I think about them when they are not around, it makes me happy to think of them and we just mes…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 11:25 AM
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I'm not getting into nonsensical arguments over him but the thing about this brand is that they came up with their own definition of the word "Alpha" and then chose to call it "Alpha" instead of branding it with something new. Is he Alpha- no he is not chivalrous, strong, a warrior, humble on and on. Yes, he is leading men, changing lives, funny, intelligent. So is every cult leader. I don't think anyone who says as many negative things about an entire gender as he does could possibly be Alpha b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 11:16 AM
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Yes, female. Left that out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 11:01 AM
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Assuming all other things are equal- kindness, intelligence, patience and so on. I would rather be with someone excited and enthusiastic to be with me than someone I find attractive. But I rarely find anyone attractive based on looks alone so it is an easy choice for me. Being desired and wanted is rare and valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 10:55 AM
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No not at all. I generally avoid creeps of any age. The men over 40 I know are good as well. But if I was giving advice to a younger women, I would steer her to a younger man. She deserves the opportunity to build a life, have a young family and success. A young man dating me isn't going to get a family and a young woman dating a man twice her age is going to be a widow before she enjoys her grown children. I am not criticizing anyone's choice- but I am not sexist for recommending life with some…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 02:06 AM
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I'm sure there are plenty of every kind but the ones I have actually gotten to know are actually quite shy and sincere. Maybe I've just been lucky but I don't think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 01:54 AM
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Honestly, I used to think most of those things that an older man with a younger women had a lot of disadvantages. That was until I had the chance to get to know and be pursued by very young men. After experiencing the sweetness and sincerity, lack of manipulation and pure joy of life I see in them, I feel like I am doing your women a favor by encouraging then to pursue the young guys but it is not to sexism, just an appreciation for young men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 01:35 AM
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Self-esteem, confidence or courage? or something else completely?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:30 PM
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Not sure if this answers your question but for years my SO was indifferent to anything I wore. All my outfits were "fine". I think that eventually hurt my self esteem. After we had a long talk about it, he puts a slight bit more effort into commenting and has said he doesn't like a couple of things. I took those back to the store. Essentially I know he doesn't care but I would like approval in a perfect world. No one's ever called me a 6 but I am pretty sure I would not like it. My SO says I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 04:16 PM
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It makes the day better for me to have a pleasant interaction with another human being. I can have a charming conversation with a man without assuming he wants to sleep with me. Just accept it for what it is- a nice moment of connection. Expecting more causes the stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:15 AM
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The formula is more complicated than that. You have to factor in how many spiders he is going to kill, how many batteries he is going to change, pets he will bury, kids games he coaches and on and on. Things have to get done. Personally I enjoy cooking and cleaning for someone especially if it is appreciated. But truth be told, I can't mow a lawn in a straight line to save my life. So I am going to lean towards doing the things I am good at and hoping someone else is good at the things I'm not. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 08:44 PM
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It is a lack of mental courage and an inability to form opinions. It is just the easy way out to put on blinders and say my group says A,B and C and I am not concerned with nuance that should make a difference. Some people call it emotional intelligence or in this case lack of. It is like a big computer processor and a small one. Some people don't have the capacity to take in large amounts of variables and factor them in a way to come to a conclusion. Some people need limited data and have to tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 06:49 PM
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I would never do this but thinking about the men in my life, I would say science, technology and AI would make incredible strides in a short time. Sex robots would be incredibly real and probably cheap. My husband would blow it off as another "phase" I was going through but would not leave because I offer more to his world than sex. Hopefully more than a really good AI doll but they make me nervous. The world would go on and people would find new ways to satisfy their sexual needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 06:36 PM
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Committed means I am going to do everything I can to be happy with and make only happy for as long as I can. Casual means that but only for today or at least until someone else asks me out. Is it sexual monogamy? For me it is yes but I can see the benefits of an open relationship in some circumstance. Is making it Facebook Official? Facebook status is stupid. Is it some intangible and subjective thing about 'feels' or security? I think it is a feeling of security. Your one person you can count o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/19 06:29 PM
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I offer to pay the bill all the time. It is just easier to take care of it at once. If I see someone again, most of the time they will reciprocate. It evens out without keeping score.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 09:00 AM
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No problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 01:11 AM
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I wish you a long, happy life full of the things you most desire then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 01:04 AM
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I get it. Sometimes it is hard to see all the ways it can go bad when you are angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:07 PM
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Hopefully that won't happen. I know my definition of protection has changed over time to come more in line with the law. Where bucking up to some guy who pinches me may have been protection when I was 18, now it is more of making sure we all get home safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 08:50 PM
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It blows my mind that men exist in the world who have a sole focus of an entire gender being the probability of getting laid. Being lonely is inevitable when you swap the idea of being a good human with being a high SMV Man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 06:50 PM
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Yes, but you have to go past the idea that friends are people that are beneficial to you for something. Friends are just people to enjoy and love with no expectations of more. If there is an attraction it usually has to either be acted upon to get it out of the way or 2 people need self control to abstain. The attraction will go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 06:44 PM
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No, I don't think it is ok and I am disappointed in myself that there are things that disgust me in people. I am most disappointed that I am attached to some notion that all people with that attribute are like "X". I know it is not true but I subconsciously still get in that trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 06:39 PM
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I think it is the idea of being loved enough to be protected and not necessarily the outcome of the fight? Interesting that this past weekend I was away on a trip with my SO. The place we were going was a short walk from our hotel but we would have to walk through a bad area to get to our destination. I'm flitting and happy in my sexy new dress not a care in the world and my SO is nervous as heck. Mind you he could take just about any other male around or at least hurt him. I asked him why he wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:36 PM
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I don't think of myself as naive. I trust each new person on their own merit but I also have a general expectation that they most likely will hurt me at some point but that I will forgive them whether that hurt is real or perceived. I've been called both naive and a doormat but I am not overlooking their flaws for them, I do it for me. What is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 09:16 AM
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Then I guess I agree with you. I don't think anyone should leave a relationship with more than they contribute. If no kids are involved, then it is simply what you brought with you. I don't think pre-negotiated terms are bad at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:47 AM
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People would probably see it different when society reaches a point that men are doing 50% of the childcare requirements to the extent that it doesn't interfere with a woman's earning potential. It is only a handout if there was no exchange/sacrifice made. Otherwise it is a partnership and needs pre-negotiated terms. I personally would never take spousal support in a divorce but would expect 50% of assets because I brought much more than that to the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:36 AM
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I (F) feel that way. No matter how insignificant the decision is , it gets tiresome always being the one to make it. Something as unimportant as deciding what to eat can be a burden if you don't get enthusiastic feedback from a partner. Always initiating intimacy is probably the best example of something that should be fun loosing its luster if it is never returned. I agree give and take builds a stronger relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 12:06 PM
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Our government creating and maintaining an accurate database comprised of entries from multiple sources is a huge stretch. I was just enjoying peeling away at possible reasons to require the tests with you in the discussion. I don't think it is a good idea and the government will corrupt it. It would be used to find the need for genetic markers so that pharmaceutical companies could make the most profitable drugs at the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 11:27 PM
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Y/N is just one element of the overall DNA test used to determine it. The systematic collection of the DNA markers used to answer that over time would be able to flag people of the same family line even if they were not aware of their relation. Police are using it now to track down serial killers and there are some uses in finding organ donors.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 10:41 PM
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For me, it was more of a discussion of whether state's should be able to require blood tests for any reason. Probably just creating a circular logic but the state has a vested interest in preventing disease. People who are related should be less likely to procreate due to genetic abnormalities according to science. Knowing paternity decreases the chance of related individuals marrying which is also against the law in many states. Crime prevention.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 09:38 PM
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People probably have a lot of different reasons for posting nude pictures online. I don't think I could impose my views without trying to understand their perspective. I do think that once it is public- it is public. Given she posted the pictures, any one who finds them can do privately what he wants. I would see this guy as a beta orbiter and just a very dishonest person. The way that he came across the pictures in the first place is the biggest problem. His homework wasn't on that page and he …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 09:21 PM
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I was under the impression all states determine the required testing of an infant through the public health system. My states require tests like sickle cell and cystic fibrosis. I think an argument could be made from a public health issue tracking certain genetic conditions. Another argument could be made for protection of its citizens against potential fraud. Again, I don't really support the testing but I can see it becoming part of regular life starting at birth. https://www.babysfirsttest.or…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 08:50 PM
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I don’t think you should settle for one or the other. You need both. Chemistry is the desire and excitement to be with someone and compatibility is being able to do it without being unhappy about compromise. As long as you have both, one or the other can ebb and flow over time but the other keeps you together.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 02:04 PM
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I probably wasn’t clear but my attractions all are very similar except slight differences in height, weight and eye color. I specifically but that because I’ve always thought it was strange that I love all eye colors but many of my friends only like blue. You are correct though. The men I am attracted to are generally just like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 01:14 PM
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Mine too. Friend, lover or stranger. To me that is just a way of opening the door for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 09:32 AM
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It would depend on the persons personality and the relationship but meant in fun would be ok. My walk away would be if the intent was to to hurt me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/19 12:33 AM
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No one has ever done that so I am not sure but I think that would be ok. It is more the loss of self control to the point of being hurtful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 10:15 PM
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Probably name calling like bitch or whore. Partially because it hurts my feelings but I loose complete respect for people who can’t control that. I don’t think it is recoverable. Weird line to draw but I have always been that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 09:56 PM
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You could line the men I am attracted to up and someone would suggest they are related. I have a type and it may vary a little (height, weight, eye color), but it is extremely consistent. Same with personality - introvert, driven, intelligent. Maybe I am an outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/19 03:28 PM
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Just simple due diligence. I live in a state where blood tests are required to get a marriage certificate so it is swapping one test for another. I don't want the government getting my DNA either but I think it is inevitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 11:35 PM
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Medical professionals verify birth details but in agreement with you I think all details that can be a verified should be verified. Technology changes require updates in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 11:14 PM
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If the government has an easy way to verify and is acting as the verifier of existence they should take all means to verify accuracy. The only example I can think of is the birth certificate opens the door to benefits like SSDI if the father passes away. If we tell fathers to be smart enough to protect themselves the government needs to lead by knowing they are only paying benefits legitimate beneficiaries
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 11:08 PM
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The state is creating a document that will follow a human for their entire life as a sworn truth. The state should use all easily available technologies to make sure the statement is accurate. Not just for the fathers but for the babies. Trust but verify is not a bad policy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 08:54 PM
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Married with kids. I do not envy single people at all. When a marriage works, if you need alone time you can easily get it. When you are single and need closeness or intimacy, you can't snap your fingers and get anything other sex. The ease of being able to walk away is an exchange for a deep commitment. I would rather feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 09:51 PM
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Easy for me to answer. It isn't even about the orgasm or the type. It is a man who understands that it is not all about him and gets this ------ I want a man with a slow hand I want a lover with an easy touch I want somebody who will spend some time Not come and go in a heated rush I want somebody who will understand When it comes to love, I want a slow hand
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 09:46 PM
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I think only PIV counts. Bill Clinton rules prevail.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 08:16 AM
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