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SweetTaterSalad/r/RedPillWomen25/07/26 01:24 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:47 PM
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You sure listed a lot of things you're not grateful for and not a single one that you are. My point, exactly. Take it or leave it. It's your life, not mine. And I'm grateful for that. God bless and have a great life! 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:46 PM
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You guys act like gratitude is a dirty word. Who said anything about wanting women not to be independent? I said if you're in a situation, choose gratitude before anger. It puts you in a better frame of mind and it takes the control away from the other person. This is self empowering. If a woman has the opportunity to be independent then yes absolutely if she wants it she should take it. And she should be grateful for the opportunity. You seem to think that it can only be one way or the other. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:18 PM
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Gratitude isn't passive. You have to choose it. You seem to think that gratitude and action can't work together. One replaces the other. I don't know where you came up with that but it's not accurate. Imagine you're a prisoner. You get fed. You get water. You get a pillow. You get a bed. For your own peace of mind while you are a prisoner, you can be grateful for your food, your pillow, your water, your bed, and your rest. These things will give you peace. Or you can be angry and throw your food…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:13 PM
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Being angry at someone for hurting you just gives them more power over your feelings. Showing gratitude, shows them that you can exist beyond their control.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:36 AM
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You really don't understand gratitude do you. Gratitude doesn't change someone else's behavior it changes your being. Your mind. And if it's an obligation then it's not gratitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:24 AM
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So you're saying food is evil. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:23 AM
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I was talking in a generalization. And I was responding to the person who spoke before me. If you're going to take my words and twist them, how am I supposed to even elaborate further? But yeah you should be grateful for the food you received from your rapist. I never said you should thank the rapist. Maybe you should thank the God who gave it to you in spite of your situation. Whoever you give your thanks to, someone gave it to you. Gratitude is gratitude regardless of your situation, your envi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:35 PM
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PS I wasn't suggesting that only women should be grateful. I did say everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:19 PM
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For life. A place to live. Someone who was willing to take you on when you didn't have anyone else to do it. Food. Heat. Running water. Toilets. Shelter. Just because we think everyone should have these things doesn't mean they should all be entitled or behave without gratitude. Just look around this world and see how many people don't have those things. And I bet you if they got them they'd be more grateful for them than you are or I am because they know what it is to do without.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:06 PM
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They didn't have to marry a slave master. Well maybe they did. But I know many many people from years old and my grandmother live through the depression and yeah I understand that women were not in a position to take care of themselves but that doesn't mean that they were always meant to be indentured servants or even treated as thus. Also I might add, people tend to be a little bit more grateful about what they get when they're not in a position to demand it. Honestly that's the thing that's mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:54 PM
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Respect IS an expectation. It's a good one too. And one that most women don't understand from the man's perspective. Both men and women want and deserve respect from their partner but they generally give respect in the way that they want it given. And men and women feel respected in different ways. Being loved is also an expectation and just like respect looks different from a man's or a woman's perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:03 PM
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The missing category is finding that guy that you can trust enough to surrender to. I think every woman wants this but no woman wants to be forced. That's why they strive to become self-sufficient and independent. They get to choose to let a man take care of them. And when I say take care of them, finances might be included, but they are looking for protection of their "being. " Marriage is about bonding of souls not just combining of finances and household obligations.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:01 PM
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Which world did women have to do what they were told? I mean I know there are places now but not here. That's never been a thing here. Talk to people who are old enough to remember. Tough to do because there aren't many left.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:34 PM
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And I didn't tell anyone they couldn't list what they like. I only asked that they describe it so I could choose. I really don't understand the problem here or why two of you are offended by it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 02:09 PM
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Why is asking for an audiobook list to nurture my femininity such an offensive thing? 🤔
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 02:08 PM
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I think you just agreed with me. That's the strange thing. Haven't you ever tried to communicate an idea and had trouble finding the right words or examples to do so? That's what I observed. I looked at his first statement and trusted that that was what he wanted to talk about. And then there's the fact that he didn't attack women. He was observing his own gender and attempting to discuss it. It seems only appropriate that men teach men and women teach women as often as possible. I mean who bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:07 PM
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This entire offshoot of the thread has become seriously confusing. This is what I saw. OP says men are under skilled. You said that his examples were ridiculous. You used the example that women have to ask for help sometimes was proof that his examples were ridiculous. Then I said you missed the point. The point being that the OP stated that he noticed a lack of adulting skills in young men in his gym. After that, I have no idea what happened and I still don't know why this is confusing to you. …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:49 PM
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I genuinely apologize. I misread your comment. I responded to what I thought you said. I went back and read it again. But it does prove my point. Miscommunication leads to problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:45 PM
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How am I denigrating myself? Owning the fact that I didn't understand and I made mistakes along the way is not denigrating. It's called freedom. Clarity. I now have the ability to intentionally reproduce the results over and over and over again instead of just marking it up to my husband finally matured.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:11 PM
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I'll agree with the fact that I was a s** woman but I wasn't complaining about stupid s. I was complaining about the dishes just like you and just like every other woman. And all those other things, being tired, sick of planning meals only to have people not show up and eat them, hiding in the garage after a fight for too long, wanting to share my day when he comes home only to be met by grunts or a detour to the television. My man is not an a**. He's actually a pretty great guy. I noticed it wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:10 PM
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One of the biggest problems in this world is that people take advice from the people who haven't figured it out yet. And then they wonder why it doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:08 PM
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I understand. Really I do. I was the same way. I just wanted my husband to notice. Now he does. Because I changed my approach. If I had successful results why wouldn't I want to share them with someone who is not having successful results?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:07 PM
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I hear you. When Mars and Venus Collide. By John Gray. Can be the solution to this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:06 PM
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You know the old adage? "It takes one to know one. "
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:04 PM
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Because I am the woman that I'm talking about. Or at least I used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:03 PM
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How do you know? Do you sit in their house while they are criticizing their husband? Or are you just getting it second hand like a story without his side?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:01 PM
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I didn't assign it to them. They do when they tell their husbands that they're not doing it correctly. How does the woman know what is the right way and the wrong way?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:58 PM
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From the wiki that you recommended I read. 🔴 r/RedPillWomenu/[deleted] • 10yRPW is not "one size fits all" In the wake of /u/ wingnut 's exciting post, I would like to also take this time to address the idea that there is a formula to being RPW. There is not now, nor has there ever been a basic model for being RPW. This sub is about a relationship dynamic between you and your man that is based on the idea that he take a leadership role and you take a follower role. That is at the heart of this s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:57 PM
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You're somehow making an assumption that I desire to marry up or that my husband somehow married up. If my marriage is solid and I asked for something and you think that my request is invalid because it doesn't line up with what you think it should be, then the problem isn't me. It's your lack of trust in my earnest request, which was well laid out in my original post. I don't know this whole pill philosophy and I really don't care. I empathize with men and women who struggle to find healthy and…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:49 PM
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🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:39 PM
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Hypergamous is an adjective that describes the act, practice, or tendency of marrying or dating someone who has a higher social status, economic standing, or educational level than oneself—colloquially known as "marrying up". What in the hell does this have to do with anything at all in this thread?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:29 PM
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I'm sure the women in here do have things to offer that's why I've been reading all of their threads. It seems to me that the people in this subreddit are the most qualified to provide the kinds of book recommendations that I hope to find. Right now, all you are offering is grief, doubt, and insults.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:25 PM
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First you said being a provider is very important and then you said she has to be able to provide for herself. This is very confusing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:22 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/FaWbS10vgZ
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:20 PM
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I empathize with those women because I used to be one. Women are nags because they don't know how to do it the right way. I'm not even faulting them. Because to do so would be to fault myself. I mean I own it and I apologized to my husband for it but I don't wallow in shame because I know there is a lack of good modeling for women and wives in this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:16 PM
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Really I just did a search on the word book in this subreddit. I got at least a dozen hits and I didn't post those.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:13 PM
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I'm not sure who brought the attitude to this thread. I asked for book recommendations that line up with good marriages and good relationships. The mods that I spoke to when I joined this subreddit did not suggest that this was a problem. Putting garbage into my mind does not help my marriage. This is a self-therapy thread for myself and anyone else who might benefit.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:10 PM
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I also wonder, if women are so expert at childcare, then why do they leave it to the non-expert? "I don't want to do my job. I want to do yours and I want you to do mine and I want you to do it perfectly like I would have you do it."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:09 PM
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What if the woman is taking on too much to allow her the time to do those things that she wants him to do. Does her house have to be pristine in order for all of this to get done? What if she just left the house cleaning and tended the children and didn't hen peck her husband or even say anything about it at all. Or just tell him "I'm too tired." How many women just tell the husband that they are defective and useless instead of saying, "Honey I'm tired and I need your help." This requires, humi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:07 PM
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I can handle my own marriage therapy Thank you. I'm looking for books that don't contradict my own moral structure. "Garbage in. Garbage out." And I'm quite comfortable with a male lead dynamic in my home. It works quite well for me and him and our children and our grandchildren. My husband leads and he works harder than I do. Can't see anything wrong with that.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/26 12:02 PM
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You just said that nothing was said "specific" about men and then I proved that it was; and then you just redirected (Can you say 'deflection?') your comment in a different direction. Typical. I'm done.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:58 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:57 AM
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I think women take on more responsibilities than they need to and then they blame it on men. I didn't used to think this, but I do now. They have some picture of the ideal woman in their head and they strive to become that because they are convinced that that will make them ideal to every man that they desire and when they don't get it, they are angry and confused. That's because in my experience I find that most men aren't looking for the ideal woman. They are looking for someone who adores the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:50 AM
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We need better humans on this planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:46 AM
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Oh good grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:46 AM
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"we're not suited for nuclear family, we need a village" You can't have one without the other. That would be like trying to manifest a house without first forming the bricks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:43 AM
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Declining birth rates is always a problem if you want to continue the species. And yes the more westernized the third world countries become, the more those people become like us in just about every way. People don't know how to raise children to become healthy productive and mentally balanced adults anymore. So nobody likes kids anymore. All you have to do is watch what people do with their kids or how they talk about them to see it. And then the people who don't have kids are surrounded by ent…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:29 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:13 AM
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Being attracted to people that aren't interested in you is safer. It requires no energy to maintain a relationship. Subconscious self-protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:46 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:49 AM
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There is an obvious lack of adulting skills in the younger generation of men. This man happened to notice it and wasn't able to articulate it in a way that pleased you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:45 AM
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Presence is huge. It makes a huge difference. It makes all the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:43 AM
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That's actually one of the smaller parts. The endocrine system is a fascinating machine. Seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/26 11:47 PM
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Y'all are still missing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:45 PM
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😆 I love the movies but I can't understand the cockney. I read it over and over out loud even and I struggle. I suppose if I did it on audiobook it might be okay because I do like the movies.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/26 11:33 PM
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I was referring to specifically decievers and no one else. Please don't put additional meaning into what I said. I am not man hater. But not all men are honorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:26 PM
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A spanking is not hitting a child. If you go back and look at the history of public schools the biggest surge of behavior problems, mental health issues, suicide, and violence in schools happened when they removed corporal punishment from the schools. I grew up in a school with corporal punishment and I got a SWAT and my best friend got a SWAT and we both earned them and we are not emotionally scarred or bruised from it. When I put my own daughter in public school this was no longer something th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:46 PM
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Y'all are missing the point. Those were just examples to point out the lack of adulting skills in the younger generation of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:38 PM
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I don't disagree with you in general but you forget that the mommies are the ones who cause problem in the first place. Seems some responsibility should fall on women for this as well. And you can probably bet your next year salary on the fact that these are the women that men b**** about in relationships as well. These women have such a slanted view of men and then project what they think a man should be on to their son, virtually turning him into this "limp" version of himself. He could be hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:37 PM
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Yes. Communicating expectations before you jump into bed with someone is always a good idea. It's generally better if it's done before you even get that far. Like on the first date. One of the very first things that comes out of your mouth. Guys who don't want commitment will get up from the table and run out the door right there. Guys who aren't sure or don't want to look like an ass, will probably let you finish your meal and pay for it if that was his intent and then he'll never call you agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:30 PM
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If everyone practiced this philosophy in their own lives, there would be a lot less of these debates in social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:10 PM
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This was written and compiled by an AI but the thoughts and the research are my own. Gratitude is the exact line separating privilege from entitlement. While rights are universal legal guarantees due to everyone, privilege is a conditional benefit or advantage granted to some. According to insights from Brené Brown via Social Legacy, gratitude keeps us aware of our advantages, helping us recognize that what we have is a gift rather than something we are naturally owed. Without gratitude, an unea…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:09 PM
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Those men probably COULDN'T get sex if they didn't trick women into it. Because they have no honor, self-respect, or respect for others. A man who takes advantage of a woman's more delicate nature and stature either by force or deception is a Neanderthal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:37 PM
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I don't understand the question. I've always expected excellence. I found it too. You'll generally find what you're looking for, if you look in the right places.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:56 AM
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Sorry. To the OP. I was in a bit of a snit. 😂 That was meant to say I agree with everything she said and there's way way way more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:40 AM
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And she said most of it but there's more. She just didn't have the time and energy to spend on you either. Edit. To the OP
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:02 AM
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Are you or were you ever a stay-at-home mother? Are you or were you ever a mother? This is the most ridiculous pile of cow manure I've ever heard anyone say about a stay-at-home mother. I could shred every argument you made into little bitty pieces but I just don't have the energy to lay this all out for you because you're not going to listen anyway. Your cup is so full of garbage, there's no room in it for anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:01 AM
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Yes. It is very much a double standard. Hypocrisy at its finest. Also glaringly ungrateful and entitled to everything.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 11:57 PM
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I didn't have enough sense to make a list before. Me and hubby just winged it. We figured all this stuff out later. Fortunately for us we both had our morality and determination to help us work through things in the middle that we should have worked out before we started. But it's from this experience I can draw on to provide information that might help others before they get to the middle. Two of my three children actually benefited from this and figured it out before the middle.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 03:05 PM
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Cats can pose certain restrictions on some relationships. So probably something important to consider. We are raw feeders So it is difficult to find people who will take care of our cats if we decide to travel. If traveling is necessary or desired in a relationship, cats can be a real imposition. Cats and dogs that are already owned are almost like stepchildren creating the need for negotiation and navigation of a blended family.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 03:01 PM
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I would venture that it's no wonder women treat you the way they do when you approach dating with this mindset. Have fun with that. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:58 PM
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Wait. "Must love cats," was actually non-negotiable for me. But it wasn't something I actually put any thought into because I had cats when I met him and there was an obvious attraction between him and my cats.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:52 PM
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I'm not sure which point you are debating. Is sluttiness considered a positive attribute? Are you in pursuit of a relationship with a slut? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:32 PM
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You can always delete those conversations after you have them.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:23 PM
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Sexual attraction is best cultivated with other non-negotiables. Actively solving problems is exactly what husbands and men are designed to do and are often driven to do so even when we don't want them to (like when we're venting). So this isn't actually something I need to require, just something I need to learn to navigate which I have recently done. My only non-negotiables were that I found him attractive physically (this can actually be developed just like the sexual attraction), that our mo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 02:03 PM
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Your first option is the prophecy that is laid out in the King James Bible. More or less. That second one just sounds bizarre to me. A society that's based on sexual function? Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:00 AM
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And who gets to decide who is average and below average and above average? Is there some sort of codex that I wasn't aware of? And how is that any better than bigotry? And you're severely limiting the growth potential of the two individuals that would make a pair. Personally I'd rather be extraordinary and be married to an extraordinary man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:53 AM
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❤️😘
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 12:29 AM
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I'm so thrilled for you. I felt exactly the same way 🥰😭🎊👑🎖️💥 Thank you for sharing that with me. Responses like that encourage me to share more. .
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 12:29 AM
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You're telling me that being deceptive or inauthentic is controlling neurosis? That's very bizarre to me. Why not just deal with the neurosis so you don't have to hide it?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/26 12:26 AM
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I think the only flaw with your argument is that you said women. Men are in this as well but maybe you don't notice it because you're not trying to date them. And it's fostered by commercials, TV, and most specifically, social media. Look at my stage. My Facebook page my Twitter my profile my face my selfies me me me me me me me and like me me me me me me me and like me some more without getting anything in return from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:46 PM
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Thank you for responding with those kind words. It adds value to the time I took to offer it. That means a lot. And I am absolutely thrilled that it might work for you. If you feel the urge, come back and let us know how it works out for you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 07:58 PM
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I'm not surprised but I am appalled.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:56 PM
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Attractive men are not necessary for pretty babies. I have a gorgeous daughter and her father looks like well never mind. He's not my husband so it doesn't matter. 😆
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 07:44 PM
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I'd say stick with what's working for you and ignore all those other people who don't know what they're talking about. Men that you are naturally attracted to, if they are naturally attracted to you, you'll (potentially )bring out the worst in them instead of the best. And if you're comfortable with being with someone based on nothing more than what's inside then the outside will look just as good as it needs to for you and what other people think doesn't matter. Natural attractiveness is more a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 07:40 PM
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Oh me too.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 11:31 AM
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What you described, using other people as optional is actually a psychological behavior disorder. It's called antisocial personality disorder aka sociopathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:18 AM
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The amazing development of men by Allison Armstrong on audible. I just read this and it has the most amazing information in it about men and little boys. I now look at my grandsons (and the other men in my life) in a whole new way and it's absolutely fabulous. I've instituted some of the new things I've learned and they respond to me beautifully. They are such wonderful boys.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:28 PM
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That would be funny if it wasn't so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:11 PM
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Exactly why they should quit changing the dictionary weekly and trying to destroy the language further obfuscating any possibility of finding the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:11 PM
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There is no spoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:09 PM
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What if I'm a woman that doesn't agree with those posts? My husband had female friends but I didn't like it. And I definitely never used it as a measuring stick. I do see how it could be used as a club after the fact but I don't do that either. It would be a useful way to rationalize instead of practicing introspection. What I am comfortable with is my husband being friends with a woman who is honest with me. I get along with my husband's ex from 30 years ago because she respects me and she does…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:06 PM
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You'll have to forgive me. I don't know the difference between trans men and trans women and which direction goes which and what goes where. I am not being obtuse, I just find it too complicated. Not having had any relationships with any of those people in real life, or pursued any online interactions with such groups, I have no reason to be educated in such things. What I do know about it is that it adds a different dynamic to the things that I said before. But it also changes the argument beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:39 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:30 PM
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Because you're full of poison that you need to pour all over other people. That's what you said. Where does it come from if you're happy? This is contradictory.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:29 PM
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And I will add that if you felt baited or attacked by my statement, I am truly sorry. My intent was to connect and offer clarity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:28 PM
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It was not intended to be bait. And upon further reflection I suppose it could be interpreted that way. It was only to let you know where I was coming from. Just like the flair. And that is the problem with big words and acronyms and flare and labels, it puts everybody in little boxes that have all these rules that no one really truly understands. We're just people. We are men and women. We are boys and girls. We are broken and we are misunderstood. We all want to be loved. We all want to be see…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:27 PM
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I don't know what all these new definitions of all these big ass words are and I don't really care. Do you know Webster's dictionary changes the definitions of the words like everyday? I'm highly educated. I love English. I speak and understand English very well. So I can't defend myself against your accusations but I can tell you that I am a woman. I've been married to the same man for 30 years. We've had problems. Many of them were my fault. Many of them were not.b Most of them were a result o…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:24 PM
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That's awesome. I guess I accomplished something today.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:19 PM
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And here's another one for you. Bait Bait in an argument refers to a deliberate provocation or misleading statement designed to trigger an emotional response from an opponent. The goal is to lure the other person away from their main point and entice them into a secondary, often losing battle.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:14 PM
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Do you know the definition of the word deflection? Deflection is a psychological defense mechanism where a person redirects blame, criticism, or negative attention away from themselves and onto another person, topic, or external factor. It is an unconscious or conscious strategy used to protect oneself from feelings of guilt, shame, vulnerability, or accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:12 PM
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WTH? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:11 PM
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I got that definition from the dictionary instead of social media. It generally works better that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:05 PM
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You doubt my flair because you don't agree with me. You for some reason think all women should think just like you. I'm all woman. Born that way, lived that way and going to die that way. And I don't agree with you at all. I do however pity you. There's a lot of poison coming out of that mind of yours and I can Only assume that someone has severely broken your heart probably not just once and you haven't figured out how to heal from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:04 PM
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Oppression and bigotry are not synonyms. Bigotry is an obstinate, unreasonable, and complete intolerance of any creed, belief, opinion, or way of life that differs from one's own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:02 PM
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Do you know the definition of the word bigotry?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:50 PM
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So you dump your poison on men you don't know? That seems fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:47 PM
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I agree with your point at least most of it I think. I think it's a chicken and egg argument but consider this. Man approaches woman Woman responds to man in a way that she believes is positive. Man misunderstands woman and reacts in a way that confuses woman. Woman interprets reaction as negative and defends and/or retaliates. Woman feels injured and she rationalizes for self-protection. Woman stores experience as quality of ALL men instead of isolated experience (accumulates with every cycle) …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:33 PM
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Don't need to dump the poison if you don't cultivate it in there in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:09 PM
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If your cup was full and abundant then you would be able to overflow goodness, mercy, and abundance on others. But the only thing that seems to be flowing out of your cup is poison.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:00 PM
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And that somehow makes you superior? Because you can browbeat someone to death with your thoughts that somehow makes you superior to men who use their fists? That's an interesting way of looking at things. How's that working out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:54 PM
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I was with you until you got to dominance and submission. I don't disagree with these terms but they are the ones that seem to incite all of the insanity everywhere. Would it be accurate to also say giving and receiving? Providing and nurturing? Protecting and supporting? Dominance and submission do fall into this because in order for the ones I mentioned above to work someone must to submit to the authority of the other. And someone must lead. That doesn't mean they don't get to choose it. Just…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:49 PM
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You're fighting back right now. And you're not being very dignified about it either. Every proactive comment that you have made has had a backhanded insult to the person you're responding to. And if you think your words don't do damage, you better think again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:44 PM
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You're not even listening. You're just baiting. It seems to me that you need to learn more about your own temptations for example the temptation to bait, condescend and criticize others when they are trying to share with you. If you self-reflect, recognize this in yourself, and learn and apply behaviors to temper your thoughts and your responses then you will have effectively learned to cope with temptation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:43 PM
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Women don't stab, shoot and brutalize people with weapons as often as men do. But they do have very sharp tongues and they are not afraid to use them. Aptitude and intelligence is not defined or altered by gender. Men have the innate quality to protect and because of this world sometimes rebel against this good nature and destroys. Women have the innate quality to nurture and because of this world sometimes rebel against her good nature and poisons.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:38 PM
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Bingo. You can't control it if you don't know it's there or how it behaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:35 PM
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That depends entirely on what is doing the attracting and what is being attracted. Physical to physical is part of our physiology and mostly out of our control. It can be changed with repetitive imprinting. Pretty much every other attraction is a series of choices based on a combination of imprinting, growth, and spirituality. Aka "Chemistry"
/r/ExRedPill22/07/26 05:02 PM
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I don't start topics. I just jump into those where I find opportunities to help. Teaching, advising and brainstorming with others helps to embelish and solidify what I have learned. Off to tend to the lawn before the neighbors complain. Its been a pleasure. Later.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:40 PM
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Thank you for your help. Will they leave my future posts alone now? Do you think that WAS THE violation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:21 PM
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Good grief I found it. They sure don't make it intuitive or easy to find. I think I picked the right one. I approach most of these debates with the mentality "There is no spoon.". 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:20 PM
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That's what Google AI said too but there are no three dots on the main page. I looked everywhere. Doesn't exist. Unless I'm just blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:18 PM
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I read the rules on flair but I can't find it. It said the sidebar and I don't see it over there and I don't see it in my profile curation and I don't see it in settings. There are a lot of new acronyms and things to learn so I guess I better just be a little bit more cautious about what I comment on until I figure out all of these nuances.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:09 PM
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So you and I can contine but new readers wont see it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:02 PM
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One of the subreddits I originally joined has such restrictive rules, there was no room for free thought and the time it took to clean up every post in order not to offend was wasted becuase the "cleansed" message had no value to anyone beyond stroking. But even there the rule restrictions were pointed out in each violation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:01 PM
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I can see all of them but cant tell what you do or dont see. And without a specific pointer to a violation, I dont know what to do about it. Other times Ive been modded they pointed out my blunder so I could fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:59 PM
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I dont understand this or what to do about it. I dont want to break any rules. This is the lease toxic discussion subreddit Ive found relating to hender discussion and I am greatful for the privilege to be here and hipe not to damage that out of ignorance or poor decorum. https://preview.redd.it/tjl98wa4pseh1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a8aa3d7b4855b1b9310eb641ef16bc4d33fc4e56
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:56 PM
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Weird. It says in my notifications that is was removed by a mod but no explanation was given. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:50 PM
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Did you see the recommendation for Syncing with the Opposie Sex? It was in the post that was removed. Its geared specifically for dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:35 PM
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You're so very welcome. Thank you for listening with an open mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:34 PM
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I answered you but it was removed by the moderator and I'm not exactly sure why. I'll have to review my response and see if I can post it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:31 PM
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If you'd prefer to do a deep dive on the psychology and drives of men and women in general, I'd recommend When Mars and Venus collide By John Gray. I'm not quite finished with this one yet, but I can tell you that it is another mind-blowing source of information.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:27 PM
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It has nothing to do with dating and or household responsibilities but it affects both. Women are going to act the same in dating and in marriage when stimulated a certain way. It appears different but that's because women tend to go back and forth. They are so eager to please you and be attractive to you that they will often hide those things that they are insecure about. They also tend to keep their micromanaging and criticism in the closet until you get married. And then when they get into th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:22 PM
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If you're asking for a recommendation for education John Gray. When Mars and Venus collide. If you're asking me a different question, I request a rephrase because I don't understand it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 02:18 PM
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FYI. Woman here. I used that because I knew it would appeal to the men. My husband has voiced many times over the years that he would never cheat on me because he's already married to a hundred different women at once. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:16 PM
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I could answer that directly but I chose not to respond to her for a reason. Yes, I understand why you called her out. And and I am not an expert nor am I proficient in these skills that I am learning. But I have empathy and compassion for both the OP and you. Because you're both living in a world full of misinformation and it's destroying your abilities to make wise and accurate decisions. You can't make a cake if you don't have all the ingredients or the right recipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:15 PM
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And I think you have hit the nail right on the head. Everyone is trying to act the same and this fuels the gender war. Bingo! Just like the metaphor I gave above with the nuts and the bolt. Imagine the nuts and the bolts all thought that they were exactly the same and attempted to act the same all the time. How many connections would be made? You get some random connections because eventually a nut and a bolt would pair but it would be random instead of intentional based on design.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:08 PM
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I think everybody looks at gender roles from the wrong position. I think we use all of the wrong variables. I will elaborate more if you're a little more specific with your question. I don't want to go off on a rabbit chase and confuse the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:06 PM
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Unfortunately many men don't understand that women are sensitive. Sometimes too sensitive by their appraisal. Ever heard the phrase "grow some skin"? Unfortunately this is one of the standard paradigms that is fed by wrong thinking and misunderstanding of the differences between feminine and masculine. If a woman isn't sensitive then she is acting in her masculine capacity. She has her defenses up. That makes her unapproachable. That means she's unable to receive because she's busy protecting he…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 02:02 PM
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Being a picky eater is the least of your worries. And I wouldn't fixate on it in any way shape or form. He knows that you don't cook the way he likes to eat and he still comes over. If you can't or won't learn to cook the way he likes to eat, then tell him that up front. Give him the chance to accept or reject your boundary. If he rejects your boundary, let him go. Then further into the relationship, if you decide that you want to tailor your cooking to his preferences because you love him, then…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:48 PM
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You just answered your own question. If your husband doesn't feel heard then he doesn't feel respected. Respect is just like love. It is an action not a feeling. You give respect, you don't feel it. And there is no better person in this world to tell you what your husband needs then your husband. So if he is talking and you are not listening, you are shooting yourself in the foot. Listen more and more and more and more and more. Keep in mind that interrupting a man is another way to emasculate. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:33 PM
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And one more thing. Lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of gratitude, appreciation, admiration and honor. Actively seek behaviors from your husband that deserve any or all of these. And then give it in abundance.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:31 PM
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I started with the Laurel Doyle book as well. It's a good book and it's a good foundation but it does lack some nuances that I think are better elaborated on from some other sources. I highly recommend anything you can find or are willing to purchase (YouTube interviews, audio books, coursework) by Allison Armstrong I also highly recommend when Mars and Venus collide by John Gray. This one might be the best place for you to start. It goes into great depth on why and how respect works for a man. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:30 PM
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I'm doing some coursework including authors Allison Armstrong and John Gray and I did a quick Google search to get a more concise answer. I hope it helps. According to Alison Armstrong and John Gray, a woman’s diffuse awareness naturally tracks every sensory input, sound, movement, and visual detail simultaneously. In a public setting, this innate feminine strength can easily cause intense neurological overload, spiking cortisol levels and draining her feminine energy. To stay grounded in her fe…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:21 PM
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Lying about what? Lying about who he is? Or lying about his commitment to marry you later? Maybe you should just set a new boundary. Don't move in with him until after you're married. If you put down this boundary and he runs the other way you probably don't want to keep him anyway. If a man has to be manipulated into marrying you, then he didn't come willingly and you won't appreciate anything he gives you because you'll always wonder if he's doing it because he loves you or if he's doing it ou…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 01:13 PM
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Your individual is still a woman who has to navigate everything I mentioned. And if she didn't have good role models or good resources to invalidate all of her wrong thinking (if it is in fact wrong thinking), then providing compassion and empathy might be a better choice than ridicule. And I would never suggest that you or any other man should put up with bad behavior from a woman just because she had a bad childhood. But compassion is not the same as validation or acceptance. You wouldn't driv…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:08 PM
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😁
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:04 PM
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The message has been poisoned by propaganda. Women seem to be multiple personality disorder in a box. That's because they are constantly living a contradiction that is fed by propaganda and lies. Men and women can do ALMOST all of the same things. BUT The things that they do affect their bodies and their minds differently. Ever notice how women tend to multitask better than men? Or how men seem to finish things they start when women don't? This is because of their physiology and the way their br…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 01:03 PM
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I responded to your previous comment which sounded very crass, snide and sarcastic aka disrespectful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:57 PM
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Relationships are not a game and as long as we keep treating them like some sort of strategy they are going to fail. Even if you land that perfect prize at the end of the game because it was a game you won't get fulfillment from it. You'll just get the trophy.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 12:05 PM
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This is a bit over the top. She made a mistake or maybe it wasn't a mistake on one date and now she needs to invest hundreds or thousands of dollars in psychotherapy? My husband and I fell in love in a rapid fire relationship. We've been married for 30 years. There's no wrong or right way to date except for one thing. Authenticity. If she told the truth about the way she thought she felt even if as another poster mentioned it was projected or imaginary based on hopes, then she was being authenti…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 12:03 PM
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I think you're overthinking yourself. Unless you did something akin to creepy stalker. If you were authentic and it sounds like you were and he got more distant, that is your clue that he is not your match. He will not fit you. If you go changing yourself and the way you feel then you become inauthentic. Then you'll attract people that you will later regret that you did. This man did you a favor. Stop second-guessing yourself and be yourself. There is no wrong or right time to fall in love or be…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:59 AM
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"The genders no way too much about each other." Adventure to say they don't know ENOUGH, because what is being said on the internet is all full of propaganda, lies, and misunderstandings that are colored by politics, fears, emotional baggage and broken hearts.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:56 AM
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"The genders no way too much about each other." Adventure to say they don't know ENOUGH, because what is being said on the internet is all full of propaganda, lies, and misunderstandings that are colored by politics, fears, emotional baggage and broken hearts.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:54 AM
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I agree with this post and would further ask, define "masculine." I know somebody said somewhere farming and ranching and all that stuff with masculine but by whose definition? And then there are clothing styles and favorite hobbies etc but these aren't inherently feminine or masculine. Societal "norms" usually dictate these labels. One pretty good example is nursing. It used to be dominated by women not so much anymore. I see a lot of male nurses everywhere I go. There are traits that are inher…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:50 AM
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I agree with this post and would further ask, define "masculine." I know somebody said somewhere farming and ranching and all that stuff with masculine but by whose definition? And then there are clothing styles and favorite hobbies etc but these aren't inherently feminine or masculine. Societal "norms" usually dictate these labels. One pretty good example is nursing. It used to be dominated by women not so much anymore. I see a lot of male nurses everywhere I go. There are traits that are inher…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 11:50 AM
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You missed the last response to that claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:42 AM
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This is true. I agree with it. It lines up with all my behavior studies and the stuff I mentioned in my first comment. Men are compelled to do stuff for women. That's why they can just have it. And when I say compelled I mean it's built in. You were born with it. It's part of your endocrine system. The female and the male endocrine systems are the same except the male has more testosterone and the female has more estrogen and these two hormones affect everything. The way we think, the way we fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:34 AM
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You speak very lowly of women but you should try being one for a while and see how it feels. I wouldn't change it for the world but it's not nearly the piece of cake that you think it is. Here's something women have to learn how to cope and behave with constant disruptions in their hormone cycles as part of their innate physiology. These hormones cycles are what caused their desires for children and safety and love and harmony and security, etc. we don't sit around in our bedrooms when we are sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:27 AM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:24 AM
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You may have noticed that men and women are different? The female brain and the male brain physiology are different. The endocrine systems of the female and the male are different. Imprinting for the male and the female are different. Why would you think that expectations dreams thoughts worries and anxieties wouldn't also be different? And wouldn't it be more prudent to figure out the difference between a good man and a bad man by comparing those two to each other since they are primarily the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:16 AM
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This is not new information. It's just that nobody listens to it anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/26 04:14 AM
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You know I think I'd rather have a father that actually was a provider than one that wasn't in the house at all ever. My father was hardly ever home because he was always providing for me but guess what He didn't even have a wife. Because they were all too entitled, high maintenance and ungrateful and picky and worried about things that didn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:09 AM
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Didn't hurt any of my nerves. I can't help it if you don't know what you're talking about. You'll figure it out someday hopefully.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:08 AM
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Toastmasters. You ever heard of that? I think that's like a club where they teach you public speaking and how to have a presence in the room and and it might give you extra self-confidence and you might even meet some fun people. Supposedly they have chapters all over everywhere. If it's something that might interest you Google it. Oh and the reason I mentioned it was because you said something about reaching your goal. It's a lofty goal. But I know men do well if they have the ability to accomp…
/r/ExRedPill21/07/26 10:02 PM
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And who told you that? Statistics? Did you do some sort of survey? And how in the heck would any of those things even know? I know all kinds of homeschoolers around here and most of their husbands don't make six figures.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:59 PM
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I got to ask. Where are all these horrible men that everybody is describing in here? I mean there's lots of men that live in the city where I am and yeah they're not that bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:58 PM
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The heartbreak happens whether you break up before or after. Just in case you didn't know.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:46 PM
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I'm not super rich. Not even close. In fact my husband and I have been unemployed for over a year due to circumstances beyond our control. We've been living on savings which is almost gone. I'm too old to get a new job or so the job coach tells me and I'm too young to retire and draw social security or any of my 401k. And just because the rich people have more things than you do does not mean they are happy. And sitting around wishing you had things other people have it's just going to lead you …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:30 AM
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"The type of man that insists in becoming a provider is often the type of man that believes that childcare is a woman's job.". So wealthy men never hire nannies for their wives and their children? "at the end of the day nobody is entitled to tradition." Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:06 AM
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"Stay at home mothers exist either because the woman doesn't make enough money to cover daycare costs, or because the woman managed to marry someone that makes much more money than she makes. " ++++ I made twice as much money as my husband when we got married. I had a degree in IT. I had a lucrative job career path etc. I quit stayed home and homeschooled my children for 10 years on my husband's salary. Then when the kids were big enough I went back to work at Walmart so that I could be close to…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:02 AM
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Wanna bet? I taught my children to teach themselves and they're both geniuses. They don't have any degrees to prove it, but what does that matter? They have it and they get to live it and that's all that matters. The worst thing that public school has ever done to children is to take away their ability to learn on their own. To make them dependent on the experts. This is a long used tactic for all oppressive government structures. Attempting to legislate freedom of thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:50 AM
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Hypothetical question. If I'm happy and you're not, how come you're right and I'm wrong? PS I wasn't talking about the politics.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:46 AM
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BINGO! Im reading When Mars and Venus Collide and the chapter I JUST finished this morning actually nacks this up. The hormone cycles in men and wormen are fundamentally the same BUT the balance and the triggers are different and it is BUILT IN not preference. This has absolutely nothing to do with assessts or aquisitions or goals. It has to do with safety, security, stress, desire, appreciation, honor and respect. These aren't preferences. These are intrinsic NEEDS. And almost noone out there s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:43 PM
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I am listening to a new audiobook and I'm only about a third of the way through it but I stumbled on to the chapters that address hormones and the way they act in accordance with the female brain and the male brain and how they relate to this give and take in relationships. It also addresses the same stuff that the other link I pointed you to. And it seems to be wrapping it up in a nice little package that makes it a lot easier to understand. If you're interested, it's available in paperback and…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/26 05:50 PM
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Wow that's a really heavy topic. And to answer your question directly, I would think it would depend on the man and the woman. Everyone is an individual and everyone handles these things differently. And to be fair, not all men do it for the sake of using. Some of them are just not comfortable or ready for commitment. Their fault in my opinion lies in the fact that they are not honest about this up front or if they are, often women will enter into the relationship anyway with the secret hope tha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/26 02:57 PM
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You are entitled to your point of view. And it is a very valid point of view. But I definitely don't share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:43 PM
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Sex crimes and any other crimes that include violence are touchy business. But I personally know a reformed murderer. He murdered someone while in a game and he spent most of his life in prison. He is now married and works in a very successful charitable organization helping others. Not everyone is equipped to be with a person like this, but you shouldn't discount it for others. It's not fair to those people. People make mistakes. That's all I'm saying. If I had any evidence that some man had ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:25 PM
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It's called forgiveness. How many times does one person have to be punished for the same crime? I would think jail would be sufficient. If it's not, I think this would be obvious in their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:44 PM
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The perception is true. I mean I can see it in my own house. It's only recently that my husband came to feel almost the same importance from tidiness in the house as I do. But I truly believe based on some of the studies I'm doing on the way the male brain versus the female brain works, this actually falls in line with genetics, strangely enough. A dirty house equals noise to a woman's brain. It disturbs her peace and her serenity and her ability to cope with stress. It's more important to her t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:35 PM
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Why is it necessary to make a six-figure income? My husband and I have been living on between 30 and 80,000 a year for the last 30 years. I know cost of living is higher in other places but there are always lower cost places in the suburbs and in the fringe counties.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:27 AM
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Wow. You need to get out more. What a disparaging way to think and live. Maybe you should go work in a soup kitchen. Put all that energy into charity for people who are far less better off than you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:25 AM
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Fair enough. I didn't mean to be testy about it but sometimes I am. You don't know how much grief I took when I decided to stay home and homeschool my children. Even my family freaked out. And don't even get started on my in-laws. Thank you for clarifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:22 AM
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Luxury my eye. We made sacrifices. We did it. I stayed home for 10 years so I could homeschool my children. It wasn't perfect I started late but when we could make it happen we did. But we didn't have cell phones and internet and new tennis shoes every year and school supplies and all that stuff we didn't need it and we just did without it. And my kids have grown up to be very successful, responsible and happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:18 AM
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My daughter made a list like that and her husband said okay and then he proposed. She's a stay-at-home mom and their goal is 13 children. 🤣 She didn't get that from me. I'm an only child. I only had three children. But I do have a friend who is a really cool chick who has 13 kids and I think that's why. He was so in love with her He told her he'd give her anything she wanted. And I believe him because her dad told her husband before he proposed that he had to challenge him with a katana for firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:08 AM
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What the hell are you smoking? Who's giving their babies to Epstein? I have a beautiful family and I have beautiful children and I have beautiful grandchildren and I hope to have many many more. Yeah I know the world sucks but I also know it's beautiful and if you get your head out of the internet you might see some of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:03 AM
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When an individual's behavior shifts into severe, relentless micromanagement, it functions as a direct, physiological coping mechanism for a profound lack of safety and security (Porges, 2011). When a person feels a lack of control, the nervous system enters a state of heightened threat response to self-soothe and create an illusion of order (Porges, 2011; Landau et al., 2015).The Physiology of ControlThreat Response: The amygdala perceives a lack of environmental security as a physical danger (…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:58 AM
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Oh and I forgot to tell you. You asked when you were allowed to do something. I know you weren't trying to be rude but if that's the way you think about it it will show. And you will resent him more. You are allowed to do anything you want. You get to make the choices. That's the point. If you get to make the choices so does he. He shouldn't have to feel like he has to be allowed either. This isn't about submitting or being a doormat or being an indentured servant. If you don't want to do the di…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 11:12 PM
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Oh I just wanted to share one other bonus. After I unpacked all of this baggage after learning about all this stuff something else amazing happened. I had been suffering from severe anxiety, neuropathy, discompression, rotator cuff inflammation off and on for a very long time and it had gotten really bad in the last 2 years. I've been constantly walking around in pain waking up every morning with my fingers and arms on fire. And I'm 55 but when I looked in the mirror I looked much older and very…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 10:24 PM
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Actually there is one way I can prove it's true. I can tell someone to try something and if it works then they will have the proof they need. It worked for me is anecdotal evidence. But that's what medicine was before we had med school. Anecdotal evidence. Word of mouth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:19 PM
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And I'm glad you're not pissed. Truly I am. I have posted some sources but nobody seems interested In fact one subreddit thought it was some woman bashing video or something but it wasn't. So I guess you'll have to go find it yourself the same way I did. Reddit doesn't think I should be allowed to post it here. But I know what I know and I will share it if someone will hear it. But I'm done for now. I don't need to win. I was just hoping it would help someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:18 PM
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Well it's kind of hard to communicate something you don't know now isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:16 PM
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And one more thing. Keep listening. Don't give him the silent treatment, just don't attack him with questions and helpful suggestions. Just leave him alone unless there's something you need. And if you need something go ask for it. And then don't forget to say thank you. And keep listening and keep listening and keep listening and keep listening and keep listening and keep listening as much as you can. I keep telling you this because I need to keep telling myself this because my husband pauses i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 10:06 PM
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Boundaries are allowed. If he yells unprovoked or even provoked this is not good behavior. First, I suggest you try the apology and see what happens because that might take care of that problem for you. It might not. But it should come first. And then after he's had some time to reflect and you two are in a good space together, you can talk to him about it instead of as a defense mechanism in the middle of an argument. He may still get defensive everyone does when they're feeling attacked. But i…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 10:03 PM
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I can tell you a really funny story. The woman who wrote the coursework that I'm taking said that she figured this out before her daughter was born and her husband was so tickled to go over and put the diaper on this baby. She decided to let him do it and didn't say a word. And she said the diaper was backwards. She didn't say a word. He had already volunteered for diaper duty so she didn't worry about it. She just giggled. Apparently he did this for a while and she still never said a word. Then…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 09:58 PM
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Talk to God. He'll listen. He listens to me a lot. I had to stop talking so much to other people because they stopped listening after about the 47th time I told them the same story. 😬😊 So when I don't have anybody to talk to I just sit on my porch and talk to God like he's sitting on the couch right next to me. And then I giggle because people probably think I'm talking to myself. And maybe I am, but I don't think so. I'll put in a good word for you. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:34 PM
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Absolutely! You're welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 09:31 PM
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You disrespected him before he disrespected you and you did it twice. First you made a suggestion that made him feel disrespected. Then he told you that you made a suggestion that made him feel disrespected. And all you did was defend yourself. I understand. Been there done that about a bazillion times, But it wasn't until recently that I discovered that it's not something specific to your husband, this is something that is hardwired into men the same way emotions and femininity are hardwired in…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 09:24 PM
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I consider myself part of the women I am talking about. I didn't come here to ask advice. I already found mine. I came here to watch your behavior and everyone else's. But that doesn't mean I can't say something if I want to. I'm learning about myself and other people. I'm taking a course study in human behavior and I came here so I could talk to people that I thought might have similar points of view. What I found was just a bunch more copies of me and everybody I know. Pretty much nobody in he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:12 PM
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So go find something to do with people. Not women. Not dating. Just something to do with people. Go to a football game. Go to a library. Go to a lecture. Go to the laundromat. Go to a concert. Go to the grocery store. Go to an Allison Armstrong seminar. Go to the gym. Go to the beach. Go to the lake. Go fishing. Surely there's something out there that you like to do that involves other people. I'm not a big fan of therapy or counselors or psychotherapist or any of that stuff. They're in it to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:09 PM
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Wow. Aren't you glad you asked? Not a single woman in here besides me has taken the time to give you the benefit of the doubt. I'm sorry. If you're asking in earnest and I thought you were which is why I responded the way I did. Something else I've learned about men is that they respond to you better when you give them the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming you know what he meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:04 PM
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Every woman desires safety. Every woman desires security. Every woman desires connection. But most women don't know this about themselves. I didn't, at least not at first. I know more men who know this about women then I know women who know this about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:59 PM
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Usually the people that scream the loudest are the ones who are trying to convince themselves they're not guilty of what they were just accused of. I didn't always know what I wanted. And most women don't. Men offer things all the time and women turn them down because they are self-sufficient and independent. What the hell would they need a man for? Oh. Procreation. Sex. Haven't we been condemning men for that for decades? Obviously there's a few women who have figured out what they want and hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:56 PM
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I agree. 100% But there is actually something out there that will help. https://youtu.be/4MZgIiJNvPo?si=SsrJ1Dp9H8erqDuj
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:49 PM
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Oh and "I don't meet people" could possibly be preventative. Go meet some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:45 PM
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I don't think emotionally exhausted is one of those qualities that you're hoping to achieve. So I'm going to go out on a limb and suggest you figure out the why and how of that and how you can best fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:44 PM
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I didnt date a criminal. I dated a man who once committed a crime. And he was worth it. Glad you found what you were looking for. Really. But objectifying is bad even if it's not a woman or an ethnicity. It's just another form of prejudice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:42 PM
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I married one. Been married 30 years. Got four children, seven grandchildren, a house that's paid for, a mustang, a Jeep, and four cats. If I had said no because I did a background check instead of just listening to what he had to say about himself then I would have missed out on all of that. But everyone should do what is best for their own fit. But calling someone a criminal is also objectification.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:07 PM
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Criminal charges? Why because if a guy is a criminal, that automatically makes him an adulterer? That's not fair. Does that mean that if you did a background check on a woman and found out she got caught shoplifting when she was 23 or maybe overcame some sort of horrific addiction that she doesn't deserve at least a chance to become a better or a different person or maybe the benefit of the doubt that it was just a mistake? 😬 People got serious trust issues. They don't even trust themselves to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:19 PM
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Truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:15 PM
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I know what the red pill originally meant and where it came from. But I see a lot of people objectifying each other and then complaining about being objectified. Calling a man a blue pill or a red pill or a black pill or a purple turtle is objectification. A man is a man. And a man is an individual. If we keep objectifying everyone, no one is ever going to find the truth about the individual (s) that they care to learn about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:09 PM
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"There is no spoon. " Everybody's always arguing about how to bend the spoon. Ever noticed that on most debates, there are only two sides? Generally neither side has the whole truth. So they're both wrong. And they're both so busy arguing over what color the spoon is how big the spoon is where you should buy the spoon how to get another spoon or whether you should have a fork, that no one ever ever sees the truth. If you look at about every controversial topic at the top of all the social media …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:58 PM
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You better pack your suitcase first, kind of hard to do after you're dead. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:36 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:35 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:35 PM
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And we've been on several dates since I listened to it and they have been harmonious and wonderful and blissful instead of ending with a miserable car ride home and a separating once we got there. 😳🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:16 PM
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If you want some perspective from someone who understands this better than I do, go to audible and find being in sync with the opposite sex by Allison Armstrong. I listened to it recently and man what I could have done with that information when I was dating. Actually I was able to apply it in my marriage because we still go on dates and they are often screwed up because we don't understand each other very well at least we didn't before. You can listen to a sample on the author's website. https:…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:15 PM
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Don't believe that lie. That lie will drive you further into despair and make you less and less and less and less attractive. Stop and think about who you want to be. Who do you admire? Who do you look up to? What does a good man look like? Am I that man? Is there something I can do to be that man? Once you've decided what a good man looks like and then you take all the steps that you can to become that man and you are satisfied with who you are, then it doesn't matter what other people think an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:08 PM
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I'm still fascinated by how many people want to chase the people that don't want to have anything to do with them. Why? Why not just go find the ones who do? Instead of pouting about the ones who don't. If you're sure that you've got it together and you are the best you that you can be and some woman says I don't like you because you're not tall enough, then she's definitely not a fit for you. Why would you try harder to convince her otherwise? Why not just be authentic and be yourself and let a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:57 PM
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🤔 So you're telling me that people judge me because I noticed that my husband had a nice ass when I met him? I suppose that's unfair, but I don't give a s***. 🤣 He thought I had nice boobs. I never saw that as a problem either. I guess my main point is, if you are happy with her views and she is happy with yours who gives a s*** what everybody else says? We put wat too much stock into what other people think. It's like high school. Personally I hated high school and I couldn't wait to get out. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:52 PM
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Maybe. But I don't think it's the most important part. But that's the cool thing about it, we don't have to pursue the same thing in a dynamic to come to the same conclusion or to provide some impact. You just have to choose your audience. I think babies are wonderful. I think most men do too. Babies are cool. They're a little humans and they're un tainted by all of this crap that we are bombarded with everyday. Then they grow up to be us and then we think we were born this way. Except we weren'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:02 PM
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No it doesn't bother me that women don't generally know this about themselves because it's irrelevant to relationships. It's an interesting factoid I guess if you're into that sort of biology studies. But arousal is a built-in bodily instinct function. It has nothing to do with reasoning or love. What bothers me about women is that they don't know how to be women anymore. So that is what I will spend my time in. At least the time I spend reading hours and hours and hours of studies and books and…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:54 PM
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And I didn't mention China because I agree with their legislation or think that it should be used somewhere It was just a way to show you that even a dictator sees the value in multiplying bodies that he can indoctrinate with his own beliefs. That's what parents do they indoctrinate their children with their own beliefs. There's an obvious difference which is that the people that the dictator is producing probably don't have much choice but to comply but in the case of good parenting the parents…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:52 PM
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If you're a sociopath then why do you give a s*** about other people's relationships? By definition a sociopath does not care about anyone but themselves. And those bodies that you say are irrelevant are the bodies that create the relationships that you're talking about. That is the point. The more bodies that know how to have relationships the more relationships you're going to have. And the more relationships that you have the more bodies that you are going to have for more relationships and o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:50 PM
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Those kinds of rewards are outward and are just a bonus. The real reward comes in understanding and believing that real relationships can and will flourish if two people care enough to make it happen. And if those two people produce children and teach their children the same values that they have discovered in their journey both before and after marriage, then we have multiplied it. If you want to win a war, you need more bodies. The perfect way to get more bodies is to produce them yourself. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:38 PM
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Truth. Probably the most obvious flaw in the way most people handle their standards test, is that they find someone who meets most of their requirements and then they rationalize away the rest and then enter the marriage and pursue their new improvement project--fixing the parts they previously ignored. If they would have just admitted to themselves that they didn't like this person as a good fit in the first place and didn't settle for what they thought was less than they deserved, then they wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:18 PM
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Truth. I think women believe this in the beginning and then they change their minds after they've been married or in a relationship for a lengthy time. And then if they become over consumed with perfection and obsess over control and diminish the man, then he no longer responds to her sexual advances and then she thinks she no longer has the power. She actually does, she just doesn't know how to use it properly. Bad news for both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:11 PM
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There are a lot of things in the SAD that contribute to this body dysmorphia. Many of the things in our nutritional and personal hygiene environment introduce estrogen imitators into the bodies which start causing bodies to retain more fat (increase the boobs and butt and hips for childbirth preparation). Some of these things just off of the top of my head include the chemicals that they put in your shampoo, your toothpaste, and your deodorant. And then there is overconsumption of hyperprocessed…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:07 PM
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Single parent homes and birth rates declining points to abortion not an improvement in society or a cultural evolution of relationships. As a species in general, we are devolving. For those who attempt to step out of this, opportunities are limited both in the relationship department and pretty much everywhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:02 PM
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The idea is not to punish single people but to reward married people for their efforts. Being single is much easier. The only responsibility for people that you have is for yourself. Being married and staying married and raising children and taking care of them and putting them through school and college and training and whatever else takes work. People who work more should get more. That doesn't mean that the people who do less are being punished. Because they have the choice to do more if they…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:57 PM
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There is actually legislation to do this and then other people broke it. There are deductions written directly into the tax laws and many other issues and legislative documents that reward people for being married and producing children. People who don't want to get married or have children did not appreciate this special treatment and so have pushed the welfare state to make sure that the women who aren't career beasts still have the option to have kids without a second parent and be rewarded f…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:55 PM
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We were born with secondary sexual traits to catch the glances. Nothing wrong with noticing a man is tall and finding it attractive. Nothing wrong with looking at a woman with large breasts and thinking that she is attractive because of her large breasts. The only problem is that many relationships don't go any deeper than the initial attraction. If she looks good enough to sleep with then she's good enough to be married to and vice versa. How about this instead? I like this person. My values an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:51 PM
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Well I am that woman or rather I used to be. Nobody knows more about an alcoholic than an alcoholic. Nobody knows more about a shrew than a shrew. ~EX Shrew 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:22 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You're funny. I think women are wonderful. When they live up to their full potential instead of trying to be men all the time. I also think men are wonderful. When they are allowed to live up to their full potential instead of being browbeat by hypermasculine women all the time. I find it really funny that these women scream and holler about toxic masculinity while it's constantly streaming out of their own pores.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:20 PM
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I didn't say all politicians are bad because of their wives. I just insinuated that maybe that's the problem with many of them. Because broken marriage dynamics are rampant. And women in power usually aren't very loving towards their husbands either. And they bring out a lot of ferocity in men that would ordinarily not be there if they weren't busy dealing with the conflicting feelings of being in a room of females who are acting like men all the time. People in power always have problems. And i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:00 PM
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I'm not biased against women. I am a woman. I'm biased against monsters who beat their husband into a puddle until he's basically useless and then b**** about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:52 PM
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Ever heard the saying, "Behind every good man is a good woman." Who are these politicians married to? A couple names come to mind that make me shiver in my boots. These two women terrify the s*** out of me. Makes me wonder what they do to their husbands. I seem to recall a certain president stepping over the line in his marriage more than once and got caught. But look at his wife... 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:21 PM
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You're arguing semantics. As far as I can tell you're both right. Women are equal to men these days because they can provide for themselves financially and they don't need a man to do this for them. They also have rights that they did not previously have like voting and equal opportunities and employment, etc. So women and men can enter into partnerships equally. But a woman who works too hard to be the ideal woman, meaning she works outside the house and brings home the bacon and then fries it …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:15 PM
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That is the question we must all answer in order to be successful in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:07 PM
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That's how the world operates. It's not true but it appears to be. And that's why it seems hopeless. Women have so much more to offer to men than just sex and deep down most men know this and the ones who don't still long for it. Men have so much more to offer to women than money. Just their mere presence in mind and body (in the room) can offer women the safety they crave and require in order to feel feminine. Without safety, women will try to do it all to get the safety that they crave from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:03 PM
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And then they wonder why their kids grow up to resent them and thier values.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:32 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/s/Pl27JpKesr The link I posted above is another thread with a summary of an awesome book. I haven't read the book, but I read the summary. You might be interested. After you finish reading that link click on the link all the way at the bottom of the post and read chapter 2. I think it's good stuff. It's right in line with what I've been learning.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 04:18 AM
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It's not whether I believe or not it's whether I have the time to care. Those are a lot of medical studies and I'm not just going to read and read and read and read for hours and hours and hours so I can win a flame war on the internet. I just wanted to chat. I am a little curious though why you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:30 AM
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Oh yeah and I was going to mention that I've lived in the same neighborhood for 20 years and I know who all my neighbors are by name and where they live But I know very little about them. I'm retired and I sit on my porch a lot. And I pay attention as they come and go and I've had a few conversations with a few of them but most of them are always gone or plugged in somewhere. When I was young, my grandparents used to visit the neighbors all the time and I was always tickled to go with her. And t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:41 AM
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Good post. And it made me think of something. The internet promotes covetousness. Keeping up with the Joneses. Being the perfect whatever... Which also is really good for all of the consumable product manufacturers. Covetousness blinds us to gratitude. Gratitude is often missing. It's a really big deal. Anyone notice a change in gratitude in themselves or the people around them at any particular point in history? I mean that would be a difficult thing to measure, I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:38 AM
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I thought I was debating your original statement which was that women don't go into heat like animals. And all I said was yes they do. And women don't have to have sex during this time if they don't want to. And they can have sex more often than that as well but that doesn't mean that the cycle doesn't happen. It does. It's just the reaction of the participants that's different.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:19 AM
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This is just a suggestion. I don't know your specific conversations but if you mean by lash out, he makes an accusatory remark or calls you a name or something. If you can do it without being hateful or mean, ask him, is there something else you'd like to tell me about this? And then listen. For as long as it takes. Meaning don't ask him another question. Don't give him multiple choice answers. Just listen. Count to 30. Breathe. Listen. Count to 30. Even if he pauses just listen. He'll tell you …
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 01:54 AM
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You can't do anything to change your husband. I'd say that's the first thing you need to do is change that in your head. It sounds like you've been through a really rough set of circumstances that led you to this point. It looks like you have been needing to protect yourself for a very long time. Having been a person like this, I understand. But we don't marry people so that we can tell them what to do with their lives we marry them because we believe that they can handle it. At least that's wha…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 12:54 AM
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😆🤣😂😱🤣😂😁
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 12:47 AM
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I wasn't real clear on what your goal was either. And I'm not really sure how you define "masculine." Masculine could refer to a number of things including hobbies, clothes, facial features, haircuts, activities, or how you think. It really depends on which one you're talking about what kind of answer you'll probably need.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/26 12:46 AM
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His response was very good and very well thought out. And if you want something to ponder in your spare time any one of Dale Carnegie's books would probably help. They are fantastic. How to win friends and influence people changed my life when I read it. I didn't even read it to make friends like your requesting I read it so that I could learn to cope with my crazy boss. She was a man hater. We just didn't really see eye to eye but I needed the job and I had to figure out how to get along with h…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:31 AM
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The distinction between self-improvement and learning new skills to get women is who is in control of the decision. Do you want to be a better person? Do you want to be a better man? Or Do you just want to be a player? Players learn skills so they can play. Good men learn skills so they can be better men. Good women will support good men so they can improve and be their best selves.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:20 AM
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It's really good when the creepy people are themselves because then we know we should go the other way. 😆 You should be yourself. And if there's something wrong with you, change it. If there's not then believe it and wait for someone who likes it.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:18 AM
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You're stating that all women are shallow? Or did I misunderstand? Or are you suggesting there is a universal standard for what's attractive to all women? There's only one that I can think of and that is safety. All women want to be safe.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:16 AM
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I was going to say the same thing as she did. Don't learn new skills. Learn more about yourself. You might be surprised what you find out. I posted a video above. I recommend you watch that. I think you'll enjoy it. Oh and make sure you read some of the comments under the video too.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:14 AM
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Authenticity! Yes yes be yourself. And if they run the other way they are doing you a favor because they weren't a good fit for you anyway. There are like 7 billion people on the planet. You don't want to have to screen every single one of them. Just let the runners run. And then you can screen what's left. 😏
/r/ExRedPill19/07/26 12:13 AM
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And for the record yes they do. The only difference between human women and female animals is that women get to say "no. " All parts of the anatomy that lend themselves to reproduction and arousal are primarily identical. And once a month she will put off pheromones that will let all the men in the room know that this is happening. And because most men don't even notice it they don't know. You'll see fighting and bickering and competing and anger and if there's only one man in the room then he'l…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:54 PM
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I suppose I can conceed your point, but that doesn't mean that I am wrong. Women cycle. Men stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:50 PM
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You are mistaken, Young grasshopper. I am also 55 but I am a woman and that arousal state similar to animals does occur in human women once a month. 😏 And whether they know it or not, it does affect the males that are around her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:34 PM
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See I got sucked into that one too even though I said I wasn't going to come back. That's what happens when I'm bored and I'm plugged in. LOL You're probably just a regular person like everybody else who can't figure out why the world is so broken like everybody else and has an idea or two about it but can't seem to make it work like everybody else. That's okay. It's been nice fighting with you. But I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:29 PM
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See I got sucked into that one too even though I said I wasn't going to come back. That's what happens when I'm bored and I'm plugged in. LOL You're probably just a regular person like everybody else who can't figure out why the world is so broken like everybody else and has an idea or two about it but can't seem to make it work like everybody else. That's okay. It's been nice fighting with you. But I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:28 PM
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That's because your vision is blurred.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:26 PM
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I don't think it's all men's fault. I used to. But I've recently changed my mind if you can believe that. I mean I never really wanted to believe it. I just never had anybody around to teach me the right way to think about it. No Mom. No sisters. My grandma was a shrew. My other grandma I barely saw and she was divorced three times. So I had to kind of figure it out on my own well not on my own but I had to get there via the long route. I'm beginning to understand why women act that way and why …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:24 PM
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Oh and I should thank you as well. For reminding me why I quit looking at social media the last time. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:22 PM
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Nevermind. I could probably say more but you won't hear it anyway. So consider this me bowing out. Take your badge of honor. 🎖️ I wish you all the best. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:20 PM
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Gross. Those kind of women have no respect for themselves. Why would you want one of them? They're doing you a favor by turning you down. Unless you're into that sort of thing and if you are, well, God help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:12 PM
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Civilizations devolve they don't evolve.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:10 PM
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A time that never was huh? I'm a little older than you might think and I have friends who are well into their '80s who are happily married. And they learn that from their parents and their grandparents and they're great-grandparents. I am not one of the lucky ones. My grandparents hated each other. But so did my parents. And so did my step-parents. And I was a miserable wreck by the time I got married. I managed to stay married for 30 years but my husband deserves the presidential medal of Honor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:09 PM
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You're kind of missing the point. It's not about whether it's a divorce rate. It's about the fact that women and men don't know how to build lives together anymore. How many people are single, divorced, lonely, bitching about the other sex, and everything else in between? It's a really high number. A lot of them are in here. That's what "education" is doing for our children. And that's why it sounds like we're all talking like a bunch of grade schoolers. Because most of us aren't any smarter tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:39 PM
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And how many people just shack up and trade partners every 6 months? Of course divorce rates are falling. Nobody's getting married anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:35 PM
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Women's intuition says avoid all men until you get to know them. And usually in a safe setting around people that know both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:34 PM
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The basic generalization of this first study that I looked at said this The landmark 2010 meta-analysis confirms a major gender gap in human sexual arousal concordance. Men show significantly higher agreement between physical responses and subjective feelings than women. All that says is that women's genitals don't agree with their brains all the time. So what? Genitals are automatic. They're run by the parasympathetic nerve system if I got that term right. All it says is that a man's brain is u…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:16 PM
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Nice deflection, NOT.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:12 PM
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I don't think your sex life or anyone else's for that matter has anything to do with the fact that women don't know they're aroused. It might have something to do with the fact that you don't listen to the women that are telling you what they know about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:11 PM
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Are you a woman? Then how the hell would you know? There's studies out there that say all kinds of stupid b******* about men and women and none of them are true. Studies are about making money for companies who pay for them. Not for the benefit of our education on the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:09 PM
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How is a woman supposed to tell the difference between a good man and a dangerous man when she doesn't know him?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:05 PM
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Did you ask a question? Did you request an answer? I'm sorry but your English was difficult for me to understand. Best I can tell is that you asked a question and people are answering it and you keep saying how does that change my post? If you ask a question I think you'd be more interested in an answer. Unless your question was, "Do you agree with me?" And in a forum like this even that is a question for people to tell you how they agree or how they disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:02 PM
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Hey watch that below 50 thing. 😆 I've had a crush on Sean Connery and Sam Elliott for like 35 years. Otherwise I agree with your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:58 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:55 PM
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😆. That's your age talking. Men from about the time they hit puberty until late twenties maybe are always in heat. It's built in. It tends to slow down a little the older you get. Cycles more. Hormone balances shift as a normal part of aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:51 PM
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It's not mysterious. Women react to their senses beyond eyesight. Touch smell sound are huge triggers. But you also have to consider that these triggers could be attached to painful memories which could cause a strange emotional reaction. IE. A breakup song. And if a woman isn't just looking to hook up, she needs to feel safe. Strangers do not make women feel safe especially if they are leering at them or following them around or invading their personal space or ignoring their requests. A smile …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:49 PM
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The social skills they're teaching in grade school these days are resulting in a divorce rate that has skyrocketed to ridiculous numbers. And in the middle, we have a world full of entitled brats who spend most of their time worrying about how good they look in a selfie instead of caring about what someone else thinks or how they feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:43 PM
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PS. The matrix happens to be one of my favorite movies of all time. Or at least it used to be. So I understand the whole pill thing I just didn't know there were like 14 of them now. 😆
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 08:58 PM
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I did a little digging. I've been out of the internet world for a while. I was pretty active in it about 10 years ago and the lingo has changed. I've picked up a few terms on talk radio. I appreciate the clarification that you all provided. And I learned a little bit on my own in the background as well.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/26 08:56 PM
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My son had long hair for the first 13 years of his life. He wanted to be like his dad. It took a lot of time for me to take care of his hair and my daughter's hair and my other daughter's hair and my hair. But I found time in my schedule to manage it. I think your biggest problem is the fact that you care what other people think. What difference does it make what those other people think? What effect do they have on your marriage? Do they come in comfort you when your husband won't talk to you? …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:20 PM
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"I'm sorry you felt disrespected. I need you to know that I am getting crossed signals from you. If you want me to be in charge, I need you to allow me to be in charge. If you want to be in charge, let me know and I will step back and let you handle it. I don't have time to take care of a little boy's long hair right now unless I can take some other things off of my plate. If there are things you are willing to do so that I don't have to that will give me more time to take care of our son's hair…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:17 PM
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I agree with the basic concept of this but you can simplify it by just saying "I can't. " And if he says why then you just repeat yourself, because "I can't." Men are naturally drawn to solve problems. Let him. If your son is embarrassed he'll get over it. He'll tell his dad. His dad will adjust or not. And the relationship between him and his son will develop without your interference. If you're concerned about taking care of the hair and it happens to be long, you could braid it. And if you th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:13 PM
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Maybe they died of exhaustion from living with critical wives. I used to look at it the same way with the age variance and such but the more I understand the way our culture teaches women to act and the way men react to it, the more I wonder... As a reforming shrew myself, I have recently noticed something. I am aging backwards. My face lost bags and wrinkles and creases that it had two months ago. I look 15 years younger. All of the aches and pains that I had in my shoulders neck muscles and ne…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:05 PM
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Men are focused on their own goals. Aren't women focused on their own goals? Why do we have different rules?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:02 PM
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If you are a red-pilled woman then I don't understand an aversion to a red-pilled Man. I thought red pill was supposed to equal the truth. The truth is the truth no matter what gender you are.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 08:02 PM
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Listen to the men who answer this but I would also like to add as a woman that 5 years between a couple has nothing to do with it. Men leave their wives and head for younger women because younger women aren't already critical complaining shrews. They tend to adore, admire, and appreciate these men. This is what draws them not the sex. 50-year-old women can be sexy too but not if they're busy criticizing complaining and bitching all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:59 PM
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Marrying an older man would solve a lot of problems that many women complain about. This is not true in every case but many. Men have already decided what path they want to follow, made many mistakes that wives often suffer through and may have even found their permanent niche in life. And if they are authentic and you listen to them you will find that you don't have to guess what they want. This may not be your preference but it can definitely make finding a mate and living with a mate a little…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:58 PM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a tomboy. I grew up a tomboy. All my friends were boys. My husband finds me very feminine. I recommend In Sync with the opposite sex by Allison Armstrong. Available on audible.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:54 PM
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Don't worry about the p***. That will go away naturally if the dynamic changes. I am not advocating for p***. But if that's where you put your focus it will multiply. And your fears and anxieties will just be multiplied.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:52 PM
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She has another book called The empowered wife which is better than the surrendered wife. But I actually like Allison Armstrong's stuff much better. That doesn't mean you shouldn't read Laura Doyle but I found myself struggling with self-care and a few of her other points especially the whole coaching thing. Start watching free videos interviews by Allison Armstrong and see if something in there grabs your attention. I'm betting it will. I am 55. I've been married 30 years. In just 2 months foll…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:50 PM
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Leading with your sexuality attracts animalistic men. The ones who use you for sex. The sex might be fantastic but once you get tired and settle back down into your chair you'll find you don't have anything in common or anything to talk about. Leading with your more subtle and feminine qualities creating enchantment instead of sex drive will get you better results. Sex works with people you like or love even if the mechanics are a little clunky. Good relationships are not all about climax. They …
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:44 PM
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I recommend In Sync with the Opposite Sex by Allison Armstrong. She discusses what men and women find attractive in the opposite sex and how to handle your dates differently so that your gender types your innate characteristics don't crash into each other. It should also help you with your self-worth, you're insecurities and your worries about your age. You can find it on audible or Amazon
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:40 PM
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That would be the best way to find the answers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:37 PM
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S*** tests? If you want to know why men act the way they do it's usually a good idea to listen to the men when they answer. They know more about themselves than we do. If a man asked about women and the woman answered and the man contradicted her...
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:36 PM
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Because men are fiercely loyal and honorable. I can't speak for all of them but it's an epidemic. Too many women believe all the hype. Those men that you were friends with were probably married to those women. At first they were probably ridiculously in love and then culture happened. The honeymoon wore off and the women proceeded to act just like all the other examples presented before them in TV books commercials next door and even in church. The only difference between church and the world is…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:33 PM
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Ask your partner. "What do you need from me? Is there anything I can do to support you in this," and then believe what he/she says. Beyond that, just be available for random unlogical connections. Be a shoulder. Listen. Simple but aometimes hard to accept that it is that simple. I have been through this with 3 of our parents. All died fighting cancer. All 3 were different. Because twice it was my parents and once his and the relationships between all are different.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:28 PM
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First, trust your gut. You said you nag. You find it unpleasant so the assumption that he finds it unpleasant is most likely accurate. You can't just stop nagging. It won't work. I've tried it. You have to adjust the way you look at your husband, how he responds and what you need to do instead. Google Alison Armstrong. Listen to her interviews and free audio. Her stuff is everywhere. PS. Im 55. I was a shrew and a nag. I just found her stuff 2 months ago. Has TRANSFORMED the energy between mysel…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:22 PM
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Google Alison Armstrong. Listen to her interviews and free audio. Her stuff is everywhere. PS. Im 55. Just found her stuff 2 months ago. Has TRANSFORMED the energy between myself and the men in my family. Ages 0 thru not dead yet. My grandson's respond to me better. My sons responds to me better. My husband responds to me better. I like myself much better. I think even the postman has a crush on me. LOL
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 07:14 PM
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Can someone point me to a thread for create one for a new member that specifically looks for feminine fiction which apply Allison Armstrong's principles. I personally don't like mysteries murder horror etc. I like Hallmark type stuff. I just want something that I can read that isn't going to interrupt or undo any of my progress. I need something to escape to that reinforces what I'm learning instead of fighting against it. Favorite books are great if you understand what the poster likes but I've…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/26 06:34 PM
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