SwimNatural Archive

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2	Feel intimidated by attractive women, not sure how to fix it. Not an advice, but thought I’d share my perspective. As a woman, I really liked it when guys “way below my league” would approach me, because it usually means their confidence was steal strong, and that to me is so much more attractive than the way someone looks. It would give me tingles to see such a guy try to wrestle it out with me. I am very confident and I give them hard time for fun, so if they can keep their ground it shows me they are more confident than me and I end up melting in pleasu…	/r/seduction	29/07/21 02:44 AM
3	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys My pleasure! I’m bored until my next meeting so ask away :p. I’m in the Netherlands. It’s a relatively cold European culture. Meaning in the south of Europe where I am from its pretty normal men make constant approaches. Here it is actually not that normal. Most women would be weary of it. My hubby was just lucky. I think south/north divide generalizes to other continents too, with conservative religion being an obstacle. And I think the best approach is the one where you are not dying of anxiet…	/r/seduction	25/05/21 12:15 PM
5	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys Thank you :). I don’t know what a cold approach is, I guess when you surprise a stranger like this. But...it must be said....he was sitting in a cafe next to my table some minutes before, and followed me down the street, so it wasn’t the first time I saw him. I would have also probably said no if I was in my early 20s simply because I would have been scared, this is stuff your parents warn you about. So be mindful of that. But I was 27 and pretty adventurous by then so I though he is in more dan…	/r/seduction	25/05/21 12:11 PM
4	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys I can only speak for myself of course. My guess would be that extroverted women and those used to male attention will see through this, which doesn’t mean they mind. In the same spirit, only women I can imagine not seeing the intent behind this would be very young and/or very shy/introverted.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 12:05 PM
5	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys It’s hard... if I was a guy I wouldn’t know how to approach someone in a grocery store. Maybe I’d be like “ehm, if you ever want some help with lifting those bags in future...we can try a date” 😂 I don’t know, don’t listen to me, I only know how to deal with men. But my husband approached me in the middle of a street, while I was waiting for a bus. He said “sorry if I am going to sound like a maniac, I promise you I am not, but I’d love to have your number”. And that was that.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 12:01 PM
4	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys Agreed. What I meant with my gym comment is that it can help a bit if you are below average. As long as you don’t buff yourself such that it seems that’s the only thing going on in your life. But hey, there’s someone out there for the gym rats too. I guess just not the book club girls :)	/r/seduction	25/05/21 09:42 AM
6	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys Spot on. Nobody hates a good looking person, but all guys need to be is one step above passable. And funnily enough, no matter your face or your height, a bit of weightlifting (but not too much) will push you over that passable edge for most (though not all) cases.	/r/seduction	25/05/21 09:24 AM
6	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys I actually agree with this. Showing more intent after getting a number “for the book club” is smart to do. We get it, we know why you ask for a number. We don’t mind...but let’s not pretend like you couldn’t get to a book club without my number :p	/r/seduction	25/05/21 08:44 AM
9	Tip For Nerdy Intelligent Guys Just another anecdotal confirmation here :). I’m not single now, but when I was this would have definitely worked with me. Though only if the guy doesn’t stop talking right after getting my number, as that might leave me feeling played. I would always give a chance to smart guys who are at the same time confident enough to approach me and not intimidated to talk to me. Muscular body...is a nice to have, I’m not going to lie. But I used to avoid men who are too fit as I associate it with other un…	/r/seduction	25/05/21 08:38 AM
1	What about the guys who know nothing about seduction or pick up? Maybe you are not reading it how I meant it :). I didn’t say I’d be happy with a needy guy, just that I would have more willingness to connect and see if he relaxes with time, than with a person who is trying desperately to hide the neediness but not 100% successful in it. The former would come across as more confident, because he didn’t attempt to hide his vulnerabilities. Neediness != lack of confidence all the time. But trying to hide what you deem negative about yourself = lack of confidence…	/r/seduction	11/05/21 08:18 AM
2	How to know when to continue escalation. Yess :), give her space to see how she reacts. You can play with her too, by offering some escalation and then pulling back a lot to see if it makes her relieved or annoyed :p	/r/seduction	11/05/21 08:14 AM
–	OLD still a huge hoax, where are ppl?? Women too struggle to find a real connection on OLD, just for different reasons. I spent years being lonely, even when I was showered with male attention. I bet the frustration feels similar even if it looks different. Not sure if you asked for advice, but what everyone else already said, learn to get matches in real life, it helps. Also be patient. I’m sure you can have A woman right now, but you probably don’t want just anyone. So respect your standards and give them time. I know my story is s…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 11:17 PM
–	What about the guys who know nothing about seduction or pick up? If I even tiny bit suspect that a guy is not being himself but pulling a pickup strategy on me, it’s game over. I think that those strategies only work for people who already kind of have them naturally. Sure it doesn’t hurt to exercise, in fact that’s probably the single best thing you can do both for yourself and your dating life, but if you are displaying that hard work awkwardly or too much it’s just not going to work... instant turn off. Same for being needy, it helps to work on yourself an…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 10:27 PM
2	How to know when to continue escalation. If you put your arm around her and she moves even tiny bit back to avoid it, it’s a no. In general, if you enter her space and she tries to actively avoid it, even gently or politely, it’s a no. But if she doesn’t move at all, it’s inconclusive :). Signs for a clear “yes” are a lot more complicated because they depend too much on the girl, and even the same girl can respond differently in different situations. So I don’t think there is a golden rule you can check to be sure you can continue. Rat…	/r/seduction	10/05/21 10:05 PM