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7

chicks would definitely swipe reich on that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:30 PM
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it only is contradictory if you believe that women are unconditionally empathetic or if you lack reasoning skills
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:01 PM
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its really not if you have a grasp of the world beyond blanket statements. Here's an analogy: cats are naturally better hunters than humans. however, cats generally don't like water so if you put a mouse in water a human may have an equal chance of getting it vs a cat. Does this change the fact that cats are better hunters? Of course not. In the same vein, weak men, to women = water, to cats
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:44 PM
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No, weak men undermine women's ability to empathize.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:25 PM
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Women are generally better at empathy because they are better are reading social cues and have higher emotional intelligence, on average. That being said, women in general don't like weak men. Being an inexperienced virgin is essentially a product of having weak genes or ambition, so you're not going to get much sympathy for that relative to other injustices.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 08:32 PM
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What makes exchanging money for sex more distasteful to you than exchanging some other form of currency for sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 11:38 PM
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you seem to be experiencing some cognitive dissonance around the fact that women can be against objectification and also be attracted to fame. In reality most people make allowances against their principles if someone is attractive enough, that's just basic human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:29 PM
6

are you just finding out now that famous people get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 07:02 PM
3

sure, assuming she's attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 04:19 PM
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The bar has dropped for both men and women because societal pressures have changed. Dating market now is more of a laissez-faire competitive environment. In the past there were more rigid norms and therefore more pressure to act like a "good" man or woman. It's equivalent to removing all regulations from say the agriculture industry and then seeing more erratic quality in produce. Of course if farms are only competing against each other with no standards to uphold, you might lower the bar to "fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 08:59 PM
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eh it's basically legal with sugar dating. In hindsight I'm pretty thankful I didn't have access to paid sex, as a young adult. My advice to young guys is to suck it up for a bit and make some bank. If you're single in you're early 30s, allow yourself some fun times with sugar hoes or escorts, within reason. Then once you you hit your late thirties you'll have matured and will be able to control your libido better and make wiser choices, and you won't have blown all your $.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 01:08 AM
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Male brain function is so predicated on the consumption of female physical forms that it makes sense we would generally have broader and more nuanced taste. It's like a blind person with highly tuned senses who eats food all day is probably going to have highly developed taste, vs women who are tuned into all the sights and smells and sounds of the restaurant but randomly refuse to eat anything except chicken nuggets.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 11:41 PM
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as long as status and money exist in this world, it will always be true
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 11:01 PM
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based on what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:57 PM
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if we're just talking about looks, that's a ridiculous statement
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:46 PM
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I really don't think the majority of attractive successful people embody all of those traits
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:39 PM
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that's probably because men generally care more about women's looks than vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:37 PM
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3 and #5 is enough, the rest is basically only applicable if you are not #3 or #5
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:36 PM
4

Basically a mid-overweight woman has an easier time. Easier in what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:33 PM
4

Women care far more about perception than reality How is that different from men?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:33 PM
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damn if you're Yao Ming the bar is 36 feet underground.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:30 PM
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Yes money can buy transactional sex, just as it can buy time spent building a real relationship. Personally I've had normal and "sugar" relationships and they weren't always that different. You don't really know how you'll connect with someone until you spend time with them. In a lot of cases women met me for financial incentive and we ended up having a good connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:24 PM
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If you’ve never had a woman genuinely want to bang you or hang out on your couch and eat McDonald’s because she enjoys your company What is "genuine"? A person who relies on personality or looks instead of $ is still using a form of (social) currency to garner attraction. You might argue one is a "deeper" form of attraction, but I would debate that. If you have $ you can afford to buy people's time. And if you're not a total asshole, it's not that hard to foster attraction as long as you put in …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 11:00 PM
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These are just stats for those in the workforce. Labor force participation has been dropping for men over the years and is now at ~68%. Women are likely to drop out because of childcare, but I don't think those 32% of men are all househusbands.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 11:35 PM
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Make $ Make $ Make $
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/24 06:38 PM
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people want what they can't have
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/24 11:15 PM
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I would consider it in large part a byproduct of excessive optimism that can only arise during a time of unusual prosperity. Bluepill popularity is a marker for the triumph of civilization imo. Because civilization ultimately is about the primacy of human ideals over base nature, order over entropy, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 11:39 PM
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Big diverse schools are among the best places for dating. Since everyone looks instinctively looks to form cliques and subgroups, there's a good chance you'll be able to find a like-minded friend group to build connections with.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 12:51 AM
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Graduate school programs, especially those which skew a little older. In my school, of the women who came in single 1/4 to 1/2 ended up marrying a guy they met there. If you're a reasonably attractive woman, going into a male-heavy graduate program is a pretty great way to find a high value man (and probably vice versa for dudes).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:27 PM
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If you wouldn't marry someone if they weren't good looking then no, you don't love them and should not deceive them with "love". If you wouldn't marry someone if they weren't funny then no, you don't love them and should not deceive them with "love". If you wouldn't marry someone if they weren't a caring person then no, you don't love them and should not deceive them with "love".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:16 PM
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I actually agree with this. Men are far more susceptible to make poor decisions, get addicted to porn, etc. due to their sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:14 PM
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With healthy lifestyle and good genetics 30 is well within the peak physical attractiveness window for both men and women. If you're a late bloomer making improvements in fitness and fashion you could easily be more attractive at 30 than your early 20s. 35-40 is where the physical decline becomes too much to offset completely with good lifestyle habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:07 PM
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So you agree that if you marry someone because they're financially stable that's just as valid a reason as any other?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:58 PM
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For sure the vast majority of women have a strong preference for men in their age range. There's probably a minority that is relatively age-indifferent and a tiny contingent that fetishizes older men. But most women are attracted to status and power. I think it's more accurate to say that many women can overlook age as a detractor if a man is high status/powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:46 PM
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“well I can get younger girls because I’m financially stable” are really naive if they believe those women would care if they lived or died under the condition of being broke. So what though, really? If you're just making the statement that most of human love is conditional, that's nothing revolutionary. If a woman is with you because you're financially stable and you go broke, of course she'll be likely to fall out of love. If she is with you because you're attractive and you become ugly she's …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:38 PM
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I think most recognize this, but judging from the type of content that frequently gets posted here I think many are not this laissez-faire about their lot in life. Curious to hear those arguments.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 08:00 PM
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It's fair to be realistic about those challenges though. We like to highlight success stories and there's nothing wrong with that, but the flipside of celebrating those who beat the odds is recognizing that many more failed. If I was giving my honest advice to another average-ish Asian guy, I would say date within your race. Unless you are a particularly determined individual who needs a challenge and embraces hurdles and adversity, stick to your lane. Your odds of success and happiness will be …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:56 PM
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I don't think people need to date those who are similar to themselves. But being realistic about who you have a chance with is something that would help a lot of people in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:47 PM
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Are you under the impression that women squat, give birth, then wander away immediately like errant hens? I don't want to give you TOO much credit for this because he pretty much served it up for you. But I love this line. Please don't ever stop posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 07:36 PM
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it just means a typical, healthy sex drive unencumbered by religious or cultural shame. Something for me to aspire to. Not a damn thing wrong with flirting or making moves on women who are interested. A couple firm hands around the waist while giving a solid kiss can be a game changer. I mean if you're volunteering to be the Hitch to my Kevin James I'll gladly sign up for that, especially if we get to "practice" on each other
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:09 AM
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Well that settles it for me. I'll start working on plans to cash out and do an early retirement in Brazil. You're obviously invited 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:03 AM
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I'm still pretty outwardly strait-laced about sex. I don't think that will ever completely change, just too much conditioning that's been internalized. I've also never dated anyone who is very sexually "adventurous" or "liberated" by societal standards. I imagine if I did that could open me up a bit. As an adult I consider myself a pretty open-minded and intellectually curious person so there's nothing really holding me back besides my past.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:55 AM
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Reminds me of one of my best friends growing up who was a natural with women and grew up in a mostly female household. It was interesting because he had a lot of stereotypically masculine traits and probably could have gotten laid left and right, but he would always just get in these weird emotional entanglements that lasted forever. It was almost like he related to women too well, to the point that it diluted his base instincts.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:51 PM
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Just lifelong love with my best friend, like my paternal grandparents. I could see it was attainable for someone like me Since you're engaged, seems like you found it?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:44 PM
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I had a coworker who would always harp on how awesome Brazil was for dudes. He was Asian, average at best in looks and wealth, but he'd go on about Brazil like it was heaven on Earth. I haven't had the pleasure of knowing too many Brazilian women, but the few I have met have definitely had a real positive vibe about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:42 PM
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Not a single man doesn't dream of being used for sex by multiple women, no strings attached. The fact that every man dreams of this life is why it is difficult to get. If the male desire for sex was similar to women, it'd be a different story. But it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:37 PM
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Yeah I did grow up going to church so that's for sure a part of it, along with just overall traditional values.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:16 PM
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Calling out people's flaws can be uncomfortable, and not everyone reacts well to it. I'm in the camp that I'd rather people be honest, believe me, but I get that people tend to take the path of least resistance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 06:00 PM
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My point is why do people consistently act as if no is forever People don't want to give false hope. But if you're rejecting someone for a specific issue, it should be reasonable for that rejectee to infer that if they address that issue they might then have a shot.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:54 PM
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That's awesome lol. Was it weird to interact with people from much more repressed households?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:46 PM
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Did any of those ideas stick like in the form of residual guilt, or did you leave all that behind?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:41 PM
2

I grew up in a damn near nudist Caribbean family that was very sex positive Wait, like your family would walk around naked?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:40 PM
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"naps" were code for "Don't bother us for an hour, because sex". 😅 What informed your expectations? Since my parents never talked about any actual details about dating or sex, just a vague notion of somehow finding a girlfriend and getting married. My family and relatives reinforced the idea that if I worked hard and became successful, that was the best way to find a wife. I did grow up in the US so I was obviously aware of American culture and dating norms, but I never really believed it applie…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 05:39 PM
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Most guys expect to at least be able to get laid from time to time but for most of us it's just not even remotely possible That's an exaggeration. The average man can get laid from time to time if he puts in the effort and is resourceful. It may not be with the girl of his dreams or anything, but just sex itself isn't out of reach for the majority of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:06 AM
1

I've been hearing that for years but hasn't helped lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:57 AM
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Doing that outside of a long term relationship or marriage isn't something that should be expected for most guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 11:54 PM
3

I'm an older Millennial so I grew up in the peak of the "everyone is special" movement. For some in my generation I think this one stung a little harder. On the other hand I'm male and ethnically Han Chinese, which is as generic a human as you can get. So it's a truth that's very visible for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 11:52 PM
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I wouldn't call it "harsh" tbh. You might think you'll win a jackpot on a slot machine, but learning the truth about how the odds work shouldn't be devastating if you didn't have wildly unrealistic expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:45 PM
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For almost any given person, there are literally millions if not billions of people more attractive than you. It's not just that there are people who are far above you, but there are people who are almost exactly same as you just slightly better in every way. You could probably fill a warehouse with people who are just slightly better versions of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:31 PM
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For men I believe one of the most disappointing facts is that most of us won't be able to have casual sex like we would like to. Maybe I underestimate how entitled the majority of people are, but I don't think most dudes assume they'll be able to have casual sex easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:22 PM
1

Just speculation on my part but I think you have features and qualities which are extraordinary
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:15 PM
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I don't think you're ordinary
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 10:08 PM
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The type of sex work definitely makes a difference. There's usually some element of risk associated so as a parent I'd naturally have some concerns about that. I have a good career so my kids would be decently well-off and I'd make it clear to them they should come to me before doing something like this for $. I also grew up in a culture where your actions reflect on your family so I'd definitely tell them to be 100% discreet about it and not disrespect your parents/grandparents, if they really …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 10:25 PM
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So your solution is to make it harder for other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 09:33 PM
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Your logic is basically as follows: dudes get called out for complaining about scumbags having sex, therefore all dudes should become scumbags. In the short term, who benefits from this? Perhaps a few early adopter scumbags may experience a brief uptick in sex. Who suffers? Good, honest men. In the long run, what are the consequences? The market gets saturated with scumbags. At that point, the marginal benefit of being a scumbag diminishes. Men are obligated to either engage in an arms race of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 12:59 AM
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I don't hate my fellow men. Why do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 10:44 PM
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We're already in the decline, we just have to decide if we're going to wake up or stay blind to it The decision is whether we want to work together to try and change things or if we want to embrace anarchy. It may be appealing in the short term but you have no idea how slippery the slope will be. Do you really think things can't get any worse? Because if people adopt this approach they absolutely will, fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:08 PM
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Acceptable to who? Should other people just accept their immoral behavior? The ones who'll ultimately suffer are honest men, anyway. This is basically akin to saying crime is justified because the economy is rigged. Of course crime will benefit certain individuals, but others will bear the negative consequences. So if you want to promote a downward spiral that only benefits the most selfish and immoral individuals in society, this is a great plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:42 PM
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Of course! If you had to work absolute min wage jobs with shitty conditions until you were late 30s, would you feel jealous of people who had just stepped into a cushy well paid office job right out of college? Not if you understood that the prime of your career would last much longer while the latter group would see their prospects start to decline dramatically after a decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:06 PM
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There's a higher floor, I would say. Like you may not find the equivalent of a cheap escort who charges hourly and has robotic sex with 100 people a day. But that type of experience does very little for me. Escorts worth their time are still going to charge a premium, and there's probably no room for negotiation. If you see her multiple times the cost will surely add up fast. Girls who do sugar dating are often looking for a set monthly amount, and the agreed amount can depend on how much they l…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:13 PM
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Yeah I don't do the stereotypical sugar daddy thing. That's for old dudes who don't mind throwing away money. What I'm advocating for is using sugar dating sites in lieu of dedicated escort services, as you're likely to get a more spontaneous and organic experience. I will say that if you're objectively unattractive escorts are probably better. A lot of dudes are decent looking but have some trait like height, race, personality, etc. that handicaps them in dating. If you fit that bill I would ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:13 PM
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Probably location dependent to some extent. In Southern California the talent is stellar.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:02 PM
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I always tell dudes to just go on sugar dating websites. You'll find a lot of everyday women who are essentially part-time escorts, but otherwise are in school, working 9-5's, trying to be an actress, etc. You just have to go in knowing that these engagements are not as cut-and-dry. You're not paying for sex outright, you're essentially paying a cover charge to gain exclusive access to attractive women. They're under no obligation to do anything with you if they're not feeling it. So that can be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:51 PM
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They are different skills, though. The point is that being able to judge people's character is a pretty essential trait to cultivate if you want to stay wealthy. That goes not only for romantic relationships but friendships, business partners, etc. If you can't do it, you're more likely to get fucked one way or another. That's just the way of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 06:45 PM
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It's harder but it should be harder. If you've been able to attain wealth and success but lack the ability to assess people's character intentions, some might say that a fool and his money are soon parted.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:32 PM
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Women generally have higher emotional intelligence, so I think they on average are more capable of loving another human holistically. Men are more likely to love abstractly, as evidenced by their greater propensity to develop attachment to objects or ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:25 AM
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It's like that for everyone. To varying degrees, yes. There are certainly men whose appeal is far more universal than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 12:52 AM
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Not necessarily, if the % of deadbeat dads is higher the overall # could still be higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 11:40 PM
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Taking the concept of "The One" literally is pretty silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 10:04 PM
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No, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 09:18 PM
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Time and patience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:15 PM
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It's interesting that big weddings have become somewhat passé at the same time there's been a movement to favor "experiences" over material goods. Big weddings are a pretty awesome and unique experience. I feel like it's the hassle and drama of planning them that factors almost as much as the cost.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:12 PM
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Wildly insecure and one suffered emotional apoplexy when I took him home for Christmas and he saw a photo of my prom date. Seems like he was small in more than one way. Guys need not delude themselves. If you're gonna come at the queen, you better understand that you're not the biggest or the baddest to take his shot at the throne. I’m blond and blue eyed and six feet tall. And that’s okay. For some reason I pictured you as a Black woman, no idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 06:39 PM
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Heavily, heavily context dependent. I could go as high as 8 in the right environment but easily sub-average otherwise. I've have one night stands where a girl has said my looks stood out to her among all the guys she saw that night, and at the same time my type doesn't even pass initial screening for maybe 50-80% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 05:16 PM
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First of all reposting peoples pics for your experiment is absolutely wild 💀 I hope nobody ever takes my pics and uses it to be judged enmasse against 2 other people… but I’ll shamelessly participate. The pics I used were all posted on reddit for the purpose of getting feedback, so I figured they were fair game. But it is true that none of these gentlemen are aware of their participation in this grand experiment. But unfortunately he does not meet the diversity quota based on those few pictures …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 09:09 PM
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Hence one could argue that the observation “I see average dudes with looks-matched average gfs all the time” , is essentially meaningless and ultimately just trivial. It is meaningful, though, if one is essentially describing the average of many observations conducted over time under different parameters. That's essentially how people calibrate their intuitive sense of who is a "good" match, based on the sampled distribution of the mean. And ultimately our ideas about who "should" be matched wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 08:49 PM
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None of them could be super simp status?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:32 PM
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I think we understand that women's true feelings can be pretty brutal but expect that they often sugarcoat things for our benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 04:31 PM
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Admittedly didn't control for age very well, was just going for three dudes with different vibes but roughly comparable in attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 11:43 PM
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Damn, harsh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 10:39 PM
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lol no you can pick any combination of 0 to 3
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 10:19 PM
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their bios are all included
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 10:18 PM
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Is he at least better off than he was five years ago? It's true that people's trajectories don't always progress in a linear manner. But it should be the case that for the majority of people time elapsed should at the very least equate to some additional savings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:48 PM
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The point about who's likely to take care of whom is an interesting one. I think you have to measure it along two probability curves: how likely is the couple to stay together to old age, and the marginal likelihood of infirmity with each additional year. Said another way, is a 5-year age gap couple more likely to stay together than a 3-year age couple? And if so, is that difference enough to offset the increased likelihood of the man getting sick?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:16 PM
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What makes you think people are not already picking optimal age gaps for them personally? Because people are not 100% rational creatures.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:11 PM
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Mental age would matter more for the maturity factor, physical age more for having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:11 PM
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Five years can be the difference between living with roommates and having your own place, at least. For sure when it comes to having kids, it's a major advantage. A five year gap is also about right for when modern men and women are ready to have children.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 09:09 PM
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It's something that can be learned.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:48 PM
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Not if you're strong of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:46 PM
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I think it's a pushed stereotype that women mature faster though because both sexes have different ways of maturing Girls do get a head start in development, that's pretty well documented. Boys do catch up over time, but whether due to biological differences or societal expectations many are not there yet when in their twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:31 PM
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Balance is always key. There is benefit to just meeting and socializing with people in any format. There also is the risk of getting burnt out and cynical if you overdo it. And failed dates can still be good/funny learning experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 07:25 PM
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Well you snooze you lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 10:32 PM
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Singaporean of Chinese descent.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:10 PM
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These kind of guys are often going to be reliant on luck and circumstance. They'll more likely spend time cultivating relationships through social circles and going for LTR's over casual dating. They may focus on niches or hobbies to help their odds. Without any kind of social boost or inside track they will struggle, i.e. if they move to a new city and are trying to meet women through dating apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 08:09 PM
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She's not Korean.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:56 PM
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B is the only one I'd have any potential interest in. But going off preconceived biases she strikes me as a particular type of Singaporean girl who's smart and ambitious but kinda socially awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 07:34 PM
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Just depends on what matters to you. The stronger your desire to have kids, the more you're likely to settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:48 PM
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I think what usually happens is that both men and women will just settle for somebody they normally wouldn't go for so they can start a family or avoid dying alone. I bet there are more relationships than people realize that aren't more pragmatic than romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:32 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:07 PM
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The tide has definitely turned in a big way. Most of my friends with kids are determined to give them cultural experiences, language immersions, etc. It's like a status thing now.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 06:06 PM
0

So?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 05:57 PM
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I know a few who’s parents ended up arranging their eventual wives Yeah I knew a few dudes who suspiciously showed up with a woman one day who barely spoke English lol. But seriously there are so many attractive women in Asia that anyone who can tap into that pool pretty much has it made.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 01:00 AM
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Being with a Korean women for 10 years, 2012 to 2022, I noticed a big change in embarrassment and avoidance of ‘native’ culture into the exact opposite, defining their personality based on it. A lot of Koreans are milking their cultural power now, god bless 'em. Granted, the entire time there’s been a push to embrace your culture, also been a same push to attack white dudes, so makes sense It's just a natural swinging of the pendulum. If it were Asian dudes who were propped up by media for decad…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:42 AM
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All things equal I prefer Asian women and have nothing against any other race. Not into race wars, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:37 AM
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Fuck that, youre still digging into that self hate shit Um, what? I'm saying it's better now. Again simply put, if i was an asian man, id be pursuing non stop non asian women, because women of my own race ostracized me when i was in that phase of 'self hate' Fuck that nonsense. Being bitter at Asian women is an incel move. I always have and always will support Asian women. You seem to buy into internet tropes more than reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:21 AM
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You dont think asian women are just as discriminatory or repelled by asian men in the West? Or close to? No. Back then self-hate was the norm in the Asian-American community. Now there's a far more robust culture backed by media representation which people are actually proud to embrace. Maybe not in bumfuck Midwest towns, but definitely in major coastal cities. Also I think a lot of guys like me also tried to get more in touch with our roots as an outlet from the racism we faced. Honestly Asian …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 12:08 AM
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Lol proud to say I’ve never worried about inefficiency and dating. Probably because you've been a beneficiary of it. As an Asian dude my memory of that time is not some utopia where everyone opened up their hearts to each other and judged by their character😂. It was a ruthless gauntlet where you had to be ten times better than your competition to even get the time of day from the five women you'd meet in a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:56 PM
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asian men are still at a disadvantage till this day Yes, but it's at least better than it used to be. It's hard to even exaggerate how bad it was. It was basically standard for 99% of non-Asian women and like 50% of Asian women to just exclude Asian men as options. Only silver lining it that it forced me to take nothing for granted. No matter how much you had going for you, you had to have humble mindset because you were just never in a situation where you had equal status with your partner, unl…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:44 PM
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There was far more inefficiency in dating back then. It would only seem "fair" to people who wanted to date out of their league and managed to exploit a general lack of options to get someone better than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:27 PM
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As an Asian-American guy, this is a ridiculous statement. Dating back then as an Asian dude was the epitome of having the deck stacked against you. It's a fucking breeze nowadays in comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:19 PM
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You're lamenting that sex work is illegal (it's not). I'm stating a simple fact. Suggesting that someone should visit a sex worker is advice that should be taken in consideration of any legal ramifications that may apply, depending on where you live. If you're interpreting that as "bitching" or "lamenting" that purely projection on your part.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:38 PM
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Who's bitching here besides you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 09:30 PM
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I'm already here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:56 PM
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There are myriad ways in which ugly men can overcome their looks. Is it better to be an ugly woman with zero redeeming qualities vs an ugly man with zero redeeming qualities? Probably. But if you have anything going for you it's better to be a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:08 PM
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I bet American sex workers would disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:05 PM
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In most relationships, the guy is above her in a certain area which is age,Height,income/education What you may be inadvertently acknowledging is that women value a more diverse set of qualities than men. The average man won't settle for an ugly or old woman even if she's rich or charismatic, whereas there are endless examples of women doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:21 PM
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You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Either take the shot and have a 50% chance, or don’t take it at all and have a 0% chance. Depending on the kinds of shots you're taking, your actually odds will vary wildly. It won't be 50% exactly, unless you're competing with your identical twin for the last woman on Earth who's committed to continue the human lineage with one individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 07:07 PM
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Glad to hear it! Being on the road + public speaking sounds exhausting. Hope you enjoy your break.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:59 PM
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Teasing can be flirting, no? How's work going btw, still busy?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:54 PM
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Sex work is illegal in my country.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:42 PM
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