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T3hJ3hu/r/seduction22/03/11 07:18 PM
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T3hJ3hu/r/seduction20/04/11 06:43 PM
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Repeat in your head, over and over again, something like "this is gonna be fun". I tend to take a mischievous internal tone to switch me into a playful / don't give a fuck mindset.
/r/seduction08/11/12 06:36 PM
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I would disagree that "badass" associates with "leadership" (and therefore a true Alpha type). Most social leaders I know associate far stronger with coolness than badassery. Badasses are guys you don't want to fuck with; leaders are guys you wish you could spend more time with. What I find most interesting about this, though, is that these four attributes line up almost perfectly with the four primary archetypes of masculine psychology. Sexiness = Lover = Sensuality, pleasure, passion, and beau…
/r/seduction12/07/12 09:11 PM
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This is the most original thread I've seen here in months and I love you for it. That said: if you have an "extreme" fetish, take your time getting there with any partner. This goes doubly-so for very masculine men with emasculating fetishes, because any women were probably attracted by your strength and dominance in the first place. Women like to talk. You don't want your reputation to be one that forces people in society to scoff at you. It's just bad business, and it can impact other aspects …
/r/seduction10/01/12 07:10 PM
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Good points! I hadn't considered that aspect of teasing before, but that certainly is a clear difference.
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:42 PM
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Strippers are only fun when they're smiling, anyway.
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:35 PM
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Trying to make a woman defend/prove herself over an inconsequential flaw is fairly synonymous with playful teasing, but I do agree that negging is a different concept. Teasing is more direct, while negging is more focused on displays of intrinsic value.
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:32 PM
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Proper negging is more of a playful tease, although a lot of guys don't really get the concept. Assuming you didn't leave out any important details, I'd wager that you accidentally exposed an insecurity of his. He was already feeling a bit that way in the first place (hence the self-deprecation), then I imagine that girlfriend bit hit a soft spot. If he was feeling confident and pleased with a relationship, he would not be alone in a strip club -- as you unintentionally pointed out to him. Thoug…
/r/seduction15/12/11 06:30 PM
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It's been said quite a bit before (usually with the term Outcome Independence), but I like the attention he drew to how it's so easy yet detrimental to put your entire focus on a woman. You end up not thinking about her as an individual, and instead you can only consider her in relation to yourself -- suddenly everything she does somehow reflects your strength and capability as an individual, which funnily enough only proves incredible weakness and insecurity. The worst part is that most guys do…
/r/seduction30/11/11 04:58 PM
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I like that idea and imagine it matters significantly in a woman cold approaching you, but I have a hard time assuming that it matters more in general than the perception of Professionals being boring or weak.
/r/seduction28/11/11 05:09 PM
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Valid points, but I offer a warning: Don't take it too far. It's not so much "not giving a fuck" as it is being comfortable with yourself, your actions, and your expressions. It's doing or saying something because you want to and not bowing down to the fear of judgment. I went a little overboard with the "not giving a fuck" when I first started improving myself, and I ended up acting like a total dick for a few months. I thought I was just standing up for myself and not caring about people's jud…
/r/seduction19/10/11 04:47 PM
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Agree and amplify. It's hilarious and doesn't make you look like a reactive pushover.
/r/seduction11/10/11 07:55 PM
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Depends on your sister. If you two are really cool with and very supportive of each other (including sex/relationships), just ask her to invite you to the next party and introduce you to some friends. It's an instant-in and DHV. If you're somewhat distant and rocky though, I'd just avoid it altogether. It sucks to turn down the opportunity, yeah, but butting in on your sister's life won't help family life, nor will it help you in the long run with any woman you find. I got with a friend of my si…
/r/seduction06/10/11 06:08 PM
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Cook dinner with her. For bonus points, you can tell her she's responsible for dessert. After dinner, turn on a movie (preferably a Comedy), get close, and do your thing. If you watch more than five minutes of the movie, you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction29/09/11 04:41 PM
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The next time you go out to sarge, make your target friends instead of women. Open sets of guys that are having fun and look like they're pretty decent at the art of seduction, to save yourself some headaches further on down the line. Hell, while doing this, you might actually end up pulling in more women, just because you'll be there having a good time instead of trying your damndest to pick up chicks. Alternatively you could join a club for something you love, like some form of sports league, …
/r/seduction09/09/11 02:52 PM
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Very beautiful women have a much more difficult social life than you'd think. Many men are attracted to them, but a lot don't make a move because they feel inferior; those that do are often headstrong, persistent, and annoying. Women feel inferior when compared to them as well, which makes gaining and maintaining friendships very difficult. Just go talk to one. Your chances are a lot higher than you think.
/r/seduction07/09/11 07:59 PM
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shit is going to get complicated eventually you are fucked in the meantime, however: your best bet at longevity is to keep acting the exact same way you used to act, the exception being an occasional offer to go fuck god speed
/r/seduction07/09/11 12:02 AM
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If she seems to be very romantically interested, then this is totally the answer. If she's deflecting you a lot, you might be entering the friend zone. ONLY ONE WAY TO FIND OUT
/r/seduction02/09/11 01:04 AM
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This is a long one, but I figure you'd prefer tons of input to none. I'm a pretty big fan of analytic psychology, especially of the introspective variety. I've spent a lot of time trying to mold my mind to become something that I wanted it to be, so that I could be the "ideal" person with the "ideal" life. I had already gotten close in the financial and social aspects, but women had always been my sore spot. I wanted to claim total victory in that regard, so that I could validate my existence as…
/r/seduction24/08/11 04:50 PM
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because you think it actually matters none of it does. it doesn't matter if she thinks you're attractive. it doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend. it doesn't matter if someone sees you make a fool out of yourself. it doesn't matter if everyone around you think you're an idiot or a pussy. it doesn't matter if she tears you down immediately. it doesn't matter if she says yes. it just doesn't fucking matter. things are going to happen, and afterward, it's going to be fucking okay. just have fun wi…
/r/seduction17/08/11 10:22 PM
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I think it definitely has romantic undertones. "Hold you tight" is displaying that you want to comfort and care for her. It'd be much more sexual with a slight change, like "I just want to hold you down and fuck you all night long."
/r/seduction11/08/11 04:48 PM
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Be careful being romantic if that's not what you're going for, though.
/r/seduction11/08/11 03:12 PM
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That's the best description of it in three words or less.
/r/seduction29/07/11 09:04 AM
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Just have a good time. Being scared of fucking it up is exactly how you fuck it up.
/r/seduction22/07/11 08:17 PM
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I got into a relationship with a girl like that once. Fortunately I'm pretty sharp, so I could usually beat her down on most debatable issues. It left her with the idea that she was more "correct" and I was more "right". Don't get me wrong: it was still annoying as fuck and ultimately what caused me to leave her (it developed into her being too controlling), but it was manageable when I took pleasure out of making her squirm in defense. If it's a long-standing part of her personality, you won't …
/r/seduction20/07/11 04:40 PM
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Seriously. Most of the time, trying to prevent yourself from coming off as creepy only in fact makes you creepier. Genuinely enjoying yourself and not worrying about how everyone's seeing you will go a looooong way. If you're trapped in your head, over-analyzing everything you and the people around you do, you're going to miss social cues that everyone else is putting out. If you're just having a good time, then not only are you more likely to subconsciously notice and respond appropriately, but…
/r/seduction18/07/11 05:31 PM
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No fucking way. When I think of a creeper, two of the first things I think of are avoiding contact and not smiling. If you add Kino into an already-existent creepiness problem, that is not going to help the situation. The leaning is definitely a good tip, though. His smile might be off, too -- if it looks forced and not genuine, especially with immovable eye contact, that's enough to draw out some serious creepitude. I'd focus more on authenticity in his gestures. Coming off as a creep has every…
/r/seduction18/07/11 05:26 PM
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A good tip for keeping your head about you on dates is just to remember that you're just going to have fun. When I was still a greenhorn and about to go on a date, I'd repeat, "I'm just gonna go have a good time," to myself over and over again. It doesn't really matter if she shoots you down as long as you enjoyed yourself. If you want a girl to have fun, then you need to be having fun -- you can't make her enjoy it otherwise.
/r/seduction11/07/11 09:14 PM
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I'm just bitter that someone didn't slap me upside the head when I was making the same mistakes. I thought I was being gentlemanly, honorable, and polite... but I was actually being boring, unattractive, and cowardly. Here's a plan: the next time you bring her back to your room, close the door behind you, and then pull her close and lock eyes. Say, "I can't hold it back anymore," and go in for the kiss. It's all downhill from there.
/r/seduction11/07/11 08:32 PM
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Haha, you wanna know what's funny about that? By trying to not come off as a creeper, you are in fact coming off as a creeper. The longer you wait the creepier you are, and the less likely you are to actually get with her. All signs point to go. Make a move or get out of the way. If you don't put your dick in her, someone else will. If you go for a kiss and she rejects you, at least you'll fucking know and can move on with your life. Once you bone her, you won't freeze up around her anymore. You…
/r/seduction11/07/11 03:55 PM
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Aim lower or aim younger. All you really need is one victory to turn that frown upside-down.
/r/seduction27/06/11 02:30 AM
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You can only do so much for your friend. Give him the necessary tools and the knowledge that there is another, better way. Right now, he's just sitting on his ass, hoping that the world magically becomes the way he wants it to be. When he's ready to actually move on and take the things he wants, send him here. A good place to start is the Mansformation subreddit. It'll help him reach some understandings that he's missed out on. If he's depressed, confused, and having inner game problems, I'd sug…
/r/seduction09/06/11 05:46 PM
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I disagree. If you actually complete a lot of the questions, it's easy to find women with similar interests and complementing personalities. Most of them aren't going to be hot, but starting a relationship based on complementing life philosophies and attraction is a lot more promising than starting one based on physical attraction alone. At the end of the day though, it is what you make of it.
/r/seduction08/06/11 04:51 PM
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It'd be easier to help with an example. With an ongoing problem like that, I'd have a hard time resisting the urge to break his nose.
/r/seduction08/06/11 02:26 AM
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Fuck no. The only person I text regularly is my girlfriend, should I have one at the time. If I was more of a text-fanatic, then I suppose I would... I just don't care much for the medium. You should make sure that your actual goal is to build platonic friendships. Worrying about what you should say to them is a friend-zone red flag to me, but I suppose you might just not have any experience dealing with female friends.
/r/seduction07/06/11 03:17 PM
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Ignore him. You're not the only one who notices the repetition; everyone else is getting sick of it too. By not acknowledging him or responding, he's effectively getting denied and making himself look like an ass. If you have to respond to it, be concise and assured. "What are you, 10?" "I'm just glad I didn't [something similarly embarrassing about him]." "What crawled up your ass?" "Don't you have anything interesting to say?" "That was pretty funny the first five times."
/r/seduction07/06/11 03:06 PM
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He's a bit on the dickish side for me, but I agree with the overall sentiment. When she starts trying to control my life, it stops being fun. The idea that my former self was practically looking for that makes me shudder.
/r/seduction04/06/11 05:26 AM
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This thing is completely correct, from my experience. Remaining calm is insanely important, albeit difficult at times -- but you can't be afraid to get pissed if that fails over and over again. It doesn't get there very often, but I've had to use it before. Let me tell you, "Righteous Anger" is exactly the correct term to describe it. It's upsetting and can get easily carried away, yes, but it's rooted on a platform of calm, cool and just logic. If I get to that point, it's like I have a fucking…
/r/seduction03/06/11 11:23 PM
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They don't really interest me anymore, so when I do see them, I play it very well. We tend to idealize "the one who got away", so if you actually step outside of it, you'll realize the version of them in your imagination is better than the real thing.
/r/seduction01/06/11 06:20 PM
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Sounds like notes on all of the realizations I've had in the past year. This shit really is what you need to get there; it would've have saved me a lot of time.
/r/seduction27/05/11 10:03 PM
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A part of it is just in pure entertainment value. If you're of low confidence, you're less likely to say, suggest, or do fun things -- you're too worried about fucking up her opinion of you. Women don't want to be bored when they're with you.
/r/seduction27/05/11 03:26 PM
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Not all women are faking it, and I'm willing to bet a lot of the ones that you might label as faking it are just foolish, undirected, and neurotic. Most women (and men) just don't know what they want or don't understand how their actions are being interpreted. This often leads people to assume that they're just being toyed with by the opposite sex, since everything seems so clear through their unknowing subjectivity. I can't say I've ever loved a partner, nor have I pretended to -- though I can,…
/r/seduction24/05/11 09:29 PM
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I'd rather it be clear that our community isn't misogynistic. We tread on thin ice as-is. Thanks though.
/r/seduction23/05/11 05:26 PM
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Yeah, let's just blast our insecurities onto this poor girl. I'm sure she's a terrible, terrible bitch with no regard for the emotions of good people, just like the rest of her gender. Most of the guys out there aren't very nice or shy; they're just looking for their next mark, the next opportunity to sweep in and get with a girl. It's not "good" or "bad" -- they just have a goal in mind and they're trying to accomplish it. They might not have the balls to go in there, but that's only because th…
/r/seduction23/05/11 05:01 PM
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You might have dropped the ball between your last couple of lines, if you didn't escalate. You made it sound like things were going fantastically until she just turned around and booked it, but it's possible that you're wrong. Assuming things were still escalating and looking up though, it sounds like you might be right -- she might have had a good reason to stay away from getting with anyone, like a boyfriend. Hell, Chick #2 might have just been a spying friend of Chick #1. It's tough to tell i…
/r/seduction20/05/11 05:26 PM
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The key is to be passionate about it, and to pick out an aspect or two that everyone thinks is somewhat interesting. I'm a software engineer, so I'm in a similar boat. In my case, I can pull it like this: "I do a ton of mobile development, like creating tracking devices that my company sells to private investigators and the police. It's pretty cool shit; I can login to our website and watch who they're tracking. Each device has a little blip on the map that shows exactly where it is; they use it…
/r/seduction20/05/11 03:31 PM
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Take care of yourself and look attractive in every other way possible, while continuing to lose weight. Stop thinking of yourself as ugly and failure-bound; that's going to rather publicly manifest as insecurity and weakness, which will hurt your chances more than your weight. Just give it a shot. You never know when you might click with someone, or when you might find just right the chick at just the right time. Have fun with it and remember to retain outcome independence. There's no harm in tr…
/r/seduction20/05/11 03:04 PM
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Seduction was pretty much my gateway into becoming a better man -- or rather, a man at all. It was what first led my boyish desires to improve myself. I very quickly discovered that actively trying to improve myself and my character was fucking amazing. It gave me a direction to grow in, which is something that I desperately needed after college. Funny as it sounds, seduction really ended up leading me toward confidence, better workmanship, meditation, greater spirituality, Freemasonry (the fuck…
/r/seduction19/05/11 12:48 AM
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There's definitely some truth to it. I'm naturally more sociable and dominant than everyone in my group of friends. We all basically live together, so I have many opportunities to witness this effect. If I come home from work happy and energetic, everyone there will respond in kind and we'll have a great night. It's hard not to respond to my energy when I'm excited -- it's demanding in a way, just because I'm so interested in both them and what we're doing. There are down sides, though. If I com…
/r/seduction18/05/11 03:57 PM
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It is what you make of it. Seduction doesn't tell you which girls to go after, nor does it tell you what you should aim for. It's a tool; that's all. It helps you understand how women think and what they expect. It shows you a variety of ways to build your confidence and get acclimated to social settings. The community itself offers help and support when it might not otherwise be accessible. Most importantly, it teaches you how to be yourself and have fun with it. I'm not really into random hook…
/r/seduction05/05/11 04:18 PM
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An Alpha does give a shit. Moreso than the majority of people, in fact -- a man just knows which aspects of his life need that attention and which don't. If you give a shit, that means you have passion, something to fight for, respect for yourself, and the ability to take care of business. It's not that an Alpha doesn't give a shit; it's that an Alpha is resilient and strong when shit is thrown his way. A man knows how to prioritize what's really important in life. He challenges himself to fulfi…
/r/seduction04/05/11 05:59 PM
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you're fucking crazy
/r/seduction28/04/11 03:16 PM
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Casanova. I prefer charm over brutish aggression.
/r/seduction20/04/11 06:30 PM
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Use them sparingly for optimum results. I tend to put a smiley face in if I need to clarify something was a joke or if I want to imply something sexual that might not be crystal clear.
/r/seduction20/04/11 03:11 PM
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Calm down, man. You're doing just fine. You are the source of all of your anger, frustration, and sadness. You're caught up in a storm of "I should be", "I wish I was", and "But what if" statements -- you need to let those go. A real Alpha doesn't think he "should" be anything; he just is what he is and has a good time with it. Drop your expectations, for God's sake. Stop putting pressure on yourself -- I mean, do you really need to be the life of the party? Do you really need to do be a master …
/r/seduction18/04/11 08:59 PM
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No matter what you do, don't fucking regress into what you used to be. Don't do the same friend-zone bullshit. She has to earn her keep now; you're too busy to deal with her shit. I have a similar situation. It's hard to completely let go, because the desire to fuck them is still there, and successfully wooing them would be validating the improvements you've made. The important part is to stay away from the one-itis and to continue seeing other girls; becoming consumed with her and "holding back…
/r/seduction13/04/11 09:54 PM
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I highly recommend this book, Mindfulness in Plain English. It's not religious, but it is a little spiritual. It's a pretty fucking awesome read and it just makes you feel better. The greatest high I've ever had came from a session of meditation -- and as a veteran of quite a few raves, that's saying a lot.
/r/seduction08/04/11 02:42 PM
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Fuck yes it has. I'm mostly into mindfulness and insight meditation. It's helped me overcome a lot of my self-confidence and arrogance issues. The entire point of it is to put you "in state", living now in the current moment instead of worrying about stupid, pointless things. I found this meditation prayer the other day. It's intended for those suffering from confidence issues as a sort of motivational tool; you just concentrate on it for a while before/during your meditation, and it helps you f…
/r/seduction06/04/11 03:20 PM
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I mostly started just to understand women better. I've always had an easy time making friends with guys, whether they be nerds, jocks, skinheads, white, black, young, old -- you name it. Both my high school and college were computer-centered and 90%+ male though, so I just kind of missed out on a lot of social/relational development that most people have fall into their laps. The knowledge I've gained has made me feel significantly more confident and happy with myself, but in the application of …
/r/seduction01/04/11 03:17 PM
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I completely agree on the ugly duckling theory, but I wouldn't say that being nice is some sort of social defense mechanism. Being nice is pretty fucking Alpha, in my opinion. I certainly don't like hanging out with assholes. I'm nice to the old lady down at the sandwich shop and the stressed out/late busy-body mother running to the front door of the office, and it certainly isn't because I care about their opinion of me. I'm nice because I like making their day better; it gives me something to …
/r/seduction30/03/11 11:06 PM
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Ha, thanks.
/r/seduction24/03/11 02:50 PM
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They talk about a study in there somewhere. Relationships worked out best at that ratio, I think it was.
/r/seduction22/03/11 10:23 PM
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It would mean that your fingers are resting on your cheek. If you start putting any weight on your hand, that's a sign of disinterest. Placing it properly will make you appear interested, but one common point of the book is that changing someone's body language oftentimes changes their attitude. By forcing it, you might actually make yourself a bit more interested.
/r/seduction22/03/11 09:35 PM
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-Dilated (wide) pupils show excitement and arousal; beady (small) pupils show anger and negative moods. -The Eyebrow Flash (quickly raising your eyebrows when you see someone) displays welcoming interest and can be used to draw people to you. -Holding eye contact makes people like you more. -Usually the subordinate breaks eye contact first. -When a woman wants a man's attention from across a room, she will meet his gaze for a couple of seconds, then look away and down. She will often repeat it 3…
/r/seduction22/03/11 07:24 PM
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-Try to shake hands with your palm facing downward, to show dominance. An "equal" handshake occurs when both dominant players "struggle" to an equal outcome with palms to the sides. -Women smile at men they are attracted to. -Crossing your arms in front of your body makes you seem less credible/more aggravated, and shows a defensive posture. -Women will keep their arms more open around men they're attracted to, but crossed around aggressive or unattractive men. -Touching someone's elbows or hand…
/r/seduction22/03/11 07:21 PM
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She wants your shit. Don't fuck it up next time. You won't have many more chances, if any at all. I BELIEVE IN YOU.
/r/seduction12/03/11 07:16 AM
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It's a cycle. One person says something anger-arousing, the other person gets offended and returns fire, which then goes back to the original person who in turn says something to piss the other guy off. It doesn't stop until someone either walks away or breaks the cycle with niceness. I almost responded to your first reply to me in that same manner, because you started to get under my skin. I decided to try to talk to you instead, because that sounds like more fun.
/r/seduction11/03/11 11:27 PM
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I think their racist comments are ridiculous. It sounds like you just enjoy being caught up in the moment doing silly shit, which is something that I definitely do. Assuming you aren't in a "dance monkey boy dance" kind of situation (and it doesn't overly sound like it), I think you're still doing well. Evidence: they were laughing and they actually told you that they're embarrassed to be seen with you. If they were offended/disgusted, they wouldn't have done either.
/r/seduction11/03/11 11:02 PM
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I'm not sure how I offended you.
/r/seduction11/03/11 10:55 PM
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The magnitude 8.9 offshore quake unleashed a 23-foot tsunami and was followed by more than 80 aftershocks greater than magnitude-5 -- a number that scientists say is normal for a quake this size. It sounds more like he made a list of 80 HBs, starting with an HB8.9, then gradually worked his way down until his nuclear reactor started having a meltdown.
/r/seduction11/03/11 10:11 PM
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If you're having a good time, who gives a fuck? If you're actually just trying to get attention, then you might want to practice being a bit more reserved. In the scenario you gave us, for example, you could have responded to her challenge with, "Ha, alright -- but if they give me an accent, you have to give me one too. ;)"
/r/seduction11/03/11 09:43 PM
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He's a bit too much on the dick/intentional game/fake side of things for me; I don't want to act like a fucking phony out of some deeply-rooted fear that a woman will only stay interested if I pretend to be less interested. That's just weak. At least he has good taste in classic sci-fi novels, though.
/r/seduction10/03/11 04:51 PM
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You haven't been a nice guy. You've been a nice little bitch. I only say that because I, like most others here, have been in the same position before. Women really do want men who treat them nicely. You're just not a man. Not yet, that is.
/r/seduction07/03/11 10:06 PM
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"Let's go have a good fuckin' time."
/r/seduction01/03/11 12:10 AM
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Ha, very awesome. Thank you. Rooney makes himself look like an annoying ass, which in turn actually makes Ali G looks more intelligent and good. In comparison, Chomsky just seems cool and very smart -- it almost makes Ali G look like an inconsiderate twat for carrying that demeanor. Noam Chomsky is the new king of cool...?
/r/seduction28/02/11 11:52 PM
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You can't just "get a leg up". You can only be proud of who you are and as fun as you can be. You can't get every woman. If she's not interested in you, there's nothing you can do about it -- and why the fuck would you want to? She's clearly not worth your time.
/r/seduction23/02/11 04:42 PM
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some fuckin' wisdom up in this reddit
/r/seduction23/02/11 04:24 PM
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Seriously. Even if she doesn't break it, it stills works out. Holding eye contact (with a smile) for a prolonged amount of time is a great topic to start a conversation with. "I know I'm cute and all, but you're creeping me out." ;)
/r/seduction22/02/11 05:02 PM
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Some great fuckin' work on that bout involving sensitivity. Getting her to qualify herself after she pulled away a little probably scored you some high marks in the emotional capability category. You did seem to be a bit too available at some point, but if that was preceded with a dickish/cocky display and followed up with indicators of nonchalantness, it probably jived well. Also: what tools did you use to improve your text game?
/r/seduction21/02/11 05:32 PM
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There are definitely huge bonuses to keeping female friends around. It can get tough if you're in a dry spell or having a rough time, though. It's very easy to start investing too much time in a platonic relationship when you're not getting any, which can lead to bad shit if you don't keep yourself in check. But, so long as you're keeping yourself preoccupied with sexual relationships as well... you're golden.
/r/seduction21/02/11 05:16 PM
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I picked up meditation before I started looking into PUA stuff. It definitely helped me reach a few key points in my inner game and I would definitely recommend it. There's a bit more to it than what he said. If you want more info, I suggest reading Mindfulness in Plain English. It's very simple, very interesting, and very easy to read. Furthermore, it doesn't touch on any of the religious aspects of meditation.
/r/seduction17/02/11 04:57 PM
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It's an interest/hobby of his that most women would find very attractive. I doubt he's having problems with PUA at the moment.
/r/seduction16/02/11 10:26 PM
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Pfft, that's bogus. Unless you just don't look clean/healthy, a rejection has much more to do with your overall first impression and her situation than it does your physical appearance. There are lots of reasons why a woman will turn you down, and many of them don't involve you at all.
/r/seduction16/02/11 09:55 PM
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Thanks for the post, Savoy. I particularly enjoyed your noted "Aha!" moment.
/r/seduction16/02/11 05:42 PM
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Hopefully you have something planned for Valentine's Day! That'll help. Weekend getaways -- even if it's just to an Anniversary Inn in town -- can spice things up. Sex toys and new ideas in the sack can give you both something to work together on for your mutual enjoyment. If you can make her feel young, interesting, beautiful, and sexy, then she'll act that way. Be dominant. Show her how much you want her. Initiate some heavy kino after doing some work around the house, then tell her to put on …
/r/seduction14/02/11 06:11 PM
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I just read a good chunk of that. It's pretty good. My favorite strategy it offers is one that involved writing down your negative thoughts (which is the source of all unconfidence), pointing out the distortion that you're applying out of fear, and then logically disproving your negative thoughts with positive ones. It looks like this: Negative thought: I'm never gonna get her. I'm not a good enough lay. I'm not attractive enough. Distortions: Baseless assumptions out of fear. Mind reading. Real…
/r/seduction03/02/11 09:44 PM
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If there's a mirror around, I'll gladly give its finder an upvote. That youtube video's been removed.
/r/seduction31/01/11 04:12 PM
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You're chasing your own tail. Wait for her to make the next move, because at this point you'd just be showing lower value by crawling back. In the meantime, go find a new one.
/r/seduction26/01/11 07:08 PM
6

You're going to have to be more comfortable with and confident in yourself. Jealousy in these matters is rooted in fear -- you're afraid that someone better than you is going to come along and snatch her up. You can try to compensate by vigilantly defending her, but that'll get old both for you and her. You can try to make yourself better so that no one else stands a chance, but you'll still be afraid. Just accept that she'll get hit on a lot -- if anything, it's a testament to how great you are…
/r/seduction24/01/11 06:51 PM
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Not if you come off in a playful manner and aren't hounding them for it. "Aw, what do you got against high fives?"
/r/seduction24/01/11 05:12 PM
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You're hittin' pretty close to home there. I'm lucky enough to be a "successful working man" in the day, but at night when I'm home with my very close friends (5+ of us every night), a bowl just ties everything together. What starts to get me is just what you mentioned: it's too easy to be completely satisfied with what you have. On one hand, I know that I'm pretty happy with my life and that a truly enlightened individual can find joy in any situation. On the other hand, I know that it makes me…
/r/seduction21/01/11 07:48 PM
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Out of curiosity: did you notice any changes in your sober game after you quit? I smoke like a chimney when I'm at home relaxing (most evenings). I sometimes wonder if it impacts my ability to interact with people the next day, but I don't seem to have a hard time.
/r/seduction21/01/11 06:06 PM
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I was actually going to post a link to one of your other "Nice" articles to help debunk this misconception, but I'm much happier to see this. I've spent the last couple of days reading through most of your site's articles. They're very well written, incredibly informative, and relate to me fantastically. You even manage to tie in a lot of concepts that I've been working on with Mindfulness and Insight Meditation, which scores a lot of bonus points. Just wanted to say thanks. Keep up the good wor…
/r/seduction21/01/11 05:55 PM
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I've had quite a few of those symptoms and I've had a friend with almost all of them. The worst part is that you're just left confused, because all you think you're doing is being as perfect as possible. I am so god damn glad to be done with that shit.
/r/seduction20/01/11 04:32 PM
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God, I love talking to old guys. Assuming they're not insane or half-dead, they have an absurd amount of wisdom that they are always willing to give out. I never expect to dominate the conversation with them, but that's because you just don't need to. They're simply excited that someone is talking to them and taking them seriously.
/r/seduction20/01/11 04:14 PM
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Don't worry about the virgin thing. In fact, it's one of the best cards in your deck right now. The important thing to remember is that you're a virgin by choice -- you were just waiting for a worthwhile woman to spend it on, weren't you? Of course you were. It's hard to find one that's pretty on the outside and on the inside, you know. Remember: presentation is more important than content.
/r/seduction20/01/11 01:13 AM
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Get a new one.
/r/seduction17/01/11 07:31 PM
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The best gaming I've ever done has all been accidental. I just went out to have a good time and I did. If you were faking that good time in the first place, then you started your relationship out with dishonesty and therefore are more attached to the idea of your woman than your actual woman. Just have a good time. If you're having one, she probably will be too. If you can't have a good time with her, then drop her off and get a better one for your personality.
/r/seduction14/01/11 10:24 PM
2

Instead of working on pick-up artistry, why not just make yourself a better, more interesting person, and have women (and people in general) be more attracted to you naturally? I understand what you mean, and to some degree I concur. Exchanging openers, talking about random techniques to get to the right close, deciding which women are the easiest or best to get -- those all seem superficial to me. They're a good way to get an idea about how to start things off, but putting too much focus on the…
/r/seduction14/01/11 07:38 PM
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Be the one thing in her life that makes her forget her worries and smile -- she has a lot of them right now, and doesn't need more or to be reminded of them. Just don't be overly available or interested, otherwise you'll stay right where you are in that friend zone. pro tip though: single mothers != dream girl
/r/seduction13/01/11 11:13 PM
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Deal breaker.
/r/seduction13/01/11 05:22 PM
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You just helped me out. Thanks.
/r/seduction12/01/11 08:04 AM
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Don't bend over backwards trying to get a girl. She has to prove herself to you, not the other way around. Just have a good time. If one comes along while you're having a good time, go for it -- otherwise, it seriously is not worth the effort.
/r/seduction11/01/11 04:01 PM
1

I'm willing to bet that one "D'aww..." moment is all you need to change an early impression like that.
/r/seduction07/01/11 04:58 PM
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I agree. Be veeeery careful, though. You don't want to fall for a girl that you can't have. She starts taking your focus away from the rest of the game, which is a complete dead-end.
/r/seduction06/01/11 12:27 AM
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