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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
102	My Inner Game Guide	Inner Game	TANKER_06	/r/seduction	20/04/20 08:29 AM

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1	Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effects I'd say you now have a much clearer idea of what you are looking for in a partner, both long-term and short-term. Or you have lower than normal testosterone levels. The latter should be checked just in case, especially if you have no desire to have sex AT ALL. Our tastes change over time based on our experiences and media we are exposed to. So that by itself is no cause for alarm. You may find that flirting with women is more fun than the actual sex too. Whatever the case, don't panic and enjoy …	/r/seduction	12/05/24 10:46 AM
0	How to switch from friendly to flirty You looking too hard for excuses, you are already in the friendzone. Accept that, then figure out if you are willing to stay where you are , or risk losing her by making your intentions known. You can try to slowly be more flirty with your comments and jokes, but you started the relationship on a lie, so that might just make her feel that. Or not and reciprocate. There's no guarantee, so, are you willing to take the risk?	/r/seduction	11/07/22 08:54 AM
1	Did any of you do the whole “invest in yourself” and become non needy thing? Did it work? What’s your story? I work an 8-8 job, 6 out of 7 days. That said, you can imagine how I value my free time. In a sense, I just don't have the luxury of time to be needy! I don't earn a lot. In fact, I'm an average or even below average earner. Thus, I also have to be strategic with my finances and I literally can't afford to "simp" for anyone. So with the typical day ending at 8, by the time I'm back home and freshened up, it's 9, 9.30. Yes, there are plenty of nightlife options, but most of the days I'm just at h…	/r/seduction	03/06/22 04:49 AM
8	My favorite technique to check if the Date is still on Schedule Nah man, I'm not a chad, alpha "high-value male" or anything. I am 39 and I have learnt to see the value and importance in time. The only thing ultra about me was I grew up watching Ultraman. Dates are like going through job applicants. No, I don't bring a notebook with me and interview them. I'm not going to hold their every single flaw against them (maybe I can live with it), but there are deal breakers. Wasting my time is pretty much at the top. It's like being late to an interview. Assuming …	/r/seduction	28/05/22 01:25 PM
22	My favorite technique to check if the Date is still on Schedule Exactly, I've reached an age where the biggest disrespect to me is waste my time. And I shouldn't have to help anyone be less or not disrespectful to me. What's next? Do I have to arrange a stylist for her and ensure she keeps the appointment? Nah screw all that.	/r/seduction	28/05/22 09:41 AM
60	My favorite technique to check if the Date is still on Schedule I just continue on with plans, with or without her. I don't care for a woman who can't do something basic like keep time or let me know if she's going to be late, especially if she already is late. But that's me.	/r/seduction	28/05/22 09:34 AM
9	Overcoming sexual insecurity It depends, sometimes it's "Those are some nice boobs", other times it's "Did I lock the door when we entered?", more than once "Do I have the spare towel washed? Opps, hope she doesn't notice another woman's scent or whatever on it", you know, random stuff. Jokes are fine, most suffer a night of me making jokes at their expense, so it's only fair if they get a bit of payback. I never had a girl look at my dick just go "Nope." and leave. And if there was foreplay before, even more so. If a girl …	/r/seduction	27/05/22 12:10 PM
6	Never text her too often I have ended a relationship because of this, that girl kept bugging me on texts. I'm a busy man, I need to focus when I'm working. I can't keep responding to her texts. So I just tell her to meet up later in the evening and tell me whatever then. It's simple, she can meet up when I'm free or ease her boredom/vent her issues to her BFF or some other guy. I don't count the messages or whatever, but with the above I guess I don't need to. It's always mostly "yes" "no", "Let's meet up at x" or "I'll…	/r/seduction	27/05/22 11:26 AM
16	Overcoming sexual insecurity I'm Chinese. Do you feel better already? Joke aside, I never actually thought about how it looks when the clothes are off. I mean, plenty more to think about at that point. Like, appreciating how she looks. Why do you think it looks any worse than others? If it's because of the dicks you see in porn, those are porn dicks. Most guys don't have a porn dick. Do a bit of grooming by trimming your pubes and giving your ding dong a good wash before you head out, that should give you a bit of confidenc…	/r/seduction	27/05/22 11:14 AM
10	Confidence is only sexy when it has something solid to back it up. I am confident in my abilities when it comes to my career, and my personality when it comes to social situations. I know I'm average looking at best and have an average income. I'm not rich, nor have I won any Nobel prizes. Does that make me arrogant? No. Confidence is a state of mind. Based on the dictionary; "Confidence is a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances." Arrogance, however, is an attitude. Based on the dictionary; "Arrogance is an attitude of …	/r/seduction	28/04/22 09:55 AM
1	Older guys, what is some advice you can give to younger guys? STAY AWAY from debt. This includes loans, credit cards and instalments for anything that isn't life and death. Financial stability is crucial, more so as you grow older. Have a plan with what you're going to do after college, and work on it. Experience matters. Talk to women. Even if it's just to develop a friendly relationship. You can get all the advice, techniques and lines to use, but it doesn't matter if the whole time you're at home. Go out, keep meeting new women and people in general. Fa…	/r/seduction	11/11/20 06:04 AM
1	As an average guy, when did you finally start getting girls you considered out of you leauge, and what did you do to achieve that? If you're anything below an 8, drop the phone and hit the streets. Any reasonably hot girl would have hundreds, maybe even thousands of guys swiping on them; what makes you think you're so special? Focusing on dating apps specifically is setting yourself up for failure and the effects are showing; you're getting increasingly frustrated, jealous and bitter. I'm not saying there is no place for us average-looking guys on such apps, but you need the fundamentals. Getting in shape and working on hyg…	/r/seduction	08/11/20 03:54 PM
2	It's not that women prefer jerks, it's that they desire the underlying complementary characteristics that often go with being a jerk. All those traits, arrogance, obnoxiousness, indifference/self-centeredness are a spectrum. Humility - Arrogance Polite - Obnoxious Timid - Confident Empathy - Apathy Leaning too far on the "bad" end doesn't automatically make you a jerk. A good example would be Robert Downy Jr, who, without context, can seem arrogant, obnoxious, confident and apathetic. That doesn't make him a jerk. To me, a jerk/asshole/douche is someone who is socially negative and/or destructive, either immediately or in the …	/r/seduction	29/10/20 09:15 PM
9	It's not that women prefer jerks, it's that they desire the underlying complementary characteristics that often go with being a jerk. Hey! Here are some tips on improving your videos. Please don't take this as an attack on your skill or knowledge on the subject, I just want to offer advice on your videos. You started on a journey many want to but can't be bothered with, keep it up, and keep improving! Lower your camera. It looks like you're looking up, this is bad because it highlights your receding hairline and your double-chin. In addition, it changes the dynamic of the video; you're looking up to us, which passes you off as…	/r/seduction	29/10/20 07:54 PM
6	Attraction is not created by what you logically say but instead by what you emotionally convey. This is why intelligent technically minded people often fail at casual conversation. I don't know, sex has always about pushing and pulling for me, or at least the lower regions of my body... Joke aside, perhaps it's because I'm used to it, but the whole push-pull thing comes naturally to me now. It isn't all about compliments and deep romantic conversations, it's also about light-hearted teases at her and jokes. Because if not, I'd be bored! It's because I've hung out with plenty of women, especially women I've no sexual attraction to. It's with those women I realized I attract…	/r/seduction	20/10/20 05:39 AM
2	First day of approaching girls - Failed If you got in the exact same situation with that cute girl walking in front of you tomorrow, what would you do differently? While failure is the mother of success, that means nothing if you do not actually learn and reflect on your failures. If you didn't think about that for her, or any of the other girls you met before your read my question, you've learnt nothing and only accomplished getting your minimum exercise quota for the day. (Which, well, is good I guess if you're the sedentary sort) W…	/r/seduction	26/07/20 07:07 AM
2	Game strategies are crutches for lack of confidence I have to commend you on being confidently confident on confidence, but telling people "Just be confident" doesn't help. It's like telling people "The answer is 2!" without describing the concept of addition in "1 + 1". It may seem brain-numbingly obvious to you because you have already understood the concept, but it is foreign to those who have not. Stating that "women are attracted to men" is being too vague and I'd say, outright wrong. By that logic, men are attracted to women, and that inclu…	/r/seduction	03/07/20 05:07 AM
2	Can you fall in love with someone if you secretly hate yourself When I was in my personal rut years ago, I did fall in love, or so I thought. However, as I was insecure in more ways than one, I was eventually used emotionally and financially, before being dropped for another guy. You seem to have done some self-reflection. That's good, you have made the conscious decision not to be stuck in the rut and ask for help. You may be suffering from some form of minor depression. Depression isn't black or white, and are more often shades of grey, with different dura…	/r/seduction	01/07/20 10:36 AM
1	Been texting with my crush, and she’s been losing interest She made it clear she's chatting with you only for the streaks. Her saying she's glad she got to talk to you isn't saying much. At this point, you've been providing her with the emotional gratification for as long as you did and she got bored of you. Or someone more interesting came along. Like others have said here, anything other than talking in person is strictly for logistical purposes and flirting. Can't meet up with her? Do a video call. Seek for the heart-to-heart conversations when in pe…	/r/seduction	01/06/20 07:15 AM
2	For Guys and Girls, thoughts on if your date doesn't dress themselves nicely before a date then talks a lot about liking other girls/guys? Did you make it known that it was a date? It sounds like they are just taking it as a normal hangout with a friend, thus the casual dressing and commenting on other people. At a glance, sounds like you are in the friendzone and them trying to let you know in a way it doesn't hurt your feelings. But without context on the date or what happened before, it's just a lot of hypotheticals. There are always exceptions to the rule, of course. There are girls who don't like putting on makeup and there ar…	/r/seduction	01/06/20 06:44 AM
1	Let’s get laid in LA 🌴 Good on you, you're going out and actively trying! I hope not breaking any lockdowns or putting yourself at risk. Can't help but give some tips, all in the spirit of improvement: The shirt doesn't fit well. The body section is fine, but the sleeves are too wide and too long. The sleeves should comfortably wrap around your arms but not be baggy and the cuffs should reach and cover your wrist at all times. On that point, if you bend your arms and the cuffs move back too much, it means the armholes…	/r/seduction	27/05/20 10:37 AM
3	How do you avoid akwardness when meeting girls? Most of the time, the awkwardness stems from the anxiety of outcome ("I hope she likes me!") and anxiety of making mistakes ("I hope I don't say the wrong thing!"). But, you will first need to identify where these anxieties are coming from before you can fix them. The Anxiety of Outcome Simply put, don't think of the outcome. I know, it's a concept hard to grab and is akin to telling a recruit to "have no fear" when he is out on the battlefield, bullets whizzing past his head and explosions all …	/r/seduction	18/05/20 06:42 AM
1	Anyone have Canned Material they are willing to share I guess the only canned thing I use is a greeting? But even then, like everything else, it is situational based on the current location, major event, her, etc. I now understand where you are coming from, cool. I wouldn't be so reliant on canned material to work, just based on the logic that there is no one thing that works on every single person out there. However, if you are confident on recovering if one fails and you're not using it as a crutch, I take what I said back. The reason why I said …	/r/seduction	13/05/20 07:05 AM
1	Girl always takes a long time to respond to texts/snapchat You're definitely overanalyzing and overthinking. The whole response length thing is silly and too situational to give any merit. 1 date in 1 month is way too little. I understand it's difficult due to the quarantine, but I would take ANYTHING over texting. Just ask if she is free to chat, and do a voice/video call with her. Don't linger too long, just chat for a short while, and do your own thing. Once the quarantine is over, take her out.	/r/seduction	13/05/20 06:45 AM
1	Help on shit tests That's not a shit test. That's a "stop bothering me". The best thing you can do is not reply, as Workingonabs so succinctly put. There's no context of what you did before and your relationship with this person, so we can't say much.	/r/seduction	13/05/20 06:31 AM
1	Girl added me on sc randomly? It's just an add, I wouldn't assume she's interested in getting into your jimmies just yet. HOWEVER, You have been given the perfect opportunity to talk and meet up, so don't screw up!	/r/seduction	13/05/20 06:25 AM
2	Just got the dreaded "i feel comfortable talking with you" Difficult to say without context, but I would agree that she just meant what she said. If you were escalating with her and she knows you are attracted to her, keep on escalating!	/r/seduction	13/05/20 06:20 AM
2	Anyone have Canned Material they are willing to share Stop. Don't use canned material. Build your social skills. You can do a youtube search on "how to not run out of things to say" to get ideas, and then practice it. Canned material doesn't work, because once you run out, or if she doesn't give the expected response, you're back to square one. What are you going to do then? How many canned material can you memorize? Know that once that happens, she will know immediately you are being fake and the game is over. You need to understand there is no ma…	/r/seduction	13/05/20 06:16 AM
1	My Inner Game Guide To improve yourself, I would say RSD Tyler on YouTube has a lot of inspirational videos. A lot. And they are all for free. But like the section I just added, there is no panacea that solves all problems for everyone. It's your responsiblity to understand yourself, and then figure out what works for you, within your abilities and perhaps, morals. All the best on your journey of self-discovery and improvement!	/r/seduction	21/04/20 04:20 AM
2	My Inner Game Guide That is the gist of it, the purpose of this guide is to eleborate on that. To someone who isn't in the know, what is having "a strong frame" or "fun"? Why? How? With this, and giving a small backstory from my life, I hope it would serve as a way to make it easier to understand. Every day, there are plenty of posts asking for help, and many of those just need to work on themselves. It's great you understand the importance of improving yourself, keep it up, and I wish you all the best on your jour…	/r/seduction	21/04/20 04:17 AM
1	My Inner Game Guide I didn't expect this to blow up as much as it did, especially when I forgot perhaps the most important section, which has now been added in. I hope this gives you a bit of insight as to why these points, and why they are important. I'm no PUA or master in the arts, as to a certain degree, I'm happy with my abilities now. Talking to new women, enjoying the process to get to know those worth getting to know and the constant strive to making the most of my life and what precious time I have. I may …	/r/seduction	21/04/20 04:13 AM
2	Three Months of Building Attraction What many who come here for help for are missing, you have. Early on in your post you state: You are focused on your studies. You keep in shape. You have a social circle. You later affirm that, saying you are doing great in the first two. These traits matter more than you think, as they contribute to your confidence and lack of neediness and social anxiety. The actions (and non-actions) you took definitely set you apart from the rest. They may seem forced or premeditated based on your account, b…	/r/seduction	03/04/20 09:37 AM
4	What’s your definition on being needy I'd rather be brutally honest, then have you continue being a nice guy, constantly wondering what you did wrong. It's a dark spiral, the more you fail, the more you edge towards the dark pit of incel-dom. Building confidence and self-esteem generally requires the same actions, though they are slightly different things. I'd break it down into 3 general categories: Mental Make sure you're are mentally healthy. Depression is extremely common in today's age, even before COVID-19 was a thing. If you …	/r/seduction	01/04/20 10:17 AM
16	What’s your definition on being needy Being needy covers a broad spectrum of actions, and all these actions stem from: Lack of confidence Lack of self-esteem Inexperience For example: Expecting there to be rules or a manual to follow on how to be with a girl, stemming from just not wanting to fuck up. Clinging on to her tighter than a Facehugger from Aliens. From constantly questioning her about her activities and location, to expecting her to follow your every word. How to stop being needy though? Build your confidence and self-est…	/r/seduction	01/04/20 05:30 AM
7	Help a homie with a possible friend zone problem. (Bit of a story) Since the virus has me sitting at my desk with nothing to do, I'm going to answer you and be brutally honest. It is not a "possible" friend zone problem. You already deep in it. Let me break it down for you. She isn't an item where people can place dibs on. The "bro code" is a construct of insecure men. It isn't based on this code who she ends up with (thus the above statement), but simply who she wants to be with. Her saying she's not ready to be in a relationship is just another way of saying …	/r/seduction	31/03/20 09:18 AM
2	How to apply the idea of taking attractive girls off a pedestal? Perfect short answer.	/r/seduction	31/03/20 08:12 AM
11	I had one of the best dates I've ever had after months of self-improvement. That's cool and all, but beef kimchi tacos not being fancy? I'd want to hang out at your place to see what fancy really is!	/r/seduction	31/03/20 08:09 AM
3	Why Women Like Men Who Challenge Them There's nothing mythical about this man we're referring to. It's about your frame of mind, your priorities in life. It's about not being affected by small patty things, and being able to look at the big picture. It's about knowing that the woman he bumped into in a club might be the right one, but there are many other right ones out there, some even better. It's about having the confidence that he will be able to meet another one. As a person, male or female, you are not born for the sole purpos…	/r/seduction	23/03/20 11:39 AM
15	3 realizations I had. Not every girl will like you. A person doesn't need a lot of friends. Meeting girls. In addition to having something to talk about when you do approach, hobbies also help with social anxiety if you have it. As an introvert, going for the occasional meetup helps a lot with jumpstarting the ol' conversationalist in me. Maybe it's just me, but I need that, and it's not the same as work-related conversations (Where I just want to get to the point) and online, non-verbal conversations. It also gives the impression you're not a 1-dimension guy. Try having 3 hobbies, and you'll be surp…	/r/seduction	23/03/20 10:38 AM
4	After 7 years single, it finally came to an end. All thanks to this sub! I'd say this sub didn't do much. We helped point you the right direction, but; It is you who decided to change. It is you who decided to improve. It is you who decided to pick up books. And it will be you who decides if you're good and stop now or continue improving. You've done good so far, but I dare say it is only the beginning, and also at the point where many give up or get complacent. Based on your post, I'm sure you are not intended to do so now, but there may come a time in the future wh…	/r/seduction	20/03/20 04:29 AM
5	Insecure dancing I was lucky in this aspect, as I was always interested in dancing. I was into popping and liquid, and learning the fundamentals of those dance styles really helps in the club. To preface everything, you don't need to be a master on the dance floor. Even a basic 2-step, if done well with a personal touch, is enough. However, if you think dancing will make you a "babe magnet", stop reading now, it will only end in disappointment. So first tip, find a dance style you're interested in, and watch you…	/r/seduction	05/03/20 07:29 AM
4	Always trying to escalate things all the way on the first date? The first thing you need to understand is that seduction, like any social skill, is rarely binary or absolute. There is no "If she does X, do Y" or "If you do A, she will do B, and you can do C". Perhaps the only absolute is when you get your D into... you get the point. A reason why the saying "go out and hit on 30 women" holds truth, is other than getting used to talking and getting rejected by women, you will also develop an intuition about them in general, including when to escalate or even …	/r/seduction	22/02/20 04:48 AM
1	Should I give up I'm 37, 5'5 pudgy Asian (in Asia) that can still attract women. I have quite the baboon face too, and I keep procrastinating getting a bunch of good profile pictures, so I get no action on Tinder and what not too. But that doesn't matter, I know I can do much better when I head out. I learnt to approach at night clubs. I find it easier because the setting makes it normal for people to approach others, and rejection happens all around so I got used to rejection and learn quickly. But more importa…	/r/seduction	31/01/20 04:08 AM
7	I got laid once in 2019 Hey man, it's good you are going for therapy. I'm no psychiatrist, but you might have depression, and that is no joking matter. Whatever the case is, get your head cleared and thinking straight, don't think about anything else, they will come after. When I had a depression stint from getting overworked, it was like living life in a fog, and I feel all the negative emotions for anything I look at. Friends started to get irritated, and only the true ones stuck around and forced me to get diagnosed…	/r/seduction	18/01/20 04:58 AM
1	Fearing for my mental health in my seduction journey. Sounds like you are investing too much into non-existent relationships. Opening techniques are great to get the initial conversation going. It's like the spark plug of a vehicle. But once you get the conversation running, it's important to escalate, make your intentions known and be congruent. Because if not, eventually she will either get confused by mixed messages sent by you or just get plain bored and everything will stall (a.k.a she ghosts or "friend zone" you). And perhaps that is where yo…	/r/seduction	06/01/20 06:04 AM
2	Do you express excitement noises during sex? "Egads!" That's the first thing that came to mind when I read that. But in all seriousness, if you can't do something natural to you in your most natural state, and have to keep your mind on what not to utter, you're not enjoying yourself. Unless you're forcing yourself to make the noises. Test the waters. I've has partners who only moan softly. I've also had screamers. I've had askers. To me it doesn't matter, they are all beautiful in their own way.	/r/seduction	28/12/19 09:27 AM
1	How to ask her if she has a boyfriend? Chances are just you approaching her is a dead giveaway that you're into her. I mean, what do you plan to do? Be a confession ninja, and bust out the "I love you/I want you" when she least expects it?	/r/seduction	28/12/19 06:35 AM
12	My fellow introverts, what's the best guide that you guys followed? I'm just a normal guy that picked out what I found useful from all the material I come across the internet, and quite a lot of trial and error. I'm also an introvert. I visit nightlife spots alone, as I can go in and get out at any time. Also, due to my being in the office for the entire day, my opportunities for day game is usually non-existent. On the way to the club, I'd just relax and clear my mind. From there, I'll just listen to some music to hype myself up so that when I enter, I feel... …	/r/seduction	25/12/19 07:06 AM
6	First Solo Bar Experiencs This is the reason why I do better alone in almost any situation. A friend and ex-roommate of mine did comment a few times that when I go out alone, I almost always come back with a girl, even two, but when I go out with him, nothing happens. I feel much more comfortable alone at a club. I don't have to entertain, I don't have to worry about the others, I don't have to explain why I'm heading to a different part of the club, and I definitely do not have to introduce anyone to anyone. My friend, …	/r/seduction	12/12/19 07:22 AM
1	I would honestly approach girls in club if they were to even hold 1.5 seconds on eye contact with me. But I've noticed that most of the time, they don't even look at me. How do I fix this? If you just want women to have eye contact with you, wear a glow in the dark outfit, stick strobing LEDs on it and stand near the woman's bathroom. But I'm guessing that's not the kind of eye contact you want. What is your definition of "exuding high energy"? As far as I'm aware, people are not aware of what they are... exuding; whatever energy they have and others perceive, is a cumulation of what they are and their mental state. Using terminology I hear from YouTube, if you go with an agenda o…	/r/seduction	02/12/19 04:29 AM
3	Rejection Isn’t Even that Bad What helps me is to get into a mindset of having fun. I guess I realized this after always being swarmed with work, so any free time I have is extremely precious. I lost a great woman because I valued that time so much I exploded at her for being late, after all, I'm a busy man, and it's just unprofessional to be late... yes, I actually said that. Now, I plan activities for my free time just to have fun and relax, and invite them along. If they don't show, no matter, plan has already been made, …	/r/seduction	09/11/19 02:59 AM