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| 15 | What are ways that we actively advocate against misogynistic terrorists groups and make meaningful change?Most redpills and libfem pickme ideology is through social media. If you can keep yours kids off it as long as possible, you have the best chance to keep them grounded. Educating them and yourself on how the internet creates bubbles of misinformation. Use the current anti-vaxx movement as a good example of people being radicalised by facebook. Keep them engaged in sports/activities and their selfesteem will not sink into the floor so they are not susceptible to toxic ideologies by their peers. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:13 PM |
| 8 | When in relationships HVM try to compensate for societal misogyny; LVM try to capitalize on itNow if only ever young women could read this before dating 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:38 AM |
| 63 | Male fragility means that a picture of a small sausage in a South Korean ad makes men there feel bad about the size of their genitals. So the answer is getting back at feminists by playing cancel culture towards the supposed companies they work for. (You can't make this shit up!)Not to mention how they are bullying the first Korean 3 gold time olympian medalist in their country because she (An San) cut her hair short... Many companies in Korea are even refusing to acknowledge her achievements incase of backlash and boycott. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:11 PM |
| 26 | Grateful for FDS - Realizing the urgent need to openly and loudly nurture, guide and discipline the new generation of young girls and take a proactive attitude in helping others recognize the need to re-parent themselvesI felt the part "being thrown to the wolves and not having a clue" because that was my entire experience dating as a young woman with no guidance. My parents offered no help, I relied on misinformation from cluesless peers and the internet, I was not taught red flags or how to handle pushy men. Dating was overwhelming and every decision was made on the spot and through pickme culture. I feel upset for girls growing up in hypersexualised social media pedo culture. It is 100 times worse now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 02:13 PM |
| 8 | Do you love True Crime? We're looking for a new co-host for our spinoff podcast!Please do a true crime podcast on Aileen Carol Wuornos. She was a convited as a serial killer but was a prostitue who claimed she was defending herself against men who tried to rape her. Her case is really interesting as misogny and discrimination played a big role in her court case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:58 AM |
| 13 | Remember that YOU are the protagonist of your life's story.Drop some book names sis, I love engaging with more women centered content | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:47 AM |
| 18 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"Ew. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 🤢🤢🤢🤢 🤢🤢🤢 🤢🤢 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 09:07 AM |
| 15 | Setting Mental Boundaries - Part 1Love the 🌹 to 🌵 analogy! After therapy from my ex, I can detect a narc blindfolded, the sense is so strong. But stay vetting ladies, they are everywhere 🌍❗❗ NVM/LVM only get better at being despicabale the older they get as they have more experience manipulating and gaslighting women 👎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:44 PM |
| 96 | This is what happens when you settle for potential... and of course it's Wonderwall 🤣Songs like Girlfriend were what her label pushed her into writing or else they would keep delaying her albums. So many pop stars are held back by middle age white men controlling what the public listens to and preventing them from being anything other than the virgin pickme or the hypersexualised pickme :/ Kelly Clarkson and Pink are few and far between. And even then Kelly Clarkson had a lot of problems with her record label pushing pickme songs on her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 05:47 PM |
| 198 | Why is it becoming increasingly acceptable for men to be unemployed, not in school, and video game/porn addicted?I think hikkomoris opt out of society due to anxiety and pressure to achieve in such a driven society. Hikkomoris will not even talk to their parents let alone have a gf to leech off of. This type of bum-male in the post is common in the west because pick-mes in the west accept this type of behaviour and there is no standard set on men to have certain requirements in order to get married/have a family/partner like a good job, a house, assets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:28 PM |
| 3 | To My Fellow Chronically ill HVWI deal with chornic back pain too and have some pain mangement resources in my post history. I am not sure what your back condition is but suffering long term is very difficult and I hope we both make it through to recovery 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 08:48 PM |
| 28 | Start by rebuilding your sex life with yourselfEven without sex toys, self pleasure is fun and new every time. Porn is nothing but wiring your brain to the male gaze and r*pe ficiton. More Orgasms Please is a good book to start on recentering sex on female pleasure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 08:37 PM |
| 31 | Got a new, better paying job in May and wanted to reward my hard work. No one treats me better than I treat myself.Congratulations 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 07:51 AM |
| 60 | "there's a darkness inside me"When a man says he doesn't deserve you it your cue to exit but I said "NoOoOoO babe you treat me well" as he got me drunk and r*ped me. Urgh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 02:48 PM |
| 6 | Don't be afraid to get that ring!Love the cut 😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 07:47 AM |
| 33 | FDS is not just about man bashing - it’s looking at your own pick me behaviour too.A great post that FDS is about looking inside first and then looking outside to find a man later. Alot of levelling up is about unconditioning yourself to the patriarchy and you can't do that while being tied down to lvm. Reading, watching documentaries and going to therapy has really helped me see who I was and how much more I have to go before being comfortable about dating again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 10:01 PM |
| 35 | I'm ✨embarrassed ✨My favourite torture pick me memory is saying "STEM shouldnt have special programmes for women because men and women are treated equal now" infront my LV dad and brother. It did not make my dad love me more instead he asked me to go get him water as he sat on his ass like he still does | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 09:44 PM |
| 48 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!I recommens Deep Dive YT SERIES on the free britney movement, it is upto part 6, each part an hour long breaking down how Britney broke down and the conservatorship. Really interesting and great stuff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 09:13 AM |
| 15 | I found dating to be really empowering, and I wish other women would experience it that way too.This deserves to read by every new FDSer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:47 PM |
| 12 | Update on my life beyond an LVM. I have levelled up immensely :’)The way LVM bounce their toxic energy off each other to destroy women's lives is astounding. Glad you pulled through and the lesson you learned from meeting both of them is priceless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Patriarchal Bargains: what we give and what we getWe hope but men are marrying women from their families home origin countries like India and Pakistan because asian women raised in western countries have higher standards now. But no one wants to marry those men anyway lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:24 AM |
| 47 | Distancing myself from my boyfriend. How to keep that strength when you love him?I echo this! I wish someone told me it was rape. It took such a long time to recognise the abuse. Therapy really saved my life when I realised everything I had been through. It is not "pressured into sex" it is "coercive rape" and we need to start calling it what it is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:29 PM |
| 13 | Patriarchal Bargains: what we give and what we getA lot of women in asian cultures are rejecting marriage because we understand that marriage is a patriarchial enslavement to a MIL and her son. In a generation I have seen women married in their early teens/20s to rejecting marriage until 35. It is changing. But I think for south asian women we see/hear regularly how badly marriage treats women. The juxtapostion between being under 20, being pushed for university and a career to being 20+ and married off has caused a generation to reject marriag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:27 AM |
| 4 | Hard truth: Long distance and/or online "relationships" are not real relationshipsDamn I feel so bad for your friend. I hope he got out of that "relationship". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:49 AM |
| 5 | Let's continue healing and levelling up! 👸As another woc healing from truama, more power to you. Sometimes it feels like the odds are stacked against us when we have so much to work through and change for future generations and girls in our community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 11:28 PM |
| 18 | Hard truth: Long distance and/or online "relationships" are not real relationshipsI think LDRs do not work and are often a scam or a way for someone to waste your time. Considering LV might pressure you to send nudes or web cam sex, there is more chance for revenge porn. I always loved the show catfish because it showed how people online can fake anything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 11:05 PM |
| 6 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.Men as a gender have opressed women but that is not what FDS is here to fix. It is here to give dating advice in navigating how to choose a suitibal partner in a patriachial society. I hate the radfem men deserve to perish" ideology that has made its way onto this sub. Glad the trash is being cleared up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:55 PM |
| 27 | Update: reining in the subIt was getting too negative on here for the past couple of months that I would tune out from all the NVM incel posts. There have been a few good, focused posts but a lot more venting than I can mentally take in one day. Glad to see some redirection in the subreddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:03 PM |
| 5 | The thing about traumaYeah they have tried several times to get back in contact but it is for my own mental health that I had to leave our friendship. These people are hard to leave as you feel like they suck you into their world, you know how emotionally and mentally f'ed up they are, how much they depend on you, so leaving them feels wrong. But it is for the best, you really can't fix anyone who does not want to be fixed. I really wish them to overcome their experiences but I can't be part of their journey any long… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 18 | The thing about traumaI had a friend who would constantly overshare her truama because her truama was normalised to her and her other friends. I did distance myself because unhealed truama weighs heavy on friendships, especially when friends do not try to heal from their past. I will actively listen to friends who are sharing about their experiences but too often is a sign they are using you as a therapy service, and one they vent to but not actively take your advice (aka you should see someone about this), which can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 02:50 PM |
| 73 | Billie Elish bf is 10 years older than her.Urgh I feel this so much. It is important to point out that this is not ok to children and teens who celebrity worship, idolise pop stars and want to do everything their celebrities do. It is so bad out here for young girls. And everytime you point it out people are like noOOOooo they are adults. Please, save your breathe, no 18 year old teen girl is going to come running and jump on your d*ck old man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 02:13 PM |
| 27 | Guys take exception when the girls fawn over pop/Kpop Idols and consider the same as detrimental to a relationship. Imagine how bad porn and only fans are - they know the stars by name and spend money on them.I like kpop, mainly ggs, but my ex thought it was hilarious to mock a whole genre of music just because I liked to listen to it. It was so funny watching him bop along to english songs by kpop artists only to find out later it was by a kpop group 🤡 I finally got into a bg, OnlyOneOf and now I know exactly what I have been missing in life. Seeing well put together, handsome men preform music I like transcends life enjoyment to another level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:48 PM |
| 7 | South Korean women and their crusade against patriarchyThats really great to hear that there is a feminist movement in Japan as the documentaires I have watched with japanese women have said women hesitate to organise and protest effectively. Ofcourse this is only docs and not lived experiences like you have. And I am sorry to hear about you being harassed on the train :( It boils my blood that women can't exist in public in peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:50 AM |
| 19 | South Korean women and their crusade against patriarchyPeople take one look at FDS and call it man hating too. posts are taken out of context or women venting in blunt language make people hate fds too. And with the posts on friday posting hot men can be seen as male objectification too. Megalia white fetishisation probably comes from white beauty standards being everywhere in the world, especially s.korea with the Vline jaw, big eyes and high nose bridges and white praise common in korean media, many kpop mvs with white wo/men being seen as desirab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 05:48 PM |
| 39 | South Korean women and their crusade against patriarchyInteresting take as Japan and South Korea rank so closely in the Global Gender Equality Survery (120 vs 102 in 2021 and 110 vs 115 in 2019 respectively out of 156). I think South Korea's feminist movement has really taken off in the last few years compared to Japan's. I haven't even heard of movements like this in Japan but I have seen similiar stories to this post in s.korea, like women protesting topless outside of Facebook headquaters due to banning and taking down posts with female nipples b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 05:27 PM |
| 7 | "They're like brother and sister"I have a similiar friendship with a male like this, we came from broken, lower class homes and met at university. We lived as housemates together for 3 years and it is truly a wonderful platonic relationship. I feel like the older sister to a younger brother I never had. It was great to have someone at university to trust while living in a new area and we generally took care of one another. I didn't think relationships like this could be formed by opposite sexes but it can, it is comfortable fam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 12:41 PM |
| 3 | Father and female University of Oxford student call for porn sites to require proof of ageI think this would be the biggest changer to porn and social media use. It would also tackle cyber bullying on social media if everyone's account was linked to their social identification so comments would be easier to trace. Women face alamring amounts of harassement online and if every twitter user was held accountable for their comments, then hate speech and harassement would drop. There are ways around this but platforms which are anonymous do not have the same user friendly interface as big… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 10:44 AM |
| 39 | Not really active in this community but thought y‘all might appreciate my memeThe japanese government has been holding mixers where men and women meet with the intention to get married (to increase the birth rate). But many have a lot of men show up and fewer women. Also Japan has a huge problem where women are expected to become home makers once they are married. Japanese women have been bullied by their companies to quit their jobs once they are pregnant and are discriminated upon reentering the work force, having to take smaller part time jobs like waitressing instead … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 09:53 AM |
| 116 | Don’t tell men about your standardsAbout your last point, LVM will always expose himself eventually and women should never stop vetting either. A HVM is only HV till the day he chooses not to be. So a LVM might be able to hide for a while but not long enough when applying FDS stratergies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 19 | True closure comes from within!The truth has been spoken! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 11:45 PM |
| 8 | We appeared in public again today. Mods did their job, thank you <3😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 11:14 PM |
| 76 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withDAYUM, shots were fired 😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:31 PM |
| 804 | I felt this. Love and life are so much more than your relationship status.I hollered at "you need someone to take care of you". All LV/NVM require YOU to take care of THEM. Cultural bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardOuch I resonate with your story alot. I'm glad we have both left those people in the past. We deserve better than petty jealousy over grades and being ghosted when we need help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:18 AM |
| 18 | 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥READ THIS FOR A CHANCE TO APPEAR ON THE FDS PODCAST! 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥I am worried for young boys too as I was recently watching an ex-trump supporter talk about their experience with being radicalised by the internet at 16 into a conservative right wing supporter, even though their own mother raised them on her own and was a feminist who tried to instill feminist values into him, from a young age. The internet can be an evil place and does make me afraid for parents not being careful about what their children are looking at online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:12 PM |
| 15 | 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥READ THIS FOR A CHANCE TO APPEAR ON THE FDS PODCAST! 💥💥💥💥💥💥💥The pakistanicornershop does good podcasts/ig page for south asian women and men on marriage, discussing arrange marriages, in-laws and cultural difficulties on divorces, taboos and inequalities. Their podcast takes a feminist approach and I think they would be a good guest for FDS or south asian FDSers to listen too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:07 PM |
| 18 | 1985 Harvard Law Review Article Regarding PornMindblown by such sophisticated and well atriculated writing. So much of this is my personal experience with sexuality having relied on the internet as I was raised in a religious, conservative family. How silently did this all happen? Crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:36 PM |
| 7 | dump his assBest thing I have seen today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:23 PM |
| 117 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardI had a friend in college obsessed with her LVM scrote older boyfriend. She would talk endlessly about their abusive relationship and, as I was 17, I would listen and try and give her advice to help. After a year of "friendship", when I needed help most after leaving my NVX, she ghosted me saying it was too hard for her to help/listen me. I was devestated as I was going through one of the hardest times of my life and needed someone to just listen and make sure I was ok once a day. The best thing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 12:11 PM |
| 35 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!what is a plate? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:59 PM |
| 281 | Grooming in the adult industryAnd then this woman will be having "sex" for 12 hours on set, forced into harder and harder stuff, assualted by staff/managers, given drugs to cope with the physical and mental toll and eventually discarded by the industry in two years | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 05:56 PM |
| 42 | Man hides camera in woman's bedroom disguised as clock, takes 140 videos—police - a other reason to not bring men you barely know to your home.If you are travelling to any south east asian countries please be aware of how common it is to have hidden cameras in your hotel rooms/bathrooms/toilets. Alot of couples use hotels to have s*x and are recorded without their knowledge. Female college students are being taught how to use bathrooms and look for recording devices before they use them. It is important to look over your hotel room before undressing. Clocks, pens, lights and fire alarms are common places they are hidden. Even common to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:22 PM |
| 12 | it starts when we are kidsI recommed reading Delusions of Gender: The Real Science Behind Sex Differences by Fine Cordelia. It is all about bias in science studies toward women and what modern says about differences between men and women. (There is no difference but it is culture which determines our abilities) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 09:53 PM |
| 7 | I Am Proud of MyselfI am happy for you to leave a dead relationship and step into the love of yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 6 | What does giving yourself what you deserve look like for you?Selfcare right now looks a lot like leaving situations which drain my energy and not feeling guilty about it. Talking to myself with positive words, telling myself things will get better because they are getting better. And listening to loud rock music to burn anger from the small microaggressions towards women and WOC I face everyday from my own family. Selfcare is free but the best investment in ourselves 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:45 PM |
| 30 | Poverty rate in the U.S. by age and gender in 2019 - Debunking lies about men being worse off than women "these days." In every age group, women are poorer than men. Women, always have your own money, and save it where other people can't touch it.The worst part is knowing the 18-24year old females are most likely to be sabotaged by LVM impregnating them in their prime and then leaving them as they fall into poverty as single mothers. Or the woman has to stay with the LVM as now she has children and no job/little education. I never knew this was such a vulnerable age for young women, something I experienced myself, but did not think was so common. Stay woke Queens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:37 PM |
| 2 | FDS PODCAST UPDATE: we're going to start doing interviews!Jameela Jamil a great feminist activist who has started iweigh and has helped pass legislations about ig not being allowed to promote dieting products to teens and children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:32 PM |
| 6 | Comic fanboys being depraved 🥲As if there haven't been countless male heros who are cool because they are cool and needed no back story of abuse to make them badass. I was reading the Stormlight Series by brandon sanderson and so many men had a problem with Jasnah being the most OP character in the book without some extreme truamatic storyline to back it up. A woman can be cool as she is thank you very much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 05:21 PM |
| 12 | My break up continuedI am sorry you are going through all of this. You need a new therapist, preferably a woman, and one for EMDR therapy. EMDR is good at desenitising you to the emotions of painful memorises so you can process them correctly. Having a therapist play down your feelings is not what you need. You need to be fully heard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 18 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡This story is upsetting just to read. I'm glad your healing ❤ You are going to make it through all your truama and flourish into the wonderful woman you are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:21 PM |
| 67 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡It is obviously his standard to only want perky breasted 20 year olds while he goes into his 40s. Maybe if you CoMmUnIcAtEd, you would understand this better. (I won't even add the /s cause this is advice they give on dating subs lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Society's promotion of young adult novels/ romance movies created a lovesick generationI spent too much time as a teenager wishing to be picked by a male and have my life fixed for me because obviously men are hereos who fix all your problems!! So glad I am past that phase and now looking to fix my own problems and life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:15 PM |
| 9 | Nothing but truth was spoken.Eungenia Cooney panders to these communities who give her money on twitch to pick up heavy items and body check. They fetishise her weak ana body. It is sick. I have even heard stories of men paying ana women to model for them in hotel rooms. They keep the rooms warm so the women sweat and nearly faint, do not give them food or water, adding to the "thrill" of the experience. Men masturbate to them and they try to coerce the women into stripping during the shoot. Truly sickening | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 11:30 AM |
| 21 | Where's the lie?Turn all that loving and caring energy to yourself! I have a friend who constantly OLDs men, giving them expensive gifts for their birthdays and sex but recieves nothing in return, some even breakup with her on dates she has given them £200 gifrs. I wish she turned all that love to herself instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 11:13 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone on here exposed an ex who's an internet celebrity? If so, what happened?Never dealt with this myself but I would say that if you come forward, you will help other future/victims come forward. Rarely do abusers only abuse one person, they always leave a trail of victims. People might not believe you at first but people never believed the first victim of james charles. And only now, several victims have come forward, are his sponsors on edge and more people are aware of him. You should prepare yourself for angsty fans trying to doxx you, sending threatening emails if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:16 PM |
| 12 | I see a lot of ladies here feel shame about the way they used to be. But please understand that most of us have been some level of pick me in the past. Some still have remnants of pick me mentality yet to overcome. Please forgive yourself. Keep growing and becoming.Progress is continuous in life. And if you made your past decisions with all the information you knew at that time, then can't kick yourself. I went into my first relationship based off the abusive marriage of my parents and mysognistic magazines I read for advice. I was royaly f'ed. But I did the best I could at the time. Now I know better. And the decisions I made in the past were cringny and some were awful, but I cannot kick myself for making those decisions with the information I had back t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:03 PM |
| 39 | You ever feel like the women who are happy with their men are kind of just...dumb?Seeing a lot of women in my life settle for less, I think they delude themselves into thinking this is they best they deserve and most are unhappy but unwilling to admit it. They use excuses like "it is not that bad", "this is how it my mother had it", "I am lucky he does X and Y, some people don't even get that!". The denial makes it easier for them to live and distance themselves from the truth. And a lot of women who settle, want to see you settle too. So they lie through their teeth, to you.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:14 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).That man was even lucky to touch you and he really tried to talk down to you like that. There is a reason his dusty ass in the past 🙄 Good riddance | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:37 PM |
| 11 | Ladies, always remember: when a NVM sees a HVW, he can’t stand the sight of her. He will always try to come for you and take you down a peg (or two).Or the fem fatale trope where a HVW is taught a lesson and is "humbled" while the "not like othrr girls" character is rewarded for chasing the male lead and being accepted into a job/university | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:35 PM |
| 10 | I don't careThe best classic literature is written by women, Frankinstein, Little women, The secret garden. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:19 PM |
| 14 | I don't careThere is much more female gaze entertainment for women now. It is much more about what drives women, their desires and goals vs how sexy men look (and even then we humanise men instead of degrade them). It only gets better the more we support and demand it. Wit and folly did a good essat video on female gaze called "feminine gaze and transformative stories" about how the female gaze has become tailored for women with show recomendations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:17 PM |
| 53 | 😂For the time Cinderella was created (1950s), having a female lead in a movie escape an abusive home in one of the only ways possible (marrying) and to royalty was ok for its time. But it is nice to be in a place now where we can recognise and demand better movies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:04 PM |
| 176 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateI struggle a lot with accepting the fact that i am aging... at 24! Social programming is insidious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Never let a scrote derail your life!👑✨Having had a scrote derail my life, this is solid advice! No man is worth it when you are jobless and broke. Love is a lie. Your education and money will never leave you. A scrote will pull you down to his level and mentally break you, THEN leave you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Never let a scrote derail your life!👑✨I am cheering for you to do make it! I was derailed by a scrote too and the anger burns heavily inside for the losses, but we will make it, day by day 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:56 PM |
| 4 | Do. Not. Care.Compelte agree, sharpay was the femme fatale trope who is knocked down a peg or two beause the patriarchy hates confident and outspoken women. Even her ending story of not going to Yale was just the cherry on top of all of her blows, even after her own brother betrayed her and Sharpay forgave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 19 | Finally this depraved bullshit is facing some backlash in young malesWhen I was in school, pre internet/social media, being anything but hypersexual and all for it was looked down on by all peers in my year. I cannot imagine the pressure kids are under now to be the most kinky, have sex early and be the most experienced. Especially as sex ed barely covers stis/stds. There is no safe/consensual sex teaching. Kids are being led in blind to sexual assualt and experiences they are not at all ready for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 09:48 PM |
| 107 | Do. Not. Care.I live to see Regina George memes. I love that women are reclaiming traditional feminine icons that were used as villians and now using them in memes/internet culture because we understand that it was mysogny making us view women who were feminine as evil and making us "not like other girls". Movies like High school musical did the same trope 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 07:31 PM |
| 13 | FDS users taking it in turns to roast Scrotes in the comments like:If it don't hang then he can't bang | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityI suggest reading the book "Plucked: A history of hair removal" by Dr Rebecca Herzig. Hair removal, specifically in america, was forced upon women, especially as white women gained social mobility in the 20th century. Regulating a womans appearance was a way for white men to maintain to control over women. And removing hair for "lesser" white races like Eastern Europeans/Italians was a way for them to integrate into american society which was hostile towards them and saw them as lesser than. Hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:56 PM |
| 22 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityI think removing the influence the patriarchy has over our lives is a process and some ideas (like shaving/pickme behaviours) are harder to remove than others. And some people will struggle with different problems more than others. Keep trying and one day you will get there. Even if you don't, making the effort to take back as much power over your life as possible from the patriarchy is enough to drive misogynistic scrotes and pickmes mad 😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 67 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityNot OP but I felt a lot more comfortable not shaving when I understood the history of why women were forced to shave. White women were corerced into shaving to show thay they were not as animalistic as women of colour and differenciate themselves from POC women. Racist white men labelled POCs as animals and white women were the lower class to men. In order for women to prove that they were not animals like POCs, they were coerced into shaving so they were not deemed as "savages", "subhumans". Go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:41 PM |
| 32 | Not to mention there can be professional repercussions for not performing femininityOh my god I feel so sorry for you having experienced that. How awful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 06:23 PM |
| 2 | WHICH ONE OF YOU QUEENS DIVORCED THIS LVM LMAOThat one shampoo bottle in the corner of the shower that you know he uses to wash he hair, face and body 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Never settle for less. If he really loves you, he will go to the ends of the earth for you. Stop giving your energy to guys who are just going to leave you in read for two weeksCan anyone but Hollywood make this movie so it turns out good... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 04:53 PM |
| 23 | "I look like a goblin but I want a thin princess" smh 😂😂😂I will tell all my nieces this. It should be on tshirts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else feel like the pandemic has really given them the space to Queen it up?I came across FDS in October 2020 and it has really helped clear up a lot of lies liberal feminism and peer pressure from school forced me to accept. Although it has been a tough lockdown for me finacially, I have learned to be selfish for my rights and wants, just like a man. I put myself first and only go out of my way for those I love. I refuse to engage or humour with people I don't like, even family members. FDS has changed the whole of me but also let's me see how unfair women have it if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 03:43 PM |
| 16 | I'm 17 and I am tired by relationships but can't give it upYour already doing better than most of us being here at 17 and already being aware of your pickmeish behaviour. You have a lot of complicated feelings to work out so it will take a long time to work through things. The most important thing is to stick to the FDS handbook with men, in particular weak moments when you want to give in to a scrote so that means no more nudes or putting out any sexual favours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Women who are divorcedMy parents forced my sister back with her porn sick husband a few months after they marriage to save face. My dad said to her face that no other man would want a divorcee. Asian culture really takes treating women as second class very seriously. So glad it is changing in this generation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:20 PM |
| 4 | Men’s HygieneI recommend checking out alok vaid menon' instagram where they go into detail how the patriarchy started policing women's bodies since the 18th century and how they still use the same tactics today as in the past. Really great place to pick up book recommendations for feminism as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 04:08 PM |
| 11 | The connection between women's progress and misogynist backlashOn a personal level growing up, the longer my mum remained in college, the more my dad demanded she served him his dinner, washed his clothes and tidied his house as she was the one out all day enjoying education instead of him. Men are bitter, twisted and should come with a 'danger do not get invovled tag', period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 08:10 PM |
| 6 | Media consumption and animeI will, thanks for the recommendations 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:42 PM |
| 14 | Media consumption and animeI can't tell you it gets better. Instead I would recommend staying out of anime fandoms. They are full of pick-mes and lvm who make crappy hypersexualised edits and rxpey fanfic. It helped me a lot to look into Japanese culture to understand why so much anime is sexist and racist. And the japanese society is sexist and racist. But also anime went through a change of perception with the general public in the 1980s when a high profile child murderer&rxpist was caught with hundreds of gothic/lolita… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:30 PM |
| 15 | Media consumption and animeAny recommendations of old school animes? I loved Hot Roads and Cowboy Bebop growing up (CB is a bit mysogynistic if I remember correctly). I also stick to studio Ghibli animes as well but want to branch out into other ones | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 4 | Tips for safety in a mixed gender student housing?Always lock your door when you are in your room, many people speficially entitled men have tried to enter my room to ask my insignificant things at night. Always make sure you are weary of the friends your house mates bring over, especially pick-mes bringing in lvm. If you suspect someone shady has been brought over, camp in your room and have enough snacks/food in your room for days like this to avoid contact with them. Or go into common shared areas with other housemates to avoid being alone w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:01 PM |
| 4 | How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up.Thought I had an eating disorder but turns out I was constantly gaslight by my ex into thinking I was fat even though I was a uk size 10! When I broke up, I fell in love with every little thing about my body again and constantly compliment small things about myself like little beauty marks, which he previous tried to tell me were ugly. The only thing ugly was him, literally and figuratively. Man was a walking 2/10 and had the audacity to degrade my looks 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:31 PM |
| 4 | Opinions on anime?Even in Japan, anime is not something people proudly speak of watching. Only Studio Ghibli is an exception to them, as for me. I grew up watching anime and there are some great animes out there but surronded in a sea of trash. I made the mistake of not vetting hard enough about anime with an ex-LVM and it was a huge mistake. Do not let a man get off by saying a genre of anime. Ask for shows, if you know them then ask in detail about the plots to see if he is trying to hide his r*pe hentai addict… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:32 PM |
| 10 | Anyone notice how toxic masculinity has now become the ultimate excuse against bad male behaviour?Giving me flashbacks to the whole Joker movie 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 09:34 PM |
| 2 | How are women meant to feel safe when a woman disappears from a city in a well lit area?"Rare" wow I feel so safe now /s. I think Men need a curfew seeing as they still abduct, r*pe and harass women on the streets at 9PM. Or an actual education programme to teach men why all these things are wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 10:01 AM |
| 1 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceIf there is any way to help mods I would be interested in putting in a few hours a week to contribute. FDS has helped to change my life and recognise changes I need to make to my own life. I want to give back anyway I can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 09:37 AM |
| 45 | ReminderSouth Korea has a massive incel/simp problem. Their men are terribly mysognistic which is what has triggered their extreme feminist and anti-marriage movements. The Nth Room and Burning Sun cases are two extremely recent cases of severe sexual abuse against women in South Korea. Massive tirgger warning before looking into those cases. And the suic*des of two extremely popular idols named Choi Sulli and Goo Hara who were harassed and mocked for their histories of assualt should shed light on thei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 05:04 PM |
| 12 | Women are constantly bombarded by marketing and advertising, from a very young age, and how that reduces women's sense of self, how both marketers and men viciously try to make women feel unhappy and inadequate.Ever since I stopped shaving, I love living my own life and feeling better about it. Seriously shaving was the bane of my existance! I love wearing heels though. After I learned to do things I want for myself and not to seem fuckable to men, my life has vastly improved. I suggest everyone evaluate if they want do any grooming techniques other than showering, brushing your teeth and washing your hair | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:32 PM |
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