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Field ReportTBearYCF/r/seduction18/06/26 10:47 AM
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My best sex / dating life came after 40. You can become experienced and skilled at dating within a year. Get on the apps. Do what it takes. Set the bar low at first.
/r/seduction26/07/26 10:00 AM
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I do get asked advice from young Jedi alot.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:53 AM
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I’m late 40s and the majority was after 40. Spent 20s - 40s in LTRs or married. Edit: I regret not being able to fuck around in my 20s-40s - that’s when the best hottest pussy presented itself to me but I was taken. Still, women 40-50+ are some amazing fucks and often very hot.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:34 AM
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It’s definitely a vice. You have to really want it. The paying mindset is not for everyone. Once you start and find it easy, the line becomes thin between being a sex addict and a horny guy want to let loose.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:33 AM
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I never got one.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:31 AM
1

Never had an STD in my life.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:31 AM
1

Yes but they are a minority. Majority is a combination of LTRs and flings.
/r/seduction26/07/26 09:30 AM
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Body count 175+. Given that, not really an expert with cold approaches, but also not afraid of them either. I never spent a lot of time single, and on dating apps I could fill up the week with dates in a very tough part of the country to engage women. Most of the luck I’ve had has been the following: - Good profile on dating apps with good photos. I’m by no means a Chad but being able to put together a decent pic collection and profile is more than half of the game. - Being a people person. - Ga…
/r/seduction26/07/26 02:17 AM
3

She was fine with FWB but I just wasn’t fine with bad sex.
/r/seduction24/07/26 12:23 AM
24

Went on some dates with a chick from a dating app. She seemed to want a relationship and right before the date where we were going to bang the first time, I told her I just didn’t want a relationship. Tried to dump her. Then she said she would be fine with an FWB situation. Guess she liked me enough. We fucked about three times but it wasn’t that great for me so I let it die off.
/r/seduction23/07/26 03:16 AM
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So what you’re saying is you met this girl, went on dates, slept with her, then you left for three months and didn’t text her… Then when you get back, you talk to another girl at her bar to make her jealous… And now you’re wondering why she doesn’t talk to you? Sounds like you were being a dick to her and she just doesn’t want to deal with it. Both of you should move on. Sounds like she already did.
/r/seduction21/07/26 09:36 PM
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👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
/r/seduction19/07/26 04:09 PM
1

Stop being paranoid.
/r/seduction19/07/26 02:32 PM
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OP - 👆🏻
/r/seduction17/07/26 08:08 PM
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You want a shot at her right? Then send something. Not sure what the obstacle is. You think she’ll think poorly of you? Who is she that you’ll even care? You can choose to do nothing and then post on here and think about whether you screwed up or not… OR… …you can come back here and post that she continued the conversation and you two have a date. When I was on OLD I kept an open mind and swiped on tons of women. If I got a match or a response, I’d engage in conversation no matter what. If I thi…
/r/seduction17/07/26 08:07 PM
1

Why does it matter? You don’t know this woman and she doesn’t know you. You have zero to lose by applying your thumbs to your phone and sending a couple words. What’s the fear? You lose her forever? You’ve probably already done that. What’s the other fear? You’re going to be walking down the street and she’s going to see you and point you and laugh and say “There’s the guy who double texted me?!!“ Seriously. There are countless women in this world… which equals countless opportunities. Don’t get…
/r/seduction17/07/26 07:33 PM
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Send her another msg that’s more normal. You have nothing to lose. Words don’t cost anything. Worse case is she doesn’t reply and you move on. Guys who have success don’t care whether they screwed up or not. They just keep going.
/r/seduction17/07/26 06:52 PM
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I would edit to say that if you go for very hot women and get rejected and start going for lower tier, you will eventually work your way back up to hotter women after having the practice. I’ve fucked some mediocre women, but then found that the ones I was able to pull started getting hotter and hotter. Until I was fucking women with Victoria’s Secret model bodies. All came from practice… Which built confidence.
/r/seduction17/07/26 06:08 PM
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Have one kinky lady friend Befriend a Goth chick Go on Feeld or Fetlife Practice makes perfect.
/r/seduction17/07/26 04:24 PM
1

Sell the results. Not the name. But too many clowns do the latter here.
/r/seduction15/07/26 06:37 PM
1

Slapping a novel name onto a typical human behavior isn’t “coaching.” It’s mental masturbation trying to convince yourself you’re smart.
/r/seduction15/07/26 05:31 PM
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It’s shitty supply. Selling a faulty product. If it was in a package the FTC would have a field day with it. Snake oil.
/r/seduction15/07/26 05:28 PM
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You’re putting women on a pedestal. Just realize that for every woman you speak to, it’s just practice for the next one. There are millions of women on this earth. Your destiny doesn’t rely on the one you’re about to talk to. You’re giving yourself an unnecessary challenge. Lots of women don’t want to be spoken to at the gym. And that environment is not really conducive to just going up to someone and starting a convo, no matter what anyone says. When you’re doing sales and speaking to women in …
/r/seduction13/07/26 11:31 PM
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They do but it’s just harder and they are more discriminating.
/r/seduction12/07/26 10:58 AM
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Great point. I live in a very affluent area - lots of educated professional women who think hookups are taboo. I have to go to neighborhood bars with blue collar women to get results.
/r/seduction11/07/26 11:07 PM
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Definitely cancel. Been through this a million times. They are likely going to be either a boring date or they will cancel right before the date because they realized they don’t want to make the effort. No sense in you spending money or time on them. TBH, I have been out with some women who were the opposite IRL than on text… Really fun IRL but boring texters. If you have absolutely NOTHING going on then go for it and see if she’s different. If she’s still boring, no harm in walking out of the d…
/r/seduction11/07/26 01:23 PM
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Kudos on the older woman. But you should have changed your plans when she wanted to come over. You need to strike while the iron is hot. Women’s decisions to engage you can turn on a dime.
/r/seduction10/07/26 10:36 AM
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I always say the same - try to make plans within the first 10 msgs. They will volunteer their number if they like you. I’ve never had to ask for a number ever.
/r/seduction09/07/26 03:19 PM
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Ask her if she's looking for you on there to ask you on a date. Then tell her "I'm right here."
/r/seduction09/07/26 11:06 AM
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Then approach women to “just talk.” Don’t concentrate on the end game. One second at a time.
/r/seduction08/07/26 09:35 PM
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You’ve already been dumped. Move on. Not your fault. She’s a mental mess.
/r/seduction08/07/26 10:56 AM
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All these dumb names for all these techniques crack me up. Here’s a tip: learn how to have a normal conversation, normally. Have fun and don’t occupy 3/4 of your brain with what faux technique you should be pulling out of your pocket. Just fucking have a conversation and, while you’re having fun at some point, remember to ask them out/somewhere else. Practice makes perfect. That’s it.
/r/seduction07/07/26 09:25 PM
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How do you go a few weeks without anything sexual? Just tell her the truth- you’re not ready for love. You like her but it’s all fast for you.
/r/seduction07/07/26 05:42 PM
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Biorhythms. They all get horny before that time of the month. Then they’re out of commission and your phone goes silent. Couple weeks later… Cycle begins again.
/r/seduction07/07/26 03:46 AM
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Of the two I think there’s probably hotter women in LA and more receptive to approaches than NYC. But neither one is a bad choice.
/r/seduction07/07/26 12:15 AM
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Be confident. Be direct in asking what you want. Let women know what you’re about, unabashedly. To be a fuck boi you want to be the one they call to fuck. So you have to be top of mind for them when they want it. They need to know you’re available to deliver on what they want, when they want it - like Booty Call Doordash. That means taking care of yourself, offering something different, and having some sort of feature about you they can tell their friends about… Whether it’s your job, your looks…
/r/seduction06/07/26 10:22 PM
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u/norwegiandoggo has it nailed better than anyone on this thread. NY Native here. Yes-more women. Yes-great ratio. Yes – tons of Latinas. Yes-tons of rich Wall Street dudes and Chads. No - not all the men here are. But here’s the big Yes: the women here have been conditioned for decades to go for those guys. The city is one big rat race where everyone hustles to get the best they can of everything. So the women are very discriminating and picky. So it will be more challenging. Can you probably g…
/r/seduction06/07/26 10:17 PM
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Find out what women want and what they find hot. Back in the day I used to read Cosmopolitan. A women’s magazine. Because that’s where all the articles were about what women want in a man and what they found sexy. (Eg I grew a beard and my amount of pussy tripled.) Go where the women are. It’s like the old saying, “why do you rob banks? Because that’s where the money is.“ Be in the places that women go to… Target, TJ Maxx, supermarket, laundromat. Don’t treat every encounter like it’s the only o…
/r/seduction06/07/26 06:00 PM
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This is the way, Gents.
/r/seduction06/07/26 05:56 PM
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They want to be understood in a relationship. They want to be intrigued on an approach or flirtation.
/r/seduction06/07/26 01:53 AM
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It’s tough. Especially if you’re a sympathetic person by nature. I tried to solve it by picturing myself as a different persona then an emotionally sensitive guy. I try to remind myself to be in command, and act almost like a father or pool lifeguard type, who is engaged, but not enamored…and just distracted enough for them not to think you’re feeling their pain. Just feel yourself standing strong and ask for what you want. I have a buddy who’s good at deflecting his own sensitivity but that’s m…
/r/seduction06/07/26 12:27 AM
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You’re framing yourself as what I call a mimic. You’re likely absorbing and projecting back their own behavior and emotions. I did that for a long time. It lands you in the friend zone quickly. Women can easily dictate the vibe for a situation and more innately passive men will succumb. Then you become as sympathetic as they are naturally and you pretty much become another girlfriend.
/r/seduction05/07/26 12:40 PM
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This. 9s and 10s can smell it a mile away if you’re putting yourself below them. You need to comfortable with yourself and look at her as just another woman. That’s what they want.
/r/seduction05/07/26 12:34 PM
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Was she bumping into you because she was drunk? When getting mixed signals I usually move on. If you see her again in the dorm just be polite and don’t light up (your face- not a smoke) when you see her.
/r/seduction04/07/26 02:23 PM
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People have been kissing spontaneously for thousands of years. If she pushes back and he forces it, yes — for sure. But going in for a kiss without verbal consent after you’ve had positive signals is not illegal.
/r/seduction04/07/26 10:51 AM
0

It works. And if it comes naturally it’s not bluster.
/r/seduction03/07/26 11:43 PM
4

Never asking questions. Always being definitive and stating exactly what you want. Always letting her know the next move because you planned it in advance. It’s never “Want to come back to my place?” It’s “You’re coming back to my place.” Have the same mindset as mowing your lawn. You take the mower and push it in a predetermined path. You don’t ask questions. If you hit a bump you readjust but keep going forward until you’re at the end.
/r/seduction03/07/26 02:39 PM
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Just walk by nonchalantly and pretend you’re just asking as you pass.
/r/seduction03/07/26 01:45 PM
1

Girl tanning on the beach: "Fried yet?" It can be as simple as that. Just say something that comes to mind.
/r/seduction02/07/26 10:40 PM
2

Don’t try too hard. Make sure it’s something they’ll understand quickly. Trial and error is your friend.
/r/seduction02/07/26 04:19 PM
1

Why didn’t you escalate and ask to go up to her apartment after kissing her?
/r/seduction01/07/26 08:01 PM
3

Act as if you’re withdrawing interest. Don’t spoil her with attention anymore. Just be polite and hands off. If she likes you enough to make out it with she’ll notice and try harder to keep things moving.
/r/seduction30/06/26 07:07 PM
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I should add: *strike while the iron is hot.* If you have an opportunity, take it without hesitation. If a woman wants to meet in the next hour, or tonight, DO IT. Or you’ll lose your chance and she’ll onto the next guy. I’ve had women who were ready to meet at a hotel /park within the hour to get laid. I was in my car and on the way within minutes.
/r/seduction30/06/26 01:49 PM
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You might say something like asking if they’re up for some (naughty) fun or something “spontaneous.”
/r/seduction30/06/26 02:25 AM
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Quick hookups: Make it clear you’re looking to hook up without being graphic or blunt. Flirt from your opening line and ease into getting her to reveal her intentions (as you reveal yours.) Don’t waste time chatting miscellaneous things. You should be proposing to meet within the first 10 msgs. Women who are on there to get laid are getting messages from lots of guys and they don’t want to waste time with conversation. They want to know you’re reliable and will satisfy their need. Have a plan re…
/r/seduction30/06/26 01:56 AM
4

US is the hardest so you may do well abroad. Plus you’ll have the “foreign boy factor” going for you.
/r/seduction30/06/26 12:46 AM
10

You don’t become a great hitter by only practicing with slow pitches.
/r/seduction29/06/26 09:43 PM
12

You might be surprised to learn that college women can exist outside of campus property. Especially if you’re in a large city.
/r/seduction29/06/26 05:08 PM
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Not entirely. I’m 40+ and have pulled college girls. Just have to be vigilant on Tinder or take lots of shots IRL. Difficult but not impossible.
/r/seduction29/06/26 02:10 PM
2

Sometimes I get bored and go out just to see who to cold approach just for the fun of it. Other times it’s in the course of other normal activity.
/r/seduction28/06/26 12:36 AM
1

Set the stage. Segue humor into a mutual interest and make plans to hang out. Meet with them as close to one of your beds as possible. Bring on the fun wherever you are. As soon as you start sensing less reaction to your charms, escalate and offer up a nonchalant reason to get to where one of your beds are. Be making out within the first 10 min of being alone together.
/r/seduction27/06/26 03:24 AM
0

Fuck the 4-5s. They can be awesome in bed and who knows- one may build some word of mouth for you and before you know it you’re fucking her 9-10 friend. (Or better yet, a threesome.) In the least, get the fucking practice in or your 9 will be a one-off.
/r/seduction25/06/26 05:27 PM
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Give them a good incentive to go to your place, based on their likes/ interests. They like certain music? Invite them to come listen to some vinyl. Particular food? Offer it at your place for delivery. Travel? Offer to show a unique souvenir that you have at home. Work it into conversation. If you’re talking about pets, mention your dog and how he does tricks etc and say, “You have to come see this sometime…” (She’ll know the time you mean is now.) Find what they like and relate it to your place…
/r/seduction24/06/26 09:53 AM
2

If the subject comes up, yes. If you’re honest about what you want, you’ll get it. Women would rather know what you’re all about than try to gamble on a guess.
/r/seduction23/06/26 11:40 AM
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Enjoy having fun. The more women you experience the more sure you’ll be of what you really want later on. Just don’t be a douche and take advantage of women. Even hookups can be respectful.
/r/seduction22/06/26 07:14 PM
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To clarify, it should be how OP positions himself. If he makes it clear to a woman that he just wants to fuck her, and that he’s just there for the fucking, at least she knows where he stands and maybe the day comes where that’s all she wants …and he’s suddenly top of mind.
/r/seduction22/06/26 04:33 PM
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Isolate then escalate. If you don’t have your own place ask her if she wants to leave the club. Make out/fuck in a park or whatever if you can’t get a hotel room or if she doesn’t offer up her own pad.
/r/seduction22/06/26 03:30 PM
1

Simple flow chart for following your gut: Do you want to get to know them more? Date. Do you just want to fuck them? Just fuck. Simple. Don’t apply any other rules, acronyms, buzzwords etc to it. Edit to add: I have lots of buddies who try to convince themselves they really “like“ that woman they met. But that’s only to avoid the guilt of admitting all they wanna do is fuck them and they don’t care about anything else. Then they end up in a relationship that makes them miserable AF. Be honest wi…
/r/seduction22/06/26 12:14 PM
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Another vote for bipolar. OP, walk away. Report her to your boss if she interferes with your work any more.
/r/seduction22/06/26 12:12 PM
2

Prob the only ones in your reach are low-grade millionaires. So- Women who work in tech in tech cities - Silicon Valley, Austin, NYC, etc. Airports etc- business women who aren’t embedded in their laptops bc they’re likely upper management. Affluent small suburbs- women who are home during the day at nice restaurants but dressed very casually. Small business clubs- women who are doing the lectures and not the ones attending.
/r/seduction22/06/26 10:08 AM
2

Two possibilities: 1- She only wanted to be in the Mile High Club. You should have escalated and slowly attempted to get more physical. Maybe you could have gotten a handie. 2- She’s the bipolar / ADHD type who can fall in love in a second and then forget your name. More likely #2
/r/seduction22/06/26 09:55 AM
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It’s proven. Been doing it forever when the situation calls for it. Great way to break through in a crowded environment. Establishes you as bold, confident and commanding. Good luck!
/r/seduction19/06/26 08:31 PM
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The key is to not act eager when you wave her over… act the way a bouncer or her dad would - like it’s important. I’ve done this even to 40+ women and they’ve walked across the entire bar area.
/r/seduction19/06/26 08:19 PM
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I wave them over. Stand my ground and literally beckon them to come to me. You’d be shocked at how often this works. They can’t contain their curiosity. Then I say something glib like “You were supposed to have a drink with me 10 minutes ago and you’re late.” Commence convo.
/r/seduction19/06/26 08:00 PM
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Try not to get upset over it. Different people like different things and feel different ways in bed. Sex is a very personal experience. Unless she directly communicated it to you during the act, is very hard to do exactly what pleases her. Sounds like she’s being a bit harsh to tell you now then during the relationship. Not enough to say it was bad… She should have given you specifics and been patient with you. This is not the end for you. Sex is a skill… Gets better with experience and time. So…
/r/seduction19/06/26 10:45 AM
1

I’m mediocre looking but make great conversation and have a “resume” that seems appealing to women.
/r/seduction18/06/26 05:44 PM
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True!
/r/seduction18/06/26 05:42 PM
1

Yeah, except you weren’t there. This was a single woman in her 30s and knew other people in the bar. Didn’t know whether she was going to the restroom or what when she got up. Not like she completely got off the barstool and announced goodbye. Her phone, purse and everything was still right next to me. We were both waiting for our food. Had every reason to believe she’d be back in 2 min. Would have looked desperate AF to ask for her number as soon as she got up, especially if she was just going …
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:31 PM
1

Sure. Right away.
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:27 PM
1

Nope. But has happened before.
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:25 PM
3

You talk about asking for her number immediately but then you also talk about being chill and not sexualizing. Dumb. I got the convo started with this woman at the bar and it was going well. Would’ve been stupid AF to sit at a bar and ask a woman’s number within a minute or two. We got to learn about each other and build rapport. Even if it failed, if I see her there again, I’m the guy who made a move and have an immediate opener. If not, c’est la vie. You say you have experience, but it clearly…
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:06 PM
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You have zero clue what you’re talking about. Just because you don’t like my style doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. 175 no problem. Granted I’m prob older than you. That also = experience you prob don’t have. Keep playing the little boy’s game. I’m just here for the entertainment.
/r/seduction18/06/26 02:04 PM
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Ha. Yet I have luck and pull. I only posted these two episodes for fun. Call me creep all you want: Body count is 175+ but thanks for the tips.
/r/seduction18/06/26 01:35 PM
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Better to take a shot though then walk away and do nothing. Edit to add some context: I wasn’t going to wait for her to come back to her seat. Plus I cold approach pretty naturally so I never think any prospect is my “one and only shot.“ If she wasn’t going to txt me, so be it. But if she did, I knew she was really interested. There’s always another opportunity.
/r/seduction18/06/26 12:38 PM
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Stores where mostly women shop - Target etc. Have gotten chats at Walmart and Home Depot too actually. Coffee shops are a given.
/r/seduction15/06/26 02:38 PM
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Be yourself and be confident in yourself from the minute you appear to them. Act as if you have thousands of other options. Because you do.
/r/seduction13/06/26 02:27 AM
2

Kudos for trying. Can’t win ‘em all. You’ll get there. Keep up the good work
/r/seduction13/06/26 01:15 AM
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Make plans to meet for a common interest offsite- concert or whatever. Whatever happens then is not on company time.
/r/seduction11/06/26 10:57 PM
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That’s how I took it. Misleading.
/r/seduction10/06/26 10:47 PM
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ps - in terms of what to say, in this case, I told the truth: we can go back to my place just to hang out, and I would not touch her… Unless she made it clear she wanted to. But that I would be completely hands-off and the object was for her to see where I live and hang out to refresh. That is the truth and about 3/4 of the time for me, it ends up in fucking.
/r/seduction07/06/26 08:12 PM
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The deal needs to be almost sealed before the first date. That’s the way first date fucks happen. Met a woman on Tinder and we texted for a couple days. She loved hiking so I made a first date for a hike on an open trail. Different for me because I usually do drinks or dinner. On the hike we got talking about exes and sexes, and it was clear that given our prior chats and how we were having fun, she was coming back to my place. After the hike, she did. Had some awesome sex and met up again two o…
/r/seduction07/06/26 08:09 PM
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The decision is made before they even talk to you. The quick “yeses” only happen when you’ve developed some persona they know about in advance - from the minute you walk into the room or if they know of you prior. Eg: if I match a woman on a dating app, my texting game is gonna seduce them into a Yes before we even meet. Have gotten so many Date 1 and Date 2 fucks this way. You need to be surrounded by a fantasy for them instead of being just another cold approacher.
/r/seduction06/06/26 10:48 PM
1

That’s definitely the reason she ghosted him. She was probably so horny and had a window and feels like he wasted her time when she could have been banging someone else.
/r/seduction31/05/26 11:58 AM
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It’s not about being in great shape. You can be in great shape and look like a simp. Or you can be in mediocre shape and look like a mug shot. Women seem to be physically attracted to the latter.
/r/seduction31/05/26 11:50 AM
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I don’t think women necessarily like bad boys, but they like the “bad boy mystique“ I think the optimal zone to be in is to look and carry yourself like you’re bad but be a good upstanding guy. I think this is the invisible target most women look for. The geek or simp persona doesn’t seem like it’s extremely attractive on the surface. But whether you’re bad or not, give a woman some physical semblance of strong/macho/rough and I think that’s a turn on for them. So many Reddit posts asking women …
/r/seduction31/05/26 11:09 AM
2

Yes. If they’re not interested by the time you get to the car, it might be because they think you’re sending them home without an invite to your place. I haven’t been in this situation too often… Places I take women usually have a short trip from the venue door to the car and we’re making out as soon as we’re in the parking lot. Then I toss out the invite. If they don’t come to my place that night, they come on the second date and there’s fucking 100 percent.
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:18 PM
2

You flirt. You be coy. You give her something to look forward to. You hint that something could happen, but you don’t flat out say it. Blunt is for when you’re either at a rave or in the middle of fucking. If she is into going back to your place and doing more, you would get that signal during dinner. Women can be coy about this. You may mention something you have at home and they may say, “I want to see that.“ That’s your window to invite them over. If you think she’s been going too fast and th…
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:16 PM
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AI.
/r/seduction29/05/26 08:12 PM
2

NYC is hard AF. Unless you’re in a bar or at an event, every woman is moving past you at 90 mph. Fear is not an option in that town. You have to be pretty quick on the wit and pretty sharp. Best you can do is keep practicing. Expect to fail but approach like you won’t. Ironically, as standoffish as women seem in this town, lots of them want to connect. Just trial and error… You won’t run out of women to practice on. Edit: Central Park is best, esp on a weekend. Women aren’t rushing around to wor…
/r/seduction29/05/26 06:14 PM
1

How do you get to Carnegie Hall?
/r/seduction29/05/26 05:31 PM
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If she suddenly starts “recoiling“ it’s probably because you brought something up too soon or you’re moving too quickly. Don’t try to make any invitations during the main event of the date. Anything should come as you’re ready to leave the venue or when you’re out of it. Also realize that pre-date flirting is key. I am fully confident that a woman’s decision to sleep with you is made before you both even get out on the date. If you’ve seduced her mind first, you’re 75% there.
/r/seduction29/05/26 05:30 PM
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If I take a woman to dinner or drinks I’m usually going in for a kiss right when we’re at the car or outside the restaurant. Get to a place where it’s not awkward to embrace her and pull her in for a kiss (of course if you’re confident she’s willing and she consents.) For many women I’ve gotten to a kiss at the bar or table then it’s easy from there to your place. Even if you don’t get any contact pre-abode, ask her back to your place anyway.
/r/seduction29/05/26 05:27 PM
3

Initial convo > ask for a date early on > make a move on the date > ask her to your place > TV/wine/whatever for quick warmup> make out and lead her into the bedroom.
/r/seduction29/05/26 05:13 PM
1

This is great advice. Adding to that: Barring moving to another city, use the dating apps, but expand your range. Try to match with women in the closest big city. At least it’s practice for your game. And you never know… I’ve had many instances where a woman is traveling and all of a sudden we are in the same area. Also try to join some groups in or close to your town. There might be a club the next town over with women or better yet… women with single friends or relatives… Keep all options open…
/r/seduction29/05/26 04:17 PM
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Be there. Be a good listener. Be strong and confident. Treat her just well enough that you don’t come off as a pushover. When she likes another guy, turn the other cheek and only show a drop of jealousy at most. Then be patient.
/r/seduction28/05/26 09:04 PM
2

Exactly. Just start talking to them about the deep shit. Ask about hobbies or their education. They immediately know their looks won’t be enough to hook you.
/r/seduction28/05/26 03:50 AM
0

Try Feeld or go to Secrets in Kissimmee and get up a chat w other swingers.
/r/seduction27/05/26 12:06 AM
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Doesn’t mean you can’t bang attractive women. It just means you have to concentrate less on the pressure of living up to their looks/expectations and slow it down to the point where it feels good enough for your cock to get hard and cum. Had a similar problem myself. You have to change your whole mindset and focus on you and what feels good to you in the moment. And don’t pound. Take it slowly. She’ll appreciate that too.
/r/seduction26/05/26 11:22 PM
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You’re fucking women you don’t really want to fuck and your pee pee knows better. Slow it down.
/r/seduction26/05/26 11:00 PM
2

Good point. If OP isn’t converting women in his crib to bangs, he must have action figures all over his place like 40 Year Old Virgin. OP, is there anything about your pad that’s a turnoff or puts you in the Friendzone? I get a chick into my apartment in NY on second or third date and 9 times outta 10 we’re fucking without wasting much time.
/r/seduction26/05/26 10:46 PM
1

Truth. Mid 40s and up and you’ll be banging like Ron Jeremy. Dating apps and IRL.
/r/seduction26/05/26 10:41 PM
1

Cold approach in NYC is tough (unless at a party or bar IMO).
/r/seduction26/05/26 10:40 PM
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