TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

TRWolf Archive

View 2 posts and 74 comments by TRWolf on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
63

TRWolf/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/14 05:22 PM
9

TRWolf/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 06:36 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

Off with you, lassie. Your Pinterest board needs updating.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 11:21 AM
1

Yep, this. You did fine, but just erred on the side of letting it go on too long.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/18 03:10 PM
2

Totally agree, and if you've had multiple, I'd speculate that something larger is going on. Either she is not worth keeping or you are backpedaling between events. Edit: and yeah, a main event may be a necessary evil in some cases but never a goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:32 PM
1

Great commentary on two central themes in MRP. I'll also remind everyone that main events are often necessary when marriages are started under the blue plue, feminine imperative mindset and you need to reset the expectations and dynamic of the relationship. There is no certainty that the relationship will survive, or that you even want it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 05:19 PM
1

This is one of those areas that I need to work on. I give the look, she confronts me on it, and I engage. I need to learn to just say, "you know" or "knock it off" and then shut my mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 07:45 PM
1

FWBs are people you kinda like, have some common interests in, and fuck. So, #1 and #2 combined in your model That's how I see it too. Like I said, there are elements of all these things in every relationship. 4 sounds like what I think should be felt for all people, as caring to me is generally wanting no harm to befall them Definitely. There's passive caring (I want everyone to be happy) and active caring (I take care of my family, my aging parents, those in need). I think you touched on the k…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 06:04 PM
3

I might even be so bold as to pre-empt the conversation. "You don't seem to want to be here. I'm good with a lot of things, but one thing I won't accept is being with someone who doesn't want to be with me. If you don't want to be here, then go. If you want to be here, you better start acting like it."
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 07:25 PM
1

I don't see it as nobody caring. I'm learning that I can't assume who should care about me. I find people who care, and I do what I can to keep them in my life. Those are my closest friends and partners. But you're right - the people who I thought should or would care? They don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 07:12 PM
5

AMEN TL;DR - every relationship is made up of four aspects and we are constantly getting ourselves into trouble by mixing them up and getting them confused. The four aspects of any relationship, according to me(be warned, a lot of thought on this but very quickly trying to scribble this down to work at internet speed. This may not be communicated very clearly.): Friend - you share common interests and history. You enjoy hanging out, sharing perspective. This can even include a sense of emotional…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 07:09 PM
4

I'm glad this thread came up. I've been mulling this over for a few months now. Over the last couple years, I've been completely remapping my perception and priorities in my mind. I've been dissecting every action, every relationship. I've questioned every assumption. I've gone through the same emptiness experience as the OP. Now that I've recalibrated my priorities and my purpose of life, I'm going through the long slow process of adjusting the momentum of my life to match. My career, my friend…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 06:22 PM
-5

Try more innuendo. The more subtle the better but the nice thing about marriage game is that an occasional gross sexual joke just gets an eye roll. So don't be afraid to continue to present yourself as being sexually focused in a fun and playful way.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:33 AM
4

"Fortunately for me, I really don't care about your opinion on my career choices." Disagree. This is argumentative, and if it were really true, you wouldn't have to say. Here's another take, think that statement in your head, and let your facial expression do all the talking. Absolutely right, though, on the money part.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 07:04 PM
3

Good luck with that. Won't happen except with the unicorns. They can know they do it. They can even be embarrassed by it. They still can't stop themselves.
/r/TheRedPill03/02/15 05:42 AM
1

Funny. Similar here too. My wife was the only woman I had ever been with that didn't like receiving oral. Makes her too self-conscious. Finally, I just had to insist. I can feel her get a little tense, but she eventually relaxes, then screams her approval. Over time, I think she'll loosen up about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 08:35 PM
3

Very similar situation here. I've practice martial arts for many years, successful career, and we just built a custom house of my design with quite a bit of my own sweat and blood (not to mention the mountain of cash). All my other hobbies include making something (furniture, wine, cars). My wife has come to expect this mad ability as the norm, and it has seldom impressed her in any way. I have a theory on why, though it's only a theory. Despite all this, I lacked any confidence in social situat…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 08:28 PM
1

It was gradual as my learning curve grew over the last several months. She has accepted it as it has grown, but she has required time to be good with it (that is still in process). I read NMMNG a little over two years ago and didn't make any attempt to hide it or the definition of boundaries. She noticed, made a series of what I now recognize as shit and comfort tests. I started quietly implementing RP-related changes almost a year ago. We had a major blow-up in July, and that's when I seized co…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 11:23 PM
1

Good question. For me it came from the initiative to succeed, to do better, to be better. I was unsatisfied despite years of trying to be the best guy I could be. Something wasn't working. Found reddit through Slate, EMSK on Reddit, and /r/theredpill from there. It spoke to me. But, without that dissatisfaction with my status quo and the realization that I didn't know how to fix it, I probably would have rejected TRP as so many beta chumps before me. To unplug others, you have to first appeal to…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 08:28 PM
1

I'm with you, man. I need to stoke the fire more. I've found a new way to roll with the rejection, too. Even if I get shot down in that moment, it puts the thought in her mind for later. Keep doing it until she hits her tipping point.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 08:13 PM
2

Hell, yeah! I think a little wife-bragging is needed. Let's hear it, guys!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 07:11 PM
3

You got an unsolicited 15 minute BJ and a very weak "wah, you spend too much time on the phone." Just let it go. Damn, what I'd give for a spontaneous ANYTHING.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 01:14 AM
1

I've gained a lot of enthusiasm for my new perspective by simply immersing myself in things that celebrate masculinity. Building things, quests, challenges, adventure. For some inspiration, I've read a few autobiographies of the badasses of old - Theodore Roosevelt being one of my favorites. Travel is awesome for getting in touch with yourself. If it were me, instead of a foreign trip (not that it's not cool, but I would do these things first, and they're right here), I'd roadtrip the US. Pick a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 06:58 PM
2

A few things that might be an issue about that. Think about it this way: either he forgot about it (most likely), he has another plan for whatever it is (if he let it go bad, not likely), or he intended for you/her to put it away for him (not cool). Then, you either trust the guy or you don't. If you don't, then the RP dynamic simply won't work. But if you do, then treat him like it was an honest mistake and don't make a big deal over it. " I'm frustrated" communicates emotion and can make him d…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 01:42 AM
2

The Surrendered Wife approach is a good start. I would approach it by asking questions that highlight the need. "Did you intend to leave this out?" Stating what you need or want is not bad either, "I'd prefer that this didn't stay out." He might not pick it up right away, but it is a gentle reminder that he left it. Assertive communication is fine, as described in "When I say no..." in the sidebar. Stay away from unsolicited advice or being bossy or manipulation, " you need to..." or " if you do…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/15 01:14 AM
2

Thanks mods, this is great. Can you elaborate on "status" so you get the info you're looking for?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/15 04:45 PM
2

The Professor, per usual, has the golden word on this. I'd definitely start immediately with what you read in NMMNG. There is no excuse, ever, for her to bring the bitch and walk all over your boundaries. Respectful criticism or requests are one thing. What we allowed our ladies to do in our beta days is an abomination.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 11:13 PM
2

Martial arts is huge, couldn't agree more. Regular meditation practice as well. I haven't been doing nearly enough of either.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 08:52 PM
5

Women are masters are compartmentalizing. I don't know about this. On one hand, yes, it amazes me that an argument between my wife and I can get her in the mood. At the same time, I've seen the most minor of incidents put my wife as well as women I work with in a funk that will last for days. I don't know that it's compartmentalism as much as the experience emotion differently from us. We see love and anger more as opposites, whereas love and anger are much more related to them - both strong emo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 02:50 PM
1

I like the humorous diffusions along these lines. Here are some examples that have worked well for me, FWIW: AM: "the look", smirk with a look of "you serious?" A&A: "you're right, I NEVER clean the kitchen." AM: "It's so adorable when you get feisty"
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 02:40 PM
2

I know how you feel, man. The absolute first thing you do before you implement any other advice is to make absolute sure that you don't bring a child into this. If you have a dead bedroom, then so be it, but make sure you have two forms of birth control going. I cannot overemphasize this point. Can you give some details on what you mean by her not being your type?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/15 02:13 PM
2

Solipsism and ego lead to a difficult embarrassment when they realize how silly they've been. Some have bigger ego's than others, or have just become so unconciously comfortable with their self-centeredness. I've very recently started recognizing a look with my wife that says, "oh shit, what am I doing?" It only happens if I'm not confronting her but tangentially make her aware of her actions (usually through amused mastery or A&A or just a well placed smile). When I see it, I know that I don't …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 08:21 PM
2

The Art of Seduction is the authority on this, combined with the foundation set by Way of the Superior Man. Then I layer in a good helping of a sense of humor, and then just try to focus on being fun and emphasizing the best of my personality traits. And I'm with Pheonix on this too - keep a positive outlook and a good mood. My mood can sometimes turn hers around (from neutral to good or bad to neutral). This is really tough for me, because I'm an introvert by nature and need some sanctuary. I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 08:06 PM
1

I'm not disagreeing - sometimes a good show of emotion can be a good thing, but more often cold and in control can get a lot more attention. If you get in touch with your inner Iceman and deadpan state that 1) This type of behavior is disrespectful and inappropriate of a married woman in general, and your wife specifically 2) It will not be tolerated 3) It is her choice to behave in an appropriate manner, and to live with the consequences if she does not. 4) Then the conversation ends She can't …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 06:31 PM
2

Completely agree. I wouldn't do this if it weren't for the kids, and I feel like the biggest beta idiot for allowing myself to get here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 04:31 PM
2

I'm really happy that this was of help to you. I'm carving out some time to post another follow up. Hopefully in the next few days. I'd like to say that everything is blissful, but I can't. The idyllic marriage that I envisioned is obviously unrealistic. I'm trying to figure out now what form this relationship can take so that we can do the best for the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 04:28 PM
1

Yep, Rollo Tomassi writes the blog you linked to, as well as the book of the same name.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 04:25 PM
1

Neither. Still testing, still trying to figure out how to express herself without making demands or venting hyperbole.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 03:06 PM
1

Yeah, Rollo is the man. A lot of what I post is simply processing what he has written for my experiences.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 03:48 PM
2

I'm having a hard time following what you are disagreeing with. I'm talking about a series of experiences in my own life and several on this sub that illustrate a different aspect of solipsism and hypergamy in the context of marriage, particularly when kids are involved. Part of my point is that I'm often surprised some of this works, so the idea that we're just blurting platitudes doesn't follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/15 05:10 AM
2

Awesome questions! Let's see what I can do with this... At it's foundation, the Mission is first, and it's your Mission. One of my Mission objectives is to raise the happiest, most well-positioned kids possible. This is very different than entitled brats (mutually exclusive as far as I'm concerned). I will create opportunities for them and help them to capitalize on the opportunities in their lives, but there will be very few free rides. The absolute best way to do that financially, emotionally,…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 07:43 PM
1

"well come on then. I'll show you how to strip and clean my pistol." "you're right, I've been meaning to learn to scrapbook. Can we invite your girlfriends over for a scrapping party and talk about our guy troubles?" "what do you mean, we watched a romantic comedy last year!" "don't be silly. I love that you're a knockout and you love that I'm a big stud. " "don't be silly. I love sammiches and you know how to make them. Now go be a dear." Or the direct approach: "No worries. Do you want to lear…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 05:40 AM
2

After her last blowup to test my newfound leadership, I told mine that she was either all in or all out. If she wasn't happy, she was free to go - I am not going to keep her against her will. However, if she decides to stay, she better start acting like she wants to be here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 05:08 AM
3

This is progress. Keep it up. When in doubt, just smile. If she's doing nice things, if she's crazy. Smile. I practice it in the mirror and in the car on the ride home. Calm, confident smiles.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 04:46 AM
2

My situation is somewhere in between. A but tougher case, 11 years married. I was exposed to the RP 9 months ago. Still a daily challenge. I see progress, but she can't help but to test my mettle regularly. I am beginning to fully internalize what Rollo and others mean when they say that women are incapable of loving you the way that you would want and they cannot understand the sacrifice that men are willing to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 04:37 AM
2

Perfect reference. I was thinking if this too. This passage has been one of the keys for me to just let go and not get caught in the madness. It's related to outcome independence. My wife continues to test how strong I can be. She has bad self confidence and hormone issues. She is completely open that she wants to rely on me to stay strong in the face of her hysteria. She knows she does it, is embarrassed by it, and still can't stop it. All I've been able to do is embrace the chaos and try to ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 04:17 AM
1

No door slam but I did pin her against the wall more recently. She got a kick out of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/14 12:41 AM
3

Different women do have different levels of interest in dominance. Some want it and know it, some don't know what they don't know. My wife freaked when I started introducing some more dominance. Complete shut down and nervous conversation for weeks afterward. I didn't even do anything radical - just a new level of intensity. I backed off the D and focused on the EVI (Sex God references for those who haven't read it). I've been slowly introducing more dominance over the last several weeks to get …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/14 03:43 PM
4

I appreciate the spirit of what you are saying here, and for that you got my upvote, but there are a few things that need mentioning in this forum. ...think carefully before you next your partner...while you were sold the feminist agenda, so were we This is absolutely true, an excellent point to remember, and perhaps where the scope of the post should have remained. My wife has definitely responded to my transition in a confused but optimistic way. She's admitted that this is what she wants, des…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/14 03:40 PM
2

The downvotes are coming because you haven't bothered to do the research. If you want to lurk, feel free. Most around here are adamant about only commenting when you have something of value to say. No research and experience = no value.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/14 05:59 PM
2

The good news is that there are levels to lead up to this. Indicate you're not satisfied with the sex Let her hamster spin on how other women are attracted to you With these bits of dread in place, my wife said on a few occasions that I should get a mistress because she didn't see herself as up to the task. At the same time, activity increased 10x. I recognized this as a test, didn't say anything other than to reminder her that getting a mistress would crush her. (I figured her hamster needed a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/14 02:59 PM
2

This is the key, and the source of all the weird comments flying around. It's a bummer that it has been buried in the thread. Yes, you should be able to identify these overt indications of interest that a girl will give you when she is actively pursuing. These are the easy ones. This is the crawling part of learning seduction. This doesn't happen very often - many girls are too jaded to show overt signs. So, the key is to see the more subtle, unconscious stuff. And that, my friends is the art th…
/r/seduction14/11/14 09:20 PM
1

And then her Inbox blew up
/r/seduction14/11/14 09:12 PM
8

Game, set, match. What's most dreadful is that years ago, I would have done something to dismiss that, comfort her, pacify her. Now I know that perhaps she was looking for the pacification on the surface, but her deeper desire is for me to step up. That's the hardest part of this whole thing. I've always, always been a huge proponent of inner game. I've worked really hard to be the man I want to be, and I've never slacked off in that mission. It's embarrassing to me to see how passive I've been …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/14 04:25 PM
3

By "reset" I mean take control of what is important to you. For me it was all about the sex. For me, the first priority was to stop the constant criticism. Sex came a close and natural second. I think the reset dynamic is a key aspect of all this. Up until the point that the expectation is very clearly reset and then enforced, she's likely to push back and doubt. At one point, my wife even said that she had no idea I wanted more sex. I was mortified, first because I couldn't understand how she c…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/14 03:58 PM
4

No doubt, Count. I felt the same way when I read your FR's. They were HUGE in helping me to understand my own situation, and crystallize my thinking on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/14 07:53 PM
2

Gaaaaahhh!!! No!! "Here, Honey. You need to man up and are not willing or able to do it yourself. Let me show you the way." If he doesn't get on it himself, it will be lost on him. She cannot be the one to initiate his transformation.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/14 06:01 PM
6

Yes, women will do this. They will also pull the divorce card for other reasons. It's a common thread that when a guy takes the red pill in a marriage, this freaks the wife out. Her comfort erodes and she panics. She will lash out with all kinds of crazy things, and it often comes to a head in a huge blowout fight. It has nothing to do with another man in this case.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 05:43 PM
18

Red flags, yes. Evidence, no. Women will often use the divorce card in the same way that teens will attempt suicide to get attention. They don't want a divorce, but they do want you step into line.
/r/TheRedPill13/11/14 05:36 PM
2

The webs are full of motivational support. I don't know if there's anything we can offer you here other than this: You will have a mission in life. It's up to you whether you choose or you wait to be assigned. Trust me, the best ones don't go to the ones that wait.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 06:19 PM
5

Absolutely right. This is just an extreme example of an average frustrated married chump. There are millions of us who can relate. /r/marriedredpill is full of guys putting the pieces back together after years of blue pill horrors.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/14 06:10 PM
2

This has long since blown over I'm sure, but I have a different take on the situation. And in short, you're taking this waaaaayyyy too seriously. If my wife sent me something like this, I would have taken it as a come-on and would have escalated with her the very next time I saw her. It sounds to me, from your original post, and some of your other comments, that she's trying to be fun and playful with you. There's no indication that she's taking this other guy seriously (let's be clear here, she…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/14 01:13 PM
4

So, put another way, you are not ready to get married unless you are willing to give your life for this person ("people" when the kids come) if needed. In fact, that's not a bad response when your girlfriend starts asking if/when you're going to ask her, "I'm not ready to take a bullet for you yet."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/14 08:07 PM
3

All I can say is be the king of calm, amused mastery. She says, "aren't you glad I'm not a cheating slut?" You just look at her with a monster grin that says "you're not fooling anyone." Then not a word. Not one word. If she asks why you're smirking, change the subject or make some random comment about how hot she is in those pants. You can't engage crazy in an argument. There's simply no winning.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/14 04:20 AM
8

Well done. Finding the right woman as a wife makes a huge difference. Finding out that you're not with the right person after swallowing the pill adds a whole new level of crazy to the game.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/14 04:32 PM
1

This is HUGE for me. My wife is horrible about this, and I enabled her bossy control-freakishness for so many years. I would love a lot more discussion about this dynamic because I have found it to be a complicated mix of interrelated issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/14 05:50 PM
0

Since I'm struggling with this at the moment, I don't have a definitive answer, but here are some thoughts. The frame that you want to maintain is "my time is valuable. There are things around here that only I can do, and those come first. Then, my next priority is taking care the important stuff. I will always focus on the most important things in the moment." With that in mind, if she gives me a polite request, I will add it to my list of priorities. If it is low and I will not get to it for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/14 02:29 PM
1

I'd add that if you try something that's a bit awkward, just laugh it off and roll with it. "Geez, that's not working. Let's try this..." (as you reach for her hand or put your arm around her, etc). You acting comfortable with it and reading her reaction is the most important thing.
/r/seduction17/10/14 04:33 PM
1

Those are definite IOI's. I wouldn't do too much talking. Let the actions speak instead. Pay attention to her reactions. If she doesn't respond negatively, then keep escalating. If she does, back off and stay at that level for a while. Since you've known her for a while, you may have to go slow, and she may object on the basis of being friends, but it doesn't sound like it so far. She may be thinking, "I wish he'd do something already!"
/r/seduction17/10/14 04:08 PM
1

I'm interested in hearing other comments, but I'd start with a little kino and subtle innuendo and see how she responds. It might startle her at first, but if she doesn't eject, notch it up little by little. If she puts up barriers or objections, back off a little and try again later. She may be interested but it might take time for her to change mindset from friendship mode.
/r/seduction15/10/14 09:42 PM
2

In fact, I've been thinking about starting to use the same technique I use with my 5yo son when he asks about my day at the office. I got tired of telling him day in and out that I sat in meetings and worked on my computer. So, now I just make stuff up. "How was your day at the office Daddy?" "It was awesome, Buddy! I swam a river with alligators so that I could have ice cream with a bear! He didn't like that his melted so I had to wrestle him! Then I worked at my computer." He knows I'm making …
/r/seduction15/10/14 08:53 PM
2

Jack's on to something here. Have hobbies because you enjoy them, they enrich your life, and they make you a better person. Doing a hobby because it will make you more interesting to the ladies is wrongheaded. In my experience, and only in my experience, it doesn't matter what you say you like to do. Unless you have an activity that she is REALLY interested in doing as well, she won't care. She may act like she cares, but she won't care. By way of example, here are my hobbies: martial arts, maki…
/r/seduction15/10/14 08:39 PM
2

Turn to stoicism. One of their techniques is to contemplate the worst case scenario for any situation. Applied to this particular case, what's the worst that will happen? She'll say, "NEXT". If that's the center of your world, you will be crushed. Don't let that be the center of your world. And, just realize that no individual girl is REALLY that worth it.
/r/seduction15/10/14 07:37 PM
1

Well said, bantha. I missed that in my thoughts. While I consciously stay away from handing out shit tests, I may very well be giving off some unconscious ones, which is most often how women are doing it too.
/r/seduction15/10/14 07:34 PM
1

Take a look in the sidebar ----> There's a section on shit tests over there that has a couple response suggestions to that very test. For a deeper foundation, therationalmale.com provides great insight.
/r/seduction15/10/14 07:29 PM
21

This is good question that I hadn't considered before. No, it seems pretty clear that we can't. I'm thinking out loud a bit, so bear with me. They won't work because of their purpose, the psychology of the person giving them, and the response. Normal shit tests are intended to validate the mans fitness or give the girl comfort (very different tests, with very different responses, but similar shit from the girl in the moment). They often work for the girl because she wants us to prove ourselves i…
/r/seduction15/10/14 12:24 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter