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Presumably all the people who told me there is a cliff they i can’t keep getting healthier and one day i’ll go from “above average” to somehow “below average” feeling satisfied that i was wrong. 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:07 PM
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It is what it is, I’m philosophically committed to living using bloodwork and numbers as biofeedback adjusting to get optimum results. I literally am opposed to living by usual advice, traditions, etc, i’m zen buddhist, i meditate to maintain optimal and productive brain function, if somehow there isn’t a test to measure decline, then i’ll still feel comfortable that i lived my life following the best tests i could at the time, and will adjust however i can when i find new better ways to be. Onc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 05:54 PM
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It’s been 20 years, blood work is good, mentally happy. I often take 20 minutes of sleep for my lunch. I’m a morning person and a late night person, stay up until 1 or 2, wake up naturally struggling 7 or 8. I don’t know what else to say 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:10 PM
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how normalized infidelity has become? Do you mean how normalized it always was? Because the idea of men having mistresses is very normal and accepted in many parts of the world as inevitable. Perhaps women being free enough to flaunt doing the same is different. Do you have a religious background, it feels like you're taking this very personal. I personally don't like cheating, but that's because I believe strongly that ethical non-monogamy (ENM or polyamory) allows us to be true to our animal i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:29 PM
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I only count legit working as the 70, but Absolutely , commute should be considered part of work. I’m a software architect so my body isn’t being used up for work, just my brain, it’s not the working 70 hours a week that’s the issue, it’s the type of work. I’d argue that a tough 40 hours a week could be more exhausting than the 70.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:08 PM
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Sex 4-5 times a week for 45 -60 minutes. I play board games 1-2 times a week. I sleep when I’m tired. Sometimes i take a 30-45 minutes nap, most of the time i feel obsessed with creating art, writing, editing videos, i participate with a kids charity. I don’t know, i just enjoy doing stuff for people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 07:59 AM
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I work 70 hours a week, I still do the dishes and cook. I sleep about 6 hours a night and work from home, gives me plenty of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:33 AM
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Why would someone stay with someone because they work 70 hours a week and help out with chores? Why would someone stay with someone who gave them their 20s and carried multiple children to term for them? I think the reason why relationships that start happy do, or do not work out, is because the cumulative remembered memories are either a net positive or a net negative. It would be far more weird if someone posted "I was with someone, I loved them and they made me super happy, so I left them." T…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 06:32 AM
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I’ll shake my artificial womb so they have balance, don’t worry 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 06:24 PM
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Because if they were sexually experienced, they would know their libedo, and if the woman was proud of not need or wanting sex more than every few months, and the man preferred close to daily sex (like me), or vice versa (I know guys who don't want sex while their partners, like mine, want sex as often as they can have it), then resentment and frustration would build up. The woman should be the one wanting and pushing for sex as much or more than the guy, that's what motivates me to "make time" …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 06:08 PM
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14-15 percent of couples are involuntarily "sexless" apparently according to some studies by psychology today and confirmed with other studies by the archives of sexual behavior, I suspect many of them were with people who were sexually inexperienced to begin with. But can't logic these things, people be irrational and often do things that give them the opposite results of what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:40 PM
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That still seems irrational that people wouldn't enjoy sex in their long-term relationships or marriage. Ignoring religious reasons, sexually experienced women are far more likely to lead to a fun and exciting sex life that has staying power. A virgin is an unknown, you have no idea if they prioritize and enjoy sex. And, in my opinion, anyone who is still a virgin into their 20s, doesn't have a very high libedo. If they did, they'd have had sex like other people (I was an autistic nerdy boy who …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:55 PM
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I know people are irrational, but "enjoying good sex" and enjoying virgins is mostly incompatible. I "do" enjoy being with inexperienced women and set an impossibly high standard (40-60 minutes, 3-5 orgasms per session, 4-5 times per week, usually the woman at the end is just laying on the bed spasming then goes to sleep) because there is something in my brain that thinks it's fun to raise expectations as high as possible for my partners, so if I can be with a woman for a weekend and really rein…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:37 PM
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In the beginning of your relationship, talk about your needs, and their needs from the relationship. Anything unspoken, can't be assumed to be important, there isn't anything "implied" that you can hold your partner to, barring some cultural thing that you're absolutely sure you're both from the same culture (like say maybe mormon or something), but I'd say even then, best to have frank discussions. In that conversation, be prepared to end the relationship. You really love her? Break up with her…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:33 AM
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Thanks, I was confused on that too. As someone who does film content and also does porn (this discussion doesn't apply to me since I'm poly, but still), I thought he was talking about my actor friends who might need to have a fake sex scene on camera and that it wouldn't be considered cheating by him. But your explanation makes more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:25 PM
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The parents who "want" to control , manipulate, or take advantage of their kids for various reasons (religious, psychotic, whatever) would all be pretty opposed to that unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:09 PM
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Absolutely. It just would be nice, that if we’re going to involve the government to enforce people doing what they should do anyways (child support), we could create an even stronger social net to help make sure kids in this country are actually being treated correctly by their parents. Many parents are mistreating their kids because they don’t know any better, and parents stealing from their kids while not the majority, is not uncommon either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:26 PM
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Wow, I've maintained most of my friendships with women, but guys are super hard to maintain. I have exactly 1 close male friend, I have about 10 close female friends. I have about 15-20 male friends I talk to occasionally maybe a few times a year, and probably 30-40 women I talk to several times a year. I have guys reach out and try to open friends with me, but I don't really know what to talk about with them or whatever. If we like the same kind of show, or like the same video game, or whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:10 AM
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I think a recurring theme many have, is complaining about being told to change to get what they want, they often have this message of "why is the world unfair that other people, short, tall, poor, rich, bald, whatever, all can get sex and relationships, but not them as they are", so telling them to just self-reflect and change is probably exactly what they don't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 08:01 AM
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You could use chatGPT to create a simple legal contract agreeing on the terms of the FWB. Child Support is a legal issue, need to solve it with legal issues
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:38 AM
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I wish it went to the child all of the time. I believe in child support, but my mother at least, often repurposed the funds she got, and continued to get child support even when I lived with my dad half the time (because my dad didn't want to go to lawyers about things). My mom also got my dad to pay for 18 years of my little sister.... and he wasn't the dad, never thought he was the dad, again, he just didn't hire a lawyer and didn't realize the paperwork was saying that my mom was claiming bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:33 AM
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I assume friends means friends, like hang out, do fun stuff together
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:17 AM
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I think whoever makes more money should pay most of the time. Whoever picked the destination should pay basically all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:20 AM
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One, visually I just have a preference for smaller lips with well manicured pubic hair. Granted, I'm used to very little hair in general, one of my partners is asian, the other partner is indigenous, and the women in porn are almost always hair free, but if they have more hair, I like it to be manicured just like I groom my hair down there too. Second, ignoring my preference for a certain visual aesthetic, "less bits" means I'm more likely to find the right spots every single time. I don't go fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 07:59 PM
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It does not all feel the same. Some is more compatible for me. I "know" what each of my partners feels like, they are different, different positions work better for different women. I lean slightly to the left, that means I can make many women go wild by having them sit on their side (on a raised surface), feet on the left, head to the right, where I can reach their clitoris while my penis is hitting their G spot. While this is probably true for all sex, because I'm larger (just shy of 8") and h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 06:57 PM
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If a girl is sleeping with other people, and we aren't sleeping together. I'm ok with it, but I friend zone her. I'll still go out with her, but I just will assume we didn't click enough and will focus my attention on other people. I friend zone a lot of girls though. My version of friend zone is that I'll still take them out, do naked things like massages, but I just don't have sex with them because for me, getting tested and having them tested is a big hassle so I only want to do it with peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:04 PM
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I had a SAH Wife once, it was horrible, she wasted a year of her life, lost motivation, became depressed. I told her she could quit her job and focus on her art, but instead of a low amount of art when she was working and complaining about how stressful her job was, she stopped her art completely when she could just stay up super late and sleep in every day. We didn't have kids, and I didn't want kids. I decided all of my partners from now on needed to pay some rent and have separate finances, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 05:22 PM
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Fair enough. I “almost” do all of those things. 😅😂 I walk my partners dog, make her food, twice a day, not sure that counts, the guy probably does that too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:10 AM
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Was there something listed in the video that i don’t do? I clean the counters, do the dishes, cook, shop, do the laundry, maybe i missed in the video where he cleaned the toilets (which i don’t do since the maids do)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:52 AM
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Exactly, my time is more valuable than some things, and I outsource those things, but other things the time is negligible so they aren’t worth it to outsource. I own a high rise so don’t have some time sinks house owners have either, my last house i also paid for pool cleaning and yard work
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 01:44 AM
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I guess it could, I wouldn't take it that way, but my relationships are based on a lot of open discussion, absolutely no control (no passive aggress control, no implied control, no control), but I do get how some people feel complimented by being "possessed", "claimed", or the implication of "I'll fight to keep you" though in this case, it sure seems like "I'll fight to punish you if you do what I don't like"
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 11:42 PM
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Scientifically humans operate via 5 primary chemicals, serotonin and oxytocin being important ones, and treating people well is an easy source of serotonin. I get happy chemicals by treating complete strangers well who often don’t even know i did something, i don’t need women to care why i treat them well, i choose not to be with people who are broken and don’t enjoy being treated well.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 10:39 PM
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I actually do hire maid service weekly! I don't mop or clean the toilets. I don't make enough money to have daily maid service, and people who let the house fall apart the entire week between cleanings are kinda gross (IMO). I still do the dishes, I cook most of the meals, I am constantly cleaning up after myself and I help out with my partner's things if they need it. They help with dishes sometimes, or help with cooking if I tell them specifically what to do (they don't know how to cook), I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:51 PM
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I agree. I do all those things, make 200k a year, it's just normal. However, the bar is super low, and I especially think that as you go into less metropolitan areas, guys get more and more "traditional" (as in lazy), so these kinds of videos are probably good just to help establish what being a good partner is. I don't think it's bad to celebrate all kinds of good partners, men and women, even if all partners should aspire to be "good", obviously m any people aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:40 PM
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I apologize. I didn't think the "happy" part of OP's statement was important, I was focused on there not being any reason for the person who loves you to plan on being vicious and that there was plenty of reasonable reasons for people to get divorced that don't involve ending it and being nasty, so there was no reason for OP's wife to immediately devolve down to being nasty. If you were reading all of this focusing on the "happy" part then we were just having two different conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 07:25 PM
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That's a nasty way to look at things. People who want to stay in a relationship due to the amount of time together even if they're unhappy, is an immature way of thinking. We only have so many years on this planet, every year spent unhappy is a waste of the most valuable thing we have as human behings... time. The sooner you break off an unhappy the relationship, the more time you're giving that person to find someone they'll be happy with. If they "claim" to be happy, while their partner is unh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:19 PM
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She was an outlier to be sure, I don't assume anyone else I'm with will be the same way, but if someone begins moves to protect themselves or makes weird statements that they'd try and get "more than 50%" then I see no alternative than to make my own defensive moves. claiming you'll hurt them if they leave you isn't a good way to maintain a long term relationship IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 06:14 PM
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my only point was that without betrayal, what motivation would there be for being nasty or vicious? Just being "unhappy" doesn't sound like a good reason to hurt the person you supposedly love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 05:05 PM
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I know many divorces that split amicably. I've divorced twice, one was amicable, one wasn't. But they both "started" amicable and both had their friends pushing them to "take me for everything". I think TV, sitcoms, and the fact that our boomer parents often had women who hadn't worked, so of course they got more than 50%, they got 50% + alimony. This is appropriate for a SAHM scenario, but isn't appropriate when both partners work similar tier jobs, but people still remember the past, shows, me…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:58 PM
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which is ironic because the only logical response to being threatened, is to reposition assets to be protected. Once one partner begins that route, then they start hitting milestones where it might be more advantageous to divorce than risking later on. For example I divorced at 8 years because my (now) ex was very intrigued with her family members having such a great retirement by her several divorces. At 10 years I would have had to pay some form of spousal support (no alimony in Nevada, but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:50 PM
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Plenty of reasons to get a divorce that doesn't involve betrayal. Don't find each other attractive enough to want to have sex with. Don't have similar libedo and partners are too possessive to allow satisfying the higher libedo partner with external help. One partner realizes they're getting old and gonna die without ever experiencing all of their fetishes that they want to explore and their partner is traditional/boring and exploring those things would mean cheating or ending the relationship O…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 04:47 PM
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The person who makes more should pay more, when you’re having fun, your time is equally used, but one of you usually makes more. For now, men normally make more. But my friends where the woman is a doctor or lawyer and the man is customer service or something, the woman usually pays. This seems right to me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 01:20 AM
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I agree 100%. I think there is a minimum bar of "does this person make me aroused", after that, it's all personality and sexual proclivities. I don't really understand why or how people would want to be with someone just for looks at the expense of sexual compatibility. I assume that's where a lot of sexless relationships come from where neither person turns each other on but they both like some other aspect of the relationship (perhaps looks by the guy and status or wealth by the woman). If a w…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 12:42 AM
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I’m pan but i only sleep with my partners or porn people where everyone has gone through Talent Testing and we all pull out our phones and show our test results before we start filming. My gay friends have wild stories and i just can’t imagine sleeping with random people so readily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 06:12 PM
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Agreed. All the guys angry that some women find it easier to find sexual partners should be really angry at how easy it is for gay guys to find sexual partners. Of course, i hear a lot of the same complaints of loneliness from gay guys who don’t know how to find “love”. Very very similar complaints.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 02:25 PM
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I strongly disagree. I don't understand how anyone can value women based on how good of mothers they are to their children. In a world where we need less children not more, children should be the least part of most women's lives. Your #1 is inherently wrong and reflects an immature way of thinking that probably reflects your views on women as well, as evidenced by our entire post. The idea that women are "settling" when choosing a partner that is less than "physical fit" probably also makes you …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 11:45 PM
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Many cultures have a culture of more frequent sex, you're projecting your desire of how you want things to be. Meanwhile, some of us travel to other countries and have great hookups in Columbia, Phillipines. If you're talking about patriarchal societies where people can be tortured or executed for not behaving the way the State demands, then yes, patriarchal regimes often want their citizens to behave. how it thinks is best, and mostly the leaders will hire prostitutes or be able to demand sex o…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:36 PM
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The primary reason to want to be submissive it becomes my job as the dominant to create an amazing sexual experience. I set the scene, bring out the toys, it's my job to make sure by the end of the session that the woman has 3-5 orgasms. That's a big benefit of being submissive. Oh wait, you're talking about what, "respecting your man" and that kind of bullshit? Nah, you're right, that crap is setting a woman up to fail (a man too, I've never seen a "submissive in life" person benefit from being…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 04:08 PM
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It's legal in Nevada (where I live), guys, if you're really opposed to hiring an escort because they're illegal, come to Nevada, have the sex, get it over with, enjoy! I wish my dad had hired an escort for me or something earlier, I was so socially awkward and thought sex was incredibly special instead of just something that is just awesome. Putting people on a pedestal and that I was romantic for wanting sex to be something special really messed me up, glad I got over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 03:48 PM
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Or even emotionally stable and don’t think how hot their partner is has any effect on how emotionally satisfying their relationship is. 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 07:59 AM
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I don’t want children and our (12 year old) puppy is and is treated like our baby. 😅 guess i’m not one of those people irritable by loving non-humans as if they were human
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 06:22 PM
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I guess I don't understand your point that AI is no one and doesn't desire. Are you trying to convince the people already paying for virtual girlfriend services, who currently feel desired by the AI, to not be satisfied with it? Because my point, is that people already feel desired, they don't know or care that it's fake. Which honestly isn't really any different from any kind of sugar daddy/sugar baby situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:23 PM
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there are already people paying for chatAI girlfriends. women can fantasize with literotica (I do too actually) super readily, it's no different when men fantasize about anime characters, playboy, movie characters (not the actresses, but the characters), or whatever. It's all in our brains anyways, and these people humans fantasize have historically been just ink on pages not actual humans. Combining AI that can fool humans with a physical form will completely mess with human brains, we didn't e…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 04:32 PM
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Women are the number 1 purchaser of sex toys. You think women won't be a huge purchaser of sex robots?? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 07:17 AM
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I love all relationships founded in love and trust instead of possession and control
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 05:50 AM
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It's fair that maybe "most" aren't, though it seems like a constant recurring theme of people complaining their partner is looking at porn or looking at hot people on IG or tiktok, which sure seems like at least a large number of monogamous people are looking to control their partner's brain for... what? It just makes people miserable and doesn't prevent cheating or the people quitting. I'd argue it's always better to join in and look at them too and share what people like which might lead to ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:47 AM
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This is why monogamous people are crazy. "fantasizing is cheating". Ya'll are crazy. How this became the so-called "normal" way to be, I don't know. It's so incredibly unnatural to attempt to shackle someone you supposedly care about and say "Don't think the way I don't want you to or you're a bad person". I just don't understand how anyone can call that "love". This isn't a guys are bad thing, this is a "controlling people don't love their partners, they think love is possession". While I'm pol…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 10:15 PM
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Prior to them being in a polyamorous relationship, they're just a woman (or a man), it doesn't change that while men generally do the asking out, except for "pick up artists", most men I know of (and maybe this is just Las Vegas, we're fairly progressive) wait for some indication that the woman is interested in the guy before asking the woman out. If the woman doesn't give some sort of sign, most guys I know don't want to be "creepy" and won't ask out, polyamorous or not. My current younger gf, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 10:00 PM
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My younger gf (20 years younger) let us know she would like to join our polycule, so i asked her out, now it’s been 3 years. Our previous gf was 10 years younger and swiped right on a dating app, so i asked her out. Our previous one before then was 20 years younger, same thing. And the one before that was 7 years younger , same thing. Most of them just wanted sex, so they didn’t last since i like ktp relationships where we’re all together doing things, not just sex, but most men i know, wait for…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 04:01 PM
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My being progressive isn’t about 'knowing better' than others or controlling lives. For me, it's about advocating for fairness, equality, and supporting policies that I believe will benefit society as a whole. It's more about seeking a balance where everyone's rights and needs are considered, rather than imposing a 'grand design'. I completely agree with you on the importance of consent - it's a fundamental principle in all aspects of life, including how society is organized and how relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 11:55 PM
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Apps suck, better off going to social environments like local bars and forming connections. People judge you for who you are in real life. Apps give too much power to some faceless algorithm.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:17 PM
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That describes me, a 5 or 6, but I have a wealth of friends and sexual partners because people have always wanted to be my friend or be in my social circle. I'm introverted, a programmer, but it's just always been true. I recommend people get a social job like a waiter or something where at the end of the day, your social skills will directly convert into money. You'll also lose weight and work hard, if it's a fast paced restaurant like where I worked just out of high school. I made good money t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:16 PM
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Are you going to change your flair, you're coming off much more red than purple. Personally, I'm more progressive than my two partners, and more progressive than many women. It's because I'm well off (200k a year), have plenty of sex (2 live in partners, work in porn), live in a progressive city (Las Vegas, where everyone can kinda do whatever they want, and many many people are in some sort of customer facing sex or appearance based job, aka everyone needs to know customer service and how to fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 10:13 PM
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You should be who you’re naturally going to be, whatever you think is the best version of you. For me, my love language is acts of service so i like to take care of the people around me. Friends, lovers, coworkers, i enjoy it. It gives me serotonin and oxytocin. Just be honest so when you’re stressed you’re still you instead of releasing the worst inner part of you when things are at their worst. For me, i’m still me when i’m intoxicated, still me when i’m stressed. Because i’m honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 01:47 AM
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I need the frequency, I tell my partners I don't care if one of them or both of them don't want to have sex for some amount of time or even ever, being poly means there is no need to break up over sexual things (at least for me), I can continue to love them as they are, regardless of sex, but if I'm not getting sex 4-5 times a week, I'll add another partner. One of my partners also has another partner (male) because for a while she worked swing shift and she couldn't get adequate time with us. H…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 11:31 PM
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I agree. low libedo people with high libedo people should just break up most of the time. Kids, houses, whatever, for most monogamists, they should just break up, life is too short to sacrifice your needs for your partner's satisfaction. Glad the poly community in Vegas is so strong, I wouldn't want to date in areas where poly is rare or unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 11:12 PM
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I think the question OP is trying to ask, is that if a woman has low libedo and does not want to have sex, then would those women with low libedo answer whether they also don't want their partner to have sex with anyone at all, and if so, why? For my part, being poly, I expect to have sex 5 times a week, my partners expect to have sex a minimum of 3 times a week. If I can't have sex with them that many times, then I have too many partners, if they don't want to have sex with me as many times as …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 10:34 PM
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There is a fair amount of poly people in polycules who are asexual and/or have medical problems and they're in polycules for emotional attachment reasons not sex. But the poly people on the dating market are often thin fit sexy people, often autistic, usually atheist or at least agnostic, but most people would consider them good sexy experiences. For Religious prudes they're probably "unfuckable", though I know a lot of people who say they want a traditional relationship, but still have sex with…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:36 PM
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you're underestimating how much religion screws up all kinds of women. I work with a lot of models that are super sexy, talk about wanting sex all the time, but don't have sex because religion screws them up. These are women who I cuddle with, nap with, have "girls nights" where we talk about anything and everything. IMO, religion just screwed them up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 08:02 PM
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What the heck? This is a weird subject. 1 - Women can orgasm entirely from penetrative sex - piv 2 - Women can orgasm entirely from anal sex 3 - Women can have penetration from toys, strapons, etc. IME, the best sexual experience that leaves the woman quivering on the bed unable to think for some amount of time is one that gets orgasms from multiple different erogenous zones. I don't know where this even comes from, I've never heard it before, it feels like some people looking to start an argume…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:03 PM
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it always amazes me how hard some people will fight to not put in some effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:30 PM
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Of course i’m going to shame anyone trying to control someone else’s behavior. You’re a bad person if your needs include controlling someone else’s behaviors. There is never a scenario where your happiness should derive from taking away someone else’s happiness. Instead, just match up with people who are compatible that you don’t need to ruin. And i hope every woman uses toys and enjoys them, because masturbation is fun and healthy. If any toys made my masturbation better, i would, but for me, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:18 PM
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Technically i’m in the subgroup “the one asking for toys” and only a few times because it’s turned out to just be easier to put in the work instead of relying on a toy. My partners use toys frequently when they masturbate , and still want as much sex as i’m willing to give them (which amounts to 2-3 times each per week. Plus 1-2 threesomes). Toys have no effect on their ability to orgasm multiple times per session. However, i do think during the actual interactive sex session itself, each person…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 06:01 PM
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What the heck? I just don't understand how insecure and fragile some men's egos are. My girlfriends "never" ask to bring in toys, I'm the one who suggests bringing in a toy, if only to change things up. Having 30-45 minutes of sex 5 days a week, a toy just feels like it'll be easier for me (I normally reach with my hand while penetrating them to make sure they're getting 3-5 orgasms per session by alternating between g spot and clitoral stimulation). TBH, sex toys have never worked out how I tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 05:27 PM
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That's a great breakdown that reflects my experience. Where I think men get really frustrated and really confused, is when the same woman who wants to take it slow with the "man of her dreams", is sleeping with her regular hookup on the side. When the relationship doesn't work out after 3 months and often the guy finds out about the regular hookup, it really makes the guy question whether "all women are liars" when in reality, just some women are crazy and think "taking it slow" will build a lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:58 PM
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I agree with the "man cave" vs the "woman house", in every traditional relationship I've been in, the woman felt like she could take over and decorate the entire house. Multiple bedrooms? That just meant that i had 1/3 of my closet and she had every single closet taken over with her stuff. As far as chores go, I don't have this scenario since I always pay for maid service, but I have a hard rule for my partners. Don't ask me to do any chores, and I won't ask them to do chores. Clean up what you …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:43 PM
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In vegas, blue is very much alive. There are realities of dating in the sense that everyone has preferences, but for the most part, everyone seems able to pair up, even with multiple people as poly is very popular here. The women who are poly are hot, but if controlling your partner, having them act like your mom, or any of the rest of that tradwife filth, you’re probably out of luck unless you become mormon and even then… mormon church is very strong in vegas, but that’s still only like 10% of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 02:54 AM
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Great post. The men who have accepted dying a virgin and aren’t whining about it, i understand. The ones complaining and blaming everyone but themselves are really frustrating. If anyone cares, just save up money, go to where brothels are legal, and get it over with. 95% of ya’ll will realize how much sex isn’t a big deal, and it’s the act of pretending it’s a big deal that keeps some people alone and sexless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:52 AM
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Usually because “religion” 🤨
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 12:49 AM
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It's my 3rd (but also longest, one partner has been 5 years, the other partner has been 3 years) throuple, and have had women ask to join (with me, not with the other partners). I appreciate it, and love it, but it takes work and managing of stress. I don't look at it the way you're suggesting, but also I'm not saying you're wrong, part of appreciation for a happy life is doing the care and maintenance to keep that happy life. <3
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:49 PM
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I cook most meals, and I pay for maid service. All 3 of us work. I don't complain about it. My gf's kept leaving things out everywhere or complaining things were moved, so I bought them giant jewelry organizers, shelves, and all kinds of other things to hide their things. Whatever they complain about, I help give them things so they can't complain anymore. I make 6x their salaries, I still do most of the house stuff, because my love language is acts of service. I don't want to do housecleaning t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:39 PM
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I don't run into these problems, because I don't put them on a pedestal like some of them are "special", we're all just humans. Some of us like Drake, some of us don't, none of us are special, but the ones I care for are special "to me" while at the same time just being a biological meat sack that doesn't matter much in the long run. Women who have a lot of sex, aren't participating in "questionable" behavior, it's the people who are making sex weird that are the ones that are an outlier. In the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 05:30 PM
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I assume the guy is prudish and/or insecure about sexual things. I know personally when a girl gropes me it lets me know to take it to the next level if I’m in the mood. Purple possum is missing out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 03:33 AM
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it can happen and isn't wrong, but it is pretty unwise, it's likely going to go wrong to no benefit to either party. The guy should hire an escort or something, get experience, then date whoever he "clicks" with, as long as they're consenting adults. Two inexperienced people aren't going to have "better" sex lives because they're learning together, and if they're inexperienced with sex, they probably will be inexperienced with relationships too. Having said that, no one IRL cares what people on …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 11:00 PM
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One of my paramous is 15 years older than me, one of my long term partners is 7 years younger than me, and one of my long term partners is 25 years younger than me. Age is completely irrelevant other than two consenting adults, the whole "women the guy's age aren't interested in them thats why he dates younger women" is a complete myth people just made up for some reason. Instead, some guys don't care about age (like myself), and some guys are malicious and want to manipulate a younger person, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 10:57 PM
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psycho people are psycho, I think the difference for me is the man could choose to leave at any time and the psycho woman can't do much to stop it, he just doesn't. She's unlikely to threaten to kill the man's family in any believable fashion too. Obviously we're Americans and even 10 year olds murder people, but I think in terms of believable threats, women often can't leave relationships with bad men or they risk the lives of the ones they care about, men can leave their abusive relationships …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 06:11 PM
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Why do you think that's any different from women who are "stuck" with men who cheat on them, beat them, threaten the lives of their loved ones if they leave, etc? The dude "loves" a bad partner, but she's unlikely to hurt him, kill him, etc. Bad partners are bad, and people have always felt like love is important enough to deal with it. I grew up watching my stepdad brutalize my mom. It's worse for women to this day. More access to therapy, classes in school meant to help "socialize" people, etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 03:53 PM
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considering all of the sitcoms, shows, and even general advice that married men don't have sex or that married people have less sex than single peopel, I think the sexual revolution benefited men in addition to women. But I'm sure it benefits women more than men, because they had more to gain and less to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 05:35 PM
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I'm a 45 year old guy 5'9" with a dadbod, we have sex 4-5 times a week (thruple), we're probably all average looking folks, though the girls can be pretty hot when they doll themselves up. The sex bench, shibari rope, sex swing, manacles, etc, are all indicative of a pretty "active" bedroom. In my experience, which is fairly extensive, the "hot" skinny girls are typically boring and quick to point out all the things they won't do. The "hot" athletic girls are often more adventurous, more adrenal…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 08:53 PM
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You're not doomed, you just can't order a relationship on an app like you can a pizza. Look at authors back in the day who back in the 1930s stayed alone and often died alone. They still created amazing works of art. The problem is people who claim they're introverted and shy, but still want someone to come over and entertain them in exactly the way they want (usually sex but sometimes just companionship) but don't want to do the work to make it worth the other person's while. I know plenty of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 05:21 PM
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Nothing went wrong, this is the tough struggle we have to go through in order to get to a better society. For progressives, things seem better to me across the board except obesity rates, which hopefully chemicals like semaglutide will help manage (it's been amazing for me). The issues have just become open and apparent, and that's the first step to fixing things. All of the things were problems before, but they were problems where women had no effective choice but to be with misogynist assholes…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 04:35 PM
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I feel like you're trolling, I personally love it when women come up to me, but I don't know what to do, and I fumble the ball. Even my friend, he's a weight lifter influencer type, had these two incredibly hot girls come up to him at a charity event and ask "are those your legs or is it padding?" and he was like "they're real" and one of the girls literally reached out and touched his leg. They walked away giggling, and I was like "You should have asked for their number or something" and he was…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 07:29 AM
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Being friend zoned is great, no particular person matters, so who cares? The only thing that should matter is you end up with someone who is attracted to you and you’re attracted to, so once you’re friend zoned, then ask them to be your wingman. It’s fun and can lead to great places, whether they are helping with dating app profiles or helping out at the bar or hooking you up with friends. The problem is when you get fixated on a particular person who doesn’t want you, that’s creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:37 AM
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100% on the solution. It really really isn't a problem, it doesn't need to be solved on the female side of the equation, and not only that, but I wouldn't want it to be solved on the female side of the equation even if it could be. It's offensive to even think that anyone except who is in the mirror should solve their own internal problems. When I was a lonely guy for years just hoping one day I'd know what it was like to kiss, have true love, all that stuff, I didn't "blame women", I blamed mys…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:53 PM
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I prefer the term SW, because while many of the people I know are willing to have sex with men for money, it's just one of the sex-related jobs they do (including porn, or more rarely stripping). As far as how many? I don't know, maybe 10-20%? But in the larger circle of friends in the 20-45 year range who live in Vegas, I'd say that isn't much lower than non-SW. I don't think preferring someone who isn't a SW for a partner is "immature", any more than I think preferring blondes, muscular guys, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:56 PM
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I know many SW, they don't seem to have problems dating or marrying, probably the same way that one of my partners doesn't care that I do porn work (my other partner also does porn work). Immature people can't handle it, sure, but immature people statistically can't handle most relationships. I can't say for sure what it would be like if legalization occurred in other states the way it is in Nevada (where I live), but I think humans are mostly the same and probably in the long run, things would …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:51 PM
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yes. That approach works on dating apps, it works on everything in life. Try things, learn what doesn't work, try again. Nothing wrong with it if you don't be a creep about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 03:16 AM
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I don’t know about “most”, but i think some of the reason (not all, there are liars in the poly community too though betrayal means something different) that so many people cheat is for the same reason that some people are morning people and some are night owls, the idea of being locked into a relationship where i’m only allowed to love one person or i’m “betraying” my partner feels like hell. But i don’t suggest it’s for everyone, just that it’s for some people, and some of those people are tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 07:02 AM
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Yeah, probably. It literally never came up before i had enough partners to become good in bed, so i don’t know, but if someone is asking you inappropriate questions I’d give some ridiculous answer that couldn’t be true that would make it obvious that i wasn’t going to answer. Thats my type of humor though and since it works for me maybe it makes me seem mysterious. 🤣😅
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:44 AM
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It’s ridiculous for it to be one sided, and once the guy lets go and truly experiences the benefits of a truly open relationship on both sides it’s incredibly freeing. Today one of my girlfriends bought me and her other boyfriend lunch. That girlfriend came home with me and we had sex. Then my other girlfriend came home and we’re about to have dinner. It’s fantastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 02:00 AM
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I’ve rarely had a woman ask about sexual history other than “are you tested”. Stop talking about this stuff on the first date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 12:11 AM
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Yes, wasn't disputing your statement of saying a woman should figure out her own body, I was pushing back against the guy blaming women using toys for his inability to get them off. Healthy women can get off regardless of using toys or not, toys are rarely a factor in whether women are unable to get off or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 10:58 PM
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Actually I really don't. I'm saying that the most mediocre woman in bed, can lay there, and if the man knows what he's doing, and she doesn't have a physical impairment, he can get her off, get her off again, get her off again, then get himself off. All without her doing anything. If you play with bondage, shibari, etc, "literally" without her doing anything. OTOH, if the guy isn't able to get hard, the shows over, at least as far. as PIV. Women who use toys a lot, orgasm just as easily if not m…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 09:25 PM
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LOL. One of my friends (David Lee XXX) has women who pay for him to be their fake boyfriends, he's ripped and could be a stripper if he wasn't already a pornstar. Women seem to like him just fine and presumably watch his porn or maybe just find him through IG, not sure. So maybe it's just Vegas, but I know a lot of women who regularly go to chip'n'dale, thunder down under, etc dancers and those shows are packed by women. I don't know a lot of women in "relationships" with these guys, but I know …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:38 PM
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Sure, everyone should have agency over their own body. My reply was to the guy implying that a woman who orgasms regularly from toys and not being able to orgasm from piv is the “toy’s fault”, i’m sure there is someone out there where that is true, but statistically, most men just suck in bed and shouldn’t get weird about toys or blame the toy as if they’re somehow competing with the toy. Otoh, guys who get hard until their partner is involved should probably lay off the porn,or get some therapy…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 06:52 PM
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We all die, not everyone had a partner they could trust through most of it. The only sad thing about that opening is not having more time with his partner and that’s something we all have to face, assuming we get that trusted partner at all
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:45 PM
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I honestly just really enjoyed the breakdown of the movie, now i want a subreddit where instead of debating why women don’t want to sleep with some men and how frustrated they are over it instead we just break down different media with what it’s saying about relationships vs reality or in comparison to reality. I’d join that subreddit
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:41 PM
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I don't care if someone has low libedo and doesn't want sex. Being poly, if one of us doesn't want sex, it's fine, if one of us never wanted sex, it'd be fine. However, if one of us suddenly had low libedo after they (the women) wanted sex every day, I'd push to get checked out. Not because they need their libedo "fixed", but because any change in physical or mental state should involve going to the doctor, because if the loss of libedo is hormone related, it may be a warning sign of other probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 04:24 PM
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My partners use toys extensively, it doesn't seem to have any effect on their ability to orgasm. My personal goal is 3 to 5 orgasms before I cum once. My friend is a licensed sex therapist and she advises "adding" sex toys if the woman is having trouble (possibly never) having orgasm, it helps the woman to understand the effect she's going for in sex. What I think is hard for guys to understand, is the idea that many women have "never" orgasmed, not really, even if the woman thinks think they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 03:39 PM
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You're describing the majority of what people on reddit say, because it's true the majority of the time. I do see voices of rationality saying if the woman doesn't want sex, she should see a doctor or therapist to figure out why she doesn't want sex before deciding she just has low libedo or is asexual, but for some reason it's taboo to question low libedo for a woman as a problem that "may" need to be fixed, but as a society we know that for men low libedo is a problem that should be at least "…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 03:29 PM
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100%, it sounds like you have things figured out. I have autism, adhd, social anxiety, and maybe I guess insomnia once upon a time, but I've been buddhist for so many decades now that I don't really remember what it's like to have insomnia. At some point, I really decided I liked sex, and I put in the effort, you could too, and it sounds like you know that, but it isn't important enough for you. That's fair. I would say that education and career, helps "keep" partners of value. Being able to sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 07:49 AM
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Every sexual experience I had, made it so I could talk to strangers in a more casual friendly way which ultimately has enabled me to more easily have fun casual sex with people who are also interested in f un casual sex. Before that, I put so much pressure on myself that I had to make things work with "this one girl" who I felt I was so in love with, now I don't love anyone until they earn that love, and I just recognize that some people I think are amazing in whatever way, but me thinking they'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 07:36 AM
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I don't watch porn where the woman is "gushing" over the man. Your comment sounds like the reverse where you're imagining that the man is imagining being adored or lusted at by the woman, and sure, I guess that porn exists, but I don't create that kind of porn and I don't consume that kind of porn. I've never even really thought about it before this post and your comment, but it makes sense to me why some audio literotica (I primarily enjoy literotica actually, probably because it lets me imagin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 11:14 PM
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Why would you think that having sex with a girl that is extremely attractive would be better? If two women are equally sexually experienced, sure. But as a photographer who has known a lot of models (and slept with many of the porn stars on set), there is no association between looks and sex. I’m not saying that “6”s are better, instead I’m saying that the VIN diagram better good sex and attractiveness doesn’t always overlap and if the goal is good sex I’ll sacrifice appearance since looks are s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 08:10 PM
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I've literally seen self-flair identifying red pill guys talking about tradwives and/or often hating on women who enjoy sex (especially/particularly if they enjoy sex not with them). I agree with your assertions that fundamentally, my understanding of TRP, is about everything you're saying as far as detachment, avoiding being affectionate, etc, as a set of tools to get certain types of women to want to have sex with them/chase them, but that people that don't know any better are claiming to be T…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:26 PM
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Yes please, thank you for posting this. If you're not good in bed, just be friends so they can go find someone sexually satisfying. There are many alternate forms of relationships (friendships, best friends, whatever) that does not involve being in a romantic relationship. I know people who were friends, had sex, didn't enjoy it (I think he didn't enjoy it, but not sure), now they're best friends and he was at her marriage. He dog-watches her puppies every week for 1-2 days. They don't need to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:18 PM
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In Las vegas anyways, polyamorous relationships are very common. As a kid, I knew many adults who were in multi-relationships and there just wasn't a name for it. Now, as an adult, people often tell me "you're the first poly people I've met!" and I respond with "half your friends are poly, this couple, that couple, them, they're all openly dating outside their marriage", the only difference is that I'm one of only 4 throuples I know of in the 70-100 nerd people I know, so I think we stand out mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:14 PM
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A relationship is an agreement of mutual needs satisfied which may or may not include love. I have broken up with people i loved, not dated people i loved, and would leave someone i loved if my needs are not being fulfilled. Women are seemingly more likely to stay with an abusive man “because she loves him”. I had a stepdad who would beat the hell out of my mom, so this “loves more deeply” stuff even if true, isn’t good for women. Personally, i think women are much more likely to say that how th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:46 PM
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I have no clue who cheats more, nor do I care since I'm poly in an open relationship. But I think the red pill folks are saying that women cheat more "because they can", not for lack of wanting by the men. ;).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:22 PM
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As talked about in other posts, bisexual women often look for different things than just looks. I do ok looks wise, but definitely i currently have a dadbod. I’m on semaglutide so in the next 6 months i should be more physically where i want to be. Traditional monogamous people would hate my polycule because one of my partners spends 2 days a week with her other boyfriend and my other partner spends a day every week with her non-romantic male friends. But none of that has anything to do with why…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 03:00 PM
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Can't she just not want sex crimes to be higher against women than men? Or not want women to still make less income on average than men for the same work and experience? Or not want some predominantly male politicians to decide they should have control over her body? There are so many reasons for "everyone" to describe themselves as feminists that I don't think it has much to do with whether the man (who probably makes more money) should pay for dinner. I have two (female) partners, I pay most o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 07:17 AM
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I think someone, male or female, who hasn't had sex, isn't someone I would want to date past say 24 until they've had sex. Most guys (myself included) were bad for some time after they've had sex. Lets say an average relationship is 6 months. Is that person going to get good in those 6 months with their first partner? Unlikely. So what is the point? Is that guy likely to enjoy giving oral? Who knows. Is he going to respond to oral with "ick, that's gross" or other inexperienced things? Who knows…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:59 AM
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This is a great topic. In my experience, if a man isn't "always ready to have sex", certain types of women will often trash the man mercilessly while also spiralling with insecurities around whether there is something "wrong" with them because obviously men "always" want sex with every woman and if a man doesn't want sex with any woman who is willing to spread their legs then there is either something wrong with the man or the woman. I think it would be healthier for society to not expect every …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:55 PM
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if an uncle accuses an 18 year old boy of being gay just because he doesn't have an interest in the particular woman's legs the uncle likes looking at, I'd still have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 08:48 PM
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I hope cheaters regret cheating, but I doubt it. I think everyone feels like they had a reason. Back when I tried to be monogamous, I'd break up with people so I could be with someone else. So I'd never "cheat", but I thought, at the time, that to love someone else, meant I had to end my previous relationship, even if I didn't end up with the someone else. When I committed to polyamory, everything made sense. There are these weird aliens on the planet, who look like me, but apparently they can l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:00 PM
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Are you really blue or purple? Man, such a good, well logiced post, bravo!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 04:52 PM
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My last marriage screwed me, my first marriage ended completely amicably. What happened in neither relationship, was me being on the hook somehow to give them more than what they had as an equal partner in the marriage. In Nevada in the US, assets are split "at the point of marriage", so neither wife was able to get anything I brought into the marriage. This applies to most states in the US, and also applies in several US-like countries like Canada and Australia in a general way. The contract OP…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 10:25 PM
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That describes a red pill guy I know who is dating a super hot bisexual woman I know who yeah, she looks like a kind of dominatrix type person, and. he's balding, overweight, and angry all the time. But somehow it works. I don't know if "kindness" is a trait I'd associate with bisexual women, but more that bisexual women (and men I suppose) I know are looking for more out of relationships than just physical attraction since whatever it is that "does it for them" is probably less related to just …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 09:09 PM
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I mostly date bisexual women, and they mostly date straight men. It's possible, I assure you! I'm not discounting some dating pool somewhere being tainted and toxic, but in that case, I'd do whatever I could to move!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/23 01:59 AM
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I actually care more about the money i make, i don’t really think about who watches my clips. It’s healthy adult fun. I’m glad i don’t refer to penises or dicks as “ding-a-lings”, good luck with growing up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:23 AM
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I work in porn, and i’m pansexual. While i’ve never been with someone with a mohawk, nor is pegging a common activity i’ve done, i’m not sure if your comment implies that you’re homophobic, bi-curious, or something else entirely. Hopefully you become content to live in your own skin, it’s 2023, it shouldn’t matter who or what you’re into, just enjoy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 06:10 AM
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My dad thought i was gay until i was 19, because I’m autistic and got so flustered when i’d try to talk to girls. Then i stopped treating them like they’re special and just treated them normal. I aggressively dated not to have love, but to learn what works and what doesn’t. Each girl was just someone i didn’t care if i spent 1 day or 1000, my goal was just to learn what i could and move on. Eventually you get rid of your own problems holding you back, assuming you’re in a metropolitan type area …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:28 AM
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Some women do yes, meanwhile the rest of the average looks average income guys who worked on learning how to be social are talking their way into women’s beds all the time. 😅. But i guess it’s easier to complain so keep on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:19 AM
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If men get success while having “active potential”, they will be less successful. Peter Gollwitzer in 1982 did some research on this area of receiving acknowledgment for effort before succeeding with that effort. His research suggested that when individuals announce an intention publicly and are acknowledged for it, they may feel a sense of accomplishment that can be demotivating in terms of actual action towards that goal, which i think applies to this scenario. So for the good of all society i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 09:05 PM
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Not to be told what to do, a partner for fun adventures, not to be bait and switched when when the woman decides to go from “lets have fun” to “lets be adults”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 01:49 AM
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I see way more drama and jealousy in monogamous relationships. Check out some of the "AITA" subreddit threads where people are threatening to end their relationship over someone clicking like on too many hot people on instagram or daring to be friends with an opposite sex coworker or... the list goes on of innocuous activities that threaten to end long running relationships. In poly relationships, it becomes more "You took her to 2 shows last month, but you only took me to 1, do you love her mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:16 PM
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Maybe you're not monogamous, maybe you were never meant to be monogamous. Try exploring ethical non-monogamy, aka polyamory. Explore some alternative relationships. I don't know if you live in a high population area, but polyamory is becoming mainstream enough in big population cities that you can explore a variety of relationships until you find one that is both sexually and emotionally satisfying. For me, it's kitchen table poly (ktp), but for you it might be any number of different scenarios.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 03:56 PM
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I don't know what the toxic culture is, I don't experience it in real life. I mostly experience a bunch of people who love comics, video games, anime, models, who also like sleeping with people. People who were like me in high school, but now are enjoying a life hooking up with all kinds of people of all levels of conventional and unconventional attractiveness levels. I do know a few people who have trouble keeping women around them saying nasty things like "I'm going to make that girl be my gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:12 AM
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One of my partners is filipina (born in Philippines but military so also a us citizen), i love love love Filipinas, though also love most women. Enjoy the lumpia!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 05:38 AM
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I actually am proud! That's why I fight so hard to help people believe it can change around. On one hand, I still remember being in an elevator working room service with my coworker Porsche, she went off to become a model, stunning. We were work friends, and she was talking about her various boyfriends, and I was thinking about how I had never even kissed someone. I decided "proximity" wasn't working, so I decided to flip everything upside down. I'd no longer try to sleep with my friends at all.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 04:46 AM
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As a man living with his two bisexual partners, i’m glad we don’t live in Le Dictatorship of Phoenix. Viva la Resistance!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 01:33 AM
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I'm a fat guy in his 40s, 5'9" who is a high functioning autistic, I didn't have my first real kiss until I was 19. I use to agonize over girls, then I stopped worrying about it and began focusing on controlling my behavior. I don't have any sympathy for people who aren't having enough sex, because I had to suffer for so many years and I'm just thankful that I've been able to get over myself and treat people like people and that at least in Las Vegas, that has resulted in a lot of people wanting…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 12:28 AM
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Oh, from that perspective, yes, I like all of the different subtle "digs" like in Texas being able to use the carpool lane if you're pregnant. By all means, carry on and fight the good fight. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:02 PM
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Happy to play politics to help women, just not sure if this does it much when the man doesn't have enough money to take for child support. There are 3 types of men involved with getting women pregnant outside of a relationship man who has the money and will voluntarily pay 50% or more of expenses man who has the money and refuses to voluntarily pay 50% or more of expenses man who doesn't have the money to pay even 50% of expenses. The children who probably need the most help are the ones from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 09:32 PM
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Good luck. I'd rather olve the problem with billionaires consuming hundreds of thousands times more than an average person of say 60k before worrying about "high status" males having sex with dozens of women a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 07:52 PM
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I've loved my close friend for the last 5 years, we both are aware of it, my two girlfriends know I want her to be my third girlfriend. I have crushes on other friends of mine and some of my friends have crushes on me. When people stop making their life some sort of complicated romcom and communicate, people can be "ok" with feelings and enjoy special times with their friend, without it becoming sexual. I do agree that OP is specifically talking about some sort of scenario where the girl ghosted…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 07:05 PM
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Not sure it benefits all children, honestly only a small number of children for women who outside of a relationship, know who their father is, and the father is someone who actually has any amount of excess income that can be drafted for child support. I guess it satisfies puritan religious accountability more than it would to just spend money and resources on making sure everyone has good healthcare, especially when red states are so against entities like planned parenthood that help with prena…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 05:53 PM
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Am I arguing at all? I think I made a statement that amounts to men having unreasonable expectations the same as women, my description was just disdainful of both kinds of preferences. While they're "kinda" different, but close enough that they're effectively the same, unreasonable expectations that says more about the person (man or woman) than it does about media. I work in porn part time, I have a lot of porn actor friends that I've worked with. I highly recommend having sex with promiscuous …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:26 PM
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Good for you, me neither, but it does describe a lot of people I know, passportbros, etc who seem desperate for young, sexually inexperienced (but willing to have sex) women who will acquiesce all control of important decisions to them, where they got that idea I'm assuming is media.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 11:01 PM
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Yes, media encourages women to look for their prince, and and men to look for their anemic pornstar (who is also a virgin, and doesn't age older than 25) or if they lie to themselves, fixate on a single girl who they "truly love" but is really just nearby. When men lower their standards and look for people who will make them happy, their options expand dramatically, same as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 08:37 PM
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I've had the best sex of my life in my 40s, my hair looks its best (I went very bald by 29, got a hair transplant when I was 43), I'm probably in my best physical shape (still dadbod, but people think I'm thinner than I really am because I carry it well). I'd say it depends on where you live, and how open you are. I live in Las Vegas, which is a very sex positive city. I know a camgirl 33 who has been pursuing my friend who is 55. He asked if she should go for it. He has no money, isn't tall, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 06:09 PM
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This is biology stuff, it isn’t how this because it makes people happy, it’s like this because this is how the species reliably procreates. You can look at all kinds of bugs and insects who also have these kinds of “want to attract good mates but not bad mates” kind of scenarios. But in the same way that environments conducive of coed non-stressful situations can prompt people to pair up based on personality or really whatever reason because now you’re engaging a different portion of the brain, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 05:23 PM
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I don't really understand why this was even a "thing". The guy wanted to continue the previously working arrangement. The woman no longer (or possibly never) enjoyed the arrangement and declared her boundary. The guy talked for a bit as a compromise, asked if the previous arrangement was still available at all at this point, to which the woman said no. They separated because neither person could get what they wanted from the other person. Honestly the only one in the wrong was the woman for call…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 04:11 PM
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Not defending the person's idealogy, but I think his next sentence was that it wasn't a serious statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/23 07:34 AM
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I agree apps suck for building relationships. You can use them, they work. My oldest relationship is 5+ years and that was from an app, but that's because I play the numbers game which is generally successful combined with being a volunteer for a nonprofit which was recognizable on my profile which some women (good women) like. But saying apps are a problem for LTRs and thus happiness, I think isn't true. Relationships don't equal happiness, so for women whose expectations are too high, the end …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:17 PM
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Soon enough, guys will be able to buy ai powered sexbots, i bet within 4 years. Like all things, some people will say it’s the end of the world, and some trashy men will still say it’s not enough because they continue to want specific women to like them back, which will never happen. Still, I think eventually everyone will be able to be sexually satisfied if not the way they want
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:40 AM
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I work in porn part time, i literally don’t care what some people care about porn. Enjoy it, don’t let it overwhelm you or replace human contact, have fun. Date sex positive women, and if you’re not dating, why would you care what some prudist people (not just women) care?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:37 AM
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Been 5 years for us… 4-5 times a week, i’m 45 and work 60 hours a week. I “chose” to maintain my libedo though, it’s mostly mental though so i can see many relationship guys losing their libedo.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 06:17 AM
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I was talking to my female friend yesterday and mentioned that in my thrupple i have sex 4-5 times a week, and she commented that she normally has sex once every two weeks. That seems crazy to me. But i’m poly so if i wasn’t having enough sex i’d just add another girl into the mix.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 06:15 AM
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Yes, that is my experience as well. One of my best buddies (5'1 or 5'2", he says 5'3" but I don't think so) used to only date 6'+ women, and eventually married a German 6' woman, I've never seen his "pickup game", but it must be good, the guy barely works, doesn't have money, but does great with women. Funny thing is, he wouldn't say. he does well, part of why he pushes so hard
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 10:32 AM
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I feel like the willingness to fail is more important than anything, being able to go up to anyone and say the most ridiculous thing and not skip a beat when they shoot you down as you just move to the next person, that’s what allows people to have huge success. Are they “better” at flirting? Kinda, are their statements better, sometimes, but often it’s just a numbers game.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 07:17 AM
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Most people i know with their bisexual partners (like me) aren’t worried. Lol, i hate monogamy, me and my two bisexual partners will be fine. I love them, like “love”, not some sort of possessive ownership monogamists confuse for love. I regularly ask if anyone wants to leave the relationship, if they ever do, i’ll be ok, because i take care of myself. It’s been 5 years, doesn’t seem like it’ll happen any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:31 AM
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I won't date a woman who wants to be a "trad wife", I 100% support any woman wanting to be a "trad wife", but I hope most or very few women choose it, sounds gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 12:32 AM
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Actually not, imo, someone who believes in forced birth is making their own choice for themselves only, and in a world of full equality without a bunch of pressured sex and outright assault, the person who chooses to have a child (religious or ethical reason or not) shouldn’t be able to force the father into a lifelong obligation against their will. There is always a downside of equality, this would probably be one of them, no one being forced to suffer because of someone else’s senses of entitl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 08:07 AM
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In a scenario where women had complete body autonomy and forced sex wasn’t an issue, it makes sense. If abortion wasn’t a hot topic issue and women reliably always chose to risk getting pregnant, the most men should be obligated to pay for is half the cost of the abortion. But in the real world where women don’t reliably have agency over their own bodies, i always prefer to protect the vulnerable over policies that assume best case scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 02:45 AM
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Wow, It's pretty interesting to see a post that's so ridiculous, doesn't solve any real problem, and I guess is just advantageous to men. Good job? I got a vasectomy, because I didn't trust my partner at the time, in hindsight, I wish I had just divorced her, it would have been like ripping off the bandaid., so I'm on the "personal accountability" stance. It's easy guys, no fear of pregnancy, have as much sex as you want. Isn't really more than a little uncomfortable for a few days. The gender t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 11:25 PM
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I respect that it's your perspective, I'm just glad it's not my experience. My conversations with women are so much more fulfilling than most of my conversations with men that I'd be sad, depressed, and probably lonely if not for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:22 PM
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not to me, guys are mostly boring when you take away sportsball or video games, at least in my experience, and I don't want to talk about either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:40 PM
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I know more and more men who are "house husbands", though honestly most people are better off when everyone works. I make good money (200k), the people who I know who make in the 150 range live radically different lives because often their partners make the same and 300k is crazy money. Also, I think most people are better off if they have life goals they can work towards, so even if they're a house husband, they would be better off than just playing video games or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:58 PM
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As I'm with 2 partners (often at the same time) (not counting porn, where it's work and entertainment) sometimes more, and everyone's erogenous zones are different. I do think a big benefit over repeated sex with the same people, is learning and memorizing those differences. Having said that, I think having a lot of previous experience means its more likely to get to a "good" experience quicker. One of my partners is very sexually open (also does porn work), one of my partners isn't and is kind …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:52 PM
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It’s also probably not a fun life for many women who look in the mirror every day wondering if today is the day they’re too old and their man is going to exchange them for a younger model. Transactional relationships suck long term, but can be completely fine for years or decades. Half of relationships end in 7-10 years, i bet most of those weren’t relationships based on two (or 3, i’m poly) or more people laughing and loving life together.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:41 PM
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To be fair, Nobody’s wants matter in the frame of what you want other people to do with you. Some women might want a flock of admirers they never have sex with who treat them like gfs. I know many women (especially models) who have that interaction with many of their male friends. As a guy who is often friends with those models, i’ll tell you that the girl often doesn’t respect those guys. Nor should they, the guys often don’t come from a place of honest intentions, so they are buying a response…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:37 PM
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Absolutely, i was agreeing with you (just in case us being on reddit implies i was being combative, but i was also disagreeing with op’s partner who was talking about previous sex with previous partners)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:21 PM
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I mostly have female friends, but i’m a photographer and do porn work, so that might be a factor. I rarely sleep with friends (i do give naked massages, because they know i’m safe and i’m good at it, with real massage table, real techniques, etc), because i have strict rules to follow porn protocols (std testing within 14 days before having sex), so i’m the one making it more difficult to have sex instead of them, but also i don’t need or even want sex with my friends, i live with 2 female partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:19 PM
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Thank you. I do think that OP is touching on something real, in the sense that many people go through life "on autopilot", but I think that applies to everyone, not just men. I think everyone's goal should be to try to be "mindful" as much as possible, even though it's hard, because it's only when we're "mindful" that we're truly aware and in control of ourselves, and if OP normally interacts with people who aren't engaged (to your point, moving the conversation to something they're interested i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:10 AM
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I think some people, especially inexperienced people, talk brashly about all kinds of things they've done, but if you push them on it, they actually did it once, and maybe it wasn't that good. So when they're using to bragging about something they think makes them stand out and special, they might say it with their next bf, but it's mostly fake. Our culture is brash and fake in general (people's live son social media seems amazing or seems horrible, people don't share the boring parts of their l…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:16 AM
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I do porn, live with my two bisexual lovers, and have a pretty active sex life with many (tested, becaused porn work requires talenttesting) partners, and I still can't recall anyone talking about what they did with past lovers. People talk about what they "do" or what they "like", or what they "don't" like, but always in the context of (I love to be choked, or I hate being choked, or I love anal or I'll never do anal), not in the context of "oh, with my last boyfriend, I did XYZ all the time". …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:10 AM
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Both my gf’s are 5’3”, the 3 guys I’m thinking of are each shorter than them. I know one of them says he’s 5’3” but that can’t be right because in flats they are still taller. I live in Vegas which is very multi-ethnic, the guys im referring to are Latino, and they each date models, actresses, or fitness people, which makes sense since we’re all in the entertainment industry in some fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 02:12 AM
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I agree that most of those single "aspiring to be alpha" guys don't like women. Guys who like women, can participate in hookup culture fine, at least in metropolitan areas. They have a group of women they legitimately like and occasionally have sex with. I guess normally they have sex for some amount of time then things change and they move on in "FWB hookup culture". That's a much better culture to be in with more sex with more partners, vs the one aspiring alphas want to be in, "one night stan…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:16 PM
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Start making porn? Totally legal way to have sex with hot women, make money at the same time. Become a standup comedian? Become super physically fit? Move to a 1 million + population area? I know short “average or unattractive” people who have constant new gfs, often taller and hot girls. I know tall guys (6’+) constantly who whine about being single, fawn over models, and always strike out. The things i notice. - the guys who have regular success often have great personalities, i’d consider the…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 10:26 PM
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I think because society in general allows or even encourages guys to push making mature decisions onto women supposedly to allow them to have more fun but often leaving the guys clueless in navigating adult life. Even when the guy is mature, tv and movies still show women bossing their guy around and their guy just wanting to play games or watch sports. It isn’t like women have any more reason than men to want trash taken out, to prioritize spending quality time with family, with having a nicely…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 10:16 PM
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