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Tall_Lavishness3801/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 12:37 AM
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Dude..... You won. You GET to stay home with your kids. You GET to not be married to that shitty lady anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 11:03 PM
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I've been waiting two years and cant really believe it. Time flies bye too fast. This is the part that will haunt me. Im wasting time, but I'm scared of what is next. I'm 36. I haven't gone on a date in 19 years...I dont know life without my wife and kids. I dont know who I am, man. I'm terrified of what comes after, to be honest BUT its really fun to think about.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:27 PM
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Appreciate the advice, I wish you luck in your journey, too! Long story short, we grew apart for awhile, then she had an affair 3 years ago, I agreed to try and make it work to keep the family together, and have realized I just cannot do this anymore. After the affair, I think I had some sort of shock or something, because I loved her, or thought I did, more than ever. Assuming this has a more technical phrase, but ive read that that is not uncommon. After awhile I just started to realize nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:23 PM
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She says she does, but I dont think she actually does. I make 75% of our household income and I think she's too afraid of losing out on the luxuries she enjoys
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 10:16 PM
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Honestly?...I'm not sure. She got pregnant when I was still in high-school almost 18 years ago and we made it work. It "felt" like love, I guess, but I know this current version is someone I dont love. I cant really draw from prior experience, she was my first real relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 06:47 PM
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Yeah, just a few sessions though. I just dont think any amount of counseling can fix what we are going through, honestly. Im just sitting stagnant when I know damn well the time will come to divorce....I just cant seem to find the right time or way or even will to do it right now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 02:26 PM
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Sigh... I know that now. I just wanted to keep my family together at the time, but it was probably the single worst decision I've ever made. I don't have a good excuse, I'm just paralyzed at this point...now Christmas is coming and I think I'll wait until January but its never the right time, honestly. Its easy for me to think and type all of this, but when it comes down to it, I'm a coward unfortunately. For some reason I'm only a coward when it comes to this one topic, otherwise I really dont …
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 03:27 AM
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Ugh. I know.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 03:16 AM
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I know, the 17 year old is such a great big brother, but he will be off to college in a year and a half unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 02:11 AM
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Well, its a long story, but we went through a few different rough patches throughout the past 4 years. She had an affair 3 years ago, like a real affair not just a one night stand, that made everything crumble. That was my chance and I missed it. The reason I asked for divorce the first time was almost a year ago now, in January, because I finally realized we will never be the same again and it was over. To make things work, we agreed to communicate more openly, spend more wisely, weekly date ni…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 02:10 AM
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Do you miss your wife at all? If not, maybe its time to come to terms with yourself and admit you dont want to be with her anymore. Leaving the house may have been a mistake from everything I've heard, I'd go back as immediately as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 12:21 AM
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What percentage would it increase, is the question, here. Not dollar amounts.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 04:49 AM
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That is completely up to the lender, you'll need to talk with them for a sure answer.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 04:44 AM
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Current rates vs a 2.5% rate will be an enormous increase.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 04:41 AM
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My lender told me I could, as long as Financials lined up, take her name off the mortgage, there is a term for it I cant quite remember. Talk with the bank. As far as buying her out, if you dont have the cash on hand, you could setup a payment schedule with her, give her all the retirement accounts(not sure if thats the smartest thing or not), liquidate any assets, etc. This will be my plan.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 04:39 AM
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You don't really have to justify anything to her. Just tell her it's your life, and you've made a decision. If you are truly done, you have to start thinking in terms of "me" and "I" instead of "we" and "us".
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 05:55 AM
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I'll let you know, tonight is the night. I've been shaking and queasy all day with anticipation, she's a narcissist, so I'm sure it won't go well. Impossible to have an adult conversation with...
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 06:16 PM
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I'm asking for divorce tomorrow. I couldn't be more nervous and scared but at the same time am so fking excited to get the chance to just be alone for the first time in my life. I moved from my parents house the day I graduated into an apartment with my girlfriend, now wife, and we've been together for almost 20 years. I've literally never lived alone. I cant wait for the peace that will come with it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 04:27 AM
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Omfg the clothes with tags and barely used decor...😡 That exact thing(along with 90 pairs of $100 shoes, $200 purses, etc.) Is just another reason I can't wait to divorce. She's a financially illiterate person who will never retire and live paycheck to paycheck the rest of her life.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 04:34 AM
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Flat out ask: "can I go through your phone? I've been feeling very insecure lately and this would help ease my mind, no accusations, just reassurance" If she says no, you pretty much have your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:41 PM
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OMG, yes. One critique or complaint and all of a sudden I hated everything about her somehow. Incidentally, because of those reactions, I now do hate pretty everything about her.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 09:10 AM
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Same man, this January it will have been exactly 18 years since we started dating. I knew I didn't love her from the start, but now my kids are grown enough to understand and I'm telling her I want a divorce in a few weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 09:04 AM
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Right. For me, it's about not wanting to escalate further and make her REALLY lose control of her emotions and embarrass us both. I dont get screamed at like this, but man that bitch says some nasty stuff to try and rile me up. I'm telling her I want a divorce in a few weeks after I talk everything out with an attorney. Tonight was my final straw and I went from wanting her to fare well and get back on her feet after divorce to now wanting her to end up in a shithole apartment apartment penniles…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 09:02 AM
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This has "give me some sympathy so I don't feel as bad when I have an affair within 6 months" vibes..
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/24 07:56 AM
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Will do, man. I actually called a couple divorce lawyers this morning. My current household is no longer a place where I want my children to be raised. I'm done being a punching bag and she unwilling to take our arguments to a place where they can't hear. Shes a total narcissist with a drinking problem and those two things don't mix well at all.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/24 09:51 PM
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Never being on my own has been tough. I don't know what it feels like, but it's easy enough to imagine when my family is out of town for a day or two. I love my kids more than anything in the world and wouldn't dream of wishing I'd never had them, but I CAN dream about the day they are old enough to move out and I can be on my own. It will be a bittersweet feeling because my kids are my world, and have been my entire adult life, and I'm dreading the day that they don't need me anymore, although …
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 05:57 PM
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This is a great, well thought out response. I envy you, I've got two kids, 16 and 10, great kids and have been with my wife for 18 years(high-school sweethearts). I'm to the point where not only do I not love my wife, I dont think i even like her. I don't hate her, but if she weren't my spouse, I would not voluntarily be around her. She's very confrontational, loud, and pretty narcissistic. Anyway, I've never - not for one day of my life - had my own home, just me. One morning, im graduating hig…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 08:07 AM
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