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Trying to get my girls feet finder and butt content off the ground for this very reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:46 AM
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There’s plenty of women who respond well to that. Even some Stacy-lites. But you gotta warm approach a biddy like that, you can’t lead off with that kinda shit cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:16 AM
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I feel like the opposite is true in my area. You’re more likely to see a better dressed/styled/looking woman with just a random looking dude with a mustache lol. I will say, I’m sure that’s my personal bias since I’m straight and the fact that women generally put more upkeep in their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:35 AM
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That sounds wildly unhinged lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:17 AM
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I hate to break it to you, but there’s not a lot of “fertile women” begging to be impregnated by a 40-50 yr old virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:01 AM
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Disagree. Dating is ultimately selling yourself as a product, and in order to properly “sell” that product, you’ve got to keep your customer properly engaged. Failure to do so means that you’re boring in some way. Not necessarily a bad person, though that can absolutely cause a loss of interest too ( like being rude to wait staff on the date, insulting your date, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:38 PM
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I don’t think “don’t be an asshole” is the same thing as “be nice.” You can be fun and flirty with women (which is nice) without being a boring doormat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:12 PM
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Generally speaking, unless you’re truly ugly…it’s your introverted, dry personality. General you, not you specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 11:10 PM
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Bahn mi from my local hole in the wall Vietnamese joint.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:46 PM
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Found out I have an older brother that way lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:40 PM
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Again, that presumes that women are hooking up with men they find unattractive, despite all evidence to the contrary. If sex is infrequent or bad, she doesn’t find you sexually attractive. Simple as.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:31 PM
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>I do not put sexual attractiveness in value as a sexual partner What? How do you think people primarily choose sexual partners? If that’s not the case, then why aren’t women going around fucking sexually unattractive incels? You think people hook up with people they find unattractive, as a rule? Cmon.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 10:23 PM
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Sure it is. They’re not attractive sexually, ergo they struggle. There is no such thing as a high SMV dude who struggles to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:58 PM
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No, men who struggle are just low value as sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:52 PM
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I think this applies to strugglers of either sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:28 PM
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Did you not read your own link?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 07:45 PM
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That sounds like some flavor of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 06:59 PM
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How do you get 1200+ people to swipe right and talk to you, and only get ONE to agree to a date? Does that strike you as the sign of a good conversationalist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 06:54 PM
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Big facts. My lady after a gym sesh or a night out dancing drives me FERAL.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 06:33 PM
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Both of those things are good for you mentally, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 06:32 PM
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Bro got like 1200 conversations and fumbled all but one. He was fat, boring and dorky looking, all of which doesn’t play well on the apps. He was also conservative, another pussy repellant. The dude is a case study in how not to date online lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 04:03 PM
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Don’t let your $10 mouth cash checks your 10¢ ass isn’t good for lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:34 PM
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That’s plainly untrue. The Black Death, the Great Depression and the first and second World Wars were periods of birth rate decline. It’s not a modern problem by any means, but the thing those all have in common is exogenous shocks to the system. “The math doesn’t add up” is such a weird argument, demand will adjust to population size. This idea that demand HAS to grow every year is nonsense. Infinite growth is the ideology of a cancer cell.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:33 PM
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In several cities I’ve lived in, if you can’t parallel park, you’re essentially cut off from parking spots. I hate parallel parking, but you have to be able to do it unless you plan on parking 5 miles away from your destination and walking.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:37 AM
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If you live in a city, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 09:20 AM
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My girl does like my pack out for her lil household projects she’s always getting into.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 02:04 AM
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“No you” 🫵😂
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:52 AM
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Sure, no one is saying you have to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:44 AM
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Yeah, I would shut the fuck up and put my tail between my legs if I were you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:43 AM
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True, but I think that’s mostly revenge fantasy coping. If no woman was choosing you at 25, she’s not going to magically choose you at 35 either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:40 AM
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Hey! That’s not fair. We’re also on pills and other drugs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:32 AM
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Bro, take your L and go. “It’s 750 deaths per 1000 people” lying ass LMFAO
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:24 AM
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Hi viz is the modern woman’s favorite aphrodisiac lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:22 AM
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This weird aversion to having different priorities as you age, and a fear that may happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:20 AM
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Lmao <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:19 AM
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Yeah, not even close. 10-25 million people per year died at the height of the Black Death, between 1347-1351. South Koreas death rate is around 7 per 1000 people. In order to see a population decline comparable to the Black Death, it would have to be around 300-600 people dying per 1000. You’re not even in the ballpark of being correct my guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 12:11 AM
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I put up a pic that showed bf percentage, not bmi. And the 25% bodyfat girl looked hot as hell. So did the 40% bodyfat one 🤷‍♂️ As a fellow stomach pooch enjoyer, I just want to recognize a fellow man of culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:50 PM
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I just realized that. I made a dumb dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:37 PM
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So, you’re worried about Japan’s stagnant economy, right? You seem like the smartest kid on the shortbus, so I’m sure you’re familiar with Japans asset bubble crisis, when it’s economic growth was worse than today, its birth rate was worse than today during the crisis, and…Japan somehow is still here and still outperforming its nearest competitor for 4th largest economy by a comfortable margin. So why should we be more concerned now than we were then when none of your doomsday predictions came t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:34 PM
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Because you don’t understand basic economics. Hell, you couldn’t even give a coherent response as to why Japan survived the much worse asset bubble crisis 30+ years ago, yet they’re somehow on the verge of complete meltdown today.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:23 PM
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Weird, because the most overtly “woke” Democratic campaigns were the ones that did the best (Obama twice and Biden) in terms of votes. The two most popular politicians in the party currently are AOC and Mamdani, neither of which shy away from being “woke.” It was the corporate neoliberal centrists that couldn’t beat Trump.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:18 PM
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Or, they’re in an area with more conservative women to choose from, as opposed to cities where there’s more liberal women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:01 PM
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How short are you that you can’t find a SINGLE 19-21 BMI woman to put up with you? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:56 PM
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Nothing wrong with a pretty girl one meal away from being a bbw.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:54 PM
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Do you? Or just more failed predictions were improbably supposed to take at face value after 40 years of those points either being outright wrong or not materializing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:52 PM
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I’m not sure I buy this, because conservative men are doing just fine in rural areas and the suburbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:42 PM
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I’m glad you brought both of them up, because Japan and Italy should’ve collapsed in the 90s based on the fearmongering, and yet here we are, with both countries still here and still surviving.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:37 PM
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Given the rise of automation and the fact that demand will adjust to the lower population baseline, I’m not sure what the issue is. We’ve already seen this with Japan since the 1980s, which was supposed to have collapsed on the 90s based on the fearmongering people like you were doing then.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:35 PM
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Ok, let’s logically think this through. Are we experiencing a Black Death level population decline? No, we’re not. Not even remotely close. Again, less stuff is fine when you have less people. You don’t need all the extra “stuff” when you don’t have a surplus of people you don’t need.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:22 PM
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There’s plenty of educated people that would agree with me. Did the US economy collapse when our population was half of what it is now? No. It’s absurd to think the economy can’t adjust in size along with population. The fact that you can’t cite a SINGLE historical example speaks volumes about the invalidity of your claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:14 PM
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What’s there to rebut? You clearly conceded the argument by failing to prove your point. I asked for historical examples and you gave me “hypothetically speaking….”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:09 PM
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I see you left out “ABSENT AN EXOGENOUS THREAT LIKE WAR OR DISEASE.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:07 PM
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That was a long winded way of saying “No, I can’t.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:05 PM
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Ok, cite a single time in history where a slight birth rate decline crashed an economy, absent an exogenous shock like a war or disease? I don’t trust you. Prove it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:25 PM
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The dudes bringing up the birth rate are always the same ones no one wants to have sex with, let alone raise a kid with. Also, every rant on the birth rate decline on a long enough timeline always descends into “dickpocalypse” ranting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:19 PM
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Its over for cohabitationcels.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:05 PM
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And if you don’t do it, it will lead to some kind of apocalyptic nightmare where some incel-turned-lord of the wasteland will forcefully take you into his harem, so you better spare a crumb of puss now to avoid it ooga booga lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:04 PM
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Except no economy has ever collapsed from a birth rate decline, unless you’re talking about some enormous exogenous threat to the system, like something along the lines of the Black Death or a world war.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 09:02 PM
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Because women can sus out your dry, boring personality through the texts you’re sending to try and get an interview. Unless you’re not getting any response period, then yeah, you just ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 08:59 PM
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He looks kinda gay, so if that look is “mogging,” sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:01 PM
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I don’t think cultural or religious aversions to dating/marrying bisexual people are automatically homophobic. It’s perfectly fine to say “I personally don’t want to date an LGBT person due to my beliefs” without having a fear of LGBT people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:00 PM
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Look pretty looksmatched to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:05 PM
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Which is a weird claim to make, since social circles expand and shrink all the time. The only way to find out if they’ll welcome you in is to try it and see.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:04 PM
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The RP and blackpill aversion to aging and being stuck in perpetual adolescence is never not fascinating to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 06:02 PM
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[citation needed]
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:44 AM
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\thread, essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:03 AM
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How many straight men are in relationships with bisexual women? Not a lot, statistically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 11:02 AM
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There’s no way to prove this without some kind of data. There’s plenty of men who wouldn’t be with a bisexual women for cultural and religious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:59 AM
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Again, that makes zero sense. Gay men can be physically attracted to women too, yet they don’t date them. A simple look at who’s dating who demonstrates my point; the overwhelming majority of heterosexual people are dating…other heterosexual people. I’m sure there’s a myriad of biological and psychological factors here. Again, given the low proclivity for bisexuality amongst other great apes, I think that in particular is pretty telling in what most people are wired for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:58 AM
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“Nutting in a femboy from grindr 5 minutes after they break up” alone is probably one of the most sexually repulsive things a straight woman can read lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:47 AM
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I don’t know why this is such a hard concept to grasp for the (mostly bi men) who continually ask this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:44 AM
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If that’s the case, why aren’t women attracted to gay men? They’re men, right? This whole idea that orientation is divorced from sexual attraction strikes me as a delusional claim, or else you’d see much higher rates of bisexuality. Same with psychology, it doesn’t exist independently in a vacuum completely separate from sexual attraction. From a simple population standpoint, a distaste for bisexual men is likely rooted in evolutionary pressures for stable population growth. Hard to find a partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:37 AM
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I think from a biological standpoint, most people being heterosexual are attracted to other heterosexual people, and anything outside that isn’t going to seem attractive due to those underlying biological biases. I don’t think “femininity” has anything to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 10:21 AM
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Who is “morally shaming” you in your day to day life? Personally, when I found out that EVERY woman I hold dear to me had a similar story of a man who wouldn’t take no for an answer or touched them sexually without consent, from my mom to my friends to my cousins…I feel like you kind of have to be a piece of shit to not take a notice of that commonality and try and downplay it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:38 AM
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I just met people going out and through friends. The apps were ok, but I found I didn’t need to use them to meet women. Going out and having fun is the only real “strategy” to use imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:40 AM
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Women do make great wingmen, I will say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 03:58 PM
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I have a type that I like 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:12 PM
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<image> It’s the same either way lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 03:26 AM
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Essentially this, but you have to have dating and relationship experience to get that. Somebody who’s permasingle will often say “I’ll take ANYBODY” because they have no frame of reference for who they’re really compatible with. Sometimes the best looking people make shitty partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:57 PM
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Not at all. But a lot of people aren’t comfortable dating an LGBT person for whatever reason; there’s men who won’t date bisexual women for religious and cultural reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:34 PM
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Right, because any relationship that doesn’t fit whatever subjective parameters is labeled as “settling.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:22 PM
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I think it’s highly dependent on age, but it’s not really a claim; data supports that most people have sex in relationships and the lifetime partner average for most people is between 3-7 people. That said, I think casual sex isn’t as hard to get as it’s made out, people I think are biologically geared towards sex with a consistent partner they know and like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:19 PM
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He’s also a man sexually attracted to men. Most straight women don’t like to share their men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 08:00 PM
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Again, sexual report surveys don’t support the assertion that the majority of men are sexless losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:23 PM
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Yall keep making that claim, but single=\\= sexless. Dating has always sucked, what else is new?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 07:14 PM
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Women tend to look better with higher body fat if they store it in aesthetic places.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:56 PM
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When you try to talk to redpillers about how more than 20% of men are dating and fucking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 06:27 PM
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They are functionally different. Straight men don’t sleep with other men. That’s a big distinction whether you want to admit that or not. My guess would be that straight women’s concern about orientation has biological roots.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:53 PM
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I’m not sure why I have to explain that just because you find a woman unattractive doesn’t mean all men find that woman unattractive. Like I’m sure I’d find your wife hideous, but I bet you think she’s the prettiest cow at the corral.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:34 PM
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No idea. I will say that studies do confirm that “gaydar” does exist in some form.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:28 PM
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You’re big mad for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:27 PM
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Right, but straight women aren’t attracted to gay men, despite them being men. Bi men are in that same category for most straight women. It’s not just “being a man” that women are attracted to, orientation is absolutely something they care about. But that’s not disgust. We’re going in circles because you personally think women are disgusted by bi men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:25 PM
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It’s not either/or, it’s both. Women want a good mix of looks and personality; like everybody else.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:19 PM
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But bisexual men aren’t straight men. Straight women are overwhelmingly attracted to straight men. It’s not “disgust” to want to date a straight person as another straight person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:14 PM
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But straight women generally aren’t attracted to men attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:11 PM
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I’m not sure I buy that. I don’t think it’s “disgust” to not be attracted to nonstraight people as a straight person. Like I don’t think gay people are “disgusted” by straight women and that’s why they won’t date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:04 PM
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Ella Langley bangs on a woman: 🔥
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 03:57 PM
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Since this is all subjective, it’s kind of impossible to say. My younger brother has a thing for skinny, gym bunny readheads, while me and my older brother both like busty brunettes. Obviously I’d rate my type a 10, and my youngest brother would disagree because his 10 looks radically different. Who would be right and who would be wrong? 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:18 PM
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Be upfront, but be tactful. Don’t bludgeon her with “ayo, want some fuck!?” or some dumb shit right off.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:16 PM
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But it proves that being chunkier isn’t a barrier to a relationship. And by the same token, you can’t assume every chunky guy is in a resentful, settling relationship. >having a relationship is only half the battle. This sounds like moving the goalposts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:56 PM
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And yet obese average men are still dating and partnered up. In the Midwest, being a heftier guy isn’t a dealbreaker whatsoever. Unless you’re talking extremely fat, but the “average man” isn’t a 600 lb blob in a jazzy chair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:46 PM
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A mix of both, I think? I’m super extroverted and my partner leans more introverted, so I tend to “push” her to be more social at times and she gets to rein me in when I want to get too wild. But we have bunch of shared interests and traits too, from music to food to overall life outlook.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:34 PM
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Because very, very few men are actually physically deformed to the point where it would hamper them successfully dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:30 PM
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And the men doing the convincing all look suspiciously zesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:03 PM
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Women. Men tend to have much broader standards for what they consider attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 11:36 AM
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I mean, that is an elite combo if you got it 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 10:03 PM
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I think women give pretty good dating advice, but you have to take it with the knowledge that advice might be only applicable to the specific woman giving the advice. That advice might be completely dumb to another girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:31 PM
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Yeah, I can’t logically come to the conclusion that a study that plainly states the women weren’t interested and the men continued anyway isn’t crystal fucking clear in what it’s saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 02:30 PM
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I was flattered by her finding me attractive, and while she was attractive herself, I’m happily in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:41 PM
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How did I strawman? You simply saying it doesn’t make it so. His argument was dumb, so I gave a dumb answer 🤷‍♂️ Something tells me you rode a shorter bus to school, didn’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:09 PM
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Lol argue in good faith dude. You and homeboy up above seem to have a problem with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:05 PM
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I don’t OP is arguing in good faith at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:51 PM
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Did the man say no? Then yes. See? It’s not that hard to understand consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:34 PM
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So, you didn’t post “data” you posted aristotles opinion. That’s a bit disingenuous, don’t you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:26 PM
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Ok, I’ll bite. Explain. Because ignoring a no and continuing to pester a woman is what a toddler would do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:22 PM
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Again, what’s your evidence of that? That you personally feel that any nonwhite, nonmale hire is automatically unqualified? “I remember, I was there” is just “trust me, bro.” My solution doesn’t exist, because I don’t think there’s a problem to be solved. Women having government jobs isn’t an issue. Nonmale hires aren’t “preventing qualified men from getting jobs” in any meaningful sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:21 PM
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The links were removed by the moderator? Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:17 PM
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Again, it goes back what I said earlier; I can 100% guarantee a guy with your height and a similar face is successfully dating. So what’s your issue given that reality? Talk about no self awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:03 PM
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Because your comments imply that you think only men are best qualified and merit based. You’ve repeatedly outright stated that any “DEI hiring” (whatever that is) is automatically less qualified and lacks merit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 12:01 PM
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Did, and see no links. Care to repost? I’d like to see your data.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:55 AM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:53 AM
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My brother in Christ, you tell me what you think “they knew did not want sex and had not consented” means? Because that’s pretty clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:51 AM
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Sounds like skill issue, or, an issue with mismanaging expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:50 AM
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So what? I guarantee somebody your height and with similar facial structure is successfully dating. So stop using that as an excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:45 AM
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>Women are net negative tax contributors as a whole That’s bold statement, I’m sure you have some data to back that up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:44 AM
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You’re essentially arguing for “DEI, but for men only” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:42 AM
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I literally just said where they said no. Did you not bother to read your own study?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:32 AM
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Are you a troll and don’t know what “strategies to get a woman to have sex who they knew did not want sex and had not consented” means? If she doesn’t want sex or your attention, it doesn’t matter how “harmless” your strategy is. Leave her alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:29 AM
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All of which is irrelevant; if she’s not interested with you doing those things…read the room. Take the hint. Leave her alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:10 AM
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Which is a good thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:06 AM
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I’m not “better” than anybody, just pointing out how the rhetoric on here doesn’t match reality. No need to be salty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:06 AM
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>Guys here are prudes Weirdly so, for being so sex obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:04 AM
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This study sounds like one giant argument for learning to read the room. If she’s not reciprocating your interest, leave her alone. It’s not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 11:03 AM
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Had refreshingly honest conversation at the bar tonight; a girl started a convo and said she found me attractive, and I said she was attractive too, but I’m unfortunately taken. Ended up chatting and it wasn’t like how the gender wars describe conversations between men and women happen. She didn’t “shame” me for finding her attractive, nobody threatened to call the police, nothing like the horror stories you hear on here about talking to a woman in the wild. Just a normal conversation between tw…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:10 AM
1

My girl has her lips done and a bbl and since she went to a good surgeon, you’d never know. I think keeping things proportional is key, her butt looks great but she’d look weird with a giant fake diaper butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:13 PM
2

Is plastic surgery in a woman a turnoff? Dating a woman who’s had work done has kind of changed my opinion on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:43 PM
6

You’re describing the same woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:05 PM
1

File under: “No shit.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:21 PM
2

You gotta have a good dick for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:20 PM
3

Proximity and familiarity is a great base for starting a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:18 PM
3

Thicc girls need a bigger dick to get past the cheeks 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:37 PM
1

lol it’s pretty common dude
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 01:38 AM
2

Oh yeah, I’ve never had that problem. If I crossed off friends exes I’d be in trouble lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:16 PM
2

Damn, I’m the exact opposite. The last three of my four most recent gfs are from the same friend circle lol Granted my current gf and ex don’t get along like they used to, but for the most part it’s been fine 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:43 PM
4

lol not even, that’s how most people find dates!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 09:32 PM
1

There’s multiple other men on this thread with the same story. I’m not that hot and it’s not that rare lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:44 PM
1

Are you naturally introverted?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:22 PM
2

Of course it is. You don’t have ANY female friends? None of your male friends have single sisters or cousins or friends of friends? If you’re antisocial you’re actively handicapping yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:52 PM
1

Exactly. Most men, at some point in their lives and I’d wager as early as middle school, have had a woman approach them because she was interested. Never experiencing that isn’t the norm, and I don’t think we should pretend it is to avoid hurting people’s feelings here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:55 PM
1

You’re right, there’s not much to argue about if you’re so far outside the norm that not a single woman has ever approached you since puberty and you think it’s a myth. Sucks to suck I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:47 PM
2

This is how it works. My gf would show up to places she’d know I would be at, she would text asking what I was up to, if I was doing anything that weekend, whatever. She’d be flirty at group events, and find a way to be seated near me. She made the first move because although I knew she was interested, I was reluctant to pursue her because she’s the kid sister of a girl that I’ve known since high school. And she was still basically like “you might be afraid of my sister, but I’m not. You want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:30 PM
0

It’s not that uncommon. I’m not the only dude with this kind of experience. I’d gather most normal men have it experienced it more than a couple times starting in middle and high school. Again, it’s only indirect and vague because you don’t know what to look for. But that’s not an impossible skill to learn, it just takes practice and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:15 PM
7

Warm approach in your social circle is the gold standard for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:05 PM
1

Women are incredibly upfront and open if they like what they see. Does it happen all the time? No. Has it happened to me enough times to be noticeable? Yes. Second, their “vague signals” are almost always blatantly eye fucking you and smiling at you. You just have to learn what to look for.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:51 PM
0

Statistically speaking, a woman approaching you first is much more common than surging a fall without a parachute. But I think you knew that already.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:49 PM
5

lol I’ve had women directly come up to me and start talking to me, telling me that she “wanted to climb me like a fucking tree.” My current gf made the first move. It baffles me that men think this doesn’t happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:28 PM
3

Lol the dirty lil secret is that women already approach, if they like something enough about you to do so. Hopefully this isn’t too “blackpill” or “woe is me” mods 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:50 PM
4

Yup, women are perfectly fine approaching you and saying something if they like what they see.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:32 PM
0

Yeah, yeah, yeah. You got scammed because you were cheap and didn’t do your due diligence. It’s not delusion when you admit it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:23 PM
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From personal experience, older women tend to be much more direct and blunt about whether they’re DTF or not. Like, they know what you want, they know what they want, finish your drink and let’s get to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:19 PM
3

You get what you pay for, hombre.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:01 PM
7

Just be upfront. If she complains about you “only seeing her as an object,” cut your losses and on to the next one. 9/10 women know what you want, so you might as well be open about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:00 PM
3

[citation needed]
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:48 PM
13

As a functioning adult, if all you are is “nice”, that’s not a big accomplishment. You should be nice as a default of proper social conditioning. If you have to constantly tell people how “nice” you are, something is off.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:47 PM
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I notice you didn’t answer my question, why is that? Your post isn’t complicated. I understand what you wrote. My question is why you think what you wrote. Do you need me to dumb it down more for you? This comment is written 100% in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:55 PM
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That’s circular logic. Simply being a disqualifier doesn’t make something inherently negative. I have to ask, are you on the spectrum? You seem to have a very rigid way of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:42 PM
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“Negative” in any logical connotation means “bad.”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:40 PM
2

I’m not sure I’d use Myron as an example, the dude has/had a fine ass girl that was into him and he didn’t seem to be able to enjoy it in the Louis Theroux documentary because he had to essentially stay in character 24/7 and just looked exhausted and sad in private.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:38 PM
3

Sub 15% body fat and a looksmatched gf, my gf is significantly more attractive than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:37 PM
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I don’t think you know what “ad hominem” means. Point out where I called you names. You not being attracted to something doesn’t mean you think it’s negative. That’s an absurd statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:57 AM
2

Date whoever you want within the bounds of legality. Why do age gap dudes obsess over the approval of everyone else? Date a younger woman if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:42 AM
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Again, how other people make you feel about yourself is your problem to deal with, it’s not theirs. If a woman says she doesn’t like blonde haired, blue eyed white men, I can’t take that as a “personal attack” and view my features negatively, that’s borderline mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:41 AM
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I think this is an absurd argument. Your insecurities are your own problem to deal with, it’s not anyone else responsibility to compromise their standards to tiptoe around them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:30 AM
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\thread
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:09 AM
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Your first mistake was giving a shit about what internet feminists think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:18 AM
6

Men are already doing that and it hasn’t gotten undesirable men more dates 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 11:26 PM
3

Agreed. Dating for most people just kind of “happens”, so it’s hard for someone who’s never experienced that to think that they shouldn’t have it “easy” like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 10:00 PM
2

I think blue pill works for most normal people. If you’re properly socialized, have a decent friend group, and you’re reasonably attractive, it’s not hard to find a partner. Or have casual sex, for that matter. I think the RP is right on improving yourself and learning game, but gets lost in the weeds when it gets into all the woo woo pseudoscience sociology stuff. If you follow the former, you’ll probably see results. If you get stuck on the latter, you’ll probably get trapped in the feedback l…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:43 PM
6

Ok bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:19 PM
6

No it’s not
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:58 PM
7

Not even close to the amount men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:27 PM
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Well, women aren’t complaining about a lack of dates and have no incentive to start approaching, unlike men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:46 PM
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Gold digging is pretty easy to spot. If she’s not reciprocating your sexual interest but you’re still giving her money or gifts, you’re getting played, period. “It’s not always that obvious” is just copium for being naive and willfully blind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:43 PM
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Who says it refers to both? It’s commonly only used to describe the former.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:41 PM
11

Give an example of that, it’s a simple question you seem unable to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:07 PM
8

Give an example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:02 PM
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Why should they “think beyond themselves” in terms of dating? Either she likes your vibe or she doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:54 PM
3

I can’t really argue with any of this, all solid points.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:52 PM
2

Yeah, I feel like this is quite rare in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:36 PM
2

I was speaking more in a “practice makes something easier” kind of thing. You should always learn what your partner likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:35 PM
8

You definitely get better at sex the more of it you have, which can help in a relationship. But casual sex and relationships shouldn’t be automatically correlated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:05 PM
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Being antisocial does hurt your dating chances, but some dudes can have plenty of friends and still struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 10:55 AM
9

The market is clearly tolerating recent changes in sugar baby behavior, otherwise they wouldn’t be doing it as market forces would’ve already weeded them out. Just because the cheapskate making this post is priced out doesn’t mean EVERYONE is priced out.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:54 PM
0

You can also drastically alter your face with diet and exercise, which is a skill thing. Height you’re pretty much stuck with what you got.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:53 PM
7

No offense, but who decides what’s “reasonable”? Nobody is owed a sugar relationship. If you don’t like a sugar babies terms or can’t afford them, find another one or abstain from sugar relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:47 PM
0

Yes. Plastic surgery is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:45 PM
10

Right, but sugar dating is inherently exploitative. The issue here isn’t that it’s exploitative, it’s that it’s now exploitative in favor of the babies as opposed to the daddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:13 PM
1

Proving my point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:31 PM
2

Strength training, diet, skincare, building your social skills, all kinds of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:29 PM
6

I said the same thing. Sugar dating is the ultimate “you get what you pay for” situation, because there’s no “SEC for pussy” to help you if you get scammed. Dude admitted he got scammed twice, so that leads me to believe he’s 1) a poor judge of a bad deal and didn’t do due diligence, or 2) a cheapskate and was willing to take the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:28 PM
2

Sure you can. Most people are simply too lazy and undisciplined to do that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:15 PM
2

Sounds like a skill issue
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:10 PM
11

It’s wild. Getting mad over someone’s prices because *you personally* feel they’re too high is stupid. I can’t imagine going to a realtor in Malibu and getting angry because the beachfront property is out of my price range lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:07 PM
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I don’t really understand how you can hate someone for exploiting a market advantage in a financial based relationship, does this sugar daddy not know why young women keep his company?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:46 PM
8

Because sugar relationships are FINANCIALLY BASED. That’s like asking “why are you so obsessed with money!?” when talking about running a business. The name of the game is to make money. At best, you seem to arguing for “buyer beware” in terms of sugar relationships, which, like EVERYTHING else, you get what you pay for.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:56 PM
4

You insinuated it with the point about new women entering the scene with more requirements, mostly age and looks requirements. Two requirements, I’m sure, you could easily bypass with the correct dollar amount. So that leads me to believe you’re unwilling to meet that amount, or unable to meet that amount, both of which produce the same result; you getting no sugar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:50 PM
9

I’m not even sure what the issue is. Like, sorry you can’t afford the sugar baby you want? I’m not really sure I feel bad here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:47 PM
8

Right. Sugar babies are free to make demands, and you’re free to say no and find other sugar options. Such is the free market. Unless you’re annoyed that the sugar babies you want are now outside your price range and you have to settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:46 PM
4

I have no idea wtf you’re talking about. What woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:33 PM
7

Yes. How is it the markets problem that you’re unable to keep up with sugar relationship inflation? You’re blaming TikTok when the real issue is that you seem unable to compete in a changing market.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:30 PM
8

Correct me if I’m wrong, but sugar dating is essentially the baby setting the price terms of the arrangement and either you meet them or there is no arrangement, correct? It was my understanding that sugar babies don’t date the men for their sparkling personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:26 PM
8

If you can’t meet the transactional demands required of the arrangement, isn’t this on you? Like, yeah it sucks, but this simply sounds like terms of agreement for a contract essentially, and if you’re unable to meet those terms, that’s on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:17 PM
20

Not gonna lie, I didn’t think I would see a “I’m being priced out of the sugar dating market” post lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:55 PM
1

Yeah, wouldn’t be my go to opener either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:19 PM
1

Dating is certainly not a binary, and struggling men seem to have a hard time grasping that what works on one woman doesn’t work on all of them 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:18 PM
1

Thicc women can have nice butts, so being fat isn’t a problem unless you’re the “18-21 BMI” guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:16 PM
1

You must have a nice butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:14 PM
1

Sort of, I think. I have noticed a trend amongst struggling men “putting the pussy on a pedestal” and having that build resentment, but I think there’s a myriad of other factors at play, like neurodivergence for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:13 PM
2

So, you don’t want to ask anyone out, but you’re not arguing for arranged pairings either. So how are people supposed to meet each other, telekinesis?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:26 PM
4

“Beta bucks, alpha fucks” implies sexlessness on the part of the beta though. A woman deciding to be with a more stable guy and having sex and children with him is just a normal relationship lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:24 PM
0

In order to be a BB, a woman has to be taking advantage of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:28 AM
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I think it exists but it’s WAY less common than RP/blackpillers insist it is. Somebody, somewhere is getting taken advantage of. But that’s not the majority of relationships or even close to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:14 AM
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You took the words out of my mouth. Every man who says dumb shit like this says it because they’ve spent a lifetime living free of fear from violence and bodily harm if they reject a woman. Privilege personified.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:42 AM
3

Im kinda opposite, I got 3-4 close female friends I regularly text and hang out with, and many female acquaintances beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:22 PM
1

Very few. Like only a couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:16 PM
7

Not having a SINGLE female friend as an adult is kinda weird though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:24 PM
7

Men already do this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:54 PM
6

I would say only slightly in the sense that someone who’s into frequent travel and international adventures is probably freer and lower inhibition than the average person, which tends to lend itself to hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:59 PM
1

No, I would be open that I’m only doing this casually and that this isn’t going to lead to anything beyond hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:57 PM
2

I’m not “attacking” him at all. His idea is that “a lot liberal women struggle with dating” and then proceeds to use himself as an example. If he doesn’t want to be critiqued, don’t base your entire argument off of personal anecdotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:55 PM
2

So, so tired of pretending that we have to ignore the common denominator in OP’s problems. If one room you enter smells like shit, it’s probably the room. If EVERY room you enter smells like shit, it’s probably you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:45 PM
0

Depends on what they’re asking. Like, if you spill a water bottle, you really need to ask the front desk to figure out what to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 04:24 PM
1

Many such cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:37 PM
6

I feel like this is a Gen Z thing more than a male specific thing. Young people in general seem pretty clueless and socially stunted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:37 PM
2

Should it be ok? Sure. Biologically, is the average woman attracted to that? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:51 AM
2

I think there’s some truth to this. A lot of struggling men look very zesty and unmasculine, and that’ll hinder you more than being average looking but stereotypically masculine in your features.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:46 AM
5

If your women are finishing first, what’s the problem then? Is this a “my steak is too juicy, my lobster too buttery” kind of post?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:44 AM
7

Dudes a weird combo for sure. Lazy and a premature ejaculator is wild lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:05 AM
12

I’ve never heard of a woman with premature ejaculation/orgasm problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:03 AM
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The ick and 666 most definitely existed 20 years ago, women just didn’t call it that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:36 AM
18

Is her penis prematurely ejaculating or yours? If it’s yours, congrats, it’s YOUR problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:20 AM
9

If you have a medical issue, why would it be your partners job to “fix it”? That’s nonsensical.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:12 AM
11

This whole screed reads like a “how to” on what not to do in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:28 AM
-1

Sure thing bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:25 AM
0

How does this not challenge OP’s view?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:18 AM
-2

At no point did I say “don’t complain.” If you want to waste time acting like a giant toddler, knock yourself out 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:17 AM
3

Mathematically, young men can end their celibacy at any time with $30.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:07 PM
2

I mean, yeah, it’s pretty fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:00 PM
2

Divorce rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:42 PM
8

Make it 35 yrs old if that makes you feel better, the point still stands; you likely lack the ability to get a younger woman given your situation and should manage your expectations accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:10 AM
3

It’s also creepy if a 47 yr old virgin woman was demanding a hot 25 yr old guy, but, they’re both adults and in the off chance it happens, great. Just because you think something’s weird doesn’t mean you’re against people doing it. I think furries are weird and creepy, but if that floats your boat, have at it. Again, if you had the means to get a hot 20 or 30-something, you’d already be doing so. The fact that you’re almost 50 and still a virgin with no relationship experience tells me you lack …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:05 AM
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My guess would be the latter, because I’ve noticed that men who actually date younger women irl aren’t really concerned with “power dynamics” or “societal shaming” or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:54 AM
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I don’t have a problem with it, but I would tell said woman what I just told you; wanting a guy with a “clean slate” at an advanced age is unlikely and you need to manage your expectations of what’s realistically within your reach. If said woman has to ability to get such a man, great. If she can’t, welcome to being almost 50 and still figuring your shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:48 AM
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Yeah, because it’s outside the norm and kinda creepy. But if you had the means to date a hot 25 yr old, you’d already be doing so without the need for societal approval. I think an age gap relationship is the last thing you should be worrying about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:29 AM
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Brother, I’m going to be real with you; unless you’ve heavily invested in your looks or finances, you getting an age gap relationship at 47 is highly unlikely. You’re pretty much at “take what you can get” territory. I’m not sure how you’d be “manipulated” either since you’re damn near 50 and should know how life works at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:11 AM
4

…have you never been in an exclusive/monogamous relationship with someone? Most normal people intend to sleep only with that person once they’ve been asked to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. If you want to sleep with other people on top of your partner, you need to communicate that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:54 AM
4

Presumably if you’re in a relationship with someone, it means you’ve agreed to only have sex with each other, unless you have an open relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:06 AM
2

Real
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:25 PM
2

Yeah, no way lol. I joke her all the time that she was an awkward teen before her glow up, so she was like a different person when we reconnected. Can’t argue with anything else. Some people aren’t happy with what you do no matter what 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:14 PM
1

Exactly, it was weirder when we were younger (I’ve known her since she was like 13) but as adults and when we started dating, nobody has accused me of “being creepy” outside of obvious “robbing the cradle” jokes which you can’t take seriously lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:05 PM
1

I’m not sure you’re my target audience lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:48 PM
1

?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:04 PM
3

Exactly. I’m 30 and my girl is 26, so I’m in an age gap myself albeit a socially acceptable one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:31 PM
1

Other funny people date women with nice bodies too though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:30 PM
6

She’s 27 and he’s 44.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:23 PM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:21 PM
2

Just under 6’2, like 6’1.75
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:10 PM
3

I think they really like each other, honestly. I’m not saying him having money doesn’t hurt, but it’s not a sugar daddy thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:09 PM
8

Yeah, I think there’s a huge difference between that and two adults with an age gap just happening to hit it off 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:04 PM
7

He’s extremely attractive. My girl said “I get it” when she met him. As long as they’re happy, and they’re both adults, I’m not against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:00 PM
14

My girls bestie is dating a guy 17 yrs older than her. But nobody says it’s “weird” or “creepy” because the dude isn’t making it weird and creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:53 PM
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I mean, yeah. How often do you see 40 yr olds+ dating 18-22yr olds? Not very often.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:42 PM
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>the first rule is to never buy a girl drinks lol this is a dumb rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:39 PM
6

I’m not sure what OP’s issue is, other than wanting to date a much younger woman and not be called a creep for it? If you’re that obsessed with dating a teen or something, why would you care if some rando calls you a creep?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:37 PM
1

Hard disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:34 PM
6

So you’re essentially asking everyone here to “trust me, bro.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:31 PM
2

You can also land a woman with a nice body if you’re funny, from personal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:29 PM
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I always find it odd that men on here are obsessed with landing a much, much younger woman despite that rarely happening in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:25 PM
9

Can you give links of people saying these things?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:20 PM
7

I know what a strawman is. Which is why I called your “claims” one. Again, date whoever you want. Why do you need other people’s approval to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:19 PM
11

This sounds like a strawman. Absent anything illegal, date whoever you want. You don’t need anyone’s approval to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:10 PM
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What are men offering today other than dick?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:07 AM
3

What other scope would we be talking about here? Choosing partners you aren’t attracted to doesn’t make you “high value” in any scope.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:55 PM
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They’re all kind of sad and addicted to approval too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:51 PM
7

Again, if you can have sex with attractive people, that’s value in the dating market. Why would a woman have more value because she only sleeps/dates/marries short, ugly, unwanted men? How does that make sense to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:49 PM
6

If a woman sleeps with nothing but Chads, isn’t that more “high value” than a woman who can only sleep with 5’2, balding janitors?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:45 PM
6

Ah yes, nothing says “high value” like sleeping with undesirable men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:42 PM
3

I don’t think that’s a thing, the pair bonding. And just existing I have a 50% chance of divorce anyway, you might as well have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 06:02 PM
2

Lmao no.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:59 PM
5

The idea that most women are looking for an “alpha” in the first place is kind of dumb too. IME people date and hookup with people they find attractive, women aren’t only dating and fucking “alpha bad boy criminals” or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:06 PM
-1

I feel like “hypergamous” has become so thrown around and diluted that it’s just shorthand for “a woman is doing something I don’t like.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:52 AM
0

No, but you might be.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:04 AM
0

Women want their man to be obsessed with them like a fan, duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:03 AM
2

I’m not sure about high school, but if you still have zero dating/sexual experience after college, yeah, you might be in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:23 PM
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You got the wrong guy. My last Reddit account was 4 yrs ago in college and was a random generated name that I deleted. Sorry to disappoint :/
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:03 PM
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Wtf is a mongo?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:56 PM
1

😘
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:09 PM
1

Women already have a pussy, they shouldn’t have to care for another one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:11 PM
4

Of course you did. The stereotype is that women don’t want liberal men because they look like weak, effeminate soy boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:16 AM
6

Can you name a single man in the last 50+ years fined, imprisoned or who lost benefits from not registering with the selective service?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:34 AM
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This one is a bad take. You can support LGBT rights without being LGBT yourself. I don’t have to be attracted to gay men in order to think gay men should be treated equally in civil society.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:32 AM
8

Which means…nothing. No man under 70 in the US has had the selective service affect them in any way. It became toothless when the draft was abolished.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:31 AM
3

It’s impossible to live with another person every day and not have them occasionally get on each others nerves.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:27 AM
6

Do you live in any of those countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:22 AM
11

Which ones? The US hasn’t had a draft since last century.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:17 AM
17

I think anybody should rightly criticize a man for using his pregnant wife as a human shield, seems like a cowardly scum bag move. That said, how often are you using pregnant women as a shield to protect yourself from bullets?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:16 AM
7

“Shamed” how?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:11 AM
7

There’s no real societal expectation for men to “protect women” though. It’s not like you get punished for failing to open a door for a lady or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:03 AM
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If you feel like the “juice is not worth the squeeze”, then don’t date. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:50 AM
5

As someone else put it, yeah, women don’t like unattractive men of any political affiliation. No shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:48 AM
1

In terms of DATING STANDARDS…wtf are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:46 AM
5

How? I never suggested making lewd comments to anyone. Though, complimenting when appropriate never hurts 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:16 AM
10

All adult women know you’re trying to fuck them if you approach them and act interested. So don’t bother pretending otherwise. So shoot your shot, you never know when “Stacy” might decide your jokes are just funny enough to give you chance. Your “league” is whatever you limit yourself to.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:08 AM
1

Nice try, that’ll get you a ban for witch hunting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:43 AM
0

Again, you’re a complete fucking stranger, you’re not “owed” any empathy because you’re too short/ugly/shrimp dicked/whatever for another person. Get fucking real.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:41 AM
3

Yes, they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:38 AM
0

Sure they have. Men do it on here all the time. My point is, the men doing that complaining immediately clutch their pearls when women mention height, which is why I found your comment funny and ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:33 AM
1

Exactly. Now apply this logic to how women view short men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:25 AM
1

I was going to add that in my comment, men being taller is statistically more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:05 PM
5

I guess? I find liberal women overwhelmingly end up with likeminded men, same as conservative women ending up with conservative men. The only real disparity I’ve noticed is women saying they don’t care about height but ending up with a taller partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:57 PM
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Maybe these women aren’t attracted to YOU, as opposed to “all liberal men in general”? Because in any large metro area in the US, there’s no shortage of “liberal” couples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:01 PM
14

I mean, I’m not sure what the issue is. My ex tried anal in the past but said it wasn’t comfortable with me due to my size. I can’t really hold that against her. If you’re not getting the compatibility you want with someone, find somebody else 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:52 PM
13

OP’s post insinuates that he’s never had a woman who’s actually attracted to him, as women are already pretty direct when they want a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:10 AM
13

You feel like women don’t by and large already do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:54 AM
13

As has been famously said; “Women already have a pussy, they don’t need to date a second one.”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:53 AM
12

Why would women want or need to do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:45 AM
2

So that’s not really a passport bro situation, Slovenia has an incredibly high HDI score.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:07 AM
14

Then they’re going to stay single 🤷‍♂️ You can’t go through life avoiding fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:48 AM
12

Again, you’re not going to hookup being boring and “nice” and not communicating any sexual interest whatsoever to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:44 AM
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The Mayo Clinic plainly corroborates what I stated: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/circumcision/about/pac-20393550 Again, if you’re not interested in discussing objective reality, this is a waste of time 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:43 AM
8

Bruh, depending on what part of the medical field, you have to really struggle to be a sexual nonentity. Nurses are notoriously stereotypically hookup happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:40 AM
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That’s corroborated by the medical data. If you’re going to outright deny objective statistics, then there is no point continuing this conversation. Good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:39 AM
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Damn, the guys younger than me at my work all have girlfriends or steady hookups. What field do you work in? >They are incredibly polite and will never flirt or say anything that could even be thought of as slightly risky So…they’re bland, nonsexual entities to most women. If you’re just nice and boring and not flirty, women will rightly treat you like a piece of furniture in the background.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:37 AM
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This makes a big presumption that the average woman isn’t interested in the average man, despite relationship evidence to the contrary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 AM
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I dunno dude, out in the real world I think men and women get along more often than not. The complainers get mistaken for a majority because they’re the loudest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:30 AM
3

I’m glad for you, she’s obviously from another country?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:28 AM
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This is plainly false. The AMA clearly states that circumcised men have a much lower rate of UTIs, a much lower risk of HIV and HPV, a drastically lower risk of phimosis and a lower risk of penile cancer. Medical issues from licensed surgeons concerning circumcision are incredibly low, well below other, more common surgeries both cosmetic and otherwise. If you personally dislike it, that’s fine, but there’s no need to lie and fear monger here, let’s stick to the facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:26 AM
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Easy: someone who goes abroad for sex because they can’t get it in their home country for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:13 AM
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To my knowledge secular circumcision is done mostly for health reasons, not for aesthetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:06 AM
5

General advice is like basic guidelines, not strict rules like you’re baking a cake with exact measurements.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:01 AM
2

I’ve been abroad and had fun. But, I went abroad to have fun and happened to hook up, I wasn’t some loser throwing my whiteness and my wallet around because my dick was dry back in the states.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:34 PM
4

I brought attention to it because OP is claiming it’s “genuine desire,” but it’s not. It’s not about “shaming,” it’s about the truth. If the truth comes across as “shame”, that’s something for the person to work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:24 PM
9

“They’re not leading with their wallets.” Two seconds later: “Of course they’re leading with their wallets, what idiot would chase tail in an expensive country!?” Like Rick James and Eddie Murphys couch lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:15 PM
2

If you want to lie to yourself, that’s your right, brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:06 PM
3

“Certain segments of women” is still millions of women. Nobody is EVERYBODYS type. Being conventionally attractive doesn’t hurt, for sure. But a dork in the US is a dork anywhere else, let’s be honest here.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:54 PM
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Traveling abroad and happening to hookup with a local isn’t passport broing, which is traveling abroad with the express purpose of hooking up with the locals. If you’re a decent looking and personable guy, you can do the former; the latter is almost exclusively LBH’s leading with their wallet.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:34 PM
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Nobodies “shaming” anybody, just don’t lie to some dork with a full wallet that his Belarusian or Colombian baddie gf is with him out of “genuine desire.” Let’s call it what it is, gold digging with a passport.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:23 PM
11

Let them dream lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:15 PM
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If you’re attractive enough to inspire genuine attraction, you can hookup anywhere. People do that on study abroad trips all the time. I’ve yet to hear of a passport bro NOT using his wallet as the main bait, instead of his looks or personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:09 PM
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Let’s be real, they’re going to places where they can use the power of the dollar to buy their way into some pussy. Which, if that’s what you want to do, go for it. But don’t pretend the smoking hot girl in Manila or Manaus that you’re waving dollars in front of is “genuinely desiring” you, and don’t get offended that she refers to you as an LBH to her family and friends in country.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:03 PM
4

Yup, skinny or thicc, if she’s pretty, I’m down. Women tend to be the same way with men. They like what they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:44 PM
14

Man discovers different women have different opinions and tastes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:31 PM
5

Wait…what?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:22 PM
2

Women should dress as sexy as they want, men being bothered by it is their own problem, not women. Your last paragraph is probably spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:08 PM
5

Love isn’t blind, so why would anyone do this? A successful relationship needs attraction AND compatibility, not either/or.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:22 AM
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Absolutely. I fixed our poorly flushing toilet and built my lady a concrete patio, and guess who has no problem cooking me dinner and doing my laundry? Women get turned on when you fix their shit and build them things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:50 AM
2

Probably the same since there’s structural inequality issues here in the US that would need to be addressed before a change in prison culture would affect anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:13 AM
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The dirty lil secret is that women will naturally “tradwife” for you if you *actually* inspire that in them, by knowing how to fix things, by naturally leading the household, instead of coming home from your cubicle 9to5 and demanding dinner when she worked all day too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:58 AM
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Are you seducing underage girls? Wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:29 AM
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Point one is a big one. These dudes acting like simply because they’re breathing and barely making an average salary that they “deserve” a bangmaid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:25 AM
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Most of the men demanding a “trad wife” aren’t traditionally masculine themselves. Like, why would you expect a tradwife when you don’t embody ANY of the hallmarks of a provider husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:23 AM
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Can this myth of the “provider male” die already? In 2026, simply being alive and making an average salary 1.) doesn’t make you a provider, or 2.) a “catch” for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:08 AM
1

You’re not entitled to anyone’s empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:49 AM
10

Do you know what seduction is?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:14 AM
1

If it feels right, go for it. You’ll know if she’s into you or not if you can read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:36 PM
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Bruh, this is nonsense. EVERY man should know how to be seductive, period. You’re intentionally handicapping yourself otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:20 PM
1

Most do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 10:16 PM
7

I mean, a lot of looksnaxxers do look zesty as hell. That said, women absolutely care about looks, no shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:39 PM
2

Can’t argue with that, well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:37 PM
8

Right, but sexual attraction and love is a deeply ingrained part of the human experience, biologically speaking. There’s no replacement for deep sexual attraction and chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:35 PM
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Everybody wants to be loved, at the end of the day. Depending on *why* you’re unsuccessful, it’s dumb to say “meh, just give up.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:22 PM
1

Of course it’s vague; it’s specific to whatever woman you’re trying to date. There’s no step by step guide, you just have to find out what works for you with one particular woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:18 PM
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Not everyone, sure. But I’d argue *most* people meet their partners that way, in high school, in college, and as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:32 PM
2

Because when you’re active and fun to be around, magically, women like that lol. You’re not trying to win her over, you’re just being yourself and she’ll either dig that or she won’t. I’ve found from personal experience it’s more often the former. The people that “focus on dating” are the ones that reek of desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:11 PM
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I found most of my girlfriends by just having fun and living life. Actively “trying to date” is what leads to discouragement and desperation, which turns into a feedback loop preventing you from successfully dating. Women like to be around active, fun, interesting guys. You do that, and they’ll naturally come to you 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 07:08 PM
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You have to add something to a woman’s life she doesn’t already have. Be charming, be her type, be good in bed, etc. They already make their own money, your average salary isn’t going to make her swoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:34 PM
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Sure, everybody tends to want to settle down as they age. But women obviously aren’t settling for boring, ugly men simply because they have an average salary. Women already make their own money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 06:32 PM
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In the current era? Generally, no. And I think that’s why so many subpar men are struggling, simply being a “nice guy with a paycheck” isn’t going to cut it anymore for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:46 PM
1

I called him creepy and autistic due to describing a vagina in a creepy, autistic way. I’m intelligent enough to know not to do that on a public forum lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:45 PM
3

I’ve yet to meet a bartender who believes in any “pill” other than the fun ones that get you fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:18 PM
10

I hate to break it to you, but if she found you ugly in your 20s, she’s not going to find you magically attractive and suitable in your 30s either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:15 PM
4

What does “100% full desire” entail? Nobodies partner “100% full desires” them all the time, that’s unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:13 PM
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I mean, if she wants to be around you, initiates sex with you, lives with you, cooks you food, texts you constantly…bruh, she desires you. Dudes WAY overthink this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:53 PM
5

That’s literally one of the most common preferences men have for a woman, myself included. My girls giant milkers are one of the reasons I initially found her attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:49 PM
3

How would this work in reality, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:32 PM
2

Generally speaking, they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:05 AM
4

lol Sucks for the dudes fixated on the past I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 09:05 AM
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“It’s just about not wanting to be the guy who’s picking up the tab.” Then…don’t? You don’t have to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:31 AM
0

My man just discovered being direct.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:19 AM
2

If you have to break out a thesaurus to describe her pussy…don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:34 AM
1

I mean, it’s not ALL bad. Being attracted to women and having women attracted to you is pretty nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:31 AM
1

Look, I like talking about pussy as much as the next guy, but, bruh, “rugous”? A bit much.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:29 AM
1

That sounds like you lack relationship experience. From having lived both, the only difference is that sexual activity starts earlier with raw attraction. But in the long term, there’s no real difference. I had plenty of great sex and affection with the women who warmed up to me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:21 AM
1

Actually, yes. We can test this theory, if you’d like. Do the same thing but talking about dicks, for equality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:17 AM
1

This was simultaneously autistically clinical AND creepy. Impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:15 AM
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Having had partners that came about both ways, there’s no fundamental difference long term. Maybe you lack the relationship experience to understand that? 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:11 AM
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Presumably. Honestly, some people just grow on you. Struggling men for whatever reason are autistically fixated on “raw attraction” to the point where they can’t fathom any other kind of attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:03 AM
2

How?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:02 AM
7

Wanting a taller partner is “degenerate”?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:51 AM
10

Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:49 AM
10

Yeah, we get it. Life isn’t great when you’re short and have a tiny dick, but you can’t really fault women for wanting what 100,000 years of evolution has primed them to want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:39 AM
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Women are evolutionarily primed to value height in a mate, we didn’t evolve as a sexually dimorphism species for no reason. Quite literally, from a reproductive standpoint, “the taller the man the better the father” is a scientific hardline for human females.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:38 AM
9

Why would substandard men expect Chad treatment if they’re not Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:36 AM
7

What “degenerate standards” are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:35 AM
2

I think people who struggle with dating complain the loudest, and while that *tends* to be men, women are by no means immune from whining and complaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:10 AM
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Because none of that is really related to individual people’s standards. Single motherhood is lower now than it was in 1980, when standards were “lower.” Birth rates have fallen everywhere due to increased living standards. You (general you) not getting what *you personally think is your match* isn’t a “societal problem.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 01:00 AM
1

I guess? I don’t really think it’s a “societal problem” that people have weird or strict standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:48 AM
2

He looks like a dude from the town I grew up in that had a teenage high school girlfriend when he was like 26.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:39 AM
6

Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:35 AM
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Everyone is entitled to whatever whackadoodle standards they want, end of story 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:36 PM
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Well, duh. Men don’t carry and birth children, why would they? Neither of your second points are valid either; circumcision isn’t mandatory, and neither is the draft, which hasn’t existed in half a century. Are you done whining?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:32 PM
2

In theory, men and women are equal in the west. In practice, in the US, depending on your location, women are subject to body autonomy infringements that men are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:27 PM
4

No, they don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:14 PM
2

Men already have those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:10 PM
7

This sounds like a recipe for successful daughters and maladapted, loser sons.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:51 PM
10

Not wanting to date a short man isn’t comparable to rape, 🤦‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:09 PM
2

Good, take the bootypill.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:07 PM
3

Many such cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:40 AM
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My current girl has had work done, so yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:09 AM
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My female friends talk more shit than my male friends, honestly. They give better advice too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:04 PM
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Real.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:01 PM
2

Hot fatties are the shit. Like banging a one big boob.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:01 PM
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Yeah, I prefer darker hair and features.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:51 PM
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This sounds like a strawman argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:58 PM
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Blondes, ironically enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:56 PM
0

What’s y’all’s go to looks in women? I like latina and alt goth baddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:14 AM
0

True. Nobody gets decent at cold approaches without ensuring a sizable amount of rejection. It is what it is, don’t take it personal and learn from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:48 AM
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I’m sure there are. There’s an equally large % of those that will if you give them a good time and don’t give them a reason not to 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:34 AM
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She knows in the first 15 seconds if you’re fuckable or not. If you’re chill and flirty and make her feel comfortable, she’ll fuck on the first date. Adult women know what you’re after, so play into that, but don’t be sleazy and weird about it. Everything else is cream cheese if you do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:06 AM
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I’ll let you in on a lil secret; if she agreed to a date, she’s already considering fucking you as long as you don’t give her a reason otherwise. Keep it fun and playful and she’ll do the work for you. Come straight out and ask her to suck your dick, you’ve given up the game and made it creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:55 AM
1

My girl said the same shit. She said Clavicular looks “zesty.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:49 AM
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The way he went about it was tactless and heavy handed. If you’re smooth, you can ask for sex first date and see what happens 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:48 AM
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If you can pull, you can pull. Respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:30 AM
6

I’m not sure how any of that is relevant to what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:38 PM
7

How is that forcing someone to be attracted to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:33 PM
11

If you’re that fit, you shouldn’t have that hard of a time finding a reasonably fit woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:30 PM
11

This reads like you have little to no relationship experience with a living, breathing woman who actually likes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:31 PM
3

So, you mean you don’t have to be a nazi rapist to be successful with women!?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:29 PM
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If that’s how you feel, sounds like you’re gonna struggle dating 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:28 PM
10

I wish the dudes who actually believe this shit would try it out; go become a nazi tattoo having rapist, and tell us how many more bitches you got as opposed to being a “nice guy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:07 PM
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I feel like that would make women increase their standards given the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:05 PM
6

>go out and get drunk and pull some bitches This unironically still works pretty well, though a bunch of dudes will swear it doesn’t because “I heard a woman say to not approach in public once”.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:02 PM
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How would you even get women to lower their standards in the first place? You can’t force someone to be attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:00 PM
2

Oh I see what you’re getting at, of course, I 100% agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:59 PM
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To an extent. I’ve hooked up with women I found physically attractive, but didn’t really like their personality. For an extended FWB situation, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:55 PM
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It’ll just be dick doomposting. For the tiny percent of men with micropenises, yeah, you’re going to struggle. But I’d bet my bottom dollar that most of the biggest complainers are squarely in average territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:54 PM
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I’ve always believed you need both for an LTR, not either/or.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:53 PM
3

I think either they or you are lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:07 PM
2

Is anyone disputing that penis size matters?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:57 PM
8

You’ve never dated within your social circle?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:55 PM
2

80 lbs of fat will do that to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:19 PM
1

Depending on how “attractive” you are, your level of work is absolutely going to vary.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:51 PM
3

I actively cringed at that description 🤦‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:44 PM
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I’m shocked that an ideology founded by a divorced dad who saw the Matrix once isn’t sociologically sound lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:00 PM
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Without seeing the video I can’t say for sure if it was coercive. That said, all things being equal, I’ve found it better to be upfront with women about your intentions. Adult women know you’re not taking them out for drinks to “just be friends” anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:58 AM
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Everybody likes big tits 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:49 AM
2

How tall are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:23 AM
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I love how the default conclusion from dudes who can’t turn a woman on is “women obviously are incapable of being horny” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:07 PM
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What’s the common denominator in the equation of OP and multiple women not enjoying sex with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:02 PM
2

OP is getting bodied in the comments lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:58 PM
3

I feel like most men have experienced this, unless you’re completely repulsive or physically deformed or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:41 PM
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It looked like sex, which I was just figuring out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:34 PM
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By that token, if it’s ridiculous when feminists do it, it’s also ridiculous when YOU do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:33 PM
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Missionary is my most reliable way to nut. But doggy and cowgirl (regular and reverse) are also goated.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:21 PM
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The draft/selective service is such a non issue. It hasn’t been relevant since my grandfather was my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:18 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:16 PM
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My kind of lady lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:28 PM
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Facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 08:27 PM
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A pair of big mommy milkers in my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:18 PM
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For the most part, yeah. Unless y’all grew up in a small town and you’ve known each other your whole lives, if she lies to you, how are you going to know otherwise? Pussies don’t come with odometers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:36 PM
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Nofap is a psyop to clog the prostates of autistic men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:34 PM
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But the average man isn’t some dateless, sexless loser, some 70% of men are in some kind of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:15 PM
0

The dirty secret is that most permanently single people of either gender have something wrong with them in some sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:14 PM
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Yup. Being single by choice and being single because women as a gender find you repulsive are two wildly different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:12 PM
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There’s literally nothing stopping men from being single and content though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:10 PM
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Sounds like mental illness lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:29 AM
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Saw the big dick comment too, lucky you girl!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:49 AM
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What an interesting relationship dynamic. Unless you’re just saying your fiance is excited to be married lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:45 AM
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I don’t think you know what that term means. Unless you’re terrified about getting turned on by watching your woman fucking a better endowed man.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:42 AM
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I’m shocked you’re a virgin lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:40 AM
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If women like you/are close to you, you’ll get sympathy. Expecting it from random women is dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:39 AM
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The “reaction” overall seems to be men angry that women aren’t really fazed by body shaming when they’ve been pretty much bodyshamed their whole lives 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:36 AM
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Exactly. My girls bestie has hip dips and a flat ass and doesn’t suffer from lack of male attention, so this obviously isn’t carrying over into the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:04 AM
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A solid observation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:03 AM
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Such is life. To even it out, life made me bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:45 AM
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100% agree, but the short men trying push “hiplet” shaming aren’t super fucking chill and self-assured.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:41 AM
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I saw someone posting that every woman with hip dips can get a boyfriend who doesn’t mind them or even think about them, while not every short man can even get a date because of their lack of height, and deep down the trollers know this. Even in trying to “turn the tables” on women, the bitterness and resentment is palpable lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:31 AM
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I think the men trying to weaponize hip dips are just salty that by and large, it’s not really working. Men are WAY more sensitive about their lack of height than women are about hip dips for the reasons you mentioned, so this just comes off as desperate and sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:15 AM
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The only thing I’ve noticed about this “trend” is that it seems like an attempt by short men to troll women about one of their immutable traits, and…it’s not really working. Women aren’t as bothered by their hip dips as men are by their lack of height.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:09 AM
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6’2
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:03 AM
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Yeah, I’ve seen friends dating profiles and they’ve been straight ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 03:09 AM
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Now you’re telling me I’m in the top 15%!? This just keeps getting better.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 03:06 AM
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So is claiming the “top 20% of men” alluded to in RP talking points is “ackchually” a bunch of barely above average dudes lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:46 AM
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I don’t think that maths. Unless you’re counting anything north of 50% “barely above average.”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:42 AM
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RP talking points unironically make you feel great, because apparently I’ve been a part of the 20% for my entire adult life and I’m just now finding out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:35 AM
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If they’re attractive, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:40 AM
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Same. Cute Filipino girl asked other people for my number, called me, asked what I was doing that weekend, and my dumb ass thought she just wanted to chat 🤦‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:10 AM
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Hard agree. I think that trial and error process is what it takes to succeed if you’re a regular average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:05 AM
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That’s crazy, glad you worked around that. You’re living proof that you can improve your social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:00 AM
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I will say that, I’ve never been afraid of public speaking or a crowd. I obviously did trial and error when talking to girls though, figuring out what worked for me and what didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:58 AM
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Talking to women is a skill, and while I think you can absolutely work to develop it, some people just “got it.” I think I’m mostly the latter because I’m a social butterfly like my pops.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:54 AM
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lol I was 16-17, and dumb as shit. You gotta start somewhere 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:52 AM
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I’ll be honest, when I was younger I thought porn was basically “free sex technique school” and my first relationships suffered from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:48 AM
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Yeah, but porn can set unrealistic expectations for sex and what the average woman wants in bed. Most women don’t want to get jackhammered and get their asshole blown out right off the bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:43 AM
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Different struggles for different genders. (Some) Men struggle to get dates, whereas women can get dates but deal way more with the threat of some kind of physical/sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:25 AM
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Oh for sure, many of my coworkers girlfriends and wives are nurses and they’re ALWAYS a wild time, dunno what it is about y’all’s profession that makes y’all an automatic good time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:46 PM
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Yup. Don’t sit there and tell me that as a grown ass man you were “lied to” when you’re over a decade into being a legal adult. That’s not “sharing your feelings” that’s being a man baby and shirking personal responsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:45 PM
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I dunno, I like seeing the sun and feeling the wind in my face, and being able to curse and speak freely without having to worry about HR or someone getting offended.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:17 PM
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I could never work in an office, cubicle life sounds so boring and soul draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:47 PM
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“There is no male loneliness epidemic for those who understand women” is a bold take. You can understand women just fine and still be lonely, you can be partnered and be lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:46 PM
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At no point did I say that, but ok. Share your feelings, fine. But having pity party and wallowing in misery because of your own bad decisions is stupid. And you should treat women like people. They’re not inscrutable, mythical beings that are impossible to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:44 PM
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The first time? No. Hell, not even the first couple. But if you’re in your thirties whining about how you were “lied to,” look in the mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:09 PM
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Feminists can be guilty of that, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:41 PM
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I’m 6’2 and around 240, I was never going to be a Timothy Chalamet lookalike. Shaving my head, lifting weights, growing facial hair, getting tattoos and working with my hands all paid dividends in ways that it didn’t when I was younger with a baby face and soft hands. I’d rather have a woman complaining about my rough hands catching on her lacy underwear than not getting women at all because I looked like a wimp.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:42 PM
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My dating life got progressively better and easier the more masculine and rugged I became. Women, especially pretty, feminine ones, tend to really like a “man” ime. I was never going to be a pretty boy, but I’m naturally built like a bar bouncer so leaning into that was the best decision I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:20 PM
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The flirting back and forth is the best, that’s when you know she’s interested and y’all are both about to have fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:45 PM
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I’m not sure what you don’t understand. I can give you advice, and if it works, great. If it doesn’t and you keep doing it over, and over, and over despite it not working, who’s at fault at that point? You can’t tell me that it’s not on you for refusing to abandon bad advice, or rather, advice that doesn’t work for you. At some point personal responsibility has to come into play.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:44 PM
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I think the dirty truth is that this is applicable to both sexes and their personal dating issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:27 PM
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Modern red pill is so far removed from its PUA origins that it’s not really comparable. Neil Strauss wasn’t fixated on his maxilla or obsessed about avoiding “jestermaxxing”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:14 PM
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If you’re taking advice that obviously doesn’t work, who’s at fault? The person who gave the advice or the one who refuses to abandon it after it continuously doesn’t work for them? It’s like you think struggling men have no agency or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:12 PM
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A lot of dating is “figure it out,” unfortunately. You have to find what works for you and what works on the specific woman you’re pursuing, and struggling guys don’t seem to like being told that, that there’s no “secret trick” to making that process easier. Dating is a numbers game, plain and simple. It’s a slog of trial and error until you find what works for you, and that’s going to vary. What works for me may not work for you, and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:10 PM
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That’s absolutely your responsibility for not being honest and saying “I don’t know how to do that.” That happens at my job all the time; it’s always better to say “I don’t know how to do that, can you show me?” vs just saying “Ok” and fucking it up and creating double the work and wasting time and money fixing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:05 PM
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I was using “you” generally, not “YOU” specifically. Everyone is born naive, but it’s a choice to stay naive and a choice to blame your failures on someone else because you were naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:56 AM
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“Literally just be nice and you’ll get women” And if that doesn’t work or reality demonstrates otherwise, isn’t that kind of on you for being naive enough to believe that and to continue to believe that after discovering otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:49 AM
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Anyone who claims “[insert thing] lied to me” is just shirking personal responsibility for their bad decisions in dating, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:30 AM
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The problem with that is that RP is very susceptible to the “No True Scotsman” fallacy. If it works, it was RP. If it doesn’t, then “well, RP was never about that anyway!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:01 AM
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I don’t think most modern women are looking for a provider at all, given that modern women make their own money, hence why some men are struggling attracting one. “Being a provider” isn’t some novel, unique selling point to a woman who has no issues paying her own bills (i.e., most of them).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:10 AM
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Stating biological reality is “white knighting” now?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:31 AM
2

We evolved as a sexually dimorphic species for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:24 AM
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Because there is no “blue pill.” Either you’re a normal, dating adult or you’re struggling and clinging to some color of pill to explain away your failures with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:49 PM
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I mean, I don’t need an influencer to tell me how to do something that I figured out how to do on my own in high school.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:30 PM
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I was just at Milwaukee Metal Fest last month, tons of women there. What are YOU talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:57 PM
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Yeah, I’m sure. Compatibility isn’t automatically guaranteed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 03:02 PM
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Then maybe y’all aren’t compatible? 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:26 PM
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While I don’t necessarily disagree, I also don’t think this is a one gender specific thing. Most people’s dating issues would be solved with accountability and managed expectations, male or female.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 02:16 PM
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I feel like an average Becky shouldn’t expect gig-Stacy treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:43 AM
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Right, but it’s not THAT hard to figure out what your woman likes in bed. You don’t have to suck at sex, that’s a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:42 AM
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Generally speaking, you’re perfectly capable of being anyone’s “best” with proper communication and attention to their sexual needs, barring some kind of physical deformity. You don’t have to have the biggest dick or the hottest body or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:41 AM
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True, but I think men have to be realistic in that it might be a struggle to find her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:45 AM
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Metal chicks aren’t uncommon though. While the audience does skew towards men, even at the local shows in my area there’s a decent amount of women there. Go full metal dude. Maybe you’ll get yourself an alt big tiddy goth baddie as a result 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:44 AM
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True, but it also makes it harder to date because you might be looking for a niche that you don’t have access to. I’m all for a man being a sensitive femboy, but the straight woman who goes for that isn’t standing on every corner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:34 AM
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Generally speaking, straight, cis women prefer masculine men for biological/evolutionary reasons. Not saying you can’t be whatever you want or express yourself freely, but it’ll probably limit your dating options.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:29 AM
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The filter doesn’t “disappear” but you can better show off your charisma in person than through text on an app. That said, yeah, you still have to clear the looks threshold in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:15 AM
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Same, and currently dating a bartender 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:56 PM
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I honestly think most “incels” are just going through a dry spell and will eventually come out of it like everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:26 PM
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Don’t be weird and predatory, it’s not that hard to be friendly and fun to be around even sober.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:26 PM
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Which is why we always get consent, brother 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 06:24 PM
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Well, duh. I’m not talking about sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:53 PM
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I mean, how can you stop someone from denying reality and live in that fantasy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:44 PM
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Teachers talk about dating? Where is this? “Media promotes it” Where? If your parents lied to you and coddled you from reality, that’s on them for lying to you and on you for denying reality and believing it. Social media and apps haven’t drastically changed dating. If you were a loser before the apps, you’d still be a loser now. The message I would tell adolescents is; life isn’t fair and nobody owes you anything. You either sink, or you swim, your choice, no one can do it for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:44 PM
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Alcohol is a great social and sexual lubricant. Sometimes she wants to make a bad decision and you can be that bad decision if you play your cards right at the right bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:37 PM
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I dunno about that. Most couples I see are looks matched or close to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:36 PM
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Again, when did *SOCIETY* tell you to do that? If you can’t give a concrete example, by all means, run away and concede the argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:29 PM
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You can’t provide a SINGLE example? Cmon now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 05:08 PM
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If someone said it, surely you can provide proof that it was said? After all, if “society told you” there should be an example of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 04:52 PM
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I’ve never seen or heard women lying about liking hot men, if anything they’re blatantly open about what they like (tall, big hands, broad shoulders, big forearms, etc).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 03:38 PM
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Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:49 PM
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Well, duh. Have you ever done anything to impress a fat, repulsive woman? Women aren’t any different.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 02:48 PM
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They’re your family, it’s ultimately on them to decide whether to be brutally honest with you or coddle you. Sorry if it was the latter, but you should’ve figured out that maybe they weren’t giving you a straight line by the time you got to middle school. Your teachers shouldn’t be talking about your date ability or lack thereof at all. If you “fell for it”, sorry, but it’s on you to correct it. Society can’t fix you mom and grandmas denial of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:52 PM
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Society doesn’t lie to men. Reality is painfully obvious about what works and what doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:42 PM
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I’ve always wondered this myself, like, who “lied to you” when common experience in middle and high school shows the exact opposite?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:37 PM
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I’ve seen men vaguely appeal to “society” when asked who “lied to them,” but I don’t know anyone who’s getting dating advice from porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:34 PM
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Lol the “Dork” triad.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:54 AM
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No, and I think you’re using an extreme example that’s not applicable to most men. The idea that Simple Jack is out here drowning in pussy is absurd.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:32 AM
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I mean, if she’s giving you all the “go” signals, then she wants you to touch her and to be forward. But you have to have decent social skills to read the room and pick up on those signals.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:02 AM
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Men who are obsessed with marrying virgins are usually some combination weirdly religious, from some super patriarchal third world dump, or strangely familiar with age of consent laws.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:32 AM
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The general human trend towards monogamy shows otherwise, but, ok bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:22 AM
2

Wouldn’t knowing when to be low inhibition around women be a…social skill?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 09:16 AM
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It’s done ok for me 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:26 AM
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Hard disagree. Patrice O’Neal famously said, “You can laugh your way into some pretty pussy” and I’ve found that to be true more often than not. If you can get her to laugh and keep a conversation, you can get her out her panties.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:30 PM
1

Seeing two sunburnt butts in thongs was pretty awesome lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:25 PM
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I feel like being emotionally intelligent means knowing when to open up when you’re struggling, instead of bottling it up until you get ass cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:20 PM
2

Got home from work, girlfriend and her bestie are tanning in bikinis in the backyard, pretty great sight to come home to after a long day, ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:39 PM
6

I split my pants right down the ass while doing a magic mike routine for my GF on her birthday one year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:44 PM
3

Of course. Chemistry in person always trumps a bad swipe on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:43 PM
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Anyone’s preferences in a free society are open to criticism. Such is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:13 PM
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Ok, you do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 07:13 PM
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Literally no one is stopping you from having whatever standards you want, within the bounds of legality.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:27 PM
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That’s in no way relevant to my statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:59 PM
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You can’t blame them because there’s nothing to blame. Everyone is entitled to have whatever standards they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:39 PM
1

Quite common during ovulation, from anecdotal experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:32 AM
1

Lived experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:27 AM
3

You had similar chat features back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 09:05 PM
6

Facebook was literally created to rank hot girls in college classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:31 PM
6

Back in the day they’d give you a handjob in the back of the bus.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:21 PM
6

What “damage”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:52 PM
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…do you eat feces in your bathroom? 🤦‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:50 PM
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Nah man, that’s grimy. I have had people hookup in my spare bedroom before and I find that less gross than the thought of one of my boys just spraying ropes all over my bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:41 PM
2

Thanks! I think that’s the plan, she’s simultaneously the most annoying person I know but I get bummed when she leaves the room lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:39 PM
3

Around 4 years or so?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:35 PM
3

That’s exactly what happened lol. We were roommates for like 2 months before she hit me with a “wanna hookup?” text while we were out at the bar with friends one night and the rest is history.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:32 PM
3

I rented an apartment with my partner before we were even dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:15 PM
3

Wanting to properly pleasure your partner is “obsessed and insecure”? That’s a weird take.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:01 PM
4

How so? How much better can sex get than with a partner who’s concerned about getting you off as much as you are with them? If that ain’t the top of the mountain, what are we even doing here on this rock?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:44 PM
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So, zero firsthand experience. I’m assuming you lack the length to hit “the fornices” yourself and just extrapolated from there?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:43 PM
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Anybody who’s capable of good communication and learning your body can be your “best” partner, in all honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:41 PM
5

And you know this…how? The average female g-spot is like 2-3 inches in. Most “average” men can comfortably hit that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:40 PM
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“Halfway to the fornices”? What does that even mean, and who talks like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:33 PM
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Why would being her first or close to it make you her best? That implies you’re mediocre in bed and don’t want her to catch on to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:26 PM
1

If there’s music, drinks, and more than three people at a house, it’s a party, personally speaking. That said, there’s bigger stuff too. My buddy just had a big bonfire in his backyard yesterday. Had like 40-50 people there most of the night, decent amount of girls. If you can’t have fun lighting shit on fire and drinking with girls in bikini tops and daisy dukes, you’re not gonna have fun anywhere. I mean, yeah, at least in my area. There’s always something going on in the summertime here. That…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:35 PM
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Last call at the bar, or after 2:30AM. When you want to keep the party going and you can’t stay at the bar. You break out a bag or a blunt, invite some girls back, and see where the night takes you. Sorry about that DJ event, sometimes they suck. That’s part of why you make friends, if one party sucks, you can hit your other friends up to see where an actual party is at.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:24 PM
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For sure, I can’t argue that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:21 PM
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Lived experience trumps just solely going off of critical thinking in my experience, but I’m certainly not arguing against the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:11 PM
2

Depends. There’s boring people, for sure. But I’ve yet to attend an after last call party with guys and girls who weren’t fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:09 PM
2

I was thinking that too. Maybe it’s a Midwest thing, but sports leagues are tied to drinking here. Hell, a lot of the teams are sponsored by individual bars.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:08 PM
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> Physical attraction isn’t enough to keep a relationship alive And you have to have relationship experience to realize that, which most struggling men don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:48 PM
2

How clapped out we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:59 PM
3

San Diego, hands down. But I lived in a beach/hippy neighborhood with lots of bars so I was in a target rich area. Generally, I avoid big downtown areas and find a cool neighborhood I liked, as they’re more expensive and in my experience overrated for nightlife unless you like clubbing or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:54 AM
3

Well, yeah. The longer he lives there, he’ll gain that same familiarity edge that locals have.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:30 AM
3

I’ve brought girls back to my place many times the same night. Not EVERY time, but enough that I can’t complain. Sometimes you feast, sometimes you famine, such is life 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:29 AM
1

Cuz he’s not. If you have decent social skills, making friends and meeting women in a new city isn’t some unachievable thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:26 AM
1

Yup. If a woman likes you, you’ll know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:25 AM
6

I’ve literally never experienced anything like this. It sounds like you hang around misanthropic people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:24 AM
7

100% agree. If you’re a good time and fun to be around, people naturally like having you in their circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:21 AM
6

I think this is highly contingent on your social skills. I’ve moved around a bunch and have had no problem meeting new friends or approaching women because I’m naturally outgoing and low inhibition. Some who’s not is obviously going to struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:20 AM
6

You’ve NEVER seen a homeless woman in the west, ANYWHERE?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:01 PM
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I feel like every man claiming this would change their tune after encountering the sobering reality of sexual assault and its commonality for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:46 PM
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