Tazariah Archive

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5	22m finally splitting with my wife. Talk to a lawyer as fast as you can. You have been the breadwinner and she hasn't been working so there's a good chance she's going to come after you for money. Obviously, I don't know anything about your financial circumstances but she will come after at least half of everything you have a value. Be thankful you don't have any kids. Stay strong. Be wise and don't give your opposition any ammunition and that she can use against you. I wish you all the best.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/19 02:58 AM
3	I fucked everything up. Stop with the ultimatums. Your wife wants to see a confident man who has self-respect. Who loves her and who is flexible to changing and growing with her. I appreciate and understand where you are coming from, but you have to find self respect within yourself. You cannot have love without respect. And you cannot respect someone who has no self respect. This is not any sort of level of machismo. This is just telling it like it is. I have re-read your comments several times and I see great confide…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/19 01:41 PM
1	1st marriage counseling session is Monday but I found photos on her phone... Believe it or not, there is still time. Make the most out of every minute between now and the time you go to counseling. Let me know if there's anything else you want to talk about or have any other questions because it sucks to be in that situation and it's good to know that you are not the first want to go through it and you are not alone.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/08/19 01:58 AM
5	1st marriage counseling session is Monday but I found photos on her phone... Be prepared for the worst. But it is still OK to hope for the best. I agree that my gut tells me you are being set up and she is likely going to ask for a divorce. The couples counseling may be an excuse to say at least she tried. But, at the same time, it is plausible that while she was away and she got attention from other guys it made her realize that she wanted to be with you. There is an old saying, "be as wise as a serpent and to be as gentle as a dove." That's with this situation demands.…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/19 07:38 PM
1	Custody overnights getting taken away due to old divorce agreement... I'm sure that's the case! Just remember the courts won't listen to or care what your daughter wants. Go in with facts and love and respect.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/08/19 06:40 AM
2	Custody overnights getting taken away due to old divorce agreement... You have got to go back to court. No way around it. But from what you had said, you should be fine. Just never give up. Never stop fighting for your kid. You've got this. Invest as much as you can into your child in a loving respectful way. Don't forget to do that along the way, it's easy to lose sight of that when court is on the calendar.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/19 06:13 PM
1	I just got a raise and I suspect I’ll be getting a child support modification court date. Here’s the thing, she got a job and hasn’t told me how much she makes. It HAS to be more than the imputed min wage. When can you go back to court for reassessment?	/r/Divorce_Men	31/07/19 03:05 AM
2	I just got a raise and I suspect I’ll be getting a child support modification court date. Here’s the thing, she got a job and hasn’t told me how much she makes. It HAS to be more than the imputed min wage. Agreed. Maybe push for having the court demand tax returns get handed over every year if you think she is hiding things. My ex took me to court to raise support, convinced I was making more than I was. By the time we left court, she had to start paying me.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/07/19 08:54 PM
2	Does a legal separation lessen the pain? In my opinion if it's over, get on with it. A legal separation just draws things out. It takes more time and money. Remember a divorce is not an event, it's a process and it takes a lot longer than you might think sometimes. Even in the best of circumstances. If there is a chance for healing and repair and you have to live apart, then do that and work on things. If not, focus on doing all the things you need to do to get on with the divorce. Emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, spirit…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/07/19 01:35 PM
1	My son is my world. Lean on all the support you can. The road is going to be long but you will survive and be so much better off on the other side. You will learn you are so much stronger than you think. Got your back. Stay in touch.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/07/19 02:11 AM
2	My son is my world. That's a rough spot to be in. If there is anything I can do or if you just need another perspective , hit me up. No one was there for me during my darkest times so I try hard to be there for other guys going through the roads of hell that I have traveled.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/19 01:13 AM
1	My son is my world. How'd it go with your attorney? Well I hope.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/19 05:41 PM
3	Finally done The good news is you are experiencing exactly what you should be at this stage. Seeing a woman you loved at one point and your children walk out of your life - even if it's just for a day - will cause pain and depression in the moment. Now you have to trust in yourself and focus on your love for your children. Seek to make decisions from here that will show your honor and respect for your children and for the people who will be in your life now and down the road. Your old positive self is in the…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/07/19 02:55 PM
1	My son is my world. I meant it when I said you are not alone. Document everything, do your homework and get all the help to fight for your boy. I wish you all the success in the world. Reach out if you need more specifics. All the best....	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/19 03:41 AM
2	My son is my world. Play the long game. Start taking excellent notes. Track everything - time you spend with your son, time she spends, and spend as much time as you can with him. Build your bonds with him as deeply as you can with lots of love and respect. Talk to local, good attorney ASAP. Initial consultations are usually free. I realize you want out as soon as possible in all likelihood, but if you want to take your son with you, plan and be as patient and smart as you can be. Remember that no matter what - lov…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/19 12:38 AM