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Question For WomenTeacherSterling/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 11:54 PM
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I have never heard that bisexual men are not really bisexual. I have heard that some men pretend to be gay because they are interested in women and want to get closer to them. Personally, I have not met many bisexual men even though I have met many gay men. Perhaps it is because bisexual men mostly pass as straight via the mechanisms mentioned in the OP. On the other hand, I would guess that some straight women identify as bisexual not because they have real sexual interest towards women but out…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:26 AM
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I think friendship is a spectrum so it's hard to debate the precise premise which you are aiming towards here. If I am married, are my wife's friends my friends? Suppose we all collectively spend a lot of time together, are we friends? Does friendship need to entail one on one hangouts? Do work friends count? On a deeper level, I am not convinced being friends with opposite sex makes one a better or worse partner. Your arguments for why it may be bad are entirely anecdotal. So to give you anothe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:12 AM
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If you aren't gonna be satisfied, absolutely. It's just a waste of everyone's time. I wouldn't tell them that, just kinda soft screen. A lot of guys will volunteer that information even without you asking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:36 PM
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Even if a man is okay with toys/cock sleeves, I don't think that you leading with him being too small[even tactfully] is going to led to a good place. I would wait until you find someone more sexually compatible with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:23 PM
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Definitely, it definitely is motivator that you know you will enjoy it. And if they don't want to use it, then it does indicate a pure incompatibility. Plus for you it's not only psychological, it's physiological.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:48 AM
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Ah interesting, so you are not capable of orgasming during sex without a vibrator? I definitely can see how that would cause an incapability if he wanted it to be him only during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:31 AM
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Here's an interesting question, since you experienced it, if he hadn't noticed but had continued to just learn you, do you think you would have come to the point where you could orgasm? Essentially do you think that pressure to orgasm made you have the inability to orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:58 AM
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That's a very insightful comment, I never thought about how one's own expectations of one's own performance could lead to sexual incompatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:58 AM
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Who knows? I personally don't ask them about their sexual frequency or quality. In this particular case, they have 3 kids, so obviously they are sometimes having sex but who knows how much.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 01:25 PM
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That was her contention and this is not a one time phenomena. I have seen many people say this. That didn't find their partner physically attractive and only developed their attraction after a period. They could lying, or your more good willed explanation might be true but it's not an isolated case. So I am more inclined to believe what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:22 PM
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Maybe I should specified but she explicitly said at that time that she didn't find him physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 12:10 PM
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Definitely agree that physical attraction is multifactorial. I do agree that being scared to lose someone certainly isn't an easy metric to measure. But there are different kinds of being afraid to lose. The one you describe is more afraid to lose you due to the consequences of the loss rather than because the inherent value of the person. For me, I think it's a good proxy metric of how attractive I am generally perceived by my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:20 AM
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Yeah it might be true that relationship quality is much higher for those genuinely attracted to the man. Another factor is whether the woman feels that the man is high quality in general. Suppose you had a man outside the general attractiveness purview of the woman, but nonetheless formed a deep emotional connection. If the woman knows that the man is generally desirable, they seem to put more into investing in the relationship. For example, I knew a couple where the woman attractive than the ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:05 AM
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Objectively, she could have done much better. Knowing the couple, I know she could have. He clearly fell below her preference because she wasn't attract to him at all. Furthermore, I have heard more than one person say this. The claim is that due to their charisma or other persuasion factors, they ended becoming attracted to the man. I have met several who claim that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:14 AM
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I have heard several women report that they were not only not interested in a man but that they had no attraction for several of their boyfriends beforehand. They only ended up together because the man was extremely persistent in trying to get their attention. I am thinking of a particular couple now and they have three kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:02 AM
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I plan on raising them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:23 PM
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No, for one I would like kids. So that's an immediate dealbreaker without even considering the other 11.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:17 PM
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That's true. Also the difference in BMI between western countries and Asian countries is quite large.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:39 AM
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We can't. I am assuming we are not talking about dudes who are paying for play. I don't know if I am exactly a passport bro[I didn't move to date], but I have lived in other countries for the last 6 years now. For one, most passport bros who come here that are mid do not get 10s. If a guy is a 6 or 7 in America, he can probably pull a 7-8 in another Asian country. He is not pulling a 10. The reason is mostly just 3 factors: exoticness, height, and Western country history. In any country, being f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 03:28 AM
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He isn't worth listening too. Complains about body count when his wife has 3 baby daddies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 05:21 AM
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Don't bother arguing with them, they have extreme recency bias. Anything that happened in the last 30 years is obviously more important than any biological reality or vast societal patterns which span universally across all human societes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:39 PM
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Gender essentialism is looked down upon in these circles, despite it being mostly true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 01:46 AM
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People just don't believe in love I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 01:52 AM
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I speak Japanese and I know many Japanese people. What level is your Japanese? Do you passed any tests in Japanese language proficiency? You can search it up in Japanese and try to find some reports about it. There are plenty of relationship advice columns in magazines, websites, news articles online, etc. Many about body count too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 01:37 PM
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I want to see some evidence of that claim. I speak and read Japanese, can you cite me some article in Japanese that says that men care more or less based on whether the former partners are Japanese? I have never heard any Japanese say anything like this. And I have never seen any evidence of this kind of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 10:22 AM
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I am a man, but I think they would be interesting to talk to. I think probably I would want them to stop for their own benefit but it would be interesting to hear their perspective on things. I cannot imagine we would agree on everything but it's always good to explore other mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:07 AM
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When I was online dating, I think we probably had a similar style. I was pretty much going out with a different girl every day. But I wasn't on the apps around Valentine's Day 🤣 maybe I would have been in trouble at that time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:59 AM
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Has it happened to you? Or have you done that to someone? I imagine girls have a lot more options, so maybe they are more likely to blow someone off? But I just never have had that happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:48 AM
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Do people actually get blown off? I feel like maybe once in my whole dating experience has a girl ever canceled a date on me. But I have never had a girl not show up or like say she was coming but not come. Of course I have had only one date with a girl with a few girls but that doesn't seem like the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:14 AM
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https://www.boston.com/culture/health/2014/05/30/nate-silvers-fivethirtyeight-website-takes-on-the-data-behind-masturbation/?amp=1 There have been several studies to confirm that many if not most women rarely masturbate. Even if you say there is a huge underreporting, it would still be way less than men. It's culturally independent and widespread.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:19 PM
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Honestly we should not talk about it, what's the point? We can go on going to these countries and those who don't want to can simply stay at home. But bragging on the internet about where you went and what you did just brings us all down.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:02 AM
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No argument here on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:22 AM
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True. Though one slightly advantageous thing about getting older is that if you do maintain yourself(work out, keep your hair, get a solid career), you are competing aganist a narrower field. I would just caution guys about relying on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:08 AM
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It's hard for me to say. I have to concede that you might be right. They might be settling for you because they already lost Chad. The best you can do is try to make your self as Chad-like as possible so there is a possibility that she likes you for you. I only note that because it's more likely(even for older Chad) that a 30 year old is not playing you for money than a 20 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 04:06 AM
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You are partially right but a lot of guys aren't in that position. Most guys are out of shape(read: fat), have a middling career, and usually have some debt. A lot are bald or balding by their mid-30s. Comparing apples to apples, a guy who is 35 is in a better position, everything else being equal. But I will say as he gets to his mid 40s, some of the advantage wears off. At that point if he wants to date young, it's going to mostly be for money. However the closer to his age he dates the more l…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 03:55 AM
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I would venture to say it's not even uncommon, just more subtle than most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:30 AM
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Pretty sure this AI is generated
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 12:27 AM
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The amount of married men I know with women despite all these things[especially the gaining weight, not snapping back after pregnancy, going to work] is ridiculous. I would say in the majority of the time women don't snap back after pregnancy and last I saw women were filing for divorce overwhelmingly more than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 03:37 AM
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Same here. Honesty is the best policy on both sides. Don't ask if you don't want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:01 AM
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Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:07 PM
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I imagine we have a lot of the same values in that way. I also try to be open and honest I am also looking for a serious relationship. I try to the learn the languages of the places I have lived and the only reason I haven't married was because I think my culture doesn't match the place I am currently living now[I am also unhappy with a few things in this country in terms of practicalities, like food and environment]. So I am hoping to move to another country when I have enough money saved up. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 01:22 PM
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Most people who take the test nowadays do so with the sixteen personalities which intergrates the big 5 into Mbti. So to me, they are usually pretty well founded. And I have seen patterns among those who identify in certain ways. For what it's worth i am also a passport bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:12 PM
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I have high openness, low agreeableness(similar to you but probably less politeness, still higher though), high extraversion, low conscientiousness, and high neuroticism. ENTP
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 07:08 AM
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I had a version of this. It wasn't exactly the same but basically the circumstances were such that it would be difficult for her to be with me and to be open about it. I don't think she tried to deceive me though. It still sucked. It sucked even more when it ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 04:20 PM
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Men masturbate ~3x as often as women. NSSHB, USA 80% of German teen boys masturbate monthly vs. 25% of girls. BZgA Germany 64% of UK men masturbate weekly vs. 34% of women. Lovehoney 2024 US: 60% of men vs. 36.5% of women masturbated last month. Herbenick et al. 2021 35.9% of men masturbate ≥1×/week vs. 8.8% of women. Herbenick et al. 2021 95% of men vs. 71% of women have masturbated in their lifetime. Kinsey Institute / Natsal UK UK (age 16–44): 73% of men vs. 37% of women masturbated in past 4…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 01:21 AM
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If I really like a girl, probably after the first or the second date. I would not say an expensive gift, but something small like a flower or something I think they would like. I am assuming in this situation we have talked a long time over text or knew each other before for some period of time. If we just met once and haven't talked much, I probably wouldn't even know what to buy. EDIT: If a girl said this to me, I would run. A gift shouldn't be expected, but it should be appreciated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:44 AM
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I don't know if I have just bad luck but almost every woman have been with have been moderately to extremely paranoid about cheating. Some showed it more than others, but they always would ask me questions or say things which implied I could be cheating, etc. There are different levels of course. But I think guys amongst themselves tend to talk a lot about girls not liking us to do certain things with the underlying suggestion that they might cheat if they did those things. Or just the whole cra…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 11:52 PM
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Categorically no. Even if you don't believe in love languages, I need words of affirmation. They are necessary for me, more necessary than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 03:30 PM
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I cannot believe that's issue for some men. I feel like there are so many other problems to have, I cannot imagine complaining about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 02:26 PM
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I honestly cannot believe it 🤣 Obviously it's your experience, but I cannot imagine a lot of guys wouldn't like girls who dress like that. Insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:18 AM
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> cutesy hyperfeminine princesscore clothing 24/7. Unfortunately, by experience, that turns off men more than it attracts them Does it?? O_O
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 11:57 PM
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If you read a lot of women's literature, it's also crazy to think how opposite of their fantasy this is. Depending on the genre, the male love interests are usually wildly attractive. And usually their personality is something which the female protaganists don't like but grow to either understand them deeper or like those (non-physical) traits which were in the beginning unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 03:39 AM
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Not because of how nice she was but because of her personality more than anything. She was much older than me. Around a 15 years difference. She was in her forties and I was in my twenties. I feel her quite attractive but she was not a model neither now nor when she was younger. But there were definitely things I found physically attractive about her. She was surprised I was interested in her. She was not fat at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 06:37 AM
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Probably insecurity, sexual inhibition, social stigma which heterosexual couples might be more susceptible to, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:26 AM
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Did you read the differentials between the number of people which they preformed oral sex acts on and their respective percentages?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:18 AM
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Have you considered that lesbians use toys at an 80% rate versus heterosexuals at around 47%. That's nearly a 200% difference. It's nearly universal in lesbian sex to involve sex toys, look at any study that compares the numbers. You cannot compare non-sex toy sex with sex toy sex. And the data bares that out, look at the percentage of orgasms with toys versus no-toys. Or ask any woman who masturbates with toys how fast they can come versus without. https://utppublishing.com/doi/full/10.3138/cjh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 10:06 AM
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You are correct. I tend to think that this primarily a male issue here. Men are not physically in good enough shape to build up a rhythm to which makes it easier to cum. If you cannot consistently move for more than a few minutes at a consistent pace, it's going to be much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:56 AM
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It's simply not true. Men and women perform oral sex mostly equally: 'Most men (85.4%) and women (83.2%) had ever performed oral sex' Compare the differential on number of partners performed oral sex on, it's almost the same. The highest difference is between people who have performed oral sex on more than 10 people. And still it's only a 5 percent difference. Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3901667/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 09:51 AM
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I appreciate that we squibbling about numbers but I would say my number is probably closer to 25->33% finishing orally. It depends on the girl i was with. And birth control methods, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 05:01 AM
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There are also blowjobs, but once again blowing a guy to completion is a rarity I don't think it's very rare. At least not in my experience. cowgirl where the woman is on-top, upright and bouncing like an Amazon is a rarity. I don't think most real world women are very comfortable in this position. Typically, if the woman is on-top, she is almost fully laying on the man in a sort of inverted missionary position I don't think I have ever been in this kind of situation. I am not saying all of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 01:14 AM
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This is a misinterpretation. It's more that it's less socially acceptable to insult a women's appearance. But women definitely in general prioritize their physical appearance far higher than most men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 07:56 AM
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They didn't take no for an answer. I agree with everything you said. But will you also acknowledge that some women do play hard to get? As a rule, I don't pursue those women but some women do pretend to not be interested when they really are and just want you to try harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:39 AM
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I am not saying that it's necessarily right or wrong, but having lived in countries which have these kinds of services, it's pretty clear that women don't think their men have done those sorts of things. It's seen as an option which exists but the men who are known to go to those places are still stigmatized. These are countries without traditional Christian sexual mores, but still it's seen as something good men don't do, married or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:51 AM
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I definitely don't think you should be chasing it, but I do know many guys would prefer it. I cannot think of a good reason to not prefer it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:14 AM
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I appreciate the fact you have a different perspective, but I have to say many of these things are not concerns for a lot of men. I don't think performance in bed is the only concern with non-virgins versus low n-count women. But I think your perspective is also based on what you think might happen with a virgin rather than personal experience. Consider the pair bonding which observed for individuals who lose their virginity to their first partner. It is not really comparable to partners which c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 09:10 AM
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I would say that a virgin is preferable if everything else is being equalized, there is no advantage for me that my partner has slept with other people. It only can serve as an impetus for comparison and jealousy neither of which is preferable. Sexual experience in of itself is not something which I need. Of course virgins are shy and they don't know what they are doing but those things are attractive to a lot of men. It's fun to explore things for the first time with someone. Unless a man is co…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:50 AM
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Wow this is the most backwards logic. I am not even an advocate of the strong version of this argument but your presentation of their view is such a strawman, it's difficult to know who exactly you are arguing with. The core idea(correct or not) is that the partner(a) previously engaged in sex acts which partner(c) required/enjoyed a lot. Partner(a) either enjoyed(at the time), didn't enjoy, or was indifferent about the sex act but primarily did said sex act out of a feeling of presumed higher s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 01:56 AM
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Do you think men who engage in hookups often make it clear it will be a hookup? It seems like women often complain that men are unclear with their intentions. I am inclined to think that most hookups are ambiguous, that is at least my experience. I am not part of the gang who thinks sex immediately is necessary, but I can understand their concern. Their thought is that there must be less raw sexual attraction if an individual engaged in sex with someone immediately with no or ambiguous expectati…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 11:46 AM
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Not being able to get a cat doesn't make me want a dog more unless I already like dogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 10:13 AM
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Are there seriously men who expect virgins and expect crazy kinky sex? I feel like there is some conflation between two types of men here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:18 AM
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Those are a lot of adjectives associated with being jobless. Assuming that the women was willing to take care of me and genuinely loved me, having no job would not be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 09:22 AM
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I can see where that preference comes from. How big is your social circle?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:23 AM
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Ah maybe it's a different kind of friend group than my own. Most of my friends are guys, and we generally don't discuss much about sex and gender. I don't think my friends would need to fabricate their personality to stay friends with the group but they would need to avoid creating unnecessary problems. I think partially our group would avoid such topics because they tend to cause disagreements and fights. Mostly we talk about our daily lives, some times media which we are watching, sports, vide…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:57 AM
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I agree on the chill part. But do you know what all your friends views are on these things? There are some vocal members of my friend group, but most don't really talk about those kind of things so that if they were a MRA or Feminist i wouldn't really know. I might be able to guess by their general lifestyle and habits but it would be a guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:43 AM
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No problem, thank you for your earnestness and kindness. So insofar as the 50% model is concerned, I would that men might think it's easier but there are a lot of societal expectations that make true 50% partnership difficult. For example, most women would prefer to earn less money than their partner. Many women expect men to buy gifts and/or pay for dates, even in the West. There is expectation that the women is more attractive in the relationship. Even in the ideal situation where it is truly …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:14 PM
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I feel like I should say that I am not 100% a traditional mindset advocate. I would say I am much more in the romantic mindset than the traditional mindset allows. But I want answer your questions as I think that a traditional proponent would. >I feel like there is a dichotomy between red pill men who say they feel there is too much pressure on them to be successful and rich to attract a woman, but also want women to adopt the submissive role and rely on them. I don't think those who really want…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:36 PM
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Being trad wife generally involves notion that they love you and thus act in such a way which supports you. She relies on you to protect her and provide for her because that is your role but she doesn't love you directly because of those resources. Gold Diggers don't actually love you, they require those resources to maintain interest and are there contingent upon your resources. In truth, I would not expect that a gold digger would be eager to live a traditional style life. I imagine they would…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:09 PM
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I agree. If you were average depending on your location, height, and race, you can increase your value by 1->2.5 points
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:18 AM
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Yep exactly what I mean. The Philippines is a different world when it comes to dating. It cannot be compared to the rest of Asia or Latin America. I also have no experience of Africa as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 03:14 AM
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That's a big advantage over the US i agree. Trust me, I am also a passport bro so I am not saying there is no advantage. But in many of these countries(Vietnam, Japan, Korea, The Philippines) not being fat is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:57 AM
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I agree with this. The way i tell people is this, depending on your race, your height, and your destination country, you will go up between 1 and 2.5 points. So unless you are already a above average, tall white guy, you aren't gonna be a five percenter. And only in one country will you realistically gain 2.5 points.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:55 AM
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You should be careful what you see online. These things are not reality or are manipulated. I have been to the countries in question and have lived in several. I also have friends who live in these countries. These kinds of experiences you are describing are not typical at all. There is only one country which this could happen to an actual average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:52 AM
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What country? How tall are you? Also being a 5% man is not as simple as being able to be picky. It's you go outside and you are hit on constantly, you get girls dming you, you are able to date 9s or 10s without too much effort. I won't ask you to share pictures, but I doubt the girls you were banging were actual 10s especially not in their home country.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:49 AM
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Note what I said, it won't put you in the top 5% of men type of feeling. Not if you started average in a Western country. Also when you say not super tall, do you mean short or do you mean above average in a Western country(i.e. above 5'9 in the US). Because if you are even 5'9+, you are gonna be quite tall in my countries passport bros go to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 02:33 PM
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I would agree with that. Being tall and attractive works everywhere, being in a foreign country there is probably a higher chance that you are taller than average so it improves your chances. Furthermore, there is some interestingness with being a foreigner which can help you but it's not sufficient for the vast majority of countries. I can only think of one exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:34 PM
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Barring one exceptional case, being passport bro is very unlikely to get you anything close to the experience of a Top 5% Man. Especially if you are just an average looking white dude with an average job.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 01:28 PM
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I know your opinion may differ but I would not find that kind of relationship romantic at all. And also it would be very unlikely that relationship to ever develop into a potential marriage for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:27 AM
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So one medical association from one country has a negative view, and that's enough to invalidate the dozens(i only cited 5 here for the sake of brevity, would you like more?) of medical asssociations which either regard it as beneficial or at least beat the cost/benefit analysis?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 11:09 PM
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That's not how being a parent works, Parents get to chose which medical procedures their children receive. Preventive or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:56 PM
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I will check it out, thank you for the recommendation!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:43 PM
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It sounds like you don't value medical consensus very highly. If you think that all experts are out to get you personally, of course we are not gonna agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:42 PM
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Three studies do not medical consensus make.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:40 PM
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Those considerations are practical rather than moral. But clearly the AAP disagrees that risks outweigh the benefits. In fact the weight of the medical findings show circumcision has negligible impact on the individuals day-to-day life. You can say that it would not be your choice, but that doesn't mean we should ban everyone from being able to make that choice. Especially when it widely found to safe and effective for preventing disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:39 PM
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Can you provide any evidence that female circumcision has health benefits? If not, your statement is just speculative.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:34 PM
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The fact is that there is medical consensus that circumcision has health benefits. Just as parents guide their children through life’s other choices, deciding on circumcision is part of that responsibility. Parents make countless decisions for their children without their consent, and that doesn't diminish the validity of those choices. From what their kids eat, to what kind of education they receive, and even the medical treatments they undergo, parents are entrusted with making decisions that …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:22 PM
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But gay men usually are progressive and liberal. Look at the exit polls for Harris and Trump, 86%. Also the way those men were raised, if they were amenable to that sort of thing, they would be good husbands to women. Not to men. The dynamic is very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:32 PM
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What would gay males be looking to get in other countries they cannot find here? Most gay males are quite willing to engage in sex quickly and with many partners. Furthermore, gay people in other countries don't offer any additional security. If anything, they are likely less traditional because many of these countries have a society stigma aganist homosexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:27 PM
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I think women have a huge varience to what they mean by dad-bods, and a plurality if not majority of those bodies are held by extremely few actual dads but rather powerlifters or muscular dudes who ate too much. But certainly not by some doesn't lift very consistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 10:59 AM
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I really don't understand how my writing was so misinterpreted since I said it wasn't unlikely to have orgasms, just less likely. I also said you don't know them very well sexually, but emotionally the connection can be very strong. As mentioned i took it from a real life example, from divorced woman comparing her ex-husband sex with her new lovers sex. She said with her ex, she came every time quickly. He knew her well and so it was routine for them. However her 'new'(3 months) lover was much m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:46 PM
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Ah i would guess that sex changes over time. Especially in the situation i was thinking of.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:56 AM
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As mentioned i took it from a real life example, from divorced woman comparing her ex-husband sex with her new lovers sex. She said with her ex, she came every time quickly. He knew her well and so it was routine for them. However her 'new'(3 months) lover was much more 'passionate', that's the word she used. She said she prefers the new sex even though the orgasms were less consistent. My opinion was that doesn't sound possible to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 08:32 AM
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That makes sense. Sometimes when you get late into the relationship, it does become a bit routine. I am happy that you don't experience that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:49 AM
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That's great, I am glad you had that experience. If you look at the statistics about sex, you would find that's uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:37 AM
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No, it was reflective what a real life person termed their sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 04:37 AM
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Very interesting 😁 i definitely think being comfortable with sex is a big part of it, though i am sure the anatomical reason is part as well. Thank you for sharing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:47 AM
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Wow that's certainly a rarity. Do you think that's inherent/biological or a skill you have developed?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 03:21 AM
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Now that I have read the comments maybe I should have put loving. I don't why I have to say it again, but I said clearly in the post as less orgasms not no orgasms. Duty sex exists though whether you participate in it or not. Some people have sex for other reasons than they just really want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:52 AM
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You mean it's literally true for them or you mean that they never experienced this before and couldn't experience this before?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:48 AM
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I believe you can. But sometimes some relationships can get complecent or the sex becomes a duty. Or sometimes people don't love each other anymore but stay together for other reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:41 AM
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I thought so, that would be my intuition too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:40 AM
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Ahh i suppose i didn't mean that by passionate. All i mean by passionate is sex which involves a focus on loving. A lot of kissing, a lot of touching but not necessarily a long duration. In fact, it can be 15 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:39 AM
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Interesting! Thank you for clarifying. If you can tell me why I would be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:23 AM
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Ah that's true, i suppose i would define passion as a lot of connection and love focused.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:22 AM
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I agree with your definition of passionate sex. But not know well can be quite obvious right? Just because you have had a lot of sex with someone doesn't necessarily(one to one) mean more emotional connection. Some people spend a long time before having sex, certainly they still have deep emotional connections right? More than a one night stand at least? Also, you are saying passionate sex always involves orgasm? You never had loving sex without an orgasm. I think you would be an exception to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:21 AM
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I hope that in the future that these kinds of expectation do not exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:17 AM
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Ahh i see. Thank you for your thoughtful responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:16 AM
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Vibrators don't make you orgasm? And every sexual partner you have had has had a direct correlation between passion and orgasm frequency? So even if a guy knew exactly what you liked, the passion still made you orgasm more?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:15 AM
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Interesting! Okay I hadn't heard that before. Thank you for your response.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:04 AM
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It's true, a man's ego is often equated to his ability to preform sexually and perhaps it is voluntary. However I do think societally and culturally they are compelled to do that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:01 AM
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I thought so. Thank you for being so thoughtful in your responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:59 AM
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Quite true. Though sometimes it can happen later on when people become complacent or the sex becomes a duty. Or they don't have much love anymore but they don't want to divorce. Which would you say is better sex though? That new learning curve sex with more passion or the going through the motions kinda of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:58 AM
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Well it depends on culture on the second one. Many Asian cultures have a stigma about talking about sex. They feel shy to discuss it but i don't think they would say they lack emotion. Comfort comes with time right? The more normal the experience, the more comfortable. The first person it's more easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:55 AM
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Do you feel like you can easily compare two lovers and say what you prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:53 AM
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Yeah the first option i was thinking of that exact situation. The second one I don't think it's accurate though. When i say passion, i mean both people are into it. The orgasm happens less frequently(like i said maybe 60% of the time) but it could get better over time if that person learns more about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:52 AM
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I think i may have misphrased it. I don't mean never orgasm, i just mean less orgasms. Compared to always orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:48 AM
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Ah so you are saying every man who are with who was passionate gave you the most orgasms right? Linearly? The amount of passion he showed directly correlated to your orgasm frequency. And his ability to know what you liked in bed didn't matter to your orgasm frequency?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:47 AM
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False in what sense? Sometimes sex can be like that for many people. If you want to make it less literal just pull the values out of evaluate it that way. Is passion or orgasm frequency more important?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:43 AM
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A vibrator has no passion right? It quickly can make you reach orgasm, independent of passion. Also routine can make something easy to do. If you have done something 50 times, it's easier to do it again. Passion isn't really like that. It's not so robotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:40 AM
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Ah that is quite true, but which is more important to you? Or which is of a higher value in sex? Passion or frequency of orgasm?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:38 AM
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Can you explain the vetting portion? I don't understand that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:37 AM
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Some people have deep emotion connections and never have sex. Have you heard of asexual people? Are you saying people who wait 3 months to have sex have less emotional connections than two people who did a one night stand? The variables are independent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:36 AM
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Ahh that's interesting! I am happy that you guys are still having fun after many years. I can see which you value more, and it makes sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:34 AM
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You have never met anyone who was divorced who said their sex lacked passion? Despite orgasming? I wish i knew you in real life but I have several friends i would love to introduce you to. But thank you for clarifying your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:32 AM
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I am trying to extrapolate the value of orgasm frequency versus passion in sex. This is a real-life example, I have heard of it several times. People who just got divorced for example often have this kind of experience. Their previous partner knew them very well but the sex lacked passion. The new partner is much more loving but doesn't know them well yet. My opinion is that most women would chose the first option(robotic but more orgasms). Also it doesn't say the girl never cums. Just less freq…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:24 AM
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I do understand how much orgasms are mental. But this is also partially why it's easier to orgasm with the first person. You have a lot of experience with them. It's normal, comfortable, and easy. You have been doing it a long time so he knows what to do to produce the response. The second person doesn't right? It's not as natural because you guys haven't danced 1000 times. He may have a lot of emotion and passion and may love you more, but regardless it hasn't become something he knows well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:20 AM
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Ahh interesting. Of course never orgasming would definitely be a big problem. That makes sense, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:17 AM
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It's interesting you say that and i can agree with this. But i think culturally often men are seen as the one which is supposed to preform during sex and thus it seems success or failure is more dependent on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:16 AM
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Of course, that's necessary. However, if you observe several subreddits, many women prefer not to communicate about sex. And also some cultures are extremely shy about this. Nonetheless which sex would you prefer? The sex which you quickly orgasm but is routine or passionate but inconsistent with orgasm frequency? It's more of a value question. Which do you value more in sex: passion or orgasm frequency?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:14 AM
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Ahh i see, i suppose that is true. The second person could become better at knowing the person. However again, it seems to imply that you do prefer the first kind of sex to the second. The orgasm frequency is more important than the passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:11 AM
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The second option would be that option. The passionate sex is within a committed loving relationship. However do you think that is more important than orgasm frequency?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:09 AM
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Yes that's true. But suppose you don't have passionate sex with the person who knows you well. Or suppose that the first man's passionate sex isn't the same level of connection. It's not as loving in your estimation. However, regardless he knows how to make you orgasm quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:08 AM
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Ah but you think the first sex would be better despite preferring the second man? That is you value orgasms more than passion in the context of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:05 AM
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Sorry for the misunderstanding, i added clarification to the post. When I say don't know you well, I mean sexually. They haven't had a lot of sex with you. They don't know every spot that turns you on or what exactly you like. But you guys have spent a lot of time together and you guys have a lot of love. So you feel that love in the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:03 AM
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I think that this response is definitely accurate and I would say show the big cultural differences between the Westernized second generation versus the population in the inhabiting countries. The submissive wife trope used aganist men who date internationally is silly. If anyone has spent some time in any of these so-called exploited countries you will find that: 1. They are indeed more feminine and attractive than many Western countries. 2. They are more traditional than you think. 3. They usu…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 02:17 PM
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I have heard several women say this. I think it's a bit disingenuous to suggest that women don't care about this. It's one reason they want tall men for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:05 AM
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Yeah i wouldn't ever want that 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:04 AM
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Definitely would not want that. Life is already difficult enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 11:04 AM
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Dude 100%, i am not attracted to guys so being a 10/10 woman wouldn't be very appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:50 AM
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I suppose it would depend on the extent of seriousness. Expectations of Honesty, discussion of what constitutes cheating, potential boundaries, overall outlook on the future seem to be important ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 01:40 PM
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I went from getting only a little bit attention from women to a lot of attention quickly. I did end up dating a lot of women, I don't think I was a player but I try a lot of things and I was interested in the process more than anything. I still feel that way. It's been about 5 years, and I have transitioned to serial monogamy interspersed with bouts of sporadic serial dating. Usually I will date a lot of girls until I find one I really like and date her longer term until it doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 10:52 PM
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Many things. Usually red pill is wrong about their intuitions about why women do things. The red pill clearly doesn't consider love as a real thing or important in several situations, when clearly it makes a real impact on dating. The blue pill mindset about finding the right person is not nonsense. Clearly there are exceptions and not being tall doesn't doom you. I think a lot of blue pill explanations hold more weight aganist the black pill. I do think men have a lot of insecurities, although …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:56 PM
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One problem is the embarrassment factor, for men and women it's difficult to admit someone made you do things you were uncomfortable with because you really liked them or they were very hot. Clearly a lot of celebrities get a lot of sex that most men would never get because they are celebrities, nonetheless most women will never admit they did those things or that they would do those things, especially it is being contrasted to the person they currently love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 01:43 PM
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Sex workers don’t have unprotected sex. From what I have heard, this is variable. And unfortunately the education level isn't extremely high about what kind of behaviors can lead to the transmission of STIs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:54 AM
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I haven't seen any evidence that prostitution is significantly safer in countries where it's legal versus illegal. Or even where it's tolerated versus not tolerated. In SE Asia, there are so many places which are clearly prostitution services and STDs are still common.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 09:52 AM
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No, of course not. In fact, if the sex were not the best after some feeling out(meaning like time to get used to each others bodies and learn each other's preferences), I would break up as soon as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:23 AM
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I just want to share my experience on this, I won't say it's completely representative but I will say I have seen studies that back it up. It seems to me that percentage of women who use pornography on a regular basis overall is lower, in addition the percentage of women who masturbate on a regular basis is lower. Women in general seem to have a lower sex drive and thus any conclusions drawn about the whole based on porn statistics are gonna be somewhat unrepresentative.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 04:49 AM
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I agree most men are terrible at sex, though to be honest I also think that mainstream sex therapists/sex gurus are part of the reason for it. Thanks for the discussion :D
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:01 PM
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Yeah that's probably where part of the insecurity comes from. Because there are so many ways we can be bad, compared to women at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:55 PM
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I am happy to hear you say that sex doesn't vary much from person to person, though a little surprised honestly. With regards to size, I can understand what you are saying. I will just note you do know their relative sizes and that's probably enough for men to be insecure. Compared to men who probably do not compare women in the same way, even for breast size I cannot tell you exactly who had the biggest breasts. Like you said, men will care about the size even if it's only a half inch or inch b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:53 PM
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Ah I see. I can only share some details which I have heard women tell me and what I have heard discussed a few times. I am not trying to say your experience is wrong, just what I have seen frequently discussed. From what I have seen, women tend to be much detailed in their assessment. I have heard them compare in detail dick size, length and frequency of oral sex, length and intensity of foreplay including kissing, speed and intensity of penetration, frequency/non-existence and intensity of vagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:38 PM
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100% i think so. We tend to want to be the best in every category that has significant meaning. I had a friend who was in the NBA and he said he would get jealous if his gf had dated someone taller than him. For him, that was significant. However for me, all of my gfs have had bfs taller than me, it never bothered me. Sex however seems more universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:30 PM
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That's interesting, but if there is only a pass/fail than the scale would be relatively meaningless but that doesn't seem to be the way women talk about sex. I would argue men talk about sex much more pass/fail style. Also men's margin for error on being bad at sex is quite low, some men even think there is no such thing as bad sex. I disagree with that, but I do see as my sexual experiences with respect to individual differences as being relatively insignificant. They were similar levels of sat…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:26 PM
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At least for me, I never compare past partners to each other. It's not very meaningful because the quality of sex was not super significantly different. I am sure there were differences, some of which I cannot recall. However when I hear women talk about sex, they seem to have different opinions. Something you said, maybe some guy in the past had the biggest package. I will say men often put value on that, but despite that I have never even thought about who was the tightest or something similar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:23 PM
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I have heard of this and seen studies which purport to show that men care much more about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity and vice versa. Anecdotally i have also seen a greater portion of women reconciling with their cheating husbands(though i think forgiving and reconciling are somewhat conflated in the data). I wonder if males are jealous in general as well as specifically for sexual jealousy. You also seem to experience competitive thoughts intrasexual activity with another person…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:08 AM
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Legitimately curious, why do women feel less need to compete with previous partners in bed? And vice versa, why do men feel more need to compete with previous partners in bed? Is there a psychological explanation? I can understand rationally it seems like not a good practice, but I also find myself inclined towards thinking this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:11 AM
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Because there are(far) more fat people who would look more attractive if they lost weight than fit people who would look better fat. Also most men would look better with more muscle than with less(than they currently have).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 01:37 PM
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I would say that is definitely accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 10:48 PM
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I think that both things can be true. Sometimes you can have good sex without a good relationship, but the feeling is empty of meaning. It's good in the way that junk food is. It's rarely satisfying. However, a good relationship can make sex better. Women's ability to orgasm is directly correlated with their feelings and how safe they feel. Many women report inability to orgasm under emotional stress, guilt, or feelings of inadequacy. Thus that good relationship makes the sex more intense and pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 01:11 PM
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I do think I would be uncomfortable dating a woman who made more money than me. I don't see why men need to be ashamed about this. If it's okay that a woman prefer a man who makes more money than him, why should a man be ashamed to prefer a woman who makes less money than him? The dynamic of the relationship would necessarily change if it was the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 02:15 AM
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Keep working on self improvement and make sure you are developing your self into an interesting person. Make yourself comfortable socially in many situations so you can interact with a variety of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 12:21 AM
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No, of course not. Personally any sexual/pseudosexual activity outside of the relationship constitutes cheating for my boundaries. If I am to regard our relationship as serious enough to be an LTR, then I have some emotional investment in the girl, to the point where considering her having sexual contact with any one else at any time would be emotionally painful and something I would rather not even think of as an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:27 PM
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I think masculinity is often associated with conservative values. Maybe you are correct there is not a 1 to 1 correlation. I will agree the anarchists certainly were more progressive though less progressive socially than most liberal(not left wing) parties today. Certainly they were still moderately regressive on gender issues compared to today. But in the modern age, feminist and liberal scholars do often seek to breakdown the sharp distinction between masculine and feminine especially in socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:03 PM
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Do you think the USSR was a progressive government? Certainly it was economically left wing, but socially it was fairly conservative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:54 PM
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I agree with you to a large extent. Men are often expected to be sexually competent, without being given any instruction on how to be sexually competent. The mainstream instructions for men to be better at sex are not very useful, in fact I am inclined to think that the instructions were better 30-40 years ago than now. So much of a woman's ability to orgasm is mental, it's fairly well documented. And just like men, women are not able to orgasm every single time intercourse happens. Also the ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 02:05 PM
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No, I am sorry that's where you are wrong. I do understand your point. What you are not understanding is the explanation. People assume he was bad in bed because the other option is more psychologically challenging and based on common knowledge less likely. It's more easy to think the man is bad in bed because of societal knowledge that women generally want love and men generally want sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:43 AM
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Maybe your circle of friends is very different from mine. Usually the men I know which are gifted in appearance tend to be more confident. Of course there are some exceptions. Maybe there is a lot of girls that take advantage of boys the way that boys take advantage of girls. But I haven't seen it, and I don't think it's widely known if true.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:39 AM
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I am shocked by that. I could walk around outside right now(I live in Asia) and ask 20 people: who wants sex more than love, men or women? And I am sure 100% 20/20 would say men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:37 AM
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Thank you for asking a question about what I wrote instead of assuming I was wrong. The reason why is because men who are involved with women who typically want ons are already involved with many women who want ons or commitment. Typically those men have tons of options, that's why they are able to get those women. Since you gave anecdotal evidence several times in this post, I will also give some. I have never ever been turned down for an LTR for a girl that I went on more than 2 dates with. If…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:29 AM
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Ah maybe I was unclear, my fault. I have been with women with a lot of sexual experience and objectively had high sex skills, ability to deepthroat, really knew their way around the block, etc. The quality of sex didn't depend heavily on those skills. I have had girls with no experience at sex that I enjoyed more than girls with a lot of talent and experience. The difference was the emotional investment. Of course maybe your preference is sex skills, but I think once you have tried a few girls w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:23 AM
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You really need to work on your reading comprehension. Somehow you think I am saying this situation isn't possible or unlikely, when I am telling what men's thinking is. You asked "Why this logic?" I explained men's logic for why they don't see it as a possibility. If you cannot understand that, you either didn't read what I said, or are more convinced about whatever your preconceived notions are that you don't want to hear the reason for the phenomenon which you asked to explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:12 AM
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A girl giving good sex is not a reason for me to keep her. They are fairly comparable in terms of ability across girls. It matters very little.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:05 AM
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Reread what I said, try to understand my overall point. The whole thing explains why men don't see that as a likely possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:04 AM
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I am gonna disagree on this one. Being good at sex is barely a concern, most women are roughly in the same category. If anything emotional investment makes sex better than any sex skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:56 AM
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Men have a lot of pride about their sexual prowess. Almost every man I have ever met is convinced that he is really good at sex, and that women never have faked orgasms with him. They assume that their sexual prowess is unique and that the women that he is with never experienced the same before. Consider the line from Clerks: "If woman makes man cum, it's standard. If a man makes a woman cum, it's talent." Considering they see themselves as such rarities they usually associate such rarity with v…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 04:54 AM
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Sounds more difficult, but isn't that generally true? Like for the entirety of the middle east, irrespective of religion?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:32 PM
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I suppose it would depend on religion. Coptic Christian would be interesting. The Middle East has a large percentage of Muslims but it depends on the country.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:02 PM
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Of course 😊 yes intelligence is important.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 03:36 PM
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I do think intelligence is important. More than explicitly being well educated. But being well-educated can be an indication of intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 03:31 PM
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Probably the Middle East. I have met Middle Eastern women who were very intelligent, some well educated, loyal, and traditional women. I know some Iranian and Egyptian women who have very traditional values with interesting cultures. They are generally in better shape physically. Being very religious is not very negative for me as it helps to guard aganist infidelity(i am aware it's still possible but statistically it's less likely). Also social pressure is a huge factor in those countries, whic…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 03:20 PM
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Ah I see! Yeah Japanese are pretty insular in most countries actually. It's hard to find them unless you know where they are or are involved in their communities already.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:59 AM
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Ah sorry I didn't see your edit x( I think it's interesting you talk about to the superiority complex which is definitely true. Although, you know they generally think foreigners are just more attractive than them. I would really like to see where Japan goes in the future with regards to this, since their country has been essentially in economic stasis since the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:36 AM
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Oh 100% they wouldn't tell you. Come on, have you ever done some snooping? It's easy to find the hoes. Check out their social media, look at if they have a lot of followers, find out who they have dated, convince them to open up, etc. Look at their photos, where do they go? Are they posting a lot of pictures of themselves solo? Who took those pictures? Also just from personal experience, I have broken more hymens here by far than in the US. Asian women just are more conservative generally. That …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:33 AM
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I have heard of this as well. I will say that majority of foreigners I have met here are more attractive than average western guys. Some are more or less financially successful though. I have met very, very few ugly dudes who do well. Some are fat but fat tall dudes get play in America too. One thing I see far less is Black guys. The attractive local and successful guys do have some advantage here because they know the culture deeper than any expat and the family is more likely to respect the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:29 AM
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Yeah for developed Asian nations marrying is difficult. However, I know that marriage is still super important socially in many developed Asian countries. Certainly in Japan, I have/am dating someone from there now and there is a lot more social pressure to be married than might be suggested online. I think it will also depend what local girls are you trying to date. Are you going after the girls who are party girls and want to fuck foreigners? Of course they are not gonna be serious. The averag…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:22 AM
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I think you might have misread what I said, I said Japan has this problem not Korea. I appreciate the insight into Korea, but I don't think this is really a response to what I said. The problems that you mentioned about Korea are simply not going to exist in the same way in SE Asian countries. There is very little mate-guarding from the locals, in fact they always seem to want you to get married here, and the amount of Chads are relatively less.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 09:16 AM
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Another misleading thing suggested here, Japan is not the country for dating. They are going to be your worst choice because of the aging population, lack of English knowledge, the lesser amount of fetishization of White men(lower than SE Asian countries and other Asian countries), and general xenophobia. Your best options are gonna be relatively poor countries like Thailand, Vietnam, and the Philippines. The dating app responses are gonna be exponentially higher in these countries. China and Ko…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 08:59 AM
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Do you mean you dated first generation or you mean you dated girls from Asia who came to your country? Culturally the difference is huge between those two groups. But not only that, the people who will move to another country are likely much more internationally minded and open to other cultures. Not to mention that they are under pressure to adapt since they are likely away from their homes. However dating in country with natives is much more complex. If you stick only to girls who speak really…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 08:56 AM
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This is not a real question. Of course if you frame it this way, someone naturally should pick Asia. It's much more complicated than this, culturally, financially, and personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 08:51 AM
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There is a distinction between simply being bad at sex and being inexperienced. Certain movement patterns, muscle memory, anatomical knowledge is gained over time. Reddit seems to be obsessed with having theoretical knowledge of something meaning you have the same ability or similar ability as someone with practical knowledge of the thing. It's simply not the case. I can read about baseball and watch baseball all day, and then go out and hit a home run even on a bad team. There will still be a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 09:50 PM
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Trust me bro. She is gonna see you don't know what you are doing. I don't care how much studying or porn or reading about the three finger one tongue hidden technique, your inexperience is gonna show. I can remember my first time and how confused I was. I don't even think I got any skill at sex until i had been having sex for more than 10 years. And still I know i could be better. You don't have to be 100% open(you don't have to say I have never had sex exactly) but you definitely won't be able …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:44 PM
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Have you read the traditional Red Pill forums? The distinction between PUAs and Red Pill guys used to be much more blurred than now. Everyone had a focus that was slightly different. The mystery method for example was a technique that they used to try to get girls but you needed to actually approach girls. I don't know any Red Pill advocates who say wait to approach girls(see The Plight of the Lonesome Bodybuilder by Good Looking Loser). So I have to assume that you are targetting black pilled i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:25 AM
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I like how benching 225 and earning six figures are compared like they are the same 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:13 AM
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How old are you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 10:37 PM
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Genuinely the love. I have no faith in the first woman. Also I really don't value the kinks or fetishes portion. I would prefer more sex, but it's simply not worth it to trade for zero care or love.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/24 01:22 AM
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Your terms are acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 04:31 PM
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On primary note, I would say that the principle of charity is especially important in debate contexts. All philosophy and rhetoric ought to follow the principle, or else you risk defeating a strawman. Also I hope that you and I are both on a methodological exploration to truth. I am not interested in defeating you in debate for the purpose of imaginary internet points, I am interested in exploring the truth of these matter. The debate arises because we have a disagreement about the nature of rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 02:55 PM
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I appreciate the response, and the slight change in tone, I still think you could be a bit more charitable, but nonetheless at least you don't seem so hostile. It seems that you are projecting whatever your friend said onto my experiences. You cannot use me as a scapegoat for your friend. I was merely reporting what happened to me as plainly as possible. I also never said I convinced them or it was because of me. It was because of the situation, that is, it was a hot and heavy situation and the …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:27 PM
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But if they were to change their mind, then the person would be entitled to a refund right?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 02:01 AM
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If someone doesn't see the psychological damage that porn consumption does to men and women, they aren't being honest, they merely are trying to defend their addiction. Not all of these concerns raised in the post are the same as mine, but it cannot be denied having young children easily able to access extreme sexual content is extremely harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:39 AM
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I am not even open to threesomes, let alone some kind of humiliation kink. It wouldn't matter whether it was her in the room or if the humiliation was optional. There has be some limits on acceptable sexual kinks. Perhaps I am too monogamous for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:19 AM
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Once again incredulity isn't an argument. The question was posed and I gave an answer based on my experience, you are free to see my experience as unrepresentative but your mere skepticism doesn't invalidate the experience. For someone who supposedly has some academic background, you don't think very logically about these things, nor do you seem to have any principle of charity. Being a PUA and Redpill are different things, you are conflating them for the purposes of trying to characterize me as…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:13 AM
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I don't think i am very hot. It was the situation and mutual attraction. I don't know why agreeing with Red Pill conclusions affect sexual success. To be a Red Pill Man, you just need broadly agree with some Red Pill tenets. If there was no movement, I would still agree with the tenets. Also incredulity isn't an argument
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 03:16 PM
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Having standards is important but I have never met a girl who had super strict standards that they wouldn't move on if their attraction was high enough. I have dated girls that said they wanted to wait till marriage prior or had told other bfs they wanted to wait but it usually didn't last more than a few weeks of us being together. Mind you, I never begged or tried to coerce them. I never threatened to break up with them or pressured them. The situations simply got hot and heavy, and it ended u…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:47 PM
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100% agreed, overall foreplay is reduced to oral sex far too often when kissing, nipple play, and simple touching are more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 08:54 PM
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Props for having the balls to post some pictures! Picture two looks better than one for sure due to the tan/lighting and also it appears you have lower body fat in that picture. You have good muscle bellies and definition. Also your chest muscle bellies are very nice. I would say you are comfortably intermediate. I won't give a give you a big critique because I am sure you know but you look comfortably intermediate. Bigger than the average guy and many athletes, but you know many athletes are go…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:20 PM
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15% would not really what I would consider shredded. If someone has a six pack at 15% body fat, it would either be quite faded or they would have to have incredible ab genetics. I also gotta say 170 at 5'7 is not very impressive. I would say that's probably not noticeable in clothes. Do you have some pictures? Maybe I am misevaluating you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 12:54 PM
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Would you personally take option 2? I gotta say there is no way you could convince me to take that option if presented with both, assuming everything else is equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 11:38 AM
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Damn really? 4.5 isn't considered small enough? It's clearly small for Western European men, and some men will be longer flaccid than that man is hard. Also the height difference will exacerbate the size difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:52 AM
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100% agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:48 AM
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The bench press is not impressive either. It's barely 225 which is barely an intermediate level. I would like to see the actual size gains. He says he is 170 at 5'7, but the body fat level cannot be accessed without pictures. If he is around 15%, I would say that's around intermediate level.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:37 AM
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I gotta tell you benching 1.33x is not very impressive unless you weigh like 250 lbs. I am shorter than you and I have had plenty of attention from women. Both on dating apps and off of dating apps. Having a six pack could be impressive depending on the underlying level of muscularity and level of six pack. Or it could mean nothing if you are fairly skinny.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 10:33 AM
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The idea that muscle doesn't help only exists from internet forums. First thing, almost no one is Jay Cutler or even close to as big as the Men's Physique guys. So it's really unlikely that you are going to get too big unless you are on copious amounts of drugs. And if you really do start to get too big, you can always slow down or stop. No one ever got too big on accident. Also never listen to those comparisons where they have a man flexing in the gym with a pump versus a normally athletic guy.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 04:04 AM
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Ah well I won't dispute that men are bad at oral. I am sure there are many men who are not good at it. I would like to think that I have some ability at it but let's just say for the sake of argument that I am terrible at it, I don't think it affects what I wrote. If she declines oral before it ever started, she probably doesn’t enjoy it. There are two distinct opinions that you are conflating here. I didn't make the distinction before, because for the purposes of the thread they are identical b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 11:27 AM
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Can you elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 10:59 AM
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I don't think size doesn't matter but I would be really shocked if women of that caliber hadn't seen large penises before.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 09:32 AM
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I don't know why you need to concede this, you are right. 18.4% said that it was sufficient, 36% indicated that, while clitoral stimulation was not needed. Thus 54.4% indicated that clitorial stimulation was not needed. Also I don't know if this was an option but I have met women who didn't like their clitoris stimulated during intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:47 AM
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This is important. The level of intimacy of PIV sex is much higher. I have encountered several women who vocalized(some before we had sex) that they didn't like oral sex much compared to PIV. Some articulated they found it embarassing or felt shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 08:00 AM
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This seems to be 100% true. Foreplay does seem to matter for sexual stimulation but if you listen to women about their best sexual experiences, it is never the Reddit guru with the golden tongue that they talk about. Some women do have difficulty orgasming from purely PIV but it's rare that there is no prior stimulation besides this. I have never had a sexual encounter(even when I was young and unexperienced) where i didn't attempt to stimulate manually or orally(or both). Also women talk a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 07:57 AM
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Juices are not the primary outcome of genuine orgasms. I personally think a lot of men(not most but a significant percentage) have never seen a genuine orgasm
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