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Perhaps he realized once you started working that you didn’t need him so he gave up. That’s what my husband says anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/26 11:14 AM
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Two years ago… I wouldn’t recognize that woman. Five years ago I was a feminist mess. My husband loves me enough to teach me this. Maybe that’s my last piece of advice? Find a man who will teach you things and lead you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/26 01:06 AM
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This. 10000000%. My ex-husband was a normal fun drinker when we met. Turned toxic, abusive, scary and I had to go. So my lessons were these: 1) know your worth. I thought he was the best I was going to do. He pursued the crap outta me and I thought that meant love. It just meant he was a little crazy, didn’t understand no meant no, and had no respect for boundaries. 2) divorce still sucks. Even when it’s warranted. My kids get to see him every other weekend and I hate it. The money exchange is s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/26 01:46 PM
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It’s been a long road for me. I struggle with my mental health as well as PMDD and trauma but my husband is the greatest human alive. He has stuck with me even when I know it was hard for him. As I’ve healed, he’s getting back his investment in me 1000-fold.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/26 09:25 PM
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Yes. Mine too. Sometimes I don’t feel loved because my love language is touch. But then I look around and remind myself I have it MADE. (Because I didn’t used to. I was a single mom and thought I’d just always struggle. Now I am about to retire from teaching at 43, get a new luxury SUV, have a beautiful home and my kids are set for life)
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 08:22 PM
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You said he’s emotionally unavailable and that you want to be “loved, cherished and looked after”. Has he not provided a home for you? Has he not provided for every need you and your children have ever needed? I didn’t read all the comments so I apologize if this has been answered already. But if he’s worked full time so you have the privilege of staying home to curate your home and raise your children, it sounds like you’re more than cherished and quite well looked after. Most men can’t reach t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/26 06:32 PM
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Mmmmm yes. Such a good point. Time IS money, in fact. And the reason why many men would love their wife to be home. Then the home is cared for and they can relax together.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/26 02:13 AM
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They also became a millionaire after they were married. I’m not saying the marriage was the reason for the wealth, although some say it helps, but it came later. Want to marry a millionaire? Find a nice guy, be kind to him. He will work his ass off for you and make millions. You are now married to a millionaire. Not that hard, really.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 06:04 PM
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Yes I regret it. I hate working. HATE IT. I love teaching but I regret every second of it. I know thats a total contradiction but that’s where im at.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/25 03:01 AM
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Sloooooow down your speech. Breathe and think before you speak. Lower the volume. Lose any and all attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/25 10:12 PM
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I would 100% drop it and don’t ever bring it up again. Focus on everything he does well. It doesn’t matter if he can or he can’t. He FEELS like he’ll be embarrassed, which means you’ve already emasculated him. Not purposefully! I know. I’ve done it a zillion times and want to toss myself off the roof. We as women can never fully understand how men feel about this. If he’s short, that’s adding fuel to the fire. Just tell him he’s a lion, he’s so sexy, wonderful, smart, etc. whatever you like.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 10:58 PM
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I’m glad you put this together so well. I was thinking all of this and absolutely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/25 10:42 PM
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A benefit? Certainly, but I think (and I’m 43, and finally found my forever man at 36) that if I want a man who works out and eats healthy - I should work out and eat healthy. If you know what you find attractive, then you should certainly try to attract that kind of mate. I know for a fact that a blue collar man is attractive because they are strong and capable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/25 09:38 PM
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This is so true! And there’s another comment above that said women need to consider if what they do/wear/say attracts the men THEY LIKE. For instance, if I kept wearing a certain perfume, I might attract a lot of bees. I might be allergic to bees or just not prefer them. I cannot get mad at the bees! I have to change my strategy if I want to attract butterflies. Yes ladies, it really is that simple. No, they won’t just “like you for you”, men like to look at, smell, touch, what they like. Women …
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/25 12:21 PM
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Yes! “Whether or not it attracts THE MEN THEY LIKE” It’s like my Apple tree ATTRACTS Japanese beetles and I DO NOT like it. Haha!
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/25 12:16 PM
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They are not. He can be a good man who is making bad choices. He isn’t doing drugs, cheating, or abusive (as far as I know). Women who believe all men are bad are 100% the problem and why men give up on those women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/25 08:54 PM
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You have to go at it from a sort of round-about way. Tell him how capable he is, speak into him all the great things you see he can do.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/25 12:16 PM
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I would not leave. He sounds like a good man and father. I would read Laura Doyle “The Empowered Wife” or watch “Happy Wife School”. You’re never going to find someone who agrees with you 100% of the time and that’s part of what makes relationships rich and wonderful. I’m divorced because my first husband turned out to be an alcoholic, gambler, and became abusive. Even though it was the right decision, it ripped my life into a million pieces. It’s more than just expensive. Paying for two homes i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/25 11:13 AM
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Asking for help and receiving it gratefully Practice gratitude Change your clothes as soon as you get home Make a space in your home super comfy. Think princess who doesn't do shit and has a thousand servants. Rest. Then rest some more. Then take a nap. Don't compete with your coworkers or your SO, let them win
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/25 04:42 PM
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My husband is very trustworthy and good with money, so he does 99.9% of the finances.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 10:17 PM
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BE HAPPY. All the time!!! Smile, laugh, SHOW him how happy you are. Tell him how awesome he is and how happy he’s made you. And tossing in some compliments about his, umm “size” and “abilities” go a long way. That’s it. Be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 04:02 AM
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Laura Doyle. And keeping my stupid thoughts to myself
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/25 04:20 AM
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Ok don’t come at me, this is based on what my husband has taught me about men over the years, and the more I learn, the more I see it in almost every man I’ve ever known. Even kids! Men define themselves by their ability or what they can give or offer a partner. If my husband was laid off or injured, I think he’d want to throw himself off a bridge (he wouldn’t and of course we’d work it out). Many men are this way! And they believe that you want those things from him as well. It’s sort of like s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/25 03:56 PM
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A nice girl will see her man trying so hard just to be able to take her to Cheesecake Factory (which, BTW, my hubs and I would call “expensive” lol!) and be so grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 12:46 AM
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A feminine woman receives graciously. Men are built to give, women to receive.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 10:08 PM
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No you’re right. I think I was trying to interpret why he would always decline the offer. You are doing great!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/24 12:04 PM
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Don’t do anything for him! He doesn’t need to feel like you think he can’t do it and even if that’s not your intention, that’s how man-brain hears it
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 07:25 PM
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We had a LOOOOONG talk. We’re both broken and have triggers. We both need to start trusting each other. We’ve been kind of doing self-counseling. Reading books and listening to podcasts and such and deciding how we want to move forward.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/24 07:02 PM
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He would never answer when he’s actually in the gym, so that’s never a problem. I only called to ask him because I wasn’t sure if the other car was even safe to drive with the tire problem. You’re not wrong though, I need to worry and think less and just say what I need or want.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 11:03 PM
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Even just today, he isn’t speaking to me, but I needed to grocery shop. We have two cars. One is his work car and the other is nicer, I usually drive the nicer one. He went to the gym and I called to see if he cared if I took the work car and to ask about the low tire. He told me to fill it but was then super confusing about if I should take the work car and go now or take the other car after he got back home. Gave me a million choices including him picking things up. I know if I send a list, he…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 07:22 PM
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Right now, he hasn’t spoken to me since yesterday. The grocery store is 30 mins away, right next to the gym. He doesn’t like us taking 2 cars that far (gas), but he hasn’t said anything to me about coming with or getting groceries. It’s Sunday. I like to do the shopping on Sunday. So I’m stuck between having to go against his wishes to bother him in his “cave” to ask about groceries (I prefer to shop myself because i always forget things if I just make a list), or go against his wishes to take o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:32 PM
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He won’t. I have tried that approach.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:29 PM
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It’s tough because I feel like I’m responding to his anger. But yesterday, my 9yo walked into our room where H was looking online for Christmas presents. Kid saw one thing. So I come back into the room and get blindsided with “well kid saw this gift”. Now some backstory: he’s told the kids they can never come into our room. But we do sometimes let them. He also was online shopping with our door open and didn’t just close his laptop. I got annoyed that he was mad at a 9yo when he should have clos…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:29 PM
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I know I can try a little more. I know I can be sharp, disrespectful too. And I want to keep trying. I do feel from reading these books, that his behavior is actually my fault because I’ve been disrespectful. But my problem is that I’m not perfect. I make mistakes, slip up, life happens. I try, and I want to keep trying, but he has a zero tolerance policy for disrespect.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:25 PM
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He says he thinks he’s 10/10. Which I can’t believe he actually thinks that, I think it’s just defensiveness to me being disrespectful or questioning him. He expects me to be perfect because he expects that of himself and everyone around him. We’ve gently talked before about what this kind of thinking can do to a person (more harm than good). But I’m still pushing myself way past my limit.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:22 PM
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Yeah, sorry. What do I do if he’s rude out of nowhere? What do I do when he’s blaming me for something I’m not thinking or feeling? What do I do if even after I’ve apologized, he’s in his cave for days and days, then suddenly snaps out of it and acts like everything is fine, but he said mean things too and never apologized or even acknowledged my hurts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:13 PM
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lol no he won’t see a therapist. I read all these books and make efforts to try to be different.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:11 PM
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It does seem to me to be on a dime. I’m not sure what you mean by transition between behavior
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:04 PM
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Whole relationship. At the beginning, I believed him when he said I was disrespectful, and caused him to be like that. Then I realized it’s more because he’s working himself to death, “for us” and snapping at me because he’s bitter that he “has” to do all this for us because he believes me to be ungrateful. I’m only ungrateful because his hard work has “bought” me an exhausted, overworked, overwhelmed, cranky guy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:00 PM
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Oh no, I’ve done it. Many many MANY times. But I’m a human who makes mistakes. But my husband is perfect in so many ways - he does help around the house and outside, he cooks when I’m busy or exhausted, he started his own business on top of a full time job and now basically has two full time jobs. Sometimes I feel hurt or sad and I get defensive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 02:41 PM
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He doesn’t want them in our room. I follow his lead but he lets them in sometimes to watch a movie (we don’t have a living room) but usually they only pop in to ask about something or say goodnight. I’m just a bad mom because I should go to their room and say goodnight but I’m so beyond exhausted lately that past 7pm I can hardly function.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:38 AM
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10000000000%. I’m a teacher and it’s taken me 20 years to learn that I’m the definition of an introvert and after a day (or a week - Fridays are the hardest) of obnoxious teenagers, I’m ready to explode.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 03:34 AM
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Yeah, a lot of times I feel I’m being misunderstood and he feels disrespected but I didn’t mean what he thought. He interprets actions differently than I would so I never know what’s going to set off the chain reaction. When I get home from work and the kitchen I cleaned is a disaster, the laundry he “helped with” is just laid out all over the bed so it doesn’t wrinkle (OR just don’t do it OR put it away), he puts literally everything away in the wrong spot so I can’t find anything, ever. The ca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 09:00 PM
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What stops me is that I feel like I’m physically incapable of doing what you listed in your first paragraph. I’ve been told to do that by every friend, therapist, doctor, book… and I’m still not implementing it. I have no idea what stops me from being sweet. My mom isn’t sweet. I don’t have sweet girlfriends and I don’t have sisters. (Only child) Honestly, I think that I have this protective shield of anger up at all times because my mom was so abrasive and angry with me all the time. I’m not un…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 08:48 PM
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I guess too I’m worried about what to do when he’s annoying AF. He makes messes everywhere he goes, he “helps” by doing the laundry and ruined my clothes, he took over the cooking even though I love doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 08:05 PM
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I’m listening to the audiobook now. Ch 6.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 08:03 PM
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I agree, but I have no idea what to even say. I've tried talking with him about it, but it doesn't go well. I can't even pinpoint it and say this one thing needs to change. I'm upset and maybe acting masculine because there's a difference between being assertive and being a jerk.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 10:01 PM
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I love his nature, it's just some times, OMG just calm the heck down. It makes me all jumpy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 10:00 PM
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He won't hear it. I have tried.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 09:57 PM
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