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Don’t be that guy. If a girl cheats with her boyfriend she will cheat on you too. You ain’t that special
/r/seduction21/10/22 10:10 PM
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See above
/r/seduction19/10/22 08:52 PM
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It’s a shit test 100%. I’d just accept it sarcastically and laugh along with it. In my head I’d respond like this. “I don’t get what’s so attractive about you?” “Yeah I know, still trying to figure it out myself, it’s a mystery” followed by a smile/grin maybe a small laugh. “Your not even all that” “Crazy right?! I’m just as lost as you’re. Guess we will never know” The worst thing you can do is react negatively or get defensive/aggressive. They’re testing to see if your confidence is actually l…
/r/seduction19/10/22 08:50 PM
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Simplest thing you can do is give a genuine compliment to the person when you meet them the first time. They’ll associate you with a good feeling going forward. It’s also nice to share the positivity
/r/seduction19/10/22 08:45 PM
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Hate how true this is… it’s like that neediness, clinginess, and desperation vanished for other women once she broke my heart.
/r/seduction19/10/22 08:10 PM
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From my experience it doesn’t take much to stand out on a first date with these apps. The amount of women that have complemented me on giving them just the basic decency of asking THEM questions about themselves is insanely high. Making them laugh on occasion helps too. The bar is Sooooooooo low, it’s so easy to get over it. Asking them to do something other then Netflix and Chill immediately puts you above 50% of lazy guys alone. I suggest you try this for your next date. I’ve been doing the sa…
/r/seduction19/10/22 12:36 AM
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Neediness is like repellant for women. Hell for both genders really. There’s nothing worse then to much attention when it’s not wanted. It’s overbearing, off putting, and at times desperate. You just have to go with the mindset that any girl you talk to, sleep with, or date may leave you at any given time and many times without a clear reason. Once you’ve fully accepted that reality you can start approaching women and be completely care free about the potential outcome. You won’t be so helplessl…
/r/seduction18/10/22 11:27 PM
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There’s no rules mate. You shouldn’t be asking me for permission or guidance. It’s just conversation. Hell use them on your guy friends idc. Lol jokes aside, you’re overthinking it dude.
/r/seduction14/10/22 07:42 PM
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One of my most basic lines that I use is “Y’know I just noticed, your kinda cute”. With a little smirk/smile while looking in her eyes. Basically after saying that I try to gauge how they’re feeling about me afterwards. If the girl isn’t interested she will most likely make a negative comment about it. Basically shutting you down. Or a polite thank you. If she smiles back and says thanks, and returns a compliment you’re golden. Most of the time they will return the same compliment and I’ll brush…
/r/seduction13/10/22 09:12 PM
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If you’re 5’8” own it. Don’t be insecure about it. I know that can be difficult, but you can’t let it bother you. 5’8” is still taller then a good majority of women so you’re fine. Yes some girls won’t think you’re tall enough, but you need to accept that and get past it. Looks really only allow you to get your foot in the door. You still need to have a decent personality to keep them around and talking to you. Humour for me has always worked best. IMO if you can make a girl laugh and I mean lik…
/r/seduction08/10/22 07:14 AM
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They’re signalling the other women in the class that they plan on sacrificing you to Cthulhu. Virgin meat is most holy and must be treated as such. Be honoured that you have been selected for such an event.
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:09 PM
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Telling you this now. Having a girlfriend won’t fix these issues. It might distract you for a bit, but ultimately those issues will re-emerge. Speaking from experience my friend. I’d try to get that all sorted before turning those issues onto someone else. It’s not a girls job to make you feel whole.
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:04 PM
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Honestly don’t know why this is downvoted. Have literally seen this multiple times throughout my life. Even been on the receiving end of it. Not girl exclusive though, guys do it too. Monkey branching is gross.
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:18 PM
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Who cares. So you convinced them to go on a date with you and you won them over with your personality. Where’s the negative here in exactly? It’s almost as if women like you for more then just your looks, how tragic. A lot of guys don’t receive them, so don’t take it so personally.
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:08 PM
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I like going to a local bar near my place. Had been working pretty well for me as of late
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:06 PM
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A simple question for you mate. Let’s say you have a girlfriend, what is now better in your life? What will having one ultimately change?
/r/seduction07/10/22 08:05 PM
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Lol. You won’t believe this one easy step I took that landed me 100 girls in 30 days. For just a one time fee of $99.99 you to can get laid with just these simple steps. Call now at 1-800-Get-Troll. That’s 1-800-Get-Troll. Call RIGHT now and I can up my offer to 150 girls for just one additional fee of $49.99! That’s a $50 value!
/r/seduction06/10/22 10:54 PM
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I think I can help you here. I actually went on a date at an axe throwing place like a month ago haha. Overall it’s a pretty good date. You guys can poke fun at each other and even play a little game. Also lots of great moments to escalate by giving out high fives when they land a good shot! Overall though I’d recommend going somewhere afterwards, possibly a bar if it’s nearby. They will most likely say yes as they’re amped up from axe throwing. At least we were at the time. The date ended up wi…
/r/seduction06/10/22 06:36 PM
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Cringe
/r/seduction04/10/22 09:59 PM
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My armchair therapist take is you bail before they can potentially reject you. It’s a defence mechanism, basically to defend your own ego. They didn’t reject you if you rejected yourself therefore your in the clear. That mixed with possibly a lack of experience can be a pretty potent combo there.
/r/seduction30/09/22 02:25 AM
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Then start talking to women is your first step dude. Hell talk to everyone, guy or girl. You’ll have to eventually make the first move. Doesn’t even have to be sexual just go and say hi. Be friendly. It’s very rare for a girl to make all the moves. The reason they say school is so good for meeting women is because you’re going to the same place and seeing them again and again. This gains familiarity and it becomes easier to make moves over time. When you’re new to a class go and sit down next to…
/r/seduction29/09/22 04:54 AM
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Relationships happen naturally tbh. Basically you hang out enough with the same girl and eventually agree to make it legitimate. Usually the girl hits you with the “so what are we” question and you go from there. My second LTR didn’t even have that question, we just kind of mutually understood that we were exclusive as we spent so much time together. You’re only after a LTR because you don’t have options. So you want to make it work with the first girl that shows interest. When you have a bunch …
/r/seduction28/09/22 11:15 PM
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Dude I’m 27 now and I currently have the best dating life I’ve ever had. Currently fooling around with 3 women and just having fun. Only did the LTR stuff when I was younger. Not bragging, but what I’m trying to say is time is only out when you let that be the case. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself dude. You’re only making matters worse. Every guy at that age obsesses with women, myself as well. It’s natural. This arbitrary time pressure is your own doing though, absolutely no one cares ex…
/r/seduction28/09/22 10:44 PM
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2 months and you haven’t slept with her yet, Jesus. I wouldn’t even be surprised if she has another guy around who she is sleeping with. That’s a ridiculously long time without getting intimate. I hope you really like this girl, that’s the only reason I could see you doing this.
/r/seduction28/09/22 12:11 AM
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What do you do on these first dates? After 27 first dates the common denominator is you my friend. Are you not escalating enough? Are you taking them to fancy restaurants? Is your conversation dry and boring? IMO if the first date doesn’t end with a kiss at the very least then you as a man messed up the date. If a date goes well a kiss should be bare minimum.
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:59 PM
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Dude you serious? There’s basically only two reasons for her behaviour. She is OBVIOUSLY interested in you as she is physically touching you and SITTING ON YOU DAMN LAP. If a girl sat on my lap, I’d basically assume I’m sleeping with her at some point that night. Or you’re so far in the friendzone that she feels absolutely zero attraction towards you and sees you as a guy that will never hit on her. So she is okay with treating you like a best friend. Not sure what other indicators you need. Do …
/r/seduction26/09/22 06:46 PM
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Honestly man don’t be bothered by it. I also am a majority of the time called “cute”. I on occasion will get “hot”, but I’ve only gotten “sexy” once or twice. I’d say about 80% of the time it’s “cute”. Don’t be bothered by it mate, own it. Just because they think you’re cute doesn’t mean they won’t sleep with you. In fact “cute” has a different meaning for pretty much everyone. IMO cute is the first impression I generally give off, after some talk and escalation that can quickly turn to “hot”. I…
/r/seduction26/09/22 06:38 PM
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Have to agree with this. Most women are shocked I don’t use social media and actually compliment me for not using them.
/r/seduction24/09/22 04:53 AM
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I mean men and women do this, but sadly guys do it a lot more. If he had told you that he just wanted a ONS would you have slept with him? If the answers is no then you have your answer as to why he did it. His behaviour is gross, but sadly a lot of guys lie to get laid. If his job is as good as you say it was, then paying that little extra probably was no big deal to him. Sorry this happened to you, don’t let one dickhead change your opinion for all of us :/
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:20 PM
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Yeah don’t be petty, don’t try to reel her back with jealousy. You don’t want that kind of girl in your life anyway dude… you can try again when sometime has passed, but the way I see it is they make excuses twice in a row then it’s time to move on
/r/seduction21/09/22 10:22 PM
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In the moment she did want to see you again, but now that sometime has passed her decision has changed. Trying to think of why that is will drive you to madness. It’s best just to move on my guy. I know it sucks, but it just wasn’t meant to be. Happens to everyone.
/r/seduction21/09/22 08:29 PM
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This is always a tough situation, but generally yeah she’s being nice and it’s a soft rejection. If she wants to see you again she will hold up her word and reach out to you again. It’s just hard to say if she will or not. A girl that is honestly 100% interested in seeing you again will always have time too. That’s the way I see it
/r/seduction21/09/22 08:25 PM
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Gotta be uncomfortable grabbing her from high school. Hope she has a booster seat for the back
/r/seduction15/09/22 11:51 PM
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What I’ve come to understand is as long as your first impression is a good one then the girl will chase you. You really need to make that first impression be solid though. After that you can lay back and take it easy. If you act like you’re hard to get and have options then the girl will chase you. If they think that they’re the only girl they’re pursuing then you become “easy” and they lose interest
/r/seduction13/09/22 06:51 PM
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I think attraction gets your foot in the door. Basically you can screw up a few more times before they write you off. You can still be good looking and have no social skills and the girl will get bored or reject you. I think us as guys are lucky that alot of women choose personality over looks. In the long term that’s all that’s really left after all.
/r/seduction12/09/22 05:51 PM
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What scares the hell out of me with people that do this, is sexual compatibility. You may find out after marriage that you both prefer wildly different things or have different libidos. Sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship and if that doesn’t line up then IMO the relationship is destined to fail.
/r/seduction12/09/22 05:32 PM
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There’s a fine line. If you only ever make jokes and never escalate then you will be the jester for the night. What works best for me is escalating whenever I make them laugh. Basically you show that whenever you touch them they feel good. Eventually they will begin associating your touch with a good feeling. The same thing can work with men or women to be honest. It just seems that the escalating part is where you’re currently lacking. Trust me man, if you’re making them laugh as hard as you sa…
/r/seduction10/09/22 02:54 AM
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I grew up extremely introverted and without a significant male role model to show me how to approach women. Or even how a healthy relationship looks. I did a lot of researching and practicing in my youth as I wanted a women in my life. Overall I feel what works best is to just stop thinking so much. I swear some guys get so in there own head, they become robotic when they approach. Like just picture that the girl is another guy friend, except you want to sleep with them haha. Don’t take them so …
/r/seduction09/09/22 11:22 PM
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I ask one simple question. “Do you want solutions or do you want to vent?” Majority of the time they just want someone to vent to about things and have you be there to support them. Works wonders.
/r/seduction07/09/22 07:40 PM
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Talk about anything. Conversation doesn’t have rules. I can talk about my last date that ended with a ONS if that helps you. Was basically grabbing a quick drink at a bar then walked to a nearby park to talk more. Ended up sitting on a bench side by side. We were just casually talking about what we saw in our surroundings. Have you been here before? What do you think those people are up to? What do you usually do on X day? Nothing really that special. Just genuinely trying to get to know her bet…
/r/seduction01/09/22 12:48 AM
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You first need to be comfortable doing it. If you aren’t then they sure as hell won’t be. You need to have some idea of social awareness to know when you’re moving or escalating to fast. For me personally I always guide a girl by the hip when walking. The fact of the matter is you’re on a date. They have agreed to see you as a potential romantic partner. You need to make the connection and physicality happen. I usually ease into things like playful touches on the arm or inspecting there jewelry …
/r/seduction31/08/22 08:02 AM
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IMO you should always end the first date with a kiss at the very least. Even better is a kiss halfway through the date, so you don’t have all this pressure building up at the end. To me it sounds like you have very little experience. Which there’s nothing wrong with. Me included would always wait for the “perfect” time for a first kiss when I was inexperienced. The reality is you get to decide whenever that is. I’ll tell you EXACTLY what to do next time you’re on a date. While you’re going for a…
/r/seduction28/08/22 11:35 PM
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That’s totally valid. If you want to only explore that avenue then more power to you. Cold approach is more about broadening your options. Think for a second if the tables were turned. You had a girl approach you and hit on you. Now this girl was nice, respectful, and warm. Yet she just wasn’t your type. Would you lead this girl on or just tell her you aren’t interested? You also probably wouldn’t be rude or mean to them, if anything it made your day better as someone found you attractive enough…
/r/seduction25/08/22 01:40 AM
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Personally I’ve literally never asked. It’s pretty obvious when you’re going for a kiss. You look at her without saying anything, then look at her lips after that. You’re basically screaming your intentions. By the time you begin leaning in you can tell how they feel about the rest of it. Personally I think it shows a lot more confidence then asking, but that’s just my opinion
/r/seduction25/08/22 12:29 AM
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Nothing to crazy, me 27 her 34. You have me beat amigo haha. Most my other hookups have usually been within a couple years of each other
/r/seduction23/08/22 08:05 AM
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Sorry your feeling like this mate. First off if you consider yourself average or below that, stay WELL clear of the dating apps. Those are designed for surface level interactions. It doesn’t properly reflect you as a person at all. In fact many of the women on there would probably be happy to meet you in person. Don’t compare yourself to your friends. The expression “Comparison is the thief of joy” is 100% true. If I compare myself to Hugh Hefner in terms of how much women I’ve hooked up with th…
/r/seduction18/08/22 12:24 AM
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Tone matters a lot here. If it’s a firm shut up then you’re dead in the water. If it’s a playful shut up then you’re good and she is flirting
/r/seduction16/08/22 09:14 PM
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Yeah sure if you want to limit your pool of potential women literally by 90% or more. You go and talk in person and feel them out that way. Not wait for this magical moment when both your eyes meet
/r/seduction15/08/22 05:16 AM
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I’d say about 90-95% of my approaches have zero eye contact before approaching. Fuck that noise. Unless you’re like 9/10-10 you will rarely get obvious signs of interest imo
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:41 AM
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Personally hate texting. Just use it to set up the date. Don’t usually send her anything till the day of. So much is missed through text and can be misunderstood. Texting is the worst thing to happen to dating imo
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:38 AM
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Said it’s your first relationship. So that means she may be lacking in experience maybe. Could be shy and doesn’t want to “do things wrong” especially if this is the first sexual experience for her too. That being said it for sure isn’t fair that it’s so one sided. You need to cut that shit off until she reciprocated
/r/seduction15/08/22 02:36 AM
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So I can speak on this as I went through the same sort of issue. In my early 20’s I began dating a girl. From the age of 21-24. Around the last year of my relationship I to also began looking at other women. I felt like I was missing out on the “hooking up” stage of my life. I really wanted to fool around and sleep with other women. Like yourself though I ultimately loved her and thought she was attractive as well. That didn’t help the problem though. It only grew worse and I began resenting her…
/r/seduction14/08/22 02:11 AM
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Dude you need to stop posting these negative posts. You’re feeding into this echo chamber of negativity. Now you’re trying to make yourself feel better by having a pity party. Some tough love man. No one gives a shit that you haven’t gotten laid in 8+ years. No one. Life doesn’t care, you either adapt or die. Complaining about your problems on Reddit isn’t going to help anything. You need to honestly sit down and write out goals that you can personally achieve. This whole excuse of you trying to…
/r/seduction11/08/22 08:38 AM
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I’m assuming you’re in your earlier 20’s. I can definitely relate to that overwhelming feeling. It’s all consuming. I think it’s pretty normal to be honest. You’re in your prime to mate. Having a girlfriend helps deal with that area. At the time for me I did a lot of searching, but ultimately found a gf through work that lasted 3 years, then another that followed that for another 3, but through school. You can still focus on your own goals while pursuing women. Just don’t let that be the only th…
/r/seduction09/08/22 10:03 PM
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Don’t let dating apps facilitate your worth to women. That’s what those apps feed off of. Desperation. Unless you’re like 8-10/10 you’ll rarely do well on those apps. They’re extremely superficial. Women all have preferences. Some girls will like tall and lanky. Again you said you tried the gym which is great. How long did you actually go for? You usually only start to see noticeable changes around the 3-6 month range. Also diet consists of about 80% of it. If you were just putting on fat that m…
/r/seduction09/08/22 03:59 AM
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Currently am seeing this older girl on occasion. She has 7 years on me. When we first met she did give me shit about being to young. I just didn’t let it phase me. She hit me with the “Oh you’re to young for me” I replied with “Yeah I know we can’t buy matching canes together”. It diffused the situation and I have been seeing her ever since. The only way I see this being an issue is if you’re much younger. Like she’s 21 and your 20. A majority of girls do like the man to be same age or slightly …
/r/seduction09/08/22 03:45 AM
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This is the victim mindset the other poster said above. You clearly have an extremely bad view of yourself. This in turn will be seen by other women. A girl doesn’t want a guy that thinks he’s a loser or anything else negative like that. Dude you make extremely good money, you have a good height. Most of the other things you complained about are totally things you can control. Like your clothing, body, and social skills. Comparison is the thief of joy dude. There’s always going to be some guy th…
/r/seduction09/08/22 01:44 AM
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It’s really just a mixture of things. Working out conveys a lot. Shows dedication, drive, and even a hobby. On top of that you generally feel better about yourself which comes across when you talk to women. Also being in shape just makes you more attractive on a primal level.
/r/seduction09/08/22 01:33 AM
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Don’t play games man, texting her after a week isn’t needy at all. If she doesn’t reply you have your answer. A girl that is interested in seeing you will make it easy to meet up.
/r/seduction09/08/22 01:31 AM
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So kinda like another user said you need be more physical. This means playful touches on the arm or lower back when talking. You need to physically escalate. If you never do then jumping from no contact to sex seems colossal. This is usually how I try to make my first dates play out. When you first meet, give a hug. Immediately establish physical contact that way. When you go to sit or anything, try your best to be seated next to her. Don’t have her across the table from you. This makes it harde…
/r/seduction08/08/22 10:56 PM
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Some women are just shy, it’s up to you to adjust is all. Seems like you got too in your own head and scared yourself. She could potentially have felt that awkwardness and began to be awkward in response. From what you described above it sounds like you didn’t really touch her to much tbh or at least not to the extent you think you did. Some girls also aren’t a huge fan of PDA.
/r/seduction05/08/22 04:04 AM
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You could have just summarized that all with be attractive. Sorry, but at the end of the day not all men no matter how successful will just have women wanting to fuck you. You think Mark Zuckerberg is getting approached in public due to him being his best self? No it’s not happening. Dude looks like and acts like a alien in human skin. You’re describing a millionaire guy from the sounds of it. A dude who is rich and has it all already. Who can post up at a bar with a crowd and women because he h…
/r/seduction04/08/22 10:49 PM
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You’re putting words in my mouth. I never said that girls can’t approach guys and flirt. Never said they don’t. I’m saying you waiting for that opportunity is extremely limiting your chances. Also that situation you listed as an example doesn’t even work with your previous comment lol. Guys and girls meet each other through friend groups all the time. It’s like top 3 in terms of most common ways to meet people. It had nothing to do with this guy being dead set on bettering his life and ignoring …
/r/seduction04/08/22 10:17 PM
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Nah this is just a cope text. Basically encouraging the “it’ll happen when it happens” bullshit that people peddle. You can conquer Mount Everest, scale the pyramids, and open a 5 star restaurant in Italy, but you still need to actively approach and talk to women if you want a relationship or anything else of that ilk. You’re letting basically luck decide which women you get a chance to talk to. Because they happened to be right place right time. That could be months, years, or even never. Sorry…
/r/seduction04/08/22 09:33 PM
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All good, you’re probably right. If you were that exhausted mentally/physically you should have rescheduled, but I totally understand not wanting too. I just recently got out of a LTR so I totally get where you’re coming from amigo. Literally just started dating again after a break of 6-9 months to just focus on myself. You’ll get your mojo back. First one back is always a little rusty haha.
/r/seduction02/08/22 09:35 AM
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Heard this quote to much. It’s so insanely cringe to me. First off if this girl is willing to cheat on her boyfriend, then she will with you as well. On top of that there’s a chance of also getting your ass kicked if the guy is a psycho and finds out. It’s not worth it dude. Tell her you will see her if she leaves her boyfriend. Honestly if you sleep with this chick with knowing she has a boyfriend you’re just a POS honestly
/r/seduction02/08/22 09:11 AM
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I mean no offence, but you sound like you’re trying to convince yourself that external issues stopped you from making a move. The reality of it is you were nervous/scared and never tried to physically escalate. Doing so is incredibly easy and very often overthought. Simple things I do that aren’t invasive and slowly build up escalation over time. If they say something you’re a fan of or agree with, just give them a high five. Simple and friendly physical escalation. No one rejects a high five. I…
/r/seduction02/08/22 08:39 AM
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In my experience the guy will do a majority of the chasing it’s just the how the game plays out. What I’ve noticed is the girl usually starts chasing you after you’ve had sex or when you REALLY hit it off. When things “click” as they say. It is exhausting and I agree with you, but there’s nothing you can really do about it. The hotter the girl the more men she has available to her. She gets to basically pick and choose. If you want to understand how that feels, just kiss an average chick after a…
/r/seduction02/08/22 08:21 AM
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Nah dude there’s nothing wrong with having preferences in bed. If you aren’t into BDSM it doesn’t make you less of a man. It just shows that maybe you and that girl weren’t compatible sexually and that’s totally okay. That being said you could always explore it and see if there’s certain parts of it you do enjoy. Or ask her what she enjoys and try your best to incorporate it. Sex should be fun, not stressful
/r/seduction24/07/22 06:02 AM
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It’s pretty obvious. It’s a lack of maturity. They aren’t able to handle there emotions. When they get rejected they take it personally and lash out. In there mind it helps them “get over it” even though in reality it just makes them look like an insecure man baby.
/r/seduction21/07/22 01:44 AM
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Arrogance: exaggerating or disposed to exaggerate one's own worth or importance often by an overbearing manner. Basically you come off like you think you’re the shit and people will pick up on it. It’s not appealing or attractive in any sense. Confidence is just being comfortable in your own skin without feeling the need to prove anything to anyone. Only reason I said you potentially could come off as arrogant is because you may tend to think you’re above certain people. Out of there league sort…
/r/seduction14/07/22 09:05 PM
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No that’s not what I’m saying. You will probably come off as arrogant and cocky though if you think you’re this extremely attractive dude. Also “Tall, buff, white dudes” aren’t the only ones doing well on tinder. Just saying that if you aren’t able to hookup with any chick you want on those apps then you’re probably below a 9/10 is all. Which is not a shot at you, because I also am not in that range of looks either. It’s just the reality of it. Props for loving yourself and looking out for numbe…
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:08 PM
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OLD is a waste of time for any men below a 9. Women are absolutely swamped with matches and they have absolutely no reason to settle for less when they have better options at the press of a button. Doesn’t matter how good your text game is when the 9/10’s are already fucking the girls you just began texting. OLD is incredibly superficial, no amount of game will matter in the platform. In person is where you can make up for alot of your downsides by having a personality, confidence, and humour.
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:11 PM
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Sorry to break the news, but if Tinder/Bumble isn’t working for you then you aren’t “very good looking”. Otherwise you would have gotten laid already. Most guys tend to think they’re a lot better looking then they actually are. Sorry to say, but you will need to put in work like the rest of us lol
/r/seduction14/07/22 06:06 PM
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Why do I keep seeing these gym posts. It’s so cringe. It’s easily the worst place to ask a girl out or hit on one. It’s not worth it, especially if it goes poorly and you go there often. You’ll permanently make things awkward if you see her again in person. Literally anywhere is better imo. No girl is going to the gym to get hit on. Go somewhere else
/r/seduction14/07/22 01:42 AM
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Dude, it’s because you’re needy. It’s clear you aren’t talking to other women and you see something potentially happening here so you’re hyper focused on her. You don’t want to “lose” her, but your current actions are potentially doing just that. Focus on other things like hobbies, work, school, friends, etc. Respond to her within the same amount of time she generally responds. If she takes an hour you take an hour. If she replies with a sentence, generally reply with the same length of text. Te…
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:32 PM
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Biggest thing with approaching a group is you need to engage them all. If the freinds don’t like you, then you aren’t getting the girl you like in that group. They will begin to cockblock you if you piss them off or ignore them. If you win them over though, you’ll find they will actually begin to help you get there friend. So just focus on having fun and making your intentions clear.
/r/seduction12/07/22 05:26 PM
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Could be a variety of reasons she isn’t “putting out” anymore. She could be losing attraction towards you. Could be sleeping with someone else. Is getting comfy quickly with you and doesn’t think it’s necessary all the time. It could be a million things. It’s probably only going to get worse before it gets better. The honeymoon phase is supposed to be sex filled tbh. If it’s slowing already then oh boy you’re in for a surprise down the road
/r/seduction08/07/22 07:57 AM
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Yeah the cafe one you said was brief. The fact she is responding at all is a good sign. She easily could have ghosted. You’re a perfect stranger to her tbh. She is just thinking whether or not she wants to see you again. Your chances would be higher had you left a greater impact on her based on the first interaction. Anyway good luck OP
/r/seduction06/07/22 03:13 AM
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Lol it’s okay to compliment, just don’t go overboard. Saying “Wow you’re just so beautiful it’s insane” is probably pushing it a little bit. Going with something subtle like “Y’know I just noticed, your kinda cute” say it with a grin and a smile and you should be all good. Again just don’t go overboard or become too complimentary. That’s when you come off desperate or needy as you make them feel like they’re above you.
/r/seduction06/07/22 02:13 AM
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You need to engage the whole group. That’s the hardest part. Especially if it’s just two of them. If one friend is bored they will pull the other friends attention away from you. When you’re talking you should be speaking to both of them so they’re both engaged. The reality of it is you need to win the friends approval as well, otherwise you aren’t leaving with the girl. You need to game them both. That’s why a wingman is so good, they can pull the friend away and distract them.
/r/seduction06/07/22 02:09 AM
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You could always shoot them a text a few days later and just invite them to something. Hey I’m grabbing drinks at X location, you should swing by. If they don’t answer then move onto the next one. Or she will say sure. I’m not sure how you met these women, but if you didn’t create a huge initial impact on her then her commitment to you won’t be that big.
/r/seduction06/07/22 02:01 AM
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First quick things is are you being physical in any capacity? Touching her on the shoulder or hand? Anything like that? You need to physically escalate. As for the verbal you need to be more flirty. Tease her about stuff, compliment her, use sexual innuendo. Most of the time this kind of stuff needs to be lead by the guy. Otherwise it’ll just be a “friendly” interaction.
/r/seduction06/07/22 01:58 AM
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So 2 things come to mind immediately. You said 5’10” 145lbs that’s actually considered underweight for an average male of that height. That leads me to believe that you’re incredibly thin. Malnourished even. Quick google search says you should be between 150-185. You need to start putting on some weight. Preferably muscle if you can. In my experience really skinny dudes don’t do incredibly well with women. Unless they have a style that matches there body type. Usually pink, goth, hipster look wi…
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:47 AM
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Personally what I find works best is if you follow these two minor changes in your speech. Instead of asking questions make playful assumptions. So instead of “What do you do for work?” instead say “You look like a 4th grade teacher, a mean one too.” It’s more fun and makes the girl WANT to ask questions. “Why does he think I look like a teacher?! Why a mean one at that?!.” Now it’s instantly become a conversation. Here’s the next stepping stone. When she begins asking questions, exaggerate and …
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:39 AM
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Edgy
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:31 PM
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Lol
/r/seduction28/06/22 10:13 PM
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You aren’t approaching men, you’re just getting comfortable talking with strangers. It’s all practice, you don’t need to sleep with them lmao. Just make small talk with anyone and everyone. Don’t focus on just women, build up those social skills. A compliment is only creepy when it’s delivered incorrectly. If you have some confidence behind your words and a nice smile to follow it you can compliment anyone. Even if the girl isn’t attracted she will appreciate the compliment regardless. Don’t kee…
/r/seduction27/06/22 07:09 PM
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Yeah wrong sub. You already have a GF man so…. Most of the stuff you have listed is all things you can work on and improve. Body: Go to the Gym. Hair: Go to a stylist. Acne: There’s skin care. Face: You have a GF already so who gives a shit what you look like, she doesn’t seem to mind so why should you.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:46 PM
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I think it’s a good starting point if you’re just trying to get used to approaching strangers. I’d recommend doing it to everyone, man or woman. Then you’ll get more comfortable quicker. Then you can slowly escalate to being more direct and forward. Just set yourself little goals. Start off with asking for the time like you’re doing now. Then end the interaction with a compliment. Then move into asking questions about her day. Then move into asking for her number. It’s a skill like any other and…
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:42 PM
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Don’t know how old you’re to be honest. My guess is early 20’s. Generally it’s best to try and close a date with a kiss if you can. Not sure why you’re so fixated on getting this girl to spill her guts to you and with you also wanting to do the same. Just let it come out naturally. She will tell you when she is ready. No need to coax or pry it out of her. You also should not be so focused on laying out all your baggage. That’s for much further down the road IMO.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:00 AM
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I’d say be careful. You could be heading towards a friendship “potentially”. You might turn into this girls emotional tampon and you never want to be that. I’d honestly wait until you’ve been more physical first before opening up more with her. I’d honestly probably wait until we had sex first before we “delve” deeper into things. Either way it’s up to you to decide when you want to open up or vice versa.
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:18 PM
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Same girls will then say that there’s no good men out there. It’s a story as old as time. They always chase the guys with a million options then get butt hurt when that guy doesn’t settle for them
/r/seduction24/06/22 11:35 PM
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Yep totally understandable. You can suggest it but if there’s resistance then back off. Like you said not all women want to sleep with you on the first date. In my experience most do by the second.
/r/seduction24/06/22 08:22 PM
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If you don’t want to be friendzoned then you need to escalate physically. When you see her start off with a hug. Then throughout the night make friendly physical contact when you can. A touch on the shoulder here or touch on the hand there will help a lot. Depending on the venue you can put your hand on her lower back when guiding her or listening to her. Hopefully you end the night by going in for a kiss. In my eyes a good date is only when it ends with a kiss at the very least.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:47 PM
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Well I mean it’s what happened to me so… Again to repeat myself, everyone has different outcomes and not everyone will experience what you went through to achieve results. So for me to have that experience it doesn’t mean it’s bullshit lol. It’s a numbers game and for that I agree with what you’re talking about, but to have such specific numbers to achieve each goal is insanity and not realistic at all. This guy may get twice the numbers or half the numbers you did. That could be due to a variet…
/r/seduction23/06/22 11:23 PM
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Again all these “Stats” aren’t based on anything other then your personal opinion and experiences. 5 dates out of 600 is terrible, no offence. Even starting out I never had nearly that many women flake on me. Need to stop preaching this as gospel because it’s entirely untrue. You aren’t doing any favours. If anything you’re just regurgitating what you’ve heard somewhere else and repeating it as your own wisdom. It comes off extremely bias. God forbid someone starts getting more then 5 dates out …
/r/seduction23/06/22 09:50 PM
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Never to late amigo, my guess is you’re probably early to mid 20’s with a extraordinary fear of running out of time. I see this in most young men and women. Society has placed this pressure to achieve x, y, and z by whatever future date or you’re unsuccessful. It’s just so entirely not true. Everyone has there own path. Yours will never be the same as mine and vice versa. The best thing you can do is take small steps to move towards your goals. Everyone needs to start at the beginning. If you on…
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:52 PM
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Lol don’t listen to this random dudes made up statistic. 5 dates out of 600. Maybe for you, but that’s not everyone. I very recently had 2 dates out of 5 women. Not sure what the point in exaggerating here was. I personally only really approach one or two days a week at most as they’re usually at bars and when I’m in the mood to do so
/r/seduction23/06/22 08:45 PM
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I disagree. I feel they’re hardwired through 1000 of years of evolution. They’re able to pick up on small hints a lot better then men. Basically boiling down to self preservation and safety. When was the last time you’ve approached a girl and felt threatened or in danger from them? It’s probably 0 or less then 2. Women have a lot more to worry about long term when selecting another partner, this has led them to have a keener eye or intuition. Having a lot of men approach them helps them tune it …
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:36 PM
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The hotter the women the more shit tests will come your way. It’s even worse when the women is hot and knows it. Since they do get approached so often they need to test you to make sure you’re actually who you say you’re. You need to stand out in there eyes. Otherwise they’d sleep with a new guy pretty much every night. Hell some do haha
/r/seduction22/06/22 08:31 PM
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lol never listen to the fish or you’ll be a bad fisherman. Women in my opinion are the worst at telling guys how to pick up women. They’ll usually hit you with a bunch of BS crap they’ve seen from movies to TV. In reality all the stuff they tell you not to do will actually work on them most of the time.
/r/seduction22/06/22 07:50 PM
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Ask her out in person. Unless it’s through OLD, it’s always better in person. It allows you to come across confident and gives them less time to overthink things.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:51 AM
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Well he wants a relationship without all the stresses of it, sorry to break it to the guy, but it’s kind of part of the deal. Tough shit really. Get an escort if you want a girl to cuddle and fuck without anything else added
/r/seduction22/06/22 03:21 AM
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Escort
/r/seduction22/06/22 03:11 AM
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It’s not rocket science. She likes your personality, she just isn’t sexually attracted to you. Not much more you need to think about. It’s up to you if you’re okay with just being friends
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:57 AM
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Lol
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:55 AM
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Lol I was going to give her the benefit of the doubt. Not after that comment though. Like a “short guy” can’t have confidence or be sure of himself. Fuck off with that. I swear some women think height is a personality trait
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:43 AM
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First off, good job mate for just approaching. 60-70 minutes is pretty much a first date. That’s a good chunk of time. I do think you’re right that she may have friendzoned you a bit. With the whole help you with the tinder profile. If she was interested she wouldn’t want you seeing other girls, or not elude to that at least. I think you should stay away from the topics of your childhood anxiety/trauma. It’s not a great look. Especially if they just met you. Keep it more surface level and light.…
/r/seduction21/06/22 03:40 AM
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What you said about looking towards the person they connect with most is true. You do it subconsciously because you want to see there reaction the most to what you said. I think it’s a good sign personally. She could just be friendly and confident though. I’d say a more important cue would be if she was making eye contact with you when you both weren’t talking. If she was stealing glances at you and just smiling, that’d be pretty big.
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:54 PM
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Most people meet in these places as it’s comfortable and easy. It’s a location you visit often and are able to build a relationship over time. It’s a double edged sword as you’re limited to whoever works with you. It’s even worse if things end in a sour way and now you’re forced to still see each other. You can meet women anywhere. Bars, clubs, hobbies, mall, apps, etc. Relationships happen when you’re both feeling each other and get along well. You’ll know it when it happens. It feels effortles…
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:41 PM
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Depends on the person. I hate texting. It’s boring and way to much information is missed via text. My humour is mainly sarcasm. That’s extremely hard to convey with text without sounding like a dick. In person it’s obvious I’m joking, given my tone and facial expression. I personally only text to meet in person. I don’t want to have long drawn out conversations over the phone when you can have the same conversation in person in a 10th of the time. People who enjoy waiting 15-90 minutes to hear a…
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:35 PM
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So yeah first off don’t invite him over to your place. If I was him I’d think getting laid would be on the table to be honest. The fact you’re flirting with him still is just sending him mixed signals. Don’t mess with the guys feelings. Best thing you can do is just be honest. “Hey I like your company, but I’d prefer if we just stay friends”. Basically one of two things will happen. One, he will say alright and now you have a new friend you can chill with. Two, you won’t hear from him again, as …
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:29 PM
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You don’t need it lol. Do you really want women who are obsessed with insta, Twitter, and Facebook friends? Most of the time they’re shallow, boring, and superficial. If anything a girl that shuts you down for no socials is doing you a favour. You’re dodging a bullet to be honest. Social media is a scary addiction for most people. One that is so bad that every action they take is for a virtual world of “followers” instead of actually enjoying the moment they’re in presently
/r/seduction20/06/22 07:30 AM
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Just take a break then mate, if you are burnt out. Women aren’t going to go anywhere. Dating can be exhausting. Sadly men are the pursuers for the most part, so don’t expect that to change anytime soon. Obviously if you’re juggling 2-3 girls it’ll get exhausting pretty quickly. Just limit yourself to one at a time if you feel multiple is to tiring.
/r/seduction20/06/22 06:54 AM
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Rules I follow. Texting is for meeting up and nothing more. None of that “How’s your day going?” Or “What’s up?”. That’s boring and adds no value. Texting doesn’t raise your value and can only lower it. I only shoot a text to break the ice and then a follow up text asking to them to meet somewhere, nothing more. If you’ve been on a date prior it gives time for them to miss you and keeps you mysterious. Through my experience most women will only begin to be invested once you’ve had sex. Dates tha…
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:59 AM
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Sadly this is the only advice that ever worked for me. Onenitis is a real bitch. You’ll know when you’re ready to get back out there. Don’t rush yourself
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:05 AM
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Man you’re cool, everyone in this sub should know it too. Glad you posted this, wouldn’t want anyone to miss out on this legend. Can’t even imagine the amount of bitches you pull too. I imagine it’s in the thousands. 👌
/r/seduction17/06/22 09:03 AM
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Haha, that’s hard for me as most my diet has been those two. I’m no dietician, so I can’t really give you any great alternatives off the top of my head. I started at 160 and I’m currently around 180 with my goal of 185-190 by end of the year. Basically I start my morning off with a high calorie shake. 2 scoops of protein, 2 cups of oats, 2 cups of milk, a banana, and 2 tablespoons of peanut butter. Roughly this comes out to around 1200 calories. Then for lunch I’ll have a snack, usually a protei…
/r/seduction17/06/22 08:55 AM
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I mean what you’re describing is a insecure and controlling women. They don’t want you getting to attractive because then that would mean they’d have to stay attractive and work harder to keep you around. Therefore they keep you home and try to fatten you up. That same girl will then dump you for “letting yourself go”. Muscle is good for everyday life, health, with pulling partners as an added bonus. Muscles speak volume of a person. It shows hard work, dedication, and drive. All of that is conv…
/r/seduction16/06/22 08:14 PM
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Nah only the norm if that’s your only avenue of approach. Doesn’t mean you have to do it that way or any others. Most young men and women are looking for fun in there early 20’s that hasn’t changed in decades
/r/seduction16/06/22 08:10 PM
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They meet online because it’s easy and requires very little effort for both parties. Especially men. It’s the lazy way of meeting people. Looks matter in the short term, for hookups and some quick fun. Personality is what keeps a partner around though.
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:39 PM
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Personally I always go for a kiss on the first date. You’re on a date, most women will assume this is part of the whole situation. Ultimately it shows confidence and moves the relationship to the next level. In my opinion you should have gone for it in the car. Unless she was in a huge rush to get out of there, you probably could have made that move. I usually just look them in the eyes with a slight grin and just let them sit in the silence, I’ll look at there lips and go for it. You could have…
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:35 PM
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The thing is in person you have this thing called personality. My humour and quick wit has helped me 10x more then any app has ever given me. So much is lost through these apps: Confidence, Tone, Posture, Intelligence, Body language, Congruence, and many others. It’s always better to meet people IRL. Plus a girl on Tinder will date a guy she meets in person 100x more then some random face she matched with on Tinder
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:20 PM
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Don’t need to have it if you don’t want it. I personally despise most social media, with insta being at the top of that list. It hasn’t hindered me personally at all. When women ask I just explain it’s not for me and that’s it. Most end up giving me props for not using it and then even say they wish they could delete it as well. Plus I’ve had a GF in the past who was obsessed with social media. Never again. The way I see it is the people that get to see my life and be a part of it are the ones c…
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:10 PM
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Little rule to follow when it comes to working out. Generally speaking you won’t notice any significant changes until 3 months. 6 months when friends and family notice. 12 months when everyone else does. I’ve been going 6 days a week for the last 6 months, following a pretty strict high calorie and protein rich diet. I’ve only just started getting compliments from friends and family about looking bigger. I’ve had a bit more success with women in person. With a couple of girls even saying they li…
/r/seduction16/06/22 07:01 PM
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How is a women who likes a man with confidence pathological? It goes both ways. Do you prefer women that are insecure, shy, and unsure of themselves? The answer is no. Low self esteem isn’t attractive across both genders. There’s literally nothing more attractive then someone who is sure of themselves and knows who they are. It doesn’t make anyone “pathological” for being drawn towards that.
/r/seduction16/06/22 03:56 PM
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Well yeah you still need to approach and make a move. Living your best life and then sitting idle in the corner of the bar isn’t going to change anything. Women don’t approach, society tells them not too. Unless you’re a 10/10 you aren’t getting approached. Pity party is always accepting new members
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:27 AM
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It’s all confidence mate, that’s what they’re drawn too. Nothing more. Most of these guys give off a vibe of “I don’t give a shit if you like me or not” which to women is attractive. Desperation and neediness drives them away. Those guys are the opposite
/r/seduction16/06/22 12:50 AM
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Ignore this dude, he just shits on everyone. Don’t take any of his advice personally
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:33 PM
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Agree with this, just go with the flow. If you’re both having a good time there’s no point in shutting it down early. Just let it end naturally
/r/seduction14/06/22 11:09 PM
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Not enough is explained here. Are making moves on these dates? Physically escalating? Kissing etc? If it’s purely platonic, then the “moving to fast line” is code for I’m not really feeling it. Are you the opposite?Way to pushy for sex? It’s okay to be excited to see someone, but the “game” has to be played. Just wait a day or two before texting them again. Try to match there energy. If you’re blowing them up with texts it comes across needy.
/r/seduction14/06/22 12:11 AM
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When you’re asking them out you aren’t being clear why you’re hanging out. When you met them did you compliment or establish any physical contact? If the answer is no, then they assume it’s a platonic hangout. There’s good news here. You seem to be a genuinely fun Individual as they’re still accepting to hang with you in person again. Just need to change the frame from a friendly hangout to an actual date. When you ask them out, tell them it’s a date.
/r/seduction10/06/22 08:41 PM
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If she was going to cheat, she’s going to cheat. A bachelorette party isn’t going to be the tipping point. Showing insecurity or controlling behaviour will actually push her to cheat. Telling her to have fun shows you are confident and don’t care what she does in her own time to have fun. If she does cheat then you dodged a bullet and you can end the relationship before it potentially wasted more of your valuable time. Believe it or not there’s actually faithful women out there
/r/seduction10/06/22 01:43 AM
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Little bit of walking isn’t going to kill you (get out of car) Woah woah woah I’m not your bus boy, (playfully tease her, then throw out the garbage as it’s not asking a lot) Excuse myself and leave (Disrespectful have boundaries) Don’t act butt hurt and just tell her to let you know the next time she’s free Yeah, and im going to recite all my favourite parts for you too Your not getting into my pants that easily. Give her space and tell her to come talk when she is ready. Tell her to have fun. …
/r/seduction10/06/22 12:43 AM
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Physical escalation on cold approach is much different. There’s a lot less or none at all as they’re basically a stranger and the setting doesn’t really permit the same kind of thing. Generally when you approach you want to build up some conversation. Roughly 5-10mins if you can so they can get an idea of who you’re. Then you ask for a number on a high note. Possibly after they smile or laugh. Some women will give there numbers out as a way to make you go away. So getting a number early can be b…
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:21 PM
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First off social media friends means literally nothing. Guaranteed most people with a 1K follower count maybe hang out with 5 of those people semi regularly. So lose that thought now. Second you need to do social activities to meet people, it’s just the way it is. You can still meet mature and well developed women at parties and bars. People go there to socialize and meet new people, it’s why you go out. Reddit isn’t where you meet people or playing video games at home. You’ll most likely need t…
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:13 PM
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It’s pretty damn clear when a girl wants to kiss you. They will usually hold pretty strong eye contact and not say anything. I’d say 9/10 that’s a clear indicator they want you to make a move. You can ask for a kiss and some girls will think it’s sweet. From my experience they prefer the spontaneity and confidence of just going for it though.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:00 PM
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It’s all about getting them comfortable over time with your touch. If you don’t escalate physically then they will slowly start to see you as a friend. That’s also how you get the text saying they felt no “Spark”. Simple things you can do physically escalate. Touch them on the shoulder when they tell a joke or you do. If you’re walking somewhere, point something out and guide them with your hand. High five them when they say something you like. Ask to inspect there necklace, watch, tattoos, frec…
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:53 PM
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My last GF came up to me and straight up said “I really like you and want to date you”. It was honestly one of the most refreshing things ever. If only more women were this clear about how they feel towards men then we’d all be happier in my opinion. To many games get introduced with age :/
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:56 PM
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I don’t know your build, but the rough timeline for putting on muscle is roughly 1-2lbs a month when starting out and then slowly slowing down to 0.5-1lbs a month. If your sister can notice 4lbs of muscle and possibly a couple lbs of fat as well, then she has a hell of an eye. Either way it sounds like progress is being made so keep at it my friend!!
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:45 PM
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It’s a more noticeable change to lose fat. Especially if you drop 50+ pounds or so. No offence to you, but I think your sister and mom were being nice. 2 months is hardly long enough to notice any significant changes in muscle tone. They’re being supportive which is awesome! The timeline is usually 3 months when you notice changes, 6 months when others notice changes and 12 months when it looks like you’ve been in shape a while. Generally speaking people notice weight difference. So if you’re le…
/r/seduction06/06/22 10:33 PM
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Depending on how long you’ve been texting her, she’s most likely lost interest. Long before you have. I’d just suggest hitting her with “ Hey I’m free on (insert day), let’s go grab a drink”. If she says no, or says she is busy and doesn’t suggest a different date then you have your answer. If she says yes then you’re good to go. The message you suggested above sounds petty and bitter. Would you want to hit up a girl who’s last message said you’re boring me? The answer is no, it’s insulting. If …
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:34 AM
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So honestly that state sounds perfect for a bar or night club. That’s where you want high energy and you want to go into sets feeling excited and pumped up. Daygame you need to take it down a few notches though as the women you approach aren’t going to be in the same headspace as you. Just take a few breaths, calm down, and approach them more casually. You should be good.
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:24 AM
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As you’re aware you could have had more physical escalation. You can make excuses to touch or hold her. At a museum you could have looked in a direction and guided her with your hand to show her what you were looking at or where you were going. You want to build up that comfort. The fact you got groceries with her, makes me think you could have probably taken her home. All you have to do is “suggest” something to do at your place. It can be anything. Check out this show, have a glass of wine, or…
/r/seduction06/06/22 06:20 AM
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So first off I’d recommend some form of therapy if I’m being honest. It’s pretty clear your have self destructive thoughts and a low opinion of yourself. A therapist will help find the roots of this trauma and work it out. I’ve had therapy and I can’t recommend it enough. I think everyone should try it at least once in there life. Airing your dirty laundry in front of an unbiased professional does wonders for your mental health. If that’s not something you want to do or can’t afford then you nee…
/r/seduction05/06/22 07:11 PM
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I mean it’s pretty clear you’re feeling pressure from friends to lose your virginity. Even if that pressure is coming from yourself. Personally I think it’s a big deal, your first time, but not all will agree with me. It won’t feel great to have some random dude sleep with you and toss you to the wayside. Then again I’m not you though. At the end of the day you’re going to be the same person before and after you lose your virginity. You only get one first time. Only you can truly decide what’s b…
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:52 PM
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Dude you’ve posted this 3 times and had it removed the other day. Get over it
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:22 AM
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Talk to everyone you meet. Regardless of gender or attraction. Build up the skill. Overtime you’ll stop filtering what you say and think better on the spot. Coming off as a creep is a pretty common fear, I myself can relate to some degree. Generally speaking it’s pretty easy to not be one though. As long as you don’t cross boundaries and can read body language and social cues, it’s usually easy to avoid it. Creepy for most women is when you continue escalating or talking to them when they alread…
/r/seduction03/06/22 03:27 PM
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Holy this comment was needed. Added so much to this post. Cool stuff tough guy. If only you could share your secret Krabby Patty Formula, then we all could get laid. No, instead you’re selfish and get to sleep with 100 girls a night thanks to your one little secret. LMFAO!!!!
/r/seduction03/06/22 03:55 AM
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Playfulness has a lot more to do with tone and confidence. A nice smile or a devilish grin will help sell the playfulness of the assumptions. The actual wording doesn’t need to be that witty as long as everything else is done well. If you need an example of this done perfectly look up on YouTube “Craig Ferguson Kate Mara interview”. This guy is basically the PERFECT example of playfulness, flirting, innuendos, and confidence. If you have even 10% of this guys charm you’ll do fine
/r/seduction02/06/22 04:49 PM
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Make assumptions, don’t ask questions. Literally look at how she acts, talks, dresses, smells, literally anything. Then make an assumption in a friendly and playful way. This is a lot more fun in conversation as this intrigues her. It fills her heads with a bunch of questions. Why does he think that? Do I seem this way? Oh no I don’t want to be that I need to tell him It keeps the conversation a lot more interesting. Just start practicing assumptions. Instead of How are you? Say you look like yo…
/r/seduction02/06/22 08:25 AM
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It’s good you’re approaching. You should give yourself props for that mate. Most guys can’t or don’t do it. The problem is why you’re approaching. When you look at a girl, what’s the first thing that comes across your mind? What ever it is, that’s your intent. If you approach with the intent to get laid, get a girlfriend, or get there number, women will pick up on this. You should be going over to meet them as a person and see if you like them, see if you even get along, have fun with them. All …
/r/seduction02/06/22 03:56 AM
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Jesus Christ dude. The only thing this girl hasn’t done is make Neon flashing arrows pointing right at her crotch. How many more hints do you need until you think she likes you huh? The delusion and lack of confidence here is staggering mate. Just ask her out or talk to her like a human being…
/r/seduction02/06/22 12:53 AM
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Yeah I’ve seen this guy post a couple of times now. Vegas is pretty much perfect for meeting women. Tons of locals, thousands of tourists ready for a good fling. I respect his perseverance, but I have a 9-5 job and the closest city/clubs are an hour out. That’d be 2 hours round trip driving or 4 hours round trip by bus. On top of general club costs, parking, and gas it quickly doesn’t become worth the endeavour. Not sure how you also squeeze in time for dinner, food, or any other hobbies during …
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:34 PM
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“Persuasive and don’t give up easily”. Honestly I read that as needy, pushy, and possibly even overbearing/aggressive. I bet it’s extremely easy to tell you’re after something when talking with women. They pick on that behaviour easily. You may not realize it, but you probably are coming off desperate as you feel you need a particular outcome. Stop thinking you need to have to do x, y, z when you’re out to have a good night. It’ll just damage your chances. Work on having fun first and getting wo…
/r/seduction01/06/22 07:26 PM
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I mean you can speculate all you want. She could of been talking that way due to a variety of reasons. You live and you learn. Next time you’ll know to approach again. It’d be nice if women were more forward when it came to approaching, but eye contact is usually the main and only way most women do :/
/r/seduction01/06/22 02:17 AM
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Because from what I read and what you told me she didn’t outright shut you down. Women flirt with there eyes. It’s also how they try to make men approach them as it’s inviting. She was giving you another chance dummy haha
/r/seduction01/06/22 12:51 AM
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I can relate dude, I just got out of 6 years fairly recently myself. As for the approach, the initial things you said about her dress was okay, but there wasn’t much for her to say in return other then Thanks. As for the follow up, it was extremely weak. Honestly did you give a shit at all what the brand is? Like the girl was probably thinking why does this dude care? You planning on going out and buying your own soon or something lol. As for the other guy, he may have been trying to hit on the …
/r/seduction01/06/22 12:34 AM
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If you grab her hips when dancing and she shoots you a dirty look, it’s not over. Just don’t react to it l, give her space and let her get comfortable. If she turns her head and smiles it’s basically a green light and you’re good to go. As for why it didn’t go right later could be for a multitude of reasons. She could have felt shut down when you didn’t dance with her. You could have looked insecure or needy. Maybe you were lacking confidence. It’s hard to say as I didn’t see it. Did you just as…
/r/seduction01/06/22 12:07 AM
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I mean depends on how packed the dance floor is. It sounds like a college party or a club in town. They may just not have enough room to avoid touching you, but the more likely scenario is they’re doing it on purpose. Dude if a girl walks across the room and literally starts rubbing her ass on you, you don’t even need to talk to her man… just grab her hips and grind with her. Your actions will speak louder then any words here. You may not know it, but you standing there and doing nothing while s…
/r/seduction31/05/22 09:23 PM
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Holy some truly terrible advice listed here. Hell one commenter even thinks you’re a dude. Another thinks you should be vocal about your tastes, which would be close to impossible with zero experience. No it’s not weird to be a virgin at 22. Don’t let these other redditors guilt you otherwise. Don’t hide the fact you are a virgin as well. Your first time should be with someone you trust and actually like. Not just a random hookup because you feel you need to get rid of. You aren’t going to be an…
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:55 PM
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I mean you can still text her, but understand that this will now be her first impression of your entire personality. It will also be interpreted differently based on her mood. You feel attracted to her, but you don’t know 100% if she feels the same. You can send me an idea you have for an opener and I can roughly gage how it may go, but either way it’s a crap shoot haha
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:42 PM
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So you’re telling me you procrastinated for an entire semester. Honestly you might have missed your window. When I met my ex at school I introduced myself and talked to her on the first day of class. I personally don’t like DM’ing people I haven’t met. A lot can get lost in translation through text. Me personally I’d wait till the next time I saw her, but this is your choice not mine. People who DM random people on social media for hookups or dating is slimy to me, but that’s my opinion. You do …
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:30 PM
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Don’t ask her why she didn’t come. That sounds a bit controlling and needy? “Where were you!? I didn’t see you! What happened?”. I exaggerate a bit, but you get my point. It seems like you haven’t really spoken in person yet. I’d personally approach her in person and poke fun at her for missing. “So do you always ditch finals to go party?”. It’s more playful and will read better then through text. Sliding into her DM’s first when you literally have classes with her sounds like a lack of confiden…
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:23 PM
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Dude just introduce yourself. If they’re doing what you’re describing, that’s basically the strongest hint most women will give you. When they brush against you, just place a friendly hand on there shoulder and ask there name. It’ll get them comfortable with your touch and it frames it as a man to women interaction. Not friend to friend. Biggest mistake I see my friends and others make is they never make physical contact with women. Then they wonder why they’ve been friendzoned. Just need to kno…
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:18 PM
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Jesus, mate… honestly glad no girl wants you if that’s how you feel towards them. Sociopath
/r/seduction31/05/22 02:38 AM
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Be happy for them instead. Them as a couple has nothing to do with you. It shouldn’t cause any pain or misery on your behalf. You’re projecting that feeling. You’re also putting way to much on having a GF as a sign of success. Relationships don’t mean shit. Not every couple is happy. Most those couples you see will be broken up within the next 3 months. 90% of relationships under 30 years of age end. You need to work this out because at the moment I can feel your desperation through the text. I …
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:47 PM
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Lines for me are worthless. Body language, tone, and confidence will sell anything better then any line. Best line in the world won’t help you without those things. My go to with that being said is “Had to meet you, you look interesting”.
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:42 PM
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Breaking it down to just pure basic biology most male species need to attract the female species. This is pretty much true across the entire animal kingdom. Birds whistling, peacocks strutting, etc. Sadly us humans use our intelligence to overthink this and find other excuses. I’d say about 90-95% of women will never approach men at a bar, club or anywhere else. We’re the pursuer, there’s just no way around it. Instead of thinking you’re cutting them off or interrupting there time when approachi…
/r/seduction30/05/22 09:34 PM
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Yeah it is what it is. Just wondering if maybe she wanted me to text her that night instead. Then got pissed off when I waited until tomorrow to text her haha. Either way like you said, it can be a multitude of different things
/r/seduction30/05/22 08:10 PM
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And if she doesn’t then it’s all good. Thanks mate
/r/seduction30/05/22 08:09 PM
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Don’t get it twisted, I think you should still approach women. It’s better to try and fail then never try at all. Plus you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. It’s just going to be easy or harder depending on genetics and a multitude of other things.
/r/seduction27/05/22 10:09 PM
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This sub has a big problem with admitting that looks don’t play a roll in success. It’s almost like a forbidden word. Obviously you can do things to improve your success. Physique, clothing, money, charm, confidence. At the end of the day though if you’re a 2/10 you can maybe get up to a 4/10. It’s still going to be exponentially harder to approach women then someone who is much better looking. It’s hard watching other guys trying there hardest and receiving hundreds of rejections with zero wins…
/r/seduction27/05/22 07:40 PM
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Just believe that by you approaching her you will make her day better. Truly believe that and you won’t ever worry about bothering someone again. Most women won’t be outright rude. They’ll be kind or gentle when rejecting you anyway. It’s very rare you’ll get an outright fuck off. It a cute girl approached you, or even an ugly one and gave you a compliment, would your day be any worse off?
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:45 AM
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It doesn’t matter, the damage is done. She feels rejected and her mood now reflects that to a tee. I don’t care what other women/men do. This is what you did and I’m trying to inform you why her behaviour has changed. Two wrongs don’t make a right. You fucked up, it’s that simple.
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:24 AM
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Lmfao you don’t know why she’s mad at you? Are you serious mate? So you were making out on the couch for a while or whatever. Then you asked her to give you head, or maybe you just thought of it, not really clear. THEN you got in range for you to smell her Vag, and then said nah I’m actually going to pass on this. I can’t think of a more blatant fuck you then that. Imagine if the tables were turned. Girl is cute/hot making out with you, pulls your pants down, then as she gets near your dick, she…
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:14 AM
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Kind of echoing other peoples words here, but I feel they ring true. If you’re extremely attractive a women will give you more chances to “Fuck up”. If you’re average you basically get less “Fuck ups” before the girl blows you off. I’ve seen this first hand and when looking at others. Overall I feel charm, humour, and a damn personality wins over every time IMO
/r/seduction26/05/22 04:06 AM
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So this is coming from a place of insecurity. He may not have as much experience as you. He may feel threatened by your past partners. That could be by there looks, performance in bed, size, and a multitude of other things. Honestly telling him the truth won’t help him. It’ll just make him feel even smaller and start trying to hard to perform. The best thing you can do is just keep telling him that everything he is doing is working for you. It’s silly I know, but eventually he will stop asking. …
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:58 PM
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I can help you with the pictures. I believe every guy should use these 5 pictures. Picture of you from the waist up and SMILING. I don’t care if you hate your smile. Other women won’t, it also shows that you’re open, friendly, and not a threat. Also shows that you aren’t hiding your body. NO SELFIES. Full body picture. So the girl can get an idea about how you look altogether. Again smiling, preferably different locale, and clothing. Hobby picture. Just a picture of you doing something that you …
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:33 PM
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I like that you said baby steps. There is some and I’d love to share them with you. Day one stuff: Just say hello to 10 women. Try a smile and move on. That’s it. Day two: once you’re comfortable with that ask for directions somewhere after the hello, just ask for directions, that’s it. It’s a logical question and most people will help you. Day three: After asking for directions, ask how there day is going. Again just exchange pleasantries with that, say thanks for the help and leave. After aski…
/r/seduction24/05/22 09:07 PM
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Lol sick flex bro, really added to the conversation here lmfao
/r/seduction24/05/22 12:19 AM
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You’re right about the statistic. I did just pull it out my ass. OP needs to just approach period so he can get over the approach anxiety. What you suggested is an extremely easy excuse to use to prevent him from approaching. “Well she’s cute, but Adaptor1 said she needs to look at me and smile, so I guess I can’t approach her”. You sound like you’re above average looking in looks if you catch so many women checking you out. No offence to OP or any other guy, but a lot of us don’t receive that o…
/r/seduction23/05/22 11:32 PM
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Have to disagree with this comment. Looking and waiting for eye contact will just give him more excuses. Many girls don’t just hold eye contact or smile at guys in public. This will limit his options significantly. He’s better off just approaching whoever he finds attractive first. Finding a girl you see as attractive and also is giving eye contact will probably give him maybe 1 in 50 women to approach if he’s lucky.
/r/seduction23/05/22 09:34 PM
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Yeah I can for sure pick up body language. It’s pretty easy to tell when a girl is uncomfortable. I feel like due to the lack of my clear intent that she started getting defensive. Like why is this guy still talking to me. He just wanted directions, now he’s asking about my job. Why? This put her on the back foot literally. I’m glad I read that right at least to some degree. Thanks mate
/r/seduction19/05/22 12:06 AM
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Yeah this is what I thought and as to why I ended it. Was wondering if anyone else potentially had other varying degrees of success or outcome even with this body language present. Thanks for the response though!
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:33 PM
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Yeah that’s fair. I just saw her cross her arms and I immediately went “well shit” and then ended the conversation not even 5 seconds later. Didn’t ask for her number as I took her body language as a firm no anyway. I was also scared of the rejection, I won’t lie. Like you said though, it couldn’t hurt to ask and it helps build up the resistance to being rejected. Appreciate the advice!
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:32 PM
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