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| 297 | Men constantly reminding us we're unsafe even in spaces for grief 😍 | MALE DEPRAVITY | Technical_Moth248 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:33 PM |
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| 10 | Sad that more women will never find FDS now that it’s on a new platform.Interesting, I didn't even know that was a thing. I haven't finished the latest podcast episode but from what I've heard so far this would be a very strange move by them literally a day later. I'm sure they don't want it reopen. I hope it gets worked out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/22 12:37 AM |
| 25 | Sad that more women will never find FDS now that it’s on a new platform.I'm confused by it. There's also seemingly men commenting now which is odd lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/22 10:08 PM |
| 327 | In no universe should this be ok and accepted. A Utah university is offering a porn analysis film classI like the idea of discussing the plethora of terrible issues stemming from it, but the insistence on calling it an art form instantly makes me take it less seriously. I have no faith they explore the real life impact and negatives of both viewing and performing. I also can't imagine feeling very safe in that environment anyway. Viewing hardcore porn while some of the male students are 1000% into it and will want to endlessly argue about how everyone should support it sounds creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 03:13 AM |
| 338 | Interesting first day… even more interesting way of textingWtf is wrong with people? She doesn't know that man, if they killed her and her kid was left behind those same folks would be saying she should've known better than to go. A random meal he probably didn't even make himself does not make him a once in a lifetime man. That's pathetic lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 04:23 PM |
| 423 | Thoughts On This “Men Paying On Dates For Them To Look Out For Entitled Women” article??So "entitled" that the woman didn't beg to pay half on a $20-$40 date like he suggested lmao. They don't seriously consider this gold digging at this point, right? This isn't even close to their usual point of "Mean Lady buys most expensive items on menu and I spent $100+", this guy is fr telling men to cry that they pay for their date at Applebee's lmaoooo. If a man I was seeing didn't think I was worth spending $10 on but definitely still thought he deserved to have sex with me I would say he'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 04:19 PM |
| 116 | You Cannot Save Those Who Love To Drown, And Honestly, It's Not Worth ItI will never understand the "I'm gonna use men by having casual sex with them and leaving!!" take, like they have to know that's so silly??? You give him free sex and fuck off, that is exactly what they want. If he were an actually decent person he would be pursuing you, treating you like a person, and not sticking his penis in any available person. Putting yourself at risk of diseases and pregnancy is only hurting you period. He certainly won't be crying himself to sleep because the woman he ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 05:25 PM |
| 82 | Little reminder about "red flags"It really is and my former bestie said the same thing!!! It makes sense bc she's exclusively dated awful people and thinking that probably comforts her, but for real? Think whatever you want to get through your life, but it's awful to encourage your friends to stay with people that are very obviously no good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 12:48 AM |
| 258 | Little reminder about "red flags"I once was berated by a friend for being upset that my boyfriend of 3 months had told me he wouldn't feel anything if I died (and no, this wasn't something I asked) because "it was hypothetical and it's mean to police how someone responds to grief" ???? Don't ignore red flags and keep the knowledge that some people will for whatever reason think you're TA for not putting up with some absolutely heinous stuff from men. Big or small, if something isn't sitting right with you there is almost defini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 09:31 PM |
| 133 | Never EVER take or send nudes. This poor woman had then used against her 12 years ago and then spread around town recently by her neighbor who got access to her case. The post was made by the woman's husband.I agree with what you're saying, but we have to do more to protect women that this advice is too late for. As things are right now a large percentage of women already have nudes out there and it's going to get more common as time goes on (not even factoring in doctored images). This is absolutely horrible and should never be allowed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 01:38 AM |
| 55 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?You can actually block the redditcare message as well so they can only ever get you once if you're careful about it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Such a refreshing example of how a HVM would respond to his wife’s fear of laborI'm happy at how it worked out for their relationship, but paying another woman to potentially die so you can have a baby is still throughly unethical and uncool. If she really holds this stance she shouldn't want anyone to go through it on her behalf when there are plenty of already existing kids to give a better life to. I won't pretend that being a foster parent or adopting is without issue but I think it's really weird they emphasize not caring about a genetic link just to go ahead and presu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 01:05 AM |
| 8 | Update on my most recent post. Digging into OP’s comment history only confirmed to me what I already thought; he isn’t a good partner to her & she deserves better. I seriously doubt she doesn’t fake cum with him because she sounds v turned off. He asked some1 what a clitoris is. Is this April fools?Wtf, what woman genuinely wants her tits slapped lmao? Why would he ever think his sexually “vanilla” wife would want to be physically abused in the bedroom? This man takes no accountability for himself and just places his own issues on others. “I have nothing else. She made me a fat, creepy porn addict 😭” Lol even after all of those comments he just will not listen. Let him go and hopefully she leaves to find someone better one day. Also idk what is up with these people that seem dead set on im… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 04:36 PM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 56 - Roast-A-Scrote Grab Bag: The Food Stamp Polygamist, Dentist Avoider & MoreI just listened to it and came here to see if others were bothered. I can understand being biased as I do have some unhinged family members but at the same time it felt like she was going out of her way to imply she was just an overemotional basket case. I would've just ignored it but it did come off as defending this guy for no good reason which is really not cool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 02:24 AM |
| 266 | This level of betrayal from the person supposed to love, cherish and hold you sacred.This is incredibly cruel and it must be becoming more common as I've heard a few similar stories recently. You of course shouldn't be forced to have more kids you don't feel ready for, but that doesn't mean it's acceptable to put your wife through incredible amounts of stress where she is undoubtedly blaming herself and her own body so you can keep getting your pp touched. If you were a worthwhile partner at all she would probably be more willing to have sex with you outside of procreation reaso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 04:19 PM |
| 129 | I have no words for the way other subs invalidate womenIt is horrible. It doesn't help that a lot of the people responding are men who are obviously going to advocate for other men (and likely benefit from normalizing behaviors that are shitty) or pickmes that think that because they tolerate it every woman should suffer the same fate. It's pointless to even bother, the majority of responses are always predictable. "communicate even more maybe he misunderstood or forgot" "maybe he has depression adhd and anxiety and that's why he hit your dog while … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:07 AM |
| 17 | This is not the flex she thinks she is. When will we grow out of encouraging women to stay with men who hurt them?Ik it has already been said, but the women that pull this garbage will never stand by your side when you need support. If it comes down to you and their loser bf they will choose him every time. My best friend since childhood skipped my husband's funeral to spend time with her on and off again scrote because he really needed her that day 🙃 She never made time to listen to my grief but still came around to dump their awful relationship issues on me and I finally called it when she put me in dange… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 12:54 AM |
| 32 | I have no words, this isn't even pick-me behavior anymoreIdk why you were downvoted, this is a real woman. She is heavily advertising her sw accounts lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 01:51 PM |
| 17 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himselfThat's a fair point. They've been married for 8 years so she's probably been suffering under him for most of her young life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:03 PM |
| 17 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himselfIdk, she definitely didn't say what either of them do but they surely have some income! I'm not sure how she would find the time for 3 workouts around raising their daughter and working, though! I'm unemployed (although I fall into the classic rich young widow type so I'm okay 😅) and I still only have it in me to do about an hour a day which imo is still a little excessive for most people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 24 | Can Anyone Help Explain This to Me?Shitty people do good things occasionally, and sometimes it makes their questionable behavior even more confusing. From what you've said about her actions in the past she's a terrible excuse for a friend and does not prioritize your comfort or safety. Even if she is just bored and looking to fuck with you that's still horrible!!! People don't treat their friends like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:29 PM |
| 455 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himselfIdk how she can still be desperate to have sex with him after being threatened with divorce for not being fit enough after having his child. Preferences are allowed, but she is obviously still very physically fit from her description. It is insane and unrealistic to expect someone to work out that much for presumably the rest of her life so he doesn't leave. Let his old ass go. I'm sure he'll totally thrive like he thinks he will trying to pick up the women he jerks off to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 2 | If it’s one thing men are good at, it’s low blows.She definitely won't, but she probably will stay with him. The fact that she has continued to serve him after this is a great sign for him. I would love to be wrong, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:23 AM |
| 928 | If it’s one thing men are good at, it’s low blows.He didn't just mess things up for himself, he threw his mom under the bus and I know for a lot of women their relationship will never be the same. And honestly? Rightfully so. I cannot stand MILs that shit talk and make their daughter in laws prove themselves before they are actually nice to them. Pickme boy mom raised a man that grew up to be a shitty husband with no empathy or control of his emotions, what a shock. Their marriage will probably recover but I feel bad for Ali and I hope she can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 05:07 PM |
| 248 | Porn sickness is a slippery slope, this woman needs to take her daughter and LEAVEI feel bad for her (and mostly the baby who is at risk and needs her mom to prioritize her safety over her husband's penis) but I do think it's extremely gross that she was fine with him referring to her as "little girl" in a sexual manner. It really isn't that different from this, he is into pretending she's childlike. I'm gonna take a wild guess that they are in a DDlg relationship or he's looking to push it that way. They usually take a quick slide into actual pedo territory. Normalize kinksh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:39 PM |
| 25 | Suspicious?I open mine up for brief periods of time because I can’t handle notifications lol. If you post a lot it’s probably just awards! Idk why they go there but that’s what mine always are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 04:09 PM |
| 125 | These posts from tumblr hit close to home because I remember being conditioned to think it’s all my fault and that the only way to cope was through being made to submit in kink. Younger me couldn’t be more wrong. I’m 23 this month and I cringe when I think about how indoctrinated I was at 17.The wording of the one with the kitty is just killing me. Yeah, ok, BDSM is for adults yet DDlg falls into it? The relationship dynamic where one of the parties literally pretends to be a child??? (They also have a HORRIBLE grooming problem which I was unfortunately pulled into as a traumatized teen. They are well aware but never step in and got mad if you tried to protect minors) If you're going to go all in on victim blaming and covering up for abusers just admit it instead of trying to preten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 01:24 AM |
| 183 | My HV boyfriend turned in to a LV fiancée. I need help on how to leave.I don't have advice but I wanted to say you're making a wise and incredibly difficult choice and you should be proud of yourself!! A lot of women would settle right here and never find the strength to choose themselves and their own future. The money you lose is a small price to pay to avoid a loser husband and the divorce process. I don't know if there will be a "good" way to explain it to others as a lot of people believe women should just accept men that are incompetent. No one is entitled to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 03:29 AM |
| 52 | Ia Zelensky a HVM?Some women are just stunningly bad at reading men lol. He always looks cruel to me, there's something in his eyes that says he is not someone you would ever want to trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:00 PM |
| 586 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡Let him get his reddit validation, I think it's hilarious that he'll be like "internet people said YOU'RE BAD" while all of his actual friends and family find out his relationship was ended because he couldn't stop watching porn. She already coMmUNicaTeD and generously gave him a second chance a year ago. He has no right to ask for a third after happily lying to and disrespecting her 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 01:02 AM |
| 70 | Never EVER share financial information with a man. It starts with $20 now but can easily escalate to much more over the years. Come across the wrong one and they will absolutely destroy you financially.After stealing from her he tried to pretend he was the victim. The audacity lmaoooo. I would not be giving my pin or any kind of important info to a man I'm not married to. I would bet money he thought a small amount while she was still disoriented from waking up would get her to spill for sure just to appease him. Lucky she was able to firmly say no as I have no doubt his unemployed ass had bigger plans on scamming her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 11:09 PM |
| 494 | No words about how disgusting this is.These men are depraved. I would never expect any kind of morality from a group that predominantly masturbates to incest/r*pe/assault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 10:13 PM |
| 323 | “How do I ask my boyfriend to stop beating and strangling me?”A man that's just lost his virginity almost immediately jumping to aggressive and rough sex and refusing to be gentle EVER is a huge red flag. Porn has destroyed that man, he is not worth having. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:48 PM |
| 436 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistHot young women, please come be my live in gf/slave!! You will do everything for me including reminding me to run the business that's supposed to support us! I will not be paying in anything but potential! 🤪 This man must do drugs harder than what he claims because wtf lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:04 AM |
| 88 | Big oof. This whole thing made me cringe really hard. This is why we don’t chase or be too forward without properly vetting. The wrong men will get the wrong idea, their entitlement doesn’t have limits.I'm sad at her last comment where she feels the need to throw out some pick me garbage so kinky redditors don't jump on her (the "choking is totally fine normally!!!" one) You were assaulted and nearly r*ped, you don't need to worry about kink shaming!!!! He was definitely LV from the start and I would've passed from the first message. It's mostly generic garbage and no man who wants to play 21 questions is going to ask anything innocent. I wouldn't have guessed he was a r*pist but the scrote en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 12:54 AM |
| 32 | Why you can’t take men seriously…The active in subs were enough of a self own that you didn't even need to show his post history lmao. You almost want to feel bad because this is obviously just him projecting 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:08 PM |
| 23 | This poor girl needs saving. Porn sick, limp dick... and abusive.Idk why people are weirdly fast to jump to claiming men like this are asexual. It’s literally happening right in front of her, he has a massive porn addiction. Even if he were ace (it doesn’t seem like it) you are still a shitty man if you just masturbate into your partner and emotionally abuse them for not looking like a porn star. Also why are they not more bothered by the knowledge that she’s literally being abused??? Bro idc that some pornsick loser doesn’t fuck, help your child escape him? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 05:48 AM |
| 217 | Scrote refuses to marry forever gf because of “dead bedroom” and has been stringing her along for 3 years. Can you count the red flags in this post?Just let her go then, jfc. No one is forcing you to live in a sexless relationship but you. These dudes preach coMMunICatIoN but then won't actually say "this is never happening" because they know their gf might leave and she is convenient to have around in some way. He mentions she has gone through a lot and is currently in therapy (but not prioritizing sex so what's the point 🤪) Like this woman is obviously working through something and all he can think about is how she needs to ignore that an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:05 AM |
| 3 | I don’t understand why men are so cruel. Rant.I'm glad! I don't want to see any of us get hurt. It sucks that people downvoted, I got you back up to 1! The other reply was right, it's probably male lurkers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:29 PM |
| 21 | I don’t understand why men are so cruel. Rant.I checked out the post and I went through a bit of your history. They are definitely out of line but you should not be wasting your time asking a bunch of reddit dudes why you can't get anyone. They aren't going to offer you anything worthwhile and the obvious insecurity is only going to make them excited to pick at you in any way they can think of. They are not and will never give you the kind of validation you're looking for and you shouldn't be trying to gain it from them anyway. Also you rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:53 AM |
| 114 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️After reading through Erika Lust's Wikipedia page I do not get how her stuff can be considered ethical or feminist. Someone in the porn industry that thinks no sex act should be labeled "non-feminist" and is totally cool with violent stuff? Definitely new and unheard of! 🤪 It's just the same as anything, and it doesn't make it better because a woman made something exploiting her fellow women for profit. 🤷♀️ Maybe instead of paying for your child to cum to something "less bad" you can take the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:59 AM |
| 44 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitThis is crazy, if this is for real this woman is absolutely being scammed and financially abused. Free babysitting, a huge gap in working that is not going to look good, a husband that is 100% still sleeping with the other woman??? He has the audacity to tell her what she has to do after all of this??? This man should be going out of his way to make sure she gets to do whatever she wants for the rest of their lives because I don't even think a lot of pickmes would stay after this, he absolutely … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 11:06 PM |
| 302 | I’m speechless and his excuse is even more sickening.I can't believe there are people that think she should forgive him!! No amount of "work is really hard and stressful rn 😭" entitles you to literally r*ping someone who is BEGGING you to stop. What a shitty, disgusting excuse from an equally deplorable person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 03:47 PM |
| 59 | Classic RedditNot a bunch of redditors writing off sexual assault 💀 12 is old enough to understand consent and this reads as bragging more than remorse. I feel sad for that woman, hopefully this is just one of those creepy porn stories that so many of them toss up on subs made for actual events. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 02:39 AM |
| 75 | TW: r*pe very triggering, I almost logged off of the internet after reading this but I decided to post here so we can all seeI would genuinely help anyone, even a woman I disliked, if she came to me messed up and frightened. Being rped is HORRIBLE and I would not wish it on any person (before some scrote comes to uwu what about men me). He should feel bad and carry this forever. He didn't just let her down in the moment because she wouldn't fuck him, he actively supported her attacker for years on top of it. I know reddit is giving him big hugs and telling him what an awesome guy he is for being real sorry he helped e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 02:40 AM |
| 188 | Women are interchangeable (seen on IG)Yes, I would def throw everything away to date a man who will be on his phone messaging other women while we're intimate. How appealing, can't believe she might miss out on this king 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 05:41 PM |
| 147 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”This is r*pe. She even says when they plan to wake the other up with oral they don't jump to it immediately, which means this was not a situation she has ever consented to happening to her while she's half asleep. That whole post is incredibly sad, you can tell she's battling guilt that she's not "taking care of him" enough 🙄 while also being disgusted that he forced her to do sexual things she did not want to do while he was disgusting (and absolutely getting off on degrading her or he wouldn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:15 PM |
| 249 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳Oh my gooooood. Scrotes will be like "get a sENse Of HUMor it's funny!!!" but this dude had a massive opportunity to do something cute and meaningful for his wife and used it to be a dick. 🙄 It honestly reads more as him making fun of her than a compliment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:05 PM |
| 712 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!This is one of those times where even though it is a wanted pregnancy she would be wise to entertain the idea of an abortion. He used the first vulnerable period to berate and degrade her and it will not get better with a small child involved. His family is always going to side with him and she will be eternally tied to this man unless she makes some very hard decisions very quickly. Even if they divorce he does not sound like he will be a good or reliable parent on his own time and could potent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:43 PM |
| 16 | I had no idea you ladies are so hated. I’m curious what other subs I’ll be auto banned fromThe "toxic culture" of FDS is wanting women to be safe in happy and healthy relationships and also NOT having children with some scumbag who will never help you raise them or lift a hand to help around the house or take stress off of you. It makes sense they wouldn't view that kindly as from the few times I've been on that sub most of the women are being treated like bangmaids and suffering from emotional abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 05:07 AM |
| 47 | [deleted by user]This is fake, but this post has also been posted and removed twice already lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:16 PM |
| 105 | Y'all, they're talking about us again 😂Idk what it is about it but redditors love to write fanfics about this sub and how they uncovered that their super real girlfriend was a FDS user and totally stuck it to her by breaking up!!! There have been quite a few versions of that exact post and they all stand out in that they are almost surely fake but gain popularity bc scrotes like the idea of it. It's widely known that you make a second account and don't connect it to yourself in any way. Outside of the harassment on other subs it is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 04:08 AM |
| 39 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesThe audacity of this dude to refer to his ex wife as "the love of his life" and get all up in his feelings that she may have been dating her new husband while they were divorcing. Bro you cheated on her and had a whole child with your side piece that she was funding??? It was not a matter of "weakness", he just had it all and decided to gamble if he could get even more. He has throughly set his son up for failure. His mom is LV and presumably absent forever so he's going to be brought up by a tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 04:33 AM |
| 293 | A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANEBoth of his alternative options are so weak. He can barely make a dent in her debt (and hold it over her head forever) or pay for their housing until she can do 50/50 for the rest of their lives, how romantic 🙄 I can't see if it's included on this post, but he went on to say he currently lives with family, this is the only expensive thing she's ever asked for in their entire relationship (so this is "out of character" bc she's usually "kind and big hearted"), and she does not want an expensive w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 12:58 AM |
| 26 | Pickmes really need to shape up and get a clue 🤢This is something he's "unable to control"??? This man wasn't born disabled, he literally did this to himself. I am almost positive no one has ever forced him against his will to masturbate to porn 🙄 He did it willingly and is now suffering the consequences. I despise when these pickmes throw out random buzzwords that don't even apply to the situation in an attempt to shut up another woman. Being upset that your bf broke his dick by being a porn addicted loser isn't body shaming, it is a valid c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:14 PM |
| 35 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?He handled the whole thing very poorly, and I consider it a big red flag that his first thought is to pressure you into changing your mind. It would totally suck to be stuck with a child you aren't prepared for, but he was not forced into sex with you. He went into it knowing it was a possibility and most likely hasn't put nearly as much effort into prevention as he should have. I also dislike men just leaning into "get an abortion, whatever" like it isn't physically and emotionally a lot to dea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 02:57 AM |
| 9 | FDS exercise: How many red flags can you spot before he went bashit crazy?Outside of the very concerning threat his ridiculously fast swaps are almost comedic. Like how can you try to backtrack after that? Who tf cares that you were cheated on when you threatened to ruin a stranger and sexualized a crayon? He's a dangerous scrote of a man who deserves less than nothing. I wish there were a way for women to attach stuff like this to men so they actually suffered consequences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 05:10 PM |
| 187 | DAE have a visceral negative reaction to Hinge’s social media ads? Who are these meant to market to? It can’t be women.Unfortunately a lot of actual women eat this stuff up. They think this behavior is just cute and funny instead of cringe and low effort. Pickmes are wild lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:43 PM |
| 13 | How to reconcile with the fact that my brother doesn't support the FDS strategies, although he is an HVM?You literally have no way of knowing who he is in a romantic partnership when he's alone with her. A lot of people seem wonderful and like they are living the dream on the outside, but behind closed doors they are miserable and possibly abused. A HVM would want the best for his sister and always encourage her to do better and not settle (as my late husband did with his older sis). He would never tell you that you're asking too much and need to accept whatever you're given or treat you like you'r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:01 PM |
| 2 | We have a fragile one.Thanks!! I think so too, I had so much fun dressing her up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 11:05 PM |
| 18 | We have a fragile one.Considering they are also dragging twoxchromosomes I think those folks are just stunningly fragile. You see it break sometimes over there but for the most part they hard cater to not hurting men's feelings lol It might be a mean take, but I personally don't care how men and pickmes view FDS and the women here. They aren't meant to like it, we're giving tips to avoid becoming or ending up with one of them. If they can't stop thinking about us that is 100% their own problem 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 10:08 PM |
| 431 | Man who used woman for sex is mad that she used him for sex. There is no such thing as casual sex. They will always want to keep it casual but do not like it when you treat them the same wayMy dad always told me to never use my car to jump someone else's off. Outside of the obvious safety thing it can apparently destroy the computer/electronics on your end if done incorrectly. Also I'm loling that he's so salty he couldn't yell at her and implies he had the right to "let her know his experience" 😂 He figured it out and she wasn't left vulnerable, I call that a win! 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 10:05 PM |
| 9 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsI agree, but I'm sure he'll find someone to latch onto regardless (sadly) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 06:39 PM |
| 95 | How quickly widowers move on from their wives shows that they don't see women as people, just bangmaidsYou are correct. I’ve seen people throw out “Men get remarried fast after their wife died because they love being married! It’s a compliment to their late wives!!!“ 🤪 Immediately looking for a replacement is not a compliment. They are doing it because they cannot be alone and in a lot of cases literally cannot manage a household or cook for themselves. That might be a good reason why they “love being married”, but it does not mean anything good or romantic about their late or current wife. I not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:54 PM |
| 101 | Spot the patternIf you want to completely change your feelings on him again please watch his awful behavior toward Sofia Vergara in an old interview. He made tons of inappropriate sexual comments toward her, makes fun of her son's name for some reason, and touches her even after she said not to. He's gross and a definite LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:53 PM |
| 40 | not supposed to represent feminism on a feminist subreddit... what?It sucks, but it happens. An alt really is the only solution. As the other ladies have said, a lot of subs require a very watered down version of feminism because they are ran by men who obviously do not like getting their feelings hurt at the truth 😔 and with FDS in your history it's just an easy target to hopefully dismiss you before other women look too hard at it. I've actually had success saying the exact same things I feel on my main, but ultimately I'm not sure it makes a difference. I th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 09:45 PM |
| 193 | Have any of you ever dated a widower? What was the experience like? Would you advise against it?This got wordy and I honestly have a lot more warnings and red flags I would like to share that I've encountered, but maybe I'll make a post about it one day. I've seen too much, I apologize in advance 🤣 I became a widow way too young (very early 20s) and in my year and half I've seen THE WORST of my male counterparts. I get approached quite a bit as I'm active in groups and I show up for a lot of zoom meetings but it has almost never been anything positive. They are great at spinning the dead w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:50 AM |
| 75 | Should we try to discourage grown men from flying their red flags?A LVM will still fuck up severely at some point even if they are carefully curating who they are at the start based on instructions. However I fully agree with what you’re saying. Every time I see a man just blatantly toss down a known red flag I laugh and note it (literally had a man tell me “IM A NICE GUY AND WOMEN DONT WANT ME” which I thought they all knew better at this point) I don’t give them any pointers and I try to avoid letting them figure out exactly what killed it. Not always possib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:28 PM |
| 255 | Everyone in this supposed feminist sub is telling her to propose herselfNo one that genuinely wants to propose would carry the ring around for what will likely be 2+ years. I dislike saying it because I wish for her sake it weren’t, but he probably only has it as a reminder that he has power over her. He has had seven years to figure out how to propose and get married “his way”, it should be obvious at this point he doesn’t want to. If he were a decent person he could’ve told her it wasn’t happening when she said marriage was important to her, but he was probably be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?Thank you for taking the time to learn and not insisting it's bad!! 😊 I've tried to educate people about it in the past and a lot of them just refuse to accept it's not sexual because of the name which gets old for a lot of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:45 PM |
| 121 | Thoughts? To me looks like the Company is pandering to the Lolita look. The facial expressions look sad and the fake tears are sickening. Why do they have to advertise like this?I love lolita fashion!!! I've found a lot of the women in the community are very FDS aligned even though they probably don't know about us (makes me lol because they generally prioritize making safe spaces for women and HARD kinkshame. They gatekeep tf out of it and I love it. Pickmes and men that sexualize it do not last). I just wish it didn't have this name because it definitely doesn't look good from the outside. Clothing inspired by the book Lolita is called nymphet fashion, but these cloth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 02:27 AM |
| 11 | Men being body shamed 😢Men are absolutely brutal to each other, I don't really see women bullying them irl or online (outside of FDS). It's just the usual with them like you said, they pull this with everything and pickmes tag along to talk over women. Men don't actually give a fuck about changing things to help other men, they just enjoy pretending they are the true victims and minimizing our issues. I don't find fat men attractive so I don't associate with them and I move on with my life. Men that hate fat women wil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:04 PM |
| 71 | Would you date someone who doesn’t understand misogyny?No lol. I would not be able to love or trust a man like that. I also wouldn't call it not understanding, your wording suggests he just doesn't care (dismissive response to an attempt to educate, which tbh you shouldn't bother as men shouldn't need to be coached to care about women) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 05:44 AM |
| 10 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Not really. My first (consensual) kiss was with my teenage bestie who ended up siding with and trying to sleep with my r*pist and has continued her problematic behavior to the point where we don't speak and she's a dangerous person to be around for her pickme behavior. I've spoken to women since I lost my husband and tbh a lot of regular women are picking up the same disgusting traits lvm have (Porn addiction, hiding who they really are until they think they can sleep with you, secretly having a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 09:10 PM |
| 2 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.I can't view the picture anymore so I'm not 100% positive, BUT I think she got one of the homes and half of the money from the sale on the other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 05:50 PM |
| 28 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity.Yep, then scrotes come online and try to justify her death with "We don't know, maybe she was secretly abusing him or cheating!!!" 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 02:32 AM |
| 123 | NVM screeching about losing money in a divorce 🤣🤣🤣 get wrecked. They always blame the woman for a failing marriage and make her out to be LaZY as if she did not raise kids and do housework full-time. She DESERVES some equity."He is now homeless" lmaoooo I'm sure he will be just fine and will have a new place ASAP, I doubt he's going to be living in a van and barely making it any time soon. Really dislike the shady "I don't know how more men don't snap" comments though 🙃 Idc if LVM #543781 decides to never marry to avoid losing his many dollars in the divorce, but maybe he should invest in therapy instead of imaging hurting his nonexistent ex wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 11:13 PM |
| 4 | Fitness advice - what does your go-to routine and diet look like that's helped you in levelling up?Ring Fit is so fun, definitely seconding this!! It's a little pricey but if you have Deku Deals it can send you an email when it goes on sale (which happens fairly regularly) 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:24 PM |
| 90 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?Oh, easy!! "I BeliEve iN ShOWing yOU LOVE SOmeONe AlL YeAR" and then he treats her shitty and gets her nothing the other 364 days too 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:45 PM |
| 30 | Am I on a different planet? 🙃If my "friends" made comments about how boring or exciting they thought I was in bed I would personally think it was fucking weird. It sounds like they are immature and they plan to keep shaming you until you hit their level. It's okay to outgrow people, particularly people who pressure you into lowering your standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Need advice to level up a guy.You're going to be told to leave him because FDS is big on not building up a man. At the end, even if he gets "better", he's going to still be a LVM who had to be babied into wanting something for himself. He won't be any more loyal (in fact he'll probably look down on you for it and feel he's better than you). Don't waste your own time on this, and don't freak yourself out with scarcity mindset. "Decent with potential" is not enough in a man. You might have a harder time in a less populated are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 12:20 AM |
| 930 | Woman sees tornado and frantically moves her kids to safety. Husband questions her sanity, slights her for “scaring the kids,” and foolishly goes outside.It is infuriating to hear him talking down to her when she's clearly very panicked and is just trying to make sure he is safe too. He doesn't even care about grabbing his children and moving to safety, he's just gaslighting his wife in a crisis. He is actual trash that I would never trust again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:10 PM |
| 98 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youOne of the biggest things you should take away from FDS is being quick to block and delete scrotes, and this isn't exclusively ones you are romantically involved with. It's not your fault he's a gross person, but you are likely in control of who you associate with. If you won't or can't block him, at least tell him he's not welcome to take photos of you and minimize contact. If your friend is upset you aren't friendly to him explain to her that his past behavior has been inappropriate and disres… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:55 PM |
| 78 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youIf you are set on staying friends with her it might be worth defending the person you actually like and refusing to indulge his creepy and rude behavior. I honestly don't understand why you just let him insult your buddy and are totally cool with him hitting on you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:22 PM |
| 19 | You're whole.There are YouTubers with high subscriber counts that go as far as advocating for staying with your abusive “twin flame”. Like no matter what they are still a part of you and you should accept, forgive, and help them. Also that if you try to leave you’ll just always end up coming back to each other so why fight it? 🤪🙄 Luckily it seems like women are starting to wake up bc a lot of comments now are “If he’s like that I don’t want him” and pushing back on the use of twin flame because it’s so frequ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 05:05 PM |
| 9 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I would be extremely hesitant about a divorced man unless he had a damn good reason and had been to therapy (and I had the time and desire to prove he wasn’t lying to make himself look better). No kids, though. I am in my early 20s and a widow, I don’t think I would be happy as a stepmom and I’d like to start my family at my own pace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 06:32 PM |
| 7 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?I was a minor for most of it so I forgive myself because I grew out of it fast on my own, buuuuut 🙃 You should spoil your man and not expect it back in return bc high maintenance women ARE BAD Watching a man play a game for 6 hours straight while he barely even speaks to you is “quality time” together. 🙄🙄🙄 You shouldn’t make a man feel bad about doing something incorrectly even if it’s potentially dangerous. My ex insisted on fixing something on my car bc he “knew how” (he did not). My dad got t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:06 PM |
| 29 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Flattered was pretty much the opposite of what I felt but you're right 😂 We weren't even close and I did block him but I just wanted to disappear, it embarrassed me so bad. I feel like you should ask someone to consent to being drawn in general, even more so WITH PORN. I hate that I was the one who ended up feeling shame over something I didn't even ask to be attached to. It would probably be harder for him to get off to a drawing of a woman having a nice time, how inconsiderate 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:27 AM |
| 41 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?I'm not sure what he was hoping to gain because I had been married for a few months at that point 🤪 I stg these types know no shame. I know he expected me to be flattered but I was horrified and embarrassed lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:12 AM |
| 233 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?A man crying after he had done something shitty to me was weirdly endearing. I was considering leaving my ex bc he wouldn't stop comparing me to some porn star and I told him I was close to calling it. He started crying and begging me to stay. My poor teenage brain was like "He never cries and he's crying over losing me! He loves me for real, so romantic 😍" In the end he had been cheating on me for about half of our relationship 🤣 When he was outed he cried too but at that point it just made me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 109 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Don't look it up. I had a guy draw inflation porn of me once and send it to me (I barely knew him and I definitely did not ask for that lmao). NOT GOOD. It's almost funny in an absurd way but it's also really fucking weird and gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 08:38 PM |
| 52 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.I'm always annoyed at people getting mad you won't settle for mentally ill men, particularly if you're "damaged" yourself. Men also don't have to date mentally ill women, but a lot of LVM love vulnerable and easy to manipulate people to get sex or other gains out of. It's not ableism to protect yourself. Trying to fix another person rarely works out and generally just leaves you in an absolutely terrible or even dangerous position. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:42 PM |
| 158 | Negging her when she was SICK + embarrassing her in front of friends. At least* commenters got it rightHe's a disgusting and predatory person. No decent human would shame someone they care about over an accident due to illness. The "gift" thing is so fucking cruel too. Replies are actually dead on which I'm a little surprised by. I'm curious if the friends are his or hers? I'd be shocked if my own good friends didn't stand by me and sided with a dude they don't know well that was visibly making me upset and encouraging them to make fun of me. I would be taking this whole event as a big learning o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 08:00 PM |
| 80 | Just found this and I am so shocked! Nobody can tell me that this isn’t some form of abuseI don't even know how you would argue it isn't abuse (ik sHE CoNsENtED to this dynamic). Just all around pretty fucking sad. She's still a beautiful person regardless but jfc that text and how chill she is with him treating her like shit is depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:04 PM |
| 58 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.It's not wrong to want a romantic connection, but you are putting entirely too much emphasis on it. Your world will not end if you break up tomorrow, and it will likely not be your last chance to ever find love. You've gotta worry about fulfilling yourself and being happy single rn though. Fretting this hard over dating and needing someone to complete you is not good or healthy. Your future and happiness should not exclusively depend on you dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:28 AM |
| 49 | I deserve better than this relationship, but I have never experienced love this deep.Surely he was told what his first day would be? I don't know how you could just "not realize". It seems more like he's just sabotaging himself because he knows you'll continue taking care of him and he doesn't mind you carrying that burden. I'll admit I don't really know your money situation but it seems like you might be a victim of financial abuse here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 03:02 AM |
| 32 | Started watching Shrill on Hulu and one of the main characters is a LVM.I know others have said this, but plus size women can still be HVW and I really do not think the handbook set a weight limit. Maybe you misinterpreted something? It's one thing if you have low self esteem from it bc men will absolutely take advantage of it, but if you were completely comfortable with yourself I don't see an issue with dating. I'm glad this post reminded me of this show, I had no idea the 3rd season came out! I was a lot happier with season 2 but oh my gosh I just can't handle so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 01:00 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, can you help me interpret these yellow/orange/red flags?I haven't watched him in a while so idk if he has any more recent controversies, but he has a pretty rough history. Just from memory I know he said the n word for some reason while gaming and then laughed and tried to move on, and he also had two dudes make a sign that said "d*ath to all Jews" (sorry about the weird censoring but I'm trying to not get this comment removed). Most of these big YouTube stars are LVM and he is the king. As for his marriage he does seem loyal to her but they did wait… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 05:11 PM |
| 55 | Guy got fired because he refused to get vaccinated.Good call!! In the future I would probably block and delete if the person makes you feel so uncomfortable that you can't be honest without fear of backlash. He doesn't seem very responsible and is definitely not a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 05:32 PM |
| 117 | Never beg a man to marry youHe probably just said "Wanna get married?" and that was her proposal bc that happens a lot now. I'd be shocked if this guy even got her a ring, you know he's the "You know I'm not a romantic person why would you think I'd do that 😡" type lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:54 PM |
| 119 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.I always feel so fucking bad for women in your family member’s position. It’s a shitty hand to be dealt regardless, but when I see them in my wid groups I can’t help but feel mad at their late partner for putting them in that position. At least on social security she likely would’ve been screwed anyway, I was told you had to have been married for a decent number of years (I think 10 but I don’t really remember, it’s honestly unfair). I read about a woman getting knocked out of it recently bc she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:10 AM |
| 27 | Is Taylor Swift a “Forever Girlfriend”I’ve loved her since I was a child and would very much like to see her be happy, but there is something about Joe that does not feel right. I’m not sure that I would say she’s a forever gf because I’m almost positive she will get married (or admit they’ve been married) at some point, maybe after she’s done with the re-recording of her old albums. Like you said, I don’t think the thing that was stopping her is money concerns. Her friends were saying she wanted to marry him in like 2018. As for th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 03:52 PM |
| 39 | Ashnikko and her songs: are Gen-Z ladies finally getting fed up?I enjoy Taylor's music and I looooove to bring her up around men. I don't think it's a green flag if he happens to like it, but I sure do take it as a red flag unless he can explain why without spewing things that are either completely incorrect, irrelevant, or blatantly misogynistic. I don't mind if you don't like her style but I have never had anyone leave it at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:36 AM |
| 6 | Men don’t humanise us!It would’ve taken two minutes to create a throwaway account if he just had to share his very important thoughts with the world. The extra level the name adds (I have never seen a person that wasn’t porn addicted refer to masturbation that way) just makes the post worse somehow. Gotta get that Reddit karma but jfc why are they like that?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:42 AM |
| 67 | Men don’t humanise us!“Be kind to one another” 🙄 You just told thousands of people you didn’t see women as real people until you had a child lmao. Yes, you are weird. If it took looking at your own baby and going “Oh no, someone might be just as disgusting to you as I was to others one day” then you aren’t as good as you’re pretending to be. It was never a secret that these women are generally abused and exploited, you just valued getting off more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:01 AM |
| 51 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.I think if you were temporarily trapped in this scenario it can be worthwhile if only because some of it is funny, but you’re right. She’s obviously not in the dark on the way he was mistreating her, and just because he got a little better with it doesn’t mean anything. He wasn’t actually willing to lower his standard of living to unsafe levels, he was just willing to let her items get ruined and to eat from things that potentially make her sick, not him or anyone else. She rewarded this with ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 04:45 PM |
| 11 | Help. I just got banned from other subreddits if you participate in this one. My comment was not offensive at all nor was I applying FDS strategies. I call bullshit but I guess I'll make a throwaway.Separate accounts are a necessity if you want to participate in the rest of Reddit anyway. If you are commenting on another sub you are probably going to get rude replies and mass downvotes once someone looks through your history and gets mad you’re a part of FDS (even if you are not talking about anything relating to it). They can’t resist the rare opportunity to actually speak to us and feel like they have a little bit of power in the situation. It’s kind of unfortunate, but it can also be fun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:47 AM |
| 75 | An observation regarding hair loss in men versus womenIt never occurred to me how much hair factors in to women being respected until my mom's hair started falling out and she cut it extremely short. When I was older she explained that people treated her less than for something she couldn't help even though she was still within typical beauty standards in every other way. A family member apparently said "You must feel bad about it since your hair was your beauty" AND THIS MAN IS FUCKING BALD. I guess she tried for years to remedy it but nothing wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 08:53 PM |
| 25 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.I have a relative that's so much like this. She's been with her bf for a while, not sure how many years but it's enough to have a couple kids that are in school together. They got engaged last year when she asked him around Christmas after posting subtle hints she wanted it on fb for years (she would literally comment on other people getting engaged, including my own with my late husband, that maybe it was "her turn" soon too). He broke up with her shortly after bc he met a new, younger woman. W… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 06:30 PM |
| 64 | Excessive video game usage might be a red flag for a bizarre porn addictionAfter reading this I think I might have recently had someone try to get me into this. I had to block this guy I played an fps with because I refused to play this MMO he liked and he would not stop whining about it. He had recently found out I was a woman and changed completely. I never voice chatted with him but I finally mentioned it in chat after months bc I didn't think he would be a creep. Big mistake. I just said I don't really enjoy grinding in games and I didn't want to waste hours hangin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 03:12 AM |
| 116 | He (27M) revealed he was a virgin…You're fine. The issue with men that are older virgins is that they generally either have massive issues that chased most women away once discovered or they have filled that space with porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 10:10 PM |
| 62 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.Oh I follow her!! She actually put out a vid pretty recently discussing her dream man. The requirements were that she found him attractive, he treated her well, and that he had a good personality. She definitely implied she walks away from anyone who couldn’t hit that which is awesome coming from this video, but there was a lvm in her comments crying about how she wouldn’t go for a broke guy if he had all of those and she gave a pretty pickmeisha response to placate him lol. I think she would do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:45 AM |
| 826 | Another red flag from Chris Pratt’s captionOutside of the shitty “joke” caption, what is the deal with men posting unflattering photos of their partner for special days? I’ve seen other celebrities do it (Ryan Reynolds with Blake Lively comes to mind) but I also know several men in my real life that do it almost every time. I have a relative who has literally cried out of embarrassment and he continues!! It just feels so unnecessary because it’s never a goofy photo of both, it’s just the woman that looks bad. We’re judged so harshly over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:37 PM |
| 100 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesI would say no. I might make an exception for someone who was divorced with kids and they had an appropriate relationship, but I also don’t plan on dating a divorced man even though they are (for some reason) the popular choice for my fellow widows. I have personally never seen anything good come from men that keep all of their exes close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:30 AM |
| 4 | Omg lol. Scrote husband spends 4 hours a day several days a week doing online therapy. More like porn/cam girls, video games, or both. The audacity. I just can’t 😂😂I'm having a hard time believing she actually thinks he is going to therapy. My husband died out of nowhere and I still didn't have multiple 4 hour therapy sessions a week, that is wild and would be too expensive and unnecessary for any regular person. Tbh I've never even heard of anything over an hour or two. Idk what he's doing, but it's clearly nothing good. She's doing herself no favors by endlessly letting him walk all over her. He's quick to bring up that it's a shared space so he has the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 06:48 PM |
| 310 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.Fucking insane. I hate that I've corrected people in my actual life over this too. Do I like or support cheating? Obviously not. I've been cheated on. I never considered murder because that's a throughly unacceptable response. You deserve to be broken up with, not to have your life ended. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 04:51 PM |
| 35 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”It’s a big 💖NO💖 from me. I’ve thought about this quite a bit and imo these types of men have already established they only care about you conditionally. You have to be in their set box or you barely register as a person to them, and maintaining your status as “good” isn’t worth it. You are going to age. You are (probably) going to gain weight. You could develop health issues down the line that change your appearance in a way that’s not traditionally considered attractive. I would never trust it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:34 PM |
| 16 | Bachelor Party And Strip ClubsA man that loves and values you doesn't need to be instructed to call out other men for being disrespectful, and he definitely does not get angry at you for feeling unsafe and unhappy about disrespect. If he cannot be trusted to make relatively easy choices and is willing to lie to cover things up then he is not someone you need to be marrying. HVM do not remain friends with l/nvm for long periods of time, so if you see one or more in their group take it for the big red flag that it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 02:09 AM |
| 92 | Confiding in your boyfriend about how other men sometimes do bad things is apparently "crazy". Men shouldn't "stick their dick in crazy", or do, because that's all women are good for, but don't ever have a relationship with themThe more likely story is that he finally dropped the act or just slipped up with his “NOT ALL MENNNN” attitude and she broke up with him. At least he got to lie for internet points! 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 01:37 AM |
| 6 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I used to be utterly repulsed by it due to SA as a younger teen and then a couple of nasty boyfriends, but I enjoyed it a lot with my late spouse and did it for him almost every time we had sex. I thought it was fun to see his reactions and he never did anything remotely disrespectful or degrading to me during or after. I also don’t really have an issue with jaw pain (and he was around 7.5 inches so not small lol) which I can totally understand makes it even more unappealing for a lot of women. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 08:24 PM |
| 6 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?Oh no, that is so creepy and I hate that you had to deal with that!! I’ve also had a man pull the astrology excuse out. Like being a Gemini is not a good excuse for being abusive and rpey. I do not care that they “always get what they want” 🙄 I don’t blame you for cutting anyone into it out, I *like astrology but it is absolutely one of those things that are a red flag in men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 08:06 PM |
| 6 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?Yes, he was a great man and a wonderful and thoughtful husband to me 🥰 I’m going to miss him for the rest of my life. People really are so much more! Unfortunately it seems like a lot of men that get fixated on their MBTI exclusively leave it at that and just fully embody the worst of it. I would love to see more healthy and decent men from that typing, but I guess they just don’t bother with it online which makes sense. They probably need more than an echo chamber of male depravity 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 07:56 PM |
| 13 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?That’s the thing that kills me with them, it’s incel trash in the facebook groups too. They hide behind softboy uwu personalities and it is incredibly annoying. The women, as usual, are great. Some pickmes but usually just really cool ladies that are unfortunately sharing space with a bunch of losers that hate them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 07:19 PM |
| 47 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?I have heard it and I think it’s funny 😆 My late husband was an INTJ who was absolutely brilliant and hardworking while still managing to be extremely loving, gentle, and romantic with me which is bizarre if you ever join INTJ groups. So full of men pretending they are the smartest ever and feeling superior for being shitty humans that possess no emotional intelligence and treat women like garbage. You are dead on that the majority are very LV. They are among my least favorite of the types that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 09:00 AM |
| 129 | What's up with the dislike towards MBTI?I think the issue is that women tend to actually take something positive away from it and use it for self improvement while men seem to move toward using it as an excuse to be awful and justify their bad traits as you touched on. I've spent some time in various groups relating to different MBTI types (I'm an ENFP 😊) and it might just be that it was fb, but I found them to be absolute cesspools full of terrible men that hid behind their type and posted typical LVM garbage. I don't believe there i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 07:35 AM |
| 192 | Very weird pre-date invite condition/terms given. Thoughts? Anyone else come across this before?He just wants casual sex lol. Wanting to “see how you vibe” is usually a good indication, the need to emphasize physical connection confirmed it. Once you learn to spot it these types usually write pretty identically. I also personally wouldn’t accept a drink date. It’s low effort and not very safe for you, which are both things a HVM would avoid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 08:03 AM |
| 24 | Masturbation requires porn apparentlyCry harder, pickme. You don't get to set the standard for relationships you are not a part of when you can't even set a boundary for yourself without worrying about a man's feelings. Also seconding that masturbation does not require porn. Having to see barely legal anal to feel anything because they are so damaged from addiction is a newer development 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 11:02 PM |
| 94 | The level of mental gymnastics hereI’m someone who is a very young widow and these kinds of posts irritate me to no end. A lot of my friends were shocked and horrified when I lost my guy, but it got fucking old to hear about how it made them appreciate their LVM boyfriends and husbands more and they thought about little things like this with appreciation because of my situation. NO. You do not need to be grateful that your “partner” is around to inconvenience and never help you around the house or with your kids just because othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 05:38 AM |
| 119 | I don’t really have words for this one.Wtf lmao 😬 I don’t want to laugh because that’s just unfortunate, but men never fail at doing the most bizarre things to ruin their lives. I’m shocked she’s so concerned about shaming him, he’s literally trying to alter himself so he won’t find her sexually attractive ever again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:27 AM |
| 125 | Sex work is always coercion, there is never true consent.I got into the biggest fight with a pickme over this at one point, and I hate that I still think about it and feel frustrated. She was so pissed that people felt this way because she was personally a prostitute and didn’t feel she was taken advantage of and even considered some of her clients friends 💀 Which… fine, whatever, but she followed this up with NOT BELIEVING SEX WORKERS WERE EVER R*PED. Instead they called it that because they had engrained puritanical values and couldn’t handle the sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 08:50 AM |
| 82 | I love it when the trash takes itself outAlways just block and delete if you’re not interested. The more I see other women’s experiences and recall my own the more I believe that letting them know you don’t want to see them again is an opening for them to fixate on your rejection and get even worse. Best case scenario they call you awful names for daring to not be interested, worst they download your pictures and attempt to stalk you online/irl with what you’ve provided (I’ve seen this happen a lot, including one guy finding my Faceboo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 02:23 AM |
| 21 | The Power of ✨Allowing Men To Feel Needed✨I was particularly confused about the hormones bit. I have had mine tested and thanks to PCOS my hormones are wack and will probably remain that way, no amount of my husband’s testosterone was ever going to suddenly make it change. There’s not a whole lot I can do about it, but I can definitely still feel genuine love (or I could a year ago when my spouse was alive 🤣). I don’t hate this post, but some of these are very weird takes. Women with hormonal issues aren’t broken or less able to fall in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:37 AM |
| 89 | “This whole marriage feels like a business transaction…” ladies this is why we don’t settle for 50/50 low effortTrue 50/50 will never exist, particularly if giving birth/raising children is something you’re planning on. It’s just an excuse for LVM to ask for more and give less. She will always end up overextending herself in an effort to be “fair”. I can’t imagine having two children by a man that will happily let them sit in a dirty diaper because it’s not his turn. 🙄 There is no changing this. He will never accept a relationship where he has to try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 3 | And this is why you should NEVER allow yourself to become financially dependent on a man.That’s a really good point! I thought that line did sound a bit like “what’s some random generic thing a woman would sell… idk, shoes and purses?”🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:17 AM |
| 88 | And this is why you should NEVER allow yourself to become financially dependent on a man.I would not be shocked if a man wrote this. I’ve seen lot of posts like this going around on fb lately (even one from a fake FDS sub) that scream fake but get a lot of outrage comments because “GOLD DIGGER” lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:07 AM |
| 18 | It's amazing to me how anyone can justify manipulation!The man in the replies is awful and hopefully has sex with no one because that’s a scary mindset. He definitely does not understand boundaries despite insisting he does. Saying “I will never want to do this” is enough. It does not matter if the conversation happened years ago, you should not be having to constantly remind someone or they assume you’ve totally changed your mind. Particularly in a game he created where you aren’t allowed to refuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:29 PM |
| 19 | It was too good to be true.Everyone would've just moved to a new platform and it would still be a thing. OF just realized they are nothing without being able to exploit women themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:56 PM |
| 43 | Congrats scrotes! Your screeching into the void and constant harrassment of FDS and its members has continued to propel us to the front page!They love double standards. They can talk about how much they'd love to hurt or k*ll women and if anyone calls them out "IT'S A JOKE BITCH". Meanwhile everything on FDS is apparently just straight up advocating for male genocide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:34 AM |
| 18 | Congrats scrotes! Your screeching into the void and constant harrassment of FDS and its members has continued to propel us to the front page!As the other comment said, please consider making a separate account. It's not very safe to use your main. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:33 AM |
| 24 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...For real. Instead she’s not very far above the poverty line. It’s almost impossible to make any kind of living doing OF and you’re also opening yourself up to so many awful things. It’s not worth it and most women make absolutely minuscule amounts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 07:07 AM |
| 47 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...Honestly? I personally wouldn’t. I care a lot about my friend, but I don’t talk about my feelings about it unless she brings it up first (she’s very open about being anti-porn in relationships because she knows it’s unhealthy which kind of makes me laugh considering what she does lol). It’s not my life so it’s not my decision to make. It might sound harsh, but I wouldn’t worry about her, and if we were less close I would probably cut her out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 02:20 AM |
| 149 | Need resources to show 22 year old friend that making porn on OnlyFans for money and “empowerment” isn’t a good idea...I have a friend that is somewhere around the top 5% of all women on OF (she might have moved up recently, I haven’t asked). She genuinely doesn’t make that much per month, and her mental health has taken an obvious hit. Assuming your friend even had the luck to make it toward the top it is not going to be the easy and glamorous lifestyle it is portrayed to be. Selling hundreds of vulnerable pictures and videos of yourself for $5 a month that a scrote will inevitably screenshot and share is horri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 01:52 AM |
| 204 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.For most of them, probably not. There’s always women that marry these guys and say they completely changed for them, but I’m always suspicious of the issues they secretly have going in the background that they are either unaware of or pretend doesn’t bug them. Most common is probably porn addiction, but I think you’re also more likely to be cheated on when you’re dealing with someone that spent ages looking at women as living sex toys. I would never feel secure with a “recovered” fuckboy unless … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:22 PM |
| 51 | Tiktok "challenges" that could get you killedI’m actually on the man’s side, wtf. That’s just inappropriate and gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:06 PM |
| 136 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?They just aren’t very common because tbh it’s easier for men to just grow up into degenerates. I was lucky to meet my late husband at 19 via OLD (do not take this as me supporting OLD because 99% of the time it won’t work out for you, he did not enjoy it and was about to quit after a couple of days). You are not abnormal. All of my friends married or are dating LVM, and although my guy has wonderful seemingly HVM friends they are also already married or very serious about someone. I became a wid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:31 AM |
| 35 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sHe later starved to death 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:38 PM |
| 48 | Is she high maintenance tho?Men that immediately let you know they don’t “believe” in holidays are red flags and should be left behind. I know he’s manipulated and been an ass to her for a while now, but I’m shocked none of her family or friends didn’t shame him for skipping birthdays and Christmas. She’s doing too much and receiving nothing. She even established it didn’t need to be expensive so he literally just doesn’t think she’s worth a $10 bear or the time and effort of making something thoughtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:56 PM |
| 52 | LVM who share their relationship trauma with youThis is really nice to hear tbh. I’m usually quick to out that I’m a widow and I blocked a man a few months ago because he instantly took it as a reason to unload his life’s trauma and attempted to pry more info out of me about mine. I told him he should go to therapy and that I did not plan to save him from himself. He said “I guess I am looking to be saved, but maybe we could save each other? 🥺” I blocked him immediately after because 🤢 It just screamed predatory af but I felt mean after even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:50 AM |
| 27 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....It’s nice to never have to see “As a man, (insert NOT ALL MEN DO THIS, I DON’T DO THIS or something completely irrelevant/inappropriate for the conversation)” here. When the topic is on women it’s not hard to understand that men have little that’s meaningful to add and I wish more subs and Facebook groups would just cut them off. They do not need to jump into everything and constantly expect women to sanitize their own experiences so they don’t feel called out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:37 AM |
| 95 | Men constantly reminding us we're unsafe even in spaces for grief 😍It had mostly laugh reacts and men admitting to it so you're 100% right. I cringe thinking about what their late wives put up with. I just left the group because even if every single one of these dudes got booted I wouldn't have felt comfortable staying. I'm in other (better) groups so I've not lost a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 11:49 PM |
| 293 | Men constantly reminding us we're unsafe even in spaces for grief 😍The comments were full of men saying "You don't have to call me out like that!" ITS A GROUP ABOUT HOW SAD YOU ARE THAT YOUR SPOUSE DIED YOU CREEP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:35 PM |
| 52 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Thank you, he was wonderful and I wish we’d had more time together! 🥰 I passed the first year pretty recently and I had spoken about it in the group. I think this guy saw it and was hoping I was an absolute mess that he could easily prey on which is really scummy for a variety of reasons. I’m glad that he was quickly removed after I reported him and it ended up just being a funny story I could share with y’all and my parents 🤣 Kind of sucks to think some poor lady probably went to the grave “ear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:14 AM |
| 211 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?A widower in one of my grief groups reached out and asked if I would be interested in speaking to him. I said sure because he didn't seem too bad, although he was at least 35 so I knew I would not date him if that was what he was trying. We had a chat that night and he asked me some odd and invasive questions about my late husband (I'm a really young widow so I get it, but it got weird. We're a big target for scammers anyway) and then he made a comment about how my chronic illness wasn't a good … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 08:49 PM |
| 42 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about usThese fanfics about us are weird. I'm genuinely not sure what someone stands to gain from lying. People will tell him to leave and that she's wrong, but she doesn't even exist (I've never seen anyone talk like that here despite her apparently living on this sub lol). Does he just want to imagine what he would do if he had a chance with one of us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:00 PM |
| 4 | No post has ever made my blood boil this much. This man treats his disabled GF like a servant and wont even keep a CHAIR FOR HER TO SIT IN. Women need to be taught from birth that its better to be alone your whole life than put up with a man who doesn't give a fuck about you!!You are totally right. No one should be treated this poorly in general, but women are particularly vulnerable to abuse when they aren’t as able bodied as people think they should be. I guess it’s because we are generally viewed as the “responsible” partners in relationships that hold everything together and put in the majority of household and emotional labor, so if she’s not doing enough she’s worthless to him and the man is right to leave. It’s disgusting and sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:04 AM |
| 133 | No post has ever made my blood boil this much. This man treats his disabled GF like a servant and wont even keep a CHAIR FOR HER TO SIT IN. Women need to be taught from birth that its better to be alone your whole life than put up with a man who doesn't give a fuck about you!!Lol at the redditors calling her a leach when she’s obviously not (although it sucks because I can tell by her edit it got to her). Her “boyfriend” is a loser manchild and I’m willing to bet the people being an ass to her in the comments are as well. I genuinely feel like as soon as a woman says she’s disabled on this website they are required to tell her how much of a burden she is and that she deserves no help or support. Just based off of this one post she absolutely does more than 50/50, and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:51 PM |
| 8 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatHow lucky for her 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:16 PM |
| 130 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatI would've paid for my half and walked out. We never would've spoken again and I definitely wouldn't be dating him. Why does it always seem like pickmes use "our first date lasted sooooo many hours, we were so into each other!!" Like... clearly not? At the end he left you sitting there looking like a fool to play some weird mental game that not only made you feel pressured, but also put their server in a bad spot. He's trashy, but at least she got picked I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Man creates Chatbot AI of dead girlfriend (link in post) - What do y'all think of tis? Is it high-value to be so in love with your girlfriend you'd immortalize her after death? Or is it more on the creepy side? I'd love to get an FDS perspective on this 🤔The goal with partner loss should be moving forward in a healthy way. I don't believe in telling someone to move on because imo it just doesn't work like that, but after reading into this idk. I lost my husband in my very early 20s and we only got a handful of years together so I really do sympathize, but I do not think this is a healthy way of dealing with it. You can't erase your past and I think a lot of survivors would not want to, but when I tracked down an article on this (for some reason … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:14 PM |
| 3 | Glorifying toxic codependent pick-me relationships under the disguise of "Twin Flames"I think they are better as background noise than anything. I feel you on the breakup stuff although I didn't break up with my guy. It was becoming an unhealthy coping mechanism even outside of the twin flame stuff that got mixed in and I had them on constantly. I wouldn't trust most men that are into that 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 7 | Gift back?I personally would not unless the gift is still in your home or wasn't officially given. I let my ex keep everything I got for him outside of a copy of Fallout: New Vegas that I still had in my house. He threw a fit over it because "But you said you'd let me have it 😢😔" and I was just like "Idk but you never took it before this so you're not taking it now lmao sorry you cheated I guess" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:51 PM |
| 42 | Am I overreacting?While I do understand where you're coming from, OP seems to have explicitly said she did not want him to message so he should not have. I can't say if he was just trying to be polite by checking in, but I'm honestly reading it more as "Are you done being sick so you can entertain me" lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:10 PM |
| 34 | Glorifying toxic codependent pick-me relationships under the disguise of "Twin Flames"It gets worse!!! When my husband died I started watching a lot of tarot reading YouTube videos. Partly because they are usually really long and I liked to stare up at the ceiling and hope for a sign, but also I like tarot lol. Eventually the algorithm started shoving twin flame stuff at me and I had to stop watching all of it because it left me with a very uncomfortable feeling. The way twin flames are almost always described just sounds fucking awful. I listened to way too many videos where wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 06:07 AM |
| 82 | Got downvoted for suggesting this woman may have been raped rather than cheated:That's very sad to read and it does sound that way. Redditors love to see women suffering so they wouldn't appreciate any sympathy. It's more fun to label her a cheating slut that deserves nothing or to talk about how if it were sexual assault she still didn't handle it right. Maybe he should learn to COmmUNicATe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 05:52 AM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InA pickme actually managed to get under my skin today and I'm still... ugh. She said she was a sex worker and was going off on a facebook post calling everyone agreeing with it swerfs. It wasn't even about the women, it was about the men buying sex/sexual content being predatory. She also had to tell everyone she didn't believe in sex workers being r*ped and they probably just felt guilty because of puritanical values 🙄 I honestly don't even know what to say. I just wanted to get this out somewhe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 08:03 PM |
| 129 | The extreme danger of not having boundaries. TW/AssaultI'm horrified and sad for her because this will undoubtedly be something she remembers and is scared about for a long time, but I'm also kind of mad??? I read posts like this and I wonder what made her think so poorly of herself that when he immediately disrespected her and her belongings (dumping her bag out) she went "yeah that's weird but okay, let's reward that with sex"? GIRL LEAVE. WHY AREN'T YOU LEAVING? Even when I was a pickme teenager that would've had me heated. I'm so, so glad she ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:12 AM |
| 6 | “Lonely angry sad wanna-be masters of control” Starter PackNever met an INFP man that didn't fit that myself. They think so highly of themselves while also being absolute manchildren. Also 90% of them either said they were or gave the strong vibes of being a softboy which I just find annoying lol I'm an ENFP so maybe I'm not meant to vibe with it, idk 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:32 PM |
| 25 | The only advice needed is to break up, delete and block the liarI wouldn't be surprised, I feel like a lot of these extremely dramatic relationship posts are fake. I don't think this scenario is 100% impossible, but OP would've had to have been oblivious and had never spent the night with him which seems weird and unlikely for two people that are about to get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:12 AM |
| 234 | The only advice needed is to break up, delete and block the liarI'm confused on how he was managing to take care of a whole child (since she was "abandoned") while still maintaining a relationship and she never even suspected it. Either way, if he's capable of hiding a complete extra person that he will 100% expect her to be half the parent for then he is capable of lying about literally everything. No trust to be had there ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 64 | How can you deal with celibacy & accept it?I’ll admit I’ve never had a hookup to even know what I’m missing, but since my husband died I have had the most aggressive sex drive that made me consider it over and over (particularly because I fell into a lot of groups that like to encourage a “widhoe” phase lmao). I eventually decided that I had toys that weren’t going to ignore my needs, expose me to diseases, or secretly record me. I couldn’t guarantee that by inviting a stranger to have sex with me. Now I just masturbate or distract mysel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 06:30 PM |
| 997 | Yessssssss Queen!The audacity of telling someone you want nothing romantically with them but still expecting them to stand and wait for you until you maybe change your mind. Men are truly something. Happy for her 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 07:22 AM |
| 131 | Men actually hate us. I found these comments on a video where they complain that women can’t find ‘economically desirable men’ and they tell men not to get married.It's amazing how they can talk about how men should be judged on their personality and character traits while also going on about how they judge women exclusively on their youth/attractiveness/purity. It's even worse when you realize the personality they generally offer is "porn addict that's emotionally avoidant and plays video games like they are a full time job" AND a large number of women just accept that and will love them unconditionally anyway (assuming they aren't cheated on and left bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 04:12 AM |
| 222 | Difference between a great man and a garbageI always feel a little bit bad for men that look at things like this and immediately go to "Oh BUT HE DIDN'T GET HIS DICK WET THO" like buddy I'm sure he's not at the hospital harassing his friend for sex?? Assuming he's even straight, I'm positive going on a date/getting something out of her is not at the top of his priority list right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 03:37 AM |
| 36 | Literally Was Just Talking Abt this To My BFFI can’t stand being stared at and if I heard an exchange like this going down I would lose it. When this kind of behavior is reported the men should be kicked out ASAP because they are making it an unsafe environment for everyone there. No one is going to the gym to get rated on how fuckable they are by some random perverts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 02:49 PM |
| 37 | Disgusting scrote sought out SA survivor to fulfill his “kink.” Reason #485949 to NEVER reveal your trauma to a man when you first start dating. ALWAYS vet for this behavior! I hope she leaves his ass for good!100% NEVER out traumas like this to anyone you have not been seeing for a while. If you feel the need to vent on Reddit about it use a throwaway and always assume anyone that messages gets off on the idea of you being assaulted. It's not much of a jump because men genuinely do scroll through women's posts on various subs to jerk off to our issues and pain. If they say they are a woman assume they are lying. Honestly don't even form any kind of relationship/ friendship with anyone on Reddit (alth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 01:25 AM |
| 271 | I don’t know if you’ve guys have seen this account. But it’s literally just the husband “simping” over his wife even after 24 years of marriage. And I’m down for it, it’s so bloody cute.It made me cry because it reminded me so much of my relationship with my late husband (we never got to grow older together, he never even gets to turn 30 😢) You are sooooo right! I just can't settle for anything less than the bar he set. It feels disrespectful to both of us to imagine tolerating some gross scrote now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 03:26 PM |
| 289 | Male neighbor invited me to his daughter's birthday--red flag?It makes me sad to think that if this was asked anywhere else on Reddit you would be told you’re being dramatic and need to let this guy into your life. This is weird, and your intuition is something you should never ignore. He might not be a murderer, but he definitely could be trouble. Idk who invites a random grown woman to your 16 year old’s birthday party??? Like she probably doesn’t want to hang out with an adult that is also a complete stranger (assuming she even exists and he’s not tryin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:04 AM |
| 890 | And people were praising his honesty 🤡🤡🤡.This is just nasty. I see nothing to praise as it was 100% unnecessary for him to say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 04:42 AM |
| 172 | Posted this on another sub and people defended this dude. Is this not weird behavior?I guess if you're at an event and an attractive man is there or you watch a movie with someone better looking than him you're a cheater. The best part is that he probably watches porn and sees no issue with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 02:31 AM |
| 174 | Girl, just no. And of course he’s turning 40 and she’s early 20s!!! Nooooo.Damn, why is she so worried if he has a happy birthday? He's hid her existence from his family for 2 years and she can't even celebrate with them together because he's shady. Maybe a wife? Regardless she deserves more than a secret boyfriend that's double her age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 02:25 AM |
| 10 | How do you ladies feel about friends that prioritize their boyfriends?It really depends on how much you value your friendship, but tbh I cut off my oldest and best friend for garbage behavior like this so I honestly feel it's never really worth it. Even if they break up that person has shown that they will never prioritize your plans or be reliable the second they get with someone else. That's why a lot of pickmes don't have many friends that are women (if they have any at all). HVW will not ditch you or be constantly changing plans and disrespecting your time. Ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Cheers sis! You doged a bullet and his MGTOW friendI'm very tired of these guys that see any woman into "nerd culture" 🙄🙄🙄 and immediately start gatekeeping with a bunch of obscure questions that are irrelevant to someone's enjoyment or just outright assuming it's a lie to impress a man. I like this stuff because it's fun, and I do know a lot of neat facts, but it's not necessary to join in. I just can't understand the logic of "let's harass nice women with similar interests to me, this LYING GOLD DIGGER CLEARLY JUST MADE THIS UP TO GET A DATE" … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 09:04 PM |
| 11 | Posting Low Effort Memes and Screenshots makes you a LVW [Controversial]For sure. I've seen several women say they don't share their good experiences with men here because someone will jump in to mention that he's 100% secretly LV. I even feel weird talking about my HVM late husband and he's not alive, so I know he's not coming back from the dead to cheat on me or something lol. I think it was mentioned in the last warning post that a lot of women from deleted subs came here (and I guess they were fairly hostile toward FDS so it's not shocking they are still not in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 09:50 PM |
| 102 | If you want a "traditional" woman...The overlap of men that want tradwives but are terrified of gold diggers is just... something... idk how to even express my confusion. Like you want a woman at home doing housework and raising the children, but you also somehow expect her to be bringing in 50% of the household income while still making time to be your always enthusiastic human fleshlight? I don't see how anyone could actually manage that lifestyle unless they are already from a wealthy family and she's just pulling from that (me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 04:55 AM |
| 83 | I know most of us know the pitfalls of pursuing age gap relationship, but would you pursue a friendship with someone in an age gap relationship?My best friend since childhood is in a relationship with a man that's around 45 (she's 22) and although I thought she was a pickme before she has become worse since getting with him. It was a year of her having super problematic behavior (including skipping my husband's FUNERAL and ditching me to console him about his divorce) to her giving my location to an actual incel and putting me in danger because she thinks everyone should date some old scrote. They will erode your boundaries because they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 06:52 PM |
| 4 | Typical OLD scrote wants his sex NOW and will cheat if he doesn't get it!Talking poorly about other women's standards to bond with him is an interesting choice. He wasn't worth engaging with just by the profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 09:25 PM |
| 24 | And then everyone clapped! Do they seriously spend time and energy roleplaying and making accounts so they make us look bad?? 😂I knew it was a man from the first message, I’m shocked they think a woman wrote these? That’s not to say it’s impossible, but I find it extremely unlikely. You can go anywhere on the internet where men routinely bully tf out of each other and read identical aggressive messages like these. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 07:18 PM |
| 24 | Legit fucking terrifying that men like this exist.My heart hurts most for his girlfriend. I was that teenager that would always put my boyfriend’s weird and harmful kinks over my own safety and happiness. It’s so bad for your mental health and the fact that the comments are mostly going to be like “Oh well she’s cool with it so keep doing it!” is just depressing. He needs help, but she also needs to get away before he hurts her. I hope he can change for the better, but Reddit is just going to beat it into him that this is normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 08:51 PM |
| 28 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.This was all the same person? :( I feel really bad for her even though she could’ve saved herself a lot of heartache by loving herself enough to call it toward the start of these issues. I hope she gets into therapy and learns that she’s worth so much more than some loser manchild that can’t commit and hates spending time around her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 02:56 PM |
| 116 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒Not a whole lot makes me actually laugh, but when I saw this I couldn't help it lmaoooo 🤣 Mods, I love y'all. I love that FDS makes men like this SO MAD but I cannot imagine the garbage you have to go through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:23 PM |
| 47 | For the women that have been told the lie of “you’ll die single and alone” for not conforming to what men what you to beFor sure. I'm was widowed at 21 and I get approached by older men a lot. I have no interest in anyone over like 8 years older than me. One of my biggest concerns is being a double widow (assuming I met another HVM which I have not so far). I don't know why anyone would think I would find it appealing to outlive another man I loved by decades | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 23 | When They’ve BEEN Ghosted Before 👻Every man I ever encountered on OLD that complained about being regularly ghosted 100% deserved it. It definitely is an attempt at manipulation, but it's just so silly for them to even try to guilt you over it. It's not your fault or your problem. For any men reading this, a woman you've never met irl and that you've barely spoken to online unmatching did not ghost you, there was no relationship in the first place and you've lost nothing 🙄 Even if you've went out a few times and she just suddenl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 12:26 PM |
| 51 | How to stick to practicing celibacyThat's so scary, I'm so sorry. I got one of the high risk versions of HPV when I was r*ped and it's genuinely awful. I feel very lucky it didn't turn into more. I feel so sick when I see people write it off as "Oh, well a lot of the population gets it at some point!" 😓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:00 AM |
| 65 | Just started talking to this guy on Hinge (28M) and he's already tryna make me (22F) his motherHe wants to date and have an intimate relationship with his mother? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:23 AM |
| 149 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Right? I was thinking that for most of the women here he wouldn't make it past step 2 and it made me laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:41 AM |
| 4 | Guide to Dating Single DadsOkay, awesome! I was a little confused and was trying to word it in a way that (hopefully) didn’t seem rude. I shouldn’t try to respond when I haven’t slept 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 11:45 AM |
| 7 | Guide to Dating Single DadsPerhaps I'm not understanding, but I'm not looking for someone that's already at the level of trust and understanding as my marriage was at by the end, that definitely would be unreasonable. I am looking for someone that can bring the same energy and enthusiasm he did when we met, which is honestly just in line with HVM behavior. I'm not looking for my husband in other people, but he did set a standard I absolutely will not allow anyone else to slide under. If he could treat me well from the sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 08:08 AM |
| 42 | Guide to Dating Single DadsThis!!!!! I'm a "baby" widow because I was 21 when my husband died, and although I think I would prefer to date someone who gets it, the amount of widowers I've met that are either obsessed with their late spouse and want you to basically become her or are weirdly aggressive about the death is so high. I had a man hit me up at one point with a very similar story to my own and ngl it was so suspicious. Like he went on about how she was kind of a bad person and she deserved it because they never w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:02 PM |
| 31 | Pickmeisha behavior does not pay off...a case studyThis is where wanting to get married just so you can say you're married and feel like you were picked gets you. I know y'all don't need to be told, but it's not a crime to want a piece of jewelry you're going to wear for the rest of your life to not be garbage. That's not to say there aren't beautiful rings that go for less, because I fell in love with my $300 ring over ones that were far more expensive, but that's not even what's happening here. He's showing her things she hates so he's not lis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 05:52 AM |
| 34 | Has anyone else had this pop up on their Instagram feed being promoted by influencers? I don't even really know what to say. It appears to be a new dating app with a "bedroom feature" where you select your preferences.Why even put vanilla as an option? People would just hound you for not being open minded enough if that was the only thing you picked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:07 PM |
| 6 | What's with youtubers and their hate boner for women? And as women, why do many of us seem to brush it off?It really depends on what you're looking for! I watch quite a few people who play the Sims (Like Lilsimsie as long as you overlook her boyfriend/kind of fiance, idk how easy this will be once he moves to America and they get married tho) and a lot of historical fashion stuff that started because I'm into corsetry (Karolina Żebrowska and Bernadette Banner come to mind) I have a bunch but it's mostly all fashion and life simulators 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 11:27 PM |
| 109 | What's with youtubers and their hate boner for women? And as women, why do many of us seem to brush it off?I’m over it. I’d say 90% of the content I watch on YouTube is created by women now. Even with male creators that seem wholesome I have to acknowledge at some point they are probably going to say something awful or have something very shady from their past come out. The gaming channels are among the worst (I don’t wear makeup although I know that community is a dumpster fire) and I’ve had to unsubscribe from men I watched for years because I was just tired. I refuse to defend a man that hates and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:19 PM |
| 23 | If you ever needed another reason to hate Vice - FDS principles apply to WLW dating too; treating women the way men treat us just isn’t it.I used to report them until I realized that nothing would be done, and even if that couple was banned there would be several more to take their place. The one that genuinely ended it for me was a (seemingly) awesome woman I meshed with. We chatted for a few days and she did the dreaded “How are you still single?” so I told her my husband passed away and I was just getting back into things. She said “I have a friend that wants to have another girl join us if you miss being with a man” and I cried… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:21 AM |
| 58 | If you ever needed another reason to hate Vice - FDS principles apply to WLW dating too; treating women the way men treat us just isn’t it.I just quit OLD a couple days ago over this. I am bi as well and I figured I could at least meet HVW, but I had the same experience as you. Straight women looking for a unicorn to appease their scrote or just hookups in general. I feel a little bad about it because I live in the middle of nowhere so actually meeting someone organically through activities isn't a thing, but I'm also not desperate enough to deal with it. Dating apps are 99% LV folks and pickmeishas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:23 PM |
| 97 | Remember, men have no problem using you for relationship benefits until they find someone betterI hope she doesn't feel bad about him for long. I know it's weird when you know someone's an awful person but everyone seems to love him, but that's just because you've outlived your usefulness to him and in turn he showed who he really is. He won't do that to regular friends/women he hasn't slept with yet/coworkers etc because there would be actual consequences for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 07:34 PM |
| 59 | Scrote is jealous of his girlfriend’s dogs…He's been with her for 8 months so it's not like this is a new thing. If it were a real issue he would've left ASAP, but he probably stays because of sex and the luxuries of having a gf. He's only mad because she cares about and spends money on something that's not him. (This is assuming he's not just exaggerating to get more people on his side.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 07:36 PM |
| 148 | Of course all the men are saying how much they LOVE it when a woman asks them out...we know the truth, ladies 🙄Scrotes always flood the comments on posts like this saying how much they admire this and would love it if it happened to them irl, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen a post where approaching the man worked out. I think this was at least one of the nicer ones because he wasn’t outright shitty to her, but that adorable comment makes me feel weird (idk why, it just seems inappropriate somehow?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:39 PM |
| 236 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?We're supposed to be allowed to choose who we have sex with, but also if you don't have sex with every single man that wants to you should die apparently? The only ones that sound like incels here are not the women of FDS. You are allowed to not want to date or see anyone for ANY reason. Attempting to shame and coerce someone into anything sexual is r*pe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Men believe that women exist solely for their sexual pleasure. Vet carefully - if he doesn’t appreciate women’s art/music/literature it shows what he thinks of you.My dad introduced me to several of my favorite artists and they were predominantly women, but my first long term boyfriend couldn’t stand listening to women sing and would just go on about men because they were “better and don’t sing about whiny shit” which is so stupid and untrue anyway? I still can’t believe I suffered through two years of that because I was singing professionally at the time and was really successful with it, so he might as well have just been telling me over and over that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:20 AM |
| 5 | So guys do expect you to be a live in maid just because they earn more than you do. Nevermind the fact that if he lived alone he would still have to do them.Any time I see “I’m low maintenance” or “I’m a minimalist!!!” I know they are going to be trash. He makes over 3 times as much as she does and won’t just hire a maid or something while also clearly holding it over her head? The only things he lists as something he handles are not things you have to do every single day, while the things he expects his wife to handle exclusively are? Also lol @ “I gave up my youth suffering and she didn’t, WIFE BAD” like oml dude. Treat your damn wife better, you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:51 AM |
| 16 | Can we talk about this concept for a minute and why it should bother you as a woman?I love gifts so you know I'm a golD DIgGer Seriously, though, it really is unnecessary. Most men weaponize it with "I'M PHYSICAL AFFECTION GIVE ME SEX WHEN I WANT IT OR YOU DON'T LOVE MEEEEEE" and never actually use it in a decent way or take yours into account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 06:53 AM |
| 81 | Too little too late. I know him but not his wife, and all I could do was shrug and say "you go sis". Hope he really learned that lesson. He earned this.He's not sorry he lost his "best friend". He's sorry he's losing the lifestyle his wife provided for him and he's realizing he's going to have to take care of himself now. If someone is really your best friend you're not going to make a bunch of pixels your full time job while occasionally cleaning a dish or something (I know his version of helping around the house is probably the absolute minimum). You want to be around them, and you don't want to make their life harder. I'm so glad she left!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 09:33 PM |
| 14 | I hate this! (TW, abuse, r pe)I don’t know why, but when he jumped into her seat at the end after she’d obviously done her best to scoot as far away from him as she could I had to cringe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:53 AM |
| 45 | Porn, and the patriarchy, has truly destroyed morality because now NVM engaging nec*ophilia should not be KiNK SHaMeD.He’d “never once thought of seeking out the real thing!!!” but was desperate af to see the pictures when OP brought it up? Definitely the move of someone who would just hate to see it. 🙄 He’s a liar, and that’s not even close to being the biggest issue with this NVM. No amount of communication is going to change him into a decent human. I hope she runs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:23 AM |
| 12 | Bumble BFF is full of pickmeishas, MLM scammers and wannabe “influencers” 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏽♀️Oh no! I chose Gemini because a lot of people just hate that sign for no particular reason. I usually don’t mesh well with the men, but I promise you’re not a bad person for being born in a certain period of time! That’s such a weird thing to decide to not give someone a job over! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:42 AM |
| 37 | Bumble BFF is full of pickmeishas, MLM scammers and wannabe “influencers” 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️🙋🏽♀️"Gemini? Gross, you can't work here" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 07:43 PM |
| 175 | "My Ex accused me of rape"It’s always this. It’s never worth risking your own safety to push forward with seeing someone like this. Every time I’ve seen someone say he was “accused” it honestly just felt like they were bragging because they faced no real punishment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 07:57 PM |
| 12 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.This made me genuinely laugh, thank you 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:49 PM |
| 55 | NEVER call a man attractive to his face.I fully agree. I’ve blocked men for asking me on OLD “What made you decide to match with me?” because they always just want you to tell them that they are attractive. I’m over it, and I refuse to indulge them. They either already know they are and just want an attractive woman to constantly validate them, or they are extremely insecure and will perpetually be unhappy (and will drag you down with them because they hate themselves, and if you love them then you’re probably worthless too in their m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 09:01 PM |
| 3 | The truth about all your guy friends.I wish I had never known 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:29 AM |
| 69 | 5 years, 1 child, no marriage. The top comments give me lifeI took this as more hoping that a bunch of men wouldn’t come and berate her for daring to expect more, but yeah, she probably won’t take anything away from it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:50 PM |
| 179 | 5 years, 1 child, no marriage. The top comments give me lifeThey are most likely never getting engaged, and even if he somehow finally decides to give her a ring they’ll never get married. He’s been stringing her along for years and he knows she won’t do anything about it. Her one threat of “I won’t be celebrating 5 years as a girlfriend” obviously wasn’t real, so there’s no actual danger for him. Also he “wants to be more stable” before but was totally cool with having a baby and wants another 🙄 like how much more clear does he need to be? He does not r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:35 PM |
| 341 | Woman spends THREE YEARS as a FWB, later feels resentful about it. 😔Ladies—we can and must demand more.Her update made me genuinely cringe because he definitely only married OP because he couldn't get the other woman. He obviously still has feelings for her (even if he's not cheating, which he probably is). Her saying that he paid for everything when he went on dates with the other woman while he made her pay half when they went out is just 😐 Now she's 3 kids in and probably never going to leave. I know she's in that position because she's a pickmeisha but damn, my heart genuinely hurts for her. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 07:03 PM |
| 31 | I don’t even know what to say to this. This is just really sadLoL players are really something. This is such a weird thing to brag about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 14 | 💩Scrote sits on a literal toliet to talk about being green and poop at his booth, a woman stops briefly, he makes a public post to hunt her down and spam her DMs... then he plays the victim. 💩He sent tons of strangers after her with her real name and then publicly shamed her so she was probably harassed by a bunch of them for being "ungrateful". She didn't even do anything wrong, she was just a stranger to him. If she had wanted to stay in touch she would've given him a way to do so rather than him resorting to stalking. What a creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 6 | Share your stories about men wanting to continue their "legacy"I’ve been doing a lot better! I still miss my husband a lot, but I do not miss any of them. They even skipped his funeral over my “bad behavior” lol. Insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 12:08 AM |
| 26 | Share your stories about men wanting to continue their "legacy"Never met him because he passed from severe alcoholism before I met my late husband, but my FIL was a serious NVM. Left my MIL pregnant with my SIL. Wouldn't speak to her for years, then came back randomly with the intention to get her pregnant with a boy to pass his bloodline on and be something he would actually claim. It worked and my guy was named after him, but he obviously didn't stay. My SIL got sterilized without having kids and my husband died before we could start trying, so I guess hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 06:30 PM |
| 85 | "Men don't like women who..." is a complete lie. The more of a "man hater" I've become, the more men seem to chase me. It's actually very bizarre.I’m assuming her crime is the same reason why so many men get irrationally pissed about Taylor Swift. She’s talented and doesn’t really cater to men. To NVM that might as well be a personal attack because the world is supposed to revolve around them and their interests! 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:03 AM |
| 135 | "Men don't like women who..." is a complete lie. The more of a "man hater" I've become, the more men seem to chase me. It's actually very bizarre.The idea of hate fucking is one of the scariest things I see men be so proud to admit. I have someone who used to be a good friend but is such a pickmeisha I can't bear to be around her anymore because she somehow picked up a lot of her NVM boyfriend's traits and ideologies and tbh has kind of become a monster herself. She loves to talk about how hot it is that he talks about hate fucking a bunch of women he doesn't like (Billie Eilish while she was still underage was his favorite apparently and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:51 AM |
| 121 | The truth about all your guy friends.There's literally a sub about them molesting fruits and I've never recovered from it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:28 AM |
| 67 | Wife is in critical condition in the hospital, man blames lack of resources for fathers while spending paternity leave playing video gamesHe should feel like it's his fault. He used his wife's suffering as an excuse to sit on his ass and play video games. He absolutely did notice something was wrong but probably figured she would get over it without him having to do anything. I'm also willing to bet when he said he was barely home he was cheating on her because she was too sick to have sex with him. He's a scumbag. I really hope she recovers and is able to divorce him and live a decent life. If she dies he will be looking for a re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 03:29 AM |
| 26 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreAfter reading through these comments I’m honestly horrified at what kind of person she is. She seems to have a lot of issues and should not be raising and damaging her current and future kids any further than she’s already been allowed to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 11:46 PM |
| 53 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreNgl someone should be taking this baby away because this reads real shady. If she's willing to let people pay to see her baby as long as they hit the right amount... I'm not sure she's above distributing CP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 10:34 PM |
| 101 | I don’t want to live on this planet anymoreSo she's totally fine with a bunch of creeps jerking off to her child??? Because tbh I doubt they are exclusively going to watch just for her. You are in charge of protecting a vulnerable little human and you're failing it literally as soon as it's born. There's no "keeping baby out of the spotlight" after this when you made their birth video porn???? They can't even consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 39 | Can I kinkshame yet?JFC when did people decide kinkshaming was the worst thing you could ever do? Don’t protect his feelings, he gets off to you looking and acting like a CHILD. He can’t even take you calling it weird because he knows it IS weird. No one that loves you ever wants to make you participate in sexual acts where you are clearly uncomfortable and unhappy (I do not care if she’s a “sub” and he’s the dom 🙄, they are always allowed to say no). He isn’t taking no for an answer and would rather she just deal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 04:10 PM |
| 934 | A group of boys harasses and assaults a group of girls minding their own business.I am sickened by this. Of course when she falls her friends are horrified and rush over while the men immediately go to leave because they know they fucked up severely. Was she okay??? Wishing all of these men the very worst because I know they probably won’t be punished or stop doing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 39 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦No one ever said you're never allowed to walk/hike with your partner? It's not a first date (tbh I'd never really consider it a date), there's no real effort put in and you really shouldn't be going out in the woods or something with a man you don't know well. Ngl this kind of reads like a man, but it definitely could be a pickmeisha because they do love to get defensive of their poor treatment 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:40 AM |
| 163 | They’re really trying to act like being poly isn’t a choice 🤮This is one of many reasons I can't stand poly people. They are not an oppressed group, and they have no place in the LGBT community (and no one ever needs to compare their struggles to innocent people that literally can potentially lose their life over being outed) Also laughing at the implication some people are just born needing to have multiple partners ??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 11:48 PM |
| 20 | *warning nsfw language* Saw this on the She Rates Dogs twitter page - he said the quiet part out loudIt's weird how you can tell he's proud of it while also very much hoping the person he sent it to will jump to coddling him lol. Someone needs therapy, not a bunch of women to abuse. NVM 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Why... are men ??? 🤢😳Yeah, idk. Maybe men were secretly the “too emotional” ones all along! 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 04:28 PM |
| 46 | Notice how when a female celebrity cheat on her partner, all hell breaks loose, but if a male celebrity cheats, no one bats an EYE! It’s so normalized that you hardly hear about it..Yeah, bringing up Taylor Swift has always been a way for me to quickly gauge men because so many of them flip tf out about her over her music and can’t wait for an opportunity to rant about her. I’ve loved her since I was a kid, and she just keeps getting better as she ages imo. I can’t date someone that’s going to cry about a woman being successful 😂 On the bright side the one thing they love to cling to doesn’t really work anymore. She’s been with the same man for the last 4 years, but even in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 04:26 PM |
| 74 | Why... are men ??? 🤢😳Oooh this one gets me. My ex was like this, and I ended up making a Reddit post about it. People told me it’s a normal reaction and their brains get confused but it happens to most men so I was being a bitch if I kept getting mad about him trying to shove his penis in my face while I’m literally sobbing. I was still a teenager so I thought “Huh, I guess?” NO. Bunch of degenerates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 02:51 PM |
| 168 | More food for thought <333Yes!!! If we’re still judging tf out of and harassing women who do not participate, it’s not really optional. I totally respect that makeup makes a lot of women feel more confident, but there’s probably more to it than you can actually recognize without sitting with it and examining your thoughts. I didn’t wear makeup on my wedding day and I was getting people just before it started like “Let me throw something on you real quick! You don’t want to regret this!” NOOOO. My late husband thought I w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 02:57 PM |
| 63 | Things That Perturb LVM 🤡Why does this bother them so much??? I noticed this myself and I can't understand. Was I supposed to wait to have a man escort me or something lmao? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:57 AM |
| 88 | I think guys only say "all guys watch porn" to try to make you believe you can't do betterYou definitely won't be waiting forever, but even if you were it would probably be a better alternative to being with someone that's addicted to porn. Like you said, I think in a lot of cases they literally cannot look past their own obsession/addiction to it and just assume every single other person feels exactly the same way. Probably a little bit of selfishness mixed in too, they could never give it up but they still feel entitled to having an irl woman to abuse as well. It's just degenerate … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 04:52 AM |
| 12 | On a post about rare conditions encountered by doctors. Imagine being unable to feed yourself because your wife died or divorced youThis is absolutely insane. I don’t think I have a single man in my family that couldn’t cook real food for themself should their partner die (although a lot of the older ones are still heavily reliant on their wife, they still understand and have participated in “feminine” chores), and I didn’t even know this was a low bar I should feel proud of. Also I know some people will be like “Oh but he’s grieving!!!” Fucking and??? This tells me he never once stepped up and helped his now dead wife in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 41 | How porn-brain destroys relationships in one stupid breath.It's so gross how many of them just can't wait to pressure their partner into a threesome. It's not insecurity, you just straight up do not need to include someone else in your closed relationships. They do understand this too because the bulk of them lose their damn minds at the thought of including another man. They should be enough for her!!! Including another dick is just cheating 😤 It's all unnecessary and most men when presented with another woman would be just as selfish and disappointing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:08 AM |
| 5 | Ads on Reddit targeting poor women and girls for prostitution. Absolutely disgusting.Typical Reddit! Almost no one ever reaches that kind of scale. One of my good friends is in the top 5% of women on OF and she only brings in like $2,000 a month, I cringe at thinking about those that are getting even less in exchange for selling pictures of their bodies that will follow them forever. It's a scam. I wish this kind of stuff wouldn't be pushed on young women so hard. It's not glamorous, it's not easy, and it's usually harmful in the end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:31 PM |
| 341 | PSA: as soon as man says that, run the opposite direction sis 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ This is RED FLAG. Manipulation.It's the same guy that's always crying when he gets caught doing something awful like "Yeah I KNOW I'm a piece of shit and I can't do anything right. I should just go die since everyone hates me now 😢😔" because they just want you to tell them it's okay and go back on the boundary you set to make him feel better lmao. It's genuinely pathetic and it's hard not to laugh 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:00 PM |
| 12 | Ditched today by a Pickme friendThis sucks and I don't think I could continue that friendship! Even without her phone idk how she couldn't find a single way to gauge the time considering you'd discussed it. Probably had an argument or had to baby her scrote because he wasn't getting enough attention It feels like HVW are as hard to come by as HVM. I'm frequently cutting off friends because I just can't sit with pickmeishas anymore. They always center themselves around a LVM, he does something awful and she comes back to her fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 10:01 PM |
| 37 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outIt's pretty telling when every conversation regarding a woman asking a man out is "More women should do this! I rejected her tho" or "I asked out a man today!!! He said no but I feel so good about it!!" 🤡 As other people have already said, they don't respect it or you, and it's not worth making them feel better about themselves. Most of the time they'll outright say no, and the others that do accept will always see you as desperate and easily replaced by someone unavailable and disinterested in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 09:47 PM |
| 22 | Girl proposes to her boyfriend and gets humiliated...I still don't like that reasoning, particularly with it being one of his relatives that sparked it. If it were very pressing he should've taken the initiative there. You definitely wouldn't catch me bragging at my own wedding that I proposed because tbh it just feels like clownery lol 🤡 Not even a little surprised her side was shocked, it's kind of sad for her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:57 AM |
| 120 | Scrote hasn't washed his penis in years, has still slept with unwitting women. Disgusting.Ughhh gross. The amount of men I know who had to have emergency circumcisions later in life because they were nasty af is shockingly high. Idk how they just avoid washing their dick all of the way and then wonder what happened when it looks and smells awful. Most of them are obsessed with it anyway, why not do basic maintenance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:57 PM |
| 100 | On today’s episode of MEN (TM) fetishists ruin EVERYTHING. 🤢🤢If I'm remembering correctly, at least one of them was receiving money to let the guys continue being there. How a woman could basically sell out other women that are just looking for help and support is beyond me. That story still makes me mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 12:47 PM |
| 113 | “First time dads needs their mommy’s support in the delivery room and that mom is not the most important person in the room.” Comments pickme.Imagine thinking going through something extremely painful and potentially life-threatening is on the same level as "I slept with a woman 9 months ago and now I'm nervous that I have to be responsible, who is supporting meeeeee :(" He can get over it. It's not about him. A decent father doesn't see his laboring wife and newborn child as people that are somehow stealing the spotlight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:47 AM |
| 72 | Men truly believe that a part of being in a relationship is using their girlfriend as their therapistThere is a level between “I’m having a really hard time right now and I can elaborate because I love you and I want you to understand what’s going on with me, but I’ll also see a professional. I could use a little extra support for a bit, but I will actively work through this and not turn on you if something doesn’t go right.” and “I need you to listen, give me advice, and honestly just go ahead and solve the problem for me. You are the only person I will talk this through with because therapy b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:49 PM |
| 24 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.“He never really liked you anyway” Okay so he decided to stay in a relationship with and cared enough to be hurt when she left though? 🤣 If it’s genuinely his gf, yikes. This does not suggest good things like she thinks it does. I’m sure the problems they always make it through are probably him being shitty and her dealing with it because she’s better and won’t give up on him! He can change!!! 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Just sharing my favorite gem from a scrote (before I disabled my chat) Their definition of HV cracks me upPickme women do not end up with HVM, though. They genuinely settle for whoever and defend their trash to the end until he finds another Pickmeisha. Then they move to the next LVM because they can't be alone. It's all I see from my old friends. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 27 | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡The dead bedrooms sub is always a mess. 90% of the time with men they are treating their wives like fleshlights while also doing nothing around the house or helping with their children. It's always a real mystery why she "suddenly changed" and isn't fun anymore, but surely nothing to do with them 😐 With the women their partners are either cheating or porn addicted (or both!) Which is actually sad, and the woman is always thinking she's the issue and doing everything to save their relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:22 PM |
| 59 | What's the WORST COSMO ADVICE you've ever seen on the topic of dating, sex, and relationships?"As long as it takes" to get your man off, but if he's generous enough to reciprocate he'll do it for a minute and complain. You should just be grateful he even bothered in their eyes 🙄😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:10 AM |
| 74 | But if we say these porn-fried brained, repellent scrotes have absolutely lost it, we are wrong? (TW: necrophilia, rape)This made me actually feel ill. She was a whole human being with a real life outside of porn that died tragically, and they managed to reduce her to “yeah she makes my dick hard”. Also the sexualizing of her literal corpse is sickening. I wish you could put these people on a list and show comments like this to their female family members. We aren’t even safe after we’re dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 08:45 PM |
| 9 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"I honestly don't get their problem. If none of us are a prize and we're all gonna die alone, why does it matter so much that we don't listen to them? Also I really wish the whole "king" thing would die. I never see anyone other than other men and pickmes throwing it at other mediocre dudes. It's cringy and weird. We literally just want y'all to be decent human beings and it makes you mad. It's not hard. Women don't exist to make you feel good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 11:39 PM |
| 6 | Found this on a relationship sub. Women think this kind of behaviour is endearing ?! Nah sis 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ makes me wonder what else he thinks gets done by magic. Some guy commented and argued with me about how men do more domestic labour lmao I can’t handle this sub. I never want to be married.Marriage humor looooool. The things these women put up with and write off as “oh he’s so incompetent but it’s cute and fun!” 🙄 All men are not like this, and I hate seeing how weirdly expected it is that they are grossly unaware of how the household runs. It’s not quirky, it’s annoying and rude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 05:10 PM |
| 19 | FDS is such an amazing community of supportive women who have seen some things. Shout out to all you awesome ladies!This is the first online community I’ve ever been in where I almost always enjoy the content and feel safe voicing my real thoughts knowing no one is going to reply with something extremely derogatory or horrible. I use this account more than my main at this point because this is the only sub worth interacting with. I have so much love and appreciation for y’all! ❤️🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 06:00 PM |
| 22 | How long did you wait before being proposed to?I told my husband I wouldn’t wait longer than two years. We got engaged around month 7 (I remember discussing it around our third month together) and threw our wedding together in two months because I got very sick shortly after and he wanted to be able to be with me if something went wrong. It didn’t last because he passed away, but I actually thought our time frame was fine and our relationship was extremely solid despite not dating for a decade like so many people swear by lol If I decide to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/21 07:01 AM |
| 5 | Daily reminder - other women's spaces on the internet are not necessarily your friend.Yep. Best case scenario is usually that he changed for a short period of time and then dropped the act as soon as he could. The issue isn’t us not speaking up, they generally do know and understand the issue. They just don’t care to do better because they don’t have to, LVM are well aware a large majority of women don’t have the confidence or means to drop them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 10:26 PM |
| 14 | This is just sadI want to hug her, it sounds like she probably doesn't have any supportive family or friends :( I'm glad she left at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 08:25 PM |
| 21 | Daily reminder - other women's spaces on the internet are not necessarily your friend.It used to trigger me too, but these days I just think "Y'all are really stupid" and don't even engage because arguing with men who think they are never wrong is beneath me 🤣 For real, though. Women always coMmuNIcate way too much and forgive everything. Idk how any sane person is giving men the benefit of the doubt these days, they almost always are the one that sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 08:04 PM |
| 10 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?I definitely agree, it's a big mess. I only started dating within the last 7 years so I never really knew a time that wasn't like this sadly. I was lucky to meet my spouse so fast, but now he's gone and I have to start over again with the bonus title of young widow so they think my loss means I'll be easy to manipulate 🙄 Ddlg guy was probably the one that caught me most off guard, but all of them were bringing this stuff up within the first real conversation. In a way it's kind of nice they can'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:56 PM |
| 21 | Daily reminder - other women's spaces on the internet are not necessarily your friend.I only know of one group on fb where I feel very comfortable saying FDS aligned things, and even then there are men there so idk how fully safe it is. (To their credit men are considered guests in the space and I've seen them get banned for butting in where they shouldn't. They also kick/mute women for bragging about their male partners or taking up for men which I love) FB in general is just trashy. I'm a member of a lot of leftbook groups and it's honestly all the incentive I need to not check… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 07:48 PM |
| 50 | Have you ever rejected a man because of his sexual history?Yes. Any mention of threesomes, anal, bdsm, or ddlg are a big no from me and I have rejected men for all of these at least once. I would also not be with someone that has paid for a prostitute or had a one night stand, but I've surprisingly never met anyone that has admitted to this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:10 AM |
| 27 | FDS users taking it in turns to roast Scrotes in the comments like:Is RedditCares the message where it sends you stuff about reaching out for help? Someone reported me on my main account because I made a sad post after my spouse died and it felt really weird and unnecessary lol. I’m not shocked at the lengths they’ll go to, but that’s real sad. I’d prefer to keep this account for a while, FDS is great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:34 AM |
| 65 | FDS users taking it in turns to roast Scrotes in the comments like:I honestly just recommend making it impossible to message you. That way they literally can't voice their anger to you and you never have to bother blocking and deleting weird messages. I feel like it's probably more infuriating as well because they thrive on any kind of attention 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 01:05 AM |
| 193 | If he’s letting himself go (both fitness wise and diet), it’s over 🤷🏾♀️ I’m sure you ladies can guess what the comments are saying 🤮I get what she means, I feel bad that people are probably telling her to look past it. She’s not being shallow, it gets old af to have a man literally sweating buckets on top of you. Before I just entirely stopped having sex with my ex I was always coated in his sweat no matter what position it was and it made me want to die. Meanwhile he would complain I had gained like 10 pounds while recovering from an illness and it made using me as a human fleshlight harder because I wasn’t perfect. Fat/ugl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 08:29 PM |
| 382 | When has a woman ever spoken about a man like this? They HATE us.They are straight garbage and it makes me feel so bad if I think too hard about it. Outside of creepy necrophilia dude, the other one basically implied her dying of cancer was only upsetting to him because she made his pp feel good 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:57 AM |
| 53 | Poor woman.I really hope she at least chose it for herself and the title is poorly worded. Her husband "making" her is concerning. Any kind of sex work is really draining on several levels, but having your spouse basically pimp you out and then brag about it to the world can't help. I was also someone who jumped into sex work (mine was camming though) because I was trying to help someone I loved pay off a debt, but at least no one forced me to start or stay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:50 AM |
| 4 | Beware of men dumping their baggage on you early onGod I know, it still makes me cringe when I remember it. Everything got thrown away because I had no way of knowing what he had done to it so he should’ve just kept it all anyway lol. That would’ve been maximum not simping, taking the whole gift to show me what a cool guy he is 😤 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:53 PM |
| 40 | Beware of men dumping their baggage on you early onWas a 28 year old virgin and had only one girlfriend a year before, told me he was a "nice guy" and I should've stopped it right there. I instead tried to explain to him why "being nice" didn't automatically mean you deserved a partner. continued to complain about how his ex wanted him to marry her and help pay most of the bills because she was sick (somehow making her a gold digger because they were invisible?) I stopped and let him know my husband had been the sole provider for most of our mar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 05:16 AM |
| 2 | Why YouTuber’s are NOT good relationship role modelsI also watch Kayla and I love her, but I really do feel like she's in for a shock once the newness of their marriage wears off. I knew a few things didn't sit right with me (he didn't get her a ring at any point??? Like I get that he lives with his parents, but why even ask someone to marry you if you don't have enough financially to even spare like $200?) but I also failed to actually pick up on what she said about their housework distribution. 50/50 in their situation is 100% nowhere near fair… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 03:45 AM |
| 9 | Just picked up a second-hand copy of The Gift of Fear!! Just the foreword has me hooked!Went to look up how to buy this book because it’s the second time I’ve heard someone bring it up lately! It’s free on kindle unlimited so I’m starting it ASAP. Thanks for the push! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 10:49 PM |
| 6 | LADIES WTF: Homeless Millennial Man Survives By Picking Up Women Every Night. Every woman who fell for this dirty unwashed misogynist deserves to be in the Pickmeisha Hall of Shame.Gotta lol at the fact that his mom kicked him out for selling drugs though. Even she's done raising him 😂 I genuinely feel bad for all of the people he scams. Idk how anyone manages to sleep with him, you must have super low standards because just from 4 minutes of hearing him he seems insufferable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 72 | I don't have words for thisThis stuff is what killed me as a camgirl (I didn't enjoy it, but it is what it is). I could write so much about the awful, shitty things men would say about their partners while putting me on a pedestal. My favorites were the ones who were like "Yeah my gf/wife is cool with this but tbh if you wanted I would leave her for you" 🙄 so I always kind of cringe at the super cool pickmeishas that loooooove how their partner supports sw!!! They don't respect any women, even the ones they supposedly lov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:35 PM |
| 5 | This is really sad but it's exactly the kind of realities we try to warn people to protect themselves against. Sorry if somebody really cares about you they're going to make sure that you're taken care of even if they die. She shacked up with him no ring, no life insurance policy and no help. SadSo scary how easy it is to end up in this position, I sympathize with her sooooo much. I’m glad my late husband didn’t drag around on marriage and had planned for something terrible happening even though it was unlikely. Families suck and my in-laws would’ve left me with nothing if given the chance. She’ll also have a harder time with the general public as time passes (particularly if she grieves for longer than an “acceptable” period). I’m forever a young widow that deserves pity and some form … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:15 AM |
| 8 | STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MENOooh, this is a fair point I didn’t factor in. I’m still wondering how she’s managed to dance around it the other 4 times, though. I hope she finds a safe way to leave his ass because he won’t change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 229 | STOP 👏🏻PROCREATING 👏🏻 WITH 👏🏻 SHIT 👏🏻 MENJFC he’s dropped their child 5 times and she’s still worried about approaching it nicely so he doesn’t get his poor little feelings hurt? Knowing dudes like this he’s probably doing it on purpose to get out of looking after her, but she could die and I doubt he’s so incompetent he doesn’t know that. This stuff makes me so mad. I love kids and I hate how many of them get stuck with garbage, negligent parents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 06:57 AM |
| 7 | Just because he makes 10x more doesn't mean he's HVHe didn't forget, he just didn't do it and still wanted praise. If the age gap wasn't a big enough warning, he also doesn't do anything worthwhile for her, what a catch! 🙄 I'm sure if she did outright say "Buy me this" he'd freak out about her being a gold digger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 01:13 AM |
| 18 | I'm getting so frustrated with the number of drinks/coffee/walk dates I'm being offered and would love to discuss this phenomenaDo not take their lack of effort as a reflection of yourself. They approach everyone the same way and see who bites. I would not bother trying to get them to upgrade the date. Even if you somehow manage to get them to plan a decent date, they'll still be the dude that wants to go on a coffee/field date. It's an issue with the quality of the men, not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 23 | Don't kneecap your sentences ...I've been working on this and it's a tough habit to break! The same with apologizing for everything (including inconveniences that aren't even your fault) and trying to overexplain everything. It's so hard when it just slips out, but it's worth being mindful of. I hate apologizing for existing and I won't do it anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:36 AM |
| 19 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”I love that she obviously picked the cat (as she should!) and he either hasn't figured it out or has and is trying to justify his actions and figure out how to get back in 😂 It's a good day when the trash takes itself out. 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:25 AM |
| 58 | men on reddit really believe this........No. Lol. Idk why they looooove to pull this card, but it's so untrue. Women lying about rape is incredibly uncommon, most male rape victims were raped by other men, and the majority of actual rapists walk free even when you have evidence (or get a laughably short "punishment" so their lives aren't ruined). If anything the women genuinely get their lives destroyed because not only were they sexually assaulted, but if they come toward even more men will come out to harass them as they have to reco… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 12:20 AM |
| 43 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.Someone told her it’s financial abuse because he doesn’t have access to all of the money??? No, he’s a literal child that would spend on himself until they couldn’t pay their bills. He’s literally the only abuser in that relationship, no “communication” necessary. He knows. Reddit dudes should not be allowed to give their trashy advice, I’m always shocked at the length they’ll go to defend some loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:32 PM |
| 4 | I don't think I've come across a single HVM on dating websitesI met my late husband on OKC!!! He hadn’t been on there for very long and was about to delete his account because he felt it was a kind of weird and unnatural way to meet someone. He saw me and left a really long intro asking me about things that were on my profile and complimenting my (at the time) recent achievement which was massive for someone my age. We chatted for a bit and basically wrote each other letters with the length of our questions and general conversation, it was wonderful! He pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:29 AM |
| 36 | Waiting to have sex pays off. It doesn't matter how famous he is.Yeah, if you give them a rough time frame they’ll happily stick it out and waste their own time just to get their dick wet and somehow “win”. Pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:06 AM |
| 24 | Drug addict scrote who abused child(ren) died, friend's scrote husband majorly in mourning for himI think it’s incredibly sweet that you want to reach out to her, but I really do not see her coming around. If anything she will probably get aggressive if you suggest her husband is a potential predator (or just generally suggest she and her children are unsafe). Hope for the best and send her good vibes, I doubt there’s much more you can do for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 04:06 AM |
| 25 | We can't just vet the men we date, we must vet the men we befriend.This same thing started happening to me immediately after my husband died. It was disgusting and I always let them know it. The weird thing is that they usually didn’t even get offended by me telling them to fuck off forever, just the fun “Oh I understand it’s probably too soon for you. You’re so young, though. He would want you to move on, and I’ll treat you right when you’re ready.” 🤢 Blocked. Idc how long I’d known or considered them friends. You don’t know a damn thing about my husband, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 03:42 PM |
| 23 | Thoughts on weird and minimalist tech guy?I would find this unsettling myself. Even if he is a perfectly fine person, it's clear you didn't feel comfortable and tbh that's everything you need to not proceed. (I also always made it a priority to never date a man that has no bed frame, minimalism be damned) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Why I almost left FDSI'm glad you don't have to deal with them anymore! ❤ Anyone that chooses a bunch of girls on a screen that would probably find them weird and want nothing to do with them irl is sad and delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:23 AM |
| 8 | Why I almost left FDSThe thing is this is always an option that they are aware of, but they want you to change because they feel entitled to you. Some other woman is okay and they can always cheat with her, but you are the one his pp decided it currently wants to disappoint and it's mean that you won't let it 😤 It's apparently easier to try to drag you down to their level than to settle with some pickmeisha lol. That or they get off on breaking down strong women. Idk, maybe both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:11 AM |
| 95 | Why I almost left FDS"I'd never ask someone to change for me" 🙄🙄🙄 Dudes acting like you're asking him to quit his job and never talk to his family again instead of to stop consuming a bunch of garbage content. If porn is such an integral part of you that's pathetic. His life would be improved by dropping it. If they didn't hurt so many women in the process I would find it kind of funny they protest so strongly against their own best interests lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 02:13 PM |
| 9 | Tell me how you know your bf won't cheat on youThe I <3 U guy was cute, genuinely just doing something sweet to make her happy. The others were a bunch of nerdy stuff that doesn’t really mean anything toward them being faithful??? I’m into a lot of dorky things myself but that doesn’t really mean anything about relationships. If they want to they will, and they can always make time even if they have weird hobbies. I’ve honestly seen more unattractive dudes jump at the chance to cheat than anyone. It gives them validation, I guess? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 11:04 PM |
| 16 | women only hotelsThis is so cool and I hope this continues in other areas!!! I’ve started traveling alone (although I generally don’t interact with anyone and usually carry a gun) but this would be a bonus in safety points ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:31 PM |
| 45 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.I really hope you can get her full time, that’s an awful environment for her. Obviously it’s terrible what happened to the son, but that’s not your daughter’s fault or problem. Her literally existing isn’t triggering, and if her brother is sincerely looking at her sexually because she’s in a weather appropriate outfit he needs to be in therapy (it sounds like he should be anyway tbh???) As a sexual abuse survivor at a young age myself, I’m tired of how babied boys are about it while little girls… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 10:26 PM |
| 3 | Is the Hitachi Magic Wand worth it?I definitely get it!! Sometimes the highest setting is still too much for me 😂 I hope it lasts well and you continue to enjoy it! I'm pretty sure it's about time to buy a new one for me, I've somehow managed to split the bottom part of where you change the settings (it still works perfectly so it's probably not necessary!) I think it's because of the way I press it with my long nails, so for that to be the only issue I've ever had out of it in two years is amazing because that's super avoidable … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:34 PM |
| 13 | I really feel so sorry for this generation of women.I wonder what she means by him taking his mood swings out on her. I’m sure nothing good, but fuck, I can’t stand the notion we’re supposed to be chill with being abused because a man is having a bad day. This is a teenage girl that is already being told to bow down to her porn addicted loser bf who is most likely abusive. Also the “oh when we start having sex it will change!” 🙄 He’ll never give it up. I hope those shitty dudes telling her she’s the wrong one don’t convince her to stay in misery … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:54 PM |
| 14 | Is the Hitachi Magic Wand worth it?Personally I feel it overstimulated me to the point of hurting. I’ve been using my Satisfyer Pro 2 for a couple years now and it’s my only sex toy at this point. I’m sensitive, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:40 PM |
| 107 | Why is no one talking about the type of rape where a partner pesters you into having sex?It is sexual assault. It’s just not as easy to process for LVM because it’s not their accepted version of a stranger grabbing some innocent woman and raping her in the night. It’s the man you’ve been with for years harassing you until you let him use you as a sex toy, which a looooooot of them have participated in whether they want to admit it or not. And they can’t be rapists, no, coercive rape can’t be a thing! In my first ltr as a teenager I had come into our relationship as someone who had a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 05:17 PM |
| 27 | For the Military guys, marriage and kids means a bigger paycheck for them. It's not always about love.Yeeeeep. Tbh I thought this was more known. Maybe I've just spent too much time near military dudes considering I have quite a few in my family. The first thing I was told when I started expressing interest in boys was "Never date someone in the military" and I still think it's the most solid advice I've ever received. Even outside of everything you listed, I've also noticed a very arrogant attitude and a serious lack of emotional intelligence from most of them. Couldn't do it. Was always a big … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 06:00 PM |
| 15 | The podcast has only 1 episode so far and we're already in the top 5% of podcasts. Let's see if we can get into the top 1% 🙌 New episode dropping tomorrow!I'm so excited!!! I loved listening and I can't wait to hear more. I'm not normally a podcast fan but it's quality ❤❤❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 05:53 PM |
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