Tel-aran-rhiod Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	How do I know they want to be approached Regarding your first question - it's not exactly cut and dried in the sense that speaking to a stranger always equals harassment. It's about context, but in the context of a man trying to initiate a sexual connection with a random woman on the street/wherever, it's almost always going to be on the harassment end of the scale because it's unsolicited and overwhelmingly unwelcome sexual advances. Particularly when it's done in a systematic and intentional way in the form of "cold approach pickup",…	/r/seduction	31/10/21 03:34 AM
-12	How do I know they want to be approached But you realise the reasons for all those stats is also patriarchal in origin right? Like, the model of manhood and masculinity we're presented with and that we perpetuate is directly linked to all of those disadvantages that men face. Feminism is good for men too, most men just don't seem to realise it because they're too busy being fragile and feeling threatened by it. Also, the biological difference argument is pretty much debunked at this point - there are cultures in the world where gender …	/r/seduction	30/10/21 03:30 PM
-4	How do I know they want to be approached lol ok mate	/r/seduction	30/10/21 03:15 PM
-6	How do I know they want to be approached It's not a false story, it's the actual, real statistics - whether you want to "believe in them" or not. Are you seriously trying to say that women aren't any more likely to be raped than men? Because what you're saying just sounds like rape apologism without any evidence to back it up	/r/seduction	30/10/21 02:09 PM
2	How do I know they want to be approached No, but I think the idea of pursuit itself probably would be less of a thing in an ideal world - it sets up women as a commodity that men have to chase and capture, rather than just seeing relationships and dating as they ought to be - a shared connection between equals. Online dating/apps are just one simple way of meeting women that you know are looking to date and who are interested in you - and if you actually are a cool and interesting person who works on themselves (including your appearan…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 01:54 PM
-3	How do I know they want to be approached If I wanted upvotes and to be popular, sure. But in terms of where there are people who actually need to hear what I'm saying, it looks like this is exactly the right place	/r/seduction	30/10/21 12:53 PM
-33	How do I know they want to be approached I think you're placing the experience of women on a pedestal here - how do you know what it's like being a woman? I can see how from the narrow perspective of a man who feels frustrated with his romantic prospects and who has no personal first-hand experience of being in a woman's shoes, that he might think that being a hot woman and seemingly having "sex on tap" sounds like a walk in the park. Putting aside for a second that if you were in her shoes you likely wouldn't want to have sex with the…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 10:14 AM
-7	How do I know they want to be approached I get that it can be uncomfortable to be called out for it, but the reality is that the pickup and seduction community is a bit of an echo chamber where this sort of thing is never criticised (outside of these communities there's a good reason the whole cold-approach thing is considered weird and kinda creepy, because 99% of the time it is). It's also odd that in these communities 'feminism' is for some reason a dirty word...you'd think a community of men who supposedly love women would be on bo…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 09:32 AM
-7	How do I know they want to be approached Do you actually hate women?	/r/seduction	30/10/21 09:28 AM
-15	How do I know they want to be approached "It doesn't matter what women want" ... tell me you're a misogynist without telling me you're a misogynist. Why is what you want more important? Why is your desire to hit on some random woman more important than her desire to just be allowed to exist in a public space without being harassed by random men trying to fuck her?	/r/seduction	30/10/21 09:25 AM
-56	How do I know they want to be approached I was on board with everything you said until "So what? Rejection is data" - what we need to remember is that women are people too and that being harassed by random men absolutely does effect them, and that matters. It's not just data, it's the feelings and experience of another human being...most men really don't know what it's like to walk in the shoes of an attractive woman, but it's exhausting. Probably the thing that comes closest to it is if, as a white man, you go and spend time in the to…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 09:04 AM
-1	How do I know they want to be approached Honestly, I'm going to be the wet blanket here and say that cold-approaching random women, as a man, is actually not a good idea in the vast majority of situations. I'm planning some future articles and videos that really flesh this out and explain it fully, but men generally have no idea what it's like being a woman, let alone an attractive woman. The pickup community is a bit of an echo-chamber where you're not going to come across all the random posts from these women who are literally having…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 08:56 AM