TeleTummies Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	Living with regret, but also moving forward		TeleTummies	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/26 08:37 PM

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-1	Listen to yourself My STBXW cheated on me horrifically and I forgave her a while ago but was unable to let it go. I'd always ask her why and what had changed and her answer would ALWAYS be that she wasn't happy with me. There was zero evidence of self reflection. In the moment I would shrug it off and act like I understood but I never truly accepted it. I wish I had had the clarity I had now -- I spent so many evenings angry at her, jealous, insecure and somehow ALL of that was my fault. Agreed with everything her…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/08/26 08:51 PM
1	What were the signs you ignored before she asked for a divorce? My STBXW was on instagram quite a bit. She had a business account for her small baking company but used instagram as a social media platform (which actually started a fight cuz we agreed to never use instagram again). Hers were sneaky. When I would ask her what's wrong (all of last year, almost weekly), she'd say nothing or get mad for asking too often. She would be silent. I thought her new job that was stressful was the cause of it. She started going on like 5+ hour runs every Saturday. After …	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/26 05:13 PM
1	I choose life! My dude. You’re going through a lot and that’s obvious. Take this one day at a time. Do know and accept that if she knows about what you did you will be flagged as toxic and a cheater. It’s been 12 months since my wife found out and she still brings it up with zero sense of forgiveness. Mine wasn’t even emotional, I texted escorts online 3 times. The shame cycles have stopped now which is good. It’s quite shocking, really but there’s nothing you can do about her reaction. For me I know I’ve done…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 05:13 PM
1	I choose life! My dude. You’re going through a lot and that’s obvious. Take this one day at a time. Do know and accept that if she knows about what you did you will be flagged as toxic and a cheater. It’s been 12 months since my wife found out and she still brings it up with zero sense of forgiveness. Mine wasn’t even emotional, I texted escorts online 3 times. The shame cycles have stopped now which is good. It’s quite shocking, really but there’s nothing you can do about her reaction. For me I know I’ve done…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 05:07 PM
2	I choose life! Very similar to your situation over here brother. I didn't cheat in a way but was messaging people online for nudes etc. She caught me, I lied because I was ashamed. It's important to focus on yourself here that you're analyzing the relationship that you were in. My ex wife and I were together for 15 years. Extremely high highs, low lows. She had very little capability of talking in times of conflict which only exacerbated my anger. I had no idea how to resolve conflict or speak about my feeling…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 03:59 PM
1	What are the first few weeks of separation like? It might be in my near future. My wife and I have been separated for about 3.5 months. Looking more and more like divorce every day. I love my wife dearly but there was codependency, loud arguments, and mistrust between both of us. I still believe we could have worked on it. I'm a stubborn motherfucker though and I've seen that I'm willing to stay in relationships that cause me pain in spite of myself. First step, truly, is remove all hope from the equation. I held onto hope for the first 2 months (my wife was still coming ar…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/26 02:50 PM
1	The "I checked out a long time ago" excuse I did something that was a betrayal (which she says is not the reason for her leaving me) almost a year ago and she used that as a launchpad to build the story and walls against our marriage. We are separated now. I can genuinely say that my wife never sat me down or expressed any sort of unhappiness. There were so many times when she'd say how happy she was and how much she loved me. She even admits as much now and wishes she had said something earlier. It's hard not to be bitter at this point …	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/26 05:46 PM
2	Just started separation, unknown future I’m in a very similar situation as you. My advice. Don’t reach out to her. You will only push her away and stress yourself out. You need to truly work on yourself and figure out why you’re yelling at your spouse. I had the exact same problem. I was in counseling for 9 months (still am), and my wife still chose to separate from me. I’d give her mountains of space. I’d give her one last listen to hear everything she’s upset with you about, acknowledge it, and then apologize and indicate your inten…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/04/26 01:53 AM