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Don’t have too much common sense in this subreddit, I think it’s a bannable offense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 02:40 PM
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Yeah, I always thought expecting additional compensation simply for additional effort was capitalism at it’s best.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 02:21 PM
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“In direct contrast to conventional wisdom and most economic models of marital age gaps, we present robust evidence that men and women who are married to differently aged spouses are negatively selected. Empirical results show lower cognitive ability, lower educational attainment, lower occupational wages, lower earnings, and less attractive appearance among those married to a differently aged spouse.” https://direct.mit.edu/rest/article/96/3/577/58148/Who-Marries-Differently-Aged-Spouses-Abilit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 09:42 PM
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No, tell him to work on his social skills, no one likes argumentative and prickly. No one wants to be around irritating. Also, can’t say for sure, but if I had to bet, I’d say be might just suck in bed. Like you said, most women don’t sleep around that much, which to me, as a woman, means they don’t usually have sex with guys they aren’t that into. So logically, the ones who did sleep with him were more into him before sex and not that into him after sex. I would think that’s a pretty common pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:53 PM
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height + style + physique + money are enough to compensate First…face > all of the above. Second…even with a 10/10 face, being neurodivergent and irritating is going to definitely be a challenge
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:21 PM
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I think falling hard and fast can happen at any age. It’s somehow even better when you’re older imho, finally finding someone really special after kissing a bunch of frogs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:32 AM
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but afterward not want to pursue a relationship He’s not lying, he’s telling you he’s not into them…because they aren’t into him. They aren’t into him. I dunno, but I personally don’t think it’s because of their age. On one hand, you are telling me that most women don’t sleep around, but on the other you are also telling me women who really aren’t that into him are sleeping with him Well, are most women also sleeping with guys they aren’t that interested in? Or more likely, are they more interes…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 04:25 AM
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That’s like saying if it were easy to lose weight there wouldn’t be fat people. We know what makes people fat, the easy solution is to stop eating so much. People get lazy and complacent. We know what could keep the oxytocin flowing and the passion alive. Just like we shouldn’t assume it’s natural to gain weight as we age, we shouldn’t assume we turn from lovers to companions.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:59 AM
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At some point, those things become... maybe not work per se, but not as effortless as they were previously. Meh it’s not all that deep. Keep the oxytocin flowing. https://youtu.be/KkXpKF4b5yA?si=W7xq_v5VssIfsxmT
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:42 AM
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Has it ever occurred to you that it’s possibly the women not wanting to continue the relationship? Or it’s at least mutual? It’s like he’s saying he’s not really into them, because they aren’t that into him .which pretty much says….they aren’t that into him first. I’ve posted just yesterday about a guy who was perfect on paper, but I really had no sexual chemistry with. He wasn’t neurodivergent, ( he just was too conservative, not in a political way, in a judgmental stick up his ass way), but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 03:33 AM
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Well since someone else repeated an earlier post of theirs, these posts were in response to a person who was accused of being abusive by supposedly “love bombing”. I can’t even imagine that falling in love, like people have done for millennia, is somehow “unhealthy “. Good grief. 🙄 This reads like some weird satire. I felt this way more than once in my life….even in my early thirties with my now husband. We literally spent every available second with each other, we both fell in love. I actually …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 02:34 AM
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I agree with u/-Shes-A-Carnival, but like her, I don’t wait for long term commitment to have sex, and I don’t date because a guy seems promising, Every relationship, short term or long term, has been because I’m crazy about them. Other women operate differently though. I got terribly hurt after a breakup, I simply didn’t date at all for two years, and two years after that I started dating my husband and was absolutely crazy about him I suspect the real problem is that women are pretty enthusiast…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 01:06 AM
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I don't think it's as gendered as the OP or you would suggest. Jesus give it a rest… not a “gendered thing” ?. If you think women cruise under bridges for anonymous sex with cheap ugly male hookers, or fat dudes can walk into a college bar and successfully offer free sex to women you’re insane. Men and women are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 09:47 AM
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I think it depends on the woman and the circumstances. Poor women with 8 kids who still had to work in a garment factory and rush home to bake bread and wash all those diapers on a washboard? I’d rather be a modern, poor mom with birth control and only two kids. But I think you might be conflating “easy” and “less stressful” with “better”. Even if some things are harder and more stressful, that doesn’t make them worse. To paraphrase Thomas Paine: “Freedom is heavy, but you never realize its bles…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 11:46 PM
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Ahhhh no, go back to the original thread. The point being made is that men will indeed have sex with anything, even someone who they are not attracted to. Fat guys can probably get anonymous sex in the back room of a gay bar though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 08:52 PM
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If there is anyone easier to pick up in a bar for free, it’s definitely a fatchick
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:50 PM
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Well, the woman gets money to have a disgusting experience, which is sad and gross, but the man actually pays for the sad, gross and disgusting experience. Truly baffling if you ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 01:12 AM
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I think it would have been better if we had at least waited till date two or three. First time sex with a new person can be a little anxious, losing your virginity much more so. When he lasted less than two seconds, I did wonder… I will give him credit, by round three the next morning and some guidance on where to put his hand, he definitely rallied. Enough for me to chalk up the first two times to nerves. 🤣 I’m not some poly, bi, dungeon mistress, sex worker, with 100 n count, but I’m just not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:34 PM
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Maybe less than, but not always in terms of physical attraction. You don’t know what they talked about on the dates, maybe one guy indicates he’s recently out of a relationship (am I a rebound?), maybe a guy indicated he’s just not similar to me in outlook on sex…I have a long term ex who was a virgin….I would NOT have jumped on the first date if I had known. Maybe he indicated he dates around a lot and the woman is a relationship sex only woman. I will freely admit you are not always wrong. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:19 PM
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There is context to everything is my point. There are plenty of reasons why sex occurs faster or slower in different relationships. Things don’t always follow strict rules and timelines. I would definitely feel differently about jumping into something with a coworker, or maybe one guy is someone who no one in my circle knows at all. Maybe one of my friends also had interest in the guy and I didn’t want to cause drama if it went nowhere. Maybe the guy had a “pumped and dumped” someone I knew…from…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 02:28 PM
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The person I waited the longest with is absolutely and without a doubt my husband, and the person he waited the longest with was me. We had known each other for years and it was actually a pretty awkward dance to transition from friends to lovers. It was well over two months before we started to find excuses to hang out together until we slept together My husband is also a Chad with a promiscuous past. But he found the transition awkward as well. One of our mutual friends told me we just needed …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:19 PM
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I definitely agree that both sides need to be absolute clear about deal breakers. And mean it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:53 AM
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Meh….there’s plenty of griping on both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:42 AM
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People have been talking shit among those of their same gender about the other gender for generations. Now we get to hear what the other side has been saying in great detail, everytime we open our phones, and no one wants to watch the sausage getting made.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:16 AM
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My husband had just turned 15…..so… You might want to rethink that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:12 AM
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Men see it as a light switch, one day she just shuts it down. Women see it as a straw that broke the camel’s back. It’s a real phenomenon, it’s simply the perception of the conflict that differs. Not sure how to bridge the divide tbh. A therapist would say communication, but that’s not enough to make some men actually get the message that she means it when she says something is bugging her. “Communication” is seen by men as nagging or controlling, which obviously it can be. Here is the true gend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:07 AM
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Dumpster diving is hardly rare. And you are basically acknowledging that the dopamine hit of sex can be more important than the objective desireability of the sex partner. That’s why some men stay in relationships even without desire for the woman. Their desire for sex can be independent from their desire for the actual woman involved. And without a partner, straight men have limited access to sex. I know LOTS of gay men who have had absolutely anonymous sex where they have no clue at all what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:53 PM
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You guys need to explain it to us then, because this woman gets PAID to have sex with men https://www.flickr.com/photos/arnade/6573403185 Now you can argue that you wouldn’t, but some men clearly do, because she doesn’t look like she’s missing any meals
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:38 PM
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This is just my own thoughts, but I think evolution favors individuals with polygamous men and hypergamous women, but evolution has also favored monogamous societies. Men who mate with multiple women obviously pass down more genes, women who become the mate of a chief are more likely to have her children live to reproduce themselves We are born in 50/50 numbers, the only way to change that is with constant warfare, insuring a small number of very fit and capable men mate with a large number of w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 02:28 PM
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Just because your desire for sex comes from the same part of the brain isn’t proof you can’t live without sex. The sexless are hardly rare outliers, and last I looked those popes seem to live forever. https://www.yesmagazine.org/health-happiness/2013/09/28/six-things-nuns-know-about-healthy-aging
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:48 AM
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Clearly not a biological need. As far as a spiritual need, many religions have have clergy that practice celibacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:35 AM
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I know people of BOTH genders who are happily single. They have friends, hobbies, full lives. I do think there are more women who don’t really miss the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:15 AM
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Well, I would say that I’ve definitely had casual sex and most of those conditions were already met. Back when I tended bar there would be hundreds my age so someone was always attractive, I had an iud, most of the people I hung out with were way more promiscuous and most of the people I hooked up with were in my social circle or social circle adjacent. The sex definitely isn’t as good as it is with a regular partner, but it’s not the worst way to pass the time. 🤷‍♀️ I would say a big difference…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:08 AM
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“Hoover”….lol….but I definitely resemble that comment. I just thought I was never going to ever orgasm with any partnered sex at all until my very inexperienced ex happened on it almost accidentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:55 AM
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Sometimes men with “experience “ actually need to unlearn what they think should work, what worked on the last one, or what they saw in porn. Some of what they think they should do might have worked on someone, certainly not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:51 AM
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I know a few super hot for their age, usually surgically enhanced women and roided out guys, in the swinger community, but swinger, fet life, BDSM, and poly people are more likely to be absolute bottom of the barrel
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 09:15 PM
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This is probably heresy and I might be canceled, but it might be different for men and women. Being gay almost certainly has a genetic component…ie “born this way”, but it doesn’t explain orientation fully, since only 1/2 of identical twins, where one is gay are both gay. Here’s the thing that might get me burned on the stake of progressive politics, I’ve personally seen women lean into their bi side more after bad experiences with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 02:48 AM
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You can see that a lot of the women here are poly or have casual sex or frequent sex-clubs or organise BDSM events, have tinder stories, actively use apps, ​have been dating since high school, dated both men and women, ​had hookups and fbws Emphasis mine. I think it’s pretty common to have casual sex once or twice for most people, to date in high school, to find a date on an app. But poly, sex clubs, BDSM, sex workers…..? I’ve lived in some of the most degenerate and libertine places in the US, …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:57 AM
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Surveys are always super reliable when they support your biases, and unreliable when they don’t. lastly, men's dating experiencing on those apps mirror what they experience offline too. So the bottom men in China, India etc have no problem dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:55 AM
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“An important aspect of Tinder's user demographics involves the app's gender imbalance. Around 75% of users identify as male, indicating a significant disparity between male and female users [3]. However, regional variances do exist. For example, in countries like India, the male to female disparity is even larger”. https://www.crossrivertherapy.com/research/tinder-statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:42 AM
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Dating apps in other countries are causing hell on earth for the bottom 80% . As a westerner with western cred and western status you might fare well. Dating apps are designed to keep you single. If they worked, they wouldn’t have as many customers
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 01:17 AM
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We do have socially enforced monogamy now. We have serial monogamy for most middle and upper middle class. Arguably defacto polygamy for the ruling class as socially acceptable. Our president has monopolized the child bearing capability of three women, each of those women have only had children with him. And there has been documented overlap in wife one and two. I think Elon Musk is up to four or five baby mama. It’s honestly not that different than societies where most guys were lucky to get on…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:40 PM
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To echo u/Academic-Ball-9606 it was men who tossed it out. This is what happened after WW2 when men came home to a sex imbalance in the numbers of young men to young women. https://share.google/images/dJYcyCfpZOfFkvLZD If you want to look back to where divorce lost all social stigma, look to the greatest generation That was rapidly followed by the Playboy era which tried to convince men that the single young girl next door absolutely loved sex with men and couldn’t wait for no strings attached s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 11:09 PM
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The bitter divorced guys are usually the worst. Do what you gotta do dude. Maybe mongagamy just isn’t for you 🤷‍♀️. But I’ve honestly not had that big a problem with guys not wanting to stick around and as far as who finally called it quits? About 50/50. But you can’t date like a teenager and replicate teenage hormones, obsession and drama. You’re an adult with adult baggage
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 08:21 PM
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I’ve had some SLUTTY gay male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:55 PM
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there's probably someone out there better for you Most people get over that. Most young love has a natural, short shelf life and people move on, relationships in your late teens and early 20’s aren’t forever relationships and most people have kissed enough frogs to appreciate when someone good comes along. That’s a you thing and a thing with a type of man I frankly never encountered until I was single in my 30’s. Leftovers, never picked, fomos, guys with attachment disorders, baggage and forever…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 07:54 PM
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Hey, listen, you're really hot so I'd like to fuck you then move on shortly afterward to fucking other women" Where in the world do you think this is men’s internal dialogue? Is this what guys claim to think or tell each other? I can tell you from experience, that well over half of the the time, my experience with casual sex has lead to either long term or short term relationships. Met my ex in a bar, sex on the first date only days after meeting, together 7 years. Met my first real “boyfriend “…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:45 PM
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A date isnt a dangerous place for men. Dates are actually relatively safe, all things considered. But dates are the safest for straight men. I’ve had gay male roommates and gay male friends, and I have heard some horror stories. Guys trying to forcibly go in raw, weirdos who scared the bejesus out of them, guys who got way too rough, guys who started slapping, hitting and choking, guys who lied about HIV status, etc. They absolutely put themselves in situations I would never put myself in, but w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:09 PM
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You could get that if you were 14 again. Easy money!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:47 PM
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Ever wonder why in such a high paying profession, they still have to kidnap, coerce and traffic women? Wonder why so many have problems with alcohol and addiction? If it’s “just a service” that perfectly mentally healthy people engage in and make tons of money, why aren’t people lining up to do it. It’s not “stigma”. Plenty of women are putting sexual content right in the public eye with their face available for everyone to see. And most barely make any money at all. Whores are much more anonymo…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:40 PM
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I can judge any man I want as someone I would never date. Feel free to do the same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 02:50 PM
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If a woman gets dick off of tinder, you know the huge difference ? At least they are both having sex because they both want sex. With prostitutes you are sticking your dick into someone who really doesn’t want sex. It’s actually a pretty rapey thing to do, to not care that the other human being at the end of your dick doesn’t really want sex. You stick your dick in a whore then you can exclude me all you want, lol. Please, in all seriousness. I hope you do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 12:52 PM
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How do I do this? Asking for a friend 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:17 AM
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Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:15 AM
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I for one am PROFOUNDLY grateful I didn’t marry my first boyfriend. I don’t regret casual sex in general, and I’m not one of those bluepillers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:12 AM
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Sure, we all have a price I suppose. How much for some old dude to plow your ass?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 06:09 AM
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I have been on dates Just stop doing that for everyone’s sake. I’m dead serious. Just stick to hookers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:52 AM
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There was a study that followed the lives of prostitutes and their lives after prostitution in the UK. “ We used four categories for analysis based on the local industry: street, escort (which includes working for a madam and privately), sauna (sex work businesses including clubs), and flat (sex work businesses where women tend to work on their own).” “ Six of the 130 women had died: four deaths have been reported in an earlier paper,7 including two with AIDS and two who were murdered. Another w…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:32 AM
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Casual isn’t about connection? You sure? Every relationship I’ve had started out “casual” since I never demanded commitment before having sex with anyone. Casual sex can be the beginning of great, long term relationship or marriage, a very fond memory, a lifetime friendship, completely forgettable or a regret. You are probably not going to be “in love”, but if you aren’t making a connection, even for a short time, you’re doing it wrong. The connection part frankly seems to be an inconvenience to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:19 AM
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I knew my husband for years before we dated. I knew one of his exes and several former hookups, he wasn’t a liar or a cheater, he actually had a reputation for being a sweetheart. But no, you probably don’t always know, even if you ask. Especially at first. The truth of people’s past usually comes out eventually though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 05:04 AM
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I personally would prefer if they would just legalize prostitution and just let these men buy what they want. I absolutely think it should be legal. The added benefit is fewer of these guys in the dating pool
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:55 AM
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My husband had a double digit count before he graduated from high school. He definitely isn’t worried about mine. 🤣 I would never date a cheater, a guy who went to hookers and DEFINITELY never date a guy who did anything rape adjacent. You’re free to make your own standards. No one is going to make you date someone with an n count higher than 9 dude
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:37 AM
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I think every guy who is confused about how much that hooker wants to deal with his junk should just ask…..how about if I just mail you the money instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:33 AM
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Well I’m not hooking up with a strange dude from Tinder either. I’ve had some really meh hookups and some really great hookups, but definitely within my social circle or circle adjacent. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18319375/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:28 AM
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I think there are people who can learn to disassociate, or are just wired differently. And people living out childhood sexual abuse, but compartmentalizing it as “it’s just a service”. Makes what happened to them not a big deal. I lived in a few areas with lots of prostitution all around me. Most had serious drug or alcohol problems. Even more expensive escorts, there’s always something off. But the fact that some dude can actually enjoy it knowing that she’s actually not interested at all and j…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 04:19 AM
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Ohhhh absolutely no doubt. Being a whore is such a gross and degrading experience for most women, even countries where it’s legal and uneducated women in brothels can make lots of money, most of the whores come from impoverished places.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:55 AM
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Then dating a former sex worker seems to be your best bet. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7533589/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:39 AM
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https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7533589/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:32 AM
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while looking for a longer-term partner Yeah….thats going to be a problem. Most normie women aren’t going to interested in dating a whoremonger. Would you be interested in dating a former sex worker?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:28 AM
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Exactly. They are “sugar babies”! Totally not whores!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:35 PM
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If you require fucking a stranger for a relationship, a platonic relationship was not the real goal. A sexual relationship was. ftfy ⬆️I’m a woman and honestly don’t agree with your take at all. I’m straight , I’m monogamous and I like sex. I have enough friends, the one thing I don’t share with friends is sex. You know what differentiates a platonic relationship with a sexual one? SEX. No one is saying you have to jump in bed on day one, but you don’t have a sexual relationship without sex. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:55 AM
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You are talking about two entirely different types of of people. A sexually conservative person would not be okay with someone who wants or has a fwb. People who want to wait until they are in a relationship want other people who want to wait until they are in a relationship. Some want exclusivity and commitment before sex. Some ..not many but some…want to wait until they are married. These people want people like they are. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t been one of these people since high school…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:20 AM
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Celebrity women have some age gaps that frankly kind of gross me out 🤣. Cher is 79 and is dating a 39 year old. Madonna is 66 and her boyfriend is 29. Cameron Diaz and her last two. Kate Beckensale and whoever her last 4 boyfriends were. Although Diaz and Beckensale are still quite attractive, no one believes some young dude is banging some of these dusty old wax figures because they are hot. It’s honestly pathetic and obviously gold digging, but hey…not my circus, not my monkeys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 12:00 AM
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The tickets expire quickly Ticket? When the destination is a man who finds you unattractive because you hit 30 and have wrecked your body having his kids? That’s a ticket to where exactly? Being expired goods? You guys definitely make the CC, followed by single motherhood from the sperm bank or some rescue cats sound like the better choice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:58 PM
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terms such as accountability are completely unknown to most women. Women are the ones with basically unlimited ability to cheat, with younger men, fitter men. 24/7. Just walk in any college bar and you will find one willing. According to you, most men won’t cheat only because they can’t and only “some” who can, won’t …..out of a sense of duty. You sure you still want to categorize men as the accountable gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:51 PM
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Sounds miserable tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:26 PM
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before your time is up Or opt out all together. Get a dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:19 PM
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Just get with a dude who will suck it up and not cheat with a younger woman, mostly because he can’t? Wow, that sounds great. You guys are really selling it today.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:18 PM
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Thanks…it’s been a while but I think that’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 08:52 PM
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I don’t really find random hard ons all that attractive unless I’m in the mood for sex with the person it’s attached too. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 06:42 PM
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But when this was first presented on this subreddit, the number of guys who freaked out and accused women of wanting sex with their pets more than their partners was less than a dozen, but definitely more than one.🤪 For whatever reason, it just is what it is. At this point I’m honestly tired of men thinking women just “ain’t right” because we aren’t men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:13 PM
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I wish I could once again find the porn study…but men had physical reaction and increased genital blood flow when they saw the body parts of their preferred gender, and no physical reaction to body parts or sex not showing the object of their desire. Bi men reacted to images of both men and women. Women on the other hand, regardless of their sexual orientation, reacted physically to any suggestion of sex, including watching two gay men have sex, two women have sex, people of either sex solo and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:14 PM
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exception that proves the rule (plural exceptions that prove the rule or exceptions that prove rules): The rare occurrence of a counterexample to a rule, used to demonstrate that the rule exists. As a rule, 39 year old men won’t date a 79 year old woman As a rule, there are only two sexes. A tiny percentage of biologically intersex people doesn’t change the rule As a rule, autistic and anxious men will never be ladies men, despite the fact you claim to know one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 05:08 AM
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Cher is 79 and her boyfriend is 39. Proof that 39 year old men will date 79 year old women….. Sorry dude doesn’t work that way. One outlier does not disprove a theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 04:23 AM
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I honestly didn’t know until years later.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:13 AM
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My ex’s mom always said this exact thing, women’s bodies were beautiful and men’s bodies were ugly. Made me wonder. Reminds me of the Bell Jar when Plath describes male genitalia as “turkey necks and gizzards”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:02 AM
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It’s not just random or surprising that women are attracted to good genes and good work ethic. It typically takes a combination of the above to be good at something. I will say that not all skill proficiency is equal to all women. Being good at billiards will probably attract a different woman than speaking multiple languages.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:55 AM
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I don’t know. I spent two years celibate after the breakup of my first 7 year long ltr and 2 years sorting through the leftovers in the dating market in my early 30’s before dating my now husband. Dating and relationships seemed easy in my twenties, virtually every guy I wanted to date I dated, and it was easy to turn dates into a relationship. Not long term commitment maybe, but a relationship. In my 30’s? Jaded people, avoidants, leftovers, divorced guys with kids, non commitment minded. I per…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:29 AM
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Criticizing me in front of her friends in an attempt to embarrass me. Oof. No dawg that’s universal. Regardless of gender or relationship type. Not anything I would tolerate from a friend, family member or spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 07:23 PM
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But, as you said, we're looking at 2019-2023, and top incomes have inflated, so it should be higher. Good grief….the data is from 2019 to 2023. So one would expect the quintiles to generally be lower. You know…back when wages were lower. You are also looking at a moving target centered on 26 to 30. Huge differences in income between ages 25 to 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:49 PM
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Again, in 2019, the top 80% cutoff by ages 25/30/35 were 55k, 67.5k and 84.5k respectively. Top 20% incomes have grown faster than inflation. Women in 2025 are getting married slightly later. You keep comparing apples to oranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 06:36 PM
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it's only looking at women who actually got married. If a significant number of high earning women are only interested in even higher earning men, they just won't marry anyone in large numbers Yeah, that’s a myth too. The MOST likely women to get married are actually the highly educated, professional class. And it’s not even close. They are getting married at much greater numbers, some just later, many in their early 30’s. Same as educated men. They are typically marrying after 2 to 5 years of d…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 03:11 PM
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https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/rmwmandspousemedinccompmostrecentyear-w640.png The median income gap between spouses has remained pretty static, with newly married men’s median earnings 20% higher than newly married women, but those numbers are highly skewed by marriage between the poorest couples, and couples where the wife doesn’t work at all. Highly educated and high earning women not settling for their equals, but demanding men earn even more, is mostly a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 02:44 AM
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Anyone can strike up a conversation with me at any time really. Unless I’m in a bad mood, I’ll talk to most strangers. If it’s an obvious “hey beautiful, I would love to show you a good time”, then it would have been annoying when I was young, now it would have me cracking up laughing. I met my ex from a cold approach in a bar. We spent about 6 hours talking and went out for breakfast before he asked for my number.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 01:23 AM
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King Charles is the most obvious case that looks alone don’t predict the depth of love and attachment people can feel towards someone else, despite having socially approved access to a much more attractive mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:39 PM
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That’s the public face of big age gaps, high income men with extremely hot, young, beautiful women, but not the actual reality of your run of the mill age gap relationship. The typical age gap relationship is overwhelmingly between two below average, less desirable individuals. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6879192/ “In direct contrast to conventional wisdom and most economic models of marital age gaps, we present robust evidence that men and women who are married to differently-aged …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 11:36 PM
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many end up dissatisfied having to be with partners of similar ages because they no longer have the hots for them Well….actually….there is a study on that, lol. In relationships with large age gaps, the older one, regardless of gender, starts out much happier than a typical couple, and the younger one less happy. Within a few years, the age gap happiness fades, and the older partner is even less happy than those in same age marriages. You can look up the studies yourself. Have you ever wondered …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 10:50 PM
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Well …..that’s one way to look at it. Another way to look at it is women being primary breadwinners has tripled in only 50 years. Modern marriages of young, western people often have high economic parity until the birth of a first child, after which women predominately still work, or return to work, but at a reduced income…typically also work fewer hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:39 PM
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Tried to look up your link “ Yue Qian (2016). "Gender Asymmetry in Educational and Income Assortative Marriage". Journal of Marriage and Family. 79 (2): 318–336. doi:10.1111/jomf.12372.” It’s interesting that the year that study ended, 2012, was the same year that in the US, more women married down in terms of education than men https://share.google/wXgGBSG59zbEJSLKC
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:25 PM
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You realize that women who got married in 1980 are mostly still alive, right? When you see statistics that say only 55% of men earn significantly more than their wives, some of the people counted in those statistics got married in 1980. Also includes lots of much younger women who were raised by women without much economic opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:13 PM
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tendency A tendency, that when compared to all known human history, is changing pretty rapidly. Changing rapidly enough along with rapidly changing culture to suggest it’s not biological https://share.google/7MugbgCwxZAYEDKcY
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:09 PM
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Honestly don’t know, lol. I’ve experienced longer than ideal,haven’t had too fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:01 AM
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Don’t care about length as long as it’s 6.5 or under, average to above average girth is nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:51 PM
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I think we internalized men's way of thinking as default, that's why we think it's simple. 🎯 I’ve been in and out of this sub for years under different names and rarely does anyone actually make a comment that hasn’t already been said a thousand times
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:05 AM
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Well, an extraordinarily large, long labia didn’t hinder the porn career of Veri Knotty aka Square Knot Sally. https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0461466/bio/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:47 AM
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As the bearer of a very tidy innie, as a woman I was pretty surprised when I saw the variation in the size and length of some labia.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:42 AM
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What about stealing wives and arraigned marriages in hunter gatherer societies leads you to believe women had control before the advent of agriculture? https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513807000517
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:07 PM
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You are right but there are a few notable exceptions. Agree with him or not, David Hogg is probably one of the most recognizable gun control advocates.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:38 AM
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With civilization, men had more control over women Is this satire?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:58 AM
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You think women would be A OK….. Yeah? I keep my hair long and my bush neatly trimmed because my husband has actively stated how he loves my long blond hair and closely trimmed blond bush. Is long hair a pain sometimes? Sure. But when he cups my face when my hair is falling down onto his face, and tells me I’m his Sunshine, that’s priceless. I had had to jokingly cajole my husband into regrowing his facial hair, which I love, but I haven’t always been successful in getting him to keep his hair l…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 01:46 AM
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Well, to be perfectly honest, no guy is ever going to get the chance to prove his worth as relationship material if he isn’t attractive to me. I have a physical type, a man who I can look at and immediately recognize he’s attractive, but I have been absolutely crazy about men who aren’t my typical type. Once a man passes a certain level of attraction, I have typically had relationships with: high libido men, men who are equally attracted to me, men who are cuddlers and affectionate, and men who …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:51 AM
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this system of control would have had to have existed before written history. What about this seems unlikely to you? What about “written history “ changes the dynamic of not having control and using hypergamy to “get a better deal”.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:42 PM
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I’ve known plenty of dudes who do it….swimmers and gym bros, but it would seem easier to simply date people who like what you offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:17 PM
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which you never even answered And you never answered or addressed the the strength imbalance. Penetration is ALWAYS more for a reason my friend. A hand job in a massage parlor is cheaper than bj, which is cheaper than full service, and of course anal always costs the most. If I am going to be penetrated by something I have no desire to be penetrated by, you can bet I would prefer oral over vaginal…despite the fact that ”orifice is not designed for it” and also have that act done by someone I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:15 PM
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There was a study that followed the lives of prostitutes and their lives after prostitution in the UK. “ Six of the 130 women had died: four deaths have been reported in an earlier paper,7 including two with AIDS and two who were murdered. Another woman died of alcoholic liver disease in her mid‐30s, and the last reportedly from a drug overdose in her early 40s.” “ 38 women (40%) reported significant mental health problems including depression, psychosis, and eating disorders, and 46 (of 72, 64%…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:09 PM
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one act is far easier than the other No shit Sherlock….duh. Thanks for making my point, sticking something into someone else is always going to be easier than letting someone stick something into you. Being penetrated by something gross is always going to be worse than penetrating something gross. One is simply inherently more vulnerable and literally personally invasive. Virtually every guy, if forced by another guy, would rather be the pitcher, not the catcher. And being vulnerable with someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 03:31 AM
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🤣. I think it’s more like guys who are balding but cling to those last wispy hairs. A full head of hair is nice, but at some point just shaving it off is better than one weird patch.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 03:01 AM
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I think hairy guys have it easier since shaving it off is always an option. As a woman who likes hairy men, there is nothing a guy with a hairless chest can do and no adaptation he can make. Not gunna lie, I lost a minor crush on a guy in college who took off his shirt and had no chest hair except for some weird circles around his nipples. I’ve been slightly disappointed to find zero hair, but those nipple tufts on an otherwise hairless body 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 02:50 AM
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>Some would say "well men can go gay 4 pay too" and that's a dishonest argument. Even if you dismiss the disproportional psychological damage Not buying this one or the idea that men would suffer disproportionate psychological damage. There’s a surprising number of pornstars who start out straight and end up doing gay for pay. And a I have a good friend who is straight but hustled chicken hawks at age 14. Men will frequently have consensual sex with other men in prison at much higher rates than …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 02:36 AM
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If held at gunpoint, would you rather give a weird smell old dude a handjob, or let a weird smelly old woman tie you up and peg you? In addition to the gross aspect of having sex with someone you don’t want sex with, for women, sex with men involves being physically penetrated and physically vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 02:17 AM
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>women don’t want to just look at hot guys if they aren’t actually dating pool material. Right. We typically aren’t going to feel the same level of immediate sexual attraction or lust based on a picture like men will.. Women WILL choose the best looking, because that’s pretty much all we have to go on. That’s precisely why it’s terrible for 95% of men. But when you meet in real life, there is a lot more that goes into attraction, even pure physical attraction, like the way he holds himself, his …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:50 AM
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We definitely judge on looks, but typically don’t feel lust or sexual attraction based on a photograph alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/26 12:41 AM
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Strongly disagree that dating apps make dating easier for 95% of young men. First, way more guys are looking and women are flooded with options. Second, we simply aren’t as visually wired as men, rarely does a picture alone ever make us really interested in an average but attractive guy. They once tried a version of Playboy for women with beefcake shots of men. It didn’t last long and was mostly sold to gay guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 07:05 AM
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Nah. Even places with legal prostitution in safe brothels can’t find sex workers. They still have to import them from poverty stricken areas. Being a whore IS dangerous, it’s also fucking gross. Most women simply can’t mentally disassociate the physical act as just another physical act like giving a massage or healthcare. Even in places where prostitution is legal, many women have to anesthetize with drugs and alcohol to do the job. Or they have to be desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:50 AM
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You forgot gross. When I think of prostitution , I just think gross. Most women simply can’t compartmentalize the physical act of sex as just another physical activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:40 AM
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You are right https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full prostitutes also are more likely to have sociopathic and anti social tendencies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:36 AM
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While you are correct that your main buyer group is a bunch of gross dudes and sociopaths, the biggest down for prostitution is simply transactional sex with a stranger. I have a relatively high n count, but no matter how attractive the client was, the mere act of transactional sex with a stranger, for me, and I suspect for lots of other women, would actually feel like getting repeatedly raped. I think many men can’t relate (obviously as many are willing to pay for the privilege of transactional…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 06:32 AM
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You never said it was bad? eventually face punishment from their partner while in the relationship for not living up to their partner's standards. In both cases, it would merely be a matter of rejection/judgement being delayed, not avoided Sounded bad to me If my only consequence is you don’t want to date me……alright, alright, alright then. Bring on the judgement, lay your cards on the table so we don’t waste each others time. Sounds great. I frankly have no idea how or why I would ever meet som…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:36 AM
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No…but her Reddit name was planejane and his had blue in it if I remember. Pretty sure she was a military plane mechanic and he was also in the service. Grid might remember
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:27 AM
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Mmmmm……they actually might not be totally divorced from your genetics. “ After analyzing the DNA of 13,000 Australians, 15 researchers, led by Penn State political scientist Peter K. Hatemi, found several genes that differed between liberals and conservatives. Most of them related to the functioning of neurotransmitters, particularly glutamate and serotonin, both of which are involved in the brain's response to threat and fear. This finding, published in The Journal of Politics last October, fit…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:38 PM
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Hey..a couple of years ago we had a couple get married
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 10:24 PM
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No one who knows my history cares though, not my husband or my friends who almost all have similar histories. I don’t post my sex life on my Linkedin page. So what consequences affect my personal life? I agree that some uptight rando on reddit might judge me…you still haven’t identified the consequences. You can judge me because I eat meat, I don’t vote like you, I own a gun, etc I can judge you back for being a prude and believing in supernatural beings. My judgment of you has no consequences i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 09:19 PM
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Incredible. You are immune from all the consequences of judgement Why shouldn’t I be? I understand that people I have absolutely no romantic interest in have different values, but I don’t think my sexual history affects them in the least. If you want to get your panties in a wad that some random guy you never met had a good time, that’s on you. Hookups happen, no one was harmed in the process, and no one needs to lie. No yard children made, no diseases transmitted, no one was manipulated , coerc…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:47 PM
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No, there really hasn’t been any consequences for me, being judged as a woman has had about the same consequences that only being rejected by old, ugly, obese women would have for a men. My n count might be higher than most, but my husband’s is even higher. So he definitely wasn’t desperate, he’s always been popular with women. He also knew me for years so he didn’t have to ask, he knew I was not exactly a virgin. I honestly don’t have any interest at all in any man who would even remotely ident…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:32 AM
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Yeah, I could give you the statistics about how many women fall into poverty after divorce, but who fucking cares anyway. Women should work and they are stupid if they don’t. Because men will consistently say how valuable a stay at home mom is and they are full of shit. Point taken. You win.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 04:47 AM
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Women have always been more interested in relationships, marriage, and children than men on average, seemingly by nature. So I'm calling their bluff. That’s changing rapidly and may no longer be true https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/02/15/among-young-adults-without-children-men-are-more-likely-than-women-to-say-they-want-to-be-parents-someday/ I think the birth rate speaks for itself Marriage and kids used to be social capital for women in ways it no longer is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:55 AM
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There are probably a majority of republicans in congress who privately don’t support Trump, but he has a populist stranglehold and they don’t want any primary challengers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:49 AM
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Not some US conservatives. Half want a theocracy despite the fact that it’s probably the most unamerican way of life to ever exist, the other half thinks we can return to what they think life was like on television 65 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:43 AM
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Realistically…very few women get alimony and if they do, it’s usually a short time. We aren’t all the former Mrs Bezos. The vast majority of women lose out financially already, and all men seem to do is stand their ground that all the earned money is his money. Meanwhile the trad con half bitches that she doesn’t want to take the deal. It’s honestly kind of sad, I think kids do benefit when they are preschool age by having a mom home, but in reality her career will take a huge hit. No…women just…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:32 AM
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Do you want me to be honest? If he’s throwing that at me in the first few months, I’m going to think I’m not enough for him, he needs some hinky kinky shit and isn’t really into ME, he’s into his fantasies. Especially if he needs weird shit just to get a boner. That’s a no from me. Try your luck on Fetlife. If he comes at me with that after a year, I’m going to say, let me try this on and see if it feels genuine. I’ve tried some things that honestly ended up feeling more stupid than sexy, but I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 01:44 AM
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Older mothers are definitely a cause for Down Syndrome. Older fathers are definitely a cause for autism. It’s worth noting that currently, only one of these unfortunate outcomes can be mitigated through IVF.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:32 PM
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Glad to be of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 02:45 AM
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I don’t get it…but it’s not my circus, not my monkeys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 01:42 AM
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It’s exactly like my experience. Down to the detail, but thank god it lasted only 6 months. I really liked him, he was actually cute and sweet, but I told him I was going to visit a friend and never returned.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:31 AM
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This needs to be a thread because it seems to be a common experience. I thought my first knew what he was doing, mostly because he thought he knew what he was doing and I didn’t k ow better. And frankly wasn’t that different than porn, so jackhammering in weird angles seemed to confirm….this is how it’s done. He wasn’t a bad guy, just clueless. I was clueless too I suppose. If he had just admitted that maybe how he had sex might not be the only way, or a way that women actually enjoyed….
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:28 AM
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😣 This seems like an outward manifestation of a mental illness to dedicate your life, your time, your health in order to look like a freak. At least the people on the other end of the spectrum, the 500 pounders like Jabba the Hut get to eat cake and fries Is this guy going to die at 50?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/25 12:20 AM
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If you actually want to learn something useful in the future, watch this https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0415475/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 11:33 PM
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I’m sure this guy who made this post is totally a high value man. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:58 PM
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Maybe you don’t represent all men. I’m guessing her accomplishments mattered to her extroverted 6 foot gymbro doctor husband. He certainly had options and yet he chose her, someone with similar accomplishments.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 12:53 PM
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https://share.google/EVn5SSMPFqpgQTnJx Are you serious? Good for him that he wants to be the best and has succeeded. Some women might find that body to be great. That’s just weird to me dawg, he doesn’t even look like a human male
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:09 AM
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Well, at least you understand that in modern western society, low n count is WAY down on the list. No one wants to be humiliated in public or be cheated on, but pretty much everyone accepts that past a certain age, we are all having sex. I think most evo psych is garbage and still have my doubts whether preferences for chastity is actually innate or simply cultural. There’s too many outliers to the rule for me to completely buy it, but who knows. I wonder how that rock hut is coming along. Ahmed…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 04:01 AM
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You need to keep it up, because after all, Grant will be stopping by later tonight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:18 AM
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This whole thread is really kinda sad and hilarious tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 03:00 AM
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mainly me and my friend Grant 🤣 💀I’m ded. You, Grant and the guy with four teeth left in Afghanistan. Sounds like an exclusive club of hvm Bezos definitely married Lauren Sanchez for the money. You nailed that one. It’s just comedy at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:58 AM
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Name one then. Our president married a woman who did soft core porn. Is Brad Pitt now a “low value man”. Is Travis Kelce? Jeff Bezos? Who exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:46 AM
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You actually sound like a narcissistic cunt to me 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:45 AM
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This just seems to me that you are backing into the definition of lvm and hvm by who they choose as partners. Men who don’t insist on virgins are lvm, men who do are hvm ….such as yourself In reality there is almost no correlation that I can find. You have high profile, wealthy and accomplished western men with some outright promiscuous women. You have some dude with four teeth in Afghanistan scrounging for rocks to build a stone hut who will murder his bride if she’s not a virgin. This seems li…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 02:42 AM
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Not I’m my case, I don’t think. I absolutely love the feeling of penetration but definitely need direct stimulation of my clit at the same time in order to orgasm. While getting both at the same time gives me intense orgasms, probably the best orgasms tbh, but if you take away the stimulation on the clit, orgasm doesn’t happen. It doesn’t have to be manual, certain positions do it. But positions like doggy without a helping hand? Never even come close…no pun intended. On top leaning forward I wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 11:26 PM
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lol….actually we had a really active sex life for 7 years…he cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 10:51 PM
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🤷‍♀️. I was crazy about him at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 10:01 PM
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Sure there are “thousands “, that seems plausible. Probably 100’s of thousands tbh. There are also 8 billion people in the world. I don’t live in the 1950’s, or in some weird backward environment where gay people have to hide. Where I live they just move to Atlanta. “Thousands” marry gay or trans men, meanwhile almost 1/4 of a million people are struck by lightning ….every single year. I still have never met a single one and probably never will. Citing “ thousands “ and common? Makes me think yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:43 PM
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I’ve been humping pillows since I was 8 or 9. Has absolutely nothing to do with anything other than another way to flick the bean for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:09 PM
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I only had that happen once. I worked waiting tables in my teens with a guy who looked like Abe Lincoln. Odd sexuality, repressed and very catholic. But damn….the massages that guy gave….had me think bad thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:53 AM
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I thought I was the only one. I can pretty reliably have an orgasm during piv, I never really think of them as separate categories. Manual and oral stimulation often give me faster, reliable orgasms, piv take more time and effort usually. They sometimes have an intensity simply because I have been moving my body with a certain intensity for a period of time, but I never have thought of them as particularly different
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:47 AM
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Something is wrong with the Barna group website, it won’t load, but it’s a self identified Christian data research organization, and it doesn’t look that great for the religious folks. Their divorce rates are really no different than anyone else. Data from a few years ago had atheists in the running for lowest divorce rates…of course your divorce rate probably will be lower if you don’t feel pressure to marry in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:35 AM
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You aren’t Gen z. This generation of young people are clearly different…of course not as different as some of the people who participate in this subreddit, some of them are really “different “ Sex is down, virginity is more common, testosterone levels of young men are in the shitter. The kids aren’t alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:25 AM
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I would never bother with online dating unless I absolutely had no other outlet to meet men. It probably works for some highly attractive men, as a woman it seems a fools errand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:11 AM
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I will argue that the perspective is more important than objective reality. “Clouding”? Love googles imho. I know every year both my husband and I get older, but we still have a high level of physical attraction to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 01:07 AM
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I call it the John Hamm effect. He was the sexiest in Mad Men. In everything else he’s just another actor for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:55 AM
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Probably less than 5% of guys are that visually stimulating to get my attention from a photo. I’m not saying I would say “ew…no.” I’m saying they wouldn’t stand out or register at all in my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:50 AM
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I could look at 200 photos honestly and not one would make me feel excited to go on a date. I mean I can say, “he’s an objectively good looking guy”. But I have to see a man in the flesh to inspire lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:40 AM
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their body Even when looking simply at men physically, their body is pretty far down on the list for me. No fat guys, no overweight guys at all. No shade but it’s a deal breaker. Otherwise face>>>body.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:37 AM
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I have had sex on the first date with guys I would never have swiped on Tinder in a million years, or never would have wanted to date just from looking at a photo. So is that settling or not settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:33 AM
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I completely agree with all of this. A great, broad smile, and eye contact go along way. But it doesn’t really grow from no attraction at all to full attraction. I especially agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:16 AM
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I have an ex who was not especially physically attractive. He was cute enough but I wouldn’t have swiped on him out on a dating site. A mild attraction describes it well. He approached my gay male friend and me one night in a bar, we all started talking and buying beers, and soon enough my friend left the two of us alone. We talked all night, went to breakfast, he walked me home in the daylight and asked me for my number. We had a similar sense of humor, he made me laugh, he seemed “exotic “ hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:02 AM
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lol…have you been here long? Divorced men, men that got cheated on, men who have always been unsuccessful, late in life virgins, …..yeah…they have emotional baggage, some way more than most. Then from a practical point of view, they often have literal baggage. Like kids, weekend custody (which sucks if you work a 9 to 5 and are dating them) child support payments, exes Just like everything else, you factor in a whole person when you decide if you want to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 03:19 PM
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I personally don’t think it’s always bad, but definitely..100%…think you should be an adult and make this decision for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:44 PM
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I don’t understand the concept staying at home if you don’t have kids I also believe to live your best life you’ve got to be doing something. As someone who started out on reddit in Leanfire, and has the luxury of a household where no one works, most people really need a driving passion or hobby to live their best life without the structure of having a job imho. Our passive income is fairly low, but our house, cars and properties all paid off, so our disposable income is comfortable I started pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 12:41 PM
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The head that a good many give is either toothy and borderline painful or just awkward and doesn't hit the spot. Obviously you need negative feedback if something is downright painful. But positive reinforcement is going to be more fun, sexier and will get you better results than criticism. Even a broken clock is right twice a day, so when something feels good, let her know. In my experience, men are way too quiet so when something feels great so vocalize. So much better to hear omg…yes…than hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 03:44 AM
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I guess I’m the odd one out. My husband is to the left of me. Trump has driven him way farther left than when I first met him tbh. It’s not really an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 02:15 AM
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Sure. Absolutely. Even middle class, they prefer the additional bathroom and two cars. Also, don’t discount pride in accomplishment and social capital. Men lose more social capital at the neighborhood bbq when their wife works and they don’t, but women now lose some social capital too. Some really wealthy women work and some wealthy men marry accomplished women with careers. Even in very conservative couples. Ben Shapiro’s wife is a practicing physician. Amy Coney Barrett, Karoline Leavett…these…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 01:21 AM
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I think this mentality sidesteps the discussion of what happens after the child is done breastfeeding and what most women would prefer to happen. I personally don’t know any young women not planning on some sort of job or career. Most people could afford to be half of a stay at home mom type couple if they were willing to live in a trailer, it’s the 2025 version of the 1100 sf starter home with one bathroom, just like the 1950’s. Lots of people don’t really want to work, but they want a nicer ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 12:42 AM
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Exactly. Also, that study looked at a grand total of 52 kids murdered over a 19 year period. 47 autistic boys compared to 5 autistic girls. Boys are 80% of the people diagnosed with autism. If the victims gender was completely random, say in a school for autistic kids, and 52 were shot, one would expect 42 boys and 10 girls to be shot. 5 boys out of 5 million autistic individuals, over the course of 19 years, is now an “off the chart” data point as proof that life is hell for autistic boys. 🙄. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:31 PM
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You are overthinking this imho. Most stay at home moms these days only stay at home when the babies are little. Only one of us has blown out our vag pushing out a bowling ball sized human. Only one of us has tits that already start to leak milk when you hear your baby cry. If a couple can afford it, it just usually makes more sense that the one who needs to heal and is equipped with the feeding apparatus be the one to stay. Enough said. I honestly don’t think it’s that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 10:15 PM
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They clearly just want something to be mad at. Some absolutely must have algorithms that feed them a constant stream of rage bait, and it would not surprise me if some wasn’t generated by bots. My favorite was the guy who wanted to knows why tons of women were online complaining about a new treatment for male baldness. No woman on this forum, full of women interested in gender politics, had heard of this medicine, let alone complained about it. Along with other women who responded, I looked onli…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:29 PM
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First, there are 5 times the number of men to women, second, women simply aren’t as visual as men. I can look at a picture of an extremely handsome man and recognize him as well above average in looks without any other reaction. A man has to be truly extraordinary for me to look at a picture and think “wow, I want that”. Most women are the same. They tried a “playgirl” magazine back in the 1970’s and only gay dudes bought it. We definitely respond to good looks, but not in the same way men do. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:23 PM
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https://www.sciencedirect.com:5037/science/article/pii/S1359178914000305 Adam Lanza…diagnosed https://time.com/19957/adam-lanzas-violence-wasnt-typical-of-aspergers/ Chris Harper Mercer https://www.cnn.com/2015/10/06/us/oregon-umpqua-shooting-mother-online-posts In several posts, she (his mother) makes references to him having Asperger syndrome, considered to be on the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum. Sung Hui Cho https://www.smh.com.au/world/virginia-tech-shooter-was-autistic-200704…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 08:16 PM
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No….that would be 22 out of 75. “ evidence of ASD in six of 75 included cases (8%) which is about eight times higher when compared to the prevalence of ASD found in the general population worldwide. The 8% figure for individuals with ASD involved mass killings is a conservative estimate”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 07:30 PM
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Men who aren’t significantly above average in looks need to ditch dating apps altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:14 PM
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I see this constantly. People can’t distinguish between people in power saying things to wide audiences and actually having the ability to influence policy, and something posted by some bat shit stupid rando with 50 followers and 10 upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 05:04 PM
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Sometimes awareness actually is all that’s needed, …..which sensationalism might actually help? I don’t honestly know. It’s extremely rare, but the outcome is extremely devastating. I’m not going to warn someone in a happy relationship “they are going to murder you!” But in a really bad situation?….. In a situation where threats or injuries have already been issued, I definitely might say their chances of being murdered have increased to 1 in 1000, but if it were someone I personally knew, I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 04:15 PM
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Source? Other than 52 murders of autistic kids studied over 19 years? Is it equally fair to say that autistic males, mentally ill males and/or incels present a much greater risk to society than society presents to them? 1 Chris Harper Mercer Diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome 2 Pedro Vargas Tentative suggestions consistent with ASD symptomology 3 Adam Lanza Diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome 4 Andrew Engeldinger Tentative suggestions consistent with ASD symptomology 5 Wade Michael Page Tentative sug…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:40 PM
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https://bjs.ojp.gov/document/hvus23.pdf In the US it’s back up slightly for 2024 “Females (0.9 per 100,000 persons) experienced a higher rate of intimate partner homicide than males (0.5 per 100,000)” I can say the ratio is almost twice as likely…true. I can say only 64% ….also true I will say with great confidence both are rare, much more common than being attacked by a bear, yet rare. Things can be extremely rare and still problematic I think. But you are correct that the “one every ten minute…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:27 PM
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Are you talking about this? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10124270/ 52 autistic children killed over the course of 19 years, 90% were male? When looking at ratios of female to male, 80% of children with autism are male, so yes…90% is a slight over representation. But this is as disingenuous as if I claimed “relationships are harder for women because they are twice as likely to be murdered by their partner”. The numbers are true, the conclusion is batshit crazy. “Females (0.9 per 100,0…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:52 PM
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autistic males are 90% of murder victims First of all, just to touch base with reality, 90% of murder victims aren’t even male, much less autistic AND male. Only 78% of ALL homicide victims were even male. And 7% of all homicide victims are the result of multiple or mass homicide. https://bjs.ojp.gov/document/hvus23.pdf Second, the disparity between male and female murder victims is still largely driven by gang activity. I find it extremely hard to believe that being autistic has any correlation…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:17 PM
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No. I’ve never had therapy, but I think you sometimes need a completely impartial person who sees the situation from the outside and has no emotional connection. A spouse, a parent , a good friend will always have more trouble seeing things completely objectively. For someone trained to be a therapist, it’s malpractice to treat people you know or have a relationship with for exactly this reason. Plus, I’m sure some therapists are much better than others, but they have been trained to teach you h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 02:04 PM
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There is a MASSIVE difference between someone who has familial support and decides to be a hoe I also think that no matter what a person’s life looks like from the outside, you have no idea what has gone on in their life. I’ve tended bar in some heavy drinking, weird places at weird hours and have heard people confess horrible things they have done and have had them also break down at things done to them. I try …don’t always succeed, but try, to judge people on how they are now, not what they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 01:32 AM
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I mean…..it’s probably not exactly like there were necessarily better choices for her to make. If their mom was a junkie hooker, chances are good she was abused by at least some john along the way. I saw a documentary about prostitutes in India. They are born in the brothel with the expectation they will start working at puberty. And they mostly accept this as how life is. Looking from the outside it looks to me that they really didn’t have much choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 01:23 AM
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You always have great, thoughtful comments
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 01:13 AM
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This got be thinking, do you believe there are certain baggages someone carries that make them incapable of having a fulfilling relationship….. I had a really close male friend that hustled chicken hawks when he was 14 and 15. He was from an upper middle class background, but his mother was schizophrenic. His dad skipped out a few years before that, his sister was over 18, which left him with this crazed woman who would try to kill him. All this verified by people who knew him as a kid. Long sto…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 01:11 AM
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Well…..I hate to be that person but there indeed is a study It claims that partners in age gap relationships, contrary to what we think and see in media, are indeed both less desirable https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6879192/ “Conventional wisdom regarding marriages between older men and younger women assumes that financially successful men have the advantage of being able to attract and retain younger partners ….. In direct contrast, this paper presents robust empirical evidence of neg…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 10:33 PM
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That doesn’t explain why men typically marry similarly aged women, yet set their desired parameters younger. The difference is between ideal and obtainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:51 PM
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If you look at age gaps for marriage across the world, the more agency women have the smaller the age gap. Age gaps are still common in the third world. The age gap in the US used to be four to 5 years a hundred years ago, it’s now 2.2. Higher standards of living and education correlate with lower age gaps Region SMAM difference Australia/New Zealand 2.2 Northern America 2.3 Northern Europe 2.3 Eastern Asia 2.4 South-Eastern Asia 2.4 Central America 2.5 Western Europe 2.7 Caribbean 2.9 South Ame…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:30 PM
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Look at online dating statistics and where people set their age ranges, and you will find below age 25 very small gaps are highly preferred by women. Around age 25, that typically expands to a gap of 0 to 5 years older.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:19 PM
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Yes, every year their currency goes down a bit for younger women, but if they started out with a high smv they often still have plenty left.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 05:17 PM
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Mother nature has weird sense of humor
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:40 PM
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😕
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:44 PM
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build up meter goes all the way back down to 0 Yes. touch me, grip me, and massage me all over Lots of body contact is definitely something I enjoy, and just one complaint against porn sex I have. I mean I get it, dudes definitely want to see the p into the v, but lots of times the action looks like the rest of their bodies could practically be in other rooms. Plus for me, grinding >> thrusting ..which obviously isn’t as cinematic. Ymmv
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:43 PM
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https://bjs.ojp.gov/female-murder-victims-and-victim-offender-relationship-2021 “The percentage of females murdered by an intimate partner was 5 times higher than for males”. That stat is somewhat misleading because way more males than females are murdered. But it’s still consistent that in absolute numbers more women than men are killed by their partners. Back of napkin math, almost twice as many.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:14 PM
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First, even really small guys are way stronger. Part of bigger and taller is just a preference for sexually dimorphic traits. I think women who go for big, tall and/or dangerous looking guys are looking for a guy who will be protection from other guys.They are often more traditional women, and often women from rougher circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:11 PM
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Neither one of us did all the initiating, but we each took small steps toward each other. We knew each other for years and had lots of mutual friends. I casually asked him if he was going to a mutual friend’s Thanksgiving party, ironically in a house his family owned, said he would see me there, and we mostly talked to each other. We both went to the same Christmas party two weeks later. Then he did some work on my house and I asked him if he wanted to stay and have dinner. After finishing some …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 01:13 PM
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😏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 04:34 AM
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That’s my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:11 AM
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Wow, three times to recommend this in two days https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0415475/ Give great head Ask. You can do this in a sexy way, but do it. I have certain positions that are much better than others, some positions are great but only with a pillow, or his hand simultaneously. There are some positions that I could be in for half an hour and I’d be bored. Grid is correct. If she is signaling that tempo, pressure are good, don’t speed up, change positions. Stay the course!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:09 AM
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Thank you Grid for your public service. I agree with your assessment When she tells you don’t stop, best thing to do is don’t stop. Don’t stop. Don’t change it up. I posted about my very first boyfriend and how bad that poor s.o.b. was in bed just the other day. Anytime I got close, he would try to change it up, mostly pounding fast and furious in doggy. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 03:07 AM
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Menopause. Reactive sexuality, (she doesn’t feel sexy hence doesn’t want sex). Childbirth. Maybe even her birth control Don’t get me wrong, it’s absolutely ridiculous to expect monogamy if you are not meeting your partners baseline need for sex, and not just a steady stream of duty sex. Real, mutual, connected sex. But what I listed above is often what’s going on in her brain and hormonally in her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/25 02:55 AM
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Oh okay. Let’s discuss the price of Thai box instead then. Again, if you want sex, she needs money…carry on
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:53 PM
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To prove that your relationship with sex workers is hardly sunshine and roses. You clearly have an extremely disdainful relationship talking about them as holes. Just repeating what you posted. But I guess prostitution should be destigmatized for you, not for the holes. I’m all for legal prostitution btw. If all you need from sex is a hole that hopefully looks nice and isn’t radioactive, I think you should buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:35 PM
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Like “pissing razor blades from their radioactive holes”? Sounds like a deep connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:25 PM
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men can get their needs met Not if your need is for actual intimacy, validation, or a solution to your loneliness. If you just can’t get a decent nut from jerking it to porn anymore, yeah, then it might meet your needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:20 PM
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Dating apps are a literal scourge on dating imo and the fact that so many people use them as their primary way of meeting potential partners nowadays is one of the primary reasons of the "loneliness epidemic" The irony is the people who rely on them the most are often the people who they help the least. There is no easy substitute for introverted or shy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 03:54 PM
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Well, a lot of our mutual friends apparently knew before we were willing to acknowledge it. I think they were taking bets. It can definitely be an odd situation to try to negotiate without losing a friendship
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 02:57 PM
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Sure. Absolutely agree. Hot AND fun. But there still is usually a bit of a gendered difference. Unlike men who can look at a photo of an attractive woman and think…definitely would smash based on hotness alone, most women’s attraction will be influenced by how he interacts, escalates and even smells. I’m not saying you always need to know how they treat their grandma, or what their freshman gpa was. Sometimes you can know within minutes if a guy makes you feel sexual towards him. Just that you m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:19 PM
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Yeah, but paying someone extra to let you kiss them doesn’t change the fact that there is no intimate connection. It’s interesting that hookers have to get paid more to actually pretend to be intimate, that performing a sex act is actually easier. Says loads about their true feeling towards their job and their clientele. Ask a hooker if she wouldn’t just prefer the money without ever having to touch you at all if you are still unclear about the nature of the transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 10:54 AM
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You know I thought about this for a while and I do think there’s probably a connection between testosterone and a certain level of bravery. Women are somewhat more likely to give you a kidney, but men are way more likely to show a different kind of spontaneous, one could even “foolhardy “ bravery. As a woman who is fond of both men and testosterone, I think it does give men more risk tolerance, especially where quick thinking is involved. A woman might be slightly more likely undergo an operatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 09:41 AM
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I find it hilarious that “paid” and “ intimacy” appear in the same sentence. “ Intimacy is a deep sense of closeness, understanding, and connection with another person (or oneself), involving vulnerability, acceptance, and trust, extending beyond just physical touch to include emotional, intellectual, and spiritual sharing, making you feel truly known and safe” Prostitution is none of the above. If you want to stick your dick in a hooker, stick your dick in a hooker. Sounds efficient if all you …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:49 AM
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The no bucket is based on your baseline physical attraction, so losing weight or getting fit can definitely make a woman find you more physically attractive. Getting a better job, getting your shit together can turn you from a maybe to a yes. Be very cautious of someone who found you to be a baseline no, and moved you to a maybe based on money or status.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 08:33 AM
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I was actually friendly with my husband for years before we dated, but found him very attractive from the second I laid eyes on him. I also found him to be a train wreck. Never would have considered him. He got his life together, we were both single, it was an awkward transition for a hot minute, but we got over that quickly. The “friends to lovers” that most guys envision is they are both single, he thinks she’s sexually attractive, she thinks he isn’t, and he tries to convince himself that she…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:53 AM
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100% agree with you. Feelings don’t change basic sexual attraction on either side. Women typically have no, maybe, yes mental buckets when we very first meet men. If she finds you physically attractive, you will be a maybe until she sees if you have other attractive qualities. If not, you go in the no bucket and have little chance of changing that. Very few men are so incredibly attractive or perfect on paper that she immediately knows she’s interested in a sexual relationship, but she does know…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:42 AM
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Men who “developed feelings” always had sexual attraction to her. The woman in question didn’t have sexual attraction, and if he hung around thinking she might “grow feelings” that will make him fuckable, he’s delusional. Just like you know right away if youre interested in her sexually, she might not know on first sight, but she knows fairly soon, and no amount of hoping she will develop feeling with change your chances If you find her attractive, shoot your shot fairly early on and then decide…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 01:31 AM
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I’m not making blanket statements about “men” in general, nor am I saying they should be required to be protective of strangers. I already acknowledged that men like that are somewhat rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 11:53 PM
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Doesn’t surprise me in the least. Men for the win.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 11:17 PM
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Mmmm…as a woman I frankly find this disingenuous. Women are protective of kids. They also are more willing to risk a kidney donation than men. But honestly, awesome men who do what that guy on Bondi Beach did, or guys that attacked the hijackers on 9/11, men like are somewhat rare, but women like that are virtually non existent. When my husband and I were first dating, my street flooded…badly. He couldn’t reach me on the phone, so he waded through chest high water to check on me. I was being sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 10:29 PM
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You’re close.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 08:57 PM
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Any person in a monogamous relationship ideally shouldn’t be looking at porn Well …you will find lots of people who disagree. A little porn can be fun. Everything in moderation. I personally think every couple should watch this together. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0415475/ Ask u/kvakerok_v2. He knows what’s up. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:51 AM
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Why does this Chad guy keep smashing these 4’s? Why does Chad smash 4’s if he can pull 7’s? What does it say about men? That they have no self respect and given the opportunity will gladly dumpster dive? Sounds pretty shallow to me. Do you blame average people who get a chance at someone much better looking?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:43 AM
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Name the woman who turned Pincus’s concept into a globally distributed pill without male pharmaceutical infrastructure Her name was Edris Rice-Wray Carson.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:21 AM
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Yeah, I think I’m actually on the side of most of the guys on this one. If she just said “look, I often need toys for the best experience”, that’s one thing. In MOST positions , I often could use a hand so to speak. So if you’re offended that your dick might not be all that’s needed, that’s on you. But a strap on? The strap on isn’t something I'd ever ask of a guy, especially a small one. Somehow seems demeaning. It’s not like “I need a toy”, it’s literally saying I need a bigger dick. I don’t r…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:01 AM
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Don’t feed the trolls. It just makes them gassier and spew more shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 10:53 PM
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My point is that not all of that contact is forced, not all committed by adults, and not all even illegal, so of course there is a huge difference between “adverse sexual activity” at age 17 and below, and legal action. It’s often two prepubescent minors and often not forced. These are very common and rarely prosecuted, and you won’t ever find a 10 year old who played doctor with a 5year old cousin in jail, despite being a counted as an adverse childhood experience. Playing doctor usually peaks …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 11:52 AM
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He was actually a nice guy tbh…and had lots of previous experience. He simply refused to believe that going to pound town in doggy wasn’t the best way to make a girl cum. Not even a helping hand or a reach around. I would get close on top…time to change positions and pound! Get close against his fingers…time to insert and pound! Get close with oral….yeah that never even happened. His oral was terrible.🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 04:08 AM
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Ooof…my first real boyfriend. So bad in bed, lol. And I honestly thought it was me. Every once in awhile I would be so frustrated I would just “go pee” after and finish myself in the bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:25 AM
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Well…would you tolerate your SO policing your porn use and insisting you should never look at another woman because you will eventually want another woman in your bed instead of her? You’ll only want someone with bigger breasts, someone barely legal, etc. I dunno…I think people cheat because they want to cheat. If she wants to cheat, she will probably want that dude to strap one on too. Personally, I find the strap on thing off putting, but definitely only have very few positions I can cum in an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 03:20 AM
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Appx 1 in 5 sex offenders is a woman (see here or here for instance, yet 99% of incarcerated sex offenders are men. Your first link is broken but your second link is specifically about childhood sexual abuse and states: “Contact CSA was reported by 16% of males and 25% of females. Men reported female perpetration of CSA nearly 40% of the time, and women reported female perpetration of CSA 6% of the time.” This data originated from a joint study from Kaiser Permanente and the CDC which defined CS…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/25 12:36 AM
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28 …yes. I personally think for appearance alone, 27 for men is tops. But 45? Rarely will it be a man’s prime and will certainly not attract the women 18 to 24 in their prime. If you are still much hotter than your peers, you will have tons of 45 year old women lined up and even a fair number of 35 year olds. If you just want to consider the age where women will be beating down the doors for a chance, try 78 when all your competition is dead. If you can make it to 78, you will be swimming in old…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:36 PM
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I don’t like the way I look, but damn if a bunch of other stuff doesn’t get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 10:21 PM
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who is built like a 12 year old boy Sadly there is actually probably a market for that if you also got a buzz cut and put on a Cub Scout uniform. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 09:29 PM
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If you believe there is nothing denigrating or humiliating about doing OF That’s a big assumption. Why would I? That’s the question. I actually make great money, and don’t have to hide what I do. Do you feel shame at your sexuality? Is that what stops you from showing your gaping hole in gay porn? Of course we all have a price. If I was starving, who knows. My ex has a grandmother that was an incredibly beautiful teenager. She made it out of a concentration camp. No one asks her how.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/25 06:18 PM
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Yeah, that I agree with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 02:59 PM
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Meh…..I don’t know about that. I’ve tended bar and seen some pretty weird mismatches for hookups. Some, not all but some, guys really will bang anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:57 PM
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Well I think the advice is for great for a promiscuous phase, but most people will eventually want to settle down and have an active sex life with just one person. Most men hope that one person will enjoy lots of sex. I don’t think you have to marry a promiscuous woman, we all have different definitions of promiscuous, but one who is a virgin is an unknown quantity. After a certain age she’s more likely to be very sexually conservative
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 01:55 PM
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Everyone should watch that, suction for the win in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 12:31 PM
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Yes!!! I think you are talking about Nina Hartley. Most porn looks like absolutely miserable sex to me tbh, but man if she’s not right! 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/25 04:18 AM
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He actually came with zero evidence that “progressives and feminists” were stopping male only homeless shelters. The first link was a protest over a family shelter, which except for Family Promise, are usually for women and children. The second link was a different protest of the home for mentally ill men, and it was protested by almost all elderly Asian people, since that’s who lives nearby. That protest was supported by the Republican state representative and Curtis Sliwa, hardly what anyone w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 08:02 PM
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Getting “a better deal” (as if anyone homeless is getting a good deal) is not exactly the same as 100%. Perhaps you need to revisit your math classes. Edit: And of course…downvoted within seconds. Facts make people sad.😢
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:22 PM
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The first link he posted was actually a protest over the construction of a family shelter, which (except for Family Promise) is typically mostly women and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 02:10 PM
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Nearly 100% of resources for homeless people go to women Where in the world do you people get this nonsense from? The largest city near me has MOSTLY male only shelters The Shepherd's Inn part of the Atlanta Mission, 450 beds for men only. The Mission also has My sister’s house, 264 beds for women, girls and boys Salvation Army Men's Shelter Atlanta…..it’s in the name Gateway Center …serves men, women and children. 502 beds total 369 beds are for men only The VA allocates over 3billion for homel…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:36 PM
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I agree with this. I do think plenty of people have sex when unattached and single because they can do it safely, ethically, and honestly. Once people show they don’t have enough restraint to stay faithful and they are willing to lie about it, they will probably do it again.It’s a much bigger personality flaw imho.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 10:56 PM
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Well medical testing isn’t an issue of law either now is it? It’s an issue of raising awareness. You can say it’s “easily solved” but just about half of all male babies currently born in the US are circumcised. Meanwhile, Medicare already pays for an annual psa test for all older men, if they simply get their annual checkup it’s routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 11:39 AM
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Infant circumcise is a personal or religious choice which also happens to girls Obviously a highly personal issue, unfortunately the people it affects most ie the infants in question, are the ones without the choice. If someone, male or female wants an unnecessary body modification, they can wait until they are 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:04 AM
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I'm sure I'm missing some men's issues here. Infant circumcision No default 50/50 custody Male only military conscription Plenty of serious, legitimate issues. People are debating a cure for baldness? Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:19 AM
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I have no idea what rabbit holes you people fall down or what rage bait is fed to you to keep you clicking, but it’s hard to imagine “heaps” of women who give a rat’s ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:15 AM
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Would you consider yourself a pretty masculine , maybe even a bit of an alpha, kind of guy? (Testing a theory)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 04:07 AM
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Give how delightful op’s personality is, I’d bet he would see more action when he ends up in prison.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 03:43 AM
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If you are focused on outcomes, women are handier to have around than idiots”willing to be in a wheel chair” and bros in jail on assault charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 03:38 AM
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People who engage in mutual physical aggression are mentally challenged. Full stop If you really need help to actually stay alive, like a kidney or liver transplant, hope you don’t alienate all the women in your life with your foolish, immature behavior . https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1124370/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 02:35 AM
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I guarantee that there aren’t many women sad about not making a male friend who’s a hot headed, fist fighting, disagreeable guy who wants to rant about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:45 AM
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Women don't set up their male friends with any of their female friends, even the ones willing to be a WingWoman are terrible at it. You are right that I suck at being a wingwoman, but not for lack of trying. If having the ability to get you laid is a requirement of friendship, that’s fine. I respectfully pass. Women wont get into fights with us and aren't willing to end up in a wheelchair for us. I speak for most men when I say that anyone that would abandon me, when I'm getting jumped..l Why ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 01:23 AM
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do you all live where theres no crime or potential damgers? We only lock our doors when we will be out of town for more than one night…but in general, no…there really isn’t any crime. Almost all murder and violence is domestic. Once every few years one meth head kills another one I just looked it up, almost 30,000 people in the county, and last year, including theft, there were less than 200 crimes. Most of those were theft. And anecdotally, most theft occurs to the south of us in trailer parks …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 12:32 AM
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Are you devoted to fundamentalist religion and waiting for marriage yourself? Low Otherwise practically zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 08:11 PM
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believe in a form of divorce government assistance that allows divorcees, male or female, some temporary aid until they get back on their feet lol….typical lack of responsibility or agency. Let the government pay. 🙄 ….that’s a no from me. Your family, your divorce, you pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 07:25 PM
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If you want to be rich, make the damn money on your own. If you only want to be modestly financially security, the same rules apply. “ Divorce significantly increases women's risk of poverty due to systemic economic disparities, lower earning power, and the disproportionate burden of childcare, leading to substantial income drops, loss of assets, and reliance on public assistance, with one in five women experiencing post-divorce poverty and facing long-term financial instability, especially if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 06:52 PM
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I mean there are unfortunates at the homeless shelter. I know it’s hard to comprehend the difference between an actual human relationship and indentured prostitution for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 05:24 PM
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no money of your own = being at the mercy of someone else This. 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:38 PM
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Yeah….well some guy ironically tried to tell me I must be young and/or leftist, (I am neither) and that I was shaming and degrading stay at home women, while simultaneously telling me …and I quote verbatim “ According to the law of supply and demand, it's not exactly the most valuable skill” “As far as I'm concerned, one can easily calculate how much 24/7 care is (or nannying to be more general). Take that, deduct rent/food/car note/miscellaneous. That's how much she's worth.” And “ A wife who r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:55 PM
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Well, I do think that’s true for some men and not true for others. There are men who can feel sexually attracted without allowing themselves to develop romantic feelings. One thing the red pill is right about is having abundance mentality. The second you catch a whiff she isn’t attracted in return is time to move on and focus your sexual interest in a woman who has sexual interest in return, not mope around with oneitis. If you enjoy her company, you can decide to keep her as a friend and maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:42 PM
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I love the assumption that traditional roles were never, and are never equal partnerships. The assumption that unequal finances and conventional gender roles means that women didn’t and shouldn’t get get an equal say in decisions. Or that her role as a mother did not bear as much responsibility as his role. Men say stupid shit like this and then wonder why the kid gets shoved into daycare after 6 weeks 🤷‍♀️ I think most women would prefer to have some say in life decisions and also have their ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:33 PM
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I mean ….it’s clearly sarcasm….I’m just responding to the guy who claims guys accept risk because they have no other option.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 04:56 AM
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Ahhh yes…men can never be accountable for bad choices. The little brain is in charge
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 03:56 AM
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We have had this conversation before…you and I …about honesty. People with a lick of sense already know the truth. When you’re fat, you already know you’re unattractive. Stating the truth is more often than not a way to either insult someone or get beat down.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:43 AM
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People who work for lower ses families are not called Nannies and are absolutely not being paid $60k a year. And “it’s not exactly the most valuable skill” says it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 02:03 AM
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Society has told them that being a productive member of a household is infantilizing, or degrading. I just had a guy be very frank about how he sees a stay at home parent: “ According to the law of supply and demand, it's not exactly the most valuable skill” “As far as I'm concerned, one can easily calculate how much 24/7 care is (or nannying to be more general). Take that, deduct rent/food/car note/miscellaneous. That's how much she's worth.” It’s not “society”, it’s individuals, in my experien…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 01:54 AM
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LOL, more pessimism. How would you know, do you get your view of domestic women from the Leftist media? I’m definitely not a leftist by any stretch of the imagination. I get that idea from your words. “ According to the law of supply and demand, it's not exactly the most valuable skill” “As far as I'm concerned, one can easily calculate how much 24/7 care is (or nannying to be more general). Take that, deduct rent/food/car note/miscellaneous. That's how much she's worth.” That doesn’t sound like…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 01:31 AM
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Do you believe Kevin Federline deserved that chunk of Britney's cash? Yes? Is this in question? He raised her children. I think that was certainly worth while. Some people don't like the stress, and having someone else raise your kids? Some people apparently don’t care if they are poor either I can make a shit ton more than a nanny. They are the man’s kids too. She gets to raise kids that belong to both of them in exchange for temporary room and board for while and he keeps his 401k and equity i…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:54 AM
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Well if you want a stay at home wife, tell her you are a team and her work in the home is more valuable than her having a job, then don’t be surprised when she believes you. Women need to realize when men tell them how much they value their stay at home wives, it’s all bullshit. Women need to get their own careers and stack cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 12:29 AM
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Are women so sure about who they would or wouldn't bone from the outset I usually know who I wouldn’t in 5 seconds and who I would pretty quickly tbh. I can develop “feelings “ for friends that rarely affect my sexual attraction to them. And this is very often clear from the start too. You might become a closer and more important friend to me overtime, you won’t suddenly be fuckable. When a woman says she wants to just be your friend, she doesn’t find you fuckable. It’s always the guy who thinks…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 11:38 PM
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A significant amount of the bottom socioeconomic half of people would be significantly better off if the woman stayed home and clipped coupons, and the husband worked That’s only true for the lower bottom for a few years maximum, accounting for daycare costs. The role of housewife will always be degraded in a capitalist society…and by her husband if they get divorced and “she takes half of his shit”. They say it every time. 8 long term relationships ? I mean you are half that equation, just sayi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 10:13 PM
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Women can be provided for the same way as they were when they were little, until they find a man, i.e. their parents Also, just for your information, in 2023, 18% of adults ages 25 to 34 were living in a parent’s home. And young men were more likely than young women to live at home (20% vs. 15%). So it looks like young men can, and do, sponge off of their parents as well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 09:36 PM
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A man with lots of money will always find a mate. That doesn’t mean that most women will find a man with lots of money to be a suitable mate, simply because he has money, nor does it say that that the mate a wealthy man finds actually thinks he’s sexually attractive. Very few women actually want significantly better looking, younger partners, but the wealthy, narcissistic women who do always manage to find them. Both Madonna and Cher have a string of handsome young partners. That doesn’t mean th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 07:41 PM
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Paradoxically (to me) women don’t like this. To me you shouldn’t care what these guys do since you don’t want them anyways. Do you actually care if men do this? Me? Absolutely not. I think the relationships are often exploitation, but not towards the women involved, towards the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 07:33 PM
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made all men predators in the eyes of women Try living in past times when no father would allow his single daughter to even speak to a potential suitor without a chaperone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:51 AM
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Til …I’m mostly a “leader”. Both men are compatible, therefore both have enough from column friend and column “leader” to be a suitable partner. I don’t need someone who is always fun or always supportive even when I’m in the wrong. I don’t need someone who never needs to be reminded to do anything. I need a grown ass adult (I guess this is leadership now?) who is easy to get along with and who I enjoy being around. Don’t men want the same thing too?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:43 AM
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An almost universal experience of women and girls is to be hit on and /or sexually harassed by much older, bigger, stronger, and scarier aggressive men. So our first experience of being sexually desirable is typically frightening, not flattering.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:29 AM
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Nothing says freedom like having kids, am I right? Wake when you want, sleep when you want, take two week vacations, sick days and holidays off from parenting. Limit parenting hours to 8 a day, because no household chores occur after 5 or before 9. https://youtu.be/ZlopIqqjdOg I’ve never left after a long day of employment with puke down my shirt and a full diaper to clean. Ymmv
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:21 AM
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Well if you want to date like a normie you will need to learn to socialize like a normie. Eye contact, small talk, all of it. It’s just a sad fact that there aren’t as many other autistic women for you to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 10:31 PM
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Yeah? Were you homeschooled?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 06:11 PM
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“If going out and approaching them” is bothering women going about their day, you don’t understand how people actually meet and start a conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:38 PM
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Right. With no children, over half of marriages are either egalitarian or female sole or primary. No matter how you look at it, it's less and less likely for a marriage to occur the more the income slider goes her direction. The counterintuitive part of this is the most unequal income households tend to be high school only…not the surprising part because the male dominated blue collar trades can be very lucrative. But that slider is going nowhere, high school educated people are no longer marryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 03:22 AM
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Actually I think this is inaccurate if you want to get down to semantics. Couples tend to be more equal in income UNTIL they have kids, so technically they actually do date and marry someone who makes similar money. The income gap often appears after the kids are born. https://sociologicalscience.com/download/vol_10/may/SocSci_v10_429to453.pdf Interestingly enough, it looks like some women catch back up in their 50’s relative to their husbands. The largest share of women who out-earn their spous…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/25 02:47 AM
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It takes mental toughness to be a party animal and barfly now?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 01:13 PM
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? No? The point is to have enough money to live your best life, including having the time to do it. I personally don’t think sitting at home all day doing nothing is my best life. Ymmv
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:50 AM
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Being bad in bed is a phrase that's almost exclusively used for men You have never heard of a starfish or pillow princess?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:50 AM
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I would say middle class. Like most of the people I hung out with, we all wanted to graduate from college, leave the suburbs and slum it in cities. It wasn’t a money or class issue, it was the idea of being a mommas boy that was socially repellent. I did have one male roommate who came from wealth, from Westchester Connecticut. We lived in a one bedroom apartment and he slept in the loft over the stairs. My ex was born and raised in Manhattan, we never lived with either of his parents, for a bri…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 06:27 AM
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My reaction to “has a bunch of roommates “ and “lives with his parents” are totally different. I dated a grand sum total of zero guys who lived with parents. Most guys in college and after college had roommates, it was definitely a plus if they had their own room, but not a dealbreaker if they didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 04:07 AM
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don’t touch her she isn’t gay Okay, totally confused here. The reason I don’t think another woman wouldn’t really object is because we are both straight and realize it’s NOT sexual. My mind would say “don’t touch her in a playful way that could be misinterpreted as sexual because she IS gay”. But either way, it’s obviously not appropriate if someone doesn’t find it funny, even when it isn’t sexual. But straight dudes, especially athletes, slap each other’s butts all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 12:13 AM
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Are there women with such “constant fear” they become literal shut ins? That’s news to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:26 PM
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What percentage of men need to be convicted sexual predators before caution around strange men becomes no longer irrational? My lifetime risk of dying in a car crash is 1 in 95, I still look both ways before pulling out, drive the speed limit, wear my seat belt, etc. Is that too cautious ? I still drive, but I don’t take unnecessary risks. One percent of the adult men in my county are convicted sexual predators and offenders. Is it irrational to not agree to meet a strange man in a remote place …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:34 PM
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Agreed. Women don’t dislike men they aren’t interested in, anymore than men dislike old women. Other people who don’t generate interest or try to insert themselves into your life are generally not really given a second thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:32 PM
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About 1% of the men over 18 in my county are registered sex offenders. There has only been one person killed by a black bear in my state in the last hundred years and the bear was being hunted and chased up a tree. So basically 0% of black bears are dangerous. I saw one crossing a gravel road behind my house a few weeks ago. Meanwhile, over 500 bears have been killed by humans this year in my state. Running into any human in the woods where I live is definitely more dangerous. They filmed Delive…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 02:11 AM
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Women definitely react to men they meet in real life differently than they do online. No one goes out in real life anymore This is just bad for everyone in multiple ways, not just in romance or dating. We are social animals. My first exposure to this sub was from..of all things..a finance subreddit. Tons of tech bros who wanted to retire early on a small budget ….to play video games online. Not just one or two, many on the “retire early on a small budget” guys wanted to quit work so they could r…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:18 PM
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I’m not going to date anyone below a 10 Yeah, only idiots say that. You can have whatever standard you want, but then you don’t get to complain about your lack of success. Online dating is truly a disaster for lots of people, especially for most men, because we just don’t react as immediately or visually. But we can still be wildly attracted to men. I always say, I wouldn’t have swiped on either my ex (somewhat average looking and short) or my husband (too broke), yet was/am in lust with both
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:34 PM
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they will admit that they find 90% of men to be unattractive. No…completely inaccurate. Probably even way LESS than 5% elicit an immediate reaction of lust. We aren’t men. That doesn’t mean we find you unattractive . Just not immediately and viscerally attractive Time…once again…to try to explain female attraction. “ If he meets the threshold for looks and becomes a maybe, the rest of the interaction, flirting, escalation and even his smell will determine if he inspires lust. I can even have the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 03:19 AM
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No it’s not off topic. It’s not the 1/5 at the top of the food chain, it’s the 1/5 at the bottom of it. Dry dick losers aren’t, for the most part, dry dick losers despite being highly successful people in other realms of life in the first place. They are already sitting in mom’s basement playing wow with their gaming “friends “ they have never met in real life. If you haven’t noticed, women seem pretty happy for the most part to take up the slack for all the men who have already lost the game of…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:04 AM
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Twenty four percent of omega men not having sex isn’t moving the needle. Trump has monopolized three women and Elon more than that. They aren’t worried about dry dick losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:48 AM
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I’m definitely more formally educated, (stem degree with honors from a school with an 10% acceptance rate), and probably have a slightly higher IQ than my husband , but we generally have the same frame of reference and get the same jokes. I lost my virginity to a real life 200 IQ genius and prodigy, my ex was probably within a few IQ points. My first real boyfriend was cute but dumb as a box of rocks. Huge disparities have definitely affected all of my relationships tbh, even friendships. I much…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:30 AM
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There is no Mgtow, there is only men sent their own way. The successful men with power and influence are doing great, and most men are doing well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 01:12 AM
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The casualties and the bodies hitting the wall in a free for all, unregulated society are male ones. Most of the sad, autistic, weirdo, shut in men that inhabit the purple pill debate realm will be the first to go. Lesser men get murdered. Women become the second or third wife of the powerful. Or in the case of Ghengis Khan, one of hundreds. Be careful of finding much glee in “the bodies hitting the wall” in your dystopian future.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 12:53 AM
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“The medium is the message”. It’s an inherently shallow way to meet potential partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:50 PM
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From 2007-2017, the percent of young women that have casual sex declined from 31% to 22%. Most women only have casual sex a few times as well. In 2025, only 17% of women had casual sex https://share.google/images/HawBitE85Ymps9Lku
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:42 PM
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ALL the women with dozens of body counts? How about the vast majority of women without huge body counts? Besides, I can personally attest that many fail the audition
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:38 PM
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Ever hear of contraception failing? In the United States, roughly 40–50% of pregnancies are unintended
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:34 PM
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46% of all pregnancies are still, in 2025, unplanned. That’s reality Humans have always been long beyond fucking to intentionally create kids, that’s how we ended up with so many of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:15 PM
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Maybe you need to revisit your biology class. If you’re fucking everyone you connect with emotionally, your Thanksgiving dinner must be….interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 05:14 PM
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Stop being a downvoting little bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:24 PM
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I never disagreed that sex has higher risks for women. Expecting that men have to pay for it is silly though. Why should we make men pay for something that is women's responsibility to deal with? Are we going to make women pay for something that is men's responsibility to deal with, to make it equal? Ahhh yeah, we do make children the responsibility of BOTH people. It’s now only on women to assume the responsibility for the consequences ofsex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:23 PM
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I don’t want to get in the weeds about who should pay for the first date, but to not see that sex has higher risks for women is simply silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:13 PM
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lol. How do you think you and everyone else on the planet got here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:03 PM
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You think sex is simply about pleasure, refuse to acknowledge any risks of pregnancy, refuse to accept the outcome of having sex might be supporting a child, and also refuse to get a vasectomy? Then claim women are all”me, me, me”? Truly solipsistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 11:36 AM
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Condoms are 98% effective….per year. That’s if used correctly every time. Over a course of 30 years, that’s only 54% effective. You don’t get in an accident every time you drive, but you are likely have some sort of accident at some point in your lifetime. That’s why we have seat belts.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:57 AM
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Okay then. But that is exactly what sex is about, so definitely make it very clear you are child free up front and get a vasectomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:50 AM
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You are auditioning to be the father of her future children. That’s what dating and sex is ultimately about.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 10:46 AM
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Well ….my first real boyfriend had tons of experience and was 6 years older….he was also cute and nice to me. I thought I was really a grown up with a great grown up sex life…..and turns out he really sucked in bed. Or sucked for me at least. Most of his “favorite moves” he learned from porn and I just figured my body was just not capable of partnered orgasm. Turns out my body works fine. So I’m super grateful to have experienced sex with other people besides that guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 10:38 PM
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Yeah, our nightmare. We are going to go all in on a guy who will dump us after having his kids wrecks our bodies, rendering us old and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/25 10:29 PM
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Simply put, there really aren't many starter homes any more. As a small time landlord, I’m not entirely sure the starter homes from the 1950’s would sell. The amount of negative comments I get on affordable houses and affordable rentals that lack granite countertops, high end appliances and wood floors might surprise you. I grew up with 5 kids in a starter home with 3 bedrooms, one bath, window units and cheap materials everywhere. Formica countertops, vinyl flooring and small bedrooms. Of cours…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/25 02:55 PM
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I’ll both defend and criticize the average guy here. I think men actually do care, but I think once they feel like a woman is locked down, they get lazy in the relationship. This becomes especially problematic for couples sex lives. Men have more spontaneous sexuality, women often won’t want sex if she doesn’t feel personally sexy or desirable. And men figure she should just be randomly horny and down to bang like they are. Guys don’t want to hear it…I guess I don’t blame them…but we aren’t gay …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:44 AM
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When I was 14, I dated a senior ?? Where were your parents?? I’m always complaining that parents helicopter to much these days….but this ? No bueno.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/25 12:29 AM
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Bare minimum/ bare minimum plus ie “special” About my height or greater/ 5’10” to 6’ Not fat/ lean, low body fat swimmer body No big credit card debt/ great with finances and investing Employed and self supporting/ great job he loves with a great income Not obsessed with politics on either side/ practical centrist Has friends/ loyal to many old friends, open to new friends, social Not overly religious/ rational atheist Healthy sexuality/ unafraid to be overtly sexual, above average libido Litera…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/25 03:10 PM
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I had plenty of older guys ask me out in my late teens and 20s. Late teens? Try 13, right after I got boobs. The grown brother, mid twenties, of the woman I was babysitting for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 09:31 PM
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“ In direct contrast to conventional wisdom and most economic models of marital age gaps, we present robust evidence that men and women who are married to differently-aged spouses are negatively selected. Empirical results show lower cognitive ability, lower educational attainment, lower occupational wages, lower earnings, and less attractive appearance among those married to a differently-aged spouse. These results, obtained using samples of first marriages and controlling for age of marriage, …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:56 PM
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This post is delightfully ironic. Op is to lazy too even cheek that he be using the correct speeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 01:44 PM
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This is a real black pill, but we keep telling you guys all the time Face>body. If women with both attractive faces and bodies aren’t interested in you and you are fit, it’s your profile or your face Edit, I’ll even go as far to say, if your face is mid, just don’t do OLD.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 05:43 PM
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Me and only me=standards are actually perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 04:09 PM
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Because over half of the time, the second wife has kids. I think you said “divorced, widowed or radioactive “? Second marriages are by definition divorced unless you are Mormon or middle eastern. Age gaps increase in general for older people. And one divorce predicts a second. If you are wanting to marry someone in your 40’s and you haven’t been married before, there is actually little difference in your chances between men and women. “Among adults in the 40-49 age range, the midlife first marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:34 PM
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Dudes who are single in their 40’s are usually a great catch, have no baggage and look better than they did a decade ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:22 PM
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lol…okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:17 PM
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I don’t disagree. Both sexes. Redpill men downvote me to oblivion when I tell them the exact same thing, but they all seem convinced they are catnip to women in their 20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 03:02 PM
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Gee, hard to believe this adorable young lady struggles /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 04:05 AM
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My husband is significantly left of me on most issues actually, and honestly he drives me nuts with politics sometimes. I love that he is empathetic, and his bleeding heart is in the right place. I don’t care that much as long as the guy isn’t some Christian nationalist twinky.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:44 AM
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Emotional risk is carried by who loves the other and cares more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:29 AM
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This makes no sense at all to me tbh. The women who found you attractive should should actually find you MORE funny than the women who don’t find you attractive. Halo effect and all…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 02:23 AM
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Don’t care, don’t even think about raising a hand to me in any context. How did you get to a thread this old?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 09:46 PM
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They never pursue or show any signs of attraction towards men Fixed that for you. Part of what gets you out of the maybe box is being assertive
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 07:03 PM
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A 4/10 woman will still put you in a maybe box. You will still have to have the right personality to push you into the yes zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 05:48 PM
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Assertive women exist, they like assertive men. Reposting this…. I was pilled on this by an old female poster who had been a pretty good collegiate athlete, and after she said it, I noticed how it was often true. She’s-A-Carnival has also posted something similar She said that the hypermasculine male athletes actually pair more often with ball busting masculine women, and outside of the “good Christian boy type” athletes this really seems to often be true. When you see an extremely feminine woma…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 05:16 PM
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So I, as a 4/10 5”7” 4/10, 5’7”….I don’t want to be mean, that’s obviously not close to top 50%, much less 20% and no, it’s very, very doubtful you would pull a 7/10. This is actually what I said…. You only have to be my height to be fuckable, but generally physically need something else to sweeten the deal. So nothing in my post is blowing smoke up your ass that a 4/10 AND 5’7” is going to pull above average women. A 5’7, 8/10? Maybe. A 4/10 by definition isn’t top 20% I would say most 7/10 wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 05:04 PM
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Did you marry her? Why call her a “baby mama” then?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:45 PM
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This. It would definitely have to be a mutual decision for mutual benefit. And I would prefer it be him. Fucking a stranger I’ve never spoken to would feel like getting raped to me, I don’t care what they looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:02 PM
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100% agree, especially about the online dating. From another post First they have to meet a threshold for being fuckable. That’s not the upper 5 % of guys. The upper 5% of guys give us tingles on sight, depending on our feeling about casual sex, we may or may not want to have sex with him. You only have to be my height to be fuckable, but generally physically need something else to sweeten the deal. One of the most handsome men I ever dated was the shortest. After that, it’s a combination of per…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:55 PM
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I’m purple…don’t disagree. Disagree with the black pill though. Because when you meet irl, way more than just the top 10% have looks that put you in the maybe bin.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:52 PM
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Whew I’ve been reposting this a lot lately. You misunderstand the relationship between looks, personality and getting the tingles for women. From an earlier post: This is exactly how my attraction response operates about 95% of the time. If he meets the threshold for looks and becomes a maybe, the rest of the interaction, flirting, escalation and even his smell will determine if he inspires lust. I can even have the thought in my head “this is certainly a conventionally attractive man” without a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:41 PM
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There’s a bunch of evidence out there that you actually can change your personality to some degree https://www.nathanwhudson.com/research/measures/ Confidence doesn’t grow in a vacuum. It grows from validation and validation is given to those who are already genetically gifted. You are basically saying that this specific personality trait is something you learned (I personally believe it’s probably some mix of nature and nurture). If you learned it, then you can unlearn and train your brain to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 12:37 PM
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Children do better being raised with a dad in the house. If you have kids, and you can raise them, then that’s obviously the outcome you would want for your children. Divorce is always traumatic for children. If your teenagers are being raised in a single parent house that has been made chaotic by divorce , I don’t think it’s controversial to say you have failed them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:31 AM
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It counts if you’re the kid who gets to grow up a bastard without a dad. It’s not that hard to have a lasting marriage. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 11:02 AM
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I didn’t make her a single mother. She made herself one. Wait, so she alone stole your sperm against your will? That’s extremely rare. Most people make illegitimate children the old fashioned way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:55 AM
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This is a super weird flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 10:50 AM
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It’s not, the outcomes are though. Drug overdoses, alcoholism and suicide are more common outcomes for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 01:00 AM
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Seriously. I was up for trying it - but I don't enjoy it Same. It was not “ I actively dislike it”. And it wasn’t an ick factor either. But it wasn’t exactly enjoyable either. It was more like “it does nothing for me” I’m glad I’ve never had a relationship where everything else was sexually compatible except a fondness for anal. My ex wasn’t that impressed either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 05:59 PM
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Try two years in my case after a bad breakup. I actually seriously thought I would just close up shop for good. And I have a high libido. I don’t think I’ve ever turned my husband down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 07:07 AM
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totally meh for me - not terrible, but also not enjoyable, Amen on that one sister, I was thrilled when my then boyfriend, now husband, whispered the three little words I longed to hear “Not into anal”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:54 AM
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But dudes absolutely OBSESS over af/bb, getting settled for, hypergamy, Chad, I will never be her best, she had no genuine attraction. That’s over half this sub. Why can’t they possibly ever believe women happily get together with average men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 06:01 AM
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His brain worm died of starvation
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:41 AM
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With tylenol, they observe a measured jump in autism as tylenol was introduced. Tylenol was introduced in the 1950’s https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!uoUe!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe239b7d6-6d82-40d4-a075-17be43abdcdf_1428x482.png Four days ago…. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-41KYv4enTw https://www.foxnews.com/video/6384405735112
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 12:32 AM
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if it’s accompanied by a sense of humor That’s a big IF…but you aren’t completely wrong either. I knew a guy back when I tended bar who was above average looking, but definitely not Chad. He was funny as hell and charming, and would sometimes put a toothbrush in his shirt pocket. When girls asked him about it he would say “I’m hoping to get lucky”. He did get lucky probably more often than most guys tbh. You really need to calibrate though. Fine line between being cocky and being a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:37 PM
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I worked with a woman who brought her two adult kids to a first, irl, meet and greet with someone she was talking to on a dating app, because both her kids are accomplished musicians and so was the guy she wanted to see if she was interested in dating. They all played music together, kids were excited, thought he was a great guy etc etc. Her dilemma “ how do I explain to my kids why I don’t want to date him. I thought we might share a kiss goodbye, instead he pulled me to the side to whisper in …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:28 PM
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Basically, refusing to do things that you otherwise would naturally do, out of performative feminism, is stupid. I couldn’t agree more. As someone who occupies both ends of the relationship spectrum in terms of traditionalism and feminism, you are absolutely spot on. I have more education, earn more, handle the finances, but I have never not made him a sandwich as some political statement. I’m a better cook and cleaner, he does the oil changes and lifts heavy things because he’s stronger. We bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:47 PM
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Good grief….of course in typical reddit fashion, discourse on the subject is based on highly subjective anecdotal evidence. The good old “all women have tons of sex, no men have sex …except Chad” All evidence points to the fact that sexual inactivity, as defined by no sex within the last 12 months, is relatively stable, however sexual frequency among both single and married people seems to have declined, independent of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 05:15 PM
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Dah.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:56 PM
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Peterson was slightly controversial for a hot second for bucking “preferred pronouns “. He’s one of the people leading the charge to recognize loneliness and failure to thrive in young men, but apparently red pill men are in agreement that male loneliness is a feminist hoax now. Go figure. In my opinion he’s intellectually a light weight and overrelies on unproven evolutionary psychology dribble. He seems to have pretty serious mental health issues. Sam Harris is brilliant and interesting. Obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:54 AM
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Height is a determinate for success in business and politics too. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heights_of_presidents_and_presidential_candidates_of_the_United_States https://www.apa.org/monitor/julaug04/standing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:34 AM
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First they have to meet a threshold for being fuckable. That’s not the upper 5 % of guys. The upper 5% of guys give us tingles on sight, depending on our feeling about casual sex, we may or may not want to have sex with him. You only have to be my height to be fuckable, but generally physically need something else to sweeten the deal. One of the most handsome men I ever dated was the shortest. After that, it’s a combination of personality factors, for me personally, it’s being funny, smart and i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:32 PM
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I’ll defend the passport bro too in this regard, those women know the score going in. it’s do or starve Many do have limited options and having sex a few times a week with one guy who is a turn off is way better than having sex multiple times a day with different guys who gross you out. Some passport bros think it’s genuine attraction when sometimes it isn’t. She’s much more aware of the transactional nature than he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:31 PM
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I have no problem with trad wives. But there is no certainty or stability when 50% of marriages end in divorce though. You need a culture in which divorce is rare and taboo. I don’t think traditional men and women worry about what people outside of their culture think like op, I think they worry very much about the opinions of their subculture though. Many, not all, of those cultures have a high tolerance for men cheating too, so there’s that. “Certainly and stability” is definitely an illusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 12:05 PM
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You misunderstand the relationship between looks, personality and getting the tingles for women. From an earlier post: This is exactly how my attraction response operates about 95% of the time. If he meets the threshold for looks and becomes a maybe, the rest of the interaction, flirting, escalation and even his smell will determine if he inspires lust. I can even have the thought in my head “this is certainly a conventionally attractive man” without actually physically feeling much of anything.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:16 AM
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Maybe some people get so aroused that nothing can possibly gross them out. That’s somewhat true. If you have enough sex, in enough ways, you will likely encounter some bodily functions and fluids you didn’t sign up for. Depends where your mental state is, but it generally pulls me out of the mood, and is distracting. Sometimes it breaks the mood and is funny, sometimes you head for a shower, but often you do just soldier on through because you are that into it, despite was is happening. But thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 03:00 AM
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I don’t know any woman past her early 20s who is a virgin herself, and I would assume the few that exist are super religious. I can believe those women actually prefer virgins…past the early 20’s there just aren’t many left
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 02:41 AM
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Nah, gay dudes find surrogates, which is somewhat more problematic, but people are pretty much indifferent.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:37 PM
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Being actually wanted, planned and intentionally conceived is a good start already.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 11:34 PM
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Actually I think it does. Not is the way you think, but it definitely does. Extreme extroversion is probably almost as predictive of who will get casual sex as looks are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:19 AM
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People are already opting out of sex now. No one will choose partners based on them being good parents, people will opt out of sex. We are becoming hormonally very different than past generations. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32081788/
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:06 AM
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62% of Gen Z adults have experienced sex by age 22 So 38% have not. Which to me is frankly shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 02:01 AM
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You can have been married with a double digit count and still not be good in bed…both men and women. You can also learn to be pretty good in bed in a very short time and great within a few weeks. People’s bodies are different, we all respond to touch a little differently You really only need the desire to be good, an approach to sex that’s fun and relaxed and very , very honest feedback.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:22 PM
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Did the woman know?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:15 PM
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To be honest, most men really do not like going out on most dates. Even if it’s 50/50 or ridiculously cheap? I don’t understand. You don’t like to go to events and eat at restaurants? Hopefully doing it with someone you find attractive and maybe get to have sex with later? That’s a bad time for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:50 PM
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For more intelligent takes than Rollo, and Fresh and Fit, …..🙄 Richard Reeves is excellent, https://aibm.org/who-we-are/richard-v-reeves/ Scott Galloway, David Brooks… One of the original books on the loneliness problem in general was written before half this sub was born. Bowling Alone by Robert Putnam. It’s an interesting read that applies to all of us but it does have things to say about how men and women socialize differently and how loneliness affects men and women differently as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:31 PM
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People who think platonic friend groups should be gender segregated are part of the problem. I don’t know who’s right and who’s wrong about the value of gender segregated groups, but there are actually plenty of concerned men who advocate for segregated groups. https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/p/the-case-for-male-spaces When the guy wrote “Bowling alone” twenty years ago, he kind of predicted that men were going to struggle more because male socializing occurred more in all male clubs and servi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:19 PM
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Disagree. TRP asserts sexual strategy is amoral. “You have to do what you have to do to get what you want.” If men didn’t want to spin plates, then you would see advice on how to wife up women and keep them. Even most of Married redpill says don’t get married and some brag about cheating despite having good sex lives at home. Just as implicit in “enjoy the decline” is that the decline is more enjoyable than the previous paradigm if you can figure out how the game is played
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:33 PM
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To add to your point, my mother had 5 kids over a period of 15 years, so she had at least one kid not old enough for school for 20 years. 33 years of a kid at home. That’s extremely rare now, even women who want to be home when their kids are young, that’s only 7 years of her life People are living longer and with ss heading in the dumpster, they will be working longer. To not contribute to the workforce for 40 years because 7 years were spent raising kids is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:19 PM
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No doubt he did me a favor, but on some level I understand it. My schadenfreude over his subsequent lack of romantic success has faded over the years. Not taking it personally and looking at it though a wider lens of modern expectations has definitely given me perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:24 PM
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if too many men had just one relationship and sexual partner for a while, this will not appease them. You don’t have to tell me, my ex used this exact excuse to cheat on me. Except for one other older, and completely psycho, girlfriend who low key stalked me, he’s been single ever since.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:11 PM
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I definitely have other women in my corner, the “we” wasn’t specific to the people not complaining, it was “we” as a lonely world in general. My point is why don’t more men have men in their corner? I definitely have male family members in my corner, I am in theirs too. My younger brother has stayed with us many times, especially after his second divorce, and I’ve loaned him money on two different occasions. My older brother has definitely been there for my younger brother too. I’m in my husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:03 PM
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Plus, having been in one relationship vs. none isn't necessarily some magic threshold that makes everything OK. Agreed. Depending on who ended that relationship and why, the person with such limited experience could definitely feel quite defeated.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 11:06 AM
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I don’t identify as being a leftist, but I’m against the death penalty for anyone. I literally don’t care if 99% of these people killed by the state die, but there have been way too many people on death row that have been exonerated. I see no way to implement the death penalty without an innocent person eventually getting murdered by the state
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:17 AM
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A record 5.25% of adults aged 40 and above have never been in a relationship. This is 21% of the 25% of adults aged 40 and above who have "never married" status. 25%: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/06/28/a-record-high-share-of-40-year-olds-in-the-us-have-never-been-married/ Factor out the voluntarily celibate, and the true, omega incel is probably the lower than 5%.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 09:50 AM
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People are interested in men in so far as they serve a purpose. Including other men. I hear this sentiment a lot, I get it, “people” are not interested in the problems of others. But we are all people. We all complain about the exact same thing, we all identify as the ones no one cares about and none of us identify as the ones who don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:35 AM
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Some feel they risk being excluded themselves if they break social norms. I think this is the big one. People have been intentionally hurt. Opening up to someone, inviting someone along who flakes As disappointing as this can be, one of the things I have learned, and always try to keep in mind, is everyone has their own shit, their own trauma and their own past. It doesn’t excuse people who behave badly, but it does help me not internalize some really horrible ways people have treated me. Ie I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:28 AM
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Yeah, that’s totally fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 08:18 AM
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I actually think there is a different dynamic though. More money for others means less for me. It might be an overall benefit, but it doesn’t benefit those in power. And the economy is a broad, systemic problem, loneliness and isolation is a problem between you and a few people who could solve it. You lose nothing to be a good friend, hopefully you get one in return. If I share my money with you I have less money. Showing someone you value them is easy by comparison. If you are a great friend, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:25 AM
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The gender balance on data apps suggests the opposite is going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 12:08 AM
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Finding people that will be there for you in the ways that you are there for them is not easy to do for men. I don’t think you are wrong, there are others acting as if this is some feminist conspiracy. Here’s the counter intuitive and ironic part. What you described is a pretty common complaint…so many of those people who you feel aren’t a good friend to you probably have the same complaint. I obviously don’t have all the answers, but it seems like there needs to be something like a 12 step …in …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:52 PM
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ALL their family? We have a family member absolutely disliked by all the family…for really good reasons. Not because he is unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:41 PM
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https://www.facebook.com/reel/1154743396719745 https://ofboysandmen.substack.com/p/the-case-for-male-spaces https://www.youtube.com/shorts/MAK-hsAWKBQ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/state-of-anxiety/202406/why-are-men-so-lonely https://www.sltrib.com/opinion/commentary/2022/10/01/david-brooks-men-boys-are/ Both women and men report being more lonely, and in almost equal numbers, but the ways they cope are different https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2025/01/16/men-women-and-socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 11:34 PM
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You think even your own family finds you low value and unattractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:51 PM
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It’s not “socially permitted “. What does that look like in reality? What would happen if you said to a buddy “I’m having a bad day?” How you you react if a buddy told you”I’m having a bad day?”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:50 PM
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“ I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.”. Robin Williams You either have the wrong friends or your connection to them isn’t what it should be imho. You need to be around people who make you feel supported and valuable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:46 PM
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Why? Do YOU give female friends the girlfriend treatment? Maybe you need to start off on a different foot with female friends. At some level this just sounds like “I give my platonic female friend the girlfriend treatment, but they don’t become my girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:41 PM
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Most men irl are not nearly as sexist as ppd, but one thing I have noticed about men with stay at home wives. She’s just as equal in the relationship, her contributions to the family and the kids are invaluable. It’s an equal partnership until that couple breaks up. Then….she’s taking half of MY shit. Every.Damned. Time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 10:08 PM
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Omg…..was I first or you? Why the hell can’t they just say meatloaf?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:55 PM
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I think it’s definitely an unfortunate female trait, either we go along to get along for too long when in reality we are bugged, or we think our subtle hints are enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 09:53 PM
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I’m personally not a “double my age minus seven”. Probably no more than 20% older than me. At 18, my first real boyfriend was 23, and that was probably the only guy I’ve ever dated outside that age difference. But I think most women over 30 aren’t going to be that put off by 10 years, it’s just not for me. It also depends on how good looking they are and how well they take care of their looks of course and how young they are in spirit. I probably wouldn’t turn down a hot 45 year old guy I met ir…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 08:22 PM
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Gotcha. There are a few guys here with such low opinions of women, that answer could legitimately come from one of them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:14 PM
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Different guys. Those guys suffer double because not only are they sexless, they are also not desired. And they are well aware they are not desired. The guy who marries a much more attractive or much younger woman because she wants his money usually receives just enough sex to keep him writing checks and they think they still have it because they have a dye job and a younger hotter wife
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:12 PM
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It always shocks me how much money these guys are willing to risk in alimony and child support, yet there are some that will wife up 4 or 5. And Larry Ellison needs a better plastic surgeon, because all that work still doesn’t make him fuckable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:05 PM
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Ooof. You know there are things I’m curious about, but if I haven’t already asked I really don’t want to know. And if I haven’t believed whatever smoke he’s blowing up my ass, (like you are still as attractive as the day we met) there is nothing to be gained from hearing the truth. I don’t ask “does my ass look big in this” because I want the truth. I don’t suspect he has ever cheated, I know he is sincere when he says he loves me….we communicate pretty well on most things. Why take a good marri…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:51 PM
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Let’s start encouraging these guys to request nurses who graduated at the bottom of their class and are passive observers in their jobs, just phoning it in until they can get home and start the pot roast.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:42 PM
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Okay, then by your definition I have absolutely no reason to be what you would consider to be feminine. I have a good husband and a better marriage than most, and if anything happens to him, I can still take care of myself. Works for me and I would guess most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:32 PM
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I resemble that comment. My husband and I both know better than to ask. He has a much wilder past. Neither of us lie, but we definitely don’t feel the need to go into specifics. He did ask me once if I ever slept with his late brother who was honestly model tier in looks and used to hit on me before we started dating. No…and I didn’t have to lie. I once teased him about sleeping with a mutual who was really pretty and a decade younger. He looked genuinely puzzled and then said “I guess I did, wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:42 PM
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I’ve watched plenty of unhappy couples and seen plenty of divorces, it’s usually at least some faults on both sides. I actually know guys who got blindsided by a divorce too, but they usually weren’t listening and acting on autopilot. Of the women I know who got blindsided, most got cheated on, about half of those were women who weren’t easy to live with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:28 PM
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Too many guys show a complete lack of respect for actual feminine qualities. They act like the absence of male qualities, even positive traditional male qualities, is sufficient to define what’s feminine. Don’t be competitive, don’t be ambitious, don’t ever try to dominate. Sorry, but in a capitalist society, these guys make feminine sound like the equivalent of being a brokie.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:08 PM
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Would men also not care about looks and date on personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:48 PM
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We ALL want a magic pony at some point in our lives. I have to be honest and say I think men WANT the hottest young, but are often happy with a reasonably attractive woman close to their own age. Women are undoubtedly pickier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:38 PM
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Olive Garden…..I’m ded.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:32 PM
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There is a distinction between who you “creep on”, want relationships with and what lights up your lizard brain. I can readily acknowledge that while hot middle aged women light up the brain and register as sexual, for most men they would register as even more sexual when those women were 20. It is what it is. That doesn’t mean they will always target the youngest women to date. Women strongly prefer the looks of men their own age. Around age 50, women start preferring the look of younger men as…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:26 PM
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I don’t think you are that unusual tbh. I’ve been absolutely crazy about guys who were cute, fairly attractive, but objectively not especially handsome. I tended bar all throughout school and the best looking guys a.ways got attention, but so did some mid guys who knew how to flirt. Guys complain about women getting the ick, but a guys voice, mannerisms, lack of social skills, and personality can all give me the ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:21 PM
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This is going to be all over the map tbh. When I was 20? Absolutely no way. At 50 I’d probably be thrilled with a 60 year old Daddy gilf type. Mid thirties? He’s going to have to be super hot and young looking for his age, but that’s a maybe. He would definitely be in the running for top spot.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:40 AM
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My pleasure. 😏
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:31 AM
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Some of the ones I’ve been the most attracted to were actually not great on paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 02:13 AM
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I’m already a mechanical engineer and rental property owner.….how more butch do I have to get? My husband makes less than me already. Knowing what I know? I have all the knowledge of what makes a man attractive to me? I would definitely know how to initiate conversation, know how to flirt, how to escalate? I don’t think I could pull any woman, but I think I could pull one like me. I have a similar extroverted personality as my brothers, my younger brother has been married and divorced twice, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:38 AM
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They were men. 🤷‍♀️ Most of them honestly didn’t register at all. I met my ex from a cold approach in a bar, he was cute enough but not especially attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:24 AM
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Can you make the fuckboy monogamous please?🤣 In theory the open relationship is great if I’m getting all I want, but my monkey brain disagrees.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:17 AM
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Women are physically attracted to their own age and a few years older until around 50, when they start to rate men a few years younger to be the most attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:04 AM
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well divorced with kids sucks…when you both have off work and want to lay in bed having fun time all day is when he typically has custody. Also, 5 years is okay, no shade but 15 just isn’t for me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:45 AM
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Fuckboy. His balls would stay so empty he wouldn’t have the time or energy to fuck around.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:37 AM
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I absolutely agree with the way you are attracted to someone, but there is a huge elephant in the room. People are trying to pick attraction out of thousands of online profiles, which to me is just not natural. I wouldn’t have picked either my ex (too short, average looks), or my husband (sketchy dating history, red flags and broke) out from an online profile. I briefly dated a 666 who pursued me for a long time, looked great on paper, someone who would have met every filter imaginable. zero che…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 12:19 AM
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Men and women incredibly similar but then so are humans and chimps.Humans and chimpanzees share approximately 98.8%of their DNA. Chimps want good food, clean water, clean air to breathe, good sleep, a stable shelter, monkey sex, friends, an outlet for their frustrations, less stress, more fun, rest after working, …and ripe bananas I suppose. We learn about human culture by looking at differences as much as similarities. The differences between men and women are small on a macro scale I guess, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:55 PM
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>lots of abusive/one-sided relationships, bums and infidelity. yeah, I just made a similar comment to this. Lots of them will get treated better by a passport bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:25 PM
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I’ll “kind of“ defend the passport bro. If he isn’t ancient, he probably is taller, seems wealthy (even if back home he busted), and might treat a girl better than the young guys in her country. For better or worse…now don’t get mad at me because I’m not saying it’s right….she might find his ethnicity attractive. People fall in love with other people for all kinds of reasons People fall in love even in arranged marriages so it’s not impossible even if they aren’t attractive. And at the end of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:58 PM
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Hey, retired sex workers need love too!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 10:42 PM
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>Even the whole male loneliness epidemic, which does not exist, is propaganda So you guys don’t really need mental health help after all? Then why is Jorden Peterson crying about lonesome men? ? He just believes the feminist propaganda? And why are David Brooks and Scott Galloway both leaders in sounding the alarm? They are just mouthpieces for some nameless, amorphous group of feminists? Dude, even this forum is loaded with lonely people and almost all of them are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 09:52 PM
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There's quite a significant difference between being found somewhat attractive and being settled for by someone who feels zero or barely any attraction towards you, I don’t disagree. But if she found you only “somewhat attractive “ at 24, you likely weren’t her best option at the time. A mid 24 year old woman with a kid might be “somewhat attractive “ to a mid 24 year old man but he’s not going to wife her up if he has better options. There are 40 year old guys who would crawl over broken glass …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 02:55 PM
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32 isn’t old to a 28 year old woman. 40 isn’t old to a 33 year old woman. 50 isn’t old to 40 year old woman. Everything is relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:05 PM
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Those statements don’t contradict. I never said you will be anyone’s dreamboat. I said “somewhat” attractive. All else being equal, he will be even less attractive to a younger woman. Again, women consistently show stronger attraction to their own age. You can be the best looking guy a woman your age can pull, not the guy she thinks is the most attractive, just the most attractive she can pull. You won’t ever again be the most physically attractive option for a young woman…(unless she is morbidl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 12:50 PM
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Well….of course. Guys are mad at me for stating the obvious, but after a certain age EVERYONE has dwindling options. It’s just a fact, like all thr black licorice at the bottom of the candy jar. No one really wants that candy, but how happy are you if you are hungry? If this guy makes it to middle age and women haven’t been picking him for the last decade and a half, there’s an extremely high chance there is something about him that’s unattractive. If he will only settle for a woman that has a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 11:54 AM
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This is exactly how my attraction response operates about 95% of the time. If he meets the threshold for looks and becomes a maybe, the rest of the interaction, flirting, escalation and even his smell will determine if he inspires lust. I can even have the thought in my head “this is certainly a conventionally attractive man” without actually physically feeling much of anything. I think this is hard for men to relate to. And why online dating for men is a disaster. Very rarely have men just real…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/25 01:31 AM
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lol…okay? Did I ever say there was anything wrong with it? Msybe you are mixing me up with another poster. I have only said that what he proposes would be unlikely. And not at all the situation you described.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 11:30 PM
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Not going to agree with this at all to be honest. I was pilled on this by an old female poster who had been a pretty good collegiate athlete, and after she said it, I noticed how it was often true. She’s ACarnival has also posted something similar She said that the hypermasculine male athletes actually pair more often with ball busting masculine women, and outside of the “good Christian boy type” athletes this really seems to often be true. When you see an extremely feminine woman, she’s often p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 08:31 PM
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fancy jeeps and off roading I have no words. Is this some kind of super conservative rural culture thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 09:57 AM
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Being in your early 30’s and looking to date with the serious intent of marriage, and then getting engaged to someone only 6 years younger is just about the exact opposite of what the op is talking about. He’s talking about flings, dating young carefree women looking for fun, not dating with serious intent. And a 6 year age gap is only slightly large in your late 20’s, past age 30 it would hardly be considered an age gap He specifically mentioned an 8 year gap at 28 to 30. That’s pulling a colle…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:59 AM
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Healthy perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:47 AM
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No. 😝 huge turn off It’s weird as a married woman. Did it with a boyfriend as well, it definitely put a damper on things. Would be totally awkward to drag home a casual or as a first time. Edit: I wish I could find it again but it was a survey about dating and not having you own place was a huge ding on the both the sexes desirability.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 07:27 AM
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Because even if a woman is a sex fiend she’s probably a sex fiend within a relationship not necessarily for casual sex. I relate to this comment. I never turn down sex and often initiate. But I also was celibate for two years and it didn’t bother me in the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:56 AM
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Look take your medication. I said nothing of the kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 02:16 AM
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Yeah, my thought too. He hasn’t said how old they both are, if we are talking both in their early 20’, there’s literally no place to have sex. But if they are both early thirties, she lives with mom so someone can watch the kid but he might seem to be someone with arrested development.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:29 AM
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Well, first of all, sex with hot young women isn’t really “normal”because even when they are young, half of all women I see aren’t exactly hot. Marriage and kids is quite different. Below average, average and “normal” people get married and have kids all the time. If you are only attracted to hot young women and they haven’t ever been attracted to you back, then that’s probably a dream denied.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:20 AM
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How old are you? How old is she?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 01:13 AM
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I mean …that’s your choice. Why haven’t you been successful so far and why would someone more desirable choose you back? What’s different now that you would suddenly become desirable? Being alone is choice that I was resigned might be the best for me, but I wasn’t happy about it in the least. I had a few things I refused to compromise on, they had to be attractive to me (no fat guys, no older guys…no shade but I just can’t personally go there) and no kids. It was honestly hard to find a guy in h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:51 AM
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If you wait too long to get started? Yeah, pretty much. Or less attractive women hitting thirty. That and divorcees, and borderlines. Look I was single at 30 after a seven year relationship ended and two years of deliberate celibacy. I’ve never had a problem attracting men, but “all the good ones are gone” is reality. Lots of men in my age range of 32 to 36 were divorced, single dads. Also obese guys, never commitment types, guys with alcohol problems. It is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:30 AM
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No, I never said that in the least. But I think they need to be realistic about who will want to date them and not expect their experiences to be similar to young love. It’s harder for men to date girls under 25 with an age gap when they are handsome and popular. Insisting on someone much younger, insisting on “no baggage” probably isn’t realistic when you yourself are older, and have your own baggage. It’s like a middle aged single mom saying I will only date handsome, professional men my age w…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/25 12:03 AM
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You really want me to be honest?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:08 PM
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This doesn’t track, if I read this right, she’s talking about guys she’s already hooked up with that she would gladly make into an ongoing fwb. Not guys who aren’t getting casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 09:05 PM
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Pretty much
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:45 PM
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Omg, I have syllojism running down my leg now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:40 PM
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Money may indeed still hold sway in your culture, I honestly don’t know. But it’s much less important here and assortive mating is much more common. Women are actually MORE likely to date down in terms of education, and couples increasingly earn similar salaries, especially newly married one. You don’t typically see much income disparity until after the birth of children https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2023-04-13/women-earn-the-same-or-more-than-their-husbands-in-nearly-half-of-marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:15 PM
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Women frequently date older men because of that exact reason. I don’t want to be a Debbie downer, but there really is no objective evidence that age gaps are common in East Asia in 2025. The mean difference for the age disparity at marriage in East Asia is 2.4 years. Very similar to the US which is 2.2 years. Average age at marriage in East Asia is 29 for women and 31 for men, also almost identical to the west. Here most couples date for 3 years, meaning by age 26 for women and 28 for men half o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 08:07 PM
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Well is post states “ Suppose a man didn't have any relationship up until then, being the one who "finishes last". No relationship by age 30 is going to be a red flag. And it’s pretty rare to be more physically appealing as you age, especially to someone younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:46 PM
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Well, in your 30’s a 6 year age gap really isn’t that big,..but yeah of course it’s uncommon…not impossible, but uncommon to glow up late in life. By successful, I mean sexually and socially successful, and age really doesn’t help you look better or typically have more friends. Again, not impossible. Weight loss, working out, controlling acne, etc can certainly make a person more attractive in their 30’s than they were in their 20’s, but the vast majority of us? We look worse with every year tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:44 PM
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They can try for whoever they want. Good luck and Godspeed. But if they were trying for 24 year olds when they were 24 and unsuccessful, why is going for a 24 year old now going to suddenly be successful? They are likely to look worse, and lack of experience when pushing middle age is going to be a much bigger red flag than when they were 24. Women who are twenty four can date almost anyone including the older guy who is both handsome and successful. Seems to me a middle aged guy with no sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 07:36 PM
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The need to be loved and the need for sex are two important but different needs. Eliminating your sex drive doesn’t mean you won’t want to be loved.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:38 PM
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touching their genitalia feels good, and will inevitably want to stick it into a hole. 😝 or a pie.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:36 PM
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Are you insane? The poster above me said that average looking women were often used in women’s erotica because they were more relatable. I only stated superhero’s have alternate personalities for the same reasons. It makes them more relatable. Nothing I said implies any sexual or homoerotic element to comic books. Go touch grass
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 06:15 PM
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The audience for rapeplay, CNC, and other forced sexual kinks and fantasies are mostly women. Source? Women are slightly more likely to search for this on porn sites, but men still use porn in more absolute numbers and with more frequency. So mathematically, much more men are watching bdsm. Participation in Fetlife has been by some estimates 2:1 male vrs female and 3:1 in others https://onlineforlove.com/fetlife-review/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 02:25 PM
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So that's one of the real reason you see these men getting together with women, maybe 8 years younger, sometimes. Mmmmm…I mean IS that really what you see? I see plenty of women with guys up to a decade older, but they are usually good lucking, successful guys who were always popular with women. It might be what unsuccessful middle age men want, but if you couldn’t attract a young woman when you were also young…… You just can’t go back to being a teenager with teenage hormones, teenage naivety a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:57 PM
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I’m not at all happy alone. My life is way better partnered. But I have lots of friends who are very happy alone. Why do some people choose the chicken and some choose the fish? Virtually everyone I’ve ever met prefers to NOT have roommates either. Living with other people definitely has its drawbacks and if you really don’t care about regular sex, and you can afford it, I can see why some people prefer to live alone tbh. Would you want a roommate you weren’t interested in fucking?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:41 PM
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Because birth control is better and kids are a pain in the ass. Oops wrong comment🤣…but bc is better and kids are a pia
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 01:29 PM
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Well, they actually are not completely wrong, There is some correlation between poor economics and birth rates, but it obviously isn’t the entire picture. But birth rates do decline, especially in the short term, during recessions. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22066128/ But your statement “birthrate decline IS happening most strongly in wealthier nations” is incorrect and misleading. The accurate statement is “currently, low Birthrates are more commonly seen in wealthier nations”. Except for …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 12:50 PM
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That said I don't necessarily think porn causes this Also there's an issue of generational shift We managed to go for 100’s of thousands of years without furry fetishes, etc., and it seems to me that without a vehicle like porn to spread fetishes, it’s unlikely to me that they would spring up spontaneously so quickly. I don’t think you can rule out this generational shift as NOT being related to being the first generation raised on a diet of streaming porn available 24/7. Some of the stuff I’ve …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 11:17 AM
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Well I have admittedly never really looked at any “bare legal” porn, and have definitely never looked at any age play porn either. I didn’t even realize there was a difference. Both simply “sound” creepy to me, as well as all the incest porn. And I enjoy porn from time to time. Porn seems generally to be devolving from watching attractive naked people enjoying sex, to more and more fetish content. Everyone now has kinks and fetishes, we even have virgins on this sub Reddit who identify as “subs”…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 10:25 AM
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girl boss and bossing men which is creepier. None of this is new. You just never paid attention. The term “henpecked” is from the 1600’s, and men and women have been in a friendly battle since Adam and Eve. Men have been complaining about bossy women for a long time https://www.poetryverse.com/robert-burns-poems/henpecked-husband For the female perspective The Wife of Bath in the Canterbury Tales outlined the gender wars and double standards pretty succinctly. If you don’t also see as much casua…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:55 PM
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My point is there are aspects to the battle of the sexes that have existed throughout history. The sexes have always engaged in shit talking each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 10:22 PM
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Just look at typical below average couples in general…do you think most undesirable guys have fantasies about women who look like their wives? And people fantasize about extremely weird sexual shit they never really desire in real life anyway “Despite the less than 12% of males who reported being homosexual or bisexual: 26.8% of all male participants fantasized about giving oral sex to a man 20.6% of all male participants fantasized about having sex with another man” https://www.businessinsider.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:52 PM
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Yeah, as a woman I actually think that’s pretty fair and pretty accurate . Probably also why superheroes usually have the duel personas, “mild mannered” Clark Kent becomes a Superman, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 09:19 PM
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Huh? Are you trying to say men think of women’s erotica as the worst thing on earth? I don’t understand. I honestly can’t think my husband would care in the least, but it’s not my flavor of reading material. And most women don’t think all porn toxic. Over half of women watch porn although most of them definitely don’t watch it as much as men. Somw women do hate all porn but I think women are more likely to object to violent, degrading and “barely legal” when they dress them up like they are actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:37 PM
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I was being sarcastic. Even the “homely” girls are pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:19 PM
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Yeah, why would anyone not like something they perceive as toxic? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:12 PM
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NOONE likes bitchy. We all prefer partners with high degrees of agreeability.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:11 PM
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Yeah, no media portrayals of average and below average dudes with women way above their league. Like virtually every sitcom on American television in the last 50 years, starting with the Honeymooners
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:08 PM
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She’s average until she takes off her glasses and lets down her hair!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 03:06 PM
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I think he just wanted to name an obscure, not well known, but critically acclaimed artist to show how cool he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:26 PM
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I was definitely single by choice for two years and assumed I would always be. I guess if being a ride or die girlfriend for 7 years to a slightly aspie guy who had been a virgin, and expecting him to not throw a dick into some random is an unreasonable expectation….well guilty as charged.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:11 PM
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She was boyishly quite beautiful when she was young. https://youtu.be/aW2PcOyAWwM?si=66EOLI9jd_NyYPtQ Not really a manic pixie, more like a manic depressive pixie with alcoholism thrown in for shits and giggles. She is talented no doubt, but known for being erratic Definitely not known for any sort of conservative femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:00 PM
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It’s not all of course. Gotta tell you most single men over about 35 have some issues or red flags too. I was myself single at 30…..and bitter as hell and celibate for the two years prior. I freely confess to having had huge loads of baggage.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:53 PM
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lol, as if noblemen had only one mistress at a time. Btw, they had mistresses because sex with the wife was business, not pleasure. https://www.womenshistory.org/articles/history-romance And the wife was often thrilled to not be bothered after the heir and the spare. There were exceptions, of course. Queen Victoria was notably quite enamored of her husband, but it was rare for most of those arranged marriage couples to share a bed. Women just got the right to drive in Saudi Arabia and their birt…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 02:30 AM
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Women weren’t happy with Billy the dirty old hog butcher when they could be the mistress of the much cleaner younger and objectively better looking landowner. What society have we EVER seen where women’s wages were greater than men’s? Fantasyland? Birthrates and marriages are collapsing even in the Middle East. Glad you enjoy some resentful starfish, must come in handy 🤷‍♀️. My husband certainly wouldn’t tolerate it, but he’s attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:49 AM
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Stage name is Cat Power. Writes songs about her abortions, has incredible stage fright and anxiety and is now a single mom. Definitely not a conservative woman, but absolutely has a severe anxiety disorder. Lived with “Smog” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Callahan_(musician)) I have one degree of separation, she was my friends neighbor in Cabbagetown in Atlanta
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:18 AM
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You want to claim that male and female sexuality is the same and women want sex as much as men on one hand, and then say they get “pumped and dumped” on the other hand. How exactly are women “pumped and dumped”? They apparently, according to you, want sex just like men, so why would they mind being pumped and dumped? If an extremely attractive woman offered you casual sex with no commitment, would you complain about feeling pumped and dumped?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 01:02 AM
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The same way women have decided, collectively, that they’d rather maintain standards and be alone than be with a man who disappoints them. Some of this I think isn’t “women decided”, it’s a difference in our sexuality. I seem to mostly match men’s sex drives when in a relationship, but went from sex five times a week to absolutely zero for two years after a breakup and it didn’t really bother me in the least. I do think the description of men’s sexuality as spontaneous and women’s sexuality as o…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:03 AM
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Ohhhhh yeahhhh…..his best bet is someone who doesn’t speak English.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 09:39 PM
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women don’t want to be lead And past a certain age, women really don’t want to be referred to as “girls” unless someone is calling them for cocktails 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 09:18 PM
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you were to ask women of the generation past 30’s or even whilst growing up I never heard such distain for men and their choices women loved men and met them for where they are and loved for them to lead . Sweet summer child: If you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman." Margaret Thatcher "Behind every great man there is a surprised woman." Maryon Pearson "If a man is only a little lower than the angels, the angels should reform." Mary Wilson Little "As long as y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:52 PM
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Well? Am I wrong? Is saying they don’t know how to sustain a relationship and might be borderline a compliment? I’d say the exact same thing to a 36 year old woman complaining about who’s left out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:49 PM
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I’m sure they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:40 PM
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Wrong. I’ve already told him in his forties his options will soon be mostly limited to single moms, divorcees and borderlines. See above.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:39 PM
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Yeah, that sounds like a plan for you. Then you can pay one to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:13 PM
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Yeah….well you know maybe there actually are people who are happy just looking for partners to share their life with, not leaders, not followers. Everybody gets to do what they are good at. If he is only in the talking stage and is trying to “lead” the conversation…that’s not a conversation, that’s a lecture. A conversation is by definition an exchange between two people. A lecture is where one person leads the talk, sets the topic and everyone else gets to listen. Sounds like an absolutely horr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 08:05 PM
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Earlier post comments → [–]Temporary-Flight-192Purple Pill Woman 5 points 1 month ago* Well fair enough assessment on the orgasm gap. Some women really don’t know what does it for them, some men are too convinced they do know when they don’t, and Mother Nature, biology and anatomy don’t really help either. Women frequently are so particular with what they need that they can't even really explain what it is, and get annoyed that men don't just know what it is Sometimes we really don’t know, what …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:41 PM
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Well you are mixing up the meta study review with the specific biometric study. If that vibrator was one of those old bullet dildos and used only vaginally, that’s also data I can relate to tbh. But prone bone with a nice firm pillow below….that’s a winner in my book. The meta study rated that low. We are all individuals though. I would say that both simultaneous penetration and digital stimulation is always a 100% for me The whole “you’re close, let’s switch to doggy and hit poundtown” made me …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:39 PM
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Since when have women been the ones who control? Ever since they cornered the market on pussy. (Unless you are one of those guys who prays to a pedophile and makes his wives wear bee keeper outfits. Those women don’t have the opportunity to get a headache.)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:24 PM
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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1158136022000548
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 06:05 PM
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Well like most women, I can’t come from behind unless you are doing something with that hand other than spanking me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:47 PM
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Maybe if you want to stop bitching about how shitty the dating market is, you need to lock down the next one who is “satisfying “ because dating in your forties isn’t going to get any better. You are already on the edge of the “rejects and retreads” ages and you are half of that equation. By early thirties there will already be plenty of women, for whatever reason, that couldn’t get, or couldn’t sustain a healthy relationship. Soon, it’s down to single moms, divorcées and borderline personalitie…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:45 PM
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Oof. Picking me up, rolling me over, that’s great in my book. Spanking me? The last man who did that was my father and I kicked him in the balls, called my grandmother, and was out of that house a few months later. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 05:27 PM
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I’m in my late 30s Welll……I mean don’t you think maybe your pool of potential dates might be a bit more shallow? Did you think you were going to find women ready for starry eyed puppy love when they are over 30? Everyone who stays single long enough has baggage, yourself included. Speaking of everything being ideologically inflated, how is your ex being a “feminist girl” have any bearing on your current dating observations? I avoid small talk, but I’m not hostile. That should definitely get the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:52 PM
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Not even Tinder is for “everybody”. Tinder has a reputation for being for hookups. Not even Grindr is for ALL gay men, it’s for gay men looking for casual sex so if I surveyed Grindr only, and then tried to extrapolate that data to all gay men, I would erroneously assume all gay men engaged in casual sex. “ JOYclub's platform makes it quick, easy, and convenient for people who are looking to find different sexual encounters, kinks satisfaction, and events.” Yeah….I’m definitely not their audienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 02:35 PM
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95% of men love to suck dick. How do I know? I went on Grindr and it’s confirmed . 🙄 Read about sample bias my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 01:49 PM
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Oh do I ever agree. I’m not stacking a bunch of “maybes” up like resumes. I’ve always looked for the “oh hell yeah” guy I could feel excited about spending time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 11:00 PM
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No they (sexworkers) arent (ostracized) at this point they are idolized they can make millions of dollars and get attention. Those are your words. Direct quotes….so again, how are sex workers getting attention and being idolized while maintaining anonymity?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:39 PM
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You can’t claim it’s not taboo, that it’s celebrated and the “women make millions and get attention “ on one hand while simultaneously acknowledging they are so ashamed of what they do that not even their friends know. Make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:30 PM
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Correct. I see this societal change attributed to the “west”, feminism, degenerate, overly permissive culture yada yada yada. Low birth rates, and huge swathes of the population staying single is happening all over the world. Even parts of the Middle East as well. Lots of Arab countries have even lower birth rates than the US. https://www.meforum.org/podcasts/nicholas-eberstadt-the-shifting-demographics-of-the-middle-east
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 02:08 PM
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lol, depending on the culture or era, some people throughout history have thought the female orgasm was a myth. “The Angel in the House published by Coventry Patmore in 1854 is a narrative poem that prescribes the ideal qualities of a Victorian wife. Patmore, using his own wife as a model, depicted the perfect Victorian woman as angelic, sweet, and lacking any desire for sexual intercourse.” And women were, and in third world countries still are, paired off with much older men by their parents, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:37 AM
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It definitely helps you get your first job. After that, no one cares. But you’re better off having gone to a prestigious school than getting great grades at a shitty one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:30 AM
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I find it interesting that the guy who said this: “ women in their early 30's are “not at their prime” and “not as attractive in the dating pool.”” ……married a 33 year old woman when he was only 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 09:27 AM
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Many people in the past were married without genuine sexual attraction. You can put people in situations where they have obligatory sex with a spouse because it’s their only option, but you can’t negotiate true desire. Men in the past never worried about being a beta bux provider to a woman not genuinely sexually attracted to him, women were expected to “lie back and think of England”. Your “good woman of the past is one that often tolerated sex, not enjoyed it. Men today want women who are will…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 08:33 AM
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Most people in the past paired up out of necessity, like choosing sides for basketball, but we aren’t ever going back. The average man got a “good” woman? women would all have kids by the richest, most high status guy in society Men no longer want the “good” woman with him out of necessity. The word is out, women actually enjoy sex with men they find attractive. Most men want a woman who truly desires sex with him, not one doing her duty, staring at the ceiling and waiting for it to be over with…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/25 04:42 AM
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Well okay then. Outlier opinion for sure. Don’t hold your breath waiting for society to castigate all the evil doctors out there performing vasectomies. Most people who get them are really glad they have gotten one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:57 PM
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Do vasectomies also qualify as mutilation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:42 PM
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they just want a gendered issue to complain about 🪞
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 10:32 PM
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No doubt, I’m quite sure you weren’t talking about marriage material. And I wasn’t responding to you. I have no clue about the ratchet hoes you interact with, but hoes going to be hoes. Quelle surprise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 11:54 AM
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Agreeable, faithful, intelligent
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:57 AM
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If we want men’s duty to be providers…. what are we actually getting from women Who exactly is “we”? “In the US, women earn the same or more than their husbands in nearly half of marriages (45%), but not half of all marriages have equal pay. In 29% of marriages, both partners earn about the same, while in 16% of marriages, the wife earns more than her husband.” If you want to be a provider with a stay at home mom, that’s your individual choice made as a couple. If you want her to be a full time …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:25 AM
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lol…no one does because eventually you will get your ass kicked, but I guarantee many women think this on a daily basis
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 09:51 PM
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Peak autism. The response of most women would be to stop you on the street to tell you that the thought of having sex with you makes them vomit a little in their mouth, and yet somehow we refrain from telling you every ten seconds. That’s also authentic.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 09:37 PM
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🎼 Women seem wicked when you’re unwanted. The Doors 1967
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/25 11:42 AM
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why can’t a guy have positive attributes of both I think men actually really need attributes of both. Total alpha guys are exhausting tbh, and you will never feel secure in the relationship. But being in a relationship with a guy who lusts after you, who isn’t timid sexually is great. A guy who can stand his ground, earn your respect and not be a doormat. Confident and even a little cocky at times. You also need that guy who provides some beta comfort. Who is all sweetness and cuddles after ravi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/25 03:20 AM
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I am strongly suggesting that both parents contribute to raising healthy children. Children raised in two parent homes have better outcomes in general. You can think that’s misogynistic, it’s simply verifiable fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:54 PM
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Okay. Kids do great without dads!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:41 PM
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Well marriage is for the formation of family. If you don’t want children, or if you want children and intend to shove them into a daycare at 6 weeks, no one has to suffer any career setback. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 06:37 PM
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It’s one of the denser states in terms of population. Real estate values like everything else in a capitalist society are very closely tied to supply and demand. Meaning more people want to live there than there is room to expand. Who would have thought? Even “rural” counties in New Hampshire, are relatively crowded compared to rural counties in other states https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Population_density_of_U.S._counties.png
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:19 PM
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>But I do think sex needs to be something that can be traded legally in the marketplace The mechanics of sex can be easily traded like a commodity, tab a goes in slot b when money changes hands. Transactional sex is actually preferable to many with attachment disorders, narcissists and sociopaths ”You don’t pay for sex, you pay for her to leave” and “you get pussy without having to deal with the cunt attached“ are two phrases that come to mind. Sex is much more than the mechanics of the deed how…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:11 PM
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Few men are happy with 50/50 when divorce comes around, especially if he earned significantly more. That’s why you legally form a family, aka get married before you procreate. That guarantees a woman who suffers a career setback due to child rearing at least gets half But starting a family by bean counting is a bad idea imho. Both need to be in 100%, otherwise that divorce will be predictable.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:44 AM
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That idea is definitely a non starter for me. First of all, if you are starting a family, then start acting like a family, not a business associate.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:07 AM
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It absolutely depends on context. Am I already in a relationship? Then probably not, because hitting on a married or partnered person is definitely crossing a boundary. Am I single? Well, if the guy is casually shooting his shot and moves on with other romantic interests then we are fine. I’ll even be his wingman. I’ve been in this situation and have even become friendly with the new girlfriend Did he make it weird by professing a deep and abiding love? Is he is still hanging on because he hopes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 10:02 AM
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More successful at business and sales too. Women aren’t the only ones who can be manipulated by dark triad individuals. “Except for CEOs, lawyers, and celebrities, salespeople score higher on these dark traits than all other professions” https://www.ama.org/2022/08/02/the-effect-of-dark-traits-such-as-machiavellianism-narcissism-and-psychopathy-on-salesperson-performance/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 09:41 AM
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Okay, let’s do the US. New Hampshire is considered the most libertarian, small government state. https://www.facebook.com/KellyAyotteForNH/posts/once-again-new-hampshire-is-the-freest-state-in-north-america-lower-taxes-smalle/1124031885761301/ Fourth lowest birth rate. To be fair, three lowest tax states are Alaska, Wyoming and NH Corresponding birth rates? high, medium and low. States with least regulation? https://www.mountainstatespolicy.org/mountain-states-lead-the-way-in-regulatory-freedom …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:17 AM
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No…tall man needs good face too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 07:07 AM
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Number one rated country in terms of greater freedom and low government interference into commerce is Switzerland. Their birth rate is 1.3 Second rated country in economic freedom is Singapore, birth rate is **.9** Pretty sure there is zero correlation between birth rates and small government.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 02:05 AM
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It hurts to see the one you desire romantically be with another. It's miserable. You see her smile, but never for you. Every second together is an echo of what you can't have. It reopens the wound, over and over This is one of the areas I think redpill gives excellent advice….. AVOID ONEITIS AT ALL COSTS. If a guy feels so deeply wounded for an unrequited romantic relationship with someone he’s never even kissed, much less banged? Sorry, that’s a self inflicted injury. The second she says no, a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:04 PM
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🏆 I totally agree, it’s like some bad rom com advice to think “the big confession “ is an effective strategy. My h and I were friends for years before it ever became sexual, apparently all our mutual friends were just saying “you two need to get a room” before either of us outwardly acknowledged our mutual attraction. It definitely developed along a few more subtle shifts on both sides. More flirtatious teasing, more time spent one on one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:41 PM
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Some dudes who never have sex have a wide variety of different ways their life sucks, but they figure mediocre sex with some random woman will fix everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 10:06 PM
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Damn…between ozempic and the cure for autism, this sub will become irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:59 PM
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This. My husband is without a doubt conventionally attractive, but I never in a million years would have picked my ex out from a picture and an online profile….and we met in a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:32 PM
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Well fair enough assessment on the orgasm gap. Some women really don’t know what does it for them, some men are too convinced they do know when they don’t, and Mother Nature, biology and anatomy don’t really help either. Women frequently are so particular with what they need that they can't even really explain what it is, and get annoyed that men don't just know what it is 🤷‍♀️. Sometimes we really don’t know, what can I say? My very first boyfriend had been MARRIED. Knocked up a girl in high sc…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 09:11 PM
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I do agree with this https://youtu.be/KkXpKF4b5yA?si=hbkJkttxN-Ael-Fw If he leaves it up accidentally once in a while and all is otherwise great in the relationship, leaving the seat up is going to be a non event. If she is using an occasional slip to play uproar and use it as an excuse to not be in the mood, it’s not about the toilet seat. It’s about sex, and something needs to be fixed. Now….if he is leaving it up in what he thinks is establishing dominance, aka “you’re not the boss of me” it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 06:17 PM
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Meh. I think attraction can’t be negotiated and no one gets horny because the husband has been a good boy. On the other hand….some men act like literal children and don’t do what chores have been previously negotiated and expected. When the husband becomes just another kid in the house to discipline? Oof. That’s a lady boner killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:48 PM
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He doesn’t look that bad? He doesn’t look that good either. 🤣 Women often like tall men, not going to lie, but a short man who is more handsome/talented/ accomplished than average will never lack for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:27 PM
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https://share.google/images/bpDcpnf9zReMBtUoM
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:20 PM
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Dudes always trying to figure out how to game the game. You think single moms and divorce is common now? Look what happened after WW2. Once soft polygamy becomes accepted as a norm, even more lower tier guys will be sexless than now. Women much prefer one man, if we have to join a harem, it probably ain’t going to be with some average Joe.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:18 PM
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Ahhh, maybe you need to read the thread OP wrote again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:11 PM
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lol, exactly what does that look like? Like women should demand they cum as easily and frequently as men? You will enjoy what we are doing or else? 🤣 That’s right up there with “the beatings will continue until morale improves”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 05:10 PM
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I have a right to tolerate bad sex, to end the relationship and either look for better sex elsewhere or do without sex, to ethically look for better sex outside that relationship, or to simply refuse to have bad sex in the relationship. Like I said, in a relationship if your needs aren’t being met, the agreement to fulfill each others needs in a monogamous agreement typically falls apart. I don’t have a right to try to force, cooerce or guilt someone into having sex in a way that pleases me….and…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 04:57 PM
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You are definitely not the average ppd poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 02:37 PM
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Men’s rights groups have some really legitimate concerns that should be addressed with legislation. Instead, they bitch constantly about slutty women and their own dry dicks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:29 PM
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This. Some men will only be happy with a harem of 72 virgins, but humans are born with equal numbers of males and females. To get what they want, unfettered access to a wide variety of low n count women, they need to kill each other off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:07 PM
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Have you ever had sex? Women have to also do something for most men to be satisfied, most men will not be interested in repeat performances with a starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:57 AM
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That’s a weird take. Of course there is no moral failing for being bad in bed. You just don’t get a chance to try again. After people have made a mutually beneficial decision to enter a monogamous relationship, that comes with an expectation that sex will be frequent enough and pleasurable enough for both to continue said relationship. If the sex is intentionally withheld, the mutual agreement typically falls apart.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:52 AM
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Try communicating for a year without making any eye contact with anyone. You will be talking to yourself. Everyone else will avoid you like the plague. While I agree that words can convey much more in terms of information, it doesn’t matter what you say unless people are willing to listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:28 AM
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I dated a guy who was 5’6”, he was handsome. OP posted a “nice guy” who looked like a doofus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 11:19 AM
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I think it’s a chicken or egg argument. Lots of random sex doesn’t cause attachment disorders, people with attachment disorders and difficulties with human connection often have lots of random casual sex, both men and women. Do you also think women don’t bond as well with their 5th child as much as their first? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/239930324_Perceived_parental_favoritism_closeness_to_kin_and_the_rebel_of_the_family They often bond most closely with the youngest child
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 01:04 AM
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No, I strongly disagree. With my husband and with most of my good friends, we definitely all crack each other up pretty easily. Maybe none of us would slay at standup but most of the laughs come from shared experiences and inside jokes. There is an intimacy to the humor that I share with most friends, and I definitely have friends who are less humorous than others Sometimes my husband and I only have to look at each other and we are laughing so hard we are crying because we can read each others …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:58 AM
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Like... this imo is one of the main reasons men argue that their sexuality is different and their desire is more intense to begin with You are kind of right. I think that the typical man’s sexuality actually is different, but don’t think men’s desire is necessarily more intense. I would say the baseline of men’s libido is typically higher and more consistent. Women often have even more intense sexual desire than men when in a happy relationship and during certain times of the month. My husband d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/25 12:23 AM
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My fingers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 10:45 AM
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Women are currently having even less casual sex than previous generations “In 2007, 31 percent of the young unpartnered women reported having sexual intercourse during the past month, but in 2017 only 22 percent did so. The percentage of men who reported engaging in casual sex dropped from 38 percent in 2007 to 24 percent in 2017. These declines in casual sexual activity are generally consistent with the decline in sexual intercourse among all young adults observed in other nationally representa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/25 08:56 PM
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Honestly, as someone who lives in the rural south? No they don’t. “Keep government out of my Medicaid” is a real phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 02:05 PM
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>Then the demands grom men should be higher Then you can work on that, good luck And stop stalking me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:05 PM
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The requirements are not different depending on what gender you are? Awesome. If gender doesn’t matter, then follow your own advice and date men. You can hang out in an airport bathroom and get laid. Problem solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 12:04 PM
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>Discussion is now also about whether it is unfair if women with autism should have it easier than those without autism. “Unfair” ? Yes, let’s blame women because men will throw a dick into anything. Since men will pay actual cash money to hump a junkie whore, and even pay more to do it raw and subject themselves to AIDS, it’s incumbent on me to grab some homeless man and give him $20 to have sex with me…..that’s only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 11:41 AM
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seriously? I guess you need studies? https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/infection-control-and-hospital-epidemiology/article/abs/interpersonal-communication-a-review-of-eye-contact/0A5931C4FF6DD7A2C1F92EFF875CAEEE https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5390711/ The bigger question…if you think that eye contact between humans is simply incidental and unimportant, then why is it so stressful for some autistic people? It’s not a random coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:22 AM
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“They (referring to women) owe a chance to more than a relatively small portion of men.” A direct quote from him. “I never said anything about necessary sex. I talk about going on a few dinners. It’s really not that much of an expectation.” He also once said some insanity about how neurotypical women should approach autistic men because they are the ones with social skills or something like that. As if anyone is ever going to approach another person who refuses to make eye contact. I ’m not aski…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 05:35 AM
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Thank you. Some common sense….It’s like complaining basketball coaches won’t give you a chance because you are 4’11”, or you can’t get accepted to college when your IQ is 86. People don’t want to form an intimate connection with you when you have a deficit in forming connections. One guy complained making eye contact was too stressful and was an unfair expectation but he still expected that some nt woman would want to have sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 01:19 AM
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This picture needs to be sent to every politician who is worried about who uses which bathroom. I can only imagine how they would feel watching Buck Angel follow a Girl Scout troop into a bathroom. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 10:37 AM
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You said you wanted to understand the rules so when a man cheats you know when it’s “okay”. I answered. It’s always okay. I personally might not think so, nor would I personally tolerate it, but there is plenty of evidence that men cheating has no consequences on his general social standing or perceived character.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:33 PM
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Seems to me that men don’t have to apologize for cheating on anyone, good wives or bad, we still elect them to high office. It’s all “okay” now as far as I can tell. You can even cheat because your wife had cancer and still get elected. Ask Newt Gingrich and John McCain
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 01:01 PM
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Don’t worry, they’ll be dead in the upcoming apocalypse just like every one else. Silver lining and all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 11:25 PM
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I actually earned significantly more money, now we don’t have to work because of some smart investments made when I was 28. But I did quit working before for he did, he kept working for health insurance. I’m looking to be happy. Period. An age difference matters to me because I’ve never been attracted to men much older than me. I’m a big believer in monogamy, less drama and more stability, so if I’m going to limit myself to one sex partner, it’s got to be one I have a baseline sexual attraction …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 11:46 AM
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Single =/= to being a virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 02:35 PM
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80% men can't get sex even after a lot of tries Women can have sex whenever they want. Straight men can’t but the idea that “80% of men can’t get sex”. That’s not only factually inaccurate, it ludicrous tbh https://share.google/images/Ob6JmiJaaqhIEtGwx By age 18, it’s 50/50 of men who have never had sex. By age 26, 95% of men have had sex at least once.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 01:49 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 10:07 AM
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I would lick a bathroom floor clean before sucking some strangers dick that I didn’t want to suck🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 08:32 AM
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I put myself through engineering school by tending bar. So what?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:51 AM
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To survive? I have seen that life. I have never seen a person in “university “ starving or strung out on heroin. To “get ahead”….lol. Fucking nasty ass
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:40 AM
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Taking a strange dick for money is no less degrading because the guy is rich or the hotel is fancy. It’s honestly pathetic that we live in a society where people worship money so much they will sell their very dignity. A John is a John, a whore is a whore and turning a trick is turning a trick. Some people whore themselves because they literally have no options. That’s a very sad life, I have seen it up close. Some people whore themselves because it’s easy money, that’s so much more fucked up an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 07:29 AM
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escorting rather than turning tricks. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 04:47 AM
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Don’t fool yourself that it’s only women, either. My brother works in drug rehabilitation and is always shocked at the married guys with kids who have sold their asses for drugs But I have never in my life met a college kid working as a hooker
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:31 AM
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Highly unlikely. First of all, I’ve never met an active sex worker remotely similar to me. I’ve lived in places and in the same apartment buildings as sex workers. Almost all of them were drug addicts. I was “friendly” acquaintances with a trans woman in my building, pretty sure she had hooked at some point. I tended bar for a while in the French Quarter in New Orleans and two of my regulars were a lesbian couple who specialized in kink. Pooping on dudes, pegging them. Seriously damaged women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 03:24 AM
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Of course not. Why is this even a question? Do you think a low n count girl is a hypocrite for not wanting to date some guy that had fucked 1000 girls? People are generally most comfortable with someone who views sex the same way as they do and has had similar experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:53 AM
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My first question would be did they filter for and eliminate differences based on ethnicity. Certain ethnic cultures are more traditional, have larger age gaps, fewer divorces and more rigid gender roles…and they are way more likely to be 5’6”…..just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:20 AM
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I like the way men look at 5’10 to 6’, but my ex was 5’8” and I was crazy about him, and one of the best looking guys I ever dated was 5’6”, he was just slightly shorter than me. Black curly hair,pale skin and pale blue eyes…and I am usually attracted to dark eyes and olive skin, but damn he was handsome 🤷‍♀️. To be honest, sex with guy not that much taller than me just “fits better”… The only height I would think hard before dating would probably be way too tall, or way too short. I dated a guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 02:00 AM
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Question for redpill
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 12:38 AM
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First of all, we are talking smv, not rmv. Assortive mating. The surface things we see like being physically attractive and having an engaging personality They wil date fellow ugly people if they want to date, period. Secondly, you were the one who said ugly people should date ugly people, which is generally pretty accurate imho, and yet you take great offense to the idea that the socially awkward date others who are socially awkward? Well that’s….awkward🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:27 PM
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Low smv is still low smv. In terms of “are all these people undesirable “. Ah yeah, they all have lower market desireability because they lack a good personality. In terms of being undateable, they are in the same bucket. No one really cares WHY their personality sucks just like no one cares why you are ugly So you want men who aren't witty to prey on autistic women? I guess if you consider “dating” to be the same as “preying on”? Weird take. I think plenty weird, awkward and autistic women want…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 03:01 PM
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And? All indications are it’s rising for both,it wasn’t rising as sharply for women, but still rising, yet men seem to constantly be obsessed like it’s a race to the bottom. Men on here yelling every day, disgusted that women are too slutty, but when they aren’t slutty men are still mad. You ready to get married tomorrow and be monogamous ? Then pick between women being slutty or women being sexless. The whole “I should be able to have multiple sex partners without commitment, but women shouldn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 12:00 PM
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They should all be alone? They wil date fellow ugly people if they want to date, period. They will date other dullards, introverts, autists and nerds? FTFY
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:33 AM
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When this came out, there was barely a peep https://share.google/images/aQoDAUfkw7sd26Cxs
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/25 11:09 AM
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How many years ago do you think these rules were in effect? My ex hired a guy I had a str with to work for us…..in the 90’s I went out all the time with other women, one married one in particular, and with our gay male roommate in NYC to dance. I certainly didn’t hide it from my ex, if fact I would beg him to come with, but he certainly didn’t think he needed to give me permission. Again mid 90’s Never once cheated either. Ironically..he was the one that cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 10:49 PM
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Kids these days…..frankly worry me though. When I found out college kids are online dating? You are literally swimming in a pool of single people all in your age range. What happened to talking to some cute classmate? I can’t even imagine you are on a college campus and are looking for dates on your phone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 09:06 PM
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Yeah…I mean you aren’t wrong. I’ve said before, dating after a certain age is like fishing for the leftover broken chips in the bottom of the bag. I have a good friend who isn’t quite that old but she had a brief marriage in her 20’s followed by decades of real train wrecks. Everything else in her life is going great, she makes great money, lots of friends, invested well in real estate….but the boyfriends…yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 08:35 PM
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Sure absolutely, we are definitely a bunch of monkey brained apes who respond to different stimuli, we are also socialized, rational human beings capable of life choices and long term goals. Human males enmasse aren’t beating females over the head and dragging them off to caves, any more than females are prowling airport bathrooms for hypermasculine Chads to impregnate them every time they ovulate. I don’t think we can or should forget at some level we are still animals, but it’s not what rules …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:52 PM
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Meh…the link on women preferring “larger dimorphic traits” compared to men was not a good link at all, and I didn’t bother to track it down, but I’ve seen similar studies before. And imho they seem pretty accurate, based on the fact that I leave my basement . Basically, it’s things like it’s more important to women that men be taller, than it’s important to men that woman be shorter. Men still prefer shorter, but it’s really no big deal. Same with overtly masculine features like broader shoulder…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:02 PM
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https://ifstudies.org/ifs-admin/resources/figure2-96-w640.png The number of young women not having sex is also up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 10:58 AM
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This is the real truth. Unhappy guys want to rant Chad is getting all the women, but the truth is virginity and sexlessness is rising for both men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 10:51 AM
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I haven’t looked at all of them, but “Young women were found to be attracted heavily to Dark Triad traits (psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and narcissism). Various, mostly Qureshi., 2016 and Carter et al., 2014 “ doesn’t say anything of the kind.. and that’s not even the title of the study you linked to…The title of that link is “Relationships between age of females and attraction to the Dark Triad personality”. It says that younger women liked dt traits more than older women, not that young wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 01:25 AM
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I think I saw that prison tatted Somali guy who was working at Little Caesars in Niceville outside my hotel window at 3am. Not sure, it was so dark out he was practically invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:48 PM
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Wait…so there are three you would? RIP your inbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:35 PM
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Online dating is horrible for men. I have been absolutely crazy for guys I never would have swiped on based on just their photo. I wouldn’t have thought “ugly” based on a photo, but they simply wouldn’t have registered in my brain at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 10:32 PM
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Well….normal is a stretch for the ones I’ve had the pleasure of knowing, 🤣….. but none of them thought the world should revolve around them. I have an ex probably somewhere on the scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:38 PM
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BINGO I’ve actually known some quirky and delightful aspies and he ain’t it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:17 PM
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First, the claim that women care about the deeper aspects of personality is simply false. Personality is the most malleable aspect of one’s being Sorry, but none of this makes a lick of sense. Autism doesn’t affect your personality? You literally aren’t dateable because of your personality. Women don’t like your personality. Personality characteristics of autism are real and quantifiable. the claim that the personality gaps between autistic men and the rest of society are unbridgeable is false, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 09:01 PM
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I found one once in my bed when I woke up. That was a rough hangover. 🥁
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:37 PM
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“French and Canadian... so you're obnoxious and dull". Truly a classic https://youtu.be/shKGIFFi8lU?si=w3k-oNrxmo4oojlm
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:34 PM
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Omg, I’m sorry dude But I can’t help laugh, that’s still funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:28 PM
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I’m not “learning” to fuck someone who is viscerally unattractive to me for any reason. I can learn to love people more, and probably should. We all should. I’m still not having sex with anyone I’m not sexually attracted to. You wouldn’t do it either or you wouldn’t still be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:35 PM
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Well….women have their own houses, their own jobs, they cook and clean for themselves and have an alarm system (and where I live they are highly likely to have their own concealed weapon too). Women mostly only want sex from relationships with certain men, and many women can take sex or leave it altogether, so where is this dude getting all this no strings attached sex from? Perhaps you don’t visit this subreddit often, plenty of men aren’t exactly getting random pussy shoved in their face. “Be …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 12:52 PM
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Probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:48 AM
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fix my mental heath. even if I have almost no relationship experience Keep up the good work little buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:44 AM
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Also, you're overly focused on the sexual aspect of accepting someone and being intimate with them, as if this is some kind of Hugh Hefner deal You’re absolutely right, I certainly am. Women were gifted as wives throughout history and spent entire lifetimes being raped by old men they had no desire for. Are you willing to to marry another man and consent to a lifetime of being penetrated by him? And don’t even fucking dare tell me “that’s different”. Unwanted sex is unwanted sex. It’s actually n…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:14 AM
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I know some gym bunnies who actually love that buff look, but in general I agree. Men underestimate “not fat” and overestimate “buff”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:30 AM
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Crazy, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 05:25 AM
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lol, my first thought too. There are probably more women into bodybuilders than there are actual bodybuilders, but most women just don’t want fat. Physically,for most women, face>>> body. Maybe because I have lived in some heavily gay areas, but bodybuilding has always had some homoerotic overtones for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 04:25 AM
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Amen sister🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:53 AM
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Yeah…I know, I get it. Because all your boundaries are fine, too old, handicapped, bad hygiene, obese, etc etc etc. all those are perfectly fine boundaries. I understand perfectly. Whatever prevents you from being attractive to women…that’s an unreasonable boundary. And it’s mean. Not benevolent. Sure, why should you being sexually unattractive ever stop anyone from having sex with you after all. That’s illogical, malevolent and shallow. I mean, you think you are so good natured women that shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:40 AM
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No I talked with him because he was charismatic. I slept with him because he was charismatic and I felt safe. At some level you are correct complete safety is an illusion and there are no absolute guarantees. The serial killer BTK had friends and family fooled for decades. “Loving wives “ poison husbands. But if we are ever going to have any relationships, or sex, we do our best to vett as best we can and avoid red flags. Too pushy, too aggressive and coming on too strong in a public place gives…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:36 AM
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Of course, I was a fucking smoke show at the time. 🤣 I also felt he wasn’t going to be obnoxiously pushy or violate my boundaries to get it, or get all weird and stalky if I rejected him. He didn’t even ask for my phone number until we went to breakfast after the bar closed and he walked me home. What part of “he made me feel comfortable, safe and he spent time establishing a rapport.” did you not understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 02:06 AM
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I think in the context of “sex has consequences “, you’re being disingenuous calling death from a logging accident a consequence of sex because the man was “trying to earn a living to support his family”. Dying from childbirth is a very direct cause of sex. We had a tree service company that I had to go out and yell at because the morons were hurling shit at the guy in the bucket truck. According to our neighbor, a guy who worked for that company had a tree fall on him and died a few days later.…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:57 AM
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And if he was a girl, I wouldn’t have fucked him daily for 7 years. There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:40 AM
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We spent 7 years together and both enjoyed that activity very, very much…..1000’s of times over. The point was he made me feel comfortable, safe and he spent time establishing a rapport.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:32 AM
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The fatal work injury rate was 3.5 fatalities per 100,000 full-time equivalent (FTE) workers, down from 3.7 in 2022 https://www.bls.gov/news.release/cfoi.nr0.htm Meanwhile, in other news, “The 1,205 deaths in the U.S. in 2021 translate into an overall maternal mortality rate of 32.9 per 100,000 live births”. The global rate is over 200 per 100,000 live births. Btw…I’m pretty sure that US maternal death rate doesn’t take into consideration the number of pregnant women murdered by their partners. …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 01:07 AM
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I actually had a date with a guy I met at a bookstore once. We started talking about the books I was looking at,and he was really well read. It didn’t work out when I found out he was 28 and he found out I was only 19….we both just said time to call it a night. the cost of rejection is potentially high I met an ex at a bar. He was pretty smart in keeping it friendly and keeping plausible deniability on the table. He actually bought drinks for me and my gay male coworker and talked to both of us,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:55 PM
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This. It depends on the woman AND depends on the approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:43 PM
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Define “approach”. Plenty of women will talk to guys they don’t know, and if they talk long enough to establish comfort and rapport, lots will be open to seeing that person again.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:41 PM
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I think it depends on how you define “cold approach “. If you are a socially clueless, on the spectrum dude who thinks you just walk up to strange women and say “you are beautiful, can I have your number”, then you definitely need some therapy. If you are naturally charming, attractive and have good social skills you can probably pick up women at the grocery store. Here’s the Catch 22. If you are charming, attractive and have good social skills it’s highly unlikely cold approach is necessary. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:33 PM
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Did you see “women” as actual individuals? Or just lump them as all requiring success? Did you ever consider the vast shifts in culture in a few short years where women are now more likely than men to marry down in term of education and almost half of us are married to men who make the same or less? Did you ever consider that some base level of success is actually needed to raise a family, feed, clothe and educate children. In light of that fact, did you look at women with benevolence and grace?…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:31 PM
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Like I said then….you first Saint Mysterious
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:24 PM
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Oh here it comes….women bad. Right on time. Kumbya just flew out the window to reveal another bitter jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:05 PM
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So an able bodied person in the same age range should suffice Equal in worth, yet you have your boundaries….no oldies or cripples…. So much for the limits to your benevolence .…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:03 PM
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So an able bodied person in the same age range should suffice Oh, so now people need to be able bodied and young to receive your romantic benevolence? The handicapped and older people don’t count? Good to know. I’m sure they will be glad to find out everyone is worthy of some romantic grace but them…..of course the cripples and boomers need to stay in their lane. Let’s narrow it down further. How about someone completely asexual. How about someone hyper sexual, polyamorous or only interested in …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:57 PM
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For someone who likes to wax poetically about humanity, you certainly seem to think humans are simply interchangeable with few differences outside of “good” benevolent and “bad. Funny you are so obsessed with humanity but can’t see that humanity is actually made of complicated, independent individuals with an enormous variety of individual wants and desires that can’t always be quantified. Maybe it’s you who needs to see the human in humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:12 PM
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If A, B, and C are you will have sex, cook and clean…..the female version is what? You will keep a job, at least try to be good in bed and not hit me or the kids? That sounds like a great arranged marriage, but no, it’s not all women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:53 PM
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It’s just shorthand for “what I really like is someone to have sex with, and you will suffice. Oh yeah, and it would probably suit me if you could cook and clean too”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:21 PM
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If they're unattractive, but benevolent, I think they deserve love Of course, everyone deserves to be loved. Not everyone deserves my romantic attention. You want to be the patron saint of the unfuckable be my guest. There’s an obese, 60 year old lady who smells off with tons of weird skin tags all over, who is also both saintly and lonely. Make it work OP, make it work. Oh, she sadly is afflicted with Tourette’s syndrome and will wake you up with strange, loud noises every night. Show us by exa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:40 PM
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There was a guy posting who actually said something along the lines of “I would date any and/or all of the women I know”, and had no clue why he didn’t have one single (or potentially several) girlfriends. Any sex is better than no sex, and they want to get sex from women. That’s it. They honestly can’t ever understand that women think differently and for good reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:30 PM
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Body positivity never made anyone date a fat girl who wasn’t already into “thic” i.e. fat girls. I personally have no interest in “dad bod”, ie overweight men either, but I would be an asshole if I laughed at them to their face at the beach.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:34 PM
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Past a certain age? Well if your definition of casual sex is sex without commitment that didn’t lead to a relationship, then yeah, pasta certain age, everyone in your age range who is still single has probably had casual sex. Most people have had casual sex at least once. Not the same as really being interested in casual sex. Women past the age of 25 who have never had casual sex are typically partnered and set to marry the guy who they are currently dating. Past the age of around 30, they are t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 01:05 PM
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you seem to think all women don’t want to be complimented on how they look Context is important. All women love to be complimented on how they look. But not by some weirdo stranger who is signaling sexual intent within seconds of meeting me. You seem to have very black and white thinking, just because a woman may love being told she’s beautiful in some contexts does not mean she would love it in all contexts. I would not love being told that by my male employer. I would not love being told that …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:48 AM
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Oh….that’s not how I read it tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 11:34 AM
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I just commented on this in another thread “I can see why they want a younger, childless woman too, but why would a young childless woman want them? At this is point…middle aged and little experience, if they couldn’t attract a younger woman when they were younger themselves, how likely are they to be attractive to a young woman when they are older, objectively less attractive and now bitter on top of it all?” It seems to me their best option is to try for a young woman not viscerally attracted …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:10 AM
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His stance is perfectly reasonable to me tbh. I think your sociosexual orientation is just as important as any other value or outlook on life you have. Similar views on religion, politics and sexual ethics, and similar values, lifestyles and choices also factor into compatibility. I’ve got a higher count than most, my husband’s is higher. I would not feel particularly compatible with someone who thought sex was a sacred act of love only to be shared after a deep binding connection. I get in ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:59 AM
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If being excluded is so terrible, why would you want some woman to also be excluded from sex and relationships before she met you? She has to be miserable because you are too?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:37 AM
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Older people who are perpetually single? Yeah, most have baggage of some sort. Dudes who manage to make it to middle age without much romantic success? They often also have baggage and lots of it. I can see why they want a younger, childless woman too, but why would a young childless woman want them? At this is point…middle aged and little experience, if they couldn’t attract a younger woman when they were younger themselves, how likely are they to be attractive to a young woman when they are ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 03:26 AM
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Those men weren't creepshamed by feminists. You think women actually accepted cold approaches from complete strangers in “ye olde days”. If a complete stranger approached a proper young woman, she would call the police. And her family might just beat the holy living shit out of you. If she actually accepted they might beat the shit out of her too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 02:52 AM
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smaller friend circles Generally worse social skills means fewer friends and fewer sexual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:32 AM
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I will talk to anyone, I’m open to most people and conversations, and I have dated guys I just met after talking to them for a while. You are absolutely spot on that that women not willing to engage at all let it be known. But some guy saying “you’re beautiful, can I have your number” out of the clear blue sky isn’t getting a positive response from me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 12:23 AM
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Yeah, used to get a few free drinks first. Same difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:55 PM
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Casual sex for women, who actually want it, has always been as easy as walking into a bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:36 PM
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Women have ALWAYS had the option of unlimited ons. You don’t need Tinder for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:35 PM
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they see everything as very structured Well lots of them have been raised that way. Too much helicopter parenting. Also too much screen time. My father used to kick us out of the house and leave us to entertain ourselves, we rode bikes to the neighbors and we spent a lot more time with other kids in mixed gender groups “hanging out”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:26 PM
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it doesn’t make sense to me that it does because its just an honest opener Lots of things you can say are honest and still completely and totally inappropriate. Think money, sex and religion, none of these are polite conversations with strangers and basically talking about a strangers level of sexual attractiveness qualifies as inappropriate. I guess complimenting looks will upset some of you But you are still thinking it’s a good opener? You know why you won’t ever be in the “maybe I will talk …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:20 PM
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Well the example of a cold approach we are being given by op is approaching a woman out of the blue and saying “you are beautiful, can I have your number”. This isn’t not only not going to work, it’s going to work in the wrong direction. You are right that people will meet and date other people that were strangers only a few hours ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:13 PM
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You are kind of making her point for her. It’s not worth doing unless you get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 11:58 AM
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Well, someone else mentioned a guy commented on the book she was reading, my ex commented on the uniforms my gay friend and I were wearing, and I think commenting on an interesting piece of clothing or tattoo is honestly more interesting and refreshing, and more likely to actually spark a conversation beyond some kind of awkward “thanks?…” as a response to being told “you’re pretty”. You’re trying to actually start a conversation, right? How does saying “you’re beautiful” elicit any further conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 09:56 AM
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excuse me I thought you were really beautiful and ask for the number or if you can take her on a date sometime. Huge oof. This reads like a bad joke. You can’t be serious…..🙄 My ex cold approached me in a bar, didn’t ask for my number until many hours later when we closed down the bar, went to breakfast at a 24 hour diner, and he walked me home. If he had approached me like that, not only would he have not gotten anywhere, but I totally would have felt creeped on. Jesus, can you actually put in …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:56 PM
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I don’t understand…..I mean in a sense I did. I slept with every single boyfriend early in the relationship except for my very first while I was still in my teens. I didn’t have promises of exclusivity or a commitment, with a few I knew almost immediately it was going to be a serious relationship, but some would have definitely been hookups if he hadn’t wanted a relationship. Now would I have hooked up again with some of the guys I hooked up with if I could turn back time? Probably 50/50 tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 09:17 PM
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Yeah, we need raw materials and energy…..lower levels will easier to come by to satisfy a smaller population. That county in Iowa that had 1000’s of farmers also had 1000’s of tractors. Now it has a handful of automated, self driving tractors that can work 24/7. Fewer gross number of trucks to ship food will be needed when they are on the road 24/7. Both automation and population decrease will mean fewer raw materials needed, not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 08:49 AM
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stay at home mother to three children and cooked,.cleaned No one with 50 million cooks and cleans. People like that have nannies and maids
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:50 AM
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Men would be more than happy to pay for women Thanks, but no thanks. I’d rather have an equal and a partner. You want to pay for a woman, get a hooker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:29 AM
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One or two people are all that is needed to farm thousands of acres with robotics and automation. This isn’t some futuristic prediction, it’s already here with corn and wheat in the Midwest. Some entire counties in Iowa that only 50 years ago had 1000’s of farmers have consolidated under only a small handful of farmers. https://www.iowafarmbureau.com/Article/Technology-driving-faster-consolidation-of-crop-farms The biggest growers of strawberries in Florida are currently working on robotic harve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 02:18 AM
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They want kids and have a sharper decline in fertility starting at age 35. If you want a few kids, you might get lucky and have 3 healthy kids after 35. Might. Might not. Of course no guarantees at any age but your chances are better if you start younger. Just because something is good for you doesn’t mean everyone is anxious to do it. Look at exercise……
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 10:42 AM
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Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 10:21 AM
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Do you think it's fair for women to see the wedding as her special day? No? Not for me at least. I got married at the courthouse. You know what was a special day? The day we paid off our multi family rental property and we weren’t dependent on having to have jobs. Had I had a large wedding, it probably would have cost me several more years of not having financial independence. I can’t imagine one day ever being worth years of financial independence. There is a reason the cost of both the engagem…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 10:18 AM
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I only listen to The Mountain Goats.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 04:28 AM
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Not only was the paper cited written by a woman, it references the original investigative reporting by Alia Rau, also a woman. Also cites Inequality from Gender-Neutral Laws: Why Must Male Victims of. Statutory Rape Pay Child Support for Children Resulting from Their Victimization by Ruth Jones See also these papers, both written by women https://scholarship.law.wm.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2952&context=facpubs https://huskiecommons.lib.niu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1306&context=niul…
/r/MensRights21/08/25 02:49 AM
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Because men can never be held accountable for their choices, they have to have sex and therefore they have to settle for whatever woman will take them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 02:09 AM
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Right. When women’s desire decreases because of perimenopause and menopause, also a medically caused decrease in desire, she should just accept the fact that she meets her husband’s needs or he will cheat. Should the 40% of men with erectile dysfunction in their 40’s expect the same? If they're watching porn, they have a sexual desire. If they didn't have a sexual desire, they wouldn't be watching porn. Read again, I said “ for men with a healthy sex drive, factor in the ever present stimuli of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 11:43 PM
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and generally women's desire for sex decreases over time while for men it remains constant. You sure about that? https://share.google/images/57HIxUsw3T6hsgyV7 Add in decreasing testosterone https://www.healio.com/news/endocrinology/20120325/generational-decline-in-testosterone-levels-observed Then, for men with a healthy sex drive, factor in the ever present stimuli of streaming porn featuring only young and attractive women, the days when men were consumed with lust over the sight of a naked an…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 10:15 PM
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Okay….so then op has a point. why bother 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:22 PM
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You realize most of us provide for ourselves now …right? right? Your first statement says nothing about love, just your basic duty to behave honorably. I’m starting to actually miss the love goggles bullshit we used to get handed, sounds better than whatever scenario you’re proposing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:21 PM
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she gave you her best years…So when her decline comes you'll reward her loyalty and not run off with the hotter girls Jfc, that sounds great, where do I sign up? 🙄 I can’t wait for the pity fucks to come after my decline. You are supposed to be debating with op, not agreeing and amplifping the argument. OP might really have a point after all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:16 PM
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I don’t know about “stupid”, but you are definitely clueless about what should be obvious to the casual observer…so yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:50 PM
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I gave you the long answer. Here’s the short one…. Because women aren’t men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:48 PM
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I think women probably do make small talk more than men in general, although there are plenty of men with great social skills. Do you mean why don’t women pursue men like men pursue women? Why do men vastly outnumber women on dating apps? Men to women 9:1 on Tinder, 7:3 on Bumble, 5:1 on Match. Why do you easily find female escorts, and male escorts for women are rare? Why are men 4 times more likely to watch porn? Come on…if you think real hard, I bet you can find the answer…… Be grateful that …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:46 PM
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Someone finally said it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:06 AM
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>Striking up a conversation with someone EXACTLY. I think lots of these guys actually need to start talking with strange guys…..hear me out…. They need to practice the art of small talk, learn to back away from people not responding, need to learn when people are open to conversation. It is a matter of developing social skills. You need to engage with someone as a human before they feel comfortable with getting more personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:05 AM
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>found 18 – 32% had an official Autism diagnosis, and 53 – 74% self-diagnosed or saw themselves with spectrum traits. That's way above the baseline of neurotypical people You forgot the last part. Compared to about 4% of the general population with autism, it’s definitely over represented.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 03:18 AM
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Some super hot people settle for being single, or in a string of short term relationships. But lots of people want kids, stability, consistent sex and a best friend to grow old with. No one is forcing them to do anything, most people want a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 09:35 PM
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>and it blows my mind how can a woman would care for me but wont touch me with a 10 ft pole. I just don’t understand why this surprises anyone. Think of all the people you like but don’t want to sleep with, simply because they are not attractive to you. Old women, men, unattractive or obese women, are you telling me that you can’t be friends with these people or care about them? You still don’t want to have sex with them. But that’s what blows your mind? That people like sex with someone they fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:08 AM
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Most of my friends can pretty much take relationships or leave them, ….not me. 🤷‍♀️If my husband ever dies I’ll probably turn into a basic pick me. I spent two years completely celibate after a bad break up and another two year single. I’m so much happier with consistent sex in a solid, stable relationship. Honestly, everything about being in a relationship makes my life better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 10:04 PM
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Not for me. If the sex isn’t good fairly soon into a relationship, I’m out.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:21 PM
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Speak for yourself. It’s incredibly important to me. I’m monogamous and don’t need the drama of sex outside of a relationship. If I’m only having sex with one person, it had better be good, it had better be often and I have to be attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:04 PM
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If that love was “true love” it probably wouldn’t have ended in high school. I think grown women still appreciate thoughtfulness and romance, they are just more clear eyed and know that the kind of love that will last through raising kids, taking care of aging parents, health problems and paying bills takes something more than hand holding and star gazing. I define true love as going through the tough parts, not just the easy ones
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:31 PM
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Well, in response to me, manosphere dudes say they feel the need to make fun of single moms because they are all looking for payday and a bailout, and they also imply all single moms are promiscuous and being single is totally their own fault. I know some single moms out there with great careers and plenty of their own money too. Some got divorced because their husbands were cheaters Hypocrisy and judgement abounds all around I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:29 PM
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how are you supposed to have sex before the date? I have 🤷‍♀️🤣. You hook up, great sex, you start going out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:10 AM
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You mean….. OH HELL NO
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:02 AM
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Sure, absolutely. But cause and effect ? Almost all the examples of polyamorous cultures are much more heavily on the side of hunter gatherer with limited agriculture. They also tend to be more collectivist, so it’s predominantly the entire community providing resources for children. I wish I could remember the documentary done in the 1940’s on one of the Amazon tribes…it’s hilarious because the husband is bragging that now that his wife has a boyfriend, he has half the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:06 AM
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Well, a bit of fallacy in that math In case you haven’t looked around, your one in 5 guy in each category is often the top guy in all 3 categories. You are assuming the attributes are random, not interdependent and are evenly distributed, Attractive people are often more financially successful than peers with similar talent https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6261420/ and are perceived as more charismatic as well. Chances are good that is you get an extremely attractive partner, people will…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:33 AM
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And this is why we have religions that tell men it’s fine to marry 6 year old girls and don’t have more than 4 wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:11 AM
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I’m not sure it’s either biological, or irrational tbh. If it were biological, wouldn’t it exist in all cultures? Look up partible paternity, the belief in South America tribes that babies can have more than one father. The mechanism of sexual reproduction was not entirely understood, and primitive tribes actually encouraged their wives to have sex with men of higher status in the belief that the resulting child would be a mix of the higher status man and the husband. Given these beliefs, the pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:22 AM
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Here’s the stats by age https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/publications/2019/demo/P70-162.pdf Page 6, Figure 3. Percentage of black men with children Age20-29: 24.9% Age 30-39: 62.5% Age 40-49: 80.5% That’s actually higher than white men at 75%
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:15 PM
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Hypocrites all of you! Men need to prove they aren’t ageist by going down on a granny Prove they aren’t homophobic by being a bottom because there is an underprivileged horny top somewhere out there Prove they aren’t transphobic ….hell they better just castrate themselves right now. There is no consent anymore, no bodily autonomy, sexual socialism for all. If a dude wants to breed you, you gotta give him a baby for your liberal cred…..and all we really wanted was just some healthcare and look wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:19 PM
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You can see it that way, but I never said it’s “wrong”. American women do not even try to “compete” for men Okay, that’s probably mostly true. They definitely aren’t competing for passport bros, that’s for sure. But when have any females in the animal world ever competed for males? Males usually compete with other males for access to females. This is nothing new. Passport bros for the most part have lost on their home field and are heading down to a minor league where compared to local guys, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 10:47 AM
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The part I dont get is why they care about undesirable men leaving the country to try and be happy. People comment on how ridiculous the fat women they don’t want behave, they comment on the blue haired, tattooed girls they don’t want…I mean why does anyone care? The post wall women they have no interest in and the single moms they have no interest in live rent free in lots of people’s minds. There is an entire sub, wdatgmg, to make fun at women men don’t want to date. In the case of passport br…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:57 AM
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Lots of people draw the line between what’s a FWB and what’s a boyfriend/girlfriend at exclusivity. FWB doesn’t imply that you might not still be looking, so I think it’s unrealistic to think your FWB isn’t ever having sex with someone else. Most fwb relationships end when one party gets serious and eventually wants to focus on a monogamous ltr with someone else they have been casually sleeping with. But people do define FWB differently. We had a poster with an exclusive, monogamous relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:38 AM
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I don’t know that I’d say that, polyamory kind of implies actual emotional relationships. The first woman has just getting laid, absolutely no interest in anything but sex. The other two were in competition. The second one came on scene after #3, #3 thought she could turn him into an actual boyfriend, but #2 won out. He lived with #2 for 3 or 4 years, never cheated on her, at least not that I knew, until he quit drinking and she dumped him for not being fun anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:20 AM
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Would a woman knowingly be FWB with a guy who’s sleeping around with a bunch of women? Sure. Back when I very first met my husband, back in his crazy drinking days, long before we dated, he was sleeping with three women who all knew each other and hung out in the same bar. One had a hall pass whenever her boyfriend was offshore, the second one eventually became his girlfriend and the third was hella mad, but she was really never in the running. Context, these were all young service industry peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:03 AM
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I don’t think most guys who are sleeping with lots of women or multiple women at a have to lie. They just hook up with people after a party or social event, there isn’t any discussion beforehand of “what are we” or “where is this going”. If a guy wants to turn a one night stand into one of his ongoing fwb’s, he may or may not hide his involvement with other women, most of the “lying” is him pretending he is way more into the girl than he is. I think context matters too. If this is a bar hookup, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:30 AM
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Don’t they admit all of this themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 11:20 PM
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lol…it’s easy. Good sex. They initially become interested because we all want love and sex, and if it’s the only chance on the horizon for mutual attraction, the prospect of getting sex does a lot of heavy lifting. If the sex is good and stays good, the hormones dopamine and oxytocin take over. The cuddling after helps too. It’s rare that anyone thinks their own baby is ugly, that ugly ass baby is often beautiful in the eyes of the mother because of oxytocin. We also get oxytocin from orgasm. So…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:36 AM
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Good grief. Everything isn’t literal. Story is absolutely true, the last two sentences are clearly sarcasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:42 AM
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Oh …If you are hot and nice you can absolutely get dates and can easily turn dates into good relationships. If you are hot and an asshole, you can get lots of dates, can rack up a huge n count, but will probably end up that obnoxious dude with three ex wives, a baby momma, and fatty liver disease. There is a fine line between confidence and some cluster b personalities, no doubt. There are plenty of nice and confident people though, lacking confidence doesn’t mean you can’t also be a bad person …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:14 AM
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those types of people are adept at hiding their true selves Amen. The worse they are often the better they hide it. People need MORE true crime in their lives because there are some absolutely horrible people that no one suspects a thing.💀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 01:02 AM
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You chose them. You could filter better. Don’t sleep with guys before they’ve earned it. That’s only going to filter out the guy who wants to hit and quit, who may or may not be a bad guy in my opinion. You can’t filter out everyone who might break your heart. Shitty people come in all types. Some are so straight up obnoxious with red flags everywhere. They filter themselves. Some are truly shitty and masters at hiding. These are frankly the scariest. Some are mostly great people who make really…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:55 AM
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Huh…cause I once took a chance on a mildly aspie virgin, many long time friends, the kind of guy who would post on here nice guys never get a chance, and it took me 7 whole years before I caught him with his dick in some strange. Also found out when we were expanding the business we started together, the franchise money was all going to him, despite me working along side of him to get things off the ground. Guess I’m a slow learner. No more aspie virgins for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:38 AM
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I don't think anyone resents ALL women, more like "women" as a concept. I think you are wrong. A guy posted just yesterday that he didn’t like any women, including his mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:02 AM
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How short are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 11:55 PM
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They will gladly maintain a relationship with an anti-social man if they believe his violence is a weapon wielded against others (and her during sex, since women love rough sex). Can’t relate to any of this because I live in an incredibly safe environment, can’t imagine my h having to protect me, we are privileged to live in an area where we don’t carry keys and sleep with our front door open. And I don’t like rough sex. Maybe if I was raised or live in the hood, I might have different preferenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 03:05 PM
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They just project that if they were a hot guy they would use that as an excuse to be an asshole so they pretend the hot nice guys don't exist. I find it telling on themselves tbh. 🎯
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:47 PM
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Do worse as in…have less casual sex? Yes Do worse as in have less stable long term relationships? No Part of getting laid a lot is being pushy about it, just like sociopaths are better at sales. You go into a used car lot, you aren’t looking for a sociopath, but if that lying, sociopathic used car saleman finds you, you just might find yourself overpaying for a lemon. “Bad” people often “win” in life, depending on what you define as winning.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:46 PM
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Well I would not think it selfish because I would see it as something that would benefit both of us. I don’t think my husband would get harmed by boning more. Low t causes depression and lack of energy too. A penile implant or painful injections….definitely more controversial in my opinion I’m not bullshitting, I honestly think my husband would prefer I tell him I’ve made an appointment to see if his libido might be boosted than hear me say I’m not happy and I’m leaving. We both plan to stay tog…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:36 PM
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Well ….that explains why a low t husband wouldn’t bother you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:19 PM
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So if all sex stopped with your husband it wouldn’t bother you? I’m not trying to say you’re wrong, I’m just interested. Would you just go without sex, masturbate solo and snuggle without sex? If I haven’t had sex in a while, snuggling with my husband definitely makes me horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:08 PM
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I’m not sure I’ve ever heard anyone say this before tbh. Do you typically have steady sexual partners or romantic relationships? I like masturbation, but for me it’s nothing like full skin to skin contact, especially with someone I love. Even on just a physical level, I think the levels of feel good hormones are so much higher having sex than getting an orgasm by hand. I can enjoy the hell out having sex with someone I love even without orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:43 PM
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Okay. At least I don’t write run on sentences.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:44 AM
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You’re kind of a dick that can’t write a coherent sentence. 🤣.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:41 AM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:38 AM
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Call me dog shit then. I bug my husband telling him to see the dermatologist about something…did he tell his doctor about this….make sure she checks that…you get the idea. He rolls his eyes. I don’t care. Call me a nag. Call me dog shit. Zero fucks given. I love him and want to have many more years together. One of the reasons given to explain why married men live longer.. https://blog.swedish.org/swedish-blog/married-men-are-more-likely-to-go-to-the-doctor-here-s-why
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:29 AM
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I’ll say he definitely brought it up more than once……. I will also say though that I didn’t give him a forceful no. Had I done that,…said no way….and he persisted, we would have had a very different conversation if he brought it up again.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:17 AM
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Oh…people you don’t know…absolutely. Is that even a thing…do people actually feel pressure to do something because someone on reddit says something? I mean no harm in making a passing suggestion to a stranger, I can’t imagine a stranger caring enough to hound them
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:09 AM
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it isn't fair to pressure women to take hormonal contraception It’s absolutely worthy of discussion. When my ex and I started dating I was using a diaphragm and spermicide because I hadn’t been particularly active for a while before. He wasn’t crazy about it, which I fully understand and asked me to go on the pill. I told him I really didn’t want to, would sometimes forget and they made me bloated. I had had an iud and that gave me monster cramps. We had a few more calm adult discussions weighin…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 02:05 AM
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continue to be sexually dysfunctional …why should anyone else care If it’s MY husband I’m definitely going to care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:41 AM
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Are you serious? What if your husband’s libido tanked because of a poor hormonal balance? I like sex and I strongly prefer monogamy, so if his testosterone is low and causing a low libido I’m definitely suggesting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:38 AM
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I know one woman right now on a low dose of testosterone, she says she’s horny as a billygoat with a beard to match.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:34 AM
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I worked in bars that famous people would frequent in NYC and in New Orleans. There were always women trying to get the attention of these guys, especially if they were attractive and were sports stars. There might be a dozen women a night willing to have sex with one of them. I even knew an attractive chick who was a Saints groupie. She also had a long term , ongoing affair with a pretty famous married musician, …she’s a lawyer now, 🤣 Thing is though, in the bar where we had lots of football pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 01:15 AM
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I'm just a curious 16 year old You’re 16? 😱No…….run from this cesspool. First of all, are you neurotypical? Are you mentally healthy? If not you might struggle. Being an incel is more strongly associated with autism and poor mental health. Second, are you pretty overweight? You might struggle. But stop associating long, lifetime love with looks. Of course being attractive makes your dating options better, no one will deny that, but average and below average men find relationships all the time. K…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:27 AM
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Wow…finally an interesting question that doesn’t involve Chad or n counts Where’s the line between supportive advice and subtle pressure? What exactly is subtle pressure? I support anyone who wants to leave a partner who doesn’t provide a base level of sexual intimacy and refuses to work on the problem, especially if no kids are involved. I think saying “let’s try to fix this or I’m gone” is perfectly fair statement if they have any fixable sexual problem. That goes beyond subtle pressure, it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/25 12:14 AM
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Drake has a main boy at home
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:21 PM
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Most people do settle down in their 20’s. Median age for men getting married is 30, it’s 28.5 for women. Most couples date for 3 years, so the median age for meeting and dating your future spouse is 27 for men and 25.5 for women. I don’t think the phenomenon of happy couples you are seeing has to do as much with their relative hotness when they marry. Marriages under age 25 have high divorce rates, even higher than for people who marry in their 30’s. Marriages in later 20’s and early 30’s are ty…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:18 PM
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What does that have to do with starting a family when you are too young? Marry young, enjoy the divorce. “ 60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce. Those who wait to marry until they are over 25 years old are 24 percent less likely to get divorced.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:01 PM
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Absolutely not if you want to raise children in a two parent household
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 04:46 AM
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His friend sounds young and stupid too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:33 AM
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Babe, I will handle it I honestly think if you say this and then follow through that’s relationship gold tbh. The worst is to grudgingly say okay then go back to your game or start calling her a nag. That only leads to more micromanagement. That’s how resentment builds.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:31 AM
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lol…right? When I read my early 20’s 🚩 gamer 🚩friend had a baby 🚩with his girlfriend 🚩in her early 20’s🚩….so many red flags in one partial sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:26 AM
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He and his “girlfriend “ have one and he expects another? And it had better be a boy. Yet your gamer friend hasn’t even put a ring on it? 🤣. I hope she gets the five year iud.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:21 AM
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You two guys are probably my two favorite men who post here, but the one skittle in the horseshit…. that is some reddit gold right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 12:05 AM
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men who demean housework and childcare constantly Yep, also the stay at home mom when things are going fine. “She’s doing the most important job in the world, raising our children”. Come time for division of assets, she never worked a day in her life. They hella mad when women do work ….”they’re taking our jobs”….and hella mad when they don’t …”.they all expect a pay pig provider.” You can’t win.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 10:11 PM
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the guy would be fine with her not doing so. Yeah, when it’s all going great, it’s “our” money. Until he gets caught with his dick in strange, then it’s “how dare that bitch take half of my money”. Happens almost every time. No thanks, I don’t want trapped in a bad marriage because I have no work experience or skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:44 PM
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lol….okay?… what does division of labor in the home have to do with job choice outside the home. Btw, speaking of work outside the home, there is always a chronic shortage of nurses aides, but I never see guys lined up to wipe grandpa's ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:39 PM
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Dude, they do it for exactly the same reason you do. Don’t even try with “intimacy “ and wanting “relationship “ bullshit. No hooker even uses her real name, you are just paying to throw a dick in an unenthusiastic stranger because pee pee feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 08:54 PM
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“Those other people are wrong, but it’s okay for me”. Jfc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:59 PM
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neurotic, anxious, overly critical All traits associated more with women and not men. Ironically, a shit ton of “red pillers”actually have very feminine personalities
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:56 PM
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Oh, you must have either been a Boy Scout or an altar boy then. I’m glad you enjoyed the grown man ass raping you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 07:51 PM
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lol….supply will never meet demand. That’s the problem. The is still high levels of extreme poverty and drug addiction everywhere it’s legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:13 PM
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There are many, many more people who experience unwanted sex and no surprise, many end up as hookers. Good people visit prostitutes No https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0145213481900508
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 03:06 PM
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most men want this Yeah the rest is neither here nor there. If I thought this was true, I’m out Again, by this logic, what’s the point of men marrying at all? No point at all! Carry on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:05 PM
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Look at how Leo is constantly berated and called a pedo because of his dating behaviour being publicized. A yes, Poor, poor Leo. His reputation has definitely hurt his bottom line. Random strangers on the internet posting things about him has kept him from ……what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:26 PM
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a lot of people The huge flaw in this is most guys don’t understand the math behind this phenomenon. If a one in 1000 famous person can find a million takers, thats a lot of takers. But that still doesn’t mean there aren’t many more millions who would look at this guy and turn him down flat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 12:22 PM
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I mean both those statements, that both are predators, are correct. His last “girlfriend “ owned a gym and officially broke up with him when she got knocked up by the co owner of the gym. Her real boyfriend 🤣. https://www.lipstickalley.com/threads/shannon-sharpes-ex-fiance-already-pregnant-by-new-man.1949575/ Still “dating” Shannon Sharpe in early 2018, she gave birth to her business partners baby in December of that year. I bet they both love spending Shannon Sharpes money.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:53 AM
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Women should find a husband as young as they legally can and have kids and grow old with that same man This coming from the guy who says all men only want harems of young fresh meat? lol. You and every other man only want to bang 100’s of women, the younger the better. Lmfao. Fuck you and your theories of hypergamy, if that’s the only thing men want, then women should just get a job, a vibrator and a cat. Your world is one where love isn’t possible, we all just follow what you believe to be biol…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 11:44 AM
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Jfc…talk about sociopathy. Why should people expect empathy without reward? You never extend a simple kindness to another human being unless they suck you off on the regular? Should we have empathy for billionaires? Well did something horrible happen to them? Of course, losing 10m isn’t that horrible when you have 400m, but if their kid has cancer, or even if they are wrongly accused of a crime? Yes, I definitely have empathy because I’m not a sociopath. And being a billionaire doesn’t preclude …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:58 AM
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lol, then don’t fall in love or have sex with anyone, but they had a passionate love life. If you aren’t a dime yourself might as well give up. https://www.wgbh.org/specials/2020-12-21/10-things-i-learned-from-reading-julia-childs-autobiography-my-life-in-france They were both quite hedonistic, lots of great food, great wine and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:13 AM
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No one thinks it’s love when a man twice your size, three times your age and ten times stronger is sexually aggressive the week after the boobs sprout. It’s honestly not only terrifying, but a fairly universal experience of preteen girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 02:07 AM
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You people don’t understand orgasm, oxytocin and LOVE. When threes bang each other repeatedly, orgasm together, grow old together,, yes…many of them without porn brains enjoy the hell out of sex together….especially if they love each other. https://share.google/images/YCbyOQmoDj2OJzWqt Paul and Julia Child were objectively some unattractive people, but had a ridiculously active sex life. He used to come home and bang her on his lunch hour and she once told a friend her obsession with having sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:52 AM
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You realize that for a woman, getting sex is as easy as walking into a bar on a Friday night right? So why is female sexless at an all time high? You can’t seriously believe women are as interested in casual sex as men. Laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:14 PM
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You think women want sex as much as men? Lmfao Are women the ones gloating that given the opportunity, they will happily monkey branch? You think women aren’t also opting out of it all, sex and relationships? Sexless women are trailing right behind the dry dick men. https://share.google/images/z6WtWD3m2wrKsAnYQ Despite being able to bang Chad simply by being available, sexlessness for young women is higher than ever in history. You sure women still have interest in sex with men?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:08 PM
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You need to get to the sex part first before the marriage, monogamy and family though. What’s the incentive for women for EITHER sex or relationships? We have girlfriends, jobs and rechargeable batteries that are more reliable than men who want 70 virgins. Ohh….reluctantly as monogamous as your options is what you offer? Gee…how tempting, sounds great. Where do we sign up for that again? Nothing personal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 03:58 PM
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Sure, that’s fine I suppose. If men want to convince us that there is no point in relationships? Right back at ya. Eye for an eye makes all men blind. But I see men gleefully state they are the ones incapable of monogamy, I don’t hear this from women much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 03:50 PM
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You think marriage rates are low because men don’t make their age gap relationships legal? Please. This is laughable. According to you all men only want variety and youth and then you also wonder why a woman wouldn’t want to sign on to this? We women would like to thank you again for red pilling us and reminding us that there apparently is no point in trying to establish any sort of long term monogamous attachment with a man.🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:20 AM
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My husband is an alcoholic. He quit drinking a few years before we started dating, but I knew him back in his drunk days. Is fact he allowed himself to become a drunk in the first place a character flaw? Probably. On the plus side, most people I have known who have overcome addiction are much more honest with themselves, acknowledge their weaknesses, and are more humble and introspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:22 AM
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You missed the “involuntary “ part of INvoluntarily CELibate part of incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 12:35 PM
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? Okay? Do you think they aren’t over represented when it comes to “terrible outcomes “? Again…do you think repeatedly taking random dick you aren’t really enthusiastic about is good for your mental health?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 03:04 PM
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Would you say that all famous porn stars have the same terrible outcomes in life too? This is frankly one of the weirdest questions I have ever been asked tbh. I mean yeah, I empathize with anyone who has terrible outcomes in life…and porn stars are definitely over represented in the “terrible outcome” category. https://www.nationalworld.com/culture/celebrity/porn-stars-who-have-died-so-far-full-list-includes-jesse-jane-dahlia-sky-causes-of-death-revealed-4738328 Turns out taking dicks you are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:57 PM
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They used a wide variety of women in the study, “ sauna girls”, escorts, streetwalkers, etc. “We analysed occupational mobility within and outside the sex industry. We used four categories for analysis based on the local industry: street, escort (which includes working for a madam and privately), sauna (sex work businesses including clubs), and flat (sex work businesses where women tend to work on their own)” Just because you earn a million dollars means you can’t be an addict? Or be emotionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:16 PM
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We’ve been pretty much lean fire with paid off rental property, but both my husband and I enjoy spending time together and we both have hobbies we are passionate about that bring us joy. I did a bit of traveling alone in my early twenties, it’s not nearly as fun as traveling with other people for me. There are definitely some people who want to fire just so they have to deal even less with people than they are forced to do while working. When you fire young, and the majority of people in your ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 12:37 PM
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I’m concerned about the future of emotionally healthy people, and healthy families in general. Some people are perfectly fine going monk mode and never having relationships. Many, many people however are not. The phenomenon goes beyond not having sexual relationships, but general social withdrawal, lack of friendships , over reliance on para social relationships, and isolation. The extreme extension of this general worldwide trend is the hikikomori in Japan. I’ve participated in lots of FIRE for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 11:05 AM
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Context…..I tended bar throughout college and just doing your job politely and listening to guys can get interpreted as flirtation. I also majored in engineering…..I am here to testify a significant portion of those guys wouldn’t pick up on subtle flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:36 AM
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Do you “lower your standards” ….maybe? …..for someone who is emotionally immature ? oh hell no. I like being coupled tbh. If I’m ever widowed, maybe I would have to look at someone slighter older than my preference, or less financially stable, or someone not into the hobbies that my husband and I share. But emotionally immature ? I’d rather be single than deal with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:08 AM
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regular girls who like to travel, have fun with their friends, go shopping, earning money and having sex. In a study that followed the lives of sex workers in the UK for 15 years Six of the 130 women had died: four deaths have been reported in an earlier follow-up, including two with AIDS and two who were murdered. Another woman died of alcoholic liver disease in her mid‐30s, and the last reportedly from a drug overdose in her early 40s In addition to the high mortality, there were significant h…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 09:57 PM
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Asperger's
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:29 PM
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“ Compared to men who have never bought sex, male clients also display less empathic accuracy (i.e., accurately inferring the thoughts and feelings of another) toward female sex workers than non-clients “ “ The men's perceptions of prostituted women's experiences of prostitution tended to differ from the actual perceptions of prostituted women in other studies” https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0022645 It’s possible your reading of these experiences may not be objectively accurat…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 07:27 PM
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Chicken or egg? Probably both. Poorly socialized men or anti social men are unlikely to have either friends or lovers, on the other hand, women tend to have more close friends and larger networks of social connections than men, and people definitely make friendships in adulthood through activities with their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:03 AM
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One of the biggest reasons men have a shorter life ….. Yeah, none of this is true…at all. Lifetime suicide risk is 1% for men. The overall job fatality rate decreased to 3.5 per 100,000 workers. While true that suicide and job related fatalities are significantly higher for men than women, these numbers don’t even make a dent in the gap in life expectancy gap between men and women. In 2023, the life expectancy for males was 75.8 years, while for females it was 81.1 years The gap between female a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/25 01:43 AM
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In the past year, 10.3% of adult women reported experiencing a major depressive episode, compared to 6.2% of men But on the other hand if you look at substance abuse disorders those statistics are the reverse. 11.5% of boys and men over 12 have a substance use disorder, compared to 6.4% of women. Emotional disregulation is pretty common in both genders, how it manifests varies. Feeling lonely is much more common though. About one-in-six Americans (16%) say they feel lonely or isolated from those…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:51 PM
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Men are becoming both friendless and sexless. More than one in five (21%) single men report having no close friends, compared to 12% of married men. https://www.americansurveycenter.org/commentary/can-married-men-and-women-be-friends-marriage-friendship-and-loneliness/ I can only imagine that if you have zero romantic relationships, having zero friendships is not exactly going to improve your feelings of loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:43 PM
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I’m answering your own ignorant question “ point out where all the male nuns are”. Nuns are female monastics, monks are male monastics. I’m pointing out where all the male nuns are. You asked a stupid question easily answered by a simple google search
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:28 AM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:02 AM
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They are called monks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:58 AM
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I think it has a bit more power and influence than a female only gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:58 AM
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What happened? They let a bunch of boys get molested and raped, then the settlements and declining membership bankrupted them. Their effort at “rebranding “ and “inclusion” was an attempt to resurrect them from a looming demise of their own making and boost enrollment https://san.com/cc/why-did-the-boy-scouts-change-their-name-to-scouting-america/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 02:18 AM
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I mostly agree with your opinion not to learn about sex from porn with one exception…..Nina Hartley’s guide to oral sex is a game changer. Some techniques in there that I never even thought to ask for or try.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 12:07 PM
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Not for me. The inexperience is not necessarily the problem. I had an ex who was inexperienced at age 22. I honestly didn’t even know he was totally inexperienced, we slept together quickly and I chalked the first time up to nerves. Lots of guys are quick and awkward the first time. By the time round three came around next morning he was definitely catching on. Wanting to take it slow though? Nervous to even hold my hand? That is a problem for me. I would want and expect you to be ready and will…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 11:49 AM
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lol…..second best. where do I sign up. Gee who doesn’t want that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 12:47 PM
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Dating =/= to long term relationships and it’s not just men not having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:01 PM
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okay…so just say what your really mean and what the reality is, people aren’t opting out of long term relationships, they are opting out of all sex…..And look at all the different surveys, it’s not just young men , it’s young women too. …..and Comprehensive pipe is a downvoting little bitch that hates facts
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 12:49 PM
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I easily believe that 25% of gen z identify as alphabets, back in the 1950’s Kinsey reported that 37% of men had had at least one homosexual encounter. Back in 1950 people would have absolutely identified as completely straight, where many more today would be honest about at least some same sex attraction. >gen z aren’t hapless virgins “hapless” or not, according to Kinsey, 25% of gen z adults are indeed virgins. Here’s some different statistics from a different survey “According to data from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 11:26 AM
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They aren’t having sex…... at all. They aren’t even losing their virginity. “In a 2022 survey conducted in part by the Kinsey Institute, one in four gen Z adults also said they had never experienced partnered sex” https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2025/jun/29/gen-z-sexual-revolution If you are in your 20’s and okay with that, get your testosterone level checked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 01:57 AM
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>No different than using illegal immigrants for farm work and underpaying them Really? No different at all? Picking fruit against your will is the same as being raped repeatedly? You work a week and don’t get paid is the same to you as repeatedly getting cum dumped in your ass for a week? This might be the single most fucked up thing I’ve read on Reddit in days and that’s saying something . Get help
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 06:17 AM
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I think statistically neither boys or girls talk about it for a variety of reasons As far as receiving sexual attention, and guys thinking it’s a privilege that women have…like I told op further in the thread ”You are thinking how nice it would be for women to give you sexual attention, not some huge bodybuilding dude telling you that “ya got a purty mouth”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 06:48 PM
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There is a big difference between “I’m hungry, but I insist on steak. Take that burger away” and “nothing seems very appetizing to me”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 11:39 AM
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entp
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:36 AM
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I’m a female entp….what challenges?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 02:36 AM
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If you want to just think it’s a ”downside when you’re young” then I don’t think you give enough weight to the experience of being sexualized by men who are much older, much stronger and much larger. You are thinking how nice it would be for women to give you sexual attention, not some huge bodybuilding dude telling you that “ya got a purty mouth” I suspect if you ever got thrown into prison and you’re not a particularly big, mean guy, you would learn how ”inconvenient “ sexual attention can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 04:00 PM
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you forgot…...dating other women Women are nearly twice as likely as men to identify as LGBTQ+, 8.5% versus 4.7%.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:53 AM
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The latest from that very same Gss survey….the latest results is it’s high for both sexes but highest for young women. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:51 AM
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Do you think being able to serve in combat to be a privilege? I would suspect a vast majority of men don’t, simply because they don’t want to serve in combat, yet there are women and trans people who apparently want this privilege. This is how women feel about casual sex and unwanted attention. When men tell us we are privileged to have something we don’t want….well it’s never going to feel like a privilege. Just like serving in combat feels to you. We have had threads on this before. Being hit …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 11:13 AM
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“waste time” just sums up how much you value human interaction in general. You have time to whinge on reddit, but no time to waste on women not interested in you sexually. Is it a waste of your time to spend a few hours making a new male friend? No one said you have to have oneitis and continue to pursue a woman putting you in the friend zone. If you don’t have the looks to make women want to jump your bones, few men do, you can either “waste your time“ letting women get to know you, or you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:45 PM
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lol….yeah? I guess it depends on the man, lots of them are pretty interesting and likable. Don’t you like talking to people in general? This is a common thread….”.I don’t really like women but I still want to fuck them.”. In that case unless you look like a Greek god, it sucks to be you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:18 PM
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Yeah, totally makes sense for the manosphere to highlight how many ”good men who are just sad, lonely guys and starved for the touch of a woman” end up beating, raping and murdering whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 09:12 PM
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No doubt. This idea that johns are all just “ lonely men desperate for the touch of a woman“ needs to die https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:46 PM
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I’m not the person you were responding to, but simply the absence of pimps does not signal all is well on the job. “Since 2011, proportionally more indoor sex workers have been murdered (ten, or 59%) than street-based sex workers (seven, or 41%) – and the majority of murdered indoor workers were working alone.” https://www.lshtm.ac.uk/newsevents/expert-opinion/sex-work-still-most-dangerous-profession-data-suggests-so There was a purpose for having a “manager”. Being a sex worker is still a dange…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 08:43 PM
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To be clear…..I’m not saying that every woman would feel raped after selling sex, just that I would and lots of civilian women would. It’s very clear to me why sexually abused people turn to more sex. It’s to try to think sex is “no big deal”. It’s much easier to deal with being sexually violated when when you reduce it to an act or service and that sex is no different than going to a gyno exam.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:49 PM
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The women selling sex because she is hyper sexual is extremely rare though. Most women selling sex would much prefer to get the money and not have the sex, which is why if you look at any subreddits about sex worker clients, the number one issue discussed is how to not get ripped off by your sex worker. And if there is a very, very small percentage of hyper sexual woman who actually enjoy having sex with strange men, men they agree to have sex with sight unseen, one would predict a high level of…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:23 PM
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>However, only in today's day and age and with feminism allowing women to actually have dignified jobs, so that sex working isn't their only option. It's all based on the idea that you have a CHOICE. If you have a choice, selling is worse. I see that side of it very much…especially with gold diggers and sugar babies. My feelings are “you would let someone have sex with you just for an overpriced purse or some stupid shoes?”. But it’s just really so hard to relate to that without thinking “what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:58 PM
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Someone needs to visit the corner of St Ann and Bourbon in New Orleans.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:33 PM
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Buying. I had a male friend who sold sex to old men from the ages of 14 to 16. Incredibly handsome, funny, smart man with a wicked sense of humor. His mother was schizophrenic and tried to literally murder him a few times, when the cops would show up she would just say he was a troublemaker…which of course he was. 🤷‍♀️ I honestly came close to dating him, but he was seriously one of the most damaged people I have ever met. I guess it’s simply impossible for me, (and frankly a nightmare) to imagi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:29 PM
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I repeat >Are you going to “reap a lot of results” as an average dude? Probably not. But it only takes one. Statistically, virtually all men will eventually have sex with a willing woman…or it used to be statistically true. Now we have a generation that wants to take their ball, go home, and spend their lives perpetually online whining about how life isn’t fair. >I mean, if i'm not getting laid, her being attractive doesn't make a difference. I have friends for that. If you don’t enjoy talking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:19 PM
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There are plenty of men who see hookers who can get sex. The fact that it’s impersonal and transactional is a feature not a flaw. Many of them would tell you they “want a pussy without dealing with the cunt that comes attached to it“. It is what it is. Make it legal and keep these guys off Tinder. They will be happier and women will in general be happier too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:18 PM
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>Yes, in reality many woman just don’t like men Especially after a day in this godforsaken sub. Women want sex with men when they fall in love with them, they just have trouble finding one the love. Plenty want sex with men they simply like…they have trouble finding them likeable. I think even more men don’t like women. Someone reading you posts could easily come to the conclusion you don’t like women. What some men want from women isn’t possible. They all want the life of Chad, so they never fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:24 AM
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>For the woman y’all can have male prostitutes if you want I can think of absolutely nothing more revolting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 06:00 AM
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No, most guys want easy sex from lots of different women for free,….. but they can’t be ”hoes”. How exactly does that work when men and women are born in approximately equal numbers? The only way you guys get what you really want, your rotating harem of women who aren’t “run through “ is to start killing each other en masse, go Warren Jeffs, start a cult and just banish the other boys and fuck all the girls, become a Donald Trump or Elon Musk. They both have a harem of baby mommas. Or do a 9/11,…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:48 AM
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I’ve already said if whores make you happy, I’m all for it. If a Cum dump in a stranger makes you happy you should definitely lean into that. Awesome. Did empathy and compassion mean women should volunteer to be a free cum dump? When you let lonely old gay guys bust in your ass out of compassion and empathy then we can talk
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:31 AM
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>Almost 30% of zoomer men are sexless. You are basing that on the 2018 GSS study…the latest one shows even more sexless young women than men. You realize that way fewer women than men are even on dating apps right? Your competition isn’t Chad and the problem isn’t just online dating. Your biggest competitor is NONE OF THE ABOVE
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:25 AM
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You and every other dude 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:02 AM
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Again…the idea that handing some woman cash and sticking your dick in the negotiated hole meets your sexual needs is too goddamned much information. Yeah…I know plenty of dudes think this way…and with porn and social media, most women are aware that dudes think this way. Sorry….no. It’s too much information. Just like when men no longer hid the fact they really don’t want their wives with stretch marks and saggy tits they got pushing out their kids. They dont want us post wall. We’re useful as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 05:01 AM
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I swear I’m turning gay just thinking about the shit men on here say. I hope my husband doesn’t die first because Imma have to learn to eat pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:38 AM
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Do you really believe that? I’m definitely all for legal prostitution, but is a paid prostitute a substitute for a friend…or a girlfriend? Is our only function to feel better than your hand? Jfc I swear, I’m glad I’m married already is all I can say. I think every guy who thinks handing over cash to a whore (after negotiating which hole he cums in) is just as good as having a relationship, not only should see hookers, they should see hookers exclusively. Civilians aren’t interested in being used…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 04:32 AM
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Do people just want an echo chamber to validate their beliefs that none of their problems can be solved, and that none of their wounds are often self inflicted? It‘s honestly often the struggling people who feel the need to shit on people the most. Some of the people struggling are ridiculously hateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:50 AM
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well…….l do think there is actually is something going on culturally and it goes beyond sex and dating, although that’s a subset of the problem. People now have fewer friends than in the past, especially men. We no longer attend church, people “socialize” online, communicate through social media instead of in person….I could go on. Most young people have been exposed to very graphic pornography of all flavors before even having their first kiss. Helicopter parents don’t let their kids have unsup…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 03:39 AM
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This is definitely where rom coms and entertainment has been so far off base in how women should treat men and expect men to react. The women who are consistently dismissive, or play hard to get, should rightly expect decent men to recoil and avoid them like the plague. The men who persist, and are “obsessed “ with a woman who is dismissive should at some point be considered stalkers. I don’t know about “obsessed”, but every relationship I’ve had, the guy has been quickly and openly enthusiastic…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:31 AM
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The kind of men who don’t understand the difference, or care that there is a difference, between admiring an attractive woman, and verbally expressing desire to a woman they have no established sexual relationship with, are not the kind of men who care how that woman is dressed. Ask any 15 year old girl. Some creepy or mildly retarded grown man will tell her how they want to fuck her even when she’s wearing a trench coat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 01:10 AM
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>we ADULTS shouldn’t get our panties wadded when others look at us or speak to us in a way that expresses their natural human sexual desire? It’s natural to walk up to attractive people and verbally express sexual desire? How about we just start going up to handicapped people and express our natural human revulsion? Jfc this is the dumbest take in a while. We aren’t apes, act like a properly socialized human with two brain cells if possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:46 AM
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half of the population of males are either assholes or don't wash their ass. You come across as one of those Jocks that are so unbelievably out of touch with regular men that you can't see any reason why regular men would struggle. Half? Gross exaggeration https://images.app.goo.gl/zcRX1c9ePh4qpn3r6 Over 80% of men under the age of 35 had sex in the last year https://images.app.goo.gl/bKRuAb2eA2YNaWwD7
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:24 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/US5vPqeuBFaCeANu6
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:03 AM
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How do they pay rent and buy food?🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/25 12:00 AM
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Another repost here for me. “ I know people who genuinely don’t want relationships and they don’t feel the need to talk or honestly even think about it. And they certainly don’t hang out in relationship forums. That would be like me participating in a professional ping pong subreddit, only to continually post how I have zero interest in ping pong.” People post here to complain because they aren’t happy, and they aren’t single by choice. If they were actually happy, this sub would be like a profe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:53 PM
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I posted this in another thread… “men will booty call a fat, smelly bridge troll. This is what some men will PAY MONEY to throw a dick in https://flic.kr/p/b1SpKF All you are telling me is that lots of men will have sex with whatever is in front of them, Chad included, regardless if she is actually attractive to him or not. Men call them mopeds, fun to ride but you don’t want your friends to catch you on one Butterfaces. Everything looked okay but her face Double baggers. Fold fucks for women so…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:36 PM
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Not only weirded out, but also OVER IT. It’s like yeah, you want to hit it, big deal. I’m a woman and I’m breathing. And you’re a horn dog. I worked as a bartender and the bar for what men will sleep with is low. It’s not the compliment men think it is..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 11:17 PM
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you have been talking for some time to see if you vibe This absolutely. Too many guys think a cold approach should be “I find you attractive, would you like to go out”? Every damned literal aspy sperge will say “what’s wrong with being honest”………. If you are not an ugly woman, men interested in your appearance are a dime a dozen. Unless you have top tier looks, you are going to have to distinguish yourself from every other dude thinking”would smash”. Show interest in more than her appearance. Be…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:32 PM
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I disagree. I met an ex in a bar. Approached me since I was still in my work uniform, asked me if it was a good place to work….blah blah blah…do you know this person? Turns out we actually knew a few of the same people. The gay guy who I worked with left and it was just the two of us. When my beer was empty an hour later he bought me one….small talk turned to books and movies. He was interesting. We closed down the bar and went to breakfast, he walked me back to my apartment, told me how much he…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 10:10 PM
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I know people who genuinely don’t want relationships and they don’t feel the need to talk or honestly even think about it. And they certainly don’t hang out in relationship forums. That would be like me participating in a professional ping pong subreddit, only to continually post how I have zero interest in ping pong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:35 PM
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And? We are still talking an inequality. Intellectual capacity isn't indicative of bedroom performance, except as a negative correlation. MIT students are the most likely to be virgins. My point is that people can have higher score on a test and less overall success in life, relationships and even in their career.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 10:16 PM
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Considering how many relatively “high IQ” people can’t even seem to figure out how to have sex, I would say there seems to be plenty inequality between those two alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 09:57 PM
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Whoa….. no one said anything of the kind, lol. Jfc, take a Xanax . The question was why can’t this guy find a woman. Men without kids don’t want to date single moms. Fwiw though, lots of single women without kids don’t want to date a divorced dad either. I don’t know why that’s a controversial take.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 09:22 PM
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Why is he telling me this? What drugs were we on? I mean it wouldn’t bother me that he did it, but it would kind of bother me that he admitted it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:09 AM
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This. I hooked up with a guy a couple of times and frankly thought the sex was mediocre. We didn’t “break up”, it was unspoken, but he somehow told everyone in our social circle that I broke his heart. Ngl, not only was it unexpected and awkward, but made me feel like shit. He SHOULD have had no expectation of a relationship, but knowing you made someone feel bad definitely did not feel good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 05:00 AM
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Yeah…5’7” isn’t a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:39 AM
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All good. Also, he waited too long and now all the good ones are taken. Everyone left is divorced with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:36 AM
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Considering he posts on here 24/7, his bitches are Redditina, Purplepillette, and Socialmedia.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 04:28 AM
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Sure …the guy asking after 10years of marriage if women like their nipples played with? Are we supposed to be surprised the wifey looked elsewhere? Despite being tall, rich and with a big dick….maybe if you had bothered with making her orgasm you could have locked that shit down. You might be the first guy ever to think not making a woman cum is a flex. Congrats on that bit of lunacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 03:25 AM
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Sweet summer child…..any douchebag worthy of the title knows how reputations are built.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 02:03 AM
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Why not? If the douchebag looks good and can give them an orgasm. Playboy tapped into that reality …most men WANT to be that douchebag, not Billy beta. If men aren’t reliable or monogamous, and if they all would rather have a harem of 20 year olds, why bother at all? Get your own job, make your own money. Chad will be waiting. I’d rather have my own job and my back blown out by some good looking douchebag than end up some pathetic, divorced starter wife with no skills. At least women finally get…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 01:16 AM
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Chicken or egg? Women had their red pill moment after WW 2 when young women greatly outnumbered young men. The divorce rate went completely insane when men had options. <image> Followed only a few years later by Playboy. The open acknowledgment that men really didn’t lust after their wives postpartum bodies as they did their duty to repopulate and preferred the Playboy life of a string of younger, fresher available women. Hefner was a great advocate of feminism. Seems to me that women figured ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 12:37 AM
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https://images.app.goo.gl/c4dKoNTSEuVGRMsR9 which one is banging the 20 year olds? lol yeah he looks real happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:05 PM
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Source? Everyone freaked out a few years ago when some oddball numbers came in showing that many more younger men were sexless than younger women. The manosphere lit up like a Christmas tree. lLook at the EXACT SAME survey taken a few years later showing slightly more young women sexless <image> crickets
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:15 PM
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No shit Sherlock, tell me about it. This isn’t the flex you think it is, because men will booty call a fat, smelly bridge troll. This is what some men will PAY MONEY to throw a dick in https://flic.kr/p/b1SpKF All you are telling me is that lots of men will have sex with whatever is in front of them, Chad included, regardless if she is actually attractive to him or not. Men call them mopeds, fun to ride but you don’t want your friends to catch you on one Butterfaces. Everything looked okay but h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:25 PM
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The gender converse is “if you want to see what men find truly desirable, look at who they pay to see on OF”. Huge fake boobs, duck lips, Botox…. >But I also know that far too many husbands weren't anyone's crush Most men marry women who wouldn’t make a penny on OF too. This being “settled for” lives rent free in the minds of half of the guys on this forum. Pure projection. The exact same guys are often the ones saying all men really want a rotating harem of barely legal women. Then assume women…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 01:57 PM
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Being younger and thinner certainly made it more possible to choose among men who I found attractive, since more of those men were interested in a relationship with me. Ironically, the last and final relationship in my life, my husband, was started when I was older and fatter, and he is objectively the most conventionally attractive man I have ever dated. He’s tall, dark, handsome and lean, exactly my physical type. And the type of a lot of other women too. How I pulled that off…I’m still not su…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 07:34 AM
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It’s the old Groucho Mark catch 22…. He didn’t want to join any club willing to have him as a member If a girl doesn’t put out immediately, she’s not viscerally attracted and you are a beta simp and being settled for. If she puts out too quickly she is a plate at best, not wife material.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 12:57 AM
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having a man love her and take care of her in a traditional marriage? Love her? ……Meanwhile wishing he too was a billionaire, so he too could pay a 19 year old side chick. Love her or is she just stuck with some guy who is only being as faithful as his options? Because according to you all men would actually prefer a rotating harem of teenagers. Gee, that sounds great. Where do I sign up for this relationship? Seems like an education is actually the better course of long term fulfillment for wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 11:56 PM
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As if stating things in different ways doesn’t affect the message you want to send? The medium IS the message. All normies understand the difference. >Do you have a prosperous career you are passionate about? Women like men with ambition and goals ya know.. Is stating facts, noone wants a scrub. >Better get those greens rollin' in, what color is your Bugatti?" Is also stating similar facts while sounding trashy And I prefer a hefty stock portfolio over some car that makes you look like a fool. y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:41 AM
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I’m not flirting with a guy my good friend is crushing on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:42 AM
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>lazy This. When our house was destroyed and we moved to an entirely new area, I had planned on starting to use my husband’s name. We are a family, it’s nice to identify as such with the same name. My professional license, multiple credit cards, and most importantly, an insurance settlement on the house which we definitely didn’t need held up on any technicalities…..by the time I had time to straighten everything out, I was already in my previous situation…established in my birth name.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:24 AM
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wellllll…….everyone knows who the mom is, giving a child it’s father’s last name is a public statement of its paternity, especially when the parents aren’t married.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 01:15 AM
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>especially when emotional connection and safety are present. For me, being with someone I love and trust often means I’m consistently ready and eager for intimacy. My drive doesn’t disappear; if anything, it intensifies with connection. Also hormonal though. Oxytocin, aka the “love drug” increases arousal and also the intensity of orgasms. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22618-oxytocin Chicken or egg. You can’t really separate the emotionAl from the physical. They are intertwined…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:41 PM
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Don’t underestimate oxytocin, aka the “love hormone”. The more oxytocin, the higher your level of sexual arousal. Why women often have crazy high sex drives in the beginning of a relationship. The more sex and the more orgasms you have, the more oxytocin you have, so it‘s a self perpetuating cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 11:11 PM
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never…I clean because he’s oblivious. He likes things put away and organized, but he has no clue that dust and grime exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:49 AM
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Josh Homme apologises after kicking female photographer The Queens of the Stone Age frontman said ‘I don’t have any excuse or reason to justify what I did’ after photographer Chelsea Lauren was left with a bruised eyebrow He did it while onstage and performing, then he sliced open his own face and bled all over the stage. At the same concert he encouraged the crowd to take off their pants. This isn’t some nobody like whoever you posted about…Queens of the Stone has album sales in the millions. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:45 PM
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You know come to think of it, women who are performatively overly feminine read as stupid too. It’s probably a general stereotype that the more someone adheres to strict gender roles the dumber they seem.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 10:02 PM
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What really cracks me up is when I have heard of people who say they have a cream pie fetish, like it’s some sort alternative sex act. Porn brains. “Cream pie” is just sex the way humans have done it for millions of years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 07:44 PM
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lol….ever hear of a cervix? Lots of women really don’t like a dick long to bump into it. Some only find the cervix sensitive during certain times of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:00 PM
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No. I’m monogamous and I like sex. Enough said.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 12:58 PM
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Oof. No one said women didn’t enjoy piv even if they don’t orgasm…. PIV is how babies are made, incoming hate mail aside, and I also say this as a personal devotee of the iud, from the point of view of the purpose of sex, piv at some level is the only “real” procreative sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 12:39 PM
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I definitely would support a vehicle for monetary compensation, but I feel like you are missing something. This goes WAY beyond money The court would still side with the mother and probably make the man still look after the child that isnt even is I think many more men need visitation and custody protections for children not biologically theirs that they have grown to love. I don’t know anyone who found out the child they had grown to love was not their biological child, but my brother has two b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 03:49 AM
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I say this all the time. There are definitely some older guys who can attract young women, but those men attracted even MORE younger women when they were young themselves. You are 100% correct that the middle aged male glow up is mostly fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 02:24 AM
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Pharrell came out just fine. No hit to his career at all. Thickes career was hurt because he was a drug addict and accused of assaulting a woman on that set. Accused of violence toward his ex wife as well. He was also sued by Marvin Gaye’s estate. The fact that he addressed the Blurred line’s controversy with this….. “ 'People say, "Hey, do you think this is degrading to women?" I'm like, "Of course it is. What a pleasure it is to degrade a woman ” https://www.billboard.com/music/rb-hip-hop/robi…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/25 01:41 AM
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Millions and millions of dollars in “backlash”. When will the victimization of rappers for simply telling their truth ever end?😓
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:21 PM
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Blurred Lines” made $16,675,690 in profits, according to an accounting statement both sides of the lawsuit agree with. Of that, $5,658,214 went to Thicke — a lot of money for someone who testified that he was drunk and high on Vicodin in the studio and didn’t really help write the song Poor guy….over 5 million bucks of backlash…oh the humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:29 PM
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Looks like you are no where near being realistic about who perpetrators are. https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2019/crime-in-the-u.s.-2019/tables/table-42/table-42.xls 87% of male victims of (completed or attempted) rape reported only male perpetrators https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/intimate-partner-violence-sexual-violence-and-stalking-among-men.html
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 10:01 AM
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And yet ….over half of men watch this supposedly morally problematic genre. You objected to the statement that a lot of men watch. I think the statement that “ a lot” of men watch needs to be more precise. In fact THE MAJORITY of men watch. Maybe you need to learn your “personal experiences” is probably skewed by your personal biases and have nothing to do with either facts or reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:49 AM
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Yeah…criminals are much more likely to be victims. Guess who’s more likely to be a criminal? Do I need to google that for you too?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:37 AM
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Try google https://documentarytelevision.com/true-crime/true-crime-americas-obsession-by-the-numbers/ 52% of men watch, 61% of women watch
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:31 AM
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Decker and Pyrooz (2010) reported that gang involvement increased the likelihood of being involved in a homicide (as either a victim or offender) by a factor of 100 compared to the general public. I googled it. You should try it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:25 AM
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The Greatest Generation’s divorce rates were lower I see this stated a lot, but the year wwII ended the divorce rates went off the charts. (Funny that divorce spiked when the ratio of young men to young women made it favorable for men in the sexual marketplace) https://images.app.goo.gl/v2F68sBW6V7VpSL17 Divorce rates went back down, but the social acceptance of divorce definitely grew.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 09:17 AM
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You have lost your mind. They don’t get paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 08:41 AM
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Pushy? Are you fucking serious? Yeah, people like John Walsh and Beth Holloway really need to be coaxed out into the public eye. Are you completely unaware that the main complaint of victim’s families is that they can’t get ENOUGH media coverage? … okay. You are unaware of a lot. Have a good night
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 07:21 AM
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5% is seriously impressive for cold approach tbh. When I tended bar I would see guys who would chat up more than one girl and they would go out and do this twice a week some weeks. A 5% success rate for getting laid? That looks like sleeping with a different girl every month. That’s actually EXTREMELY successful
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:57 AM
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🏆 You won ppdebate today.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:46 AM
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Well….at this point it would be a bit of a plus. Orange chetto has driven my husband into a raving lunatic to the point we can’t even talk politics anymore and we agree on virtually everything. Could I see myself with a MAGA diehard? Oh…absolutely not. Or someone who believes in conspiracy theories? Oh hell no. Could I see myself with someone who had a few moderate stances? Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 02:39 AM
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The way it works….ALL guilt is determined on a basis of 12 people agreeing there is no doubt. All 12 jurors believed so strongly in the guilt of the defendant they sentenced him to death. If you watched true crime you would agree that the defendant was absolutely guilty. They had motive. They confessed. There was an eyewitness, …. Evidence surfaces later that they definitely weren’t guilty. True crime can be pretty interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:48 AM
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Jail, no parole.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:46 AM
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So GTA is moral because lots of “normal” people like it, but true crime isn’t moral because lots of “normal” people like it? Watching true crime isn’t moral even though friends and family agree to interviews about a crime that happened in the past, but boxing is moral because people are watching someone agree to be victimized in real time? Jfc,,,,,make it make sense. You don’t like true crime. Don’t watch it. I don’t like watching people get the shit beat out of them. I don’t watch it. You think…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:45 AM
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Gay /s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 12:00 AM
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https://www.nationalgeographic.com/history/article/sentenced-to-death-but-innocent-these-are-stories-of-justice-gone-wrong 182/8700 ….at least 182. That’s 2%.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:34 PM
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There are PLENTY of cases where they are guilty beyond a shadow of a doubt. DNA plus witness plus confession. Btw, eyewitness testimony is often extremely unreliable. But some jury somewhere put every single person on death row there because they found them guilty beyond all reasonable doubt. Every once in a while, someone who all 12 people thought was guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, gets exonerated. If you give those 12 people the option of the death penalty, they will eventually sentence an …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:26 PM
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There are very few hobbies people are considered attractive specifically for having Going to kind of disagree on that one. Playing sports, sailing, and playing music are examples that come to mind. Being an artist definitely gets traction in certain circles. In general more active vrs passive hobbies where you do or create will get you more attention than than passive hobbies….ie, playing in a local baseball league > being a fan and watching baseball.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 10:09 PM
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Oh…so lolly kiddie porn is cool because it’s just cartoons?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:57 PM
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Sex-Focused men get the most sex? Shocking results! Next up…gay men suck more dick than average.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:51 PM
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If something happened to my friend I would probably end up on Dateline 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:42 PM
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“It’s rare that someone will refuse to be interviewed for a story, but it does happen” is a direct quote from Keith Morrison https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/drumoorhouse/dateline-burning-questions-answered-or-are-they Ask him
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:41 PM
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Being super into the details of MJ accusations and reading salacious details of witness accounts is disturbing. Bunch of sensationalist crap that no one should have bothered with. Why perpetuate the rumors by watching that crap? Please write your apologies to his children immediately for contributing to the ongoing media gossip mill surrounding their father.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:36 PM
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People generally do what they NEED to do. Anyone who isn’t getting what they want out of the relationship marketplace needs to act. If a woman is having problems finding dates, she needs to socialize, put herself out there and network more too. Just because men typically want sex more than women, she may not need to. That’s not the fault of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 09:31 PM
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this is how I feel about Michael Jackson, and the more you investigate Pray tell, exactly how did you “ investigate “? Watching Dateline, 20/20, or crime documentaries? 😱
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:10 PM
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I don’t know about harsher sentences, but I definitely have seen how many people offer up false confessions under duress, only to be exonerated later by dna. I’ve seen how people convicted by so called eyewitness testimony have been exonerated later by dna. I’ve seen many cases of people on death row for decades or more be exonerated by new evidence. It’s changed my opinion of the death penalty. I don’t think it can be applied without some innocent person along the way being executed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:42 AM
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In 95% of Dateline and 20/20 episodes, the victim’s friends and family willingly participate. Ask them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:23 AM
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You realize you are admitting to being a fan of Star WARS right? There is no Star Wars without the war part. Is there some part of war that doesn’t involve human trauma? If we carry genetic trauma, certainly and justifiably, men’s trauma is being sent to war. Women’s trauma is being raped and murdered when that war is lost. Most war historians are male, and their readers are male. Most military war buffs are male. Is that not “entertainment “ based on real life human trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:20 AM
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My husband loves sci-fi and fantasy, I do love a good dateline but also a whodunnit. I love trying to solve the puzzle. I love to see how the killers get caught both in fiction and real life. The problem isn’t liking Star Wars, the problem is the obsession with Star Wars. My husband loved watching StarWars, but he’s not obsessed with Star Wars.. The problem is the dolls, the cosplay, the singleminded obsession that makes the person boring, weird and off putting. “A loser nerd” if you will. Are m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 11:16 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 09:07 PM
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Right…I get that, didn’t mean you per se, but those people need to realize that they have no real shot at a genuine sexual connection magically jumping into their lap if they can’t …or won’t….even speak to people 3 feet away with all their clothes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:59 PM
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Having a sexual or romantic relationship is just about the most social interaction you can have with another human being. You are quite literally naked and inserting body parts inside of another person’s body….that’s pretty social in my book. You think that sounds any less awkward than playing a game face to face? You can either get over it and work through your discomfort or die alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:53 PM
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Ah yes, the days when you had no clue who those assholes who fucked up your couch were. 🤣. …..my younger years definitely involved ragers On a serious note, my husband and I knew each other and traveled in the same circles for a while, but I ran into him repeatedly around the holidays. A thanksgiving pot luck followed by two different Christmas parties. A really great way to get to connect or reconnect with someone a few times and vet them without the “let’s go on a date” awkwardness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:38 PM
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I was responding to the above person making those connections. I am well aware that there is no connection. Do atheists marry less? I don’t know. That’s another assumption I actually find counterintuitive. https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2017/04/26/in-america-does-more-education-equal-less-religion/ Higher levels of education are associated with higher levels of atheism “ Pew Research Center's (2015) Religious Landscape Survey reported 58% of atheists earned $50,000 or more annually, compar…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 12:08 PM
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Ummmm …you would probably be surprised at who divorces the most and who divorces the least. https://www.learnreligions.com/divorce-rates-for-atheists-248494 Atheists have the lowest divorce rates, this is based on data by Barna research, an evangelical organization. Also, red states have higher divorce rates than blue states.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 08:16 AM
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No one wants to marry a whore. It’s a seriously fucked up person who thinks it’s just a job. Hard to wrap your head around the fact that it’s perfectly fine thing for you to do to someone, but a pretty horrible thing to have done to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 06:19 AM
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The proper way? Some man wants your wife to provide a service. The end. No big deal according to you, right? She can say no and move on. Why would you deck someone asking your wife to provide a service? It’s no big deal for you to stick a dick in some stranger in exchange for money, but suddenly a huge deal if someone wants to stick a dick in your wife or daughter for money. In reality, we all know just asking is an affront to their dignity. A whore is still someone’s daughter.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:41 AM
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Those two personality traits are mentioned. Also …”display a preference for having sex with a variety of partners, as well less relational and committed sex (Xantidis and McCabe, 2000; Farley et al., 2017). Male clients have further been shown to engage in more sexual risk-taking and have a higher likelihood of acquiring and transmitting sexually transmitted illnesses than non-buyers (Ward et al., 2005; Schei and Stigum, 2010; Pan et al., 2011; Ompad et al., 2013; Rich et al., 2018; Seidu et al.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:33 AM
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It’s “not the same” as ANY other service. No shit Sherlock. Because sex is not the same as any other purely mechanical action or financial transaction between two human beings. If sex work is just a service, why would you react differently if someone came up to your wife on the street and asked her if she wanted to do some accounting or wanted to make some money as a prostitute? I assume you would react differently. Maybe you wouldn’t. I’m not an accountant or a whore, but I know which guy I’m k…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 05:20 AM
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There is no difference in your mind if someone asks your kid to do work on their house or put a dick inside them? There is no difference in your mind if someone asks your wife for accounting or sex? A dick in your ass is like an unwanted haircut? I know some really fucked up people who would love to get to know your family. Which one does society deem the one who gets lengthy jail time? The guy who cuts your hair while you are sleeping or the one who rapes you? But maybe you are one of those peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/25 04:55 AM
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Also……a very high probability that she’s accurate. Men who visit prostitutes are actually more likely to have sociopathic traits. https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full This is not just a single study. Mega study. There is a lot of overlap in johns and cluster b antisocial personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 09:21 PM
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For me, it comes down to the fact that he’s willing to have sex with a woman who doesn’t actually want to have sex with him Bingo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:02 PM
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it’s an honest service like any other Is sex ever just a service like any other service? If you wake up after being passed out, and realize that someone has provided you with some “service” is that cool with you? Is a haircut you didn’t consent to the same as a dick inside your body you didn’t consent to? If someone asks your underage child to provide them with a “service” is that cool with you? Is it different if they want them to do roofing, which they are clearly to young for, or if they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 07:37 PM
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I guess that’s why so many more of them get murdered? Maybe they need to be indoctrinated better. Your parents hopefully taught you to a cautious driver , you are more likely going to be murdered than killed in a car crash. But hopefully you still wear a seatbelt. Around 64 thousand men died of lung cancer, 55 thousand from homicide. It’s not neurotic to not smoke, is it?.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:41 AM
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Mmm about 55,000 men killed total, those killed, less than 3% killed by intimate partners, about 15,000 women so a bit less 30% I think I stuck my nose into apples and oranges 🤣. It would be accurate to say that in total numbers, only 3 times as many women as men are killed by domestic partners. That’s a reflection of your absolute risk? If you are a man that gets murdered, it’s highly unlikely your offender was an intimate partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:17 AM
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👍. The truth lies between. Op way underestimated, you overestimated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:42 PM
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No….hold up. I know only 1.5 times higher doesn’t sound right. Neither does 6 times though. Also attention u/GridReXX https://www.fbi.gov/news/press-releases/fbi-releases-2023-crime-in-the-nation-statistics These are the actual 2023 numbers as compiled by the FBI, victims relationship to offender Wife 1689, girlfriend 2341, common law wife 101 and ex wife 178 Categories of male victims Husband 371, boyfriend 930, common law husband 31 and ex husband 55 Victims of intimate partner homicides Women…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:19 PM
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Nah. Most girls get the shit scared out of them by age 12 or 13 when the first grown ass pervert who outweighs her by 100 lbs tries to convince her “ he can make her a woman”. That’s usually our first clue of exactly how vulnerable those tiny breasts have made us. This is an almost universal experience. Not that many guys are pedos, but damn if they don’t get around.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:03 PM
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I mean as long as these women are clean, tested, and also view giving sex as a service, I say do what you want. Not my circus not my monkeys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:37 PM
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Well….the actual study, not the hatchet piece linked by op, did say that women originally stated they did not enjoy violent porn, but when they expanded the definition to include “consensual sexual aggression “, women did respond favorably to watching it. Only a very small fraction of either the men or women enjoyed looking at “non consensual aggression “. My takeaway, Lots of women like to watch domination, a smaller but not insignificant number like being dominated in real life once in a while…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:30 PM
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I view sex as a biological need and nothing more Great. Prostitution is tailor made for you then. But you do realize that most people do not see it that way, right? If most people simply saw it as nothing more than a biological need, the concept and importance of consent would look very different. How would you feel if you woke up after a hard night of partying and found your ass was gaping and full of cum? Oh gee…I guess my buddy had a biological need last night? Or would you be angry you were …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:15 PM
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Didn’t say that either……
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:50 PM
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if you can't have it, you don't deserve it" What part of “I’m thrilled it’s legal” did you get this from? If you realize that what you are getting isn’t a genuine connection but a mechanical act in exchange for money, carry on. It’s none of my business. I just wouldn’t want a relationship with someone who sees sex as a service.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:49 PM
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I'd want to be fully loyal to my future partner https://www.frontiersin.orghttps//www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.577171/full “Male clients ……display a preference for having sex with a variety of partners, as well less relational and committed sex (Xantidis and McCabe, 2000; Farley et al., 2017). Furthermore, male clients of prostitution express more permissive attitudes toward extramarital sex 🚩🚩🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:36 PM
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It’s about being able to enjoy sex when you know the other person isn’t into it Bingo!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:33 PM
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The appeal to “it used to be the norm” always fails. Beating your animals, owning slaves etc, etc used to be the norm too. There have been times in history where it was extremely common for women to be prostitutes and for men to pimp their own wives “ Husbands were completely fine with allowing other men to sleep with their wives. In fact, 50 percent of street vendors’ wives were reported to moonlight as prostitutes. In some instances, the wife happily worked as a prostitute since it was a way f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:26 PM
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Why is it hypocritical to have weird fantasies in the first place? Approximately 19% of women between the ages 18 and 30 look at porn weekly. https://enough.org/objects/Facts_About_Todays_pornography_Unabridged_1.docx Almost half of women who are regular porn users like to see aggression in porn. They actually initially responded they did not like violent porn but when the definition of violent was expanded to include “consensual aggression “. many more women responded affirmatively. In the stud…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 07:01 PM
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Actually only 57% of men reported having sexual fantasies involving much younger partners and a surprising 48% of men report having sexual fantasies about someone much older. https://www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11 The ages in the study ranged from 18 to 77, but the average age of only 30 might skew those responses. I just hope no one who is 77 is having fantasies about significantly older 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 03:16 PM
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I would say it’s not actually that shocking in light of the weird things everyone fantasizes about. 45% of men report having a fantasy about having sex with two men, 30% fantasize about being forced to have sex, 48% having sex with someone much older, over 20% raping somebody https://www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11 I mean I still don’t know many dudes who would actually attend a lemon party, but apparently plenty have had a fantasy about it I would add that women hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 02:29 PM
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Actually when you look at the numbers in that study, the rate of women showing a propensity for what they referred to as “aggressive porn” was only double men’s liking in one of the categories. The rate of both men and women who actually enjoyed non consensual sex being portrayed was low for both and almost dead even.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 02:11 PM
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I think you don’t understand math. That’s not the way it works. Let’s say, as an exaggeration, you have a room full of 100 people, 50 men and 50 women. 10 women watch porn, 40 of the men watch porn. 20% of the women who watch porn, watch violent porn, only 10 percent of the men who watch porn watch violent porn. In that room of 100 people, in absolute numbers, 2 of women watch violent porn, 4 of the men watch violent porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:56 PM
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I haven’t done a deep dive into all the numbers, but one quick takeaway from looking at the study….. The proper takeaway is not necessarily that “more women than men watch violent porn”. It’s more accurately, “more women who are regular porn users are watching violent porn” This is an important distinction. If you look at the actual study, it was done with interviews of people who already self identified as regular pornography users. But virtually every study estimates at a minimum, the number o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 11:45 AM
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I think most people actually care about the well being of their kids and would prefer the children they love not be hurt by an absent parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:52 AM
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Well damn…you nailed that!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:50 AM
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We’re humans, we rely on our feelings/hormones which are not predictable or logical We are back in the ppd cycle where every guy on the spectrum wants to chime in with “indirect communication is inherently manipulative and evil”, being literal is always preferable and brutal honesty is simply being authentic. Lots of them need to demonize what they can’t understand. These autistic guys won’t accept that everyone else communicates just fine without everything being literal and refuse to acknowled…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:44 AM
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Ooo you made a whole thread. TLDR. I will repeat my response here. One response being “no thanks”, the second response being “the thought of you touching me makes me throw up a little in my mouth”? Something tells me if a three hundred pound gay guy covered with prison tattoos cornered you in a dark alley and asked you for a kiss, you wouldn’t assume he would prefer the second response. Both answers are pretty accurate in conveying “no thanks”. That’s all the information the recipient needs or i…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 09:27 AM
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Something tells me if a three hundred pound gay guy covered with prison tattoos cornered you in a dark alley and asked you for a kiss, you wouldn’t assume he would prefer the second response. Both answers are pretty accurate in conveying “no thanks”. That’s all the information the recipient needs or is entitled to. I think one answer gets the point across with minimal damage to the ego of the recipient of that message and the other answer seems to be intentionally designed to get your ass kicked…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 08:58 AM
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Wishful thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:19 AM
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older women's bodies are icky. The skin is rough, wrinkly, dry and loose, the boobs are droopy, their asses are saggy, they have the stamina of a sloth, the flexibility of 4x4 I mean I’m old and you pretty much nailed it. and you need tons of lubricant. But this still not a problem. 🤣🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:17 AM
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Haven’t been through this thread yet but according to Ben Franklin, older women don’t tell, don’t swell and are grateful as hell Edit apparently the actual quote “Widows are far better than brides. They don't tell, they won't yell, they don't swell, they rarely smell, and they're grateful as hell.”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:07 AM
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Dude was pretty short too, but fit as hell and was an exceptional dancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 12:03 AM
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I love me some RedPillRipper, I’m sitting this one out. 🍿 Btw, there is a really nice dude in New Orleans you would always find at Cajun dancing events who was a severe burn victim and facially disfigured. He wasn’t exactly Casanova, but he has had several girlfriends over the years and not a single one was fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:54 PM
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Coffee dates are preferred for online dating. Easier to dash if you really don’t have any interest after meeting them But if I already know him? If we have been together in a social setting? I personally think a guy who suggests something he has heard me say I’m interested in doing or seeing is much more impressive. Shows he’s been listening and shows interest in me as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:45 PM
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divorce isn't permitted in Christianity Well….lots of things are “technically “ not permitted yet extremely common. “ divorce rates are far lower among atheists than among conservative Christians” https://www.learnreligions.com/divorce-rates-for-atheists-248494
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:39 PM
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Get this and watch it several times. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0415475/fullcredits/ I’m not being facetious either, I’m deadly serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:30 PM
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I remember the biggest because it was an all around really bad experience. He was perfect on paper and really pursued me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:26 PM
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What women say and do is never how they feel. They are very two faced “Sorry, you’re not my type” is two faced and inauthentic? Exactly how accurately would you like women to convey their true feelings? How does “the thought of you touching me makes me throw up a little in my mouth” sound? Is that authentic enough for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:21 PM
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6 is fine, 5 is fine. Never had a micro
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 10:50 PM
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She’s an idiot for telling you she did that Right? I think most people down low google you. But this? It’s the kind of thing you share years later when you are rolling, and he still gives you the side eye for being a weirdo for the next few weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:22 AM
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All I can think of is Dr Strangelove. “They are extracting our precious bodily fluids”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:15 AM
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using physical force to obtain samples of the body fluids for testing Jfc I can’t stop laughing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:10 AM
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My husband has a Discover card with a graphic design to celebrate his African American heritage. Not black. He has an extremely uncommon and Germanic last name too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:02 AM
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lol, that’s the kind of thing that’s weird to do, but way weirder to actually admit doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:56 AM
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And you don’t find it socially uncomfortable to reject as well? The dance of plausible deniability smooths unpleasant interactions for both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:07 PM
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a lot of us also don't want to overstep or annoy Women don’t want to ask directly because they also don’t want to overstep or annoy either. Harder to say no when someone explicitly asks, isn’t it? He knew EXACTLY what those women wanted. He didn’t need them to verbalize it now did he? He just chose to see them NOT being confrontational as some bizarre afront to his sensibilities. I don’t expect someone to rush to my aid if they don’t feel like it. I do expect them to not “observe” my struggle be…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:52 PM
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So my take away, women shouldn’t worry because men are stupid simps who will subsidize bad choices for a whiff of pussy. Did I get that right? Ohhh that definitely makes women respect men 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:22 PM
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Really? Men have to use their youth becoming useful? “ young men are more likely than young women to be NEET, 14.5% of all male 16-24-year-olds were NEET, compared with 12.6% of females, both increasing in 2024.”. Seems like 1 in 7 guys in that age range don’t do shit. They are “using their youth” to play video games in mommies basement. https://explore-education-statistics.service.gov.uk/find-statistics/neet-statistics-annual-brief/2024
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:01 PM
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It matters. Too big was too big. I don’t need to try 8” when I wasn’t that enthusiastic about 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:40 PM
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But now women want guys to "check all these boxes" before they even go out on a date. This does not give men a fair shot. There are some guys who appear good on paper and suck in real life, and vice versa. I agree. There’s way too many people having trouble connecting with other people. Social media and online dating has replaced meeting organically, especially for people who didn’t attend college and don’t attend church. Too many women are trying to shop for dates like ordering clothes from Ama…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:35 PM
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all I wanted to sit in peace after a long day of work You don’t have to give up your seat. You don’t have to make eye contact at all. You are free to ignore them. It’s much easier to ignore people not directly asking you for a favor, so you should be thankful they didn’t ask you directly. If all you really want is to live your life in peace without being bothered, maybe you should stop “observing them”, mind your own fucking business and instead of being confrontational and engaging with whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 03:32 PM
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If I’m not even communicating I need help, then exactly how am I trying to manipulate anyone into helping? I’m either manipulating the situation or not. If you have no idea what I’m getting at, it’s kind of hard to get you to do what I want you to do. You can ignore any stranger on a train you want. There is only one situation where this is probably ill advised. If some confrontational weirdo is staring at me on the train, I’m definitely not going to completely ignore that behavior. It’s the kin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:34 PM
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Oh, so you do acknowledge that non verbal communication is effectively communicating the way you want someone to act? And in your mind directly asking out loud in front of a train car full of strangers is somehow less”manipulative “. Again,you can simply ignore people. You can ignore a verbal request too. Being stared at is just as, if not more uncomfortable, than having a stranger ask for help when you want to be left alone, whether they ask verbally or non verbally.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:42 PM
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Is a philosophy degree useless if you earn 30% more on average than no degree at all? You might think so. Tough shit. You don’t sign their paycheck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:25 PM
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You absolutely are allowed to look the other way, bury your head in your paper and not make eye contact. It happens all the time. more than 1% of the population is neurodivergent or on the spectrum And then they need to learn to look away instead of staring at strangers on a train.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:23 PM
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lol, so you can’t imagine a situation you might not want to share with a total stranger on public transit? You lack imagination. Or maybe you have no other excuse than I just don’t feel like it. You are allowed to decline. You are even allowed to decline because you are the 1% that insist communication needs to be verbal. If you don’t want to help, you don’t need to explain. Looking away and ignoring people rarely escalates. This dude is literally staring them down when they are communicating in…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:08 PM
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And then let’s say you had a really bad day or have a bad back. If you are asked directly, won’t it be even more awkward all around when you say no? Just look away and ignore them if you want, instead of “observing” them…ie staring them down, and not acting. You won’t even know if they are glaring back or not. It’s you making it weird. Most people would appreciate the plausible deniability of not being asked directly. If I ask indirectly for help and that person avoids my eye contact, that’s gen…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:33 PM
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My standard reaction is to continue observing her, but do nothing until asked politely. In most cases the woman continues the charade until finally giving up, and then most of the time she gets angry. The reactions range from an angry glance to a sarcastic comment. My standard response then is to say cooly "You didn't ask, and you didn't say 'please'.". Which makes them even more angry. Frankly, if a guy doesn’t want to help after indirect, non verbal communication, I personally am not going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:11 PM
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And you are implying that women who like big dicks simply “understand their bodies better”. Sorry bud, I don’t need your research paper to tell me what’s painful. I understand pain and I am definitely not a fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:55 AM
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Next time you get a woman in bed, you bottom out and she winces in pain, make sure you lead her to the research.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:51 AM
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“ cervical”😳 You realize that for some women this is actually painful? For some only painful during certain times in their cycle, for some it’s always painful….you do realize this right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:49 AM
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I remember years ago there was a guy who seemed especially clueless, said he never had to use any other method to get his ex off except what Mother Nature intended…..minimal foreplay followed by dick in vagina! Said she begged for him to jackhammer. I guess anything is possible, but if I had to bet… She just wanted to get it over with as quickly as possible Her being an ex isn’t coincidental
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:19 AM
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And the lions share of those paying taxes are very high income and typically very highly educated. It’s a bit of stolen valor to assume your blue collar hero “keeping the lights on” is part of that high tax contributing cohort. You aren’t going to find many doctors, lawyers or finance bros…those men actually paying taxes…. bitching about chicks with philosophy degrees. Those are the type of women they marry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:40 AM
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So do people who get an education end up paying more taxes or less taxes 🤔. “ Education and income are strongly correlated, with higher levels of education generally leading to higher earnings. In 2022, for example, those with a bachelor's degree or higher earned a median income of $118,300” Even that dick hopping, Camus reading philosophy chick will end up earning more than the typical high school graduate. “The median annual wage for careers in philosophy is $77,610, which is significantly hig…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:31 AM
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Damn. I mean when you put it that way, it definitely sounds like you made the wrong choice. Partying, bed hopping and reading Camus sounds like way more fun than slaving away at 18. You really are only young once. Plenty of time to start slaving away at 22.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:30 AM
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I like my bouncy house with an adjacent “ball pit”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:04 AM
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Just recently there was a guy who thought women would like a big one because the woman could “bounce higher” without his dick falling out and she would find that to be a superior experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:56 AM
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so I have no idea why they are not able to find men who make as much as them. I married a guy who made less money. I’m a first generation college grad, I tended bar the entire time I went to school and to this day, the bar trash always were and always will be my tribe. My husband was a fellow bartender back in my school days. Stem bros hella boring. Plenty of nice guys at work, but not for me. It’s close to 40 years now so his probationary period should be ending anytime now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:18 AM
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A high opinion =/= still hung up on. I briefly dated a guy who had very different ideas about what he wanted from a relationship, but recommended my ex hire him because I had a high opinion of him otherwise. A high opinion of an ex is typically a good thing, someone who has nothing good to say about an ex is a red flag for me. I think this girl thought you were still “hung up”, ie emotionally invested. No one wants to ever be in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:55 PM
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bc that's the only way the guy can stimulate the clit+vagina at the same time ….someone needs more appreciation forThe old reach around
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 11:35 PM
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