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| 18 | Wife of 9 years wants a divorce. Still living together with our toddler. How do you survive this? | Living Situations | Temporary_Smuck | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 11:25 AM |
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| 1 | Am I crazy, or are these expectations unreasonable during a divorce?Roommate rule helped me with this. If you'd do it for a roommate you liked, do it and let it go. If you'd resent a roommate for asking, say no without the speech. What makes it toxic isn't the helping or the declining, it's doing it while keeping a tally in your head. The tally is what turns into contempt later... no bueno for a successful co-parenting plan.... leave egos at the door for the sake of the kid-- it also makes you look like fucking Superman being able to be that rock your daughter w… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/26 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Sunday NightTook out a steak, cooked up potatoes and roasted some broccoli. STBX (worked all day) and kid are at her parents tonight- it was nice having the house albeit lonely and sad knowing it is going to be more frequent, eventually permanent (50/50 parenting). But I didn’t let it damper the mood… caught up on some tv and movies before an expected shit work week… munching on some gummy bears and chilling with the dog before sleeping | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/26 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Wife of 9 years wants a divorce. Still living together with our toddler. How do you survive this?absolutely, this has been my top priority- it's when my lizard brain gets in the way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Wife of 9 years wants a divorce. Still living together with our toddler. How do you survive this?I'm actually at peace now, at least to an extent, after our last discussion — the one where I laid everything out from my end. The exact kind of convo you're saying to stop doing. But it's out there now, she has all the cards, and weirdly the pressure to keep pushing is gone (at least for now, I know it'll rear its ugly head again somehow but I'll be ready). For the last few weeks I had a strong north star... focusing on my kid and myself but the close proximity and the unsaid uneasiness got the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Wife of 9 years wants a divorce. Still living together with our toddler. How do you survive this?Week one is the absolute worst, hang in there man. I’m a month in and the one thing I wish someone drilled into me earlier: the urge to “feel her out” (it’s in our nature to do this) and have one more conversation is going to be constant and it almost always makes it worse. I kept doing it anyway and it pushed things faster in the wrong direction. Be stronger than I was. And don’t let the past dictate your now, replaying every mistake on a loop just feeds the spiral. Give her actual space, get a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Wife of 9 years wants a divorce. Still living together with our toddler. How do you survive this?This hit way too close to home. You basically tried the exact thing I keep wanting to try so I appreciate the honesty about how it went. Good luck with the townhomes man, sounds like youre doing it right. It’s an extremely tough pill to swallow that people change and you just can’t help but watch | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/26 01:36 PM |
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