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I think those are all untrue stereotypes. How is it manipulative to sleep without strings attached?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 09:59 PM
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You sound insecure and untrusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:00 PM
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So if I’m understanding right, you want a partner with a similar body count to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 07:44 PM
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I just wanna say guys like you are why I’m afraid to date men. Im so scared they’ll see my sexuality as a fetish, demand threesomes, and treat my past relationships as invalid…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:19 PM
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So you are saving yourself for marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:13 PM
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I think if humans pair bond, sex isn’t going to ruin that ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:13 PM
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Anyone who sincerely uses “beta” or “alpha” terms are complete basement dwelling virgins. I have NEVER met a normal man who focuses so hard on hating men in healthy loving relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 06:11 PM
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Why is that relevant to the discussion, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 04:15 PM
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Why did you even interact with my post if you’re not going to engage with the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:49 PM
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The post says I usually don’t date men. Not that I never have or never will…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:48 PM
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I guess that concept is too big for peabrains, Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:06 PM
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Pansexual means I’m attracted to both genders, buddy. So I could fuck men OR women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:05 PM
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Tell me you didn’t read the post without telling me you didn’t read the post 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:03 PM
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Not one currently practicing. But it’s not because promiscuity is bad, it’s because I’m monogamous. A former one, if I loved them I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:12 AM
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That includes you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:11 AM
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Source: just trust me bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:25 AM
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Even if you think its not equivalent to what women face, you are aware of this, so there is no need to point out that men don't experience the exact same thing as women. How do women “mate guard?” Women don’t seem to really impede male promiscuity at all. I won't address the patriarchy again because I have done this dance at length and it has never once been fruitful. First we debate the definition, then you'll maintain that no matter how much power men do or don't posses as Individuals or a gro…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:24 AM
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My point is that you're only telling half the story. A man who is only nurturing and soft will not be attractive to women, let alone sexually attractive. Nobody is arguing that. But you’re saying that being nurturing and vulnerable are attractive because they’re feminine traits. Obviously, women like these traits so they must not be feminine…they’re just good traits to have in a partner. Generally women grow out of liking the "Asian fem boy" or whatever you call that archetype by the time they'r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:15 AM
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If I over explained it, just saying patriarchy is an extreme under- explanation. Especially since women also don't want the men they are interested in to have options, and go about mitigating those men's access to other women in other ways. Thats not matriarchy. It is mate guarding. Men do it, women do it, in different ways. Except you rarely hear women calling men sluts for being playboys, now do you? Obviously, women want to keep their partners faithful, but you don’t see the same societal wid…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:58 AM
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It's not an airtight theory, I just remember skimming the study years ago. Short of men's mere instinct for wanting women that other men haven't had, there isn't a justification for the standard that would satisfy women I mean there’s a simple explanation; the patriarchy. Men feel threatened when women have options… As for comparing other men vs women partners, its a matter of the man's perception of his standing with the woman. He won't feel diminished if his woman was with other women, even wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:32 AM
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I think women who do that kinda think are pretty rare. Most are after the same thing men are—sexual gratification. Since most men can’t satisfy women, and most men can’t get with women, the amount of sexual gratification via hookups is equal…if not leaning male, since many women report having sex many times but never orgasming.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:08 AM
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I’ll ask what I asked him then, you never have casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:08 AM
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what’s your point? Women aren’t inherently soft and nurturing to strangers or random people either. Usually they are to their partners, friends, and children. So like men, women prefer partners who are nurturing and soft. Obviously most prefer some level of masculinity but I feel like repill men picture like captain America while in reality many women picture men like this as their ideal partner. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:06 AM
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The chemicals which facilitate bonding are also released during a lot of different activities like eating, nursing, holding your baby, petting a cat, etc. so the idea that sex can ruin you by making you resistant to the feel good hormones is stupid, since I don’t see them worrying that breast feeding impairs pairbonding. I dont understand the comparison thing either. If you suck as a partner/sexually I’m going to compare you to past girlfriends, that’s not going to change even if she didn’t have…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:02 AM
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Virginity is a myth anyway. Everyone seems to have a different concept of what it is, and that attitude of “sleeping with someone is sleeping with everyone they ever were with…” is so toxic…imagine telling that to a rape victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 06:32 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:13 PM
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Well for one, I don’t sleep with assholes, so that’s probably one incentive to not be one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:12 PM
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That goes for any fun activity that carries risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:23 PM
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Why wouldn’t promiscuity be a good way to get good sex? The more you try, the more likely you are to find a guy who knows how to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:03 PM
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It makes a difference because any sex to men is good sex, usually. So women and men are equal in their attempts to get laid, essentially.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:43 PM
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Sounds like the reach of a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:34 PM
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C’mon, you’re ignoring the spirit of her question to be pedantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:20 AM
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Kinda proving her point, dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:20 AM
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Idk I think both women and men look for attractiveness. Idk how rich or well off you are, if you’re ugly or slovenly, most women will be out the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:18 AM
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It’s empowering in general to have control over your body. It is shallow, in general, to have casual sex…but that’s perfectly okay. Sometimes some safe, shallow, fun is perfectly fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:14 AM
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But clitoral and oral sex skills can be improved. Dick size cannot. If she was pleased having a partner with no dick, fair to say she’s got other things to care about. Unless you have a micro penis, she’d probably care more about that. Dick size is always a thing men care more about than women. Yes but even if she leaves. She'll leave me for a woman. My society is extremely homophobic so it won't effect my reputation nor would she get to live her life fully. How do you know exactly she’d leave y…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:03 AM
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Because she can't compare a guy to a girl. If she was hooking up with men a lot, she could. Um, couldn’t she? I mean, besides penetrative sex she’s also going to compare how your oral and clitoral skills are. Seems like she could totally compare you…at least I would. So in 2nd, I meant, if she were promiscuous with men, obviously she would have her exes as friends. Couldn’t that also be true with women? Let's say there is a fight between us. The exes will swoop in and comfort her. He will fill h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:44 AM
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Yes?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:16 AM
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So why did you send them, if they don’t accurately say anything about if promiscuity is good or bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:07 AM
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It's easy for women to get sex, Not to get GOOD sex. Half of men think sex is just thrusting it in 0 foreplay, no clitoris stim in sight. it's hard for men to get sex; how is hypocrisy to hold two different situations by two different standards? Because they’re not that different.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:01 AM
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Yes, but you’re treating it as if it’s proof that promiscuity is bad. It doesn’t really suggest that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:57 AM
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Lmao okay. But I’m also free to point out if your preference is hypocritical…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:51 AM
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So you’re just a hypocrite then. Women exist to be used by you then punished for agreeing to sex you wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:39 AM
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I would never date a man who expected me to be a virgin yet got to experience tons of fun sex exploring their taste and interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:34 AM
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So you think women should be virgins but you actively make more women able to participate in casual sex? So what you want is for women to fuck you, then somehow erase the experience from their memories…right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:28 AM
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That wouldn’t be pleasurable to me, so what’s the point? I’m not going to have sex just to make a man happy…I need to get something out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:27 AM
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Women aren’t a monolith. To suggest we all have the same standards is false
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:25 AM
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The study doesn’t suggest that. That’s pure speculation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:23 AM
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No risk of pregnancy and different sex organs. Why does it matter exactly, that there’s different sex organs involved? Also same sex relationships are not recognized in my country, so if we ever get serious, she can't leave me. Why wouldn’t she be able to leave you? Lastly chance of bonus threesomes That chance is pretty slim, you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:18 AM
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https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/10/sexual-partners-and-marital-happiness/573493/ Conducted by the “institute of family studies” Clear bias. https://nypost.com/2018/10/23/why-virgins-may-have-happier-marriages/ Also conducted by same institute. Bias. https://winteryknight.com/2021/10/30/new-study-virgins-have-happiest-marriages-more-sex-partners-means-more-unhappiness-3/ “Wolfinger noted that a possible explanation for the link between promiscuity and unhappiness is that people lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:00 AM
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Okay? How is that relevant to what you said? Most people interested in me don’t care about my body count, so I’m confused how you think I’ve “removed myself from the gene pool.”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:28 AM
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Why do you specify that women should wait? Shouldn’t men wait too?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:25 AM
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I mean you say it will be better but you don’t really explain why. Having new experiences makes me know myself better and helps me learn how to please my future partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:14 AM
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Can you source that claim? Also, I’m hesitant to claim higher divorce is bad. Is it not possible being more experienced means you have a better idea of what a healthy relationship looks like?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:14 AM
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Except a lot of redpill men make it seem that having more than 3 boyfriends in your life or having the occasional hook up is “riding the cock carousel”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:03 AM
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Lol, are you under the impression that fucking women makes one infertile, or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:02 AM
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I’m your worst nightmare, eh? Stealing all your bitches?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:51 PM
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Except women aren’t more attracted to “masculine and hard.” I’ll reiterate—research the female gaze. That demonstrates that to appeal to women they make male characters who are soft and nurturing, not hard and masculine like you’re trying to claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:43 PM
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The issue is a lot of people put their best into a relationship at first, then let it go down hill. Also, a lot of women deal with husbands who don’t know how to please them sexually, then when they fall out of love…why should they stay with a man that doesn’t make her heart or her vagina happy, lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:40 PM
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So your next girlfriend will just have to deal with sleeping with both you and your ex, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:34 PM
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So you’re saving yourself for marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:21 PM
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There’s so much wrong with what you just said…why tf would you assume Bi women don’t treat their relationships with women seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:16 PM
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It’s better to divorce than to expose your kids to an unhappy marriage. But maybe being promiscuous means you have higher standards for your partner…which is a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:14 PM
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What’s the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:10 PM
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I don’t understand…why exactly is sleeping with women different?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 11:09 PM
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If one could become desensitized to oxycotin, couldn’t the same effect be achieved by doing anything that releases Oxytocin? Like breastfeeding, looking at cute things, eating delicious food…? I mean, i feel like to have some negative effect you need to do those things in extreme excess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 10:48 PM
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So you don’t have casual sex at all then? I don’t fuck like every day but I’ve had a few flings.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:56 PM
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Interesting. You think it’s like a moral failing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:55 PM
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A high divorce rate isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It means an unhappy relationship ended. I mean, we can see in the times where divorce rates were lower, it’s not because people were less promiscuous or less happy, it because they had less power to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:46 PM
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Well it is faulty to say we must be like them, but there’s no real reason to believe we pair bond when…we don’t. We don’t pair bond, and the proof is that humans have always been promiscuous…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:34 PM
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I mean, nobody is obligated to date someone you don’t want to. But it’s a little hypocritical when men sleep around then say promiscuity is gross
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:33 PM
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So then what data is your claim based on?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:32 PM
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My point is, how are you not also committing apex fallacy? You did the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:29 PM
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Um, are you not also talking about your individual experiences with women? You didn’t provide any source to back up your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:25 PM
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And I’m sharing that in my experience that’s not true. I feel like men who think this way watch mean girls and think it’s reality -_-
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:21 PM
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Do you think you’ll be able to find a healthy and loving relationship like that? Where your girlfriend/wife is aware you have higher standards for her but not for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:21 PM
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Nobody is talking about “letting your partner sleep around” it’s about what your partner did in the past. How would what they did in the past effect evolutionary advantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:18 PM
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I think you’ll find a lot of bisexual women aren’t interested in threesomes, and the ones who are will probably want to have a few times with another man not a woman lol As for bisexuality, lots of women identify as bi—in fact that rate is going up every day. I wouldn’t call them a insignificant population at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:17 PM
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Idk as a woman men have been more likely to attack my lifestyle. Women just act clicky and exclude you if they don’t like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:15 PM
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I’m not going to say that you have to date anyone, but it’s a little hypocritical right? That you can be promiscuous yet your partner needs to live by a different set of standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:13 PM
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Do you think this also applies to women like me? You think I only have ONS when I’m drunk and I regret it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:12 PM
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Yeah but humans don’t pair bond. That’s like a vole thing…humans are more like our closest relatives in the natural world, bonobos, in that we seem to be much more promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:09 PM
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For me I probably would date more men if I was able to have more safety in place. Like, it’s impossible to get an abortion here, so I just don’t risk it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:08 PM
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So do you think it’s fine if a woman had lots of one night stands/FWB? That’s not a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:05 PM
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Okay but in my example I pointed out how tons of redpill guys specifically use the word “submissive.” The guy I was talking about literally equated submissiveness with femininity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:03 PM
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Okay here’s something interesting. As a pansexual woman I found all the women really cute and all the men really…not. So maybe my standards are lower for women, or maybe I see that in the women even the “average” woman puts more effort into their appearance whereas the men can’t even be bothered to find a hairstyle that suits them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 06:01 PM
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Redpiller’s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:59 PM
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I mean what feminine means to someone is super subjective. To answer the OP, no, it’s not wrong to find these traits desirable. As long as you aren’t labeling women who don’t fit into this narrow box “undesirable” or “masculine.” You should also keep in mind a lot of these things can change as a person gets older and experiences life. I still dress very feminine but i thrift all my clothes and refuse to wear makeup, even though I was very interested in as a young adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:48 PM
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On this sub someone just equated wanting a feminine partner with wanting a submissive partner. Y’all flat out say it all the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:44 PM
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So your question shouldn’t be “is it wrong that I like feminine women” is “is it wrong that I prefer these specific traits.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:41 PM
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I mean, just because we produce milk doesn’t mean it’s not also important for men to be nurturing. Nursing is a very short timeframe for baby and women will also need help with childcare past that point in time. In fact, we can see through studying the “female gaze” that women tend to be more attracted to men who show traits of softness, vulnerability, and nurturing nature. I mean, as a woman myself I know that men who have a high capacity for nurturing are more attractive, personally, but I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:40 PM
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Isn’t it important for men to be nurturing too? So why is that a feminine trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:32 PM
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I think these are all really specific and not exclusive to femininity. There’s nothing wrong with thinking these traits are attractive but I have to wonder if maybe you’re just mentally assigning anything you personally find attractive as feminine. Like, I love plushies, tennis, girly skirts, etc. but I also would be ecstatic to hold a cute tarantula and I can’t get my nails done because I do a lot of sculpting. So am I masculine ? Because I don’t fit perfectly in your definition of femininity? …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:31 PM
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I mean TikTok really isn’t a good way to measure statistics or healthy relationships. It’s not gaslighting to say claims like this need more evidence than 2-minute clips on the app that encourages NyQuil chicken.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:17 PM
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I mean, it’s a biased video created to intentionally create controversy. What opinion did you want on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:09 PM
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Generalizing again.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 05:04 PM
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I’m sorry? Having a fling and unreciprocated crush now makes people unable to love? If you really think that “bad boys” “pumping and dumping” causes women to become unable to fall in love, why aren’t you criticizing the men who promise/imply relationships then leave after fucking? Women sound innocent in this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 04:29 PM
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I don't think men like power as much as you think. Black Widow was hot in Iron Man 2 because she was a literal sex kitten and Scarlett is hot. Her skills made her also cool. But if she had no skills she'd still be hot, and if she wasn't hot her skills wouldn't matter. That’s because our sexist society hates strong or dominant women so it’s more of a fringe. Anyway, what you're saying is fine. You sound like you've learned how to use your head and not make stupid choices and that means you're a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:30 PM
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You’re vastly underestimating how much women are expected to put up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:50 AM
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Dude isn't going down on you and you want him to? Sexual desire would be low or you would be dissatisfied with the marriage. No? Lots of people have happy sex lives and marriages where a partner refuses a certain sex act. Over time it just compounds if the partner continually expects from the woman yet doesn’t give any. Especially if it gets worse after marriage. You are less inclined to care about sexually desiring the man or being sexually satisfied? Bull. Women are way more forgiving with men…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:47 AM
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And as already mentioned, they would show as marital dissatisfaction. You’re not explaining how that would occur. Sexual dissatisfaction doesn’t always mean marital dissatisfaction. No, if that was the case sexual desire would be low from the beginning and most importantly, the decline in sexual desire wouldn't PREDICT marital dissatisfaction. Like I said at the beginning when things are new you’re less inclined to care. As things carry on you get tired of those needs not being met. No, few of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:37 AM
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Yes… and I listed multiple ways husbands could be at fault for that sexual decline… And none of them wouldn't show as marital dissatisfaction. That’s pure conjecture. I just explained how women could possibly accept it romantically yet be unhappy sexually. People don't just marry after the first date. All the things you mentioned would have shown themselves sooner and would have shown as marital dissatisfaction. They didn't. Lots of people get married quick before the honeymoon phase ends though…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:32 AM
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And yet decline in sexual desire preceded and predicted marital dissatisfaction. Yes… and I listed multiple ways husbands could be at fault for that sexual decline… No, sexual desire was relatively high in the beginning. That’s my point. In the beginning of a new marriage you put up with more because you haven’t been worn down yet. Nobody starts out unsatisfied, because it’s all new. It doesn't. You’re going to have to provide more proof than just a “NUH UH YOURE WRONG”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:07 AM
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The decline in sexual desire PRECEDES and PREDICTS marital dissatisfaction. If any of the things you mentioned were true, it would show as marital dissatisfaction first. All of the things I listed could contribute to sexual and marital dissatisfaction. Like the oral thing, perhaps you’re fine with that in the beginning of the marriage despite being sexually unsatisfied. Over time though constantly giving and not receiving might cause issues maritally. Overall you’re just making an inference that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:42 PM
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“Additionally, these couples were all newlyweds, so the authors believe that these correlations may change for older couples or for non-married couples.” This study is full of holes. It only tests a single demographic, Caucasian newlyweds. It could be that women are more likely to lose interest as they realize their new marriage isn’t all that cracked up to be. Also, this study doesn’t account that men could be doing things that drive women away. In the beginning of a marriage everything is shin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:31 PM
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Good to know we have something in common
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:09 PM
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They sure do like eating my blueberry bushes yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:08 PM
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Get back to fixing my car, wrench monkey
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:06 PM
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Well you’re acting like women are so annoying, I just suggested that you don’t have to date or fuck them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:04 PM
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Growing apart,not being able to talk together, incompatibility= grew bored of him. Why are you blaming women only? It takes two to maintain a relationship and there’s no evidence that it’s mainly women to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:04 PM
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Date men if women are so annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:01 PM
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As long as you’re not criticizing women for growing simp armies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 11:00 PM
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Hence why I said “occasionally.” Being in a relationship means being there for your partner through the ups AND the downs. If you only want to hear about how things are going well, you’re a “fair weather” partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 10:58 PM
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Well if we had a government funded program to support single parents i would be okay with it. But until then I view financial autonomy second to bodily autonomy and child poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 03:01 AM
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The alternative is you either strip women of their autonomy or force children to live in poverty. If you want to eliminate the possibility of paying child support, either get a vasectomy or don’t have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:45 AM
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Neither do women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:29 AM
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Raising an unwanted child is not a singular bad event, it’s a compounding issue for at least 18 years. That’s the thing, nobody is forcing you to raise that child, if the gender is such a big issue Although you are right I misunderstood the situation — if they can just try again, then it changes the calculus since the stakes aren’t as high. However the woman can abort up to a certain point and leave post pregnancy as well, so yes she would be stuck in the interim but it’s not a permenant situati…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:04 AM
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That’s like saying I don’t believe carrying twin males can trigger PPD when, as you said, it’s about other aspects surrounding the pregnancy. Clinical depression have too many causes and triggers to isolate just one, but certainly I can frame it in this case as a man forced to raise a child he didn’t want and being stuck with a wife who can no longer conceive so no possibility of another child, can lead to depression. What makes you think they can no longer conceive? This isn’t their one and onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 01:24 AM
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I do not agree with the idea that having a female child can spark depression, I’d like to see a source that it does. PPD has been studied and traumatic pregnancies are cited as one of the causes of it. Being forced to carry male babies you didn’t want for 9 months would be traumatic imo. And no one is forcing the woman to have that child either. But presumably when a couple goes through the trouble of IVF treatments the man is expected to stick around. And frankly you can’t say the baby was agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:54 AM
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He was “exotic” and I was attracted to how he stood out. In addition, I liked the fact idea of a boyfriend who was rough n’ tough on the outside but was soft and sweet with me. That’s why it’s an immature attraction. You learn that those types of people stand out in a bad way, and that most people who treat others like shit aren’t going to treat you well just because you’re dating. I'd still argue that women of all ages lust for the sort of powerful man who doesn't care about other peoples' feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:39 AM
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Again nobody is forcing you to stick around, and depression can’t be sparked by something like that. PPD is specifically triggered by traumatic preganancy and other things related to pregnancy. Even if the mother decides she didn’t want to stick around after the boys are born, her whole body has been permanently altered basically against her will and she doesn’t even get to keep the baby she wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:30 AM
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Does it have a mini fridge, beanbag, and a switch?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:27 AM
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I think in general most women who like “bad boys”, do so because they’re inexperienced and young and can’t choose partners well yet. That’s why you’ll see college girls going after them. I mean, my first crush was a sk8r boy who bragged about beating people up and smoking weed, and I rejected the nice nerd in favor of my crush. Now as an adult I look back and realize my crush was a loser and the nerd was a way better fit, but that’s just something you learn as you get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:26 AM
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Better build me a fine-ass nest.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:22 AM
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I never made that claim though. I argued that women who have no autonomy over her pregnancy are going to have a harder time attaching to babies she was forced to have and are going to be more at risk for ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:22 AM
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Logical fallacy 1.) appeal to authority. “Scientist” is vague. If you’re trying to argue that human behavior should follow a certain model you should probably explain what type of scientist you are, how you got you’re certifications, and prove that claim. After all if you’re say, a Geoscientist, I’m not really going to respect your opinion on how humans should behave. Logical fallacy 2.) appeal to nature. “Thing X is good because it’s natural and found in the animal kingdom!” Just because certai…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:17 AM
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If you’re so set that isn’t a subject that’s possible to debate, then why post in a debate subreddit? If you’re here to just have other red-pillers agree with you, you’re here just to circle jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 12:03 AM
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I didn’t even disagree with most of your points I just pointed out different scenarios which might justify women feeling that way. Again, are you here to “make a point” or debate? This isn’t an incel or blackpill sub, it’s a debate sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:49 PM
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Lmao cleaning isn’t genetically coded into the X chromosome
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:48 PM
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I guess it depends on how you actually define bad boy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:44 PM
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Uh…. Why are you here if not to debate? If your reading comprehension is so low then perhaps don’t join a debate subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:41 PM
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I mean yeah who’s going to turn down strong ass hugs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:38 PM
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Well if you were only going to be a good dad if your child happened to be a boy then you probably shouldn’t have reproduced. Not to mention, nobody is forcing you to stay, you could give up your parental rights and just pay child support. Ultimately imo it’s fine to voice your preference for the boys, but it’s never going to be up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:37 PM
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But, you do have to shut up when I'm not in the mood to hear your complaining about whatever insignificant thing of the day. There’s a difference between just nonstop dumping negativity and venting occasionally to your partner… for me I need a partner willing to listen to how I feel about negative stuff going on in my life. It makes me feel heard and helps me get all that toxicity out. That being said, I also expect my partner to do the same. That way we both emotionally support each other. I wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:34 PM
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I’m not informed enough to make a decision on ancient philosophers… I really liked Albert Camus though. I liked the myth of sisyphus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:24 PM
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10/10 sexual appeal 0/10 romantic appeal. I would fuck him but not date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:21 PM
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At my school we had home ec and no shop but we did have a welding class. Neither were gendered but more boys took the welding, but lots of boys still took home ec.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:20 PM
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Arm muscles. Strong men give good hugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:18 PM
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She’s the one who has to endure the pregnancy and its consequences on her body, so she’s the one who should choose. If she were forced to carry the babies she didn’t want she might have some issues with attaching to them, it might even spark ppd.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/22 11:17 PM
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I’ve already told him. He buries his head in the sand and neither apologizes or admits he played a part in our abuse. It didn’t end until I accidentally called 911 after she pinned me down and assaulted me. He would still be abused if it wasn’t for me taking that fall for him. He doesn’t care about maintaining a good relationship. To him, children are just meant to leave home and never talk to you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 09:02 AM
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That’s called “healthy”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:57 AM
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I would be more open to that if he didn’t allow her to abuse the shit out of me and my sibling. She used to pull crap like that (pouring water on us/electronics) then he’d get mad at us for fighting back or crying too loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 08:52 AM
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Do you consider “lazy” a positive way to refer to someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 06:02 AM
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You called it lazy, that means you think it’s wrong to not shave and women should be doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 06:00 AM
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In this specific comment chain I have reiterated again and again men are entitled to their preferences as long as they don’t pretend like women are somehow wrong for not entertaining them. That’s my issue with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:54 AM
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I mean it’s illogical though. If it’s not lazy to refuse to wear makeup or dye your hair it’s not lazy to refuse to participate in this ritual. You’re allowed to have that opinion, just like people are allowed to believe the Easter bunny lays eggs. Doesn’t mean it’s logical or makes sense. Again I don’t see how it’s relevant what men prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:42 AM
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Yeah. Women are less likely to leave bruises but they definitely can abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:28 AM
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My mom abused my dad and he started expecting it from me. Once, I was holding a cup of water while having a (civil) argument with him. I got frustrated and told him never mind, this isn’t going anywhere, and moved to leave and he asked “are you going to throw that water on me?” I was flabbergasted… NO I’m not going to pour my drink on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 05:19 AM
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Wait you think shaving is equal to flossing? So you shave all your body hair too?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:56 AM
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I reiterate; the opinion of men isn’t relevant to the question “is it lazy to not shave?” The answer is no. It’s not lazy. Even if you’re misinformed and think it’s unhygienic. Also we’re in purple pill debate. I really don’t think this qualifies as a good example of “most men”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:53 AM
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Keeping your body hair is not unhygienic. Nothing about shaving makes you more clean. If you consider it part of a hygiene ritual, you are flat out wrong. It’s cosmetic and cosmetic alone. As well “BUT MEN LIKE IT WHEN YOU (insert beauty ritual here)” is not an excuse to call people lazy if they don’t want to perform that specific ritual. It’s probably a shock to you, but I don’t really care if men prefer I shave or if they like it when I wear purple polka dots… I do what is most comfortable and…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:44 AM
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I mean, am I lazy for preferring not to dye my hair blonde? Am I lazy for not wanting to maintain acrylic nails? Am I lazy for preferring to just let my hair be wavy versus straightening it every morning? None of those things are “lazy” it’s just a beauty ritual I’m not interested in. I don’t like the look, costs, or time needed to maintain it. How is that lazy?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:26 AM
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Its really shitty to consider anyone who doesn’t subscribe to your favored fashion trend “lazy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:20 AM
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When people say they’re attracted to women who “take care of themselves” they usually mean they like women that wear makeup, dress up, have long nails, shave, curl/straighten hair, etc. which congrats, means you’re actually attracted to wealthy women with lots of free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:10 AM
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So what, everyone including men needs to shave their entire body or they’re slovenly to you? This is as ridiculous as requiring everyone dye their hair or spray tan. I think shaving is expensive and hard. Many women and men don’t see it that way and many agree. My point is it’s just another way to style your body, there’s nothing about it that’s “lazy” like you clearly want to claim yet can’t prove.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 04:06 AM
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Have you ever shaved your ass? Now try imagining doing that but your ass is a lot more squishy with more folds. That’s hard as fuck to shave! Also, deduct points if the shaving cream gets on your asshole, because that’s now you get yeast infections! I’ve literally cut my labia trying to shave myself, have you ever nicked your foreskin before with a razor??? NOT FUN. Now after you shave you now have to buy some sort of exfoliating scrub to use on every part of your body, adding yet another cost t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:55 AM
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It's not hard to maintain a beard, and that's why I have no problem maintaining mine. And it's why I expect the same in a partner. I mean maintaining a beard is a lot easier than waxing/shaving all the body hair on your body, and probably less expensive too. Not to mention hair removal is really uncomfortable and can lead to other issues as I’ve mentioned before like ingrown hairs, razor burn, rashes, chemical burns, microcuts, etc. But back to my question: If you got with a man who was smooth s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:41 AM
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I missed a word. I meant to say I prefer men to be clean shaven. In my opinion I don’t like any hair on a guys face, it’s not my thing. But you don’t hear me call it unkept or lazy. As for maintenance, how hard is it to keep your beard looking good versus constantly shaving? It’s just a small trim and beard products every once in awhile.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:02 AM
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Are you serious? A beard elevates a mans look. This is the case if he takes care of it though. If he doesn't and it looks like shit, it's just as bad as body hair. It's all about taking care of it. That’s just your subjective opinion on hair care. I personally think all men look better with only stubble or a clean face. Just because I don’t like the look of a beard though doesn’t mean it’s fair to say beards are a sign of being unkempt or lazy, right? You can't be serious. Armpit hair doesn't el…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:44 AM
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But hairy legs, armpits, back etc.? Nah, I believe that partners should keep each other accountable and don't be lazy or blame it on "I'm just being meeeee accept me" no, it's pure laziness. Why is a beard normal but body hair isn’t? Literally there’s not much difference. Both naturally grow on your body. Again, it’s fine if you don’t prefer hair, but it’s not “lazy” if someone doesn’t want to shave everything. If it’s not “lazy” to have a beard. It’s not “lazy” to have body hair. I can expect h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 01:31 AM
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Who argued otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:46 AM
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Very. Nothing kills my gentleman boner than a woman who doesn't care of her appearance and esthetic. So not giving into this specific fashion trend is somehow not taking care of your appearance? Would you say the same thing if a woman preferred her natural curly hair versus straightening it? Or her natural skin color instead of tanning? It seems like men are always complaining that women “hide” what they actually look like by altering their body with makeup, how is altering your body with shavin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:26 AM
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What’s normal is now changing. I now know more women (especially young women) who prefer to not shave or only do light trimming. Just because a trend is popular doesn’t make it intrinsically female.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:20 AM
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The issue is not everyone defines womanhood by these specific traits. There’s nothing intrinsically unfeminine about body hair. It’s just a trend like crimped hair or high heels. Yeah, they’re both associated with femininity but that doesn’t make me masculine if I prefer my converse and naturally wavy hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:18 AM
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That’s very subjective. I personally don’t think any amount of body hair is “disgusting.” Why would I? I mean, personally I think guys who have a giant bushy beard are attractive but it’s just a style I don’t prefer. What about it is disgusting? It’s just someone’s natural body.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 12:11 AM
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Yeah, nothing more attractive than a man so secure in his masculinity that he doesn’t mind doing feminine things because he knows that doing feminine things doesn’t invalidate his worthiness as a man.
/r/seduction11/12/21 04:54 AM
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Can you train it to filter out short men too?
/r/seduction11/12/21 04:45 AM
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As a girl this is my main mindset and how I think most should approach dating. You’re looking for people who are compatible with you, not trying to force yourself into being someone compatible with them.
/r/seduction11/12/21 04:43 AM
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