Terrible-Mind2633 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
13	“I love you, but I’m not in love with you”	Rant	Terrible-Mind2633	/r/Divorce_Men	05/10/25 11:57 AM

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6	Why do men seem to always try and heal and be on there own and woman just instantly jump into dating or monkey branching? The blunt truth behind this is that she has a window of opportunity and she feels as if she can do better than her current dude before shes aged out or her looks fade. A attractive woman and I mean average and even slightly below average beauty (which women have mastered altering) will have at least a dozen different dudes chasing her within the year if she gives them even the slightest green light. The attention validates her along with her friends and culture but eventually she’s going to sett…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/06/26 12:17 PM
1	Going from having a wife and helping raise her kids to being 31 and single.......... What they will find is that life isn’t better or worse just different. Somethings should get better with age and they might use that as affirmation of their life decisions but they will never know with certainty what could’ve been if they made different decisions. All in all they made their choices and they get to live by those decisions. Ironically women quit these relationships just to end up in another similar situation years down the road. They all think that they can find the man of their d…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 05:48 PM
2	Are We Even Supposed to be Married for Life Anymore? A man should definitely gain some wisdom from this type of life event if nothing else. Give yourself some grace man and don’t be too hard on yourself. I think part of rationalizing her behavior stems from the fact that you went all in on this person just for it to blow up in your face and now you’re going to question your own intuition which will challenge the trust/faith you have in yourself. Well that’s when there’s nothing else to do but eat yourself a large amount of humble pie and recognize…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 05:29 PM
2	Are We Even Supposed to be Married for Life Anymore? I’m sure she’s made you question everything, maybe even some character assassination because she doesn’t want to be the villain in her own story. And your trying to make sense of it all, but understand its as simple as she’s wrong and there’s only so much you can do or have control over.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 03:01 PM
1	Going from having a wife and helping raise her kids to being 31 and single.......... She made the choices for everyone in this situation. Idk how previous generations did it, but it seems like there’s a change in the weather and women want a divorce. My ex told me being happy was her number one priority in life. Who the hell is happy all the time or expecting to be happy, if anything we’re supposed to be miserable most of the time so we can be happy some of the time lol. Imagine our ancestors seeing us now.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 02:07 PM
3	Are We Even Supposed to be Married for Life Anymore? Man she’s got you twisted, yes we’re absolutely supposed to get married and be with one person for life don’t let anyone try to rationalize it any other way. Those open relationships are dramatic/nasty and don’t work out, regardless of how anyone wants to spin it or argue in its defense. Honestly the best women are ones who have a strong family background and moderate (or even center right) values. Most women are so damn progressive these days that they have no sense of direction or vision for t…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 01:50 PM
7	Ex Wanting Intimacy How long has it been since she left? I don’t even know how I would communicate with my ex. Once in a blue moon we’ll exchange like 3-4 texts, but to actually have a real conversation outside of something that triggers me back to “hey remember how you betrayed and screwed me over” I can’t imagine.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/06/26 01:13 PM
3	Why Re-marry after Divorce? Yeah there’s a balance somewhere between trust and self preservation. It takes some inward looking to perfectly define what that means for each man. Thats why boundaries are so important and should be made clear. Honestly though I don’t think women these days are willing to abide by a man’s boundaries. If they do it’s temporary or they’ll end up lying, good example is when you tell her not to talk to the “he’s just a friend” who is obviously trying to get with her.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 12:13 PM
6	Why Re-marry after Divorce? I would be much more skeptical personally and not willing to accept as much disrespect, drama, or poor decision making. I would always have it in the back of my mind that she can instantly flip and leave without any warning. The first one killed an innocent view of things in me that was already struggling to exist. I would hate to get my hopes up and let my guard down just for this to happen again and maybe even be in a worse situation.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/06/26 11:49 AM
11	Before you swipe right, know the new rule: Women aren't just Googling you anymore. Your ex is your new background check. Lol its just the day and age we live in with interconnected people throughout the globe and everyone having a digital thumbprint, not to mention women binge watching true crime tv, dramas, and subscribing to narratives involving female victims and male perpetrators. Women have always had to approach males with a certain level of caution but now they’ve all received a extremely unhealthy and irrational amount of fear/anxiety towards men that they all see themselves as the potential main character…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/06/26 09:58 PM
3	She did not think it was funny... Lol she meant it, she basically feels like she has you in her corner now for the long haul because you guys share kids so she can now be independent and explore options without losing you forever. It’s like a form of monkey branching, my ex told me she wanted a divorce but didn’t want to lose me forever. Such bs	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 12:01 PM
1	Someone just offed his ex wife and himself over custody and divorce Its rather traumatic, I remember when I found out she was scheming behind my back I uncontrollably started shaking which I never experienced before and now realize that was a trauma response. There’s trauma in life that is unavoidable for people, but this stuff ironically seems like an artificial product of modern society that we voluntarily accept until it backfires and the. Many of us men just suffer quietly because we are typically seen as the villain and just need to take it on the chin. Tha…	/r/Divorce_Men	04/06/26 03:21 AM
5	Ex wife still makes me feel guilty - how to deal with it I didn’t even finish reading this, cut her off besides what’s legally required and information regarding the children.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 03:26 AM
3	Someone just offed his ex wife and himself over custody and divorce I used not understand stuff like this but now I get it, not saying its in any means justified but I understand how much emotion and destruction is caused from divorce or even serious relationships like i never understood before.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/26 02:32 AM
7	Holy smokes You alright mate? Don’t answer that you’re safe now they can’t hurt you. Lol	/r/Divorce_Men	01/06/26 12:39 PM
20	Reconciliation 2 years and she’s coming over with divorce papers. Just be friendly with her at this point don’t pour your heart out or anything. A grown man chasing after a grown woman within the circumstances you mentioned is pathetic and she could just monkey branch at that point leaving you exhausted. I wouldn’t give her anything shes not giving you, basically mirror her behavior if she goes the route of reconciliation and if thats what you really want. But also you can’t just drag this on for two more year…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/26 12:31 AM
5	Where do we draw the line btw women independence and rights of a husband Thats a wild story man, to answer your question independence is almost entirely absent in a relationship. Anyone who is trying to be independent and in a relationship generally are fighting a fire with gasoline. Of course there’s exceptions, times that are acceptable for one to act independently which is why you need to find a partner that you can trust to make good decisions in your absence when necessary, and we’re all are own unique person. Generally speaking it’s all one team and independenc…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/05/26 01:19 PM
0	Can’t stop the tears Whats the emotional affair?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/05/26 03:39 PM
7	You know what I think? I don't think these chicks really wanted marriage and kids to begin with. They just thought they did. Men can just be content with watching paint dry. Women these days constantly need to be wrapped up in some kind of emotional roller coaster lol. It’s funny because it’s so chaotic that it makes no sense, like hey we could just sit here and mind our own business and grow old in a relatively peaceful and calm environment. Then boom she’s chasing walking/talking problems trying to control them until it becomes too much for them and then they find something easier or they succeed and move on because…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/26 07:35 PM
7	Just passed……men are screwed again. Just to help everyone who is saying this isn’t targeted towards just men or that women pay child support, to gain perspective. Understand that 85% of all child support is paid by MEN and men on average also pay higher amounts than women do.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 11:31 PM
15	Something I Will Not Miss. How About You? I don’t miss feeling like she was going to leave me if i didn’t do x, y, or z. I don’t miss how she treated our relationship like it was her versus me. I don’t miss the gaslighting or her tests.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/05/26 11:43 AM
3	Divorce is hitting hard You got to let her go man, you’ve been left with no other choice by her. A good woman that actually loves you wouldn’t be doing this to you. Time for some self preservation, especially for your kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/05/26 11:58 AM
2	Anyone willing to admit they actually regret leaving? Life is different, better in someways worse in others which is the way all change happens but with something like divorce those changes tend to be more impactful or noticeable. I didn’t leave, but I also didn’t go running after her playing games to convince her to maybe come back, I’m terribly upset about what happened would be an understatement. This has been one of the most traumatic experiences in my life, but was I supposed to play chase with this girl, compete for her attention, and explain…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/04/26 07:05 PM
2	Out with another guy There’s different mental layers to this; your consciously over her as in you understand the situation logically and what’s reasonably expected to happen. But there’s some subconscious emotional connections to this woman you made when you were with her that run deep especially if you two made offspring together. These are almost primitive knee jerk responses to see another man move in on what was once your territory and you’re gonna feel some sort of way about it; it simply goes against our insti…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/26 01:55 PM
8	Warning Signs? It seems to me to be walk away wife syndrome. Bad part is she wont confront you until she’s obsessed and analyzed her feelings to death with her close family/friends/social media. Then she’s going to ambush you with it. Most of us are on this forum because we didn’t have the right answers to this, the problem is that once a woman makes her mind up on something she’ll stubbornly commit until something drastic happens that proves her right or occasionally wrong. Idk what i would have done differen…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/04/26 08:59 AM
4	Can someone give me hope? You’re so dependent on women for validation you don’t even know who you are. It’s like your going on a trip and you’re asking others to get in before you have any idea what the destination is, do yourself a favor figure out the destination before asking others to come along. You don’t need anyone else you are your own man, time to lone wolf it. You probably have a desire to get revenge or be even and some rebound is not that. The best revenge is a stoic attitude and success.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/04/26 12:35 PM
8	The reality of her being gone for good has finally set in. Man there’s no way around it, this divorce stuff just sucks. The pain eventually does start to dull but you got to be a little protective in helping yourself get through it. These women just don’t understand the depth or seriousness of a man and his feelings towards those he loves, most of us would probably take a bullet for someone we care about but we do require deep respect or else we’re just hollow men.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/26 11:55 AM
3	My ex's boyfriend thinks he can discipline our teenage children and that he has parental authority over my kids. If he or she pays for it then its kinda tough luck, maybe get a cheap second phone for the kid if it goes too far. Honestly though man it has to suck to go through this but your wife bringing in a new man will naturally make him the head of that household in some degree or another no matter who he is. Its unrealistic to think he moves in and just has no say in his home or how it’s managed especially when it comes to children being around needing guidance or corrections, and your wife is probably…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/04/26 11:59 PM
2	How can high earners limit the financial damage in divorce? Lol definitely not, Im just verifying it because its rather creative and strategic in the name of self preservation. Its impressive	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/26 10:10 PM
8	How can high earners limit the financial damage in divorce? Is it just me or is this list primarily about causing such psychological stress and fatigue that she just gives up? Because it doesn’t seem to just make things disappear or easier on you necessarily it seems like it’s moreover a war of attrition to see her cave under pressure.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/26 01:57 AM
2	Men should unite - they can’t keep killing us! Make prenups mandatory for signing a marriage license, no more no fault states, no alimony under five years of marriage primarily homemakers most of the time and have a income gap like the person who has to pay alimony has to make well over the single median income for that area. Alimony also needs a timeframe like half or a quarter of the time you were married, just enough for them to establish themselves independently and then phase it out. Needs to be a tax deduction if it isn’t already, chil…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/04/26 01:49 AM
6	Was the divorce your fault? I could say it was my fault because I wasn’t everything she wanted or didn’t do everything she wanted. At the same time I had to say no to certain things and maintain my own self because I was the breadwinner and homemaker and she had some chaotic ideas were in hindsight if I would’ve been like “sure what the hell, we’ll figure it out later” she may have stayed with me for two more seconds but as soon as the stress kicks in from poor decision making she would have blamed me and probably done the…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/04/26 12:03 AM
1	Wife just asked to end our marriage People’s needs/wants are more simple than you think. We’ve just bastardized what is necessary for a good life (probably for a profit). Now we’ve been manipulated to never feeling fulfilled with the basics and a desire to be life’s main character. Mainly women and also men have become the greatest victims of mass manipulation in documented history. Might be a conspiracy for now but if we survive this several hundred years from now history will paint a full picture of what forces were behind this.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/26 02:42 AM
1	Wife just asked to end our marriage Fair enough but that doesn’t come without its own societal consequences. A person can nitpick to an absurd extent that is wasteful of time/resources that our mortality just doesn’t forgive and ironically men are the cliche running joke on judgement of women but the data shows that women initiate most separations and go after the top 20% of men. The destruction of the nuclear family and declining birthrate is the decline of western civilization, it goes beyond just individuality.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/26 12:07 PM
4	Help Don’t attempt a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Things do get better it just takes time. Years from now you might be laughing at the absurdity of all this and you’ll be a more resilient/wise place in which you could have a opportunity to help others in your shoes now.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/26 11:55 AM
1	Wife just asked to end our marriage Well it goes against our better instincts that have seen us through thousands of years through which man conquered or was conquered and cultivated this world, but in today’s world men are better off evolving beyond needing companionship of toxic modern women.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/04/26 12:33 AM
11	Wife just asked to end our marriage You’re really hung up on being with someone. Discover yourself for a sec, be comfortable with being alone. Then the next romantic encounter will come from a place of choice and not desperation.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/04/26 01:48 PM
2	How have you been in a marriage for so long with no kids? Its logical thinking to believe a shared child creates greater stakes and stronger bonds between a married couple. Ive also personally seen men try to forgive their spouse and save their family more often when kids are involved. But beyond logic or observation, there is data that suggests childless marriages though have a higher level of relationship satisfaction because of less stress also have a higher risk for divorce. I don’t necessarily take all data as gospel so do with it as you will, but…	/r/Divorce_Men	05/04/26 07:00 AM
2	3 months in and struggling with my health. Fuck dude i completely gave up, don’t get it twisted. A lot of people here are all about the use this as motivation or success is the best revenge, and thats great. The reality is some of us have really messy comebacks that aren’t sexy lol. Id rather tell you something else but I want to be honest so you don’t feel bad about the uphill climb. Keep trying though, like the old saying goes there’s more than one way to skin a cat.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/03/26 09:34 AM
3	Unsolicited rant from ex At this point I just wouldn’t care, might respond with a “sorry you feel that way” or something passive/deflective. I cared at first in my situation because I was emotionally a mess and scared about the legality/unknowns of my situation which was a wild ride mentally looking back lol. But now if something like that happened I’d just not have the same sense of responsibility or accountability to really care. I also see the entire situation as insane and I don’t mean that in a entirely insulting w…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/03/26 01:33 PM
1	When did you guys know it was time for a divorce How was she a victim lol Sounds like she cheated on you and ruined your marriage, did she need those three months to brainstorm how she could be the victim	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/26 04:43 PM
2	When did you guys know it was time for a divorce For me it was when she was neglecting me for other people, planning on leaving behind my back, and then our conversations were a back and forth of “I did this but you did that” tit for tat sorta thing which struck me like a freight train and in the moment I realized that she isn’t trying to find a solution but rather she’s trying to win. Idk how couples have those conversations but personally if we’re not trying to have a give and take conversation to have a better understanding of the situation…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/03/26 04:24 PM
1	What were the signs you wished you paid more attention to? Her constant need to be center of attention, addiction to TikTok and snapchat, easily agreeable to whoever was around, anger, progressive, in competition with me (not in a playful way), guy friends is the biggest one; I wanted to not be the jealous type but its true about the whole cliche of “he’s just a friend” he’s just a friend for now but really he’s her source for additional male attention and a backup and shes just his way for female attention, in for her friend group, and long term strate…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/26 09:47 PM
2	Maybe Divorce Made Me a Chauvinist Idk know how I could trust again either, unfortunately if I ever find myself in another relationship I will have my reservations but I almost have a pathetic sense of hope that maybe theres still good ones left.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/03/26 08:11 AM
1	Finally the "love" I had for her died. Just filled with anger You don’t need her, at least you got a son out of the deal. Hopefully she didn’t ruin his image of what a decent woman is and a healthy relationship. Might want to mentor him some in that regard when things simmer down a bit. But yeah screw her hopefully she enjoys her new shitty situation lol.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 02:08 PM
7	Life after Divorce Its been terrible lol, the life I was planning on was suddenly ripped away from me. The person that I put at the center of my world and trusted left me, monkey branched, and most likely cheated on me (multiple photos on social media and going on a vacation with a another guy) and did who knows what else. And I’ve been just mourning for the last three years. Im just starting to get past the more emotional phase of things. Worst part now is I’m 34 starting over, wasted these last several years at …	/r/Divorce_Men	21/03/26 12:30 AM
4	After 11 years, I finally filed. Here are the real reasons and they're not what anyone expects It almost seems like they just want the glamour and experience of a wedding and being married like its just a emotional impulse and once the excitement wears off they want to do something to resemble those feelings even if its chaotic and frankly just a dumb idea. I’ll go out on a limb here and by just some observations and deductive reasoning say those open relationships always end up in shambles and unnecessary/preventable dramatic situations at some point.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/03/26 02:18 AM
4	After 11 years, I finally filed. Here are the real reasons and they're not what anyone expects I know a guy at work going through this, idk why its become a thing these days but maybe I have some old school values and the world’s changed.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/03/26 12:05 AM
8	Wife decided we should separate two days ago. Then last night I found her in the back seat of our car with another guy. Fuck. Yeah I would just assume the worst, I hate to say it but something similar happened with me and I needed a friend to just bluntly say it for me to not be in denial. Sorry man, there’s not a whole lot to say besides that you matter and have worth beyond her.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/26 08:13 PM
0	Tell me your thoughts on this video That would be an interesting study to see how it was conducted. I don’t even need to research it to know through some deductive reasoning that we’re going to face a massive elderly problem with less youth to support the old. Also at a certain age life starts to become very lonely to the point where you’re just happy when your kids and grandkids give you a call or come over to visit. Eventually you’ll die and years later no one from your old job is going to be like “remember emily from accounting…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/03/26 03:53 PM
3	Tell me your thoughts on this video Lol his opening statements are a bit over the top. It’s so naive to say women don’t need men when civilized society and this never ending seemingly impossible infrastructure is literally being built and held together by mostly blue collared men. The majority of successful women I know had a man in their life that supported them whether that be a grandfather, father, brother, bf, husband, etc. Yet they always claimed to have done it on their own, but fail to mention that their father paid their r…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/03/26 03:07 PM
1	Friday night, what are we drinking? Vodka mixed with ginger ale. While smoking a fine cigar, grilling a steak, watching the fight and then going to put on a documentary about the civil war Ive been wanting to watch. 🤷‍♂️. It ain’t much but it’s a quiet and peaceful existence, since shes out of the picture anyway.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/03/26 01:20 AM
3	How long before unexpected waves of grief diminished for you? Im on year three, what i can say that might be comforting is that year three is better than year one and year two. It’s gradual and not sudden, the longer and more serious the relationship the longer it takes but every day is one day closer towards healing. It’s a bit of a cliche but it’s true about time healing a broken heart. Limit self destructive behavior as much as possible and give yourself some grace brother you deserve it.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/26 02:46 PM
1	Wife just filed divorce You’re gonna need money for a lawyer. Yeah I would reduce payments, or find a way to take care of your kids. AI is a big help with general questions about legal advice.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/03/26 02:49 AM
6	Feels like a stab to the heart. Welcome aboard; women who leave long term relationships usually think it out prior to acting on it (generally speaking). Honestly, I wouldn’t be trying to find another girl to rebound right away. Focus on yourself and your own personal growth first. Enjoy some peace of mind in the aftermath of this chaos she just triggered.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/03/26 01:17 AM
2	My fiance called me unromantic for wanting a prenup - why is protecting myself controversial? Prenups should be mandatory, it’s just the responsible thing to do and covers things that you should have to talk about before marrying someone anyway. Someone not wanting a prenup is as much of a turn off (maybe in different ways) than someone wanting one, shouldn’t matter its just like doing taxes or making a will there’s nothing sexy about it. We need to normalize prenups, if you don’t then you default to the governments decision making in the event of a fallout so you’re basically saying to …	/r/MensRights	19/02/26 10:05 PM
3	I’m losing interest in ever wanting to be in a relationship again after my divorce 33 and I remember always doing damage control, and always being ready for damage control and now I have peace. I listen to women talk about men with such distain and expectations that just sound exhausting and now I have such peace it’s calming. I miss her feminine energy, companionship, and heck maybe a miss a little bit of the chaos but the pain she caused during the fallout not just to me but many others made me realize that half the chaos she caused during the relationship was self inflicted…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/26 01:08 AM
1	Ex spreading false sexual rumours There’s probably a dude out there with a witty perfect reaction to this but he’s probably not here and is the rarest form of man, we have to believe he exists. Honestly just make money and hit the gym or something, it’s crazy how many times Ive been around women soon after a break up and they start attacking his character. I always scratch my head because its like a week or two right after she was worshipping the guy, so now I kinda don’t believe women when they do that sorta thing or at least I…	/r/Divorce_Men	14/02/26 07:30 PM
2	Seperation with out divorce Kinda confusing since leaving you and separating completely from your sacred union isn’t against their religion but breaking a government contract is. She’s already divorced you in every way it sounds like spiritually just not legally. Whats she gonna say, argue with god that technically she was married to you and never divorced showing the documentation to get off on a technicality lol. I know in my state you can file have them served and if they don’t respond to you after officially being serv…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/26 08:52 PM
4	Wife Said We Are Incompatible With three children including once just recently born you would think that your relationship taking a dive and being put on a back burner would be completely understandable. I swear women think that every chapter in a relationship has to be relevant or meaningful and sometimes it’s just about getting by and making it to the next chapter. Every long term 30 plus year relationship I know of went through a roller coaster of highs/lows and stagnate boring trends. You’re probably gonna need to make p…	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/26 08:32 PM
1	Divorce and Destruction I signed up for therapy sessions once every few weeks. Not a cure, but after doing it for a while I’m starting to appreciate a regular place that lets me ramble for an hour to a person without any relevancy in my life and a legal obligation to keep things confidential	/r/Divorce_Men	11/02/26 08:18 PM
2	Questions for divorced people Some men literally don’t walk away from divorce. Don’t ignore red flags because you’re smitten and prenups are the responsible thing to do	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/26 01:04 PM
3	I am so sad It does get better with time	/r/Divorce_Men	08/02/26 02:16 PM
2	Anyone come out NOT broke? not literally broke but lost some money, I did lose in many ways that were worse than money.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/26 01:24 PM
5	Better as friends than married? Dude you’re still acting like her hubby just not screwing her or getting the respect a man deserves, shes keeping you in the corner as a backup for when she has run through all the pursuing men in her area. Honestly do you think a legit dude with sincere intentions to be with her forever is going to walk in and be okay with her being that close with her ex to the extent that she still wears her ring? The answer is no, even if you want to try and rationalize it somehow and probably true for you a…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/01/26 11:01 PM
1	Give yourself time to heal . Dont rush Id say that’s an accurate observation, I think it has a lot to do with the psychology of men versus women. Men are more aggressive and tend to pursue while women find value in attraction. I do believe in hypergamy and think it’s a contributing factor in women being the majority demographic that initiates divorces. With the idea of hypergamy being marrying up once she settles down and truly recognizes the flaws and downfalls in the man she chose then recognizes her potential for a large pool of m…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/26 11:34 AM
1	My story I did it the first time for traditional and religious purposes. As time went on it felt more like the whole wedding and marriage was a glamour thing, photos for social media, and a flex on her peers. Sometimes I think leaving me was drama that fed into some kind of center of stage entertainment for her and her circle. Kinda freaks me out when I think about it; I do believe in marriage from a religious perspective but culturally its becoming a big time money grabbing market and dog/pony show that…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/01/26 01:06 AM
2	My story Yeah I hear you, I can forgive a person for being flawed and making errors but I’ll never accept it as justified behavior. At the end of the day you can only control so much. Kinda sad but I can understand why man wanting to marry in western culture is in decline.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 10:40 PM
1	My story I can’t stand the phrase “i love you but not in love with you” every woman who is leaving a fair enough guy says that and its so weird. Like I remember when I was told that it messed with my head because she said it like a slogan or catch phrase and I thought to myself what does that even mean you either love someone or you don’t, and I know a person can counter that by saying there’s multiple kinds of love and explain what she meant but I never thought of things in that regard.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 08:07 PM
5	Divorce parties. Honestly divorce parties are sorta sick and twisted imo. Even if you are happy that you got divorced it’s incredibly self absorbed and I would put it up there close to celebrating and being happy over someone’s death. If you see your ex doing something like that then be grateful that you’re not bound to that narcissistic sociopath lol. At most I can respect maybe gathering quietly with a friend/family member or two in the aftermath for something more reasonable and respectful.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 06:26 PM
3	Is your self worth in the toilet? It’s been 2 years for me just starting to feel like theres a light at the end of the tunnel but still have no idea what my future looks like anymore.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 03:58 PM
2	Divorcing because of infidelity. But why do I forget that? I think it’s residual effects like coming down from a drug, recovering, and then wanting the high again because you forgot about the hangover and are focusing on the high. Infidelity is a real son of a bitch and I think it hits us men in ways that are hard to describe and it’s only gotten worse this century. Some people can work past it others can’t. For me it’s all about respect and more specifically respect as a man.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 03:24 PM
3	Ex-wife’s boyfriend loves to talk shit and taunt. Honestly it might sound weird but get a restraining order against the guy. I totally get that you want to knock him on his ass but thats a risky bet. He doesn’t need to be around you and isn’t needed for anything related to your kids thats what their mother is for. Restraining orders are designed to deescalate it’s their entire purpose. You just need to go and file a petition, evidence helps but isn’t always necessary. Besides never having to hear this guy again and at most seeing him from a dis…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/26 03:14 PM
2	Completely Humiliated This sums it up pretty well	/r/Divorce_Men	13/01/26 12:59 PM
1	Wife filed for divorce. Into 4th month. https://youtu.be/yid-CW-O9Qw?si=z3tR3YsvX3SFVDgz Just take it one day at a time and don’t be too hard on yourself.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/01/26 07:07 PM
1	How to forgive Forgiveness is not a simple journey or a yes or no answer. Forgiveness is something you need to explore and spar with, because it’s challenging but a blessing once you come full circle with it. Don’t mistake forgiveness for excepting her decisions or understanding her choices, that’s something completely different. Forgiveness for me is understanding that this person is flawed and misguided in ways that I don’t understand and can’t control just as I am. We all deserve some grace and forgiveness …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/26 01:07 PM
2	Need advice on a situation Lol maybe its the way you worded things here, I can understand a significant other wanting to discuss options and voicing their opinion in respectful and open manner. But you lost me when she said you’re “allowed” to visit and no calls past 6pm. If it was me I would draw the line in the sand and let pieces fall where they may. She can’t just come in to a situation and decide to change everything and tell you how it is, this is the beginning of a possible trend that will spiral unless you stress …	/r/Divorce_Men	30/12/25 12:09 AM
14	She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣 Man child and spousal support is a killing, she might as well tell people shes retired lol. That 16 dollars an hour is just beer and pizza money 😂	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/25 10:32 PM
1	I'm finally ready to move on. Following. Lol. May just give up idk. 33	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/25 06:48 AM
2	Feeling extremely lonely Its gonna take time man don’t be TO hard on yourself because of it. While you’re going through find things in your life to work on so the future healthy you will be happy. I doubled down on my finances, upgraded my apartment, and started taking obsessive care of my car lol. I need to start taking better care of my health but the point being is there’s positive things in your life that are constructive latch on to them and lose yourself in that to help distract yourself and hopefully elevate your…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/12/25 11:57 PM
1	The feeling of being replaced. The common theme I see here is dudes trying to get closure. One of the many things my separation has made me ponder is my faith and forgiveness being the central theme of that faith Ive realized that forgiveness is more than a less or no matter and by forgiving people who have done wrong your saying that you don’t accept or approve of they’re actions but you recognize them for being flawed and imperfect just like everyone of us and you acknowledge that we all deserve some grace from that. I gues…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/12/25 10:11 AM