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I keep thinking about this lol. I learned a lot from the OP and comments. One thing I remember is that my ex would always say “But I work for our family, I help with the kids and I do maintenance and errands. Isn’t that enough?” And I’d always think “I do all those things too partly because that’s just being an adult… and I still manage to love and care for your emotional needs and emotional life”. To him, the second part was “extra” and I was expecting too much. But to me, I felt like I was onl…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 01:19 PM
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I think the women might think, in the terms you set out, that the labor of the wife role isn’t worth it if the emotional needs aren’t met. So they leave to not have that labor in addition to unmet needs. This is a guess though
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 01:37 PM
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It helps me understand men more
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/25 06:59 PM
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I think this is a good idea and a good idea for divorced women too
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 11:10 AM
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That’s part of the thing. No one wants to be with a partner who believes they’re with them bc they can’t do better. They’re like, “that’s my girlfriend and I think she is too low value for others” in this reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 02:27 PM
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Some men say they’re letting you take the lead in your “dream” and then their bitterness and resentment that they can’t admit to themselves leads to them sabotaging you on that path. I’m not saying that it isn’t pragmatic to have the man lead with his “dream” in the couple, but it’s not necessarily something that should be done in a relationship simply because at the end of the day women want “the alpha” and will leave otherwise. That’s not an exhaustive explanation. A lot of times, she just doe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 05:20 AM
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Well if he is psycho enough to kill his wife he probably shouldn’t have had the kids anyways
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:42 AM
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Donate to something neutral and just leave it at that
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 02:42 PM
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I’m sorry. It just sounds like you describe her in a way most woman wouldn’t like but I judged too much. I’ll pray for you. Hang in there in your healing ❤️‍🩹
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 10:27 PM
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Probably the way you speak of her was really clear in how you treated her. Why cry over spilled milk you apparently despised
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 09:12 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 09:28 PM
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Keep going, I don’t know specifics of better advice but I do know that I have thought many times there is something beautiful in two people coming together with mutual feelings, bc the experience of life just naturally a lot of times is that we don’t match up that way, we hold a candle or one is held for us. I’m happily partnered and have had several good relationships but have faced rejection, too. Keep going you are very brave
/r/ExRedPill11/11/24 05:57 PM
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Are you looksmatching to girls, or aiming a lot higher?
/r/ExRedPill11/11/24 02:53 PM
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Again, where are you getting your information? A lot of women do know how to self pleasure, and a lot of women enjoy sex. This is all very specious speculation about something you would have very little reason to have first hand knowledge of a large sample for. It isn’t about being a rockstar. Female sexuality is just more complicated than male orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 07:12 PM
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But how do you know about what kinds of partners they are but their own self reporting of what kind of husbands they make? This just seems like a very specious way of collecting information for a lot of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 07:04 PM
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I think if the men were good at sex, the women would indulge. I suspect it’s possible that the man may be causing his own problem. If sex feels good or isn’t a chore, you’re gonna keep going back for more
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:37 PM
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If you’ve been in such a long term relationship how do you know so much about what “most” women do sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:31 PM
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I hope it’s ok in the long run for both of you
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 05:50 PM
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I think that I alone language probably destroys marriages before they’ve actually ended. I suspect - I could be wrong. You earned together because she made the conditions of your earning possible as you worked as a team, just like you made the home possible. Just for the sake of ultimate reunification when that is what people are looking for for healing their relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 03:43 PM
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That’s good, that makes a lot of sense to me
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 01:24 PM
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In another post he said they both worked. The other post just sounds even more like I have talked about in this comment - she sounds burnt out and like there wasn’t a lot of caretaking reciprocity (that doesn’t have to be true, but it’s seemingly what she self reports). As an aside, thanks for sharing about your wife. That does sound very frustrating. My sense though when women are told that they lived off the money of their husband as SAHM (which is extremely demanding unpaid labor that doesn’t…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 01:12 PM
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I came from your other post and I think there are some important tells here that you can think about it when trying to understand what has happened- it doesn’t sound like a personality change to me. 1) she doesn’t want to fight over the house and is content for you to have it -The house is very big and she probably put a lot of labor into it for years, and is desiring independence and smaller spaces (less work for upkeep). 2) she has diminished patience for you during and after a period of serio…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 01:01 PM
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I think when women grow old if they have been caretakers their whole life and not felt much cared for by their husband they look at the time left and decide they don’t want to spend what’s left on earth for them continuing to play that role. They want to do things they didn’t get to do before if they feel being a devoted wife left them with nothing much than more asks from the husband. If she left you this late in the game she has likely been thinking of this at least for a decade. She doesn’t w…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 12:42 PM
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You’ve got this! You have to let go of the past for the sake of your future
/r/ExRedPill01/11/24 03:05 AM
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It’s really brave and also manly in the best sense of the word to admit when you’re at fault. Most people don’t get out of this once they’re sucked in. Sounds like your algorithm is looping you in and wanting you to get stuck in that anger and mental drain
/r/ExRedPill27/10/24 03:18 PM
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Maybe I am, but it’s still a reasonable point, and it’s a point about nurture rather than nature. Men are raised with their moms doing everything for them and in the west generally speaking women are expected much earlier to learn how to take care of themselves in this way. What this results in is men facing a vacuum that they want to fill to replace their mom (+sex).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 06:11 PM
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Bc a woman doesn’t need a man for those things, she can do them for herself and if she’s alone she misses the labor of being a mom/maid to a certain kind of man
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/24 03:15 PM
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I think that’s because men’s emotions are often expressed as anger and that’s scary. There’s the threat of violence
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 12:13 PM
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I think it’s because a romantic relationship also gets a man often times emotional care, regular sex, housekeeping and a cook. They feel sad alone bc having a bangmaid/mom is a cushy life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 12:06 PM
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