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Tesatire/r/seduction18/08/13 09:44 AM
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Also don't argue but if you disagree with something, show you are willing to say so. Most guys placate, agree with everything, are afraid to disagree. Be willing to say you see things differently. Having a backbone is really attractive even if she doesn't agree with your view point. That could spark some very interesting conversation if she's open to hearing opposing views and discussing them.
/r/seduction18/01/18 06:20 PM
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People do that. Not just girls.
/r/seduction10/02/16 05:16 AM
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. Text should only be used to set up a date and that should happen in 5-6 texts total. Just a question on this, do you mean with a girl that you already know? Or with any girl, once you get her number you should set up a date within 5-6 texts?
/r/seduction18/09/15 07:09 PM
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I know it's the man's job to go after what he wants, but if you don't know a girl exists, it's hard to 'go after' them And this is where people need to start changing their mindset. It's a human's job to act on their own feelings/desires in a safe and legal way. If I (a girl) have a crush on a guy and want it enough then I should make a move (and have many times). If I don't act then it's my own fault and I know that, but sometimes me not acting on it is because I really don't think it would be …
/r/seduction19/08/15 04:40 PM
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I got tested, results were negative and took the antibiotics anyway just in case.
/r/seduction28/05/15 04:07 AM
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I used to have an "arrangement" with a guy. We met up semi-frequently for sex, got along well, talked occasionally but he wasn't necessarily a friend. There was definitely not any exclusivity. My understanding was that he used condoms outside of our arrangement so we decided not to worry too hard about using them. Maybe 25% of the time we didn't have a condom for round 2 but went for it anyways. Apparently he didn't wear condoms with the other girl though. He wound up getting chlamydia from a gi…
/r/seduction27/05/15 08:13 PM
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I used to say that I didn't find bald guys attractive because it was weird. Then I met a great guy that was bald and dated him for almost 6 months. One of the hottest guys in my history of dating. SO! it depends on the girl and the guy. I know I'm not much help.
/r/seduction17/03/15 08:05 PM
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You're now my hero. I've almost unsubscribed a few times because of the recent mindset change. It's all superficial and fake lately and has been driving me crazy.
/r/seduction21/02/13 04:36 AM
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I'd probably laugh hysterically at that one.
/r/seduction01/02/13 01:32 AM
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The "I'm sorry, who?" is pretty horrible from both sides...
/r/seduction31/01/13 10:10 PM
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You mean the second comes off as potentially arrogant/assholish. right? I'd probably be irritated if a guy did this to me and we weren't talking already. It'd be funnier/cuter for a pickup (while not already having conversation) if he caught me for the second I'm away getting another round and said "Hey, I can see that you're busy and having fun, but I'd like to flirt with you sometime." Then either ask for my number or ask for me to come visit later in the evening. I'd very likely go hit him up…
/r/seduction31/01/13 09:55 PM
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Allow me to clarify, I don't hunt anymore. I have a steady FWB scenario so I am not out looking for sex. When I go out, I am literally just out to have a good time with friends. I am not trying to pick up on men just for the sake of doing so. I don't feel the need to lower my standards because I am not trying to get something quickly or frequently elsewhere. I don't mind my life as it is now. I am having consistent and great sex, I have a family and friend circle that I care deeply about and a g…
/r/seduction28/12/12 04:09 PM
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Haha, thanks... I rarely find someone in a room that I find attracted to enough to approach. But when I find one, I go for it. If it works, awesome. If it doesn't then I don't mind either. Que sera, sera.
/r/seduction28/12/12 08:47 AM
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Which is why I ask for clarification on he situation so I know either to flirt, decline or carry on with conversation.
/r/seduction28/12/12 08:28 AM
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I'd rather ask then assume. I don't assume that all guys that approach me are trying to hit on me. My family has a common character trait where we tend to make friends everywhere, why can't I meet other people that are genuinely just trying to have a good conversation with someone. I have friends that are the exact same way. it would seem that I tend to draw that type of person in. Now, if he walks across the room to talk with me, ya I am assuming that he is planning on hitting on me. But the gu…
/r/seduction27/12/12 09:58 PM
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Girl here, if I asked a guy that, it's me trying to find out what his intentions are. Is he actually trying to pick up on one of us or was he genuinely just making conversation.
/r/seduction27/12/12 08:23 PM
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I genuinely and truly do believe that you need to be upfront about something like that. It is a 1000 times easier to maintain a healthy option of FWB when both people are participating with the same mentality.
/r/seduction20/07/12 04:13 PM
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Girl here. 100% with you.
/r/seduction11/07/12 08:28 PM
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Oddly enough I think that was said to me. Blew my mind and made me laugh.
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:55 AM
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I actually like breathing though my nose and if you remove it I might have some difficulty.
/r/seduction07/07/12 05:32 AM
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lmao
/r/seduction03/07/12 08:27 PM
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I appreciate that you are trying to help someone here, but please don't assume to know what I have experienced or my motivations. And typically, a girl would like to know the name of the guy that is talking to her at the bar if she is interested. So at some point, he would have to introduce himself.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:59 PM
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No, no I wouldn't. Just so you know, I don't usually like it when guys buy me a drink, but that is me specific. I am fine with friends buying rounds or trading round purchases with a potential interest, but I am perfectly capable of ordering and paying for my own drink.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:57 PM
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I used to work the sales floor at a clothing store that pushed the concept of "Never ask a question that can be answered with yes/no. Always ask a question that opens up a conversation." I take that with me. Instead of a general complaint as you stated, I would say something along the lines of "How long have you guys been trying to get the bartenders attention?" and don't act irritated by the situation.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:55 PM
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It didn't work because I had another date lined up for that evening after I finished my drink. Otherwise I would have taken an interest.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:52 PM
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You would get a decent impression of the kind of girl she is. I may only drink girly drinks, but I do attempt to know more than what I want to drink. Besides, you don't have to order that and it opens up the possibility of teasing her about her suggestions.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:51 PM
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LOL, that's hilarious. Please don't touch my nose though. lol
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:50 PM
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Haha, That goes for everything. I was just sharing what would work on me. I didn't mean to attempt to re-route the plan or anything.
/r/seduction03/07/12 03:47 PM
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Sometimes it's commenting on the service at the bar or the ambience or decor of the room. Ask me what I would reccomend for a drink because you feel like trying something new, the options are plenty. I had one guy come up to me at a karaoke place and ask me "If you could hear any song right now, what would you want to hear?" He obviously was asking so that he could sing it to me, which was adorable. He was maybe a little too drunk and I a little too sober, but it was a good line.
/r/seduction02/07/12 08:09 PM
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Personally, I always find it a bit awkward when a guy doesn't release my hand after the handshake. The better tip for me would be for a guy to come up with a decent conversation starter, do an exchange and then say "I'm sorry, my name is [fill in your name here]" then handshake. Makes me feel like the connectin was made casually instead of set up.
/r/seduction02/07/12 06:22 PM
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lol.
/r/seduction25/06/12 05:13 PM
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What exactly is a seddit "lair"?
/r/seduction25/06/12 03:36 PM
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Girls can sometimes be the best wingmen. Not necessarily me, but I have a friend that was helping out a guy because he has a lot to offer, has confidence but has problem with the approaching step. She was awesome and meeting some cute girls and passing them off to him and quickly disappearing. It was great to watch.
/r/seduction25/06/12 03:30 PM
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This is probably the most accurate statement.
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:09 PM
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I am sorry that it comes out that way, I was trying to be blunt and honest. I genuinely do not consider myself shallow and if I have somehow offended you then there is nothing I can do about that.
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:08 PM
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I don't care about getting downvoted. And when I find someone that I actually am attracted to I generally do make the first move. I have been doing it for nearly 10 years now.
/r/seduction25/05/12 03:07 PM
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I am told by people that I wind up later befriending at bars that I come off as "taken" or intimidating. So it is entirely possible that I repel guys. But when I mean that guys hit on me jokingly when they know they don't have a chance, it's like a guy will come up and make a statement to me that can be a good opening line and then walk away before I have a chance to respond. Or a guy will literally say, "I know I don't have a chance with you but..." often times I will wind up hanging out with t…
/r/seduction24/05/12 08:48 PM
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define what you mean by this part: women who get hit on but then dismiss them Having a guy yell "hey baby" as you are walking down the street doesn't count as being hit on. Cuz that's what I deal with. I get jokingly hit on a lot by guys that know that they don't have a chance and don't even expect a reaction and rarely by guys that are actually trying to get my number.
/r/seduction24/05/12 08:17 PM
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I second this. The sides have the beginning but no continuation! FTFY getting into a relationship is not the end, but the continuation of something potentially amazing.
/r/seduction14/05/12 03:44 PM
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I think you might be me. lol. Everything you said, I wanted to say. Everything you asked, I was about to ask. It's hard to find a great summary on how to maintain a happy healthy relationship and the guidelines laid out above are perfect.
/r/seduction14/05/12 03:41 PM
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I appreciate your comment by the way. I really don't feel that I should be seen as intimidating.
/r/seduction21/11/11 04:00 PM
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Here, because I am asked repeatedly for a pic in this thread, I will post it here. http://imgur.com/a/6b6o1 From the Reddit Halloween party. I consider this a horrible pic of me btw, I look really washed out and some of my reddit friends that were at the party agreed that it isn't an incredibly accurate pic of me from that night.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:47 PM
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No. I apparently didn't make myself clear in my initial post. I know that if I made the move, if I approached the guy, I could easily take them home. I have no doubt about that. I lived it for two years... But after living it for two years, I am sick of constantly being the one to make the first move. Now, I wait. I want to be picked up on, I don't want to make the initial contact. It is the lack of men actually making the first move that results in my lack of sex currently.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:30 PM
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I would probably redirect the conversation to discuss the article that he read, his opinion on the issue, etc. Maybe if we actually hit it off, he would getthe real answer. But I tend to be a fan of the non-pickup lines, the ones that don't really come off as a pick up line but you know it is one.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:23 PM
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haha. thanks.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:22 PM
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If I get to a year, I will give up on seeing if a guy makes a move.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:21 PM
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Don't ever not make a move on a girl for fear of competition, first of all. If the other guys were real competition then they would either already get her into their bed, or it's obviously already a sealed deal. Second, I discussed this with a friend of mine. She said that I tend to look extremely comfortable and confident when I am out and about, like I have no insecurities. So, she said that she can understand how that would be intimidating for men... I can kind of understand that I guess.
/r/seduction21/11/11 03:21 PM
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I am capable of having sex with lots of people, yes. Anyone? no. Also, it isn't about me getting what I want. If you read my initial statement, I was saying that I am tired of chasing. So, in other words, if I don't make the move, the move typically won't happen at all. That is my point. That is the thing I would like for guys to stop. The worst thing that can happen is nothing. If a girl acts like a bitch when turning down a guy (whatever her reasons may be) then she is a bitch and not worth hi…
/r/seduction18/11/11 11:38 PM
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Entirely possible. I also know me and understand me more than a person across the bar watching. So, I can explain what I do. This would be an interesting experiment... lol
/r/seduction18/11/11 11:36 PM
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I would believe that. But I small talk. I don't have great jokes or dominate conversations. I just look like a social butterfly a little bit. I am happy when I am out and about.
/r/seduction18/11/11 11:25 PM
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The only think that actually made sense in your statement is that you get laid and don't ever trust women. I did not post anything to troll anyone in here. I really don't find any humor in trolling and it actually pisses me off. So sorry, your accusations are inaccurate.
/r/seduction18/11/11 11:17 PM
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I have no idea. I consider myself a confident, attractive, friendly person. I people watch a lot and I do allow myself to separate from my friends. I chat with the bartenders and random people in the bar at random. I have absolutely no idea what people consider intimidating. Recently (and I was shocked and amused by this one) there was a guy at this bar that I thought was fucking gorgeous. But I was out to have fun and not necessarily LOOKING to get laid, so I didn't make a move. I continued on …
/r/seduction18/11/11 10:56 PM
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With effort looking through my post history. Or looking for the reddit halloween thread and matching names.
/r/seduction18/11/11 10:44 PM
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haha I don't have a bar. I am all over the place in my town. And no, leaving LA is not an option.
/r/seduction18/11/11 10:43 PM
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flirting is fine, the game is the following... month or so if things keep up.
/r/seduction18/11/11 10:42 PM
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hahaha That would be hysterical. I go to meetups sometimes, we should try it out. Would honestly be better if we were physical opposites (blonde vs brown etc).
/r/seduction18/11/11 09:16 PM
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I have been told that by guys that I wound up approaching and by friends that I have made that initially considered me a sexual interest. I really have no idea how I am intimidating.
/r/seduction18/11/11 08:57 PM
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I completely agree. Games are stupid and I wish they weren't necessary. However our culture is designed in such a way that if you don't play ANY games than you are negatively labeled. It's lame. I am hoping that people grow out of with with age, just before I forget what everything is used for.
/r/seduction18/11/11 08:56 PM
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LA, California, USA
/r/seduction18/11/11 08:54 PM
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ಠ_ಠ lol. Can't right now, but I posted one from the reddit halloween party here in LA.
/r/seduction18/11/11 08:54 PM
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Typically I tend to make friends at bars and things. I don't know how or why, but I tend to eventually have lots of one night only bar friends. Alcohol brings people together, and I will often start converstaions easily with someone I am not attracted to. Some of those friends I make actually stick around beyond the one night. Through these friends sometimes they themselves or one of their friends will eventually admit that they wanted to hit on me that night but they thought that I was intimida…
/r/seduction18/11/11 08:52 PM
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Hi. Girl here. Going on 7 months with a lack of sex. Honestly, this is true. When I am out and about at a bar or whatever, I am not opposed to going home with someone. But I have the problem where guys often "find me intimidating". I have never understood that. But unless I make the first move, nothing is happening for the most part. I used to just go out and get whatever guy I wanted, but I am tired of chasing. So, there are women out there who don't want to chase, but don't mind being taken ho…
/r/seduction18/11/11 06:24 PM
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It would have been something that I said.
/r/seduction06/09/11 02:43 PM
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I (female) was a 16 year old dating a 24 year old as a kid. From my perspective, it was no big deal. But know this, she will develop emotions whether or not you want her to. And you are currently in a position to become the best thing she has ever had. Do NOT let that go on the side. I still drift into thought about that relationship. On one hand, I couldn't believe it happened, on the other, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I learned more from that one relationship than any of my others.
/r/seduction04/08/11 08:38 PM
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Oh. Take turns. He eats while she talks. He talks while she eats. It's a trade off. That is an incredibly easy part for me. If there is chemistry then conversation will flow.
/r/seduction07/07/11 04:45 PM
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That is actually fairly normal. I do the same thing, it takes longer for me to decide what to eat because in the back of my head I always think that every little thing about the food I am eating is adding to my being judged. My standard is to order something simple and I can usually only make it about halfway through whatever I have ordered.
/r/seduction07/07/11 02:13 PM
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In my experience the single people at weddings will definitely be looking a little awkward. That is typically because weddings are swarming with couples. So, keep an eye out and make sure to keep conversation up.
/r/seduction06/07/11 09:09 PM
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Thank you. He doesn't need to be a jerk about it. He can dance with her, say thank you and walk away. Most girls will not chase down a guy that walked away from her, regardless of how politely he did it. And if a girl he could have a connection with sees him treating her like a jerk, he may have blown his chances there too.
/r/seduction13/06/11 10:43 PM
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It is really unnecessary and bad.
/r/seduction10/06/11 07:32 PM
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This is probably not the right subreddit for you. But it's difficult sometimes to figure that out. Anyway, to me, it sounds like she still cares about you a lot, but she is crazy. Not violently crazy, so that will make things difficult if you try to get the kids. But crazy enough for you to understand that you need to make sure to be in their lives so that they have someone level headed to look after them. Next time she says anything to you about her current status in a bragging manner, let her …
/r/seduction10/06/11 03:24 PM
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If that is your reaction to children than you should never have them. Child support and legal obligation stops. Being a parent is never done.
/r/seduction09/06/11 09:12 PM
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For life. Having a kid doesn't only effect you for 18 years, that is just the child support. Then the kid has to go to college, and even as an adult still depends on their parents for things. Do NOT have sex without a condom. Just try different condoms or use lube or something. Also, are you sure you are the only one she is having sex with? STDs spread dude.
/r/seduction09/06/11 08:43 PM
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I see you have been downvoted. I am giving you an upvote because I swear to god the guy I am talking to has probably taken a class explaining just this. And it works wonders for him, I am definitely chasing.
/r/seduction27/05/11 02:53 PM
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I don't think that you are required to pay CS if you give up all rights. but I would definitely check with a lawyer. I understand that you don't want to make things easy for your ex but make sure that you aren't making things difficult for your child. You should try to talk to your daughter and see how she feels about this whole scenario.
/r/MensRights28/06/10 06:02 AM
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In California, a child 8 years old and up can choose what parent they wish to live with, or at least state their preference and it weighs heavily on a judge. try to write your dad a letter without your mom knowing telling him what is going on and how you feel.
/r/MensRights24/06/10 02:57 AM
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good catch on that line though. I didn't even notice. I filled in my own story. Your research was very informative and confused my decision on this scenario much more. Personally, I would rather be informed and confused then un-informed and decided. Thank You.
/r/MensRights21/06/10 04:57 PM
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If you notice, most of the posts are from the moderator.
/r/MensRights18/06/10 09:17 PM
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Now what does peeve me is that there is no expectation for the person receiving child support to spend any of their own money. That is what needs to change. Thank you. That is my biggest annoyance with the system. I agree that their needs to be a better way to monitor child support money, however the courts do not have the time to monitor it themselves. If you know that your ex (and the primary caregiver for your child) is using your child support payments to do things unrelated, get an attorney…
/r/MensRights17/06/10 03:10 PM
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OK. I get what you are saying here now. Thank you. I thought that you were saying that the outcome of the accusation would have been different based on gender. But yes, I agree with you that Fantasysage's comments was wrong.
/r/MensRights17/06/10 03:02 PM
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I don't understand how that conclusion was drawn.
/r/MensRights17/06/10 02:27 PM
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I don't understad... Apparently not what?
/r/MensRights16/06/10 09:52 PM
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Hence the request for 25 million dollars. They ruined her career. Trying to get that back is difficult and she will never go back to the way things were. They screwed up her life enough that they should have to pay her enough money that she doesn't have to work anymore.
/r/MensRights16/06/10 09:48 PM
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That sounds very promising!
/r/MensRights16/06/10 09:47 PM
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I didn't realize that was what that link was. I don't have access to that link while I am at work. Thanks for pointing that out though. I am happy someone posted that link.
/r/MensRights15/06/10 10:32 PM
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I think that this is the kind of thing that needs to be stopped, not worked around. I thought that reddit is a community of people who are willing to do what is necessary to take on debates that are not fair head on. In this case everyone seems to be running for the hills. I am very disappointed with reddit and the police in that community. I hope that the parents of that 14-year old get all of the press and attorneys they need to fight this.
/r/MensRights15/06/10 07:58 PM
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That is a little disappointing.
/r/MensRights14/06/10 03:03 PM
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Readers, I am just curious. What is the difference between masculinity and being macho? I subscribed to this subreddit because I would like to understand the male brain more than my current abilities. To me, being macho and being masculine are two severely different things. Please enlighten me.
/r/MensRights11/06/10 08:18 PM
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That is not the surrounding that I grew up in. My family is a bunch of failures and that comes with positives and negatives. Positive = they encourage all of the young ones to do anything, so long as they break the family track records of: *getting into abusive relationships *becoming an addict *being a complete asshole *teen pregnancy *poor Negative = Because of the above circumstances, they emotionally support us but cannot lead, cannot assist, and cannot prepare us. Very few of my family memb…
/r/MensRights11/06/10 03:06 PM
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I had thought that you were referring to teen to adult girls previously. Little boys have just as much encouragement to do whatever they want as girls do. I think that you are trying really hard to make a point on a non-existant issue. Do not misread me, I do believe that reverse-sexism completely exists. But I do not see the case proven either in this discussion or in the article linked above. That article stated what it considers a fact without providing any evidence or research to prove it's …
/r/MensRights10/06/10 04:03 PM
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I would agree that often times girls are encouraged to go out and have fun and be proud of whatever it is they are. But I haven't really seen anything that points guys in any direction, whether it be to be proud or ashamed of any aspect of their life. Personally, I see this point more of the fact that women need more encouraging then men do. I am not sure what that kind of attitude or behavior towards children has to do with the context of this conversation.
/r/MensRights09/06/10 09:45 PM
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Girls are being told that they can be anything. Go anywhere, do anything. That it's OK to be curvy (or even fat), to be thin, to be "feminine" or "masculine", to play sports or just watch players' muscles. They are encouraged to take more space, make more noise and so on. Which they should. They should be able to try to achieve anything. But boys are still "just boys", and should never ever hit girls. Yeesh. This statement confuses me. When are men told that they can't be any of the things that …
/r/MensRights09/06/10 09:29 PM
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But... How... Wha... I just don't understand how she was capable of applying enough force to rip it off. And then to put it in her mouth and attempt to swallow it. And... as the friend, my reaction would have been a little more than "That's yours." What the hell kind of party was this? And what was this woman on?
/r/MensRights03/06/10 10:25 PM
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I believe the feminists he was referring to are actually the women activist groups mentioned in the article. It was poorly worded, but it seemed that his reaction to angry "feminists" is wtf, but it was not surprising...
/r/MensRights02/06/10 09:11 PM
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i agree that there is definitely some flaw with the company as well. It is not legal to discriminate.
/r/MensRights27/05/10 12:37 AM
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A man doesn't take off 3 months to have a baby or abortion or anything. yes it is most important to take care of yourself, but don't go to a job where they are expecting you to make a full time career out of it.
/r/MensRights27/05/10 12:30 AM
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I am not saying that all women who get pregnant while working are being manipulative. I was referring to women as a group in that intentionally alter the truth even though it is not beneficial for the company that they wish to work for. OP later said that when point blank asked if the female in question had intentions of having children soon she said no. Not long after she got pregnant and told everyone at the office they had been trying since the honeymoon. She lied about whether she was wantin…
/r/MensRights26/05/10 10:15 PM
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I am very happy that this company was capable of getting around having to pay for her to go on maternity leave. That was a horrendous thing for her to do. Good point, most people don't sue for this kind of activity. So they will never get caught.
/r/MensRights26/05/10 08:30 PM
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A) That is completely manipulative of these woman. It is irritating that they willingly put themselves and the companies into these positions. B) That is totally illegal for your company to do. But I totally understand your motive.
/r/MensRights26/05/10 07:25 PM
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I could not agree with you more. I get severely irritated when woman rant and rave about being passed up for a promotion because of their gender and really it was because they have a poor work ethic. Just because there was a time in history where women were held back (both by their own gender and the opposite) doesn't mean that you get a head start above the rest. Work your ass off from the bottom of the company just like everyone else! You must pay your dues. I never really have understood the …
/r/MensRights26/05/10 06:04 PM
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Thank You.
/r/MensRights24/05/10 05:46 PM
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I border Libertarian and Democratic. I am a big supporter of man's right to declare non-interest in an unintended pregnancy. Also, I dislike the split the belongings during a divorce 50/50. Personally, i think that you should take out what you brought in. OP: I am a girl in support of men's rights. I don't know if that is okay with what you are looking for.
/r/MensRights21/05/10 08:46 PM
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I am a woman who is very sensitive on the topic of rape. However, I fully support the idea of keeping an accused rapist private. How many lives can be ruined because of a false accusation? The answer should be zero, but it is not.
/r/MensRights21/05/10 07:35 PM
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