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I was privileged before because you told me so. Such an expert on other's lives. Is it cold up there in the stratosphere as you look down on all of us? So judgemental and so sure you know it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:20 PM
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There are women no one picks and who would be slammed down quickly too. Or be only fit for men to use. You think women do not get hurt? Try and be the one who was good enough to live with and give your best years too and then he walks away because it does not want it to last.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 09:01 PM
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What do they call mens?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:55 PM
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Only talking to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:54 PM
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I was too busy doing what needed to be done to worry about privilege. When I was young there were no SAHF. Now there are and they face some of the same garbage than women faced when they went into traditional men's jobs in the 70s and 80s. I saw a woman manager fired from her job simply because she was a woman. SAHF may take some stuff but I would not be throwing any garbage their way and no one can fire them. Was I privileged when I was pregnant? Giving birth or doing so many night feeds I walk…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:30 PM
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I was a SAHM for about 10 years. I also took care of a little boy for extra cash because I do really like children and I could manage him easily enough. We are still friends decades later. I had problems with only one friend during this period because I think she was insecure in having to work. She had picked out a great day care and went everyday during lunch to be with him but she was not at peace with her decision. The rest of the world feminists had no problem with it. I never knew a lazy SA…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 12:15 PM
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What man do you think every woman would say yes too? He does not exist. However, the women who are interested will probably surround him so it will appear like no one would say no. Someone who is truly not interested in one night stands is not going to be a one night stand with anyone. If I do not know someone I am never sure how to take it if a man compliments me. There are a few who can do it in a non creepy way but I suggest you be very careful with it. If I know you and we are friends, I sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:53 AM
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No, we will not. There is no good reason for him to not ask either if he is interested. I am not adverse to a woman asking but why should we have to do this? We carry the reproductive and much of the emotional load. Exactly, what do you guys expect? Everything done for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:53 PM
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How do we know he does not have a problem. It will not be any safer.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:14 PM
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Sometimes we do have a sense. Sometimes we do not. We do not use crystal balls.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:46 PM
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Definitely written by a man who does not want to ask a woman on a date. He would prefer her to do the work. I can see it a year later. It is better for the women to do all the housework because then the man knows she truly cares. And so on and so forth. How exactly is a woman safer if she does the approaching? How does she know that he's not violent? We are no mind readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 02:47 PM
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Maria Theresa of Austria was attacked by Fredrick of Prussia simply because she was a woman and he thought her weak. Do you think the lesson there was not to be more vigilant and aggressive? Elizabeth 1 and Maria Theresa of Austria ruled during the religious wars in Europe. They were extremely violent times. The Netherlands spend 80 years at war with Phillip II of Spain over catholicism and protestants. I am somehow amazed with that 27% going to women rulers knowing the brutal history of Europe.…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:00 PM
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Matilda's actions were typical of a monarch who was fighting to keep the crown. She was no worse than any man of those times. She treated her cousin Stephen similar to how he treated members of her family. She was heavy handed but not cruel. https://www.historyhit.com/why-did-two-namesake-queens-fight-for-the-english-crown/#:~:text=Queen%20Matilda%2C%20however%2C%20immediately%20demanded,to%20endorse%20the%20new%20regime It was more a fight of Matildas. Stephen's wife Matilda was more astute tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:28 AM
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So Ferdinand and Albert get no responsibility? Ferdinand was Isabella's political equal. Elizabeth 1 had the Spanish armada come after her to dispose her and return England to Catholicism. Also, single women rulers were more likely to be attacked. Married female rulers had their husbands as advisors. Albert advised Victoria and Ferdinand led the troops into battle. Perhaps you should do some reading about the Plantagenets? They were incredibly violent. Or let's discuss the two world wars of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 09:32 PM
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I know of no woman who believes women do not commit crime. Seriously, this is an exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:57 PM
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It is a good laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:42 PM
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No, it is not. If I was interested in a man, he would have to smell right too. So cut the cologne. I love snuggling my husband and nestling my nose into his chest. When you fall for a man your brain can lose its common sense and this is why humans can end up in trouble. We can be intelligent people but our minds are ignoring red flags. You have to be able to get a hold of yourself and think because whatever is going on is not thinking. It's chemical.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:10 PM
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There is a lot involved with dating, but with taking care of yourself you have eliminated the turn offs. You could do all those things and not appeal to me. There's chemistry involved. A sense of humour makes me curious. A sense of safety can make me stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:06 PM
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You are just full of yourself. You know what I feel but I do not? How do you even know what I sit with? You have a personal issue and you should be working on it, not dumping on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:00 PM
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You might be single for even longer with no hobbies, friends, fitness or hygiene and bad character is a big turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:37 PM
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Geez there's nothing like your morning coffee and finding out I am responsible for the lynchings of males in the past. Where is that article about young men using moral outrage to try and win points? You are just so emotional and unrealistic. Can I suggest a lie down so you can return your equilibrium to normal. You might be able to come down from your pedestal later if you do. If you're a judge and you know who you are sentencing has a higher chance of recidivism because they have a gambling ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:48 PM
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Men rage pill and go off on tangents too. Some of them can never be wrong. Or there's this moral outrage BS I run into too. https://www.psypost.org/young-men-use-moral-outrage-to-claim-status-in-political-debates/ I have no problems with judges judging criminals during sentencing. They have to figure out if they are likely to reoffend. I would be light with first or 2nd time offenders but if I had someone with a list I would be using all the information I knew to judge them. I find it hilarious …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:22 AM
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I think that if it was a violent offence I would be more likely to give a longer sentence. However, women are less violent than men and that should be taken into consideration when evaluating the sentence. https://bjs.ojp.gov/press-release/recidivism-females-released-state-prison-2012-2017 The recidivism rates are lower though I do expect if criminal offences are increasing amongst women it should be reevaluated. I believe prison reform is badly needed. I think that for many rehabilitation could…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:53 AM
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The problem with women banking in the 1900s is they could do it if they had their husband's signature. In 1885 a husband could sell his wife's property without her permission. (this is for the US) I have never heard or seen anyone ridicule National Men's Mental Health Month. Mental health is really important. Could I see a source for this ridicule? Trust me, though women do get ridiculed for things like PMS, hormone changes, and many other things. The draft, it does not exist yet in the US. I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:33 AM
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I think one of the ways of measuring DV and abuse of intimate partners and comparing it fairly is comparing homicide deaths. In 2021, 1690 women were killed by intimate partners. 1078 men were killed by intimate partners. However, the statistics got muddy when I tried to figure out if self-defence was an issue in any of the women murdering their partners. There were statements that it was an issue but I could not find any real information that supported this. There are more women than men in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:52 PM
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I think the reason men get less leeway is because they can be more violent if they respond. Certainly the incel mass murders are a concern. Whatever we say, women do not usually commit mass murder. I was born in 1960 though and I can tell you there was a lot of garbage thrown at women in the 70s and 80s. Calendars of women in mail rooms, ignorant comments and I saw men actually bring down a manager because she was a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:49 PM
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One study found female drivers were 23% less likely to be ticketed, 55% less likely to be arrested, and 76% less likely to be searched at traffic stops. It is almost like the cops understand that we are risk adverse. We really do not like to go around with drugs or guns. Sure there are a few psychopathic women but not usually. I do not think that women cannot commit abuse or rape but I do think it has suddenly been acknowledged and now people are going to go a bit of the railings with it. It is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:44 PM
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Do you have a source for women being guilty of more online rhetoric and misandry behaviour?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:23 PM
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Incel mass murders: 2014 Isla Vista, CA killing spree 2015 Roseburg, OR 10 killed 2017 Aztec, NM 2 high school students 2018 Toronto, ON van attack killing 10 2020 Glendale, AZ 3 injured 2021 Plymouth, UK killed 5 2023 Allen, TX killed 8 (not just incel, white supremacist too) Let's be honest, women do not usually pick up guns and go looking to punish a gender by killing them. I do not know one woman who wants men exterminated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:35 AM
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How about we talk about the prosecutors that stopped the investigations into Epstein allowing him to continue his activities for decades? What about the victims who have spoken up? How often were they ignored? I suggest you look up the Rotherham Child Exploitation Scandal and see how many men failed the victims. They were girls. So you get to pick who you defend in the manosphere but I cannot? I am guilty of all the radical feminists but you are free to say, I had no part in this. How markedly u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:35 AM
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I did not remember it perfectly. However read points 4 and 5 of this article: https://www.straitstimes.com/world/united-states/8-things-you-need-to-know-about-mackenzie-soon-to-be-ex-wife-of-amazon-founder I expect you can say that without her things would have been different. She was married to him for 25 years. She cared for their children. There is no reason why she would not deserve half. Did your wife nurse a newborn? Did she do the 2 hour feeds? Did you help? The first 3 months are very ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 10:31 PM
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We can say the same thing about the manosphere. They just arrested Andrew Tate and his brother. If you are red pill are you automatically supporting them? This is the definition of feminism from the UN women: "Feminism is a social, political, and ideological movement dedicated to achieving equal rights and opportunities for all genders. It works to dismantle systemic inequalities, challenge traditional gender roles, and eliminate discrimination so that everyone can participate fully and fairly i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 07:00 PM
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Jeff Bezos says his ex deserved her share. She supported him and raised their three children. It is odd to me that men do not think that what women do is not worth what a man does. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/jan/12/mackenzie-bezos-divorce-jeff-why-she-deserves-wealth-money-husband Have you ever been pregnant or raised a newborn? You just have no idea the commitment having children demands usually of women. Your need to minimize it says much about you. What women do is of equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 06:53 PM
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Most do not know about it. I had to look it up because of comments made. Do you go online and take responsibility for things said and done in the name of repressing women? Do you say anything about discussions about taking rights away from women?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:36 PM
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The policy was written in the 80s. It has faults in its perception of abuse by women. Most of us know this happens. This does not mean that it represents all feminists. The apex fallacy applies to feminism too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:13 AM
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What is a women's fee-fees?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:07 AM
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I am not sure that social media is real life. A lot of it is click bait. The real stuff where there are actual wounded people is another story. Sometimes we need to turn the crap off and realize it is not what is going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:54 AM
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It can be personality or it can be other things. They could be chasing the wrong woman. I do not find men as good readers of body language usually. Also, women can be put off when a man approaches her because she does not know him or she is just not thinking that way about it. We are risk adverse and as the statistics show it is inherent to females. I am appalled by abusers. I am not by awkward people but when I was young they would make me feel awkward too. There are a myriad of reasons why men…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:56 PM
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They are made out as being worse than abusers and criminals"? Hardly. They are complained about but not compared to criminals and abusers. Do we tolerate this? Usually only if we are young or have been raised with this behaviour. So we are unimpressed by AHs? Of course. I think everyone should ask what value they bring to others. We are social animals and no one should be expected to carry someone else with no return unless it is a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:12 PM
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I disagree. I think that many women do what they can for their husbands. Many have careers, just like their husbands do and a lot of pressure but it does not mean they do not care or help them. I think you have a cognitive bias. I think you have made up your mind it is this way but I assure you it is not. I am actually better than my husband usually at doing things for him and this is not unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:52 PM
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Duh, I have a daughter and son and they have friends. I know some of the issues and struggles. BTW, I spent the first 6 years of my life without a TV because hardly anyone had one. This does not mean my brain is dead or cannot get issues. Do you think someone without children can be a child psychologist? Someone without cancer is an oncologist. People can understand issues. Our brains are not frozen in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:43 PM
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Hardly. Most women prefer long term relationships and not hook up culture. However, hook ups cannot be compared to incel behaviour. Women are not into mass murder. Incel's have done this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:30 PM
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Untrue. You just cannot know this. Can I ask you where you are from? Just the country? Because many women and men care for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 08:25 PM
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He is talking incels and extreme pill poppers. Most women are not close to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:55 PM
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whatever women experience and call love is nothing approaching what men mean when they say love. What he says is garbage. Women are capable of love. Someone has to stop this verbal diarrhea.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:52 PM
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I am going to try that one next time I have something that has to be done. I am loved just for existing, you make dinner, and do my share.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:44 PM
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No I do not think a reddit user has. However, some of the incel crowd has and been cheered on by other incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:07 PM
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Really? Could you give me a source? BTW, how violent are those women? Anyone gone on a mass murder shooting spree?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:33 PM
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We really should get together and discuss jewelry. Do you have a gem preference? I do like rubies but have you seen how much you can get for a natural emerald? Green does play up my eyes. The fact that I am 66 and still at it shows how desperate some of the men have gotten but hey a little plastic surgery here and there so if you want tips on how to keep them coming until you are elderly, ask away. They all think I am 43, tee he he.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:32 PM
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How would you even know that? Another arrogant statement. I mean why not, let's just jump to conclusions about things you know nothing about. I do all the cooking and he enjoys it. His idea of cooking is taking frozen pizzas out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:25 PM
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I hope so.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:24 PM
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I have real concerns for people who take this seriously and what they will do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:20 PM
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I worry it has become trendy to scapegoat women. What if it does not stop?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:17 PM
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The stuff I have been hearing from some of the manosphere community is bizarre but it is concerning about how much seems to be entering society. Things like we are lazy, we are selfish, we cannot love. Awful stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:36 PM
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One of the reasons, your father and your brother protected their sister or daughter was because if she got pregnant they would have to provide for the child. It was thought that the man who was impregnating the woman should bear responsibility. As well, fathers and their brothers often love their sister and do not want her to suffer. To be raped is suffering. Even in those days some men cared about women. Women do not corrupt men. Men allow corruption to happen to them. It can be because they ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:27 PM
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It really depends on the man does it not? Women can get in a lot of trouble if they do not check on what is going on with finances. There are men who cannot handle things but act like they can. I can think of political leaders that have failed the people but have acted like they are the real men coming to save the country. It can be damned inconvenient to take that approach in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:04 PM
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My point was women can react to what they hear men are saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:49 PM
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whatever women experience and call love is nothing approaching what men mean when they say love. The absolute arrogance of that statement. How do you even know what we feel? I know I would take a bullet for my husband, my son, and my grand son and his father. What is wrong with you that you need to minimize our love? You need to sit with this for a while and try to gain insight into why you need to disparage our ability to love. We are more than capable of it. I have experienced it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:43 PM
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I have a beautiful orange fluffy rescue. He's such a handsome cuddly boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:22 PM
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Perhaps you should consider what the red pill says about women. They take studies and twist them to the worse possible conclusions about female behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:19 PM
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If she's difficult, she is using you? No. If she is difficult there could be a plethora of reasons for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:13 PM
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For most average people, it is good when they can depend on each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 11:33 AM
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It is also possible the man gets money from his partner. I supported my husband through school and saved the down payment for a house. A lot of women own homes too. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/may/13/women-home-buyers-men-dating
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:06 AM
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I said, A lot of men only seem to think... This does not say ALL men. 57.4% of women work and they are 46.8 of the US labour force. They are self supporting. How do you prove women do this to any degree except to make funny videos?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:59 AM
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It means most women do not do this. It does not happen with a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:37 AM
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A lot of men seem to think only what they experience matters. They do not even seem to be able to acknowledge us as human. Also, who put you in charge of what everyone knows? There's 14 year olds reading this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:36 AM
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So do women. Why not make sure it is said?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:33 AM
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There are videos? Yes it happens in real life but it also does not happen. Lots of women are self supporting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:32 AM
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How men comment can affect how women view them. I did not expect to get them to care but rather explain why a woman can view relationships with men as something where they may not be well treated.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:30 AM
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Why a woman could have a low opinion of why man behaves the way he does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:10 AM
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Have you heard how some of the men talk about women? We are lazy, we are not accountable, we selfish, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:05 AM
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If I see a man and I think he's good looking, I think he's good looking. I do not think about having sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:52 AM
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It is a real thing. You should try pregnancy. The craving for a certain food can make annoyed husbands wonder around in a snow storm looking for chocolate covered almonds. Or sometimes we cannot stand our favourite food. If you did not have hormones, you would not be interested in women and find all this garbage pointless. Hormones make babies happen. Hormones get people in trouble. Hormones are a bigger deal than you realize.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:17 PM
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All these years surrounded by men and getting along with them most of the time and now I find out I did not like them? I do not think we are disgusted by them. Sometimes we are annoyed. Disgust is for the men who treat us as less than human.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:14 PM
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You win the prize as the first man to be blaming women. I knew it would not last.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:48 PM
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Any attention to Taterism is too much. 1 in 6 boys is too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:00 PM
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I find a lot of his attitudes have been adopted by men in this subreddit. Even men who do not identify as red pilled. He claims women are intrinsically lazy and I find myself arguing this with male commenters on this subreddit. I think rejected men often need to blame women. I have seen men reject women too and make a woman feel small in the process. She was not pretty enough to be dancing around him and he made sure she knew it. I think a lot more of red pill thinking has leaked into the mainst…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:52 PM
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In the 80s the fashion was big boobs and narrow hips. Not easy standards since most of us were made to have babies and had hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:17 PM
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A lot of this is influencers, not regular people. So you are getting people who want attention. So many women just want to live their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:13 PM
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in her article, Harris concludes that her unsuccessful replication of Penton-Voak and colleagues' studies poses serious questions about the reliability of the effect of menstrual cycle phase on women's masculinity preferences (and, somewhat curiously, about the validity of an entire theoretical perspective on human behavior). Did you read the conclusion? Another question for you. If the chance in a committed relationship of paternity fraud is 1% https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/joim.1…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:03 PM
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Your post is untrue and trust me women will not be fighting for you. We have better things to do. If what you say are facts, give a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:47 PM
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Just another man looking for excuses for why they are not chosen or why they are divorced. It cannot be men's fault. It is women's because we are flakey and cannot make up our minds. Remember under no circumstances is a man ever mixed up. It is always the woman who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:46 PM
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I expect you have never had married sex. Of course, one Russian spy should define how wives are? The similarities between most women and a Russian spy must be many. Just last night I was thinking this as I made Stroganoff; I am so similar to a married Russian Spy, especially when it comes to my approach to sex. Frankly, I hope Russian married male spies are good at it so I can compare? Where does one find one? Do I have to have information for them to be willing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 05:47 PM
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How many women let the father's of their children get off because they do not want them to go to prison? Incarceration is a last resort. Men are rarely imprisoned for non payment if they simply cannot afford it. I never said that men were not scammed. I just brought up this because you talked about men being taken advantage of. Of course, men are taken advantage of. Did you read my last paragraph in my comment? The rape of boys is a horrible crime. I am all for it being taken more seriously. Aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:07 PM
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An app that lets you know about men who do not pay child support? Or a f*ck boy that uses another name or someone who had to move because of how he treats women? Then there is this: https://teaappgreenflags.com/blog/awdtsg-removal-services-compared/ Plus how many men have Facebook? I do not lie, I do not need to. Women have to navigate life in ways men do not. There are more problems out there than someone taking advantage of you for your money. Being used for your body hurts in ways that are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:23 AM
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No you can post. I would spend a few weeks just reading at first but I would bet you will be bored to death.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:53 AM
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There are horrible people on this subreddit and in life. These people are criminals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:43 AM
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If a woman openly says they hate men, I think how sad and wonder how she got there. Men who hate women can be frightening because men are more likely to be violent. Most of us try to live our lives and avoid haters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:30 AM
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So pointing out male behaviours is solipsism and neurosis? It should be all about men's desperation? It the only thing that matters?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:37 PM
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Are men accountable for taking advantage of women? There are f*ck boys, rapists who get off, men who do not pay child support, DV abusers who get away, and con artists that scam vulnerable women's money. Many get away with it. Being a F*ck boy is not a crime. Emotional abuse is not a crime usually. Some people get away with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:15 PM
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First off, men and women are worth it. (well a lot). I spoil my husband and I know other women spoil their partners back. I appreciate the fact that I would be living in a house with broken down tech if it was not for him. Also, he is very cuddly. Tbh, I do not think men are great at showing a woman is worth something unless they are good in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 12:00 PM
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I think couples are worth it to each other if each gives a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 11:53 AM
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You said was it really worth it? For some it is. Lots of men on this sub go on about women. There are a few fair ones but they seem to give up because there is no headway with many.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 10:06 PM
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You're off the list, you got no game. If I did want someone just for a FWB sort of situation, I would want at least some energy. We are worth it and you do not think so. Why even talk about it on reddit? Go back to sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:11 PM
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Definitely a disturbed person. There have been very few feminists like this. I am afraid I cannot say the same about incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:52 PM
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People forget that not every demographic of women grew up exposed to feminist grievance-based propaganda every waking hour of their lives. Obviously we are influenced , just by how often we hear it. We are capable of discerning truth. Every hour could not be hyperbole? No. I think you have brains which are perhaps more easily influenced though, be it by way of nature or nurture. So, how about a source for women who are easily influenced? The conclusion from the quotes is you were talking about f…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:11 PM
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You can be held responsible for your doings. I do not think you have the moral high ground. You just think you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:19 PM
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So as long as you do not say it in the current thread, you do not have to take responsibility for it elsewhere? I am just not impressed by how you judge women. Men are usually the ones in power, but do they take responsibility for the state of the world? Men are measurably more violent than women, do you own up to this? Is this moral? Where is your accountability. Or can you not do it because your finger is pointed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 02:08 PM
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Stuff like this happens. Take it as a compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:51 PM
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I am not. I am attacking you because I saw your post about you believing men have the moral high ground because women can prostitute themselves or use OF to sell themselves. The users bear no responsibility? I am responding to how you talk about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:49 PM
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As far as I can see is you are not so much of a male rights activists as a kick woman around activist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:43 PM
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Mary Cassatt, Georgia O'Keeffe, Frida Kahlo, Faith Ringgold, Marlene Dumas, Margaret Atwood, Charlotte Bronte, Anne Bronte, Sylvia Plath, Alice Walker, Emilie de Chatelet, Mary Wollstonecraft, Hannah Arendt, Simone de Beauvoir, Aspasia, Maya Angelou, Emily Dickenson, Gwendolyn Brooks, Louise Gluck, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:42 PM
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In a break up men will list things about their ex too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:27 PM
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A lot of prostitutes just want to feed their families. It is desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:42 PM
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We are repulsed by what she does but it is difficult to tell others how to live and often if we do that they just dig their heels in. However, since you think we have such power, could I give you a list so you could hold some men accountable? Then let me know how it goes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:41 PM
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Just a question: what percentage of users of the Epstein girls were male? Any ideas?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:28 PM
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So the John's bear no accountability? Seriously? If there was no demand; there would be no problem. Enough of you use OF to make millionaires. As well, privileged people get abused too. One of the common factors in with prostitutes and escorts is childhood abuse. There are deranged men out there too. They can add violence to their derangement. Where do you think the term madman came from? You are the pot calling the kettle black.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 12:23 PM
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I concede your point. Most of the women I know do not like it but I gather there are enough that do. I have known women who practice martial arts. They usually do so to defend themselves if attacked and to exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 11:42 AM
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I sometimes wonder if they live in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 01:27 AM
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Ignore the cashier. Really. I get how hard it is today. I am a believer in attachment theory and being home with the children for the first years of life but it is an impossible situation. You cannot afford childcare and you cannot afford to stay home. I was a child in the 60s. We were all happily poor. I never went out to dinner. We ate at home. A trip to the candy store was unheard of and we never had pop. Halloween was my only hope. If you needed to call a relative who lived far away, you wai…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:42 PM
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It does not mean you do not engage in moral outrage. Incel discussions was an on topic response to the post. It was used as a comparison against femcel. You straw men and use moral outrage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:21 PM
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I was explaining the difference between incel mass murders and women who kill their children for this debate. I was not saying anyone was good here. The difference is that incels are a manosphere group that cheer the mass murder of women. Women groups do not cheer the death of children. They do not want this. Please look up severe postpartum depression and severe postpartum psychosis. If I was looking to increase the drama I could bring up DV and male violence. I am not. This is about incels tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:09 PM
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Incel ideology exists. Look it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:46 PM
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You know nothing about me. I was not distracting from serious topic, I was discussing one. Incel mass murder is a serious topic and it applies to the issue at hand. What you say about me has no effect on me because it is just BS and I am right stomping. You are using moral outrage when there is no place for it. https://www.psypost.org/young-men-use-moral-outrage-to-claim-status-in-political-debates/ So seriously get over yourself. You need to stop distracting from serious topics like mass murder…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:47 PM
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I am not a man hating person. You do not define me. Rather than realize that blaming women for men's violence is not right, you have to be right. This is the path you have chosen. Men alone are responsible for their violence. You are trying to justify being a wife beater. You are the one with the issue. I know you will blow a gasket but if you are violent with others, please seek help.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:38 PM
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I referred to the incels because we were discussing use of the internet as proof women judge men but never themselves. I felt it was fair to turn around the question and ask whether this applies to incels. Incel mass murder is a serious issue. I discussed women killing their children because he brought it up and I pointed out that unlike incels who cheered when there was a mass murder, you could not find a woman who would approve of this behaviour. I also wanted him to understand how sick these …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:32 PM
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They actively cheer when incels have committed mass murder. So if women don’t want violence directed in the wrong direction, perhaps do a bit better, stop blaming everything on men, and help men aim their violent tendencies towards something better. Women are not responsible for the violence when men choose it. Your comment is one of the worst ones I have come across on this subreddit. Men usually say things like we are lazy, practice hypergamy, gold diggers, expensive to date, easily susceptibl…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 05:29 PM
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Source for women are easily influenced by feminism? The manosphere is the cultural zeitgeist for many men, especially in this subreddit. You are an example of it. If I ever see a general compliment towards women from TRP men anywhere, I will probably have to return my eyeballs in my sockets. I am not worried that all TRP men will respond with shock and attacks. (if you can say women are exposed to feminism every hour, I can make hyperbolic responses too).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:52 PM
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I am not accountable for your behaviour. Men blaming women for their violence is about as low as you can go with a lack of accountability. You are responsible for your choices. https://www.bwss.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/ What you are allowing yourself to believe is immature, abusive, small minded, selfish and absolutely horrible. I hope if you ever are abusive you face the consequences of your behaviour. You will deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:26 PM
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It is an untrue conclusion. Young people can be more easily influenced but we do not stay young long and most women are not more easily influenced than young men. Men seem to be easily influenced by the manosphere ideology. They have the ability to take studies and twist them so they can come to the worst conclusions about women. Women only care about money. Sure we all want billionaires with harems. I cannot wait to share a man with 8 women. We are all into hypergamy and using men for our gold …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:19 PM
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I think you have such a strong cognitive bias that I find it difficult to comment with you. You do not really seem to understand women and your response always seems to be about denigrating them. I find like many RP men, you jump to the worst conclusions about women. Many men do very well in a marriage. They are healthier and live longer than unmarried men. Men are a lot of work often in a relationship. Single women are happier than married women usually. When you say worse off, you are discussi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:36 PM
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Bad faith discourse because I went into a direction that you did not approve of? I talked about women instead of men? You have the opportunity to discuss male suicide in a real and meaningful way but instead you point your finger at me and blame me? You think you are not a problem? I am aware of statistics and abuse of women and men's issues as well. I go on advice sometimes and I try to never turn my back on the hard mental health problems that both men and women have. The issue I chose still m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:05 PM
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Every hour? Geez the young mothers I know have no time on the internet except to look up how to deal with sleep regression and temper tantrums. Do you really think we do not have brains? Tell you what take some time and look at how you are so judgmental of women. Perhaps you should step away from the manosphere garbage? Then work on gaining insight and stop jumping to the worse conclusions about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:41 PM
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I have never heard a woman say that either. I live in a western country. Really women do not go around hating men. Usually we have too much to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:37 PM
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Your reply does not address anything. Women doctors can be just as difficult as male doctors. We do not want segregation we think we should be able to work together. If you cannot get along at all with women, who has the problem? If we cannot address our issues and are told start an independent communist society, we are wasting our time talking to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:31 PM
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I am sorry I did not take my comments in the way you expect. Why did you not address this issue in a way that does not scapegoat women? Incels murder people, let not say things that lessens mass murderers and people who cheer them on. By all means tell me that I should discuss male suicides as well. I will listen and discuss it. I care about men. If you are going to attempt to kick me around because you need to stick it to women though, I know who you are. Join the many other men who come to thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:19 PM
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So if women don’t want violence directed in the wrong direction, perhaps do a bit better, stop blaming everything on men, and help men aim their violent tendencies towards something better. You are unbelievable. Blaming women for men's violence? Next you will be telling your partner DV is women's fault. Women know men like you. They have always been around. They cannot handle responsibility and have no integrity. Women know the violence that men have is their responsibility to contain. We do not…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:13 PM
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My study explained why women initiated the divorce. No one denies this happens. I do think you are splitting hairs but perhaps I do not understand what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:06 PM
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It is focusing on incel men whose targets are women because of an ideology against women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:49 PM
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I do not go to the femcels because I am not interested. I thought they just put men down. So they are about being upset with pretty women? Well it sounds to me that pretty women are taking a lot of crap these days. Seriously, what a stupid thing to do. It does not compare to what incel and TRP say but they are all joining together to scapegoat women. Oh and women judge themselves. They are just know they cannot do much about people who are all about judging them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:41 PM
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Since I do not go to online communities that discuss men besides this subreddit, I can only comment on this subreddit. I would say that comments made by any community could be used for judgment. I find some of the comments made by men on this subreddit blatantly unfair to women. I have found myself also having to respond to some women who have been blatantly unfair to men. In my opinion, there are more men being unfair than women but I have done no study. Of course, suicide should be treated ser…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:19 AM
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We are discussing femcels and incels. The incels can become mass murderers. I have not heard of the femcels doing this. It was worth mentioning the mass murders as a difference in their ideologies. I think you should think about the difference and why this would apply to this conversation. Women who kill their babies are often mentally ill, or in a severe dissociative state. The ones who are psychopaths are criminals and should be in prison for life. I would do everything I could do to stop this…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:53 AM
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Usually the women are in a severe dissociative state. Some of them do not even understand that they have given birth or that they were ever pregnant. It is also possible they are suffering from schizophrenia or severe mental illness. They are usually isolated. It is not a result of a political or ideological position but rather desperation. I am referring to the newborn deaths. When the baby is older it can be because of postpartum depression or psychosis or you are dealing with a psychopath. In…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:23 AM
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I do not go to any of those kind of sites. I have to say though perhaps you should pay attention to some of the comments men make about women on this subreddit. I can respond to a woman who is over the top here. There is one problem comparing the incels and femcels. This is what the incels have unleashed: I do not think femcels have done such. 2014 Isla Vista, CA killing spree 2015 Roseburg, OR 10 killed 2017 Aztec, NM 2 high school students 2018 Toronto, ON van attack killing 10 2020 Glendale, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:11 AM
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It not all biology, some of it is what suits you and your genetics. I do not think much of hypergamy. There is a lot more going on in our decisions than just money and height. I am just tired of hearing about men blaming women for things. We are all the way we are for some reason and no one wakes up in the morning deciding to make things one way or another.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:30 AM
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I am not justifying it. It is this way for the best interests of children and humanity. Complaining about it is like me complaining about men being taller usually than women. It is pointless. It is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:18 AM
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would OP even make this post if men were the ones demanding 68% of divorces? So this was referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:15 AM
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You blame women for what men do, it's pointed out to you that the women do it for their children and then you blame women again. What colour is your flair again?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 11:28 PM
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Women gravitate to the top of the food chain for their future children's sake. It is innate behaviour because they do not want their children to suffer because they do not make a good choice and pass on bad genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:37 PM
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Excuse me, have you seen what men spend a lot of time on? Have you seen how competitive men can be? My problem with so many of the men on this subreddit is they seem not to spend much time gaining insight but loads of time pointing out faults.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:03 PM
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I do not make children for men. Yes, we have the decision making power, but if you think most women want to do it alone, you are disconnected. If you think men do not want children you are disconnected. Most women want a family that includes men. Marriages breakdown for a multitude of reasons. From infidelity to contempt. Many people just do not put in the work for their partner. Women filing for divorce does not mean men do not have agency in this. https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220511-…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 07:24 PM
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I am sorry this is how your marriage worked out. I congratulate you for how hard you have worked for your child, I know it was not easy. Would it help to know I babysat 3 children with my own 2 while my husband travelled. Now it may not sound like the graveyard shift but I had a son with asthma and croup. I got up almost overnight with the croup for years. We sat outside or in the shower while I forced myself awake. When it snowed 30 inches I listened for the children while I shovelled at 2 am. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 05:07 PM
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Child custody should always be in the best interests of the child. So if 50/50 is the best interests, then you get 50%.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 04:15 PM
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I find it really depends on how you rate work. Have you ever been with a woman who just had a baby. Do you know how hard it is to care for the baby and breastfeed? It is 24/7. You feed the baby every 2 hours, have to change and then get the baby back to sleep. You are lucky to get three 1 hour intervals of sleep. Of course, throw in a toddler and sleep is next to non existent. You can do this for months. Look up sleep regression in infants and babies, then throw in teething and colic, mix it up …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 04:14 PM
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So most of the divorces I know get 50/50 childcare. Alimony has limits but child support does not. I think in cases where the women makes more, men should get the same settlements as women. The man gets children with 50% of his dna. He gets 50% of what was earned for the household while both worked because the work in the household is worth something. Having a SAHM if this is the case is worth something. It also can take a lot of stress off the man if he has a SAHM to his children. I was giving …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 03:15 PM
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although women spend about six hours more than men in household work and about three additional hours in child care, bringing the total work time to 45.6 hours per week for men and 45.2 hours for women. From your link. Also, I doubt they compared the hours of work with many women with newborns or infants. They just did not have time to fill in any survey. Men are the breadwinners because women are busy with the household and children. Do you think we get any credit for carrying the reproductive …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:37 PM
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I find that many men only see the difficult parts of what men have to do and the easy parts of what women have to do. Pregnancy, childbirth, caring for infants, raising children and taking care of the household is easily a full time job if she is doing a half decent job. If she sits at home and does nothing, there is a neurological or psychiatric problem I expect. Your perspective is absolutely unfair. Women become vulnerable when they decide to do what is best for the children and the family. C…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:50 PM
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What about women? Do you think they look forward to a life where they have 2 children and are a SAHM and they find out there is an affair. They have to leave but poverty will be their results. In a marriage, you both contribute. Why when separation happens is she suddenly not entitled to her share? He should get 50/50 custody shouldn't he? What she has done is worth nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:40 PM
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It sounds exhausting. Plus if you have children as part of the long con, I would question your sanity. They are a lot of work. Let us hope she can manage some feeling for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:38 PM
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You are still taking polarized positions. You look at what happens to men in the worst way and compare it to the absolute best outcomes for women. This is absolutely not how it is and it is a totally biased position. You are seeing what you perceive and it is not there. Staying at home and caring for children can be hard and yes, so can working in dead end jobs. Rarely is life easy for anyone. How many women return to the job market after taking care of young children for a few years at home? Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:35 PM
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There is a study out of England where they found it did not exist: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11790178/ It is from 1837- 2021. If it existed in North America, it was probably during the colonization days when there just were not that many women around. Most people just marry others around or near their class.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:21 AM
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I have been married 42 years and only once when we were in a bad patch did I tell him to get stuffed for a few months. I do not do anything I do not want to do. He had some growth and listening to do. I have no cognitive dissonance or delusion. I live as much as possible with my eyes wide open. Do not jump to conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:03 AM
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I come here to argue with men who say women live easier lives and the other hypergamy BS that manosphere spills out but I had to speak up. I mean sex can be loads of fun for the woman too. Work this out for the benefit of all. The loss of connections is making people batty, you are right here but let's get off the bandwagon and just be decent to each other. These mass generalizations are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 12:00 AM
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Oh, it is okay. I do too. This whole post is just odd and really a bit sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:45 PM
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There is loads of slander towards women too from men in this sub. However, I have tried to mention counselling to her because I do not think the problem is men here. Perhaps the man or men in her life and she may choose a type. The issue here is not men, it is a personal issue she has.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:31 PM
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No. Sex is a wonderful way to have fun and show love. For me, it has to be in a LTR but why would you put up with anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:27 PM
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Untrue. Many care about men's problems. I find this whole post a bit odd. To me it sounds more like a personal issue because while my husband has shortcoming, they are nothing like this. Do not take this to heart. It is certainly not my reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:23 PM
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Many women do not think this way. A couple like this need therapy and to both lean in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:20 PM
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I guess I got lucky, because I have had a lot of fun with him. He was never grabby and always caring in bed and I enjoyed myself and tried to make sure he did too. It was never a chore. There's loads to work on in a marriage. Marriage counselling can really help if someone is not listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:17 PM
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Kids can suffer because of one or both parents. It's dismissing their needs for yours if you are the parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:56 PM
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It is a result of greedy employers hoping to get work done for less money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:31 PM
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Yes, but I laugh at you commenting with others telling them not to talk to you because they made sense and I guess you could not defend yourself? Who is stupid? I did not take personal offence to you. I think you think you think deeply but I do not. You deny reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:58 PM
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Yes, thats true. But that doesn't change the fact that society doesn't appreciate him. You think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:51 PM
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You call having children bullshit but you think your opinions are worth listening too? The readers get to decide too. Also, this is an open forum, expect to get replies from everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:39 PM
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Not enough money? Or probably are failure to produce enough children?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:37 PM
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You can live your life your way, that is fine. However, you complain so much about being judged, what gives you the right to judge others and their choices? We do not have to be impressed by you. The more I read the more bored I am. You do nothing for the community and then seem to think your ideas are special. Nihilistic ideology is not new, it is banal.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:35 PM
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Don't but you really have little input to give on something you do not understand. Live your life but do not tell me how to live mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:29 PM
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So? How does that mean anything important? Just keep all women informed of how you think. You are using a thought pattern to justify only caring for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:28 PM
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How do you arrive at this?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:26 PM
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Do you have any?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:23 PM
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Men complain too.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:14 PM
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You are right, to get even with those women, let's hit the children. Why right after they have given birth send them to work. None of this recovery stuff or taking care of an infant. I must protect myself from female robbers that come in the shape of wives and partners. Nature is tough enough on us but you have no clue. Keep your eye on your money because the manosphere says we are after that. Nothing must take precedent over your needs and wants. If you knew anything about caring for an infant …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:07 PM
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Maybe they watched a movie? Probably not though.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:59 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:40 PM
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https://www.verywellmind.com/the-craft-approach-to-substance-abuse-intervention-5191125 This has been somewhat successful. How about education programs for family members to help deal with the addict? As well, I expect they should be given at least one chance to dry out. They too need to be in the right place. Mental Illness has to be dealt with. This needs a multifaceted solution that is too much to go into here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:38 PM
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Never be a provider, make them work? Who cares if the children suffer? It is all about me. Of course, do not expect me to help around the house or carry as large a load. If you are in such a rush to dump on women, before you hand over the military to us, could you deal with tragic behaviour like this: https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/tragic-deaths-harassment-women-us-army-1807381 Or wait, can you do something about the need for OBGYNs being needed to help women (War Witches of Ukraine) after they leave…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:29 PM
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What if it is a relative or someone you love? Men (and women) complain that not enough is done to prevent male suicide. We have obligations to others whether we like it or not. It is easy to turn our backs on others but you do not know their story. You do not have to give what you cannot but there should be programs for addicts and mental illness. Let's give them one chance at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:03 PM
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Yes, we should only care about the gender we are. Men caring for women; women caring for men? Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:36 PM
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It is not for us, you are the provider. It is for the future, for the children. Marriage in the past was often the only way you could have sex with a woman. This does not mean you have to do it. You do you. Women receive similar treatment if they do not want children or marriage. There will always be gossip in society and people being horrible. Live to suit yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 11:44 AM
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Are you on the list? Are you a soldier? Or are you just offering up your bros? I think there are woman who would not make great soldiers but some would. Definitely they should be allowed to volunteer. Denmark, Norway, Sweden and a few other countries draft women. I think you have to be selective about who you send into combat. I would not like to be captured. What the Russians do is the stuff of nightmares.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:18 AM
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I have a dog too. She is the most laid back lab you could ever have but she will come for a treat. My cat though is fierce. A orange male rescue who can handle disobedience with a look. Mice tremble.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:03 AM
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I will send my cat over to force you to delete your comment and comply. Resistance is futile.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:01 AM
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I agree that the idea of male disposability can be a problem. In a sinking ship situation a man is more likely to survive. I did not say it disproved male disposability but it does prove in dangerous situations it is usually everyone thinking of themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:55 AM
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I bet he's about 15 and his mother is driving him crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:04 AM
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When you start throwing in step parents and outsiders you often get abusers. The children are vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:56 AM
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It does not work this way. Hold your grandchild up to your parents and then run is the way it is often done.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:54 AM
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What ever happened to the best interests of the children?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:51 AM
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No, no, find that crew member and do not loose sight of them. Perhaps you can pick up a small child along the way and make yourself a hero? If you have ever flown across the North Atlantic, I love when the stewards tell you, you can use your cushion as a flotation device. Sure I will freeze to death rapidly but at least I will float.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:30 AM
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Well you can confidently know that should you find yourself in a sinking ship, you are more likely to survive than a woman is. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3421183/ The best thing to do is find and follow a knowledgable looking crew member if you know nothing about surviving such a disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:22 AM
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Don't worry, with the exception of the Titanic, men are more likely to survive maritime disasters. On the Titanic they used guns as crowd control otherwise I expect more men would have survived.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:17 AM
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It is the threat of violence by men when you are young that they do not seem to get. I know few women who have not had something happen where they have been approached and frightened.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 12:09 AM
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I am screaming this from the rooftops. More men survive maritime disasters than women. The Titanic was an anomaly. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3421183/ I suggest you talk to the politicians about the draft stuff though. I do think politicians should be drafted and the general population not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:59 PM
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I am repeating myself but I feel it is worthwhile: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3421183/ More women die in maritime disasters than men. The Titanic was an anomaly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:56 PM
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More women go down with ships than men. The Titanic was an anomaly. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3421183/ That island has to have rum on it and if it is a deserted island, it would not probably. Unfortunately, I did not see the show so maybe they brought it. So make sure you bring rum to your deserted island. Or maybe vodka?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:54 PM
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It made sense to me. You do sound like you being very pedantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:32 PM
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Men do not go down with their ship for women. In fact, the Titanic was the outlier. More men survive marine disasters than women. https://www.thetimes.com/travel/destinations/uk-travel/no-its-women-and-children-last-when-the-ship-goes-down-mtm7xb2j59z I think men save the women they care for and have or hope to have sex with. They do it for their children too. Men who have servitude towards women... where do you find such men? Sure my husband does things for me but I do as much back. I was tempt…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:19 AM
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A woman who breaks your confidences is not doing this because she is a woman, she is doing this because she is a shit. There are shit men who do this too. If you tell me something in confidence, I will keep it that way. Many women do this. It does not say much about her character that she does this. Also, there are pedantic, detail oriented women and there are women who are not. I am one of the not so detail oriented. My husband is detail oriented. I think I annoy him sometimes but then he can a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 12:43 AM
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Women dumping infants in the dumpster can have postpartum psychosis or depression. Most are emotionally immature and young. This is their first birth and they are socially isolated. Many of them deny they are pregnant or have given birth despite proof. They give birth in a state of disassociation. I hope they find additional solutions to this because it is horrible that this happens. The safe haven surrender laws are a start. The problem is finding mothers who are this socially isolated and ment…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:11 PM
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Shouldn't you do a fairer post than? Or how about one about father's that fail their children in a divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:17 PM
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It is just how you pick this one issue but do not fairly deal with the many issues men can bring on in a divorce. Most women do not want to keep their children from their fathers but some women are dealing with awful men. And some men are dealing with awful women. You only see the latter.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:11 PM
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I wonder how much your father's death stressed your mother out? Of course, I was not there but going by your post you have an issue and you have decided it is women's fault. The lack of a father was hard I expect but there are couples where there are horrible fathers and some of those men should not be near their children. Are their bad mothers? Yes, but they are less likely to be so and at least try to give the minimum. I have seen men be very coldhearted to their children. I have also seen ver…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:59 PM
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How about the best interests of the children?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:10 AM
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Methinks you spend too much time gaming. Do you think most mothers want their children taken away? I have 2 adult children and I would rather die than not be able to see them when they were little. Many mothers love their children and want to see them. So why are you thinking they do not? Why do you think a way of life that takes children away from their mothers is a good one, if they are good mothers and they want to be with their children
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:09 AM
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I am wondering if she knows the father? She does not think he will go for custody? Maybe he will and it is a very stupid move if he does, but I wonder how he will cope with the reality of child care, especially if there are young children. So tell me why did you make this post about mothers, when there are obvious problems with father's not paying child support? A good deal of men just abandon their children. Why not start with them?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:43 AM
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Non custodial mothers usually have a serious issue and have lost custody for a reason. They are mentally ill, addicts, or at the very least have a personality disorder. The children in these circumstances are far better off with their father. 20% of fathers have full custody. When there is single custody, in 80-84% of the cases in North America, it is the mother. Do not tell me it is just the decisions of the court. Men tend to abandon their children more. If you look even at adult children, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:39 AM
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So women must be punished? for using custody as a leverage? Men use money? 30% of fathers pay no child support. Only 46% receive the full amount of child support. Less than 10% of men ask for custody in a divorce. Are men such saints that they should be punishing their children's mothers? Both have the children being used by parents and when is the end game the best interests of the children? So how about we do not point our fingers at mothers? Should we talk about fathers?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:25 PM
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Where did I say women should never be criticized? You put words in my mouth. You interpreted it this way. Mostly it is individuals that deserve criticism. As for selfish behaviour? All young adults are selfish. The prefrontal cortex has to mature. You are so wrong if you think men are not difficult with their expectations and demands. So many think women should work around them. They operate with little understanding of the opposite sex. Those that pick up the red pill philosophy follow pseudo s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:36 PM
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Usually to establish breast feeding it is best for the mother to do it for the first 6 weeks. Some women can have issues pumping or breast feeding. I had a friend who produced more blood than milk and 3 breast feeding experts and a few doctors did not solve it. Also, you have no clue what you are in for. The fact that you think you do shows what kind of a wake up call you will get. You can plan all you want and your partner might be there with you until a very difficult pregnancy and birth nearl…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:26 PM
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You pay for childcare and work a full time job and come home and take care of the children. The schedule is 6AM - 12 PM. It is hard and expensive enough with one. The complications from pregnancy and childbirth are onerous. The caring of infants 24/7 where you nurse a baby in 2 hour stints, then feed and change them and try to get 1 hour sleep before they are up again. You are lucky to get 2-3 hours sleep a night in 1 hour increments. I am sure you have no clue. So tell me why your life is so ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:56 AM
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Perhaps they had a bad experience. When my daughter was living in a large US city, she use to travel wearing earphones and refusing to talk to anyone. She was young and pretty and use to deliberately dress so she would not get attention but she had to become very cautious because she would get harassed otherwise. Still I would only leave a movie theatre if the man did something but you do not know if they had something happen before. Women do get harassed even if your sister has not. I was terri…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:34 AM
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A mother and her daughter may be leaving the theatre for other reasons than you. I do not get up and leave if a man is sitting near me, so something sounds off here. Men rarely sexually harass or rape women where it can be seen. They wait for opportunities when others are not around.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 12:10 AM
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She is not an obnoxious troll. She gave a fair answer to a dumb comment. You just want to give it out and not get intelligent replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:26 PM
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Working is hard so women are leaving the work force? Their children that they are not having do not have anything to do with it? Men like you might be the reason women are remaining on their own? I mean someone must of set up your bot so we can look at your insightful responses. Right? Many of the couples I know have one child because affording a second is expensive. The cost of daycare if prohibitive but they need two incomes. Mexico, Iceland and Italy have female leaders. How do you explain th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:16 PM
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Read your comments and the one above you to understand why women may not be having children. Men have all jumped on the shit on women bandwagon. If there is a problem somewhere, blame the women. Men deny responsibility but it is often a couple's choice. Affordability is a big factor and do not tell me people in poorer countries do it. Westerners grew up in houses they could afford and with hobbies that people cannot manage to have these days. They are not going backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:01 PM
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We can argue this but we have to deal with what women have to do that is hard and what men do to make our lives harder. Near 30% of men who should be paying child support do not. Nearly 60% do not pay the full amount they owe. It is the children who suffer but it is the mothers that have to try to make up the difference. Yes, men are threatened by violence too but what gender is more likely to be at the other end of a gun or is violent? More men are mass murderers or serial killers. There are in…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 05:10 PM
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People like to think they will get it right and when they do, it can be very good. Truly you need to be thoughtful before you jump into anything. Society has loads of fantasies to get lost in. The US is you can get rich. Boys pretend to be super heroes, girls princesses and some people keep the fantasies. I think parents need to talk to their children more about life. They can need reality checks once they get to the early teens.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:26 PM
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A lot of marriages come apart because people are not thoughtful about the marriage. Some are desperate to be married because they fear being alone. Some marriages just run their course. My brother ended up divorced because neither would do the couples counselling that would have helped. I think my brother is happier without her but it was very hard on the children. Marriage can be hard work and it means not being mean or contemptuous with your partner. It takes generosity of spirit to understand…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:12 PM
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Unfortunately, I have argued with a RP man on this subreddit who says we are less capable of it. He definitely believes women are the problem in society. We abort children and are innately cruel. Nothing men do compares. Of course, like feminism, TRP individuals are not necessarily consistent across a group but look at the podcasters and see what some of them say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:54 AM
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When I met him there was no reddit. BTW my mother was 5 years older than my father and they were in their 30s when they had to get married. Still my oldest brother was their favourite all their lives so it somehow worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:34 AM
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I disagree with men from TRP who think they know women. They twist studies and take them to the worst possible conclusion on women. Many men do not seem to have clarity when it comes to themselves either. What some of them have said to me. We do not really love, we are not useful, we use men, we don't protect ourselves enough, we protect ourselves too much, we are evil incarnate (all except his family) because we have abortions, there are too many programs for women and that is why their taxes a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:08 AM
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Some do. Some of TRP actively admit it and then try to backpedal. I just finished a conversation with someone who did this. Some of TRP say women cannot love or that we are less capable of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:47 AM
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The same goes for men. There are many self aware women out there. Perhaps they are just not your type.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:41 AM
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Some women, but it is the same for men. They just tend to behave badly when the relationship has soured. Some people just want children or think it will work and then realize later it is a mistake. This does not mean all women think this way. Where I live 62% of marriages last and no we are not all miserable. You can learn a lot from your spouse, they can hold you accountable in ways many relationships and friendships do not. Usually you cannot hide your faults from them and they can care enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:20 AM
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No one leaves just for laundry. They leave for how they are treated and the laundry just represents this. It is very possible to be in a relationship and be very alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:58 PM
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Loads of women just like some men and if you listen to some of the men on this subreddit, some of them actively hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:56 PM
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Brad Pitt has nothing to do with his children. She left when he abused one of them. Tom Brady claimed his true love was football. Who is Chan Tatum? some actor? People get left. Men get left, women get left.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:55 PM
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What your mother did is of value. She helped her family and she paid taxes. Ignore all idiots who deny this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:50 PM
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I am not a dead weight on society nor have I ever been one. Many men are dead weight too if you only admire traditionally male jobs. I have seen psychology make a difference in people's lives. It is the people who lack insight who put psychology down. 22% of software engineers are women. I know someone who works in the industry and he says there are great women software engineers. "I'm not cruel by laughing at someone that think that I hate women for pointing the current situation of the job mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:25 PM
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I shall try.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:57 PM
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Nurses, doctors, teachers, daycare workers, artists, psychologists, police officers, software engineers, etc. Why is there always an element of cruelty in the TRP men who end their comments with LMAO? Also, why do you need to belittle women? Tell me what is more productive than a pregnant working woman? Doing so many things at once.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:50 PM
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Interesting. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:44 PM
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The best times of my life have been with my husband and we were not platonic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:43 PM
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I have never been that involved in a game but my son does get like this. Next time, I visit I will have to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:34 PM
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It's 2.2 age gap in North America. I am 5 months younger than my husband and it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:31 PM
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Oh but the fun we can have together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:29 PM
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I think it sounds fun. It is just that I am not impressed with someone who thinks what they do is fun but not what I like to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:25 PM
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So women only date older men? No give me an intelligence and youth when you are young. It is so fun to grow together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 09:24 PM
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He has his potential, his intelligence and his future. He can offer a lot to the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:58 PM
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If we are so little, why bother? You sound like a someone who has no woman and wants to placate himself by saying how awful we are so he feels better. I can ask you what is so interesting about your hobbies? Some gaming? What exactly would you do that would not bore me to death? Yet you are so sure that what you do is interesting and what I do is not. What a closed mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 08:56 PM
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I can hit back and I have done. For some hurting women is the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:46 PM
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People are not always shy. Someone who is obsessive does not obsess about everything. Someone who is an introvert can act like an extravert for a bit of time. We are not all stuck in our normal behaviour. Sometimes we can rise above it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 07:35 PM
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I think this is true for many in the TRP. When they say women have no feeling for men, or they believe in hypergamy, what they assume about single mothers, and that the world would not run if men were not emptying the garbages. They deny there would be a problem if there were no women. It's the hate that scares me and then they say it's our fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:59 PM
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Shy people tend to feel negatively about judgment by people. They can manage this enough to ask someone out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 06:35 PM
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I am introverted and certainly would prefer someone quieter then an extravert. I think it is an individual thing but you have to do the approaching. If you can manage this and live with the idea that you could get rejected, that rejection happens to all, you will be good. Remember rejection is not about you, it is about her and could be for good reason. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXVqFG5rz5k&list=RDBXVqFG5rz5k&start_radio=1
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:01 PM
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I was giving an example of what can happen to women. It was to illustrate that women can have issues dealing with men as well. Men are not alone in having relationship problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 11:30 PM
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No one has a crystal ball. People do the best they can with what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 11:28 PM
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If you are in a LTR you should be able to talk to your partner but some men are not available for any emotional discussions. We should listen to each other. What I said was not about casual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 09:46 PM
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Universities are a part of the academic system. Oppression stories? Life has oppression for men and women. If you think women have it so easy you should spend some time watching the podcasts that red pill men make. How about the idea that men loose their lives more in sinking ships? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3421183/ Have you ever had to go to the doctor for a female health problem and be ignored? Or wait, how is the catch up going with female health studies? You know all those st…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:53 PM
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Well uncontrolled rage would be one but seriously, do you know women get shut down too? Some men do not like emotion and avoid it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:16 PM
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You do not think women do not get to hear this stuff too? Men can be very uncomfortable with emotion and just shut it down or stonewall.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 08:12 PM
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The best example of "toxic masculinity" is denying that women have not earned their presence at Universities. DEI or similar programs do not exist once women are over 50% of the student population. In programs, like math at US universities, only 12% of math professors are female. Only 36% of full professors at US Universities are women. There is an implicit bias against women in many traditional 'male' programs. We also pay a motherhood penalty. If we take time off to have children or work less …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:52 PM
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Sex does not work like this. Who we choose to have sex with is complex and we do not owe you it. The price of sex can be pregnancy and most of us are very thoughtful about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 07:31 PM
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This is how YOU perceive it to be. It is not real life. "for women being unable to handle male emotions." Lots of us handle male emotions, we just keep it private because we are respectful. The only one that is difficult to handle is rage when it's directed at us. If this one turns up, there is a problem if he cannot handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:59 PM
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Don't worry, read what so many men on this subreddit say about women. We get accused of loads of things. Trauma dumping, being too emotional, weaponizing what you say, (of course, men would never do that), hypergamy, single mothers, gold digging, coldness, sex with anyone that is not them, no sex, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:31 PM
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It's not extreme suspicion if you are cold approaching a woman. How do they know who you are? You think we should all relax? There are guys doing posts here saying women do not do enough. I cannot tell you how much garbage I took from men when I was a teenager. I was followed by cars (more than once), and I was followed home by a student once. By the time I was in my 20s, I was cautious. If you do not get this, you are the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:25 PM
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The blind spots men have. Do you think women do not have problems when they tell their emotions to a man? Do you think we really get pats on the back and there, there? They might try to fix it but usually they do not know what to do with it. So we are usually alone as you are. You do not get that we have to adult too. We have to face our struggles. If you cannot see this you have a blind spot and you can just line up with all the other men who think they have it hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:18 PM
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"No again. Most common complaint about opening up is that women will weaponize it and use it in future fights. Even 20 years later. And they do. So thats why older men give younger men advice to not open up. You just give ammo to her, no need for that." This is something humans do to each other. Men weaponize what you tell them too. Could you look at yourselves and perhaps gain some insight instead of women this and women that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 03:15 PM
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Opening up to men is not necessarily a good thing either. I think it really depends on the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:58 PM
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Anger from a man who is a lot larger and stronger than you is a frightening thing. Give me tears any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:55 PM
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Men are trash? I have never heard any woman speak like this except if they are having a painful breakup. Reread your comment and then talk about YOUR mindset. Are you sure women are the problem and you have none? Saying women are treating you with extreme suspicion makes me wonder what YOUR problem might be. Women pick up suppressed anger and other issues in a man. They walk away quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 02:53 PM
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Do you think fantasies rule our lives? Or that every marriage is miserable? That we are all settling? Do you understand how you think is a turn off? Many women can pick up negativity and know that men who think like this will just drag them into misery. I do not mind carrying my own weight but it is someone who thinks he knows me and pulls me down with their miserable expectations that would make me run the other way. Then they say look, I was right when they were only showing who they are and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:14 PM
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Some of the men on this subreddit say they will not date a woman who does not split the tab. Or you have to have a low body count or they want big breasts or they can be male gold diggers because they exist too. I started dating this unemployed guy and he then went to school and then I married him... he was smart and really technically savvy in ways I was not. The problem with many of TRP is they only see the problems of women, when men can have as many. There are loads of women who date men who…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:02 PM
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TRP seems to come to the worse conclusions about women. They take studies and twist them and seem to spend much of their time belittling women. It is very concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 10:24 PM
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Hmm, could we try it on men first? They can have their stumpy X all by itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:31 PM
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Actually, you are just going back to when our lives were very hard for both men and women. It was really birth control that changed women's lives significantly though. We are not any less feminine today. We are just educated and we have choices. I do not think you would enjoy the 1900s much either. How about working in a mine, or a factory(60 hour weeks), or as a servant, or a farmer. People still starved to death in 1900 too. Let's not romanticize the past and difficult conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:26 PM
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I find the idea that you have reached peace but we have not, very typical of men's idea that they are superior. You are waiting for us to have peace with ourselves? We are mostly peaceful by ourselves. Men can be incredibly arrogant with women yet hold us responsible for their loneliness, our choices when it's not them, and some blame us for their anger. Re read your paragraph and pretend you are a woman saying the same thing to a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 11:08 PM
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It is because having the two Xs is more likely to give us a chromosome that does not have asthma. It is interesting that it came back with estrogen. I found this study https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8748393/ They did not change the women's hormones but she did change her lifestyle and her asthma improved.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:56 PM
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Some men just cannot wait to take their turn at belittling women. It is so in fashion and cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:49 PM
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We understand ourselves. We do not think much of men who think they know more than us. There are just so many who think they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:47 PM
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If we have had children we can take pain better. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyeQXlQycEg&t=146s
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:42 PM
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Two Xs are necessary to be a biological woman with autoimmune disorders, unless you are an unlucky trans woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:39 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:33 PM
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What does a woman behave like? You get to tell us? No wonder we are stressed. There are far too many bossy men. If some of them would just not be we would all be better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:32 PM
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If you are female and a mammal you are going to live longer than your male counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:29 PM
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I think it is partly our physiology. We get 2 X chromosomes so we have backup against some disorders like asthma. However, there seems to be an issue that is inherent in having these two Xs that make us more vulnerable to autoimmune disorders. https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2024/02/women-autoimmune.html#:~:text=As%20many%20as%204%20out,marked%20by%20lopsided%20female%2Dto%2Dmale%20ratios So, while stress is a factor and would be in many diseases today, I do not think it is an indicator t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 10:27 PM
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It is definitely interesting seeing how humans are evolving and if we will survive ourselves let alone all the garbage nature and the universe can throw at you. One comet and we become the dinosaurs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:44 PM
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An additional reason they did not want sex was the fact that the results of sex could kill them. In Roman Britain men died on average at 51 and women at 28. Childbirth was potentially lethal.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:57 PM
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To me if you respect someone there is admiration. I would not admire a man who to force me to be with him means I must fear him. I expect some men loved their partners and usually their children. Were the times brutal? yes. Slaves were cattle, men served feudal lords, and you were lucky to survive infancy. I think there was love though. William Marshal a knight in the time of Richard the Lionheart had a much younger wife, when he died, she did not survive long. She loved him, I expect. Someone b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:18 PM
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I denied god like abilities. If you create life, you will not be sleeping that well if you are an involved father. If you are not, I feel sorry for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:34 AM
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She will be doing all the stuff though. Pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding, lack of sleep... oh wait you can help with that. You can give the baby a bottle at night and let her sleep once in a while because there will not be much of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:25 AM
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His smv maybe high but she has to want a baby otherwise it is all for naught if reproduction is the point. Technically you guys can have 2500 progeny but it is unlikely to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:08 AM
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You cannot choose someone who is not interested in you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:00 AM
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Most of us carry our childhood wounds into adulthood and marry someone who affects them in some way. People who were raised by narcissists can end up with one or be one. Someone with an alcoholic parent can do the same. How we react is not always clear but somehow our childhood injuries can rule the decisions we make. It goes for men and women. I know men who say all women cheat and when they eventually admit their mother did, they sometimes have insight into how they always end up with cheaters…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:00 AM
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I see no connection in being fussy about your skin and pedophilia. I wonder about the people that do. You can do everything you can to keep the wrinkles away and pretend you are erasing time. You are not. It catches up to you. It just sounds to be like making big deals where there are none.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:49 PM
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I do not think feminism has done much for mothers either. There is quality daycare but it is very expensive and I do not think feminism had much to do with its creation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 09:25 PM
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Training and knowing laws will not help if you have mental health or just hate issues. There are people who should not carry guns. Gun control saves lives: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11381453/ If you cannot use a gun to protect yourself from intimate partner violence, whereas as a woman you are likely to need to defend yourself, then really what is the point? Just when she needs a gun, she cannot use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:40 PM
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How about we talk Stand your ground laws and women instead: "Women appear to invoke Stand Your Ground laws far less frequently than men, and when they do they often face steep barriers to success. Courts and juries are more likely to view women—especially those defending themselves against intimate partners—as aggressors rather than victims." https://giffords.org/analysis/the-gun-industrys-empowerment-marketing-and-stand-your-ground-laws-fail-women/#:~:text=Women%20appear%20to%20invoke%20Stand,p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:21 PM
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I disagree with there is no downside. There are downsides to giving men (because they are mainly the mass murderers) guns. Men may have fear and anxiety too, they just do not talk about it and they are the ones more likely to be attacked. Women generally should fear intimate partner violence but nevertheless always be cautious in the world. Men too. I think Europe in general is doing better than the US. They are certainly learning who their friends are and I know people who have moved there for …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:06 PM
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Money is not everything and not paying attention to risk is to the detriment of men. I think it is fair to discuss whether men are so faulted in a debate because they can be. Women have survival instincts. Most of us take precautions. I just do not think carrying a gun is a solution. We have a murder rate of about 2.1 per 100,000 people and a very low violent crime rate where I live. I am also cautious and avoidant if I think there is a problem. If I am worried, I either do not do it or I talk t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:31 PM
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Yes, you talk about it with your partner but if you are in a committed relationship and insisting on a paternity test for no reason but your insecurities, you have a problem. Deal with it if talking about it does not help. You have a trust issue. Get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:12 PM
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Funny how so many men take risky jobs, it like they are missing out on something such as danger? They do, unfortunately, loose their lives in work accidents because women avoid high risk work. If young women can be naive, so can young men. Some have to learn the hard way and this is not particular to one gender. There are always people who never learn. As for the delusion that women can depend on men, let's be honest in life or death situations a man will use his strength and knowledge for himse…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:07 PM
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If women disappeared, men would be going down the drain about a month after. A minor timing issue would be the only difference. However, some women would survive without men. No it would not be pleasant but neither would your experiment be.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:33 PM
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Really? I disagree. I think it is about equal unless there are young children. They can make life very busy. I find it an arrogant thing to say. Why would you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:35 PM
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A problem that goes to whether she is unfaithful, when she has given you no indication that she is, shows that there is a greater problem with that individual than you were previously aware of. I am sure you would gladly take a test that shows you whether you are unfaithful or not? There is no such thing but what would it say about her that she asks you of this. She certainly would have a trust issue. The best thing for these types of insecurities is therapy, but this subreddit tends to get up i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 05:24 PM
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If you actually do this in a relationship and she leaves, do not tell yourself it was because she has a problem. Let the issue lay where it should, on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:35 PM
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I hope you are upfront with your opinion at the beginning of all relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:28 PM
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In secure relationships, there is only about 1 - 2% rate of paternity fraud. If you're paranoid about this, I suggest you start prepping too. That is loads of garbage that can happen. Prepare for a natural disaster and government collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:24 PM
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You have been reading and listening to too much internet BS. You would be funny but the break up is on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:20 PM
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Your advice would wreck families. All relationships have their ups and downs. I have been married 42 years and I would have packed my bags, taken my infant and left. Some women have backbone and there are limits to what we should put up with. This shows a degree of control and paranoia that would be unacceptable in a relationship. Of course, if you behave like this, it is time to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:17 PM
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Did I browbeat or attempt a definitely unheard wake up call? He was more than a bit much. I talked reasonably to him and he responded in a manner that said women did not matter, men and their loneliness did. Nothing I said mattered; it was continuously about him and his suffering. I have been grateful (not immediately) when people have given me a wake up call and I am listening to you. I am unsure on this one but the right thing would have been to tell him he needs therapy stat. Of course, he wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:08 PM
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It is true. They were making fun of men in the 1700s because they dressed with more accessories, etc. and were thought of as effeminate. Some heavy thinkers of the time stated it was the end of civilization. They actually called these men macaronis.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:51 PM
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It's really not my style, I was just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:41 PM
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I have issues too and I get it. Do all you can to care for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:40 PM
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He's whining continuously. He needs an intervention. Do you think this life is all women want and we do not have to deal? Basically, he should get some professional help if he really feels this bad but you get shot down by men on this subreddit for saying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:39 PM
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No, you are just all about yourself. You are lonely. It's women's fault. There are influencers that say things that hurt my feelings. So what if women get SA by horrible men? It is all about me. You are so over the top full of yourself. You think only you matter. How about you talk about what you will do for women before we HAVE to do something for you? Take your rage for how hard life is and grow up. We are not your mommy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:06 AM
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These powerful men are a problem for women. If we are so horrible because of them, even as we flock to them, why don't men get involved in trying to take them down? Also, women were not flocking to them. Did you notice many of the girls were foreigners? I expect the ones who did "flock to them" had serious abuse issues or were 13 and could not really understand what they were in for. Somehow the fact that women are suffering extreme abuse does not move you but your loneliness and a bunch of awfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:27 AM
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Yes and they are a reaction to men saying they are lonely because women who do try to be friends with men often end up being hit on. So we back off because it seems like there is nothing we can do. I have never heard any of my friends or people I know say anything like this about men. It is something influencers say. Please give these people less weight. There are things men have said about women since I can remember. We are nags, balls and chains, drama queens, too emotional, bossy, ball buster…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 01:12 AM
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Could you give me examples of these trends? Without using influencers who are doing anything to get attention. I do not believe there is a systemic trend to mock lower status men. They are my brothers, sons, SILs, and friends. It really sounds to me like you have lost your grip.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:45 AM
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I think this post reeks of paranoia. Most women do not spend time hating anyone but the people like Trump and Epstein. They moved in the shadows, blackmailing, wounding, and possibly killing and the people who should have brought charges against them failed women and 13 year old girls. To say this fills us with hate against men who have done nothing is not true. Are there people out there who enjoy rejecting people? Both sexes do this. I once watched as a young man punished a less attractive wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:31 AM
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Where are these ATM men? I have never met one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:31 PM
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Sex can be a lot of fun but for me it has to be in a LTR. There comes a time when supply can outdo demand. You just have to live long enough. I have travelled a bit, crossed a few things off my bucket list but some of best times I ever had were in bed. Of course, you need someone who puts some effort for your sake. I did have times when I did not feel like it because I am human but if you are not ever interested, there's something wrong. I hope you figure it out because it is worth it and it can…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:30 PM
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Why can other men manage this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:56 PM
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We think most of the men are abusers and the women have Stockholm Syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:48 PM
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I have not accused any one of a crime. Hating half a gender, well protective for a time, is very limiting. I would suggest anyone who does this to look for therapy and try to change their choices. It is a lot less exhausting than hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:42 PM
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Foid is a word used by the incel community but of course you would give them a pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:07 PM
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When I was a 14 year old, in the 70s, I discovered Harlequin Romances. I read two and knew they were garbage. There was no sex or maybe just the suggestion of it but the guy was always something like a powerful shipping magnet drawn in by a sweet virgin. If you read this stuff from that era you could end up in hysterics. Now they have just added the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:21 PM
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Men do the same too. There are no halos on haters.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:07 PM
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Depression has to be dealt with in ways that are healthy for society. Forcing women to date men so they will feel better is not a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:06 PM
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That's life and it works until women are around 40 years of age. Then the opposite is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:05 PM
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I do not know any women practicing sexual hedonism. I think they exist mostly in your imagination. The women in porn have often been abused to get where they are. Taking away choice though is taking away rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:02 PM
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Your donation to the process of reproduction can be timed in minutes. I admit to no god-like abilities but having babies can seem to be a miraculous process. I just wish they would sleep more consecutive hours than short stints they need to fill their tummies.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:58 PM
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I think misogyny is usually based on the burden of life women bring. You had to expose your infant daughters to get rid of them. Your slaves could reproduce but it was expensive to feed them long enough to sell them. Responsibility for your progeny is a hard and so we will just treat women like cattle and to do so, we will need misogyny. It is taking responsibility or misogyny.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:47 PM
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Practically. We only need you for a few minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:28 PM
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To quote a song: what's a man without a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:28 PM
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Your donation to the reproductive process can be timed in minutes. Yes, our lives are better with you than without you but we basically carry the reproductive load. Let's be honest, we are better with each other if we do start reproducing. Children need parents and we are a lot happier if we are with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:26 PM
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If someone treats you bad is hating a whole gender justified? I understand when it happens in childhood because we are forming than, but hating a whole gender? The same goes for misandry, and racism that is based on the behaviour of a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:13 PM
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I think in the US a lack of education is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:11 AM
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It's how you make a big deal of what you have. Things do not make people special and it says much if you think they do. You are the one highlighting this, not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:08 AM
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That can get boring. Do you ever want to do other things? You know learn things, go to school, read a book, or give up bragging? Just curious because there are other things in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:58 AM
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I do not think misogyny is a problem for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:55 AM
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Exes? Well that sounds like fun. Money must be bringing you so much happiness but certainly not constancy. Here we are, you are spending time with me. Did the misogyny get to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:50 AM
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Whatever works.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:35 AM
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Do you consider caring for the home, work? I do. It really becomes hard work if there are young children but I think you have no children because you do not know. All that stuff sounds nice but I would want to be with a man who loves me and I can speak my mind. We get to negotiate life and what I feel and think matters, just like he does to me. If my husband had become sick or was in an accident I would have done my best for him. I do not have to have things, I love him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:32 AM
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It is one thing to ignore the house for a bit but you cannot ignore the children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:22 AM
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Mine is too old to get up anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:20 AM
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Good, life requires us to think and have opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:19 AM
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I know women are not a monolith but I do not think misogyny is the biggest problem in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:17 AM
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I love my dog but she sleeps on the floor and she is adoring but it is hard to have a conversation with her. Doggy's are easy to live with but people take real work, intelligence and ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:15 AM
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You expect them to do as they are told? I like to think so I guess I would not be okay? It's okay, you missed out though because I have very smart children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:06 AM
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You do as you are told?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:06 AM
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Just what women want a misogynistic partner. The line up of women must be hard to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:42 AM
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Only a man would think that repeating yourself twice with a point you know is important and then overreacting to it is alright because he is a man. You are continuing to overreact to this. You cannot be wrong? Only your way is right? You are using rationalization to justify being cruel to a child. There are no excuses. I am not going to argue abortion with you but there is a difference between a fetus and a child. You cannot argue against abortion and then deny a child it's father's care because…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:49 PM
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I disagree. If women in their 20s could navigate their lives while they have children when they are young but they knew they could still get their education and not having crushing debt, I expect more would do it. I think that the idea that programs that could make this possible would not work is part of the political right making sure that nothing costs the oligarchs or the rich. Yes, nordic countries are not making enough children and part of it is culture but the developed west is not cultura…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:51 PM
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If father's can manage to continue in school by paying smaller amounts to their child, I am all for it but once through school they need to meet the demands of being a father. I am not about wrecking men's lives, I am about a child getting the care he needs. Believe it or not I want the father involved with the child but if that does not happen, I want him paying for the child because what the child gets could be better than a mandated government benefit. I want children to do well. It is import…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:21 PM
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What happened financially in 2008? Women who are not having children can often go to post secondary education. Let's say this takes 5 years and then they start their career. (of sorts because it is much harder to start one currently). To get set up in their career puts them close to 30. They are saving and being careful but being young they go on a few trips and enjoy life. Men do this as well. They want a house and a stable environment to have children in. So they save for a few years. At 33 th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:14 PM
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It punishes the child. I believe sex is for adults and adults know the possible consequences of sex. The child needs to cared for.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:01 PM
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The only reason I think men would be better at drones is because they are more likely to spend much of their time playing video games. It probably gives an advantage. Also, I think you missed this: "By all means draft them for the tail". I guess I should have used rear echelon motherf*&er.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:01 PM
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I stated something in two previous separate comments. They were an important part of the comments. You going off on it is an overreaction. Paper abortion sounds good to you? So really this is all about getting even with women and not caring if a child suffers because of it? I often run into men in this subreddit whose problem is really with women. They have found ways to blame every woman who does not think like they approve of, or it can just be as simple as blame all women. They think they are…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:57 PM
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I have no problem with 50 year old women being drafted to work as rear echelon mother f*&$ers. I am sure many women do not have a problem with this. I realize you were saying this to make a point. I have seen previous posts in this subreddit where men were infuriated by young women partying while their male counterparts went off to die. It infuriates me too. Remember though, some of the Ukrainians went to Russia and work for the Russians. There are always betrayers and the young can be very self…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:45 PM
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Poor countries have tons of kids because they have a culture that is set up for it. Communities share and celebrate the children. In the west, it is different. Your child is penalized if you have less and many people will not do this. https://www.jrf.org.uk/care/does-money-affect-childrens-outcomes Parents are delaying having children because they are expensive and this also affects how many children they have. Parents in the west have different considerations than poorer countries and they take…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:01 PM
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Housing is still expensive in nordic countries and I do not think that couples today want to have less for their children than what they had. Many of the women I have spoken to in their 30s are not having more than one child because it is too expensive. Childcare is very expensive and they can only afford to have one child in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:50 AM
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What, I am not repeating myself, I am making myself clear. Stop overreacting. My daughter is in her 30s, and many of the couples are having one child but not more because they cannot afford it. Only 2 of her friends out of 8 are not interested in children. One is married and one is not. Paper abortion is something I believe members of this subreddit have come with that if a man gets a woman pregnant they can refuse financial responsibility because a woman can have an abortion and it is not fair …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:43 AM
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No they should not be drafted into having children (there is so much more than just birth) because children deserve a mother that wants them. You are responding to influencers more than every woman. Many woman want children but they are held back by finances. The reality is life is hard and childcare is expensive and most couples need two incomes to have a child. I can also say have you heard how some of the men talk about women? They want paper abortions so they have no responsibility if they i…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:22 AM
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I do not think the birth rate being low is only because women decide not to have children. The decision is often made by whether they can afford children. Currently, if you do have children, it is likely that your children will have less than what their parents gave them growing up. It is unlikely that many couples will want to do this. The cost of living is too high. Yes, there are women who do not want to have children and they should not be forced. Children are hard work and not everyone is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:03 AM
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Have you heard about the War Witches of Ukraine? They risk torture and their lives for what they are doing behind enemy lines in Ukraine. There are always women/girls who die in war zones. We are never safe if there is war where we live. I do not think sending 50 year old women into combat situations will solve your problem. By all means draft them for the tail but most 50 year old women are not going to be able to fight against young men and likely survive. Along with the many symptoms of menop…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:39 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 02:04 AM
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Most woman that I know got exactly who Amber Heard was. You do not think or know us if you think otherwise. The ones who did not get it were probably very young.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 11:34 PM
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No one who does not want children should have them. They are a huge commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:42 PM
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So many men do not get it. It can be very very hard. I am glad you made it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:39 PM
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How about we undo the nonsense of paper abortions? Then there is TRP own version of nonsense. If you have sex, you are both adults and while every attempt can be made to prevent pregnancy, sometimes they fail. So you both be adults and meet the child's needs. This pouting about women being able to have abortions but men not so therefore they can have paper abortions. A child is born with 50% of your dna. You knew what the risk was when you had sex. You are an adult too. Step up. Do you think bea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:26 PM
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I did it twice. It was worth it. It is scary and it is hard. Especially the 6 months to a year after the child is born. Men do not always step up for this. We are afraid to trust them. Failure of the parental relationship can be devastating for the child and very difficult for the mother. Men do not seem to take women's concerns very seriously. In this subreddit, they talk about things like a paper abortion if a woman has a child and they have not given consent. It is because a woman can have an…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 08:07 PM
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Are we crippled? Why would having a uterus cripple them. (Do you think I am serious? It is getting the men to think about what equality really is)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 07:41 PM
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If you post something, you are going to get all sorts of opinions. Few of them will be exactly what you want. I discuss female privilege and before I know it I am discussing Florida laws. There is one that is unfair to males I understand. I just do not believe in paper abortion. If a child is on this earth as a result of your sexual behaviour and you are able, you should be doing your part. You do not want to? Then do not have intercourse. I for children's rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:04 PM
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Sure, if you do not respond to other posts and I do not have an opinion. We take children away when we discover obviously unfit parents. In some cases, the parents should lose their rights and the children put up for adoption. There should definitely be sex education in schools. Young people need to know what they are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:27 PM
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How does my position on abortion affect what I believe about child care? Parents have to do the best we can. If you're not making 100,000$ that's fine but let's give the child what we can. If you are unfit then you at least meet the financial burden and that goes for both parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:00 PM
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No. What is best for the child is best. Those early months if the mother's are breast feeding are best mostly with the mother. The father gets to slowly move in and when the child will stay with him and not be unsettled, then it should be 50/50. If the mother makes more than the father she can pay childcare to him. Same if the situation is the father earning more. If they make the same, then either they both provide clothes, etc. for the child or someone pays 50% of the expenses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:19 AM
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You do not make sense to me. I do not think the men who fall short of picking up their share of the financial load of caring for children should get away without picking up the reproductive load. So if you want to run from your responsibilities, in all fairness we should have total equality. Let you find out how it feels to be pregnant and have someone not face their share of the load. Let's get these men pregnant and carrying fetuses and then caring for newborns alone. Let us be equal. Then the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:15 AM
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There is a point because then he could never be held responsible for a pregnancy unless the procedure failed. Then he could sue the doctor? She right that all this is landing on the women's shoulders and children should be the responsibility of both sexes. No should get to abandon their child because it is cruel for the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 01:07 AM
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Sexed? Explain please.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:27 AM
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Daddy gets 50% of the DNA in a baby but no responsibility? I am sure the taxpayers cannot wait to pick up your responsibilities. In fact, why don't you see what you can do about it? Get a law passed because you are so special you should not have any responsibility. Since when does a woman not have responsibilities? I have never known a mother on her own that does not work. Yes, there are a few who do not, but the ones like that often find better ways to get money without working. To have your ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:27 AM
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You can call the patriarchy? How about you give the phone number? No, if a man is upset that a woman can have an abortion but he cannot, how about we make life more fair for women. Let's get the guys pregnant. Installation of uteruses to any man who does not want to pay support. Then let's have them carry a sibling for the baby the woman is growing that they do not want to support. Let them find out how it feels. These guys want things to be fair? Why not make it really fair? Enough of us carryi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:50 PM
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For the children. If they are born, no one should be able to have something like a paper abortion or be able to run away. We should be putting children first. This paper abortion stuff is for children. They say it is not fair because women have a way out. Let us give them a clue to what women have to deal with because it is not fair they do not have to bear the reproductive load. (This is because they say it is not fair they can't get an abortion) So if they impregnate a woman they should get th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:45 PM
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Whoever children end up with should be in their best interests. If one of the parents is abusive, they should not have custody. If both are, let's see if we can find other relatives. It is the children who matter and if both parents are fit, they should be able to see both.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:34 PM
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With the way things were in Saudi Arabia, how many of them could pay child support? Also, do you think taking children away from their mother's is fair? I do not. Saudi Arabia does not do 50/50? How about we be fair to the children?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:05 PM
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The more you guys go off, the more I think it's a good idea to install uteruses in men. Let's make things equal. Hormone swishes, childbirth (definitely a C-section) breastfeeding, let's give you guys the whole of it. Then of course a newborn to care for. I mean how many people are going to cut themselves to protest circumcision but we compare this to bearing and caring for children? That's beyond weird. Maybe it is time to give you a turn.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:00 PM
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I just told someone that to be fair with women having the reproductive burden, they should be lining up to get uteruses. We should do this instead of getting a paper abortion. Don't you think this would be fairer? So I am deliberately being ironic or just difficult? This is what we do. I hope to offend so people will think.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:35 PM
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Ok, fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:23 PM
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So men's rights are more important than children's rights? We cannot have a man put out because a child is born? Since the beginning of time we have known how children were created. Because there are options now, we get to abandon our children? Your comments are up there with women pouting because they have to carry the reproductive load. Men cannot get pregnant? Let's solve this, if a woman has to do a pregnancy, to be fair, a man should be forced to be pregnant too. Line up for your installed …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:07 PM
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Either do I but I think if a child is born, people have to do what is right for the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:56 PM
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No. The child is too important. There are no excuses for child abandonment. Paper abortion does not exist in reality because the judiciary knows children are too important. Paper abortion is the fantasy of the irresponsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:55 PM
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Yes, a mother who abandons her children is a waste of time. So is a father but we do not think much of anyone who does not do what they should do when there is a child born.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:51 PM
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I disagree because if a woman decides to have a child, there is at least one parent in. I hate the idea of a child being born without even a mother interested in caring for it. Really it should be given up for adoption if this is the case. I am not about punishing men, I am about making sure the child gets cared for. You are the adult, now adult. Many men complain about single mothers but in truth it is fathers abandon their children that are a problem. At least if they have a relationship with …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:48 PM
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No, I wish it did not have to happen but I am realist. I want children to have parents as much as possible too. This is not about preferential treatment for one sex, this is just the reality that a child should have 2 parents. It's not that the father does not matter, it is that the child does. This is not an argument about a car. Nature has made men and women different so we have different choices when a woman gets pregnant. If you are not living together, despite paying half of the child suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:44 PM
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This is not about abortion rights. This about rights for children who are born. Women should have abortion rights because it is their body. Children should have parents if they are born. To not want a child to have the support they need and deserve whatever circumstances they are born under is cruel. This means whether they like it or not, fathers and mothers step up. Or you can go to all the fatherless children and tell them they do not matter, Daddies get to do what they want because they will…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:35 PM
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The person who gets the shit end of the stick is the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:27 PM
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Not really. I do not think you can weight it out. In many people's thinking both the bank robber and the home thief are horrible. In some areas an abortion is murder and a deadbeat dad is just a weaselly coward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:26 PM
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Adults have sex. Not children. If you cannot deal with the fact that one of the consequences of having sex can be reproduction you should not be having it. Children are too important to ever be abandoned. It is a cowards act to leave them. The judiciary knows that children are vulnerable and it is their parent's job to raise them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:24 PM
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I just put down the only stuff that mattered. You were about father's not knowing paternity, but this can happen. Perhaps it is best to introduce yourselves before you have sex? Perhaps let it be someone you know and talk to? However, can you explain this comment: "Women should not be trusted about what they say they will do if they get pregnant if they have never done it before and even then you can't be sure if they will be okay with it just because that was what you agreed on". What about men…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:13 PM
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What about the child? Do you really think you should be allowed sex without adult consequences? If this is the case, should you be having sex? Sex is really for adults and one of the things that can happen to a man is fatherhood. There are tests to prove it is his. Children who cannot meet the possible results of having a sexual relationship should not be having sex. The judiciary understands that their job should be to protect the vulnerable. This means children caught up in this situation. Any…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:32 PM
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Ok. I just was interested how it was working and if she knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:02 PM
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You were not clear. Just wondering if she knew you were still considering approaching?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:52 PM
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You have a current partner? And you still consider approaches? Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:49 PM
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Of course, men can be victims. We can all be victims and it's very painful to be one. I hope that anyone who has this happen comes out wiser. It is unfortunate that it has to happen. There are people who will defend atrocious behaviour. Really, it is indefensible and it can reflect badly on them. You maybe able to get away with it on reddit if no one knows who you are, but if others figure it out in real life, you should find people stepping away from you. There are bad people with a band of fol…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:06 AM
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Let's make it about something I could make for him. Say my first bf wanted me to make a shirt for him but I had no idea how to make a shirt. So I have since learned to do some sewing. Now I have the love of my life with me and he asks me to sew a shirt. I might attempt it but I would not make promises for the best shirt ever because shirts are hard to make. Also, the answer might be no because I have too much to do at that point. I might try later or maybe not because it's only a shirt. I will b…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:44 PM
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Well I will do things for him that I will not do for others and I certainly hope the same is true for him. If you love them though, it should not be about hurting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:59 PM
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Many jobs that women primarily do are female jobs that are paid less simply because they are jobs that are historically paid less because they have been usually performed by women. Men do not value kindergarten teachers or nurses the same way they do engineers, doctors and scientists. Female doctors make less than male doctors https://globalnews.ca/news/11613338/ontario-female-family-doctors-pay/ and it is primarily because a female doctor will spend more time with patients. This can make a sign…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:02 PM
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There will always be women who want to be fawned over. (there are men like this too) Just make the first dates inexpensive. Tell them it's all about getting to know them and if they are interested they could stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:18 PM
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It's not hypocrisy. I started dating as a student and the guys were too. I had no issues keeping costs down but it was nice if the guy made an effort. If she has great expectations, then she should pay her half. Some restaurants are very expensive. I was thrilled when an unemployed guy I liked took me to McDonalds. I knew it cost him a lot and I did offer and he was so sweet, we ended up having some really great times together. Yes, he got a job, but I picked up the tab for a camping trip before…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:05 AM
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Ok, I think he should pay for the first few dates but I have no problem with it being coffee for starters. Next date, can be ice cream or just a walk in the park where you get to know each other. It does not have to be about expensive restaurants. In fact, it should not be. This is about getting to know each other and this does not mean spending a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:03 PM
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I have little sympathy for whining from men that they are not getting laid. If you cannot get what is at stake for us, it is not my issue. No woman owes a man sex because he wants it. If we are not showing empathy for life's difficulties to someone we do not know well we are often protecting ourselves. I have sympathy for men. Life is hard for both sexes. Men who are ill, men who have to go into a war zone, men whose life is difficult. Men can self inflict their pain too, just like women can. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 07:01 PM
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How about these instead then. https://www.cbsnews.com/newyork/news/19-year-old-stabbed-to-death-after-she-and-twin-sister-refused-mans-advances-inside-brooklyn-deli-sources-say/ https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cjw668jq6evo https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna35818227 https://www.aol.com/article/2016/02/18/these-14-women-were-brutally-attacked-for-rejecting-men-why-a/21314765/ What would you call what happened to these women/girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:16 PM
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So you are in a LTR with someone you are just not willing to put any kind of work into? Perhaps it is best you do leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:08 AM
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I am not a game player so if I was avoiding looking at him, it would just be because I am not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:48 PM
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What did these women do? Who are these women? Can you give me the url that reveals this? (You have to add an np) There's all sorts though in this world. I am sure there's some really bad men too. I have run into one that seems to think there is nothing more evil than women. We are all hiding our Cruella de Ville evilness and it will only a short time before we attack you and then put our halo on and try to hide our true nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 11:35 PM
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I doubt I would do it. I would do the friend zone thing or no spark but it's people's right to end it and if there is no real relationship, (no more than a few dates) that's fine. How many times do men not bother calling back after a first date? It happens both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:29 PM
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We usually call aggressive women crazy if they are aggressive with men. If you're a woman you usually have some idea how nasty some women can be. I have never been concerned about women turning violent. Tell me, if you are in a grocery store and a slightly wild looking woman approaches you and asks for your number what would you do? As for aggressive, women are concerned that this can lead to violence. Since men are larger and stronger than women usually you could understand why that might be mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:13 PM
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Rejected, just approached men, can be aggressive. The point is you do not know so you take the safe route.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:50 PM
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From the beginning I was talking about being cold approached. Also, fear of safety is a legitimate fear. Drugging and robbing is a different kettle of fish. It's criminal behaviour. If they have gone out with you but still feel that do not really know you, but want to move on, ghosting is an option, especially if they get an uncomfortable feeling about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:48 PM
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And if her desire dies for a bit at sometime, is she not worth working with?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:44 PM
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I go through organizations to donate. Strangers approaching you can be fraudsters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:45 PM
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You are in an office with other people. Being polite is unlikely to cause aggression. Of course, if it did you call the police. If you are alone and approached by a man, it is more concerning. You do not know them. Quite simply you are not being fair here. Men can take things personally if they have ideas. You know if you smell alcohol things could go south fast. You take the safer route.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:44 PM
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It can depending on the issue. If you were taught sex was dirty, or if you are in a LTR and you need to work on how you feel about your partner. Life is not steady, it can have a series of ups and downs. We can get depressed or unhappy. Therapy can help you reframe things. Couples counselling can help to get partners on the same page. If one is just not listening and the other is exhausted from it, you can work on this. Just going to couples counselling shows your partner you are invested. You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:34 PM
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I thought we were talking about rejecting men who approach you? If we are going to talk about women who commit fraud isn't this a different subject? I was talking about organizations that can approach you in a store for donations. Not about fraud. Do you want to talk about what awful things men can do too? Stalking if they have information on the woman. Or how about we spend sometime talking about aggression and violence? Which gender is more so?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:19 PM
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I know of no one who has used fear of safety to justify drugging and robbing men. Actually, no one I know does this stuff. There are bad women who do bad things and then come up with excuses, this sounds like one. This fear of safety thing is real. I know because I am a woman and I was afraid of men when I was young because they can be aggressive and unreasonable. If we are rejecting you they can go off on a tangent and it can be terrifying. I am 66 and I am simply trying to get the truth out th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:12 PM
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Unless it is something that therapy could help? Or they are ill? Or just had your baby? If it's a relationship, you talk about it and then make decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:04 PM
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Defrauding? Geez she just wants him to go away. Frankly, when men approach you they want something. If she does not know you, they cannot be sure what is going to happen so they take steps to protect themselves. What do you do if someone you don't know approaches you for something? Do you give your number? Say they want a donation or for you to join something? Would you hand your personal information out?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:58 PM
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If there is a relationship, yes but if they are just asking you out and you are not interested... then do what you need to do because you do not know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:53 PM
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We do not reject them in the worse way possible. There are far worse ways. We reject in a way that protects ourself because there are bad actors.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:52 PM
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No it doesn't. What you talk about doing is devastating to a person. I would be appalled if a woman said to do this too. If you reach this stage, just end it. Have some integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:50 PM
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Trust me that stuff happens though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:48 PM
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Many women do what they have to do because all it takes is 1 guy to make your life hell. You may not like it, but it is reality for many women. You not choosing to see how difficult it can be does not mean anyone has to change for you. I suggest you read some of these stories: https://www.buzzfeed.com/patricepeck/street-harassment-women-rejecting-men-toxic-masculinity I am 66 years old and I still remember being terrified a couple times by males when I was young. I once had to run into an elemen…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:48 PM
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"Almost anywhere and at anytime." We have a wacky relationship with sex? Can we at least have it indoors cause the mosquitoes are bad this year?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:24 PM
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Let's discuss some women haters for a moment, since you seem to think men haters are the problem: shall I make a list of the incel murders? The 2009 Collier Township shooting (Pittsburgh, PA), 2018 Toronto van attack, The 2014 Isla Vista attack, 2020 Toronto Spa Murder, 2021 Plymouth Shooting England, etc. Women just do not go around shooting people like men do. We are rarely mass murderers. Women pay about 34-40% of the US federal tax burden. Men do not carry all the tax burden. You do not carr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:06 AM
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Right telling you to ask for consent is condescending. Tell you what, take a look at this: https://www.psypost.org/young-men-use-moral-outrage-to-claim-status-in-political-debates/ You are seriously full of yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 10:13 PM
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Well I was going to answer you but you lost me at condescending turd. Perhaps you should reread this and consider the fact that you are one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:46 PM
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Trust me, she will have a far larger headache than you will. She can never be sure you will not leave her if she becomes pregnant? She can have a better idea of guessing at what you will do if she talks about it. Some of it is to see how you deal with the idea that she could become pregnant. Women also tend to communicate better than men. We talk about our feelings. I remember reading about a math teacher who taught a boys school and then a girls school. She said the major difference was that gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:30 PM
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We are often just living with it. I do not know why you want us to hide it. It is a serious reality to live with. Women have been risking pregnancy from the beginning of time by having sex. It is a very strong primal urge. We can get lost in the moment. It is living with risk. We do not accept it as much as we fear it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:07 PM
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Risk is reality though. We can get pregnant so we prefer to have sex with men who stick around and we can lean on if we do get pregnant. We are human though and we can get lonely or enticed. How often do we moralize about what women do sexually? We judge women a lot harsher for sleeping around. There's a whole bunch of slurs just for this. Sex carries greater meaning for us because of what it can result in. We are not hiding behind it we are trying to deal with it and still have a life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:01 PM
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Could you give me an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 08:22 PM
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Life is always a bit better with it though. It is one of our fundamental drivers. I suggest you go without it for a while and it will seem a bit more special.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 08:20 PM
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The men who tend to attract the most attention are often the ones who create excitement, spark intense emotions, and project charisma, confidence, and unpredictability. The men like this just get more attention from everyone. Women mature too and are not really interest much past adolescence in such men. I think you are painting women with quite a large paint brush. Many women are not interested in men like this at all. We are individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:32 PM
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FGM is carried out by ignorant women. That does not make it less harmful. I never said women have a halo. Any word on the disproportionate amount of research that uses men as a baseline?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:27 PM
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The important question is, is Godzilla male or female? What gender abused Gozilla? We need a study and a panel to discuss this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 11:31 PM
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Whether you agree with it or not, many do not see male circumcision as mutilation. Many people have a completely different perspective. If you want it stopped you have to have people recognize it is a problem. You cannot fix what is not acknowledged. The damage done by fgm is viewed by the medical community as "Globally recognized as a human rights violation, FGM offers no health benefits and causes severe physical and psychological harm, including dangerous childbirth complications. Over 230 mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:50 PM
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The wealth of a country or an individual affects life expectancy across the board as far as I can see. The US is a country where wealth can make a huge difference in health care. I am all for improving it for both men and women. I am all for a retirement age of 60 for both men and women. I am 66 and somewhere in your early 60s, life gets achier. In Canada, on average men retire at 66.2 and women at 64.5. (Statcan). It's a 1.7 year difference. Not bad but it would be nice if it was earlier. Those…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 04:09 PM
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There are people who claim they were raped and they suffer because they do not report it. It is something this society has to work on. Too many men and women try to bury it and then are called liars later. We should never let rapists get away with it. I have nothing but sympathy for rape victims, they are trying to deal in a world that judges hard. The US states passing laws to rectify the problem of rapists getting custody of their children is an example of a human reaction to an inhuman proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 03:11 PM
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The countries where the life expectancy of men is highest also reflects a similar increase in the life expectancy of women. No country has men living longer than women. The reason why men live longer is the same reason why women live longer. It is lifestyle, good health care, high education levels and strong social integration. However, female mammals still live longer than male mammals. You compare taking away voting rights to having to ask a woman if he has consent? He needs to have a yes? It'…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:41 AM
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Any children? I have not known a child who does well when their parents divorce. There is fall out. I am all for getting it right the first time. 4 marriages? You have a falling in love issue or you are a tosser. Wouldn't live in partners be easier?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:04 AM
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I do not think hypergamy exists to any degree. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11790178/ However, we both should watch out for those gold diggers. Do not appear to sensitive, women now know you are just after our money. Guard your gold from narcissists. https://www.vice.com/en/article/are-men-or-women-bigger-gold-diggers-science-finally-has-an-answer/
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:02 AM
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So are you black or red pill. Women do not hate men on this sub. They just do not agree with you and you twist this to hate? Or can you just not understand we can be very different than you? Women keep men at a distance often because many of us do not sleep around or we are very thoughtful and careful about men we do let get close. Some men view this as hatred and make it into something nasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 11:24 PM
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What do you mean women 'doing it for me'? I can't decide if we didn't turn you on or if we did but we were not available? Women are taxed too and single women bear the same tax burden men do. Only if we have dependents are there any tax break. Taxes do not have separate tables for men or women. If each of us made $100,000 we would both have to pay the same taxes if we had the same amount of children and the same deductions. There is no special deduction for women. When I was young and had a bett…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:40 PM
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Certainly medieval Europe had many Saint's days and the peasants often got them off. I am all in. Don't tell our billionaire overseers until it has been accomplished and they have to live with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:53 PM
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If that is what you want, there is nothing stopping anyone from doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:47 PM
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In mammals, all males have a shorter life span. However, if we find a way to simulate this could you manage to add child birth simulators too? So much of this subreddit is about male pain of not getting sex when they want it, do we find a way to add this? We can go on about this all day. Is having a party a bad idea? No but I do think men should do the work for males. Perhaps someday we can have some older members of the opposite sex talk about what is involved with being the opposite sex. I do …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:46 PM
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Yeah, walk into a meeting saying as loud as possible, 'I have horrible cramps so can we keep this short?' I would keep it short but I bet someone would complain to HR.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:40 PM
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Go for it but you plan it because we have enough to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:20 PM
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I think gender parity is not possible, but I do understand there are menstrual pain simulators. Really more men should try it. BTW if you want a party for your son because your daughter has one, why not? It is just not something either of my children would have wanted. They would have been uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:18 PM
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The young awkward adolescents I raised would be telling me for the rest of their lives how I damaged them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:10 PM
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Plus sometimes there are problems with the onset of puberty and that's painful enough to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:07 PM
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He definitely has a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:05 PM
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Can I suggest some male bonding trip? with a happy home dinner at the end because you are back.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:03 PM
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Yeah, your mom celebrating your first boner would freak so many out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:02 PM
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There is nothing more embarrassed than a 12-13 year old girl. Mostly they do not want anyone to talk about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:01 PM
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Frankly, I did not make a celebration of it for my daughter but I did cuddle her all night. I had to give her analgesics and reassurance. Remember these are mostly 11-13 year old girls. As for men, have at it. What do you suggest? I do hope you can figure it out cause most women are fairly busy but we will offer our support.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 05:00 PM
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I have lived with men and it is amazing how blind they can be to what women do until there is not one around to do it. Women working part time is often so that can do the caregiving work that they so often do. Is not women making nearly the same as men sharing the tax burden? Medicaid covering 42% of births is not nearly enough. It should be 100%. You are 58% short. The richest country in the world can manage this. Usually it's married women with children who work less, do you think we could get…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:27 PM
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That sounds like the depression talking. Also, if you have teenagers or young adults, they come around eventually. Why by the time my children were 30 they were almost human.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:22 AM
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Do not give into the darkness. Those people who rely on you for money, need you to be there for more than money.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:13 AM
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How about you just do not do it. Seek out help. Take up chalk painting. Do not do this, ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:12 AM
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Please do not. I lost my brother to suicide last June and it has been so hard. Go to doctors, therapists. You are worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:11 AM
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Please do not. I lost my brother to suicide last June. I will never stop missing him. Find a way. Talk to doctors and therapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:10 AM
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Social media is not good for us. You should quit 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:49 AM
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Advanced age in pregnancy is 35. "Drug overdoses are typically not included in the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) official maternal mortality figures." (The New England Journal of Medicine). "Violent deaths, such as homicides and suicides, are generally not included in the official, foundational statistics used to track US maternal mortality." (National Institutes of health) These deaths are not included in the maternal mortality figures I gave. I never said there was a patriar…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:44 AM
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It's not new and I hate to suggest this but men can be rather full of themselves at times. They do tend to have a larger ego than many women. I have many men in my life so none of this surprises me. We can do the same. None of us are perfect and it's good to point out the other's imperfections so neither gets carried away.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:53 AM
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You did say that arguing preferential treatment was the new norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 12:02 AM
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I lived in the 60s and there was definitely male preferential treatment but I was always a whole picture person so I do not really recall ever telling males they had preferential treatment because I got that life was not ever really easy even then. (and it was a lot easier than it is now financially if you had a job) I did see things then that were really heartbreaking and I have called myself a feminist since. It was never you lousy male, it was let's fix this so it's better. The feminism I saw…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:39 PM
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I have said various times within this post, I do not think that male or female privilege exists when you broaden your scope. Sure I can say men have this and you can respond with women have this and we can throw examples of preferential treatment of each other at each other. Perhaps a scale with a piece of toilet paper for each item? The one with the most pieces and weight loses? Life is just hard for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 09:32 PM
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"PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex and gender issues". I am discussing gender issues. If I failed with my message, I do think some receivers are the problem. Is my message perfect? No but either are your responses. Surely you can do something better than "any civilised measure can be counted as privilege." Despite its many faults, I prefer civilization to the other option. Tell me honestly, how much do you understand about the female experience? If you need to be nasty thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:23 PM
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I do not believe men or women have privileged lives. Being a soldier is hard; being a civilian in a war zone is hard. Life is hard. I just am getting tired of hearing about privileged women's lives are. They are really not, just most of you do not want to hear it. I have listened to men and I have learned but I have to say the bulk of male contributors on this sub do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:49 PM
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The amount of women who die by suicide still shows that women die. More soldiers may die in combat but does this lessen the amount of civilian casualties and the damage it does. Women get more help when they are depressed than men. I have personally reached out when I have been depressed but I know of depressed males who do not. It was not easy to get the men to get the help they needed. I am going to say what made me reach out was my family. Not pressure from them but the hope that I would not …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:46 PM
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While the numbers are less, women die by suicide as well. We are more likely to be depressed but we are also more likely to reach out for help. I am in no way minimizing the pain men feel and I definitely think every effort has to be made to lessen this statistic. Yes, you may win at the numbers game but I am trying to teach men that our lives are not easy. Too many men on this subreddit think women have it easy. We suffer from clinical depression at 1.5 to 2 times the rate of men. This is not p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:15 PM
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https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/louisiana-woman-says-rapist-was-custody-child-ongoing-court-dispute-rcna34140 https://prismreports.org/2025/10/27/rape-survivors-child-custody/ Plus there was OJ Simpson. He got custody of his children with Nicole after he killed her. The reality is many rapes go unreported. It is just too harrowing for women to go through the process. They hope to put the whole episode behind them. Female circumcision may be outlawed but it is still performed and still an is…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:02 PM
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It is a mistaken way of thinking. I wonder if a man put it in place? As for female privilege, how about you read up on some of the issues women have to deal with that men do not. Are you exhausted from caregiving? Oh wait you're a sigma male. That just could not happen. Care for your future elderly parents will probably not fall on you unless there are no females in your parents lives that can take on the burden. Over the long haul of our lives no gender really has privilege. Lives are just hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:27 PM
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I just hoped to make more men aware of issues in this subreddit. They can bring out numbers but they need to learn about our lives. I framed it this way because I was totally annoyed with this female privilege garbage. Over the long haul neither gender has much privilege. Life is can be just hard for both of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:23 PM
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Most of the female privilege that you speak of has equivalencies in male privilege. How likely will it be that anyone will gossip about you and say you got the job on your back? Etc, etc. Majority of states it's allowed and the majority of women can travel to a state where it's allowed to have the procedure. This requires funds that many people do not have. As for shaving, you do you and we will do us. Many just do not want the ouchies and I just had a friend develop sepsis for a shaving cut on …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:20 PM
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No the reason behind my topic is to try to get some of the men who come to this subreddit to understand women's lives. Too many think women have it easy because we can get laid easier than they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:22 PM
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How many women do this stuff? I too can play this game. A man can rape a woman, get her pregnant where there are no abortions allowed and then sue for custody of the child from the woman if she plans for adoption. She has to keep, and care for the child or the child is raised by a rapist alone. There are loads of other kinds of fraud that men can play on women. Should we talk about f*ck boys? Tell women lies to use them? Disproportionate spending on health care? You be female and go into a hospi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:18 PM
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I disagree with more male autists. I think women are still less likely to be diagnosed. I do think it is because of women being able to fit in better so the experience is harder for men. I just do not think one gender has privilege over the long haul of our lives. I do think you should add women bear the reproductive burden because I do not think men get how heavy it can be. Our lives can be more complicated than men. It's a good comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:00 PM
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You are blaming me for every feminist/women's opinion on this sub. Global issues apply because they are part of the human experience. The US is also not a bubble. Those women matter. Women are physically more vulnerable than men. It is just reality. Many women take precautions because of this. It's a survival mechanism. I am not saying petty privileges do not exist but over the long haul of our lives we both pay a price for our genders. Too many men in this sub fail to see that women have anythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:53 PM
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Yes, there is a lot of male suffering. I started this post because I was tired of hearing about female privilege from arm chair warriors. Sometimes being female is not a walk in the park and I believe that men and women can have equally hard lives. They are just different. Individual differences can be substantial though. Illness, accidents, genetics, and our environments can truly make some of us have brutal lives. I think the experience combat soldiers have can be nightmarish but I also think …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:41 PM
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It's horrible. You cannot give into blackmail because you will never be free. Parent have to be aware these days and lecture children about scams and how awful people can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:21 PM
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You will still never bear children or understand how difficult it can be. To be honest, what do you think are the chances that you will be sent into a war zone as a combatant? I don't think they are very high. You are an arm chair warrior at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:34 AM
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We are vulnerable because nature makes it so. There is no getting away from reality. My evaluation of life is it is hard for both sexes and the reproductive load is something women bear. Most men do not have a clue so they dismiss it. The main complaint on this sub is they just cannot seem to get laid enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:29 AM
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I will learn to read right after you learn to think. Over the broad scope of our lives, considering the price of the reproductive load and just how hard life can be, women do not have privilege. Just because you do not understand does not mean it is not the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:26 AM
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I disagree. No one wants to give their children less than they had and that is the reality they face in this present world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:23 AM
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So 260,000 maternal deaths globally just does not mean much and the Epstein girls just don't rate the same as your stats. Over the broad scope of our lives, there is no female privilege. I did not say there was male privilege. So about that good faith... because we could improve those construction conditions and the maternal care offered to poor women. More males are born than females. Women have 2 X chromosomes and men only 1. If women carry a fault on one of their chromosomes the other one can…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:22 AM
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Do you realize the average US soldier goes into combat with a minimum of 68 lbs on their back and the possibility of 120 lbs. We have 1/3 your upper body strength. If we step back from the details and we look at our lives, I do not believe that women's lives are any easier than men. There are women casualties in war zones. There are women DV victims (1200-2000 annually in US), there is maternal mortality, there are female combatants in the front lines who chose to be there, females on the Epstei…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 08:04 AM
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This is across the western world because who can afford it? People do not want to have children because these days it could mean having less than what they had as children. They cannot afford a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:50 AM
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What? If you mean 500 messages, do you think most women want that? Maybe a 15 year old with nothing else to do. You have no idea of what women do. You are just upset because you do not get enough dms? How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:48 AM
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No this is reality not a zero sum game. Our pregnancies come with a real cost. I wonder how much your chance of being drafted is? The likelihood that you will actually have to do combat? Do you think there will be civilian casualties in a war zone? Since WW2 we seem to be willing to have more collateral damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:44 AM
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Sweetie pie, mostly it is the teenager's birth rate that is down. Women are still having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:28 AM
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We could argue this. I also could argue that children need both parents and so males should not be drafted too. Would there be a war if no one turned up?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:03 AM
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It is not a good idea. I hope it changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:01 AM
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I hope my empathy goes to all people. I chose to post this because I have run into comments where they say women have privilege because we cannot be drafted. I think it is blatantly unfair because there is a price to be paid for being female and many in this subreddit do not get it. I was actually trying to teach because I really feel many of the male commenters have no idea. I wanted to make some people think that maybe being a woman was not as easy as they thought. So many of the men are dismi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:00 AM
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Maternal mortality is not something that should be dismissed because we have a choice to get pregnant or not. The reality is men are conscripted because women bear children. You are also larger and stronger than women so you get chosen first. I chose to do this subject because men say it is a female privilege that women do not get drafted. However, I disagree. There is a price women pay for being women. We bear the reproductive load. Over the broader scope of our lives, women can pay a heavy pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:37 AM
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If we stop having children, there will be no complications or people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:29 AM
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If we do not have children there will be no wars because there will be no people.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:29 AM
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Certainly those are the good aspects of being one gender and I am sure there are times when most of us would like what the other gender has. I have found a lot of wisdom from trans people on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:28 AM
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Could you give me examples of some of these social advantages? The reason men are drafted is biology. You cannot get pregnant and you are larger and better able to fight. I think that biology and nature places demands on us and there are prices for being female and bearing children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:25 AM
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Yes, but if we do not where are the people of the future going to come from?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:18 AM
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So you think birth is all there is? How about periods, pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding then caring for an infant that needs to be feed every two hours. Then raising the child and working as most women do? You have real limitations understanding of women's lives. I am not playing victim, why are you having a hard time with the truth? It just does not suit your narrative that women have it easy with all the advantages. If they do not, how can be nasty and be proud of yourself for it? Maybe y…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:17 AM
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I do not think women are any more privileged than men. I have had some petty examples thrown at me in this post and I usually try to respond with equal petty samples. I just do not think women getting into a club for free is a huge deal compared to conscription or maternal mortality. There are arguments for the longer sentences for men because of recidivism. Men's crimes are more likely to be violent. A judge will usually have a criminal's record in front of him when he sentences so he maybe fai…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:10 AM
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Now that is a leap but I guess it is getting late.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:44 AM
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Men are risk takers compared to women. As well, women carry 2 X chromosomes. Genetically, if one X has a problem we have another that will cover us. Unfortunately, men do not have this. As well, with all mammals the females live longer. It is why there are more women in old folks homes. If you look at the global numbers females are falling behind. This is because there are more females aborted in China and India.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:39 AM
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Yes but they go to what we experience. I chose this because I have run into men in this sub saying that the reason women do not get drafted is female privilege. I do not believe in the broad scope of our lives there is much privilege for men or women. I wanted them to get that women have experiences that they do not have and we do not come from a place of privilege. We can pay a price for the reproductive load.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:29 AM
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You do not understand the issues and difficulties that women actually face, even in the face of statistics that show we can die from just being women. Women bear the reproductive load. Your ideology as a RP man is to diminish women. You do not want to see that their lives are not easy. It would be harder for you to kick them around and blame them for being able to have more sex than you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:20 AM
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I believe that over the broader scope of our lives women really have no discernible privilege. The reproductive load takes its toll. Men are the ones that say women have privilege because they cannot be drafted. I wanted to point out to many of the men in this sub that women pay a price for being women. The reality is women can die in pregnancy or childbirth even in nations like the US. There is a cost to things like periods, pregnancy, childbirth, breast feeding and caring for infants. Sometime…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:11 AM
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There is stuff like this. Over the broader scope of our lives, I believe privilege for both men and women does not exist unless you are very wealthy. I was thinking about the worse thing that can happen to us - death. It can happen to women in ways that it cannot happen to men. Yes men can get drafted but we pay a price for just being women. There are incidents of privilege for both sexes. I just do not think women getting into a club for free is a big deal. Loosing your job because of your gend…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:06 AM
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I understand privilege. I just do not believe it exists over the broader scope of our lives. I do not think men or women who are not very wealthy have much privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 04:00 AM
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I am not a perpetual victim. I am pointing out problems that real women have. You just cannot deal with it because it interferes with your ideology that women have easy lives. We do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:52 AM
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You have privileges. Your life will never be in danger from a pregnancy, however, you do not have post conception rights because it is her body. What about if she is not allowed an abortion? You can run? How many men get away with having no responsibility for their child. Our biology controls much of our lives. It is reality. If I buy your razors, what will I do if I need to shave places that are not really made for male razors. There are specific ones that work better. This is why we use female…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:50 AM
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What about when the biases give you privileges.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:44 AM
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Yes, boys get trafficked and it needs to stop as much for them as it does for girls. "The majority of forced labor victims are male, and the majority of commercial sexual exploitation victims are women and girls. " https://www.transportation.gov/stop-human-trafficking/human-trafficking-101 These stats that show females are more likely to be sexually exploited does not take away from the males that are also, or the pain they may have from being forced to do slave labour. I talked about women beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:41 AM
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In response to your women and children first: "A 2012 study by Uppsala University economists argued that the "women and children first" rule is a myth, and that men have a survival advantage in shipwrecks, with a survival rate of 34.5% compared to 17.8% for women in a sample of 18 disasters" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women_and_children_first#:~:text=A%202012%20study%20by%20Uppsala,a%20sample%20of%2018%20disasters Comparing deaths in from maternal mortality and pregnancy to soldiers deaths is…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:30 AM
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I do not think there are any wars that are being fought today that should be fought. I do not think that men should be drafted. The reality is women that 260,000 women died in 2021 from pregnancy and childbirth complications. It is a very high number. It is something men will never have to face. The maternal mortality rate is high in the US despite it being the wealthiest country in the world. I am saying that if you look at our lives overall, there is no female privilege. We have our own proble…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:19 AM
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What is mlre?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:09 AM
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Will this list do as a start? https://guides.rider.edu/privilege/male Yes, men have privileges women do not have. They do not have to argue with doctors about whether they are in significant pain. I doubt you have been mansplained to or talked over. I doubt you have ever been asked when you plan on having children or why you are not taking care of your children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:08 AM
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The comparison may be weird to you. You obviously do not understand the female experience. Too many men in this sub are just concerned about getting laid, not the possible results from it. In 2007 the hostile action death by US soldiers was 847. I cannot find an accurate figure for maternal mortality deaths, just the rate but 700-900 women die each year usually from maternal and pregnancy related deaths in the US. https://www.propublica.org/article/how-many-american-women-die-from-causes-related…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:57 AM
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There are forced pregnancies in the US and other countries because there is no option to abortion. Women can stop having babies and it would stop wars eventually because no people but truly is this an option that would be good for the human races survival? I acknowledge males are civilians and I do not want them to die either but I wanted some people to understand women and girls die in war too, not just soldiers. There are high rates of civilian deaths since WW2. I was trying to focus on women …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:44 AM
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All deaths do matter. It is just I find many in this subreddit really do not understand the risks women have just by being women. I do not believe there is female privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:38 AM
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It is biology that gets men drafted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:35 AM
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Bad faith? You state that women start fights between men. I have never seen a woman start a fight but I have seen men fight because of their egos. This is an absolutely disingenuous argument. Is not the global figure 260,000 women dying because of maternal deaths not a true indicator of risks women face. Does this compare to men having to beat up other men because his gf gave someone the finger? You open yourself to ridicule by comparing something that only 3 immature people would make happen an…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:34 AM
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I think pregnancy and childbirth is definitely a foreign concept for most men on this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:23 AM
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All male mammals generally die before female mammals. It seems to be part of the mammalian experience? There are discussions about taking away voting rights from women by members of the far right. There are no discussions about taking away voting rights from men. There are selective service exemptions for men. As for women business owners, please read: https://www.forbes.com/sites/kmehta/2023/11/13/why-women-entrepreneurs-outperform-men/ or how about this paragraph from the article: "Yet, invest…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:18 AM
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Both women and men's suicide deaths matter. Let's not use one to lessen the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:04 AM
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I do not know about studies but I definitely would not want to leave my family a mess if I was committing suicide.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:03 AM
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Health care and birth control helps with being a woman. In Roman Britain the average age of death for women was 28 and 51 for men. Women are treated better? Ask the Epstein girls how they felt with that special treatment. How about all those trafficked women? As for cherry picking stats, I used soldiers because it is most often where I run into the complaint of female privilege. How many father's get away with not paying child support? How many people blame women if they get pregnant and it is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:01 AM
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This does not minimize the maternal mortality rate. Getting into clubs for free, I assure you is not much use over the life time of women. I could reply that our make up and razors are more expensive. Some of your things are so minor that I will skip them. As for post conception rights, if you do not want a pregnancy you know how not to have one. Yes, men need more help when facing DV but many organizations like RAIIN help men too. Let's not say dealing with DV is easy and that getting into shel…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:51 AM
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Most women do not want men to die and live honest lives doing their best. I can only wonder about what you think of women or if you hang out with some very shady people. The behaviour you are complaining about sounds like a mental illness to me. I can respond to you by saying in any given year in the US, 1500-2000 women die a year from partner violence. When does DV usually start in a relationship? When she is pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:42 AM
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How do you define privilege? I wish men would not do jobs that put their lives at risk. Men have throughout history been risk takers. I think there is more choice here though than pregnancy and childbirth. We have to have children could you please not take risky jobs. It is simply the truth, there is risk in simply being a woman that men do not seem to understand or want to give us credit for. Here's another angle: How many men are trafficked compared to women? How many women and girls were abus…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:36 AM
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What is your point? You are just minimizing. Our maternal mortality rates are something women have to face and deal with. It is reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:21 AM
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The numbers are still the numbers. Deaths in 2021 from maternal mortality in the US were 1205. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2021/maternal-mortality-rates-2021.htm In 2021, 13 US soldiers died in hostile action. https://dcas.dmdc.osd.mil/dcas/app/summaryData/deaths/byYearManner Maternal mortality rates are high in the US considering it is the wealthiest country in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:17 AM
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Forced pregnancy is a reality in some states and countries. There are abortion bans. That being said, there are enough complaints about the birth rate. If women stop having children there will be no people. No wars would be a result of this but I do not think it would be viewed as a success. I do not think not having children is the answer. Do you think carrying children should result in women's deaths? The high mortality rate is because of a lack of health care in many places. The US maternal m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:09 AM
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Probably, if they will not say it. I wish we could get the location of where these posts are from too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:20 PM
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Actually, I have a great life honey bunch. I was talking about what I would do if I was in that situation and young. I have a husband of 42 years. We are great friends and lovers. It is your choices and accountability too. Best of luck to your future partner. I know you RP guys love to be chased because then you can manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:09 PM
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As for what men gossip about, it may not seem like a problem until a guy follows you home because he hears rumours you are easy. There is real danger if men put out stuff like that and men do it because their ego is more important than our safety. They really couldn't care less. We do not exist for you is a truth and applies to this situation. This is how it is relevant. It is surprising you care so much about what women say or do. We have to do the asking because it's hard on you? It is so tire…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:56 PM
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The subtle, no verbal cues have been around since before human ancestors could talk. If you do not like them, I am not concerned. There are loads of guys who respond. You think gossip controls me? If there's gossip about me, it's because I do what I want. I just think if a man is not interested enough to ask me out, I am not interested. If that pisses you off, it's not my problem. Sure, it's not easy, but once a relationship is going, women are more likely to carry much of the emotional load. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:46 PM
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If it's a personal issue, we are allowed to have them. Men have them too. It is men who are complaining here but women are told they are the problem so much today that I just do not listen and do what I need to. If it's not hypergamy, it's male loneliness, a gynocentric world, women not approaching or some other broad generalization about the social offences of women towards men. We do not exist for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:32 PM
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The choice is ours, not yours. Gossip can destroy people. For most of us, it is not worth it. Perhaps you should read up on subtle, non verbal cues that invite approach. It's not our fault that indirect signals fly over your head. I can say if the guy does not get it, perhaps he will not get anything? You just do not like having to start things.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:15 PM
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No more than a few idiots. Women can be made fun of no problem at all if they do something like that. Much of religion and society is about controlling women. A loose woman is viewed as a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:10 PM
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Men can still call us sluts for just approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:05 PM
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It's just we need to be resocialized. I can only wonder how he's going to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:01 PM
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If a childless woman and a childless man needed help, you try to prioritize. If the man has a broken leg but the woman needs a new pair of shoes, we know where to start. I do wish all problems were this clear. Get the man to the hospital, then shoes. Our experiences as men and women are different but we do carry similarities. We have at least an X chromosome in common and we have many common experiences. We are both capable of love, both capable of hurting and humans require a great deal of care…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:18 AM
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Correct. A few individual women who know the man and care about him might, but the overwhelming majority of women don't give a damn about men or men's issues, while demanding men care about the overwhelming majority of women and care about women's issues. Lots of women care about men, men in general, and specific men. We tend to be more careful around men than women. I donate specifically to causes that help men and then one that help women. I am careful around strangers, both male and female. C…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 01:29 AM
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I am not worried but I am concerned for others. It really seems like there might be a problem but I wonder if he responds well to meds?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:24 PM
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So men are too busy but women won't help you with your problems? Women are not too busy? We are ... just not willing to help? I used to donate my time to tutoring math students and somehow I ended up with boys to help. I guess that would not count? Some passed because of me. I help my husband with most things but admittedly I am not as physically strong as him so I am not as much help as he is with heavy stuff. When I am the only one around we manage usually. I have lent my money to my brothers …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:13 PM
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If he treats you differently than everyone else, you might wonder about it for a few minutes. For example, if he never speaks to you but does occasionally to others you may think he does not like you. If he never makes you feel threatened, you will probably just keep doing what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:34 PM
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Aren't you over the top. I mean I am a feminist and I do not think I have done a dangerous thing in my life. Perhaps it is the lack of testosterone? Since you did bring up dangerous would you mind if I point out what some of the incel men have done? You know the Isa Vista Spree, the Toronto Van attack, Toronto Spa attack or that poor failure Tres Genco who wanted to kill women but failed. So seriously, please cut back on the dirty tricks. Women should not loose their lives because you don't thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:32 PM
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Same goes for men. https://www.irishtimes.com/news/men-more-likely-to-be-gold-diggers-1.697838 How many men say they are gold diggers to women? Apparently, there are more men gold diggers than women but gold digging women are a big deal. Men marry and take vows but if she gets sick, some leave: https://medicalxpress.com/news/2009-11-men-divorce-common-wife-patient.html Sometimes what men claims works does not. Humans sometimes do not know their own minds. Life is far from easy or perfect for eit…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:50 PM
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We really would have to have a conversation with your significant other to honestly know. It's easy to say things on reddit. (I get it goes both ways) If you have lost anything would you admit it? What do you do? Is it because she has checked out and does not deal with what you do? Or have you negotiated and worked on things? Does she get what she needs too? I am happily, most of the time, married too but I cannot say I have lost either. It's been hard work but we both learned to listen and do w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 04:13 PM
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Relationships are complicated and much of it is meeting people's needs. If you are convinced TRP is the way to go, you are not listening and the relationship fails. Couples counselling can help if you are not one of those guys who get people. Why not try? TRP will not give you this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:15 PM
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I agree with you. I wish that taking care of littles was valued more. I live in Canada and my SIL got 5 weeks off paid work but it still should be more. At least, 3 months because it is so chaotic. It is also absolutely essential that infants get parental care for the first year. If our children do not matter, what does?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:58 PM
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I agree. Raw cauliflower is great with dip too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:54 PM
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Why can't men be kind to women? I have never slammed a door in a man's face and when I was young and took the bus I gave up my seat to elderly men and women and pregnant women. Women are kind to men too. If we are young though we are standoffish because we do not want them hitting on us usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 10:11 PM
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You want busy? Any mother of young children working outside the home or a SAHM works hard. I have worked full time with teenagers and it was a walk in the park next to having 2 young children and babysitting another. I never stopped. My husband was travelling all the time too. I could not get the flu or a migraine. I had to function. I had a friend go back to work after a 8 month maternity leave. A young man asked her if she enjoyed her vacation. She was stunned into silence. Some people just ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:56 PM
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Have you ever been a SAHM?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 08:00 PM
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If someone tells you they will never do something, I sometimes think they are having a battle with themselves about what they are going to do. They think they have made up their minds but the battle really is not over. I have seen some women who are convinced they should never have children say it with determination and then have children. Remember, sometimes when they say that there is a battle going inside them about what they are going to do and it is not over yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:48 PM
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Men often play that they are tough and they are in control so when someone like that gets a cold and suffers, we can tease them. I still make him soup and work around him just like when I had cramps or other problems and he got me supplies if necessary and a heating pad. Do you think men do not complain about women? Really none of us have halos so knock the one you think you have off your head. Also, I can feel pretty crap when I have the flu too. If both of us are sick, I get up and do the cook…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 12:56 PM
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No, we are not naturally disgusted by men. Men have more testosterone than women and this makes them more likely to take risks. I think we get upset if we give a clear no and he does not get the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:09 AM
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There are better ways. Go to see a sex therapist or go for Couples therapy. I also think that if things slow down because you have a new baby or one of you is sick, you should just be patient for a bit. There will be times in your life where supply can out do demand. Work can drain you, life has its down times and all you can do is your best. Figure out other ways to get through it while you work on your issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:57 PM
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I do not like porn because it can be addictive for the user and abusive for the performers. That being said, if you use it occasionally, I expect it is not a problem for the user. If you give men shit for watching porn; the same should go for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:50 PM
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Not always. Confirmation bias is something many people rely on so they do not learn. BTW you talk about boys being upset because girls play with their affection. Any bright girl figures out why a guy is hanging around and it is not usually for the type of play that is good for her. I do not hear any whining from the grown up men I know about this and they certainly do not want their daughters being approached while they are children. Perhaps you should reserve some of that sympathy for trafficke…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:31 PM
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So an article with information from psychiatrists has a reporting bias but you do not? I expect these experts have far more experience with women, men and abuse than you do. As for being nearly 6 decades old, I am 66 and I have learned that abuse of women for just being women is real and significant. It is far easier for a man to pick on a woman than for a woman to pick on a man. I know men who have committed suicide as well and I have known women who while suicidal have gone for help and barely…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 11:09 PM
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They did ask for the female perspective. However, psychiatrists who from their extensive experience disagree: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/mar/08/abuse-is-main-driver-of-mental-ill-health-in-women-and-girls-say-psychiatrists From my experience as a human female, I find too many rely on their own personal childhood experiences and not that of professionals in the mental health care system. Too often people have made up their minds and fail to understand they do not grasp the situation…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:43 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 07:35 PM
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Sometimes it is just the truth and you are minimizing it. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/mar/08/abuse-is-main-driver-of-mental-ill-health-in-women-and-girls-say-psychiatrists
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 07:28 PM
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I am sorry it is like this. It infuriates me wherever it happens. I know there are women suffering and dying now because they have a miscarriage. They are denying women medical care. It blows my mind. Now deadly force? Well it will kill the fetus too and I thought the point was to keep her pregnant. I would not even visit one of those states. (I am a Canadian and seeing Trump and the right in action has kept us politically sane).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:55 PM
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Find him information. If you get really lucky look for a veteran who will tell him the truth. You do not want him in a combat zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:40 PM
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They can send us into a war zone and if we survive we may well come out pregnant with the enemies child. They use to have wars just to get more slaves, often women. Not many men (or women) would want this. Once women get pregnant we are more likely to suffer DV. To a few men we are expendable then but most would like us to deliver the child and if they had any idea how much work it is to raise, they will keep you alive. I was well treated when I was pregnant and it is the way it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:37 PM
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I sometimes talk to younger men (I think) on this sub and I am amazed how they seem to blame women for being soldiers, so I wanted this said. The stats of men dying in Russia is unbelievable. My hope is the US would never tolerate this. I think women deaths are taken more seriously because we are not usually a physical threat so it makes them seem more injurious. Of course, men's lives matter just as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 03:28 PM
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Well we certainly agree there is a lot of bad. I just want you to make clear most women do not want men to die in war. Also, killing of women and children will be war crimes but it will still happen. Humanity really needs to do better for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:05 PM
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Exactly who are women killing and getting away with it? If you are talking about women like Charlize Theron's mother perhaps you should say something about the unfairness of the stand your ground laws when a woman uses them to protect herself. Are only men allowed justifiable homicide?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:09 AM
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A raped woman can be killed too. A bomb does not care whose house it lands in. A bullet does not check the gender or if it's a civilian before it kills.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:55 AM
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Russian men are fed into a giant meat grinder. They estimate as many as 500,000 dead. We know who thinks this is a good idea and I do not think it is most women. I would lose my mind if they came for my son.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:42 AM
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This is not women's choice. We do not want men to go to war. We often assume misogyny is men hating women and misandry is women hating men, but it is not. I have been to women doctors and been in significant pain and ignored but my husband was not. You cannot deny that it is women who are going without medical care because of abortion laws in the US. https://ajph.aphapublications.org/doi/full/10.2105/AJPH.2026.308465Imagine having a miscarriage and being denied medical care. Women can die in thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:40 AM
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Women worked in the coal mines of Wales in the 1800s. They were hired because they could pay them half what they paid men. https://cynonvalleymuseum.wales/2021/12/07/women-in-the-mines/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:26 AM
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I agree but I am shocked when someone wants an expensive apartment and their spouse or SO can't afford it and they still want to do it. Especially, if it's a spouse. You made a commitment. Truly, generosity of spirit and fairness helps a relationship survive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:24 PM
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If the relationship lasts and there is a child, would you pick up the slack? If so, this is fine. I am amazed at the guys who do not get if she's on maternity leave and things are not equal, they expect her to go into debt? It should go the same way if you're on leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:20 PM
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This is fair if you can do it. No one is struggling to keep up with the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:18 PM
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If it was not for her you would not have it. Give her some credit. I expect both of you have to be decent people who can handle money for the parents to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 03:17 PM
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Women buy houses too. When my husband and I married I was the one who had savings and a down payment. Eventually he was the one who made more because I focused on the children for about 10 years. There is no set pattern and I worked damned hard too. I was very careful with our money. If there are children born, many men do not realize just how much a pregnancy and birth costs a woman. Caring for children usually falls on the mother. We bear the reproductive load, yet many men give no financial c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:28 PM
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Sure because the relationships of Soviet Spies who murder people is the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:11 PM
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Most women bring a lot into a marriage. The fact that you cannot see this says so much about you. Things are brought in and accumulated in a home but men own it all? "Innocent men" I do know where you are starting from now. There are really no innocent people in a marriage. A marriage is usually two people with no one wearing a halo. In a divorce things are split 50/50. I get men protect themselves. I was talking about women and how they deal with men in a work environment. Most want to be profe…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:41 PM
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I do not think Soviet Union spies have much to do with what I was talking about. She was probably told to marry him and kill him if he acts upset about what they are doing. Hardly a normal relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:33 PM
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Your comment has nothing to do with what I said. You have some very interesting relatives but how is your Great Uncle's wife killing him probably for the Soviet Union anything to do with mature relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:56 AM
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Is this supposed to mean something? That all women are like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:13 AM
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I'm the problem because it just could not be you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 01:11 AM
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All individuals have limitations but we are all capable of growth. If you are not in a close relationship with a woman it is impossible to know whether she gets you are a human being. Women have learned put up walls around themselves with men. We do not want them to think we are sexually interested. We learn in our youth, we have to protect ourselves because any suggestion you are curious about them brings usually unwanted attention back. All relationships have their ups and downs but they are w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:43 AM
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If you know the person, you make the best decision possible. Everyone is faulted but some are extremely resilient. How desirable you are has little to do with it. The conversation is about men and women and their limitations and whether they can accept life is not just about you. In our youth we often think we have many options with lots of time and we do not have to invest. Being accepted for who you are in a relationship can be incredibly enriching.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 12:34 AM
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How many women leave if a man is vulnerable? Probably none if it is a mature relationship. We get men are human. Most of us love men and want them to talk to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:04 PM
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They want to be working by the time those children are teenagers. It helps with sanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:01 PM
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I have visions of women being arrested for being pregnant, sick or because a marriage has broken down and men refusing to divorce because they can rape their wives. Who would think this was a good idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 08:09 PM
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Sometimes, it is oppression.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 12:34 PM
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I just heard of her. We must be in vastly different places.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:00 AM
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Great grandmother went a whole marriage hating her husband? I am sure there were instances. Let me tell you are scenario. A man married a woman for her family's money. She was naive and despite some warning from a few friends and family, married him anyway. She was happy for a year and let him set up a company with her money. He eventually lost all of the money she gave him and was very angry when she would not give him the last little bit she had managed to put aside. Unfortunately, she never w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:46 PM
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I think you are letting a perpetrator off easy by saying it is negligent. It is depraved indifference not negligence. If the victim does not say no, they are likely stoned, terrified or very sick and cannot say no. By using the word negligence you are minimizing something horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:52 PM
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You have to be a psychopath to have someone say no to you and deny you consent and think that what you are doing does not harm the victim. What you describe is not negligence. It is abuse. It is sexual assault. It is rape. It is a complete disregard of others. There is no judge who will call this criminal negligence. It is actually choosing to hurt another human being. You need to rethink this. There are no excuses for rape. None.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:37 PM
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What? What are you telling yourself? You are rage baiting. What you said is a definition of rape. Someone one says no and you not listening makes it negligence? No, that is rape and there is every intention to harm. EDIT: If you believe this you need to talk to someone. I am serious. Get therapy. There is no excuse for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:25 PM
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How can a rape be from negligence?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 09:19 PM
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Because there would be more women coming out. The older you get the less you care if anyone approves.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:51 AM
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No, it's a simple wake up and get in the relationship you lazy sod.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:17 PM
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When I give anecdotal evidence to TRP guys, I usually get told that is not worth anything. However, I will take what you say seriously. I have a theory about why it is increasing in the US and some other countries. (check out Thailand's infidelity rates - it's cheating central). It is on the increase because less children are being cared for by their mothers (or fathers) and children are growing up with insecure attachment. This is what can happen when there is an insecure attachment: https://ri…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 09:52 PM
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I am sure this was very painful for you and I am sorry this has happened. It can happen that a person repeatedly picks a type of person that repeats the trauma that they usually had in childhood. Usually the best way to stop this is therapy. It is because of childhood trauma that they have internalized. I expect many of these women suffered from insecure attachment with their mothers. https://richardnicastro.com/2023/05/19/from-pain-to-betrayal-childhood-trauma-and-infidelity/ I expect you have …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:38 PM
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If there is no accuracy in the link, my question for you is how do you know your interpretation is right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 06:27 PM
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You are using the behaviour of one woman to disparage all. Yet, you fail to see an issue with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:37 PM
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There's nothing like a RP man to twist the truth to suit himself. https://academicweb.nd.edu/~rwilliam/ndonly/readings/PopDynamics/10-MarriageDivorce/The%20Demographics%20of%20Infidelity%20in%20America%20-%20Jan%202018.pdf We are not significantly better at it. You just want to engage in moral outrage by putting forth BS. If what you say is the truth, show me a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:36 PM
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Some relationships last. Where live 38 - 40% of marriages end in divorce. That is a 60% still married rate. Also, I am 66 and it's not a dead bedroom yet. Don't tell me all those 60% marriages are miserable either. Marriages have their ups and downs but by the time you get to my age they are mostly peaceful and very comforting. Also, 95% of women are not lesbian. You are probably just young and getting turned down a lot. Work on yourself and in time things might improve.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:19 PM
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It sounds like you have not lived long enough. We all get tired of some people. Marriage is hard work and IMO many guys tend to be lazy about it. I don't idealize though. I suggest you see what is there and deal with this because we are all faulted. There is no heavenly relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:11 PM
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They are dying in wars now. Whose idea is this? You will not find many women who are for war.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:07 PM
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No, it is about giving your partner a small kick to get them more invested in the relationship when needed. If you find you are doing everything and many men are more than willing to let this happen, you give a wake up call. I think it has something to do with once their mothers use to do everything for them so they are sure they are just fine doing this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 05:04 PM
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I am not fostering "you go girl-ism". I am hoping parents give a dose of reality. You discuss consent with them and you tell them they can always talk to you. You tell them men are sexually driven and some men can be manipulative and use you and leave. Tell them do not be flattered by attention over the short term and trust your gut. I would teach them about using their heads in situations. Always pay attention to what they do and not what they say. You tell them to never get drunk or stoned whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:46 PM
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You are safer then. Just try to find something part time and perhaps see a lawyer to discuss your rights if he leaves. You need to know what you would be in for should it happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:21 PM
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I disagree with you that the same men are okay with their daughter's being slutted out. I also think when your daughter's old enough she should know how men are sexually driven and she may need to protect herself from men who do not have her best interests at heart. I expect a conversation with both parents would be wise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:15 PM
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I would. Also, if you want children, I would consider making sure you have a work record that goes as long as you can because DV usually starts when women are pregnant. This does not mean you will experience it but life has twists and turns and Plan Bs are needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:01 PM
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So tell me about this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:00 PM
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I disagree. They just know how men think. They are trying to protect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:29 PM
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You could probably find a job fairly rapidly now. The question for me is could you find one 20 years from now if he runs off with new GF? I worry because your decision could make you vulnerable and your parents will not always be there as a back up plan. How about considering a part time job?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:27 PM
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You are calling me solipsistic but show absolutely no sympathy or understanding of women. I am trying to explain what women deal with and we are wired to be fairly tolerant. "So many things you don't even consider would annoy you." Like what? We are not available in a way you would like? Give examples of what annoys you. Do I think the guy is doing a good job with his ASPD? From what I can see he is doing okay but I think I have somethings I can teach him, and that is that women are tolerant and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:28 PM
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I am solipsistic? Listen to yourself. Only the male point of view matters. If you had any idea what I do in a day, you might change your mind. This guy has ASPD and I know it makes things harder for him to understand, that is why he needs to more. Are you capable of self-reflection?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:42 PM
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Yeah but we don't go around blaming what you wear for our sexuality. Men are much more likely to say it's our fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:59 PM
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As you said, we should try to make some of the annoyances disappear. Men bothering 15 year olds should be one but it's hard to charge a man for leering at a teen. So it's back to annoying. If I could make annoyances disappear, there would be days when half the human race would not be here. Still here we are, not doing anything to rid the earth of you either. I told you about what women tolerate to get you to realize we tolerate a lot and then are expected to tolerate men. Do you think there is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:57 PM
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Where I live the divorce rate is 38-40%. This suggests that women and men are tolerating each other 60% of the time. I think divorce happens often enough because one of the partners gets selfish or wakes up. Yes, women file for divorce more and while not always a good thing, sometimes it is. Men are more likely to be addicts, more likely to have affairs and more likely to have narcissism. We can often want out for good reason. See my previous post for the other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:35 PM
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You don't think women deal with annoying? When a man comes on to my 15 year old niece do you think I am not annoyed? When I have lots to do and it is a man's dinner and I just want to go to sleep, do you think I am not annoyed but I do it anyway? Do you know what some women have on their plate? The reproductive load is heavy and men get their 15 minutes of fame, and get to disappear. We can be annoyed with you for having it so easy. What you get to work in a job and have a lunch hour? Do you wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:26 PM
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Sounds like a point of weakness. Definitions of strength (that you are missing): 1. the quality that allows someone to deal with problems in a determined and effective way (definitions from Miriam-Webster). a quality or feature that makes someone or something effective or useful : a strong attribute or inherent asset. the ability to resist being moved or broken by a force. (This can mean emotional strength) Being physically abusive with a woman or child is a sign of weakness. Weakness can be a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:59 PM
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You can only see life from your point of view. Try thinking of how life is for woman, try to understand them and why they do what they do. You may have ASPD but it may be time to do (more?) therapy if you cannot get it on your own. If you think you are doing all the tolerating, wake up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:43 PM
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Believe it or not we do not tolerate you from a point of weakness. Yes there is fear there because men can be aggressive but if you're aggressive to women you're not much of a man. She needs to get out and hopefully she was smart enough to not get involved. You should not be involved in anyway with a violent men. (or woman, run if you meet one, she's trouble) Women are the way they are because they bear children. Bearing and caring for children makes us wired to be able to put up with a lot of g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:23 PM
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It's amazing to me how men project their sexuality. It our fault that we walked across the street in shorts and a tee?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:30 PM
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Do you think we don't tolerate men? Men can be so annoying and it's all about their dick. If you're virtuous so are we. I once smiled at a man because I was thinking about something else and I spent the night trying to get rid of him. He was married too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:28 PM
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Women are not delusional. When 1/3 of them have experienced violence from men ( https://www.thehotline.org/stakeholders/domestic-violence-statistics/#:~:text=Over%201%20in%203%20women,intimate%20partner%20in%20their%20lifetime ) it can make us very cautious. People wear masks and it is not always possible to read experienced liars. Calling us delusional is typical behaviour of men minimizing cautious women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:11 AM
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There are many people who doubt hypergamy exists to any marked degree. It is just something picked up by TRP and made much of. They couldn't find it in England. ( https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11790178/ ) Women choose men who meet their needs and it is not all about chasing billionaires. Billionaires tend to be tiresome, selfish, SOBs. Hypergamy is just another of TRP twisting of science. You prove with sources that it exists. Otherwise it does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:49 AM
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I would be horny for women (if straight and young) and I would have some insight because I was once one of them. I also think I would be less inclined to ignore some women's complaints because I would know they are real. Definitely, I would get a heating pad and ibuprofen for a woman complaining of cramps. I think if my soul remained the same, I would never be a f*ck boy because it's wrong. I would talk to women and take rejection less personally. Women know most men talk to them because they wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:41 PM
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Many women do not feel more entitled than men. They just want to live life their way and it's not your way. So many men are unhappy because getting laid is just so much harder than they want. I seriously think men would like to be more entitled but when you think a lot of yourself and women don't, some blame women. Women must be the problem because men could not be it. It is not easy to be demand when supply has all the say. Blame nature. Looks have a lot to do with who is attractive because loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:13 PM
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I disagree. Of course, most of what we are is hormones, limited intelligence and a bit of experience. The same goes for you if we put you in a women's body. Still in life we make choices. Some of us know ourselves well and avoid things. Awareness and insight often comes with time and we make better choices. (a few always had it) Some of us use our limited intelligence and self awareness and make different choices than the herd. We are all individuals and some of us are more intelligent than othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:04 PM
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A woman can ask you on a date. I agree with much of what you say but I think it's not that big a deal. It's been happening forever. Life is not what women want either. Women can pay a price for how nature arranged things. Talk to the women who have been trafficked. There's loads of stuff I can list too that make being a woman not fun. If you do the cramps, pregnancy, labour, birth, new borns, breast feeding and all the other issues that come with this, I would feel for you more. Privilege comes …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:56 AM
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It really depends on the situation and what I want. TBH, I am not sure I understand the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:37 AM
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87% of stalkers are men. ( https://police.charlotte.edu/safety/what-if-i-am-being-stalked/stalking-awareness-fact-sheet/ ). Go to the bottom set of points on the webpage. 1/3 of women have been stalked. ( https://www.stalkingawareness.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/SPARC_StalkngFactSheet_2018_FINAL.pdf ).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:28 AM
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So when do we get to select when we are asked to be married? We do not have privilege here. Men have to work usually to be selected for dating. While some men figure out what they want early and work towards goals, some men would sit on the couch all day if they could. Not having it easy to get dates can be a good thing if it gets you moving. You are not complaining about anything new. It's rarely been easy to get laid if you're a man. Sure it's easy for a woman but we want the relationship usua…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:23 AM
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Extraordinary is more than money. Most of us are not that special and that is good enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:07 AM
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Men have delusions too. Stalking is a delusion of ownership made by men. 87% of stalkers are men. 1/3 of women have been stalked. There are certainly men in a state of self-imposed delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:00 AM
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Well you said it. As for being mediocre, are you extraordinary? There are really not that many who are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:47 AM
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I realize you are debating dating and that women are the sexual selectors of dating, however, I want to make sure you understand that globally over 50% https://www.brides.com/story/modern-arranged-marriages of marriages are arranged. Certainly women are not the only sexual selectors in these kinds of situations. The parents, the woman and the man have more say. I am talking about arranged marriages with the consent of the participants. You also may consider us the sexual selectors, but life is n…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:43 AM
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"Providers are not who they want to have sex with. They’re disgusted by him." Who have you been talking to? Some like; some do not. No one I know is disgusted, just not interested. "Find a guy who is 8” taller than she is, a bit better looking facially than she is, a bit fitter than she is, with great career prospects, and a pleasant personality. He’s compatible with her in every way. Have him go out on a date with her, pay, mention she’s beautiful at some point, and then when they get in his ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:14 AM
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Well, GenZ women may be seeing a problem that I think needs to be seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:36 AM
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Most men if they have children with their partner go through many years of not having much time for hobbies. However, have you seen a golf course? My husband has gone off for hobbies. These days he goes kayak fishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:40 PM
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What you say does not sound very insightful. You also seem willing to blame women for the problem. I expect the physical abusers are better maskers and there are women who repeat childhood trauma without being conscious of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:37 PM
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No, where did I say this? I was speaking of adults but let's face it, children play and make messes. Obviously, if a child is going to be born, decisions will have to be made by both parents and their parents because they cannot do it alone. Often a 16 year old girl gives the child up for adoption if her parents will not help her. I am sorry but men do not get to choose if there is an abortion or not. Nature made this decision not women. The child takes priority. You can temper tantrum for the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:54 PM
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I am not sure that men have ever listened much to women. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-17693480
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:36 PM
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Have you met any? I haven't. It comes from the 80s and I have never heard of it. It sounds fringe to me and I expect there is no line ups to join. I expect there are more incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:32 PM
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So you're 16 and playing being a grown up, what happens next? I have argued abortion rights here and few no choice people change their minds unless they get in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 07:27 PM
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Well, I think the billionaire class and many of society manipulators have so much more responsibility for what is happening today and not so much women. They have just decided let's go with scapegoating women for the economic problems of women not having enough children. They point out poor societies have many children. This does not apply to western society where we do not want to have children and have them have less than we had as children. Rather than any of the greedy people do something ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:08 PM
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I disagree. I keep having RP men point out obscure radical feminists ideas from the 20th century. This is how I see feminist women thinking. If I quit my job and become a trad wife, my life does not change for the better and I am definitely more vulnerable. If I keep working and all I can get is a RP guy who thinks the burden of the household all falls on me, I am going to be alone with way too much labour. (Paris Paloma's, Labour song is playing in the background). I want to have children but t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 04:00 PM
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Then there is TRP issue of damaging relationships. How about we are supposed to chase them because that makes them feel good. No give and take, just about them. Let's not put the blame on 'People like Lilith' for the choices men make. It can make men into PUA and radicalize them and talking about it is what this sub is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:45 PM
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Tone is not carried with the printed word. You can misread it. The resentment part is no compliment. What if we do it out of curiosity? Or interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:29 PM
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What? "Women switch teams out of resentment all the time". Explain please.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:25 PM
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It's difficult to talk to many men these days because all they see is the reflection of their halo. Quick point your finger at women because they must be the problem. It's never us.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 03:23 PM
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I do not see much in the link about current feminism adopting the idea. I suppose it would depend a lot on the interpretation of what it entails but it will not happen. I have lived in this world for a long time, men get their noses too out of joint if women do too well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:20 PM
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No where did I say it should be a sexless marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:08 PM
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The OP was about healthier and stronger relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:31 PM
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Bald is not ugly. Men think it's a bigger deal than women. I would not turn a guy down for being bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:15 PM
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I don't watch the stuff so you got me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:14 PM
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To moving from a red state? If you do not want to go to war, it is one solution. How is anything in life equal? If life was equal we would all be trust fund children with entitlement issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:53 AM
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Well have you seen some of those movies with male superheroes or with the one man saving the world? We never have a hero male character with a limp and a bald head. How about a wheel chair? At 14 I read a few of those romances and I remember being amused. I hope not too many people take them seriously, just like the main male character who saves the world. I just really appreciate a guy who can get my washing machine going but hey, on the way home from work you can save the world too. I know the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:23 PM
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You could leave your country. They were called draft dodgers in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:48 PM
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A war is not the same as having a child. Children deserve the best of us and they need all the help they can get in this world. I think no matter how you complicate it, if you have sex you should know what might happen. The judiciary will think nothing of a paper abortion if a child is born and it should do this. The child is just too important. I do think it is wise to have a conversation with a man before you have sex with him and if he says that despite your best efforts, if you get pregnant …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:30 PM
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One often leads to the other and there is no other way to have children so it is difficult to separate them. You opt out of a pregnancy you are probably opting out of having a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:02 PM
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It may seem unfair but grown ups know how you make babies. You have sex and you can take every reasonable precaution and end up pregnant. Abortion is something some women cannot do and they may not realize it until they are in the position of wishing they could. The reality is children need their fathers. You cannot force a father to be in a child's life but you should be able to force him to pay child support. The same goes for mother's who abandoned their children or make more money than the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:39 PM
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For example, research shows that when men do more housework, wives’ perceptions of fairness and marital satisfaction tend to rise (Amato et al. 2003; Stevens, Kiger, and Mannon 2005) and couples experience less marital conflict (Coltrane 2000).1 Other research shows that U.S. couples who have more equal divisions of labor are less likely to divorce than are couples where one partner specializes in breadwinning and the other partner specializes in family work (Cooke 2006) So what about this quote…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:00 PM
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So you can say anything you want and not provide proof? So women are not trying to take over the patriarchy and replace it with the matriarchy. I too can make up things and be lazy. How about men cannot provide backup for what they say? Pretty general and definitely just out there with no proof. A lot like what you are choosing to do. It makes you very easy to argue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 03:53 PM
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I would love to have one of those men who defend women. Most of the men around me expect me to defend myself and my opinions. I really think it depends what is going on. Both men and women should step up if someone is out of line. If it is a husband's or man in a relationship's relative, it is probably best that he handle them if they are giving the significant other a hard time. The same goes for a wife or woman in a relationship. Let's be fair though, if there is bullying going on against your…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 08:29 PM
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I am not lying or misquoting you. And Tate FYI calls women 'queens' and says men's biggest role in life is to serve their wives so miss me with that irrelevant diversionist crap, Tate also isn't remotely as big a deal as the feminists I speak of. Tate is a big deal to many men and women and has 1.5 million followers on YouTube. TRP and his ilk have done damage to relationships with what they say about women. I am not interested in chasing down your opinion on Tate. I have at least provided info …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:35 PM
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I can find nothing that says Margaret Sanger promoted misandry. There was a lot of untrue things said about her. So please provide proof that she promoted misandry. You have not found 3 mainstream current feminists who supported violence. The first two were radical feminists but they did not do as much damage as an incel who drove their van into crowds trying to kill women. What is your excuse for insisting that men like Tate are sweeties and 2 unheard of radical feminists who are not current or…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 07:13 PM
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"Andrew Tate's faces 10 charges (involving three victims) that include rape, actual bodily harm, human trafficking, and controlling prostitution for gain. " "Tate, who says he is “absolutely a misogynist,” teaches his acolytes that women are inferior and morally deficient beings who are good only for sex and status building, and who deserve to be physically, sexually and emotionally abused. "(Adl.org article: Andrew Tate: 5 things to know) All I can say is wow. Tate is a problem and I suggest yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 06:48 PM
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Hardly. Find me 3 more mainstream videos or articles that want this. I have never heard of this before. However, I have heard of all the manosphere boy's like Andrew Tate and you can find a lot of stuff about him and his ilk. Some of it rejects him but he's making money.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:53 PM
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Could you please tell me a satire that would be acceptable to you, that would be the equivalent of governments trying to control women's bodies? The women who did this want men to understand how it feels. What would make you understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 03:48 PM
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Society is not one variable. Some view men as lucky because some are; some view men as oppressing because some are but most of us view individuals. Some of these individuals can oppress and have lots of privilege. Lots of these individuals are oppressed and without privilege. Beyond the laws that changed in the workplace, I have not seen feminism make many changes in my life. No red carpet falls at my feet when I go grocery shopping; and I can still be afraid of men in the right circumstances (d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:57 PM
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I was working in the 80s. You have no idea what you missed. Women openly being verbally attacked for trying to do well in the workplace. I saw men bring down a woman manager because they did not like the idea of a woman in such a position. I cannot tell you how many times I heard she did it on her back about any successful woman. Do not tell me times have changed. Given the opportunity, it will happen again. We do not pretend society hates women because society is not one variable, however, we a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:41 PM
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Whatever power that women have over men exists only initially in the dating process. It is whether we let men in and have a relationship or sex with them. The dynamics change as soon as we let a man in. This is when we find out his true self and if we judged correctly. Could you please share some of this material about women want to get rid of the patriarchy and replacing it with a matriarchy, specifically a matriarchy that wants to dominate men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 12:44 PM
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She is not a feminist. She is a hater. There is a big difference. It should be considered a hate crime. Imagine if she said this about another group of people such as the elderly or children.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:23 AM
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Give me a link of someone who claims to be a feminist but is not because they do not want men to be equal. I hear lots about them but I have not read anything by them. I can find nothing when I google Canada and feminists who want female superiority. There are no names and no articles. If I look up US and feminists, there are some articles where women think they are superior to men in behaviour but nothing about becoming superior. Here's a study on what feminists think of men: https://journals.s…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 09:46 PM
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Feminism is an ideology and a movement. Men are a gender. There is a difference here. What gives you the right to speak for all men? You cannot say anything about Manhood being an ideology. Manhood is a state of being and can be different for each male. A man can be a feminist but a woman is not a man. The apex fallacy cannot apply because this is a gender not a group with a definition beyond male and adult. A subset of men are criminals but being a woman and a criminal can stand outside of femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:44 PM
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58% of women globally identify as feminist. This is well over 4 billion people. You are going to get a bit of everything in such a large group. The apex fallacy applies here. No one feminist will speak for everyone. Feminism is about women having the opportunities they need. It is defined "as the belief in and advocacy for the social, economic, and political equality of the sexes". We want equality not to walk on you. Anyone who says they want more than equality is not a feminist. They are somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:46 PM
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We are going to have to agree to disagree. Women who have been badly bullied can have as hard a time in the dating world. You see women as receivers of attention but woman can push away people too. Many women just are not going to have relationships under these circumstances. The gender difference shows itself when the time comes to seek out therapy. Women are more likely to do this. Yes, when initiating dating men have to be able to seek out women but women with self sabotage and negative self …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:37 AM
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Thailand has one of the highest rates of infidelity in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:49 AM
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No, I disagree. I think that lacking the ability to compete in dating if you have been badly bullied is a sign that there are other problems that have to be dealt with. Trust me, women who have the same issue, can have problems dating too. The dating issues may present differently because of the genders but the results are the same. Someone with a serious confidence issue because of trauma will hold back when it comes to dating. The core issue is being badly bullied. EDIT: verb agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 12:26 AM
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"because women never be attracted to the majority of men". What? You make no sense. Have you met nature? It makes men and women attracted to each other. Hypergamy does not play a part in any of the recent marriages I see around me. It is overplayed. Yes, many women want a man who can support them and their future children but if you think we want a man with other girlfriends, the answer is not interested by many women. Yet, you have bought into it, hook, line and sinker. Many of the red pill wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 10:06 PM
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This is in the US. The US is not the only country in the world. Populists are not taking over. There is a lot of backpedaling going on. So what do you think the next federal US election will look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:10 PM
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Yes, it is a choice men and women seem to make. However, a woman with a serious confidence problem is going to have a hard time with people and that includes in the dating world. I expect they are more likely to end up abused and blamed by many for the abuse. Untreated trauma often leads to more trauma. Usually what appears to be men will not get chosen but there are women who want to dominate. Again, it can lead to more trauma. Sometimes, humans can just meet good people. I just wish it happene…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:08 PM
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No, humans are not kind to what appears to be weak men. Often they are just young and finding their feet. We can be tough on strong women. How dare they boss? Both seem to get all sorts of slurrs: pansies and simps for men, witches and shrews for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 09:02 PM
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Much of TRP scapegoats women and I am responding to what I have run into on this sub. However, yes, not all men do it and the OP did not say it. My reply is this is an issue for women too. I see this as a human issue not a gender issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 04:09 PM
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"PurplePillDebate is a neutral community to discuss sex, relationship and gender issues, specifically those pertaining to /r/TheBluePill and /r/TheRedPill." No where does it specifically say dating issues. Saying it's only a problem for men is unfair and shows a lack of understanding of how abuse can affect us all. A woman's confidence and how outgoing she is definitely an issue for her as much as it is for a man. I am often bowled over on this sub by how men cannot understand women can have a d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:42 PM
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There are women who go through this too. People who are different or not confident often bear the brunt of the just plain mean. It's a human problem not just a male problem. Scapegoating women for the problems men run into is no solution. It's unnecessary and it's cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 02:01 PM
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You are very dramatic and still making wild claims: That's just silly Lmao Because women would just come out and openly say it Lol" Your statement here is over the top and simply not possible. It is so ridiculous as I really should not debate it. It is without foundation. So do your work and show me dating app experiments. As for criminal courts, I suggest you read this article: https://www.crimeandjustice.org.uk/accuracy-criminal-statistics-matters Workforce? In the US, women make 82-83 cents f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:09 PM
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You overstate and provide no studies or proof. You make claims without any evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:48 PM
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I have talked to you before. Why are you so bitter? You sound stuck in a hateful place. You make these wild horrible claims against women but where is your proof that ALL women do these things? You just throw any garbage out there. Send a link to where women are saying men should suffer and die? Prove to me that 80 year old grandmas have as much power as the top 1% of men. Prove to me that men are treated as second class citizens. You won't accept personal anecdotes, why should I accept wild cla…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:34 AM
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TRP depends on generalizations, misinterpreted studies, opinions on personalities that are taken as truths, and takes notions about women's nature to the worst possible conclusions. It's plain hateful. I did not admit that women want any men to suffer and die because women do not want it. You are overstating the issues men have with women to seem like all men have the same issues. I can only think it is from a lack of life experiences. I hope you are young and you find TRP is not real life. It i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 12:21 AM
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I never have. I have too many men I love. Why are you so bitter?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:56 PM
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Gee I am just a grandmother adoring my family and standing up for what I believe. No one I know has done all the stuff you are talking about. Most of us love our husbands, sons, grandsons, brothers, and son in laws (he's mostly wonderful). I was around in the 60s and I saw how hard it could be for abused women. There was no place to turn and no jobs with advancement for women. This life is hard but loads of 'ugly' men do well. It's easier for them than women who are not good looking. Truly, I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:54 PM
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If Trump is an example of what men will bring about, how can I leave this planet?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:38 PM
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No woman I know wants men to suffer and die because they are unattractive. In fact, if you meet one, I suggest you call the police and let them know a crazy woman is about town. I love men. I may not agree with you but I seriously do not want anything to happen to you. I hope you are okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:31 PM
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Globally about 58% of the population identifies as feminist. ( https://www.statista.com/statistics/312161/define-self-feminist-advocates-supports-equal-opportunities-women/ ) How can 4.814 Billion people be consistent in any belief system? There will be many variations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:13 PM
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Me too came about as movement to help survivors of sexual violence. Can you explain why men would want a movement with Andrew Tate and his ilk as a movement? Andrew Tate charges involve rape, actual bodily harm, human trafficking, and controlling prostitution for gain. Wow, what a leader. This is who you want as a leader? What does the establishment need to listen to? That men are struggling? What can be done about it? Loneliness is not an easy problem to solve and certainly I think men would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:04 PM
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I am not agreeing with men's idea that women have a "complicated relationship" with accountability. If men did not have this problem, there would be full child support payments and men not complaining about how it's the woman's fault if she gets pregnant. You have no admission that men can have no accountability. If we are so bad at it, why do far more men abandon their children than women? Parenting is not a gender specific word. As far as I am concerned you are not much of a human being if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 06:48 PM
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We still bear the reproductive load. If babies are being born men are not doing it. There is just so much at stake for women when they have children and many men just choose not to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 06:27 PM
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There have always been the only fans sort. If there are more it is because it is so easy. Most women prostitutes are prostituting themselves to get money for their children. Obviously, they need a better way, but tell me how men raise money immorally? Pimping? Shall we discuss the Epstein girls? Those children were definitely responsible. They are doing things to get arrested too. You can't say men are innocent little sweeties either. There are more men with addiction and substance disorders. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 04:26 PM
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No, I do not think so. Why would you? Women are people. No woman wants to spend time with haters and people who put them down just because they are a woman. This kind of behaviour is not new. TRP is just an old idea under a new name. Being with a RP man would just wear me and most women down. It's part of the reason why women are backing off from men. TRP and its ideology destroys relationships. Don't tell me you are a purple pill man. Your foundation of hate is there. You belittle women. The re…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:48 PM
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No, but they can get pregnant easily enough and walk off. Your input can be timed in minutes. Most of us do not want this because having babies and raising children is hard work. We know having a father around is better for us and the children. Let's be honest though, we do the bulk of the house work and the childcare. Women bear the reproductive load.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:35 PM
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Well if this is the case, why are you even here? Why bother? I think many women are frightened of men and what a relationship can develop into. They are protecting themselves. Men need to stop TRP stuff and do some self examination. Hate will never bring women closer. The birth rate maybe down but it is not absent. Finances has much to do with the lower birth rate. https://ifstudies.org/blog/more-money-more-babies-whats-the-relationship-between-income-fertility
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 02:31 PM
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So much of what you see around you that was built by men was done because you guys had to do something with your lives while we were doing the important work. We were bearing and raising children and until birth control was invented most women were very busy. We can get by without the skyscrapers but would we even exist without women and the children we bring into the world? You are here because some woman put up with you when you were young. You give too much credit to men and not enough to wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:40 PM
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While you are right, I have probably been arguing with TRP too much. What I wanted to make clear was that the sexual part of the relationship was left until she was comfortable with the whole relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 01:03 PM
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No, deep down most people do not want anyone to do these behaviours with a person. The behaviour sounds definitely like a person with a personality disorder. Men are more likely to have anti social personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. Lucky me I have run into more women with narcissism and definitely more men with anti social personality disorder. Basically, these are the people you run from. The faster the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:33 PM
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It really depends on the individual. Some guys want to be in a LTR too. Some women will withhold sex until they are in a relationship too. Yes, guys do not have to stick around and that's okay but she has the information she needed about what he wants. Sometimes women just want sex and I think this is usually women who have been through a LTR and do not want a LTR anymore or not with the guy but sex is okay. Life is complicated and nothing is simple with sex and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 11:28 PM
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These young guys do not get real life and they do not want to. They want to hold onto their money no matter what.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 06:01 PM
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I am being nice. Are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:57 PM
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I agree with you. I do not think mothering is very respected. A year is an absolute necessity. I wish we could get the full 3 years but women live in the real world and they do not hold our jobs this long and it damages our careers. I lived in the 60s and saw what it was like then when most women did not work. It was hard when the women needed to leave. A woman worked low paying jobs and there was no chance of advancement. There was no support for abused wives or children. I think there would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 05:02 PM
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Women go with what works for them. If we are into this, we are likely only going to date men who do this. There are women who are still turned on by skinny intellectuals or maybe just guys who like to run and that's all they do. Men can do the same thing with women and most of them, if free, will go with anything they find attractive. I may want a 2600 square foot house but will settle for a 1600 square foot house cause it works for me. `
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:42 PM
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Could I have an example of cryptic mambo zambo?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:37 PM
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Ok. It's never only though, especially with the wee ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:24 PM
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Have you had children? Women ONLY mind the kids? Caring for a newborn beats most jobs for work that men do. It goes on for months and months.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:10 PM
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We cut it as adults. We just have less salary with more children and senior adults to care for. It's not our fault there are men like you willing to leave their responsibilities behind. Also, I am way better at saving than most men. I saved for the down payment on our house before my husband and I got married. He's good but he's not as good as I am. Stop with your generalities, loads of woman are doing well. You sound like the perfect man for this article: https://www.psypost.org/young-men-use-m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 04:06 PM
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Women make 83.2 cents on every dollar that men make. It explains the debt difference. Also, many more women than men are single parents and care for their aging parents, this makes for a greater debt load. The greatest difference in debt by gender is student loans. It's not financial literacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 03:46 PM
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A man doing the dishes or housework makes me horny. It is a very good reason to help out. It makes me horny because I am no longer exhausted and I now have time to jump his bones.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 10:41 PM
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I have no problem with having a type, this is life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:09 PM
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It does make a difference but I think under confident women can offer things and you are not sticking around long enough for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:08 PM
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How do you know what I look like? I am sorry you feel so rejected. I do believe it is easier for men to get by any looks issues than it is for women. Have you considered what being ugly feels like to a woman? I have talked to black pilled men and I find many of them very negative and that can be a turn off too. I know it's made fun of now by TRP but I wonder if therapy could help with the negative thinking. Please do not blast me, I want you to think about it and give it a chance. If you are jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:07 PM
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That's your take. Loads of people would disagree with you. The problem with thinking you are right is you stop learning. There are loads of women out there who are worth it and not your idea of hot women. You do you and just accept that I am not that impressed. I think there is more to life than just sex with 'hot' women. To me a rich life is in a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:49 PM
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There is more to life and relationships than the initial looks check. Trust me, if you are competent and intelligent, without a need to be nasty, you have a decent chance. You have to get out there enough for people to know you and see what you can do. TRP is mostly about attracting women for sex. I am telling you, if you're a decent guy and you are competent and intelligent, you have every chance of having a LTR. You just need to work on yourself and stop the bitterness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:40 PM
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To be honest, I found your reply arrogant. I think there is more to life than being good at banter and things more important than how you look. You find confidence attractive and that's fine, I just don't like how you put others down because they are not what you want. So what? Let them live in peace because not everything is about you. They may value different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:32 PM
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Beautiful people get followed around by people just for how they look. They can be used because of this. They still have to support themselves and do the things that life demands of them. Lots of them do not sell themselves, lots of them do not want to be used. Just like men who don't want gold diggers, beautiful women want men that love them for who they are. So the beauty (for both men and women) gives more opportunities but for some this makes life harder. Ask the Epstein girls if this was a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:26 PM
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No you just think beautiful people have it easy. Beautiful people get old too and a 65 year old who is all about plastic surgery mostly only kids themselves. There's not hiding from aging. The billionaires trust fund kids might have it easy for a bit but life always bites somehow. If you are beautiful and poor, you might get attention but you could just end up trafficked. That would be hell. You can be beautiful and just used.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 01:04 PM
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Yeah, so? It's all about banter? You want the quick smart answer. What if she's into slow smart answers? Could they find your (over?) confidence a turn off? Have you stuck around for a LTR? You are not for everyone and you're not that big of a deal. None of us are. TRP does not impress me much with what they are about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 12:59 PM
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What about women who are not so good looking and do not view themselves as the prize? They are humans too. If you are chasing a woman for 2 years, you should have backed off about 1 year ago at least. If you do this and she seems not concerned or interested back, it is definitely time to move on. Life is not a walk in the park. You may chase a 20 year old but how do you feel about a 38 year old? Time moves on and women have a short bit of time where men are willing to fall at their feet. Often w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 04:10 PM
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I gave myself a black eye once bending down in the dark and hit the edge of a chest of drawers. I covered it with makeup so my husband would not get strange looks and people would not jump to conclusions. People repeat patterns that they learn in childhood. They can trauma bond and then start a similar relationship in adulthood. It is time to learn something about psychology and why people do what they do so you do not continue to jump to judgment on people who have suffered trauma and are hurti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/26 01:50 AM
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Women did not get any privileges that men did not get. We were mostly bogged down in the past with pregnancy, child care and home care. We then had time and opportunity to do things, but I think the best invention was reliable birth control. Women pushed for the funding for this. Yes, it was men who discovered it, but it was a win/win. If you had been around in the 80s, you would have seen women were just trying to get the jobs they were capable of. While working then, I had personally seen men …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 11:51 AM
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It depends on what you can afford. You have to do the savings and retirement stuff first. Then you have money put aside for outings. I think one dinner a month and some reasonable outings are good. Do a picnic or a hike, they are inexpensive but can be as enjoyable as a dinner date. If you become a LTR, you both should discuss what your long term goals are. Would both of you rather save for holidays? Can you do all you want. Money is always the driver and both of you being fair to each other is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:19 AM
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Why do you have to constantly minimize women? "Gottfried Leibniz had already had a philosophical concept of something like universal computation back in the 1600s. But it wasn’t followed up. And Babbage’s Analytical Engine is the first explicit example we know of a machine that would have been capable of universal computation." "When Ada wrote about Babbage’s machine, she wanted to explain what it did in the clearest way—and to do this she looked at the machine more abstractly, with the result t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/26 02:11 AM
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No one ever said that pregnancy is the most horrible harmful thing ever. Talk about twisting. Young men do not seem to understand the female experience. We are trying to explain it to you. It is often not easy. Trust me, many men do not do all they can to help her. It was not my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:48 AM
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Women want the best for their future children. The world is difficult but there is joy. Get out and find it. Go for walks in nature. Make friends. Find a hobby that makes you excited about life. Trust me, the world is not what I want but I do my best to live in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 11:46 AM
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I wonder how old you are or if you have a child. I expect you might change if you had a child and understood the process and how difficult infants are. How well do you do with 2 hours of broken sleep for months? Can you go 3 years without sleeping through the night? I have a friend who after she returned from maternity leave had a man ask her if she had a nice prolonged vacation. Young men can be incredibly ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:55 AM
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Ok but my 5'6.5 son is happily married. (Of course, I think he's gorgeous) Women are just not wired like men. How you want to be desired is unlikely to happen. Wealthy men get chased for the lifestyle they can offer women who want it not just for them but for their children. (Some women will just want for themselves) This is life and life is not fair. It's not fair for women or men. We can whine and pout forever, but that's the truth. Anyway, the price of being desired for some of us is really b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 01:31 AM
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You hit 40 and you become invisible to young men. As you age interest in you fades. It doesn't last and it's okay. If you are in a LTR many women are not really interested in too much attention. I cannot tell you how exhausting it can be as a young woman. No one wants to be validated while going through daily tasks and just living. It can be a real headache. I have known a few women who have elected to expand their breasts size for attention. Many women I knew just cringed but if you think it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 12:51 AM
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Men's fathers should say something about circumcision. My husband made the decision not to with our son because he knew the equipment. I listened. FGM is brutal too. In 2024, 649 women died in the US from maternal mortality. In 2025, there were no deaths because of hostile combat with American soldiers. I do get it will be higher this year but this is not women's choice. I think you should put the responsibility for the deaths of the soldiers on the present US administration. Women do not choose…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 12:39 AM
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Most woman do not want to do this though. Most of us want sex in a LTR. I am not wired to have a new guy every few days. I do not work that way. There is a reason so many prostitutes have a drug problem. They need to be stoned to get through their days.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 11:47 PM
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It seems to me to be mostly young men who do not understand women's struggles and do not care to know about it. If a woman has not had much experience with mental illness, she may not know much about male suicide. Women do not have easy lives, especially if you become a mother. The life of a father is also harder. There is just so much more work to do. We both want the best for our children. If you are female many of your struggles can be internal. This does not make them less. Bearing and carin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 08:50 PM
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Who deserves your empathy?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:16 PM
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This post was about women, not about men. You are the ones who started talking about men. I said, talking about women's struggles does not mean we are attacking men's. By the age of 30-34, 62% of women have had a child in the US. By 45-50, 85% are mothers. Women are having children later. If you think women do not take male suicide to heart you are wrong. We do not want it, we will do all we can to stop it. Men need to accept help too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:15 PM
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I do not have stolen valour. I have had 3 pregnancy and given birth twice. The fact that you have a harder time having children is not my choice. Go talk to nature because it is not women's fault. Part of the reason men have more workplace accidents is men take jobs that are more dangerous and they are greater risktakers than women. If women pick the wrong guy and that's their problem; how is how you choose to live your life my problem? You chose the dangerous jobs and you risk take. You think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 07:03 PM
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Somethings you cannot know until you are there. A lot of people do not understand how rough it is to have children until they are doing it. I do not care that you do not give a damn. You are just showing who you are and it's not about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:30 PM
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I did not find this post gaslighting. She did not attack men's experiences. She told you about women and girls. You talk about women constantly downplaying and gaslighting, but that is exactly what your comment did. As for women being more neurotic or emotional? Our emotions are what force us to take care of our children. Taking care of infants can be brutal when you have just given birth. You are up 24/7, feeding every 2 hours, with 1 hour of sleep if you do not have other children. The schedul…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:27 PM
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In this post, she said nothing about men. She only talked about women. So you do not care about women's struggles. It is clear. What makes your worse? 800 women a day die globally from giving birth. Try and be a poor woman with children in a poor country. You think men have it worse? Life is hard. Women usually survive for the people around them. They will not leave their children. We are wired different but that does not make our lives less hard. Your arrogance that you have it worse, that wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:18 PM
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Untrue. Have you ever cared for a newborn? Have you ever dragged yourself out of bed to nurse a 2 day old infant after giving birth? They wake up every 2 hours 24/7 and it goes on for months. You have to feed them, change them and then pray they will let you have an hours sleep all while caring for the home. Loads of husbands roll over. This continues for months. You are alive because your mother (probably) did this. It is why many women give up on breast feeding. The schedule is exhausting. Man…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 06:07 PM
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Women seek out help more often. We both suffer. How about this article: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/mar/08/women-mentally-ill-men-mental-problems . This is not a race to find who has it worse. It is telling men our experiences and they are not easy. I have had 2 children, did most of the raising of them, cared for the home and relationships and worked part time and full time. I had a miscarriage, endometriosis, adenomyosis and an autoimmune disorder. Explain to me why this wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:59 PM
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Men and women get to choose what they do. They do not have to follow your reason and they are not wrong if they do not. Many women care very much about men. Many men care very much about women. They are interested in working with each other and many do not pay attention to the noise that is the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 03:27 PM
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Of course, I just wanted to be sure. I have gone on rants and found out I have misinterpreted. They do think certain parts of them outrank anything else in the world. Of course, my they means the same as your they.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:29 PM
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Who is they?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 09:20 PM
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That's appalling. I am sorry that it happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 04:24 PM
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How about men get that it is our bodies and we have choices. No is an acceptable choice. Many couples do not discuss what they did with others, they just enjoy what they do with each other. Do not women deserve to be respected? If this is the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, they should be listening and caring about you. You know what that person is about, if you are so petty and cruel as to try and force things that are not wanted, what does that say about you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:48 PM
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The reason you tell them is simple. It is not the norm usually and you are a decent person not looking to make awkward moments for people. You are giving them a fair chance to make a decision. If, of course, the end game is to upset someone and play judgemental games, then you are doing the right thing. Frankly, paying or not I can live with. You setting me up so you can play out your ideas about how life should be at my expense would turn me off. It reeks of arrogance.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:03 PM
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Is it? Why don't you tell them up front? Then they have a choice as whether they go with you or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:53 PM
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A woman can decide who she goes out with. If she find you ungenerous she may not feel that in the future she should be generous with you. Part of the process is showing who you are in some way or another. You do not have to play the game of dating if you do not want. You have choices. You can form genuine connections with people through dating. Loads of people do. The first part falls on the male and again, you do not have to do this if you do not want to. Women are free to decide what they want…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:46 PM
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You do not have to pay for expensive meals. Find other ways to date. Get to know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:27 PM
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I would not be generous with a man I was just getting to know. I am very generous with my husband. Some guy who I am dating expects me to be generous with my physical body? Not unless I think there is something more going on and this takes time. If you do not want to pay for expensive meals find less expensive dates. This is on you. You are full of entitlement and lack of self awareness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:24 PM
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I love outliers, they are so much more fun. Be who you are because then you are not uptight and miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 01:15 PM
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Oh, is that the issue, I make it personal because I have no arguments? I have kids too. So you do not think men doing the work of raising children might change women's mind? These days we have to work, so if the men picked up the second shift, perhaps there would be more children born? A few women might find this idea tempting? How I said it this time is not personal. Surely you will suggest it to other males instead of sharia law?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:52 PM
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Well some of those Christians and Mormons can have many children. They will not suffice? Perhaps you can get out and offer yourself up? You could say except for carrying and birthing, you will do all the work at home and raising the children after your job, like many women do. You might find a taker?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:45 PM
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So who is going to implement sharia law? You? The Heritage Foundation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 10:21 PM
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Society is not near a breaking point and don't you think forcing women into slavery is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:50 PM
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How do you know what position she is for lowering her standards? How do you know she does not know what a motive is? Perhaps you can mansplain motive to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:49 PM
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With only 14 known children I cannot help but wonder if most of the surrogates turn him down? Surely he should have more?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:42 PM
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I agree with most of what you say but those with money will hire women. They can do the work and you can scapegoat them too. Can you see Elon Musk? He will try to make an army. Of course, where will he get the eggs?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:37 PM
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Nope and there are none around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:59 PM
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I agree. I am not sure it would be a good thing for how women are treated by men though. They will get sex dolls with AI and then have artificial wombs for the babies. They will see if the robots can raise the children? It will not go well and I expect it will mostly be males born. I think many men will not care too much about women. I also wonder if not having a live human carrying them might not be good for the baby's development. I wonder how much being inside a real human helps. They hear th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 06:56 PM
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An artificial womb is not close in development. They are working on something for premature babies that might be effective at 23-24 weeks but that will not work from conception onward. I expect it is more difficult than you think. For example, the female body's endometrium regenerates monthly with specialized stem cells. Right now, they can only treat endometriosis, not cure it. There is a lot going on there. You need more than the uterus doing its job. There are at least 10 organs that make pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 05:33 PM
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How about pursuing. If you do not pursue you may not get the one you want. If a guy cannot make the effort, I am not interested and many women will not. TRP garbage is breaking up marriages. The children are collateral damage. https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/saskatchewan/online-misogyny-divorces-1.7580722 So you can take their advice, but I expect you will be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:11 PM
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It is not a narcissistic response. We look to our partners to help us with problems. It is natural to talk things out. Men look for women to validate them too, especially when we are young. Friends often talk for validation too. A woman makes him less depressed? What does that entail? He gets to feel wanted? Like he's enough or he gets sex? What if she cannot meet his expectations? Just like he is, she is human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:01 PM
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Why would you go to jail? If you are worried about controlling yourself, then please do not go out with someone. Women are allowed to say no. Yes, but if you do not take the risk, you cannot succeed. Look for someone who does not need to have loads of money spent on them. Go on picnics, to coffee shops, and walks. Watch a non romantic movie. If it doesn't work out, you are not broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:54 PM
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How do you know that? TRP told you? If you are married and you get sick there is a 20-21% chance a man will leave but only 3% a wife will leave. I had a friend with a serious genetic illness who found a wife. They only had about 7 years together but they married. Depression can be off-putting. I have seen it break marriages up and I am sure it prevents them. If he can get a handle on it, things might look up.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:36 PM
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Yes, loads of men do not like the idea of therapy but he is talking depression and SSRIs. If he is in a negative thinking trap or has specific issues they can help and hopefully make life a better experience for him. Therapy helped me to let a rough childhood not drag me down.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:30 PM
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So a woman should not have power in a relationship? What? You want slaves? We both should be able to say no. Do not make her your GF if you find she is not interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 12:27 PM
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I linked studies that disagree with what you BELIEVE and this does not mean they are on a pedestal. You have read all TRP garbage and believe you cannot have a relationship and you think this is the solution. Many very successful innovators have been married. Marriage did not stop them from their discoveries. AI girlfriends are gutless attempts at having a relationship because you are too afraid of the real thing. SSRIs and antidepressants are for depression. I suggest you try therapy too if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:16 AM
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There are loads of men and women who do not even watch the romance genre. There is no doubt that romantic love between a couple can be good for individuals. https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/love-brain I know you will not like it. For some reason you have decided marriage or partnership is not good for males but for married men it is very good. Men living with their wives have the best health of all. https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:01 AM
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Women can have issues, just like men do. What happens when we are children plays a large part in who we become and who we are attracted to. Emotional childhood trauma can lead to people being drawn to the wrong kind of people. Think trauma or neglect can lead to 'chemistry' with the wrong type of people. Someone can be so mixed up and damaged they go for the wrong type of people because it feels familiar. So someone who chases criminals is usually very mixed up. Trust me, most women do not want …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 08:04 PM
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Children should always be the priority of any government or person. I suggest you read this article on sinking ships and realize that the Titanic was an exception: https://www.heraldnet.com/2012/07/30/chivalry-on-sinking-ships-a-myth-study-of-sea-disasters-finds/ Many governments try for ALL their people. Any government with their head screwed on realizes that unemployed men are a problem. In some countries, woman have it very hard. Would you like to be pregnant in a poor country? Globally 800 w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 11:54 AM
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That's a possibility. I thought inexperienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 10:20 PM
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I just hope he's young but unfortunately so many do not shake their beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 10:12 PM
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It's fun for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 09:51 PM
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Sometimes we are topside?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:10 PM
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Not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:06 PM
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Even my brothers admit it can be like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:05 PM
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I think I have a fairly good gut feeling about people I know and talk to. I suppose if you set off my intuition I will avoid you. I expect the ones who fool around are not in my circle. However, none of my daughter's good friends give me that feeling that something is off. I have met a few women who can make me wonder. They just have a feeling of covering something. It could be unhappiness. Of course, it's complicated but I believe most people will reveal themselves but you have to see it. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:05 PM
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It really depends on the study. There is one from the Netherlands that puts it lower than 1%. I know a fair amount of women and I would be surprised if one of them had an affair. I know it happens but I would bet on the men doing it and many of them just do not give out those vibes. Find someone you love to partner up with and as long as you do not have affairs or are abusive you can make the long run hopefully. I would not think much of a man or woman who abandoned their partner because they go…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 11:24 AM
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The percentage of chance of a male raising a child who is not theirs in a relationship in the western world is between 1-4%. ( https://www.sciencefocus.com/qanda/men-discovering-their-children-arent-theirs-biologically ) So we know more women divorce men but still men are 7 times more likely to divorce a woman if she is ill. ( https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-single/202503/why-more-marriages-end-when-wives-become-ill-not-husbands ) There is a 20% chance a man will have an affair in…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:07 PM
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These days I just dream about winning the lotto. I think women can dream all they want about billionaires. Money really never falls from the sky. If I had to do it all over again, I would still not want to be with someone just for their money. The people I love get me through my days. Most people who are billionaires did not get where they were by being sweet considerate guys. They are usually members of the Dark Triad and beautiful women are not that rare. They can be tossed on a moments notice…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 02:55 PM
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When I was young I read a few harlequin romances. They use to make me laugh. Some of them were really bad. Some of the people I used to work with read the Enquirer which also made me laugh. They had articles that said "aliens live among us". No one believed them but they still read them. When I think of young women with older men with money, I think of the Eagles song, Lying Eyes. A cold, lonely life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PTEqZURh4o&list=RD2PTEqZURh4o&start_radio=1
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:16 PM
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Whatever floats your boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 01:05 PM
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We do differently and I think many desire a partner sexually more than just any man. How can it feel horrible, if we are just who we are? How do you think it feels to be wanted only for your sexual satisfaction rather than for us? Your way of being is not any better. We are sensual and we need emotional intimacy and trust. Many of us need the relationship to have sex. When I hear a guy needs me to hop into bed on the second date, I think he just wants sex with anyone, he does not want me. We wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 06:01 AM
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OJ Simpson got custody of his children after he killed their mother. I have never known anyone to get away with parental alienation and not be judged harshly by anyone save relatives. A man I knew who had it happened to him, started to tell me some of the things he did to his ex. He finally admitted after about 5 years he had made things so difficult for his children they did not want to see him because his current wife did not like them. The reasons parental alienation happens are not always be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 12:14 AM
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Well it does not feel like a massage. It feels so much more satisfying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:38 PM
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It is definitely individual. There are very visual females but I am not one of them. I just wanted this guy to realize he has a very limited idea of how women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:39 PM
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For many women, sex is a sensual experience. We are not usually as visual as men. I can close my eyes and still have the best experience. I expect this is part of the reason women do not get into porn as often as men. I do watch his face sometimes because I want to see him enjoying the encounter. I do not watch porn but if I did I expect I would be watching women to see their bodies reactions to what is happening. It would not make much of a difference if it was man and women or women and women.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:52 PM
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I think they just want to control women. Apparently, we have to be contained. "Watch enough of this content and you’ll learn that the keys to becoming a “man” include hyper independence, strong leadership, financial stability, assertiveness skills and an ability to provide what they refer to as “containment.” Masculine men will contain women by “unemploying” them and handling all problems so they can relax at home, free from worldly stressors." ( https://www.cnn.com/2026/04/27/health/breaking-bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 01:29 AM
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To many it is. We just need to learn to be careful with it. Men learn from consequences and being loving and kind does not solve the issues a couples run into. Women can love men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 04:03 PM
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In my experience, once they have chosen many really do their best.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/26 03:01 PM
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There's some ugly stuff out there. I have only been married 42 years. Together 48 in September.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 08:08 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:01 PM
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Getting old is sure interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 06:00 PM
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What comes across as creepy is a man we do not know, even if he's the most handsome man in the world, coming on to us. Really, the situation is all. I don't care how good looking you are if you are complementing a women because it is all about you and what you want and in a place where we are alone (because men do not do this when we are around friends) it is unwelcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 03:37 PM
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I do not know how to tell you this but it is likely you will shrink too. I kind of like the new shorter version of my husband, it goes well with the shorter version of me. We lose 1/4 to 1/2 inch a decade after 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:06 PM
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Maybe he can rent some? Send them back after the photos are taken?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:02 PM
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I do not get it. So many women are spring loaded to love but have to protect themselves because many men will do anything for sex and what they need. I do not think he will get it from this post. His perceptions will not allow it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:00 PM
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A lot of men consider 10 a high body count. If you're 25 years old and became sexually active at 18. It means most years you just slept with one guy. I would not lie going into a relationship about how many men I have slept with. Yes, lots of people sleep around but lots do not. There is a lot less women wanting casual sex than you're happy about. It's your problem. Whine all you want, we get to live our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:41 PM
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I think part of the problem is men not having casual sex think other men are having more than they probably are. Sure there's a few actors, singers, and very rich men getting lots of attention but I find most men overstate the amount of sex they get.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 11:30 PM
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BTW you do not understand how women work. We are less visual than men. For us, sex is scent, touch, feeling and sensation. So if we want to understand porn we do not get off watching men. In real, life it is all the other stuff that turns us on. Porn is ALL visual so the best way for women to understand what is going on is to watch the women. It has nothing to do with narcissism. You need to stop being such a know it all about women. You are not us, you only understand what you experience and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:49 PM
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I think you would be surprised how many women would run from Elon Musk. The guy makes me want a shower. He has 14 children with 4 women as far as I know. Not really women lining up for him. I know with minimal research 2 women have turned him down. BTW women prefer porn that has an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 07:57 PM
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Body count becomes an issue for many men when they are looking for LTR. Birth control can fail. Will you be making the difficult decision if there is an abortion? Or just pressuring for one so you get what you want? No child support payments. It's not your body. You want to be pumped and dumped? There just not enough free and easy casual sex going around for you? It's just not fair that women have choices? Most of us are careful with who we choose because we have to be. Most women do not just wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:19 PM
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It is not. What you are saying is ridiculous. Men are poor people? This is a pity party for your p*nis. You have almost nothing at stake if you have sex. We have a risk of pregnancy, men using our body count against us, being pumped and dumped and the possibility of violence if they are so inclined and get us alone. (ask prostitutes if they get beaten up). I understand they are coming out with better sex dolls. Maybe you should line up because we are not going to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 05:03 PM
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Privilege? It's more of a burden. You just do not want to see it because it all about what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:56 PM
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Porn can be abusive. Even when everyone wants to, you have to wonder about the actors background. It's also addictive so I do not think it's good for many. I think it can be very nasty. Sexuality exists for reproduction and women bear the reproductive burden. It can seem silly but it's really very serious stuff. Women keep the intensity down by keeping men at arms length and men do not like this. If it appears silly to you, but there's a lot at stake for women. We can try and trivialize it but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 04:51 PM
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Women get shamed too. It is a human experience, not just a male experience. So tell me what exactly is silly about women's sexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:42 PM
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Female sexuality is silly? And male sexuality is constantly get on your back now? My dick's happiness is the only thing that matters. Do you know how tiresome men can be? (especially young men) What do women owe you personally? We want to be safe and take care of our children. Doing so makes us vulnerable so most of us are very careful but let's insult women because I don't get what I want. It's all about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 02:27 PM
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For the women/girls who lived in that situation, it was no fun. I would not want to redo this part of the 60s. Men's nature can be very selfish. This is why feminism took hold. You want to go backwards and you do not care about the repercussions on women. You want it to be easy for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 01:48 PM
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"The fact that it was less socially stigmatized to harass someone in certain ways does not mean that most men would have agreed to that." And sexual harassment was more tolerated too then, especially in the workplace. Women either had to live with it or quit their jobs. You may not like the word 'romanticized' but it could be hell for women trying to hold down a job. There was no one to report it to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 11:55 AM
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Ok. A lot do not too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:28 AM
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We have argued the definition of child before. Will you pull out your usual dictionary definition? Must we do semantics again? Let's try something new. Tell me why you do not take on the men in TRP who feel women are untrustworthy if they do not have abortions? Why no comments there? Tell me why won't you discuss men's DV? Or how many father's abandoned their children? Or why TRP attacks single mothers and does not care how their children must feel?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/26 12:24 AM
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So it's women who are the problem? I wonder what was not seen or spoken of? My grandfather would tie my grandmother up so she would not cancel his vote. She managed to get out and vote. Do you ever wonder how we got here. Life can be brutal and men commit DV too. Why do you not mention this? Your red pill halo must be heavy to carry or are you so filled with your superiority you cannot even see how over the top you are? I have yet to have a conversation with you where you are not blaming women f…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 04:38 PM
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I know, I was there in the 60s. It was not easy to be female. We could get misogyny even while serving a man. In those times people could get away with more abuse. I am haunted by a neighbour woman trying to navigate the world with an alcoholic husband who threw shoes at his children. She had to get out with no support at all with no chance of a decent job beyond retail. You are romanticizing an era and what was passed on to sons was not wisdom, it was generational trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:15 PM
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Your ideas of hypergamy being the only way women choose men. There is so much more involved. My husband smells right. I turned others down because I knew he was a better match. There is no way I would be interested in being part of a harem or turning my back on a cheater. I would rather have nothing. It makes a relationship a lie. I would definitely choose down to have so much more. You drown yourself in bitterness and if you have a bad relationship with a woman you use TRP to condemn all of us.…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:03 AM
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You know what is common in all the women who think like this? They are young. Trust me, experienced knowledgeable women know this stuff happens and they can see the garbage coming from a mile away. It is unusual to find women over 21 thinking like this. I can only think that either you are hanging with high schoolers or that you get all your reactions from the internet. Loads of women do not care or are too busy or are not surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:42 PM
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No the red pill has exposed your nature. Any excuse to be nasty against women. It is just so fun to scapegoat them. TRP pretends to be this huge philosophical revelation because it claims obvious truths, and then builds them to their worst possible logical conclusions. It is a malicious ideology and it is for the immature or the cruel.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 06:38 PM
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I do not know a woman who is doing this, however, where did I say anything like this was okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:52 PM
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Could I have links to women attacking men and getting away with it. I do not think we get away with it. Trust me, I have loads of males in my life and I do not get away with anything. So please send some examples of mainstream attacks on males that we get away with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:15 PM
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"Also, saying “we are not evil” is not really what is being argued. Nobody serious is saying women are evil across the board. The point is that selection patterns and incentives can lead to outcomes that hurt people, and men are allowed to describe those patterns without it being turned into a moral attack on them." Give examples of 'describing' them. Some of TRP discussions of women's nature seems to come to the worse conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 11:26 AM
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First off, let's start with this study, just so you get that Feminists do not hate men: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/03616843231202708 . This, of course, does not mean everyone. I am sure you can fill a page with hate filled garbage by some. What if I used quotes from Andrew Tate as representative of the what many Red Pill men believe, I am sure it would not represent you just because you are a man. I can fill this page with links to hate filled garbage against women. I can bring up …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 02:03 AM
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I have never described a guy who I talked to but decided was not for me as a predator.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 10:31 PM
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Sometimes women are just talking to men trying to figure out if they can have a relationship with someone. Most of the women I know do not just dive in. If it will not work, they move on. Sometimes they are just being civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 10:30 PM
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Even marriage does not guarantee a long term relationship. There are men and women who are irreverent of it. They will use anything for short term satisfaction. It is not the woman's fault if the man tricks her. It is on the man (or woman) who does it. People can be naive. People get conned every day. However, taking advantage of people is not anything to be proud of and saying 'well she should have waited until they were married' does not give the person taking advantage an out of their respons…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:19 PM
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I think she should be very careful. However, there are some men who are willing to hang around for a while and then leave later. They manage to convince her that they really care about her and one day ... I am not talking about relationships where both try and fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:06 PM
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Women do not have to think about sex like you do. Engaging in manipulative lying behaviour to have sex with someone who is looking for a serious LTR is psychopathic behaviour. Lying for your dinner, while reeking of desperation, does not harm a person's body in the same way. An equivalent would be a woman hiring someone to beat the shit out of you. Your body is used against you. It can shut someone down. You live in Lala land where women's bodies are just there to be used. Women do not make peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 06:04 PM
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Some people don't. They get what they get from talent and hard work. Say you want a family and you marry a woman. She tells you she is 32. Turns out she is 45 and cannot have children but has a really good plastic surgeon. Seems to me this is a big problem. So what happens if you were 38 and you figure this out at 45. At 45 men's sperm diminishes and it is going to be harder to have a healthy child. It is dishonesty and fraud. Something very similar to what you think is okay. For some woman it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:45 PM
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Yes, you were conned. He was dishonest and manipulative.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:39 PM
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It's not worse. There is a big difference between using someone's body to hurt someone and manipulation for food.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:35 PM
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The definition of psychopathy: Psychopathy is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of empathy, remorse, and conscience, paired with manipulative, antisocial, and impulsive behavior . (wikipedia) If you are lying to a woman to get her to sleep with you, it certainly shows many of the characteristics listed above.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 05:31 PM
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How convenient for you. You do not have to answer the argument that it is not the same as financial manipulation. Using a person's body against them always is worse than financial manipulation. I guess that said you were wrong and you cannot handle it. Getting a woman to agree to sex under false pretences is psychopathic behaviour so now I know what I am dealing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:27 PM
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It shows how entitled you are. It shows a lack of character. Unless you are immature, you have psychopathic traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:21 PM
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You can make excuses for it but it is psychopathic behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:16 PM
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Is the damage the same? I do not think so. However, I do not think using men for financial benefits says a good thing about the woman and I think it is time to say good bye. It really can depends on the situation. They have been dating for 3 years and it is a one time thing? Sure if you can afford it, help her out or give her a loan? If it is for thousands of dollars on a regular basis, it is definitely abuse. He has to realize he has a kept woman. Is this what he wants? Can he afford this? I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:36 PM
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So, using people under false pretences is not malicious. Lying to people to get something is not an issue. How about you get caught up in a scam? Monetary fraud is fine? Pretending you love someone and they are naive enough to believe you and then using them for your own satisfaction is not cruel? Perhaps it is time for you to be treated for psychopathic tendencies. Here's the definition: A psychopath is defined by a personality construct featuring lack of empathy, remorse, and conscience, paire…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 02:14 PM
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Have you listened to some of the songs about heart broken people? Women and men have been singing them since the Stone Age. How about Love is a Battlefield. Or Adele's Someone Like You or Someone you Loved by Lewis Capaldi? We know the process is brutal. Adele's lyric "I guess she gave you things, I didn't give to you" hurts just to hear. If you think society is kinder to women dealing with rejection, it is often likely we are just laughed at behind our backs by some frenemies. Yes, some friends…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 01:26 PM
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"Feminists have said that essentially all heterosexual sex is rape, that marriage is oppression, and that the future, if there is to be one, is female, and that men need to be reduced to 10% of the global population." Can you send me a link for this? Or how about we discuss the apex fallacy? That most woman have nothing to do with this extremism. Or should I just look up the worst of men and have it put on you? Shall we talk about a man in Toronto who drove a van into a crowd hoping to kill wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:33 PM
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It has not. You have twisted things. Your accusations expose YOUR nature. You have no problem sticking it to children or throwing garbage at single mothers. Many woman have stayed in Ukraine or left because their families have asked them to, so they can keep their children safe. There are women who are fighting in the war too. 5,000-20,000 women are deployed to the front line and if you think bombs and bullets stop when it's a female, you need your heads examined. Saying I am virtue signalling d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:22 PM
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Have you seen your complaints? "when women face issues men have to step up and do better and bend over backwards to address women's issues, but the moment men have issues they can fuck off and they're not entitled to any help, time, empathy, or sympathy from women. " " so many women and especially feminists treat equality like a one way street exclusively to the benefit of women, and thwt the women who demand so much empathy and sympathy from men, are the first to turn around and deny that same …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 09:06 PM
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This is not true. I find women often admit their mistakes. Men are less likely to say anything out loud that they have done wrong. Their ego is at stake. I do not know any women demanding $100 000 monthly. Wait I will go ask my husband 'cause I want to be first. Most of the couples in their 30s that I know are happy with their various partner's heights. I know no miserable unhappy people without a partner. I think you watch too many influencers. Most young women I know are just doing their best.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 08:13 PM
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They benefit women and children and humanity. If children get better fathers because of the selection process, it can improve humanity in the future. We get healthier and more intelligent children. We are not pretending the standards are virtuous any more than men are. They are beneficial standards though. Men may visit prostitutes but they rarely want them as mothers of their children. They also want healthy, fairly intelligent (not smarter than them though), good looking women. Few men are int…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 12:58 PM
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Ok, in general women want men that will make good sires for their children. They want good looks, good brains and if they have resources and would stick around that would be ideal. It is not new. We are not evil. We are just trying to do the best for our future children. We are improving the human race by doing this. The rest of the garbage, like woman do not care about men and single mothers are horrible, etc. So the TRP twists things. We are not meant to be subservient; we are not less than me…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 08:49 PM
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My husband will never win a beauty contest, but I love him. He is capable, and intelligent and very cuddly. Every ordinary woman I know loves imperfect men. Women do things that keep this world going too. Traditional female jobs like educating children and nursing help society. Well we are risk averse, we still do difficult jobs. We are doctors, accountants, lawyers, personal care workers, bus drivers, house cleaners, etc. Many men and women love each other. The world is not all darkness and spi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 12:34 PM
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It is often because the men women invite in are the problem. A child with a step father is more at risk than a child with his biological father.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:53 AM
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You seem to think you should be in control of all subjects in a conversation with you. That is how it is relevant. No one can interject with what they are concerned with? It is only linear and always about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 10:50 PM
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It is what it is. We can fuss and fuss but it won't change so create your own subreddit with rules that only the subject at hand can be dealt with. People always go off on their own rants. Is it frustrating? yes. Men do it too. Some listen better. You can choose to ignore the people who do not reply with what you want or tell them you are only dealing with this such and such issue. You are not powerless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 09:12 PM
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You do overreact. If you want a subreddit like that create one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 08:54 PM
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Yes, but there are lonely women too. I am sure you are fine with it, they are overweight, mentally ill, or not pretty but it happens to women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 07:03 PM
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Look you are complaining about women complaining. Guess what, people complain. Men complain; women complain. Life just is not what we want. If you have a conversation with someone and they go off on their own complaints, they may not feel heard either. A lot of people are not being heard. I do not think you get how scary life can be for women. I still want to hear about what you have to say, so talk about it. I do suggest you try talking to a female friend in person though. They will be more und…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:53 PM
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Life should be so linear and always about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:45 PM
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Let's be honest though, threats of sexual violence are more frightening than men's real struggles in dating. If I was a man, I would not take my real struggles in dating to the internet. If you have a female friend, she should listen to you. This is why I have such a problem with men freaking out about being friend zoned. You can still talk to women who are your friends and if they are good friends they should listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 06:43 PM
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So you pick a responsible man with education and a good job. You wait 5 years to get married and then have a child. He decides this is not fun anymore and leaves. You cannot find him even for child support. The woman who chose him was not a deadbeat mother. No one has a crystal ball; no one can accurately predict behaviour. Yes, women can make mistakes but so can men. Are divorced men failures? Are single father's failures? Most of us make the best choices in life we can. Some teenagers come fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:14 PM
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So you are allowed but no one else is?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 10:44 AM
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You used the word EQ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 01:14 AM
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EQ has skills like self awareness, empathy and self control. It is studied and psychologists are currently discussing whether it should be rated similar to IQ. Not being able to understand EQ exists suggests that you do not have it. This could have implications for your IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:12 PM
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Some women are good at math; some woman have EQ and some do not. Some have abuse issues. Some do not listen to their intuition. Some do not make it. https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/femicide-epidemic/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 09:49 PM
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Yes, but it affects the perception of the person answering the questions on the health of their marriage. The ups and downs of marriage and life affect us all in various ways they affect how we answer questions. Talk to someone whose father has just died and wife is suffering from depression. Things can seem pretty bleak but if you talk to them 2 years later you might get different answers to questions. If you have a marriage without ups and downs, what are you missing? No one is without changin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 01:22 PM
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Loads of lives are unhealthy. Marriages and relationships have ups and downs. There are bad patches in life. Things pass and then get better. Everyone has some agency in this and the shit that life can bring us has the rest. More unmarried men get cancer or would you prefer married men get less cancer? Life is just hard for everyone and we all mostly muddle through. Those who say they are unhappy in a marriage, just maybe unhappy. The hardest years of a marriage can be when a child is born. My y…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:04 AM
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Unfortunately, so did the majority of men. I can only hope that everyone has learned their lesson. Too many people did not vote too and too many people did not a woman in charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:12 AM
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Ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:55 PM
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Women care generally but not always personally. You just may not suit them or they may not be interested in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 10:40 PM
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I do not think you should judge a potential partner on how fast she will go to bed with you. For example, I am an introvert and I need to get to know someone before I jump in. That means more than two dates. However, it also means I am not going to be quickly attracted away. It depends on what you want though. I am not saying your method will not work but a woman not going to bed with you on the 2nd date does not mean she is not into you. I think it is okay to ask someone on the third date if it…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 08:10 PM
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Hey, if you are that important... If it's two dates and I better get into bed with you, some are going to walk away. It doesn't mean they will not like you but they just met you. Some have to warm up.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:57 PM
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Maybe you are? I am not asking you to follow her around drooling. Be cool but open to conversations. How do you know her friends are leftovers?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:30 PM
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No, but sometimes it requires time. No one is pressuring you to do this, but your reaction is over the top. Is every no, such a serious rejection? I am sure if it is someone I do not know, no would almost always be my answer and the exception would be the friend of a friend I trust. There is too much at stake if you are a female. So you say hello next time and do not let it bother you too much because she does not know you well and maybe she knows herself really well. Ask her how she is and if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 06:29 PM
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Actually, I am not. I am assuming they are coming on to someone they do not know that well. Sure they might have feelings but they should not be anything but visually interested, not seriously in love. Really, you are overreacting to a simple suggestion that can work.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 02:19 PM
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Possibly, but I would say they are trying to protect themselves from being involved with real people. Fantasy is so much easier than reality. Yeah, it can be a bit weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:47 PM
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No I am not. I am trying to get you out there and perhaps find someone. I met my husband through a female friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:46 PM
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Many 'girls' are into K-pop boys and there ilk because that's the whole point. They are not ready. It is not immature at 14 to not be ready for a relationship. It is fine to not be ready at 17. Let the girls mature and be old enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:41 PM
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The whole point of girls adoring K-pop idols and such is they are cute but unavailable. If they really came around most girls would not know what to do. Let's let children be children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:39 PM
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Often the 'feelings' are just horniness. Have a cold shower and give it a chance. Jeez, and red-pillars complain women are negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:36 PM
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If you keep limiting yourself, you end up limited. Try to find opportunities in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 01:34 PM
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It does seem to me it would work. A man who can get along with women and be a friend is the sort of man I would like to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 12:14 PM
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This is the thing, so many men get upset with being friend zoned. However, you can use this to your advantage. Be a good friend because she should have friends and you just might find someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 12:02 PM
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My comments are not disingenuous. You need to get over yourself. Another male aggrandizing males without being willing to credit women. Making a comment does not mean I have to dig into the details of every movement. I was discussing women. I am aware that previous to 1918 in the UK some men did not have the vote. However, NO women had the vote prior to this date. If you want to do the complex history of men and women's rights to vote, have at it. Otherwise quit being so pedantic. EDIT: Paragrap…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:26 PM
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Women got the vote because of the suffragettes and the fact that some men and women realized we should have that right. We should have had it from the start, but men do not naturally include women in their rights. As for women voting for Trump, yes, women voted for him but 55% of men voted for Trump. If any of them can think, I am sure they are regretting it now. Unfortunately, the solution for many far right men, who do not like the fact that more women vote for more progressive parties is to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:43 PM
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Many women will spend the money for custody and trust me there is less chance they will have it. Let's not use money as an escape route for men not getting custody. My broke brother managed it. There is also legal aid, law school clinics and court fee waivers. Many courts will allow help centres that allow you to file for custody without an attorney. Some men give lip service to custody but do not follow through. Caring for children is hard. Some rise to the occasion; some do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 02:03 AM
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I have never heard a woman, when talking about the dead in war, ever only talk about the girls. I did quote stats about how many women died in war but only because the man was talking only about men dying in war. Women care about children and men too. Women care about men but do not tell me men automatically think of women. We would have had the vote from the very start if this was the case. Girls schools would have been opened at the same time as they opened boys schools. This was not the case.…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 01:20 AM
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I do not know where you meet your women(?) but I can only assume that they have not graduated from middle school. (your statement reeks of immaturity and male aggrandization) How do you prove that women do this any less than men do? Let me say I fully expect an argument that says only men can do this because women are too emotional. Only men can be objective or some other horse manure. I expect the reason many young women are avoiding dating red pill men and far right men is because they often d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:40 PM
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So despising red pill content says I am red pill content? So I have to agree with red pill ideology otherwise I am responsible for its creation? So I do not believe beta men are just exploited by women for their resources. I can walk down the street and find houses full of women and men who are living with each other for a myriad of reasons. However, are all of the men are living with the women for their sexual resources? Are all the women attempting to bleed the men dry of their resources? You …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 07:12 PM
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No you cannot change people but I can judge. I am not impressed. A lack of integrity says all.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:50 PM
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Usually when you have sex with a person there is some trust there. What is no big deal for you might not be for all. I think it shows just how big a AH you are if you do this. Some people have integrity and it should be for both sexes. If you are user, join the line of f*ck boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 01:28 PM
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It does and it doesn't. Young women learn. At 16 I was dating a guy and 3 months later I ended it. He was what you might call an alpha, full of confidence and himself. He was cheating. It's okay, I recovered and learned. Never went for someone like that again. We can say.. oh this is why women do this, but we fail to see the cultures that influenced behaviour thousands of years ago. We are unaware of our biases. How many times in archeology has remains been found and a scientist says oh, this wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:51 PM
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Men do this too. Suddenly the red pill was trending... I have seen ideologies live and die. Evolutionary Psychology cannot be proven. It is full of biases and blind spots. It will at the very least change.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:24 PM
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People often make choices like this. We repeat patterns because we often do not know what else to do. It unconscious decisions and behaviour. Humans often live what they know. This is why therapy can be so useful. It can open people's eyes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:21 PM
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It is very important to realize it is not most women. I admit young women can be stupid but find me a 26 year old woman who has not learned lessons if she was so inclined. By this age they should be able to admit failings at least to themselves. Some women have very good EQ and just quietly step away when they see someone who is way more trouble than they are worth. I think it is why so many women were appalled by Trump early on; however, enough women just do not get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 08:16 PM
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To some it is a choice but if you think all are aware of how messed up their lives are and what to do about it, you do not talk to enough people. Loads of people are just too messed up or too immature to understand what to do. Also, therapy is expensive and many who need cannot afford it. Do you think 18 year olds land fully mature and aware at this age? Do you think everyone has families that care and help?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 05:33 PM
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I know that perception is all. However, I did a quick google search and there are programs, such as this: https://www.youth-guidance.org/bam-becoming-a-man/ . Are there enough? No, but now is not really a great time for new social programs. I still have hope that more will be added. I do not think that teachers do not care about boys and I could argue that this is getting more attention now. I will say too that this year while on vacation in Canada, I ran into a lovely teacher who was doing ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 01:11 PM
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All she did is ask for an explanation. Everyone has struggles and I expect she knows this but please elaborate? I know I am not being snarky; I am interested in what you find difficult in this life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:24 PM
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I agree. We do not focus enough on compatibility. Most of the time we are thrilled just to have someone who is interested and we do not think long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:22 PM
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Some people do not have EQ or they come from very chaotic or abusive families and they repeat patterns without even realizing what they are doing. Some are neurodivergent, have learning disabilities, are mentally ill, or are just young. The world gives us complicated situations and very different kinds of people. What may be easy for you; may not be for others. Loads of f*ck boys are successful because they know how to pick and manipulate. Some people are incredible maskers. Some people do not l…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:13 PM
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Is it a misuse of privilege for a married mother to have children but he starts abusing her when she is pregnant and needs him most? When she finally leaves him, should she be shamed for being a single mother? Should we shame single fathers? They did not make a great decision too? How about we just be judgemental with anyone who has a long term relationship and breaks up? Men also do things like worship athletes and they are paid phenomenal fees. (Yes, women can do similar things but they can al…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 12:08 PM
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In the US 67% of judges are male (American Bar Association). Men account for most of the violent crime. 88.7 % is caused by men. Men have a greater incidence of recidivism. The stats do not tell you how often a man comes into be sentenced but has a longer list of previous offences. Judges make their decisions on potential harm to society. "Research consistently shows that men are more violent and physically aggressive than women across cultures. This disparity is one of the most robust and consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 12:10 PM
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I am not resentful of the fact that women between 18-32 have power. You are ridiculous. Did you think you were putting me in my place? A lot of women are relieved when they do not have to put up with the cat calls and unwanted attention. You seem unable to take responsibility for the fact that it is men who give women this power. I know single mothers and many are very good mothers. Loads of them get there because a husband or BF leaves. It takes two to tango. I wonder if you have any idea how i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 08:27 AM
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My question for you is what can you do for yourselves? So what can you do that does not hurt others? Can you get out more? Can you work on yourselves? Is there another way other than putting this all on women? It can be very lonely too in a relationship. We are not a panacea.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/26 02:02 AM
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Well it does not say this, liking us more does not make life easy usually. It certainly does not help getting females elected.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 10:10 PM
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You mean the psychological phenomenon?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:53 PM
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I hope the women are wonderful comes from having good mothers? Some women are truly wonderful and so are some men but let's face it, most of us are just trying our best. It is the ones that are not and go the other way that are truly scary. That goes for women and men. I have run into a few.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:34 PM
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I have never thought women are wonderful anymore than I think men are wonderful. I would change this to other people are frustrating. Women are not fantasies and neither are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 01:04 PM
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Unearned? We are not the ones chasing ourselves. Men give us this power because THEY want sex with young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 09:14 AM
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What about those lone hero movies where the man saves the world? Some men love this stuff. Perhaps there is a correlation between car chase scenes and stunt driving? Movies are not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 12:39 AM
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What about certain war movies, comic movies and those male movies where the lone male saves the world? Many of them are comparable to romances. They are not realistic. Apparently, they must be to some effect because about 50% of men believe they can land a 747 without any training. Romances have been around forever. If any woman believes a billionaire is about to fall in love with her at any moment, I suggest you get her into therapy. Maybe it is because I have always been a realist but I can wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 12:28 AM
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I did not contradict myself. I know my decisions are not every women's decision. I just could not do it. That being said I would do something immediately about it to prevent pregnancy. There would be no implantation. I can say this because I am an adult and can do what I need to do. Many young teenagers cannot. I cannot imagine doing anything to stop implantation if I messed up. I can take responsibility but to force it by rape is slavery. I am not a slave. I matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:29 PM
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There is one very good reason to stay home with children. I, in fact, think it is a must for children under 2. It is for the children. I believe in attachment theory. The other benefit is that it helps the family a lot because those years are so demanding. So I think that a parent should be able to take time off for the first two years because young children's development is so important.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:06 PM
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I made more money than my husband when I married him and I was in love with him. This Evolutionary Psychology BS gives me such a headache. It is so full of biases. I was on these scales you are so much into, better looking but he was intelligent and he was just so capable it drew me in; plus he smelled perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:48 PM
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We can do a war of statistics: https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/health-promotion/stop-family-violence/problem-canada.html However, the Canadian stats you sent me, will make me rethink IPV. Perhaps we are as violent but definitely not as harmful. Let's face it more women end up in the hospital or the morgue. We report it more than men because there is greater risk for us. This does not mean that female on male violence should be ignored. It has to be stopped too. As for male rape, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 09:15 AM
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Feminism, to me, has never been about rating men. It was always equal pay for equal work. That being said, I wish there were more men standing up to the manosphere but I cannot deny there are some. There is a lot of junk out there about rating people these days. We now have to reveal our body counts. I do not think Evolutionary Psychology is very good for pair bonding. From what you said it sounds like some of the Feminists have bought into it. It is mostly theory and has many biases. I came to …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:42 AM
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"I'm anti-feminist because feminism is anti-male. I'll stop being anti-feminist when feminism recognizes that men are half the rape victims and half the domestic abuse victims, overwhelmingly at the hands of female abusers." This is not true. Once again: "CDC data indicates over 1 in 3 women and over 1 in 6 men experience sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime". You doubled the men's experience. Let's be fair here. It is also true that if I was t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 02:28 AM
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Women cannot commit rape in the UK but they can commit sexual assault. This can carry as heavy a penalty as rape. The term rape is used when the penis penetrates a woman. If something else is used on a woman it is not considered rape. It is just how they use their terms. It does not mean a woman will not go to prison for sexual assault on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:04 AM
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Feminism is not a faith. It is about aiming for equal rights. It is not about taking away men's rights. Do I have a problem with men and the role they play in my life. No. Have I supported my husband when he went to school? Yes. Did he support me when I went to school? Yes. Would he be pissed off for me if I was paid less than a male coworker? Yes. Would I be pissed off if he was paid less than a female coworker? Yes. (Of course, experience might be a factor but let's say it is not) Good lord yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:39 AM
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Where did she say men should fix the fact that nurses and teachers aren't paid enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:22 AM
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To be a son or daughter of any age means you must be born. You failed to use the right terminology and it resulted in confusion but hey if you need to pass judgment from your very high pedestal, go for it. It is an abortion and it is not a killing of a child. Most abortion are done as early as possible. This is from Medical News Today: "Almost one-third (31%) of study participants gave reasons relating to their partner. For example, some said they did not have a good or stable relationship with …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 12:04 AM
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"CDC data indicates over 1 in 3 women and over 1 in 6 men experience sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime". You doubled the men's experience. Let's be fair here. It is also true that if I was to experience a violent attack I would prefer a woman do it to me. There is a chance I could fight back. We are also more likely to be killed by our intimate partner. Could you please direct me to common place misandry from feminists? I am unfamiliar with …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 10:57 PM
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I did point out a paragraph where you demonized women. I have never been sabotaged by a woman but I have had men try to take credit for my work and one man tried to sabotage me with gossip at work. That paragraph is what you want to believe is reality and yes women can be nasty to women but I have seen men be far nastier. They just do not want to talk about it. I am a feminist who believes in equal pay for equal work. Have you ever had to go into a mail room at work and get by the female calenda…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 10:38 PM
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"As a result female competition is less about showing oneself to be the best choice, and more about sabotaging the other women with gossip, reputation destruction, and social exclusion. " No demonization here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 10:01 PM
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Have you seen what the manosphere says about women? You want demonization? How about a red pill man?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:59 PM
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You say things like "hoe math" and that 70% of men are effectively invisible to women. It flies in the face of my experience. Can you show me where feminism is encouraging women to only look at the top men? I have never seen that. I am not saying it does not happen but please enlighten me as to where this is. Double standards? Of course, we will not look at ourselves will we? This is all about pointing your finger?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:55 PM
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The definition of child is a human being between birth and puberty (infancy and adulthood), or a son/daughter of any age. You were unclear in your usage of the word to describe a fetus or embryo. The rest is just noise because how was I to know what you were speaking about. Many men, but not all, have agency if a woman is pregnant and whether she carries the child or not. Their pressure can make a significant difference. The reality of the world is that it is harsh and for some it is impossible …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:07 PM
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No abortion does not undo the rape but can you imagine being forced to carry the child of a man who raped you? What a nightmare. Plus there are states where the father who raped can apply for custody of the child. I would lose my mind. I cannot speak for all though and it should be a matter of preference though. However there are states with laws that do not allow an abortion if you have been raped. Leave the decision to the woman. No one else should have a say.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:39 PM
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This ideology is your own. They are fetuses or embryos, not children. For clarity use the right terminology. How many men do you think do not want the abortion? I have seen enough women complaining on reddit about men not wanting pregnancies. Do you not think they bear responsibility too? How many of the f*ck boys ever take responsibility? Abortions are not all about women, they are about men too. Do you listen to some of the posters in this subreddit who think women do not fall on their backs r…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:36 PM
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I am not really arguing. I was looking for clarity and some idea of where you got your information.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 06:00 PM
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Yes but less women worked in the 80s. Part of the increase in men's doing childcare is because women are working? Childcare increasing by parents has to be, in part, because of costs of childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 04:50 PM
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This is BS. Based on FBI stats, approximately 450 children are murdered by their parents in a year. 2410 women were murdered by their intimate partners in 2022. Since I can definitely see that 2410 is a greater number than 450, were your statistics made up on the spot? So please let me know where you get your statistics from? Your own imagination?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 04:47 PM
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I said we do not have agency even when the pregnancy is a result of rape. Trust me, if I was in a state with laws such as this, it would curtail my movements. It's the vulnerable who will pay though. The girls who get raped and have no idea what to do until it is too late. It shows how much the state and the people who support it value women and girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 04:11 PM
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Could part of this be because more women are working?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 04:10 PM
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In response to your statistics on violent crime. How many women do you think do not report violent crime? Actually, the vast majority of violent crimes go unreported. However, the greatest threat for a woman is a man and we are less capable of defending ourselves. There is a need to elaborate about death in war. While less women and children die in war, it happens. We are often civilian casualties. In WW2 more than 50-55 million civilians died. Famine, bombings, disease, and military actions all…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:52 PM
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There are dangerous jobs that women do not do because many do not have the strength. Of course, there are things like working in pregnancy too. Plus women just do not seem to take risks like men. Pregnancy and childbirth can be it's own nightmare though and while the death rate is down for it in a modern society, so many do not give us agency over our own body even when the pregnancy is a result of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 03:09 PM
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I totally agree. There are ways to have peace when living with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:41 AM
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Well most women are not this hardheaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:39 AM
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I am very sorry. I did not mean to bring you pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:39 AM
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Are you remembering your mom?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:29 AM
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Seriously, you have to pick your hills to die on. Mind you I am not a great dishwasher loader but it is what my husband likes to do so he does it. I am just not as orderly as he is but I am cleaner.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:28 AM
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it's called negotiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 11:26 AM
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Men ignore red flags too. There is so much information out there but many men still voted for a pedophile. He's a sadist too and the information is out there. Why did so many not get it? He had 6 businesses go bankrupt but he got voted in. Men led in following him and so many have not stopped. (yes, there are women too but more men). There were so many red flags. Do you know what it is like to grow up with violence in your home? Do you understand why people repeat patterns? It is because they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:01 AM
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You do not have the whole population are your whim. Enough guys have someone hot who they are happy with. You are not interested in many of the guys because they are too old or too young. You don't really want f*ck boys. Maybe you want something more. What if you are not into taking advantage of guys? What if that's not how you operate? Most women are not into being sex workers. We do not want to get pregnant unless a guy stays around and really cares. We want someone we can trust. So out of a 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:29 PM
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I know life is hard and it is hard for both men and women. I never told myself otherwise. I have worked enough with difficult bosses and impossible schedules, I get it. Do you get how hard it is to raise a newborn to one years old? There is no such thing as divorce rape. Let's put that bs behind us because it's an insult to all the men and women who have been raped. We can do better than that. False rape claims are relatively rare. Yes it happens and it is a crime and anyone caught doing it shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:56 PM
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Younger women have more power mostly because they are fertile. It can blow back so hard in their faces. You guys are so hard on body counts and single mother's. Do you have any idea how much risk there is? We are kicked to the curb on either account and most of us want someone to love us, not just interested in our bodies. That we can get easily enough. Also, there's a lot of women around with this power. How many guys do not dump one woman for another? As well as guys get older they are just no…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 10:11 PM
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Have to have sex with him? I would pay for my flight. It gives me choices. We do not have to have sex with anyone but we should make it very clear we have choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 07:04 PM
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I am sorry Lilith can post 10xs as much as she does. It is her right. If you do not make headway, she may have her reasons. From what I have seen, there is far worse. That being said, while some comments are reasonable here by men, I find others attacking women with no real merit. As if women, blindly follow evolutionary psychology ideas put forth by non experts. They deny our humanity and respond with such rigid thinking, I pity any women or girls that talk to them. Do you speak up to them? Do …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:37 PM
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We are here to change the incel's opinion. Do you understand their ideology? If you know she has been making the same posts for years, you have been here. Why are you allowed here but she is not? Incels believe they should have power over us. We are allowed to live our lives. Give me one reason why we shouldn't. As for harm, what van has a woman driven into a crowd, to kill incels? Or shot and stabbed men? This is what the incels have done. Yet we come to try and reason. You just do not want to …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 05:10 PM
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What about the if? She said if those are the only/majority women that men know, that's the men's fault. There was no always.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:59 PM
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Lilith?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:45 PM
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I truly wish you another life other than the one you insist exists. I have seen a much better one and so have others.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 11:10 AM
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What are YOU doing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:48 AM
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Absolute BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:47 AM
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So? The way you get them to do that is money? I feel sorry for the desperate women who do this. There are probably abuse issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:45 AM
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Still does not mean I am not impressed. To me it just says that you are lacking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 03:42 AM
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I disagree with using sex workers but I expect you do not give a damn. Many of them do it because of abuse issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:53 PM
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Most women want a relationship. Your thinking will come out at some point so yes they will leave. No maid or woman just wants to f*ck usually. Why should they? What is a category 2? It sounds ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 10:41 PM
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I talk to men. Just in my immediate family there are 6. I will not count the 3 year old but he's the most interesting. Red pill thinking is generational. Most of the ones I know do not talk about it because they are not in their 20s. I think women are not hanging around men as much these days because of all the current stresses. Things look pretty bleak economically. This red pill crap just makes all the less good looking guys think it's evolutionary based. I just think men are not listening to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:55 PM
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I think you need to talk to more women because there's loads of garbage with the red pill thinking. Evolutionary Psychology has way too many biases and blind spots. Much of it cannot be proven but is tooted as how the world operates. They fail to see individuals, outliers and the 'experts' just push what they believe as fact. (I am quoting myself from an earlier comment because I am dealing with the same stuff over and over)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 08:11 PM
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No, but I think the red pill ideology is not representative of many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:39 PM
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He's having a hard time because women were not all over him when he was young. Now that he's older, it is because he is not a Chad. I find this ridiculous. How is it a 17 year old women's/child fault that they were not interested in him. How can he see this as a problem? Maybe he was missing something? Maybe he needs to be accountable for this as a 17 year old? Perhaps he should have worked on himself? Or for his ideology now? Perhaps he was lacking something and the accountability for this shou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:25 PM
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No, it was accountability for women not being interested when he was young. Why is it all the women's fault? (Really children then).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:02 PM
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"I was excuded from experiences by women, its womens fault" You said this. What? Why do you have to settle? Someone who ignored you for a bit because they were young? And everyone would be like that? It really sounds like excuses to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 06:58 PM
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I am sorry you did not do everything right and it's not women's fault if you will not even try with them now. Your lack of forgiveness for women not being all over you when you were young suggests a larger problem. You just do not want to see it. You have nothing to loose by trying therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:51 PM
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I think that a lot of people make up their mind about this world and then make choices that only prove that idea. Evidence is affected by self fulfilling prophecy. Just get out and live your life. If you stay at home on the internet it can be hopeless. Have you thought of a yoga class? Or a dance class? (I see an eye roll but really try it).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 03:10 PM
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Not everywhere but it's not good in the US and many western nations. I still think it is worth it to try. If you put aside all the BS on social media and just act like women are people you could get somewhere. Communication and empathy is what is needed. I think safety and provision are more of a necessity. It's a good thing, no one wants children to starve. You will do you but remember when you think you are right, you stop learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:43 PM
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Trust me, it is. Evolutionary Psychology has way too many biases and blind spots. Much of it cannot be proven but is tooted as how the world operates. They fail to see individuals, outliers and the 'experts' just push what they believe as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:18 PM
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Then it's all about you. Honestly, I have tried to be fair but I think you need therapy. I am not saying it to be a bitch. I think you have painted yourself into a corner and you think the world's the problem and not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:14 PM
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I have been at this more years than you have probably been alive. Your need to put down my choices says everything about you and your limitations. We have both learned in this life. Growth is more than possible in a good marriage. In fact, it promotes it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 02:07 PM
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Most women flock to men who will keep them safe and will provide for their children. I think there is more going on with women stepping away from men. I think there is too much information out there that is not true for all but I think there is a real problem (from my viewpoint) with men not listening or really understanding women. You are just not seeing the women who are not typically desirable. You need to work on your competencies and skills. A guy who can build a house amazes me, not just b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:59 PM
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I love my husband and we have had a wonderful time with each other. He smells perfect and his intelligence and competencies are what drew me in. Do you think that if you are not a Chad you cannot get someone to love you? The red pill has really done a number on this generation. BTW I went to a wedding of a 5. 6.5 guy 3 years ago. I know the girl who married the guy who made breakfast. She is not throwing him away for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:31 PM
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Do you think there were women who were not alone. If you tried with them and they rejected you, it could have been all about them. Some HS students are just not ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:32 PM
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It sounds like it was as much a lack of confidence as anything else. As for the women, so many have to learn about life and if they did it the hard way, you are being awfully judgemental.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:31 PM
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No, but it's funny. Really, lighten up with the looks stuff. Are you in HS? I would suggest you work on your skills and competencies. What women really like is someone they can ride a storm out with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:18 PM
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Maybe I was an outlier but I have watched other younger women make choices and none of them went for the Chad's. They were intelligent University grads. (There were 5 I knew well) What they wanted was intelligence and kindness before all else. Of the 5 of them, only one is not married. I am not sure why but she is very stand offish. She may have her reasons and I think they are personal and not anything to do with Chads. If I think of another I knew outside this group, she went for a bad boy and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 12:15 PM
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Fall down? Some of us find Chad's very non appealing. They are up there with the ones who have swallowed the latest theories from Evolutionary Psychology whole. We are really just people. I am a thoughtful person and the 'fun' you described with Chad's did not happen. I did it with a beauty contest failure and I would do it all over again.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:46 AM
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Yeah, it is what makes visiting prostitutes okay. So many have been abuse victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:41 AM
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Why would you only be number 2? Get over this Chad BS and get out there. Do you think my husband will win beauty contests? A very beautiful woman I know, in her 30s now, had pretty much given up on men. She tried again and decided to give this guy a try because he made her breakfast. She was amazed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:37 AM
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I have a problem with it always being the women's choices. Is there no individual accountability? I know many women in their 30s who were never interested in a Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:28 AM
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It is what I went for. My husband will not win beauty contests and that's just fine. Tell me that men will take ugly? Maybe if they are drunk enough but most of the time, ugly is tossed by men. We have to live with this too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 03:43 PM
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Some men need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:09 AM
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No kind is the first qualifier, intelligent next. Trust me, my husband will not win a beauty contest but I would rather cuddle him than anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:09 AM
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I am honest. Plus you think women are bad about looks? Try men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 11:07 AM
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It a truth though. You can get outliers, individual thinkers. 10 people are enough of a variable but a small sample. One person behaving differently is a 10% change. People can often follow a leader who either is very promiscuous or another who discourages it. We influence each other. If you are in a room with your mother's best friend you might behave differently. I am sorry you were cheated on, it happens more often outside of marriage and men do it more often than women, statistically that is…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 10:01 PM
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Just be clean for starters.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:51 PM
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Quote: statistics matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:42 PM
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They were different but not off. They just did not follow the ideas of evolutionary psychology. Trust me, other things come into play. How come non straight people exist? Genetics play a part. Upbringing plays a part. Some of us are different. Evolutionary psychology cannot be proven. There are so many biases and shortcomings. Too many people are assuming that this means it is how things should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:39 PM
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It's not all looks when it comes to how women select men. I would take kind and intelligent over good looking.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:22 PM
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Ten different individuals are always going to behave in the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:19 PM
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Actually he's been turned down more than you think. For a man with the funds he has, he could do a lot better. If all these women want billionaires, there should be a lot more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:18 PM
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It happens. I can think of two guys, one had autism and the other ended up with a woman with cerebral palsy. (she was very pretty but disabled) What you do not work into your equations is that we all come with our own issues and they can override what many think is evolutionary psychology. They were both very different and I think women did not now what to think of them. I liked both as human beings because they were different.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:54 PM
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You can figure out if a guy is really into you just by how often he talks to you. I was not interested in someone who is not going to give me his all. It worked. BTW, my market value has dropped I been married for several decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:49 PM
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I have seen really good looking men without interested women. They lacked EQ and awareness. There is more to it than attractiveness for most women. I do not think I would be interested in a dumb man or a red pill guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:45 PM
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Sure, once again the line up for Elon is short. You are reading too much into evolutionary psychology.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:36 PM
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You can manage f*ck boys and players, you make them wait. Most will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:34 PM
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Sure cause all ten women will always act the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:30 PM
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Have you seen men around an attractive woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:20 PM
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If you do not let women make the decision about whether they have sex or not, which is gatekeeping, how are you getting them to have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 04:14 PM
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