ThanosStockingCap Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
33	Wife came out as lesbian, getting divorced and crushed		ThanosStockingCap	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/23 04:26 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Those men who are finished with divorce No regrets honestly but I think it would have helped me to not entertain the glimmer of hope that she was feeding me. Maybe trying to hang onto it for longer than necessary honestly did more damage and resentment to me if anything. I dated afterwards and of course she had issue, but she was already with the person she essentially left me for. We didn’t do lawyers, we just filed and got it over with. I’m just glad it’s over with	/r/Divorce_Men	18/12/24 03:22 AM
6	How to deal with upcoming Anniversary I wouldn’t. Definitely use this time to lean into you however you can. If she’s detached as she seems, she won’t do anything but heighten your emotional state you’re already in. I’m a year out of a marriage and I know all about that back and forth and wanting to have some type of conversation but it’s usually not productive or well natured on the opposite end. At the most I’d maybe have a conversation about the reason for leaving and next steps but I wouldn’t bank on reconciliation just yet or a…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 06:25 PM
5	How to deal with upcoming Anniversary Sorry to hear. She definitely knows about the anniversary and it sounds like she made a pretty blatant disconnect. Not sure the backstory or reasons she may have left, etc but I would do something with friends or for yourself to keep your mind occupied so you don’t have that idle in your head when the anniversary comes up.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 05:54 PM
4	How do I get her to move on? My ex wife did the same, had a change of sexual preference that caused us to not have any intimacy/closeness which eventually caused her to begin seeing a woman and calling for a divorce and be this free bird that she wants to be. Now months later and papers signed, she’s throwing tantrums every time she can, especially after hearing that I’ve gone on a couple dates with someone. That’s had her pretty infuriated. I think the best thing is to give her the space to process it herself and not let h…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/23 06:32 PM
2	Post Divorce Totally agree. My ex does this every time we get into the slightest disagreement, looking for social media validation and it’s to the point her family even looks at her like wtf are you doing. That silence and lack of response does wonders though, they can only argue with themselves for so long. So yeah block the nonsense and let anyone close to you to not send you screenshots or updates on any of it to contain your own peace	/r/Divorce_Men	28/11/23 11:58 PM
2	Wives who had affairs, did their relationship last with their AP? My wife pretty much decided that she was gay and did this whole ordeal of trying to make that work somehow in an open relationship sense but that didn’t fix anything and she ended up dating a woman and wanting to divorce. The entire process was very emotionally taxing but once papers were signed, I’m not as bothered and I was visibly moving on there was this rush of empathy all of a sudden followed by anger that she didn’t have me how she wanted anymore. I assume that relationship didn’t work ou…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/11/23 06:44 PM
2	slightly annoyed that toxic female traits are just laughed at like it's normal Yeahhhhh toxicity from women during a divorce process is pretty much expected . Especially if you check them on areas they’re falling short or staying above their bs, it’s pretty much a right of passage for them to go low and bounce their toxic thoughts to their echo chamber. But let us do that and we’ll never hear the end of it.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/08/23 12:35 AM
1	Wife came out as lesbian, getting divorced and crushed Yeah we’ve had that talk and that led to the conclusion that she was unable to continue if she wasn’t able to be with women. And that there was no way around that. But the idea of an asexual marriage came up with her and that made me feel really resentful. I think she understands what is being lost, but wishes I wasn’t taking it as hard as I am	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/23 01:28 PM
3	Wife came out as lesbian, getting divorced and crushed Yeah that’s where I draw my happiness from heavily rn. Depressed otherwise but it’s all a process. Thanks for that	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/23 01:21 PM
9	Wife came out as lesbian, getting divorced and crushed We have a daughter together, so not necessarily a clean break. Kinda makes it hard to get that distance I need to recover, but that’s what I’m trying to work on is keeping my thoughts at bay	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/23 05:08 AM
2	When did your wife’s lucid mind return? I’m telling myself this as well. Nothing we can do to get the old versions back. Often, they resent that part of themselves anyway and intentionally push it back. Especially if they know that you’re longing for that. Smh	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/23 04:09 AM