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It’s a terrible site I can’t believe they could be so self righteous and cringe at the same time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/22 09:27 PM
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I use Reddit a lot but I’m conflicted because of certain practices in various spheres (the anti woman issue and the selling out to China ccp issue for a couple examples). Since fds is pro woman it’s reasonable that they morally don’t want to support Reddit. Not sure if you saw but multiple times on fds there were examples of banned/deleted posts (with a pro woman stance) or comments contrasted with not deleted posts with a similar theme/topic/ something in common but it’s literally porn (or “cre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/22 05:48 PM
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I know people don’t like the word female but I am annoyed about the word girl more than female. Female may carry misogynistic vibes but girl carries pedo predator vibes. Just say ladies or women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 09:52 PM
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One thing you can do is research the ways to do the tests where you are, and then see what he comes up with compared to the options you already know about. Like, this situation doubles as an evaluation of his intelligence and resourcefulness, and whether he takes the lead on making it happen for you. Also if he says “I recently got tested” you can ask about the logistics of his test and see if it matches with the info you have, as an honesty test. Not that his word is enough to skip the test, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:22 PM
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Biologically young enough to be his grandchild too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:18 PM
231

Drinking, doing drugs, “loosening up”, being cool, being fun, being open, we know what he wants from this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 11:52 AM
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I was thinking about sex work this morning. The irony of women who defend it as a concept. Anyways did anyone else notice in the very famous Julia roberts movie pretty women they don’t show the protagonist with any ugly gross men on top of her or making her do something terrible? The whole movie is about a sex worker and they don’t show typical sex work. Haven’t seen it in a long time but I remember (mainly due to the funny « the office » reimagining of it) the famous scene in the shop where it’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 07:59 PM
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Sounds more like socially awkward (which can be a flag he’s not done.. growing up?) but narcissists/players/whoever will always try out new ways to neg some may be hit or miss. He could have been trying to neg in some weird way or he could be very immature socially. I think you were right in not knowing exactly what he meant, it’s uncommon behaviour and you’re not a mind reader. If you’re not into him you don’t need to find a red flag. If you are liking him quite a bit you could see what he says…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/22 03:26 AM
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This is very sweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:22 PM
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I have a friend who did that for me for several years and she even said she knows I’m going to dump him one day about 3 years before I did, i appreciate her a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:21 PM
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Not that i would necessarily done this differently but I guess one thing you could have done differently is make a specific suggestion about each situation and let her make the connection that it’s a boundary issue/ general issue about her behaviour/ personality. Most people don’t like general criticism/comments about themselves but can easily take a specific comment like for example a way to make ONE of their dishes better can be helpful while a statement about their cooking like « you cook too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 03:15 PM
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I guess they have no enjoyable conversation or knowledge to share, we are just desperate for those calories and this is the only way we can get them/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 10:47 AM
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Do those pages post often? (I bet they do.) I unfollow things that I’m no longer interested in after some point, other than something that doesn’t post, then I wouldn’t remember I followed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 01:29 PM
131

There’s a reason not to do sex work: reduces your Dating prospects and if you lie you’ll be looking over your shoulder because screenshots exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 04:16 PM
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She has the resources for plastic surgery so it’s different. Also, she has used a surrogate for “one” (the actual number is a highly discussed topic) of the pregnancies. It’s not clear if this time it’s her carrying it or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:10 AM
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I agree with you. It can be a very freeing epiphany. The agony might be more for the women who have worse problems than beauty standards, relationship goals/issues that are hard to deal with, and unfair workplaces… all of which this sub, on the mainly American centric Reddit, discusses often. We also discuss worldwide and local physical abuses and murder but we have a lot to expose about less violent things, societal things that hurt inside though they aren’t usually life threatening. Women who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:02 AM
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I hope anyone who experiences such things reports it to the school. We can’t accept this nastiness in society
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:32 PM
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Even if they were all great I’m too introverted to enjoy that, I would be exhausted meeting so many people. The way she maximizes the benefits for her preferences won’t work for everyone. I think she pitched this article to the news site to promo her book tbh I’ve never heard of her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 06:02 PM
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Well then it depends on his opinion on the comedy. If he thinks it’s good because it’s calling out bad men that is one thing. But I’m surprised he thinks some women would think it’s funny. Why would any woman think it’s funny, it’s hurtful even to a very hot woman because it is objectifying us for our level of attractiveness and letting us know men never love us as people. Also the man saying it is overweight. He knows he’s not most woman’s preference so he’s getting revenge with these words. It…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 09:20 AM
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Depends on your natural body type. Technically 1200 calories keeps you alive. I felt fine /good while doing a 1200 calorie diet and 1 hour brisk walk when I had fat to burn. Some women are naturally more thin or muscly and some men are don’t naturally have those traits. Both my grandmothers were thin their whole lives but none of their daughters are as thin. Not sure if it’s due to the grandmothers having gone through the depression (= long period of hunger) or the discrepancy comes from the fol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:33 PM
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The real main villain is her cheating husband imo. Thank god she spilled that wine on Mary! Sounds like she doesn’t have kids so it’s really a blessing to find out about him. There was a clue about her husband earlier. He wouldn’t have been on Mary’s side with the insults if he were a hvm. And probably the reason he always wanted to defent Mary instead of confronting or cutting her off is she knew his secret.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 03:59 PM
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Amazing observation. Yes, any ways you think you’re saving money by using your own time, exerting a lot of energy, or sacrificing a lot of comfort, need to be examined. And agree income and self improvement should be priorities higher up than coupons etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 06:50 PM
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I respectfully disagree. If they are married it’s best to act nice/cool/regular while secretly getting very organized. Men are very emotional and many of them go mental when you insult them or act like they don’t matter or do 10% of the violence they do (I mean something slightly “violent” like dumping something in the trash or laughing at them at the wrong moment). The most beneficial for Ali is to protect her interests but she can’t do that as well if he starts being violent or realizes she’s …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:11 PM
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What he did once maybe can be forgiven but it reeks of bad manners and damages her feelings for her in-laws making this guy a lot less like a good choice to procreate with. Hope she is getting organized to make a clean break
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:07 PM
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His moms concerns were weird and not something to share with her son. She has three sons so if one made a “mistake” by not marrying a “good house wife” it wouldn’t have been the end of the world anyways. This guy is mentally on a weird planet due to an odd family dynamic valuing the concept of “house wife.” Imagine Ali was his house wife and had to just deal with his bad manners as she’d have no other option, seems like a good thing for her own best interests that she didn’t want to become a hou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:02 PM
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And he offered a paid service and she paid . She didn’t hang out with him he worked for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 10:24 AM
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For sure. Also.. Regardless of intention (not that intention wasn’t clear here) it’s just not a good plan to keep living with and or trusting someone who for whatever reason has a habit of hiding stealing or destroying your belongings. It puts you in danger and will give you a constant feeling of uncertainty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:12 AM
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Now I remember! And the reason was that he assumed his family members would think it was weird🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:09 AM
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Glad to see buzzfeed covered it at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:05 PM
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When you see the Asian hate violent attacks news don’t forget that like all women and girls Asian women’s statistical biggest threat is a romantic partner or crazy ex or rejected guy or tinder date. The media focuses on stranger killings muggings and rapes especially when the victim has a different ethnicity than the culprit but they are rare compared to sexual/ romance - related attacks by a known man. Yes it’s sad that an old woman wasn’t safe in the street but equally sad that women are kille…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 12:10 PM
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I can see the point of mentioning it. It’s not just that a man who’s not paying is “not that into” the woman, trying to use her etc. He’s also either treating the woman as less than people who he would offer to pay for their meal after inviting, OR he’s someone who never treats anyone ( = immature or weird = not ready to be a hvm)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 01:16 AM
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Because he is not only meeting people he’s interested in he’s meeting anyone above some physical standard where he would want to sleep with her. I’m guessing many men look at it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 07:19 PM
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He’s definitely heard about negging. The woman had great responses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:49 PM
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Wow:( To answer the question if he would like to mention “my ex is a psycho” that’s an opportunity to either nope out or to play the innocent good listener with gentle probing questions and see if the details seem to add up … the more he shares the more you can gently ask. Who is going to stop you from asking, right? Why would he mention that if he doesn’t want to talk about it at all? And it does not mean you have to share anything you didn’t wand to share. It’s a good chance to see how he hold…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:05 PM
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Personally i don’t think id look better with a full face makeup (at least not to myself) but mascara is important to me, usually wear it when out plus top liner and or a bit of pearly shadow and powder is great over all the lotions and sunblock. I notice a lot of women with fake lashes and brow tattoos, this must be kind of expensive and to me (maybe it’s just where I live) it rarely suits the person, sorry. Less is more, keep your money, and think twice for anything that lasts a while! It makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 08:25 PM
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Poor woman 😞 I agree with you. The left wing group think is mainly for good purposes but sex positivity is a huge hypocritical issue they need to address
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 09:24 AM
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Chilling. I’d be searching the house whenever he’s out! (Also, making a plan.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 11:56 AM
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But men are visual! It’s not their fault their brain automatically compares their wife to the women they decided to view on Instagram and in porn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 05:28 AM
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I think it can last as the op didn’t say he wastes money or has a net worth or debt issue. I think people can be high functioning alcoholics, weed addicts, video game addicts and possibly even porn addicts, just like most of the world has been “run” by men addicted to nicotine for quite a while. (And it seems like there’s often rumours that people in charge like trump are on coke or adderal.) However when someone has a dépendance like this guy has on a few things they won’t be a good partner (\h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 11:18 PM
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Well it’s not a green flag. I think you need more info. How big a part of his life is it, and what is the content. Ask him what the red lines are for the content he enjoys and that which he creates. Also is it something he wants to pursue later in a larger capacity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:12 AM
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Men are people not ornements though, so his look doesn’t matter ;) /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:09 AM
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I don’t remember that one on HK so I’m going to go watch it again later. What was the lie in it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 03:21 PM
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I used to love john Oliver. His mlm video won me over and he had a good video on XI Jin ping before it was a popular topic. Recently his Taiwan video was really just bringing people up to speed on basics (very disappointing) and I find he generally has quite Democrat/establishment/cnn viewpoints (not that I personally agree with the gop but it makes his videos less interesting and credible to me that he doesn’t deviate from the party stances.) same for Seth Meyers, used to enjoy him a lot but la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:27 PM
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That must be a troll looking for shock views ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 10:12 PM
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Sounds like that particular man had huge issues with his parents or his mom at least. Most people don’t «naturally» want to marry whoever mom or dad chooses so that would cause some anger and he would misdirect it to the women I’m guessing. I think it’s a red flag to say that out loud in mixed company. But anyone even women can have some preferences. If they only date one ethnicity and it’s not their own or the majority where they live that’s pretty weird and I think there could be multiple reas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:55 PM
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Good find. Another proof that we are broadly not seen as humans. No matter our attractiveness or easiness level. It’s all transactions :( So, keep in mind, if you give it up easily and or before exclusivity they will be pleased! It’s “average pussy” but at least they didn’t have to sacrifice much for it. Yay for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:33 AM
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Although it isn’t exactly the opposite it’s men on men vs men on women violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 01:32 AM
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He could be very “hungry” for the extra amount of money à nice tenant could provide thus offering it as soon as he heard about the commute. This is one way it could be “innocent” but it is nevertheless socially weird and in any case you probably weren’t going to try being friends with this older man regardless so just carry on. If he ever “offers” something that has to do with YOU spending time with HIM for some unnecessary reason again the you can assume he’s creepy. Time will tell but protect …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 01:41 PM
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He could have prevented it by 1. Tell you 2. Tell you before she’ll meet the kids (and that should be after 6 months) Also the fact that he already lives with her kid is weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:21 PM
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Thanks for sharing the pod recommendation and the nature thing. Sounds very interesting:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 10:02 PM
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Well thank you for sharing that because all I usually do is move back and look at the person with an annoyed look. And I’ve just realized it happens enough that I need to do more than that. Men need to learn (some men are fine with this kind of thing but it seems that it’s men that do it more or honestly maybe I don’t mind when a random woman is close to me for a couple seconds.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 09:55 PM
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Well you’re just being sex negative, kink shaming and not woke /s Seriously I can’t wait for crap like jezebel and cosmopolitan and popular movies which women watch to get woke about porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 07:03 PM
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So the things were an excuse to question you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:53 PM
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I hope that soon the woman in the post will only be looking back with annoyance as you are:) Honestly it’s sad but I think her proposing the open thing and him saying that trash will ruminate and she will eventually make the right choice to bye-bye lvm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:52 PM
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Maybe you feel bad and can’t describe why (obviously the Boston job plus online school sounds amazing) because he’s asking you to move, not asking you to get married, and he’s 29. Maybe it’s your instinct that being asked to move is not a big compliment nor a gift, it’s him asking you to take a risk by leaving whatever life you built for yourself where you are currently, without even a clear promise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:30 AM
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You’re not really impolite for blocking if you decide to do that, because you avoid wasting his time. He could be a lovely well- meaning person , (or he’s juggling women idk) maybe he has a mental issue like depression or introvertion or stress or even covid related grief that made him tired or a physical illness coming on, but YOU just said you’re looking for someone who has the ability to be keen and isn’t tired. You want a masculine partner in your life not a dependant or someone to use your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:47 PM
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You have different legal rights in each place. A wife’s rights can change for the better or worse with a prenup. Looking and applying for a new job can be annoying and stressful and not always fruitful right away, but at least you won’t be constantly objectified and propositioned for sex, as women are when they look for a new relationship/ husband online. Both can « leave » you, despite societal expectations, if you get sick. In your work it can be beneficial to job hop and constantly look for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 03:16 PM
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Oh yeah it’s of no consequence to not “wait” for sex. Surely the fact that not waiting statistically results in having a “high body count” won’t mean men will mock you or avoid you, they are FINE with it, right? I’m sure most men do not have any sex negative cultural values so don’t be sex negative and don’t hesitate to just do it ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:39 PM
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Idk if that was the origin I thought it might be connected with the word “gentile”? But your point holds up for today’s world with the men getting credit for doing basic things since so many men became so bad and useless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:34 PM
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Ok i definitely do not want to click now OMG
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:04 PM
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It’s wonderful that there are no more cultural barriers preventing such vulgarity/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 10:56 PM
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Like Christianity Islam has a good message and many good things for women. Whether people prefer to follow it or follow their culture, pride and or greed is another story (for Christians too!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:29 PM
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“Many Asian men dream of dating supermodels or winners of beauty pageants.” I want to add that this is not only a Eurocentric beauty issue, which I know it is because I’ve seen those events and the probable surgeries that result in everyone being a similar kind of pretty, there’s also the fact that they would like to become rich enough to “afford” such a wife (not an equal partner but an object) that gets a lot of offers from rich men. The thought that she won’t actually be attracted to them bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 03:54 PM
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So the police must be all over the solicitation by johns right? /s Because decriminalizing prostitution was only meant to give prostitutes rights and protection. Saving their lives etc. Seems like the result is there is more open solicitation with no consequences, what a surprise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:56 AM
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So be a prostitute all the time and in exchange a dwelling that has 0 description
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 02:52 AM
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Love this song. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=a-LdTdM1FdE First sung by Betty Everett, didn’t know cher had sung it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:23 PM
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Also women choose beer less often than men as alcohol, and drink alcohol less than men do. That was a weird thing to add
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:12 PM
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Not a bug but a feature. They come there ready to violate people’s ( yeah women are people, men) space and privacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:08 PM
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If he can’t cook regular food (from scratch) and doesn’t sweep his own floor at a certain age the yeah he’s a man-child. Those kind of skills are standard for adults in our society and he doesn’t have them. It’s not at all hate speech or exaggeration. I guess we could use less creative language and say he’s immature or unskilled but why aren’t we allowed to have slightly fun jargon?! I suppose it’s unbecoming for females to enjoy any negative chit chat about males in a fun and familiar way. It j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:45 PM
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Not wanting to have (probably really bad) sex with a man after he takes you for a lovely walk in the park is really treating him like trash! What a kinky turn on for men to witness us pointing out to other women that some behaviour / choices aren’t in their best interests. We have such radical ideas here, such as protecting money that we earn and our family’s money and not accepting abuse. how can men ever adapt?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:21 PM
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Don’t respond/ block if he treats you casually and doesn’t contact regularly or reduces frequency. You can’t make everyone want a relationship so just avoid them as soon as you know they want casual with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 01:31 PM
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Also, the newer generation increasingly hesitates to date and or marry.. there are a few social trends I’ve read of there and also Korea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 03:00 PM
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Not only should they work and do house work and cooking, but also not for get to “take care of herself” aka nails done don’t get fat or loose the good curves, look like you had a blowout and also slept well somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:58 PM
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Oh yeah it’s totally fair! Your husband is definitely not cruel! Is that what she wants to hear?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:56 PM
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So take her up on the request for therapy before you ask Reddit. You have a full time job, you can avoid at least one therapy session. That would help you figure out if yta or how to empathize with your wife and make her happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:38 AM
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Glad you’re ok. That it’s only fair line about paying would have made me not want to go elsewhere with him, or even order food… or drinks. Maybe you could have said you didn’t bring any money and if he asked why “it’s never come up on a date before” to shame him. Everything you mentioned that he said is horrible. I wouldn’t have done drugs with him either. Good that you considered the risk of it being laced and you saw him buy it. I don’t do drugs anyways but I want to kindly remind you maybe do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:10 AM
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I hate to give her (and them all) attention since it validates her being famous from leaking the vid of golden shwr and you know… from behind. Kanye was definitely not her looks match after he “let himself go.” (Hope we can start using this expression for men when it’s accurate!) Also, I get that she respected him being right wing in his own way but his ranting and raving was quite unattractive. So there’s bad looks, not sexy behaviour, plus he neglected the family?! Yeah no one should complain …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:47 PM
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You can also click over to the subreddit azn identity I’m pretty sure they talk about it every day. The way they degrade /dehumanize women is pretty nasty. Also they hate both political parties they hate leftism but think China must be somehow great however they show no effort to go make a life in China. Make it make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 02:36 PM
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And which gender would rape in jail. I doubt he’s worried about some female employee there. Men fear other men just like women fear men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 02:24 AM
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It would be the same if incel culture was about avoiding various abuses, but it is not. To the best of my knowledge incel culture is about discussing that they don’t have a female partner and can’t “get” one. In contrast most women in fds have dated at least one man and their problem is not that no one wants to date them it’s about abuse (in many forms) from men who want to date them. Also, leaving a man who uses and or abuses them and is a detriment to life quality. Incel is not about abusive w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:41 AM
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Here are some female YouTube channels I’ve enjoyed recently: the take, the financial diet, broey deschanel, chloe art
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:59 PM
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She figured out there’s an audience for that trash I guess. Men love to hear that I’m sure! Wonder if she makes much or any money by spreading that um.. worldview
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:55 PM
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Is the reason to move in to save money? Who will keep the place if you break up? Will you be moving out in the event of a breakup, into a higher rent place because rents go up yearly in your city? How will you feel if you live together for 2 years and break up? Just some questions to ask yourself. It doesn’t have to be a negative thing if you turn him down. He can find a way to make things work. Maybe (an example)he’ll find a slightly larger place with a roommate and it will still be a great pla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 08:00 PM
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I love this last part for you! The first part …I’m assuming it means you don’t give up your lease, in that one partner sublets so they can have their old place back after a break up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:48 PM
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Perhaps a longer (12-18 months?) engagement in which you live together for at least a couple months before anyone’s making those event deposits could be a solution. I think living together and the stress of planning is a great test of compatibility but I don’t think a woman should uproot her life /put her lifestyle stability at risk for anyone who’s not committed and loving enough to propose (with an appropriate ring —or another romantic (and valuable!) gift if she hates rings I guess.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 07:46 PM
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Happy holidays 🥳 Had a promotion and raise and signed up for some courses starting in Jan Also I found out I may have ADHD or some symptoms similar to it maybe resulting from a long abusive relationship not sure exactly but the good thing is watching YT vids about adhd in women gave me coping techniques and self awareness making me more effective and productive 😘💙🤗🎄🌟 Congrats on your successes ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:00 PM
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Yes. There are two big issues: 1. the content, algorithm and psychological effects of consumption, or the effect on someone’s life if their constant use , strong interest results in them posting revealing or even embarrassing content they regret later. 2. Chinese govt privacy issue, the rights you sign away with use as per terms and conditions. Neither of these issues mean that there aren’t amazing people and messages on tiktok. I do feel that trump is to blame for tiktok’s popularity. For anyon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 09:36 PM
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This story is horrible. On a more boring note, after you get married, in a LTR or your male friend does that, it will be harder to keep up the friendship. Do you want your future husband to be one on one with a female friend? So maybe your future partner won’t want that for you and maybe same in the future relationship of your friend. If you don’t see that friend as having a future relationship then he’s probably a “friend” who fantasizes about you. Take reality into account and concentrate on f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:34 PM
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It had been two months and you could already see it was not a match
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 05:14 PM
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When she was choosing / agreeing to be out of the workforce to be with her young kids for whatever period I don’t think she ever imagined that her husband would treat her like a servant. She probably felt that he saw her as an equally respectable human being and now she does not feel respected at all and he is seeming both cruel and pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 10:26 AM
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I can relate to your “hvm” with the media because I also watch things occasionally that have that kind of content (not because I like that content but I don’t make it a dealbreaker when watching a show, maybe because I’m already picky enough about shows.) The other things he’s doing would very much be red flag dealbreakers to me. I’m picky about how people act to strangers in public. You’re going to deal with that all the time if you two are a couple. Compliments on women’s nails sound embarrass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 03:39 AM
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Yeah it’s that. Not the biggest boobs, probably maximum d which is not that crazy looking on a tall woman. Today you can have a lot bigger boobs and butt and still be considered ideal as long as the waist looks somewhat small I suppose. As someone who has always had a bit of a butt (which felt very very big when I was a teen and Kate moss was popular even though I was not at all overweight) I still can barely get over that butts are “allowed” /celebrated to be big now. I used to feel cursed for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:02 PM
48

You probably do have “a lot of skin on your knees” compared to his plastic sex doll. They have no shame and no clue!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:49 PM
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The man who drove into the parade recently (USA) had just left jail for violence against a woman he was currently or formerly romantically involved with. Men (or women I guess) who hurt animals and or their partners and or their children should be taken seriously because 1. Those victims count and 2. They often go on to hurt others
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:49 PM
51

He’s an asshole. If he is also tired and can’t do the chores, that’s fine, he can hire help, like start with a once a week cleaner and paying more for (some level of) prepped food. If that money cannot be paid entirely by him he can speak to his pregnant wife about it kindly. What is sickening is he doesn’t mention being tired or unable. His whole problem is her « attitude » about feeling not up to it in her 3rd trimester and how he finds it unfair. What a cruel delusional and selfish person he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:31 AM
17

At what point should differing views be a dealbreaker? Can you raise a child with a person like him? Can you feel proud of him when you bring him to your friend’s dinner party?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 09:05 PM
15

Great topic to bring up. Thank you for sharing all that info!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:24 PM
1

Tell some people you’re close with the situation and your income(and or budget or job, if that info is relevant) and ask what they think is a reasonable amount to spend and compare the answers. Then stick to it. Remind yourself that he has to be in a provider role (see the video someone just posted about Anna Faris and not dating down.) give him the gift of letting him be the man and of your feminine “receiving” energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 09:52 PM
1

I’ve read one of the recent ones mentioned either Atlantic or NYT (can’t check due to paywall) and it was impressive.I’m happy someone is writing these articles (beyond fds.) Today I saw a video by “the take” on YouTube, title was probably “girl power” or something similar. although it doesn’t really speak directly about sex it was a really cool analysis of how things have changed for female characters and celebrities’ images in the last few decades. Includes a hypothesis of the cool girl origin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 10:24 PM
8

Yes I know about it :( I meant if he has debt, consider why. If it’s because he has a mortgage or something very unexpected happened to him or his family, that is more understandable than debt from wreckless behaviour or laziness or a bunch of unwise big business/career risks. If he can’t afford a house in Toronto Vancouver NYC LA SF etc that is completely understandable and not necessarily something to hold against anyone who doesn’t have wealthier parents. There was no warning sign mentioned t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 03:42 PM
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Yikes. Keep your money, your inheritance and your parents money away from his name, and keep his debt away from your name. If he has a lot of debt he is not ready to be hvm, more likely he is reaching up for your hand and you’ll use your own energy and resources pulling him up. Is that a sacrifice that will pay off? Think about why he has the financial issue in the first place, what does it show about him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 01:24 AM
3

“Sorry, I have to leave now” (after hearing the 3rd question). Then stop responding. If you’re not comfortable giving out your number or spending time with someone you just met in a potentially unsafe isolated place, and to not be comfortable would be the wisest thing, having a conversation and repeatedly rebuffing is a waste of time and will leave the interaction even more negative. Cut it off as soon as it goes past basic courtesy or just pretend you didn’t hear anything from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:01 AM
35

Yes it seems he didn’t even realize that cheap sheets are polyester and that better sheets exist and are Preferable. Maybe his family didn’t used nice sheets or he never noticed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:42 PM
5

There is a very recent Mandarin rap “fragile” that is so good and has a political message disguised as a romantic thing at the beginning but is then totally political. The artist ( “Namewee,” who I just discovered) has a variety of songs and some I do find a bit problematic or gratuitously vulgar, but some are neutral. I find this song very fun so please check it out if you’re interested in rap that is not about disrespecting women https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-Rp7UPbhErE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:18 PM
18

Exactly this. How did you find out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 02:05 AM
4

I think his first wife Anna also “gave” him a “healthy” child, no? I mean it’s good for a man to acknowledge what women go through in pregnancy birth postpartum and motherhood but not every one is lucky enough to have a “healthy” child or any child so it does seem problematic to praise a woman for “giving” it in the context of why she is a perfect partner that hes grateful for (actually he probably considers her wife and never an equal partner.) help her raise the kid, please. Do MORE than she i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:59 PM
9

Reminds me of those ethical female owned factories in places with no rules for pollution aka China
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 01:47 PM
6

Because a wife is not a human being to love and honour, to him it’s his replaceable possession. What a sick man, hope his new wife escapes before getting pregnant and being tied to that sicko for life. Luckily your sister can cut all ties hope she feels much better soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 06:28 PM
16

Very cool metaphor about walking on the highway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 06:21 PM
0

Do what you enjoy if it fits your budget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:51 PM
147

And apparently they will marry women they are meh about for this or that reason (status, their parents’ desires, wanting kids) and later treat them poorly and/or discard them. But it’s so mean of women to think our our own interests and be logical and not want low effort men! It is so misandrist to discuss behaviour and make calculated decisions about one’s own life, time, energy and future!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 01:30 PM
34

Also maybe someone gained weight in a few months, explaining a difference; but there’s no reason to not know your height. And it didn’t change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:49 PM
3

They had no children, I think you made the right decision. Seems off, it’s not what you want or what most women would want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 11:38 AM
43

I love that part of this show is showing clearly how delusional he is about himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 12:31 AM
88

Just accept walk date and bad sex and disrespectful man . Or be single forever/s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 06:58 PM
16

The wealthy woman who eventually helped her (and it was not help in a way that was a huge sacrifice, it was her asking a friend to do a few hours of pro Bono) was the only reason she could even succeed. She only offered this help after she was on mat leave and in a more “healing” and introspective state, even rich women do not necessarily have a lot of extra emotional energy to donate to the problems of unfortunate women in their lives. Do most people even have the opportunity to meet a woman li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:04 PM
8

I thought the show did a great job with it. Without being too “messagey” which I find unpleasant to watch. Consider the last scene of Alex and her father, and the one of Alex and her mother. her mom will probably never heal or escape the issues that likely came from the abuse from her baby daddy. Her dad will never admit , take responsibility or even try to make up for the harm he did Alex by being a drunk woman beater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:58 PM
2

Haha. This reminds me of a flashy ex coworker. She bragged that she was dating a man with a new bmw but he hasn’t gifted her anything and she had gifted him an iPhone 11. Also she had a prominent tattoo for a guy who ended up ghosting her, like I think they had never met in person. She was proud of her pain and sacrifices and amused them as “interesting anecdotes” in my previous workplace. So odd
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 05:26 PM
11

This podcast made my day yesterday. I really thought I was the only one (or that it would never be publicly said) that jezebel is shit and their journalistic integrity is non existent. Thank you for taking the time to explain line by line effectively why she has no point and how she is misleading with her random quotes not connected to anything. Amazing work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 03:01 PM
1

What was the image?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:57 PM
11

I looked at them yesterday. On the positive side it sounds like most of those women and men who commented took it at face value and have those opinions because the article presented it like that and they didn’t look further. (Also, sounded like many had happy relationships already.) none of the comments showed a deep understanding of the subject (matching the article!) So, there is hope for them if another website puts out a counter article and they read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:56 PM
10

Yes. Some sites that I notice doing this a lot are Jezebel, refinery21 and celebitchy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:48 PM
4

“Many people said they often take breaks from FDS because this content is too negative and they need a break from it.” I need to take breaks from content not related to women’s issues that I follow as well. Does not mean that I want that content not to be on the source when I am ready to watch it (or for others to watch). I don’t always feel like clicking every post but this doesn’t mean I want the content to change or be reduced. I do not mind at all the red pill posts, they are funny, directly…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:39 AM
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That’s great but some people have learned bad habits so I’m guessing the book is more for them. Haven’t read the book. The thing about getting intimate right away is it has so many risks and so few, if any, benefits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 01:03 PM
8

Beyoncé had a song about this feeling before I had any idea what it meant. And it’s a decent one that holds up even today :) (best thing I never had, is the title I think.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:52 PM
35

I do find that site pushes pick me mentality under the guise of, or despite, being the most woke possible. Definitely a kink me and sex work is a cool choice site
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:50 AM
38

Yes , great observation. I thought I had noticed that here once in a while, but that is not the reason I need to take a break once in a while. There are a lot of horrible stories shared here, more than the good ones. They are educational and its not that I don’t think they should be here or that I’m asking for more good stories, but we are all individuals with different needs for media consumption and breaks. Some days or weeks i can’t read that stuff. I think all women should be aware of fds pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:07 PM
5

Did you know about fds before you met him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:33 AM
7

Yes. The more you reciprocate politely the more they push forward. You can still do the polite eye contact thing if that is important to you, the vast majority of people do not jump on that, but be confident to say oh sorry I gotta go the exact moment you decide you do not want to speak to him anymore/ answer his question. That goes for any random person talking to you, not just men. We women have wasted way too much time in the past being kind and polite to our own detriment/fatigue/safety risk…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:56 AM
49

I’m so sick of seeing this garbage on vox, refinery 29, salon, jezebel etc. I wonder if some ladies will never wake up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:35 PM
11

“It’s the oldest profession” well maybe but now times have changed. We should be using AI to lock up dangerous perverts instead of shrugging , but men are in charge so instead we have OF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:14 AM
21

It’s so far beyond awkward. Why on earth does she want to give him a chance when there aren’t even strong feelings involved. A more normal reaction would be to screenshot that hilarious conversation and post it somewhere as a comment on the sad state of society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:22 PM
95

she’s also spoken out against China, which is not at all common for any celebrity entertainer. I swear porn and China are the things no one will touch. She’s a brave person!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 10:55 AM
27

Seems like he wants to date you/hook up with you. The things he said /invitation are quite weird, socially. Most people wouldn’t let their crush know they saw their visitors, or (even weirder) invite them to their teen’s party. It doesn’t mean he’s going to try to kill you but I don’t really think he’s worth a chance since obviously his social behaviour is not what you expected, he'd probably have lots more flaws/weirdness the more you get to know him. Also, he didn’t properly ask you out, right…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:56 AM
24

When I worked in customer service at the bank there were just as many entitled male Karens, maybe more. And they realllllly don’t like women saying nope at the bank. Gets them worked up in their feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 01:46 AM
2

Wants to find a pickme to beg him to pick her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 12:55 AM
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