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Need SupportThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 05:50 PM
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Success StoriesThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 10:13 AM
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RantThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 08:58 AM
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RantThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men02/12/25 05:54 PM
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Need SupportThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 11:51 AM
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Living SituationsThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 04:19 PM
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Need SupportThat_Cup_3858/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 11:04 PM
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Sorry to say but the process is painfully slow especially if it goes to trial. I’m talking a year if it goes smooth. If courts are backed up or one stalls it can be years. Who makes out from this the lawyers. Push your lawyer as much as possible without getting charged ever little call or text
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 02:38 PM
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I’m not sure it was worth it. I’m constantly consumed by my thoughts of her. I initiated the divorce. My one thing I do have is peace in my house. No more step kids dictating my life
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/26 01:20 PM
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No one said it’s guaranteed. That’s why I brought up a job and disability
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 09:13 PM
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Just wanna say I’m sorry it must be difficult. Dealing with infidelity is hard I’m sure. I would imagine you can never trust her again
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 06:58 PM
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Michigan does have life time alimony after 20 years. You say she has a good job. So I’m guessing she’s not disabled. A lot depends on income disparity. My state it’s usually a 1:3 of the marriage length. As the op say everything is negotiable. Pension, assests, 401k all are on the table to bargain with. I gave my ex a number for everything she took it
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 06:51 PM
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Exhaust every avenue before you proceed to divorce. For your family especially the kids. Some relationships can’t be saved. If she’s willing put the time in and try. Just my opinion. Take it from a guy that missed his kids at home
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/26 06:46 PM
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You’re right
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/26 09:33 PM
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Every state is different in their rules. I can see why you are getting conflicting opinions. Doesn’t matter if she never earned a cent you’re married. Inherited assets are considered separate even during the marriage but problem is you bought a house while you were married with those funds. At the very least she’s probably entitled to 1/2 the houses increased value during the duration of the marriage. Her lawyer will want an appraisal. That’s probably your best case scenario. Just my opinion and…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 10:55 PM
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Rush into it lol you’re half way to balls deep already! Be careful and have fun
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:41 PM
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In my two experiences unfortunately the judge didn’t care about many issues. Paying child support and accusations of hiding money really perked their ears up. They didn’t wanna hear all the nonsense or see messages. They’ve heard and seen it all.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 08:40 PM
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Yes I get my socialization at work but don’t like to hangout with them after work. We just end up talking about work the whole time
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 01:00 PM
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I cohabitated for close to a year before she was forced to leave. It was an extremely stressful period. I wouldn’t recommend it to anymore. But if you must you have to gray rock her. Don’t engage unless it’s absolutely necessary. Act just like a rock. Show no emotion be dull and lay there. A woman wants drama. She wants to bait you. She’ll soon get tired and give up. Try to have your own areas of the house. Make rules for cohabiting areas like the kitchen. DO NOT sleep with her or eat with her. …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 01:29 PM
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I knew it when I’d rather be at work than at home. When you’ve lost all respect for each other. When you’ve tried every avenue to make your marriage work. When she hits you and it’s escalating I knew it was time
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 05:31 AM
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Huh, why are you even thinking about this? You were basically roommates for years. Young dude comes a long and he trips and falls in your wife. This isn’t even debatable. Sorry this happened but move one
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 07:33 AM
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Where you ever loved in the first place? Myself talking. Or just what you could provide. Would you ever trust anyone again? Is it worth trying? Seems to be too much risk involved.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 01:52 PM
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After all that you’re on dating apps
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 12:56 PM
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Don’t move in together. If you wanna continue to date her fine. Blended family’s are extremely hard. Main reason why I got divorced. Do you have similar parenting styles? Did I tell you do not move in together
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:40 AM
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They forgot to invite you? I’m not so sure about that. They made a decision who to invite. They didn’t want the drama
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:37 AM
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Yes a lot of it is going over conversations. So writing things down will help me remember how things really were? Justify the divorce and stop the guilt?
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 03:19 AM
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Please if you go to trial tell me I’ll fly in for it.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 06:01 AM
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You’re wasting your time. So you’re telling me the judge is going to go 2k pages of texts lmao
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 06:20 PM
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Dude the judge doesn’t care about texts. Unless there’s a death treat or something crazy. You think they haven’t heard it all? They want you in and out of that court room. They don’t wanna hear your sob story.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 03:52 PM
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He’s not your counselor or best friend. When he talks to you he charges, calls charges, email charges etc. the process is slow. Only talk to him/her if it’s important. If you’re not comfortable with them find someone else
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 10:31 PM
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Your kids will see how much you provided when they are 20 or so. I’ve been there it’s difficult situation. Have to keep telling yourself you are providing for your children and less on what she does.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 12:08 PM
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That’s gotta be rough to see that. Seems like she’s trying to move on with her life. Some people never date again and others right away. Don’t assume she’s all happy and it’s perfect. You need to take care of you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 05:10 PM
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Legos and a three wheeler lol
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 05:06 PM
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I did mediation a few weeks ago. It was over in a couple hours. It just makes it all real. Asked myself during mediation how did we get here?
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 09:06 PM
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I waited 10 years to even date again. Got to the point my kids didn’t need me as much. Found myself with more free time. So I started to date again. I meet someone I thought was a good match. I was very naive with a blended family mix. My mom was dying of cancer and she didn’t want me to be alone. I loved her so I married her. Was it a mistake for sure.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 03:28 PM
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My first divorce was 15 years ago. My ex finally admitted she was part of the problem too. Up until then she would take no responsibility. I was shocked she told me that.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 02:19 PM
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My first marriage we tried three different therapists. Each therapist my ex didn’t like. Of course because she didn’t like what they had to say. It did help me validate the divorce. She wasn’t willing to change or see her faults. My second marriage counseling made it so much worse. The same issues brought up yet again. Nothing resolved? No one willing to change. Complete waste of time.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 12:29 PM
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You don’t love her move on. It will be better for her to not prolong it. You simply want the single life. Don’t get married again anytime soon. The kid issue alone is huge and should have been discussed before marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 03:30 PM
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Are you willing to lose half of everything? Depending on where you live years of alimony. First start with a lawyer console and see what you’re looking at financially.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 03:52 PM
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Took me ten years to recovery financially. Payed cs till kids were 21. There would be lots more divorces if people could afford it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 06:22 AM
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11 or 12 turns into 15 then where are you? I waited 3 more years than I should have. Reduce 401k amount put in right now. First thing I did. You’ll need a good chunk of that for lawyers. Go out and spend some money before hand then. Just make sure this is 100% what you wanna do. Exhaust all options before you file?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 02:18 PM
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Clock is ticking every second you wait to file it’s costing you money
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 01:16 AM
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I’m going to finish a few projects around the house. Make the house my own and see how I feel come spring. Right now the house feels heavy like it needs cleansed. Have a low interest rate so I’d rather stay. We shall see.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 01:07 AM
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Peace is beautiful
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 03:15 PM
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It’s tough if it’s a marital home. Cohabitating was hell
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 11:28 AM
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Don’t let it go over 10 years if you haven’t filed yet. Any adulatory in the relationship? Other than that in most states they don’t care. They don’t wanna hear your life store. Sucks but that’s just how it is
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 05:42 PM
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No mental illness Adult children empty house no minor Has career motivated for advanced Loving heart Same political views Same religion From a good family No clingers Financially responsible Travels Yes I want a unicorn but would never Marry again!
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 05:35 PM
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Took your advice last night I started packing up her stuff. My bedroom and bathroom are done. Stacked it in the garage. Now onto the next room. It felt good to take her pictures off the wall. Time to make it my home.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 10:19 AM
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Thank you good way to look at it
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 12:51 PM
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First of all it’s my house. Why do think I have a problem with moving her things. MORE DRAMA! It’s just another way to go after me and I’m over it. It’s just more manipulation
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 10:49 AM
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Why make this comment. So you’re saying I should move her stuff. How is this petty?
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 10:30 AM
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Oh ok I’ll have to look into that in case. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/25 10:10 AM
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I’m still in shock she signed settlement
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 11:52 AM
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My opinion if you are 100% sure of this file. Does she know it’s coming? Once she gets the papers the whole mediator thing might go out the window. It’s financial war after that.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 04:27 PM
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Same thing here. Said she was sacred of me but then asked to reconcile
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 05:12 PM
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I cohabited for months living in fear. Had to put a deadbolt on my bedroom door because of fear. She hit me but I always worried about false claims
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 01:38 PM
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We all sat down in different room. We went back and forth for 2 hours. She finally signed
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 11:36 AM
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My lawyer and her lawyer both stalled at times. How hard is it to pick the phone up and settle. Oh we have to follow a process they say. They slowly milk you tell you’re dry. My case finally settled now I have to go sign the papers. Prob be another couple hundred for 10 minutes.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 12:17 PM
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Same here man. Mine was quiet and meek. After a few years it all changed. Almost like I was set up. Some see dollar signs
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 04:57 PM
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You’ll be living in the camper alone. Go to counseling do whatever you can do.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 04:03 AM
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I’m in the same situation as you. I initiated the divorce. I was only married for 5 years and no children with her. I’m at the end of the process. I know I had to file. I couldn’t stand the fighting and drama anymore. I wasn’t going to change and neither was she. But I still miss the good times. I’m having trouble moving forward also.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/25 03:13 PM
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2.5 cohabitating? That seems unreal to me. Remember you being the higher earner the longer this goes the more it’s going to cost you. She’s benefits the most right now. Every sec her back account is going up and yours is decreasing. Go see a lawyer each states laws are different. Do not wait
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 10:14 PM
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That’s my problem letting go
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 01:03 AM
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