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| 10 | My boyfriend ended a blowjob in the middle, what did i do wrong?The blowjobs shown in porns are also never the ones that make him forget the world, current date and who’s president. It’s not sex ed, it’s not couples therapy, it’s porn… consuming porn to learn BJ is like saying if you want to become a wine sommelier, go to the closest discounter and get the cheapest tetrapak wine you can buy for lowest price and empty that thing to get really hammered to you know, get a feeling how fine wine tasting should be like | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/26 11:55 PM |
| -2 | Help me get standards for menMen like that always know very fast. One of my favorite quotes is: Marriage isn’t a prize you win for patience, it’s a choice two people make when they’re all-in. It’s good if you take your time and concern wisely if you are all-in with this man. But he should not hesitate for too long, risk you getting snatched away, confuse you, or be all words no action (talk dream castles without actually building them with you irl). Men in love are rather too brisk than too vague. Just be sure to test him h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Help me get standards for menPersonally I would want to support you. You’re 21, it’s the best age to have impossibly high standards and demand top tier men. It’s reasonable. Your dream guy really sounds like a perfect man ☺️ However. I’ve noted the only part you wrote in relation to you personally would be „curious/interested in me“. I find that a bit lacking. It could mean a 10/10 guy finds you hot enough to start engaging with you (and bed you and after a while get bored with you!). I think you could dream bigger here and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/26 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Between trad-wife and female led relationships, what power dynamic women really desire as ideal?I’ve lived both sides. Happiness is subjective. It’s also a bad measure point imho. People in abusive relationships self-report happiness (as coping mechanisms, trauma bonding, etc). My personal marker was „which relationship form leads to monogamy, and lasts at least 50+ years (or lifetime)“ Female led relationships are often poly/open, if they’re stable. Most of them don’t even survive the 20 years mark. The couples often fetishized (sexual) routines, and otherwise seemed rather disconnected. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/26 09:35 AM |
| 24 | Is this a dealbreaker?You’ll be next who tried to baby trap him Why would he be ready to be a dad with you as baby momma | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/26 10:40 PM |
| 1 | RegretBe kind and gentle to yourself. It’s already in the past and All you can change is the future. It might be a good thing- a catalyst- for you even. My 2 cents - it’s near impossible to say no and stay with no with a masculine man (especially at your age). Let’s just say you wouldn’t even want to be with a man who is not overcome with desire for you, and also who would accept your worded no _if you’re already in a room with him, naked on the bed by free will _ in that way, you „did the right thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/26 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Modern dating still expects men to perform romance while women are praised simply for participating.A healthy female in love does not need to be encouraged or prompted to do acts of love. In fact they often rather need to be encouraged to wait a bit longer, to hesitate a bit more. Why should a female proceed as slowly as humanly possible, and why should men take the lead in courting: because men don’t fall in love like women do. And family-oriented women need to suss out the men who are not interested (at that time, not with her, etc… doesn’t matter) in building families. Because to establish … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/06/26 08:40 PM |
| 5 | one sided open relationshipHe might be shit testing you. Some men do that, like women notoriously do. He suggests to bend your morals and values over backwards and checks how easily you give up or move your boundary. You fail the „test“ of you do. Some men just say those cruel things _in theory_ to check if you really are steadfast and „angelic“. If you show him it’s really who you are (in this case, „sorry can’t do that, I need a monogamous husband“) and he drops the whole charade and shows you(!!) that you’re his one an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/26 12:21 AM |
| 6 | one sided open relationshipThe hardest lesson to learn tbh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/26 12:16 AM |
| 3 | at times it doesn’t feel worth it to partner with men because of their natureThat’s so cute! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/26 09:28 AM |
| 17 | at times it doesn’t feel worth it to partner with men because of their natureAll the things you listed will not make him stay (money, good partner/ roommate, low maintenance). In fact they make you convenient. Convenient woman is the opposite of mysterious oomph woman. Good news is you can be the woman he’d cross mountains for. Also good news is that there’s plenty of guys who absolutely adore their wrinkly hag wife, over any young chick. My dad was flirty with my mom until she died, and he looked at her lovingly and adoringly, even though she had short fizzy grey hair, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/26 12:06 AM |
| 0 | Boyfriend giving silent treatmentIt’s a chicken-egg problem I suppose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/26 07:11 AM |
| 6 | Single and Happy? Are they?Being single as a flex kinda works until you exit your 30s, after that… it gets rarer, the women coquetting with that get quirkier… kinda like the weird Barbie. I’m saying that in a loving way, some certainly had a „wounded healer“ type energy, more often than not VERY colorful life stories, important contributions to society, etc. All the women I interviewed (to discern my personal calling in life) in their 60-80s who were single for whatever reason, they… idk. They did not feel inspiring to me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/26 05:32 PM |
| 7 | How to spice up my relationshipLook up limerence. You might eroticise abandonment. I second the notion to get off the pill. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 12:56 PM |
| – | How to spice up my relationshipLook up limerence. You might eroticise abandonment. I second the notion to get off the pill. It changes smell and attraction. You’re only fertile 3 days of the month, with LTR it should be a piece of cake to time accordingly. If you want more security there’s temperature, or saliva (progesterone) measuring where you’re at possible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/26 12:05 PM |
| 2 | Is there any way I can get him to want to pursue a relationship with me?If you think you have to „work a little“ to make him come hither- don’t. Never go down that road. You’ll regret it long term. I’m not saying women should sit tightly and never move for a man. But early on you really can’t do too little for the right man. Men fall hard and fast. He doesn’t need more or better arguments for why you’re his dream princess. You just ain’t it. He might meet that „one girl“ one day and get swooped away by her charm instantly- would you like him to wear your wedding ban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/26 08:54 AM |
| 0 | You’re not marrying a rich manYes, I do think also that women operate on the assumption of reciprocity. Men don’t work like that. I do hope you know that you lowered your chance of marrying by cohabitation. You also said that your current „business deal“ (I hope you got that signed), is already feeling like a compromise and that he did not want to lose your LABOUR (not your amazing feminine self). Yes he did „give“ it to you but you pursued him (abs he’ll thus always have the argument „it wasn’t my idea, I never truly wanted… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 10:46 AM |
| -4 | You’re not marrying a rich manThe thing with truly wealthy men is, as a woman without such funds in the background, you will have a hard time when the good times are over. I’m not even talking divorce. I’m talking rough times in the marriage. You’ll always be at a terrain disadvantage. You won’t be able to afford a really good lawyer for your prenup. Heck you probably won’t even know of the possibility to get a prenup, or what to write in there. You won’t dare to ask or even expect gifts like gold, property, stocks, time wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/26 10:29 AM |
| 6 | Is this the truth of people?I came to the same realization many years ago. It’s healthy and good and shows great intellect you arrived at this conclusion at 23 years old. Congrats, you saved a lot of time and heartbreak. Every time I got my hopes up I got disappointed. It kinda makes sense once you visit a daycare. Children, left mostly alone with peers, with few adults (kid to adult ratio) supervising them, and these adults are not part of their family and often change too. How can this setup produce adults who are so str… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/26 08:44 PM |
| 0 | Is femininity natural, or something that needs to be taught?TBH if a dad said to me he wanted to groom his daughters into „natural femininity“, I’d keep my eye on that kid pretty close and the phone in my hand. And I’d probably inform others. I do hope he’s a man of God and sincere and without ill intent in his ways. Why do I have a problem with that statement? A man/dad cannot „teach“ a daughter femininity. How could he? He might inspire her femininity to bloom- set the stage, so to say- by leading with his healthy masculinity, taking responsibility as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/26 02:42 PM |
| 1 | I don't think I can live the life I want or be the woman I want to be if I have kidsRead continuum concept by Jean Liedloff | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/26 07:25 PM |
| 3 | I have no idea how to meet someone that's interested in me.You’re Short You’re unfit You’re complaining Absolutely no idea why women don’t queue at your doorstep. They suss out these things under 3 seconds flat. Short- you can’t change that but there’s plenty of short kings. Unfit- you prefer whining here instead of hitting the gym ASAP so probably it’s not for you either Complaining- women are drawn to confident men with a mission in life, where they can play a pivotal role in. They prefer men who display competence in some field, and seem to be „the g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/26 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Realized I’m the problem.. What’s one thing you swear by that made you a better wife?Personally I gained more from created to be his help-meet, as this deepened my understanding for men, the differences in their personalities, and included more wake-up call examples. Empowered wife felt more coddling to me as the self-care aspect is quite strong, the focus is more on the wife, and the message overall is delivered in a softer, very positive tone. Personally I needed the slegehammer to see the direness of my situation at the time | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/26 09:03 AM |
| 3 | Realized I’m the problem.. What’s one thing you swear by that made you a better wife?All the best to you and your family 🙏🌈✨ | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/26 03:51 PM |
| 26 | Realized I’m the problem.. What’s one thing you swear by that made you a better wife?Read fascinating womanhood and Debi Pearl‘s Created to be his Help-Meet. Laura Doyle is more secular but doesn’t quite apply to your situation (it’s written for the working wife). Another possibility might be the „understanding men“ course by Renee Wade and David Shen. It’s a bit pricey tho, they do have sales sometimes, and tons of free education on YouTube. If your husband tells you he feels disrespected, it’s high noon. Very quick fix on how to respect a man: thank him verbosely (not just „th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/26 08:47 AM |
| 3 | How do I (24F) ask a guy (28M) I've been talking to for 6 months “what are we?” without ruining things?He already planned a visit to his family and tells you now that’s when you will meet? He certainly has strong interest in entertaining himself. You said you guys are flirting. 1 on 1 time with a female is very valuable to men no matter if online or offline. If he compliments your discipline and motivation he could be lazy and search for someone to run his life. Did he just support you with words, or did he actively connect you to valuable people/places, send you money, etc? By 28, he should alre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/26 03:36 PM |
| 4 | How do I (24F) ask a guy (28M) I've been talking to for 6 months “what are we?” without ruining things?You have an internet pen pal No need to push him or „define the relationship“, you literally haven’t met. A man who pursues you will leave no uncertainty about his genuine interests about you and his intentions If he says he’ll visit you in a year he probably will do exactly that: visit you. Don’t daydream about more. Did he give you a set date? Are there specific plans what to do during the time he’ll visit? Where will he stay? Or is it just „sometime next year“, „maybe…“, „what do you want to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/26 01:58 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on make-up?First, I do think also he’s negging/ testing you. Secondly, what is make-up creating? * it is covering blemishes and imperfections and makes you look healthier than you are .I am assuming, men who like „natural“ (the „no make-up“-Look) actually mean „healthy“. * it can warp your face so much that you appear as a completely different person, or exude a very different vibe, wear more colors (those not naturally flattering you sometimes can get away with heavier makeup), etc. Men like variety, and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/26 07:41 PM |
| 0 | what do men want or find valuable in a woman?Well, my point was men don’t value women making their life easier, or better (other than purely decorative aspect, or adding emotional depth). Also, you’re saying „first relationship“ as if humans needed several try-outs. It would be better if she set herself up to find a „forever“, not a „first“. Just my personal opinion You said more valuable things in your original post and I think the resources are very good | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 06:01 PM |
| 9 | what do men want or find valuable in a woman?I‘d be cautious with the „you to make their life easier/better by being in it“. I think not adding drama/ negativity is enough. Improving my man‘s life is already husband treatment, imho. Not for vetting period. Men don’t credit you working for them, sadly. Also men and women value things differently. For 19 year old female maybe a word for the way would be that men connect through action (doing things together), and women through talking. So „doing“ things together or accompany him on his ventu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/26 10:43 AM |
| 2 | Wait for a better environment to date, or try it out here?learn about finances and investing, start now to build one or several passive income streams. It doesn’t have to be unique or complex or with great initial investment, something like selling AI generated fanfics or cute notepads via Amazon KDP. By this you fix two problems at once: you throw yourself into a mostly male dominated pool with males who are ambitious and think outside the box. Just join groups and ask a lot of questions on how to start such a small business/ side hustle, how to buy E… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/26 11:51 AM |
| 0 | Is there any possible coming back after having been a horrible partner?If you are suggesting that the red flags were coming from you, and this would be the reason he did not propose: you need more healing. Please read about childrearing, I can recommend Jean Liedloff‘s Continuum Concept. Read how human children are born, and how they learn. Ina May Gaskin is also a good way to start. This is good education in case you become a mother. It will also teach you what to look out for in a prospective father/husband. You will have many revelations in your own family syste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/26 01:41 PM |
| -5 | Is there any possible coming back after having been a horrible partner?You’re 21, if there’s ever a time in the life of a woman to be entitled it’s right there (you’re in your prime). Every man you talk to is basically talking to a billionaire. Growth mindset is always great but I don’t see a ring on your finger. No need to give strangers husband treatment (and everyone not giving you a ring is legally a stranger no matter how strong your emotions are). If anything be more spoiled, bratty, and mean, especially to men who break your heart and steal your time by push… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/26 11:45 AM |
| 7 | Is there any possible coming back after having been a horrible partner?Honor your loyal character and move on. I feel your pain. However you were not that unique, no matter what it feels like right now. Because right now you stand in front of a trash pile of a relationship. Try to assess the situation from what is, not what could have been. It’s hard. Never put any effort into salvaging a relationship before marriage. Ever. If the guy truly wanted you, he would have made it possible months and years ago, no matter what. The right man WILL move mountains for you. Do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/26 08:25 AM |
| – | Why didn't men want to date successful women in their 30sYou’re not successful, you’re just working a lot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/26 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Tradwives, do you believe that women need to develop independence before they get married?Work full time as soon as school is finished, for example as waitress, concierge, secretary helper, dogsitter, etc. Doesn’t matter what really, minimum wage is already enough. Live with parents while unmarried. Invest money as early as possible for example in precious metals (gold, silver, copper, and such) and stock markets (ETFs, government bonds, etc). If she gets help or has enough money, build a small business like chewing-gum machines. These cost around 10k to set up (refurbished machine, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/26 10:23 AM |
| 3 | called cute instead of hot, but I'm tallHey, 6‘1“ girlie here. I rarely meet a man taller than me, I got issues with clothes and shoes etc, so your situation could be much worse, first of all ☺️ My personal experience growing up/ in my prime was that I got the „you should work as a model“ a LOT (except, my measurements weren’t right at all and also I was TOO tall). I attracted boys with mommy issues like moths to a flame. Were they sexually attracted to me? For weird reasons, yes. Was I „the hot one“? No, I was the EXOTIC sexual adven… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/26 11:52 AM |
| 18 | Late 20s F — assertive, confrontational, from a patriarchal culture. Am I setting myself up for toxic relationships?Short answer: yes. You will have problems to effortlessly glide into a happy marriage that will last a lifetime. Not because of your personality or your values per se. I give reasons because I think that below. Right now you are in your prime. Of course you have no problem to pull men, no matter how average looking you think you are. Your problems will not start now, but in 10, 15 years, when you are single/divorced, and scratching your head. Why I think you will have problems: 1. you’re already… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/26 08:23 AM |
| -1 | Wealthy man with different valuesOk so he was kinda poaching you while still married one year ago, then you got divorced, less than a year ago. All financial, legal, and psychological ties to your broke underwear model ex are cut in a clean and elegant way? You say of yourself you would be ready to marry, today? It seems you kinda saw what could be and ditched your ex? Compared to your rich suitor: his net worth, where’s yours? Cash flow? Again: social connections? He rubs shoulders with Donny Jr, do you (without/before him)? W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/26 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Wealthy man with different valuesQuite a few men value the chase over the catch. You seem a similar mind: entertain him romantically… You also say you keep your options open. Why would a well established business man in his 60s snatch a marriage-minded lefty 40-something PT off the dating market? Even if you „just talk“ to other men, they are literally not even in the same league as he plays in. You’re the sexy housemaid who flirts with the gardener and the paper delivery boy from his viewpoint. What kind of game is that? Why d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/26 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Wealthy man with different valuesOh, excuse me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/26 12:12 AM |
| – | Wealthy man with different valuesQuite a few men value the chase over the catch. You seem a similar mind: entertain him romantically… You also say you keep your options open. Why would a well established business man in his 60s snatch a marriage-minded lefty 40-something PT off the dating market? Even if you „just talk“ to other men, they are literally not even in the same league as he plays in. You’re the sexy housemaid who flirts with the gardener and the paper delivery boy from his viewpoint. What kind of game is that? Why d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Wealthy man with different valuesPolitics aside, can you afford getting alpha widowed by this guy? The more warm body time you spend together (and personal fairyland headspace time) the harder will be a parting. Especially after some trips and little glimpses of what your life with this man could be. That’s one. Everyone urges you to „go get the bag“, but can you afford to fight his lawyers in case things get nasty? He seems well connected, are you? This for second. You seem like a spirited lady, you said you got options, I can… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/26 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Worried I will come off as career driven or too educated when I’m not. Should I avoid a masters try to change into a helping career?Counseling: getting paid for listening to other people traumadump you. High drama. You might turn into a know it all/ get depressed about the worlds situation. Firm boundaries are needed to avoid burnout. Also you might be a bit young for the job. Nursing: night shifts. Not compatible with family Both are careers which will 1) prevent you from living a soft relaxed life which will attract high value men 2) incompatible with family plans 3) very low salary Better learn about investing and build p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/26 10:17 AM |
| 3 | I feel like not being ready to have kids is holding me back in relationshipsHehe, I feel you, I could have written a very similar post 10 years ago ☺️ Firstly. I would recommend you to go into a deep dive on your issues regarding sex/pregnancy/families. Personally I disregarded all these things too because 1) mainstream culture really is making all these things VERY unattractive 2) my hippie/boomer parents made sure to tell me all the time how much effort kids are, how dangerous giving birth is, and my sahm mom told me how much she wanted to work (if only!)… so. Not exa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/26 09:05 AM |
| -1 | How do you see the traditional wife role—toughest job or easiest path?I think it heavily depends on the husband’s income, job, and wife’s attraction to husband. If he’s a generous and manly 10/10 Adonis with 6 figure income and a châlet in Switzerland, and they laugh and joke together, she will have an easy life. If he‘s a balding soyboy slowpoke who barely makes ends meet and she needs to budget tightly, she’ll build up resentment. Well these are extremes and most will be somewhere in between, but you catch my drift. The job really matters too I found. Compare th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/25 11:03 AM |
| 1 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?„The world you grew up in does not exist anymore,“ I think about this quote often. I don’t think the person who goes the route: School (18, 2025)> college> university> entry level job> start family (early 30s?, around 2037) will still be able to rest their heavy head on a comfortable retirement cushion in 2075. Why? Because you can’t beat someone who doesn’t have to pay rent and started around 12 years earlier to save and invest aggressively. The savings rate you can pull with 18 is much higher … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/25 06:12 PM |
| -2 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?I wasn’t specifying what exactly to buy, so please don’t sue me if you lose money lol. I don’t think there is truly passive income except inheritance, where you don’t need initial funds. Also it is never 100% passive, so it does need some management. Maybe the word is misleading. I think young women should absolutely work. That’s the time to work! But, I don’t think they have to do untrained manual labor or pink collar work only. They don’t even have to leave the house to work. With internet, an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/25 09:57 AM |
| -3 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?I know right 😁✨ | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 07:24 PM |
| -7 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?I cannot give financial advice. Just some very general ideas: Crypto, Stocks/ETF, Gold/Silver (can also be brought on stock market, personally I prefer physical bullion coins). You can start with as little as $50-100. Yes in the beginning you will be excited, you might lose some money because you were stupid- but 18 is a great time to learn. I wish I made my rookie mistakes at that age. And also I wish I bought at least some ETFs. Warren Buffet once said: „If you aren’t willing to own a stock fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 07:18 PM |
| -10 | What do we think about the « stay single in your (early) twenties » advice ?I think young women need chaperones or gouveranantes when parents fail to help them weed out the baddies and put them in good circles with eligible bachelors. Also, I would NOT fall for the edumocashion trap. „You need an education to secure yourself“, this advice is SO outdated. Study investments, building a portfolio with passive income streams. Time in the market beats timing the market anytime, which is why you should work full time asap as a single young lady, live with parents and save ren… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/25 04:13 PM |
| 1 | My therapist suggested I stop managing my husband to cure my anxiety. We are trying a Captain First Mate dynamic to prepare for kids but letting go is harder than I thoughtI can highly recommend to look into the natural birthing community. Especially Ina May Gaskin. Watch Orgasmic Birth. Read Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. Look into the La Leche League on breastfeeding. Why? It will touch your core wounds. You will have to re-evaluate your own upbringing and forge a new understanding. Educate yourself on the role of the husband in birth. The role of mother and father for child. The need for babies of high-responsive, present, and calm mothers. How breastfeedi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/25 09:29 AM |
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