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| 2 | Do you believe men in western societies pose any risk of reverting to extreme patriarchy (eg Iran ‘79)? More generally, do protections for women ultimately exist at the mercy of men?I unfortunately have to agree with you. When I used to regularly participate in this sub, I had a tongue in cheek saying that I would often make: "There is no such thing as Women's Rights--there are only rights for men who aren't you." A lot of the things that we say are rights for women, are moreso things that men decided that they didn't want to be on the hook for when it involved their daughters. It always makes me chuckle when the concept of paternity fraud comes up and men in this sub start… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/25 02:18 PM |
| 1 | The most common argument against financial abortion is easily refuted. What remains is mostly misandryNo, you'd have to opt out of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 06:50 PM |
| 0 | The most common argument against financial abortion is easily refuted. What remains is mostly misandryI agree with financial abortions. I just think that the only way for them to be fair would be for them to happen before the sex that results in conception occurs. If we could make this a mainstream thing, that would be great. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 09:00 AM |
| 3 | Is there anything a woman could do to get you to say with her after she cheated on you ?I find it fascinating the number of men in here who are admitting that they would act as though nothing had changed and keeping having sex with the cheating girlfriend....while looking for her replacement. As though the next woman who comes along (who is willing to engage with him romantically while believing he is currently in a relationship) would be any better. Break it off and give yourself a chance for a clean start with someone decent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole?Your entire message thread has been deleted. No I haven't seen a message. Let me see what I can do to restart it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 08:50 AM |
| 1 | Women: What do you bring to the table?How long have you been married, and how many kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/24 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Paternity Test vs. Escape FundAt my doctor you'd be going out of your way to NOT have the std panel done at the visit. It's not just a pap smear, it's a "sexual health physical" or something like that. Bottom line, there's a routine reason why a woman could be getting one anyhow that has nothing to do with whether she thinks she was cheated on, and if it came up abnormal, she would have the leverage to ask her partner for an std test at that point. Asking for a paternity test from your pregnant or recently given birth spouse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/24 08:39 AM |
| 8 | Paternity Test vs. Escape FundI don't think the std one is really comparable. Most women get a yearly pap smear that tests for stds as it is. I'd say it'd be more comparable to asking if they could run diagnostics on your electronic devices just to check to make sure you don't have any illegal type porn on your stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?I think what annoys me the most about it is that the conversation seems to always center around how they're gonna deliver some consequences to the woman who cheated on him, but absolutely nothing about the man who slept with his wife. We hear how nothing is worse than paternity fraud for a man and how her paying him back the equivalent of child support would be the bare minimum that she could do. My knee jerk response is always: OK cool, if you want more compensation, why not get it from the man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 12:11 PM |
| 3 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?Not only that, but it's filled with men who are scared of what their future wife will do. Not men with a currently pregnant partner or a currently post partum partner who they're wondering about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Why Do Women Think Their Feelings Matter More Than The Truth?My question is this: We've all seen how things have become standard as medical science had progressed. So think to yourselves why paternity testing has been available since the late 80s, and yet we haven't had male lawmakers making this stuff standard yet. Even as we have had babies mixed up at the hospital and all of the drama and heartache that has gone along with that. Running a test match to make sure that the right baby goes home with the correct parents should have been standard nearly 40 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 11:58 AM |
| 5 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole?Here's the thing, who cares why the incompatibility arises? It just does, and he clearly communicates the break up. "Every woman proceeds at her own risk" in this case translates to: don't be shocked when this relationship doesn't last forever. Have fun. He's not Jack the Ripper. But don't place your bets on a LTR. If you date him, you're the flavor of the week. Just match that energy by having him be nothing more tha YOUR flavor of the week and you're good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 11:03 AM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Maybe not their "only" option, but their best option absolutely. As for men staying "loyal", I think both genders are starting to realize that what they consider to be True Love isn't really seen as valuable to the other gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 10:59 AM |
| 4 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole?My advice to women is the same exact thing: if things aren't going your way in the relationship and whatever it is is really important to you....leave? All he is doing is clearly communicating an incompatibility and breaking things off with these women before he moves on. If that makes him "trash" or a "self absorbed tool" then we should all aspire to be such things 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 03:24 PM |
| 0 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole??? Because they're basically just women who he has introduced me to and some of them I end up enjoying their company. They're not "his cast offs" they're real people who I'll stay in touch with if we have a friendly connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?I was in grad school when I got married and my grandfather legit called me up to beg me not to drop out of college. I was like.....wasn't planning on it. And I had already been engaged when I had gotten into grad school so I was extra perplexed because it wasn't like this was a case of me hypothetically going to college to get my MRS degree and now that I had gotten accepted and gotten started with the program, no way was I going to stop. But it's very popular dating advice amongst Boomers: get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 01:53 PM |
| 7 | Would you prefer your son to be a genuinely good person who can't get a date, or a sexually irresistible asshole?Scrolled thus far to finally find some sanity. I have a brother who is closer to a Caleb than an Adam, and I just somehow manage to stay a part of the lives of the women who he has dated. It's not hard. He doesn't have any children (that we know of), but if he did, I would just stay connected to those women the same way I do now. At this point my brother is well known with his reputation and any woman who chooses to date him, does so at her own risk. He's not the devil by any means, but he gets … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 01:07 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Good grief. I don't know. Personally I think that overall, dating should stop being discouraged when people are younger. Just yesterday, I was talking to a young woman who anyone in here could find highly desirable. She was a conservative leaning Catholic (but ok with herself using birth control just NO abortion), physically attractive (on trend clothing, athletic body, tasteful makeup), good manners, easy to talk to, fun, kind, bubbly personality, well educated....blah blah blah. She was talkin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 12:59 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?I don't think all hope is lost for him in this. There are some women who believe that men and women are just alike and therefore would prefer their man to be a virgin as well as themselves being a virgin. As long as she can hype virginity as this awesome thing that she prefers in a man as well as herself both being a virgin and being roughly 6/10, it can work. I've definitely been pleasantly surprised in my time at some exceptions that I've seen. And most of these pairings also seem to work best… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 12:41 PM |
| 4 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Get into DND or MTG. Or some other LARP stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 04:18 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?To be honest I've definitely suggested to men that they fudge the details of their dating history in a way that makes women think that they have had experience while being technically truthful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 04:17 PM |
| 8 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?I did level up. And no, I would have stayed with him. Finding out that true love wasn't real when I thought we had everything crushed me in a massive way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:26 PM |
| 9 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?It doesn't make me feel better. Well, I guess I'm glad you were able to be honest with her rather than continuing to date her and resenting her. But I don't want anyone to be forever alone involuntarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:22 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Here's the thing, at the very least, I'm consistent- a woman past the same age without dating experience is also a red flag. Thus question just isn't geared towards talking about dating women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:20 PM |
| 1 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?Believing that men should get dating experience through casual dating and that I wouldn't seriously date a man without it makes me a "tool"? Why? The only way I'd be a hypocrite or "dense" is if I was hung up on everyone being Low N. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:18 PM |
| 3 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?I don't complain about the consequences of it. I just wouldn't date a man for LTR without it. I'm totally fine with casual dating, which is where I'd expect him to get his dating experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 01:16 PM |
| 6 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?What do you mean? Because of what I've personally dealt with, I wouldn't even consider dating a man who didn't have relationships in his past. Him having a bad relationship in his past is particularly important to me because I want a guy to understand how life and relationships work and not have rose colored glasses on like "wow I finally got a date! I wonder what else is out there!" When I was dating in college, I was dating for marriage. I wanted a guy who had sown his wild oats, not one who w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 09:29 AM |
| 23 | To the female losers here, why won't you date a male loser?As a former person who could classify themselves as a "female loser", it's because a lot of women have dated that "male loser" only to find themselves ditched when he was able to level up because he had suddenly acquired the trait of being preselected by another female and therefore he was more attractive to other women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/24 09:09 AM |
| 4 | Should the man tell his partner that he is going to get a paternity test?He should keep it to himself and do the paternity test on his own. If the results come back unfavorable to him, then who cares what her feelings are? But you're playing with fire to bring it up beforehand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Relationship experience is overrated and essentially meaninglessSpeaking personally, I wouldn't want to marry someone of either gender without knowing that they had a bad relationship previously. When dating, I want to hear about your exs. And while it's gonna be a red flag for me if every single one of them is magically a crazy bitch, I need to hear that at least one of them was, so that you genuinely know what a bad relationship/ex looks like and take our relationship more seriously because of it. People talk to me a lot, and it's always interesting to me … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/24 09:23 AM |
| 0 | The case of Gisèle Pelicot has me wondering, what percentage of guys would rape if they thought they could totally get away with it?It makes me wonder what variables had the other 2/3 of men say they wouldn't go through with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/24 01:30 PM |
| 5 | How are women able to walk away from a guy so easily?At this point I just kind of lose respect for people right out of the gate when they tell me that they were blindsided by a break up. It is very "tell me you're absolutely oblivious without explicitly telling me that you're oblivious." Or that the person was unwilling to change their toxic habits because the marriage was working for them. It just feels like, for me, the moment someone claims they were blindsided by a break up, I just immediately side with the person filing for divorce from them.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 03:53 PM |
| 2 | How are women able to walk away from a guy so easily?This is why I have wondered why people are "relieved" to have just been left instead of being cheated on. First off, they were probably cheated on and THEN left...but if hypothetically there was absolutely no cheating, then that person is literally leaving you for a chance with any other woman on the planet. Or being alone! Literally anything is better than the current relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 03:42 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why can't you detect toxicity/misogyny in attractive men?Recently I have had to spend time with a regional parenting group and I think I have come to find out what could hypothetically be attractive about The Dad Bod: It is simply signaling that a strong, formerly athletic man, now has a sedentary job at a desk where he likely makes a lot of money. It's the Frat Boy All Grown Up look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/24 07:51 PM |
| 2 | Being the safe and secure option isn't worth it most of the timeLots of us do. Including me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Being the safe and secure option isn't worth it most of the timeWhy not just keep her around and continue having sex with her? Doesn't that seem easier than having to wash-rinse-repeat with another woman? What if she won't sleep with you unless she's already in your friend group and had met your mom? This just doesn't seem like a very efficient method of dating. I'd say a better alternative is to make sure your partner knows that you are attractive to your gender. That if the two of you broke up, you wouldn't be single by choice for long. Especially as a man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Being the safe and secure option isn't worth it most of the timeI agree with you on this. It's so interesting to hear my husband's friends )who would absolutely call themselves red pilled), giving the most blue pilled advice ever. "Just fuck ugly chicks when they're drunk with their friends bro". "Just throw a house party and then fuck the lonely insecure girls bro". Lol those scenarios don't exist for men who literally can't even get a crumb of attention from women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 02:01 PM |
| 6 | Being the safe and secure option isn't worth it most of the timeJust remember that biology is biology and she doesn't have to continue to have the "what are we?" conversation once her birth control slips and biology gives her the title of being the mother of (at least one of) your children. Why men want to waste their freedom and possibly part of their paycheck for the next nearly two decades to a woman they see no future with, I will never understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/24 01:57 PM |
| 2 | Men, what negative dating/relationship experiences have you personally had with women?Some people decide to stay in the relationship with you after they've been cheated on because they think you'll never have the opportunity to be hurt properly unless the perfect opportunity comes up and they're the one to do it. More people should feel relief when they're dumped after it's found out that they cheated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/24 12:50 PM |
| 1 | If women are hypergamous by nature, then why are there so many women in society who do not 'Date Up'Because you're more attractive than her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Older men have no incentive to improve themselves for older women who are "tired of their bullshit"..I agree with you. I'm also interested in the ages of these women who are dating such significantly older men. My aunts who married in the 1970s, married men who were ~10 years older than them. But these were also men who were well known in the social circle and had been previously "vetted" by the family so to speak. What was normal back then, would seem very odd now. How many 19 year olds today do we know who are dating men within arms reach of 30? Similarly, I know of some widows/widowers who a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 10:09 AM |
| 0 | Would it better for the guy to suggest something else fun rather than doing a chore as first date?I agree with this. It just shows how she sees him: free labor and entertainment. Especially how she even suggested it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:39 AM |
| 1 | If women are hypergamous by nature, then why are there so many women in society who do not 'Date Up'Regardless if you mean to or not, you're humble bragging that you're so attractive in at least one aspect of your life that you have no problem getting dates without "paying" for them monetarily. Without knowing both of you, it's hard to tell what's going on in your relationship or why things are the way they are. I do a lot of genealogy work and regularly interview significantly older women about family history including their own marriages and how they met their husbands. I always reserve my c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/24 09:36 AM |
| – | The problem with modern dating is that women are now in the driver seat but they don’t want to be thereGrowing up, it was both the trusted elder women and men who said this same thing to me. Even men in so called "traditional" marriages who self reported and whose wives self reported that they had a decent stable marriage were saying this. And it really made me wonder something: Growing up as a young woman, I can't tell you how many times the trusted older men in my family took me aside to give me advice either about men in general or about man-coded tasks/household chores. Looking back now, the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 09:20 AM |
| 1 | q4w: What does the word loyalty mean to you? And besides yourself and your family, what person(s) have you been loyal to since you've turned 18?Loyalty means sticking with people even when you're not getting anything out of the relationship or it's lopsided and you're the one putting in more effort. Maybe at one point it was good, or maybe a person just imagined it was good, but it's been an extended period of NOT GOOD. I'm not loyal. At the first sign of major incompatibility or long stretch of boredom/unhappiness, I am OUT. On the flip side, I am very close to my family, and I have lots of long term friends who have been in my life we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Is having an income greater than minimum wage a prerequisite to dating past age 22? Or even past age 23?And I hope he slams the door in her face. People are allowed to have preferences, but there's no need to be rude about it. I hope she burned that bridge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/24 06:49 PM |
| 5 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?I wouldn't be so sure about that. My husband's blue collar, red blooded American friends have definitely had some blue pill stuff come out of their mouth when it comes to the mainstream Gen Z dating woes that could be easily translated into "have these involuntarily celibate men ever considered having sex with women like I do???" 🤪 Or "just date ugly chicks bro!" It's not that easy. And they don't get it because sex and attraction from women has always come easily to them. I'm talking working cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:28 AM |
| 3 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?I think the couple should just break up. Idk, people word things poorly when they're drunk. This same type of thing has happened to me before where someone has drunkenly hurt my feelings and I waited til we were both sober and over any kind of hangover and then talked it over and everything was fine. She thought it was a compliment because that's the kind of thing that women want to hear from men. It's not that deep. The compliment didn't land well and now he wants to break up. He probably was j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?and why did she need to make the casual sex comparison to begin with? she couldnt just say i want to be with you forever Because alcohol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:14 AM |
| 14 | Blue Pill men: Would you be happy being the marriage material or someone she would have casual sex with?Strangely enough, I see Blue pill more as code for "I'm so attractive, the rules don't apply to me, so I don't realize they exist". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 09:03 AM |
| – | If the government passed a law saying all premarital sex had to be prostitution (even for only a small $ amount), I think men would lose all interest in itNo, but I haven't seen a lot of animal mating behaviors in real life either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/24 08:33 AM |
| – | If the government passed a law saying all premarital sex had to be prostitution (even for only a small $ amount), I think men would lose all interest in itProstitution is legal in other countries and it hasn’t changed their society where men don’t desire families and relationships at all. In those countries, how much freedom do women have? Is it considered a faux pas to look down on the families of the women who are prostitutes? I don't know that I'm explaining myself correctly, but this is a genuine question. And what I'm kind of getting at is: is there a difference between a SEA country and a Nordic country, and if so, what's the difference? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 02:37 PM |
| – | If the government passed a law saying all premarital sex had to be prostitution (even for only a small $ amount), I think men would lose all interest in itIs there a "crack whore" equivalent in the animal kingdom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/24 02:32 PM |
| 3 | All the excuses used by age gap haters to interfere with age gap relationships can equally be applied to bigots trying to stop gay / lesbian relationships, as age gap haters use the same kind of infantalizing rhetoric, concern trolling and "we're doing it for your own good" gaslighting.Growing up as a woman, I was absolutely warned about that kind of a thing and told that it was at least an orange flag for abuse. I was also explicitly told to date within my own social class because men from wealthier social strata enjoyed wasting the time of women who they perceived to be beneath them, and men from poorer social strata would grow to resent me because men as a whole enjoy the illusion that they can provide for the wants and needs of their woman/children. A woman who comes from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 08:53 AM |
| 5 | All the excuses used by age gap haters to interfere with age gap relationships can equally be applied to bigots trying to stop gay / lesbian relationships, as age gap haters use the same kind of infantalizing rhetoric, concern trolling and "we're doing it for your own good" gaslighting.I've told the story in here before about my time in my very early 20s dating a man who was ~10 years older than me. My women family members saw this as a very good thing and that I was wise beyond my years to date a man who had down his wild oats and was ready to settle down and be committed to me. My woman peers were envious of me and repeatedly asked me how I had been able to get into this guy's orbit and make a relationship happen. It was the trusted men in my family who were concerned. My da… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 08:47 AM |
| – | Attending a rap concert was a humbling experience as an average guy.What type of Monkey's Paw alternatives are we looking at here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/24 08:29 AM |
| 1 | When is a reasonable time and a good reason to ask for a DNA test?Right now, before you even begin dating, do those Ancestry DNA tests and make sure everyone you date knows that you're obsessed with them and that you love this type of technology and genealogy in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 10:20 AM |
| – | It is chiefly through the patriarchy that men keep other men in checkI've been saying for awhile that it can be easily seen that there is no such thing as "women's rights", it's more of "the rights of men who aren't you in this situation". Any time someone wants to suggest that women have it easier in a certain regard or get more lenient punishment, consider if there is a group of men who might benefit or simply avoid the negative consequences. Take for example the often discussed topic of Paternity Fraud and how currently women aren't really penalized for this. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/24 10:15 AM |
| 1 | Isn’t just being upfront that you are not an LTR/Marrying guy and telling your date openly to expect no commitment better than plate-spinning or pretending you are in an LTR, but not really committing? Like it’s being honest. That’s always admirable.Women who are open to casual sex typically aren’t attractive. Men prefer having sex with attractive women. Therefore men typically aren’t into women who are open to casual sex. Granted I'm a Millennial, so I'm talking about experiences from 15-20 years ago, but in my experience, the young women who were open to casual sex were VERY attractive and put a lot of effort into their appearance. And they got their casual sex and "high N counts" by looking good and being extroverted. Who are these unatt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Isn’t just being upfront that you are not an LTR/Marrying guy and telling your date openly to expect no commitment better than plate-spinning or pretending you are in an LTR, but not really committing? Like it’s being honest. That’s always admirable.If this isn't one of the most unfortunately true statements that I have ever heard in my life. Any time I hear someone lament about having been cheated on, especially a man, he usually ends up cheating himself. And when people say No cheaters, are they talking about no cheating on a middle school dating relationship? Highschool? Only in adulthood? Some people never cheat until they do. Boredom or FOMO can happen at any stage of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 04:17 PM |
| 4 | Isn’t just being upfront that you are not an LTR/Marrying guy and telling your date openly to expect no commitment better than plate-spinning or pretending you are in an LTR, but not really committing? Like it’s being honest. That’s always admirable.It's like they're turned on by the manipulation itself instead of the actual sex. I've definitely seen that in action. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/24 04:11 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should stop initiating DatesI agree with you, and to add to this, sending the equivalent of a cold call 2 am "u up?" text via Tinder is significantly different than asking someone out on a date in person because the two of you know each other and you feel some attraction between the two of you. Being hit up by basically a stranger for casual sex is nearly worthless to a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/24 07:53 AM |
| 2 | What do you think the future of feminism is in the west ?I don't know about feminism, but I've been waiting for the right time to talk about how I see a future of lesbianism being problematic or at the very least seen as incredibly cringe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/24 07:49 AM |
| 4 | The "unequal division of household chores" in large part arises from status competition within female social circles, which the male partner has no obligation to make sacrifices for.I thought this was going to go in a different direction and claim that women only want men who help around the house as a flex to other women that their husbands aren't doing enough for them. I spent a good chunk of time assisting with editing and photography for a handful of mommy bloggers a decade ago....and the amount of humble bragging about what all their rocks of husbands ("My Husband is my Rock!") do for them was eye roll worthy. It was all very "my husband loves me enough to do everythin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 10:35 AM |
| – | I have a theory on a *possible reason why some women may hesitate to date a virgin, low n-count guy: The fear of being the starter gfAfter all, why aren't men reluctant to date low-N/virgin women since the same applies to them? Until I came to this subreddit, I didn't realize that there were men who loudly and proudly wanted virgin or very Low N women outside of very religious communities. When my husband and I started dating after a number of years of completely platonic friendship, I knew that he actively steered clear of virgin or Low N women because he himself didn't fall into that category and he didn't want to have to d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/24 10:28 AM |
| 1 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?Ok I agree with you. Thank you for your good faith response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?I see all of the talk about intention on the man's part as bogus the same way I see all of the talk about "what if the woman actually t THOUGHT it was X man's baby when it was actually Y man's baby?" When it comes to 18 years of obligations and financial responsibility, you need to know. Especially for a woman who is married to a man during the time of conception. If that woman were to say "honey, I could have sworn I had my period after I had sex with that other man" would men all over suddenly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 08:20 AM |
| 1 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?how do you know the guy would know someone is married? I mean how did they meet? At work? He probably knows she's married. Do they have texts making plans where she says stuff like "I can't leave til 6 because the my husband will know I'm gone" ? If so, then he's been told that she's married and he knows. Keep in mind that in my state if two people meet at a 21+ event, they go home together, have sex together, and then the younger person turns out to have lied about their age (even including usi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 08:02 AM |
| 0 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?If he was knowingly having sex with a married woman who wasn't his wife at the time of conception and never kept in contact to know if she got pregnant then that's on him. If two single people did that and three years later he finds out he's a father and slapped with a bunch of back pay child support, people will just tell him "that's life". Maybe it would make men want to steer clear of married women if it caught on that not only would he be paying child support to the woman moving forward, he … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Childless people should not date single parentsOk This actually makes sense. Thank you for responding in good faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 08:27 PM |
| 1 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?Only if his intent was to impregnate her and pass off the kid though. If he was an accomplice or heck even the mastermind, then yeah, by all means tack on consequences. I guess I don't see the difference. If he knew she was married and he knows how babies are made, and then admits that he was having sex with her while he knew she was married to someone else...all of that intent stuff is pointless to parse. If the woman has consequences for paternity fraud then so would the man who was knowingly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 08:23 PM |
| 1 | Childless people should not date single parentsSo casual sex is only a one time thing? How is that even worth it? What is your definition of casual sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Childless people should not date single parentsI agree with you. In my experience, if you can actually get something going romantically with a single mother who you're actually attracted to, it seems like the relationship is more guaranteed to work. Yes there are unstable single mothers out there, but there are unstable people out there in general. This sub is also my first glimpse into the concept of step fathers as people who are getting the bad end of the deal. Until I found this subreddit, I had time and time again heard men in real life… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 09:16 AM |
| 3 | Childless people should not date single parentsI agree with this and it's why I always scratch my head as to why men claim that single mothers are only good for casual sex and not an actual relationship. It's like....ok so you're telling me that this woman who has a few balls in the air trying to juggle logistics of being able to meet up, and it rarely being spontaneous, also has the ability to have casual sex at the rate that these men want it? Also, maybe I'm just in a different life experience, but the single mothers I know are very hesit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 09:09 AM |
| 1 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?No I mean more of the child support paying kind. This is all a civil court matter from my understanding and I was under the impression people don't go to jail for that. I'm not even saying that the bio dad is the only one who has a consequence either. Have him have very similar consequences to the woman in the situation though. He's not the one who made a vow to the marriage, He's the one who knowingly helped someone commit fraud if he knew she was married and they conceive a child and he knowin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/24 09:01 AM |
| 3 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?I'm interested in if there is anyone who believes that there should also be consequences for the man who got her pregnant if it can be proved that he knew she was married at the time of conception. Any time this conversation comes up, I always have to wonder why the men in power don't do more to protect themselves. It sometimes makes me wonder if the men in power are less worried about dealing with paternity fraud in their own lives and more worried about being caught helping to cause paternity … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 10:47 PM |
| 5 | In the False Paternity Scenarios We've Been Discussing, What Would Be "Fair" Restorative Justice for the Deceived Partner?I helped a guy with a genealogy test who knew he was the product of an affair. His mother and her husband ultimately stayed together after some back and forth when she was caught, and the husband raised the guy as his own son and treated him well with it being an open secret that he was the affair baby. Fast forward to a handful of years after the death of the mothers husband who raised him as a son, and the guy wants to take his ancestry test to find out about his biological father. Turns out, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Would you abandon an 18 year old if you discovered they weren't your biological child?I'd say most ex husbands would say she deserved it, be happy his dirty work got done without him being liable for it, and then go on to have an incredible story for his friends. If my friend went on to be a politician who did something nationwide about stray dogs then yes I would be grateful. I mean not killing every single dog ever, but having a heavy hand about hiring dog catchers to keep stray dogs out of the public and away from attacking people would be touching. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 12:52 PM |
| 0 | Would you abandon an 18 year old if you discovered they weren't your biological child?He will probably never want to talk to me again anyway after I settle the score with mom for what she did to him. Why? In this hypothetical scenario wouldn't he feel gratitude towards you that you were upset with the correct parent and basically avenged him? Why would he suddenly feel protective over the woman who every man in this thread is claiming is a monster? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 10:03 AM |
| 1 | Would you abandon an 18 year old if you discovered they weren't your biological child?Imagine if we started banning abortion for victims of rape and also shame and try to coerce female victims of rape to raise the child of their rapist using the same rationale: "The child is innocent, though" -> now that would be fucked-up, wouldn't it? Honestly this is the best parallel that I've been able to see that makes sense to me as a woman. When I think about these laws though, I think about how men are historically the ones who have made these laws and it just makes me wonder why this ki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 10:01 AM |
| 0 | The hatred of single moms comes from jealousy.From my POV, people who say that single moms are only good for casual sex are talking out of their rear ends. If these same women allegedly can't find time in their busy schedules for dates, are regularly focusing on their children instead of the men in their lives, and are too jaded and cynical because of "baggage" can just hop into the sack at a moments notice with little to no effort on behalf of men.....what exactly is the issue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/24 08:14 AM |
| – | "I see unattractive men date beautiful women all the time" has to be one of the most self-unaware statementsI agree with you. Before I became a regular on this subreddit, I would often say that I knew unattractive men with attractive girlfriends. But then I came to realize that height is a preference and those men were minimum 6'. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/24 09:47 AM |
| 0 | The biggest issue with modern dating is how technology made dating way easier for a small percentage of men, and way harder for all the rest.This is so true. I spent some time outside of the workforce and became a mod in a very controversial subreddit for a few years during that time. My confidence went through the roof and now I feel like I'm living life on easy mode because of the boost I got being voted in as a mod and then handling situations. I feel very accomplished and competent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 01:43 PM |
| – | People here say that women have no empathy for men but I have noticed that men have 0 empathy for divorced men unless they're divorced themselvesI agree with this. People are all high and mighty about how they would NEVER CHEAT and how they would kick a cheater out of their friend group if that person were to cheat. But at the end of the day, people don't really care. If they ultimately "kick the cheater out" it was because it took less effort than remaining friends with them. Trust and believe that there can and will be a bunch of rationalizations if it's easier or more advantageous to keep that cheater in the friend group. And the only… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/24 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Why do so many guys have a seething hatred for single moms?Which is so interesting to me as a woman. Because if I've got kids in the house that aren't mine, I'd prefer that they have another biological parent available so that I don't have to be with them 24/7. Marrying a widow who had children with her late spouse is also a great way to be constantly compared to a man who will forever be seen through rose colored glasses and a bunch of other baggage that I don't think men realize exists. The same way divorced parents should date and marry each other, w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | We should have a SuperMarriage concept where divorce is not an optionI think Louisiana has something called Covenant Marriage that is like this. And other states have something where if you file for legal separation, you can't divorce via No Fault Divorce. So we already somewhat have this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/24 07:48 AM |
| 3 | Are men not also hypergamous?But that same bottom 40% would keep the system in place because they would see themselves as a temporarily embarrassed 1%er and would have dreams of it being socially acceptable to have more than one woman in their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/24 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.That's why you see them mentally rewrite history once they find another guy. Suddenly they never loved their husband, and they look back on memories with this lens of emotion that they didn't actually have when the event actually occurred. Very interesting you say that. I've heard that some marriage counselors will start out by asking about the beginning of the relationship and gauge that reaction to see if the marriage is really even on track to being saved. That's why the absolute best way to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 11:51 PM |
| 2 | Sexually unsuccessful men are like scientistsTo add to this, when I go into public spaces and see established couples, most of them are Millennials or somehow old enough to have preschool aged children. When I look at these couples I'm not seeing large groups of Gen Z pairings. Most of the men in here who are unhappy are Gen Z men who are wondering why the game has changed even in the past 15 years from how it was when I was coming up. Yes, I think it's safe to say that Gen Z has it a lot lot harder than the previous generations when it co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 08:41 AM |
| 1 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.The thing is that most men see wealth as a vehicle to receiving this from a woman, otherwise most would not be that motivated for it. I think this is the common ground sticking point that made me make my rebuttal in the first place. From my POV, men want love and affection, but they want it from the most attractive person they can get it from. Once public facing commitment has been established, he really can only hope that his "most attractive partner" stays loving and affectionate to him. If no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/24 08:27 AM |
| 2 | How do you believe that the dating world is working?Genuine question: How do you know? If I hadn't been privy to these young women confiding in me, I wouldn't have guessed it either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/24 10:37 AM |
| 2 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.Now this is an idea that just might work.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.How many men tolerate absolutely horrific, zero affection marriages because that woman was once good to them? How many of those men merely check out of the relationship because he doesn't want to split "his" money? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Telling women to date men “with potential” is the gender flip version of “If you cant handle me at my worst, you dont deserve me at my best”.REPOSTED UNDER AUTOMOD I can agree with this. Personally I've noticed that there is a sweet spot of acceptance for men. Accept them too early for "just being themselves" and they won't respect you because obviously you "don't respect yourself since you invested in them when they didn't believe in themselves." I've come to the conclusion that men for men's own sake need an N of at least 2 before they can settle down and feel good about it. Outside of super religious circles, few men want to be a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 03:27 PM |
| 3 | Do a lot of guys have this common experience dating a foreign woman?I've seen Americans move to Georgia for various reasons and have a complete meltdown over the dumbest, smallest things, to the point they need psychological help and had to go back to America. What kind of stuff happened? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 01:29 PM |
| 10 | How do you believe that the dating world is working?Obligatory NOT BLUE PILL. The dating world is screwed. I've got my ear to the ground when it comes to Gen Z and their dating woes. I'd say what's got them so messed up is that both men and women are raised to not seek out commitment while they're young. Which isn't terrible advice. But by the time parents hope that they would begin to seek out commitment, they're not really under their parents guidance anymore. Parents have made teen sex and teen casual sex completely non taboo. Back in my day a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Wouldn’t a great leveler of no fault divorce be mandatory prenups?This allows the divorcing party to travel to a favorable jurisdiction, do what needs done to make a filing there legitimate (ie establish residency) and then file. I've always wondered about this. What prevents the spouse who is about to be played from jumping the gun and filing for divorce while everyone's residency is in the state they drafted the prenup? Is it seriously that easy to establish residency in another state while your spouse is completely unaware? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThe smaller the number of people who you're compared to, the less personal it makes it. I have issues thinking of anyone as special in any way. I like that. That's what I wanted in a husband and what I got. I don't want to hear about how sex is so so so special unless we're both virgins. Otherwise it's like ...who are you holding a candle for still? You get last a certain number and it's meaningless. You trust that this person has chosen you for reasons other than sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRsAs long as you can get what you want, I don't see the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Women with promiscuous pasts who are sexually reserved/borderline asexual with their LTRsHow would a woman like it if I spent let’s say a lot of money on a low quality chick , took her to every fancy restaurant , gave her all the experiences a wife should get How would the woman you're dating now even know? Are you still talking about this woman? But I meet the woman I want to be with forvever but she needs “5 cheap dates” just to see if she “isn’t a gold digger”. I would think you had learned your lesson. Big expensive dates don't need to start right off the bat and come across lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 01:21 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI also don't understand why women seem to be so chill with high notch count men. It's like they think we dont' compare them to past lovers or something. You know we do right? It's because you're also comparing each of them amongst each other. You comparing me to 20 other women isn't a big deal. You comparing me to one or two is a big deal. The only guy I was willing to get married to would have to have had at least three sex partners before me, and that's how it ultimately happened. Either we're… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 11:27 AM |
| -1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADAnything over 0 is high to me, I don't get the distinctions. I agree with you on this even if I don't particularly care about the whole N count thing. My thinking has always been that if someone cares about being "low N", then they have a limit of maximum three partners before I consider them to not actually care about being low N. Also, they better either be married or have an actual wedding date in sight with that second or third sexual partner and feel very guilty about their previous sex par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/24 11:19 AM |
| 0 | I often hear only Women are "Monkey branchers" i disagree fully, i believe man are as bad or even worse then woman in Monkey Branching.cheating can lead to breaking up, not all breakups are because of cheating. And then to further add to the nuance, there is a big difference between cheating, getting caught (and being left), and achieving a soft landing with the partner you cheated with.....and actively cheating with the active plan to leave your primary partner for the person you're cheating with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/24 11:54 AM |
| 1 | What drives women to settle for guys they're not attracted to in the modern era?Do they? Gen Z is a brand new kettle of fish. I think that a lot of us like to look at Millennials and their behavior as to what's happening now and I don't believe that's really the case. I'd be interested to see the stats on how many American born and raised young women were currently married between the ages of 18-25. I want to know who is in those age groups now who are also married now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/24 08:12 AM |
| -1 | Q4M: if you have resigned to the idea that you will never get a woman to love you, then why not choose to be happy either way?Not who you're replying to, but I have it taped to my bathroom mirror and throw it in my own face when I'm butthurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/24 11:34 PM |
| – | In wake of the Netflix documentary, what are your thoughts on the Ashley Madison scandal and the details the data breach revealed about its user base?This might be a strange tangent, but I figured I'd run it back with you: A lot of times I hear people talking about how Gen Z doesn't seem to be dating and partnering up like previous generations. I'm an older Millennial who has A LOT of Gen Z close family members who I talk to regularly. I can agree that Gen Z just isn't dating like even I was just ~20 years ago. And something that I've come to hypothesize is this: constant communication was just in it's infancy and the Internet was not in my p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 11:12 PM |
| 8 | In wake of the Netflix documentary, what are your thoughts on the Ashley Madison scandal and the details the data breach revealed about its user base?I remember reading a study once that women tend to cheat with men who are far away, while men tend to cheat with women in close proximity. I think back to the years when I was dating women and part of a larger LGBT circle. The gay men were hooking up like nobody's business. The lesbians? (Keep in mind there is a group of us), they complained that it was "so hard" meeting people. And omg SO MANY LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS!!! So many relationships that began and had their entire months long durat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Does self improvement cause men to become resentful towards women?I'm saying once you got the relationship that you were using her to prepare yourself for.....how was that relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Does self improvement cause men to become resentful towards women?. I did so with the sole purpose of dating her so I could gain relationship and sexual experience, so that I wouldn't get brushed-off by a girl I actually wanted when she would hypothetically find-out I was inexperienced. So how was it when you finally got that relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/24 12:06 PM |
| – | Manipulative, charming, uncaring, lying men get laid the mostThe example I gave was of non strict parents. I agree with your other stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Manipulative, charming, uncaring, lying men get laid the mostStrict parents seem to be what gives girls the tingles for these types of guys the most from my POV. Gen Z has been parented by Gen X who has the most "it is what it is, we're all going to hell anyway" mindset that I've ever seen. These are the "good parents" who put their daughters on birth control when they turn 16 and guy friend can spend the night, he just needs to make sure he puts his dirty socks in the hamper and puts his dishes in the sink after he eats dinner with the family. They've ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/24 09:36 AM |
| 2 | Online dating will not decline in popularity because women aren’t receptive to approaching or being approachedI agree with you. That person you responded to is a man who is old enough to have met his partner 22 years ago which means I seriously doubt that he has his finger on the pulse of what women at least one generation younger than him are thinking or feeling. I'm a woman who is in regular contact with Gen Z of both genders both as direct conversation partners and a person just overhearing other conversations. Unfortunately I can nearly guarantee that for every Gen Z woman who he hypothetically beli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/24 08:35 AM |
| 3 | The dating imbalance can be explained by one factor: hypergamyIsn't nearly every first world country hurtling towards their birth rates being dangerously low now that women actually have the option of supporting themselves financially? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/24 09:16 AM |
| 5 | Women always say if men paid attention they wouldn't be shocked by the breakup, but is it even possible for the man to save the relationship?This is why I always roll my eyes when people make grand gestures or talk about "saving" their marriage. There is no saving a marriage. It either works or it doesn't. If someone starts waffling with me, I don't step up my game, I get to stepping out the door. Trust me, it's way easier that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/24 01:56 PM |
| 7 | When it comes to dating, what's the worst thing about women?Nearly every time that I've heard a modern woman state that her son was easier to raise than her daughter, she was a full blown narcissist who felt that she was in competition with her daughter for the approval of those around them and had made her son into her Golden Child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/24 09:10 AM |
| 2 | Has any guy here, who considers themselves working class, found a partner that is middle class?I'm gonna go against the grain and say that you actually are probably pretty good. My husband and I straddle the line between working class and middle class and his working class friends are about the only guys I know who are still getting dates/casual sex/commitment from decent looking women. I'd say that middle class and PMC guys are probably the worst off. I'd see what that woman you're dating wants in regards to a family. If she wants a family, and her family of origin values family, I think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/24 09:42 AM |
| 8 | All the kerfuffle about "older men with younger women" overlooks what is possibly the biggest reason why it happens: Younger women often aren't looking for relationships.I thought this was going to go in a different direction. The reality is that a younger woman who is actually attracted to this older man (not a Sugar situation), is attracted to the idea that in her woman mind (at least from my Millennial generation) she is fast tracking commitment. That she's not about to get caught up by a guy asking her "what's the rush?" when she wants to have a serious talk about commitment when they've been together for a year. IMO men have their thinking backwards when it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/24 09:40 AM |
| 1 | Who would you say are more despairing. Single Mid 30's Men or single mid 30's women?Easy. Single mid 30s men. An attractive woman who somehow got to 35 without marriage or children simply didn't want them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/24 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Women in their 20s don't want to settle downJust judging by the dates your given, you're a young Gen X or older Millennial. The times have vastly changed since you met your wife 22 years ago. Gen Z has a completely different dating dynamic. So far I've seen military guys settle down, religious/very red state conservative guys settle down, and one counter culture guy settle down, but the vast amount of "normies" are kind of aimlessly drifting through life as kissless virgins (both guys and girls) not really knowing how to form a connection… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/24 09:44 AM |
| 1 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?I'm telling you that as a woman, childcare stuff is very easily taught to you from the moment you can understand it. 100%. Unless you're just the youngest of the young child of the family and there are no younger children anywhere to be seen (which is very rare) women are taught child and infant care nearly immediately. You could probably have a 7 year old girl changing diapers and feeding/burping an infant with minimal issues. I know I was doing it, my older women cousins were doing it, my own … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 10:48 AM |
| 1 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?But I am not so cynical that I believe love and concern for their daughters was not motivation, I think about this as well when I hear men especially on this sub complain about the Women Are Wonderful effect. I think about how over the course of my life so many men who cared about me in my family have shown me things about car care/home maintenance/lawn care....other male coded chores that would directly affect my future lifestyle as an adult. There was this underlying narrative when they would … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 10:19 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIn this light, of course intelligent women know that at some point we need replacement population. I honestly do not think that they do. Growing up as a Millennial in America, it was drilled into us environmentalism and how overpopulation was bad for the planet. Having fewer or no children at all was considered a cutting edge liberal way to describe yourself same with driving a hybrid car, being vegetarian, voting against Bush and the Iraq war, not slutshaming.....yada yada yada. By this point, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 09:34 AM |
| 1 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?Not sure I follow the logic here. Men flexing on other men? "Look at me, I'm better than you!" "I've got a bigger house" "Well I can support more wives!" "Well I can make sure all of my sons are set for life with lots of land" "I can get MY sons all awesome white collar jobs after sending them to college" "Not only can I do that, I can send my daughters to college!" And at this point we haven't really progressed past that. I guess now really we've move onto making children a luxury item. But whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 09:26 AM |
| 1 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?I'm of the opinion that it only seems to. Women being able to have the immense privilege that we do in the West is only because things have gotten to be so comfortable that men had to start thinking outside of the box to flex on other men. Obviously this is just a hypothesis that I've been batting around in my head for a bit. I'd be interested in how many privileges women would have if none of them benefitted at the very least the top percentile of men in some way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/24 09:05 AM |
| 4 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?You've heard me say this before, but I'm currently discussing in real life a working hypothesis that the concept of "society beginning to tilt more towards women" is really just society tilting to the upper percentile of men. And those men wanting privileges for their daughters that they ultimately end up begrudgingly giving to women as a whole. And that giving their daughters these rights and privileges was only initially done so that they could flex on other men. All behavior has a motivation.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 09:51 AM |
| 1 | To what extent have women been oppressed in history?I wonder how much with high child mortality And and societies needed more kids Was really more that men really really liked having sex. How much would they really consider these two concepts if they didn't really really like sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/24 09:45 AM |
| -2 | Men's hatred/disdain for women is due to one simple fact..they don't understand them.Women should be taking the lead on the birthrate issue as they are the ones who will suffer the most if it is solved the wrong way. I've said this a few times in a few places that everyone should change their word choice when they say "women's rights" and they should instead say "the rights of certain men". A lot of the reason that women have the rights and privileges that they do is because they have fathers and brothers who feel like it's easier on them if they can set their daughters and sist… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/24 09:15 AM |
| 4 | What's with the huge popularity of polyamory and open relationships at the moment?Exactly. And so many of these same people who claim they don't like open/poly people will scream from the rooftops about how they "hate cheaters and wish people who were non monogamous would just be open about it and stick to themselves." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/24 04:08 PM |
| 1 | How is society going to change with the growing DINK phenomenon?Oh ok that makes sense. Thank you for you good faith response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:41 PM |
| 1 | How is society going to change with the growing DINK phenomenon?Their social mobility is much higher, they can afford more property. Are they taking their nieces and nephews under their wing during this time and adding them to their will? Isn't social mobility something that happens to families across generations and not just to a single person? I just don't see the appeal if you don't have kids. If I were to be a in a DINK partnership, I would work less and focus on my hobbies more. Social mobility is for those hoping their kids do better than them and the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/24 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Are women generally speaking more loyal to their partner?And if a guy is deeply attached to a particular woman it’s -usually- obvious why: he’s punching way above his weight physically or she’s highly supportive and puts up with his shit. With a woman the devotion is usually more mysterious. Many women know that if they're dating a partner who is "punching way above his weight" with them, those are the men who inexplicably end up cheating with a woman who anyone in the sub would scratch their head and maybe even rate no higher than a 6/10. Men may ini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Men are constantly told they are delusional and shoot for women out of their league, but even the casual observer can see that the exact opposite is true ***EDITED PER MOD REQUEST***Part of what we are finding out is just how innately sexually selective women are as their survival need for men trends to zero. I messaged you about this concept a few weeks ago but I recognize that it might not have been the most fully formed concept when I wrote it out to you. But basically it was the idea that a woman's survival need for men in general will never actually reach zero for a big reason that I will get to in a moment. A few weeks ago in an N count thread, a man commenter discuss… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 10:29 AM |
| 3 | Resources and casual sexMistresses in designer shit abound. I'm not even disagreeing with you. But to add to this, a man with a mistress doesn't apply to the OP. To have a mistress you have to have a primary relationship. To spoil a mistress you have to at the very least be able to provide your part of the financial obligations for a wife, and likely for children as well. To live that kind of lifestyle, it takes more than being "unattractive" yet having a big bank account. These men likely never lacked for womanly atte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/24 10:18 AM |
| 0 | There are simple logistical reasons why divorce is worse for men than for women which explain the disparity in divorce initiationI have noticed that when hearing people weigh the pros and cons of staying married vs divorcing, I will regularly hear men fear the effects of losing their relationship with their children and women fear the effects of their children losing their relationship with their father. Few and far in between will I see a woman fear that she will lose her relationship to the kids if she divorces her husband (and their father). Few and far in between do I see situations where a man is wanting to leave his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/24 09:47 AM |
| 5 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.I mean I'm sure they're also having sex. They just don't live together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 11:07 PM |
| 3 | "more young men struggle because young women are content with staying single" -- except women are actually less single.And then a good amount of people will stick together with a cheater because they don't want their partner able to successfully monkey branch over to the side person while they end up single. And then some go even far beyond that and believe that their partner won't receive any actual punishment for cheating if they leave them and that they'd rather make them pay too death do them part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/24 11:06 PM |
| 3 | Is settling a widespread common occurence?I think the lack of commitment is having dated too much. We expect our next to be better than our previous ones. When we commit, we feel like we are settling. I disagree. I have had a lot of dating experience and I am married now and have been for over a decade. There are good and bad times in my marriage. But I am under no false illusion that the world is just teeming with amazing partners who could be better for me. On the other hand, I know women friends in real life who married their first l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 11:34 AM |
| – | Why are men encouraging women to settle for men they aren’t attracted to when they know that women aren’t going to pour into a man she doesn’t like ?This is interesting and I will take my hypothesis back to the lab. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Why are men encouraging women to settle for men they aren’t attracted to when they know that women aren’t going to pour into a man she doesn’t like ?But are they marriages to people who they met after 24? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/24 12:29 AM |
| 4 | Why are men encouraging women to settle for men they aren’t attracted to when they know that women aren’t going to pour into a man she doesn’t like ?I am a Millennial woman with Gen Alpha children. Recently I overheard a Boomer woman relative giving advice to my Gen Alpha daughter. She was telling her that she needed to do well in school instead of dating in HS, go through and finish college without dating, and then after she had a year or two in a career that she THEN could start dating. But she needed to make sure that she was only dating the best! And it she couldn't get the best, then it was better to remain single and childfree than to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/24 04:12 PM |
| 11 | Soft harems and polygamy will be destigmatized in the coming generations if current trends continuethat would create friction in his marriage). Or more importantly, his bank account. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/24 10:13 AM |
| 1 | What's your opinion on men who want to date long term by don't want to get married or have kids?Those are things I hadn't considered. Thank you for this good faith discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 11:12 PM |
| 1 | What's your opinion on men who want to date long term by don't want to get married or have kids?I'd assume he was full of shit and politely telling me not to get comfortable in the relationship. To add to that, I don't trust that a man is "child free" unless he already got a vasectomy. And I don't want to hear about how hard it is to get one when you don't have kids. Yes it's hard, not impossible. And the effort and expenses involved will be much much less than raising and funding an oopsie baby that could arise otherwise. Unfortunately I've found that in a lot of cases, a man who claims t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 10:11 PM |
| 1 | What's your opinion on men who want to date long term by don't want to get married or have kids?I'd be interested in why a man who is willing to stay with me for the rest of his life wouldn't want to get married since it would make things so much easier when it came to tax/medical/other legal rights. I believe that there might be men who are ambivalent about it who might end up staying for decades until the rest of his life, but I doubt that there are men who are dedicated to a life long relationship with a person that say "meh, I'd rather not marry". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 10:06 PM |
| 2 | What have you guys learned from this subreddit?I have learned more about men and women's POV and how they differ. I love this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/24 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Why does Polyamory get so much hate here?Thank you! I'd also add, "do you push your way through life and impose your will on your partner while actually me genuinely feeling happy as a person, never feeling any temptation for sex outside of the marriage and you for some reason pat yourself on the back for being faithful, but your partner is miserable and cheating on you because they know you'd steamroller them in a divorce? Congrats! You're not in a happy or faithful marriage either!" A person can only speak for themselves. They can on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/24 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?Honestly I have no idea but I do appreciate you engaging in good faith with this topic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/24 01:48 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.I don't think it is "okay" as much as it is common and is outside of your control if your partner chooses to do it. Being realistic about that and being proactive about your sexual health is just common sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 06:20 PM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.Thank you for your good faith discussion. I find this topic very interesting! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 11:18 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.Ok cool, what precautions should a person be taking? And also, what is the fear? Are you ok with your wife cheating as long as she doesn't give birth to another man's child and doesn't contract and STD? I'm not against mandated paternity tests. I think any unmarried man should ask for one before he signs the birth certificate and any married man should receive compensation if he were to have paternity fraud committed against him. I myself have sat with people while they took ancestry DNA tests a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 11:17 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.Good. I like when people practice what they preach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 11:06 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.I'm actually one of the people who believes that paternity testing is something that could be done with all of the other prenatal tests and it be no thing. I'm not really against them. And I think if they were mandated, a lot of the hurt feelings we see would go away from women. Because yes, it does feel like an accusation of cheating. And when you're a post partum woman, emotions are dialed up to a 10 or 11 and that's probably your least rational time. But you have to think about why this isn't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:43 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.Why not just get yearly STD tests? Hypothetically your wife could cheat on you all the time and never give birth to another man's baby. I think yearly STD tests are a good thing anyhow. Get a full panel done every year at your physical. Also it only takes one time to have sex to get pregnant. But yes I understand that's probably not something that helps you feel better about the situation. Just get a yearly or more frequent STD test. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:31 AM |
| 4 | Ladies, who aren't in college or school, and got a boyfriend in the last 12 months, where and how did you meet him?I love it! Thank you for sharing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:27 AM |
| 5 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADWhen I found this out, I very quickly went from an obnoxiously High N Woman to a Low N virgin-adjacent Woman. Thankfully my husband only considered me a High N Woman, otherwise he wouldn't have given me a chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:26 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, who aren't in college or school, and got a boyfriend in the last 12 months, where and how did you meet him?Very recently I spent some time with a happily married conservative Christian couple with several children. We got to talking about how they met. They exchanged some sheepish glances and admitted that they met on Tinder and got married as quickly as they did because within six months of meeting on Tinder they found out they were pregnant and they were both "good kids" at 19. Another couple that are getting married this summer also met on Tinder. Now that I think about it, someone in my neighborh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:22 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, who aren't in college or school, and got a boyfriend in the last 12 months, where and how did you meet him?Did y'all know what each other looked like before you caught feelings or how did it work? How long til y'all met in person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:17 AM |
| – | CMV. The social stigma of getting a paternity test should not exist.I sometimes wonder if men preferred how life was before paternity testing even became a thing that existed. Back when life was just: sex goes in, baby eventually comes out. It seems like a lot of men in here want a paternity test so that they can possibly "get out of jail free" rather than have paternity tests so that they could get to know, love, and financially provide for all of their children that they might not even know about who exist. As a mother, if there was a 2% chance that my child h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/24 10:16 AM |
| 2 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?Yeah I always tells guys to just be vague about their past. Make it seem like you are downplaying things. I agree with you though, never volunteer inexperience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?It's not a lie if you believe it!!1! But seriously, white lies make the world go 'round and make life a bit easier for everyone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 03:55 PM |
| 3 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?Painfully true in my experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?I completely unironically agree with you. I actually successfully helped a guy break the ice and get a girlfriend by helping him craft a technically correct lie and showing up to a get together with him. Very quickly after he switched things up, he got into a relationship that lasted for awhile and now he is in another. Preselection is a helluva drug. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?I agree with this. And for all of the talk about "pair bonding", I hypothesize that once a person hits the age of 25, they are who they are relationship wise. I doubt you'd want to date an 18 year old man if you were to become single today. If you met a man your own age who had never ever had a relationship of any kind, there is a reason for that and the two of you likely wouldn't be compatible for many reasons than just simply him not having had a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 03:05 PM |
| 6 | Women who are very experienced in romantic relationships (whether sexually or emotionally) would you date someone who had never been in a relationship?I think this is the true question. So many men want to push this off that women have a problem with it, when from my experience it's been men who have the self doubt, meet a woman who will take a chance on them, and then her head spins when he benefits from preselection and leaves her. In my personal experience I've found that men overall don't respect the women who take chances on them when they don't believe in themselves. They may be happy and excited at the prospect of finally having sex, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/24 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himselfThank you for acknowledging this. As a woman who has dated women, I've filled both roles as well at one point or another in my life. "Chad" isn't a person as much as it is a social situation a person finds themselves in. Usually created by those around them, not they themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/24 10:07 AM |
| – | The gender divide has become undeniable , can anything be done to solve this?I agree with you. Upthread some man is talking about how "baby mommas" will never be chosen by exceptional men. And I'm thinking, some of these women only want the baby. Getting a baby, the title of "mom", and essentially a small stipend in the form of child support without having to have a live in committed relationship with a man is the goal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | How would you know if your partner was cheating?Now I have been accused of it by other women when I was NOT cheating on them. I assumed those were classic cases of projection and cut the cord pretty quick on those, even though I never had any evidence. Went with my gut feeling there. I strongly recommend to people in my real life that they use caution when accusing their partner of cheating. They need to be ready to answer the age old question of what are you going to do about it? If suspecting that your partner is cheating only leads to them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 10:01 AM |
| 1 | How would you know if your partner was cheating?I agree with you. People also have different "motives" for cheating. The person that you're responding to seems to be describing the traits of a serial cheater. But I've seen too many men in real life self righteously claim that they would never cheat as though it's some indication of their high morals, when in reality they are just confident that they would never get the chance. And then when they stumble upon a chance, they dive in headfirst because it's too good to give up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 09:54 AM |
| 2 | does social proofing on attraction show how women have lower levels of free will or independent thought?When you really think about it though: why do women need to see other women being attracted to the person they feel attracted to? why is the reverse not true for mens attraction most of the time? I'd say historically, women have been "protected" through social networks. If you go on and forge a relationship with someone who none of your kin feel like is a good person, and things hit the skids, you're out in the cold. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 10:10 AM |
| 2 | What are things you hate about other women?I'd feel disgusted and very icked out. Any woman faking any of this motherhood stuff or pregnancy loss like I said in another comment in this OP just gives me the heebie jeebies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:45 PM |
| 3 | What are things you hate about other women?Yeah finance is full of dog eat dog mean women as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | What are things you hate about other women?can you tell me a for instance? which facts didn't add up? Someone trying to tell you that they miscarried and it was six weeks along. So you tell them that they really should go for a follow up appointment because just two weeks ago they had to borrow a tampon twice because they claimed they were on their period. And then they get weird around you and stop talking about it altogether. Someone telling you that they're pregnant and then you see them at a restaurant and they're drinking a margarit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 03:30 PM |
| 1 | What are things you hate about other women?Facts don't add up. When asking them questions about it, they get flustered and then avoid you. If we aren't close or you haven't shown me third party verified proof that you're pregnant, don't tell me about your miscarriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 02:44 PM |
| 10 | Most of what gets called “manipulation” and “grooming” seems to be just seduction people don’t likeWho are these people who are against these relationships? Where are these young women who are upset that "society" won't let them date older men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do most of the women don't date younger?Gay women, at least, seem much more willing to date younger than straight women. To add to this, I've noticed anecdotally that of the handful of women who were willing to date noticably younger men (a grade or life stage below them) while they themselves were between the ages of 14-21, the women were either bi or came out as lesbian soon after. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Why do most of the women don't date younger?It also might be for the social aspect of having a more workday experienced versus less worldly experienced partner. For all of the hemming and hawwing we get in here about how women are hypergamous in straight relationships, I've noticed that's just another way that straight couples are "compatible." As in, the men tended to want to be looked up to. They didn't want a woman they perceived as their equal, they wanted to have that "head of the household material provider" role to a Mommy McBangma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:48 AM |
| 1 | What are things you hate about other women?They do deserve sympathy. From their friends and those closest to them. I've had too many women fabricate them for sympathy and emotional manipulation. If we're not close, find someone you're close to or call a therapist. I don't want anyone to suffer, but at the same time, I'm not the one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/24 10:42 AM |
| 2 | What do you consider cheating?I think it's interesting that so far it's only men coming out of the woodwork to say that cheating absolutely is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 05:54 PM |
| 4 | What are things you hate about other women?I interact with a lot of women on a day to day basis and you'd be shocked how often it comes up. And for many women who talk about it openly, it just feels like a cheap ploy for sympathy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?Oh ok that makes sense. Thank you for your good faith discussion and response! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:45 AM |
| 1 | How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?I think I used the word "you" too specifically, although I do like your answer. Broadly speaking, how do many, if not most men start to see the concept of "what have you done for me lately" when their wife/partner hasn't done much for them lately and someone new and youthful will. Like in my mind, if this were to occur in my marriage, I have no wavering that my husband would absolutely leave me if a better deal came along. And a "better deal" would be something like me not putting anything into … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:30 AM |
| 2 | Is sleeping around while early dating morally okay behavior?Bingo. This is why when I talk to someone who is worried about something awful being done to them (like being cheated on), I tell them to focus on their own behavior in context with the issue that they're worried about. As in, be more concerned that YOUR behavior doesn't veer off into cheating than that you're being cheated on or will in the future. The only people we can control is ourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:16 AM |
| 3 | What do you consider cheating?I don't understand this huge hang up with cheating. Being cheated on is not the worst thing that can happen in a relationship. Yes it's not great, nor should it be encouraged, but how many people sit around wringing their hands that their partner is simply sleep walking through their relationship with no third parties involved? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:13 AM |
| 21 | What are things you hate about other women?This is just a personal thing of mine, but I don't really enjoy hearing about someone's first trimester miscarriage as general public discussion. The only people who I want to hear about that from are people who I am very close friends with and who I already knew they were pregnant. I understand that it can be a trying time and I want these women to be able to take the day off and spend time with their besties, I just don't at all love hearing about it and it causes me to feel awkward and almost… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 10:06 AM |
| 1 | How can LTRs last when modern men discard women who reach thirty or forty?How does this work if the things that once attracted you are 10+ years in the past, she hasn't done much for you lately, and another youthful woman comes along willing to give you her youth? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/24 09:48 AM |
| 5 | “Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].”This is a pretty good spelling out of what's likely the truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 05:39 PM |
| 2 | What advice would you give your daughters when it comes to dating, marriage and family formation?Interestingly enough I have a hypothesis that teen birth control usage and parental "permission" to have sex is a lot of the reason why Gen Z is having the least teen sex of the recent generations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 01:34 PM |
| 14 | “Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].”But it is that, or does the most asexual woman in the (virtual) room of women automatically assumed to have a moral high ground on the internet? This is gold. I can't tell you how many times I've encountered people both online and in real life who somehow believe that some low libido woman, future dead bedrooming wife is somehow a more virtuous person because of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/24 09:22 AM |
| 3 | How do you explain the phenomenon of ‘high quality’ falling for absolute dregs?Just so anyone who holds this value knows: this does NOT mean that these women are good partners. She may not leave you because she ties her self worth to having an N of 1 (and that one guy being someone she had sex with at 15 or 16), but you'll damn sure wish she would. ETA: Which might mean these women aren't truly HVW. But I would say if you didn't know them well, you might be fooled into thinking they were. As in good job, dress well type of thing on the outside. But very bitchy dead bedroom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 07:49 PM |
| 7 | How important Is losing virginity for women now?How long are we talking about waiting for marriage though? 19? 27? If you find a woman who has waited too long, it's not self discipline, it's low libido. If you marry someone too young who is a virgin, they dont really know themselves at that age, much less how they will deal with sexual temptation in 5 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 03:00 PM |
| 6 | How important Is losing virginity for women now?Even 2024s High N woman was once a virgin and then a low N woman. There is a lot of nuance that goes into this entire conversation. Meet a woman too late in her life who is still a virgin and you're not meeting a woman with a lot of self discipline, you're meeting low libido woman. Today's world also has a lot more opportunities for both genders and expectations that people will grow and experience new things throughout their lives. The Virgin at age 19 might be the woman with a serious case of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 02:57 PM |
| 1 | How can men prevent sexless, transactional or “bait & switch” marriages or long term relationships?The answer is: Make sure that your partner is under the impression that you could quickly move on if the relationship were to come to an end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 11:39 AM |
| 16 | How do you explain the phenomenon of ‘high quality’ falling for absolute dregs?The relationships that I knew like this usually involved the women either placing a high value on "this is the first man I ever had sex with and I intend for him to be the only one" or they had horrible families of origin and they didn't know what was normal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/24 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Post-Nut Clarity and what it suggests about malesI can believe that. The way you hear it discussed in here, it's 40 year old men wanting to date 22 year old women and are worried about women their own age getting in the way. And it always makes me think that these men are way too much in their own heads about this. Just date these younger women and stop worrying about what other people say! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/24 12:57 PM |
| 1 | Is the problem with modern dating simply due to options and economics?I mean no, women don't "do this all of the time." They usually just stop talking you before it gets that far or don't talk to you to begin with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 10:59 PM |
| 0 | Is the problem with modern dating simply due to options and economics?Being ghosted and not showing up to a date are two different things. But you admit that being shown up to a date is painful so why are you shaming these women who figured out it was the same dude and shamed him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 10:23 PM |
| 0 | Is the problem with modern dating simply due to options and economics?Are you one of hundreds of other men who have been stood up on a date by the same woman? I mean honestly that would be interesting. Was she running an experiment or something? Why do people get so bent out of shape out of being ghosted? If you are able to truly be ghosted, you never had anything to begin with. There's literally no loss. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Is the problem with modern dating simply due to options and economics?I mean imagine if one woman went and made a bunch of dates with guys and then not showing up to the dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 09:26 PM |
| 0 | Post-Nut Clarity and what it suggests about malesHere's the thing....is it a thing? I hear a lot about men liking younger women on PPD, but I'm not really seeing women talking about how they wish society would get out of their business so they could date older men. And then in the Millennial generation and younger, I don't see or hear about a lot of age gap relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/24 09:11 PM |
| 2 | What do men think of male sex robotsHere's where I do agree with you, if it's something that men want bad enough, it can get pushed through. I do think there is a limit to what the public in general will validate though. Anecdotally I'm looking around and I think that same sex relationship acceptance have hit a wall. I'll also say that I'm kind of selective about how I frame my friendships that have began online even now. I'm not ashamed of them, but especially those who have turned into real life friends who I've met in person, I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 04:10 PM |
| 2 | What do men think of male sex robotsHopefully I'm wording this correctly, but from what I've anecdotally noticed, people ultimately do not seem to mind relationships where children or other dependents end up being taken care of in a family type situation. People can meet online and then go on to meet in real life and get married and have children. At this point a lot of life is lived online as well so it's not as weird as it used to be. Having a robot partner would be like having a sex doll. You're basically saying nobody wants yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 02:03 PM |
| 3 | Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women flaws yet women keep pretending men and women are on an even field with dating.For all the talk that mainly men do about wanting loyalty, it's kind of a trap for women. If a woman is loyal to the wrong man, it's not a virtue. It's a crimson red flag that she has no respect for herself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 01:36 PM |
| 2 | Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women flaws yet women keep pretending men and women are on an even field with dating.Height. Men are way more forgiving towards women regarding height. I have never seen a male midget with a girlfriend. Most men prefer shorter woman partners. So this works out. Autistic/socially awkward traits. Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women with these traits. Because of this women on the spectrum grow up being more rude and abrasive because they never felt any consequences for this. It's been said a few times that the concept of the Manic Pixie Dream Girl is just Autism/Social … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/24 01:33 PM |
| 9 | CMV: Dating for most men gets easier at 30 because they lack the sexual experience to realise , women's standards and desires for a relationship, marriage shift out of necessity.I agree. I also hypothesize that men actually want them to be pragmatic. I've seen so many men initially be delighted that a woman "dated down" and took a chance with them. Only to ultimately change their mind and decide that she wasn't worth respect because she took a chance with a man who didn't respect himself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/24 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Debating women's preferences won't lead to women changing themDon't listen to them. A lot of people have opinions. If someone is in a mutually consensual relationship then let the chickens cluck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/24 11:43 AM |
| – | Kin Influence and Sexual SelectionThe families in which the parents love each other, respect each other and are attracted to each other will inevitably raise stronger and healthier children than the ones that have been pushed together by kin influence and selection. I don't believe anything of value has been lost. I really thought she was going to go somewhere else with this. But I see this as kind of backwards. We're seeing what it looks like now when people come together purely out of "love and respect" for each other. Either … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:40 PM |
| 2 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?I'm glad you're here and I'm glad you're better for what you've learned about life and about yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 09:12 PM |
| 2 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?I felt everything you just said. My “One” was a little younger, but so incredibly bright. I was able to briefly help her through a couple of rough patches, and when it happened, seeing her blooming anew, was possibly the most rewarding feeling ever experienced. Little I knew, she would leave me soon, by phone, hastily and cold as ice. On the onset it was the worst feeling ever experienced. Falling from some sort of bard-knight-savior to a stupid loser dumped like trash. Same same same. Except fl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 07:39 PM |
| 2 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?The unseen risks however can be quite high after breakup, such as stalking, false rape accusations, social media harassment, and rumor spreading Yep yep yep. These are definitely horrible things that end those kinds of relationships. And LPT, when dealing with women like this, the relationship ain't over til she says it's over. Your best bet is boring her until she breaks up with you. But it's my experience on the receiving end of this kind of behavior that makes me not have much patience for pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:35 PM |
| 2 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?(It's kinda the same vein as women going after "dangerous" men with the idea that those men will use that to protect her and make her life interesting, but somehow without putting her in danger as well). I have an absolute POS cousin who can pull chicks like nobody's business. And it's all great fun and games until he turns his violence on her. I do not understand the allure of a broke, violent man. But I also cannot tell you how many times whoever his current girlfriend is, has described him as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:30 PM |
| 2 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?I know exactly what you're talking about. I wouldn't describe myself as being damaged, but in the past I definitely recognized that I was mutually attracted to some pretty disordered individuals. Anyhow, I definitely know the depth of this statement But the highs were truly incredible: perhaps we were able to dig so deep in each other’s dark places that it seemed like experiencing one’s soul in 4K. In particular with the one I used to consider “the One”, I reached a degree of connection I never … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What Draws Men to Women Who Warn Them About Their Emotional instability?They don't throw it back like you do though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:13 PM |
| 18 | Have you ever had a realization, or epiphany, about dating that helped put things in perspective?That's some true wisdom for middle school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:08 PM |
| 6 | People here exaggerate the hate that age gap relationships get. If you're so sensitive that a few comments get you then don't be in an age gap relationshipI agree. And it's nearly always men making posts while on the defensive about it. Sheesh. Date who you want to date as long as you're both consenting individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 06:06 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.Nobody would be waiving the child right to support. The child would still be supported by the woman who chose to carry to term and give birth to them with the explicit knowledge that she would not receive support or acknowledgement from the man. And anyone else could chip in as they wished. It would be no different from going to a sperm bank. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 05:59 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.Bingo. I don't understand how this isn't already a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Debating women's preferences won't lead to women changing themWho is this demographic of older women who care so much about older men dating younger women? Are these childfree, never married women who wish to get married in their 40s to other child free never married men? That just seems like such a tiny demographic. I'd say the vast majority of women, no matter how unattractive they are, are able to get married and get a family if that's what there after. It might require "settling", but they can do it if they want to. As for married women who already hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 03:18 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.A man should be able to opt out of parenthood and any financial obligations prior to the sex that leads to conception. This would be paperwork that would be signed by both parties, notarized, and filed with the court. And then you never have to worry about oopsie pregnancies or back child support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 02:03 PM |
| – | Debate A Man should be allowed to opt out being a father if he says it enough early in a pregnancy.I had a scare with a girl who got pregnant. We had agreed even before she got pregnant that if there was an accidental pregnancy even after using protection that she would opt for an abortion. When she found out she was pregnant she took 2 weeks to decide if she wanted to get an abortion. I had no control on this situation and just had to wait and see what she does. Sometimes I end up in a conversation with men who are anti abortion because they unfairly see it as women being able to get rid of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/24 01:39 PM |
| – | Manchester night life guy issueAnd relationships are far and few between because guys don't want to settle down without sowing their wild oats, and women have had it repeated over and over how they don't need to settle for anything less than butterflies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 11:36 PM |
| 2 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?Try my one weird trick. I'm serious. It works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/24 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?I don't even doubt or want to take away your premise, but I wonder with children born in marriages starting today and moving forward, how many of them are born of paternity fraud. We live in a day where Ancestry DNA is right around the corner ready to unexpectedly fuck up your day and everyone know it. Where reliable birth control is easily available and affordable. And where a no fault divorce can allow a woman to monkey branch to her next dude within 45 days in some states. How many women with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 10:31 PM |
| 1 | If modern dating just a cycle of: infatuation, get bored, cheat/leave?I'm sorry you had to deal with that. What set the third one apart? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 10:25 PM |
| 0 | Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?Make it to where whoever actually got her pregnant is in the same trouble that she's in and now we're cooking with gas. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Do you think women should be able to be sued or convicted of a crime for paternity fraud?I believe that a combination of this concept right here and the men who are actually the ones getting married women pregnant are the reason that we don't currently have mandatory paternity testing. It could end up clogging the family courts and causing trouble for the group of men who want to have sex with married women without consequences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 06:25 PM |
| 8 | Should paternity tests be mandatory?Here's a better question, why aren't they already mandated? Hospitals run tons of tests and suggest vaccines and such, a paternity test added to that would be nothing. So we have to ask why we don't have these tests. And I don't think it has anything to do with protecting women or feminism. I think that it's about protecting the men who get these married women pregnant. For every man who has fears of being at the receiving end of paternity fraud, there are men who are excited at the thought of f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 03:24 PM |
| 1 | How common is it for you to see people cheating?In this hypothetical scenario, the woman already has a primary romantic relationship. I'm just explaining why women might be perceived as "loyal" when it comes to extramarital affairs as they age. It has nothing to do with their spouse or their feelings for their spouse, but more their lack of desire for having to do more emotional labor. Women also are rarely lacking in the relationship department, especially when you factor in the platonic relationships that they have amongst themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 09:53 AM |
| 3 | Manchester night life guy issueI think right now we're witnessing something of a Mexican standoff. I don't think that Gen Z women have ever indulged in hook up culture like Millennials and Gen X women did. So these Gen Z men are effectively comparing themselves to the tales of what women did in generations past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 09:47 AM |
| 2 | How common is it for you to see people cheating?so women seem to become more loyal or less interested in cheating as they get older. I think unfortunately it boils down to women not desiring sex as much and not being interested in doing the emotional labor involved in an additional relationship. Especially once they have kids and then grandkids, there's just not much more validation that they need. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 01:33 AM |
| 3 | Men mistake women ignoring most men as her being loyal. Let's debateA lot of people mistake not having a lot of options, or not having any options, as being loyal. I tell people all of the time that someone's untested fidelity is not a virtue. Cheating occurs at the crossroads of opportunity and willingness and anyone can cheat. So I won't even argue with what you're saying. I will just also add that men vouching for their own fidelity because of their own lack of opportunities is very much the same thing. IMO a man without a lot of opportunities is more willing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/24 01:23 AM |
| 5 | Manchester night life guy issueKind of exactly the conclusion I'm coming to. I'm calling the death or the death gasps of hook up culture. It's not like it used to be. And there is a lot of good that comes from it not being like it used to be. But for the most part those women likely dressed up for themselves or to show off for their women friends and far and few new heterosexual romantic partnerships were created those evenings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 11:47 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOk so hear me out. I actually came here to talk about hook up culture and you've given me a great in. So tell me what you think about this. And this is all in good faith, I really want to know what people in here think. I believe that for Gen Z, hook up culture is dead. It definitely used to exist, but at this point even Gen Z Chad has a dead or dying bedroom. Right now you have Gen Z being parented by Gen X, and Gen X are some of the most no frills, no BS, not-gonna-adhere-to-tradition-for-its-… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 11:11 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadPut some thermal leggings on and some socks. Not joking. That will warm you up fast! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 10:55 PM |
| 4 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?I think there's also a generational dynamic at play. The women in my family were much older than me, like Boomer generation women while I am a Millennial. And it seems like from that generation there was much more of an understanding that you could be almost 30 and dating someone who just graduated HS, but you were also going to marry her and be the breadwinner in your household til you died. Several of my older women family members had husbands who were 10 and 15 years older than them when they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 10:45 PM |
| 4 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?The relationship ended up petering out. I started to feel breadcrumbed so I matched his energy and it just didn't work out. I know that he had dated another significantly younger woman before me too and it did seem to be a trend for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 09:53 PM |
| 8 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?I completely understand where you're coming from. I hate to say it but for one guy friend of mine, I just helped him create a convincing back story of a short lived relationship that he had where he lost his virginity for him to tell to his friends and have it circulate around. Weird as it sounds, it actually works. Lol, somewhat falls into the "it's not a lie if YOU believe it!" Provided it's not messing up someone else's reputation and causes no harm, I really don't see the issue with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 07:02 PM |
| 2 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?Thank you. I try. I come to this sub to learn and hear different perspectives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 05:43 PM |
| 2 | Fun hypothetical, here are some options you can choose from to fix datingI'd add another variable, maybe mixed in with the idea that women wouldn't act in fear, but that women are just as strong and capable of physically defending themselves as their respective man counterparts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 05:05 PM |
| 32 | To what extent are age gaps in relationships due to the preferences of women vs men?As a very early 20s woman I dated a man 10+ years older than me and the woman family members in my life were estatic and believed that this was a sign of my maturity and ability to choose a partner who had down his wild oats and made something of himself. The trusted men family members in my life were the ones who did not trust his intentions. My grandfather sat me down explicitly to have a conversation about my dating relationship and how this amazing man was single and never married. Did he li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?How about this, had the person that I was initially responding to said that they had found out that their dad was seriously ill so they called their best friend who happened to be a woman and was also a woman who he had been there for in her tough times (not just describe her as a girl), I'd have had a lot fewer questions. As for that other stuff you wrote in your second paragraph, your opinion on this is of no consequence to me. I don't care. I've lived long enough and have had enough interacti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?If you keep reading the comment chain you'll see that yeah as it turns out she's just a shitty friend. She relied on him plenty and then couldn't give back when he needed her. But yeah, not everyone wants to hear you emotionally dump on them. And they don't care that in your mind you consider y'all to be "friends". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 02:15 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?If they then followed it up by having me promise that I'd be there for them in the future and we weren't that good of friends? Yeah. I'd find it manipulative. If all they want to do is confide in the moment then sure, I'm fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?You sound like a decent guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?As weird as it sounds, good thing you got that experience under your belt while you were young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Because a lot of different people define "friends" a lot of different ways. He ultimately explained himself downthread and yeah they were definitely in a friendship where he could think that she would reciprocate a shoulder to cry on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/24 12:13 AM |
| 7 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?This is a perfect example and one that anyone should be able to empathize with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 11:15 PM |
| 0 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Whoa. That's insane. That was definitely a red flag and I'm sorry you had to deal with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Ok yeah she's a non reciprocating person. You thought she was your friend and she fucked it up and showed how selfish she was. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 11:12 PM |
| -1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Why not? What happens if it's true? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?About the same amount he assumes she would want in a similar situation. Unless we were married I wouldn't assume that any man would essentially write me a blank check for financial support. And even then, it would have to be for a good reason. Like a reason that I had zero control over. If I were to lose my job because of my own issues and couldn't quickly recover, I wouldn't be shocked if even my husband left me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?How much support are we talking? For partners who don't have some kind of established cohabitation LTR, I'd advise a man not to take his woman partner up on something like this either. Overall I'd say no way. Whether you're a man or a woman and no matter the gender of your partner, I'd have to be strongly convinced to do something like that. I'd also want to know why they had lost their job. If it was because of their own irresponsible behavior then absolutely not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 08:14 PM |
| 8 | If modern dating just a cycle of: infatuation, get bored, cheat/leave?I'm of the opinion that everyone needs to get their first heartbreak out of the way early. Do not fight it. You do not want to be 40 and losing your shit like a teenager because your first relationship broke down. My first real and difficult break up was around two years after I graduated highschool. And while it hurt me deeply, I really do feel like I emerged from it a much much better person all around who can better take difficult situations in stride. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 06:33 PM |
| 2 | If modern dating just a cycle of: infatuation, get bored, cheat/leave?This person with the wandering thoughts either ends up cheating due to the ease of access to the new person, or they leave I won't even argue this. I've often wondered how often the ending of a relationship involves a third party. Even if it isn't technically sexual cheating, but just someone comes in and makes you feel dissatisfaction with your life and then you either want to be with them or you want freedom in your life. Or you just get inspired that there could be a better partner out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Thank you! As a woman I'd definitely be scared of getting too emotional and asking for validation too early in any relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Back many years ago I was in an FWB after a difficult break up. He and I were hanging out and he knew that we had a time limit because I had to meet my mom for something. Anyhow, during our time together he got really upset and started telling me about some issues he had dealt with as a child. Meanwhile unfortunately I'm having to keep an eye on the clock because I have to leave. I tried my best to make him feel heard in the moment, but ultimately I did have to leave at the time I had told him w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 02:42 PM |
| 7 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?From the sounds of it, the test isn't able to be faked or planned. If a man were to "test" the woman he was with by crying over something early in the relationship, I think that would weird anyone out. If your parent or beloved dog died a month into dating, yes that would be a good test of how much she was into you, but that's not really something you can plan to happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 12:17 PM |
| 6 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?Don't many men complain that sex gets less frequent as the relationship goes along anyhow? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 12:15 PM |
| 0 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?I told a girl this You describe her only as "a girl", would you say that she's on the same level as never showing your emotions to your girlfriend/wife. a girlfriend or wife? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 12:14 PM |
| 2 | Can men give some concrete examples of being emotionally vulnerable to women, and women reacting negatively?In what ways had she confided in you? How long was the relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/24 12:12 PM |
| 2 | Any explanations as to why dating seems to be feast or famine?From my POV as a person who is regularly confided in by Gen Z, casual sex and situationships seem to be the norm and expectation. If you can find a bubble of conservative (very very religious or military) then you are going to find people who are dating with the intent to marry and ultimately marrying young. But outside of that it's really a relationship desert. Lots of conventionally attractive women who are 7/10 on a bad day who will cautiously admit to me that they are kissless virgins and av… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 11:22 AM |
| 4 | Many women are actually quite distrustful of other women, they just defend the sisterhood in front of menYou shouldn't trust people in general. This is how I feel as well. I'm basically obsessed with the topic and concept of infidelity and read up on it a lot. I find it very interesting that so often when I hear about the consequences of being cheated on, people will say "cheating on your partner causes so much harm and can even cause them not to trust people and cause them to not trust their co workers" and I'm kind of like, yeah sorry but maybe they shouldn't be just trusting people off rip. I me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 10:07 AM |
| 1 | Many women are actually quite distrustful of other women, they just defend the sisterhood in front of menMany women also report feeling more comfortable with male than female bosses. Why? Likely because the female boss will see through all the bullshit lol. It's not internalized misogyny it's the realization that women will not white knight for them. The woman boss will also have a higher ability to enjoy passive aggressive digs and putting women in the workplace against each other while later feigning the whole "wha wha what'd I do?" 😢👉👈 Or believing that to be respected as much as they perceive m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/24 10:00 AM |
| 1 | When women consume media for men, do they wish to be like the MALE main character too?Honestly yes. I'll watch a movie about some man being tough and I will imagine myself doing the same things and coming across as a badass. It's definitely something that made me see myself as different when I was a teenager. I would go watch a movie with a bunch of girls who would wish that the main character fell in love with them, and I just want to be the main character who does cool stuff and that has girls wanting his attention. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/24 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?I feel you. It used to be just a common thing that people helped with a baby. I definitely know that I did. And I still do. To me it means a lot to be an active participant in a new family member's life from the ground up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 05:51 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?So, I do think you can be too old and "set in your ways" for marriage and kids past a certain age I can see that too. When I became an adult, my mom dated this guy (she had been divorced 10+ years at this point) who was maybe 15 years older than her and had never been married. And she started to get frustrated that the relationship wasn't "going anywhere" and I was like....this dude has never been married, never even been engaged before. What makes you think he's going to suddenly change now? An… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 05:27 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?I likely think that it does play a role. My hypothesis is that if you meet someone after you've established your identity with your education and your career (so you meet them when you're over 25 let say) is it possible that the divorce just doesn't affect that demographic on a personal level? Because feelings aren't necessarily rational, we can look at how others reacted to a divorce and say it seemed over the top but then have the same reaction to a divorce when it happens to us. But for these… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?I agree with you. And there's another thing, for all of the talk about "pair bonding" and how women in particular lose their ability to pair bond with the more partners they have (this is all allegedly), I think that there is another element that we are overlooking in this discussion and that is merely the concept of time. My hypothesis is that both genders can eventually lose that ability to form a true partnership or truly believe that they have formed a life with someone who they have met aft… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 02:00 PM |
| 12 | Discussion: Why is the % of men/women who have ever had a biological child so low and delayed? Is this a reflection of the changing dating market and sexual behaviour of people in USA?It's also a mix of people being able to pretty reliably have sex that does not result in pregnancy as well as higher expectations for parenting. Back in the day you would have a bunch of kids because that's just how biology worked and then then ran around dirty and barefoot all day til they went to school and people just kind of shrugged and figured there wasn't much that could be done. Now society expects better and clearly outlines their expectations and gives resources so they can be fulfille… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/24 01:38 PM |
| 2 | Why would conservative women be more happy ?Thank you. I was going to add to this that wasn't there some study where they were trying to figure out the effect of porn on the male brain but couldn't find any men who in reality weren't regularly watching porn? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 09:11 PM |
| 0 | Do you feel like the sexual revolution benefits men more than women?Yes. I regularly write on here about how "feminism" could just be renamed and called "men who aren't you-ism". The sexual revolution benefits women to an extent, but it also benefits two groups of men: the men who they are sleeping with casually, and their fathers who don't have to worry about lifetime financially supporting what would have been formerly seen as "unmarriageable" daughters. Watching Gen Z dating habits from the perspective of being a trusted older cousin to many of them this is w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 09:02 PM |
| 3 | Women saying they hate their husband is so common on RedditEverything you just said unfortunately makes a lot of sense. Thank you for taking the time to type it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 08:39 PM |
| 6 | Women saying they hate their husband is so common on RedditA lot of people marry people who they should have broken up with, but they couldn't stand the idea of that person being happy with someone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 07:59 PM |
| 7 | Women saying they hate their husband is so common on Redditrisking to make them resentful towards your partner What I've never understood about this is why people can't keep their emotions out of other people's relationships. I can't tell you how many people confide in me about their relationship problems and then stay in their relationships and I just keep on trucking and realize that nobody is perfect and I'm only hearing their side of it. Come to think about it, the only time that I "got resentful" about someone's partner and how they acted from hear… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 07:56 PM |
| – | New research shows that psychopathic men have more kids. Is it another nail in the coffin to the idea that women will reject bad personalities?The very moment I saw this posted in the other sub, I knew it would come up here. Good job OP! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/24 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?That's awesome. I am really happy to hear that. And it definitely seems like a workable goal that anyone who wanted the same set up could do to get where you're at. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?I'm happy to hear that and I didn't mean to come across in any negative way with how/what I asked. How did you switch gears and ultimately get married and have kids? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/23 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?What is your life like now if you don't mind me asking? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?Nowadays people want to remain kids as long as possible. There's also a healthy dose of society Not considering you to be an adult as quickly as it used to be. I remember for me being so scared as the clock ticked me into midnight of my 18th birthday. Back then it didn't matter how long you wanted to be a kid. And from what I hear, it was even more ruthless in the generations before me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?I can't really pinpoint exactly when it happened, but I feel like there was a switch when it became apparent that there was a formula he was using as to who he dated and for how long. And that it wasn't going anywhere. There would be no wedding, no baby, no People Magazine write up about their time line of their relationship that had lasted years and years and years and captured the imagination of women....I know all of that sounds shallow and it might be. But there was just no future and theref… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 09:09 PM |
| 4 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?I have spoken to too many Gen Z young women, all who anyone in this sub would rate a minimum of 7/10, who sheepishly admit to being kissless virgins and state that they really don't want kids and don't want marriage. They just want to be by themselves. Not only that, but you can't even pin them down on who they would consider to be their "type" of partner. The first few times I thought I they were trying to come out as lesbian to me, but no. These were just perfectly normal, able to function in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?A few months ago, a 21 year old guy in my family didn't know the answer to a question he was being asked. When asked again why he didn't know the answer, shrugged and said "how am I supposed to know? I'm just a teenager!" When reminded that he was in fact 21 he responded "close enough to still a teenager, what's the difference?" As an older Millennial, being 21 was the difference. Never in a million years would I describe myself as a "teenager" by the time I hit 20. Hell no. I wanted to be a gro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 08:58 PM |
| 5 | Are young adults infantilized? How does this affect dating?Anecdotally I also feel as though a lot of Gen Z's parents (Gen X) have been extremely frank with their children about their views on their own marriages and how many of them are downright unhappy in them. These topics are discussed in a way that was rarely talked about openly when I was younger but seems to come up regularly now. Which leads to a lot of teens and young people being jaded right out of the gate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/23 08:55 PM |
| – | Single dads are probably the worst partner for a woman to consider.Couldn't blame you one bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 01:38 PM |
| – | Single dads are probably the worst partner for a woman to consider.I'll add to this that in this day and age of very affordable DNA testing, a promiscuous man might not be the best partner for marriage. I've seen with my own eyes a new married couple struggle with infertility and then one day a woman shows up on their doorstep and is all "hey man, I'm that one night stand you forgot about and here's your two year old!". And yes, the paternity test checked out. Overnight their financial and familial situation changed drastically and the marriage ultimately ended… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/12/23 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Why do women generally view sugar daddies less creepily than older men dating and marrying younger womenWhen it's older men dating younger women who are attracted to them with the intentions to marry them and it be a true committed long term arrangement, then that's not creepy at all. What's creepy is a man wanting to get into a situationship with a younger woman to waste her time because "it's easier to have casual sex with younger women". And I've heard that far too often. As in, the woman wants the relationship and he's just stringing her along and not taking her seriously because of her age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 04:12 PM |
| – | Marrying and having kids young, risking divorce later vs. waiting till the good men are gone. Which is worse?Oh yes, I would be fine if I was married when I had the kid and then he left me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 03:43 PM |
| – | Marrying and having kids young, risking divorce later vs. waiting till the good men are gone. Which is worse?Like in the event of nuclear winter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/23 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Marrying and having kids young, risking divorce later vs. waiting till the good men are gone. Which is worse?Because having kids is so important to me I'd rather marry and have kids young with it ending in divorce than wait and miss out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 10:20 PM |
| 8 | How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too muchThese actually sound like good dates. There's no need to be going to big fancy dinners unless it's something special like a birthday or some other milestone like a graduation. Doing something out in public where you're actually having the opportunity to talk to someone and it not just becoming some Netflix and Chill set up is what more people should be doing. I don't know why someone would be offended by doing something "inexpensive". It should be about spending time together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 03:17 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about a man making you wait to make you feel special because he "likes" you too muchIt really all depends on if I feel like there is actually a vibe between us. But yes, I would wait if I felt an actual vibe. I also don't have hang ups about people having boundaries due to bad experiences in their pasts. So yes, especially if he was trying to avoid pitfalls that ended other relationships, I would consider it to him taking me seriously as a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Are male celebrities more likely to date fans than female celebrities?I think about that Mackenzie Bezos situation more than I'd like to admit. And for me, if I already had my kids, was past child bearing age, had been publicly hurt and rejected by the father of my children and long Term husband, and on top of all of that had "fuck you money" to last several lifetimes.....I'd be single and unbothered by romantic relationships for the rest of my days. It was never going to be worth it for her to get into a romantic relationship and she probably only did it because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/23 02:39 PM |
| 1 | The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them.So yeah, a man is more likely to sacrifice his life in an act of physical bravery than a woman is. It also feels like a get out of jail free card. Nobody is really commenting on whether or not that man's life sacrifice actually improved anything for the woman in his life. But it doesn't really matter to him because now he hypothetically died the hero and doesn't have to deal with it anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/23 11:11 AM |
| 1 | What’s the deal in regards to woman on women sexual abuse being completely ignored?I do see what you're saying. I have a thought that a lot of this help from men can be seen through the idea that it's men saving their women from other men. I regularly say around here that if the name "feminism" bothers a person, they should change it to "men who aren't you-ism". Because you're right, women get a lot of help from men and a lot of the time when you see something that benefits women, it also benefits a certain privileged population of men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 03:09 PM |
| 1 | What’s the deal in regards to woman on women sexual abuse being completely ignored?women actively worked in Canada to shut down men's shelters. That's disgusting and regressive. Men need help too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 02:34 PM |
| 4 | What’s the deal in regards to woman on women sexual abuse being completely ignored?Women know this, that's why they band together to attempt to fix things themselves. Just looking in this sub it's obvious that it's difficult for the genders to truly empathize with each other's unique issues. When a gender encounters a persistent problem, they should be working together to fix it. Women are doing that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/12/23 02:33 PM |
| 7 | What are some examples of Blue Pill Media that lied to you about women?Have you noticed how common it's for the female protagonist to cheat on her boyfriend/husband in recent movies or series aimed at women? I agree with you. And it also seems as though that narrative is somehow excused in those same stories. When men cheat, it's supposed to show how much of a dog they are. When women cheat, it's because they are "finally seeing their worth and are moving on to a better partner." Which is why I majorly roll my eyes when someone says "(when faced with sexual temptat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/12/23 01:51 PM |
| 3 | How do you explain your dating struggles to your parents?It's easy to open up to your parents about the problems of people who aren't you or them aka other people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 10:16 PM |
| 2 | How do you explain your dating struggles to your parents?I mean this genuinely but today with that write up, you and your life sound absolutely fascinating. Definitely do an OP sometime! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 08:31 PM |
| 1 | How do you explain your dating struggles to your parents?It's also easier to do when you're a woman and you've already had kids like I do. I can talk to my parents and we can together debate the topics in this sub and they can bemoan the struggles for Gen Z dating. But it's only because it's happening to "other people". Their Millennial daughter already had kids therefore they already have grandchildren. It's not the panic of not believing what is happening right before their eyes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/23 08:29 PM |
| – | “Women are hornier than men”I appreciate you keeping me up to date. I think you did the right thing for both of you. You sound like a good person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/23 10:06 AM |
| 10 | “Nothing is more unattractive to women than low self confidence”He should up the ante by bringing an accordion next time 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/23 10:24 AM |
| 5 | Women genuinely, "settling" never really works outI can agree with this. One thing that I regularly tell younger women who are dating and vetting men is to look to see how his peers perceive him. And also how HE perceives his peers perceive him. A man who does not feel as though he is respected, whether he actually is or actually deserves to be, regularly turns his insecurities and abuse to his woman partner. Exceptions may exist, but I have seen it happen far too often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 02:41 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIn some thread recently I got a nice chuckle when some man's dating advice for women was to strike up a friendship with a man who is in a healthy heterosexual relationship, and then have him help you find a good man and have him help you figure out the red flags in the relationship. Lol no healthy heterosexual man has time to be doing that for a woman who he isn't ultimately trying to bang himself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 02:09 PM |
| – | Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age?Coming to this thread after the thread about women needing to vet better to avoid abusive men is like whiplash. I've come to the conclusion that men prefer younger women because it allows them to play games before she's truly able to know what and how to vet for a proper dating partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 02:04 PM |
| 1 | What is a dating issue that men or women cannot blame on the opposite gender?These are the kinds of responses that I like to hear that make me reconsider things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/23 11:26 AM |
| 3 | “Women are hornier than men”Thank you for your genuine good faith conversation. I think you need to figure out whether or not you want children. If you don't, then I'd make sure she knows it, and then let the chips fall where they may. If neither of you want children, I don't see any real reason why you should push for marriage. Because unfortunately you're absolutely right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 10:00 PM |
| 12 | “Women are hornier than men”The women who predominantly argue this with me are either single and dating around or cheating on their spouses. Unfortunately the cast majority of monogamous minded married women are in dead or dying bedrooms from their husbands perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 03:21 PM |
| 4 | What is a dating issue that men or women cannot blame on the opposite gender?I love how I was downvote for my observation (I don't think it was by you). Probably by people who want to keep the idea going that sex abounds in marriage. And it absolutely can, it's just that both partners need to work on it once the honeymoon phase wears off. And if anyone has a witty reply to this to tell me how wrong I am, I hope that person is also a man who has been in a heterosexual marriage for 10+ years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 12:02 PM |
| 1 | What is a dating issue that men or women cannot blame on the opposite gender?Married people have more sex than singles. I wonder about this statistic a lot. Does it mean people who are single single? Like well and truly single, haven't even had a date in the past six months? Or people who have casual sex relationships vs people who are married? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 11:11 AM |
| 4 | What is a dating issue that men or women cannot blame on the opposite gender?I wonder if we as a human species will ever find a functional and constructive way to indulge our serial monogamist ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/23 11:08 AM |
| 3 | Do you think there are more men willing to be house husbands or more women will to have house husbands?First off, I completely agree with you. Secondly, I think it's very interesting that even when women are making more money, they're more likely to divorce. Too many times, people in this subreddit try to convince me that if women had to lose half of their stuff or had to pay men child support, that they wouldn't be getting a divorce nearly as quickly. But it looks like yes, they absolutely would! I also think this is interesting Cheating skyrockets above 50%, I'm not even arguing with you. You'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/23 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsI'm telling you as a woman that other women are definitely going to get the hammer brought down on them in a situation like you described: I guess to me the equivalent could possibly be a girl sleeping with a married man, getting pregnant, then that guy leaving his wife/girl to raise the child with that other woman. Not quite the same equivalent but this happens to some women and some will do that. Women definitely rely on society in general to uphold social norms so they will judge each other w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsLike yeah, sure they may have the chance here or there, and deduce, it's not worth the risk overall... But what would happen if the opportunity was endless? Then what? I think it's hard for anyone to truly say unless they've experienced it. When I get the chance to talk to a Never Cheater™, I always like to ask them about the temptation they felt in the past that they overcame. How did it feel? What was the other person doing? How did they react when you chose to step away from them? How did you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsI would say that I'd describe women as more empathetic to women and their causes more than that. If there was a way for women to commit paternity fraud amongst themselves, the women would judge each other more harshly and the man would be seen as a hapless idiot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightslose thinking my child came from me, got to be earth-shattering. I can't imagine anything worse, I'd rather slowly be put through a meat grinder and know my child was mine than to ever find this shit out. See as a woman I don't understand that. Which is why I just feel as though a guy doing this to another guy seems just as bad as the wife having cheated. The man who got the wife pregnant and then left the husband to hold the bag is the one who uniquely understands the fear and is just as bad. B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsI hear you and I don't even mean to argue, but what sticks out to me is that even in these arguments on PPD men will talk about how "women being women will absolutely never ever understand the depth of the issue with paternity fraud". Which I agree with. I think it's hard for us to understand something that we don't completely understand. Like we get it's bad, but to y'all it's really bad. So yes, a woman cheating and committing paternity fraud is bad, it seems unusually sinister that men who un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsI think you've made some really interesting points and you're likely hitting the nail on the head with your reasoning. I hadn't thought about the scarcity issues and insecurities over that. With that in mind, I always find it fascinating when people puff out their chest and proudly claim that if faced with sexual temptation, they would never cheat! They would leave their partner to pursue this sexual temptation! And that it's all good and even better than cheating because at least it's honest! A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 06:23 PM |
| 0 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsFirst off, I think you're one of my new favorite PPD Redditors. So please understand that I come to you in complete good faith for constructive conversation. I read a lot about mainly British and European upper class folks. Somewhat also of the old money in America. And it seems like those types of people just lost the jealousy gene or something. Everyone is constantly cheating yet somehow staying married. I don't get it. I would really love to know the thought process and the culture that they … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsBingo. Finally someone gets it. Just swab the cheek and nobody has to know. And if the test results come back in a way that is unexpected, then fuck her feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsRich people might be more mindful of their birth control and avoid out of wedlock children (or just avoid having it discussed publicly), but they absolutely cheat on their spouses. Often, it seems. It feels like only the middle class feels that moral squeeze. The upper upper class and the lower class engage in nearly the same cheating behaviors. The upper class just has a respectable veneer over it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests should not be used as a weapon against opposite sex, but as a logical progression of rightsWomen and the "nice guy" types will defend this, and to an extent I agree with you. It's also the guys in power who want the ability to fuck and run with married women. Yes women cheat and this is bad. But think about how long men have been making the laws. You'd think with men in charge this would have been one of the first things implemented. You have to wonder why it wasn't implemented. My hypothesis is that "Chad" doesn't want it implemented. He's more than happy to fuck married women and NO… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Why divorce rates initiate by woman are so high, even on lesbian marriages?I'm not even arguing with you. What you are saying is valid. But I think it's interesting that for me personally, I'd switch it and say duty is when there are no children and you're just staying out of your own sheer willpower. And convenience is when there are children and leaving would mean paying child support and seeing your kids significantly less. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Why divorce rates initiate by woman are so high, even on lesbian marriages?This is my argument. If your wife leaves you, you have the ability to go out and be free and not have to worry about being the bad guy who broke up the marriage. But your comment about men and staying in a marriage "out of duty." Is it "duty" or convenience? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/23 07:09 PM |
| – | The Wall ain't real at all, and I say That as a woman who wishes It were the caseYes I can absolutely agree with you on that. You definitely have a very nuanced and informed take on these subjects! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 06:51 PM |
| – | The Wall ain't real at all, and I say That as a woman who wishes It were the caseI think for many women, it may be hard to get a real gauge on The Wall from their perspective. An attractive woman who marries at 25, goes on to have children with her husband, act traditionally feminine, and age appropriate, may never perceive that there was a "wall". Sure people may stop falling all over themselves to help her because she's "pretty", but then it changes to them falling all over themselves to help her because she is a mother, and then a respected older woman in the community. F… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/23 05:01 PM |
| 14 | I think many men want single women to be miserable because it gives them a sense of importance.And what's crazy is that there are a large number of women who have chosen to stay single and childfree who are either virgins or exceedingly low n. It's not like these women all partied it up and then couldn't get married. Plenty of them are low libido women who don't want children and didn't think marriage was worth it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/23 04:03 PM |
| 1 | The “men should be able to cheat” argument…I regularly tell people that their spouse promised monogamy, not forced celibacy. As far as I'm concerned, if a partner allows a dead bedroom because they simply don't wish to have sex (but they're healthy enough for it and they want to stay married) then it's impossible for them to be "cheated" on. Marriage is where sex is supposed to happen. If it's not happening there, then it's going to happen somewhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | The “men should be able to cheat” argument…I wonder how this has been felt historically. And before I continue, just know that I firmly believe paternity fraud is wrong. So I'm not arguing I'm favor of it. Ok anyhow, it's only recently that a man might have only one child with his wife. Before birth control, the sky was kind of the limit with how many children might be born into a family. If a man was regularly having sex with his wife, and she had five or six children during the marriage, the odds are good that he reproduced. And now we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/23 10:53 PM |
| 2 | The “men should be able to cheat” argument…I honestly think you're onto something somewhat. While yes, there are people who will cheat no matter what, the amount of dead or dying bedrooms is staggering from the anecdotes that I hear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | If women are jealous of where all the good men have gone, how come they don't try sweeping them earlier in life?Because until a man is starting on his path for his life, he doesn't really respect any of the women who be perceives as pity fucking him. Like if she's "down for him" in his low spot, why should he respect her, or do anything but discard her when he finally gets his boost? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 11:49 PM |
| 1 | What sort of music do you think the girl who would be interested in a romantic or sexual relationship with you listens to?And I love Alice Cooper so there's that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/23 12:23 PM |
| 2 | What sort of music do you think the girl who would be interested in a romantic or sexual relationship with you listens to?Scrolled too far to have to find someone else who likes Frank Zappa 💛 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 08:44 PM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI also believe that if you had parents or trusted family members who were able to take kids to extra curriculars and social activities, things would be better too. I see too many kids nowadays who ride the bus home to an empty home and eat pizza rolls and watch video games til their parents come home. Something else that is really more of a social shift is that women have been warned about men for a long time. I'm a Millennial and it was the trusted men in my family who encouraged me not to date… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 03:00 PM |
| 9 | Men who turn gay later in lifeSome women like a gay husband. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 02:27 PM |
| 11 | Men who turn gay later in lifeFor some women it's a feature, not a bug. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?I say more power to them. I personally don't think it's a good idea but they will attract people who know exactly what to expect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/23 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?I believe you, and I'm sorry that you had to deal with it, and I hope you don't have to deal with it again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:31 AM |
| 10 | CMV: Love and romance is dead by the time people are in their 30sI might regret jumping in this, but "full of cum" means in their balls. Everytime I've heard the saying it's been a man shaking his head at something kind of ridiculously and unnecessarily rough and tumble thing a guy has done. Usually with an eye roll. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:28 AM |
| 3 | CMV: Love and romance is dead by the time people are in their 30sTighten up. You sound like you're on the come down from some upper. Get off the Internet, clean up as best you can, get a glass of water by your bedside, And go to sleep. In the morning get something hefty inside of you breakfast wise and don't do this again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?I will say this. I appreciate you sharing your POV and I hope this situation never happens to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?You and I are very similar. I agree that stoicism is a great trait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?I can't agree with you that a large amount of women are unsympathetic. I do feel like more women than men are truly sympathetic to the younger person though. When I hear men complain about the situation, it's more out of principle that they want a woman offender to take the same blame as a man would. (Which I agree.) They don't truly think anything bad happened. And obviously I'm just talking about some vanilla heterosexual sex act. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?Thank you for responding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:31 PM |
| 2 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?What kind of important decisions? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?This thread and all of the comments about women and BPD have led me to look into BPD and what it means and how it feels to the women who have it. What is so interesting to me is the way that they describe it, I definitely have those emotions too. But what keeps me from expressing them in a way that someone would call me BPD is that you have me absolutely fucked up if you think I'm going to let someone know that they've hurt me or that they've illicited any strong negative emotion out of me. I me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:12 PM |
| 4 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?they want to feel superior to their partner. In a previous relationship of mine, my man partner would get into a certain topic, and whenever I would add to the discussion, if it was a piece of information he didn't already know, he would get PISSED and see it as me attempting to be better than him. Which I never understood. If I as myself am into a topic, and someone I know and trust tells me more about this topic, I'm just going to be grateful that they did it and move on. I never understood th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Why aren't men attracted to Dark Triad traits in women?When a man sees himself as "the head of the household", what does that entail? And this is a genuine question. I am not trying to have a GOTCHA moment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 05:55 PM |
| 3 | Women lose traits that men want in a partner as they get olderWhat's so interesting about these comments is that when I find a man who is willing to talk about his attraction to younger women over women his same age, they will tell me that younger women essentially can be used for casual sex, while 35+ year old women are more likely to baby trap them. As a woman myself, I think that's backwards. Younger women who are genuinely attracted to those 10+ years older men are attracted to them in large part because they think they are fast forwarding to the commi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:33 PM |
| 8 | Why does the media not say rape or statutory rape when boys are raped by women?I don't think men are high fiving each other when the sex partner is another man. But unfortunately they do seem to be pretty unsympathetic when the other person is a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 04:19 PM |
| – | For me to agree that virginity does not matter is to agree the past 8 years of my life have been for nothingThey will call it a coping mechanism on our part, but what it is, is men who haven't had sexual success being resentful of women who have. They want these non virgin women, they just wish these non virgin women wanted them. And no, they don't want the actual virgin women if they're plain Jane's. It's insecure men trying to speak for all men. High N men do not actually think about this stuff. And in real life, the ONLY men who have expressed intent for an N count are religious virgin men who want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/23 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Is it better to have too many kids or miss the train and end up childless?Thank you for this comment, you've packed a lot of interesting information into it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Is it better to have too many kids or miss the train and end up childless?You and I are of one mind, you just explained it much better than I could. Thank you. Comments like these are why Reddit needs to bring back the classic award system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/23 01:24 PM |
| – | The expectation that one should have unadulterated trust in their spouse is unreasonableHonestly sir I am not feeling my best and you have answered my questions in a more than adequate fashion and I'm sorry you even had to be subjected to my questioning or cynicism. You sound like a solid dude and I wish you well in the future. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 07:29 PM |
| – | The expectation that one should have unadulterated trust in their spouse is unreasonableI say this in good faith and obviously with a likely unconscious gender bias as a woman, but something just seems fishy and off about the whole thing. And in this scenario there's really no way for you to win because your behavior is classic cheater behavior. And if you had left her because she saw those common red flags, I would just assume that you flagrantly disregarded her and we're tired of hiding the fact that you were seeing other women. But I think I'm just cynical enough to think that i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?That's a lot different than asking someone if someone is their type with an incredulous and judgemental tone. And for someone to determine that you have "a type" you generally need to have dated a minimum of three people in that "type" before your social circle catches on. Which OP is pretty clear that she's unsuccessful in the dating arena. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 04:10 PM |
| – | The expectation that one should have unadulterated trust in their spouse is unreasonableThis past Winter, I ended up really wanting to self improve and worked on my dieting (lost 20lbs) and skin care routine, along with getting a pedicure for the first time in a while. My gf at the time got really paranoid that I was cheating because why am I doing this all of a sudden. She eventually asked me if there was someone else. Uncharacteristic of her as she had given me a good amount of trust during our relationship, didn't mind me going out with friends, don't believe she had checked my … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 03:06 PM |
| – | Is surrogacy the answer to battling the courts, having more influence over your children as a man/father?If I'm a woman who doesn't want kids of my own, my step kids better have a bio mom who gets them at regular intervals so that I can have my childfree time. It would be very daunting to be a childfree woman who was a step mom either to an IVF baby like this scenario, or who had a mother who died. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/23 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?I mean she would be honest with HIM. I'm not advocating for her to lie to the guy she's with. I was just explaining why she would prefer to be with a guy than be with a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?I mean hypothetically they would get married. And then all she has to do is act like she's got some kind of infertility issue and that'll shut people up real quick about having kids in the future. Even if it didn't, still easier than people thinking you're gay when you're not. "So that's your type?" Nobody really says this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 08:08 PM |
| 7 | What sex act permanently taints a woman?Yeah no joke. This hypothetical ex girlfriend sounds like a drama llama. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:31 PM |
| 6 | What sex act permanently taints a woman?Very cool with it. As long as you appeal to me in other ways. I used to send roses to my previous girlfriend and writing her love notes every day. I had a stalker do that once so I actually have a "no flowers" rule. I took her on extravagant, long vacations I don't enjoy travel to romantic countries I am not leaving the country. Especially with someone who I'm not legally married to. I was so romantic and devoted to her. Sounds suffocating. Not at all shocked that she broke up with you. Now that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Does a woman’s sex drive really play a big part in their dating life/success?I would also say that she likely is so indifferent that she has no desire to fight against social norms by having a woman roommate. The idea of a woman having a roommate just makes her seem immature in a lot of people's eyes. And if her social circle starts to get a vibe that they're ✨roommates✨ then that's even weirder because they will feel like she's simply not being open with them about how she's into women. Being in a heterosexual pairing just prevents a lot of questions and is a lot less s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 05:13 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI believe you and I've seen women in this sub say as much, but that is wild to me. I have seen so many guys become popular with women both as friends and sleeping with them by lying about being bisexual. Lying about it. Claiming to be bisexual when they had never be sexual with a man. Had no desire. And in real life thought it was disgusting. But somehow successfully slept with women they were into by putting on a bisexual persona. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 02:38 PM |
| 3 | If a man is the type to always want a paternity test, he should make that clear to his partner BEFORE they decide to have kids.I'm a woman who takes a bit of a different stance on this. I think that it does make a lot of sense to DNA test babies at birth to both parents and it makes me wonder why this isn't already a thing. With all of the tests they run on newborns this should be easy peasy. My hypothesis is that this isn't about protecting the woman, but protecting the other man who got her pregnant. Think about how often the narrative is that this nasty no good lying woman cheated on her husband and got pregnant and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 11:40 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADAnother great take. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 01:56 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI don't hate this response. It also makes a lot of sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 01:27 AM |
| 8 | It is not men's responsibility how individual men behaveBut do you hold also believe that women should hold each other accountable for saying misandrist, sexist, racist, and homophobic shit? Absolutely. Been doing it for years. I may be weird by I try my damndest not to be a hypocrite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 10:14 PM |
| 3 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsThank you. I really try to do good in the world even if sometimes it's unorthodox. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 05:43 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADVery true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 03:20 PM |
| 5 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsYou make a good point. I will say, in my personal life I had a woman friend who is a single mom with kids and I was doing the whole "you're too good for him!" thing not because I thought it was accurate, but because I thought she didn't share his stable and mature priorities and that she was wasting his time. Obviously she would have never listened to me had I told her the truth. But she went ahead and wasted his time and thankfully he didn't lose too much in their eventual divorce that everyone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 03:17 PM |
| – | How often do you see "genuinely" nice men having issues on the dating scene?Fair enough | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:57 AM |
| – | How often do you see "genuinely" nice men having issues on the dating scene?Meet more people. And this is coming from someone currently in post grad studies who would prefer to be with someone with a degree than not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:41 AM |
| 3 | The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kidsHere's my thinking, at this point OPs mother is in her 60s and he has always seen her as mom. We're these friends saying that his mother was better than step dad or that they were different? Because if they were warning her about settling then yes that is good advice. I'm happy that the mom and step dad stayed together, but they had no idea of knowing that back then. I myself have had friends accuse me of being jealous, wanting them to be unhappy, or any other untrue thing when I suggest a frien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:35 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADTaika Waititi married Rita Ora 😳 To me, men are very very attracted to High N women. Otherwise we wouldn't be hearing about them all of the time. Many of the men in this subreddit would happily publicly commit to a high N woman if she gave him the time of day and regular sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:24 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADAren't the upper classes more lax about infidelity? I've read a whole lot about European Aristos and the NY society scene and all I want to know is how they've managed to do all of the bed hopping that they do and still keep their socializing together. Unfortunately whenever you look at a group of people who believe in staying together to accumulate generational wealth, you're looking at a lot of people who are more ok than average with the concept of infidelity. Both committing it and it happen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:20 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADShady's back | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:17 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADUntil recently I considered myself a High N woman because of the amount of women I slept with in college. Relatively recently I've found out that it doesn't count and I'm basically virgin adjacent in many guys eyes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:16 AM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADGo big or go home my good sir. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:14 AM |
| 4 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThere is a guy in my family who is fine fine fine. Casual sex abounds for him. But he's a total himbo who makes up for his mouth breather ways by being an absolute 10/10. Anyhow, he's racked up a body count in the nid double digits but legitimately gets hurt when the girls realize he's not really relationship material and move on. I'm sure a lot of the guys in here are playing the world's finest violin for him right now, but it's for sure a real thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:13 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADHow about "flirting and SKKRRRTing" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:11 AM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADIn my experience it's more of girlfriends giving out blowjobs to established boyfriends who want the relationship to progress physically but want to "wait for marriage". And no they still consider themselves to be a virgin afterwards. While a vagina has no taste buds, having a guy practice good hygiene is a lot easier than you think. Also, you don't have to worry about a pregnancy scare from a blowjob. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:10 AM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThis is why I don't understand the standpoint of wanting a person with a LOW body count because they allegedly thinks sex is more special and more serious. If I hypothetically felt that sex was special or serious or that it bonded me in some indelible way to the other person, the only acceptable N count for myself or for my partner would be 0 before marriage. In that hypothetical scenario, a partner who proudly kept a low N would make my hamster spin out of control and make me think that because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 11:06 AM |
| – | How often do you see "genuinely" nice men having issues on the dating scene?I agree with you. But I would broaden the concept of "well educated" to mean a person who is well studied on a topic that they have a lot of passion. I've found it incredibly attractive to see a man excitedly tell me about some self taught endeavor. Well educated doesn't have to be a PhD or even a degree. Just someone who shows intellectual curiosity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 10:47 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?Ok thank you. Finally someone who is on the same wavelength as me on this concept. If someone was able to find unbiased third party evidence that calmed their brain about the possibility of me doing something that would bother them and show them that I WASN'T doing it....all without bothering me or accusing me about it....I would be very happy that they made that decision. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 10:32 AM |
| 0 | To what extent do you care about your parent’s opinion of your partner?Has nothing to do with marrying a Mamas Boy. But I will say, if you can master the dark arts, marrying a Mamas Boy can be one of the absolute best arrangements out there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 10:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?What I meant to say was thank you for talking to me and actually trying to see my POV | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsAll depends on the state and the laws. Before you even start dating just get real interested in ancestry DNA. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 01:54 AM |
| 2 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsNot sure, but even a broken analog clock is right twice a day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 01:52 AM |
| 1 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?I definitely am trying to make a genuine good faith point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/23 01:52 AM |
| 2 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsI think it goes by state. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:46 PM |
| 4 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsIf it is his wife and he hasn't caught her cheating and they were having sex during the conception window then he can go ahead and rest assured that it's his. The paternity test will just be the cherry on top to stop his overthinking. If it's just some casual FWB then sorry not sorry she should understand. Also, know your state laws. In my state you have two years to contest it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:43 PM |
| 6 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsIf my spouse came to me with this problem, THAT would be a relationship ender. If I found out that they calmed their own fear privately, I wouldn't care. I do not care if people trust by verify. Just do not bother me with it. I'll feel like you have no common sense and that you enjoy drama and it'll cause me to not respect you as a partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?What exactly would you be doing around your child that would be considered "private"? Plenty of people have cameras in their homes inside and out purely for security. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?I don't necessarily disagree with you, but what do you think would be an equal situation? The sub has been asked how men would feel if their wives suggested they had cheated and then men claimed that they would be flattered. Pregnant and post partum women aren't flattered to be wrongfully accused of infidelity. So while yes, pedophilia is a bit much, what do you think would be an equivalent situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 09:31 PM |
| 4 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?Here's my thing, I'd feel great about it if they verified it behind my back and didn't bother me with it. Settle those lizard brain fears. Just don't come to me about them and drag me into it. Go quietly get that paternity test. Install cameras on the kids. Have a private account so you could divorce me quickly if you found out I was a monster. Do what you need to do to be able to be the partner that I need in the marriage. Calm your brain down and then go through the motions like a normal perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 06:07 PM |
| 0 | To what extent do you care about your parent’s opinion of your partner?Yeah....no. Marriage is about two families. Or especially a woman marrying into her husbands family. I regularly tell women that they need to make their absolute best effort to get along with their MIL and the other important close women relationships in her future husbands life. And if she isn't able to bridge that gap, then she needs to seriously rethink this relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | For me to agree that virginity does not matter is to agree the past 8 years of my life have been for nothingYou brought up a good topic in good faith and I appreciate it. Good job OP! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 05:51 PM |
| 1 | For me to agree that virginity does not matter is to agree the past 8 years of my life have been for nothingMen do not give a shit about N counts in real life. The biggest sluts in school were always the most popular girls who had guys lining up to publicly date and eventually marry them. If it got out that a girl had sex, suddenly every guy thought she was the hottest thing and wanted to have a public facing relationship with her. Until I got to this sub I would have never guess that N count of virginity meant anything outside of youth group. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 05:50 PM |
| 13 | Q4M- How would you feel if your wife got your child a medical exam after you looked after them to make sure you didn't molest them?My question would be: how would you feel if your wife secretly installed a camera or some other recording device on your child while you were alone with them to make sure you weren't being sexually inappropriate with them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 05:42 PM |
| 9 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsOr just "don't even bring up the topic" bro. Your partner doesn't need to hear your stream of consciousnesses. Handle your insecurities and don't bother them with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 05:17 PM |
| 2 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsIf someone has experience with abuse I'm ok with them having a Go Bag. It needs to be something that they themselves prepare for though. Don't bother your partner with a paternity test that you can take privately and don't bother them or ask them to contribute to your Go Bag. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 05:15 PM |
| 8 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsTo me though, that's something that would come up in the beginning of the relationship. That's major. That's like one of the first few date conversations about how previous relationships ended kind of thing. In an event like that, it's very likely his wife could at least understand where he was coming from and know that he wasn't blaming her. But if everything is good in the relationship, she happily gets pregnant and is sharing this life event with him and zero evidence of infidelity in the rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:42 PM |
| 28 | The ethics of Paternity test vs Go-bagsHave your Go Bag prepared quietly. And have your paternity test taken privately and quietly. Both are ok to do for peace of mind. And neither need to be known to your partner. This is a case where "what they don't know can't hurt them" and as long as they act right, everything is ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 03:35 PM |
| 2 | Male Behavior Toward Female Success is a Supporting Case For Hypergamy.As a woman I've also noticed that men do not seem to appreciate women who loved them at their worst. If you take a chance on a low achieving man, he will assume you have no standards and start to disrespect you as he feels he levels himself up. And then he will leave you the first chance he gets. I regularly will still hear about couples who "got together when he had nothing!" Him being a broke college student finishing up his graduate thesis in chemical engineering when y'all met on campus isn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/11/23 11:25 AM |
| 3 | I Don’t Think Women Fully Comprehend The Shame of Being a Male Virgin As He Moves Through His 20sYour humble outlook will serve you well in life. You are who you are without a lot of excuses about it. I don't know why people are trying to dunk on you when you're just talking about your perspective and life in good faith. Good job on the sex too btw. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 02:16 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Personal responsibility seems to go out the window as soon as a man is expected to vet women.Sounds like drama but do you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/11/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Personal responsibility seems to go out the window as soon as a man is expected to vet women.Elaborate please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 10:51 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Personal responsibility seems to go out the window as soon as a man is expected to vet women.What's the "deception"? Your insecurity? Just privately take the test and only bring it up if there's a bad result? Don't bring that upon your partner when they're at their most vulnerable (post partum with a newborn) when there are bonafide ways that you can get the information without causing even a bit of drama. In today's world of no fault divorce and reliable birth control, the odds of a steady live in partner (wife) happily getting pregnant and staying with you and conning you into thinkin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Is true love even real…?I think as humans we are more serially monogamous than life long monogamous. I think that if we could respect that and not base our self worth on our partner and their actions, life would be a lot better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 03:45 PM |
| 12 | CMV: Personal responsibility seems to go out the window as soon as a man is expected to vet women.Don't say anything. Go down to the pharmacy and get a paternity test. Privately do the DNA test. Get results. If it's your child (and really, the odds are in today's world that it is your child) then breathe your sigh of relief and repeat step one where you never speak of this again. If it isn't your child then fuck her feelings and go off. And this really should be the first step before you even get into a relationship: know your state laws regarding establishing paternity and then conduct your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 02:30 PM |
| 6 | Marriage is a trap.I agree with you. You're doing great and I appreciate you taking the time to share your story and perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 02:13 PM |
| 5 | Marriage is a trap.If Reddit still had it's old award system you'd be getting Gold or better for this comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 01:36 PM |
| 6 | Marriage is a trap.I have a woman family member who had a difficult first marriage and divorce. Her next go around in an LTR, she decided that she "didn't need a piece of paper to prove that she was in love" and they cohabitated for over a decade while buying property together and fully believed they would be together forever and that this was easier for everyone with them not involving the government. They went in together on property that they both wanted and couldn't afford without the help of the other person.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 01:33 PM |
| 2 | How much would a month of "be the other sex" for everyone change the game.I would love to know what it was like to be a man. I would love to know what mens loneliness looks like for one. I absolutely believe that it exists, but until I got to this sub, I was under the impression that men didn't feel it and were A OK being on their own. I'd be interested in seeing what a direct SMV switchover would look like. Especially for unattractive people in this sub experiencing what the SMV equivalent would be of the opposite gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/23 01:13 PM |
| 2 | What is your experience with women who earn significantly more than their partners/husbands?Thank you for sharing your story and showing so much empathy to others in the comment section. You make this place a better sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/23 10:58 AM |
| 6 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?I will say this, any way you cut it, Greencard Guys are suckers and usually seen as the walking ATMs that they fear being seen of in America or their country of origin. And that's whether they stay in their wife's country or they come back to their home country. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 06:17 PM |
| 0 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?I think that just limits the scope of who can do this kind of a thing then. What do you do when you're close with your family and have pride or connections to where you grew up, but you have a hard time meeting American women? Going abroad to meet someone to marry and start a family with is hard if your family and way of life is important to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 06:15 PM |
| 0 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?Just wait til you meet these foreign women from especially SEA countries. You might be in for quite a surprise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 11:12 AM |
| 0 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?I think that for me it's hard to think about what would happen if I left my country of origin to marry someone else and then had kids. It's very important to me that my family be in my kids lives. Also, I'd be interested in what the divorce laws were like in whatever country I moved to, and whether or not the locals and my wife actually saw this as a true marriage or saw me as a sucker foreigner walking ATM outsider. In my family, two men married SEA women and then brought them back to the US an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 11:10 AM |
| 2 | What are the most common reasons women get divorced?With the divorced that I've been personally witness to that involved financial problems being the root cause, it seems that one partner was going off the rails with spending and the partner who was filing was tired of being attached to that kind of spending/debt accrued. Mental health problems were also involved in the case of the high spender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 10:17 AM |
| 0 | What are the most common reasons women get divorced?When it's the man who is filing for divorce, what seems to be the main reasons? Have you ever had a woman file for divorce for one of the common reasons, but you had a hunch it involved a third party on her side? Do men ever come to file for divorce explicitly for another woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 10:15 AM |
| 2 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?Bingo. I just want to learn too and I don't consider the opposite gender to be the problem. You're a good egg. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 01:29 AM |
| 1 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?I mean I always went in with the full intention and ability to pay for the date so for me it was good. IMO she likely decided she didn't want to be with me and then made the decision to split the bill instead of let me pay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 01:15 AM |
| 2 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?Thank you for being open to talking about this. Conversations like this is why I love this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/23 01:14 AM |
| 3 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?It's definitely been my experience as a woman who has taken plenty of women out on dates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 02:06 PM |
| 5 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?Yeah as much as I hate to say it, things haven't really changed as much. Any woman who has insisted to pay her own way has been hinting that she's not interested in a romantic future with me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 02:05 PM |
| 3 | What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split?In my experience in dating women, I've found that when I'm obviously paying the bill and she insists that we split, it's because she has no interest in a romantic future with me. No exceptions with that, and I've taken more than my fair share of women ormut on dates with varying success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 02:02 PM |
| 6 | CMV „As a Man you should never be emotional/weak infront off you‘re Girl“ is one of the most brutal reality’s that a Man has to accept.Or just go into nun mode and quell their loneliness with their family of origin. Women overall don't have the same sex drive as men and they can get their relationship fix from purely platonic sources. Women who would rather be alone than in a bad relationship usually have a strong social support in other areas. Men usually rely on the women in their lives for social support even if it's a bad relationship and he's only got the benefit of preselection in his favor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 01:58 PM |
| 2 | Q4A: Are women more responsible for divorces?Talking to men about this, they seem to claim that it's the rejection that they hate. And it goes into how men are always talking about loyalty and how much they like it. But the loyalty they sometimes seem to value is when a woman sticks with them even when it goes against her best judgement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | Q4A: Are women more responsible for divorces?I appreciate you adding to the conversation and giving examples. I definitely believe men when they say they have experienced this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 01:31 PM |
| 4 | Q4A: Are women more responsible for divorces?And I wonder how much of this is just boiled down to men not wanting to pay child support or lose "their" money. Take away the financial aspect and I wonder how many men would be "comfortable in the suffering". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?That makes a lot of sense. Thank you for spelling it out. Here's a thought experiment: Moreover, if a male 10 is on an island where the hottest female is an 8, he is not directly comparing his beauty to hers, and will not feel a sharp loss of satisfaction because she is somewhat less attractive than him. She's the best he can get and he will take it. If this man was born and raised on this island and only knew the women on it and the 8 was the hottest, wouldn't she just be a 10? I can understand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 10:43 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?Mainsplan it to me then. How does the concept of "men are only ok with dating boring women until they can find something better" mean that women think they run or lead a relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?What word is better to be used for men than hypergamy? And this is a genuine question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 09:54 AM |
| – | Adapting Family Architecture for Serial MonogamyI was driving around thinking about this earlier and just thinking about how third spaces would have to be mandatory in some form or fashion. But boarding schools definitely might be a good thing and something I've thought about before this conversation. I agree with you about society not being able to exclude a large percentage of men sexually and remain stable. It seems like the only way that men care about social order in general is when they have relationships with women. In particular, sexu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/23 12:16 AM |
| – | Adapting Family Architecture for Serial MonogamyYou've given me a lot to think about and I appreciate it. I also wonder how much men might value the concept of marriage in ways that we don't really realize until they don't have it at all anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 07:01 PM |
| – | Adapting Family Architecture for Serial MonogamyThis OP is my jam and I appreciate the work you've put into it. Thank you. I agree about figuring out how to handle the children in the whole situation. I do wonder if teaching young people from a young age that romantic relationships are not intended to be life long and that raising the children from the union is all that matters is a good way going forward. For all of the talk about women leaving men in droves and not being able to do life long commitment, nobody with options actually likes lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 05:57 PM |
| – | Adapting Family Architecture for Serial MonogamyBack in the olden days people regularly had second and third spouses because of death related to child birth, dangerous trades, war, and other easily treatable illnesses today. People absolutely had serial monogamy and if they had sex with their next spouse who was fertile, they had more babies. I don't know that any of us know the right answer or what's most natural for humans, but I will be interested in what Gen Z and Gen Alpha do with their likely healthy long lives and how they approach rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 05:35 PM |
| – | Adapting Family Architecture for Serial MonogamyThis is a very interesting topic. I remember that I ruffled some feathers once when I talked about the hypothetical future of human sexuality and monogamy and wondered if in the future, a decades long marriage would be seen as quirky at best, but regularly seen as stale and a mark against the people in it. As in, being in a life long, decades long marriage meant that you had fears of being alone and never had any other opportunities for new relationships. Kind of like working at Dairy Queen from… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 05:07 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?They're open to dating a boring partner because they benefit from preselection. Especially if it's just in the dating stage. Men only claim that they aren't hypergamous because divorce and child support comes at a cost that they aren't willing to pay if they can just check out if the relationship or cheat. But in the dating stage, men absolutely benefit from having a girlfriend and then using that as bait to trade up if/when the opportunity comes calling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 04:13 PM |
| – | Do you think most people would cheat on their partner if the right person was interested?And unfortunately men like that are ripe to either cheat or blindside you when they realize that preselection is real and that they're interested in getting the benefits now that they have the opportunity. And depending on the type of relationship you're in, I don't applaud when people "don't cheat, they leave!". Once someone is fully tempted in a sexual or intimate way, it's a real pickle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 03:26 PM |
| – | Do you think most people would cheat on their partner if the right person was interested?A woman who monkey branches purely for the sake of monkey branching looks awful in her social circle though. And once you reach the point of having had children, how many desirable men are willing to take on a monkey branching woman and step dad duties? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 03:23 PM |
| – | Do you think most people would cheat on their partner if the right person was interested?I think it's genuinely moronic when people say things like: "I hate cheaters so much!!" Because it's like.. don't talk about your mom that way lol. I feel the same way. It's basically universal that people sit around talking about how they would Never Cheat! And then it's basically universal that people are either cheating or being cheated on. Nearly everybody hates it, and nearly everybody does it or has done it. They only fear it happening to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 02:51 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThat's completely acceptable for an adult of either gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:28 AM |
| -4 | Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring?I think it's just something trite that people say to try to make themselves feel better or that they're more in control of their lives. Or they're admitting that they don't really consider their partners wants or needs in the relationship. Sure, it's not their "responsibility", but that relationship has a fast approaching expiration date on it if there's not a good chunk of the relationship that's already naturally "fun". And fun is defined however y'all want to define it. In my personal experie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/23 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missTwas just hilarious. A funny little add in. I enjoyed it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 08:25 PM |
| 8 | Halloween parties are a way for women in relationships to manipulate or put pressure on their men. They also are one of the most underrated and obviously red flags guys missmy brother in Christ and loserdom 💀 I felt this all the way to my soul. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/23 01:09 PM |
| 12 | What's the deal with women and height preferences?Until I found this sub in my 30s, I had never heard of women wanting a 6 foot tall man. Ever. The men around me were of varying heights below 6 feet and all did well with women. The only time a man would be considered "short" would be if he was like abnormally short. Like 5 feet tall or so. And those guys could fight like hell and regularly had girls interested in them as well. Flat chested girls? Girls with noticeably smaller chests? Made fun of to their face. Looking back in middle and high sc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 05:54 PM |
| 11 | Are women really that disgusted by inexperienced/virgin men?I'm not disgusted by them, I just don't trust them. I've seen in real time women get burned by guys who suddenly got a boost from losing their V card and want to know what else they can get now that they have pre selection on their side. I wouldn't try to have a LTR unless I was a guys third sex partner minimum. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/23 05:36 PM |
| – | Low Body Count Does Nothing for MaryIn my experience most men would be more turned off by Daphne. Outside of this sub, being childfree is seen as a turn off and Daphne is beyond the age that it could be hand waved away as "just a phase". If Mary truly only had an N of 3, had gotten clean from drugs, and had done the work of getting her CNA while raising two children, there are plenty of white knights out there who would see her as a naive woman who had been taken advantage of and was in need of saving. Most men also wouldn't even … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 11:06 AM |
| – | CMV : Stoicism is definitely overrated in regards to success with womenI think y'all are really saying the same thing. Men are "allowed" to be emotional and reactive as long as those things result in action being taken to resolve a problem. But a man seen wringing his hands or crying helplessly and publicly in the face of adversity is not going to find that it brings a lot of women his way the way most men want. And yes, while women are "allowed" to act this way, they don't really earn respect by men or women by doing so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Passport bros why are they wrong?I don't think about it until it's brought up here. I think it's dumb if a guy does it thinking it's some ultimate cheat code. A foreign woman brought to the US is now a Western Woman. A woman who is willing to date an outsider and a newcomer isn't really "conservative or traditional". And if you're planning on just staying in her home country....I mean do you have zero ties to your own family or friends here where you grew up? Go do your thing. But it's not the easy button so many think that it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 02:15 PM |
| 4 | Q4Women: If you had the chance to be reborn as a man, would you do it?No. But not because being a woman is easier or harder. Both genders have trade offs. I just was born a woman, have been a woman all of my life, and things have been pretty decent. And the men family members in my life have also had pretty decent lives. I try to be fair with both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Q4Women: If you had the chance to be reborn as a man, would you do it?And depending on the situation, that's not even ultimately a positive thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 10:05 PM |
| 4 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.I agree with this too. I encouraged my niece to finish out high school online because the issues at her HS were worse than the supposed benefits of socializing in HS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 08:50 PM |
| 3 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.That was my struggle. As a teenager I was very aware that there was a small window of time where I could goof off with friends. But I couldn't stand the company of other people. But I forced myself to do it so that I could say that I did it. And I was decently successful with dating. And now I'm married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 08:45 PM |
| 5 | It’s important to party/date/socialize in high school. Those people are more successful than the nerds who studied all 4 years.And even worse, if you try to point to your achievements in HS after it's over as the foundation of who you are, you look like a loser. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 08:41 PM |
| 0 | CMV: if you feel it’s fine to ask your wife for a paternity test without cause, you should also be fine with a wife choosing to live outside the home for fear you might kill her.Do you have other reasons to believe that she might have cheated? I mean to just bust up on your post partum wife like that with no other evidence is outright cruel. I understand your concern, but it can be handled without antagonizing a woman in a vulnerable position. Get your test. Get your peace of mind. And then go on with your life. You come back to reality. This isn't your world where your vulnerable wife who has given you zero indication that she's been unfaithful needs to deal with your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 08:34 PM |
| 1 | CMV: if you feel it’s fine to ask your wife for a paternity test without cause, you should also be fine with a wife choosing to live outside the home for fear you might kill her.Why would you bother your wife with your concerns when you could just take a test and it can calm your fears without you having to upset her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | CMV: if you feel it’s fine to ask your wife for a paternity test without cause, you should also be fine with a wife choosing to live outside the home for fear you might kill her.Yeah, why wouldn't you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Ladies how would you feel if you found out a woman in your life paid a man for sex ?I agree with this. I have no idea why people are freaking out about this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 01:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: if you feel it’s fine to ask your wife for a paternity test without cause, you should also be fine with a wife choosing to live outside the home for fear you might kill her.Why wouldn't you just discretely get a paternity test yourself from the pharmacy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 01:02 PM |
| 1 | CMV: if you feel it’s fine to ask your wife for a paternity test without cause, you should also be fine with a wife choosing to live outside the home for fear you might kill her.What about murder after a period of tension where the murdered person knows that something might be up, but never believes that their spouse would do such a thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/23 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on “the wall” and beyondI will admit that this was the American Deep South and working class people. Also the HS young women involved were all from large families. So it might have just been them happy to marry off the extra mouth that they'd otherwise have to feed. My step dad graduated around the same time as your parents and was more solidly middle class and he agrees with your parents that it was more rare. So it's likely a class thing mostly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on “the wall” and beyondWomen also exert pressure on the men in their lives (brothers, husbands, friends, coworkers, etc.) not to date too young, further decreasing female intergenerational competition. I wonder how much of this is bigger than just women exerting pressure on this topic. I've spoken with my aunts who were in high school in the 1970s in The US, and it was very common in their area for young women in HS to earn their diploma early at age 16 or 17 and then within weeks marry a man 10+ years older than them… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/10/23 12:27 PM |
| 1 | How Common Is It For Women To Choose Not Hot Men So They Don’t Get Cheated On?If I was forced with my back against the wall to choose, I'd rather have my partner slip up and make a mistake than have this entire crisis about whether or not they want to be with me. I'm not one of those people who wants someone who would "just leave". I can forgive someone who might cheat, feel like it was the wrong thing to do, but see it for what it is and move on. I wouldn't be so amiable to someone who outright left me and tried to act like they were taking the high road. Your Higher N p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 10:07 AM |
| 9 | How Common Is It For Women To Choose Not Hot Men So They Don’t Get Cheated On?And it's the guys who believe they are unattractive who end up having a crisis of the conscience when they meet a new woman who gives them attention and suddenly wants to do the old "I didn't cheat, I left 🤪" And attractive guy knows what up and committed to you with open eyes. He's not unfamiliar with the concept of New Relationship Energy. An unattractive guy is very unfamiliar with it and will end up cheating to validate himself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 08:27 PM |
| 3 | How Common Is It For Women To Choose Not Hot Men So They Don’t Get Cheated On?Any man who can drop a grand right now on a sex worker without it being noticed by the family finances is likely doing well enough that he's got normal options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 08:21 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI've been thinking recently about women who make the statement that they don't want to be their man partners "mother". It seems that women seem to say this when they feel as though the man in their life is no longer attractive to them or other women. I'd go as far as to say "especially to other women". A woman who believes that her partner is attractive isn't going to be counting the costs with her acts of service. But what a woman doesn't want at all, ever, is to be her man partners "father" ak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 04:41 PM |
| 3 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?After reading a lot about cheating and the mentality cheaters have from the adultery sub, it makes me feel as though I'm going to put more effort into discussing behaviors as they come up. What's making a person want to check their partners phone? What if you find no evidence of their cheating on the phone? What if they honest to God aren't cheating? Is the behavior that led you to check their phone suddenly acceptable? Personally, I say NO. I don't care if my partner is acting distant because t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:24 PM |
| 4 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?I mean unironically....yeah I absolutely agree with you. And as an aside, people should also have s game plan about what they hope to do next when they check phones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:07 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the moms who refuse DNA paternity testing? Would you refuse one yourself and if so what would be your reason or reasons?I'd be more pissed that he didn't just discretely handle it himself and that he chose to bother me with it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 03:05 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'd say it's more like girls like the guys they like, and then want them to be nice to them. Guys like the girls they like, and then they want them to be faithful to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 10:35 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread2) Don't get sad if a girl rejects you or things don't work out,there are so many people out ther I tell the teenagers in my family that a girl (or person of any gender) outright rejecting you is the second best thing that can happen while dating. First being that you and she are happily together and everything is great. Someone outright rejecting you frees you up to do stuff you'd actually rather be doing, and being available to meet people who actually want to be with you. Rejection is a gift. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 10:34 AM |
| 2 | Do you think you can actually sense misogyny?Well I'm glad you're here and participating in this sub. I've definitely learned a lot from being here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Women don't get snatched off the street and sex trafficked, it's not a realistic scenarioAsking the real questions! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/23 11:18 PM |
| 10 | Dating has shifted in gen z and millennials to where most women are having "situationships", as in casual sex with the possible future promise of relationshipsI've seen what you mean too. It's kind of like how marriage books tell men to do more and women to expect more/live themselves just the way that they are. When an affair is justified by either gender, it almost seems like a woman's affair can be completely moral and above board if she did it for "the right reasons". And a man's affair is just another tell that men are slightly above animals. So yeah it's totally a case of for many men it's like , "yeah it's wrong but so what, it's biology" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 02:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV : why can’t it be true that far less men are objectively attractive than women?I agree with you. I've seen this in action a lot too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 01:53 PM |
| 16 | Dating has shifted in gen z and millennials to where most women are having "situationships", as in casual sex with the possible future promise of relationshipsI agree with you. I sporadically participate in the adultery sub because I'm obsessed with the topic of infidelity and enjoy hearing actual cheaters talking in real time about their thoughts and feelings about their own infidelity. Anyhow. Regularly there will be a woman affair partner of a married man who believes that she needs to tell her boyfriends wife about their affair "so she can make an informed decision" when it's really that she thinks the wife will break up with him and he will be fr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 10:11 AM |
| 15 | Dating has shifted in gen z and millennials to where most women are having "situationships", as in casual sex with the possible future promise of relationshipsAfter doing many of years of genealogy work, I've found that oftentimes the sweet story of "Grandma and Grandpa met and two months later were married because they just knew" could be switched out for "Grandma and Grandpa met and two months later got married because Grandma was pregnant". People who got married 68 years ago weren't necessarily able to get reliable birth control or have no fault divorce, or be able to support themselves if they were women after a possible divorce. People sanitize … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 10:04 AM |
| 2 | CMV : why can’t it be true that far less men are objectively attractive than women?Actually I completely agree with you. But these women aren't cheating. They're at risk of being cheated on. And no they don't want to divorce and damn sure don't want to BE divorced. They are perfectly comfortable with their upper middle class lives (that they're not working themselves to the bone for) thankyouverymuch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 12:52 AM |
| 4 | CMV : why can’t it be true that far less men are objectively attractive than women?Unfortunately I've spoken to too many women who seem like decent UMC married 20 + years women who wish to remain married....yet are proud of dead bedrooming their husbands. Proud of rejecting them. Proud of the fact that their husbands "know better than to even ask for it". And no, they're vehemently against any kind of non monogamous behavior on his part too. And they look at me like I'm a Duggar when I gently remind them that monogamy isn't forced celibacy. No way. Have sex with your spouse or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/23 10:01 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy mean most men will forever be undesirable.In my experience a short man has much more experience fighting and defending himself. I would expect a short man to come to my defence before a tall one did because a tall one is more likely to shrug the issue off and claim it's not that big of a deal or I'm overthinking something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 02:26 PM |
| 2 | Are men more willing to be in a relationship with a woman who is not attracted to them?I'm agreeing with you. Guys who "buck the social norm" but in a way that makes them seem weak or incapable aren't getting chicks. You still have to "break the social norm" the right way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 11:01 PM |
| 7 | Are men more willing to be in a relationship with a woman who is not attracted to them?And even when they "buck the social paradigm" they have to follow the rules while they break the rules. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/23 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Why is Hannah "Pearl" Davis of Justpearlythings still single?does her money actually provide me with any tangible benefit or does it just make her harder to please? I agree with you with this question. I've seen relationships where the woman is the breadwinner and she is very very boastful about this. Almost acting as if it makes her more attractive to a man. But instead she just ends up treating him like he's some kind of purse strings attached chump. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 10:34 AM |
| 4 | Why is drama so widely appealing / why is being level-headed often considered boring?I think it's because people like to solve problems and when the other person in the equation is "drama" it can give you a sort of relief that YOU'RE not the problem while also giving you some self value by giving you something to work on and possibly "save" the other person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/23 10:17 AM |
| 1 | If "love" is primarily conditional on transactions, wealth, education, etc., then it's not really love. So what's the point?Women don't mind helping men make more money. They're totally fine making those sacrifices in order to be with the ultimately high earning man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/23 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Do men generally accept the social blueprint of men given to us by society and are happy about it?How many men prefer the 9s and 10s to show off for other men? Even being treated like an object to use is showing society that you have value. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 02:16 PM |
| 1 | How are men expected to meet women in today’s world?They're supposed to meet them in school. I've long held the belief that there is only so old that a person can be before they lose their ability to form a partnership with someone. And that goes for either gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Question for women about being pressured for sex.The real answer is that yes society stigmatizes men who say that they only care about consistent sex. It's up to men to determine whether the relationship is bad enough in other ways to stomach the stigma that you will likely face if you choose to end the relationship only because of inconsistency of sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Since more women are working now than ever, and casual dating is more acceptable now than ever, will we see more “trophy husbands/ boyfriends” in the future, are we already there, or would women argue they would never tolerate a lesser man long term?As someone who is obsessed with the topic of infidelity, men regularly cheat just based on opportunity. And regularly their wives either don't find out, or they find out and keep it hush and ultimately don't leave. So I want to know: Are these cheating men with high earning wives going out of their way to get caught to rub it in their wives faces in an attempt to take them down a notch? Are these women either finding out because it's being rubbed in their faces or just not at all hidden and sayi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 03:06 PM |
| 5 | Since more women are working now than ever, and casual dating is more acceptable now than ever, will we see more “trophy husbands/ boyfriends” in the future, are we already there, or would women argue they would never tolerate a lesser man long term?I have a high achieving woman family member married to a bum. Purity culture was the best thing that ever happened to that bum because I reckon a good 80% of why she's in the marriage that involves children with him is because she and her family place a strong emphasis on marrying and staying life long with the person who you lost your virginity to. No matter what. And this him was lucky enough to be the first and only person to knock boots as teenagers with this future very very high performing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:57 PM |
| – | I feel like a major piece of information that gets left out here is the difference between urban, suburban, and rural experiencesYou're Canadian????! That was seriously unexpected. And also, you got one of the best times to grow up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else find that most truly weird people you know are often in relationships?Damn. Well I'm glad that worked out for you. That sounds like a whole lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else find that most truly weird people you know are often in relationships?Well I 100% agree with you that it's an unhealthy way to approach relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else find that most truly weird people you know are often in relationships?How long were y'all married and how did that affect any kids y'all might have had? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 02:06 PM |
| 4 | Anyone else find that most truly weird people you know are often in relationships?Because when that unstable person seeks you out and you are their "favorite person who makes them stable", that is a high that can really stick with you if you don't know what you're dealing with. Yes it absolutely does backfire more often than not. But before it backfires, it is an incredibly special feeling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else find that most truly weird people you know are often in relationships?The guy who does that has women who find him to be endearing and interesting. I've definitely noticed what you're talking about. I think that women are attracted to the confidence in going that far out of social bounds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/23 01:00 PM |
| 6 | Just because older men are doing better than younger men , it doesn't mean it's not a problem to struggle in your youthThis is a very nuanced take and I appreciate you typing it out. Overall, both sides of the argument exaggerate how older men do in dating. No....younger women aren't "grossed out" by the average 32 year old but they're not exactly lusting after the average 32 year old either. This should just be copied and pasted into every single age gap relationships post. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/23 03:28 PM |
| 7 | The real reason women hate when older guys get with younger girlsIn my experience it's been more men than women who have had an issue with age gaps. Particularly the men who are family and care about the younger woman. And it's primarily men in here even bringing this up as a topic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:22 PM |
| 5 | Why do you think marriage for couples who were cohabiting before marriage do not last long.I have a woman family member who believed the whole thing about "not needing a piece of paper to prove that she was in love" and went on to cohabitate and purchase property with a man she lived with for a decade. She had gone through a divorce prior and thought she was protecting herself. Ha ha ha. The dissolution of their property through civil courts took over twice as long as her "difficult" first divorce was and was 10x as nasty. Every single person who knew about the situation felt that it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 10:19 PM |
| 3 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?You tell no lies. Something about your list is making me snicker at the thought that after all of this, Pearl comes out as a lesbian. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 01:14 PM |
| 2 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?like he’s the only man or one of the few men that she’s been with and he knows she values her body count or feels worthless so she would never leave him and he just treats her like shit even if she’s pretty and he’s mediocre cuz he clubs and can talk to lots of girls or stuff like that. I've seen this in action way more than I like and it's a large part of why I feel uncomfortable around men who prefer a virgin or low N woman. It's not that they feel that it means that she has good morals, it's … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/23 01:11 PM |
| 7 | Do you think it’s true that dating gets easier for men and harder for women in their 30s?Women who make it to their mid 30s completely single are likely single by choice. Even ugly chicks who desire families can betabux a fellow ugly dude by 30. Women in their 20s who are purposefully dating an older man are likely doing so because they believe it will lead to commitment. Men who weren't attractive in their 20s likely aren't attractive now and certainly aren't attracting younger women. So I'd say that if it was hard for a man in his 20s, it's likely not any easier. But for either ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 05:39 PM |
| – | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThe ironic part about all of this, is that after getting pump n dumped by all these different guys, is now they want a singular guy that has all of the best traits of each guy she's fucked. So wouldn't it be a good thing for her to seek you out for a relationship if that was the case? Wouldn't that mean that she had chosen you because you were the best traits? And if you're saying that her standards increase while her value decreases, it sounds like that's her problem and her problem alone. We s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI'm wondering if something like Replika will also become more prevalent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 01:08 PM |
| 1 | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI mean, we've got the Roomba! 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 12:27 PM |
| 4 | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI'm seeing that while Gen Z aren't having casual sex, it's not because they're going back to conservative dating and family ethics, it's because they've inherited this generational burn out of relationships altogether. Gen Z will likely be the lonely cat ladies on anti depressants themselves because of their reliance on social media for interaction and the ease of getting anti depressants. This landscape and what has shaped it is truly a new frontier for us. It seems like trust and social cohesi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI agree with you that both genders have issues with the dating world as it is now. I do think that we're headed towards a post hook up culture world if we're not already there. But instead of things going back to the good old days, it's just a new era where relationship intimacy is at its lowest. Or desire to even pursue that complicated path is at its lowest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 10:32 AM |
| 2 | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI am seeing the same things. Even young women who have a lifestyle that makes me a little shocked that they're kissless virgins are coming out as virgins or extremely low N women. And it doesn't seem to be a religion angle. It seems more like it's a result of low libidos and an idea of "why would someone consider that to be fun?" But it also feels like an interesting time because like you say, fears of intimacy, I'm noticing a lot of young women who have also admitted to me that they don't feel … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 10:28 AM |
| 0 | Women are happier "single" because they're aren't really single at allI'd say it's more like happily single women are women who have the genuine relationships with their woman friends, are either confidently childfree or are empty nesters, and have an endless buffet of men who won't commit to them, all while they themselves do not want to tie themselves down. Because we live in a polite society with police protection, this is all possible. If we didn't, it wouldn't be possible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 05:37 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel about an "All men are handsome" campaign?Also, a man will still have sex with a woman who is "less than perfect." Capitalism isn't really interested in telling men that they can be just as loved without their utility to the community and especially without their money. Not to mention these ads are less pure PSA and more an advertisement to get you to buy something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Are people who are against age gap relationships expect men to be casanovas?They expect men to get into committed LTRs with women their own age by the time they're in their late 20s. And by that I don't necessarily mean marriage, but the relationship that is expected to last that long. I'm always shocked when I come to PPD and hear men talking about how women are against age gap relationships when my personal experience was that the women in my life were estatic and believed that me dating an older man meant that I had found some secret cheat code to getting commitment … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Is it true that almost every average couple has a dead bedroom?If these partners wanted divorces, they'd be asking for them themselves. No, they want all of the perks of marriage while forcing their spouse into life long celibacy. So they can keep those perks with the understanding that what's good for one is good for the other. I feel zero sympathy for people who cause dead bedrooms and then find out their spouse has stepped out on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/23 10:01 AM |
| 4 | Is it true that almost every average couple has a dead bedroom?Yup. You promised monogamy, not life long celibacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Is it true that almost every average couple has a dead bedroom?Sentencing someone to a life of celibacy because you're "not in the mood" goes beyond the concept of "two wrong don't make a right". In this case they do. If you can't uphold your end of monogamy, then your spouse is free to go be monogamous with someone else. And for anyone who would claim that they person should leave instead of cheating, I can tell right off that person doesn't have children with a person that they're married to, and lol no you wouldn't rather be left than be cheated on. If t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/23 11:32 PM |
| 8 | What do you think are the factors leading to so many men’s lack of romantic success *besides* hypergamy?Back in the day when everyone lived in small villages, you married bob from down the road because he was the best of two choices. He wasn't perfect but you made do with what you had. You also had a lot more social ties. Your older brother was best friends with Bob's older brother. Your aunt and Bob's mom were close since childhood. Bob's grandmother used to baby sit you. Both of you and your families had been active participants in the same church your entire lives and there was a pretty homogen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/23 10:59 AM |
| 2 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?I knew FOMO would bite me in the ass if I didn't get some things out of my system before settling down. An unintended positive side effect that I also have is a realistic idea that the world isn't filled with wonderful eligible bachelors who can quickly pick up where I left off in life. The world is filled with people who I'm not mutually compatible with for whatever reason. I know more than a handful of virgin til married or exceedingly low N women who are under the impression that if they're u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Women, which of these four relationship choices would you make if you had to choose?Which one can I have kids with? It seems like the only draw with Option B is that the man is monogamous and life long monogamy isn't high up their on my list of Must Haves even though I do like legal marriage. If I can't have kids with Option A, then he's no different from Option FWB. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Women, which of these four relationship choices would you make if you had to choose?So how many of us will be exchanging gifts over the holidays? How many of us will be packing up with our kids to go to his mother's house? If there is no relationship where I'm getting something different than the other women. No commitment to at least being together for awhile. No children. No plans to marry (even if keeping others on the sife) or have children then I don't see what the difference is between this one and the one about being single but being able to date around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 04:15 PM |
| 10 | Women, which of these four relationship choices would you make if you had to choose?If Choice A is an Open Marriage where he is legally married to me and I have a relationship with his family and have Christmas with them and I am the only woman that goes to these things and the only woman who is having children with him while we are married (I'd be ok with previously conceived and known children from previous relationships) then Choice A all day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 03:29 PM |
| 49 | Your SO is not willing to do something sexual with you that they've done in the pastAssume they've enjoyed it previously and it's something you've always wanted to try. Their reasoning: "They don't think they'd enjoy it with you" Deal breaker. But change that to assuming that they did it before in the past and didn't enjoy themselves at all but I always wanted to try it I'd have to take it on a case by case basis. If this was something that I just couldn't do without, then I'd break up with them. But I can't imagine that being how I would feel about it. If they had a bad time a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/23 12:56 PM |
| 2 | Why don't we encourage men to stay virginal as much as we encourage women?This is what I tell people all of the time. A man's untested fidelity isn't some kind of virtue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 09:35 PM |
| 0 | Is the vitriol against promiscuous women a tactic to convince women to not sleep around?You really nailed it with this. Thank you for this write up. I know you're goal is to unite women against men, but shits more complicated than you acknowledge. And the way that the genders deal with infidelity because of their biology makes it complicated as well. There's a massive difference between a woman that a man would sleep with, but abandon of she got pregnant because she was only an easy lay, and the woman he'd actually want to stay with. Spot on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?I think you're reading a bit too much into this. All I said was that they sounded like they had a good relationship because he could be honest with her without pretense and she could actually accept his honest answer. TBF I don't seen infidelity as this be all end all in a relationship and because of this, I am ethically non monogamous in my marriage. It works for me. Obviously infidelity or the hint of infidelity or the possibility that a great many people are not able to remain life long monog… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?Yeah I agree. Most men would hide behind the virtue signal of how they would never cheat and never even consider cheating. It's sad that it's such a small amount of couples who can be real with each other about their struggles but it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Straight (or bisexual women in straight relationships), how common is it for you to lie to your male partners to spare their ego? Is it a good thing?I prefer discretion over "honesty". I don't go around lying, but I also don't say things that don't need to be said. If the cons outweigh the pros, I won't say it. And if I had a partner who constantly asked leading questions, I'd consider them to be a person who enjoys drama and I'd leave them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 11:01 AM |
| 2 | Most of the arguments against Age Gap Relationships are TerribleI'm ultimately neutral on the concept of Age Gap relationships, but I have a lot more respect for them when they're looking for commitment when it's the older man, younger woman dynamic. I once spoke to someone who claimed that they liked to pursue younger women at their nearly 40 years of age because younger women were good for casual sex while women their age would attempt to baby trap them. And I'm like....no no no. Early 20s women who knowingly go into relationships with older men are usuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about society making men "obligated" to lead a relationship (asking a girl out, initiating the first kiss, proposing, etc)?I feel as though if you're a person that doesn't enjoy pursuing women, that should be your prerogative. I enjoy the chase. A lot of people that I know enjoy the chase. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Why are people so obsessed with age gaps when it's such a niche issue?I think it's weird when older guys want to have sex with early 20s women under the impression that it's easier to have casual sex with them. In my experience, the younger women who are attracted to the older men are explicitly doing so to cut out the riff raff and be with a partner who has shown his wild oats and is ready to settle down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 12:31 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI agree with this. Too many men are insecure about this because these are the women who they are mostly attracted to and they wish she was only with them. But they don't even really know her and met her just then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADThe hardest thing is when you have that as your mindset and then you find that person, and you give them 110%. And then they throw you away like trash. Which I hope doesn't happen to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:50 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD2-9 partners before me is ideal I agree with this. While a High N can get weird depending on how high it is, someone who feels that sex is this super duper important thing and has only had sex with one person before me is also a red flag that I'm not interested in entertaining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:48 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI think it's men's N count themselves. Before I got into this sub, I was convinced that it was only some conservative evangelical thing to care about N count. Most men who have had enough relationships and casual sex know the deal and understand that the women they meet had interesting lives that involved other sex partners and that's ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Jobs that are dealbreakers (for me )...what about you?This is definitely my favorite response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/23 11:02 PM |
| 3 | If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment?Since I actually asked you, I wouldn't dismiss your anecdote. I actually care about what you have to say. As for other relationships, I'm glad when people break up and move on with their lives when it's not working out. From some people's perspectives, I gave up on a few non marital relationships "at the first sign of trouble" and completely moved on with my life. And it was because the person didn't matter to me enough to work it out. As long as that person actually moves on and doesn't sit aro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 10:35 PM |
| 3 | If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment?Do you have an example of someone you know firsthand who jumped ship out of a marriage, split their retirement, and sees their kids significantly less because of "the very first instance of strife"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 09:28 PM |
| 5 | Why do Childfree women bother so many men?I agree with your thinking. When I hear men in here talk about how women don't know what real love is and that men are the only ones capable of it, I'm always left wondering what the hell they mean. I don't think women are perfect little angels, but I see more men merely existing in relationships that they would end in two seconds if they could get away with it than men who I'm blown away with how much they love their wives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Why do Childfree women bother so many men?I agree with you. If also like to see what the definition of "single mother" is because it seems as though for every single mother there is going to be a single father since it took both of them to create the child before they broke up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 11:13 AM |
| 2 | How has your ex partner's life turned out compared to your own?Check out how many white dudes have just decided to off their families in that thin mountain air. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 06:23 PM |
| 4 | How has your ex partner's life turned out compared to your own?White people things in Colorado: Family Annihilation and hiking and skiing. White people things in Florida: Meth, Alligator Wrestling, Any matter of ridiculous things while publicly intoxicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 05:26 PM |
| 5 | Women get resentful from splitting half the costs with their partnersGo into other relationship subreddits and see that this is exactly right. And men aren't running charities or blessing women they find unattractive with public facing commitment either so it goes both ways. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 01:11 PM |
| 1 | What do you make of a woman who regularly dates older men?When talking to women about sex, women can brag about having "tons of sex!!1!" That in reality turns out to be right at the threshold of dead bedroom in a man's eyes. Way too many people confide in me about their relationship issues. And I've unfortunately found out that dead bedrooms and duty sex are extremely common. To the point that when an older woman in a LTR wants to go on and on about how much amazing sex she's having in her relationship, I assume she's either being a Cool Girl, very ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 10:35 AM |
| 1 | [Q4All] Whats your thoughts on the phrase “ Meeting the Right Person at the Wrong Time”?I was not “looking” for a GF when I met my current partner I was playing the field for years, Most people in this subreddit don't get "years" to play the field like you and I did. it’s just we met and I realized very quickly she was the one, so I have up that lifestyle. You were nearing the end of your ho phase. Same thing happened to me. I definitely have had situations where I met people who I would have stayed with had I had my head together. Everything is a personal problem. Until you figure… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 05:01 PM |
| 1 | in which direction do you think your marriage or relationship will go if we went into another lockdown ?That's a trick question because I loved lockdown. It eliminated any kind of FOMO that I had and I could finally just be the homebody that I have always yearned to be. My husband knows me well enough to leave me alone unless there is some kind of planned and structured thing going on where there is a planned end point. So I think it would be fine. I'd actually prefer it. I love never having to leave the house. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 04:52 PM |
| 9 | Are average men really desperate for sex?All depends on whether they have kids or not. Even when you look around this sub you notice that there is a stark difference in the attitudes of people who have had kids and who haven't. People who have had kids seem to get a little more blue pill in them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 10:59 AM |
| 2 | Guys who lie about their height vs women who lie about their weightHeight is height. But weight can look different on anyone. Asking either question or valuing someone on either term is dumb. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: What steps do you take to make men less afraid of you?How many women want a husband and a boyfriend? Most women aren't looking for their husbands permission to have a boyfriend, they're just monkey branching out of the marriage of their own free will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?Like I said, it all depends on who survived the war. And why they survived it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?That would be the other side of the coin and if boot camp was mandated then what you're suggesting would also be mandated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?Interesting dynamic but you're likely right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 12:32 AM |
| -1 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?I know it's intense but it's something I think about a lot. I wonder how many incel Marines there are.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 11:12 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?I wonder if all men had to go to boot camp and there was some kind of way that we could make sure everyone wore well fitting clothes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Do you believe a scenario where the average man is desirable is possible?I think that a lot of those men who survived the world wars had traditional manhood qualities of having gone to war and then came back with victory. It all depends on who survived the war. I'm not sure how that would have gone if all of the men who survived the war did so because they had been hiding out in their mom's basement. I don't even know how that would work, but just hypothetically. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 10:54 PM |
| 2 | Could the greater male variability hypothesis be the reason women are having more success than men in college?Everything you just said about school uniforms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Could the greater male variability hypothesis be the reason women are having more success than men in college?How so? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Could the greater male variability hypothesis be the reason women are having more success than men in college?Thank you for this genuine response. I think this is very good. I also very much like the idea of school uniforms and more men as teachers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Men are not the main problem in relationships. Women are not the main problem in relationshipsI enjoy being here because I like to hear from men what their problems are and how they think they can be fixed. I also like to give insight on women and why they do the things they do. I'm also married and even if I wasn't, I wouldn't have an issue getting the type of relationship that I wanted relatively quickly. So I agree with you, I don't know how some of these problems that men have with dating can be solved, and women's problems can largely be solved with them having realistic expectation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Men are not the main problem in relationships. Women are not the main problem in relationshipsThere is still a lot of drama in same-sex relationships. As a person who has been in more same sex relationships than you average bear, I'm going to go out on a limb and claim that same sex relationships have MORE drama than heterosexual romantic relationships. For me personally, the only heterosexual relationship that I had that rivaled my WLW relationships was with a bisexual man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Whats the biggest mistake you did NOT make as a teenager? WEEKLY DISCUSSION TOPICI didn't take any kind of recreational substances as a teenager. Now, I still dealt with alcohol abuse as a 30 something, but I am sober now and proud of it. I focused on my studies. I still was able to date people of both genders and have some casual encounters. I did feel a bit disengaged from my peers at times and struggled with that within myself, but it was very interesting to hear years later that my peers had seen me as someone who had their shit together and didn't need other people. Idk… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 04:53 PM |
| 5 | Could the greater male variability hypothesis be the reason women are having more success than men in college?Has school always been like this? And if so, what can be changed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 04:27 PM |
| 0 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?Libras being sensuous??? No way. I'd say maybe a Gemini, Cancer, or Leo. Calling a Libra sensual or sexual is like saying the sexiest thing a woman can be is a CEO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 02:00 PM |
| 1 | The term "Pick-Me Girl" has become a completely bastardized term that serves no purpose but for "feminists" arguing in bad faith to sow further division in gender issues and practically demonizes any sort of love or sympathy towards men by women.Is this evidence that it can be rare to truly have both partners happy in the marriage? I definitely have seen what you're talking about with the woman competing and for some reason being happiest in the marriage. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 11:27 PM |
| 1 | So how exactly do men "deceive" women into sex?Women quickly lose respect with their peers and the men in their lives when they act mercurial and change their minds constantly. It might be something that happens more often in women than men, but it doesn't earn positive regard at all. If women were acting like they wanted a committed relationship and then ghosting the guy. Or claiming they wanted sex and then stopping at the last second, I couldn't blame a guy for choosing to cut her out of his life. Men can "change their minds as well" but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 07:12 PM |
| 2 | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itBeing part of the queer women community growing up, I would sometimes notice some of my peers who were "straight" but had very high standards for what they wanted in a guy. As in she was NEVER successful and always batting out of her league IMO. It truly puzzled me. But these girls would be the type to loudly talk about how they had to have the best guy or they were going to stay single and be with their same gender friends. These girls also would seem kind of not stereotypically "feminine". Reg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 01:01 PM |
| 2 | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itHaving high standards doesn't make you a gold digger. If you're actually able to pull those people and you're investing in the relationship, you're not a gold digger. That's really just a word that men use to neg women. And then for every alleged gold digger who is able to snag a man, he's likely got his own motivation towards having that relationship with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 12:55 PM |
| 3 | What does “real” love look like to you?Yeah unfortunately I agree with this. Men will sometimes come in here and talk about how women don't have the capability to have true love or give it and I'm thinking....the woman basically is the relationship. Exceptions exist obviously. But sometimes it feels like a relationship is just what a woman projects onto a man. He might as well be an oak tree in her front yard that sometimes she hugs and sometimes she screams at it. But it doesn't ever change based on what she does and everything that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 04:58 PM |
| 0 | Women how much does a man need to make to be your partner?You're not going to really get a straight answer to this, but the real answer is that you need to be ambitious about making money and you should have it in your head that your income should be able to cover about 75% of the bills for a comfortable life in whatever your cost of living area is. There can be exceptions to this, but it is especially true if you're partnering up during your childbearing years to a woman of the same age and you two expect to have children. As an aside, I get a huge LO… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Women how much does a man need to make to be your partner?26-50K in my COL area. Very easily doable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you date/marry a guy who doesn’t want kids AND isn’t career-oriented?No. The childfree part would be a deal breaker if I was looking to get married in my child bearing years. I'm leaning towards a No on this one, but if he could show that he was passionate about something in his life, I could be flexible. Also if this was a second marriage when I was we'll past childbearing years then maybe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 10:38 AM |
| 25 | Age gap relationships end in divorceThis is a sane and level headed take. You sound like a great partner. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt depends. But I'm not going to avoid fun "just because". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadChildish Gambino- Because The Internet Big Audio Dynamite- The Globe Madonna- Music | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah I agree with this. People need to just keep their private life private. As long as she doesn't have kids, STDs, or is still in contact with an ex, let the past stay in the past. And I say that for both genders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadJust keep an open mouth bottle by the chair and you'll be good for next time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:16 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou sound like an awesome partner!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI agree with you. People need to realize that at the first sign of unresolvable conflict, they need to turn heel and walk away. People aren't going to start respecting you more when you're their doormat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:14 PM |
| 1 | I see a lot of posts on this sub about what women think about autistic men in the dating landscape. What is the consensus on the reverse of that? So like question for the men on here: would you date a woman on the spectrum and do you think woman on the spectrum have it easier than men with ASD?I will say that I have noticed that when men and women fit in better with whatever their community determines is masculine or feminine respectively, they just seem to have an easier life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 10:26 PM |
| 2 | I see a lot of posts on this sub about what women think about autistic men in the dating landscape. What is the consensus on the reverse of that? So like question for the men on here: would you date a woman on the spectrum and do you think woman on the spectrum have it easier than men with ASD?I have a hunch that I am on the spectrum and I would say that for me it's been easier to approach people I'm interested in because I'm already seen as this off the wall person that it's totally expected of me to do something socially abrupt like that and it be acceptable. I've also had a glow up in life and can tell you that pretty privilege plus quirkiness plus missing social cues that make you look like you DGAF is a superpower. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 04:30 PM |
| 2 | I see a lot of posts on this sub about what women think about autistic men in the dating landscape. What is the consensus on the reverse of that? So like question for the men on here: would you date a woman on the spectrum and do you think woman on the spectrum have it easier than men with ASD?This is very interesting and I mean this genuinely. Whereas for women they're less likely to be incompetent to begin with, So women are more likely to just fit the mold of femininity off the bat? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Born Again virgins and hoe phasesI wouldn't settle down with someone of either gender who hasn't gone out and played the field. The world is a lot bigger than it used to be and people have many more opportunities. I am not interested in putting my roots down in a relationship only for my partner to suddenly get FOMO 14 years into our marriage. I would feel more secure with someone who had seen the downsides of casual sex and knew fully that they wanted commitment from then on. That's not to say I might Next someone who has a Hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 11:09 AM |
| 2 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsIn my own personal life I've actually given the unethical life pro tip to start exhibiting infidelity-like behaviors. Heavy emphasis on the advice NOT to actually cheat or form any close relationships with the gender you're attracted to. But definitely start coming home later without warning. Start dressing better. It's a double edged sword. Either their Spidey senses start tingling and they do something about it and start contributing to the relationship, or you've got a head start on breaking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 10:13 AM |
| 1 | What do you women think of a man who at the moment doesn't earn a lot of money but has a promising future?They fucking love it. Women love "potential". They love claiming that they were there with you "when you had nothing" even though if you truly had nothing, they wouldn't have looked at you twice. They want to be an integral part of a promising young man's life story. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 07:56 PM |
| 1 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"Suddenly it's all so clear!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Women Admitting That Their Promiscuous Pasts Prevent Them From Enjoying Sex With Their HusbandsI too wish that we could talk more about dead bedrooms. I am a woman who has a lot of women confide in me and I'm always shocked when I hear a woman proudly tell me that she rejects her husband for sex. Or that it's been a year plus since they had sex. Because she doesn't feel like it, that's why. And if it's not important to her, it should be important to him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 05:56 PM |
| 8 | Average guys just looking to hookup are 'shallow', but women doing it are 'empowered'That was my first thought too. "It's ok to steal something if you really really want it and it's too expensive" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Do men need to shame each other more for dating to improve?That only works if you let someone shaming you change your behavior. I owe nothing to anyone so shaming me won’t do shit. I absolutely agree with this. For some people, "shaming" them might result in them digging in their heels, which might lead to people actually respecting their behavior more because they had the balls to stand behind it, which might lead to that behavior happening more often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:35 PM |
| 9 | Do men need to shame each other more for dating to improve?I agree with you. I think the only time that I've ever seen a woman shamed for having lots of sex with different partners has been when she's doing it with men who she knows are in relationships or when she's complaining about the consequences of it. Women who are living their lives without affecting people who aren't herself or the person she's having sex with, aren't really getting shamed or their behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:33 PM |
| 2 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"I mean I distinctly remember the part of the movie when Hermione rode the ol "Hogwarts Express" if you get my drift 😏 /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:24 PM |
| 1 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"I remember a Planet Tad comic that was like, "New idea in Harry Potter universe: when the sorting hat puts you in Slytherin, they send your ass back home." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:21 PM |
| 2 | James Potter is a perfect example of women preferring "bad boys"And don't we only know this from Snape's POV? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:19 PM |
| 0 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?When I see it, I assume the man is gay but prefers being in a public facing heterosexual relationship and has an agreement of sorts with a woman childhood close friend. If for some reason it's "real", I'm never shocked when the woman is left for someone else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Educated Women’s arguments here against dating the working class make no senseOk so first off, I am not at all arguing with you. I agree with you. But what you're saying is making me think of something else: How many times I've heard people go over their family history with me (I'm a genealogist) and with stars in their eyes they tell me about how their grandparents started out with "nothing", or in particular "she got with him when he had NOTHING and they built it all together". And then you find out that their definition of "nothing" is a guy who is living in the dorm w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Educated Women’s arguments here against dating the working class make no senseI'm interested in how often that happens though. Sure he might be picking up these pink collar women for some fun casual sex, but it sounds like a Hallmark movie that he's meeting these women, dating them, and bringing them home to ask mom if he can propose with the family heirloom ring. Unless of course their job is temporary while they themselves are at university. Men may not be too picky about who they put their dick in, but they absolutely are picky about how they publicly show commitment t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/23 10:11 AM |
| 4 | Went full-on pick-me as an experiment and got a boyfriend within a month.I hate to admit it but at this point in my life, someone putting in that much effort for me without knowing me that well absolutely would make me feel like they were about to pull some GOTCHA and then claim that I owe them something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 10:26 AM |
| -2 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?I do think though that he is a bit more loyal than the average man. The very fact that he could answer that question the way that he did shows to me that he's completely loyal and completely honest and I'm glad you find that kind of communication to be a plus. You and he sound like you have a great relationship and from this internet stranger: I love it! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?I love how nearly every part of that comment is so confidently incorrect. I'd say the vast majority of men would go for it. And I'd say that nearly every man would entertain things in a way that their woman partner would not be ok with in their relationship. And I'd also say that especially after reading this sub and learning about men's dating issues, no, not every man even gets the opportunity to have the relationship that he could cheat on in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 01:56 AM |
| 16 | Would most men cheat on their partners if given the chance?I think you hit on something though when you said especially if they don’t need the validation Because you also said He’s hit on all the time at a couple of his side jobs You trust him because he's not gifting you his untested fidelity. He knows he has options and he chooses you. Just the other day I was at a gathering where a guy on the wider range of my acquaintances said something about how he would NEVER cheat. Later me and my best friend were talking about how he was exactly the type of dud… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/23 01:53 AM |
| 22 | Went full-on pick-me as an experiment and got a boyfriend within a month.While I don't think OPs behavior is necessarily textbook "pick me" behavior, doing something nice for your husband is a lot different than doing something nice for a guy who you're just beginning to date. You're married to your husband, at the end of the OP, she admits that she's not even sure if she actually likes this guy and it'll be a huge mindfuck to him IMO if she decides to cut and run. He will legitimately wonder what happened. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/23 10:24 AM |
| 1 | Can stay at home husband / father relationships lead to happiness in the long term ?It worked for my parents. He was not 100% work from home though. He was a musician. I think that the catch is that your dad was a musician which to me reads as him being sexy, talented, capable, attractive to other women, and made money while being creative. That's very very attractive all in itself. Him being a family man by spending quality time with the kids just added to that. When my brother was younger, my dad had a similar thing where he was in a band and one week out of the month he was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/23 10:48 AM |
| – | CMV: The next logical step for our gynocentric society is to say that a man asking his girlfriend/wife to not fuck other men while in a relationship will be considered "controlling"Men should rest easy though because most women have high morals I would change this to women having lower libidos overall and not having the motivation to seek out multiple sexual encounters with different men. I agree with your overall point and I don't at all mean to argue with you, but I will say that too many times I see people conflate high morals Edit to add: High morals with lack of sexual desire. Just because someone doesn't want to have sex doesn't mean that they are more moral. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/23 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you take men not dating or opting out (even temporarily) personally?No. I think that it's good. There are things that I've personally chosen to opt out of for the betterment of my mental health. I applaud it when people make a decision that's right for them and then stick to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/23 10:42 AM |
| 2 | CMV: neurodivergent/guys on the spectrum should seek partners on the spectrumI have an autistic male friend who was blessed with height over 6' and a good job that required him to be out in the public sphere meeting clients. So he's been meeting women and having slightly above average success in the dating arena despite some awkwardness. But you are SO RIGHT about the women he attracts: hot messes who are adrift in their own sea of instability that see him as their strong, sweet rock. I don't think he's dated one woman who I would describe as "down to Earth." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 10:23 AM |
| 7 | CMV: neurodivergent/guys on the spectrum should seek partners on the spectrumProbably helps that I'm objectively good looking as well I don't know what it is, but there's something quirky with me too. I don't have an official diagnosis other than ADHD and I can handle life so it is what it is. With that said, I have had a glow up in the past decade and holy cow, I've seen the response to my quirks go from "um, uh huh, yeah whatever" to "omg girl you are SO FUNNY and REFRESHING. I love you!!!" Pretty privilege is definitely real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 10:19 AM |
| 5 | CMV: neurodivergent/guys on the spectrum should seek partners on the spectrumI agree with this. A lot of the neurodivergent women I've known fall into the Manic Pixie Dream Girl category. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/23 10:16 AM |
| 8 | The modern dating world has been somewhat ruined by OLD, but it's mostly men's fault.This type of level headed, self aware discourse has no place in this subreddit sir. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Women mostly get “the ick” over perceived shortcomings of masculinityCan someone give me an example of a time when you (a man) has just been holding back tears over something petty because of fear that you'll lose respect? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/23 05:37 PM |
| 13 | What would dating look like if there was no fear of sexual violence?I agree with this statement. A few days ago a guy said in the comment section that if a relationship wasn't headed the way he wanted it to, he just starts Netflix and Chilling with the women without telling them that the relationship isn't going anywhere. And I'm thinking, tell me you've never been stalked or have the fear that you should have of being baby trapped without explicitly telling me this. Letting a non serious dating partner know where you live and giving them the opportunity to up t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 10:45 AM |
| 20 | Why don't women get heat for dating career-oriented men and then complaining about how the man works long hours and is rarely at home?If they come to me to complain, they do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 10:34 AM |
| 2 | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?Is that the only reason they don't care though? Or is it more innate than that. I get the sense that even if sex was easily available to men, they would still use it as the main measuring stick in their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:46 PM |
| 2 | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?I feel like that's the crux of all issues. A lot of men expect everyone center everything about sex. And I don't think that sex is as important to anyone as it is to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?A woman will allow an orbiter around herself that she would never in a million years date or have sex with if there is some kind of benefit to her as well. We're talking about who you will claim in public. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 11:12 AM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I don't mind large age gap relationships as long as they're serious relationships. I'm truly confused when men try to explain to me that they'd rather date younger women than women their own age because women their own age want something serious while young women don't. A young woman who appears to be organically "into" an older guy is likely into him because she wants to fast track to the commitment part with a guy who she believed has already sown his wild oats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 11:08 AM |
| 5 | Are women who get in relationships with men who watch porn or occasionally like insta photos of hot women abusively controlling?Really the only issue that I have with the whole Jonah Hill thing is that he was in his late 30s and saying the stuff that I was saying in my early 20s and late teens. I don't really begrudge him for the point of the conversation since I've had those same conversations, but he's old enough to know that if he's got these self identified insecurities in a relationship, maybe dating a professional surfer isn't the best move. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 11:03 AM |
| 2 | The Jonah Hill texts seem to split people very passionately down ideological lines. What are some other specific examples in news/history/fictional media where a person's reaction serves as a great litmus tests for romantic compatibility?What Rose should have done on Titanic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 01:27 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI've definitely seen this in action. I would advise against it though because then people love to dunk on you when either it doesn't work out or he makes a blunder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 06:27 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI support your dating requirements. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 06:16 PM |
| 3 | If I knew my girlfriend was spending her time on forums trying to logically dissect our relationship based on an ideology, that shit would be such a turn-off. I could see this applying to me too as a guy.Some of those arguments have actually hanged my mind and helped me to become more empathetic to other people's perspective. It's ok in small doses. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 05:25 PM |
| 5 | Your success (or the lack of) dating is not a valid measure of your entire self worth, therefore shouldn’t be treated as such.For what it's worth, I think you sound awesome and I'm proud of you for taking life by the reigns and making it work for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 04:15 PM |
| 8 | Women will never understand a man's disgust about promiscuitySo I'm not sure why this topic gets repeated so much on this sub. Everyone is getting what they want. The men on Reddit who complain about it don't have to wife up High N women and High N women are still getting married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Women will never understand a man's disgust about promiscuityYes I knew that before I got onto this sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 12:35 PM |
| 20 | Women will never understand a man's disgust about promiscuityUntil I got on this sub, it never dawned on me that High N women would be lacking for male suitors. Mainly because I watched what men did rather than what they said, and these High N women were rarely single and plenty of them have been married 10+ years at this point to High N men and have children together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/23 10:35 AM |
| 1 | One of the main reasons guys pay for dates is because it increases their chances of getting laid.Ok that stuff actually makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 08:48 PM |
| 3 | How can women tell if a guy is 'inexperienced' or a virgin if he lies?They're probably equally yoked. Think about it. The man was a virgin lying about having sex with nine different women. I mean at least make it believable! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 05:58 PM |
| 3 | One of the main reasons guys pay for dates is because it increases their chances of getting laid.I don't hate this plan at all but I am interested in what you consider to be her contribution to the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/23 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Who's getting more success and who you'd prefer:I'm a fucking idiot. Yes, I meant A. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Non-monogamy is the perfect solution for people who were raised from broken homes and dysfunctional families.I don't disagree with you, I'd just argue that more people come from dysfunctional families than you'd think. For every person who grew up with divorced parents, you've got someone who grew up with married parents who believe that bad behavior just has to be tolerated and that if you end a marriage because of your spouses intolerable bad behavior, you're the bad guy for ending it. And also let's be real, people have been practicing non monogamy with and without their spouses knowledge or consent… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Who's getting more success and who you'd prefer:B A everytime. I am attracted to people who put effort into themselves. I remember awhile back reading something about how some normie met Oprah and how Oprah was so "down to earth" because she allegedly met with them without being fixed up and without make up. And I thought to myself that for me, being fixed up and wearing make up has more to do with respecting other people and wanting to be presentable for them than for me. To me that little anecdote comes across more as "lol I'm Oprah, IDGAF … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 12:27 PM |
| 3 | The problem with unrestrained sexuality is that is unsustainable and unhealthy both individually and collectively.Do you have an example of what that might look like? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/23 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Being a passport bro isnt going to fix you're problemsI actually have respect for them in that case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/23 11:14 PM |
| 4 | Being a passport bro isnt going to fix you're problemsthey have a real man from their culture they love on the side who is OKAY WITH THE ARRANGEMENT and laughing at you while you pay their bills. This makes me LOL and I definitely believe it happens often. The Greencard Guys in here who love to talk about going overseas for a "traditional woman" need to think about how "traditional" these women are in reality. They're willing to date outside of their ethnicity and culture and very likely move an entire continent away. Sounds pretty modern to me. An… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/23 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Why hate on women who do OF?Ok I see the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Why hate on women who do OF?I mean I'd definitely say that you have an aptitude for whatever it is that you've chosen for a career over something else like being a plumber. Your brain finds the type of work you do enjoyable over another line of work at the very least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 02:00 AM |
| 6 | Why do you think there is so much anger towards promiscuous women?Because those are the only women that men really want. Until I found this sub, I had no concept that promiscuous women wouldn't find a husband or wouldn't have kids, they were the women who men seemed to be lining up to date. They were the women who rarely found themselves single. The men who express disgust or anger towards women and their high body counts, are just attracted to them and concerned that they will be judged negatively against those other guys. That's it. High N men who understand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Just because a woman leaves a relationship does not mean she ended it.I can agree with this. I think men often see child rearing as this mysterious activity that they can't seem to grasp. A lot of men seem to have their relationship with their kids through their mother. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | Just because a woman leaves a relationship does not mean she ended it.Just the other day I was reading some ask Reddit thread for old people, asking what made them divorce and then end up remarrying. And whoo boy. So many of the responses made me think, "so your first spouses Version of this story is that you cheated and then left for someone 'better'". And yes, unfortunately the lions share of who was making these white washed cheater statements were women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 12:17 AM |
| 7 | Just because a woman leaves a relationship does not mean she ended it.I know that for a man, but not for a woman, divorce usually means loss of a family. I've spent a lot of time perusing the different marital problem subreddits and I've noticed something very interesting in the ways that the different genders discuss divorce when children are involved. Women might worry about their children's relationship with their father, but they rarely worry about their own relationship with their children. Men "leave their families", women merely divorce their husbands. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Most men are not loyal, they just have no optionsYour comment reminds me of a story from the Adultery sub where a man found out that he had a reputation for being extremely faithful in his marriage because he had turned down sexual opportunities while on business trips and conferences. Nope. Turns out he just had too much on his plate with the affairs that he had already established. But it made him chuckle to think that people had seen one or two instances of him refusing to shit where he ate and determined that he was this highly moral man. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Most men are not loyal, they just have no optionsI see it as realistic expectations. I can't control anyone's behavior but my own. I will admit that infidelity would cause me to take major temp check on the relationship. But you'll never hear me say "this relationship was perfect and then he cheated". If the relationship was perfect otherwise, infidelity would be so minor I wouldn't even consider it to be anything more than a toddlers tantrum or a teenager back talking. For me thinking that I can use "the power of positive thinking" to keep pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Has Ghosting Become An Acceptable Way to End Relationships?If you can even BE "ghosted", then you didn't have much of a relationship to begin with. I don't see the problem with ghosting. The person doesn't want to be with you and they're communicating it. Unless you need to coordinate getting your stuff, they don't owe you any more conversation than that. Get the hint. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/23 03:49 PM |
| – | Question about how body count and status works.Probably for her it feels amazing. The same way it feels for him to be a rotation guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 03:35 PM |
| – | Question about how body count and status works.This may sound weird, but I’d rather be with a guy who has lots of experience than none. I agree with this because in this day and age, with the opportunities that were given and the expectations that society puts on us, FOMO is a real thing. I want my partner to know that they want ME because they've had other experiences. I don't want to be with someone who just thinks they can't get better and so they latch on to me only to monkey branch to someone "better" later. And yes, men monkey branch t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Most men are not loyal, they just have no optionsI've helped people through heart break. I know what having your world turned on its head and being smashed is like. I know the way people react when the man who would never cheat ends up doing the unthinkable. No thank you. You can call it whatever you'd like, but I'm not the one who will be in their position and I like that I've come to this conclusion about life. You can go through your existence with that sword hanging over your head, not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Women don’t cheat because they’re ‘emotionally unsatisfied’Unfortunately this is a hard truth. Any man who swears up and down that he would "never cheat" is either insulting my intelligence by lying to me, promising me that no other woman would ever dare find him attractive enough to give him an opportunity (and that's not reassuring at all), or is totally fine snatching the rug out from under me by Just Leaving when he's faced with sexual temptation. It's just up to you to decide if you're okay with this or not. I wanted kids. So I determined that I ju… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/23 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Describe the "modern man"How are men the head of the household in the Balkans? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/23 11:21 PM |
| 1 | N-count debate solved. Do you like used cars?Yes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 05:02 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostTake a chill pill along with your red pill. I'm complimenting you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:51 PM |
| 1 | The whole “wOmEn dOn’T oWe yOu sEx” narrative is bullshit, the vast majority of men do not think this at all. Most men just rightfully expect to be able to get women at or below their level of attractiveness.I didn't want to look like I was circle jerking, but you definitely don't sound like a bad thing to me. My husband is 5'7". And shorter than me. And a High N man. You absolutely sound like a catch. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:50 PM |
| 1 | The whole “wOmEn dOn’T oWe yOu sEx” narrative is bullshit, the vast majority of men do not think this at all. Most men just rightfully expect to be able to get women at or below their level of attractiveness.A Lambo, whether it's literally or figuratively, damn sure won't last you til death. Unless it's an unexpected early death. When he says it'll "hold him for awhile", he's meaning until the car dies. Which is the same thing you're talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 04:49 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostNot sexually, they had to play the romantic suitor to bag an ok chick meanwhile the other guys are getting both raw sexual interest and a shitload of relationship interest. Keep in mind that for many in this sub they don't get a whiff of either. And the fact that you can even say You’re conflating RMV and SMV, something that’s commonly by the ignorant here lol Shows that you're more on the "Chad" end of the spectrum than most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 10:16 AM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostWell then they are lumped into what I'm saying. They had women who were attracted to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/23 01:06 AM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostDid they get any sex or relationships at all? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/23 06:12 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostWomen don't care about sports as much as men do, but they do like classically masculine men. Men who have a natural interest in sports tend to be more masculine. It's a side effect, not a primary effect. You're right, women rarely want to sit around talking about sports. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/23 07:29 PM |
| 11 | Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even leftThen just consider that if somehow her friend is actually able to "cock block" you and she just went with it, then you've just saved yourself the frustration of dating a woman who lets her friends take the reigns. Consider her passive "no" as your luck that she's no longer wasting your time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostDo you have dude friends who you can hang out with? Where is your "third place" and how often do you visit it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 10:20 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostI don't completely disagree with you, except for this one point: it don't even need to be better than the actual shining thing it only need to be different. No, women want it to be better. Maybe to a man's viewpoint it isn't better, but if it makes her feel more special then it's better. And that's what it's all about. The more special you can make a woman feel without her having sex with you, the more she will like you. That doesn't mean she doesn't have sexual desire for you, it means that the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 05:29 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostI mean who knows what the endgame is, but as an outsider I'm seeing these women who appear to have genuine interest in the men I'm talking about. Could she end up cheating on him? Sure. Could he end up cheating on her? Yes to that too. If these women are just looking to somehow put on an Oscar worthy act of being all about this guy only to introduce themselves to the guy that they REALLY like then why are they increasing their N count pointlessly when they could just skip over him and introduce … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 05:16 PM |
| 5 | What are guys supposed to do to improve their situation realistically?That is a great thread and I appreciate you linking it. The only issue I can see with it is that the OP was a divorced man who already had children from his previous marriage. That already puts him on a higher playing field than plenty of the users in this sub unfortunately. There is also a very major difference between Passport Bros and Greencard Guys. The OP you linked was a Passport Bro. He already had enough sexual success to have at least one daughter and to have been married to an American… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 05:12 PM |
| 1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostThen I don't know what it is. Because I'm trying to figure out what the common denominator for guys who are the exception to the RP rule, yet still are successful with women and I'm coming up with them being interested in sports. You seem to think that this is "bizarre". So what would you counter my claim with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:59 PM |
| 0 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostI'm telling you what I see with my own eyes when I see guys who aren't rich and aren't tall but are still attracting women. I stand behind my take. I'd be very interested to see or meet these "geeks" who are interested in sports. They certainly haven't crossed my path. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:45 PM |
| 5 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostBut it's not just people who play the sports. The guys who can sit there and discuss sports and are included in the banter and ability to get attractive women to date them. Even if they're working class/teens from working class families and under six feet tall. So it's not their money that gets the girls. It's not their looks. It's their interest in traditionally guy focused interests and their ability to banter along with other men that makes women think they are attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:43 PM |
| -1 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostIt might be a take that makes you feel uncomfortable, or make you feel excluded, but that is my advice to men: start giving a shit about sports. Either get in a group and play them, or just learn stuff about it so you can talk to other men. Without exception, every single man that I've known who has been able to easily attract above average women whole lacking in areas of money or height has been able to banter about sports. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:29 PM |
| 4 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostWhat happens to guys who don’t give a shit about sports? They're not as successful with women it seems. Being masculine seems to give you the ability to cast a much wider net. Seesh talk about women upholding toxic masculinity. I mean it just is what it is. Women get more opportunities to find men they want to be with when they act more stereotypically feminine in the aesthetic they're looking for. What about sports is toxic masculinity? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:27 PM |
| 2 | Do men like plus size women?Yeah unfortunately you're correct. I'm thinking if I'm a woman dating plus size women and getting this treatment from my peers, what must men be dealing with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:21 PM |
| 2 | 63% of men in their 20s are single compared to 34% of women, which is the age cohort when young women care about looks the mostThe popular claim 'looks will only get your foot in the door' makes it sound like you only need to be 'passably attractive' and personality, humor, wit and charisma will take it to the next level, but no one actually asks these women what counts as 'passable' when it comes to getting your foot in the door, its a totally different story. This is actually true though. I've spent more than my fair share of time around younger family members (teens and pre teens) and I've seen plenty of working clas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Already disregarded. Have a great day! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:46 PM |
| 9 | Do men like plus size women?I am a woman who expressly likes, seeks out, and has been publicly committed to plus size women because that is who I am the most attracted to....and I can't tell you the amount of people who have taken me aside privately to ask me if I am just putting on an act because I can't get anyone better or to encourage me that I can in fact do better. And it's like...I know who I am and I know who I like. And I'm getting exactly who I want. So mind your own business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:28 PM |
| 1 | Do you think there's anything wrong with men to filtering out promiscuous women for serious relationships? If so, why?Yes, it's the Hallmark of less desirable men. More desirable men have their own High N counts and just see it as something that "everyone does". Because nearly everyone who can, does. Women are turned off by men who say those things because he's just outting himself as a man who would have gotten a Higher N if he could. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 02:15 PM |
| 8 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversThere's really not any such thing as having moves that are "good in bed". It's all about getting into a girl's head and having her think about you all of the time. And it usually leads to a relationship or her at least wanting a relationship with you. It's ok to be turned off by a girl being loud and proud about her love of casual sex. But stop with this nonsense of how casual sex is better than relationship sex. The worst "comparison" that you can be in is if you're dating a girl right after he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 12:51 AM |
| 4 | CMV: It's perfectly valid for men to want a low N woman BECAUSE he's insecure about his sexual performance compared to all of her other loversI feel you on this. If I was with a partner who believed that sex was just this holiest of holies, then I better be their only partner and that's that. Now I don't feel this way at all. But I damn sure wouldn't want to be the next person that a girl dated after she got dumped by her first when she thinks that sex is this covert contract. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/23 12:47 AM |
| – | If women leaving jobless men is okay because no money, men leaving sick wives is ok because no sex. Either both are ok, or neither are okIf my spouse was getting sick based on their own choices and then not following medical advice on how to fix or maintain the problem, I very well might leave them. If they became jobless and weren't looking for a job that they were actually qualified for, I might leave them. And I'm sure my husband would do the same for me. As in, leave me if I started fucking up and not making a good faith effort at fixing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/23 02:02 AM |
| 1 | In a Growing Share of U.S. Marriages, Husbands and Wives Earn About the SameI've heard these same stats. And I'm NGL, I want to know where they get these numbers from. Maybe from a purely "married" vs "single and actively looking but don't have anyone in mind" standpoint. But two unmarried but dating people who have been dating for six months vs a married couple 17 years in? Yeah no. The dating couple is likely having more and better sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 11:59 PM |
| – | CMV: The problems expressed here are middle class, primarily white people’s made up issues. Upper class and lower class don’t have issues like what you’re describing.That’s why I always giggle at the idea of high school sweethearts. You both lived in the same country, in the same state, in the same county, in the same town, in the same zip code, attended the same school and THAT’S where you met the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE? Same. It's very much "tell me you have never challenged yourself or grown much without telling me you've never challenged yourself or grown much". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 11:42 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men's stubborn belief that "all women are the same" is holding them back from finding success.Been obnoxious. Or entitled. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 10:54 AM |
| 12 | CMV: Men's stubborn belief that "all women are the same" is holding them back from finding success.I felt this comment. As I've gotten older, I've really looked back at some of my relationships where I was "totally done wrong" and seen them through the new eyes that I contributed to a lot of a toxicity in the relationships. I will say that toxic relationships in my past are the minority, and the vast majority of them are good and healthy relationships, but yeah, I wasn't some innocent little flower and when I really think about it, yeah I definitely contributed to the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Q4W : Are you attracted to him because of his confidence, or is it that he happens to be confident because he’s good lookingI've seen some guys who are objectively not good looking who have confidence. And it manifests in a good sense of humor, and ability to shrug off failure, and just an enjoyable person to be around. I've met men who are objectively attractive who have the thinnest skin imaginable and are two seconds away from being in a rage if they even think they're about to "lose". The confidence is definitely key. Someone who respects themselves and respects others boundaries (isn't walking all over others an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/23 11:55 AM |
| 11 | All pills - Is (seriously) dating a single parent off the table for you?This is how I feel too. The only people that I would date at this point would have to be on the same level as me. Aka have kids. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/23 10:37 AM |
| 6 | Women love one night stands as much as men doYeah the babytrap one was a weird example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Women love one night stands as much as men doWhat I love about the statement is that he's trying to say that they aren't being "used" because they love them as much as men....but then finished it off with admitting that they are being used. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 06:41 PM |
| 8 | Women love one night stands as much as men doTrust and believe that simply by being married, people's view of you has improved. It's like their brain just relaxes and says "oh ok yes he is normal and willing to go through the motions of social norms." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 06:39 PM |
| 2 | I’m starting to think Most men who blame their looks are usually nowhere near as ugly as they think.They would do anything but...[insert X very doable behavior that could bring about improved results]. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/23 03:45 PM |
| 4 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadWell yeah, but I've also seen guys who were of normal height who ended up with the same type of woman. Or women who came across as unattractive for any other reason too. My husband is a High N man who would be considered "short" and is an inch shorter than me. Until I found this sub I was never under the impression that short men lacked attractive dating partners because of my lived experience of seeing them partnered to women they genuinely seemed attracted to with mutual feelings. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 11:25 AM |
| 2 | Love doesn't existOk well upvoted for the gain of a super power. I hope you feel better about this soon. That really casts a shade on your life when you can't get over someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Love doesn't existHave you dated other people? Are you younger than 25? Has it been longer than two years since you last had any contact with her? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Love doesn't existGet some time away from her and the feeling will fade. You don't love her. You are feeling the withdrawals from those feel good hormones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 01:44 AM |
| 2 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadOh I know exactly what they're talking about. Reminds me of this: https://images.app.goo.gl/KJbgpSgDAQjTNjb7A | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/23 12:18 AM |
| 1 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?I think you pose a good question about fuck zone versus friend zone. Personally I did see one girl go from being fuck zoned to being a girlfriend. And she thought it was very much a "Aha in your face!" moment for me because I had warned her that she would likely not be his girlfriend. But it turned into a long term thing where he abused her until she was at her wits end and left him six years later after wasting a good chunk of her life. I don't think I've ever seen a woman go from being fuck zo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 11:50 PM |
| 2 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadThat was another angle I was thinking. Also that smaller breasts are able to look perkier easier. So "I like smaller breasts" is very much "I like young, slender women" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 08:05 PM |
| 4 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadSome of this is interesting to me as a woman. Because I feel like in real time I'm seeing men find a way to humble brag about what we already know to be true: "I like smaller breasts" is "I like skinny girls". "I don't like make up" is "I like women who are naturally attractive with clear skin" But really it's the same for the women: "I like chubby guys" is "I like big strong guys who are also teddy bears" "I like crooked noses" is "I like rugged guys with masculine features" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 05:51 PM |
| 5 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadNot who you're asking, but short guys have a vibe like they can handle their shit. Until I came onto this sub I did not know that short men were disliked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 05:46 PM |
| 2 | WHAT IS SOMETHING THE OPPOSITE SEX USUALLY HATES ABOUT THEIR BODIES THAT YOU ACTUALLY LOVE? Discussion ThreadWhat is a "cute tummy" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?I don't think you see too many situations like Leonard and Penny had in real life. In real life it would be more like she had a boyfriend but was basically in a dead relationship and then had chemistry with Leonard and slowly monkey branched over to him | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 03:30 PM |
| 0 | Love doesn't existYeah I hate to say it but I kind of agree with this. We don't "love" anyone, we enjoy the way that they make us feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 03:09 PM |
| – | A lot of men are jealous of womenIf on a first date, a girl offers to split and you're either the guy, or you're the girl who asked her on a date, go ahead and be shocked if there is a second date. I'd say nine times out of ten, it's a bad sign. Her paying for the entire date is a better sign than her offering to split. And this only applies to first dates. Once you get in an established relationship with someone or at least an established dating pattern, switching off who pays becomes less and less crucial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 03:02 PM |
| – | A lot of men are jealous of womenAnd I would 100% split the bill if I didn't know a man well and wasn't sure I would go on a second date with him. This is how I was too. To the point that if I ask to split the bill with a guy, I'm politely telling him there won't be a second date. And if a woman split the bill with me, she usually lost my phone number afterwards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?The latest I'd push an engagement back as a woman who wanted biological children was 27. Because you still have to plan a wedding and then start trying for children which could easily have you starting for pregnancy at 30. And you want the wiggle room Incase the journey isn't the smooth path that you hoped it would be. I don't even know what advice I'd give for a woman who was 35 and completely single. Maybe just go the sperm donor/IVF route and call it a day. But I'd seriously question her judg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 12:50 PM |
| 3 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?. You'd be surprised how fast standards start to drop when a woman is still single and childless my mid 30's. I don't necessarily disagree with anything you've said, but I would change the age range. The "desperate" women are more in the 27-30 age range. If you're meeting a woman who has made it to 35 give or take a year, and she is unmarried, no children, and completely unattached commitment wise- she's likely childfree and likes her life that way. This might be unpopular, but "mid 30s" is too … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 01:21 AM |
| 5 | Who stands more of a chance - women who've been 'fuck-zoned' or men who've been 'friend-zoned'?such as what happened in The Big Bang Theory. Everyone thought they were great for each other though and everyone could feel the energy leading up to it. I don't see that as a true friend zone as much as I see it just being two people from different social spheres testing the waters of their different peer groups to see if the relationship could be accepted. They had chemistry from the get go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/23 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Genderflip - if men chose "bodice rippers", what would they choose?Yep. Source: Been that girl unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 07:54 PM |
| 7 | Genderflip - if men chose "bodice rippers", what would they choose?Women: Ultra dominant broken bad boy millionaire/werewolf/vampire who is a threat to everyone and chooses to be with the normal woman because reasons. You forget that he also loves and cherishes her above all else and she's the only one who is able to truly speak to his wounded soul because of how deeply and innately ✨special✨ she is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/23 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Men's obsession with the sexual purity and virginity of women harms young menI think that's just your perspective. I'd rather be compared to a lot of people than just one or two. Those one or two people could be really special to you in ways I'll never measure up. Those 20+ people ultimately just become background noise. If I'm worried about being compared, it's virgin or nothing at all. Which isn't a concern for me, but a lesser number of sexual partners would make the comparison harder for me to take, not easier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/23 10:50 AM |
| 6 | Most women don't need a "hoe phase" for the 80/20 argument to holdJust FYI you might be a little too sane for this sub, just sayin' | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you rather date a woman that has had a long term relationship with lots of sex or a woman who has had a handful of short term relationships with not much sex?This is exactly how I feel as a woman. The only way If want to be a guys first is if he's also my first. After that, I want a nice buffer of partners. I want to be at least the fourth woman he's been with. I want to know that this person actually has had those options and isn't just clinging to me like the nearest available life raft. And if we're talking about being concerned about comparison, I'd rather be compared against a handful of other people than be compared to one person who depending … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men?No. They also shouldn't try to force themselves to be friends with people who they don't naturally click with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 03:17 PM |
| 0 | ICK Discussion ThreadI let him explain himself. I won't get into what actually happened, but he was definitely in the wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 10:10 AM |
| 1 | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Thank you. I really tried to make a good faith argument. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Being an orbiter does provide some benefitsI agree with this. I've definitely acted as a wing man to an orbiter in order to have other women think "what does she see in him that I don't? Better check it out before it's too late!" I've even had men in here argue with me that it wasn't men who chose the alpha male, it was whoever the man who could bring the women around was. If a woman is even letting you orbit, that's definitely pre selection in action. It won't work/won't be satisfying for everyone, but I can definitely think of worse ad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 09:18 PM |
| 6 | ICK Discussion ThreadFinding out he had a dishonorable discharge from the military. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Yeah. And I just explained how it's better for men too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 08:46 PM |
| 8 | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?I'm to the point where I think that divorce actually is better. Especially if your marriage gets to the point where divorce is even an option. It's rare that you'll pay alimony. Child support would last....what, 19 years max from the point of divorce. And even then, in those years you get raises and such so it's less of your check as time goes on. And then boom, you're done. You can date who you want, you can be alone if you want. Staying married is the killer. Staying married means you're payin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/05/23 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Why married women are you on this sub?I like knowing the social dynamics that are going on in modern dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/23 11:34 AM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?I completely agree with this. Earlier someone was arguing with me that men often DID INDEED have platonic friendships with women. Even going as far as to say that men would have R4Rs for women friends that wouldn't turn sexual. I went easy on them, but I figure they're either young, naive, or ugly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/23 01:07 AM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?What I just commented to you is the same message that I started out with. A man posting an R4R claiming that he wants a woman friend very likely wants sex. A man and a woman who meet organically and become friends through their shared interests can truly be platonic friends. This was the same message from the comment you initially responded to. So don't act like we're suddenly meeting in the middle. This has always been my argument. Why you chose to jump in and argue with me over nothing, only t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 03:16 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?What I just commented to you is the same message that I started out with. A man posting an R4R claiming that he wants a woman friend very likely wants sex. A man and a woman who meet organically and become friends through their shared interests can truly be platonic friends. This was the same message from the comment you initially responded to. So don't act like we're suddenly meeting in the middle. This has always been my argument. Why you chose to jump in and argue with me over nothing, only t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 03:16 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?If a man meets a woman online because they're into the same hobbies yeah, I absolutely believe that men and women can platonically be friends. Meeting because of the hobbies is what made that meeting "organic". Posting essentially an R4R does not fall into that category. Sure, maybe there are a scant handful of men who feel this way. But never ever be shocked when a guy who blindly claims that he wants a "friend" wants sex along with that "friendship". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 03:03 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?Ok you're right, most men going online claiming they want a "friend" want that friendship to include sex 🙄 I don't know that I'd use the phrase "hivemind", but I will say that there are certain topics that you can safely bet your life savings on in regards to the genders and come out winning. It's also not logical: sometimes, you do find a woman you want to be friends with. People just have these moments. Is the same as Men absolutely can have platonic friendships with women. Those friendships u… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:38 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?I think that it's more that people like to be in relationships that society "celebrates." It's a lot easier to feel as though people are supportive of your heterosexual relationship than your homosexual relationship. Now that bi man might find himself seeking out MLM sex behind his wife's back more than a bi woman is seeking out WLW sex behind her husband's back because he "prefers" dick, but the social facing relationship itself is easier 95% of the time when it's heterosexual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:34 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?People fall in love in very undeveloped cultures, as well. I'd say there are probably higher instances of people falling in love and staying in love in these "undeveloped" cultures: both genders need each other and there is plenty trauma coming from outside circumstances that they can form a nice emeshed trauma bond. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:29 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?It's taken me a few times, but at this point I feel the same way. There have been a few times now when I've thought that I had this grey guy friend....and then it turns out he was just turning on the charm in hopes that it led to sex. Lol nope sorry. Most frustrating when some of these guys never knew me at a time when I wasn't married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:24 PM |
| – | Thought Experiment and Question: how much of "enforced monogamy" is actually just "enforced heterosexuality"? How many relationships would exist if genuine romance was the only thing to create them?I think any man blindly asking for a "friend" wants sexual benefits from the relationship. Men absolutely can have platonic friendships with women. Those friendships usually happen organically though, not because someone cast a wide net on the www. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 02:21 PM |
| – | All humans (to variable degrees) value something that is more scarce. And all humans say that they value authenticity. Which is the way in the context of dating?If you get rejected for being you, why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t like your true authentic self? I agree with this. To add to it, I always tell young people that while being outright rejected hurts, it's the second best thing that can happen to you in a dating situation. The first being that y'all get together and mesh and everything is great. It is several magnitudes worse to be strung along by someone who doesn't like you, yet chooses to breadcrumb you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/05/23 12:45 PM |
| – | Why is the question, "What do you bring to the table?" so offensive to some?Because it's not a question you're supposed to ask out loud. It's supposed to be a question that you pose and then you watch the other person's actions to see what they bring to the table. As for bringing loyalty to the table? Nobody brings loyalty to the table. It's earned. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 06:52 PM |
| 0 | AWALT isn't real, but it's still a useful idea for datingYes. So is AMALT. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 03:36 PM |
| 2 | CMV : For a woman to want to commit most of her mortal life to a man and grant him exclusive access, he SHOULD be pretty impressive, not just a guy who existsProud of your dad. Proud of you too for what it's worth from an Internet stranger! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 11:01 AM |
| 1 | CMV : For a woman to want to commit most of her mortal life to a man and grant him exclusive access, he SHOULD be pretty impressive, not just a guy who existsThats very commendable. It's also rare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 12:25 PM |
| 3 | CMV : For a woman to want to commit most of her mortal life to a man and grant him exclusive access, he SHOULD be pretty impressive, not just a guy who existsFirst off, I am not at all arguing with you. I agree with you that what you're saying is good, and I even heard it myself from my men family members. But it makes me think two different things. How many men encouraged their sons to pick up "women's work" so that they could be a help around the house? How many encouraged them to help nurture their younger siblings so that they could possibly be better parents? And on the other hand: How many father's encouraged their daughters to not be reliant o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 01:26 AM |
| 13 | Do you care about morals when choosing a partner?kinda liked the idea of him having a soft spot for me. turns out, he was abusive. Yep. I've experienced the same thing. The soft spot is only there to lure you in and isn't sustainable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:26 PM |
| – | Iv come to a realization when looking though the gay sites for gay male perspective.So ya I speak to very small probabilities, but that's what healthy relationships are today, minorities. I can attest to that. Recently I've been working in a DCF facility in order to help them tweak their curriculum. Because of this, I am having to deal with lots and lots of families. These families are not court mandated to be where I am observing, it's just a facility that takes grant funds from DCF. Ok, on to something I'm noticing on the side: Divorced parents are heads and shoulders above m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 04:05 PM |
| – | Iv come to a realization when looking though the gay sites for gay male perspective.There are certain age milestones that the two of you should be on the same side of together for there to really be any real romantic relationship. As a 30 year old, the youngest I'd date someone is 25. But there are definitely exceptions. If I was 30 and in a PHD program with a gifted 20 year old and neither of us drank alcohol, then that could be a maybe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 03:54 PM |
| – | Iv come to a realization when looking though the gay sites for gay male perspective.And surely you're going to have pretty strong questions on these guys, as to why they've never had a girlfriend or why they've never had a relationship longer than X amount of time. In my very very early 20s I started dating a man over a decade older than me. The women in my family were absolutely delighted. They were under the impression it showed that I was mature and that I was seeking out men who were passed the stage where they needed to sow their wild oats. It was the men in my family who … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 03:52 PM |
| – | Iv come to a realization when looking though the gay sites for gay male perspective.And ready to have a family. Yep. This right here. For the women who are attracted to older men, it's often because they desire to fast forward through the bullshit and find someone ready for commitment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Girls and guys don't have much difference other than being pressured by gender roles and norms.I get how it's annoying when they cry, but how is it entitled? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 02:54 PM |
| 1 | CMV : if you offered this - Stability, kindness, consistency, no drama, aka a steady healthy calm relationship that “ends” your story, most would say noI completely agree with you. Let me also tell you that my face is melting with the excitement and realization that THE WilliamWyattD is responding to my comment!!! 😱😳🫡🤡🌝😁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 02:26 PM |
| 5 | CMV : if you offered this - Stability, kindness, consistency, no drama, aka a steady healthy calm relationship that “ends” your story, most would say noI can agree with this. I am an older Millennial who has often hypothesized that relationships have drastically changed with the advent of immediate direct messaging. No more having to call your crush and speak to their parents or older siblings on the phone while they come to the phone. No more waiting days or even weeks to get an email back from the person you're dating. No, everything is instant access. They're able to dissapoint you faster. There isn't the same amount of time for you to build… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/23 11:13 AM |
| 3 | CMV :Men wouldnt behave much different than women under the same dating conditions. Most behaviors are determined by one's optionsI hate to say it but that's exactly what I thought. When I was younger and my mom was two years divorced, she listened to a lot of Celine Dion. And I remember thinking to myself....who is this music for? It's for grown ass women who are falling in love again. My mom was dating someone who she was falling hard for. And she was like "this is how I feel, this is music for women in love!" And I'm like....ok so this is for divorced women? Or women in affairs. Because women aren't falling passionately… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 11:26 PM |
| 0 | CMV :Men wouldnt behave much different than women under the same dating conditions. Most behaviors are determined by one's optionsAs a woman....when it comes to women, noticing that a man is attractive and actively sexually fantasizing about him are two different things. Especially if she's willing to be open with another person about doing that. I'd say in a monogamous relationship that in itself is skirting the line of cheating. The part about sharing that she does it with another person. I'm going to say that the vast majority of truly content women in monogamous relationships do not do that (sexually fantasizing about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Is aiming at 50/50 ever going to be fair to women?What if, indeed, both the average man cannot be reasonably socialized to do this; and the average woman would not be attracted to a guy who could? I agree with this. Women don't want their husbands to be their house work besties. More spouses should be expressing as much gratitude as they do frustration. And if they can't, they need to recognize this and communicate it. And if it can't be fixed, they need to either accept it or leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 03:25 PM |
| 2 | CMV :Men wouldnt behave much different than women under the same dating conditions. Most behaviors are determined by one's optionsAre these women fantasizing about Brad Pitt or are they fantasizing about co worker Steve? Sure women might find a celebrity they will never meet attractive, but if they're openly admitting to you that they're finding real life actual men attractive then I think that they have a different definition of "happy in their relationship". The only time that I've fantasized about another real life person was when I could tell they were into me first and I was realizing that the relationship that I was … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 03:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV :Men wouldnt behave much different than women under the same dating conditions. Most behaviors are determined by one's optionsI've often wondered where these studies come from that talk about mid 30s women who get their sex drive back. What's the cause of this sex drive re emerging? If you're in a dead bedroom by that point, you're in a dead bedroom. Are these women divorcing? Having affairs? Who is reaping the benefits of these sex drives? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Taylor Siwft's "You Belong with me" is simply complaints men have about women but since it is gender flipped it is respected and celebrated instead of mockedI remember everyone loving that song and me just cringing so hard with it. The dude cheated on you, left you, was with her til she left him, and then he came back to Old Faithful as a rebound. It's such a self own. Terrible song. Not empowering. Hate it and it turned me off of Paramore for awhile. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Would you prefer to be a man instead of a woman?You definitely have the best of both worlds!! You sound like you rock! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you prefer to be a man instead of a woman?I love being a woman. At this point in my life I am incredibly feminine and I love being a mom and being around kids in general. I wouldn't have the same opportunities or have the same support as a man. And I loved being pregnant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 02:46 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about the increasing stigma over SMALL age gaps? How is it going to affect the dating market for young people?When I was on the market dating women, there were certain milestones that we had to be on the same side of together. The ages 18, 21, 25, and 30 have been important ages that we have had to be "on the same side of" in a romantic pairing or it just feels weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 02:27 PM |
| 6 | Which of these scenaris is the "friend zone"?Or start talking to her about "the amazing new girl I met" and ask her for advice on taking things to the next level because you're such good friends. I've seen some success with that getting her to jolt out of friend zone complacency if she was willing to jolt out of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/23 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Women you have 5 points to create your ideal man. What are you picking,is amazing with his hands. Can build almost anything, knows how to fix things such as cars wants kids Top tier humour..makes you belly laugh every day Create your own but this costs you 2 points instead of 1 My choice would be greatly values family. All family. As in his family of origin and the family we create. Those are the only things I care about in a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Treat her like an employee . . . not a slaveOk that all makes sense. Thank you for your thorough good faith answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 02:13 PM |
| 11 | Treat her like an employee . . . not a slaveCan you give me some examples of what men should be doing to lead in the relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 01:37 PM |
| 1 | Sex=currency mindset leads directly to cheatingIt's not the "betrayal" that hurts, it's the truth that you knew all the time but couldn't admit to yourself, that you had no power over them to begin with. I agree with this sentiment. I'm pretty open with the fact that one of the bedrocks of my belief system is that people desire variety in their sexual life (aka cheat), men in particular. It's something that I've just accepted and moved on with my life. But so many times people will tell me that they feel sorry for me. What? Why? Because I've… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 10:41 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: I think your rating scale miscalibrated when talking about "average women". Which of these women is average to you?As much as men like to say that they go 100% off of looks, I think that attitude has a lot to do with it too. Girl A already is above attractive at least to me. Girl B as a flat picture doesn't look that great, but add her to a LARP group, give her the same interests as a guy in that group, and have her single him out for positive attention, and I bet she becomes a lot more attractive. Girl C just looks middle aged to me. Not sure her actual age. But if she's actually middle aged, rewind her age… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/23 10:31 AM |
| – | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsI appreciate you talking to me about this in good faith. You're totally good. And it's good that people are having these conversations at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 01:23 PM |
| – | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsThe women who talk to me absolutely haven't. Hence why I tell them to address it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 12:00 PM |
| – | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsI absolutely agree with you that it can happen. But you can only control yourself. Don't legitimize your spouse affair because you're choosing to cause a dead bedroom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsI can agree with this. The only women I've ever met who want to argue with me that their libido is as high as any man's are women who are either happily childfree and single and enjoying casual sex, women who are cheating on their husbands, or one single formerly married woman who now realizes that her former marriage was chock full of emotional abuse. Oh, and the women who proudly tell me that they love having sex with their husbands....maybe once every other month! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 10:42 AM |
| 2 | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsYeah like I said in my comment: address it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/23 10:39 AM |
| 8 | Genuine question, do men love women as much as women love them?A man who also believes in ideals like honor and takes his responsibilities to his parents and siblings seriously. I agree that this is a good quality. The amount of mainly women who I've seen who believe that it's a GOOD thing that they need to tear their spouse from their family of origin just boggles my mind. And then they get the shocker of all shocks when they find out that he's an absolute dud that holds nothing sacred 🙄 The way that especially a man treats his family of origin is truly th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Women want more sex while in relationships and men want more sex when not in relationshipsAs a woman who listens when other women speak, I hear the same exact thing. And I'm pretty vocal about my thoughts that if you hate sex with your husband and find no value in it, keep that same energy when he has sex with someone else. You promised fidelity, not celibacy. And if there's something that's making you not want to have sex: address it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 10:35 PM |
| 6 | Not only is jealousy a normal healthy part of dating; but mate-guarding is seen as attractiveDidn't care if another person was hitting on you or, I'd rather have this all day every day. I've dealt with the other and it was exhausting and not at all flattering. Men think that it's flattering when they do it, because they want their women to do it. But for me, do not "mate guard" me. I will consider you on a slippery slope towards abuse and I will leave as quickly as I safely can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/23 10:15 AM |
| 27 | Traditional men were expected to fight and often die for their wives and communities. Constant War and danger was why your great grand father received respect and submission from women at large. Men ignore this and pretend like they have a harder time than the men who came before them.And to add to this: I've seen the pics, women from the days of yore were NOT more feminine or more thin. Plenty of them essentially worked manual labor in the hot sun on their own farms nearly every day. And having kids back to back isn't great for your figure either. Women also smoked cigarettes and chewed tobacco like it was going out of style. The real issue is that men and women used to need each other and now they don't. Men and women used to see marriage as essentially a business partnersh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/23 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Strength vs weakness and seeking protection is one of the primary drivers of mate selection for women. Weak men shouldn't seek absolution from potential sexual partners, they need to seek support elsewhere, and build their strength by learning from strong men.How will they fare in jail when I press charges though? Plenty of stronger men there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 01:46 PM |
| 1 | CMV: TRP romanticizes men and demonizes womenI am someone who is absolutely fascinated by the Watts murder case. I have to say that the most interesting thing about it to me is that he was able to at the very least murder his wife and then transport the bodies to his work and dispose of them on site and then get to workin' like it was no thing. And I say "at the very least" because there are lots of thoughts about what went down that night including whether it was premeditated, a crime of passion, or even his wife who killed the kids and t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 10:22 AM |
| 1 | Tradcons have no place in TRPIf the swans can't do it, what hope is there for the rest of us?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/23 09:52 AM |
| 3 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?I can't take you seriously when you can't just take me at my word that this isn't a big deal to me. I know what I want and communicate that in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 10:37 AM |
| 3 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?Then it's a win win situation because I got what I wanted and he chose to "settle" with me. He and I are both people with options, if we weren't happy with our setup we wouldn't be single by choice for long. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?The point is this: When there's something that I want in a relationship, I ask for it. And I get it. Or I leave. I've had enough experience in life to know that knowing what a person wants and them pursuing that is something that's their own responsibility. I've shared in here before that in one of my husband's previous relationships, he was with a girl who liked travel and they did a lot of things that got posted to social media. The relationship ended and he was left with some debt and a feeli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/23 10:48 AM |
| 2 | I feel like only the Purple Pill is valid.Thank you for elaborating. That was informative and interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 08:42 AM |
| 8 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?What he did for other people has no bearing on what I want done for me or what I need in a relationship. And what you gave as an example isn't an activity that I'm really fond of receiving so that doesn't matter to me either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 08:41 AM |
| 3 | I feel like only the Purple Pill is valid.How do you interpret "no pill"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 12:57 AM |
| 14 | Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you?She's an ex for a reason. I'd be happy that he changed his ways for me. If there's something that is important to me in a relationship, I don't have an issue piping up about it and then leaving if that need isn't met. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 12:56 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Ugly PPD members, why are you using dating apps?I love how this post is filled with comments about how they do get some success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 07:21 PM |
| 3 | Male vs female income in childless couplesI'm speaking as an elder Millennial, but for what I saw around me, women who chose to remain single and not have kids usually did it because they had a career passion that they were pursuing educationally and then professionally. So to me that would account for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone else noticed a lack of "mixed gatherings" post Me too?I think it's also a post COVID thing. For me, a person who has had plenty of sex partners and is married with kids, I just DGAF about going out and meeting new people. I'm tapped out what what I've got going on. And also this sub has opened my eyes and I'm a lot less interested in mixed gender friendships at this point in my life. I don't mean to toot my own horn, but I used to think that guys and girls could be friends and it be ok because I had lots of guy friends. Turns out, I'm just hot and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 02:34 PM |
| 1 | CMV: What’s the point of marriage when it only benefits women?And a lot of this is based on how the wife feels about the marriage at the moment. I've been saying this for a long ass time: The marriage is as good as the woman thinks that it is. Hence why lesbians have such an astounding divorce rate. You have twice the ability for unhappiness in the marriage! The husband might as well just be the oak tree in the front yard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 03:21 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Approaching Tons of Women as a strategy to not be alone will always workSeveral years ago I had a friend who FUCKED. I could not wrap my head around it either because he was kind of ugly and always broke. But he had no fear. One day I asked him how he did it. He said to me "It's just a numbers game. You ask 1000 women to have sex with you, and about 11 of them will." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 03:17 PM |
| 1 | whats the problem with a woman getting with a beta bucks?How do they define "having AF"? I think that there's a middle ground. Women who are virgins when they marry seem more likely to cheat and then monkey branch over and leave you because of FOMO. Whatever happened to just finding a partner who had lived life with no regrets and was choosing you with no regrets? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 03:04 PM |
| 5 | CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocriticalAnd it's crazy that the biggest advocates of this idea when I was growing up were the men in my life who I trusted and who cared about me. It's not women who told me not to trust men, it was other men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 02:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: As long as men refuse to call out other men, male issues will never be taken seriously.Fair enough. Thank you for explaining it. That makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 01:55 PM |
| 5 | CMV: As long as men refuse to call out other men, male issues will never be taken seriously.I have explicitly asked men to call each other out when there is a problem and I've been told that they're not interested in possibly being on the receiving end of someone's fist because they butted into someone else's problem. I've suggested that men shun men who mistreat women and women shun women who mistreat men. I've been told that as long as that guy who mistreats women still attracts women, the safest bet for them to get laid is still on being that guys friend. So unfortunately it's not t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Men don't benefit from taking the red pill.The thing about the red pill is that it just "is". You can be upset about it's advice, but it just is what it is. I'm not sure why men pat themselves on the back with it though. For every AWALT, there is an AMALT. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 01:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV: We have turned relationships into leisure, most relationships are no longer focused on starting a family or working towards a common goal, as a result people are naturally gonna get pickier with their optionsI agree with this. Relationships have changed to being something that should cause us endless joy and happiness and need zero work whatsoever. Modern marriage is Person A and their feelings plus Person B and their feelings. If either party loses their "feelings" then the marriage ends. But I also feel as though modern medicine and nutrition is in a way that people are living healthier lives for longer and that's just not compatible with true life long monogamy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/23 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is not healthy for Red Pillers or the women with them.Once faced with temptation, literally the only choice that isn't selfish is turning and doing a 180 back into the relationship. Period. You don't get a cookie for "just leaving". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 09:09 PM |
| 10 | CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocriticalIn my family there is a respected older gentleman (like was a teen during WWII) who was very red pill trad con old school type. The man had all daughters. And made sure each of them had as much post high school graduation as they were willing to earn. All of them working professionals with at minimum a bachelor's degree, and most of them with masters degrees or other terminal degrees. He fought tooth and nails for opportunities for his daughters and taught all of them to know what they wanted, n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 01:16 PM |
| 2 | Does female sexual strategy discourage familiarity, comfort, and security?Yeah happened to me i recently told some younger friends you have to be the cheater or get cheated on. I wouldn't necessarily say you need to be the cheater, but it's definitely helpful when your partner knows that if left unattended, you wouldn't be single for long. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 11:13 AM |
| 6 | Marriage is not healthy for Red Pillers or the women with them.Men are more content cheating in bad marriages while women are willing to divorce for a relationship gone sour.The man wants sex so he sees an easily solution is to get it elsewhere and keep the family intact because he puts his selfish wants first over the marriage potentially ending by infidelity while the woman's priority is the kids and the relationship first. It really all depends on how you cut that pie. You could easily say that men go out of their way to take care of their desires withou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadDo these same men mind if these women have a higher N count? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 03:40 PM |
| 2 | "Traditional" is just another term to describe expecting commitment, faithfulness and monogamous relationshipsI agree with this. To add to it, it seems like the men want to make significantly more money than the women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 03:39 PM |
| – | Cheating TENDS to be worse for (average) MEN than (average) women...I've noticed anecdotally that both men and women seem to have built in ways that cheating is not "that bad". When a man cheats, it almost feels expected and that AMALT. When a woman cheats, a lot of people feel like the man deserved it. Especially if she leaves the man for the new man. This is coming from a woman's perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 11:08 AM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadBetter yet, gang bang them and steal their virginities. Be a Super Duper Virgin 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 08:46 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeIt doesn't ignore it at all. I absolutely understand that she did this and now she's hiding it. The question is why the men in charge haven't changed this rule that has majorly fucked over certain men. If there is something that majorly fucks over a certain subset of the population, but it doesn't get changed, you have to wonder why. Because to me it's a no brainer that there SHOULD be mandatory paternity testing in the hospital or even just during prenatal visits. Saves a whole lot of peace of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:58 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI think we're talking about two different things. I don't think lawmakers are out here fucking YOUR wife in particular. But I do think that they can't keep it in their pants and they easily see this as a rule that could affect them. Like I said, if this was purely women able to get themselves pregnant with no "other man" involved, they would be slapped down hard. But there is always another man involved. The rule is to benefit the men who aren't you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 03:42 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeThere's got to be another reason. Roe v Wade for overturned. Men who want it get 50/50 custody. It's not like women would truly be upset. And there's already stuff like Ancestry DNA. If it was truly a mandatory test and it was hooked onto a different bill, I think that it would go through just fine. Ultimately it's the top whatever percentage of men that gets protected by the law. And it's the top percentage of men that are absolutely nutting in women who they want to not be officially connected… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:47 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI'm thinking about this more as the men who haven't made this a rule, haven't made it a rule for a reason. If women could somehow get themselves pregnant, you'd be damn Skippy that paternity tests would be mandatory. But we get the hemming and hawing because the men in power are likely also the men who are stepping out or just in general sleeping with married women. They don't want to be outed. So while it may protect cheating women, the real goal is to protect those "other men". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:39 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadAnd essentially y'all are saying the same thing. If a man sits there and shares his delimma, makes a plan with his partner, and then implements this plan then there really isn't a problem. Women don't want to listen to a pity party though. Not from another man. Maybe from a woman friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 02:11 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a single dad?If I was otherwise attracted to the man and felt as though he and I had the potential for a good relationship, I would be fine dating a single dad. Him being a good dad would actually make him more attractive actually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:56 PM |
| 2 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI don’t see why some guy should be able to get away with impregnating a woman, ditching her and the child he helped make, This is likely why mandatory paternity testing will likely never be a thing. It's not about protecting cheating women. It's about protecting the men that they cheat with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:53 PM |
| 2 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeI think that's the real kicker. I don't think this "no DNA testing thing" had anything to do with protecting cheating women. I think it's about protecting the men that they're cheating with. Those men often either have families of their own that would get torn apart, or they're men who sought out a married woman for the ability to get that ultimate NSA sex. Cheating women can't get themselves pregnant. And there's no real such thing as Women's Rights. It's only Rights For Men Who Aren't In Your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:50 PM |
| 1 | If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first placeNo sir, take this W for actually having a sense of humor about yourself and your life circumstances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?Here's the thing. I sit with people who want someone to do those tests with. Usually women who are 75+ and both parents are dead. These women will only be taking the test to verify their Native American ancestry which they never have. But at this point it's a coin toss as to whether or not they will find out that they aren't their known father's child or find out that they have a half sibling that their father conceived secretly while married to their mother. I'm nearly to the point that I don't… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:14 PM |
| 0 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?isn't stuck paying support for a child he later finds out he didn't father. I can't think of too many things that are more unjust than the state forcing a man to pay support for a kid he didn't either biologically father or willingly adopt. I find it interesting that this is the argument, when it isn't: too many men are robbed of the opportunity to meet and raise their own children. Mandatory paternity testing likely won't be a thing because the men having the sex with these married women don't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?This is exactly how I feel. If a guy is oh so concerned about his child's paternity, then just discretely swab the child's cheek and handle it from there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?I mean duh. The French are some of the most easily irritated, non fun people on the planet. You likely wouldn't consider them even for friendship. Either gender. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Do you think paternity testing should be made mandatory at the point of birth?Also "other men who aren't you" seething. The men having the most casual sex aren't interested in it affecting their pockets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 09:55 AM |
| 3 | What passes as 'creepy behavior' is entirely subjectiveWhat all of these have in common: The people in question had some shared activity that allowed them to vet each other over time, gauge each other's interest in a neutral setting, present their strengths, make some conversation etc before any asking out took place. Create some familiarity and baseline trust, then shoot your shot before things settle into friendzone territory. You have to truly botch it to come off as creepy in that setting. I absolutely agree with you. This seems to be the recipe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/23 12:47 AM |
| 4 | What passes as 'creepy behavior' is entirely subjectiveYep. I see it so often! I'll literally be talking to an older woman and hearing her tell me her story and I'll say "Holy Me Too Moment!" And she will just laugh and be like "Oh things were different back then". I think that the "difference" is that nowadays you have guys pulling this stuff and trying to get casual sex or having something casual come out of it. Back then, you were signing on to pay for this woman's whole life and have kids. The whole shebang. I think people are a lot more forgivi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 10:22 PM |
| 16 | What passes as 'creepy behavior' is entirely subjectiveI do genealogy work and have interviewed many many people about their "how I met my spouse" story. Very very common that people used to meet at work, or church, or because their sister/brother was close friends with a person. At this point I'd say that the only "acceptable" place to meet people is at church, and church attendance is in decline. Dating at work can literally get you fired and if so, you sign paperwork during your onboarding that explains this with extreme clarity. And many people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 02:31 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Are hot girls / handsome guys less loyal than their average / ugly counterparts?I dare say that a ugly dude with an opportunity is more dangerous than a hot guy who is used to it. I tell people to date who they're attracted to, but don't ever stoop to dating someone unattractive to lower your odds of being cheated on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:44 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD.When I dated an older man as a very early 20 something, my mother and the other women in my family were delighted. They saw me as acting more maturely than my peers and seeking out a man who was ready to settle down. It was the men in my family who were wary, and my grandfather who I trust very much, who sat me down to ask me why this amazing mid 30s man was single and never married. My grandfather asked me to consider whether this man liked me, or if he liked my youth. And if he liked younger w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:40 PM |
| 1 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.In my social circles, the men absolutely do care about the earning potential of a woman. And I dont think its just because of the economy, 10 years ago they cared. I absolutely agree with this and have been seeing it for awhile. I wonder what started the push. You've given me a lot to think about and I pretty much agree with you. Thank you for engaging in good faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:30 PM |
| 1 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.I respect that what you're saying is true, but I would say that it also proves my point and doesn't touch on the height or strength stuff between men and women. Once you get to a certain earning potential, there's not a lot of room to want "more". And it was only one couple who chose for the man to cut back on his hours when the children were young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:17 PM |
| 7 | Alpha Women and Boss BabesI've seen it myself too. I have a woman family member who is on the board of a large and well respected healthcare organization in my area and I regularly see her in action. Real power moves quietly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:25 PM |
| 1 | If women used the word "compromise" instead of "settle", things would be better.Most women prefer that a man is taller than them, stronger than them, and makes more money than them. Alternately, most men prefer that a woman is shorter than them, understand that it's basically biologically impossible for post pubescent females to be stronger or even as strong as males, and men prefer to make more money than the women in the relationship. This seems to be one of the few gender expectations that men and women actually seem to align. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 01:34 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Why some women have a problem with age gap relationships and why men seek themThe men in the young woman in questions family life care way more than any hypothetical woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?Thank you for explaining it. Men and women are both so weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 08:07 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI just like to see what people are complaining about nowadays. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 08:00 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadChance to live, you're amazing too! I just don't know you as well! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?But don't most men get 50/50 custody if they want it? Just take more time with the kids? Hell, I'd rather have a third party determined, time limited "stipend" that I had to give an ex, rather than have to continue to hash things out with someone who doesn't wish to remain married to me. Basically "here's some money that a third party determined was fair, handle everything, and don't ask me for a cent more." | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:57 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadOk yeah but you're like Attorney Chad so you don't really count. You also have a body count that rivals Wilt Chamberlain. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:53 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI believe it unfortunately | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:52 PM |
| 4 | Why are so many men against abortion given that most them just want casual sex?Ok this is incredibly interesting to me because I remember talking to someone else about this and him saying "being rejected for sex is like a woman saying your genes aren't good enough to keep going". Huh. But these men will still complain about child support. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:26 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWow. Well I don't know what to tell you. That's very weird to me that you're not able to have that success translate into something else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:24 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadTotally. I've been there too. I'm glad you're better and I hope you keep getting better 🤗 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:23 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWell I'm glad you're here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:18 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWell I'm glad you're here to talk about stuff. I'm a girl but I definitely preferred to be alone as a kid too. Also kind of underfed and underweight for a lot of my life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:17 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadGlad you're free from that hell scape. I hate that you had to go through that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:16 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYeah unfortunately you're right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:12 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYep high school is when they really need to be doing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:12 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadFat cause not in sports. My husband went from 5'7" fatty to losing his V card at a party and dating a completely different girl next in one football season. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:11 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat Megathread🥲 bring a tear to my eye | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 07:10 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI think that the ages 18-21 are just tough for everyone. Everyone struggles just a little bit. But I'm also glad that you persevered and now here we are. Together at last. On the PPD daily chat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:49 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadWhat'd the abusive women do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:48 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadYou dont struggle though Mo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:47 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI agree with this. I feel like parents aren't putting their kids in sports as much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:46 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThem thinking that they're struggling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:44 PM |
| – | Daily Community Chat MegathreadI'd love to know how many men who struggled in dating played sports when they were teenagers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 06:23 PM |
| -2 | Whats ideal female body and face for you?Barbie Ferreira 🤤 Or Nikki Hearts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?In my world, any man boo hooing like Shakira has been doing would be seen as a covert abuser and that the woman was right to have cheated on him and left him. Bad behavior from men should be expected and the woman is the one who fails if the man cheats. AMALT isn't claiming that it's women's failure. It's telling women not to blame themselves because there isn't anything she could have done differently. Before I got married, my grandmother sat me down and explained it to me like this: Men cheat.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 10:24 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.GREEN👏CARD👏GUYS👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?If Shakira cheated on him and left him, then people wouldn't really know how to act. A man like him would probably move on super quickly anyhow. Men with options don't sit around bringing attention to how they were cheated on, they just move on at the speed of light. And simultaneously, no matter how badly women want committment, they should accept that men won't necessarily commit and not make their desire known. AMALT. She should have known better. He was a popular footballer who was in his ea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 01:25 AM |
| 6 | Men Desire Romantic Relationships More Than Women DoWhy do you talk about these jobs like their poverty level jobs? In my area a garbage collector works for the City and makes very decent money with AMAZING job benefits. A plumber easily makes six figures every year. Why wouldn't a woman marry a man who she was attracted to who made a good wage like that? Also if if women are independent then why they complaining? They don't need a man I think OP is a man. So technically you have a really good question, why would a woman complain? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Call a man's wife ugly or a whore and actually make it seem like you mean it and I do think it would affect him. I think that you'd have to call a woman's boyfriend useless or somehow make her think that she's pulling all of the weight in a relationship for her to be upset. But yeah, I do think other people's opinions can influence how others see their partner. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:21 PM |
| 4 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Oh wow. Ok unfortunately I can see that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 05:30 PM |
| 7 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Holy shit. I am so sorry that happened to you. That is horrifying! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?I give props to those women for even getting wet for those guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Yeah unfortunately I agree with this. There is a woman from my past who I wish I never met because I "hurt" her so badly. She relentlessly pursued me for a relationship even though I wasn't ready and was still hurt from a very devastating break up. She made it seem like things were super chill and casual, all the while taking every single inch she could until it turned into miles. And then I break it off with her and suddenly I'm the bad guy when every step of the way I was telling her that I di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:36 PM |
| 7 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?I mean honestly I agree with that. I might get a lot of flack for this, but I find Shakira's current shocked Pikachu face about Piques actions to be very very very embarrassing for her. I wouldn't say I'm on Team Pique, but I think Shakira is acting cringe to the max in thinking she could fuck this dude, get pregnant twice, and that this fuckboy could be publicly shamed into being faithful to her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:32 PM |
| -1 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Give me an example. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:30 PM |
| 1 | The problem with dating isn't women being hypergamous, it's men (trying) to be polygamousShe's also saying something interesting without saying it. Many moons ago I was dating an over weight DnD Dungeon Master overall geek who I was head over heels in love with. The relationship eventually became abusive from his end. And I broke it off with a quickness. I remember being on the phone with another friend and snickering and being like "how dare he abuse me!" And I really stopped to think about that concept. Because I was majorly patting myself on the back for having left him so quickl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Hookup culture is great for women but bad for menThe actual issue is that Gen Z confuses Tinder with real dating and IG with real life. While also having some of the lowest sex rates of recent history. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Men, do you genuinely like/liked your female partner?Thank you for this nuanced explanation. I agree with you on this topic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Has your disposition been changed now that Tristan tate ex has said there was some manipulation as she got emotional.or they aren't but then why should they vote? Yeah IDK. Now that I'm 30+, I see them as the children that they are. Both genders. I'd also add to that, they shouldn't be able to be drafted into the military or go to big boy jail either. I see a day when the age of majority will be changed to 21. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:21 AM |
| 3 | Men, do you genuinely like/liked your female partner?My favorite is when they will describe women through their High or Low N Count Stereotype. And I'm sitting here like....ok what I'm hearing is you describing and unstable bitch. A woman I wouldn't want to be friends with either. I just don't see everything through the lens of sex, so I'm going to call this woman and "unstable bitch who can't keep friends" and men will regularly call them a "High N Woman". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Men, do you genuinely like/liked your female partner?young women didn't have to develop a personality because they were pretty. I don't think it's that they don't have to develop a personality, everyone has a personality and interests. They just don't have interests and common topics to talk about with men. Women often find men boring as well when there is nothing romantic or sexual to attract them. This changes once they get older and can't coast on being pretty. Does it really? How many men claim to have close completely platonic friendships wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:14 AM |
| 2 | Men, do you genuinely like/liked your female partner?I don't necessarily disagree with you. I think there are men out there like that. But I would say that if you asked a very large group of men what they would rather have: sexual or romantic intimacy, they'd rather have the sexual. Once the sexual has reached its max, then sure, the romantic is definitely nice. But most men would rather have lots of sex and a few deep conversations with the woman in their life than lots of deep conversations and a few times of sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Men, do you genuinely like/liked your female partner?The truth is a lot of men are only with women for consistent sex and children. I think I agree with this in particular a lot. I often talk to women friends who are dating and tell them to go on a little Vision Quest of sorts and figure out whether they are childfree or not. And unless they themselves, on their own, come to the conclusion that they're childfree, then don't let a man convince them that they're childfree because that's just wasting both of their times. Too many times, a man telling… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 11:03 AM |
| 1 | If and when technology reaches a point where artificial wombs and photorealistic VR sex becomes the norm; what do you think will happen in terms of the male/female dynamic in society?I think that it's just a gender bias. Because I see men as not contributing to very much socially. So I can see that from a man's POV that "women don't contribute much." But they do. Men may make life, but women make life worth living. How many men in here complain about being lonely and say that friendship amongst men means nothing to them? Women are the ones who advocate for more progressive stuff that benefits men as well. And as for inventing the Tampon® sure maybe he got the patent, but eff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 10:49 PM |
| 1 | If and when technology reaches a point where artificial wombs and photorealistic VR sex becomes the norm; what do you think will happen in terms of the male/female dynamic in society?How many men just want families for the sake of having them? How many men out there would want to use an artificial womb to have kids? How many single men today hire gestational carriers to have children? Are women prized just for the sex and reproductive capabilities or also their nuturing capabilities? If anything I think that this could free up a lot of career women and women would be the ones still desiring children and having them and families. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Ladies do any of you here NOT want a relationship?I am proud of you for knowing your limitations and finding your place and your people within them. Everyone has limitations. And anyone wanting to call you lazy needs to mind their own business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather.I do not care. People are allowed their private thoughts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:41 PM |
| 2 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?If my back is absolutely pressed against the wall, I would choose Man A. but has strong family values and is focused on his goals in life. Family is everything to me. Everything. I appreciate a partner with this same outlook and I definitely bring his family into the fold and show them the same respect and appreciation. I'd say that Respect and Appreciation of Family and Wise Financial Management are the two biggest things for me. And they are both Must Haves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:40 PM |
| 9 | Anyone who says, 'You just need to communicate more', you should disregard everything they have to sayAs someone who mediates situations regularly.....yes some people absolutely do need more communication and need more clear communication in particular. But I will add to that they also need something to back it up. Sometimes you need to be able to say "I need you to do X or I will leave" and then actually be prepared to leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/23 01:35 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadYou sure try hard to convince someone else to marry a hoe. How can you say that with a straight face when I clearly said: This is not an attempt to convince you to wife up the next triple digit woman you meet. But it is a remind that there is a lot of room between the virgin and the "whore". Please argue in good faith. If all you want is a traditional woman, then having been a traditional man from the start, you should have no problem. The trad wives are wifed up at ~21 and were in relationships… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:43 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadYou don’t notice it. Because that emotion slowly dies down. Like a frog in the boiling water. And I love being jaded. Eliminates a lot of the bullshit. Thankfully I married a High N Man who is jaded too and we can laugh as the world burns. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 09:30 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadAnyone can cheat. I think that this is probably my least favorite rationalization for why men hypothetically don't want High N Women. It feels like women are being discussed like a possession and that once they're married off they have no further thoughts, hopes, dreams, or desires. Virgins cheat. Virgins get FOMO. Virgins who were virgins because they were unattractive glow up and suddenly need to "find themselves". You cannot control someone else's behavior. This is not an attempt to convince … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 09:28 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadAlso the divorce rate in women with high body count is much higher. I'm interested in what the actual divorce rate is. We won't be able to see what it is at this point, but I want to see what the actual break up rate of LTR is. I'd count married people and those who cohabitate with a child as being "married" as well in this. I'd love to see the data on relationship longevity of people married 2010 and beyond. Currently I do some tutoring work with white upper middle class kids and have been doin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 09:12 PM |
| 6 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadSo basically you got off PPD, got a life, got laid, and stopped caring about this amateur hour stuff? Hopefully we can all get there some day 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 09:01 PM |
| 0 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadWhat if she's just incredibly discreet and you never know what she did in the past? Not that she lies about anything you ask her directly. But it just never comes up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | In general, traditional, conservative and virgin women don't interact much on redditSame applies in real life, if your woman is part of a book club, pottery club, cooking club, candle wax club e.t.c It's a better decision for her to go to an actual club instead I got a laugh out of this but I also agree with you in a lot of ways. Is she a conservative and traditional woman, or is she a feminist cottage core lesbian? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | I'm convinced that about 5-10% of men ruin it for everyoneBut why male models? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 07:08 PM |
| 6 | What do you think of the notion that Men get friend zoned and Woman get sex zoned?The person you're replying to is saying the same thing that you are saying. They think that the statement that woman friends should give their guy friends sex is stupid too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do men hate open relationships?Girl. I'm not saying they found out they weren't Native American and that how they found out about the cheating. I'm saying they take the DNA test and match with a half sister who was conceived during their parents marriage because of his affair. I'm saying they finally get around to gojmg through their parents safe and they find letters about planning to divorce for another woman. Stuff like that. How is this news to you? Even men will tell you that men like variety and if we're talking decades… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Women run passive gameThe whole point to this OP is that if a woman gets a DM, her dude should send a DM. The woman who started this comment chain said something to the point of "that's dumb" and then you come in saying that insecure men should keep boundaries in their relationship. What boundaries would you like for insecure men to have? Other than the normal healthy boundary of breaking it off with the chick because either his Spidey senses are telling him she's not relationship material, or he's just not in a heal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | 9% of young women are single and sexually active.I'd say think about what you want out of life and down waste your own time. Do you want a family? Are you childfree? Those are the first things that I'd figure out and then go from there. But I'm glad you're here and able to share some of your thoughts with us. Ultimately whatever doesn't kill us....just brings us that much closer to the red pill 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do men hate open relationships?Eh, I'd say that the women who have had their world knocked off of its axis because the discovered an affair when they were under the impression that cheating is rare have more serious issues than I do, but thank you for your empathy. It's rare on Reddit. You need to realize that you and I both come from an Ethical Non Monogamous view. My husband doesn't "cheat". But he damn sure has desire to pursue other women sexually and takes those opportunities as he can. So I guess you could tuck him away… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 06:03 PM |
| 6 | 9% of young women are single and sexually active."I struggle to be with Todd, he's a great guy I'm just not use to it, he's not what I use to date". Very similar to this, I warn women friends of mine when they are very different from their boyfriends ex's. If your partner has a "type" and you're not it, there's a chance that they're settling for you. I'm ultimately Purple, but I do lean Red. And what people forget is that for every AWALT, there's an AMALT. Women and men are lost today even more than you realize. Women have largely checked out … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 04:14 PM |
| 3 | 9% of young women are single and sexually active.Ok well that makes sense. For myself being a woman who has dated women, it does seem like the more self assured yet broken you are, the more they like you. I don't get it. The only thing I can think is that they think they see "potential" and that if they can polish you up, you'll cherish them and y'all will be some kind of power couple or something. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 03:46 PM |
| 0 | 9% of young women are single and sexually active.This is a question in good faith: what if men stopped befriending guys like that? I know that men say that women like pre selection, but I don't think that it is only limited to the pre selection of women. They also want to know that the guy that they like is held in high esteem by other men. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that Ryan was held in high esteem amongst his male peers too. Of course after Ryan "dated" her again, a year later Allisa hit me up for a real relationship....I poli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Women run passive gameGood. Nobody of any gender should be in a relationship where they don't feel secure in their partners affection. I've long had the idea that if you're insecure in a relationship then break up. You're either picking up on the idea that your partner isn't truly committed, or you're just not in a position where you have enough self love to be a good partner yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 01:34 PM |
| 4 | Women run passive gameIf I was in a relationship where I didn't feel as though my relationship was secure, I would break up with the guy. And I've done it before. But it wasn't because of his options, it was because I didn't feel like I was the priority in his romantic life. I've broken up with people who I wasn't aware had immediate options too....because I didn't feel like I was a priority in their romantic life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Women run passive gameThat's not putting boundaries up, that's being an asshole. If a woman receives a DM that she doesn't respond to, that shouldn't count against her. If anything, that should count for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 12:46 PM |
| 6 | 9% of young women are single and sexually active.I agree with this. Which is why I majorly side eye people with "low n" who believe that sex is for relationships. At that number you should have an N of 3 max, should be engaged or married by the point in which you're telling me about it, and should in your private thoughts be beating yourself up that you didn't exercise better judgement about your past relationships where you had sex. Anything else is just casual sex with extra steps. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:33 AM |
| 2 | Why do men hate open relationships?Men "hate" open relationships because they like to cheat, but they don't want YOU to cheat and they don't want to come across as hypocrites. I also suspect that the sneakiness that comes from cheating and affairs makes the sex that much more exciting to them. Men may bang on about how they would Never Cheat and how much They Hate Cheating. But rest assured that the moment that they get an actual real opportunity, they will very likely take it. And that if this opportunity turns into a sustained … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/23 10:25 AM |
| 3 | Andrew Tate was right, he shouldn't let his women drive his car. Andrew Tate taught us more without saying anythingPimping is not traditional or masculine. It's is also not easy. Today is April Fools Day. Please just let me have this one thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:18 PM |
| 3 | Women had a Monopoly on Men Long Enough, Time to Swallow the CatpillSo the threat of being alone with cat isn't really a threat? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Men like sex, women like attentionI can't argue with this because I agree with it. Just the other day, a widow friend of mine and I were talking about the men who she meets on Tinder. And how a significant portion of them are married men who claim to be looking for extramarital sex because they are oh so lonely. To my woman perspective, that makes me chuckle. Loneliness won't be cured by sex. And I can think of no emptier feeling as a woman than NSA sex. Sex on its own is not enough of an attractor for women. There needs to be a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 05:34 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?Yeah well, you deserve it!! 👑 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:35 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?I can respect that. But you already knew that because I think you're a genius and I actively look for your comments in a thread because I know it's probably going to be one of the few rational takes in the sub 🤗 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 02:05 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?It's interesting that you say that too because for me it strengthened my beliefs and made me want to become part of the solution in making sure the churches words lined up with their actions. Especially when it came to people who were "different". I'm over here like what an abuse of power I'll sure be happy when THAT dude gets his comeuppance! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you think about the Disney trope of the heroine who "waits to be saved by Prince Charming" instead of overcoming adversity in traditionally more masculine ways?from my all time favorite Disney movie, Hunchback of Notre Dame. As I kid I loved this movie. Loved it. Could watch it on repeat. As an adult I had to switch it off and wondered who was trying to terrorize children by putting it on in the first place!!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 01:17 PM |
| 2 | "But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ?Why stop there? Why trust that she's a virgin? And how do we count virginity? Does a girl who dealt with SA as a child still count as a virgin? People like you Also, what'd I do? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/23 12:23 AM |
| 1 | "But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ?Most men would consider you a virgin if you were a lesbian before him. Earlier today I just had a conversation with a guy in here about how I came to this sub under the impression that I was a High N Woman, only to find out that in reality I'm a Low N Spicy Straight because the overwhelming vast majority of my sexual partners were with women. My husband remains a High N Man though. Glad he doesn't know my true Low N status or he would have never given me a chance! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:49 PM |
| 0 | "But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ?I ask this genuinely, but have guys ever thought about seeing things a different way? Especially now with all of this Me Too stuff? Granted, I'm a woman. But someone changing from the way they used to do things in the past because they saw a future with me and wanted to avoid the mess ups of the past is a bonus. Same with not doing the kinky stuff. I'd assume that my partner didn't like it and I'd be glad that I wasn't the one from her past who she might be feeling weird about through older eyes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Men aren't checking out of society.Men are using smarter strategies since we can't fall back on shaking our bits in front of a cam...and we can't give professors fellatio for good grades Not with that attitude you can't! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:24 PM |
| 8 | "But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ?Slut shaming your competition needs to be handled very carefully. I'd say it's a faux pas to do so nowadays and getting caught doing it can seriously backfire on you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:20 PM |
| 3 | "But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ?Rarer, it could be when he wanted a relationship with a woman and found out about her past promiscuity. Sometimes he might slutshame as direct revenge for being cheated on by a woman. What if she just was a High N woman in the past but never cheated on him while in the relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ?And in that instance, the woman would be fully aware that the man had zero responsibility or obligation to her in that event and could do what she wanted under those circumstances. Including not having had sex with him in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 02:14 PM |
| 2 | Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscousI agree with you. I'm just telling you how a good 80% of the men in here have yelled their opinion to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 01:42 PM |
| 2 | Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscousFor me I was a High N Woman because I had a mid double digit number of sex partners. But a good 95% of those numbers were women with no man involved. So when it comes to PIV it's like ~5. My husband knows my exact numbers. So many people in this sub have explained that having sex with women as a woman doesn't count. So that what I meant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/23 11:08 AM |
| 2 | Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscousThank! You! I tell men all of the time that the Highest N Woman they ever met was once a virgin. Her being a virgin means next to nothing. If they had wifed up the High N Woman as a 17 year old would they have a long lasting stable commitment? Or could it be that there are other factors that cause a person of either gender to not be a great partner? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 10:54 AM |
| 3 | Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscousI'm interested in your take on this. I think that for men who think like OP, they might think they like this, but they'd never actually trust that the woman wasn't promiscuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 01:42 AM |
| 4 | Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscousMy husband is a High N man who only wanted High N women. And recently I've learned in this sub that I only thought I was a High N woman. I'm allegedly more of a Low N Spicy Straight. I'm sure many men think like you. But High N men often do not care. Why would they? You had your fun and so did they. Most people want to partner off with like minded individuals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/23 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ?Oh I completely understand. I absolutely know that women can take things personally. But my question is this, what's this guy's plan if he gets her pregnant? What if she flips out that he won't marry her? How far is he willing to go so that she doesn't get upset? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ?Unfortunately I say tough. If it means that much to them, they do it. For your average Joe this likely isn't going to happen, but rich dudes are already putting NDAs in front of a girl before anything happens. And if you're in a position where you're able to have casual sex then that's that. It's no different than saying you want to use a condom with a girl when she was going to go in raw. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 09:25 PM |
| 6 | Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ?I'm saying like if before there is a pregnancy at all, you sit down with a girl and you're like "hey I have no interest in having kids right now so from this point on til this point in the far future, we have an oopsie, that is all on you. We will use birth control as usual. But if you get pregnant I am not at all responsible". If all of that is ironed out before the sex that leads to conception occurs, then I'm down. Ninja edit: and y'all can even have had sex before. She just can't be pregnant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ?As long as the paper abortion occurs before the sex that leads to conception then I'm fully on board. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 08:40 PM |
| 6 | Discussion : My theory as to why dating on apps is so hardDating on apps is hard because were meant to meet people in person and then develop feelings from there. Dating on apps is artificial and is attempting to replace the "third place" that used to come so naturally to us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 01:46 PM |
| 21 | So where exactly are these ugly women?When it comes to sex however, ugly women can still get sex easily while ugly men will have to go to a prostitute. I'd say then that ugly men still have it better. There is nothing flattering about a pump and dump with a guy who makes it clear he wishes you had a paper bag on your head. For guys it would be like the girl who acts like y'all are such good close friends and asks you to pay for her food and then turns off the friendship like a light bulb leaving you feeling used and stupid. At least… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | CMV: In theory, a high value man is one who invests in his woman’s beauty financiallyJust the other day my husband and I got into a discussion about a drop dead gorgeous ex girlfriend that he had from highschool. He claimed that she would save up money from her high school job and they would go to the mall for dates and then she would easily spend over a hundred dollars on one or two items from the make up counter. While telling me the story, he rolled his eyes and told me that he asked her when she was going to start paying for dinners instead of him since she had the money to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Men don’t care about women’s career?I agree with this. To add to it, often if a woman offers to split or pay, it's a sign that she doesn't want a second date and that she wants to make it clear she doesn't owe you anything. Women "paying equal" will likely not happen in our lifetimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/03/23 12:28 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Are you more attracted to a "naturally" attractive man than the one who "learned" to become attractive?Thank you for asking! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Are you more attracted to a "naturally" attractive man than the one who "learned" to become attractive?Then to me they're both equal. Whichever one I felt I clicked with or got to me first would be fine. I would respect the hard work that the one who learned it though more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Female mating strategies prevent them from giving men genuine answers7) Age Gap Policing: The idea that it's morally or inherently wrong for older men to date younger women, despite both being adults. Seems to be specific to men 30+ wanting to date women in their 20's. You never hear this about Cougars of Milfs dating younger men, which definitely happens but nobody complains about that. Please understand that it is not women policing this. It is the men in the young woman's life who is dating the older man who have objections to this. I lived this myself when I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Generally speaking, most guys in relationships are not valued for who they are, but for how they make their girlfriends feel and what they can provide for them (attention, money, status and so on)."Love" is only the feeling of a shared goal and the appreciation of the person helping you reach that goal and staying within the boundaries of the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 03:47 PM |
| 4 | Q4W: Are you more attracted to a "naturally" attractive man than the one who "learned" to become attractive?It all depends on how he treats people from his past from "before". Does he treat them like he's better than them now or is he nice and still on good terms with them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 03:45 PM |
| 19 | "The Hoe Phase"A woman can fuck a thousand men and she's "a whore". A man does it once and suddenly "he's gay". SMH | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 03:08 PM |
| 2 | Is ghosting less immoral, or even amoral, for women to do because of safety concerns?I agree with this. For those upset that they've been ghosted....just pretend that they broke up with you. Their actions are definitely speaking louder than words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/03/23 12:29 AM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadYou know what, I respect your stance and your honesty and we agree on a lot. Thank you for talking to me about this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed:I've said this a million times, but when I was a younger 20 year old, I dated a guy in his 30s. My women family members were happy. They thought this meant he was better, had sowed his wild oats, and that he would be commitment minded. It was my men family members who did not care for this arrangement. My grandfather who I trust very much actually sat me down to ask me why I thought such a "wonderful man" was still single and never married? Did he like me or did he like my youth and when I natur… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:21 PM |
| 3 | The “modern woman” is changing, and the “modern man” needs to adapt to the changeMen and women want different things out of a partner. Recently my husband was telling me about an ex girlfriend of his and her spending habits. She was a very attractive young woman who loved make up and fashion. Once she would save up enough money from her job, sometimes they would ride to the mall together and she would spend more than a hundred dollars on make up alone. He smirked and said "made me wonder when she was gonna treat ME to dinner". And I said, "Yeah if it was your birthday or a s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 06:09 PM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadI am not sure what you mean about needy for sex. At this point in my life I definitely have a lowered libido. But I also have an ethically non monogamous marriage. Sex is not sacred for me. And unfortunately it's rare that I even crave it. But I do have it because that's what you do when you are healthy enough for it and you wish you remain married. I'm sure there are times that my husband does things for me that he's not jumping for joy about. IDC. Slap a smile on your face and be there for you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 02:53 PM |
| 3 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadI thought we should always do that when we are dating with new person I'm asking this genuinely, but are you saying that you weren't into it or what? I'd say that if someone holds sex to that standard, they're only having sex with people who they are confident that they're in a long term committed relationship with. If that relationship ends, they should be beating themselves up a little bit and questioning their own judgement about why they misjudged the other person or their own capacity to ke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 12:30 PM |
| 1 | N Count Weekly Discussion ThreadBut anyway the point of my comment was for guys who really do care they are allowed to have their preferences but some of the language and they use to describe women and their preferences is disgusting. I 100% agree with you on this part. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:37 AM |
| 2 | N Count Weekly Discussion Thread“I dont think casual sex is for me because of how I value sex and relationships and I want a partner who has those same beliefs and values” I am not arguing with you, I am only arguing the point. With that said, my feelings on N count are a bit nuanced. If that's how a person feels about sex, unfortunately I'm going to be a little bit harder on them because if sex is so special to them and it's so meaningful and it should only happen in a committed relationship, then if your N is more than 0. Or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:17 AM |
| 2 | The insurmountable gap between the two main views on gender issuesI will say this, for me, the actual concept of the red pill isn't anti woman at all. It's just uncomfortable things that are common 9/10 for both sexes when you boil things down. So if it is anti woman, it's also anti man. If it's anti feminist, then it's also anti MRA. With all of that said, I notice a lot of blue pilled people either have had things come to them very easily in life so they legitimately think "just be yourself" is good advice. Or they're women who have seen some shit and they j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?I agree with you. I encourage LTR couples to make expressing gratitude their daily priority. If both partners can feel seen for their efforts within the relationship, that does a lot for longevity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 08:40 PM |
| 5 | You shouldn't bother getting married or having kids if you are primarily attracted to 18-21 year old's.I agree with this. Back many many years ago when I was a very young 20 something and was dating a guy a decade older than me, my grandfather who I trust very much, sat me down and asked me why this amazing guy was still single while nearing his mid 30s? Did this man like me in particular, or did he like my youth and would want to replace me as I got older? That man and I broke up for other reasons and I don't regret that. But I think about it every time that age gap relationships get brought up … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Do you think having a wildly different worldview from others can affect a person’s personal relationships?I think you can be friends with people who have different values as long as those values don't infringe on each other's personal space. But in a LTR or marriage no. I'm coming to a realization that there is no such thing as love or soul mates. There is only a shared goal/vision/morals and an appreciation for your partner in helping you achieve and stay within those goals/visions/morals. That's the only fuel in the tank that can make a relationship last with stability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 05:50 PM |
| 5 | according to polls, young women are more ''sexless'' than young men in 2021.I wish you peace on this journey. I hope things get better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 04:47 PM |
| 4 | according to polls, young women are more ''sexless'' than young men in 2021.Believe it or not, both men and women think that their effort are being leeched off of. Find someone whose efforts you can appreciate as well as them appreciate what you have to offer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/23 04:18 PM |
| 1 | People on this subreddit completely overlook how the boomer generation has caused maladaptive socioeconomic conditions for today's young adults that play a causative role in the dating, marriage, and fertility trends we’re seeing todayHow anyone can read this entire OP and come away with you being lazy is beyond me. You ain't lazy! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 02:14 PM |
| 8 | How come men cheat more than women but men are much more sexless than women?I agree with this. There is nothing in this world like the glow up of an ugly man who is glowing up due to the trickle down effect of pre selection. An ugly man will see that he got with you and suddenly believe he can do better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 01:55 AM |
| 2 | The Wall Exists For Men And It Effects The Average Man Way More Than The Average WomanI really don't. This woman was fresh faced and healthy. You would have had your jaw on the floor as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?I'd say I gained more confidence as my jokes started landing better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 04:48 PM |
| 4 | Newbie Question: Why does it seem that Girl's "party phase" is actually from 18 to 24 maximum? The Manosphere groups makes it seem like its 18-30 but Experience has taught me otherwise.Classic case of going bi to get more sex. Bilingual 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 10:11 AM |
| 13 | If coming on too strong is so unattractive why does love bombing seem to work so often?The biggest thing people miss in all these relationships issues; they’re half the problem. Yes! Recently I was talking about an extremely toxic relationship that a friend was in. She went on and on about how terrible this ex of hers had been. He had been terrible since day one she told me! Ok awesome! Lol what does it say about you that you stayed? I think back to my time being love bombed in a relationship. And I remember not picking up on the signs because in my head I truly thought Finally so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/23 10:07 AM |
| 4 | The Wall Exists For Men And It Effects The Average Man Way More Than The Average WomanAnd women are looking younger for much longer. I've said before that I had an amazing new young woman who I was training last summer. She talked about her professional goals and the things she already had under her belt. I knew she was unmarried and had no children. I pegged her as 25 or 26. We kept talking and she told me that the next month she would be turning 39! I was seriously taken aback. And she tells me she gets that a lot. But I'm in my mid 30s now and I DO NOT LOOK IT. Most people thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 09:00 PM |
| 6 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?I wish you good times and wisdom on this journey. This sub can be a cluster at times, but I do appreciate the men in here who are able to be real and teach me something about what the man experience is like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 08:47 PM |
| 12 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?Thank you for responding and I respect that stance. I know that in many aspects I do have some privilege. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?Haha fair enough! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?I can respect that. Thank you for explaining! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 02:47 PM |
| 10 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?First off, if you're uncomfortable being a step father because you just don't want to do it, thank you for recognizing your limitations and I'm not trying to push you into being a step parent. Now with that said, if you're concerned that you would be a bad step father because you have a nightmare of a step father situation, I think that you'd actually be an amazing step father because you'd know explicitly what NOT to do and why it was so important to avoid those behaviors. I have had two step f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 02:19 PM |
| 30 | Aside from "Women's standards are too high or No more good men" Why do you think YOUR single?I'm the same amount of weird. And there was a time when I went through an ugly short haired, bad fashion phase. Now I'm in my extremely feminine and much more attractive phase. It's amazing how my personality went from being off putting and "offensive" to being fun, flirty, and "out of the box but down to Earth" with absolutely NOTHING changing but my physical appearance. I would love to take you under my wing and looksmaxxx you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 02:15 PM |
| 6 | Having different sexual partners on a regular basis is setting yourself up to be a cheater. Agree or disagree?The Good Old Days "when casual sex was frowned upon" was rampant with infidelity. And the paternity fraud kind that you men in here seem to especially hate. At best, humans are serial monogamists. And prior to modern medicine, people were married two and three times in their entire lifetimes because of just natural human death rate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/23 01:09 PM |
| 1 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.I call out women who want men who they can't get absolutely. Height is one of the rare occasions where men and women seem to be in agreement. Most men want to be taller than the women in their lives. But I'd definitely call out a girl who claimed that the only reason she wasn't into a certain man was because of his height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 05:54 PM |
| 2 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.No idea what a sex workers N count was. IDC if you want to date a sex worker. We're talking about civilians here, not sex workers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | CMV:Men who do not have Narcissist personality Disorder,do not cheat or leave if they are treated justly by their woman.I'm telling you. Don't feel sorry for me. There are starving children in third world countries....who don't have enough to eat because their parents are currently cheating on each other. I'm just a cynical person who doesn't get let down that much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.I can agree with that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:53 PM |
| 1 | CMV:Men who do not have Narcissist personality Disorder,do not cheat or leave if they are treated justly by their woman.I get plenty of normal genealogy results. I get plenty of unexpected infidelity too. Most people are looking for Native American ancestry, but don't find any. They're not looking for affairs. Women cheat, but they normally will cheat to leave in today's world. But I do find a lot of paternity fraud so that's women cheating in the good old days. Don't feel sorry for me, feel sorry for those who have high expectations for what their partners will and won't do and then get crushed. Never ever vouch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:37 PM |
| 5 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.If all you want is easy sex then yes it overwhelmingly benefits women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:32 PM |
| 6 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.Yeah. That's what the OP is about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:31 PM |
| 1 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.It was you!!! Yeah haha that was nuts! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 02:28 PM |
| 45 | The lower a man's body count, the lower his threshold for labeling a woman as promiscuous.I agree with this. I've spoken with High N Men who claim to be outright disgusted by High N women. I've called them out as hypocritical. And they tell me that they don't care, that once a woman hits 300 N, they just naturally find her disgusting. And I'm sitting here like 300?! That's cartoonishly large of an N count. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.That's not really an answer. So they intend on meeting their virgin at the local orgy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 10:09 AM |
| 0 | CMV:Men who do not have Narcissist personality Disorder,do not cheat or leave if they are treated justly by their woman.You know plenty of men who are discreet. I do genealogy work. I regularly unexpectedly find infidelity in the last places people think they will find them. I have watched people in the blink of an eye go from "wow, I wonder if I'm really part Native American!" to "Omg my father who I adored had a second family/my deceased husband wanted to leave me for another woman". And crumble in the devastation of it all. Nope. I don't like to be hurt. So while sure, there might be men with options who choos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 10:07 AM |
| -1 | CMV:Men who do not have Narcissist personality Disorder,do not cheat or leave if they are treated justly by their woman.I agree with this. At this point I simply don't trust men who claim they would never cheat. They're only saying that they don't have the confidence in themselves that they would get an opportunity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?Wouldn't call it "cheating", but both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:41 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?Ethically non monogamy 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.I agree. I'm also kind of puzzled by the men who talk about how "young women prefer older men". I mean...how much older are we talking? They aren't in their 20s lusting after 10+ years older men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.I haven't gotten a solid answer yet, but I regularly ask High N (or temporarily embarrassed future High N men) where they plan on meeting these virgin and Low N women in the future. It's not as easy as some might think. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.TIL I'm not a High N woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences.Because you want a child who can breathe well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Do you think the concept of an "Alpha Widow" is valid? (i.e. As an average man, it's fair to assume that a woman with a high body count has been with someone who is more attractive than you and this will make her value you less.)How do you define "baggage"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:21 PM |
| 2 | Do you think the concept of an "Alpha Widow" is valid? (i.e. As an average man, it's fair to assume that a woman with a high body count has been with someone who is more attractive than you and this will make her value you less.)I agree. And she's also somehow High N. The biggest Alpha Widows I've met have been low N women who had "the one that got away". But I've seen "Alpha Widowers" too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:20 PM |
| 7 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?I think they were love matches? But my grandmother also made sure to tell me that "men with options, cheat" before I got married. There was also advice that marriage wasn't about happiness and if I became unhappy in my marriage to just mentally check out and get a hobby. That men won't make you happy. That marriage is about family stability so if you're not going to have children, don't bother. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Women's rights Vs. Women's responsibilitiesI think that prior to marriage both parts of the couple need to sit down and figure out what they want from the relationship and what they bring to the relationship. Most women end up with the child raising and do the vast majority of it. For me, I'm the social problem solver and take care of the kids even of the extended family. I also do the lions share of the cleaning. And something that's kind of controversial: sex. If you like being married and you're healthy enough for sex, then you need t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.I am a skinny girl with massive tits who wears a minimizer just fine. Even with wearing a hoodie, there are still ways to look more feminine. Early Billie went hard into the masc WLW look. Which I loved and was disappointed to find out that wasn't the real her. But at this point she's changed her aesthetic and is plenty feminine and sexualized so I guess my confusion has solved itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.Even if she was into chicks, so what? For me it would have made her even better and even more interesting and I'd have enjoyed her even more. I don't think you understand, I'm not saying that it's a bad thing. It's a good thing. I was very excited about the idea of an openly masc presenting WLW being as popular as she was. Only to find out that she wasn't actually that way. And yes, I was dissapointed. I also went for baggy t-shirts and oversized sweatshirts because my very large for my age brea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:38 PM |
| 0 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.I see it more as she was the alt pop star like Pink and Avril were a generation ago. For a star as big as she was, there's no way that she had that much control over her image. And I know that this next point will likely be controversial, but I saw her outfits as a type of queerbaiting. And my initial question still stands: who was she trying to attract? She's not asexual. She was dating at the time, and it appears that she's identified as straight. I don't think it was her at all, I think that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:26 PM |
| 0 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.I think that men think those women are super fuckable and want to have sex with them. I don't think that they think that they're unhealthy or that anything is wrong with their heads? The beauty industry is thriving but there are still lots of different women. Some women use the beauty industry just for skincare. Plenty of women are all about rejecting fitting into the make gaze. My whole life growing up as a girl I was told to be strong and responsible instead of focusing on being beautiful beca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:17 PM |
| 5 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.Time moves different after COVID. Shockingly she's 21. I had to Google because I thought 19 was too old. I thought she was still 18! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:12 PM |
| 0 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.I was talking about how she dressed in the baggy clothes. I'll edit my comment. Because you're absolutely right, she is stunning. Her fashion choices in the Extreme Tomboy Era weren't attractive clothing choices. And that's what I was shouted down about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 02:11 PM |
| 16 | Telling men to stop associating their self-wroth with sexual success is like telling women to stop feeling like they have to be beautiful.So you're saying it might actually work? There's been a huge push in women's circles to eschew men's beauty standards. And women do it. Just the other day I got downvoted into oblivion for suggesting that Billie Eilish wasn't attractive and I wasn't sure what the point was for her outfits. I got lots and lots of both public and private messages talking about how That's the point! Women don't have to be attractive to men anymore! Which, I think that men's taste just changes as the times change. B… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates?There is a dude in my area who I see from time to time who is like 4'10". He looks like he can spit nails and he works construction. Word on the street is that this man fucks. Idk. If Joe Rogan had the same exact personality and liked the same exact stuff and drove a garbage truck which is a traditionally masculine job, I think he would be just fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Society handicaps men where women are trained to be independent.Thank you for responding in good faith. That's a pretty comprehensive list and you've given me a lot to think about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 10:25 AM |
| 5 | Society handicaps men where women are trained to be independent.Thank you for answering my question. This is a lot to think about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 09:52 AM |
| 3 | Society handicaps men where women are trained to be independent.Since this is a completely anonymous forum, could you just shine a light on what these issues are or could be? I'm completely aware about the whataboutism involving women. Women are their own kettle of fish who do their own set of not so great behavior. This threat topic is about men and their mental health. What are the secret struggles that men face? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 09:43 AM |
| 16 | CMV: Finding a High-Value Woman nowadays is nearly impossibleAt a certain point being alone is ok. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 12:49 AM |
| 12 | CMV: Finding a High-Value Woman nowadays is nearly impossibleI mean if they can't find someone would you rather them sit around unhappy? I hope that can convince themselves that their station in life is good if they're unable to change it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 12:42 AM |
| 1 | What did you do during The Great Reddit Outage of 2023? Weekly Discussion ThreadI will look into it. What is "the hook"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/23 12:38 AM |
| 2 | What did you do during The Great Reddit Outage of 2023? Weekly Discussion ThreadThose are definitely faves! A lot of crossover with people who like those murders and the Watts murders. Lol at people "liking" murders. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:55 PM |
| 1 | What did you do during The Great Reddit Outage of 2023? Weekly Discussion ThreadWhat's your favorite case? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:44 PM |
| 2 | What did you do during The Great Reddit Outage of 2023? Weekly Discussion Threadr/WattsFree4All Don't look if you like love love love Shanann Watts. It is absolutely NOT a hate sub. But there are plenty of people who are critical of her. And yes, she did get ⚰️ Very interesting case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 11:14 PM |
| 2 | Society handicaps men where women are trained to be independent.The black people around me don't sit around saying how they don't struggle with racism though. When I come to them in good faith, they tell me what they struggle with and I ask how I can help. And then we make it happen. So that's not a good analogy at all. Since there are examples all over this subreddit and you bothered to respond to me why don't you tell me some of them? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 10:57 PM |
| 5 | CMV : Women are so militant and unforgiving with guys they're dating because they’re almost 100 percent confident “their perfect man” is waiting for them in the futureI somewhat agree with this. Which is why when we talk about guys with a virgin or Low N preference I really think to myself....please keep in mind that a woman can be comparing you in her mind to someone who she's never had sex with and not even comparing your sexual qualities. Just one guy made her feel happier and more hopeful for the future and this guy doesn't. And also, women who haven't had those bad dating experiences, aren't able to appreciate good dating experiences when they have them … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 07:11 PM |
| 1 | What did you do during The Great Reddit Outage of 2023? Weekly Discussion ThreadRestarted my phone a few times and cursed the gods because it made me lose a bomb ass OP for my true crime sub. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:45 PM |
| 8 | Society handicaps men where women are trained to be independent.When men talk about their secret struggles that they don't let anyone in on....what are those struggles? Growing up I wished I was a guy because guys didn't seem to have any problems. There didn't seem to be a lot of nuance amongst guys and if you could be into traditionally masculine things, you were good as far as being a man was concerned. I know that men have suicidal thoughts and kill themselves a lot....but why? Can someone just put it into words what it is that men have to worry about? An… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Do you see men's very low standards for sex as a good or bad thing?When it comes to the continued existence of our human species, I think it's a good thing. I wonder where we're headed as a species. We've had a long time of trying to be life long monogamous. But I think that were really headed for a future of amiable co parenting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI would say nowadays with reliable birth control, women's careers, and no fault divorce, there aren't many men being tricked into raising other men's children. The other day someone brought up Maury and Jerry Springer and I agree with them that yes, paternity fraud does happen. But I'm talking about people who you'd put your hand on a holy book and say "these are decent and good people". Not Misty and Darrell from the trailer park. Now with that said, my genealogy work has unexpectedly uncovered… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:00 PM |
| 0 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI can't take a hard line against it for a few reasons. One is I have no idea what would be going on in the relationship when I would find it out. If I could say that things were otherwise fine in the relationship it wouldn't matter. Another reason is that if my behavior hadn't been so good around the same time, I don't know that I could blame them for cheating. There was a time before I stopped drinking that my real life at home behavior was...not great. Sloppy. Annoying. Me not being a good par… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameIt seems like the men in this very sub don't like it. They want a childfree virgin who goes half on everything. And I'm not accusing you of this, because you and I agree on a lot. But it seems like I see it all over this sub | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 01:05 AM |
| 11 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI was just goofing off earlier and I read about some 70s band that had gotten together to do some Domestic Violence benefit back in the day. And I thought to myself....I wonder what it was like when people finally realized that DV was a bad thing. And that women didn't live life on easy street. Recently at a gathering I was at, a couple were celebrating 60+ years of marriage. I bet you the wife was tipsy because we were talking and I asked her the secret and she said "because I didn't have the a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameDoing genealogy work, I notice that people just go through a lot less hardship in general. And I imagine that because things are so relatively easy, especially in The West, things can seem worse than they are. This might be controversial, but I'll share it: A while back, a woman from the surviving infidelity sub hit my DMs to talk to me privately about her situation. She considered that she had an amazing marriage, but her husband recently broke down and confessed that while he had essentially b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 12:11 AM |
| 4 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameI completely agree with you. Thank you for the links. I will check them out. And thank you, I do try to be a good friend. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 12:00 AM |
| 5 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameYeah I've talked before about my friend who married her One and Only. And I'd say the two of them have a pretty decent marriage with some miscommunication here and there, but I think that they have a loving and non abusive or manipulative union. Now, onto the problem: when you haven't experienced much pain, the smallest thing can legitimately be "the worst pain you've ever felt". So when they have a miscommunication, or he's short with her when she feels like she wishes he was more caring...you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:49 PM |
| 7 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameBut men also admit that they hate the transactional part. And I get it. I don't even blame them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 09:32 PM |
| 19 | Women's selection criterion have changed, but men have remained largely the sameThere was a time when women didn't choose anything. Arranged marriage was just between her father and the husband. So I don't think we as a society have really seen what women like until nowadays. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 06:42 PM |
| 2 | "Men are allowed to have preferences, just don't be rude about it" Is A LieI agree with that. I say "easily" because it's more like....you know that what you're seeing is more likely to be real and not just someone knowing what you want to see. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 05:47 PM |
| 1 | How does one "Work on their personality"I started listening more than I spoke, not making petty comments, and not investing so much in the end of other people's story. Worked out well for me. I started being seen as a problem solver instead of a problem escalator. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 02:04 PM |
| 4 | "Men are allowed to have preferences, just don't be rude about it" Is A LieBetter yet you don't even need to tell them your preferences. You'll figure it out and be able to vet for it on your own better that way. Without having someone faking to attempt to be what you want so you'll be what they want. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/23 12:00 AM |
| 2 | "Men are allowed to have preferences, just don't be rude about it" Is A LieWell sure, if both of you are waiting for marriage then yes that sounds good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:54 PM |
| 6 | "Men are allowed to have preferences, just don't be rude about it" Is A LieNo rational being should be on Twitter. Ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/23 11:52 PM |
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