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911TheActionNerd/r/askMRP16/05/21 06:52 AM
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I also think about fucking other women constantly Why don't you just do it? You just have a slightly more expensive breakup on your hands with no kids. How much sex have you had in the past month?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 02:21 PM
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I have not managed to break out of my Oneitis. So write about it, it'll point out your own flawed thinking to yourself. You might be fortunate and have others also point out your blind spots which will come across in your writing (no greater lesson than a ban). I am starting from 3 but one of them was in a sloshed state due to alcohol. So you're aiming for 18 in 1 year after 2 in 33. Do you just enjoy the dopamine from saying that's what you're going to do "because you want it"? Start by fucking…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 05:37 PM
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Oneitis for last 1 year Why aren't you talking about this or have you managed to break out of it? My goal is to take my body count to 20 in 2025 What body count are you starting from? Considering the other unattractive behaviour you've mentioned, Incel, insecurities and porn addict, shouldn't you be taking more actions rather than having a "plan"? What will you have done by next week's OYS?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 03:52 PM
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HVM What's your definition of a HVM?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 03:48 PM
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What are your goals or what gives you purpose? To experience as much as this world has to offer. Currently as my woman life has historically been where I've lagged the most, it is my biggest focus until it is aligned with other aspects of my life. Are you enjoying your dating life? Part of this may be enjoying my time with my main, that I am feeling more frustration in other aspects, on my D1s. That said, I know I have a tendency for monogamy so I continue to hunt. Additionally with my goal, I c…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 04:35 PM
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This is not what a HVM man does. What do you base this statement on? A girl is hardly trained on the 5th date and would have been incongruent to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/24 04:31 PM
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OYS 5th Nov → 3rd Dec 34y, height: 186cm 86kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging By the end of this period, I was mentally exhausted so I may have finally hit the wall I was looking for to understand my limits in dating. I had been feeling a desire to take a step back and focus on internalising more concepts and building up other areas of my life. Plate spinning will continue but the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/24 10:31 PM
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no kids (planning) Does this mean you're not planning on kids or you're in the stages of planning for kids? If you're planning for kids, and you've found this space, I'd hope you realise that you'll want to put this on hold until you're actually attractive enough to start getting what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/24 11:24 AM
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If divorce happens it happens, I'm just worried how far setback I'll be in terms of finance, potentially living in a share house or back with family while I'm pushing 30. I can't help but lament how if only I'd found this place sooner. Why are you lamenting you didn't find this place sooner? You should be over the moon you found this place as young as you did, instead of 10 years and 2 kids into the marriage. Enjoy the relatively simple divorce, reset your life a little bit and work on yourself.…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 02:25 PM
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You're pretty much spot on. I wrote this way this month on purpose as I was seeing so many guys trying to draw blood from stone. I don't know how I'll write next month but enjoy the read u/Moist-Bath5827. I sucked/failed/spun wheels in MRP for years while married but 1 year out of it and I'm doing decently. There could be a life of debauchery on the other side once IR7 is accepted.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 11:12 PM
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Score cards, what value do the numbers add to you? I'm just an autist, it's how I roll. Why don't you like that, what are you looking for instead? Not saying I don't like it, she's just obedient to me. This is breaking my conditioning that I'm not the prize and I'm able to move closer towards that mindset. She already doesn't respect you, why she would care to fuck you good? While this girl, as I am unable to get into the right frame does the opposite for my mindset. So I'm pretty willing to dro…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/24 08:01 PM
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OYS 8th Oct → 4th November 34y, height: 186cm 86kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging A full 4 week period with no holidays so focused on getting back into the dating grind while also moving into a one bedroom apartment. Felt like a very long month, and was definitely feeling some fatigue by the end of it. As from my last report, I was down to 2-3 plates so this period I really wanted…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 11:26 PM
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Why are you staying?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/24 12:20 PM
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Fake, be authentic and honest. Women sense that. Did you read Models? Yeh so I didn't do that. I've read Models albeit a long time ago. I don't see it as my most important re-read right now. You need a lot of dominance and imagination. Yeh, I reflected upon this when I was with my friend in Copenhagen as well. Still discussing how to up the ante in a way that feels authentic to me, while accepting there's still a lot of exploring outside of my comfort zone. Do you fuck or just date her? We've fu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/24 08:50 PM
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OYS 10th September -> 7th October 34y, height: 186cm 84kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting, and working with a PT Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging Missed posting last week so posting retrospectively. I’m doing 13 posts this year, once every 4 weeks since that’s what I committed to myself at the start of the year. This period was one …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 10:24 PM
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As you've now come out of the other side of marriage, armed with the knowledge you have today, is there a reason you don't share your gift with more than 1 woman at a time?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 09:27 AM
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Yes, Hinge is just slightly less blatant than tinder on hookups, but the girls are very much still looking for it. As per the guide you linked, you just need a certain set of photos. I don't see the need to play with the line-up each month. Just identify which photos are weak or lacking, and continue to replace them until your photo set is solid. I have 3 standard photos that show me well, 2 action photos and 1 pet photo. The biggest value from my professional photoshoot was probably getting the…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 01:31 PM
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What do you mean by "looking for long term"? I don't put that on my profile. Hinge allows 6 pics which is what I have. Didn't hone too much as I had a limited photo set to pick from anyway. Got professional photos taken in May which I have used since then without much change (at most changing 1 photo out). My prompts were honed back when I started but haven't changed in probably 8 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 05:40 PM
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This might be a good point. From my "intent" perspective, I want to give as much of my masculine gift as possible to the girls I spin. However, as part of the game, I do need to hold them at arms length. My level of investment is hard to tell, I do like most of these girls and going through honey-moon-like periods with my main girl, I'm not exactly holding back, mostly as a response to her femininity and care she's showing me. I may have inadvertently done this. From my last OYS: South Africa (2…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/24 11:42 AM
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Did I link to that guide? I'm sure I read it at some point and skimming it again, definitely has solid points and would at minimum start there. Kinda all window dressing in some ways though. Question is if you'll put in the work and actually follow through.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 03:56 PM
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Yes and no. I've been told that having a roommate would make bringing over girls multiple times harder. But obviously I've been able to get a few girls spinning despite that fact, and quite a number of them hadn't even asked about if I had a roommate before coming over. That said, some girls definitely have a harder time of it and yes I may have lost those chances due to having a roommate. I think I get away with it also due to living in an expensive city and being relatively young, that it is s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:31 AM
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Yes but I wanted to be honest with where I'm at. Have yet been able to truly internalise the "I am the prize" mentality, but I am definitely leaps and bounds further along since my separation. With my ex being my 2nd ever notch, and now having abundance and still not yet being there, it's hard to know if I could ever have gotten to where I'm at while staying in my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:27 AM
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Cheers. I've been dating just under a year now. Moved out late October, with my first post-separation notch coming at the start of November 2023. 2nd notch post-D wouldn't be until February 2024. For those reading along, and considering the button, I think it's worth noting that I was far from being advanced with the "mrp" work when I decided to separate. Spun my wheels for a few years in fact. Since separating, I've been able to do a lot of work and have a lot more experience with girls when I …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/24 12:25 AM
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OYS 34y, height: 186cm 84kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting, and working with a PT Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging Continuing to maintain a positive outlook, likely fuelled by the fact I have a constant source of sex via my current main plate. Still need to transfer that mental model to myself being successful and internally valida…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 05:03 PM
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Are you telling me as a current 26yo, you had a relationship where there was sex in the first 6 months, and for the subsequent 3 and a half years it was a dead bedroom until 2 weeks ago? Do you have any self respect? Actually I know the answer, so do you not have any friends who can tell you how fucked up this is?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 11:48 PM
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OYS 34y, height: 186cm 84kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging A great past 4 weeks but I realise that part of this may be from positive reinforcement from the abundance feeling I am getting from the girls I am seeing at the moment. In terms of meditation, I’ve had less time for that but I did make tim…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 02:57 PM
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OYS 34y, height: 186cm 84kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging A much better month after having some lows in early June. Still some frustrations but keeping my centre. Went to my first ayahuasca retreat which was also the first time I’ve done psychedelics. I’ve had an interest and goal to do this for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 11:14 PM
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or at least a post nuptial agreement. easier for divorce if the time comes. Why don't you save yourself time from mentally masturbating and just keep playing captain save-a-hoe. I'm sure this time she'll be loyal! When she's actually ready to branch swing, I'm sure you'll be able to find yourself your 3rd single mom. My first marriage was to a single mom with a one year old daughter. I was 27 years old when we married and after three years of marriage I discovered multiple instances of her cheat…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 09:19 PM
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I just added a comment for the kind of hobbies I enjoy. Currently not thinking strongly to game at such events, though if something happens organically, sure. I do occasionally go to Salsa but that's outside of my comfort zone rather than a hobby of mine. It could become a hobby, but most likely there to "game".
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 12:35 AM
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Feel free to guess, always open to finding hidden blind spots. In my case, my hobbies and passions tend to be more nerdy, which I allude to in my dating profile as well. Last month I went to Comiccon, month before I went to an eSports event, and tomorrow I will be going to a concert for an artist I love. Should I game at these venues? Maybe, but I also kinda just want to chill. If something organically happens, sure, I'll be open to it but I purposely don't want to go to these events to game eit…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 12:33 AM
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At a point, I realise that the better quality girls will come from real life. I did do a DG set and got the number, but no response which has been the same result as all my DG in the city I live in so far. OLD is just giving me enough activity right now to not be particularly motivated to go hunt via real life.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 09:17 PM
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Most likely you are just trying to apply the methods to fuck bitches, but you aren't calibrating per bitch, and not good with body language or womanese. Yep, likely. I am an autist (the mrp kind not literally) so game doesn't come naturally to me. All this is experience for me to learn to calibrate, improve my body language, and improve my womanese. I just need to avoid oneitis before I get there. What do you think you did wrong? I don't think I did anything wrong. She was looking for something …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 09:14 PM
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Dates: Ashley HB7.5. Dates 13 and 14. Continued seeing her at a cadence of once a week for 2 weeks before she asked for a break (had suspected period) and then saying she didn’t want to see me any more. I was fine with this as it came after my low week and I was feeling back to normal. Was a good experience and interestingly, this plate died after about the same amount of time together as my first plate. I probably could have tried harder to maintain it but I did want to test if I could reduce m…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:27 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 85kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging A bit of a regression to some bad old habits. Dating apps took off post-professional photos which meant I spent a lot of time checking my messages incessantly. So now once again very connected to my phone despite the disconnection the month…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 10:27 PM
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Day Game
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 01:07 AM
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Dates: Ashley HB7.5. Dates 10 to 12. Continued seeing her at a cadence of once a week or so as I was away in between. Was very stable during this period and a nice source of sex to keep me going. Texting in between is reduced, aside from logistics, now with gaps of 4-5 days between texts sometimes which is unusual for me. As she was my only source of sex for this period, which means she’s effectively my girlfriend but no oneitis was felt from my side. DG1 HB8.5 First Date. My first DG date since…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 08:37 PM
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OYS 23rd Apr to 21st May (1 week delayed post) 33y, height: 186cm 84kg, 13% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging Most of this period I was on holiday and taking things a bit more easier. The main thing I did for my mental side was attend a Men’s retreat as long advised by NMMNG but the first time doing so. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 08:36 PM
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Hinge26 HB6.5 First date. She had sent the like to me first months ago and it was borderline but finally went for it after coming across her bumble profile. At the usual venue near me. Had a lot in common, mostly appealing to the nerdier side of me. Ended the date after 75 minutes. Second date. Arranged to see her again 4 days later on Saturday but she ended up needing to cancel. Rearranged to the Monday, and that day she needed to cancel again as well. I felt that she should still be quite inte…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 10:00 PM
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Bumble2 HB8 First Date. Matched on the Sunday for a date on Saturday. Arranged logistics by the Tuesday, and no further text until the morning of the date. Met at the bar and she was prettier than in her profile. Decent vibes and kino. Got her to kino me by having her explain the way Brazilians greet others. She was nursing her drink so before I realised, I hadn’t venue changed and it had been 2 hours. She suggested to leave. I did ask her if she wanted to have a drink at mine but not accepted. …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 10:00 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 86kg, 15% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging Could feel a bit of a drop off this month compared to last. Can tell by my ability to conform to my habits. Where I had a perfect month of habits last month, I’ve had a missed week of journal entries, and half-assed journaling for another w…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/24 09:46 PM
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You were spinning 4 plates. What made this girl a unicorn for you? She was even post-wall.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/24 12:22 PM
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Then I caught oneitus and here I am again. Once a week. Rarely good but sometimes. This has to be the MRP worst case scenario/horror story. How did you let it happen?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/24 09:40 PM
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Probably not to the letter, and might be something I just need to get more comfortable with. To what extent is this meant to be the law? The majority of texts are for logistics or scouting for availability. Do I always open after a few days of no texting and directly suggest times? If she confirms or says she's busy and asks how I am, do I stop responding?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 07:14 PM
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Others: - Hinge22 HB8 First Date. Had been lining up logistics with this one for a while. She responded one night asking if I was free that night but I was already busy. Texted her after that date at 11pm and invited her over that night but she declined. Maybe should have got her over to a bar near mine. Met up a week after that exchange instead, but didn’t end up having much connection. Tried to go through the process by suggesting a location change but was unreceptive, so just ended the date i…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 04:40 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 85.5kg, 17% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Mental – Build my self-worth and self-love to stop being so reactionary to validation and to stop self-sabotaging My focus post-separation is on building myself and my mentalities. All the areas I’m focusing on are basically for the sake of my mindset. In terms of these activities, I am practicing improving my self-worth and self-love via meditation,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/24 04:40 PM
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Since I was young, and a degenerate playing video games all day, I would optimise my play. For all of my childhood, and early adulthood, that was my identity, and what I enjoyed time doing. Maximising my character to its full potential. It's where I drew my confidence from, as I was always the best amongst my peers. It has since reflected in my work, where I am high performing and efficient, and still the best. It took a lot of time for me to start applying it to my real-life, spending a lot of …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/24 02:39 AM
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I have a specific connotation on the word "nice". I can be generous or kind but from a place without condition. That I am fine with. I am not fine with me being nice in expectation of something in return, which I can still see in myself when it comes to dating. Yes, I believe I am congruent in pretty much all other aspects of my life. With the exception of not being an idiot and potentially getting myself cancelled for my views, I represent myself well in both work and in social environments wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 12:01 AM
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I think that my dating life is the weakest part of my life and a reflection of my worst behaviours (i.e. where I am most supplicating, nice or self-sabotage). The end goal is to be completely comfortable in my own skin, confident in portraying who I am in all interactions in my life, and pushing myself to my potential. For now that involves tightening up my game and improving my discipline where a side effect will ideally be that I am comfortable gaming hotter girls and pushing for better sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 09:31 PM
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3 different girls, 2 new notches. Conversion rate still feels random although I am going through mostly the same motions and trying to tighten my game.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 09:27 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 86.9kg, 16% (visual). Separated, no kids 2023 stats: Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1. No longer powerlifting. Physical Training with a PT has been going well. Feeling a lot more muscle soreness and feeling good although it is only 4 weeks in. Mostly a key difference is controlling my diet now, greatly reducing the amount I eat out. Eating about 4 meals a day and 3k calories, with a lot of protein as I am used to. Still have some extra carbs from going on dat…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/24 04:40 PM
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In front of them, not very comfortable. Privately/to the boys, a lot more comfortable although I don't go out of my way to make such comments. Mostly commenting on attractiveness.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/24 11:36 AM
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Yes I agree. Although I am polarising with the topics I talk about, they all lack sexual intent and are effectively safe topics. Without kino, they could easily think I am just trying to be friends. So I do need to fix this. Besides manning the fuck up/doing better, I'm not entirely sure how to go about this. As you've put so eloquently, I am in the "when i think women are sexy, i feel guilty" asian crowd. Or at the very least, I am not very good at expressing that sexual intent due to my upbrin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/24 02:16 AM
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No headaches, or vision problems as far as I'm aware (I'm guessing it means inconsistency?). I use to wear glasses, and had laser eye surgery. Didn't get perfect vision, but my vision has been stable since the surgery last April. When I was doing powerlifting last year, I reached 195kg DL, 170kg squat, 90kg bench. My bench is pretty weak compared to the other 2. I think I progressed at a good rate, and any lack of progress would more likely be contributed to either fuckarounditis, poor diet, or …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 03:18 PM
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I didn't know about aromatase inhibiting foods, but looking now it looks like Blueberries were one. I had been having 50-75g of blueberries daily for over half a year last year while bulking. I will look to add it back into my diet. For bodyfat%, visually I am around 16% or lower. Will getting an accurate measure help much as realistically, I will only be going down to around 12% if I put in the work. I have been interested in getting a DEXA scan anyway though so I'll look into it but I'm just n…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 12:49 PM
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Thank you for the tips. Logically I agree with you and feel that I am severely lacking in pushing things aggressively. Will try your suggestions, at least the mindset behind them. Any historical success at doing so has been from the girl's frame rather than my own, which is why I haven't been able to push my average interactions. Regarding working on inner game, confidence and my shitty attitude, that is also key for me. I think I have a huge amount of unhealthy conditioning that I need to strip…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 09:54 AM
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Water Fast Yes I have planned for the Water fast with a decent amount of research. Have electrolyte supplements (which includes sodium chloride, potassium chloride, calcium carbonate), also increasing my overall magnesium intake, and having water with Himalayan salt every morning. What was probably suboptimal was coming down with a weak cold beforehand. I will be breaking the fast today with a light meal (bone broth and a few bananas), before having a steak with some rice 1 hour later. Thyroid C…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 09:52 AM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 86.9kg, 17% (visual). STBX 30y married 4 years, together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1 Physical After hitting my goals for last year, switched over to a bodybuilding routine. Hard for me to exactly know how my progress is, although I am either increasing reps or weight from session to session. To remove some of the guess-work, decided to just sign up for a PT. I’ll have 20 sessions from February onwards, 2 per week with him and 2 per week …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/24 02:06 AM
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I think it's just not coming to mind for me. It's not like I am biting my tongue. I might just need to watch more comedy shows. Alternatively, the topics are boring such that it would be a stretch to find a sexual joke in the topic areas. Any ideas to bring it to there?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/24 10:55 PM
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It's first date to lay. Where you're 1/8. That isn't too shit. About that PUA 12%. Obviously not statistically significant and partially luck/part of the numbers game. I'm continuing to monitor and taking my average date as my point of reference. I think you're one of those guys who needs a good dose of irrational self confidence. Yeh I agree, and I just need to stick at it, reminding myself it's a marathon. What does this mean? Basically the mood is bad. It's not going to the highs that the dat…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 11:47 PM
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Ime converting 40% (3/8) of your first dates to lays is the absolute best you're going to get, once you really master it. I probably wasn't clear. 3/8 converted to a second date (1 was a lay, 2 were to second dates). It could have been 2/8 converting into lays but I really stuffed one of them up on the 3rd date (pulled to my place but failed to escalate). What I was asking earlier is on a rough expected conversion rate of 1st dates to second dates, and if 3/8 is good though, I may just focus on …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 11:15 AM
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Yes I am still faking it to a decently big extent, and am still trying to build to where it's more natural. For my best dates, where the texting has gone well, I have definitely gone in with a better mindset where I felt confident which lead to my first date lay. Hence I am still a bit too reactive to the mood set by the girl rather than being able to set my own mood.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 10:59 AM
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I'm transitioning from my previous first date plan (drinks + activity + walk/drinks), to the more efficient drinks/coffee only first date. Of the 13 girls I've dated since separation, 8 of those were drinks/coffee first date only, with only the first 3 converting to more (3rd one was first date drinks and pull to my place). So it seems like my trend is going in a negative direction, I think I might be either being more aggressive, or detecting a non-detection and being too overt. On the first da…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/24 01:27 AM
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On step 3, I mean it's the first date. That's where I'm getting to with a lot of girls, and some are opting to not take it further, and sometimes I'm not that keen. I may also be unintentionally vetting and making assumptions that a girl wouldn't be up for something casual. I think this is also a sticking point for me. How do I make the first date almost foolproof? Is it able to be overcome with sufficient game, or will it always be the case that some girls won't be keen after the first date? I …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/24 08:56 PM
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I guess I mean that part of me (the part that's still blue pill?) thinks about the comfort of going back into a relationship with my ex, but the logic part knows that it will never make me happy. That the amount of grinding I'm doing is too much work. I started reading NMMNG again and a key reminder I need is that breaking my Nice guy behaviours will be a life long journey and I shouldn't expect anything to come easy. I've previously read your system from something you posted to somebody else, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/24 11:43 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 89.6kg, 17% (visual). STBX 30y married 4 years, together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 195kgx1, Squat 170kgx1 Physical Got sick for a week and a half taking a chunk out of my December gym schedule. Was able to use it as an effective deload to go for my Squat 1RM the session directly after recovering. Mentally felt underprepared but 165kg ended up feeling good so I went for the 170kg 1RM as well and hit that nicely. That secures the yearly goal of joining the 100…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/24 09:36 AM
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It was actually quite obvious in hindsight, so I don't remember the exact video. It was more a reflection of how easily I cave to a "reason" for not fucking when the solution can be quite obvious. This showed in this example, and in my date with H4. Just stupid mistakes from inexperience.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 09:42 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 89.5kg, 16% (visual). STBX 30y was together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 190kgx1, Squat 160kgx1 Physical Was able to lift a bit more consistently in November. Hit a new PR for Squats at 160kg putting me 1 increment away from my end of year goal. Started benching again and my seems to be mostly fine now. A total of 15kg away from my end of year goal or 970/1000lb. Technically I’ve hit 95kg on bench before but that was over a year ago so I need to hit it again. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 01:35 PM
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Squat: 89.9kg = (59.9%*100kg) + 30 kg 5-5-5-5-5 I was confused about this in your first OYS too. Are you trying to calculate that you're squating 59.9% of your bodyweight and therefore you're squating 90kg? That isn't how it works at all. You're basically air squating at 30kg.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/23 12:41 AM
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What are you trying to save?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 07:29 PM
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It's not a hard rule, but you're so far cuckolded that you need a complete mindset shift. When you started "owning your shit" 2 years ago, and she confessed, that should have been the catalyst for your wife to start fucking your brains out. Instead, 2 years later she doesn't fuck, you do all chores, and make all the money. This is the worst plowhorse case I've ever read. What are you even trying to save?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 04:55 PM
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Your wife cheated on you, isn't fucking you, you're negotiating sex, and there's no mention of your go plan. You do know there's no stay plan here right?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/23 01:25 PM
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The way you write gives you away.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/23 10:23 PM
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You shouldn't be so dismissive of someone pointing out your blind spots. Your relationship section is a mess. Your takeaway is that horns can get sex whenever he wants so its easy for him to say but for someone with a huge sex drive like you he wouldnt understand? And the you've made the manly decision to make the arbiter of whether you fuck or not solely your wife. And then "you need that release". Are you a slave to your bodily functions? The whole paragraph was shifting responsibility away fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/23 03:20 AM
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I’ll just use a letter number system, with all girls so far having been met off Hinge. H2 7/10 Second date after kissing her briefly on the first date. In hindsight bad logistics as she was a minor public figure and was paranoid about being seen the entire date. Was able to sneak into the park to kiss her briefly again but not much else. Still no logistics at this point. H3 5.5/10 First date, and somewhat of a catfish. Still stuck it out for practice, but did not even end up kino-ing at all, nor…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 02:57 AM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 89.2kg, 16% (visual). STBX 30y was together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 190kgx1, Squat 155kgx1 Physical Although not ideal, ended up lifting less in October than normal between my left bicep injury, going on dates more and moving apartment. Still did 3 times a week rather than 4, and hit a new PR for DL, putting me 5kg away from my end of year goal for DL. Since moving out towards the end of the month, my diet has also been all eating out, although I try to pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 02:54 AM
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Appreciate this. Cheers!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 04:23 PM
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I don't have an exotic look as an Western-born East Asian, but with my height, I should slay in time. I am young so I'm not panicking at all. By far the biggest gap for me to work on is frame, which I am just doing over time and through exposure. For looks, aside from lifting it hasn't been a huge focus, but I do need to adapt my dating profiles to up my success rate. My tinder profile is more forward in that I'm literally just trying to emphasize my look (tall pretty-boy asian), but I don't hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 02:18 PM
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East Asian (but I'm western born)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 01:33 PM
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I agree that my style can be more conducive to "boyfriend material" as I just dress in a classic style with no tattoos or piercings. That is partly my personality or how I see myself. Very much open to ideas of how to show more masculinity in my dress style. What doesn't help is my perception (and it might just be true) of my demographic, would be that the girls would tend to be more conservative (at least to others of their own culture), and be looking for LTR/monogamy which I'm not looking for…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 01:27 PM
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I've set up tinder but no response on matches. Only 3 matches (didn't include in stats). In my bio there, I'm a little bit more aggressive/forward, but maybe I should be humorous instead. Probably due to a lack of matches, and my current logistics I've put tinder on the backburner for now. I also set up feeld, but no matches. I only do night dates, and plan 3 legs (usually drinks, activity, walk/pull). Problem is I don't have a place to pull to at the moment, but this might just be a limiting be…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 01:19 PM
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Date 1 was at a driving range so T-shirt + Jeans. Both fitted/slim so complimentary to my body. No image on the T-shirt. Date 2 was drinks and axe throwing, was in a sports jacket, button dress shirt tucked into Chinos and boots. Colours matched accordingly. I always style my hair and am clean shaven (couldn't grow anything anyway), and I wear fragrance. I've been doing some A-B testing (though 90% similar) between Hinge and Bumble. Hinge is where I've received the majority of my matches. I'll t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 12:57 PM
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Before it sounds like I'm making excuses, I might just suck (for now). I've gotten approximately 10 numbers over the past few weeks in day game but the response rate to the opening text is abysmal. Need to work on my in set speak and build more comfort or go for the instant date I think. My dating profile might suck as I've only converted to 2 dates. 1 I wasn't interested in, 1 I kissed but limiting beliefs around my logistics/inexperience trying to pull to a hotel might be holding me back. I st…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 12:00 PM
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Not yet. Going through the process on a place with a move in date 3 weeks from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 11:52 AM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 88.2kg, 16% (visual). STBX 30y married 4 years, together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 90kgx2, Deadlift 185kgx1, Squat 155kgx1 Physical Scraped through to hit my end of quarter goals. Most of this was realising my 1RM where I previously always did sets of 3 (Deadlift 170x3 to 185x1, Squat 145x3 to 155x1). I had hoped to reach this more comfortably, like I did for my Q2 goals. When going for my 1RM in squats 2 days after deadlifts but I ended up losing form and deferring it for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 10:49 PM
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Yeh the responses are fair and I appreciate all the feedback. I'm trying to be self-aware but obviously a lot of naivety. Some lessons can only be learned by crashing and burning, but I posted to try to identify that. The only thing I can do in response is through action.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 10:34 PM
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OYS 33y, height: 186cm 88.7kg, 16% (visual). STBX 30y married 4 years, together 9 years. 0 kids. Bench: 87.5kgx3, Deadlift 170kgx3, Squat 145kgx3 Physical Hitting the gym 4 days a week for weightlifting, an additional 1 day for steady state cardio and another day for HIIT cardio. Only added the cardio days in the last 6 months but have been consistent with my workout schedule. Visually I’m probably 16% body fat and have been since I started lifting. Not going to try to lower that though as I’ve …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 06:04 PM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 86.4kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Maxes: Back Squat: 150kg (3 reps), Deadlift: 170kg (3 reps), Bench Press: 95kg (1 rep), Overhead Press: 57kg (3 reps) Working Sets 4 second negatives: Front Squat: 62kg (3x6), Deadlift: 92kg (4x6), Bench Press: 62kg (4x6), Overhead Press: 42kg (4x6) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Physical Continuing with the bodybuilding routine 4 times a week. My body is shaping out better than when I was l…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 12:29 AM
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She flipped a switch into full tiger mode. This line gives away entirely that you were in her frame in both occasions. Her frame Case 1: she gave you starfish so you enacted dread act - withdraw attention during sex. Case 2: she gave you starfish again but withdrawing attention didn't work last time. Enact caveman. She reacts, dopamine through the roof, cracked the strategy. But it's entirely in her frame as it's based on her reaction. Your frame Case 1: you start fucking and you kinda get bored…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/22 12:39 AM
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If it isn't clear by all the other comments, the mental aspect is fixed by the physical (lifting). What else would be your measure, how much your wife is fucking you?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 05:42 PM
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I know it ain’t shit, but Don't negative self talk
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/22 01:34 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.6kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Maxes: Back Squat: 150kg (3 reps), Deadlift: 170kg (3 reps), Bench Press: 95kg (1 rep), Overhead Press: 57kg (3 reps) Working Sets 4 second negatives: Front Squat: 60kg (3x6), Deadlift: 84kg (4x6), Bench Press: 60kg (4x6), Overhead Press: 40kg (4x6) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Physical Continuing with the beginning stages of a bodybuilding routine. The exhaustion from the workout is diffe…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 12:24 AM
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Helping others with OYS and "swapping notes" could all be validation and mental masturbation if you're not moving the needle in your own life. Absorbing and solidifying does very little if you're not acting upon the notes you take. You need to test the ideas to get a breakthrough. You may have replaced the validation of implementing things in your OYS to the validation of helping others. Put on your own oxygen mask first.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 01:52 AM
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I'm no stranger to spinning wheels but the hope is that as you develop your ideas you could apply them to your situation. Do you practice what you preach? And why default to saying how your wife is treating you? Go get your dick wet elsewhere. Why OYS separately when other guys can provide solid insight to your situation? Others could also solidify their ideas when reflecting on your OYS and more importantly, it's likely you'd get that value from expressing your OYS and ideas.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 05:48 PM
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Are you just getting validation from contributing to other's OYS, saying it's to solidify your ideas while not posting your own OYS and showing you've improved your own situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 11:17 AM
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> I assume people commenting on here know that they're talking about. Be careful about that. There's a difference between calling out your bullshit and calling out your actions. Your action was just a small factor and you should be the judge of that. Even in the above and in your OYS, your asking whether it was a shit test is missing the point. The "mistake" and learning comes from before that. Likely you had a covert contract and wanted to convert on it, trying to maximise your chances by being…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/22 05:14 PM
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If you knew you wouldn't have worn it, why are you doubting your own frame and choice of response? A guy on MRP comments and says what you said meant you were emasculated by your wife, and you fall right into HIS frame and agree with him. We don't know the context of your relationship or your personality. Someone comfortable with their sexuality could have no problem joking about cross-dressing because they know it's just a joke (up to each individual person's frame). There's a world where your …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/22 04:11 PM
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This interaction between you and Steve is really confusing me. Do you think you might have worn it? Why do you care if your wife took it that way? Without the context of tonality only you know if it was a shit test. Maybe she was trying to emasculate you. Or maybe your response was good with the right delivery. STFU could have easily come across as butt hurt and worse than AA. You decide if what you did was you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 01:19 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 88.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Maxes: Back Squat: 150kg (3 reps), Deadlift: 170kg (3 reps), Bench Press: 95kg (1 rep), Overhead Press: 57kg (3 reps) Working Sets: Back Squat: 140kg (3x3), Deadlift: 160kg (3x3), Bench Press: 79kg (2x3), Overhead Press: 54kg (5x3) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subt…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 11:36 PM
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The week before was good. Better than a few months ago but not significantly different from recently to write about. I'm switching to more of a hypertrophy/body building routine after I 3rm Max my DL and squat. I'll consider greyskulls for my next powerlifting cycle after that. GZCLP already gives me a pretty good balance of upper lower though.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 12:58 PM
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Shark week. I could always push for more but keeping on top of my shit did fall off a cliff so it wasn't a priority.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 11:55 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.7kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Maxes: Back Squat: 140kg (3 reps), Deadlift: 164kg (3 reps), Bench Press: 95kg (1 rep), Overhead Press: 57kg (3 reps) Working Sets: Back Squat: 140kg (3x3), Deadlift: 160kg (3x3), Bench Press: 79kg (2x3), Overhead Press: 54kg (5x3) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subt…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 12:56 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.4kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Maxes: Back Squat: 140kg (3 reps), Deadlift: 164kg (3 reps), Bench Press: 84kg (2 reps), Overhead Press: 56kg (3 reps) Current: Back Squat: 130kg (5x3), Deadlift: 150kg (5x3), Bench Press: 75kg (5x3), Overhead Press: 50kg (5x3) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle A…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:49 PM
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No? I didn't. Edited because I cant count the number of plates I had for squat. Perhaps there's some confusion with my deciding to believe in God and my mission. It isn't to spread gospel.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/21 02:32 PM
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Yes I wouldn't do that
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 11:12 PM
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Here in MRP we have certain knowledge and red pill truths. We have guys trying to understand these truths and guys/vets who provide feedback. Are these vets validation seeking and outcome dependent? Maybe, for some of them. But others give their gift freely. Similarly for us who are in this community, it has an affect on your interactions. If you were talking to a close friend and he said happy life happy wife you probably wouldn't just agree with it. For me, I see the end goal similarly where I…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 09:52 PM
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I can only portray my truth, as I think it'd be worse to not be honest. But I'm measured in how I approach it as otherwise I would have mentioned it to my mother long ago. How I come across is up to me to adjust as im sure I have been guilty of it in the past. I have calibrated over time as it has been a long time battle and I see the same desire from my cousin to slap people awake but a measured approach seems to be more effective.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 05:31 PM
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I would say it's not related at all to the red pill man or sexual strategy and only related to what I believe and who I want to be. Posting about it is for my tracking and accountability. I'll need to fake it until I make it but what I've learned gives me no doubt on the existence of a creator. My aunts death was related to cancer. A reason that is socially accepted yet driven by the same agenda just not widely known.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 04:39 PM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 88.5kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 140kg (5x3), Deadlift: 164kg (5x3), Bench Press: 82kg (5x2), Overhead Press: 55kg (5x3) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Owner…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 12:45 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 88.5kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 136kg (5x3), Deadlift: 164kg (5x3), Bench Press: 82kg (5x2), Overhead Press: 55kg (5x3) Mission – Enlighten myself and subsequently the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Owner…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 11:38 PM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 88.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 132kg (5x3), Deadlift: 156kg (5x3), Bench Press: 78kg (5x3), Overhead Press: 53kg (5x3) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charism…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 10:52 PM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.4kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 128kg (5x3), Deadlift: 152kg (5x3), Bench Press: 76kg (5x3), Overhead Press: 51kg (5x3) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charism…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 08:13 PM
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I asked for the 20%. I also did ask for the meeting to set my salary expectation as it felt like HR was intending to skip it as they knew my salary and the market. I think even if I picked 30-40%, I would definitely be cheaper than anyone in the market for the same role. Likely it was that fear that asking for too much would mean I'd really need to back my performance and myself, and I was afraid of if I could live up to that. I'll keep that in mind regarding the next step in my career. I've bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/21 12:21 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.0kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 116kg (3x5), Deadlift: 140kg (3x5), Bench Press: 70kg (6x4), Overhead Press: 49kg (3x5) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charism…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/21 08:35 PM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 87.1kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 120kg (5x3), Deadlift: 145kg (5x3), Bench Press: 74kg (5x3), Overhead Press: 54kg (5x3) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charism…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 12:00 AM
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OYS 31y, height: 186cm 85.5kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 8 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 120kg (5x3), Deadlift: 145kg (5x3), Bench Press: 74kg (5x3), Overhead Press: 54kg (5x3) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charism…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/21 10:09 PM
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I wore contacts which implies that I dressed up. I tried to use the excuse that I just went for a walk but she wouldn't buy it if I dressed up. She pushed on it. Maybe I could have stuck saying that for longer but I don't think she would have ever believed it considering the context that I only did this when she wasn't home.
/r/askMRP16/05/21 09:08 AM
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I'll try to clarify without DEERing. Wearing contacts implies that I dressed up. I tried to use the excuse that I just went for a walk but she wouldn't buy it if I dressed up. She pushed on it. I wish I knew what I had wanted before I got married. Getting married was a covert contract for getting more sex and it's entirely my mistake for not understanding my validation-seeking behaviour.
/r/askMRP16/05/21 09:06 AM
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OK, Im in the UK and got on TRT with around .332. If you choose not to that's fine but don't let it be a limiting belief that no one would allow it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 05:28 PM
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well above the level that would allow me to have TRT in the UK even if I went private. How did you come to that conclusion? Seeing your results, do you want to be on TRT?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 08:14 AM
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OYS 56 31y, height: 186cm 83.1kg (+1.9), wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg (3x5), Deadlift: 105kg (3x5), Bench Press: 60kg (3x5), Overhead Press: 47.5kg (5x3) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:15 PM
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Self-esteem is the most important thing to start off with for career betas at MRP. When someone you respect, or anyone you don't have a low opinion of gives you a compliment, you feel that external validation. You don't get that same validation from yourself because you don't have self-love or self-esteem. The first step to self-validation is to like yourself. You can start by reframing the way you write things. Even the connotation of "Stop" implies you're already doing something wrong and fail…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/21 07:57 PM
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OYS 55 30y, height: 186cm 81.2kg (+1.0), wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 85kg (3x5), Deadlift: 85kg (3x5), Bench Press: 52.5kg (3x5), Overhead Press: 37.5kg (3x5) Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan,…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 07:59 PM
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OYS 54 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 08:18 PM
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I've been using "todoist" to implement the E3D system from unchained Man for tracking my private tasks.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 12:07 AM
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OYS 53 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 08:19 PM
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OYS 52 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 01:41 AM
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The first time I did a self-love meditation and was told to say the words "I am loved" "I am worthy" and "I am enough" I pretty much cried on the spot. For the career beta MRPers, who didn't have success with women before their marriage, and never built self esteem, I consider the 6 pillars of self esteem as necessary reading. Building self esteem is the first step before one can build a frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/21 01:36 AM
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The standard 5x5 SL rest time is 90 seconds if easy. 3 mins rest if hard and 5 mins rest if failed set
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 12:07 PM
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OYS 51 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 28 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 08:19 PM
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OYS 50 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 27 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 08:06 PM
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I'm trying to focus on what I'm getting done. Wife picking up the slack is more likely due to me being more overt during shit tests and attempts to lead. It's been clumsy so far and I'm calibrating so I'm trying not to think too much of it or consider it a measure of success. Either outcome, I'm playing the long game.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/21 10:57 PM
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I got in for the money but I don't mind the loss as it's within my means. My wife is paper hands though so it's also a good test of frame as she's telling me to sell. Frame = diamond hands. I'm now a retard on 2 subreddits.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/21 01:30 AM
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OYS 49 30y, height: 186cm 80.2kg, wife 27 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 08:59 PM
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OYS 48 30y, height: 186cm 81.0kg, wife 27 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 06:15 PM
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The swamp is deeply ingrained. I think 2016 was a huge victory and 2020 is just as if not more important to holding the line. I think more and more people are waking up and getting politically red pilled. The globalists are also being more brazen with their plans and "The Great Reset" is easy to learn about online now. I still have hope. I see some of you TRP guys posting over in TDW as well. The overlap was significant years ago. It's sad seeing how many people are on "TRP" but still blind to t…
/r/TheRedPill04/01/21 06:09 PM
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This assumes that the deep state wins and Biden is the next president. Your predictions are pretty in-line with Catherine Austin Fitt's It's more important than ever that we don't just roll over.
/r/TheRedPill02/01/21 11:04 PM
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OYS 47 30y, height: 186cm 81.3kg, wife 27 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 02:23 PM
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Don't consider the opposite of having self-worth or being gracious as being entitled. Try to be a narcissist. I doubt anyone who fears being entitled would be able to pull it off. For anything you fear, try to lean into it as far as you can and try to take it to the extreme. Only then can you calibrate. Otherwise you might just take baby steps and not realise you're still miles away from what you could be happy with.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 01:22 AM
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OYS 46 30y, height: 186cm 81.5kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit from myself and subsequently from the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 10:53 AM
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Thank you for the time and feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/20 12:32 AM
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Pragmatically, I don't mean to make excuses. These are the things that I will overcome, along with my own mind. I know it seems like my progress has been slow, but I can see and feel my improvements, even if I'm crawling to the line. I will keep crawling, and I will stagger too. I don't mean to make excuses for fucking around either. Most of the unfucking has been my self-esteem and lack of. I could be doing more, but getting myself into negative mindsets about not doing enough would be detrimen…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 10:40 PM
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I always appreciate your feedback Blarg. I'm pretty sure months ago, I had posted the same mindset and you had called me out for it then too. You were right back then. It is your assertion that I'm only equip with a rock and a nuke. I know I'm not fully equip either. I don't think I want to leave because this will lead to failure. I want to leave because the reason for me being in a relationship was to have children (and get validation) which is no longer a driver, and I think I can achieve long…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 10:33 PM
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That I'm not in a position, with the correct tools, to make an informed decision. I'm only equip with a rock and a nuke so the options I'm considering will reflect that. Against my wife, I'm facing an insurmountable force (the tanks). Certainly that was true before, but the battle is a lot more even now. My mindset is that I vetted poorly. I could take the time to right the ship while continue to improve myself and my mental models. Taking that extra time to dot my I's and cross my T's to me wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 12:04 AM
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Time will tell if I will do anything. I don't have any abundance when it comes to women. I am reaching a mindset of abundance when it comes to time though. I don't know when I'll "make it", but everything I have now will be insignificant compared to the rest of my life. I don't think I've lived my life at all to this point, always a slave of something (seeking validation and/or societal expectations). It's only now, building my self-esteem where I can truly be a judge of my own actions. Also, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 10:01 PM
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I'd be lying if I said it didn't cross my mind to find any excuse to nuke the relationship. But right now, there are still personal milestones I am looking to hit before planning for divorce. It's just the trajectory and decision I am planning for. The quoted paragraph is mostly about a shit test several months ago where my wife bit me (and not in the sexy way). I lost frame, as part of me knew it violated my boundary but I wasn't willing to hold the boundary. I'm not sure if that was a boundary…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 09:20 PM
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OYS 45 30y, height: 186cm 83.4kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 7 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit and bring more truth to the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, Unchained Man, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, S…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 09:57 AM
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It's something I've been reflecting on for a while. Perhaps I'm not giving my wife enough chances to add value, but thus far, it hasn't been enough to justify staying. I don't write it into all my OYS, but as we don't have any children, I am intending to leave. Owning my shit and doing everything at home is preparation for single life. When I got together with my wife, I was validation seeking. I'm not at DNGAF yet so plan to reinforce my mental models further, but I see myself eventually being …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/20 10:06 PM
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OYS 44 30y, height: 186cm 82.0kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit and bring more truth to the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, Sex God Method, …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 11:41 AM
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OYS 43 30y, height: 186cm 82.7kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit and bring more truth to the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, Sex God Method, …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 12:22 AM
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Thanks for that link, perfect comment at the end of the video. I am wasting time thinking that I'm part of a social movement and the priority should be getting my house in order. I'm avoiding doing the hard yards by working on myself consistently. I recognise I'm not in a position to work on my mission. It is my carrot on a stick though and something I want to work towards being able to do in the future. I put it there to keep it in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 10:44 PM
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In the context of my personal life, it doesn't matter. In the context of the world, I think it matters a lot. But either I'm all in or all out. If I'm all in, and treat it as part of my mission which is what I consider it to be, then it can be part of my self-actualisation and I will feel like I am making a difference and impact as a man. But I'm not doing anything meaningful about it so it's just me wasting my time so I should be all out until I have my shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 07:17 PM
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2 months ago in your OYS you made similar bluffs in your OYS about being at the "crossroads". You were in an anger cycle then and you're back to it now and it's still dancing monkey and covert contracts. Then it was "I'm going to ILYBINILWY speech my wife". Now it's I'm planning to push my relationship to the edge or cheat. And you're still waiting and hoping for your wife to see the light and start fucking you. You're avoiding breaking out of your comfort zone and actually cheating or moving to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 10:39 PM
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OYS 42 30y, height: 186cm 83kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit and bring more truth to the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, Sex God Method, Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 09:10 PM
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OYS 41 30y, height: 186cm 82kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Mission - Cut out the bullshit and bring more truth to the world. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNG, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Myth, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit, 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem, The Power of Now, Sex God Method, Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 12:45 PM
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OYS 40 30y, height: 186cm 82.3kg, wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Lifts (GZCLP): Squat: 105kg 3x5, DL: 115kg 3x5, BP: 67.5kg 2x6, OHP: 47.5kg 2x6 Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am currently grinding w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 03:17 PM
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Thanks Rian. I appreciate the time you've taken to give me such an in-depth breakdown. A lot of hitting the nail on the head with my bullshit. Some points I can still justify/rationalise to myself so I may need further calling out for that. I won't presume to waste more of your time. For my own benefit, I'll be writing a response to these points to internalise them and setting actionable goals where I can.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 08:45 AM
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I’ve been catching myself thinking here and there about wanting to date again, but for the wrong reasons. Instead of wanting someone to add to my life, the reasons why I want to date again are to fill some void(s) I have. Do you strongly believe in monogamy? Why does dating = add someone in your life and fill a void? I guess your point is that you don't have the right mindsets to date yet but if you can treat dating casually I think you should do so. How will you build an unbreakable frame witho…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:28 PM
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OYS 39 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 81cm, neck: 38cm, 82.2kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Lifts (GZCLP): Squat: 100kg 3x5, DL: 110kg 3x5, BP: 65kg 2x6, OHP: 47.5kg 3x5* Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wron…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:21 PM
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It could've been. Was it a covert contract?
/r/askTRP19/09/20 01:23 PM
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How did you come to the decision to send her 30%?
/r/askTRP19/09/20 10:15 AM
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I've been accused of DEERing in response to feedback in OYS before so maybe there's something there... Or my writing style sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/20 12:10 AM
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Covert contracts with myself isn't something I've thought about although it's always been there. The one that comes most obviously to mind also explains why I am not consistently gaming my wife. I will usually game my wife 1 week and then not game her for another 2 weeks. It's a form of ego protection and avoiding rejection. My wife initiating hard protects me from needing to be vulnerable and going for what I want. I need to be more consistent with my frame...
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 10:39 PM
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Yeh I tell myself the same thing but it's a bluff until you actually go through with it. Have you contacted a lawyer?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 10:16 PM
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From my perspective she appears way too comfortable. I’m a half step out the door and she appears to have no idea. I’m pretty sure she would behave differently if she knew how I’m feeling. Might have to show her or god forbid, use my words. I have this covert contract too. "If you knew how close I was to walking out, you'd put more effort into the relationship like I am!" They're calling our bluff and probably right.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:25 PM
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Thanks for the feedback Horns. I struggle to respond without it sounding like DEERing it would seem. STFU/AM/AA wouldn't help me much on this forum and I respond to try and get more feedback and understand myself further. I have covert contracts and validation issues. I write about the reality that I face but I also try to rewrite my reality. In a way, I'm trying to avoid negative self-talk. There is still a major disconnect between my reality and the one I want to live. I am still holding onto …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 08:12 PM
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My perspective was to go into the holiday and not have any sex. I didn't actually expect that there would be hard initiations. She ended up being more overt than I expected so I didn't reject that as that would mean I was actually really butthurt. It could have been a covert contract (i.e. mummy hurt my feelings and needs to make it up to me), but I want to believe I was going into it expecting 0 sex. My aim was to get as much sightseeing as possible done on the holiday and my frustration was ac…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 05:30 PM
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OYS 38 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 81cm, neck: 38cm, 81.7kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 2 years, together 6 years. 0 kids. Lifts (GZCLP): Squat: 95kg 3x5, DL: 105kg 3x5, BP: 65kg 3x5*, OHP: 45kg 3x5 Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong r…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 09:50 AM
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Thanks Horns. It could be a problem of prevention caused by not ravishing her well enough, which I'll work on. Perhaps earlier in your journey, was there a time where your above suggestions didn't work for this type of test and it escalated to epic levels? How would you handle such cases now?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/20 10:39 PM
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I've been getting similar shitty comfort tests from my wife about not feeling loved. I consider them shitty comfort tests because of the usage of "you" in "you don't love me anymore" and not "I". I'm still struggling with this test but wanted to ask how you would have handled it if you didn't have flowers at the ready? Would the handling of the test also change depending on if it was reaching "epic test" levels? From my perspective, I give my wife plenty of love, and pull my weight around the ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/20 09:21 PM
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That's good. Well, as they say, be the change you want to see. The first post of the side bar is Steel's detailed guide which is pretty good. If you've identified an area that can be improved, write a guide of your own. Maybe put together a guide that's easier to digest at first glance. Potentially something that would fit on askMRP's sidebar or a stickied post since the guys who post there obviously don't do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 11:37 PM
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You reread the whole side bar but didn't mention what you gained from it and only that you think it's too hard for noobs. Why do you care about that? You've been posting more on other people's OYS lately. Are you getting value out of it? Unless it's part of your goals or mission to contribute to the community, it might be worthwhile reflecting on this usage of time and whether it might be better used elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 12:28 AM
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I've beat on this horse for a while :). I recently read a long asktrp chain between someone asking for advice (OP) and someone spotting oneitis: https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/ijq4ta/told_girl_i_didnt_want_relationship_she_said_she/g3h7jud/?context=8&depth=9 It seems pretty innocuous because the OP has held frame and not committed to the relationship right? But as Rhofire dug in, you can see that OP admits to be in a place of vulnerability. OP might have done the right thing in not suc…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 10:42 PM
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It's really interesting and a major value add that you've built this "lighthouse" for lost men to find their way to MRP. I wonder if there is something to that, to name posts that are likely to coincide with searches of desperate men looking for answers.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 07:30 PM
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I wouldn't say I was consistently in the same mood through the entire shit test. I did try to stick to a few statements but it definitely did go on for such a long time due to my inability to shut it down. Occasional DEERing gave her enough ammo to keep it going. At the start, I took it seriously and my face reflected that as it was a shit test on a topic we had fought about for many years. She had seen someone receive a gift on social media and complained that she got nothing for Chinese Valent…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 07:26 PM
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Thanks for the links Chuck. I definitely still have a problem saving no and holding on boundaries. I have still been trying to get my way through shit tests with STFU, AM and fogging. I need to start to identify when a shit test is being disrespectful and being strong enough to just shut it down with a NO. I would immediately file for divorce. That's a dealbreaker for me. Is it for you I considered it. I was completely naive and didn't even consider the outcome of my wife biting me. I could have…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 09:44 PM
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OYS 37 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 81cm, neck: 38cm, 82.0kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Lifts GZCLP (3 Reps): Squat: 90kg, DL: 100kg, BP: 62.5kg, OHP: 42.5kg Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons.…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 10:43 AM
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OYS 37 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 81cm, neck: 38cm, 81.8kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Lifts GZCLP (3 reps): Squat: 85kg, DL: 95kg, BP: 60kg, OHP: 40kg Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 06:33 PM
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If I find meaning in it, the process and not the outcome of whether they're convinced by me, then I won't consider it a waste of my time. I enjoy challenging ideas and having my ideas challenged. You only need to see a glitch in the Matrix to start down the path of finding red pill truths. At the same time, 95% of people will just be comfortable where they are. I'm not bothering with that type of person.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 08:30 PM
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You're at least 16% BF Yep. Regardless of the actual number, I can see my lift numbers and what I look like in the mirror. I look better than I ever have, but that just indicates how bad my starting point was. I'm still weak and skinny. My next goal is strength based and I'll be disregarding what BF% I'll be to get there. The manosphere is full of blind men trying to lead the blind. It really doesn't need another one. I think there is already a lot of great material out there in RP/MRP. My missi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 08:04 PM
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OYS 36 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 81cm, neck: 38cm, 82.3kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Lifts (5 reps Current/Past best): Squat: 85/95kg, DL: 90/110kg, BP: 60/65kg, OHP: 37.5/47.5kg, Rows: 55/60kg Background Believed that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 09:57 AM
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kowtowing husband will bend to her will Yep accurate. I have been this for far too long. Even after finding MRP, I've played on the side of too beta rather than too alpha, in an attempt to "not rambo". Only now am I trying to push the boundaries of my relationship. My wife is pretty lazy. Aside from work, she stays in bed most of the time. Barely cooks or cleans. Plays the victim of her work and complains about how tired she is 90% of the time. She also gives me shitty comfort tests pointing out…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/20 07:43 PM
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Did you just find out that your wife was pregnant this week? Were you trying to have another baby?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/20 08:06 PM
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Those last 5 points really resonated with me. I would do what she wanted me to do and I was still in a committed relationship with her. Doesn't that mean I deserve her respect?! I would make a point to try and kiss her farewell or goodnight and get butt hurt when she wouldn't respond. I was just insecure and needed validation everyday scoreboard was always there in our fights as I'd pull it up to continue DEERing would always get annoyed at her nagging and didn't want to face the reality that I …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 12:40 AM
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and others have somewhat written me off as a failure at this OYS/MRP thing What makes you say that? Why do you care? Who are you writing OYS for?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 12:20 AM
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Yeh it was probably the first time where I wanted to try to "play" my way through a shit test rather than just STFUing. Lots of calibration required and the way I pulled it off would be seen as me complaining about not getting my dick sucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 11:08 PM
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Yep, I suspected you weren't covering your wins. A relationship doesn't turn BP overnight and by what you wrote, it can be construed that she's getting under your skin, slowly but surely. Just remember what your frame is because there was way too many she's in there. I have been finding myself getting bored with her resistance to sex. I still need to get to a point where her objections are not annoying Show my desire but at some point it’s just annoying Rather than just saying, ‘no that’s not ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 11:07 PM
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Although we're stuck in a small 1 bedroom apartment, I have been keeping myself away from her and doing my own shit. Not butthurt or anything, just didn't want to waste my time dancing for her. Id play with that "you just want some of Daddy's time dont you? Here, let me give it to you....." That was what I was trying to achieve with my statements about her just feeling insecure and that the best cure would be to suck my dick, said with a grin. It should have been a shit eating grin but it wasn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:15 PM
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Not to harp on the same thing over and over, but a few weeks ago you said you don't have oneitis, and that you actually liked her. I don't think you understand what oneitis means because it's not mutually exclusive to liking her. In fact, if you have oneitis, it's obvious you like her. I still think you have her on a pedestal. You literally have 9 "she"s in a small block of text. You're a few weeks into the relationship and it's already turned BP. She's shit testing you and you're failing, and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 10:11 PM
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For what it's worth, even before RP I had held boundaries around cheating before. I've said things along the lines of "I'm not the kind of person to cheat", that "if I wanted to cheat, that would mean there's a relationship problem", and if I remember correctly, "if I needed to cheat, you'd be the first to know". I DEER'd it out, and it did piss her off. This frame is something that I go back to occasionally. In this case, I didn't try to pressure flip or try to create dread by saying something …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 09:58 PM
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I've responded above. Considering I've gone out like twice without her since March, I think the dread is self-created in her own mind. Being child-less, I guess we have a bit too much free time and something she hamstered about in her rant was the amount of stories she reads about cheating husbands. Funny there's no stories about sex-denying wives in her social media feeds. I've always wanted to make that joke to her but that'd just be butthurt :P As my frame develops, I'll be sure to take the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 09:49 PM
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Nah, never gotten ILYBINILWY. I'm aware of projection and hypergamy, so I don't want to be naive. Here's my perspective and maybe I've missed something. Logistically it has been next to impossible for her to cheat, and her behaviour is in line with that. Since lockdown started in mid-March, she has only been out a single time without me (not including office hours). That timing coincided with me going out with a friend, as otherwise she would have wanted me to go with her. This wasn't her being …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 09:43 PM
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OYS 35 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 82cm, neck: 38cm, 82.9kg, navy: 12%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Lifts (5 reps Current/Past best): Squat: 75/95kg, DL: 80/110kg, BP: 50/65kg, OHP: 35/47.5kg, Rows: 50/60kg Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my p…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 03:04 PM
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This is definitely my current worst red area and by a major margin. I do have a close friend who also moved to the same city as me and we hung out 2 weeks ago. I am likely to make our hang outs much more frequent but aside from that, it doesn't excuse the gaping hole in my hobbies or activities outside of that. As lockdown eases, I'll need to look for opportunities and part of that is working out what I want to do. My main hobby growing up has been playing video games but I want to move away fro…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 10:01 PM
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This is the door I have read about in theory but never opened myself. Until I do so, I won't be able to internalise this part of the red pill. The barrier as you say, is all in one's head.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 09:58 PM
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That post definitely made me think and overthink at the time I originally read it. Since then, I had wanted to really fuck my wife and cave man more effectively. Unfortunately, I end up getting into my own head and giving myself pressure and anxiety to perform sexually. This inevitably leads to some form of ED (unable to get fully hard or premature ejaculation) and created a negative feedback loop of pressuring myself to perform, not performing and further anxiety the next attempt. My wife's res…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 09:57 PM
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OYS 34 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 83cm, neck: 38cm, 82.9kg, navy: 14%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Lifts (5 reps Current/Past best): Squat: 60/95kg, DL: 60/110kg, BP: 40/65kg, OHP: 27.5/47.5kg, Rows: 40/60kg Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/20 08:58 AM
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If you're honest about that then bolt. Simple. I have thought about nuking it. For me, I think I am staying for 2 reasons. I've been a shit captain and need to improve myself a lot more for myself. MRP is meant to be RP on hard mode so I figured it's the best place to really improve myself and find out what I want out of life. If I go rambo and nuke it, I might find myself in my next oneitis and going back to old blue pill ways. I'm still afraid. Part of this is a lack of abundance, and the othe…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/20 05:13 PM
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OYS 33 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 83cm, neck: 38cm, 83.4kg, navy: 14%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am currently grinding within a marriage to reac…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 11:10 PM
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Going into a new relationship is definitely something you can choose to do, and you'll need to be cognizant of keeping on the red pill path or risk falling back into old beta ways. It's a lot harder to be motivated when you're getting honeymoon period sex. Guys land here and stick it out due to shitty relationships and dead bedrooms. I would have liked to have seen you write about her from your frame. She meets my criteria of being attractive and being able to take care of herself. She meets of …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/20 11:27 PM
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You seem to be getting yourself out from your marriage relatively unscathed and then falling into your next relationship really soon after. Your section on Women sounds non-committal and that you're going to allow things to progress according to her frame "Why not". Seems like oneitis. If it is easy to cut it off, then it should be just as easy to not give her your commitment. At the very least, I'd recommend that you finished with some heavy vetting. Have you unfucked yourself? Do you have an a…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/20 10:09 AM
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Thanks! The lack of gym for the last 4 months is a killer. I've been doing body weight exercises consistently but how much weight you put on the bar is easier to measure. I could definitely be pushing myself harder with the body weight exercises. I'm only really on a cut due to the gym lockdown. I had been on maintenance for a few months since bulking was just making me fat without the gym to give me stimulus. I've set a goal to reach 12% bf by navy method by the 14th August. I don't think calip…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 09:00 PM
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I had to write it in to face it. I don't wan't to feel this way but it's what happened. As the lockdown ends and we get some space away from each other, it'll become easier in my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/20 08:49 PM
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Yeh, I wouldn't be surprised if I would need to cut a lot more if I wanted to actually get definition. This was mostly an experimental cut anyway due to the fact that Gyms were still going to be locked down. I won't want to cut that low since I'd just be skinny. Once the gyms open back up, I'll be back to trying to bulk. I guess it wasn't clear, but it is passive investing that I will be doing. I invested in Vanguard's Global All cap index fund which has a fee of 0.23% and will be putting more m…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 04:07 PM
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OYS 32 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 84cm, neck: 38cm, 83.9kg, navy: 14%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am currently grinding within a marriage to reac…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 09:03 AM
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I've only had the bathmate for 2 weeks so I guess I'll find out in time. I'm considering it a long term grind. I've set a goal to speak to 1 lawyer by the 14th of August so I'll be holding myself accountable to that. 3 Lawyers is still the eventual goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 09:49 PM
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I need to get back into that mindset. A few months back I initiated after her shower and probably some form of covert contract. Got crappy duty sex and a really bad attitude from her after. Threw me into another anger phase. It's put me off since then but it's a terrible excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 09:47 PM
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Side note, see my reply to InChargeMan - might help you. Just getting hard and noticing that, enjoying it and not immediately trying to fuck her. Maybe not, who knows, they are my notes. I see this as a macro problem rather than a micro problem. In each specific situation (micro), I might be able to get hard and have a good experience through a variety of things that might occur or I calm down, etc. But in the long run (macro), I still have underlying issues that need to be resolved such that th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/20 02:51 PM
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I have the exact same problem with performance anxiety and ED. It happened when I first had sex with my now wife, and it still occasionally rears its head with my wife, while I'm married. I shouldn't have this anxiety, yet I do. As you identify, it's entirely a mental thing as I put pressure on myself to perform. I worry that this is my only chance to fuck her good this week so I have to make it count, or she's not into it so I need to fuck her good, etc. Still a dancing monkey. I've heard all t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 08:32 PM
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OYS 31 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 84cm, neck: 38cm, 84.2kg, navy: 14%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am currently grinding within a marriage to reac…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/20 10:29 AM
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What if I told you your wife doesn't give a fuck about your budget. I believe it but I was blind due to my validation seeking behaviour leading to this event. Usually I validation seek in other ways and those are more obvious to me, but this wasn't so I ate paint. Additionally, I think this also comes back to the red pill lesson that she won't love me the way I love her. She won't give a shit about my plan the same way I do, but I still built a covert contract out of it. In fact she will come to…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 09:18 PM
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OYS 30 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 85cm, neck: 38cm, 85.0kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Background I was conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since I have found RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. I am currently grinding within a marriage to reac…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/20 11:33 AM
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That's true. Bad wording that is revealing of my internal dialogue. I am still internalising self-responsibility and the fact that it's all on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/20 01:17 AM
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This comes back to my background. I was introverted all my life and never had a girl. I had been blue pill conditioned to get a wife and have children. The girl who took my virginity at 23 was 7 years older than me, a smoker (I'd told myself I'd never date a smoker), and I tried to LTR her as soon as I could. The second girl I had sex with, became my wife. I couldn't be more keen to get some sweet validation. I said that I want two kids because I want to prove to my father that it isn't that fkn…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 11:17 PM
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I just realised I accidentally wrote that I didn't expect to stay in the marriage for another 6 months. I had meant I expect to stay in the marriage for another 6 months at least to continue working on my frame. Part of that is the reason it's more of a long term goal to contact an attorney. But I agree I shouldn't write about it unless I'm going to actually take action on it. Killing the puppy will be hard for me. The relationship with my wife has gotten better as I'm unfucking myself slowly. L…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 11:44 PM
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I guess I should mention that 3 of the reads was 6 years ago and before the red pill, hence any internalisation of it was weak at best. The 4th time was also still a while ago without an understanding of frame. Book of Pook is my favourite read yet my interpretation of it 6 years ago is completely different to it now, and I'm sure when I read it again, it'll slap me again with some deep truths. Although I didn't say the words "I love you", I was in a great mood and playful with her afterwards. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 04:10 PM
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I don't think it would have been honesty from my end for the right reasons. It would have been reverting to my old ways and saying it due to a covert contract, and probably from her frame. The first time in months she puts in some effort and I would have been jumping to tell her I love her. I am open to saying it but I want it to do it from my frame. The problem may be that I'm still working out that frame. My other rough thoughts is that the enthusiasm wasn't a result of my frame. I don't think…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 03:39 PM
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Fair comment. Yes I will do these things. Right now they're lofty goals and my text reveals my reluctance to accomplish them. Due to the lockdown, I can't actually do the consults (even over phone as my wife would hear), so instead I'll commit to finding lawyers within my price range before the end of July, and consulting with 1 to understand my situation as soon as in person meetings are possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 03:31 PM
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OYS 29 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.5kg, navy: 16%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Background Beta conditioned to believe that all I would want from life is to find a wife and have a family. Everything I had done before RP was to find someone to love me and to prove myself to others. Since finding RP, no longer believe that having children is my priority and that I had wanted them for the wrong reasons. Currently grinding within a marriage to reach an abunda…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/20 08:38 AM
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OYS 28 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.8kg, navy: 16%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme Ownership, The Power of Habit Currently reading: 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem Physical Continuing with a minor cut un…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 08:32 AM
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OYS 27 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 86.4kg, navy: 16%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 09:45 AM
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I have a bad habit of overthinking, and being considerate of others. I will be these things, or fake it til I can be these things.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 08:13 PM
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The only time I am in my element, unashamedly and confidently myself would be with my high school friends and playing games. That was because I was the best among them, and I believe that they would never "abandon" me. At those times, I would characterise myself as commanding, decisive, competitive and always trying hard, playing to win. When I was growing up, I would often hear my older brother make fun of "try-hards" and do the same myself. I would view a "try-hard" as an undesirable character…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/20 07:52 PM
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I'm not quite there on the internalised confidence, at least towards my wife and initiations. I want to send the message that I am a confident man who takes what he wants. My actions, not only in my initiations but in general around the home, don't reflect that yet. I am still mostly in the STFU phase. I'm trying to fake it until I make it but the rejections are still getting to me. Over time, I believe that the rejections are having less of an effect on my frame, and this last rejection was a g…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 07:42 PM
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OYS 26 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 87.1kg, navy: 16%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 11:25 AM
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OYS 25 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 87kg, navy: 16%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme O…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 11:20 AM
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OYS 24 30y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 86.3kg, navy: 17%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 10:14 AM
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Thanks for this. You're exactly right with your psycho-analysis I'd say. The more ambitious the goal I set, the more I procrastinate and have difficulty moving towards that goal. Breaking things down into small actionable tasks allows me to grind towards the goal without necessarily psyching myself out from seeing the big picture. Making the plan will probably be daunting to me at first, but I can start by starting to answer the questions above, and finding small tasks or changes I can make to p…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 06:11 PM
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Will do. I'm sure I read it 6-7 years ago but obviously didn't internalise it sufficiently. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 08:08 PM
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OYS 23 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 86.6kg, navy: 17%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2, Extreme…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 09:52 AM
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I've had a few days to reflect on this and I really appreciate the feedback. I think what you're seeing is my anxiety and fear of criticism. It leads to me not posting early in OYS, and also feeling anxiety when opening my inbox to see responses. It's likely that I write in such a way to avoid getting criticised. I still have a lot of work to do to get over this fear but thanks for reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/20 07:44 PM
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Agreed, I'm still measuring my wife's enthusiasm when it comes to sex. I need to be taking ownership here as well and leading her. Yes, by STFUing I've left a gap and I don't share (victim puke) to my wife as much. Her complaint was that I don't talk to her anymore. Thanks for the link and it's a good re-read as I do need to develop my own frame. It's not that I think my frame is being silent, but I don't have the frame to engage my wife yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 07:28 PM
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I see it similarly that she's worried that I'm not reacting. I do still give plenty of "beta" to the relationship though but I stopped the victim puking and reduced the drama. I did find it disrespectful but I don't think I would have been able to set my boundaries without it looking like DEER during the fight. So in the end I let it slide and was able to reset. If she starts to talk about it again and joked about it, I'd like to think I'd shut it down. If it comes up in a shit test again, I'm s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 07:04 PM
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OYS 22 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 86.6kg, navy: 17%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Readings: Currently reading: Extreme Ownership, 48 Laws of power (Audio) #60DoD Commitments My best week of keeping to my habits so far. Completed all my daily tasks consistently aside from getting into bed before midnight. I did miss the deadline but got into bed soon after and was able to get 7 and a half hours of sleep every night which I probably haven’t done in years. Par…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 12:22 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I do appreciate it. I didn't mean to imply that you had to be a veteran to tell me my mindset is wrong. Just thinking out loud about the merits of fake it til you make it as I felt I could draw from your experiences. I agree that the risks may be quite large and I have thought about those aspects. As I said it was mental masturbation. The work I should be putting in if this is my mindset is confirming how badly my wife could divorce wreck me if she was inclined to. I had…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/20 08:39 PM
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I'm not saying that my mental models or way of thinking is correct, just my reflections from this week. I think you have some practical exposure to this way of building an abundance mentality recently. I think abundance mentality is critically important for DNGAF and OI. For blue pillers, there will always be some aspect of fake it until you make it. It would be amazing to be able to internalise an abundance mentality without the practical/external aspect. I tell myself that I am the prize but w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/20 10:37 AM
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OYS 21 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.6kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Currently reading: Extreme Ownership, 48 Laws of power (Audio) #60DoD Commitments With being more strict on when I can actually contribute to completing my habits, the main thing preventing me from completing my habits is if I spend too much time online working. WFH has meant that it is easier to be available and I have plenty of work to do. I’m missing a habit here and there …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 09:13 PM
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OYS 20 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.9kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2 Currentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 12:33 PM
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I think there are a lot of lurkers, and those who only post occasionally. A lot of people also get stuck or start fucking around midway through the journey. Some will tug the 1000 ft rope and the wife will respond a little, which is enough for the men to think they've progressed enough. They eventually return here once the wife returns to her comfort zone. I think 10% is really generous and it's a lot lower, unless we only count the men who put in all the work, all the way to the end.
/r/askMRP27/04/20 08:55 PM
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OYS 19 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.5kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx3, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2 Currentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:49 PM
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With what you know now, would you have added in some of the actions, even with a weaker frame? I think some of the actions could be done without needing to lead your wife. Thoughts? With-holding your own ejaculation, or making your wife work a bit harder for it. During foreplay, edging your wife with a toy or oral without letting her orgasm. Make her beg for it or just frustrate her. During foreplay, include dirty talk commanding her not to come while edging her. My thinking is that as long as y…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 06:39 PM
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OYS 18 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.4kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2 Currentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 06:29 PM
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At what point of unfucking your relationship would you suggest that the man is in the position to demand orgasm control including stopping masturbation? If your wife is still unattracted or doesn't trust you as the captain, I can imagine this as going rambo. Do you think you could have done this earlier in your journey?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/20 12:45 AM
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OYS 17 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 86cm, neck: 38cm, 85.4kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan, The Charisma Mythx2 Currentl…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/20 03:09 PM
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OYS 16 29y, height: 186cm, waist: 85cm, neck: 38cm, 86.1kg, navy: 15%. wife 26 married 1 year, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: The Charis…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 09:49 PM
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That's true, so I'm still a long way off to having a mission. I think that my mission will be eventually to help people not fall into the same blue pill trap that I did. Perhaps a niche for nerds or Asians. For that, I'll need my own frame first.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 09:43 PM
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It's true that right now, I cannot fathom what my reality might be like if I was a great captain and was able to turn my wife into a good first mate. Perhaps she would provide enough value that all the victim puking I'm doing now is just bullshit. Maybe I'm just angry from the lack of validation, but I would fear that validation is what would pull me back into committing to the relationship. I think that if I had children, I would feel the responsibility to make the relationship work no matter w…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/20 09:38 PM
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OYS 15 29y, 186cm, 86.1kg, wife 26 married 12 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Pre-Coronavirus: Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: The Charisma Myth, 48 Laws of power (abridged audio…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 09:32 PM
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OYS 14 29y, 186cm, 85.9kg, wife 26 married 12 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 110kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: The Charisma Myth, 48 Laws of power (abridged audio) Physical Went t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 10:03 PM
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OYS 13 29y, 186cm, 85.8kg, wife 26 married 11 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 105kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 47.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: The Charisma Myth, 48 Laws of power (abridged audio) Physical Back t…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 01:13 AM
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Hey Soulsister
/r/askTRP10/03/20 12:19 AM
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OYS 12 29y, 186cm, 85.3kg, wife 26 married 11 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 100kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 45kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: The Charisma Myth Physical Got through my weekly physical tasks. I’ve …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 10:37 PM
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Thanks! Really useful and not something I had internalised or was ready to understand the first time I read it. I doubt I'm there now either. In this case, I guess my "boundary" was no eating lunch/dinner in bed since I allow snacking/breakfast in bed. I couldn't at the time, and can't right now think of an appropriate punishment to enforce this boundary if I intend to keep it. I'll need to think of something though as otherwise, she'll just stamp all over my boundaries.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 09:52 PM
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OYS 11 29y, 186cm, 84.5kg, wife 26 married 11 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 97.5kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 45kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery, Mindful Attraction Plan Currently reading: Unchained Man (audio) Physical Went to 2 BJJ sessions and 4 gym as pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 09:41 PM
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To be honest I already have rolled with a female. Instead of being authentic and honest, I just lied about it. Not a proud state that I have to lie to try and avoid further escalation but I'm far from having a strong frame and fear her jealousy streak. Not an excuse, but just an indicator of how far I am away from owning my shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 12:09 AM
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Undoubtedly I have a lot of work to do and to be able to actually build a frame. I can only imagine that I would lose frame in an angry manner instead of in a weak manner as I did, if I tried to enforce the rule harder. I'm not sure how to best hold frame when she acts this way. As she was yelling out of the room at me, I was just continuing to eat dinner. It was only when she finally got up and out of bed, took the plate from in front of me, did I stop and have to give her her way. After that, …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/20 12:08 AM
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OYS 10 29y, 186cm, 84.5kg, wife 26 married 11 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 95kg, Deadlift: 95kg, Bench Press: 65kg, Overhead Press: 42.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery Currently reading: Unchained Man (audio), Mindful Attraction Plan Physical Was solid with my habits this week, hi…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 09:39 PM
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OYS 9 29y, 186cm, 84kg, wife 26 married 11 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 92.5kg, Deadlift: 95kg, Bench Press: 62.5kg, Overhead Press: 42.5kg, Pendlay rows: 60kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery Currently reading: Unchained Man (audio), Mindful Attraction Plan Physical I’ve been maintaining the habit of go…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 11:43 PM
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OYS 8 29y, 186cm, 82.9kg, wife 26 married 10 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 87.5kg, Deadlift: 90kg, Bench Press: 60kg, Overhead Press: 40kg, Pendlay rows: 50kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang, Mastery Currently reading: Red Pill Sidebar 2nd edition Frame Been 3 weeks since my last OYS. Haven’t been posting because…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/20 11:52 PM
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Surely there are more ways to mix it up outside of just not going down on her first occasionally. Read SGM if you haven't. Sex sounds dull. Yep it definitely has been. It comes from me being a beta and listening to her in bed. This has whittled down my daring and variety as I try to cater to what she wants. Sex has been just a validating tool for me for several years so I would just try my best in my blue pill mind to give her what she wants. I am turning that around now by just doing whatever f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/19 09:04 AM
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OYS 7 29y, 186cm, 82.1kg (+0.3), wife 26 married 9 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 87.5kg (+0), Deadlift: 90kg (+0), Bench Press: 60kg (+0), Overhead Press: 40kg (+0), Pendlay rows: 50(+0)kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang Currently reading: Red Pill Sidebar 2nd edition, Mastery (audio) I have been really lazy with…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 09:32 PM
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Thanks, appreciate the time and your assessment that I've never truly fucked my wife hard is accurate.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:47 PM
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Yes so I will push through and cave man the duty sex. I was just having trouble with the message in every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim. I would love to already be the attractive man that can decline duty sex but I'm far away. Did it cross your mind back when your wife was giving you duty sex?
/r/askMRP08/12/19 08:15 PM
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Hi Horns, I'm having trouble reconciling accepting duty sex. It is obviously something that newbies don't really want, but not we're not attractive enough or with strong enough frame to push for more (without going rambo). Cavemanning therefore makes sense but then I'm just continuing to subjugate my wife to "rape". Is this just a necessary evil that I need to accept while on the journey to becoming attractive again?
/r/askMRP08/12/19 08:03 PM
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OYS 6 29y, 186cm, 81.9kg (+0.3), wife 26 married 9 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 87.5kg (+2.5), Deadlift: 90kg (+0), Bench Press: 60kg (+2.5), Overhead Press: 40kg (+0), Pendlay rows: 50(+5)kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang Currently reading: Red Pill Sidebar 2nd edition, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (audio)…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/19 10:42 PM
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OYS 5 29y, 186cm, 81.6kg (-0.1), wife 26 married 8 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 85kg (+0), Deadlift: 90kg (+5), Bench Press: 57.5kg (+0), Overhead Press: 40kg (+0), Pendlay rows: 45kg (+2.5) Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang Currently reading: Red Pill Sidebar 2nd edition, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (audio) …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/19 08:53 PM
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OYS 4 29y, 186cm, 81.7kg (+0.7), 24% BF. wife 26 married 8 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 85kg (+0), Deadlift: 85kg (+5), Bench Press: 57.5kg (+2.5), Overhead Press: 40kg (+2.5), Pendlay rows: 42.5kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG, Day Bang Currently reading: Red Pill Sidebar 2nd edition, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/19 09:51 PM
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I think that with this shit test, if she's convinced there's something wrong, you will need to do a combination of STFU, fogging, negative inquiry, AA and AM before going into any of the above. For my wife, she would take some of the above and escalate the anger like no tomorrow. Her: You seem angry. Me: I'm not angry, just in need of a blow job (with a shit eating grin) Her: Seriously? It's always about sex with you. You're giving me the silent treatment just because we haven't had sex for a fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/19 04:29 PM
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Breakdown of how the shit test typically plays out and what happened in this case here: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dv756b/own_your_shit_weekly_november_12_2019/f7tsihc/ And another comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/dv756b/own_your_shit_weekly_november_12_2019/f7tw4db/
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/19 04:19 PM
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I don't think it at all had to do with anything I said but more that I realised it was a shit test. I could undoubtedly fail it in the future if my wife was to double down and hit the right spot, or I was just in the wrong mindset at the time. I think before when I didn't know it was a shit test, and after now that I do know it's a shit test, her dialogue is actually pretty much the same and mine is as well except I'm not trying to work out what she means anymore. I.e before I'd go into her fram…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/19 04:13 PM
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At the time, I lost frame and although part of me wants to believe I was good with leaving, the reality is that it would have been forced upon me. I want to believe I want to leave, but my actions demonstrate that I was just being a faggot. Are there any other parts of my MAP you had thoughts on?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/19 08:57 AM
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Relationship Before my business trip, I had spectacularly failed a shitty comfort test as per my last OYS and was almost out the door on the way to a separation. My wife was able to talk me out of it though. Despite getting to that stage, I never did get the hysterical bonding sex I thought I was going to get. Shows how deluded I am to my worth. My wife knows that I’m so deep within her frame that it was unnecessary to feel any dread even if I was threatening to leave. She called my bluff. In my…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 08:12 PM
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OYS 3 29y, 186cm, 81kg, 20% BF, wife 26 married 8 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Doing Reddit Fitness' 3x5+ program: Back Squat: 85kg, Deadlift: 80kg, Bench Press: 55kg, Overhead Press: 37.5kg, Barbell rows: 50kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG Currently reading: Day Bang, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (audio) Physical Pretty good 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 08:11 PM
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OYS 3 29y, 186cm, 81kg, 20% BF, wife 26 married 8 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Doing Reddit Fitness' 3x5+ program: Back Squat: 85kg, Deadlift: 80kg, Bench Press: 55kg, Overhead Press: 37.5kg, Barbell rows: 50kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, Preventive Medicine, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction, WISNIFG Currently reading: Day Bang, Mindful Attraction Plan, Mastery (audio) Physical Pretty good 2…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/19 02:24 PM
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I've read that you should mix things up now and again. Do you have any recommended timeframes? i.e. 12 weeks SL5x5 then deload and do 8-12 reps? Is 1 week long enough on the higher reps before going back to lifting heavy?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:46 PM
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who's OYS made your dick hard?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/19 09:35 PM
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Here I was thinking I had just read WISNIFG and was ready with my fogging. Nope.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 09:55 PM
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Nope, I was just a faggot who lost frame. Unless I missed the sarcasm, there is no secret combination of STFU, fogging and AA but those are the things I'm trying to practice. I expect when those are applied, eventually the girl would see how ridiculous she is being and get over her current mood. Is that naive?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 07:09 PM
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Not an excuse but she got much more worked up and physical than I've ever seen her, threatening to destroy my laptop. I had to hold her and she was using all her strength to fight me. Obviously I'm stronger but how worked up she got really broke my frame. She gets angry all the time but hadn't like this before. Just another test I'll need to be prepared for in the future...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 07:08 PM
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Yes, in the back of my mind I still am seeking that validation of look what I'm doing. It was something I use to do as well. The 1000ft rope only got longer each time I did some self improvement (non-red pill) but fell off the ship just a few months later. I never had the willpower to keep going, only improving enough to get some sex/validation then getting lazy again. I was always overt about what I was going to do to improve myself. This time I was slightly better about keeping a lid on it unt…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/19 07:05 PM
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OYS #1 / OYS #2 29y, 186cm, 80kg, 20% BF, wife 26 married 7 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 82.5kg, Deadlift: 70kg, Bench Press: 55kg, Overhead Press: 37.5kg, Barbell rows: 50kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx4, Rational Male, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Art of Seduction Currently reading: WISNIFG, Rational Male: preventive medicine (audio) Physical Continued to bulk at a fast rate, gaining 1.7kg in the past 2 week…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/19 07:30 PM
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That impression would be wrong. Start actually reading before going rambo again to your wife. Starting point and basic STFU: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/ Frame (you don't have it so how is she going to be in it?): https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/7lolrm/thoughts_on_frame/
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/19 06:45 PM
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Said I was going to stop trying to control her In the morning I told her I wanted her to work out Already failing hard at STFU. Stop telling her to do things. Probably felt validated because she gave you sex. You need to get out of her frame and that starts with STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/19 10:24 PM
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See Book of Pook in the "What Every Skinny Guy Should Know" post. First paragraph in the 205 section. Ugly/fat women will despise you.
/r/askTRP23/10/19 12:26 PM
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Are you sure you want to start having children with this woman? If you don't have a strong frame around this, she'll get her way.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/19 07:58 AM
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How long have you been MRP? I'm only relatively new to it as well but I'm lucky that we're not trying for a child yet. There is no way that I would put myself in a situation where I might impregnate her while I'm still learning and mostly in her frame. How well did I vet my wife when I was a betabux? Probably not that well. I'll need at least 1-2 years to get an idea if I can build my wife into my unicorn. Would I have a child in this period where I don't even know if this will be the rest of my…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/19 08:03 PM
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Thanks. Yeh similar situation to me, trying to go from nerd to big. Going to aim for 90kg at 2kg per month and see how I go. I might even go up to 95kg before cutting back to 90kg. Depends on how fat I get and the progression. First 35 days has been 4kg so far but I think it's fine since it'll be hard to maintain such a rate anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 09:50 PM
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I would be really keen to know. My concern obviously with a faster bulk is that I'll put on too much fat in the process which may be harder to cut later down the road.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 07:18 AM
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I have read that I should be aiming for 0.5pounds per week. For me, as someone who has been skinny his whole life and had difficulty getting fat, I feel like I'm at risk of undershooting my gains. So I'm aiming a bit higher at least initially to see if I can keep the momentum going.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 07:23 PM
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OYS 1 MRP Since July 2019 but only really started my internalisation and bulking 4 weeks ago 29y, 186cm, 79kg, 20% BF, wife 26 married 7 months, together 5 years. 0 kids. Back Squat: 80kg, Deadlift: 60kg, Bench Press: 52.5kg, Overhead Press: 35kg, Barbell rows: 45kg Readings: MMSLP, NMMNGx2, TWOTSMx4, Pookx3, Rational Male, How to Win Friends and Influence People, Models, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, Currently reading: WISNIFG, Art of Seduction (audio) Background Went through early life …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 04:25 PM
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