TheBearMonk Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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17	I killed the romance in my relationship The older I get the more I realize the fabled "ride till we die" girl simply does not exist. The only woman who ever loved you like that was your mother. The next time you find yourself in a position of obvious disadvantage, just leave on your own terms. Tell her there's some things you need to focus on for a while.	/r/TheRedPill	17/03/16 10:45 AM
-1	You've got a personal female fan club. Find them. Forget everyone else. High SMV women will have attractive men pursuing them. Always. There will always be an orbiter trying to get the sneak fuck. There will always be a rival Chad waiting for his turn. If you can't deal with that,fine, but I have to say that there's something really pathetic about sticking to the minor leagues just because you're afraid to compete in the majors.	/r/TheRedPill	16/03/16 11:59 PM
12	You've got a personal female fan club. Find them. Forget everyone else. The most satisfying women (not just looks....morals, personality, manners, "good women" by true TRP standards) are the ones that require a little investment to lay. And I don't mean "extra game" in that superficial PUA mindset. People holding on to something valuable don't give it away easily. Sure, there's the occasional chump that has no idea she is sitting on top of an oil field, but how common is that in reality? Any good-looking, good-mannered woman knows exactly what she is, thanks to the …	/r/TheRedPill	16/03/16 10:53 PM
1	You can't amass great depth in a rush Dating a girl you barely know puts things in a "were trying this" mode. It isn't natural, it will often feel forced If it feels forced that's because it is. There's no attraction. If it's not there in the beginning, it's only going to get worse as time goes on. I know because I've tried to follow this thinking of "let it develop" with a woman I wasn't all that attracted to and learned that it's not something that increases with time. It's a completely different aspect of human intimacy than the …	/r/TheRedPill	14/03/16 01:26 AM
8	STARTING OUT: Dropping Fear of Rejection, Getting Lucky and Finding Yourself Don't really understand your point TBH. The ability to engage strangers in conversation in a way that feels natural and friendly is an enormous charismatic asset for so many reasons. If you can do that while maintaining an alpha frame and not seeming like you are peddling something or fishing for validation (like so many "PUA's" do), you've truly mastered the social confidence aspect of TRP. Honestly, that skill will take you farther with women and in life than any amount of lifting will...and i…	/r/TheRedPill	14/03/16 12:48 AM
5	Getting better but still not getting laid Going to sound counterintuitive but maybe stop thinking so much about PUA/hooking up when you are at these social events? They sound like smallish house parties? You'd probably have much better luck if you lost the "approach everyone" PUA mentality and just focused on having a good time and helping the people around you do the same. You'd be surprised how much value you can gain by being that "fun guy to be around" at the party (instead of the guy that is pretty clearly trying to fuck someone to…	/r/askTRP	13/03/16 10:30 PM
4	Freedom vs Access I think frame is by far the single, most important factor in maintaining your power/sexual desire in plating as well as LTRs. I would go so far as to say that “frame” is the power struggle behind all intersex relationships. To use an analogy I read elsewhere: a woman that's sleeping with you (and I mean really fucking you, not duty BB once a month sex) has put you in the captain's chair. Every action you take from that point onwards is subconsciously scrutinized by her in order to make sure you …	/r/TheRedPill	13/03/16 06:41 PM
2	Best response to the L bomb I'm sorry but all of these come off as corny/try-hard. "awesome" and "amazing" people don't feel the need to describe themselves as such. Even if you play cocky/funny game, it needs to be toned down in this context (and probably in general if you are over the age of 16...) Simply looking her in the eyes with a shit-eating grin and saying something like "I know" or "You should", followed by some silent eye contact and finally a fatherly kiss on the forehead is the best way to handle it.	/r/askTRP	11/03/16 02:10 AM
4	Best response to the L bomb 90% of the time I've heard "I love you", it's come out of a plate's mouth. The reason is because verbalizing those words almost always comes from a place of manipulative insecurity. The line between a "comfort" and a "shit" test is sometimes unclear. In this case, I'd say it was a "shit test". She's on her period so I'm going to assume fucking is off the table? So why exactly are you spending time with her? Nothing screams "I'm lower value than you" to a plate louder than spending time with her …	/r/askTRP	11/03/16 01:31 AM
4	Why are you here? Is it more about sex or the self? Well said. I could not agree with this more. There comes a point when you are forced to take a hard look at yourself and question whether pussy is all you once made it out to be. I think a lot of men, once they've achieved the mental clarity that comes from bedding a certain number of women (this number is different for everyone) will find that it's power they crave, not the inside of a vagina.	/r/TheRedPill	10/03/16 06:04 AM
1	Another Perspective on Attraction I initially had an argument against this type of thinking, but when it comes down to it, it's probably the healthiest way of thinking about it. There are woman you would fuck, and there are woman you wouldn't. If you're willing to put in extra effort, sacrifice more of your time, and put up with more bullshit because you'd really, really like to fuck her (i.e. "she's a 10"), you're already setting yourself up for failure. As far as bragging, if you feel lucky and blessed you "fucked a 10", you'r…	/r/TheRedPill	10/03/16 05:02 AM
6	Mission Report Monday: Post your FRs here! Not carrying her was just a minor mistake tbh. You really fucked up when you opened the floodgates to her criticisms. You should have felt excellent after that date. She dressed up for you, was open to your escalation, and even escalated things herself when she suggested you take it to your car. To be honest, I think the only reason you guys didn't fuck was because of the logistics. You can't stop her hamster from spinning when you aren't around though. She probably got home and her hamster star…	/r/TheRedPill	07/03/16 07:20 PM
21	Feeling Disappointed - I have everything yet I feel like I have nothing. Not every social interaction is "fake". Find friends that actually care about you (and are worth caring about) and this will soon become a lot more clear to you. RP philosophy is great for helping to develop social acuity. Your brain should be working to identify behavior patterns, recognize common social maneuvers, and loosely categorize the people that you engage with socially. Instead of the "I don't want to offend everyone and I really hope everyone likes me" mentality you may have had befor…	/r/TheRedPill	28/02/16 05:13 PM