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| 1 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendIt's just some thoughts man. Not gospel. Use it, don't use. I thought it would be good insights for some of the people here. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendHey man. I was there in my mid 20s. I don't know what your support network is like IRL but reach out to them, or if there are support structures in your country maybe you can find someone to talk to there. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendAgree 100%. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendWhen she first rejected me I made it clear where I stood. We had a really strong emotional/physical vibe, and I wasn't about to stand on the sidelines while she dated other dudes. I wasn't about to put tons of energy into someone who didn't feel the same way about me, so I let nature take its course. She did try to invite me to things for few weeks after she turned me down, but I didn't have to lie and make an excuse because I was pretty busy. I was really surprised when she reached out to me la… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:28 AM |
| 10 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendIf that turns out to be the case then so be it, but just so you know, she and I have ended up crying together many times over our past demons over the months we've been together. While my insecurities do creep up on me from time to time, I've been able to share them with her and let her know that it's my own shit, not hers. If she eventually rejects me for my "weakness" then I'll know she wasn't a good fit for me and I'll do my best to find the next one, even if it takes years to do so. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:22 AM |
| 2 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendSorry to hear about your struggles man. I'll admit those are very important things, and you probably want to be reasonably open about them sooner rather than later. I have anxiety/trust issues that flare up from time to time, and while I'm not on meds I can empathize, even if I don't fully understand where you're coming from. I added another point after I ended up reading some of the comments, and at the end of the day I lean hard on the honesty angle. I'd rather be alone with myself than with s… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:19 AM |
| 5 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendI never said it was, just my thoughts that some guys may want to hear. There'll always be exceptions to what I said above. Just wanted to add my thoughts as a dude who's interested in helping others. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:15 AM |
| 5 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendFirst time I held hands: 32. First kiss. 32. First sexual partner. 32. Then a four year gap in-between. And this is from a guy who has a slight underbite, but thankfully it's not extremely noticeable. I'm not going to bullshit you if you're lower on the scale in terms of attractiveness, you're playing on ultra-hard mode/nightmare, but you can up your appeal by doing things like you've heard a million times before here: work out, dress well, get a good haircut. If you've got other physical issues… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendIt is really hard, and for some men, this will undoubtedly be the case. I've generally gone for girls I've always been super keen on, even if I got rejected, but yeah, I can see why some dudes would be like "oh well, something is better than nothing". "Beggars can't be choosers" and all that. But for greater context, I was keen on her from the start. I was actually super bummed out when she rejected me, because there was clearly emotional/physical chemistry from the start. I am happy things turn… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:11 AM |
| 2 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendI added a fourth after I was reminded of something else. Glad you found it useful. | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:02 AM |
| 19 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendAs I said, I didn't have context at the time, and when we started dating I was just interested to see where it went. Also, just because someone has poor self esteem doesn't mean they aren't a cool person. Turns out she's a lot of fun, we share the same values, and physically stuff is fantastic. And to be real, it sucked when she rejected me, because our first two dates went really well, but yeah, things are pretty good now, for however long that lasts. But for real: would you only date someone w… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Some surprising (and not surprising) insights from a guy who had an honest chat with his girlfriendSorry, I'll add this to my list, but yes, the idea of "being chased" and being "too easy" came up, and my GF said in her younger years, even if her friends really liked a guy, they would sometimes play it really cool to avoid looking like they were over-eager, so it might be this. My thoughts? Put in as much energy as you feel is worth your time. Then just be honest. I've saved myself a lot of time and drama since I basically "got too old for this shit". Some guys are saying 2 dates is too early… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Women like men who make them feel small - Your thoughts?Fair enough. I don't disagree on the sentiment behind what you're saying, but for me, context is key. I had many, many opportunities during my 20s that I failed to capitalise on, and kick myself to this day. If I'd known the things I know now... But yeah, thankfully I was able to figure out a few things in my early 30s. But yeah, getting back to context. That's why I asked your age. Socio-economic factors also play a huge role. As well as factors such as race (I'm not white, but thankfully I'm c… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Women like men who make them feel small - Your thoughts?Ah, so your friends are, looks aside, flawless. Dude, I'm not going to pretend that I'm not a bit jaded, but it sounds like your friends are make believe, not human or there's some part of the story you're not telling me. Either your friends are young, rich, live in a country where things are good in general and they don't have to deal with the pressures some of us have to deal with, or some combination of the above. How old is your group on average? | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Tell Her What You Want to DoI've been recently chatting to a bunch of girls online, and instead of me getting their number, I've been giving them mine. In the past I've used this to test a girls "buying temperature" but recently I've been having great chats with women, give them my number, and then crickets. Am going to switch to asking for their number and see if I have any success. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Women like men who make them feel small - Your thoughts?Pics of said friends please? Or at least let us know what they are number wise? Are your friends 8s? 9s? Are the girls they're getting with 5s? 4s? Dimes? What do you mean by treat them like a goddess? Explain exactly what they do that you think allows them to attract women that separates them from other men? | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Women like men who make them feel small - Your thoughts?No, attraction doesn’t rely on making people feel small. Never said it relies on it, but it can be one of the ways to attract someone. Also making someone feel small doesn't necessarily mean you are acting in a way to make them consciously feel small. For example, do you think most women think they are on Brad Pitt's level? No, of course not. But if Brad Pitt started talking and flirting with them, do you think they would feel like a "goddess" or do you think they would feel "small"? He isn't go… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Women like men who make them feel small - Your thoughts?A good neg isn't a clear put down though. For example, I've accidentally negged girls (my first serious girlfriend was a girl who I asked if she actually needed her glasses because I saw her without them a lot) and had positive results in terms of attraction (not in the long-term, but short term yes). Another guy I met at a party was constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY teasing his girlfriend. She loved it and ate it up, but part of me felt weird because in my head they were subtle put downs and it… | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:30 PM |
| 2 | Here’s a reminder that even “good looking” dudes can have difficulty on dating apps.There's a saying about how men and women treat one night stands. For women, he better look like George Clooney if it's just going to be for the night. For men, it doesn't matter if she looks like George Clooney if it's just going to be for the night. | /r/seduction | 18/12/19 02:24 PM |
| 1 | 8 Traits of Living with the Blue Pill BetaHobbies are irrelevant depending on how attractive the girl perceives you to be. This is dependent on a number of factors which TRP regular discusses such as looks, social and financial status, and social skills. Depending on the combination of this, women will let you get away with certain things. Eg, if you are very good looking, women will forgive the fact that you are poor, or maybe lacking in social skills. See "social experiment" child molestor with model looks tinder profile which had gir… | /r/TheRedPill | 07/07/19 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Men of r/seduction, can you help me?I see a lot of other guys have already pointed it out, but I thought about it for a while and added some more about the struggled you may be having with your dating pool. It's in my post below. | /r/seduction | 01/12/18 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Men of r/seduction, can you help me?So thought about this for a while, and, again, just going to tell it like it is. As a dude, we go after girls in their prime in terms of their physical looks. According to science that's basically women of legal age to 25. Whether we're 30 or 50, guys like their girls in roughly that age bracket unless they have made a significant emotional investment in them (and even then the majority probably still check out younger women). Why do I bring this up? After re-reading your profile, I see you ment… | /r/seduction | 01/12/18 12:03 AM |
| 3 | Men of r/seduction, can you help me?Positives: Honestly, you're cute. Like a 7-7.5/10. Pretty eyes, petite nose. And you're definitely the right kind of curvy (you look great in those jeans in the last pic).Possible flaws: I know a lot of girls like to do the pixie cut or shorter these days, but I'm going to say it as it is, most dudes like girls with longer hair. I think if you went for a slightly more feminine length you'd have more luck. Not to say guys don't like girls with short hair, but I think you'd do better with a slight… | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 11:55 PM |
| 25 | Are the type of girls we attract a reflection of who we are?You probably have the Cap'n Save-a-ho vibe about you (I know, I do) so girls who are used to getting treated like shit meet you, you are a genuinely good person, you show them some actual kindness and they latch on like a barnacle. That tends to be what happens with me. On the subject of "good girls"? I don't know man, I haven't had a problem attracting nice girls either, it's just the ones with issues are the ones who are generally super into me. | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 05:06 PM |
| 1 | How to flirt with/seduce male coworkerJust ask him to hang out on a weekend night. Most dudes would realise that if you want to spend time together outside of work and in the night time that something must be up. | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Men of r/seduction, can you help me?So on body types: most men don't want stick thin girls, or girls who look like boys. Curves are generally a good thing. If you're personality is up to scratch, you are curvy but not overweight/obese, then it might be your look in general, or, to be honest, something to do with your face, but that's hard to tell without a picture. As a dude, if I'm on Tinder I rarely read profiles. 99% of the time I just look at the photos. The other 1% it's when I see they have a kid in the photo and then I chec… | /r/seduction | 30/11/18 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Finally asked her outAgree on your points, but her seeing other girls hit on you in front of her will force her to make a move or make you seem more attractive (pre-selection ftw). For example, I worked a part-time student job which was 70% female and no-one really seemed that into me. Then one girl mentioned to the other girls that she thought I was hot and had a crush on me and BOOM, all of a sudden I was popular with a lot of the girls. One girl didn't make it at all subtle, and the others who were suddenly inter… | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it not normal / detrimental that I never 'chase' women?My dude, I am in my mid 30s and busier in my life these days, and I value my downtime way more than I used to. I went on a date with this girl recently, and I thought things went well on the first date but then I got major drop in interest when trying to organise the next date a week later. Told her to let me know. She did try to make some last minute plans with me once or twice, but I was like "Errrr, I told you I'm busy I need at least 24 hours notice". She tried to pull the whole "last minute… | /r/seduction | 06/07/18 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Girl I’ve been texting for 3 weeks says she sees the potential of a relationship yet states she has a lot to figure out! She says I’m a good person and she doesn’t wanna lose me. I get the feeling like she’s saying all this to politely reject me! Should I just stop texting her?Tell her to let you know once she's figured it out so you can take her on a date, but don't invest any more time/energy in this girl. | /r/seduction | 02/07/18 09:36 PM |
| 1 | The absolute BEST way to Day Approach a cute girlRemoving Hollywood stars/high status people from the equation, I would say yes. I see more tall, muscular dudes who aren't that good looking with above average girls than short, good looking dudes with average bodies with hot girlfriends. One of my friends was shorter than I was and had a good looking face but he got rejected by girls all the time simply because he was below average height. | /r/seduction | 03/05/18 08:25 PM |
| 1 | The absolute BEST way to Day Approach a cute girlAgree with your point about dating, but many dudes are here just to stick their dicks inside the hottest girl they can find for one night, and in that case, they'd rather do it with a 10 than a 7. | /r/seduction | 18/04/18 05:26 PM |
| 2 | The absolute BEST way to Day Approach a cute girlErrrr, except it's scientifically proven that the height of a man affects his attractiveness with women? If you want me to I can link you to studies, not to mention there's a ton of anecdotal evidence out there (and by that I mean just go outside and see how often you see a girl with a guy the same height or shorter than her). When it comes to physical attractiveness here are the three key variables that affect your attractiveness with women, in what I perceive their order to be: 1) Height 2) Ph… | /r/seduction | 18/04/18 05:23 PM |
| 2 | The absolute BEST way to Day Approach a cute girlI hate to be that guy, but the guy in the videos is pretty good looking. | /r/seduction | 18/04/18 04:01 PM |
| 1 | A Rant from a girl: Why it isn’t working for you…Let me open with the fact that I am not a player. I am also from a country where casual sex can be incredibly risky in terms of disease and I am not taking any chances. I tend to only get involved in casual/long term stuff with people I know and like. It also means I have never fucked a girl and later had any regrets about it. "But in order to maintain a relationship (exclusive or otherwise)with a woman, the trick is treating her like a friend." Yes, and no. Yes in that I don't do anything for a… | /r/seduction | 03/04/18 06:37 PM |
| 13 | Quickest ways to become more attractive as a manI run an art community, help homeless people, support my friends when they need it, be a generally good guy and yes, it means I have a lot of friends and I am well liked. These are all good things. Doesn't mean any of the girls I know want to get nekkid with me. Sorry. That's the truth. Yes, there are some girls who do find this behaviour attractive in a long-term mate, but it's not a default "oh I'd like him to bend me over a table and has his way with me" trigger of attraction. | /r/seduction | 19/03/18 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Scored a 9.5, felt on top of the world, went back to her place. Then, absolutely humiliated myself. I'm thinking of seriously hiring an escort now to teach me what I don't know.So first girl I kissed was first girl I slept with. I remember first date getting the kiss and make out. Second date getting her shirt off and my hand down her pants. At this point I was so glad I'd watched the Nina Hartley educational videos (she's a porn star but has some educational stuff) so I could give her a couple of orgasms. I will never forget when she said to me "Oh my God, how do you know my body so well?" At this point I drop this smooth move. "Well, that was kinda a first for me." S… | /r/seduction | 18/03/18 08:34 PM |
| 1 | To the guys who think that looks are everything...Most of the 10s I have met and become friends with have either experienced situations where a guy just wants sex enough to be able to read the vibe and decide if they want a ONS/fling or not, and when a girl knows she can get dick whenever she wants, she'll angle for the relationship more often or not. At least this is how it is in a more conservative country, not the US or the more liberal parts of the EU. | /r/seduction | 17/03/18 09:15 AM |
| 2 | To the guys who think that looks are everything...As a 34 year old who has lived in both small and big towns, I have yet to meet a physically unattractive or average looking guy who could easily pull and screw girls who were more attractive than him (not counting extremely high status guys like musicians in popular bands or rich guys). Every guy who I believe has shagged a lot has been model level looks and has shown me their tinder accounts, which proves that even if they didn't shag a single girl, they still had 10-50x more opportunity an ave… | /r/seduction | 16/03/18 06:53 PM |
| 1 | To the guys who think that looks are everything...Dating 10s is easier than pumping and dumping. Most 10s have been hit on enough to know when a guy is angling for a quick shag and will intentionally put on the breaks unless all they want is a ONS (and let's be real, most girls want relationships). Basically hotter girls can leverage their attractiveness for relationships more often. (I have been friends with 3 girls over my life who have model/Hollywood level looks and they always pushed for relationships). Girls that are 5 or less know that t… | /r/seduction | 16/03/18 06:48 PM |
| 1 | How doomed are you if you don't meet your SO in high school or college, especially due to the long work hours in the real world?As a dude that's in his early 30s, is fairly busy, and just wants to chill at the end of the day, I will forever regret not having a male role model to show me how to get with girls when I was younger (18-28ish, went to an all boys school so high school doesn't count for me). I could have gotten with enough women that I was attracted to that I would have died happy. Missed opportunities aside, I don't feel doomed. I still see opportunities around the workplace (which I choose not to take because… | /r/seduction | 22/02/18 08:18 PM |
| 3 | Do you feel more appealing to woman as you get older? [32yo male]Yes, and no. When I was younger I had more opportunities than I realised but I was too shy/inexperienced to notice. Now that I'm older, working harder and have more money, I notice when girls are into me and am better at closing, but because I don't want to deal with drama in my social circles or at work, I generally just do my own thing. | /r/seduction | 02/02/18 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Getting girls in college is EXPONENTIALLY harder than in the real world, but there are a few things that help you out and make it way easier.Disagree. When I was at university I was clueless, but if I had known what I know now I would have been able to capitalise way more. As others have pointed out, you meet a lot of young women at uni. Way more than you do in most working environments (except for maybe retail/sales/events type job). Also, these young women are often away from home for the first time and are willing to experiment with different types of relationships. There's a couple of more reasons, but these are the two primary o… | /r/seduction | 27/01/18 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Don't know if this is considered a cold approach, but holy shit I just talked to the first girl ever on the streetThe problem with certain spaces is that the person (regardless of male or female) is a captive audience. In these spaces most people will be polite unless you freak them out. For example, on a plane, or while they are waiting for a specific bus. The only way you can ever be truly certain is if she has the option to walk away without it being a massive inconvenience to her, or if you invite her to change locations with you and she does, or if she chooses to isolate herself alone with you (unless … | /r/seduction | 19/01/18 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Totally stumbled into this on accident but I had no idea this line would work so well. Feel free to try it out in your own venturesDude. Are these girls messaging you first even with "omg can I steal your dog"? They're opening you and you're complaining? If the conversation is dry and dies then just let it. You'll still be increasing your overall match rate which means you'll be open to opportunities with these women. Also, worst case scenario if conversation goes flat, hit them up with your cheesy line that you posted and they'll probably say yes. | /r/seduction | 13/01/18 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Totally stumbled into this on accident but I had no idea this line would work so well. Feel free to try it out in your own venturesI'm going to say I have to disagree. He is not a 6 dressed as a 9 (in fact, his poorly fitted clothes actually detract from his attractiveness badly in one of the photos). He's more like a 7.5 who could, with a tiny bit more effort, be a 9.5. He has in terms of looks: Blue/grey eyes Strong masculine jaw Great smile Above average facial symmetry A reasonably fit body (judging from what I can see) Caucasian This isn't obvious until the dog photo. If I was a girl, your profile would be absolutely m… | /r/seduction | 11/01/18 10:07 PM |
| 6 | Laz's advice to living an incredibly active social life.I work a solid day at a marketing job, get home, got responsibilities to deal with, then need to work out and I still want to relax a bit. When I do go out I'm not thinking "Oh I should pull out my phone and capture it for my social media profile", I'm just out to be present with my friends and have a good time. That being said, the marketer in me knows that I gotta start "selling" myself a bit better online so I can hook girls better. | /r/seduction | 14/11/17 07:33 PM |
| 6 | Laz's advice to living an incredibly active social life.As a dude in his mid-30s it's fucking annoying how active I gotta be on social media these days. | /r/seduction | 13/11/17 04:46 PM |
| 2 | What are "normal" people doing differently?how come the vast majority of people seem to have little to no struggles with regards to romance The vast amount of people settle for whatever they can get, and even then it's a bloody shit show. You just don't see it because most people don't air their baggage in public. | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 04:23 PM |
| 1 | A Beginner's Guide: How to Get Good Fast, The Natural WayLook, you talk about only being 17 when you first got any action with a woman. I, like many others here, were only in our late 20's/early thirties when we "got lucky", and there are some people here who are beyond even that. I'm only mentioning this because it's pretty obvious that you should have an understanding of your target market when putting together a post. Also, as much as I like Girls Chase (I do enjoy a lot of their articles), the post you put together here spends a lot of time harpin… | /r/seduction | 15/10/17 02:44 PM |
| 0 | A Beginner's Guide: How to Get Good Fast, The Natural Way"The biggest issue is you don't know how to SPOT them." The tone of the rest of this piece aside, you point out this massive problem and then don't into any information about this at all. Are you here to help or just promote girlschase? | /r/seduction | 15/10/17 02:03 PM |
| 4 | Little piece of advice if a girl isn't interestedI've had long discussions about how if a person spends time with someone they are friends with but are of the group they are sexually attracted to (i.e. a straight man being friends with a straight woman), even if they are friends, the question of a relationship/sex will always come up. As with friends who get closer and drift apart, or drift apart and then come back together, relationships are constantly in flux. So even if you like someone and they reject you, they might change their view in t… | /r/seduction | 15/10/17 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Is fucking friends "shitting where you eat"Depends. Most chicks get attached/fall in love if you fuck well, and if you fuck reasonably often. I wouldn't be surprised if some of your FWB's are secretly keeping their feelings to themselves coz "casual" is what is expected (even if it's, imo, unhealthy for most women - see studies on marriage and partner count). If the woman in question was older I'd say just ask her, but younger chicks tend to lose attraction or get weird if you have the conversation first. TLDR: Fuck her first but be prep… | /r/seduction | 06/10/17 05:00 PM |
| 4 | How can a 6'4" dude go out to the club two nights in a row and not have a single woman express interest?r/amiugly | /r/seduction | 01/10/17 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Today hits my 1 year mark of seductionNo doubt. I know that first hand. I'm an average looking guy and have had some ridiculously attractive women want to get with me (my ex was also much better looking than me) just because I am confident and chilled around them. However, an average looking bloke doesn't get results like that, especially if he says to the girl "this is just casual". Most girls (in my country) will sleep with an average guy during the "undefined" relationship phase, but the moment an average looking guy says FWB the… | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 05:39 PM |
| 3 | If I've always been the one to initiate interaction with a chick I'm interested in, how do I know if she's not interested or just expecting me to be the one to initiate again?It's a man's job to move things forward and a woman's job to apply the brakes. | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else who is successful just feel empty?If you don't feel like dating, don't date. Take the time to do what you want to do until you feel ready. However, keep an eye on that depression. If that shit doesn't go away you need to considering talking to someone, or hitting the gym (when I became depressed I start exercising and it fixed me up). | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Today hits my 1 year mark of seductionJust last week I was on 9 dates with 6 different women and have 5 active fwbs, all thanks to the seduction community and for my sincere own will to improve at game. An average looking dude cannot pull like that. You must be one good looking sob. | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 04:53 PM |
| 8 | How much do Braces impact looks?Short term sacrifice for long term gains. | /r/seduction | 27/09/17 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do girls keep rejecting me at a night club?I considered myself an OK guy, pretty tall, athletic build. What does your face look like? Also, as others have pointed out, are you randomly approaching girls from behind and trying to grind them? If so that's kinda weird. I don't even dance and I know you basically show your stuff and wait for girls to come to you or give you a sign to approach them. | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 06:00 PM |
| 5 | It seems that the prettiest girls are the least offended and most open when it comes to talking about sex, or taking them home that same night. Anyone else have experience with this?Sorry mate, no phenomena. I know some HOT girls that are super open about sex, I know some HOT girls that are super uptight about it. Same with ugly girls. Same with average looking girls. How open you are to sex and sexual things isn't at all related to your attractiveness. | /r/seduction | 22/09/17 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Feeling discouraged. Gotta vent a little.Why go out just for the sake of meeting women? Do things you enjoy where you will ALSO meet women. I like art, so I go to art events. I don't ever do something JUST for the sake of meeting girls, but I'm also a low energy guy who's bloody busy, so I am very picky about what I do with my energy/time. Focus on YOUR happiness and YOUR enjoyment first. As long as you make contact with some women while you're doing whatever makes you happy, chances are you'll start to notice girls noticing you. | /r/seduction | 20/09/17 08:01 PM |
| 2 | My height makes me feel insecureGirls like guys taller than them. The odds are stacked against you if you are short. Should you let it bother you? Fuck no. Seriously dude. I'm Indian. There are chicks who will NEVER date me, just because of my skin. Do I let it bother me? Na, just move along and keep on chatting to girls until you find one who doesn't give a fuck about your height. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:52 PM |
| 1 | How can I [F23] subtly suggest sex? EMERGENCYThat's exactly my point. If you're not above average looks as a guy, it's really damn hard to get a casual relationship. But it is what it is. | /r/seduction | 19/09/17 04:50 PM |
| 2 | How can I [F23] subtly suggest sex? EMERGENCYI can't help but get a bit jealous in situations like this. Unless you are horribly unattractive as a women, it's really easy to get sex... | /r/seduction | 13/09/17 09:26 PM |
| 2 | What's the best response to a LJBF situationA girl can change her mind about you while you are a friend, but then there are all the consequences that come with dating someone who is your friend and it doesn't work out (losing the friend, awkward vibes if you decide to stay friends after breaking up, getting cut off if people choose sides, etc). This is why cutting contact is the most efficient way to reframe how a girl thinks about you. Firstly, it gives you the opportunity to frame yourself differently the next time you see her. Secondly… | /r/seduction | 11/09/17 08:19 PM |
| 6 | She asked me why I haven't made a move. I didn't know what to do other than be honest with her. Is this a bad thing?No, the damage probably is low. The fact that she brought it up means that she's still interested. If she is still talking to you, you make a date and she pitches up to it, then all you need to do is hold her hand during the date. If you are feeling brave go for the kiss at some point before the end (if you wait till the end the pressure might be too much). | /r/seduction | 10/09/17 08:32 AM |
| 1 | I'm 22 m tall, ( I know I'm at least a little attractive), but I have literally been turned down every single time I try to take things further.You're 22 meters tall or have been hitting on chicks since you were 5? Seriously though. Let's break this down. Context on my backgroun 1) A girl flaked on you - Wait 15 minutes tops without a text before you bail tops. I haven't had a girl flake on me, but every girl who has been genuinely interested in me and has agreed to meet me on a date has ALWAYS texted me if she's more than 5 minutes late. Usually they text me BEFORE to let me know they're a bit late but that they'll be there soon. 2) Do… | /r/seduction | 10/09/17 08:19 AM |
| 1 | "Just to be clear it's not a date haha"It's not bad. It's just reality. I've talked to some of my "platonic" female friends and asked them if they are 100% platonic with me all the time. Some are yes, but quite a few say no, but aren't looking for anything, don't want to ruin the relationship, or don't want to date based on values (I'm an atheist and I end up hanging out with a lot of religious girls for some reason). Also some say yes, but are in denial (one of my female friends always flirts with me but say's she doesn't like me th… | /r/seduction | 04/09/17 10:36 PM |
| 2 | "Just to be clear it's not a date haha"Experience has taught me it's extremely rare for cross-sex relationships (assuming hetero people here) to be mutually platonic. Usually one person or the other has feelings or attraction, and it always hit some kind of weird grey area. | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 12:59 PM |
| 1 | "Just to be clear it's not a date haha"Sorry, this is a girl thing that's perpetuated by a lot of woman in general. A female dating author even called women out on it. https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/5laihc/woman_confirms_im_not_sleeping_with_you_tonight/ Basically, women want to fuck but don't want to ruin their reputation, so they want plausible deniability. Aka, "It just happened". So yeah, better to be sure and not hang out with dudes one and one, particularly if you plan on going back to his place and you're both adu… | /r/seduction | 02/09/17 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Should I hire an escort to lose my virginity and maybe gain more confidence?Errrr, girls don't just jump on your dick dude. You either need to approach them yourself, or do the social circle thing and meet them. If you don't have a decent social circle then start working on that. | /r/seduction | 29/08/17 07:07 PM |
| 3 | The more I read about seduction, the less I understand women.Seddit exists because of this problem: what makes women attracted to men, and can it be reversed engineered? In my experience women are more illogical than men (men are also slaves to their feelings/hormones, just to far less of a degree than women from what I've seen) when it comes to sexual attraction. Where men are pretty simple (is the woman above average in terms of looks is the most important factor for the majority of men for short term dating, not being a drama magnet is important in the… | /r/seduction | 05/08/17 04:32 PM |
| 1 | The power of alcohol and how to be playful?I should probably do dance. My sister attends classes and she keeps on wanting me to join her to meet some of the (very single) women there. It's really not my thing but we'll see. | /r/seduction | 02/08/17 06:05 PM |
| 2 | The power of alcohol and how to be playful?You know what, I'm just going to keep my sober habits, and probably just work on being more social/physical without alcohol. Will probably be rough as hell, but we'll see if I can make it through. | /r/seduction | 30/07/17 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Advice Needed (Be Brutally Honest) - I'm a 30 yo male with Erectile Dysfunction, depression, a failed Business, no direction in life, lonely and have weak support from family and friends despite being an overall nice guy. All I have going for me is my job. What must I do to change my life?As per the other comment, tackle one thing at a time, and I recommend you hit the gym and eating right. It will definitely help with the depression (I was already underweight and I lost about 5 kgs when I went through my depression), and will probably help with the ED (both of which could stem from low testosterone). | /r/seduction | 30/07/17 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Two things that helped me be attractive to women. Examples included.Get fit. I mean Jason Momoa Aquaman fit. Ryan Reynolds Blade fit. Seriously, it takes one hour a day of HIIT + Weight lifting and/or CrossFit (my choice) to get there. I did it in less than 2 months (4 days a week consistently). If you're skinny, eat more. If you're pudgy, just let the workouts do their thing. Granted, don't eat anything in sight, but it's pretty challenging to eat enough to gain unwanted weight working out that hard. Finally, don't get fit for women. Get fit for yourself. This … | /r/seduction | 28/07/17 08:03 PM |
| 1 | You are not trying nearly enoughThe only thing that he does that I don't do in terms of behaviours is he touches people more (I only got comfortable with hugging in my early/mid 20s, and while I am much better with hugs, even now I will rarely cross physical boundaries unless I am really feeling it in my gut or getting massive IOIs). I can say from what I have observed is that the touching undoubtedly gets a binary reaction. Girls who don't like it basically tell him to stop being a creep, but the girls who do will generally c… | /r/seduction | 24/07/17 09:41 PM |
| 6 | You are not trying nearly enoughI can't help but feel this should be titled: "You're not trying nearly enough (if you're not in the top 20%)". As an average looking guy who has a reasonable number of accomplishments (well educated, started and run a community project, good job) it still bugs me how easy it is for good looking dudes. I've spent years working on my self, getting better socialised (to a point, I still don't like loud venues much due to sensory sensitivity so I avoid clubs and bars), working out, trying to figure … | /r/seduction | 22/07/17 03:16 PM |
| 1 | How important is it when you're a virgin to keep that fact hidden when it comes to casual relationships?As a 33 year old male who lost his V card at the age of 31, I would not say anything until you've given her at least one orgasm. I was fortunate enough to get a girlfriend (it only lasted for a few months, but we were officially exclusive from a few weeks in) who was super attracted to me, and by our second date I had my hands down her pants. Fingered her, got her off, and she was amazed coz it was one of the best orgasms she ever had. When I told her that was the first time I ever fingered a gi… | /r/seduction | 20/07/17 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: How much casual sex did you get in your 20's?None. But there were definitely opportunities, I was just too insecure and too socially unaware (I learnt from various people later that there were several people in my space that wanted to at least have a go with me). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/17 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Where do you fuck if neither person can be brought back home?Honestly, if you're both 18 or older your parents should be fine with it. I lived in a flat, but occasionally I would go to my ex-girlfriend's house and she lived with her parents. She would lock the door and her mum and dad were totally fine with it. However, it was bloody embarrassing the one time her Dad told her she had forgotten to close one of her windows the one day and people could hear us... | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 05:22 PM |
| 1 | How should i handle my feelings for my best friend?"Dry spell". "Haven't had any sex in a little over two months..." Lol. Look, if you want to kill the vibe between you two, just do what I did with a girl I've been crushing on recently: open up about your emotions/feelings. The girl I was crushing on ending up sharing and she got some serious shit that I didn't know about that seriously put a damper on me wanting to get with her. Otherwise, just ask her out and see what happens. | /r/seduction | 09/07/17 07:28 PM |
| 1 | How can I learn to humanize beautiful women that I don't know?You need to make friends with some of them, either by letting them friendzone you or through your social circle, or even through your job. I ended up just being friends with a girl who was considered a 10 by a LOT of people. When we first met she wasn't interested in me and so I just hung out with her during various group events. At some point after that she realised I was pretty cool and started dropping hints, but she wanted kids and I didn't so I kept her firmly in the friendzone (before anyo… | /r/seduction | 07/07/17 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Where do certain males learn the idea that being "nice" will attract a partner?I promised to be the opposite of my father, who was abusive to my mother. I knew women would truly appreciate me for putting their needs first. They do, but only after you get them into bed and naked first. The problem was that being nice didn't help me get them naked in bed. Generally being a bit of a jerk did :/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/17 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Q4All: Is sex a want or a need?Yeah. I tried the nofap thing once where I went cold turkey. My mood went to hell for a while, and then I got these weird spurts of energy. Eventually I got sick of the mood swings so I stopped. Another time I tried cutting back to once or twice a week. I didn't get the mood swings as badly, but I was so horny that it wasn't at all fun (no jokes, I'd get a boner during my workout - so glad I exercised from home). Dropped it then as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/17 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: Is sex a want or a need?Sadly no, but former British colony :p | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/17 06:22 PM |
| 3 | Q4All: Is sex a want or a need?As a healthy male in his 30s who lifts regularly, sex (whether we're talking masturbation or with a partner) is a need full stop. If I don't get a release at least every 24 - 36 hours, I start to get agitated. I also start to pine after my female friends even if I'm not that interested in them. If you're female (it's exceptionally rare to find women who want to shag as much as your average man) or low sex drive, I imagine things will be a bit different (and if you don't believe me do some readin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/17 01:08 PM |
| 1 | I get really sensitive when I get made fun of in my social circle. How do I change my mentality?Firstly, a bit of ribbing from friends is normal. I do this to my male and female friends and expect the same from them. However, I have experienced what happens when people go too far. I was once part of a friend group where they basically only poked fun at me. Towards the end I was never eager to hang out with them, and I thought something was wrong with me. I thought I was bring a pansy until someone outside of the group hung out with us and told me privately that they gave me more shit than … | /r/seduction | 23/06/17 01:04 PM |
| 1 | What was your misconception about women before having a girlfriend?Hmmmmm, that depends. One night stand or relationship? Yes women do like a good looking guy, but if his behaviour is off then he'll quickly become unattractive, whereas a not so good looking guy (I'm not talking about someone who is very ugly), with the right behaviour can attract a decent woman. I know a guy who in high school had messed up skin, bad teeth, the whole deal. He moved overseas and I lost touch, but we reconnected on Facebook after a while. I'll be damned but the dude had landed hi… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 08:06 PM |
| 1 | What was your misconception about women before having a girlfriend?Context is important, but generally yes. Naturally there will be instances when this doesn't apply, but you're going to have to learn how to suss those out, or deal with it if you misinterpret the situation. | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 03:21 PM |
| 1 | What was your misconception about women before having a girlfriend?They are attracted to good looking men the same way men are attracted to good looking women (women are turned on by behaviours more than looks) This one? | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 03:17 PM |
| 2 | What was your misconception about women before having a girlfriend?In most cases, if a woman doesn't have a specific reason for talking to you, chances are very high that she's interested. Like I was out the other night and I met this blonde girl at a cafe who was there with her friends. She opened a conversation with me but after a couple of minutes I was able to see she was very friendly and talked to a lot of people. However, she was there with this brunette girl, who had been quiet most of the time. Suddenly out of nowhere the brunette starts asking me ques… | /r/seduction | 15/06/17 06:12 AM |
| 25 | What was your misconception about women before having a girlfriend?Misconceptions about women (potentially dark/rp shit here): They are holding out for prince charming (they actually want to tame a wild man) They want the good/nice guy who treats them well (they want a man who challenges them, and would rather have a jerk than someone who is overly nice) They will value a man who is good but is not so good in bed over a man who is bad but good in bed (a lot of woman will stay with a shitty guy if the sex is good) They only want boyfriends (some women are quite … | /r/seduction | 14/06/17 06:22 PM |
| 7 | What hobbies attract the most girls?Most motorbikes are basically vibrators (not kidding). My ex opened up about how she found out that bikes stimulate her vagina (not to orgasm but it still feels good). Have teased a couple of girls about it and they never denied it. | /r/seduction | 07/06/17 07:55 AM |
| 7 | my friends girlfriend touching my feet, four times?She either: 1) wants to bang you 2) wants to see if you're willing to ruin your friendship for her 3) likes to be a cock tease It's pretty self explanatory. | /r/seduction | 03/06/17 04:53 PM |
| 1 | About how important is being into fashion?I wear clothes that say something about me. Basically well fitted geeky gaming/anime/pop culture t-shirts, hoodies, and jeans. My clothes basically state very clearly that I'm into geek stuff, which may push away the majority of girls but draws the girls who like geek stuff to me. I also cut/style my own hair (mostly because barbers in my area aren't worth the money or keep on fucking it up) to frame my face better. I have learnt over time what works for me in terms of hair, and how to cut it my… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 03:24 PM |
| 1 | I'm 30 and a virgin who's never been on a date. I'm starting to get interest from women but I basically run away.Dude. Was 32 when I checked everything off my firsts list with my ex. I even told her I hadn't had sex with anyone after I fingered and got her off for the first time on our second date. The thing is that we had crazy chemistry and she was very understanding (which made sense considering all the relationship trauma she had dealt with). I wouldn't recommend a hooker. Educate yourself first, so that when you get naked with a lady you have a rough idea of what you need to do. Hell, I use my hands a… | /r/seduction | 31/05/17 01:11 PM |
| 8 | I want to ask my teacher outIf he is vaguely professional, even if you ask him he will say no. I ended up in a weird situation where I was 23 and teaching 18-25 year olds (I had no influence over their grades, but I was still their teacher). Regularly got asked out and even had some girls tell me a (cute) friend of theirs had a crush on me. I never, ever, ever, said yes coz it just seemed like asking for trouble. | /r/seduction | 30/05/17 08:30 PM |
| 2 | Getting out of the "friend zone" worth it or no?She kept pushing for friends so I explained why I could not be her friend, which was a summary of what I actually feel about the friendzone and guys who stay in it - that any guy willing to emasculate himself to stay in a girl's life is deceitful, most guys that jump in the friendzone end up getting all passive aggressive upset later because all that emotion/yearning stifled by emasculation just builds up until it pops, and that it's selfish for a girl to think she can keep a guy who likes her a… | /r/seduction | 29/05/17 10:19 PM |
| 1 | For guys 30 or beyond, if you just want to hook up..You are being trolled. If you're in your 30s, you have many, many more options than just a 30 year old with kids. | /r/seduction | 24/05/17 07:10 PM |
| 1 | The girl is not the goal. The goal is to become a happy, driven, successful, self-assured man.Drugs. | /r/seduction | 24/05/17 06:44 PM |
| 1 | The counter argument to "Living a good life" and why we really do need pickup.There's an interesting discussion on The Purple Pill subreddit, I think it's about how hard it is for the average man to get laid, when someone pointed out something connected to this: but shoot cocaine in his past time... I know it's not the point of your post, but that discussion and this sentence highlights how if you are involved in the party/drinking/drugs scene, you don't need game. As long as you're not completely unattractive, just go out, get high/drunk, and find someone who is also on … | /r/seduction | 24/05/17 06:38 PM |
| 2 | If you have known a girl more than 2 weeks and you still cannot tell if she's attracted to you, she's not. Move on.Fair enough. I'm not advocating keeping a girl around just on the vague chance she might change her mind. What I am advocating is to actually become friends with a girl that you are attracted to who's cool so she actually brings something to the table, and just to have your shit together emotionally so that you don't get a bad case of oneitis with her. Hell, I've had on/off crushes with a number of women I know, and when I was younger/needier it was harder to manage my shit. Now that I am older,… | /r/seduction | 23/05/17 09:21 PM |
| 6 | If you have known a girl more than 2 weeks and you still cannot tell if she's attracted to you, she's not. Move on.I get the point of this post is to push guys to go for girls they like more often, but I've known girls for more than two weeks and have had them become attracted to me later, even when they weren't at first. My problem with this style of game (doesn't matter what she's feeling, just go for it game) is that it doesn't take into account the natural flows of women's emotions. Trying to pick up a girl when the "iron isn't hot" and failing drastically affects your chances of success at a later date … | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 10:56 PM |
| 6 | How do you know if a girl is attracted to you if she doesn't flirt?Fairly standard and reliable IOI's in my experience: Body language: Hair toss/hair brush for girls with shorter hair Long eye contact which she doesn't break Touching when she doesn't have to Proximity (does she find an excuse to stay around you when she could easily leave, and is she standing closer to you than a friend or family normally would) Where are her feet pointed (directly towards you = good, away from you = bad) Other reliable IOI's: Does she find a reason to start a conversation with… | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 10:44 PM |
| 2 | How many guys in the population truly use techniques posted here practice game, or do approaches?Techniques - I don't use anything specific (like canned material type stuff). I apply more "meta" behaviours, such as teasing, being humorous, being sexual (either through humour or observations or stories), mindfulness/presence, working out, and dressing better. Approaches - I don't do PUA style approaches. In my country no one does it due to high crime. I hate clubs so I don't do night game either. I basically do a very specific hobby related social circle game and online dating. I'm not aspir… | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Friendzone scenario?Yes, you're in the friendzone. Plan of action? Be polite but don't spend time with her if you can avoid it if you can't manage your feelings. Hang out with awesome friends (male and female) without this chick, and go meet new girls who do like you. | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Why can't me and my guy friends ever get girls in our social lives?Errrrr, I'm not from San Jose but this seems like a no brainer? Start a hobby which involves both genders. | /r/seduction | 22/05/17 04:40 PM |
| 7 | How to ask a girl out (without making things weird)So while I don't agree with some of the examples, I do agree with the basic concept (being more ambiguous, less direct). There's two reasons why being more indirect (Hey, let's hang out some time) can be a better idea than being direct (Hey, let's go on a date on Saturday). One: it allows the girl plausible deniability. This is highly important if the girl is not super attracted to you as it allows her more time to get to know you (edit and since it's "not a date" she feels less pressured), and … | /r/seduction | 21/05/17 09:50 PM |
| 4 | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerGreat post man. I am actually in the process of increasing the "integration" of my inner/outer personality, and have seen some positive results. Was chatting to a female friend/crush. She took something I said and tried to put a negative spin on it, so I argued my point of view with her. She actually got a bit aggressive with me, but I stood my ground. Wouldn't you know it, afterwards I felt some intense sexual vibe between us. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 10:52 PM |
| 6 | If You Want To Be Charismatic, Be More Unlikeable - the simple way of looking at it that enhanced my sex life, and made my social life strongerFrame for me always seem like something you adopted. In a way it is like a filter for dealing with women, or getting a reaction. What this guy is suggesting is removing filters at the risk of being unlikable. | /r/seduction | 17/05/17 10:49 PM |
| 4 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaSome might say too self aware :p But yeah, I've been messaging more girls online, talking to girls I meet irl, getting numbers, getting flaked on, going on dates, and (hopefully) trying to go from there. Also, making mistakes (usually to do with second guessing myself, which is why I say too self-aware sometimes). I've also just been talking a LOT to people, and the problem I've noticed with some of the PUA material is 1) it's too black and white, and 2) it can be too "selfish", or lacking in em… | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Lost virginity, whole new person all the sudden?Gotten physical (anything from kissing and up) with more girls in the 2 years after I lost my V-card than the 14 years before that (I lived a very sheltered childhood so I'm only counting the years that I came into regular contact with women who I was not related to). | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:51 PM |
| 5 | If you want casual relationships, friends with benefits, f**k-buddies; here's what you need to do, and here's why it's a stupid ideaMy experience after talking to most of my friends (male and female) about casual relationships is that usually, at some point, someone starts to fall for the other person. I have not partaken in casual relationships now that I am decent at spotting a girl who thinks I'm sexy and wants to shag, mostly because I recognise I am an emotionally intense human being and if I want to shag a girl chances are I like her for more than just a casual fling. | /r/seduction | 13/05/17 05:48 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Inviting Someone Out And Expecting Them To Pay Is RudeWhile I may have gotten the country wrong, as far as anecdotal evidence goes, I see no issue with it. She lived in X country. Agreed to a date with a guy. Local friend warned her that basically if you agree to a date sex is a given. She had to tell the guy that it wasn't going to happen just because they were on a date. Not all countries have a conservative attitude towards sex, so it's not impossible for the date = sex thing to be true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/17 08:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Inviting Someone Out And Expecting Them To Pay Is RudeMaybe I'm getting the location wrong (it was definitely some place with a P), but yeah, point is basically date 1 I pay for food, we have sex is entirely acceptable in some places. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/17 10:21 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Inviting Someone Out And Expecting Them To Pay Is RudeLMC here. Just coz someone invites me out, doesn't mean they're paying for shit. I treat my friends to a meal at home once in a while or a movie, but it's not a "given". Clearly this is a rich person's thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/17 09:59 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Inviting Someone Out And Expecting Them To Pay Is RudeIn Peru if you accept a date with a man, it's a given that you will sleep with him. Heard this from a girl my friend is dating who lived in Peru for a while. A local friend had to tell her about this since she didn't know... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/17 09:56 PM |
| 1 | What don't men understand about women?women are more or as visual than men. In what context are we talking about? Liking pretty things is a bit different from sexual attraction. women like the sight of boobs and women's bodies Agreed. Most of the women I know have been at very least bi-curious at some point. we like sex! Just look at all the sex toys out there for women. Many of us just have trouble having orgasms with you/we need sex I'm going to agree with you here. Even though it took me much longer to get out the gates than most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/17 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Why do some men date women that are less atractive?A girl that is less attractive than you is more likely to be loyal, respectful, and perpetually turned on by your presence. You get less entitlement and bullshit games from girls signfiicnatly less attractive. Friend of my brother is not a Chad, but was very handsome and as a result didn't have many issues getting female attention. When it came time to settle and start a family, he picked the least attractive woman he dated over his many years of success with the ladies. I told my bro it's becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 09:49 PM |
| 1 | What Balinese male sex workers say women wantI've said it before that good sex is what really makes me clingy to a guy. I think more guys should focus on the importance of providing that godly dick. I had this "problem" with my ex. I (at the time), virgin but who had researched prior to first sexual encounter, gave her multiple squirting orgasms with my hands and mouth from the first night we got naked together, which was something no other guy had done before. Because of this she thought I was lying to her about my virginity and my lack o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 09:42 PM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] Former Blue Pill; Are you happier?Well, I view myself more as PP than BP. Used to be BP, then read The Game. Got big into self-improvement/manosphere/seduction community. A long time after that I went quite deep into TRP theory, but I think I've gotten all the useful information that I can out of it, and some of the ideas (such as AWALT) are quite out of place in my culture (I'm not American), and there are some salty fuckers in that sub which makes it more toxic than otherwise these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 04:30 PM |
| 1 | [Q4RP] Former Blue Pill; Are you happier?I agree, unless it's a business transaction, you're always competing, whether you want to recognise it as that or not. You're competing for her time she could be spending with her friends, her family, her hobbies, other dudes, her vibrator... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 03:52 PM |
| 2 | [Q4RP] Former Blue Pill; Are you happier?Fuck. I just realised I am totally approval seeking XD I don't hook up with drunk or high girls at all (unless we are already in a relationship and won her over when she was sober), or girls who are emotionally in a bad place (unless they straight up say they are just looking for some fun, or again, I only found out about her baggage after we started dating). I guess I'm spoilt in that I'm no stunner and I've had some very attractive women warm up to me over time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/17 03:48 PM |
| 1 | How the fuck do I get laid at the age of 22? Newbie asking for adviceI'll say outlandish things and non-politically correct things I had a friend do this exact shit for a long time. Then he went overseas and learnt to keep that shit to himself or his very close friends, and guess who started getting laid? | /r/seduction | 05/05/17 04:46 PM |
| 1 | I have a minor physical deformity on my face and still wear braces, which makes me deeply insecureDude with minor underbite here. Look, I doubt mine is noticeable unless I try to smile like a normal person (I have an underbite like Seth Rogan), so instead I just have a bit of a grin/smirk when I'm happy. I'm now in my 30s and because I've worked on other parts of my body, as well as having become more social over the years, so I do get noticed by girls despite of it. That being said, I don't know how bad yours is, but keep this in mind: as a dude, you can get away with it if you've got enoug… | /r/seduction | 04/05/17 10:08 PM |
| 3 | The downside with being attractiveWtf man. At least if you are attractive, you can make a lot more mistakes and still get laid more regularly (this applies to both guys and girls). Fuck, I mean, right now I am dealing with a small amount of bitterness because it fucking annoys me how much attention a reasonably attractive woman gets. I was working with a female friend of mine who I have a crush on, and she literally got told by a guy with a girlfriend today "you're so cute", followed by later "you're very pretty". I'm like "wtf … | /r/seduction | 29/04/17 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Should I get bigger? I'm 5'8" and around 120lbs. Would I notice a big difference with girls? I'm 19.TLDR: Yes. When I was in my early 20's I was about 1.71 meters (5'65") and 55 kgs (121 lbs). I still got noticed by average to cute girls (in seduction speak 5's to 7's) because of the circumstances I found myself in. When I was in my mid 20s and I became more comfortable with myself, I would say I was noticed more by 5's 7's, weirdly enough with the odd 8/9 here and there. Now I am in my early 30's and I weigh 143 lbs, the only women who notice me exclusively for my body are women who knew me b… | /r/seduction | 29/04/17 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Stalking: always creepy or also potentially romantic like in The Fisher King (1991)?Creepy is entirely subjective when it comes to romance. I've read some threads on reddit about how people got together and gone wtf considering some things dudes have done to get a girl's attention. Basically, whether something was creepy or not was based entirely on much the girl was attracted to the guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/17 09:07 AM |
| 1 | Isn't the foundation here just the simple observation that women tend to prefer more masculine, dominant men?I'm not entirely sure about this. I know some high sex drive, more masculine women (I talked to two of them about their energy and both of them told me that even girls had told them they were more like guys), who have been very attracted to me in the past (it was actually quite interesting seeing how aggressive a woman can be when she falls into this archetype), when my energy was more neutral. I would say my male/female energy balance was 50/50 masculine/female (I've worked to make my energy mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/17 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Let's forget getting laid for a second. How do you get a solid, tight-knit social circle?Most social circles have leaders, and most people just aren't social leaders This, this, a million times this! I run several hobby groups, and I've made some casual and some deep friendships through them. I will regularly post on these groups "Hey, going to do X. Who's in?" and see who bites. Some of the folks who join me are just "hobby friends" and stay that way, but some of them I really connect with and form reasonably meaningful relationships. Unfortunately it's mostly dudes and the few wom… | /r/seduction | 19/04/17 03:00 PM |
| 2 | I'm sure the "Almost 30 and never had a girlfriend" threads have been asked before. Which are your favorite that you'd give to someone in such a shitty situation?If you can't afford an escort, I thoroughly recommend Nina Hartley's educational sex videos. They're really good and helped me out so much that my ex was convinced I was lying to her about being a virgin. | /r/seduction | 14/04/17 07:17 PM |
| 9 | I'm sure the "Almost 30 and never had a girlfriend" threads have been asked before. Which are your favorite that you'd give to someone in such a shitty situation?I'm assuming favourite advice? As a dude who got almost all his firsts at the age of 32, and has had more "success" in the last year than the rest of his entire life, here's my advice for someone in their 30s. 1 Don't let a girl's emotions bother you. Most women's emotions go up and down way more than most men, so better not to let their shit affect you too much (this is not to say guys don't have moods, just that in general ours are more stable than your average woman's when it comes to relatio… | /r/seduction | 14/04/17 11:22 AM |
| 1 | [Q4 BP and Feminists] What is your solution for men who have trouble with women?Talk to your friends and get more details on this! They may need help! Thankfully none of the guys I hang out with have slept with any of my female friends (unless they are together as a couple). And all the guys I know do the traditional dinner dating thing (and all of them are single lol). I have talked to some of the women in my life about some of their emotional scars. One of them is basically on medication and dealing with the fallout, and has become more and more reclusive (although she do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/17 10:38 PM |
| 1 | [Q4 BP and Feminists] What is your solution for men who have trouble with women?This is not "rapey" even in the slightest bit. Unless he was telling you to also slip something in their drink or make their drinks stronger without telling them or something? But it seems like you think buying a girl a drink is rape? No, but it seems very risky. Maybe I view it differently because I have a number of female friends who got drunk, slept with a guy, and then regretted it. Also, see the stories I've posted below. man, I feel like you have a lot of sexism problems already. Men and w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/17 05:22 PM |
| 1 | [Q4 BP and Feminists] What is your solution for men who have trouble with women?Multiple women sharing one guy? This seems to be the case in my experience (and I don't mean sharing as always they are banging the guy at the same time, but they might just be waiting in line for him). This is one of my reference points: I have a friend, white, tall, skinny, but pretty decent looking and very chilled. He's very much into the party scene (drinking and mild drug use, the typical weekend warrior now that we are older). He has not been single longer than a month, and that's coz he … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/17 08:21 AM |
| 3 | What do you do to make her horny?Sex begins in the mind so take the conversation down a sexual path. | /r/seduction | 24/03/17 10:07 PM |
| 3 | [Video and explanation] The Good Flirt, flirting does not have to mean anything.I sat with her talking, hands on knees, hands on hands, even though my friends father was right there, her telling me I am very handsome and me telling her she is gorgeous. I have recently began verbally flirting mostly with my single female friends and acquaintances (and it seems to be having a very positive effect). Very rarely I will throw something out at my married friends or friends with girlfriends (usually I don't coz I don't want any drama). However, I won't touch anyone I am not intere… | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 04:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you tease girls?Fucking mobile... Can't clean this up till I'm at a pc for some reason... | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 07:18 AM |
| 3 | How do you tease girls?In my experience when it comes to conversation, excluding certain topics which are generally more of interest to specific genders, it's fairly similar for both men and women. If the conversation is flat, change the subject, and see how they react. Lay on the innuendos at every opportunity. Don't get into any subject that's too heavy. Good grief, I've met plenty of cute girls who are boring as fuck because they can't hold a decent conversation. | /r/seduction | 17/03/17 07:17 AM |
| 3 | "Looks don't matter"Online dating and real life dating are very different beasts. I'm probably at best a 5, perhaps even lower if people notice my slight underbite. Online I get very little attention. Offline I can do much better. My ex was a 7 when we met and went on a diet, so closer to an 8 around the time we broke up. Would get looks from people on the street and fist bumps from my mates when she wasn't looking. Have also had a red head 8 and an Indian 8 interested in me. Red head was close to Bryce Dallas Howa… | /r/seduction | 16/03/17 07:06 AM |
| 6 | Why Not Telling Your Crush How You Feel Means You'll Never Be Successful In LifeI have an on/off crush on a friend. She's really cool, but also has a lot of issues similar to my ex (which is why I shouldn't really get involved with her). Usually when I have a lot of women in my life, this is no problem. When the ladies aren't around, I tend to focus a bit too much on her. I agree with StonerSteve. Not telling someone you have the hots for them is not always motivated by fear, or lack of confidence. Sometimes friendship, or knowing they're not good for you, or not causing un… | /r/seduction | 15/03/17 10:14 PM |
| 1 | It seems that men with many options (because of looks/game, whatever) stay single more, and settle less.One of my friends who has no problems with women basically hit college and has never been single since (maybe a month on his own, tops). Even now he has a girlfriend they seem to occasionally bring other girls into the equation. He's tall, white, long hair, nice smile, and is fairly open minded about substances (he's very skinny but that doesn't seem to affect his attractiveness). Also seemed quite happy to just "go with the flow" even if it meant fucking a girl/dating a girl really casually and… | /r/seduction | 20/02/17 10:15 PM |
| 1 | When to touch during a first dateActually, yes. Our species managed to reproduce for 10's of thousands of years before the invention of language. Yeah, and back then women didn't have much of a choice. There's a reason the phrase is called "going caveman". That's been my point all along. Trial and error. You have to do something. Approach anxiety means the end of your bloodline. Fear of rejection means the end of your bloodline. All of the excuses given by all of the people coming to this sub asking how to talk to a girl mean t… | /r/seduction | 16/02/17 08:54 PM |
| 0 | When to touch during a first dateOfc man. We just pop out at birth knowing exactly what to do with women /s The reality is that even you learnt progressively through trial and error over time. Just because you are not aware of it doesn't mean it didn't happen. | /r/seduction | 16/02/17 04:31 PM |
| 1 | The dire situation in LondonSo this is not someone I know very well personally, but I know a guy who was quite a casanova growing up. Tall, lean, very easy on the eyes. Never had a problem getting ladies. He dated (mostly) beautiful women. When it came to getting married, he picked the homeliest girl of the lot. I thought she was actually very, very average. A 5/10 at best. I was really surprised by this so I asked someone close to him what the deal was. Basically she was the nicest and would make a good mother for his fut… | /r/TheRedPill | 15/02/17 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Critique on Manson's "Models"?but sometimes you need to work on some outer game Outer game is stuff on the outside, like fashion, grooming, etc. Push-pull/takeaways/etc are all ways to make a girl spike emotionally. | /r/seduction | 14/02/17 02:50 PM |
| 1 | How do I talk about my job without sounding like a pretentious ass or boring?I do educational/technical writing, which has absolutely zero sex appeal. Unless the girl asks, I don't bring it up, and I make it very clear that I just do it to pay the bills. Thankfully some of my hobbies are girl friendly. If she does ask, I give her a very brief run-down and then move onto another subject. | /r/seduction | 14/02/17 02:42 PM |
| 1 | How do you take a girl to your home after a date?How do you separate the effects of alcohol (how it affects thinking, as well as known for making it much easier to arouse a person) from a good seduction? Edit. I am being serious. Not trying to troll. | /r/seduction | 14/02/17 06:24 AM |
| 3 | [full video] The Private Man's first and last red pill presentation @ The 21 Convention, now free on YouTubeMost of the 21 Studios videos are pretty solid. James Marshall's stuff is very much in line with my personality so I often check his content out. | /r/TheRedPill | 13/02/17 04:22 PM |
| -1 | How do you take a girl to your home after a date?How much of this is game and how much of this is girls who've had 2-4 drinks? | /r/seduction | 13/02/17 04:20 PM |
| 5 | [full video] The Private Man's first and last red pill presentation @ The 21 Convention, now free on YouTubeThis is the reason I lurk in this sub. Solid, clear, easy to understand info. (I am often hesitant to post here because far too many guys who post here are bitter as fuck, way more than in Seddit. I'm not here to be bitter. I'm here to change my life.) | /r/TheRedPill | 11/02/17 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Free Pua Novel For Seddit. Ten Years in The GameStill getting through the book but you are a really good writer. I've chuckled a fair amount. Even if this book was the biggest load of hogwash I'd tell people to read it just coz it's written so well! | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Free Pua Novel For Seddit. Ten Years in The Game"God of War on the XBox"... Shame on you. GoW is a ps4 game. This is a quote from his book btw. | /r/seduction | 09/02/17 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Missed the bus?My sister has a lot of broken friends and is fairly hardcore with some out there feminist ideas (like men being passive and girls doing the approaching, and I tell her I will gladly welcome that day when it happens, but pigs are more likely to fly). I casually mentioned to her that I had kissed this girl without her expecting it. but that she liked it, and she basically threw all her broken friend's shit at me. I'm not going to lie. This made me legit worried at the time. I'm usually never impul… | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Missed the bus?No, the point I was trying to make was that you apologised for something that you didn't need to. I backpedaled for a different reason, but apologising for something when it's not necessary will generally turn a girl off. | /r/seduction | 08/02/17 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Missed the bus?I messaged her the next day apologising (probably a shitty idea) Here. I did the same shit. Had really great energy with this girl, she offered me a lift home, I decided I wanted to kiss her and so I did after she gave me a lift home. I pulled back after the first kiss, her eyes were still closed and she clearly seemed to like it, so I said one more and kissed her again. We texted a bit and shit was fine. I later backpedaled coz my sister made me think I was going to get charged with sexual assa… | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Stepping out of friends with benefits zoneBasically if a woman sleeps with you enough times, chances are she will start to fall for you. Just give her enough orgasms and keep it cool and let nature do the rest. | /r/seduction | 07/02/17 05:51 PM |
| 1 | What's it like hitting on women as a man?Not only that, she was more interested in her after she revealed she was a woman than when she was a man! | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on hitting on girls while at work?Used to work at a bookstore. I was really shy and it was my first real exposure to women I didn't know on a regular basis. Even though I never number closed I regularly chatted up customers and had a couple of instances where I know now I should have gotten a number, but I was too scared to progress any further. It is possible, and wasn't really frowned upon (one of the girls I worked with regularly hit on male customers). | /r/seduction | 06/02/17 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men.OKCupid doesn't only do surveys and I would go so far as to say that this isn't the kind of thing they would survey. They basically gather data on you whether you like it or not. It's part of the agreement when you sign up. | /r/seduction | 05/02/17 07:05 PM |
| 1 | On a date, do you ever ask if she's looking for a relationship or looking to have fun or anything like that ?Weirdly enough I have done this. Straight up asked a girl if she's looking for something more serious or more casual, usually followed by "Coz I'm not in the business of breaking hearts". I don't want to deal with any buyers remorse later, and this helps deal with that. | /r/seduction | 02/02/17 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Attractive girls vs. Girls that I'm attracted to.I got with the last girl I really wanted. Turned out she had major issues and I ended up breaking up with her 5 months into our relationship :( | /r/seduction | 01/02/17 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Where most guys are going wrong trying to get one night stands and casual sex relationshipsRegarding the whole, "Does a good job in bed?" vs "Making her feel desired". Sure, if a woman wants validation, then maybe she wants the whole desire/boyfriend for the night thing. Sometimes, she's just horny and wants a dude who knows how to fuck. It really just depends on the woman involved. Regarding sex being the side effect: yeah, we know this. Most women want commitment, and some want validation as well (one could argue that commitment is a form of validation). They use sex to get it. TLDR… | /r/seduction | 30/01/17 04:36 PM |
| 9 | Why do girls feel attracted when I act superior? This is a turn off for ME.Ok. So as much as I hate this, basically women want a strong, dominant male to lead them. I used to think like you. I want a girl who is my partner and equal. Guess what? Girls don't want that. They want someone who can carry the majority of life's burdens. I mean, I almost pissed myself laughing when one of my very smart female friends, who is a very verbal about her feminist beliefs, went "I need to figure out why I'm attracted to all these self-absorbed narcissists". This was when I realised … | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:39 PM |
| 5 | The loneliness is crushingThere are lots of books you need to read. How to make friends and influence people The power of now The subtle art of not giving a f*ck Look up books in this subreddit and you'll find a ton of other great material to help you get your mental health together. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:33 PM |
| 1 | The loneliness is crushingIgnore the cunt below me. Life is hard but you start with little things and work your way up. When I was in junior school I had usually 1 friend at a time. Other than that it was books. When I got towards high school I found more people like me (smart/outcasts/nerds/etc). Find something in your life that you enjoy. ANYTHING. It doesn't have to be what other kids like. I grew up playing video games at a time when playing video games got you beaten up. Still, I loved my gaming and my passion for i… | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:31 PM |
| 3 | The loneliness is crushingOi mate. Shut the fuck up. He just needs some help. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:28 PM |
| 22 | The loneliness is crushingGeez. I got my first kiss and lost my virginity at the age of 31 (end of 2015). Sure I felt a bit lonely from time to time, but fill your life with other things and you'll barely even notice it. I read a bit further down. Are you in a co-ed school or single sex? I was in a single sex school my whole life and didn't notice I was missing anything until I got to college. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Would being more fit,lean and muscular attract more women to me? Would it make a difference or increase my attention from women?When it comes to asking girls out or making a move, I wait until the "iron is hot" (when my gut screams at me that the moment is right). I know this sounds a bit weird, but girls emotions and feelings towards you can go up and down like a rollercoaster and you want to avoid asking her out or making a move during a "low" point in her emotions towards you. I'll give you a few examples from my experience. Girl number one: A few friends of mine from my old job bumped into me at my new job. They said… | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Would being more fit,lean and muscular attract more women to me? Would it make a difference or increase my attention from women?Going to update my main reply for folks, just so they know where I was coming from. Check that out and see if it clarifies any of your issues. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Would being more fit,lean and muscular attract more women to me? Would it make a difference or increase my attention from women?I'll update my main post later, but I'll respond to people individually. I didn't try. You'll see what I mean by my update edit. | /r/seduction | 27/01/17 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Would being more fit,lean and muscular attract more women to me? Would it make a difference or increase my attention from women?So I used to be around your height/weight and still got attention from girls, BUT I was in an environment where I frequently met new girls and worked with women (retail). If I didn't have this, I probably wouldn't have gotten noticed at all. That being said, I now weigh 143 lbs and have a decent amount of muscle, but not enough to stand out (I look slightly better than average now). To make things worse, I work in a cubical and only interact with coworkers who are already my friends (sigh, if on… | /r/seduction | 26/01/17 10:32 PM |
| 2 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsWell here is what a very clear definition is: Intrasexual selection (in contrast to intersexual selection) is when members of the same sex (within a species) compete with each other in order to gain opportunities to mate with others, e.g. the male against male competition for females. So sure, maybe you don't define it as competition, but to the rest of the world? A stick is a stick man. | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 09:56 PM |
| 0 | Why Women Have The Upper Hand In Dating And RelationshipsSorry dude. Competition is part of the game. I was dating this girl and between our second and third date (we started to get physical at the end of the second date, so there was definitely sexual chemistry) some other dude entered the picture and she apologised coz even though she liked me, she was going to date him instead. | /r/seduction | 24/01/17 08:46 PM |
| 11 | After studying attraction for 7 years and spending over $20,000 to learn from "the best", here's what I've found that men can do to attract women naturally without approaching or trying hardThat's the thing - you're still referencing yourself in terms of others and what they think of you. Until your body feels comfortable being under pressure and not feeling weird/detached/out of place, then women probably won't approach you. So essentially what you're suggesting is to push past the point of it being "weird/not in line with societal expectations"? I tried this on Sunday when I went to a park circus/acrobatics play event. I managed to chill for 10 minutes on my own near the edge of … | /r/seduction | 23/01/17 10:01 PM |
| 1 | After studying attraction for 7 years and spending over $20,000 to learn from "the best", here's what I've found that men can do to attract women naturally without approaching or trying hardYes, however most guys will still prop up other areas of their life to distract themselves from the insecurity of not having a girl text them back. If they were to do nothing they'd remain insecure. If I had to always be doing something to distract myself from a fear then I'd have a lot of work to do. I get what you're trying to say here, but I think guys have to work through and gain experience to get to the point where there is no fear/anxiety of getting no response. Like, when I was a complet… | /r/seduction | 23/01/17 09:56 PM |
| 4 | After studying attraction for 7 years and spending over $20,000 to learn from "the best", here's what I've found that men can do to attract women naturally without approaching or trying hardSo stuff I agree with: 1) Letting go of expectations and "agendas" I have noticed that when I expect something to happen, it usually doesn't, and sometimes I feel some range of disappointment. Being present and enjoying the moment is the way to go. When you are truly present you will feel the energy between you, and you can try to close the gap (with a kiss, holding hands, whatever). If you have expectations and you aren't feeling the vibe, and then try to force it, chances are you'll get reject… | /r/seduction | 23/01/17 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Getting a girl to tell you about herself over text in a playful not boring way ?If you match, set up a meet irl. Don't bother with texting to get to know someone unless they have an extremely busy schedule (like they're a doctor). | /r/seduction | 18/01/17 05:08 PM |
| 2 | I finally had the balls to tell the girl I'm interested that I like herHere's two recent instances (sorry about the length, I don't want to leave out any important information, but there is a TLDR at the bottom for all you lazy bastards). First girl was from OKCupid. My escalations were clumsy. I had just gotten back into the dating scene and I would ask the girl "Want to hold hands?" on the first couple of dates. We kissed at the end of the second date, and it was clear there was still some intense chemistry, but I decided to hold off till date three before trying… | /r/seduction | 18/01/17 02:50 PM |
| 1 | What are the most aggressive and indirectly manipulative ways to get woman obsess over you?Coz the entire purpose of this thread is advice. If you don't want to give him any why bother posting? | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 06:08 PM |
| 2 | I finally had the balls to tell the girl I'm interested that I like herDude. Congrats on taking a big step forward. I hope it works out. That said, keep your excitement in check. I've kissed girls who were interested in me only to have them disappear/drop me a few weeks later so don't get too excited. Not trying to be a dick, just been there before where I thought "yay she likes me back" only to get let down later. | /r/seduction | 17/01/17 04:47 PM |
| 49 | How does "persistence game" work?Persistence game can work. It's how I got with my ex. But, I don't recommend it. Here's the story of why... Went to a friends birthday. I knew my ex at this point (as acquaintances), but I thought she was way outta my league. She sat across from me, and by the end of the evening I had three people find me at separate times and tell me she was into me (just in case I hadn't noticed at this point). End of the evening she tells me we should hang out sometime. Cool, I just need to ask her out and th… | /r/seduction | 13/01/17 09:37 PM |
| 1 | I feel like I did almost everything wrong but still got laid just by putting myself out there and not expecting sex.Does seeing me at work count as social proof? I'm a chef in an open kitchen, and most of the strange women are customers at the counter. He's a chef. Working in a space where you "have an excuse" to interact with different women on a regular basis is the #1 way to get regularly laid. I used to work at a bookstore, and even though I was too shy to escalate (even when the women made it very obvious), I still got a lot of interest. Way more than I do now that I work in a cubicle and make an effort … | /r/seduction | 12/01/17 02:58 PM |
| 1 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?I have been to Mumbai. There are good looking women there. Lol. I am also skinny/ectomorph. I spent a lot of my life weighing 54-56 kgs at 171 cms. Then I started eating properly and weight lifting and easy got to 63 kgs (about 8 months). Then took a break, got back into recently, and am now about 65 kgs. I am also in my early 30s, so it's harder for me to gain muscle than a young man between 16-24. If you want a girl, then you must be ready to deal with her needs. If you don't want to deal with… | /r/seduction | 03/01/17 05:42 PM |
| 1 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?I am not in India, but I am also Indian, and I've started trying to put on weight and gain muscle. Just that has gotten me some attention from girls who would normally ignore me. If you focus less on women and more on improving yourself, the girls will start coming to you. If you don't want to exercise, work on your mental health, or learn good social skills then that's your problem, not theirs. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 08:16 PM |
| 1 | is there anyone who is unsuccessful?Then you're doing something wrong friend. There are attractive women in India. | /r/seduction | 02/01/17 08:13 PM |
| 2 | getting a number from a mutual friend?I did this once. I didn't get the girl, not because I went through a friend, but because she was on a break from her boyfriend and by the time I got around to asking her out, they were patching things up. I would suggest giving your friend a msg with your number, and then asking him to pass it along to her. Just say something along the lines of "Hey. So this is X. Was hoping to get your number the other night but didn't see you again. If you're interested, drop me a line on 123456789." Getting t… | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 05:19 PM |
| 2 | How to get good at sex?My ex was over at least 3 times a week and I got her squirting. That means 3 times a week I was dealing with the fallout. Yeah, I know it's not quite pee but it's similar in composition. Honestly, if you eat pussy (or ass as some guys do), I don't see why this should bother you. | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Why is being honest with your feelings a bad thing?The trick is to be honest and non-needy. I've found when you are being directly honest, do it in person so people can feel your delivery and gauge your reaction. Sometimes stuff can be misinterpreted by text so even if you're not being needy a girl might read into it as such. | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 09:55 AM |
| 7 | Not Everyone Has The Balls To Commit To Self Development and ChangeDon't feel bad about rejections. Each rejection is an opportunity to learn and will only make you better. This. I've been rejected so much in the last few months. When I was younger I would have been "OMG WHY DOESN'T SHE LIKE ME!" Now it's like "Ok, I'll find someone else then." | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 09:53 AM |
| 1 | What is the best thing you learnt this year ? [2016]Specifically regarding seduction: You can step outside your safe zones and take some chances. Rejection is not a big deal. Apparently I'm a good kisser for someone with not much experience :D | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 09:51 AM |
| 9 | Woman confirms "I'm not sleeping with you tonight" as meaning "I want to sleep with you" in her dating bookNo dude. If you're going to demonise women for liking sex, you're in the wrong sub. | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 09:40 AM |
| 2 | What is the best thing you learnt this year ? [2016]learn ləːn/Submit verb past tense: learnt; past participle: learnt | /r/seduction | 01/01/17 06:15 AM |
| 9 | Woman confirms "I'm not sleeping with you tonight" as meaning "I want to sleep with you" in her dating bookErrr, you want a response? I'm not a smooth guy but if a girl said to me "I'm not letting you fuck me" out of no where I'd ask her "Who said I wanted to fuck you?" Unless of course it's pretty obvious at that point that you want to fuck her and then you go "Ok", go grab a book/movie, turn on a video game, or just generally go about your business until she decides to leave or decides she wants sex. | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 08:22 PM |
| 24 | Woman confirms "I'm not sleeping with you tonight" as meaning "I want to sleep with you" in her dating bookOfc. This is not about a hard no. This is about those situations where a woman actually wants to sleep with you but says the opposite. | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 08:20 PM |
| 19 | Woman confirms "I'm not sleeping with you tonight" as meaning "I want to sleep with you" in her dating bookI think you're mostly correct here. If a girl rejects you and you're totally cool with it and carry on like it was nothing, it will often cause her to become attracted to you, or as another woman I know put it, make her think "Why isn't he upset? Am I not worth it?". Had a friend do this to me once. Went to a show with her (it was a group thing, but ended up being just us). Had food before the show, and we get to talking about our sex lives. She complains that she wished an old FWB was single ag… | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 07:37 PM |
| 2 | How to get good at sex?The best sex doesn't involve your penis. I get way more work done with my hands and mouth and even just grinding my body against a woman than I do my junk. There are a ton of resources out there to help you with this, or if you want I can give you some general advice. For what it's worth, I was the first man to make my ex squirt, and she would squirt so much she would dehydrate during our sex sessions. I would keep 0.5-1 litre of water next to my bed during sex just for her to drink. | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 05:07 PM |
| 4 | Depressed because I feel like I'm missing out on fun with women at an early age.First kiss and lost my virginity at age 32. As long as you're making an effort (I wasn't), don't worry about it. | /r/seduction | 31/12/16 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Going out with natural friends. Any of you have friends who slay pussies on a weekly basic and struggle to learn from them?Girls don't care how stupid you are if they're just looking for a hookup or casual relationship. As long as your friends aren't completely retarded, it's probably their looks, combined with a confident vibe. I used to work with this girl who picked up guys at work whenever she had an itch that needed scratching, and she didn't give a crap how dumb they were as long as they were good in the sack and good looking. | /r/seduction | 27/12/16 07:58 PM |
| 9 | What I learned from an acid trip at a club partyDon't need drugs to realise this. I've been slowly been "reprogramming" (meditation, repeating key new values, etc) myself in order to fully integrate this into my being without the use of substances. It's very slow, and pretty fucking painful in that you experience a lot of internal conflict, but it can be done. That being said, I've heard a lot about psychedelics being used to break down your default beliefs so that you can reshape the way your think. There's a guy on this youtube site actuali… | /r/seduction | 26/12/16 04:54 PM |
| 1 | Accidentally stole a kiss. Exploring unknown territory.And it turns out that I'm not so completely socially retarded. The girl I kissed in the moment got back to me, apologised for taking so long to reply (she works in marketing and is legitimately fucking busy), and has asked if I'd like to do drinks at some point in the new year (no movie and drinks like I originally offered coz she doesn't like the pressure of formal dates). I'm not going to overthink this and am just going to go with it! Also, sent a very polite fuck you to my sister for making … | /r/seduction | 19/12/16 10:45 AM |
| 1 | I feel so shitty after every (failed) interactionDo you do weightlifting? I found my tolerance for negative situations went up massively when I started to try to put on muscle. | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 12:27 PM |
| 1 | Meeting a girl for coffee. Any advice?Ok dude. Here's some help. 1) Do not overthink things, and try to just be in the present moment with her. Also, if she's said yes at this point, assume that she has some interest in you. 2) Just talk to her like you would a friend and try to connect with her on a personal/emotional level. I have no idea how comfortable you are with your sexuality so maybe just play it safe when it comes to sexual conversation topics for now. 3) When it comes to touching people, if you've never done it before and… | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 12:12 PM |
| 1 | A new rule to change your perspective: the most attractive quality a girl can have is an interest in you.Yes. And no. Had the possibility to sleep with a girl last Friday. Ended back up at her place. I wasn't that into her but even I was thinking maybe I just should have sex with her. But then I realised I wouldn't want to just sleep with her and leave since she was clearly very into me, and a one sided one night stand would make me feel like shit. | /r/seduction | 18/12/16 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Accidentally stole a kiss. Exploring unknown territory.Yeah. Like I said, really stepped outside of my comfort zone on this so no doubt I'm going to fuck things up. I'm not upset though. I didn't get into this expecting to become a master overnight. | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Accidentally stole a kiss. Exploring unknown territory.Seems like things aren't going to work out like I hoped. I think if I had escalated after the kiss (ask her if she wants to come in, since she seemed to enjoy the heck out of it) I might have gotten somewhere, but by leaving so soon after the kiss I may have messed up. Either that, or me basically saying that I liked her may have scared her off if she was only looking for something casual. Honestly though I was a bit of a nervous wreck these last few days (my sis got inside my head and was like … | /r/seduction | 14/12/16 06:25 PM |
| 1 | "Well, whatever" aka developing a thick skinGood point. Do you ever call girls out on this or do you just fade away? My past experience with trying to behaviour correct with any girl who was not yet officially my gf or very high attraction, usually ends up with the girl formally ejecting herself from my space. Also, more often than not, when girls do eventually get back to me, it starts with an apology of some sort. I'm way more forgiving with a girl who opens with "Hey, sorry it took so long..." | /r/seduction | 05/12/16 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Most of this knowledge seems virtually impossible to use in practice.Too much advice here assumes you're starting in the "middle". It doesn't provide specific-enough instructions. And for many guys, we just don't know where to start. What seems trivial to some of you, is just confusing to many of us. Honestly, if you are basically at 0, my best advice to you is to get a job (part time if necessary) in a retail/service industry. Anything that puts you in front of people! I used to be shy as hell, but have worked as an assistant in an Internet cafe, then multiple b… | /r/seduction | 04/12/16 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Is he oblivious or am I? [19F] [20M]If he's really dense: You: "Hey... so I really dig/like you." You: "You're really cool. Do you want to go on a date sometime?" You: "Nice shoes. Wanna fuck?" | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Fear of first time sexOk. Virgin until my 30s. First gf was 23 and after the first time I got to 3rd base with my hands I told her that was a first for me and obviously she figured out I was still holding my V card. Thing is that she was still keen afterwards, just because of how attracted to me she was. Here's what I learnt as a dude: make sure she has a really good time before you try to fuck her. Take your time with foreplay, and learn to get good with your fingers and mouth. Give her enough orgasms and you'll be … | /r/seduction | 03/12/16 11:05 PM |
| 1 | [34M] Where am I, and where do I go from here?Maybe you should be more bold. Leave nothing to doubt. Some girls get really turned on by this (my ex did). | /r/seduction | 29/11/16 04:32 PM |
| 4 | [34M] Where am I, and where do I go from here?On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate yourself physically? I am at best a 6 (maybe closer to a 7 since I started working out), but I've still had girls all over the freaking scale being into me, and I'm far from smooth. Maybe you're coming off as needy on your dates? I know that coz my hormones are raging at the moment (eating well and lifting) that generally if you stick me alone with a girl (any girl) I'm dtf. However, I'm pretty sure a couple of the girls I've gone out with have interpreted … | /r/seduction | 28/11/16 09:42 PM |
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