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I used a metaphor but I meant it. Showing someone how you can control neurotic behavior early is a good thing, especially for romantic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 10:13 PM
2

You showed your crazy early in the game.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/26 02:39 PM
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I think you may need to do a post mortem for your relationship and see what you can learn from it. In the military, they call that lessons learned.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/26 03:00 PM
3

TBH, I would probably shit myself if I received flowers. I don’t think I have been recognized like that in a while.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/26 02:32 AM
1

Does he have a TBI?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/26 06:11 PM
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What is a friend to you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/26 10:22 PM
6

She did mention plenty of disqualifying things. When I read things like that, it reminds me of a the diagrams where the circles don’t overlap.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/26 11:19 PM
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Not really. Most traditional minded people I know understand the appeal.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/26 04:14 PM
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I have known people that would call it lazy on the man’s part.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/26 02:20 PM
5

I admire it. But it has its own issues.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/26 10:05 AM
38

Set him free to find someone else who wants him
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/26 08:14 PM
3

You have a lot of work to do. You have a lot of flags to get past before you have a healthy future with him.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/26 03:36 PM
2

Have you reached out to him? Don't be combative and "nut check" him.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/26 10:36 PM
2

You will have to figure this out and make decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/26 06:36 PM
5

What makes you unhappy? Do you know how to be content?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/26 05:00 PM
2

Are you expecting the guy or woman to be sexless, too? Be upfront about your issue so you can set free those that might have a problem with it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/26 12:08 AM
1

Do you know your place? Answer this and it will serve you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/25 05:36 PM
1

Trolls and poison pillers?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/25 04:46 PM
6

You have a lot to do and deal with. Be healthy enough for a relationship before getting into a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/25 07:16 PM
12

Are you trying to sabotage things?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/25 06:20 PM
1

Have good body language Dont have RBF
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/25 07:30 PM
2

A joke once told: Give people a chance to shine or look like sh*t.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 11:28 PM
1

I can understand this. Like saying "Yeah" with no comments, follow up.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 09:12 PM
3

TBH, he might want a LTR with the right woman. But he also might want a roll with the wrong one.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 09:04 PM
3

"but I think they also just want to get laid idk." Polite warning: Many heterosexual men do. "Ill try to relax and be less interrogative". Talking can be fun and it doesnt automatically scare folks off. Although I would write off someone that can't hold a conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 09:00 PM
7

I would dig an offer to cover the tip. That is good, pastries are a plus!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/25 01:03 AM
1

Fascinating. I had never heard of him described that way.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/25 08:17 PM
1

I would love to see someone dig into Julius Evola. That would be a sight.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/25 05:52 PM
2

You need to work on you, big time
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/25 01:34 AM
3

I commented before. I think you are trying to find reasons to torpedo things.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/25 12:59 AM
3

They weren't exactly in a stable or committed relationship. TBH, He enjoys the physicality. Sex is an enjoyable activity, or to quote Maude Lebowski; a natural, zesty enterprise.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 08:11 PM
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It is an enjoyable activity for many men. He might enjoy the romance too. You won't be able to tell. TBH, I was also someone that was "on the road" a lot. It made for a less than fertile ground for long term relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 07:22 PM
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"Having sex and then pulling it back is a huge red flag for men " No men I know of think that this is a healthy sign in a relationship. TBH, I have told a few guys to pop smoke afterwards. (Situation dependent). "She has to take accountability for her actions here, she has played a very large role in the failure of this getting off the ground." TBH, it sounded like "unverbalized" expectations, especially expectations for mind reading.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/25 07:20 PM
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" I'm always the jester." You might be overdoing it and expecting too much from non-emoting types.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 06:05 PM
4

He might have been looking for a relationship, depending on the woman, but he also was looking for some tail.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/25 06:03 PM
1

Are you ready if he says no?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 04:14 PM
6

Let him be with someone who wants him!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/25 04:13 PM
1

You are a piece
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/25 01:40 PM
4

He may need to seek help from a therapist and/or a psychiatrist.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/25 08:53 PM
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You should call out ghosting. “She came back saying she was just scared of being attacked or it being a predator”. She needs to grow up. I think she made an excuse on the fly. Most dates are in a public setting.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 11:37 PM
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I think that this has to be a prank
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/25 04:52 PM
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Maybe he wasnt ready? He might have not had a good feeling about settling down.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 07:28 PM
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I think you are on the money
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/25 12:46 AM
9

Contour is a toss up
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 09:51 PM
5

Down low?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 08:12 PM
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He is also serious about what he is saying. Is there a milestone or a goal you are holding out for?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/25 07:55 PM
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What does he get in the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/25 08:14 PM
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Do you like the “three places “ strategy? (He gives three places and you pick from those).
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 12:47 PM
1

Are you finding ways to sabotage your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/25 04:12 PM
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What are you bringing to a relationship? You havent said much about that. How are you going to make my life better? You havent said this. Of the list of things a man is looking for, what do you check off for a guy? If you can't "lower your forehead" and "not be quarrelsome", it wont be easy to find someone. You need to be worth more than a paycheck. Most guys know that a woman needs to support herself and a smart guy would value that you picked worthwhile studies. Dont bring it up right away. Pi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/25 05:53 PM
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It would have to be an awesome scent.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/25 08:16 PM
2

Trust him about the car Wife and Mama is right, btw
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/25 02:13 AM
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She might be missing those small details
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/25 09:14 PM
1

Is this the one that you are worried about being called a gold digger over?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/25 09:06 PM
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A hot chick with self esteem issues/chronic insecurity can catch one but might not have a good relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/25 01:03 AM
1

Maybe guys are getting mixed signals? Not emoting at the right time, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/25 11:56 PM
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Do you have RBF?
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/25 12:43 PM
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Just don’t make a conversation sound like a job interview and you should be fine
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/25 05:51 PM
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No, a break from sex isnt a good thing for married people to do, minus for legitimate medical or physical reasons. BTW, he might just want to get off with minimal amount of work.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 05:43 PM
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He is conflicted!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 05:39 PM
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Bad decision making counts
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/25 09:10 PM
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u/VasiliyZaitzev I believe that this is him.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/25 09:08 PM
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Don’t let it turn you into a born again nun when you do get married. Btw, I mistakenly responded on RP wives when you posted this. I still wish Uncle Vasily Zaitsev (spelling?) would chime in.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/25 04:36 PM
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Smile? Laugh?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/25 05:44 PM
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Copy. Sometimes it affects taste but it doesn’t apply here
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/25 01:23 AM
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Is he on SSRIs? Trying to eliminate variables
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/25 05:44 PM
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Are you flirty at all when it comes to interactions? It doesn’t have to start with overt sexual conversations.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/25 12:53 AM
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"It isn't a deal-breaker for me" Are you sure? You seem to have flip flopped on the subject as a whole. I suggest getting counseling. You are juggling a bunch in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 05:23 PM
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Vibes, RBF, anxiety, etc A lot of things can change what a person thinks of you It isn’t all outward physical features.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/25 01:56 PM
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Plenty of men love no cost gifts
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/25 06:06 PM
2

Don’t be super testy
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/25 01:34 AM
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A couple of months ago. Shared values.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/25 12:34 AM
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(1) just break up with him (2) learn to have some semblance of gratitude in the future or become a sugar baby
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/25 03:59 PM
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Are you nervous in public situations?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/25 05:29 PM
1

Is he bored?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/25 07:29 PM
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Have you ever considered acting classes or improv?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 09:42 PM
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Do you have RBF or don't emote (physically) positively when it comes to men?
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/25 07:35 PM
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It would be great if people had tighter communities and families.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/25 06:12 AM
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Stop competing with men?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/25 05:09 PM
6

Next time tell him you like receiving flowers No need to rely on non existent mind reading abilities next year
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/25 01:34 AM
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Uncle Vas, I think she nuked her account. Her comments read her as off and unhinged
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 07:01 PM
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or you could be a bigger person, live a better/fuller life then impact others for the better.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:33 AM
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after digging around comments and some of her other posts, it points towards that. As Uncle Vaz said, trying to beat the lock here.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:31 AM
2

I understand. I had been told the same about opera!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:28 AM
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living well really is the best revenge.” I said this in a response. The revenge thing seldom makes people whole.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:15 AM
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if so, OP could be the problem Correction: mental health issues, autism, bad decision making...
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:12 AM
1

Live a better life and do better for other people?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/25 12:11 AM
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"versus who they will have a serious relationship with." TBH, it gets harder the older you get. I have single male friends that are puzzled by the amounts of women that throw "themselves" at a guy with sex. Even the guys that are serious about relationships often give up. The OP is overvaluing big time.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/25 02:27 AM
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That is a good thing as long as you are making progress
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/25 03:08 PM
1

Is therapy or counseling possible?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/25 07:20 PM
8

Relationship wise? His job situation sounds convenient
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 09:16 PM
9

What is he getting out of this? Seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 07:50 PM
1

He gets wound up when he is touching?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/25 04:46 PM
6

Do you verbalize how you feel or your opinion?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/25 06:02 PM
2

We definitely need to find our way together. We should exhaust all possibilities and not be blind
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 11:33 PM
3

P*rn star acting for p*rnstar sex? I'm guessing that he is sparing your feelings. He wants you to want him. I would suggest that you need to get counseling and "work on" your prior hang ups (from bad experience/SA). I know that this isn't the most sensitive thing but I worry that someone is just supporting what ever you say/do.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/25 10:10 PM
2

I almost married a lesbian just for housing money so I didn't have to sleep on the ship. Many others do it so they can get an apartment instead of the barracks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 09:23 PM
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Perhaps he doesnt want to give money or gifts to someone he isnt in a relationship with? You both might want to put more effort into the "relationship" instead of being on the verge of one. Btw, "on the verge" doesnt count. Ranks up there with "half way pregnant". Pro tip: Be in a relationship before getting gifts. Love bombing isnt healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 06:35 PM
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Someone that would screw a friend out of money, time, a few other things, often related to military service. Shows that someone doesnt value the most simplest of relationships and will often find themselves without healthy relationships/community.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 06:29 PM
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Your first question: Housing funds and monetary support. Lesser known example of support system: FFSC (Navy) helps with "relocation assistance, new parent support, deployment services, clinical counseling services, financial management counseling, family employment services, family advocacy and the transition assistance programs." I also mention that many units or commands have a family ombudsman (m'f), who can help with various issues. Last sentence question: There are a ton of red flags. Cheat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 06:01 PM
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"Editing to add— military men also have a reputation for quick marriages. Facing the possibility of death would tend to make someone want to rush life," Can attest to this, that and we had a culture that backed it up in the military.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 05:15 PM
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I broached the subject with my now ex gf because I was willing to move on with my life. I don't think that most young folks should have a relationship longer than a year without being serious about the future, unless they both "commit" to not being serious. It also depends on age. I know a ton of guys after their late twenties that they "don't have it in them"/can live with a semi serious relationship/situationship.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/25 05:14 PM
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Find another job?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/25 10:46 PM
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Do you like men?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/25 07:13 PM
3

Escalating to the 4th Quarter/second half of the ball game, to use sports parlance.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/25 07:11 PM
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To most men, there isn’t a real reason to subscribe to an OF account, barring someone is involved with a business function. The second mention is a different ball of worms.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 09:34 PM
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Connections and building community were a thing for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 03:44 PM
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Do the men have other qualities? Investments? Goals? Attributes? Are the men engaged in looking for work? Gaining skills? Capable of doing work outside of their desired career? You might be selling them short and/or “mother hen” ing them to death (although this might be a reach). Also, trade skills and financial knowledge trumps an education in many areas.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 03:43 PM
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If he isn't "using" porn... Usually, this kind of thing would be easier to approach by a trusted friend. But I usually suggest you dig around and see if he is having health concerns, anything else that might be bothering him. (Noted that a friend is better suited to do this. It often sounds prying to do this. You may also find out stuff that you werent expecting, wanting).
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 02:19 AM
3

He may need to get his hormones checked
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 01:39 AM
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Were you giving up on him to begin with?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/24 12:00 AM
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It leaves many asking “what is enough”. It also gives way to the saying that comparisons are a thief of joy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/24 08:55 PM
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Feel free to do something
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 10:46 PM
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Per your last paragraph, to many men it screams “trying to get a baby” or “baby rabies”
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 09:28 PM
2

No, but depending on the classes and area, he could be scoping out women. Not always true but something to consider
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 09:26 PM
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He got mixed messages and your inability to inspire relationship conditions scared him off
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/24 06:52 PM
1

Butch. I don’t hear it and for the right dude, it sounds cool
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 12:53 PM
1

Not joking: consider buying a mirror for your ceiling and a dressing mirror for the wall
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/24 12:03 AM
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Dear Nadia: Your man's HR department regretfully informs you that you are overthinking things and looking for fights. Due to potential relationship drama and strife, you have been placed on a performance improvement plan, (PIMP) for short. Sincerely, "The Bunk" Fictitious Detective Baltimore PD and Relationship HR representative
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 09:17 PM
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It beats Sweettits or Hot Cheeks
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/24 04:30 AM
4

Paging Uncle Vas, paging Uncle Vas!
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/24 04:55 AM
2

As always, you got it. Imagine a sexually experienced guy, over a certain age, then expecting him not to have sex, then not have sex with someone else that is willing. VZ, I don’t know why you don’t have your own “hard knocks “ advice corner.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/24 08:27 PM
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Your above comments plus: I do believe that waiting is a feasible thing, but there is a point where this will likely look like a non starter. I am a religious person and I think that it should be brought up as early as possible. The bad part? After a certain point, men will pop smoke easier than thought. (I don’t know of many women that haven’t made bad life decisions that are a certain age. It is a tough sell and there aren’t many widows left). I encourage men looking to start families and bein…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/24 07:11 PM
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I’ve had it. Muscle spasms.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/24 04:25 AM
1

Their marketing outkicked their usefulness
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/24 03:10 AM
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They arent productive like they think they are. Most of it creates an opportunity for us to hate each other and sew divisiveness.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 10:23 PM
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I never said any of that. Your language and sentiments will not help you. Better visualization and self talk is needed.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 12:48 PM
1

You should be happy for him. Learn from your past mistakes and do better.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 04:18 AM
2

There is a good chance that she is a common denominator
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/24 04:13 AM
3

My personal opinion: No, I am not willing. I don’t want to be friends with anyone I had been “romantically” involved with or anyone I knocked boots with. I ask a lot out of my friends and most of the people no longer in my life don’t have “it”.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 07:47 PM
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I think you are giving off a too thirsty vibe. I would consider going to counseling or therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/24 02:16 PM
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Trying to be careful here: I usually wouldn’t turn it down. I didn’t pretend.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 01:34 AM
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I wanted to let the OP know: You can wear heels lying down and you both will be the same height.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 01:31 AM
1

If you’re in the buff or wearing something “nice”, he won’t notice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 01:29 AM
3

Publish a SOP or a manual!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 01:28 AM
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"If it is physical touch, put on a pair of thigh highs and tell him that you’re gonna do something “nice“ for him and then give him a languid, sloppy blowjob. Actually, I’m pretty sure you can’t go wrong with that last one, no matter what his love language is. But hey, you do you." Nods politely.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/24 08:30 PM
9

Just stop vaping? It will save you money
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/24 12:32 PM
3

Especially due to the fact that it’s at work
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/24 12:59 AM
1

This went beyond me telling a friend that Golddust was one of my favorite wrestlers back in the day. Marlena!
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/24 01:28 AM
2

Decent recovery! It sounds like that might not be the thing. (Only a few I know would have a big problem with that. TBH, that is a fairly decent side step).
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 08:09 PM
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The word "tact" was something I forgot to mention. A man likes tact. It benefits all people.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 07:57 PM
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I didn't say that you needed to accept it. How did you handle it? Made a scene? Simple "hold off" or "stop"? Many men I know will have mixed signals if a woman handles it poorly or makes them lose face. (Or it seems that she isn't attracted to him). TBH, it benefits a man to stop dating a woman if he gets a signal that he should focus his efforts elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 07:52 PM
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"I don’t let them inappropriately touch me (touching my neck or upper thigh) while doing so" Maybe they feel like that was the sign that they need to dip? Not just sex related. How did you handle that?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 07:45 PM
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I have kissed plenty of women that seemed like they kissed me because it was a thing to do or I took control of the situation. Just sitting there doesn’t show a man much. It just shows me that you are good at sitting there and not being honest.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 01:41 AM
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Tragic
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/24 01:38 AM
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RBF? Can I ask this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 09:24 PM
1

VZ was more polite than I can be Say no to a workplace romance It seems like you are somewhere between daydreaming and “shipping”
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 04:02 AM
1

Don’t shit where you eat Don’t find your honey where you make your money
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 04:00 AM
1

Ouch. I must thank you for the update.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 09:12 PM
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I may have misread that. If so, it was not my intention to wreak. (I have been a little foggy lately).
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 07:37 PM
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The virgin friend she called? Unless I misinterpreted that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 07:35 PM
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I was encouraging her to not be accustomed to having a guy, who could qualify as a trope, to be around the corner. I don't think it is healthy to have male friends in your life like that. Yes, she is allowed to be attracted to who she sees fit, but it doesn't serve her or that guy. It may not help her down the road. It is one thing to have guys in your community, like friend's bfs/husbands or church members, but it isnt good to have possible orbiters/sycophants.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/24 04:48 PM
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Yes, some women enjoy and like sex. But there are some that engage in it due to social proof, trauma, mental illness. It takes a lot of sifting and I have known many guys that had to deal with that. Stereotype? More of an observation of a group's experience. Decent sample size. I can't fight your last sentence because it was great. About the clamming up comment, most guys don't want a woman that negatively changes because of them. I enjoy fun sex. Many guys want to have fun sex and many want it …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/24 02:00 PM
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At a certain point, it is a red flag. Most women I knew that were "high sex drived" were that way due to something or a need to trap a man. For the short term? Yellow flag. I wouldn't clam up to be more classy, but I would be more conscious of why you are doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/24 07:16 PM
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I have to chime in now. It is becoming a rare thing where I live. It isn’t popular culturally. Many people don’t have the communication or “trade” skills to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 06:41 PM
3

Have you asked a guy this?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/24 02:33 AM
2

Assholes Advocate question: Can you buy a bunch of lingerie and do this for him? Why not?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 06:32 PM
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If you don't have a running hamster, it is okay, outside of moral issues. I don't encourage either one of you to gawk. After a certain point in your life, no one mentally healthy should have a "crush".
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 06:30 PM
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Make #7 an instructional or a sticky
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/24 01:25 PM
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Attraction helps I have been attracted to a couple of women I didn't find beautiful. I also lost attraction for at least a few women who were beautiful because they were detestable.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/24 07:59 PM
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Don’t pick fights Stop wanting to be right Lower your head when you talk to him
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/24 08:24 PM
3

It seems like he cares and is somewhere in the process
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 08:33 PM
2

He may need to seek assistance from a professional and I hope he can reach out to a trusted friend
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 04:28 PM
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"and I have no idea what we should do. " As it pertains to your date day or his depression? If not the date day, just tell him you are here for him. BTW, if someone hasn't told you this, you need to start putting your marriage/relationship towards the top of things you find important.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 03:40 PM
5

I'm making assumptions or guestimates here. Is he trying to save face, either in regard to the money or something else? I'm not discounting the idea that he has cold feet.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 03:36 PM
1

Edited, maybe
/r/TheRedPill11/10/24 02:12 PM
3

Is he worried about providing for them, you?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/24 01:17 PM
2

Is he a proactive person and trying to fix things before they become bigger?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/24 11:43 AM
2

Yes. Just send a short, polite message to be there for him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 11:18 PM
4

You might as well work on yourself and let him work on himself. I don’t know if you two are getting back together. You appeared to be quick to find reasons to split up.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 11:12 PM
7

Time for "whadaboutsim"? Our modern legal system, (western countries) has poked a hole in this. Studies mentioned issues about partner N count and divorce potential. The RP pseudoscience term "alpha widow" is another to bring up. Are you bringing baggage? Did you truly move on and bring your best energy? Your past behaviors do matter. My past matters to a marriage. It took years for me to make it where I could be given an honest clean slate and where I could develop "community". And yes, I make …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 03:39 PM
7

I like your response. But it does take work and meaningful repentance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 03:32 PM
8

Almost name calling as a defense mechanism when someone says "no".
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 03:31 PM
7

"I am saying if a man discards a woman he is otherwise interested in because he doesn’t see her value beyond her body count, that is not healthy and shouldn’t be accepted as a good man". I'll bite. Plenty of cultures say that women who make bad decisions have certain functions in society. Yes, plenty that don't adhere to that. But you have plenty that completely write you off altogether. I come from the latter. I had been told that it showed a level of dignity to women, especially the set that s…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 03:30 PM
12

Applies to? Somewhat. I grew up in the faith. Some of the concerns of the "born again" set is that: (1) A woman won't have a "want" left in her. No appetite for "fun" (2) "Why should I wait when no one else did?" (3) Your judgment hasn't been the best. You may need more time to show a pattern of stability before taking your word for it Your end? Show men (and their communities) that you aren't carrying around baggage. Get help. Work on you and take the faith seriously. Get help before you get ma…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 03:16 PM
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Do the work
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 11:46 PM
1

A lot of what you mentioned points towards things he needs to work on and points towards issues from his past. Cheating? Many instances
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 11:41 PM
5

Cook him dinner?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 08:01 PM
1

Is there a chance that people have seen you be too lippy around various men?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 02:07 PM
2

Are you someone I'm dating? actual GF? Thursday piece? Wife? One and done?
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/24 03:24 PM
13

Ladylike? Yes, he is your man I beg to differ that it should be normalized Props
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 10:55 PM
22

Unpopular opinion: There isn’t “taking a break “ in a relationship, either it works or it doesn’t
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 12:36 PM
1

He needs to seek help
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 12:33 PM
1

Encourage him to write things down?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 12:12 AM
2

Add in: Healthy influences from male friends I had a men’s group where a dear friend helped me, others. TBH, I did it for me. But he, other men pushed me in the right direction.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/24 12:08 AM
1

I was trying to dig into why he started down that path. I usually encourage all men to talk about this kind of thing with a healthy male friend and/or a trusted male mentor.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 11:29 PM
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I’ll bite: Was there anything before your pregnancy that might have been causing him to feel that way? Dumb for staying? I wouldn’t say that. As long as he is serious about your relationship and you
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/24 10:59 PM
1

I had to start doing this in my own life, for my own benefit. If I don’t take care of myself, I can’t expect to be able to impact others meaningfully
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:19 PM
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Encourage him to develop healthy male friends and healthy habits
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:15 PM
7

Your last paragraph is pay dirt but this is something another man should tell him
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:10 PM
6

TBH, I have seen men wanting to have this with one woman and the woman doesn’t entertain it, doesn’t make it interesting. I am not saying OP is one of the latter but I am saying that people are blind to it Unexciting performative sex, scheduled bjs aren’t a fix all .
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:09 PM
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Not always but it is a good idea for her to take care of herself.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:05 PM
1

He is burned out from it at best
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 05:04 PM
4

He needs to talk with a trusted, healthy male friend. I don’t think you can handle that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 04:58 PM
1

Aholes Advocate question: Do you take care of yourself? Do you find reasons to do the opposite? (This is for your future relationship consideration). No, I think the guy might just be "coming around" again. I'm also prejudiced against getting back together with an ex gf/wife.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 03:06 PM
2

I fully expect to get a flood of downvotes, but I am only getting one side of a story here. Is his angle due a lack of "variety"? (I know that this is unpopular and it doesn't help you bandwagon others here) Is he "bored"? Does he feel like he isn't getting anything out of his "work", part of his relationship? Can he "level" with you? Can he be honest with you? (Unpopular opinion, yes he doesn't want to hear you cry. It might have brought him pain once but it he might feel like it is played out)…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/24 03:02 PM
1

Pay off your debts
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 07:39 PM
1

Possibly. I have been out of pocket on/off for a while
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 09:09 PM
1

To quote Mike Gundy: "Where are we at in society today? Come after me! I'm a man! I'm 40! I'm not-- I'm not a kid. "
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 09:07 PM
1

"I think you bring an excellent point about the dopamine release." It doesn't get any easier if he isn't getting it at the easiest available source. I once made a joke about keeping him sore and tired is one of the few ways to keep him from being tempted to that level. A "challenge" presents itself? Something different can't get at "x"? Different set of skills? (This used to not be a thing before the advent of communities being spread over a small geographical area, but it is something to ponder…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 09:04 PM
1

Keep it interesting! Don't get into a rut and don't get into an acting routine. I have explained that it is true that your job requires more than one role (gf, lover, etc) but if you have an adventurous mind, it makes it easier.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 08:57 PM
2

I would love for everyone to dive into this. Polite suggestion: make a post about it
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 04:30 PM
1

I've had a few women in my life that would complain about not having a man, but they would go out of their way to "dude up" in a fun activity. (Pwning a dude at a sport usually won't score you points, but it is worse when you "become one of the boys"). I just don't want to be romantic with that. You aren't trying to be a woman to me. (Yes, I have preferences and it isn't walking parodies). The same women wonder why the guy who might have been interested in them just fades off. I wouldn't even ca…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:35 PM
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TBH, 2nd one had too many red flags. Fly off the handle on other people. She was lovey, amorous towards me, but spinning lies about other people. She seemed to try to escape everything by riding off with me.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:28 PM
3

The future and big changes were coming fast. I had a desire to get on with my life and she was stuck at 18. She couldn't keep a job and didn't seemed invested in the future. Blew through small amounts of money she had and lived like she was a daughter, instead of a partner. I also had a weird "premonition" that I wasn't going to find work locally after the end of my contract. I wanted to go back to school and it seemed like a weird concept to her. My family /family ideas also was a foreign conce…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:25 PM
2

I would put quotations around permissiveness but I see where you are going. She had a good head on her shoulders to begin with and did the work. On top of what CFT mentioned, it was a limited dance with death. It was something that I had brought up which may hurt me, specifically gasping, etc. It was hard to change a tire, move heavy objects, other moderately dangerous activities without hearing gasps, non supportive commentary, even interruptive actions. I had explained that a "smart" and suppo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:16 PM
3

Your input adds to the story. I value the observations. It is something that I wish many women knew of before it wrecks their ability to have meaningful relationships down the road. (Puns mostly intended)
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 02:07 PM
1

Para 1: Sure Para 2: I understand where you are going. I guess they were going for a wide approach to cover the most people?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 12:38 AM
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"Cultivating a relationship dynamic of respect and appreciation requires a lot more groundwork before something like this will be impactful." Your comments are valid. I assumed that this was a given but I have been warned about assuming. I also assumed that people were operating in good faith and were "healthy enough" participants
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/24 12:15 AM
1

I will work on that today and hopefully have it done within a few days
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 06:41 PM
1

You are being polite
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 02:54 PM
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Someone led with an anonymous downvote… Wow. Prove the OP wrong. Prove Ian wrong. I would love a rebuttal or alternative advice.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/24 01:48 PM
1

Good. Be healthy for yourself so you can be a good participant in everyone's life
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 09:05 PM
1

I agree. Option 2.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 09:04 PM
0

Don't punish your current lovers for someone else's screwups Unpopular opinion: Option 1: Quit med school Option 2: Finish med school, but don't have a future with that guy. Neither of you are choosing the other person. Colloquial phrasing: "Shi*t or get off the pot"
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 05:29 PM
10

Bad marketing from feminists doesn’t help, either
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/24 01:53 AM
6

Apologize to your father?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/24 08:07 PM
2

Your second to last paragraph: Are you acting instead of being? Checked out?
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 09:02 PM
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Let them know that you want a meaningful relationship and not a strictly physical one. I also want you to read a lot of the sidebar articles and starter/primer information from this subreddit
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 12:18 AM
1

I understand. Good practices
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/24 12:16 AM
3

You need to give him space. Also, don't make the decision to end the relationship for him. Outside of the school issue, are you trying to be a positive part of his life?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 07:29 PM
2

Tbh, I got banned from a few I thought were beyond the soft. Yep, I saw that I was banned from a few I never even heard of until someone told me to see if I was banned.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 12:57 PM
7

Thank you for your honesty. I wish you well
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 12:51 PM
1

Injuries and nerve issues also affect erections
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 03:33 PM
2

Yep.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 08:11 PM
2

"So decide what you want more, the relationship or belly dancing in front of other men, and go with that." I have talked about things like this before. Is it "identity"? Is it underlying social programming pushing you to do "x"? Will you make the choice without waffling later on? "Go with that". Pick between the two choices: (a) Your man (be happy with your decision) (b) bellydancing for other men. (be happy that it cost you your relationship or a change in the previously established relationshi…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 07:03 PM
1

I know that I am a little late to the party, but I have pondered on this for several days. Unpopular position: I think you both have a mismatch of goals and desires. It isn't a red flag to have a fantasy. You both have a mismatch in taste there. He isn't "wrong", he is different than what you are desiring. (I desired something different than my lifelong partying gf). The drunken encounter? A toss up. (I have been the one pawed at and dry humped). Disgusting? No. Is it a little concerning that he…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 06:46 PM
1

Cut him loose.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 04:51 PM
2

Culture context dependent. He might be asking for this due to certain circumstances. I came from a family like this to a point. ( not anymore)
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 04:44 PM
0

(A) Do you want this man in your life? (B) Do you want belly dancing? Pick one. You won’t get them both, but be warned, you may not get what you want.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/24 04:41 PM
1

I would admire the tenacity and determination
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 07:15 PM
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Be a person of class, eloquence, and integrity? This spans religions
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 11:36 PM
5

Don’t expect him to be a mind reader, use straight forward communication
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 12:44 AM
2

Worked for me when I was injured and in other bad spots.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 02:21 AM
-4

Are you ready for him to leave?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 12:23 AM
3

You need a female friend who likes your stuff You’re reaching for reasons if you’re trying to find reasons to be unhappy
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:56 PM
2

Some of the other commentary. It sounds like you are finding reasons to be unhappy instead of thankful. The money comment paragraph was a big one. You can't fake attraction but if you carry this on to your next "opportunity", you might want to do some soul searching, examination
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 05:32 PM
0

Are you purposely trying to destroy the relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 02:30 PM
2

Although it doesn’t apply due to logistics constraints, a “steak and bj” always works
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/24 04:23 PM
2

Props
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/24 05:49 PM
2

Know how to be content and not blame others for things you can deal with (H/T to Karyn)
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 06:48 PM
5

Move overseas?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 02:21 AM
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He should pay you to be a consultant. I have discouraged many men and women from mixing the business and romantic concerns. (Even if you might be a tax genius).
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 04:02 PM
3

Do you have too many options? Or do you observe having many options? (I am asking this seriously).
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 04:00 PM
1

Edited to try to be helpful
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 08:35 PM
2

Do you have boundaries? Are you able to communicate these? Until you effectively do this, you shouldn't be surprised when someone doesn't stop doing "x" or never start doing "y".
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 06:01 PM
2

Is RBF a thing? I know that asking this is an iffy proposition but it is worth asking about
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/24 11:48 PM
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Pro tip ( that won’t be popular here): Don’t have the same issues. I am not telling you to dwell on comments, because he is not happy or content with you if you did all of those things. But I am telling you to work on your self and future relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/24 11:47 PM
2

Delete the number
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/24 01:19 AM
1

Tell him that you are giving up and finding a way to not carry on with your relationship
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/24 08:10 PM
3

Start by getting counseling or a therapist
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/24 08:09 PM
1

Enjoy your upvote
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/24 02:02 AM
4

Former coworker is an engineer. She takes decent care of herself, relatively fun person. She just has time against her.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 05:35 PM
4

“That grad degree looks so sexy on you,” - said no man, ever. Yep. Also, two add on to your following comment: "...given a choice between an independent woman with a grad degree and a pleasant woman who can cook, 99% of dudes are gonna offer for the second one" I had a buddy say it this way: "The part-time check cashing place manager hottie vs the super Yu-go-grrl". He mentioned that the check cashing manager was still fun and had an air of enjoyment in her life. The woman who leaned on her degr…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 01:45 PM
-1

Rural towns suck for OLD. Learned this from multiple people in second and third tier cities.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 01:38 PM
3

I'm not needling your goal. I do encourage people of all sorts to add some type of weight training, or even HIIT to their lives. A lot of physical benefits, along with health benefits.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 02:39 PM
1

Add planned and meaningful exercise into your life
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 01:27 PM
1

I follow you. No issue.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 12:50 PM
1

Not to take the “under” of a position here, is there a chance that there might have been a level of excitement to begin with and that is what he wants? ( I am trying to steer past accusations but I have spoken to men who have mentioned a feeling of being “bait and switched”).
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 11:56 AM
0

No, I was distracted by a few things. But I was trying to relax, enjoy a time out, focus.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/24 11:52 AM
5

This is a healthy idea that benefits you both several ways
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 11:36 PM
-1

Excitement. It often mellows after a certain time frame. Not newness, though. It isn’t meant as an insult but I had seen it. Edit: I know of a stale state of mind that comes with reading non fiction or self help all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 11:35 PM
1

That covers my suggestion I’m not throwing rocks but he isn’t the first man to say that
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 10:58 PM
1

What kind of books?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 09:19 PM
2

Serious question: What do you read?
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 08:32 PM
6

What does he get out of this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/24 07:22 PM
13

Neither one of you are healthy enough to be in a relationship
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 07:16 PM
2

The best time was yesterday. The worst time is the day that you figured out that you waited too long.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/24 09:03 PM
1

He might be happy with you being the long term gf. Not sure
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 01:02 AM
1

Things he wanted or things that he wanted cleared up before getting married. Covert contact level stuff. Either that or a project mentality
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 12:48 AM
1

He was hoping you would complete a checklist or you would be happy with the arrangement now
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 12:22 AM
7

California might present other challenges
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 12:17 AM
1

Did you get dinged? It happens if you did.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 10:15 PM
2

Copy, I think that you formulated this well. I wish it was black and white, but you are correct.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 10:14 PM
1

Lowered expectations out of adults in society
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 02:48 AM
1

2x It is a lot of debt if you don’t have the increase of pay to pay it off with. Bringing debt to a relationship is a big deal and I know of plenty of men that don’t want to be saddled with it. It makes for a bad start to a life together, unless it is a realized investment. It sits up there with six figures of student debt for a non Stem, non PHD program where you have a slim chance of getting a faculty spot. Same for consumer debt or debt for a jive ass hustle.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 01:11 AM
1

Yellow card: She is a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 10:44 PM
6

I get derision when I explain that many straight men want to have sex with women they find attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 10:43 PM
-2

If she makes it through all the way, not a big deal.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 09:04 PM
0

I'll throw a flag. I think that she has already made her mind up. I also think the guy sees some red flags. The guy doesn't want to deal with the stress connected to it and possible debt if she gets burned out. He also is ready to move on with his life. I don't think that it helps her anymore to learn more about him. She seems set on med school and her friends (birds of a feather) strike me as a pink flag. Telling her to be ready to bail out instead of marrying for life is ridiculous.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 07:53 PM
0

Saddling someone else with your debt is big, especially if you don't have an avenue in which you can pay it back.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 07:44 PM
7

I think he is more honest and serious than what many are used to
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 03:22 PM
1

Are you dating in Manhattan?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 11:50 PM
2

People are indifferent in many places
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 11:49 PM
2

One person might be fun with the arrangement but the other might settle down, etc *fine with the arrangement Pardon the fingers
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 02:18 AM
3

Mirror on the ceiling effect
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 05:26 PM
1

Real question: How long until your opinion of your relationship is way different than his?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/24 05:25 PM
1

He might think that you are wasting his time
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/24 11:02 PM
1

To quote Skinny Pete, church!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 11:54 PM
1

A ton of details left out
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 05:11 PM
9

I was a rotating shift worker, including 16s and 18s. He doesn’t have anything left in the tank. The easy dopamine activities are easier than just about anything I could get out of most lovers in my life. He might be ready to have a quiet home. I don’t think many people understand the appeal of a half bottle of scotch and a wank. No, I am not kidding.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/24 04:25 PM
1

I misread your post. Please disregard my comment. You aren’t wrong. Convenience? Maybe not but he may have mixed ideas about the future
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 06:57 PM
1

Does he know that you changed your mind? I think you might be reading this wrong
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 05:16 PM
4

He might be telling you the truth
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 03:57 PM
8

Start lifting weights and exercising
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 04:18 PM
3

No, he would have escalated earlier
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/24 06:53 PM
1

Self examination is a prescription
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 05:51 PM
2

Continuous accusations, questions with no to little trust In a nagging manner
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:44 AM
2

Are you often nut checking him?
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:35 AM
2

No worries. Long story that I could tell in person! I pop smoke when I have to
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/24 02:33 AM
2

Yes for insurance. Not great but I will ask her
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 01:54 PM
7

Answer to your question: Yes, they do
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 01:27 PM
7

You approved of it by doing nothing and saying nothing. You are better off moving on
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 12:33 PM
3

Therapy. Time alone do you don’t create another pin cushion
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 08:57 PM
4

Many Swedish people I knew of had platonic relationships with little to no tension between the sexes. I am not sure if this is a modern thing due to the egalitarian society or maybe something else.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/24 04:48 PM
4

Is he Swedish and/or gay? Mostly serious question. I must be missing cultural context
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 06:09 PM
8

Those women were trying to sabotage you in a way
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 06:07 PM
2

Simplicity I struggle with communication but I have been told that there is nothing wrong with leaning on simplicity
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/24 03:59 PM
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I have been less disappointed in cars than I have been lovers, gfs. (Note: I have had a car catch on fire. I have been hit. I have had repairs that were impossible, etc) Karyn at Happy Wife School on Youtube covers a bunch of stuff that leads up to your big 4 questions. My take: (1) This only works to scare away a few. A smooth operator can sweet-talk his way into your pants (2) Wife's happiness? A man won't make you happy. Only you can do that. (3) I took Karyn's end on this one. If larceny isn…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:44 PM
6

Culture references be darned, what is he getting out of this?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:27 PM
4

"sends me more money than he would pay me for the work." Why don't you buy the things we the extra money? Also, don't be cryptic. Just tell him that you would like him to buy the things for you with the extra money he gives you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:26 PM
2

Sunk cost Time to move on
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:01 AM
4

Susceptible to trolls?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/24 07:52 PM
5

I may need to read up on this. This is the first time I have ever heard of this.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/24 06:08 PM
0

Many men I know of have non matured intellectual property, I think that many of them would not consider the standard marriage contract. Especially after a certain age. Yes, fix the courts or make laws where private agreements are not abrogated by the whims of said courts.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/24 01:36 PM
3

I wish this was brought up more often.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/24 11:33 PM
7

Can I be the Aholes Advocate? He seems happy with what he has, what is in it for him? I do understand your position, but how are you presenting it to him? I’m not saying an ultimatum or nagging is necessary, but I am not sure you are selling him the idea. Can you explain the appeal in a way that he understands?
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/24 11:32 PM
2

A proper response, not a quip or repartee. Tell him you need a moment
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 07:49 PM
6

Can you be someone he doesn’t need to study or guesstimate at?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 06:28 PM
2

Have you ever been combative?
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 06:27 PM
5

Tell him that he needs to bring up his concerns before taking the leap.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 12:01 AM
3

Weird question: Anything that a man might want covered by a pre-nup?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/24 11:25 PM
6

Are you doing anything to reassure him of his concerns, if he has them?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/24 10:36 PM
1

Know how to handle your shit before it becomes your own.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 09:04 PM
2

Most likely a personal narrative or belief. (Apologies to the MODs, just reading)
/r/RedPillWives09/06/24 04:32 PM
1

Picking fights. I have asked about this before. I also tell men to walk out the door when these kind of dicussions “magically” occur. I don’t believe in giving magic answers to try to make people feel better and I don’t think people want to hear the truth.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 01:59 PM
1

Reiterating: realistic not romantic
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 01:56 PM
1

Did you start the “conversation “ to begin with?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 01:54 PM
2

It depends on the background of the person. For one, it’s a positive. For another, other cultures think that there is something wrong with you if you haven’t had a kid at 18. I would lean at the first one
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 01:52 PM
2

He didn’t find much reason to be excited. It is a reference to American gridiron football , specifically someone from a lower ranking pre college team
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 01:01 AM
1

Practice squad for jv level enthusiasm
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/24 12:07 AM
1

He might have been hanging out at a certain point
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 01:37 PM
3

I learned to be daring years ago and to not feel bad for being bold
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 04:17 AM
6

If a guy doesn’t seem interested, he usually isn’t. I believe that a man should make an effort , show a woman. I also believe in telling a woman you aren’t interested.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 01:24 AM
3

Reddit has a lot of helpful tips for exercise and workouts It is also hit and miss for diet information.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 11:54 AM
0

He speaks literally and not laterally He is telling you what is wrong
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 10:52 PM
1

They think you are pretty. Do you want them to pull a Ron Burgandy from Anchorman?
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/24 12:27 PM
1

Are you the woman of his dreams?
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/24 12:37 PM
3

It sounds like you guys are farming arguments.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 11:12 PM
10

Edited: Stop creating unnecessary opportunities for arguments
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 11:10 PM
4

I was thankful for the opportunity. Our time is in the past but I learned much. I found tomorrow.
/r/TheRedPill02/06/24 12:02 AM
1

It helps. Props
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/24 12:19 AM
4

Prep for healthy eating?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 09:27 PM
6

Depends on the generation and age range, background Many men I knew gave up looking in their late twenties, just a few stayed in there for an occasional shot of leg. 30s? Depends. Never been marrieds? Divorcees?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 11:06 PM
1

Pop smoke? You don’t want to propose And you have waited downfield for a bit
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 08:28 PM
3

Unpopular opinion: That dude should have popped smoke years ago Someone in a traditional, tight knit community would have told folks to grow up.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/24 07:04 PM
1

You know when to win.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 07:52 PM
2

Across multiple partners, experiences, and timeframes: Prefer dry hair over wet hair. Not terrible but nothing I enjoyed. (Wet hair during sex belongs in the shower?)
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/24 07:49 PM
4

He needs help beyond what you can offer He isn’t to a healthy level yet
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 08:25 PM
6

You are finding reasons to sabotage your relationship
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 07:59 PM
8

Pro tip: Don’t sabotage your relationship Takes some deep jiujitsu to do that Yellow flag for me
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/24 06:54 PM
4

Don't. My read: (a) I'm going to marry a guy that I am finding reasons to not be attracted to (b) I have more money than him and I am finding reasons to "waffle". Do you think that you are magically going to be the best wife in 5 years? None of this is a good start. As for him, the drinking. He isn't ready to fit either one of your lifestyles, monetarily or mentally. You might want to do more than throw Dave Ramsey at him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/24 01:29 PM
1

You shouldn’t push yourself into opportunities to stray.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 09:10 PM
7

You need to up your game, then
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 09:06 PM
1

On the worst end, RBF Middle: Hanging on to negative news, etc Letting anxiety and narrative building affect me
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 09:03 PM
6

He is healthy
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/24 04:40 PM
1

Why not plan something and mention that it is something you like doing? Kind of reminds me of Crash Davis and Annie from Bull Durham
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 10:28 PM
3

Weird question: Do you want a man?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/24 12:59 PM
1

The answer is "don't".
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/24 04:07 PM
2

Not to be the ass in the room, are you sure? My apologies to Billy Gunn
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:18 PM
4

Props
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:17 PM
3

Many other women are so competitive and unhappy that they will poison strangers ‘lives
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 11:15 PM
5

Not after “super fun time “
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 03:55 PM
4

Discuss it with him but understand that he might be concerned about your “about face “ on the issue.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/24 03:54 PM
0

Have you verbalized any of this to him?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 12:42 PM
5

Blood panels done for hormone health? The only other things are “rear end can’t outrun my mouth” Which is something I struggle with
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 11:50 PM
1

Affection, validation, or flex?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 12:16 PM
1

I believe that this is something that folks can learn from and I hope that you can get to the bottom of. I am honored by your kind words.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 08:47 PM
3

Tbh, I can’t get a good read , I do encourage you to talk with others in this subreddit. I am unsure of what the right questions to ask you. I am ignorant and I desire to learn more
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 07:54 PM
3

He sounds busy. I’m not sure what is going on Is he not excited to hear from you or see you?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/24 07:18 PM
3

Its because slovenly is often seen as normal
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 06:44 PM
8

I liked what you said but I almost laughed because I thought of Patty Donahue when I saw "The Waitress"
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 09:19 PM
3

You try your best but it’s going to give him mixed signals Was it regret or an unsatisfying dalliance?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 12:54 PM
1

Some what. You can work on it though
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 11:37 PM
17

Are you finding reasons to not be happy? Also, you are going to cut a man off because you made a mistake? It looks like you are going to punish the man
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 11:36 PM
1

Be a better girlfriend Verbalize Talk to an endocrinologist and regular blood work
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/24 08:54 PM
2

When its over, its over We all go through tailings before we find what we were digging for to begin with
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 01:25 AM
2

Is this okay? I was trying to avoid crassness
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/24 12:05 AM
-1

Jokes aside, a toss up Many factors are at play I wasn’t tooting my own horn when it came to partners but body chemistry, position, hormones, amongst other things changed both of our experience I nearly put my ex gf in the hospital but my other one just complaints. I had also read that some of this changes in time Other physiological issues too. Muscle reactions, elasticity, etc. I learned that the hard way. I would encourage you to develop a good baseline and regularly visit your gynecologist
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 04:11 PM
1

Stop consuming victim mentality p*rn and rage bait?
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:03 PM
1

Don’t say something to a man you don’t mean
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 03:02 PM
5

He likes having someone to chat with or he is dense, not trying to get laid. (Or have a committed relationship if he isn’t down for that)
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 12:10 PM
1

He doesn’t care
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 08:29 PM
3

Thank you for being able to be there for him You would be surprised how many women I know who don’t have the ability to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 02:19 PM
3

Encourage him to verbalize. Tell him that you welcome his input Subtle hints about liking when he makes plans, say it helps you? ( it’s a reframe of sorts, not sure of the wording)
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 03:24 PM
1

(a) His behavior, specifically being passive. Might have been his desire to make peace and hope things work out for the better. Pain avoidance? (b) Thank you for the information about his interaction with his kid, mother of his child
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 03:08 PM
2

Some of that is from the previous relationship, possibly child support
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/24 02:46 PM
1

One was a country in Eastern Europe
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/24 05:55 PM
3

I have heard of this from someone else. It is interesting to hear it from a different perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 10:02 PM
4

The oxytocin dilemma? Yep. If I didn’t fall asleep. I needed to get up and move around. It could wreck my day. It made for a tough time cuddling
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/24 05:25 PM
10

Not a good idea
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 10:06 PM
3

TBH, he isnt the one throwing the red flags. He is taking it seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 03:18 PM
1

“I like when you do this “ “A little more gently” Verbalize your concerns but own the fact that you are not happy about “x”, (You haven’t mentioned if you had a problem with his strip club visits, unless this was the first time) You may need to update your details for everyone
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 11:48 PM
1

He might be able to handle most of his relationship with you, but it is often other things that drive him over the edge. It is hard to not snap when other things are bothering you. He might be conditioned to have a negative view of you. Time and things in life might make this a thing. I can't really blame a specific thing or person, outside of frustration over time.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 07:07 PM
2

Several questions: Are you "challenged" when it comes to non verbal cues? He needs to seek help. He had something eating him up. Iceberg level issue
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 06:18 PM
3

He needs healthy male friends in his life
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/24 06:52 PM
4

I do understand to a point. It has been real
/r/RedPillWives13/04/24 01:28 AM
2

Yep, gifts and touch. The touch thing made sense. I saw it in practice before I ever knew of LL. Bad thing is that I have the comforting touch and not the sexy one
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 01:12 AM
1

I do enjoy reading about studies like that
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 01:02 AM
1

Respect.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/24 12:53 AM
3

No beef. It works sometimes. At least once…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 10:54 PM
1

I did it years ago and I honestly don’t remember. It was an interesting experience. Yep, I still own the book
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 06:37 PM
4

Unpopular opinion: I think that Love Languages, along with MB, are often feeble attempts at people trying to find an identity. They seldom serve as the tools that people think they do. If people want to learn to communicate with a loved one or potential loved one, they should learn about those kind of people, not parrot things they heard in a study or a book. I would rather find a person that was ride or die, gave a shit, instead of talks about those things. It is a semi red flag if I had a woma…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 07:39 PM
6

You need better female friends in the future. You also don't need guys for friends. Unless they "are playing for the other team", they might want to have sex with you. It doesnt make for healthy romantic relationships. It means you are hung up on your ex and don't know how to move on.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 07:48 PM
5

You seem to have your head in the game. I wish you luck.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:53 PM
2

Healthy behaviors and healthy patterns
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:01 PM
18

I'm just glad you asked in good faith instead of it being a sh*t test.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:00 PM
1

If I am allowed to say it: Think R and X rated
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 08:27 PM
8

Don’t
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 08:23 PM
9

Drop your standard of living just a little bit
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/24 05:59 PM
3

Anecdotally speaking I wouldn’t have good experiences if I looped everyone in with the bad I sure as heck wouldn’t have enjoyed the good sex
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 09:22 PM
16

It’s a good idea to wait
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 05:39 PM
2

Tell him that you are working on you
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/24 02:04 AM
7

Kiss him on the cheek
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 05:46 PM
1

Being real ain’t being an asshole
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:18 PM
5

Either he is lazy or he just likes feeling wanted
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 02:20 PM
2

I messed up the assignment of terms.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 07:33 PM
2

I have used the term Dopamine cycle before. With or without the sexual component, it is bad on the nerves. I talked about what it does and how the modern experience pales in comparison to the Viking days, specifically what kind of activities, functions men used to receive that kind of stimulation, etc
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 12:02 PM
3

The baroness wasn’t bad. From a certain background. They were both noble roots.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 11:53 AM
2

Tbh, the smartest men I know think they’re silly and imaginary.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 02:11 AM
8

Guys feel like they are getting something from it or great marketing?
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 06:08 PM
2

You both are a mess Like just short of Mickey and Mallory
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 01:22 PM
1

Tell him that you care about him
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/24 07:28 PM
1

Does he have any friends with healthier lifestyles and habits?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 11:43 PM
22

Hold him. Hug him
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 11:41 PM
1

If you want a good LTR then you'll have to do the plates thing first. At least sift, examine, and move on.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/24 01:38 PM
2

1.5
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/24 12:02 AM
5

Unless it has something to do with his job, this is not a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 05:47 PM
1

Start lifting yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 05:52 PM
12

He needs some drastic changes and a desire to make changes
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/24 06:04 PM
3

Mostly. Tastes shift and return. I do encourage people to seek a second opinion from someone healthy and non crazy
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 06:30 PM
2

No one thinks "ugly patterns" are flattering A lady that I went to church with did. Subjective tastes.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 05:07 PM
13

I’m sure you have plenty of outfits for him. This is a good way to look at it. Find things and ask him about them
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 05:05 PM
1

Correction added.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 05:02 PM
1

Do you want him as a project or do you want him? Are you secretly wanting to change him?
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 08:10 PM
4

Do you hang on to things because of history or something is something you genuinely believe in? Also, he might have broken up with you because he sensed that something was wrong. Maybe it wasnt supposed to be? Maybe it didnt feel right? He might have not created a playing card that said "she is BPD and not worth hanging on to". Weird question: Are you going to try to be honest in the proper ways in the future? (Not acting like something you arent, for starters). Question for yourself: Are you re…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 08:08 PM
7

LDR is a short term thing One person needs to move quickly
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 07:34 PM
5

Be thankful he broke it off
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 07:33 PM
-2

He experienced pain. He might be dreaming of popping smoke. Correction: He feels conflicted to the point that he is thinking about leaving
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 06:17 PM
2

You may leave a trail of destruction that catches up with you The Golden Rule is something you may need to consider
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 05:55 PM
3

GF stuff. Cook? Clean? Etc?
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 02:30 PM
2

Placeholder? No. Not ready? Yes. He might not be ready for marriage but he doesn’t need to flip flop anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 11:26 PM
11

I hope you won't repeat the same thing again or choose to go wild. Are you still around those friends? Did you mature any? I knew of someone that treated her husband like an accessory, to make herself look good in front of her friends. She seemed upset when she found out he had opinions, hopes, etc. I'm not saying you shouldn't have friends but I am saying that you may want to weigh how you look at relationships. If you are willing to tank something promising for "shiny things", you need to be w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 08:44 PM
4

Many men would
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 02:40 PM
48

I’m not trying to be mean but you should seek counseling. Your feelings might be valid but you still need help growing and moving forward
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 12:53 PM
1

Be thankful or at least graceful
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 12:57 PM
2

Unfortunately, I agree. I wish we could deal with this
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 11:55 PM
2

I was steering clear of the stereotypical diagnosis of RBF that I often ask about
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 11:50 PM
2

You are overthinking this one Screams anxiety
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/24 02:33 PM
5

Is it off putting or in bad taste to bring up RBF?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 09:42 PM
8

Can you not effectively participate in conversations? Do you, pardon the expression, clam up when you need to be vocal? Do you have bad or inappropriate facial expressions?
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 06:08 PM
1

Anything you don’t do a lot of that would show him that you are regretting it?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 03:16 PM
13

Culture and stereotypes
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 01:42 PM
10

There are certain groups that benefit from the black community’s demise.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 01:42 PM
1

Pop smoke!!!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 12:19 AM
5

Look for widowers? I know that the field gets complicated. I would encourage you to be somewhat sympathetic.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 07:33 PM
1

He needs to get a trusted man to help him with this.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 06:28 PM
0

Is that adjacent or necessary for him to make money? If not, I would be concerned
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 05:24 PM
13

Also, considering the “bad start” you guys had, he is investing what he considers worthwhile. (Not meant as a slam on you, but I don’t know many men that want to invest in a woman who had a lukewarm interaction like that to begin with. It is the attraction, time/effort paradox. I personally let plenty of opportunities die because the woman clearly didn’t have any “heat” for me. Not that they were bad people, just not right for “us”)
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 04:35 PM
-2

He might be busy
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 04:29 PM
4

Do you want to know the third option?
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 02:46 PM
3

This is good advice for many people
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 08:51 PM
2

Or walk behind as a hand bra (Inside joke in my circle/family)
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 08:47 PM
2

I'm going to be the mean one here: (a) There are plenty of women that would be grateful to get those gifts (b) Is his change of gift because of pricing? (c) Are your tastes outpricing his income? (d) Are you preparing for any type of future? I'm steering away from insulting you but you may be lacking in vision. You may want to move on but it might be for his own good.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 08:05 PM
1

He might be larping along with trying to observe a religion You dodged a bullet. He doesn’t understand relationships
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 04:25 PM
2

I follow. She definitely needs to verbalize her feelings/position
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 06:36 PM
5

I think that you answered my question with skill. I wasn’t trying to take a position, I was asking how she felt about his sentiments.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 06:23 PM
3

I think I didn’t type that well
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 06:21 PM
1

Counseling, psychiatry, etc
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:29 PM
2

You need to work on your self big time
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:19 PM
-5

Devil’s Advocate question: Can he be right? Does he have specific, actionable concerns?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 04:18 PM
2

I think you both need to work on yourselves. Did you two ever define your relationship? I'm not sure that he is happy and he might be medicating himself or at least lost in fantasy
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 02:46 AM
–

Work on you first before surgery. If you get surgery and don't improve yourself, you will just be a target.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/24 02:41 AM
1

You might not find a solution
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/24 04:08 PM
8

Learn to be content
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 08:01 PM
5

I saw a few videos and articles where women did this for their boyfriends. The results were mostly negative.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:09 PM
1

I would take it as a nicety, if it was seldom. A nice letter or note is valued by those with vision.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 08:57 PM
11

Do you know when you’re winning?
/r/RedPillWives06/02/24 07:46 PM
5

Both of you need serious help But not together
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 06:12 PM
3

Polite suggestion: counseling I would encourage you both to communicate more, own your position
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 10:12 PM
2

Have you visited an endocrinologist or have had your hormones, bloodwork checked?
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 10:06 PM
2

I ask: Does arguing with someone actually help or does it make me look good? I'm not saying that a person needs to roll over, but I sure as hell know that "owning" someone ends in an ephemeral sense. (The OF chick is wrong, but allowing someone to save face is often a way to keep someone from doubling down on something destructive). That and the whole "We have to let certain things die, we can't save them all" way of thinking.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/24 06:46 PM
1

I'll bite. I may have been one of those people. Suggestions: Join a men's group Exercise, hike, lift
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/24 03:30 PM
2

Be mentally fit and prepared I’m not sure why I got downvoted. The examples applied that. None of the women were models. They just kept their wits about themselves, stayed healthy, and were mentally healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 11:39 PM
1

Do you have a personality? Are you insufferable? Are you a happy person? I've met women in their 50s and 60s that were awesome. It is one thing that they took care of themselves, but it is another that they acted like other people mattered, laughed, and had something about them. One or two of them were grandmothers, moms, aunts, great aunts, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 10:12 PM
1

I am following along.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 05:15 PM
2

Define “accidentally”
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 02:02 PM
1

Decent pick
/r/RedPillWives02/02/24 03:11 AM
3

I would also suggest reaching out to a healthy male friend in your life. I tell every guy I know this. ( I was blessed to be a part of a men’s group and have men of many backgrounds to talk to) I would make sure that you cover all of your bases before going to a marriage counselor. I have ideas but it would be more appropriate for a pm.
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 08:42 PM
3

Have you checked out the db subreddits?
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 06:33 PM
3

6?
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 06:32 PM
1

This is one of the most bizarre things I’ve seen in a while
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 02:40 PM
2

They don’t always do. I do laugh at your comments about the military. I couldn’t find a woman to take me seriously and I am from a traditional background.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:00 PM
3

Marry to marry
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:36 AM
2

Learn how to be happy with the attention you get, instead of being validated through someone else
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 02:32 PM
0

Fair. I am unsure why he brings some of that stuff up. Perhaps he is insecure when things are going okay?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 05:41 PM
-7

Are you picking fights or creating a fertile ground for arguments?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 03:01 PM
1

In an adjacent ethnic community, people think there is something wrong with you if you haven’t had a kid if you were 30. The same for being married. Also, you are going to run into the fact that many guys that aren’t widowers won’t be interested after a certain point, due to burnout Deeply religious are often forgiving, I don’t see that in my more secular friends. They are the ones that can be picky or just bang.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 02:28 PM
2

There might be cultural issues about this
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 12:50 AM
3

Read and meditate
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:41 PM
10

Is there a chance that you are argumentative or testy? Are you being the kind of woman a man would be willing to gamble on? Also, you are gambling on statistics
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:01 PM
5

It feels like you are answering your own questions, but you don’t like the answers
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 04:16 PM
12

Move on Get counseling
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 12:24 AM
0

Healthy influences Healthier inspiration
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 12:22 AM
2

I have low expectations and I’m never disappointed because it is hard to dip that low
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 12:20 AM
1

He needs counseling and trusted sources of wisdom, support
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 05:42 PM
1

Daisy Cousens, tradcatfem They used to have links. I’m not sure if it still applies
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 07:08 PM
3

Do you put out enthusiastically?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 07:05 PM
2

If it is a cultural issue, can you bridge the gap? Tbh, it doesn’t seem like it is a culture issue. He just seems insecure or something else
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 07:04 PM
1

No had always meant no to me I never revisited it
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 09:46 PM
3

You need to talk. Write things down and own your end of things
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 07:42 PM
11

You aren’t ready to recognize a good thing He has been generous but you are the one pining for a millionaire Please let him find someone else who will appreciate the fact that he has a lot going good for him.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 01:35 PM
3

Counseling? An arbitrator to help you both?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 03:40 PM
1

Can you up play anything? Also, you don’t see what a guy sees. Although I am on the other side, I was told I failed to see the good that others saw.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 02:06 AM
0

It depends on the severity
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 12:48 AM
1

Serious question Unranked order: looks, femininity, loyalty, social intelligence, “youthfulness”, I’m sure that I am missing something, but it is also an exercise to see if you have learned something about men. I’m not a quintessential wordsmith
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 12:46 AM
0

That mouth…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 08:50 PM
1

Am I allowed to make an X rated suggestion?
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 12:53 AM
1

What do you bring to the table? Anything in the top 5 of what a guy should be interested in?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 06:06 PM
1

What do you bring?
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 02:42 PM
0

No argument here. I think I didn’t type that correctly. I wasn’t trying to make excuses. This is something that he will have to deal with for his own sake.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:50 AM
-5

He might have some baggage or conditions that haunt him from his past
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 10:30 PM
1

As long as you don’t burn people and keep your nose clean
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:17 PM
2

Have you looked at finances or are you shooting for the moon?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/24 07:01 PM
4

Answer: No
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/24 11:39 PM
2

Many podcasts are not good for anyone There isn’t a purity test
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/24 01:49 PM
6

Own it. Honesty. Lessons learned Let it come up at a natural moment or progression
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/24 07:14 PM
1

Most people do, at least everyone that isn’t checked out does
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/23 01:51 AM
2

Seek counseling Take care of yourself Embrace faith, if possible
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 11:51 PM
16

Neither. You aren’t wise enough to make the decision yourself
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 10:32 PM
1

He might not do that stuff because he doesn’t think it’s worthwhile. Are you the kind of woman that deserves that? If you are, be the kind of woman that deserves it. I don’t know that many men, after the age of 25, minus simps and sycophants, that would offer it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 05:49 AM
2

Are you larping instead of actually changing? It seems that you are lying to yourself and anyone else. I don’t think you love yourself yet.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 05:43 AM
0

If I had a do over in life, I wouldn’t strive for much. No joke, I have been used for my d*ck in the past and I could go back to that simplicity with the minimal amount of effort. I easily could withdraw from the system.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 05:41 AM
2

No joke, think about sex more and flirt with each other.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 05:33 AM
1

It doesn’t make sense to hold his regret against him. I don’t know of any man that wants a healthy or somewhat healthy relationship to end.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/23 05:32 AM
2

They don’t hold it against them. No one not divorced wants to get rid of someone in a healthy relationship
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 05:48 PM
8

I had an ex gf that didn’t have any woman skills and I think that the only reason she had sex was because her friends did. (She didn’t seem to care for men)
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 02:59 PM
3

I never asked, most women let it slip out or hinted at it
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 02:57 PM
1

One step extra in the right direction is never wrong
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 02:56 PM
1

How does he feel about you?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/23 12:16 AM
1

Are you combative by nature? This might be an issue with your future relationships
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/23 09:19 PM
2

Btw, stay away from the coasts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 06:46 PM
3

Are you sure you are not the one with the issues?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 06:46 PM
3

Verbalize boundaries
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 09:01 PM
4

Maybe or maybe not It depends. My buddy is married to someone twenty years senior and he didn’t trade her in , one of the other tropes.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 06:29 AM
1

It depends on where you live. Breastfeeding is hardcore. I have seen it in my personal life. Yard work is a big thing where I live but it is a exception
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 06:43 PM
4

You might need to let him know about this kind of stuff as soon as possible
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 02:27 PM
2

I need to offer credit. It does depend upon how much you take on. You both seem to communicate well
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 06:25 PM
1

I have met many women that chose the unhappiness virus over working on their relationships and being content. Sometimes it takes not adopting the urge to be quarrelsome
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 05:52 PM
-1

Am I allowed to ask about equality in the harder parts of yard work?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 05:48 PM
1

Make priorities if they mean anything to you
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 05:47 PM
5

I’m just warning you that it is looking like you are treating him like a project.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 02:31 AM
4

You don’t seem to accept him
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 08:11 PM
1

Are you hanging on for the benefits? I am not trying to accuse you of Larping your way through this but it seems like you are hoping you can change your own mind, waiting for a project to mature
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 04:12 PM
-2

No
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 03:03 PM
1

The “attention “ element too
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 02:14 PM
9

Unpopular opinion: I think you should let him find someone that values his views and what he does. I think you are hoping for a project to be successful in your eyes. You are doing him a disservice
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/23 01:04 PM
2

Does he have strong male friends or support group?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 03:35 PM
1

Depends on the culture and context
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 02:13 PM
1

Maybe you weren’t for them?
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 01:38 PM
2

I have a few men in my corner that would tell me to move on. (I was trying to dodge a "as a man here" statement) I follow your sentiments and understand where you were going. All is well.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 09:21 PM
1

Wow.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 06:38 PM
2

it’s easier to have empathy. I learned a lot about what caused it. It was a mix of me and other factors. I think that they could have been wonderful if it wasnt for terrible things that hit them in their lives. I had to learn to not generalize.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:31 PM
2

I would have been screwed big time. I didn't bring up my atrocious experiences with "temp agency" girlfriends. It would deny my good experiences with the many others.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:04 PM
3

She might be hunting in the wrong forest or overvaluing her position.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:02 PM
2

ésotérisme TBH, I think you might be kicking your "football" off of their pitch. You could be baffling someone that isnt inquisitive or of a philosophical slant. Where I live, a hard to understand (socially, conversationally) woman will have a harder time, even with the educated.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 03:01 PM
3

Tough question: Do you over value yourself?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:53 PM
3

"when a woman rejects a man she can't stay friends with him". I don't carry around a list of half ass friends. The people I call friends usually have earned the title. Im not a bitter person but I also don't keep "missed opportunity" love interests around.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:52 PM
2

In fact other men asked me if they needed to step in because of how much attention he was showing me (this was at work). TBH, we used to have trusted friends that would tell us that we need to move on. Not simps, but actual friends.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:49 PM
2

Imagine trying to explain to someone that heterosexual men often enjoy having sex with attractive women. I think she is torturing herself with over thought. She gets slightly offended of this idea. but gets completely mad that someone in other strata might find her sexually attractive. This screams of mental jiujitsu. Bring sexual assault into it is a statistical non-starter.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:47 PM
16

it takes ALOT of courage to ask a woman out. You are of a small group that recognizes this
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:37 PM
3

Many heterosexual men like having sex with women You don't owe them anything, but courtesy and honesty are worth something. Entitled? They probably prefer that no one waste their time, but most won't be entitled after a certain age.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:36 PM
1

You might need to take a break
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 07:21 PM
1

Props for speaking up but it only helps those on the margins.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/23 04:57 PM
3

He might be medicating himself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:14 PM
2

Set up scheduled calls?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 05:53 PM
3

Develop strong bonds with healthy groups of people with similar interests, beliefs
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:04 PM
–

Fascinating.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 01:02 PM
1

Did they send you a note explaining why?
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/23 12:51 AM
1

Mods erased it?
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:43 PM
1

Big question: Why erase your post? Some people were willing to discuss and some could recognize a different cultural slant. I saw what you were getting at.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 03:40 PM
4

Added stress is bad. I encourage men to take better care of their cardiovascular system but I discourage women from making it worse. Not specifically meant to be satire
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 05:55 PM
2

Do you know how to win? Do you know how to win along with someone else?
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 04:59 PM
6

True, don’t make heart disease worse
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 04:55 PM
24

It is something to talk about when you get into a stable, established relationship
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 04:10 PM
5

It is a good sign that he has turned down women
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 03:08 PM
18

(a) Get right on your health, hormones (b) Counseling (c) mental health
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 12:46 PM
2

I’m sorry that bad operators have negatively affected your life
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/23 10:38 PM
2

I wish people knew that leaving comments often add more to an overall discussion than taking the comments down
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/23 03:43 PM
2

Depends on your ethnic background, can you establish decent boundaries?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/23 02:33 PM
2

What happened to make the person erase their comment?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/23 02:05 PM
8

Not to be off, but three times a day left me sore. I was also foggy
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 01:26 PM
1

You would be surprised how a small gesture can help
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 01:24 PM
1

Have you ever told him that you really enjoy spending time with him?
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 12:02 AM
1

There is a 90s joke where a man tells his wife that “just because I married you doesn’t mean I am gay”
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 11:54 PM
4

I half jokingly want to say “send him some pictures “, remind him that you’re his woman and you appreciate him
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 11:49 PM
7

The guy is in the starting stages of this.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 06:04 PM
3

Sex with meaning and meaning to have sex
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 01:48 PM
61

Men like women who like having sex with them
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 05:05 PM
4

It’s somewhat true
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 01:26 PM
1

Not meant to be snarky I am encouraging you to consider other factors before resources when you’re looking for a spouse. Unless you’re looking for a revolving door relationship cycle which won’t end up being a positive
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 01:02 AM
1

Maybe you need to find someone else from “insert occupation “ that you jive with and put money third in priorities
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 09:42 PM
1

Would you be offended if someone called you a gold digger? Serious question
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 11:33 PM
1

I love all sorts
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 11:33 PM
1

Plenty of good men that arent doctors. I can name a few doctors that werent great.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 11:32 PM
9

Porn star emulation? Not quite. Keep it interesting and be their dirty little wh*re? Sure.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:19 PM
2

A look, sociability and a kind smile
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 05:22 PM
78

Counseling
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 07:10 PM
2

The lip bitey thing I have had one chick do that for me
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 01:05 PM
2

Do a few things well Instead of doing 75 things poorly
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 02:57 PM
3

Are you finding reasons to not be happy? Have you determined your own boundaries?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 02:55 PM
1

Counseling?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/23 02:52 PM
2

Something I have heard from other women but never saw in forums: The ability to properly fill the back end of a pair of pants. No flapping in the breeze, blank ass disease
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/23 07:27 PM
3

80-90% chance you won't meet someone randomly in person who will wait till marriage. especially after a certain age point
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 09:35 PM
1

Severe exercise cycles or stress?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 09:33 PM
1

A question to ask: How can you love a man when your words do not?
/r/RedPillWives04/11/23 09:28 PM
4

I think you should be mindful but not beat yourself up.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 11:53 AM
1

You didn’t let past shame keep you from giving your man your best sexually and emotionally. Not a “born again lesbian “, which was a term I heard from 90s university students
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 09:25 PM
4

Can you still have passion and “yearn” for your future man?
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 12:24 PM
1

I hope you’re serious. Money market or something else like it at least. Planning for expenses or long term life goals
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 12:32 PM
1

He needs to "break" it. For his own sake.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 12:13 AM
1

He is burned out. He is in low power mode for a reason. It is survival mode
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 10:12 PM
10

Context?
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 11:54 AM
2

Just tell him that it isnt working and you wanted someone that respects your time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 11:01 PM
1

I believe that the OP is focusing on the “feelings “ element. I do appreciate your input but I don’t think she is owning her response. We don’t know why he was looking at the profile. I honestly don’t know if the guy is a thirst trapper or not.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 11:59 AM
4

It is a hit and miss issue. Some feel that it is a concern while some may not. It might not be the scantily clad issue but a dopamine chasing habit problem. Who cares? Some do. I don’t like a SO that lives in fantasy. Insecure? It might cause that in certain situations
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/23 11:55 AM
2

Do you trust him?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/23 05:40 PM
24

I wanted to add, seriously: You have to like men.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/23 12:37 AM
9

Are you planning on wanting to be with him long term?
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/23 12:11 PM
3

Fidelity to friends and others
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/23 12:37 AM
2

Understood. Adds a different perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 07:47 PM
1

Kakao?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 05:12 PM
2

Pro tip: grow an actual community and make connections with other healthy people
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 12:34 PM
6

Having a career vs being career driven
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/23 12:31 AM
2

Quality of the water…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 05:56 PM
9

Be wary of people that start arguments and call them debates
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 05:55 PM
2

Are you shooting in a proverbial barrel or a proverbial lake?
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 01:16 PM
2

Its a mix of what you said.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 01:51 AM
1

Unless you’re serious, then I would like to understand your position better
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 11:20 PM
-1

If a person pushes back against him and makes him feel bad, even overshadowing him, he might sink into his "zone" further, a la Type O Negative's Dont Wanna Be Me. Yeah, she might get nothing that she wants and the guy might just move on, even to a relationship where someone doesnt mind his "quirks".
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:45 PM
0

Nice troll job and/or sarcasm
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:29 PM
2

toxicity Heavy metal poisoning? no joke implied
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:28 PM
0

needs is a psychiatrist. Thats not a bad idea.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:24 PM
2

Is he just that much more freaky than you?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 08:22 PM
2

Wish he would buy some Tbills with the money and save money up for a house, better appreciating asset
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/23 02:36 AM
0

You are finding ways to not be content
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/23 07:02 PM
2

Is this what you want out of the rest of your life?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 03:30 PM
1

I think you might be subconsciously sinking your relationships
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 03:29 PM
2

Can you do these things instead?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 03:09 PM
1

It’s a toss up.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/23 03:06 PM
2

Not lust but long term meaningful passion, along with a magnetism of sorts
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/23 01:33 PM
1

Can you build a life together, from the ground?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 09:23 PM
5

I wanted to ask: “What is he getting out of this “ If there isn’t passion or appropriate level of “heat” in the relationship, why would he want to marry?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 09:22 PM
8

Any other clues? Your view might be a little premature
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 01:37 AM
1

I follow. I do like a path or a course with actionable steps
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/23 01:35 AM
2

I understand. It is a struggle that he will have to undertake
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 07:09 PM
1

I have swamped others in my life and it hurts them in the long run
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 05:49 PM
1

Trusted people. I might be missing context to begin with or misread the original post
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 05:48 PM
4

Has he tried to do anything on his own or get involved with anything “manly “ where he can make a community?
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/23 03:33 PM
-6

Its only effective when I breadcrumb it. I say little and mean it. It destroyed other relationships when I said much more of what I do now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 10:33 PM
-1

Men should lean on trusted men, friends, advisors for emotional support. I think it’s bullshit when I see women talking about wanting to have men open up.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 05:07 PM
2

Sad. I am not great at this either, but I have one or two I have found and trust
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 01:23 PM
2

Auto ban programming
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 08:38 PM
0

He might not be comfortable talking about it with you. I encourage men to have certain tough conversations with a trusted male friend, wise counsel
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 08:37 PM
1

It was serious. I have seen religion do this and many women don’t understand why men have concerns
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 05:23 PM
0

You might be overlooking his point of view or he may not have voiced his end
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 05:21 PM
1

Hormone health is something important that is overlooked.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 05:19 PM
1

It’s hard because of society and you have a few pinkish flags
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:39 AM
1

Bait and switch or born again nun? Counseling? This doesn’t sound good
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:37 AM
1

Do you wonder how he feels about a woman who is only operating on half power but still getting a large amount of the benefits?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:35 AM
5

Jackhammer effect?
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:31 AM
1

Sometimes I am the humanitarian that launches them out the door
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 12:30 AM
1

Is he in pain?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/23 12:58 PM
3

You will become a party favor or entertainment. Nothing to gain, move on.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/23 07:40 PM
13

It’s a huge ask
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:49 PM
6

Why don’t you talk to him without coded language or hidden intentions? You are the one that seems to like the ambiguity
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:23 PM
5

Do you live in a high cost of living area?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:20 PM
9

Unpopular opinion: build a life together
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 12:08 PM
7

He might be busy. I have been there and it was hard to explain to plenty of women.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 12:32 PM
5

Yes, if I hear nothing I don’t always assume something is wrong
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/23 01:14 PM
1

Cook something for him?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 12:50 AM
1

Values It isn’t always about the strata issues. I had issues about communication and connection, but being from different backgrounds wasn’t an automatic disqualifier for me when it came to the women in my life
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 12:47 AM
3

Ask him questions
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 11:46 PM
2

I saw a lady on TV say that. Not sure but it might have been Steve Harvey
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 01:23 PM
4

The truth isnt complicated. Neither is you harvesting your feelings to justify doing things.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 11:59 PM
1

You are a part of the family
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 12:35 PM
1

Just don’t get caught doing a bait and switch
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/23 05:08 PM
1

I used it to learn about communication. But I pull from Bruce Lee and use what works, throw out what doesn’t
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 09:07 PM
10

You are on your way to better levels of understanding. Do you respect him for having a differing opinion? Would you respect him and be attracted to him if he made those changes? I know plenty of women who say that but then lose passion for him when they get their way.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 07:32 PM
2

Do the work and don’t let it get that way
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:38 PM
3

Taking care of yourself is never wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:37 PM
0

It sounds like your friend might be unhappy or jealous.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:36 PM
12

Are you looking for reasons to be unhappy?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/23 06:35 PM
2

Either wrong pond or you have been “acting”, they have noticed it
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/23 05:39 PM
2

Dang, all sorts of messed up
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 12:17 AM
5

Tell her you have men in your life and are happy
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/23 12:24 PM
3

Yeah, calling an ex fiancée as we talked about a future…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 03:07 PM
12

He had been a foot and a half out the door for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 12:59 PM
4

Food for thought: What is he getting now that he won’t get elsewhere? Did he have a moment to collect himself?
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 11:24 PM
1

Yes
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 11:21 PM
1

Are you asking for us to push you towards “popping smoke”?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 08:43 PM
2

I wonder if he feels iffy about it too
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 08:38 PM
3

No
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 04:30 PM
6

I didnt want a woman that would make us both look bad. I also wanted someone who I didnt have to explain everything to. "That Disney shit" never told plenty of women the truth. I didnt mind a "fighter" but I knew that I was doing a disservice to the "Lynettes" of this world.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 02:06 AM
2

He needs to buy you dolly.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 09:15 PM
1

It is off putting. It sucks coming from a woman or a man. A man should vent to his trusted friends, not a gf, lover, or paramour.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 06:28 PM
2

He is comfortable with you, instead of being nervous about sex.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 02:44 AM
3

Some women are unhappy and feel that they are supposed to be programmed that way. If you aren't an auto unhappy woman, you should work on something if it matters to you. You should also be in your right mind/body to meet the right man, but that is for another discussion for another time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 04:04 PM
2

Fight with a loving way
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 07:06 PM
3

Sounds like you are better off without naysayers.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/23 07:04 PM
2

I just wish it was more widespread among "conservative" women
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/23 01:09 AM
7

Take it from me, I loved it. I hold them up higher than the ones that never did.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 04:57 PM
1

I understand. On occasion, you might find folks looking for validation instead of solutions
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 04:54 PM
1

Are you advice shopping?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 03:37 PM
1

It sounds like a joke
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 01:13 PM
1

I understand. I do believe that is wrong to "take it out on an unrelated party".
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 01:51 AM
1

Is he sick? Has he started to get stressed because of a long illness?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/23 01:03 AM
0

Understanding and male communication. That and fulfilling expectations
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 07:31 PM
4

Slightly off topic: Most of my female friends didn’t have the skills to be the same level of friends as my male friends. We are different and have different abilities.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 03:42 PM
2

Restraint is admirable
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 12:11 AM
1

Are you offering alternatives?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 10:10 PM
1

Would you tell him instead of letting it fester?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 10:08 PM
7

Outside of the gym, I clear land often with an axe. Yes, I have made the argument that office existence hurts men
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 09:23 PM
1

He feels loved
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 08:54 PM
3

Does a provider rev your engine?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/23 06:15 PM
4

Why don’t you learn about the men before you disqualify yourself? Do you know how to not scare away men? Do you have anything else going for you?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 07:22 PM
2

A lot of the women that have non stop revolving doors aren’t happy. That isn’t success
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 07:21 PM
1

Toss up
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 05:29 PM
0

Do you know how to be happy?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:45 PM
1

I never did, slut shame that is
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:41 PM
3

If you can, stay at home.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/23 10:26 PM
2

Is he focused on work?
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 05:01 PM
1

Try
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 02:27 PM
1

A bit of unsolicited sex ed: men cannot make "effort" to get and stay hard. slightly off topic, especially if SSRIs or spine/neck injuries are involved
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 02:03 AM
1

Does he have mental issues? Painkilling? Checked out?
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/23 01:59 AM
11

“do you like any of the men who like you?” This is the question I have wanted to ask many women from 18-45.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 12:45 PM
1

Bad sex is a different discussion for another day.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 12:44 AM
2

Also, be Ride or Die
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 10:40 PM
10

He is still hung up on this woman
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 04:40 PM
1

A lot of men don't want their girl to feel like she's only being used for sex so they avoid initiating unless they're absolutely sure that she wants it. This has happened a bunch, learned the hard way
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 10:33 PM
6

Move on
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 04:39 PM
6

TBH, I have known many women that justify abnormal medical conditions and ignore simple "Dr Googling" because it is how they feel. Hormones and endocrinological checkups are a great idea. Even if someone doesnt have a problem per se, they should create a monitoring baseline
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 03:46 PM
2

Therapy or counseling
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 04:13 PM
11

You probably sent him tells , frowned when he was talking about certain things.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 05:35 PM
5

Maybe the guy was ready to get on with his life?
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 05:33 PM
2

You are in a different world
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 05:33 PM
4

Being ghosted means that the other person is an asshole or can’t remember things he should.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 03:08 PM
1

You were a different kind of creature. Partial joke: one had no lady skills and was substandard when it came to romance. The other wasn’t good at being a lady and alienated people. They both were in survival mode and couldn’t compute a man who could appear “strong”.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 05:44 PM
0

My ex gfs were temp agency relationships. All they had to do was value my beliefs and add to my life. Want to be a LTR or a wife? Value the fact that a man has good beliefs and do something to add to his life. (I was active duty and a relationship with them was a net detractor)
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 01:13 PM
1

Distance. I am not sure talking to her will help Redirect? Sure, but depending on how bitter she is, she might try to turn it on more
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 01:23 AM
2

My question was meant out of honesty, not sure why I was downvoted. She has something going on and she needs to dig into it
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 05:27 PM
3

Is she a secret lipstick? Is she pulling a Lolo?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 01:08 PM
3

I question anyone that wants to look into a Pandora-esque container. People say they are curious but upset that someone else is autonomous.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/23 01:37 AM
1

He prefers to show by other means, service. He also demonstrates control
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 08:40 PM
1

Not trying and eating takeout/microwave nasty stuff is the societal solution. My ex gfs had little to no examples growing up. Temp agency gfs bring temp agency skills
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:49 PM
1

Partial side note: I stick with the “can’t give good advice outside of the herd” comment I have made before.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:47 PM
1

I had ex gfs that could burn water
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 01:35 AM
1

drain the fat out of the meat
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:25 AM
1

Not trying to be offputting, but you should have been teaching a class for other women.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:24 AM
16

Edited: I think you are trying to find reasons to justify being treated like sh*t. It is one thing that you forum shop advice, but it is another that this guy sounds like he gets away with acting like an ass. I am stopping short of calling you "Door Mat", but you have a lot to learn.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 01:15 AM
1

Trimmings, ear/nose cleanliness, shaving, some skin care
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 04:31 PM
5

Culture has made it hard?
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 02:43 PM
1

I appreciate a woman that clearly puts effort into herself. It isnt always vanity. I would say the opposite is true. I am quicker to call a woman "slovely" is she clearly doesnt try to put in effort.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 12:53 AM
6

He requested. Take it as a sign
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 04:36 PM
3

You can bang your one partner all over the place like it is going out of style, that and be a freak with them
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/23 09:24 PM
3

Not a bad thing, it is hard to put into words. It might be some kind of observed aesthetics
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 04:49 PM
1

It depends on the guy. Might just get their engine revved.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 12:57 AM
1

how he likes his steak. Edible, I hope. Rimshot. I'll see myself out like a failed 90s comic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 12:25 AM
3

Maybe they do something for him? I like all sorts of women. It isnt because of some disorder, I just have a wide pallet.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 12:23 AM
3

A mindset first leads to action.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 01:33 PM
2

very insecure about the age difference. Please note my comment about "chickenshit". This guy can't do anything close to the "protect" part of the "P"'s.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:08 AM
2

Both off those guys are chickenshits. The first one is a derogatory term for nether regions.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 12:04 AM
4

Exercise is actually fantastic. Healthy circulation and chemical release
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 03:10 PM
2

Kiss him when he walks in the door, say nothing for 15 minutes
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 03:10 PM
3

This is a tough nut, it only works with the right kind of people
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:50 PM
-1

children are expensive It depends but I see where you are going.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:49 PM
1

Recognize that work sucks, please laugh. But I am serious. He needs to talk to a counselor or a trusted male friend about this. No one I had been having sex with has been or was equipped to handle a conversation like this. Push him to talk to someone trusted about his professional life.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:47 PM
1

Are you a chiropractor? If so, yes. BTW, the dig was intended on the first person, not you. You are okay, but don't take that as a compliment. (laughs)
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:44 PM
3

You remind me of "Dug" from the movie Up! SQUIRREL!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:21 PM
1

high class escorts whenever they wish, I may get flack for this but I had a sticker on my motorcycle helmet that said "If it f*cks, floats, or flies...it is cheaper to rent it!".
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:18 PM
6

TBH, Bezos struck me as the weaksauce dude that got rich and discovered that it got his pee-pee touched for him. Money doesnt automatically make you a suave pimp.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:16 PM
-1

she really bagged him before his divorce Is this the relationship form of pre-gaming?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:14 PM
-4

her girl game is on point. At least that is what it appears to be
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:13 PM
1

Can't understand statistics or reality
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 11:06 PM
-5

Stop
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 05:39 PM
1

I'll bite. Yes
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 10:03 PM
-2

Pop smoke
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 03:58 PM
3

Have you verbalized your concerns?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 01:50 PM
4

Find someone who respects your timeline idea?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 01:49 PM
2

Healing yourself first is something that I know many women didnt do Feel free to get help for you, but it benefits everyone afterward. (I had ex gfs fail at that. It was a cycle).
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 02:12 AM
-1

I think people should villanize more often
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 02:24 AM
1

Are you done done with men?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 12:06 AM
1

This is a tough situation. Have you guys ever set boundaries?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/23 12:06 AM
1

Chicken it is !
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 03:33 PM
1

Does he have anxiety issues using a phone?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 12:54 PM
1

He might just be stressed out, burned out?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:40 AM
1

Is he better talking in person?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:39 AM
1

Are you appearing too thirsty?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:37 AM
1

Hire a coach?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:36 AM
1

Weird question: what kind of lessons learned did you pull from the experience, at least from your end?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:34 AM
-2

Fck and sck him so he won't? I'm wondering if we are getting pulled here?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:27 AM
1

But those guys dry out eventually
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:17 AM
2

Tell him you will pick one from three options. I did this with my ltr and they dug it. They also understood when I said that we won’t go if you can’t make the one choice
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 08:05 PM
2

Meal planning or if a date, three options from him and you pick one. If you can’t pick, no date.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 01:34 PM
2

Is this not degrading to speak like this? My question: Was he trying to be cheeky? Everyone I know of (men and women) that went through breastfeeding times, had somewhat equal humor about it. (Ubu, nannies, feeders, etc). You may just have a different idea of what is funny, considering you are currently the one doing the little sleep, latched onto dance of life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 11:22 PM
1

A DADT "cover"? Its been a while, brings back memories
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 11:11 PM
2

VZ, she may need to. Hard sell for a guy anywhere near his 20s
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 05:17 PM
2

Is she a lesbian? Meant seriously
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 12:37 PM
2

Try two times a day on the low end when I started, pre injury days
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 12:36 PM
1

So... occasional maintenance sex with a woman that has no interest in having sex with me?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 11:01 AM
3

Have you seen a doctor for a physical? Hormones checked?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 11:00 AM
3

You found step 1
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 09:28 PM
5

Do you have RBF? Are you naturally negative?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/23 01:50 AM
5

It takes a lot to fund passion, especially when passion won’t fund life. Tell him that he seems happiest when he does “x”. I was told that when I made a chunk of money but working a job that was killing who I was.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 01:01 PM
2

You might as well look at your options
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 12:37 PM
2

He doesn’t seem focused on what he said he wanted to focus on.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 12:36 PM
3

Thank you for sharing this. You captured the essence of what I was getting at
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/23 12:34 PM
1

An empty room isn’t a reason to escalate a relationship I also have told guys that they don’t need to cohabitate. No need for a wife lite due to being lonely. I made the mistake and it is easier to see if a relationship can grow if you live apart. It is also a good way for a man to grow as a man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 07:34 PM
25

There isn’t a number but not having vitality or life in your eyes is a thing
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/23 07:30 PM
7

Adopt a mindset of gratitude and service?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 06:51 PM
2

Don’t He needs to find a roommate
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/23 12:48 PM
1

I follow what you are saying. My buddy's ex fiancee was close to part of that
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/23 03:02 AM
1

Multiple sins and people talked?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 11:16 PM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9kl2j8/glossary_of_terms_and_acronyms/
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 11:14 PM
18

Maybe you ”look” younger ?
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 11:13 PM
2

Love men in general before dating. Ignore false societal beliefs Meditation and self love
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 08:43 PM
1

I need to be the Aholes Advocate here: Can you understand why a guy would be lukewarm about a woman who doesn’t want to hold hands, kiss, or be physical with them? How long should a man wait for you to “come along”?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 07:44 PM
3

Is your church actively fostering new couples? Many churches don’t, at least the ones I knew of around the various colleges and places I have been in the past.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/23 01:42 PM
8

I don’t believe in airing dirty laundry. Bring your beef to the person.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/23 12:49 AM
3

I am not sure if I saw suggestions here of improv or acting class. I'm also not sure if counseling is an idea. I would think so if there are ingrained thoughts from the past
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 11:02 PM
1

Maybe he just didnt see much of a promise out of you both, as a unit? Ive had the experience where I got a bad read from someone. Did he feel like you didnt have a level of attraction between you both? I felt that way before when a woman was hesitant, even before sex was a thought.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:42 PM
7

Do you have RBF?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:31 PM
2

Weird question: Outside of sex (or a lack thereof), what kind of girlfriend were you? Did you have any gf skills? Did you "sit and look pretty"?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:14 PM
6

Two options: (a) He fights against the ideas because it is contrary against what he believes in (b) He embraces it and it changes things so much that she gets upset that he actually did it but did it so well.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 10:54 AM
3

Are you ready for what might happen? Not just the good?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 10:51 AM
1

cringe lyrics Reminds me of Hearts Alone, amongst other songs, that change when the perspective shifts from a man to a woman. To Love You More from Celine Dion is up there too.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:02 PM
1

I would put that on the list, but it would be hate reading for a ton of people.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 01:14 PM
1

But don’t get hung up on fairness or keeping score as that is not going to end well. I doubt that the OP is considering this. It seems that she is trying to be unhappy, somewhat.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 11:58 AM
1

evelop a weekly housework and cooking roster? This makes more sense than waiting for each other to read minds
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 11:55 AM
1

At least you have a system
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 11:48 AM
5

I meant it as a good thing. A positive look at things and not assuming the worst of things. I also look back at hidden blessings and learning opportunities.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 05:15 PM
1

awwlexis mentioned "thank god it didnt work out". It takes a different kind of person to look at things that way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 03:46 PM
14

I acknowledge that life hits in threes. I also acknowledge that my choices and circumstance sometimes combine to create a shit sandwich.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 01:34 PM
1

Are you looking for a conflict or a reason to be unhappy?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 12:30 PM
4

Make exercise a bigger part of your life Grow your hair long
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/23 04:41 PM
0

He wants to have sex with you, not against you. Have you ever looked into dom/sub stuff?
/r/RedPillWives12/06/23 11:00 AM
6

Brutish realities connected to doing the same things over and over, but then not getting a desired effect.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/23 02:44 PM
1

So hire a photographer to take shots at a park or something I do plan on doing this. I havent been "using" old photos for anything like that. Everyone's comments reminded me that I need to get professional photos done for various business reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 01:19 AM
1

Its a challenge to get more than one friend in the same room for something good. A funeral, maybe. But that isn't good. I would love to have some up to date photos.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 12:10 AM
-2

decade-old photos The ones I can find arent that flattering. At least I look like an adult now
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:35 PM
6

Some ubergym bros filter the shit out of some photos Lifts in shoes? Stripes and strategic camera angles?
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 06:34 PM
4

If he is in the military, stress is/was a killer.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 08:20 PM
1

How long has he been gone?
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 08:18 PM
3

I have been told that enforcing your boundaries often makes people of all sorts, feel proper. Or at least when you over come the drive to peacekeep or “be nice”
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 04:13 PM
3

DJ Khaled didn't help
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 01:53 AM
4

I'm not sure what kind of pill this is, but enjoying "the dance" is a huge part
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 01:51 AM
1

No, I've done it. Not the worst, but I haven't had a bad experience. I'm not Jacques Cousteau, but I haven't dove Hawke's Bay. I guess that makes plenty of men "gay for p*ssy".
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 01:49 AM
3

I hope you appreciate men and value their part of the human existence
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 04:16 PM
1

Eliot Hulse did on occasion
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 10:45 PM
5

Using outliers as examples of a mean is mostly dishonest from an intellectual perspective. It helps deter people on both sides of the relationship struggles
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 10:44 PM
2

Have you sought out medical help
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 09:47 PM
2

"Does having children strengthen your bond to your husband?" If it means something to both parties. "does a childfree marriage mean less commitment from either side?" Depends on the people and the outlook, many variables "Would a man feel less indebted to or devoted to their wife if they didn't carry their children?" Depends on if the man wanted the children and intensity of intentions Comment on your mother's quote: "men often just re-marry someone younger and have children then, you don't have…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 01:41 PM
20

She is against you. I wouldn't put it past her to do some more janky crap to try to get you out of the picture. She won't give up. He needs to find a male friend. It is one thing that I have a level of prejudice when it comes to friends, but I think every healthy man should have a healthy male best friend.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 10:40 AM
4

Remember that people around you struggle with many things in their lives. They are unique. Just be patient with them, golden rule/reciprocity stuff. Feel free to speak but actively keep an ear open first. Care.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 12:25 AM
1

The same to you. I do politely suggest that you should communicate early easier instead of making it hard later. (Festering, etc)
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/23 10:38 AM
4

TBH, that isn't me. I know of a few that never had a honest discussion about sex before they got married. Frank discussions and honesty have helped me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/23 02:11 AM
3

Hot for others but not for me Anecdotal evidence showed that the born agains ended up not having furvor for sex when they got married too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 11:31 PM
5

Don't be surprised when believers label you as disingenuous.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 11:28 PM
1

Don't have shifting boundaries. Verbalize your complaints. She also doesn't seem to want to grow up. She is "holding on to hope". I'm not sure if she is "getting along to get on" (or whatever the phrase is), but she isn't communicating well. (I am personally trying to get better references, but what I listed is "for starters").
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 05:06 PM
3

Will you be surprised when someone accuses you of "jumping in right before the finish line"? It might be a big detractor. Did you find religion because you failed at your old life? Or that religion is your fall back? Many people that had faith and lived a better life find it off.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 05:02 PM
1

It is under a header, on the side of the subreddit, that says "The Official RPW Wiki". It was formerly called the sidebar. Not my intention to mislead
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 09:46 PM
3

Sweetheart, you have a lot of work to do. Do you read sidebar material?
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 07:12 PM
5

Don't marry him
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 07:11 PM
0

Learn and do the work
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 05:05 PM
1

nothing near red flag It isnt exactly a green flag for LTR, but it isnt terrible.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 04:10 PM
12

The less waves the better when launching a ship line. A small amount can be handled but an aware man would steer clear in the long run
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 03:12 AM
0

Hit and miss
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 03:11 AM
0

Baking and vegetables sound nice. Good GF stuff. It will take a lot of gf skills to make up. Good luck, the traveling thing might be a tough nut.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 12:01 AM
2

Don't let it hurt your self-vision. Do you have something that makes you, "you"?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/23 06:11 PM
0

Yeah, I will step backward into the background now.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/23 04:11 PM
3

Do you have pulse and BP stats?
/r/TheRedPill25/05/23 03:49 PM
2

If you are a business partner or owner of the business, I would ask him for a buy out offer.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 03:42 PM
8

He sounds busy and distracted.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 11:19 AM
3

That is closer to understandable. These are things that you will need to iron out, but they are things to ponder when you are considering someone for a life partner. But I do want to warn you about income statistics for men, specifically the percentage of men that make over $100,000 per year. (US dollars). I know that you didnt specifically say what the number was, but COL will hit big. Pardon the artillery/surface fire support reference, but "adjust for fire". Never mind the commute distance to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 06:54 PM
11

"Money matters a lot to me because of the life I want to provide for my kids" What does this constitute? Can you settle for a mom car versus a Benz? Etc? A certain lifestyle? Are you a stereotype mom type or are you a frugal type? Are you trying to live in a high COL area? Polite request for definition of terms.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 06:45 PM
2

I believe that it would be okay to ask a close friend to check the sensitivity settings or if applicable, call the monitoring company.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/23 05:10 PM
4

No, just get back to looking Challenge isn't worth it
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 01:58 AM
0

I got banned for bringing up stuff like that on different subreddits. No, I drew the line in a place where I thought was decent and would be acceptable in my home area.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/23 12:50 AM
0

You may jest, but I knew all sorts. Good times and great people.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/23 10:57 AM
0

I sang the joys of the male only ship. We never had the problems that the Gompers had. Meet and socialize with women in port, much easier
/r/RedPillWives22/05/23 10:01 PM
4

Time to heal. Have you considered continuous counseling and/or coaching? Have you considered taking up lifting?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 12:16 PM
-1

Both of you need to get more "healthy" before you try to be in each others lives that way. Be a good co-parent first, work on yourselves second. Don't be manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 11:51 AM
2

A lot of that has to do with hormonal balance. This is something that is overlooked when it comes to the benefits of exercise, especially lifting.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 11:36 AM
2

makes me more tired at night which is good!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 11:35 AM
1

"Doap" for you to say kind words!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 01:29 PM
2

Arrested professional success Peak/fall testosterone levels Mental health/socialization Cognitive loss
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 01:27 PM
8

There are many walls for men
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 01:39 PM
1

When I was a younger man, it was nearly impossible to find a woman under 25 who would take a young man seriously when it came to LTR/marriage. 23 hit the wall? No, I doubt that a man with awareness will “find a younger unit”. I do want you to not give up, though.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 06:26 PM
2

You must be given some credit that you are able to have some type of self observation. You ever consider counseling or a coach of some sorts?
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 03:09 PM
1

There must be something else.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 12:44 PM
1

Are you just attracted to assholes?
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 12:03 PM
3

This is mostly true.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 10:57 AM
0

Off topic: I'm not sure that pheromones have been voice as an argument in support of body hair. On topic: Maybe the guy just got comfortable and quit doing it? OP, Have you quit talking about it? He experience more stress?
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 07:18 PM
2

Work on improving things you aren’t good at
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/23 11:26 AM
1

Meditation?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 11:24 PM
-1

Wait
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 06:54 PM
1

No need to ask when behavior and tells usually telegraph the truth
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 10:19 AM
2

Teach a class about #1 and #6
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 08:36 PM
2

Groan
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:48 PM
18

Great if you believe in delusions
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 01:34 AM
1

Two way street
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/23 08:55 PM
2

It’s time to call in every healthy connection you have
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/23 06:10 PM
2

Something might be bothering him
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:33 PM
4

TBH, I have had problems with a few "more simplistic" love choices. It made things hard.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 01:29 PM
1

Are you trying to not be happy?
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 12:48 AM
5

He is trying to warm up the oven slowly to 500 Fahrenheit
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 01:29 AM
2

I don’t cry at funerals but I sobbed watching the last episode of the original Quantum Leap.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 01:28 AM
9

I'll bite. Excessive chore doing for a person, dont do this. If he is feeling bad, kind words and an embrace is one thing, but there is definitely too much at times.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/23 04:13 PM
0

*edit Had to erase the original message. A lot of stuff posted below that add to complexity. I will "eat" this one.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/23 11:55 AM
3

She needs to mention that she should get an outing (spa day). Its called a trade off but he doesnt know because he isnt a mind reader.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/23 10:18 PM
3

attracted to > not attracted to Just own your decision
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 05:52 PM
1

Unfortunately, I agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 05:13 PM
1

"I wonder, would it be better if a third party, someone with my best interest in mind, chose my partner? Maybe we ourselves cannot be objective enough to choose our own best match?" In certain instances, it would be better. Many people can't look past social programming. We used to have "community" for things like this, now many are floundering in the wind or paralyzed by too many options.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 01:32 PM
5

I wish people would have to put forethought into getting married too.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 01:29 PM
2

Friends who always say "you two are perfect for each other" A friend who proclaimed something like this is no longer a friend. Dude was unwise.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 01:25 PM
1

Arranged marriages are good for people that have their proverbial chips in, bad for those that half ass things. I also don't think that they are good for women after multiple failed relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/23 01:23 PM
2

Is there underlying stories to support these anecdotes? Is some of this due to observation? Why have you drug this out for 4 years?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 04:14 PM
2

Much of what you mentioned he said was something that he should have been sharing with a guy, think locker room talk, etc. This is a "strange flag" to me.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 10:50 AM
3

keeping away from smoking, drugs, also helps.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:25 AM
1

Have you two talked about marriage before? Heck, you kind of outkicked the proverbial coverage already.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:24 AM
2

Does he have male friends?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:20 AM
2

"7.) He doesn't believe in apologizing unless he's truly sorry or sees that he's wrong about something (which I find strange as many times, apologies are warranted when you've simply offended or hurt someone)" Differing opinion. Not a red flag
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 02:19 AM
1

Tougher question: Is he allowed to have candid conversations with his friend or closest confidant? Council is something that I hold in serious light. Im not accusing you of eavesdropping, but I think that this information is downgraded in a way. Think poison fruit of the tree or what ever the legal term is. I might be missing a better metaphor or descriptor, but I mean it in earnest. Your concerns are valid, but I would be weary telling him about how you came upon the information.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 11:01 PM
1

Was he just venting to his friend? Many men have weird moments, it doesnt specifically mean that he is a cheater. It just means that he finds women attractive, which is a commonality for many married straight men.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 10:54 PM
2

You sound relatively understanding. Many people expect men to not have friends or a social support system, often to the detriment of everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 10:51 PM
4

From a man's perspective Is it okay to say "from a marsupial's prospective? (Please laugh, This is my feeble attempt at light humor).
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:43 AM
1

then they go radio silent for over a week. Unfortunately, this was me for a few years. Not out of malice but I traveled overseas.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:41 AM
2

people are just less likely to do that to someone they have met in 3 dimensions. This is true for business, pleasure, and friendly relations.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:39 AM
3

feel like you have masculine interests which don’t align with their desires for a woman This isnt said enough
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 02:37 AM
1

Will have to look "farther" and "faster"
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 01:24 PM
1

Insert John McClane reference here
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 10:43 PM
6

Serious question: Do you have RBF?
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 12:10 AM
15

Your age isn’t the problem. It might be communication or transmitting to another person
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/23 12:09 AM
2

I don't disagree with you. I'm a physical person, especially after I have had sex with women before. I have heard of the consolation idea. I also don't know how I would be expected to be monogamous for someone that can't/won't have sex with me. I would have to get it somewhere else. The old me might have been able to work something out with the "service" element.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/23 02:03 AM
1

Divorce ages you, that and I goofed
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 02:42 PM
0

Talk to him before you let him slip one past the goalie. It would look really bad to talk to him afterward.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 10:39 AM
3

Your numbers arent that bad. I would be more worried about being treated like someone that is a runner up or be worried that the sex after marriage would suck. You will have to communicate very well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 05:13 AM
3

What do the guys get instead of sex, for waiting? If you have decent girlfriend game, you might "skirt" any heat. If you don't cook, clean, or "x" as a substitute, it might suck for you. He has had sex with a woman, at least once. Have you talked to him about it? I'm not trying to be mean spirited but many men of that age, including the religious, would walk in that circumstance. It would have to be a very well communicated situation or something with a lot of promise to get me into an arrangeme…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/23 05:11 AM
2

Partial joke: I might get an inch or two at a chiropractor’s office
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 11:03 PM
1

Didn’t they have something like this on Shark Tank that the owner balked on all of the offers?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 11:02 PM
1

Don’t let things fester.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 12:03 AM
2

Leave him a note
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 06:17 AM
73

Culture has a lot to do with it.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/23 10:25 PM
9

Pick one: Victim talk Slippery slope arguments
/r/TheRedPill03/04/23 10:22 PM
3

How many of those women don't know anything about men or won't try to?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 11:06 AM
5

Making yourself a victim is a big thing. Some women do that on purpose. Femcels, they left out ASD types. Running after men that don't want you? A choice.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 11:04 AM
1

Serious question: Will this posting/piece be an opportunity to downvote or turn a nose up to someone else's experience? I have seen it before. Can we not learn and discuss? (I don't have much of an opinion).
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 08:01 AM
0

I follow. I misread this situation. This changes things a bit
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:21 AM
-2

Do you make a habit of springing videos like that one on others?
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 11:20 PM
2

Many paths in life, it is up to those that travel to understand the costs/benefits. (Btw, I think that porn and OF flooded the market, made “it” cheap)
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 01:24 AM
1

Counseling and coaching
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 01:11 AM
2

BTW, I have more shoes than my woman, but it is for a good reason!
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/23 12:31 PM
2

I'm not trying to needle, but have you perused the Wiki?
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/23 04:59 AM
4

Warning sign: He might not be an outright cheater, but he is an "edger". He gets thrills chasing, like a dog with cars. Personality issues. I'm not sure if this guy is worth dealing with. He needs to grow up for himself first.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 11:43 PM
3

The kind of people that never make up their minds because they feel validated, because of all the men/other's attention. Edit. At least certain ones that don't have the processing to see through the mental fog.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 11:33 PM
1

My boyfriend has baggage from the military that has come up in our relationship. He also has baggage that he won’t even talk about, until we’re married. It would scare away most women. Source: Me I had a woman badmouth my struggling with alcohol and insomnia. Never mind my failures and failed relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 01:37 AM
1

He has issues that he is struggling with. I imagine that the sex was the proverbial iceberg. I had mentioned that " sport f*cking" was often the one thing going right in my military haul. This guy might be really upset that his performance faltered or that he disappointed a woman. (Something that I had to learn to deal with early in the ballgame) He needs to "grow on" a bit, learn things that other men should have told him.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 01:14 AM
0

consider letting this friendship go I have gotten flak for suggesting that people shouldn't be friends with people that they have had sex with, I especially warn against this for men. I don't like the blurred lines and I don't believe in having half ass friends. Sex makes things convoluted. The man in the discussion hitting himself is evidence that he is fighting some serious issues. I can not say that what is wrong, but the sexual failure hit him hard. I speculate that having sex might have bee…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 01:03 AM
4

just not with you, or just not that time. My ex gf. I didn't like her and it was something that affected my performance. Other now ex gf: Enjoyable, mostly. I liked the "womanly" part of her. Being nervous was something that I had to learn to get over with my first ex gf. I had to learn to choose/reject women I didn't really like for sex. (Yes, it isnt meant as a flex. Ive told other men that they need to turn down women for sex that they don't actually like). (Im not even going to start with be…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:53 AM
3

It is a good thing for men performance wise, too. I think many women miss this. It is fun for many men, too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:48 AM
5

Drinking Depression Medication (both no performance and "stunt d*ck" syndrome) Anxiety All of these are real. All affect sexual performance.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:46 AM
6

He needs to learn about resiliency and how to manage his emotions. That isn't your responsibility. (I had to learn, so does he). If you both were worth having as friends, which I don't suggest for men, it will be "down the road". He needs to grow for himself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:41 AM
-1

Heck, I would appreciate you being honest. I had several women lie about sex, instead of being straightforward. (Didn't know that I was too big and too rough. No one verbalized that they needed more "handling", etc.) Just move on. It didn't work out. You jumped beyond the turnback point, where you could try to repair something.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:36 AM
1

plenty men across the pol spectrum enjoy dresses on women
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:31 AM
1

super brash sense of humor. Like it’s part of the culture. A lot of them hide it from girls sometimes because they know “in the real world” that stuff won’t go over well. That was me heading home on holidays.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:29 AM
1

Polite warning: Venn Diagramming people lowers the number of men you are going to find. California? You are going to have to hunt big time, either that or move.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:28 AM
1

Judas Priest, just move on!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:25 AM
6

(1) Stop freaking out about it
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/23 12:22 AM
4

Too many options for the wrong people is a real thing too.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/23 09:15 PM
3

John McClane welcomes you to the party
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 06:08 AM
8

They want to bang you, most likely
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 08:52 AM
0

I think he likes having fun with you Do you ever tell him about it?
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 09:31 AM
3

There are some points.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/23 09:04 PM
7

Have you tried working on yourself instead of watching Tate? His content isn't the best for men and Im not sure why you would try to watch it. Weird question: Have you tried to build yourself into something? Also, have you considered getting therapy?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 09:42 AM
2

What ever the username owner says?
/r/TheRedPill23/03/23 07:07 AM
0

Good for people that believe in it
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 07:06 AM
1

Either do what Flying Wingback does or just quit her altogether
/r/TheRedPill22/03/23 11:17 PM
1

He may not be used to being around put together women/people
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/23 01:46 AM
2

Devil’s Advocate: What is an alternative to make up for this? Op and husband aren’t in a strong spot. Try a carrot and not a stick. I definitely would pop smoke if you tried to grandstand like that
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 02:42 AM
-3

Ask him if he has ever thought of getting a bespoke suit made. It is something big and manly. It will benefit both of you. I’m serious. I’m not sure if anyone will understand this, but it might be a start.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 02:38 AM
16

Try to be a better woman in the future
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 01:26 AM
1

Has he had other girlfriends?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 08:16 AM
1

finish maturing Part of this is processing a situation and learning about others. He needs to find the appropriate response to certain situations.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 08:16 AM
3

Don’t attach your life to him if he can’t even have a disagreement with you. He doesnt seem to process very well. He may need to lean on healthier male influences. I had to learn this in my early 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 08:13 AM
1

Encourage him to speak to his friends when he is upset.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 08:10 AM
1

Does he have close male friends?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:32 AM
-5

19 is of age in most of the world. Have you ever thought that age might have not wrecked his relationships, but time/difference/etc might have? Are you going to continue to punish both of you for something that isn't an infraction?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 03:05 AM
3

I would be worried about if the other person had an adverse (unpredicted) reaction to said spanking. That is a big gamble to undertake
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/23 12:17 AM
3

Do you have RBF?
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/23 03:12 PM
2

I follow your sentiments. I hope they both work on this early in the proverbial ballgame
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 08:04 PM
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