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You're wasting your time. If there isn't SOME initial attraction, its unlikely it will form months or years after. What does happen is that 2 people are interested but due to circumstances (e.g. one or both already has a partner, distance) they dont get together that time then yes - a "long term" game may be reasonable. Anything other than that is wasting your time
/r/seduction09/07/26 02:02 PM
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Strip club are in no way a good place to learn game. There are key fundamental differences between the personality and motivation of your average woman VS a stripper.
/r/seduction15/06/26 07:20 PM
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There are lots of signs you'll see. Lean in. Start with small touches, small bumps, smiles. WATCH HER EXPRESSION AND BODY LANGUAGE. Does she smile back? Laugh? Reciprocate with with more touch? Does she move away? Look uncomfortable? Do NOT take anything personal. Focus on yourself, what you're doing, and what you can control, rather than anyone else. Once you can do that, it'll be much easier to read, and to move on from unsuccessful interactions
/r/seduction22/02/26 04:39 PM
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Send her an apology, move on, and continue to work on yourself. If she decides to come back to you that's up to her.
/r/seduction22/02/26 04:29 PM
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You don't realise it yet, but you've already lost.
/r/seduction22/02/26 04:24 PM
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Yoga class. Youth leadership type of international meetings
/r/seduction21/02/26 11:33 PM
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Make friends while in the line. My go to joke in the line is to say something along the lines of "this line is SO long. I'm going to throw you over inside...you distract the bouncer while I sneak inside". Just say something funny and silly. Find a bar/club that's relatively crowded so there's less awkwardness. Make context related jokes - at the bar, in the line, while getting food, etc. If anyone asks your "friend/friends" bailed while you were already on your way to the club and you didn't wan…
/r/seduction21/02/26 11:29 PM
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There's no way to progress this relationship. It's time to "let it burn". The best thing you can do is to spend your time and energy on other women who are actually sexually attracted to you and not one who's using you for attention and fun times.
/r/seduction21/02/26 11:22 PM
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She wasn't interested. Nothing you'd say or do would have made her more interested. She sees you as a friend and enjoys the attention, that's all. All escalating did was make her clearly state her lack of sexual interest, which is actually great for you. Chalk.it up to the game and keep it pushing
/r/seduction09/11/25 04:42 AM
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Honestly these are situations where it's easy to overthink because you're too invested. You don't know her, she doesn't know you. Feel free to message her back, but also be active in looking at other options and not be too invested whether you get a reply or not.
/r/seduction22/06/25 01:15 AM
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Send a message that requires an actual reply Go talk to other women. Don't get too caught up on THIS SPECIFIC WOMAN because there are plenty of other options out there Go pursue other options until SHE expresses more interest in you. Rinse and repeat. Having fun and being sexually attracted are two different things.
/r/seduction22/06/25 01:12 AM
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Great answers already. But to summarise for you: Half the women on apps have no intention of EVER meeting anyone, they're on there for the attention and validation Online isn't "real life". Until you've met up, to many people, it's just a game and isn't real. You WILL get ghosted, so don't invest individually too much until you've actually met up with these women in person.
/r/seduction22/06/25 01:02 AM
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For you, the best option would be to screen the guys on dating apps. Not what they say, but their personal background and dating history. Have they had LTR before? What is the reason they're on a dating app? Are they publicly saying they're looking to build relationships or "see how things go"? As a woman you're dating options via dating apps are supercharged - YES the majority are only looking for a hookup but you can easily screen for the 10% who are interested in an LTR. The other option is t…
/r/seduction22/06/25 12:58 AM
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Almost certainly another guy is in the picture, possibly a boyfriend
/r/seduction04/05/25 11:15 PM
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I've met multiple women in clubs, made out, had sex/relationships. What you say isn't important, but how you portray yourself, and when you approach, is critical. Something simple like "I love purple" when she's wearing something purple, or joking that the bar service is so slow I'm going to pick her up and throw her over to get us both drinks, works if you have a fun, playful vibe. Definitely make sure she sees you first, approach with a big smile, and situational openers are fine. I generally …
/r/seduction17/02/25 04:46 PM
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Or choose your moment. Best areas for pickup are in the line waiting to get in , the bar, or the smoking section. There you can have better opportunities to build rapport/comfort. As was said your main goal should NOT be to get contact info, but to build comfort, connection, and sexual interest
/r/seduction15/02/25 01:25 PM
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You're playing the role of fun girlfriend who gives her attention that she doesn't have to have sex with. You're willing to go on MORE dates without sex too, so lots of benefits for her to continue. If she was sexually interested in you, at the VERY LEAST she'd have kissed on the second date. So yeah, just tell her that you enjoy her company but you're looking for someone interested. Or you can ghost her. Either way works
/r/seduction15/02/25 01:20 PM
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There are plenty of men (such as myself) getting dates, relationships, and yes sex. And I can guarantee the vast majority have never approached 20 women in a day much less 200. That being said, cold approach is critical, but primarily for men to know who, how and when to approach. The best approach is one where you don't have to spend time to "convince" a woman to approach you. After some cold approaches, you'll learn to read the signs on who's a good woman to approach and who isn't
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 11:26 PM
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First off, congratulations at approaching. It takes a lot of guts and I know how difficult it can be to approach, so props to you for making the effort Secondly, the mindset that she owes you ANYTHING just because YOU approached in a way that YOU felt was respectful is a one way ticket to sadness and Incel land. At the end of the day she was not rude or disrespectful - she simply didn't want to engage with a random guy who she has never met and knows nothing about. Thirdly, I can tell that your …
/r/seduction04/12/24 05:54 PM
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No offense but once she opened you she was already invested enough that the conversation probably didn't matter much, you just had to make sure to appear reasonably interesting.
/r/seduction02/11/24 06:08 AM
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Sorry to say, but this is a dumb, trolling post. The question is clearly aimed at deciding what TYPE of person their potential partner is, and has nothing to do with golddigging
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 04:59 PM
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First off you need to be with someone who doesn't mind non-monogamy. Have you even spoken to your gf about this?
/r/seduction17/02/24 03:57 AM
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Again, nobody is saying to date someone you're NOT attracted to. I'm simply saying, that their physical/sexual attraction might not be the main/most important feature in your attraction to that person. And that's FINE.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 01:31 PM
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OP said you don't NEED crazy sexual attraction. I've dated persons I didn't have crazy sexual too. This doesn't mean that you're NOT attracted to them. And why would you tell anyone " I didn't have crazy sexual attraction " anyway? Haven't you ever dated someone you were attracted to but the sexual/physical wasn't the major draw?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 11:04 PM
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This isn't what OP is saying, IMHO. There's more to attraction than physical looks. OP is saying, it's not always the best idea to go for the best looking person you can get, because then that means that you suddenly have more competition to keep them. I'm sure I'm not the best looking man some of my other girlfriends have dated. I do have other intangibles that do make up for that though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 09:28 PM
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Just pointing out, there are multiple studies and experiments showing that even with accounting for attractiveness and pictures, women will get significantly more matches/messages than men
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 01:44 AM
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I meant it as a statement of fact. It's not a opinion so it can be neither positive or negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 12:40 AM
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The fact that someone is a "self proclaimed" feminist doesn't mean that they have the foggiest clue about feminism. Again I ACTIVELY work with feminists and they certainly aren't the bogey(wo)men they're made out to be. The ones who aren't just keyboard warriors are the ones I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:55 PM
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Huh? When did I say anything positive about communism? I was giving a relevant example. Can you tell me what "joys and peace" I lied pr spoke about?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:51 PM
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Highly disagree with several of your statements. I work with an organisation that focuses on men and boys, and feminists actively work with us to address men's issues. Also, no actual feminist I know deny biological differences between men and women, or deny that there are many gender related issues that negatively affect men that need to be addressed
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:03 PM
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First off, I never said that EVERY issue should be addressed, I'm making a point that gendered social norms are directly related to feminism, whether those norms directly impact women OR men. Secondly, there have been several movements that have directly addressed issues outside their care group. For example communists role in supporting anti colonial rule in Africa. Waiting for you to move the goalpost some more.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:06 PM
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The issue isn't about regulating choices, but about addressing obviously gendered and biased social norms that contribute to further inequality. Also, if you want others go advocate for changing inequity and inequality on one side, you should ABSOLUTELY be willing to address those inequalities facing others on the other side. To not do so makes you look very hypocritical and lose support. And I am very happy that many of my female feminist friends recognise both points and actively work to.addre…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:16 PM
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One of the worse things that people do is rush into a serious relationship without properly knowing the partner, and sometimes having kids. It takes probably a good 6 months of dating someone before you START to see all the negative character traits but by then you're already in top deep and the sunk cost fallacy sets in
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 02:47 PM
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IN GENERAL I agree with your premise. However, you can DEFINITELY increase attraction by improving your physical shape. And looks definitely do matter for women, although not AS MUCH for men. What you're not taking into account is that for a woman, the ideal partner and the ideal sexual mate are actually often not the same.
/r/seduction14/06/23 05:18 PM
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I've either always paid or offered to pay. If you gonna "shoot up the club" you gotta have bail money!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 01:15 AM
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Great list
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:40 AM
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Just by dressing well a man can definitely improve his attractiveness
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 02:39 AM
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This isn't the gotcha that you think it is. This is like asking why persons advocating to end poverty don't sell ALL their possessions, and accuse them of being hypocritical for not doing so. There's a balance between what should be reasonably provided.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 03:27 AM
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A dating agency? A binder of women's pictures? When was this, 1985? I call BS on this whole story
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:32 PM
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It's not blatantly obvious. And ps - you're no different from the same person's you're complaining about. You're not "being critical" by repeating right wing viewpoints, down to reusing the exact same key words. You're as much a sheep as the ones you're complaining about, you just don't realise it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:56 AM
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Sigh. The FDA is an AMERICAN institution, so studies in other countries would not have had ANY FDA involvement. And several of these studies and meta analyses were not done by government agencies but by independent institutions. Correlation does not equal causation l, so your argument about "observable reality" does not provide a full or explanatory picture. However- I realise that absolutely no information I present will change your mind. You've obviously already come to your own conclusions, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:22 AM
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They did not. An equivalent type statement was made and a good marketing agency ran with it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:16 AM
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There is no causal link between Autism and vaccines, and this has been demonstrated in multiple peer reviewed studies across multiple countries and even continents
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:34 PM
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Lol. In my mid 30s. Had more than double the partners I had in my 20s, since in my 20s I was in a series of long term serious relationships. However, looking to wind down now as I'm not as young as I used to be and 40 is getting closer and closer without children You'll be fine well into your 30s.
/r/seduction25/10/22 06:37 PM
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First off, you can avoid MOST of the issues of uncomfortableness through gradual escalation. You'll want to get physically close to her, light touches, and SEE HOW SHE REACTS. Flirt and SEE HOW SHE REACTS. does she engage with flirting or brush it off and move to the next topic? When you get close does she move away or lean into you? You want to give her the opportunity to give you a "soft no" without verbalising it. Gradually escalate. Green light? Keep escalating! Secondly, there will ALWAYS b…
/r/seduction09/10/22 09:06 PM
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Apologise briefly, stop making cringy/sexual jokes, and keep it moving.
/r/seduction05/10/22 12:53 PM
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The fact that women choose not to access casual sex doesn't make it any less of a privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 10:28 PM
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As a short guy who's either average looking or slightly above average looking, who definitely is NOT rich or high status, I disagree. I've been successful in dozens of cold approaches, several of which have led to relationships or sex. I agree that looks money and status are important, but game is also important. When I was younger (teens, Early 20s) I had no game . After really understanding game my results improved dramatically
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 04:41 AM
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This isn't representative of most men, both addicts and clean There will be some men with drug addiction problems who are very attractive to women- some because of the bad boy persona, others because of the type of crowd (women) they are around on a regular basis. Very few specifically because of the drugs- this just happens to be incidental. PS - I have worked at a drug rehabilitation center for the past 5 years so I do have some extra insight.
/r/seduction01/10/22 04:30 AM
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What you said is factually. A child will not ALWAYS do best with two biological parents. In general and overall terms, yes. This is neither a rule or a law, and its very much possible for a single man to successfully raise a child on his own.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 07:52 PM
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Honestly don't take it personally. She probably has several, or even dozens of men willing to date. Even though she had a good time with you, she probably found someone she vibed with more. Also, there's the possibility that she already has a man, and was just "distraction dating". Either way, take the advice from the sub - make sure to take her to another venue where you can escalate more easily, and see how it goes there
/r/seduction22/09/22 12:56 AM
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Really weird how people have so many issues with things they've never tried. As someone who's 5"7 I'll put in my 2 cents. Online dating doesn't work well for me - the ones I wanted weren't interested and the few who were were unnatactive to me. "Cold approach is a no-no". Why? I've had reasonable success cold approaching. Rarely have I gotten the impression that women were uncomfortable. On the occasions I did, I jusr bounced and moved onto someone else. My advice to fellow short men is to max o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 05:23 PM
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People paying for sex or sexual content isn't exactly a new trend....if men want to pay that's totally up to them. I could pirate TV Shows but I still also have a couple subscriptions. I don't mind paying for them and the persons providing the content are giving me a service. Win/win
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:52 AM
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Nobody is going to "beat" Myron in a debate because all he does is regurgitate specific talking points. When challenged on inaccuracies he just moves to another point or repeats it again. Not much of a debate
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 11:23 PM
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Honestly this is a burn. Been in the same position. If she was REALLY interested she'd make the effort, but she probably enjoys the attention, you're probably ok to slightly above average looking/interesting, so it's a way for her to get validation. Pay little attention, move on, if she comes back great, but make it clear that she needs to make it up to you (in a fun, flirty way). If she doesn't get back to you - then there are more fish in a nearly endless ocean. PS- If she's hot she undoubtedl…
/r/seduction15/09/22 11:18 AM
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LOL. You make it sound as if being a man is such a miserable existence. I'm neither very rich, extremwly good looking or tall, but I genuinely enjoy my time as a man. Secondly, women are not loved "unconditionally " as you claim. That's just being ridiculous and ignoring the issues that women face, as a group. Thirdly, Andrew Tate isn't disliked because of a few statements taken out of context. He INTENTIONALLY makes sexist/,misogynistic statements for the purposes of increasing attention to his…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 05:37 PM
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This was a great post, and demonstration that change can be achieved. The important thing was the way you framed your interactions in a fun playful way Great work bro keep it up
/r/seduction08/09/22 10:25 PM
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Great work. However as was mentioned, you'll want to be approaching several women at a time. Not because you're trying to be a player, but because IN THE MOMENT a woman may give you her number because she's nice, doesn't know how to say no, appreciative of the attention, etc but has no intentions on actually going out with you
/r/seduction07/08/22 06:09 AM
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Sorry not based in London, but wouldn't mind winging next year, I I'll be back in London then
/r/seduction04/08/22 06:58 PM
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Go out alone OR with friends. The only thing unproductive is NOT taking action
/r/seduction26/06/22 10:41 PM
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This is factually and verifiably incorrect. Source: my grandfather who had three children with his third wife, all in his 50s. Please tell me any woman you know who's naturally conceived three children in her 50s
/r/seduction25/06/22 04:31 PM
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Sir this will be my final response to you, because you seem intent on deliberately misinterpreting what I said. NOWHERE did I say, hint, or suggest that men are worth less than women. NOWHERE did I say, hint or suggest that men aren't contributing to families. My point was simply that as women bear most of the risk and responsibility for child rearing/caring, I can understand why they would expect more upfront , as men IN GENERAL do not have these risks or responsibilities .
/r/seduction16/06/22 03:00 PM
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Same as I'd approach anyone else Confidently With a smile Small joke/icebreaker about something they're wearing or how they look Positive response- physical escalation
/r/seduction16/06/22 12:53 AM
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Both of my parents worked, and my mother ended up (towards the end of her career). Making more than my father. The significant majority of women with children in Western society ALSO work, either part time or full time (around 75%). And financial income isnt the only contribution to a family that a man/woman can make
/r/seduction16/06/22 12:08 AM
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She likes physical touch. Just not with you. Time to move on to someone actually attracted rather than to try to fix a dead relationship
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:02 PM
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Good on approaching. Sounds like you need some work on your confidence and body language. I encourage you to follow channels like charism on command for tips to help you improve your approach
/r/seduction15/06/22 09:59 PM
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Honestly the talk about "stranger danger" responses is significantly overexaggerated. Even during covid I've approached dozens of women in bars and clubs, and never had a seriously negative response. For me, I'd probably walk over, introduce myself, and joke about offering my expensive bodyguard services but being willing to give her a discount cause she looks interesting.
/r/seduction15/06/22 09:54 PM
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Nothing really different. I've been with/hooked up with older women in bars and clubs (I'm mid 30s, and have been with women up to 10 years older).
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:04 PM
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Not really. It's true that men put in most of the effort upfront, but with child bearing and rearing women do have challenges that we don't have to deal with on the backend. So I personally can't blame a woman for wanting that upfront investment.
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:01 PM
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You're overthinking. Just out of consideration, you should text. At this point, it won't make a difference on whether things will continue
/r/seduction15/06/22 02:12 PM
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It depends on the situation. I usually try to sat something funny, or provide a specific compliment. Definitely a situational opener thar I usually figure out just before the approach.
/r/seduction31/05/22 07:46 PM
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It will make her feel more comfortable about giving you her number or commiting to another action (e.g. going on a date)
/r/seduction24/05/22 06:25 PM
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Greater SEXUAL demand. Relationship? Not nearly as much.
/r/seduction02/05/22 01:54 PM
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What's wrong with dating persons in your own league?
/r/seduction02/05/22 01:20 PM
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Go for it
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:21 PM
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I agree that your approach probably needs some work, which is why you're getting that reaction. Unfortunately, the majority of communication is body language and voice tonality- unless we can get an accurate understanding of how you look and sound it can be difficult to give really accurate advise.
/r/seduction20/04/22 08:20 PM
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It doesn't need to make sense to you though....that's not the point!
/r/seduction17/04/22 02:42 PM
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I never hinted or suggested that going into a war has the same type of repercussions as a relationship. Simply that the SCALE of the repercussions for going into war are as large or larger than going into a relationship. And if nobody judges an adult for one, then they shouldn't for the other.
/r/seduction17/04/22 01:42 PM
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We're not talking about empathy. Adults should be allowed to make their own choices on their own bodies and relationships, without judgement, unless some severe harm is being done to themselves or others.
/r/seduction17/04/22 01:39 PM
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You're arguing something different now. The DEFINITION of a gold digger is someone who is with a partner for their money, its not how "haters" look at it. And no, they're not the same. Unless you're saying that EVERY relationship is transactional if someone has a certain trait they prefer (fitness, height, facial features). What's the difference between wanting to date a younger person (who is an adult), and wanting to date a tall person? Is someone picking a partner because they're tall despite…
/r/seduction17/04/22 01:37 PM
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A gold digger is not interested in the other partner: they're interested in their money and PRIMARILY their money. Someone in a relationship with a person significantly younger than them is interested in that person. There's a big difference.
/r/seduction17/04/22 09:19 AM
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I have never heard ANYONE complain that an adult (over the age of 18) should not join the army because his/her brain is " not fully developed" or argue that the age for joining the army should be moved to 25. And possibly going into war has as many or even more mental and emotional repercussions as going into a relationship does it not? If you're old enough to go to war and kill people, you're old enough to get into whatever (consensual) relationship you please. Even if there's a 10, 20, or 40 y…
/r/seduction17/04/22 09:17 AM
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I usually let her know what I will be paying for, and then what I expect her to cover
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:29 PM
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Persons can be manipulated by others at any age. This is a ridiculous statement based on personal biases rather than any fact. Not only that it puts an unreasonable burden on men and downgrades women.
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:41 AM
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This is always a strange argument because people are deemed mature for LITERALLY everything else by 21, so if this is THE issue why are we not given provisional licences until 25? Or not allowed to sign up for the army until 25? Or not allowed to vote until 25? Secondly I don't believe in MOST instances that women who are 21+ are naive enough to know that their youth is actually an additional attractive asset. The idea the younger women automatically have less power in a relationship is incorrec…
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:34 AM
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Lol. Young one, your life is just getting started. There will be LOTS of opportunities to meet women from here on out. College is but a small pool compared to an ocean of possibilities.
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:40 AM
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You're doing too much, and being stupid with not using protection. If it bothers you, don't start this shit up. Either tell her how you feel, or move on if it bothers you.
/r/seduction14/04/22 10:29 AM
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This is such a weird story I find it hard to believe. First off where did you meet these girls? Second, why are you a "kiss less virgin". Thirdly, it is highly, highly unlikely that someone with no seduction skills (I.e. a self described kissless virgin who's introverted) would have the ability to negotiate a fwb situation right off the bat. Especially since OP describes this woman as being hot. IF this story is true, the only thing I can think of is that OP is being catfished. It is far from no…
/r/seduction13/04/22 10:25 AM
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Yea. Read up. Practice. Learn
/r/seduction12/04/22 08:41 PM
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At this point there's not much you can do. Find a new girl, stay preoccupied, and let her come to you
/r/seduction12/04/22 07:45 PM
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Nope. You can't beg for attraction. The issue isn't that she needs more "connection " or else she would have asked him for it. OP needs to leave her alone and focus on himself
/r/seduction12/04/22 07:43 PM
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You're 19. Honestly, don't sweat it. Just chalk it up as a learning experience. If a woman likes you enough she'll come back. If not - then move on to the next. One piece of advice- try oral next time
/r/seduction12/04/22 11:37 AM
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OP, I can guarantee you that it's more likely she found someone she considered a "better option" I doubt that there was much you could have done in this situation. Just keep pushing to the next
/r/seduction12/04/22 11:34 AM
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I highly doubt this. When a woman wants something serious she will almost always verbalise this, even if indirectly ( eg where is this going, what are we). If she says that she wasn't seriously considering a relationship, you can bet your bottom dollar that she's NOT feeling the opposite
/r/seduction12/04/22 11:32 AM
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A lot of the BPD issues don't present themselves until months down the line or don't seem that serious initially. At least one did tell me but it took 3-4 months of dating to see the signs and by then we were already In a relationship. Another it was pretty severe so I broke things off after 3 weeks of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 10:17 AM
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Observation. What is her body language saying to you? What is her tone of voice talking to you? Is she making strong eye contact or nervous and fidgety and not comfortable in the conversation? Point out something in the bar/ club as an excuse to make physical contact. Does she lean forward or lean away? Finally, if someone is obviously uncomfortable, tje best thing to do is just leave, not plow ahead. When I get obvious signals of disinterest I leave. However the majority of times when just havi…
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:09 AM
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I agree, but I've moved multiple times from introduction to make out in less than 5 minutes
/r/seduction11/04/22 08:04 AM
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People identify with emotions rather than words. The point of approach is to cultivate a particular positive emotion and spread it to others (women). I cracked jokes about food, the length of an entry line, how long it's taking me to get drinks, etc. It's what I'm feeling at the moment that i can draw them into that they can ALSO identify with
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:48 PM
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If you're looking for a script there is none. Go towards situations that you're feeling fun and genuinely interested in. Women you're genuinely attracted to for a SPECIFIC reason. Make them smile and laugh. Tease them. Have fun and make sure they're having fun
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:37 PM
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Simple, authentic approaches where I notice something interesting and unique about the person. Other than that- approaches where the woman is physically attracted to me.
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:34 PM
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Calibration is simply observing what went wrong and trying something different. Watching other successful approaches and changing your approach. Watching body language and approach based on that. Too many guys go in with one approach. Calibration Is about observation, learning and change
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:15 PM
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Your interaction should be seeking to establish rapport - I.e. "vibe". You can escalate but ONLY if you're establishing comfort first. Honestly you should be going in with the mindset to have a fun time rather than sex. Your presence should add some benefit. A little nervousness is OK, once you can keep approaching and having fun!
/r/seduction10/04/22 08:19 PM
2

She probably has a boyfriend/ partner but wanted some passion/excitement. If that's the case, not much you can do except sit back, DO NOT message her, and wait for her to come to you
/r/seduction10/04/22 03:03 PM
6

This is brilliant and deserves more love.
/r/seduction10/04/22 02:28 PM
5

Cold approach doesn't mean that you're disrespectful. I've made several female friends through cold approach. Men should be interesting people AND have to confidence to cold approach someone who's attractive that they need to talk to to.find out IF they want to take things further
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:16 AM
4

I've made many friends, and had several girlfriends from cold approach.
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:12 AM
190

Yeah, this sounds like a social skills/calibration issue. If you continually get the "I have a boyfriend" feedback you're definitely not calibrating your approaches. You're not making them feel comfortable or attracted before you escalate, or you escalate straight off the bat. If you're consistently getting bad results, it's something that you need to fix, rather than everyone else being the problem. Once you calibrate things will be much better!
/r/seduction10/04/22 09:11 AM
2

You should establish comfort, attraction and rapport before giving out your number. If you're going to hand your number out to 100 women randomly unless you have done those things above, you'll lose 100 times
/r/seduction23/03/22 12:33 AM
5

I can tell by your post that you probably havent calibrated your body language to make them comfortable with your approach. Watch some videos on good approaches and model good body language. Also - don't be disheartened by not succeeding at your first two approaches. Focus on what you've learned and put it in practice and you'll be continually improving. Also remember - no woman owes you her time and attention. If she had to talk to every random guy who approached that would put a serious strain…
/r/seduction22/03/22 12:52 PM
3

Apps are HORRIBLE for men unless you're good looking, tall, and have a good profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:45 PM
1

I'm interested bro
/r/seduction05/03/22 01:35 AM
1

I'm in bro
/r/seduction05/03/22 01:35 AM
1

Sounds interesting, I'm in
/r/seduction05/03/22 01:34 AM
1

Hey bro, willing to wing with you. Please message me
/r/seduction05/03/22 01:34 AM
62

I'm black and have approached hundreds of women of different races and never got that response. Break down your approach for us
/r/seduction21/02/22 02:05 AM
23

If you're very tall or very good looking then you'll get low to mid level women approaching. Other than that you'll have to put in some effort even if you're high quality
/r/seduction20/02/22 10:19 PM
3

Honestly - you need to move on. Girls from 10 years ago who are blowing hot and cold are not the ones you want to be spending lots of time chasing.
/r/seduction20/02/22 05:04 PM
1

Why select Poland for casual sex?
/r/seduction20/02/22 05:02 PM
1

You need to begin pursuing other women. Have several other options, not just ONE. Very simple answer.
/r/seduction20/02/22 04:59 PM
1

I would never do dinner dates for first dates. Not because of the money, but because they are horrible for seduction. There's not enough opportunity for relaxation, to build comfort and kino, etc. As you mentioned, physical activity is best. You may end up spending some money - but obviously don't go overboard!
/r/seduction20/02/22 04:56 PM
2

Height ABSOLUTELY matters. Anyone who tells you otherwise is delusional. However, being short does NOT mean you cannot pull good looking girls. There are definitely other tools in the arsenal for you to use. I guestimate that height pulls you down between 1-2 points (in terms of looks) out of 10. However, you can still pull above average girls once you can compensate for that and beef up other areas of attractiveness (e.g. dressing well, moving confidently, etc)
/r/seduction19/02/22 03:18 AM
5

Once you can be clearly understood, your accent will either make no difference or be a benefit. For sure, it's more of a BENEFIT than a drawback. You need to stop the negative thinking and think of your accent as an asset, not a liability.
/r/seduction19/02/22 03:16 AM
1

This is the way to go and the way to react. I do think your socialisation has a way to go. In order to be good at seduction, you have to be good at reading and understanding social cues (calibration), creating positive interactions, etc. This will be difficult if you're from a different culture and language. For the next few months, focus on building your social network, actually meeting and speaking to people. By all means speak to women, but it shouldn't be your main focus right now.
/r/seduction19/02/22 03:08 AM
1

For the love of everything holy, please do NOT go back to the bar hoping to find this woman. ​ Just...leave her alone. There are other women at the bar, and at other bars, that you SHOULD be talking to. Go find them.
/r/seduction19/02/22 01:42 AM
2

She has a boyfriend or a romantic partner and was only available for Friday. She's probably made up with said boyfriend/partner since then. I'd say ignore her, she WILL come back when she's bored/horny again and you give her the space and time. Then it's up to you if to let her back in or ignore her. Don't bother to ask her about a partner - she WILL lie. Just keep your options open.
/r/seduction19/02/22 01:33 AM
1

If I had to guess, at least half of all women on these dating apps have little or no intention of meeting up with anyone (unless he's very muscular/good looking) and are on there only for validation. Look for clear IOIs and make alternative plans if she doesn't show up. Yeah it's shitty, but that's just what happens
/r/seduction13/02/22 02:08 PM
7

If I see an obvious sign of disinterest that is my cue to politely exit the conversation and interaction. And to be clear, a woman unnecessarily telling you that she has a boyfriend is an obvious sign of disinterest.
/r/seduction03/02/22 12:36 PM
2

As someone who has lived in multiple countries across 2 continents, this suggestion ridiculously oversimplifies the intricacies of living and working abroad, especially in moving and working in countries with different languages, cultural backgrounds, and standards of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 07:55 PM
2

This. Its lame. Nothing wrong with introducing sexual tension/ joking but this isnt it
/r/seduction25/01/22 10:10 PM
6

No this "joke" is lame and isnt actually funny. There's a right way/time to introduce sexual jokes but this isn't it
/r/seduction25/01/22 10:09 PM
2

This "joke" isn't actually funny though...its pretty lame and I would have advised you not to use it but seems it's too late
/r/seduction25/01/22 10:07 PM
1

She's not as "quiet and innocent " as you seem to think she is, especially as evidenced by pulling multiple guys with you on your first interaction. You were 5 minutes of interest before. She got distracted and moved on to the next shiny object. She needs constant stimulation and you just didnt provide it. The only thing I see where you went wrong is not just telling her to come back to yours for the lay. The escalation stopped and she lost interest
/r/seduction10/01/22 08:30 PM
2

Invite her home for a movie/drinks. Sit close, throw your arm around her. Make fun of her, give her a playful push on the shoulder, etc. As someone else said you can take the stepping stones approach and gradually raise the kino.
/r/seduction08/01/22 03:33 PM
1

I much prefer now than before. As a black man my local and international options are much better than previous eras
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 03:47 PM
1

Yes it can. A woman can most definitely move from being just "sex" material to "relationship " material.
/r/seduction06/01/22 12:13 PM
25

What Canadian said. You get THE ONE by having lots of options to choose the best from, NOT by focusing on one single individual and then getting upset when your gamble inevitably doesnt pay off. Believe me OP, there are MANY other men with the same qualities as the guy you're interested in, so instead of making him the one continue to improve yourself and be the best possible version.
/r/seduction05/01/22 11:52 PM
1

How old are you OP?
/r/seduction05/01/22 04:07 PM
1

99% sure that she has a man that she actually is having sex with
/r/seduction04/01/22 08:50 PM
1

I find it difficult to believe that someone could be honestly asking this question but I'll bite. She invited you to her place, rather than a public place. She talked about her products that make people horny. She showed you sexual stretching positions. Are you REALLY asking if she was flirting with you?
/r/seduction03/01/22 03:32 PM
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You're being a creep and then getting upset you're not getting results? Lol. You obviously have no calibration. You should have just thanked her n walked away, instead you continued pestering her. Change your approach, establish comfort and rapport, and know when to exit a set if it isn't working out
/r/seduction03/01/22 11:40 AM
1

Never spend too much time trying to fix a bad approach - it'll take a lot more time than simply making new approaches Just make a joke or refer to something you mentioned earlier, or tease her about something innocuous. If no response- just leave it move on
/r/seduction03/01/22 03:49 AM
3

Refer to something funny/interesting that you spoke about earlier. If you did a good approach those positive feelings will return and make it more likely to set up a date. Especially if you made a joke/funny comment refer to that. Light , innocent teasing (nothing about her weight or anything she is likely insecure about) is ok too.
/r/seduction02/01/22 09:36 PM
7

A few things: Most of your numbers will NOT turn into dates at this point. Some women will give you their number with no intent to continue the conversation later. Sometimes out of sheer politeness or awkwardness. Don't be too bummed out by it - it's the nature if the beast. Make sure you have solid interactions- e.g. that you've said something that has sparked their interest, made them laugh, etc. If they haven't shown obvious interest, its unlikely that they'll continue the convo later Up your…
/r/seduction02/01/22 03:56 PM
1

I don't believe the ONLY reason, or even most important reason why women ghost men is because they are fearful of their safety if they're upfront. I think it's just the same as men - they don't want to have the awkward discussion. It's easier to ghost someome than tell them that you're just not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:14 AM
1

You go out and meet people. Be honest and say "I don't know many people in this new city but decided to dress up and go out" I've been "adopted" by many, many groups saying this If I'm in my hometown and I'm out alone I usually say my friends "abandoned " me and that works
/r/seduction11/12/21 02:17 PM
1

I (used to) do mainly cold approach- so "having money" and "being mature" doesn't figure much into the initial attraction I generate. In fact, I can definitely say that I would probably do better if I was 5-10 years younger with my current knowledge. I have also never flashed money around or appeared "rich ", although one or two persons I've dated have tried to sponge off me, it's never been for very long nor have they gotten much out of me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:55 PM
1

Up to this year (2021) I've dated/had sex with women in their 20's, the youngest being 23. I've also dated/had sex with women in their 40's, including one who's 45.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:16 PM
1

I'm not a 20 year old Male- but what does that have to do with the question asked? It's BECAUSE I'm older I can definitively say that for me, although there are (obviously) some changes, the dating world is still close enough to the same as it was two decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:34 PM
1

I was dating 20 years ago and still dating now 😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 02:05 PM
3

No woman I've ever cold approached has ever tried to call police or law enforcement because of a failed pickup attempt, and I've done hundreds. This is making a mountain out of a mole hill. The dating world, although there are some inequities, is still similar for men as it was 20 years ago. The difference is, the really out there extreme stuff is now legislated against. Be a normal, respectful human being and you'll be just fine
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:59 PM
1

No effect. Just be a normal human being, don't overdo, and take no for an answer and you'll be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:16 PM
2

Sorry but I had to LOL. You said some stupid insensitive shit in the moment. It happens. We have brain farts. What you SHOULD do is write an apology. A proper one. You should have done that in the first place, but better late than never. Try to put your apology somewhere that she can read it. Then leave her alone. If she DOES contact you then great. If she doesn't then you move on.
/r/seduction26/11/21 10:27 AM
0

Several times. Both at least one same night lay and other cold approval that led to dates and later relationships.
/r/seduction23/11/21 11:50 PM
1

I lack the interest to try to convince you. I am not a "player" but I enjoy going out and making connections during night game. If you choose not to believe me then that's your concern not mine.
/r/seduction23/11/21 01:00 AM
3

I find it so weird people's aversion to club game. I'm short and just barely better than average looking but club game/night game has been great for me
/r/seduction21/11/21 11:35 PM
4

I usually do one of the following: Approach them while stationary then start small talk with something funny- especially if the bar service or line is slow I'll say " I'm going to toss you over the bar / inside , you distract the security/bar tender, then I'll sneak in/steal a drink for both of us" Comment on something interesting /eye catching - e.g. if she's wearing similar colours I'll say " why were you looking through my wardrobe" or " I really love xyz better be careful i don't steal.them …
/r/seduction21/11/21 11:33 PM
17

Disagree totally on the first point bro. I've met many women (and a few good guy friends) in clubs/bars/concerts/parties. From same night lays to long term relationships to friendships, I've met a wide range of people. Clubs are a great place to meet people because they are actually out to be social and have a good time. Plus many have their inhibitions down due to a few drinks (NEVER TRY TO HAVE SEX WITH A GIRL WHOS OBVIOUSLY DRUNK THOUGH).
/r/seduction21/11/21 05:21 PM
1

Basically what redwolf said about having appropriate conversation/body language for that SPECIFIC situation but I'll add a bit more. You should be aware of the OBVIOUS signs of disinterest- the woman looking uncomfortable, or outright stating she doesnt want to talk/ give you her number, her walking away etc. If she shows you these types of signs its time to move on to the next approach. It's usually when men fail to read the signs that they're deemed "creepy" You sound like you're fairly well a…
/r/seduction09/11/21 11:37 PM
1

Yes it is offensive unless you're getting clear, obvious signals that she's sexually attracted. So no, don't ask. And work on your calibration
/r/seduction08/11/21 06:31 PM
3

Once you're sensible and well calibrated, cold approach is NOT harassment. If you actually read the thread posted about women complaining about being approached, it was the aggressive/persistent men who were being complained about. Men asking multiple times for a number (despite being told no). Men asking if they could "come home and shower with them" after a 1 minute conversation. THAT is going to get you in trouble. Be sensible, be respectful, be fun, and you will not have a problem with "hara…
/r/seduction08/11/21 06:28 PM
2

Hey man, I'm gonna be frank with you for a minute. You've done lots contemplating but fuck all when it comes to ACTION. On one hand you say you've done all you can to ve as attractive as possible, but on the other hand you say you're clinically overweight? On one hand you say you've been working on things for five years but you've never even TRIED a tinder profile? You make absolutely no references to the number of approaches or nights out. Honestly if you're not willing to do the BARE MINIMUM A…
/r/seduction08/11/21 05:08 PM
1

What sort of "proof " are you looking for?
/r/seduction07/11/21 05:38 PM
2

I don't think there's any general advice that doesn't work in the UK. I am NOT a pickup expert or guru, but here's what works for me: Dress WELL and differently- I usually have an eye catching shirt on (think pop art style or with a funny picture or quote) OR in a turtleneck with a small chain (I love those!). Get a haircut or shave. Nice shoes. You don't have to break the bank for any of those. Just dressing well is gonna boost your possibility of attraction. Have FUN and positive vibe - Do you…
/r/seduction07/11/21 04:03 PM
2

Depends on what your strong point is. I suck at tinder personally lol - but I'm MUCH better at night game. I've seen others talk at length about their tinder success - so for them it's much more beneficial.
/r/seduction06/11/21 10:00 PM
3

Approach, approach, approach. Screen for sexual attraction/chemistry. Make sexual comments once that's been established, and see her reaction.
/r/seduction06/11/21 02:34 PM
4

This is great! Just keep approaching and working on yourself. As someone who has lived in multiple countries, as well as multiple areas in the UK (both London and rural area FAR outside London) the idea that cold approach doesn't work in the UK, or only works in London, is pure BS.
/r/seduction06/11/21 02:28 PM
1

I don't ask. Personally I'm not interested in knowing. When you get to the stage of wondering "how many" you're probably in a negative mental state where you're comparing yourself and your sexual past to hers. Nothing good can come from that. More important to me is her sexual health status. I get myself checked up at least once a year. I would encourage us to BOTH go for screenings regularly
/r/seduction06/11/21 12:54 PM
2

Hey bro, I have a few pieces of advice for you: You sound pretty depressed. If your mental health balance is off, it will affect your dating success. Speak to a therapist if you feel like you need assistance, because if your mental health is suffering, NOTHING anyone says on this thread will help. You mentioned a lot of the things you're doing, but you forgot the most important one. HOW MANY WOMEN ARE YOU APPROACHING. Even if you're 6"3 looking like a Greek God YOU STILL HAVE TO APPROACH. Drop t…
/r/seduction05/11/21 01:09 AM
2

This is an interesting thread - just commenting since I'm considering becoming a digital nomad myself
/r/seduction04/11/21 09:00 PM
8

Honestly you're still a kid and still learning. You are FAR from your peak. My biggest suggestion to you is to spend the next 4-5 focusing on school, career and lifestyle. Have those in your arsenal and then you'll be less needy and more attractive and better able to find that abundance you're looking for
/r/seduction04/11/21 07:55 PM
1

Useful post
/r/seduction03/11/21 11:39 PM
3

I picked up in remote north wales. "British people are harder to pick up" is a BS excuse
/r/seduction02/11/21 05:12 PM
2

I spoke to both locals and non natives as I would have studied in multiple locations worldwide. I picked up non - natives through social circle game and locals through cold approach
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:52 PM
2

Many of my approaches were in buttfuck nowhere, North Wales. My biggest problem was picking up a girlfriend lol. I was generating interest and getting regular makeouts after a few months of effort
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:51 PM
1

A lot of guys forget this. Her showing signs doesnt mean she will do all the work. A woman will like you and STILL need to feel like she didnt just "give it awa", or that things "just happened ". But yeah, obvious and clear signs
/r/seduction02/11/21 03:44 PM
3

I have personally made over 100 cold approaches I the UK. I've received a few negative comments, but these were in the minority and not overly so. These have resulted in successful one night stands, relationships, and frienships. It's actually not that big of a deal
/r/seduction31/10/21 08:25 PM
2

Yeah sorry that's BS. The UK is no worse that most other countries. And as some who's lived in 3 countries and visited others, the UK has actually been really good for pickup
/r/seduction31/10/21 05:34 PM
19

It was stupid question that broke rapport. Don't worry OP its something you will learn, to move based off of body language rather than words when it comes to women. Next time just continue moving in, more touching more closeness. If she pulls away, then pause, if she doesn't keep escalating. And fuck what she said before, that is irrelevant in the here and now
/r/seduction31/10/21 01:15 PM
2

What others have said. Don't bother with a woman "who had gone cold". Work on the ones into you rather than wasting precious resources (especially TIME) on someone who isnt
/r/seduction29/10/21 10:43 PM
3

I'm glad you're confident in yourself. Nothing wrong with that. But you're missing what I'm saying. If that was important TO THE WOMAN WERE TALKING ABOUT, then she'd already be with you. I'm not saying you have no or low worth. I'm saying the woman you want to travel with doesnt have those things as her priority.
/r/seduction29/10/21 10:41 PM
1

Lots. No sense getting caught up on one not paying attention to you
/r/seduction29/10/21 09:52 PM
5

She lost interest. It happens. Stop contacting her and move on
/r/seduction28/10/21 10:18 PM
1

You are overthinking this
/r/seduction28/10/21 03:09 PM
1

Yes, time to move on. If she's not respinding then she obviously has little to no interest. Invest and absolute minimum amount of time even if she does hit you up until she confirms interest
/r/seduction28/10/21 03:08 PM
4

As an almost older guy I.understand. I personally see nothing wrong with spending your money if you have it. Just be aware that: 1. This girl sees you as an opportunity rather than a real relationship 2. The second she finds a younger, hotter, more put together guy she will drop you.
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:47 PM
2

What Establishment said above. Theoretically possible, but extremely difficult. Even the good PUAs dont get laid everytime they go out - youd have to be out multiple nights a week , have great logistics etc to be that successful on a recurring basis
/r/seduction26/10/21 11:05 PM
1

As has also been mentioned - if you're in your 20s, there MUST be college hangout spots that you can go to, and since at almost every college women outnumber men, you should be well set
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:48 PM
1

Keep searching because women ARE THERE. This coming from someone who lives on an island nation of LESS than 150,000. I've also lived in small isolated towns ( less than 30,000 people). This is across different continents too.Try different bars, different areas. And for the few women you do see - still approach!
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:46 PM
1

No offense bro, but judging by this response you need to see a therapist/psychologist. If you DM me privately I'm willing to assist. Seduction is not a cure all. This was not an issue about sex - it was an issue of a twisted psychopathic mind. This guy methodically and intentionally planned an innocent persons rape, torture and murder. No amount of "seduction skills" would help I appreciate your honest response. I highly, highly recommend you speaking to a therapist or psychologist to help you t…
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:06 PM
1

You're overthinking this. Go out anywhere and talk to older women, and your youth alone will push you up a couple points. There are lots of older women who go out anywhere- not exclusive to wine tasting
/r/seduction19/09/21 05:22 PM
2

You need to stop dating and sex for a while 2. Find a therapist to help YOU figure out why you keep getting into horrible relationships 3. Write down what YOU want for long term happiness and pursue that
/r/seduction19/09/21 05:20 PM
3

First off.... Mystery method is like....so 2008. There are some things in there applicable, some things that aren't. ​ Secondly, a lot of the "IOIs" aren't actually IOI's (e.g. giving name and offering hand). It's simply not wanting to offend. ​ Thirdly, you obviously did NOT establish comfort or rapport. You had high enough energy to not immediately get blown out, but she never got comfortable or established a proper connection. Which is why you got blocked.
/r/seduction06/04/21 02:44 AM
1

The vast majority of properly done approaches will not have any issue for sexual harassment. There may be a few outliers, but they will be an exception to the rule. ​ I am not scared of sexual harrassment accusations because I don't sexually harass when I approach. The vast majority of women will not accuse you of being innapropriate unless you actually ARE inappropriate, at which point you will need to rethink and possible re-engineer the way you approach.
/r/seduction06/04/21 02:34 AM
1

OR you could just make it clear that you're looking for something serious. ​ But I mean...who wants to communicate clearly with their S/O right? ​ Literally all you have to do is make your intentions clear from the jump. The guys not interested in an LTR will fade very quickly. ​ ​
/r/seduction15/03/19 05:33 PM
1

This might be difficult for a woman to understand, but to have a woman who's not looking for a relationship but who's willing to have sex that you are comfortable with can be difficult to find at times. I'd say worth the energy
/r/seduction15/03/19 05:22 PM
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