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I want to see the photos of the person who rates that woman at a 6.5 max.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:34 PM
10

Thank you extra for such a detailed answer. I’m making some big changes in my life now when I started to ask myself is this all life is? Cleaning up after an asshole boyfriend, avoiding sex because it does nothing for me, and being miserable? You are Queen goals. I aspire to be like you when I grow up ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:54 PM
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May I ask what age (ish) you were at when you ‘grew up’ and changed your outlook? I’m 30 and I think I just had that moment myself. Thank you for writing all this for us, much appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:36 PM
87

This is what Lundy is talking about with men being far more calculating than they let on. This man put his baby daughters outside so they wouldn’t see him attack their mother/light her on fire. He wasn’t in an uncontrolled rage, this was deliberate and he knew what he was doing and he knew enough to move the children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:09 PM
6

I dated a former MMA fighter who went on to become a professional bully. And an emotionally abusive boyfriend. I would call violent sports a yellow flag to be taken into account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:12 PM
27

What are you doing with a 23 year old man child who is fixated on his relationship from 8 years ago, which would have been when he was 15 years old? Like a literal child?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:03 PM
5

Oh nooo a bunch of women telling other women they deserve love and respect and good things in their lives. Oh the humanity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:41 PM
3

I too ended up down the TRP rabbit hole searching for answers and community. RPW share some values with FDS, but from an opposite perspective/intent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:40 PM
3

Girl, is someone you won’t be completely alone with really worth your time and energy?? I’m a weird loner with too much free time, I’ll be your friend instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:19 PM
2

Do you really want to entertain this dumpster fire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:12 PM
7

Words are worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:07 PM
3

Yeah I work ‘small business’ now (still multi million yearly sales) and it has different problems. Like becoming too invested when that isn’t reciprocated via shares etc. But overall with less corporate rules the perks of the job outweigh the negatives. And lack of room for upward mobility is in there, but accounting would have a more defined path than what I do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 12:33 AM
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Nobody will ever put your interests ahead of their own. Especially a man. And all his words are promises, unless there are $X,000 dollars deposited in an account in your name alone that is your get out money, and it is indeed enough to get out, he is full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:27 PM
7

I’ve never been one to fuss around height, I’m not short 5’7” or so. But from now on I don’t think I can date guys my height or shorter, they are so insecure about it or they create an egotistical personality to distract from it. It’s just not worth the stress they create 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:17 PM
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Sounds like you know what you want already. And I can tell you from what I know now (8 years or so in corporate administration roles) I would pick small company with the short commute over the big downtown corporate. I’ve done both. Going for accounting degree stuff isn’t easy from what I’ve seen, I chose not to take that route because I really don’t like accounting that much. You’ll probably appreciate the extra time for your schoolwork. I’m just not cut out for corporate, I’m very good at my w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:13 PM
8

Maybe if one can’t talk to someone without puking it would be best to work on one’s own confidence in general before worrying about dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:52 PM
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There are guys who photoshop a new date on old test results. Just to warn you 💕 creative MFers when it suits them lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:44 PM
8

Does he have an emergency contact listed? “I’d rather die than deal with you or my mom knowing I’m in the hospital. If I get in a car accident you don’t need to worry about where I am.” Does he suffer from the man flu? That’s when a case of the sniffles = eminent death and you better wait on me hand and foot but no I won’t go to the doctors, or take the OTC meds you’re trying to hand me, or do anything else that might help me recover. But also being like “it’s nothing” when there are actual prob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:30 PM
21

If you read the post history it’s even worse. They went poly and at one point he says a quote from her “he [boyfriend] has spent more time with me [wife] in the last 8 months than you [OP/husband] have in the last 8 years” And he casually mentions that the boyfriend is around a lot because he’s helping the wife with an art installation for a festival, ie spending time on her interests and probably something that if a pretty special accomplishment for his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:52 PM
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It’s real easy to complain about keeping score when you’re always the winner. Don’t need to keep score if you already ‘know’ who is going to come out on top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:19 PM
6

The rock bottom thing really resonates with me, and I’m probably not alone. It got to the point where I would rather not exist, than exist like this anymore before I finally snapped out of it and had an awakening that despite what they tell me, it doesn’t actually have to be like this. So thanks ladies, for being the light in darkness ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:05 PM
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At least I’m aware now, everything is still a work I’m progress. Hit me up if you ever need to talk 💕 narcissists are really good at messing with your head and your perception, it’s super easy to fall back under the spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:50 PM
2

Was it in a box or lose in the drawer? I’d want to ask rather than stress myself out over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:55 PM
6

How many people in your life do you end up NC with to the point that you don’t want to be in the same room? Shouldn’t be very many. If it’s serious enough to require NC, why do you think it would ever get better? He will never treat you better at the end of the day. Don’t go back, it gets harder to leave every time when he reverts back to his old ways, and he always will. People like this don’t change. Ask me how I know lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:48 PM
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So...I once seriously entertained a poly relationship, actually did it for a weekend. And the reason why I was on board was like this: “Oh wow this is so cool, my life is better this way. I don’t feel like having sex with him, and I don’t have to because she’s entertaining him. Wow, making dinner is way easier with someone to help. Ugh I get a bit of peace because he’s occupied. What if I had help with all the housework?! What if I could have an hour alone a few times a week without being ‘in tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:44 PM
4

Haha wow thanks for sharing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:36 PM
7

Never again though, that’s what matters right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:21 PM
21

Different category of fetishes for my personal experience... But he will never be satisfied and will always require more as time on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:26 PM
9

Don’t feel alone, I’ve done the same thing to save a male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:20 PM
12

That could work. I also have the strong desire to like...share it with his mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:11 PM
9

Has he not noticed that grocery stores are organized by category? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:10 PM
1

But why is he a HVM? Why are you interested in him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:09 PM
24

Unrelated to your scale number, you don’t sound happy enough within yourself to be ready to devote anything to a man right now. We should be perfectly content and happy within ourselves, so we aren’t relying on that peace to come from outside. As someone who has had several multi-year LTR with LVM, you need to be happy alone and he should only add to your life. Anything else leads to resentment, heartbreak, disappointment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:49 PM
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Maybe phone contact apps should give the option of a contact name and a display name/nickname
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:33 PM
3

Can you articulate what it is about him that makes him so desirable to you? Maybe you need to dig deep down to some root causes before you can get over this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:32 PM
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That would be ideal. But there are no consequences. That’s why they do it, they know nothing will happen to them except praise from their peers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:30 PM
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I’m happy you didn’t respond. If I had replied it would have just been like “who’s this?” Cause they hate that, so so much. I had this weird fuckboi in my phone a few years ago, and I ended up re-saving his contact info as “Still Dave” cause once in a blue moon he’d text me and even when I knew who it was I’d still ask ‘who dis’ just cause I knew it wrecked his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:27 PM
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Why are you letting a man have this much power over you? No one is worth twelve fucking years of unrequited pining. You have spent over a decade waiting for this man to notice you/take you seriously? There is absolutely no character trait in him that can justify that to me. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:20 PM
1

Is this a language barrier or a stroke victim?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:17 PM
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It is. I think I was more focused on the guy who told the nudes girl is the same one who recorded and distributed it. So he is also aware it’s wrong but also did what he did. She should tell the nudes girl. And leave all those men behind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:16 PM
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It’s just even grosser to me that this guy told her she posted it by accident and he’s the one who recorded it and distributed it. Stay alert ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:13 PM
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Men are creative, when it comes to things they care about. Like where other penises have been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:05 PM
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IKR? It’s made to fit a baby through there, but yeah a dick is big enough to make a permanent difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:03 PM
18

Wouldn’t our DNA end up inside them too? We got fluids, they got bodily openings too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:01 PM
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I should have put it as “science” Like science can be used to argue the earth is flat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:00 PM
11

I think that’s why I have full names, and for contact card sharing. Practicality reasons. But on the other hand, being in his phone as wifey would make my heart happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:42 PM
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I don’t understand this negative obsession with women’s age. I’ve been hearing that I’m going to get traded in at 30 for three years, always a joke of course. That milestone is almost here. It would be interesting to have a line up of women and a line up of men and have people genuinely guess their ages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:03 PM
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Way back when, dating around when I was gluten free (this was many years ago now before it was a thing) I knew a couple restaurants I could eat at safely and would suggest those. Could you find a few places that are safe for you to eat at and provide those as suggestions? “I have some relatively serious food allergies, but the staff at X and Y are always so attentive and the food is delicious.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:59 PM
40

Is it weird to have people in your phone by full name if you are dating them? I never thought about it before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:27 PM
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Because they think their word/intention/promise is the exact same thing as actually following through. Your panties should drop at the mere suggestion you are worth dinner before a fucking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:21 PM
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He just has to go up to women and ask “are you a bargain bin prostitute?” And then they will either have sex with him for the crumbs in his pocket, or immediately forget he ever asked. 🤷‍♀️ pretty straight forward really
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:41 AM
7

That’s interesting that she picked it up from men though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:05 AM
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My mother is a narcissist. And it led me down some very dark paths seeking love and approval. She’s a LVW and probably a pickmesha as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:22 AM
98

Oh my god, for the first time ever my local grocery store had all the male managers going around asking lost men if they found everything ok. Imagine being unable to navigate the grocery store lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 02:47 AM
7

Yeah I’m a stress eater with a very stressful life right now. I guess my point was a man would never guess my weight correctly looking at me cause they don’t know what they’re talking about lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:03 AM
19

Idk feels more like lowest bar for what’s acceptable behaviour vs HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:10 PM
15

65 kg is like 140 lbs The Cut on YouTube did a video of women pairing themselves up by weight and it was really fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:24 PM
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I don’t think they have any concept of what women weigh. I’m 5’7” as well, and it’s been a long time since I was 130 lbs. I’d lose my figure if I went back to 130, this ass ain’t round anymore at that weight lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:16 PM
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Crazy right? When we do it, hurting feefees is violent. When they do it, it’s not violent until there are broken bones or worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:03 PM
9

Just message me your email. Turns out I have it in ePub format but I converted it to PDF and it looks ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 09:02 PM
35

Am I bad for thinking this is absolutely pathetic and even disgusting? For 20 years...just...😥 how can you hate yourself that much to keep living that life for so long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 08:03 PM
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“K bye” = violence Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:52 PM
38

Have you read ‘Why Does He Do That?’ By Lundy Bancroft? They (men) are far more self aware than we think. I have a PDF version of the book if anyone wants it. I’ll find a way to share it if you send me a DM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:23 PM
6

What kind of fancy places are worth your dignity?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:20 PM
17

K, I’ll just keep telling them they look like queens until someone tells me to shut up lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:10 PM
12

Do you think most men know how to be friendly without being flirty?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:07 PM
16

It bothers me when he’s like “I spent $300 on your birthday gift” (which is LVM behaviour on its own, I recognize that now) but the reality was he spent $70 on my steak and single cocktail and $230 on his appetizer, surf and turf, cocktails and fancy bottle of wine for himself. While saying he spent $300 on me for my birthday. Like I said, I’m salty about it haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:02 PM
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All my love girl, mine snarked at me this morning and my weak ass snarked back which started a fight before I left for work and he went back to bed. Also working on financial freedom. Happy Valentines Day from one 👑 to another 👑.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:59 PM
12

You had me in the first half there 😋 The ending fixed it all though 👩‍👦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:54 PM
10

Absolutely it is, what do I get out of wearing this itchy, complicated contraption? Another one is taking you out to an extra nice dinner and calling it a gift. With the value of HIS food and drinks as your gift. I’m still salty about a birthday or two, not gunna lie lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:48 PM
21

I think that was/is the hard part for me. To men: You expect me to do all the work, while you make more than your share of the mess, and also meet your standards that are only applicable when someone else is doing the labour. It’s absurd, and it’s also absurd that I’m the one judged by company. I too am quite happy to have a bit of lived in chaos in my home, I prefer comfort to perfection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:45 PM
7

Yesssss I think I look cute with it, therefore it does make me cuter. And we should apply that to everything, which is something I realized the other day when contemplating my lingerie collection I never wear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:34 PM
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😍 yas Queen! 👑 Something doesn’t have to cost a lot of money or be a huge production to be thoughtful. And I maintain that men are perfectly capable of it, I see them do it for their bros or themselves. We just let them get away with doing less for us. Someone who gifts other people things for themselves is something else that really bothers me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:33 PM
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Is it bad to encourage/positively reinforce black women to wear their hair naturally? When you’re asked of course, not unsolicited. I often find the volume/styles/texture etc has so much beauty and character to it. But due to where and how I grew up, I’m pretty ignorant to any racial implications. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings in any way by expressing my opinion that natural styles can be the better look for someone. a white girl born with flat mouse hair 🐭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:28 PM
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Oh absolutely, I was younger and less happy with myself back then. Do I like my nose? No, never have. Genetic bad luck. But it’s not deformed, it’s not damaged and causing any health issues. So I learn not to mind it and focus on the things I do like about myself. Men will never be happy, because it doesn’t really matter what it’s about, they are tearing you down because they can not because they’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:13 PM
51

You think a hotel can’t accept a flower delivery? Or order you your favourite takeout food and then FaceTime dinner together?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:43 PM
15

Woohoo what else can we toss out that isn’t serving us?? 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:40 PM
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In my opinion, if you had your nipples pierced with no complications/good healing, and you loved how they made you look and feel...keeping them would have been the right decision. If they made you happy and no one else. I am so happy and feel a lot of kinship with you on your decision to take them out because that’s what’s best for you. I had my nose pierced and loved it, and then it fell out and I couldn’t get it back in so I spent years without it. Years being like I want to go get it redone b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:29 PM
2

There is a lot of platonic ways to show affection with physical touch. If he isn’t doing any of those either...that would weird me out. Men still hug their friends and people they care about. Children hold hands. Even male coworkers can give a friendly pat on the shoulder. It’s not the virgin part that would bother me, but the apparent lack of any kind of experience with physical intimacy of any level. It says to me he has internal work to do, or needs to find someone who is also touch adverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:17 PM
6

I tried an expensive match making service at a desperate point pre-25. Would have been better to set a stack of bills on fire. Even men “hand picked” by a professional match maker after tests and interviews and judging your appearance, are trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:43 PM
11

What’s lower than a Pickmeisha?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:22 PM
70

Is it like...self negging if a chick messages this guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:55 AM
22

Wtf he doing for work that he is regularly coming home in the middle of the night to a wife and baby who passed out on the couch waiting for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:53 AM
9

Your feet deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:41 AM
36

I love seeing everyone here be so uplifting but also upfront to fellow women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:31 AM
9

When I moved in, I had to clean years of dust off stuff. Now he complains constantly that I slack on keeping his house clean on my own. They know what clean is, they just only care when someone else is doing the labour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 01:29 AM
3

Not OK either way of course. Super weird...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 11:23 PM
7

It says his family which is super weird because why would she care what the family of the man she broke up with thinks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:33 PM
3

Inexperienced man cheated on me with LVW. Experienced man ho in youth, zero worries about infidelity but is LV in other ways. I think other character points are better indicators than experienced vs inexperienced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:12 PM
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It hurts so much, this is exactly what happens. You start to feel crazy, and unheard and then more crazy when he insists you’re impossible to please because you don’t like mushrooms, have never liked mushrooms, and your feelings are hurt that you’re sick and he orders you a mushroom pizza. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:04 PM
23

Amal Clooney She is incredibly accomplished, gorgeous and stylish, and has what seems to now be a HVM/HVW marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:39 PM
21

Can one get any closer to being a literal Queen than Meghan Markle? I’m not super into celebrity stuff or anything, and Kate seems so lovely and fashionable and you see news of her working with children a lot and such....but she was pretty much born into it. Meghan comes from a train wreck family, she breaks all the Royal rules (divorced, her race, etc), she was independently successful and then married an actual Prince. 👑 Energy all around!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:32 PM
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I had a guy I was super into meet my cousin while he was in the home I owned, leaving my bedroom, and he immediately made comments about a threesome with her. I was devastated, I never spoke to him again. This was years ago now, but I wish I had taken that lesson to heart back then. HVM just...won’t say things like that. I don’t want to spend my life with someone who thinks appearances are the ultimate success in life. And these pretty girls who ride on their looks...ugly on the inside is ugly a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:13 PM
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That is a perfect example. Of what exactly, not totally sure. But one dinner out is less effort than 4 months of begging for a chance. That is a lot of energy to expend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:59 PM
2

Oh wow that is disgusting. I haven’t seen anything like that, but sperm banks aren’t on my list of things I read about. Idk what people should do then, but it doesn’t change my personal opinion that I wouldn’t want to be in the situation here where my boyfriend donates sperm to unrelated people he knows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 01:25 PM
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Yeah what’s wrong with the curated banks of healthy anonymous donations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:39 PM
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What?? He’s the crazy one apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 12:59 PM
3

Are you sure the cost of flowers, dinner and a few sad words to tug on your heartstrings weren’t just cheaper and more reliable than a night with an escort? Like I’m really sorry and not trying to be mean but he totally sounds like he’s using you for sex and validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:48 PM
1

Girl, that is some energy. I love it. Did you expect any real improvement from that or was it more of a teach him a lesson for the next lady before you go thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:42 PM
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This isn’t porn though lol. Porn is manufactured for sexual pleasure, it (should be) created with that intent. This is saving and jerking off to regular people going about their regular lives with zero intent to be used as wank fodder. What are these pictures? Women platonically hugging friends? Family photos at the beach? New haircut feeling cute selfies? This is way grosser than porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:19 PM
2

Omg maybe. Like if that guy is such a creepy loser why are you having him spend the night at your place?? If that chick hurts your feelings so much, why you chasing her to do X with you?? I think I’m a good friend, if a little too all in to start lol. And I don’t think I’m crazy for wanting the same kind of positive energy reflected back at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:13 PM
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I’ve ended up in a place where I have no friends, and I’m extra cautious after repeatedly being bit. I would love to connect with other HVW and work together to lift each other up. I really miss the positive companionship and shared support. Last woman I thought was genuinely my friend spent a lot of time speaking really negatively about how horrible all her other friends were, men and women, and then going and still spending time with these awful people. So what was she saying to them about me?…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:14 PM
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