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I don’t know about porn star per se, considering that porn in itself can be unhealthy and very unrealistic for many men. I do believe it is important to put in the effort to have an active sex life and to be intimate with your husband. Sometimes things occur in our everyday lives when we’re married that it’s easy to put sex in the back burner. I know for my personal preference I don’t want to emulate a porn star as it’s just not my cup of tea, but I like keeping an open mind to spicing things up…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 07:42 AM
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So to begin, you need to understand that you’re asking to lose half of your current weight in less than four months. That’s not going to happen and any medical professional will tell you that. You need to be realistic about where you stand. Let me tell you about my current situation so I can shed some light. I started feeling ill around May, but because I was graduating college and going on vacation, I paid no attention to it and brushed it off as being stressed about everything. For context, I’…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 05:40 AM
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Just because liberal women appear to get more “attention” doesn’t mean they’re getting into meaningful relationships. If these young women are getting new guys every three months, that’s pretty evident that they’re not. Dating a new guy every three months isn’t exactly a flex, especially if you’re looking for something that’s meaningful and for the long term. Also, most college guys aren’t exactly HVM. Not saying they don’t have the capacity to be, they just haven’t gotten there yet. They’ll rea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:39 AM
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I saw a comment where you said you’ve been honest with him from the beginning and it’s just now that he’s saying he has a problem with your body count. This is concerning that he’s waited until now, especially when he’s known for a long time. It’s not like you just told him. If you want to attempt to salvage this relationship, you can have a sit down conversation and lay it all out for him: either he’s going to overlook this and make this work or you stop wasting each other’s time. Waiting aroun…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/23 10:11 PM
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It’s definitely never too late! Considering that many people your age are engaging in hook up culture, the idea that you’re not will be very intriguing to many potential suitors in the future. You probably won’t find much luck with men your age, but you will have better luck with guys that are a bit older around 26-30 which is still a pretty modest age gap for someone of your age I think. The dating scene is wild right now, so you’re definitely going to encounter some frogs before you find your …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 04:54 AM
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I had to read through comments to get more context on the situation. Try to offer more context on your post so we’re not digging though to find out the situation. I’m still not quite sure if I have the full gist of it. That said, I don’t think you should be too concerned with appearing “submissive” to every man you encounter. If you’re shy and quiet in general, that’s understandable, it’s part of your personality. You can be kind, amicable, emphatic, etc. but when you’re in a workplace, leave th…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/23 04:24 AM
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My husband has always been this way and he’s never been resentful. Despite that at the beginning of our relationship I made more than he did, he still insisted he pay. Eventually he started making more than I did and things didn’t change. But definitely a nice way to show appreciation is to offer to pay for dessert after dinner (like ice cream, etc) or paying for refreshments at the movie theater if he’s paid for tickets. Just say you want tontear him for once since he does such a good job of tr…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 04:06 AM
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If I may ask, what’s a good budget for you? I think social media has desensitized us to believe that the bigger the ring, the more it translates to love, which is so far from the truth. Not saying this is you in this case, but you said you feel disappointed with that budget so I’m genuinely curious as to what you would find to be a good budget. Maybe he’s not aware of what rings cost? I agree with others here suggesting you should send him ideas so he knows what you would like. Also, down the ro…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/22 07:06 AM
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Yes they are, I just love him 💜
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 02:40 AM
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I can relate to this! I love eating lobster, but it grosses me out having to pull it from its shell. So whenever we go to Benihana or anywhere lobster is served, my husband always removes it from the shell for me. It’s the sweetest thing, even though it’s so silly lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 12:18 AM
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My husband and I have a 4 year age gap. I’ve been in relationships with men older than my husband, and with men around my age (31). Honestly, I love the age gap I have with my husband. He was born in 87 and I was born in 91 so we relate a lot to being raised in the 90s, though I like to tease him sometimes that’s he’s “old” because he’s from the 80s. I like that he’s older enough to have wisdom and be rational, but he’s young enough to understand the time we live in and still have the energy to …
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/22 09:35 PM
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So for starters, you need to accept that you acted immaturely and you lack communication skills. You also need to accept that you may have lost this guy for good if you blew it even after he gave you another opportunity. There’s a reason why it’s never recommended to get back with an ex, whether you’re to blame or not. That being said, you have some growing up to do. You didn’t mention your age, but based on how you behaved, especially what you did in Mexico implies you’re still fairly young. No…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 07:50 PM
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I personally love to cook and do so about 4/5 times a week. My husband works in a warehouse with no access to outside food so he has to take a packed lunch everyday. I work too, and we save so much money taking packed lunches rather than buying takeout everyday for me at least. With that being said, I buy stuff where I can make simple meals in under an hour because that’s really all I have time for if I’m working. We’re both Mexican and there’s plenty of meals from our culture where it’s easily …
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 02:03 PM
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Thank you for your perspective! I’m glad we’re opening this conversation woman to woman. I think this conversation is one we need to approach without being judgmental or feeling judged. I was one of the ones that commented on a post on Sunday where a person posted about this topic and while they didn’t specify their gender, I have a feeling it came from a man. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but I wish men who do post would do those genuinely and not acting as women to make their poin…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 07:28 PM
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Here’s my take on this post: For me personally, even if I had a past relationship where sexual intimacy was good, if the relationship sucked, the “good” sex wasn’t worth it because it meant the relationship itself had no substance aside from sex and to me, that’s no relationship worth having. Therefore I disagree with this because I was fortunate to find a husband that not only does our marriage give fulfillment but the intimacy is that much better because the relationship is strong and so is th…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 10:47 PM
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I personally don’t get turned off or would consider it “unmanly”. Then again, my husband doesn’t post me everyday since he’s not active on social media like that and neither am I. But occasionally, For like our birthdays and anniversaries, sure. I prefer he declare his love to me in private which he does all the time lol. It’s kind of why we got engaged just the two of us and eloped in Vegas. Just the two of us. Just how our marriage will always be. I will say though, couples that are both super…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/22 06:42 PM
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I think you have valid reasons for being on the fence. I think what is confusing is his insistence on knowing your decision. I was reading a response you gave to someone else and you say he feared you want kids. But in your post you say you’re both on the fence. It almost sounds like he’s the one who doesn’t know what he wants and is relying on you to decide so he can base his decision on that. You mentioned he has a child from another relationship, and that’s the reason he’s on the fence. At so…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 04:34 PM
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So there’s a bit of a slippery slope with this one. Dating coworkers can get tough, especially if they don’t work out. I say this with experience; it gets awkward particularly if you work in an area where you see each other often. So be prepared for that in the event that you guys end up having something and doesn’t end well. I was reading some of your comments and what stood out to me was when you say that he does go all out to help you out when you ask him for it. I say take that opportunity t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 09:31 PM
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Yeah, I don’t see how he can’t pay so you can go, too. How does a married man say he’s going on vacation but you as his wife can’t go? That’s very sus. Even if his family offered to pay for him, why would they not offer to cover for both of you? Seems very disrespectful on their part, too. I would honestly communicate with your husband that you’re not okay with this. It’s not a matter of being needy, you’re his wife. His family should be made aware of this as well. If his family isn’t going out …
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/22 01:18 AM
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Sorry you’ve been experiencing that from people. It sounds like you dress modestly, which isn’t a problem. If it makes you feel comfortable and you actually enjoy the way you dress, then own it. Be confident in your look and aesthetic. Cause if you’re not comfortable, that will show and it’s possible that people perceive it as you “trying too hard” or being uptight, etc. I wouldn’t be too concerned with people’s criticism. You don’t need those types of friends anyway. People that don’t want to b…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 09:12 PM
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It sounds like a lot of controlling, lying, and immaturity in this relationship. Given your ages, I’m not surprised. I don’t mean this in a bad way, but when you’re that young, you’re still figuring yourself out (for both men and women) that mistakes are going to be made. It’s part of growing up and learning. It’s fine to set boundaries, but the whole no exes on social media seems a bit controlling and insecure. Who cares who’s on each other’s friend lists? Unless he only has women on his social…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 08:26 PM
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Wow, I’m really sorry you’re going through that with your future brother in law. Clearly he has issues with you if he had the nerve to disrespect you like that and purposely do it when your SO wasn’t around. That’s absolutely not okay and you have good reason to be upset. I understand your SO has love and respect for his brother, that’s his brother at the end of the day. But that doesn’t mean that his brother is allowed to disrespect you, especially when you’re supposed to be helping him out to …
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 04:16 AM
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Oh my gosh so much to unpack here. I’m sorry, but what are MC and IC mean? Im going to assume marriage counseling and individual/independent counseling? I hope I’m not wrong but please correct if I am. That being said, you mentioned you have no patience for liars and defamers and going low contact with future brother in law. Who lied here? Did you catch your fiancé in a lie and his brother was in on it? Just curious as to how his brother plays a part in this. Regardless, seeking premarital couns…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/22 01:54 AM
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We don’t do gifts because our birthdays are in March and with Christmas only been two months ago it gets too expensive to buy gifts or get ideas. Instead we do Valentine’s Day breakfast (less crowded than dinner) or attend a concert/comedy show. This year, because we just moved and cash is a bit tight, we’re keeping it low key and are going to make steaks. My husband makes some awesome steaks so I always look forward to him making them.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 09:42 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear about your breakup OP. Break ups are hard, but they hurt more when you love someone and it’s not being reciprocated. Based on his responses on the future, it sounds like you did the right thing by leaving him. It didn’t sound like he knew what he wanted as far as long term goals. It’s unfortunate, but some guys take longer to figure it out than women. That being said, you’ll find the right man for you. One thing I would recommend is to be confident in what you’re looking…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/21 07:36 PM
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I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. It sounds like he’s made up his mind and he’s not going to change it. I was reading some of your responses that you walked away from an 8 year relationship for the same reason. I understand you love him, but if he’s not wanting to marry you, you’re going to repeat the same story again. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t value marriage. He’s living in fear, and that’s not helping the relationship. You’re six months in, so if you choose to walk awa…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 08:36 PM
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Okay, so let me ask you this. If you’re looking to marry up, why are you still with your current boyfriend? You mentioned he loves you, but the real question is do you love him? Do you love him enough to settle down with and build a family and be happy with that choice? I ask because you seem determined in wanting to look for more based on your response. So I’m confused as to why you’re still holding on to him. Are you afraid to be alone? If it doesn’t work out with that potential HVM you were s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 08:19 PM
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Yeah, you have a bad case of “I don’t know what I want” and if you continue with that you’re going to end up losing out all together. Women that have this mindset of “there’s gotta be more out there for me” tend to never feel fully satisfied with what they have. At some point? Something’s gotta give. You’re 26, but if you truly consider yourself RPW, you’d know that being closer to 30 makes your value go down because your fertility starts to drops past 30 years of age. Meaning pregnancy is much …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 05:24 PM
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Considering you guys have only been together for a year and a half I wouldn’t be too worried about it. Consider his current situation: is he trying to move up at work? Is he trying to focus on important stuff such a buying a house, etc. Men do take more time to be in that “settling down” mentality than women do. If you love him and see a future with your boyfriend, I say give him sometime. You can bring up the question in a calm manner and talk about it. If he’s saying it won’t happen for awhile…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/21 10:14 PM
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Sorry to be the one to say it, but yes, you were overreacting. Walking out and pretending you weren’t upset when your actions show otherwise is very immature on your part. Rather than walking out, you should’ve told him exactly what you stated here. If you weren’t ready to speak about them in that moment, that’s okay, you could’ve just said you weren’t ready to talk about it that you needed the space. Don’t just leave the guy in the dark. If you really like this man and see potential, you need t…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/21 04:52 AM
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Hell yeah I agree! I was just at the grocery store last night and a 5lb bag of chicken drumsticks was $15. Like wtf since when?! I live in Arizona where gas is creeping up to $4. I’m originally from California, and my mom was telling me gas in some parts of the state is at $7. Like wtf whyyyyy. But people wanna be mad at a celebrity that makes a cringey post. Ooh everyone was in cahoots about that 🙄🙄
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/21 07:42 PM
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I also don’t understand why people were up in arms about this one. I think if anyone should be concerned it should be his wife. But if she didn’t care then, whatever, why should we be concerned about it? Idk, I just don’t care about the lives of celebrities like that. To me, celebrities are so far out of reach and out of touch with reality a lot of the time that I’m not surprised when they say or do stupid shit. I think COVID really showcased that, like attending parties during lockdowns and Kim…
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/21 02:44 PM
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As someone who has no experience in the matter (but wanna give my two cents anyway because it’s been a very interesting read thus far) here’s what I think: if you’re vibing with the guy your dating, I’d probably bring up around the third date. Hopefully, by then you’ve built some kind of rapport where the conversation may not be as awkward compared to the first date. But it’s still a good medium of you haven’t wasted so much time in the event you have to end things. I’m curious if it’s possible …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 06:37 PM
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I’m confused. You’re getting engaged/are engaged and you’re asking us what to do because he’s not communicating? Uh, girl you better call him! If you’re getting engaged that means you’re planning on getting married. Communication is your bff in this situation. Dont be afraid to reach out to him. If you’re engaged, you should feel comfortable in this stage in your relationship to call him up and see what’s going on. If not, maybe you’re going too fast and might need to slow things down a bit. I’m…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/21 03:05 PM
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“I’m one of those people that material things literally does makes me happy” That’s a very concerning statement to make. It sounds like you’re using material things to compensate for deep rooted issues. Be very careful as this can lead to an addiction which is a very dangerous habit to have. It sounds like you’re not communicating effectively on your issues as a married couple. There’s definitely a disconnect between you two. Health wise you had a rough year, and want more of his attention which…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/21 04:38 PM
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Your response tells me so much about your vulnerability and that’s where it’s concerning. You’re unwilling to listen to what everyone is trying to warn you about. You asked for advice in a subreddit generally used for adults. If you weren’t prepared to hear what you don’t wanna hear, then simple- you shouldn’t have asked. You asked for advice, but you never specified what kind. Everyone here is simply giving you their general concerns based on the information provided and how your responding. It…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 02:01 AM
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