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Thanks for replying. I don't think it's the dollar amounts of contributions that matter most, but rather that the effort put forth by both partners is basically equal. Money is a part of that. I believe that even if the woman makes more money and wants to do the bulk of the cooking and cleaning, there have got to be other ways for the man to balance out her energy and efforts that don't violate the idea of a traditional relationship. There's nothing masculine about sitting around and letting a w…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 06:31 PM
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"I always accept I’ll take on the majority of the housework despite my salary and hours always being more than most the men I’m with." It just seems like this would attract the type of men who want to use/take advantage of you and your kindness, and not the kind who want to protect and provide.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 06:08 AM
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Of course! Oh, do you mean you were thinking of things more like...where should we live? Or whose career takes priority? Or how many kids should we have? Or should we let our parents live with us when they're old? I mean these big issues ought to be a discussion, most of them fall under compatibility/vetting and so should be discussed when things seem to be headed in a serious direction. It's the smaller things that contribute to day to day happiness and a healthy relationship dynamic. You don't…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 05:38 AM
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A lot of these require a significant amount of money and you list many specific items that are surface level but kind of gloss over/are vague about the more internal items (become kind and sweet, get hobbies and friends). Start with the health stuff, find a type of exercise you enjoy so that you will stick with it (counts as a hobby too!). Don't try to make too many changes at once. How are you supporting yourself financially now? Don't take out student loans without a serious plan. Maybe look a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 05:40 AM
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- Both have to think of the other as special and a catch - Want same things in life (marriage, kids, spend a lot of time together) - Shared values: unmaterialistic, likes philosophy, open minded, prioritize family over work, honest, loyal, loving - I watched how he spoke about/treated others, how he was with friends and family to make sure he was considerate and had a good heart - Was into the idea of providing for a family - Conflict resolution, can we disagree respectfully, is he willing to di…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 03:03 AM
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No problem. Sometimes he'll offer to fix computer issues I'm having, even though I'm perfectly capable of this sort of stuff so my initial reaction is like nah I've got it, but I think it's actually better to just let him help because it's one less thing for me to worry about and then he feels good about helping me. He literally navigates during our hikes and I follow. If he sees me carrying something heavy he'll intervene. I am capable of these things, but I want to encourage him to keep lookin…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/23 12:42 AM
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Look for a man who is naturally a protector and provider, preferably who is not familiar with TRP, and actually step back and let him lead and solve problems for you. Some men don't like the responsibility of being in that role, you cannot change them. Other men take immense pride in that role. It's a cliche, but feed him and put out and be generally pleasant to be around. If you want to express discontent over minor issues, doing it playfully often works. Embrace being soft, that's a thing men …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:47 AM
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I've never seen a post about race in this subreddit...at most I've seen it mentioned for cultural context.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:31 AM
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I was wondering how far she had to dig to find that gem...
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 12:18 AM
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Doesn't his advanced age make him significantly less attractive to most women though? As well as emotional baggage from a 20 year marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 10:34 PM
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Hey I just want to say that he is probably dealing with some of his own feelings over his diagnosis and talking with him about your worries and anxieties on the topic might psych him out. I don't know how much his low T will affect his sex drive, but I KNOW low confidence can tank a man's libido. It's also just not very kind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 04:13 AM
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A lot of good advice has already been covered here. I'd like to add one idea: it's possible to be honest without giving him too much information. The way to do this is to double check that yes, he actually wants all the information/details before you tell him. In my first marriage we both way overshared about our past sexual encounters and the details about him doing things with other women haunted me. I could not get them out of my head. I knew too much. My current partner was satisfied with a …
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/23 02:47 AM
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In truth, any capable adult of either gender does not "need" another to make it through life. But both like to feel needed and helpful. My partner does not need me to feed him, but he feels so loved when I put hours into making a meal for him. I did not need him to remove and unclog the garbage grinder yesterday, but I am so appreciative that he did that unpleasant job for me. I want my partner to feel integral to our family unit. The way he steps in to help and remove burdens for me when he can…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 05:58 PM
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I don't like the double standard. I've told my partner that I don't expect him to stop finding other women attractive - I still find other men attractive too, BUT I don't want to hear about it if he thinks a woman on TV or a woman walking by is attractive! It still makes me feel bad. And I wouldn't do it to him. You're in a difficult situation because on the one hand he never intended for you to hear that stuff. But on the other hand, there's some specific flavor to some of what he said...I thin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 09:11 PM
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If you're smart about it, doing a 4 year enlistment right out of high school can really give you a boost in financial security when starting adult life. The GI Bill in particular is a great benefit as it comes with BAH. All of your medical, housing, and food needs will be taken care of. Just make sure to save a portion of your monthly income. I don't think being in the military and the air force in particular is incompatible with being feminine. Some particular jobs may be more or less feminine …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/23 08:35 PM
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Whoa there, every individual has to find meaning in life for him or herself. Don't live your life for a career and accolades, and don't live it for others. The way I see it, the point of life is something like, experience all of the things I am interested in (travel, raising a family, learning new things), maintain and make connections with others, continually work on improving myself and mastering my emotions and state of mind, fulfill my responsibilities and maintain a positive outlook. Pretty…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 07:38 PM
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You can't change someone who doesn't want to change. It sounds like you know what the right move here is and you just need encouragement. Situations like this are exactly why it's wise to try living with someone first before more commitment. You thought he was one type of person, but he's actually another and he's going to make you miserable. Fixing him is not your responsibility. His behavior is not normal.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 10:20 PM
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You can be comfortable with these topics and still think they're not particularly interesting choices for theatre.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 07:16 AM
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I don't think you have to avoid male friendships entirely. You do have to be more careful with boundaries though in m/f friendships. I think with age/experience I just got better at being able to tell when a guy is too interested in me to just be friends. For your current situation, I would either just stop communicating with this guy entirely or give him one more chance but very clearly state that what he said was not acceptable and you value your relationship very much and you will only be fri…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 04:33 AM
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I won't generalize this to others, but for me I know it works because I would have a hard time respecting the man if he was not the one leading.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/22 05:46 PM
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You need to have a conversation with him about it, as it can be very individual specific. How often does he like to communicate with a partner? Text vs call vs video? And know and communicate your own needs as well. Mention that you want to show that you care but don't want to be overbearing.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 11:09 PM
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I think she is saying that she can only have a clitoral orgasm (and maybe only from a partner when receiving oral), which she does not find intimate. I also can only orgasm clitorally, and I also don't like receiving oral (it feels like the man is in a submissive position). For me, it has to be done with my fingers. But my partner helps, and I like that. But I don't feel the need for a orgasm every time. Just when I feel like it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 01:12 AM
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Reflect on what it is about anime and anime watchers that bothers you. Are you associating certain traits with anime watchers? What is this really about? Only then can you get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/22 10:32 PM
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Only derive your self-worth from that which is under your control.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 08:48 PM
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There's probably a self-selection process going on such that the men who are dating women significantly younger are on average more hung up on looks/ageing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/22 08:48 PM
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Guess I'm going to be the dissenting opinion here... If you're on a very restrictive diet (keto, vegan, etc.) and you would like to maintain that very restrictive diet on a multi-day trip where there are many other food-related concerns (transporting it, lack of normal refrigeration, his kids' food preferences) and non-food concerns, the responsibility for your food really should be on you. It's totally fine that you have a special diet, but it's not fair to put that burden on someone else in th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/22 03:56 AM
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Perhaps this couples challenge book feels too contrived or seems too much like homework to him. I'm not sure that there's anything you can do to make him into someone who takes more initiative and action. It might just be a personality thing. Try to have a conversation with him about it in a way that is non-confrontational? Get a feel for how much he actually wants to do these things? Maybe he feels like he doesn't have enough energy left over for these things? Ask him what brings him fulfillmen…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 09:55 PM
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He'll drive me around anywhere, even to do errands, because he knows I don't like driving.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/22 06:06 PM
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Have any of these men been crazy about you? Have you been crazy about any of them? "I've never felt this way about anyone before" and etc.? You sound stable and logical and that's great, but maybe you are coming across as boring? Or dispassionate? If you're really vetting correctly and focusing on men that are ready to settle down, then maybe you're just not making them go, "wow, she's really something special"? In happy relationships, this feeling is mutual. It's not just about checking boxes. …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 09:23 PM
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Pretty sure the negative outcomes of single motherhood disappear when you look at just chose who became single mothers by choice (mostly older, well-off, women opting for sperm donation). But having a strong social support network is even more important in that case. Having a partner to share raising a family with is best, but if you know you really want kids, it makes sense to have a rule like "if I don't find the right man by age x, I will start a family on my own" and start taking actions now…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 06:37 PM
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Solid advice! People criticizing the importance you place on sexual compatibility are probably just not that into sex. Just like some people are foodies and some eat to survive. Best wishes on building your family!
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 10:31 PM
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Here is my advice for those who want to know about sexual compatibility before having sex with someone. I think there are two main components to sexual compatibility: How frequently would you like to have sex/how important is sex to you? What kinds of things turn you on? I think being on the same page for 1) is more important for a happy sex life. How often you think about sex might be an okay proxy for how often you will want it. Some people don't care much about sex and that's okay! But they s…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 10:26 PM
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Being kind and paying attention to other peoples' feelings. It's not something that came naturally to me, I grew up on 4chan and had kind of a mean sense of humor. It's something I have to deliberately think about. But I think it's a better way to be. Compassion is a good trait in both genders but I do think it's more expected in women and certainly more jarring when it's missing.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/22 09:27 PM
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It's called a speculum. Otherwise good advice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 06:32 PM
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MMF or FFM?
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/22 12:34 AM
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Some stereotypically "male" careers are great places to meet men who might lean a bit more traditional and are not around many women. For example: engineering, military.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 04:27 AM
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I wanted to second Marcus Aurelius. The popular conception of Stoicism is that it's about self-discipline and ascetism. While those things are a part of it, though I would say more moderation than ascetism, it's big on the way you treat other people and emotional regulation (not being unemotional). To do harm to others is to harm yourself and etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/21 11:12 PM
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So no, I don't think they're at their peak value when they're older. Also they tend to be more cynical/jaded and there is a higher risk of his sperm causing birth defects, especially autism. But they will be less financially stable so it is more of a gamble in that sense.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 07:40 PM
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It is my opinion that most high value men who want families are already in a serious relationship by 30.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/21 07:38 PM
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You don't have a large enough sample size to claim 99%. Hint: 99/100 is irreducible. If you actually have done this to 100 women, you have serious psychological issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 09:28 PM
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I agree with the general theme of your post, and it breaks my heart to see men broken in this way, but... Women and men differ in that a job is not just an income for men. Men derive their worth from their actions and work. Women derive their worth from who they are loved and cherished by. This is a pretty dangerous thing to say. I see RPW being about intimate relationship dynamics between the genders. For anyone, it is unwise to derive your worth from another person. Personally, I derive my wor…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 01:03 AM
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Sounds like you have a dynamic where you are more submissive and she's more dominant. At least some of the time. Which is fine, if that's what you guys like. For me, I am deeply submissive sexually so the idea you suggest in the original post does not appeal to me psychologically. I'm lucky to have a boyfriend that complements me sexually, so we both get off on him being in control and "using me" for his pleasure. Of course, I enjoy it too, so in a sense it's also always about pleasuring me. I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:02 AM
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Men are absolutely psychologically affected by a feminist society. Things are stacked against them when it comes to education and career in the name of gender equality, while education and career success is more integral to a man's identity than it is to a woman's. Young men no longer know how to be men, and they're now in a situation where their lives are still seen as more disposable (as has always been the case), but without the respect that used to accompany that role. They're told that male…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/21 05:25 PM
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