| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 488 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind. | #JustLVMThings | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:46 PM |
| 169 | Scrote keeps on contacting me. | RANT | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:36 PM |
| 75 | It’s the audacity for me 🙄 | #JustLVMThings | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 07:01 PM |
| 66 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined. | RANT | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:33 PM |
| 32 | LVM Bitching About Paying $20 For A Meal | THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 08:08 PM |
| 3 | He’s taking forever to text back. I want to block him. | RANT | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:17 PM |
| 1 | LVM Bitching About Paying $20 For A Meal | THE AUDACITY OF SCROTES | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 1 | I cannot stand my LVM father. | RANT | TheGoodie | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 04:21 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 23 | Scrote keeps on contacting me.I literally have no idea if he has the nudes saved. I never asked him. But knowing how men are, I think he still has it saved. That would be funny because I remember at the time when I sent them, he said how my body was unattractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 04:38 PM |
| 56 | Scrote keeps on contacting me.He was 17 at the time. Now he’s in college, so he’s 19 right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:40 PM |
| 17 | Scrote keeps on contacting me.Thank you so much! I haven’t thought the answering machine. I’m not quite sure on how to do that? There’s tutorials on YouTube right? I think the hardest thing for me to do is talking to the police. I remember talking to a social worker and a police was accompanying him. And they both basically gaslighted me. And I broke down in front of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:15 PM |
| 1 | He’s taking forever to text back. I want to block him.I definitely needed to hear this, thank you so much 🙏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:51 PM |
| 1 | He’s taking forever to text back. I want to block him.Yeah I hate to say this but my dad is far from a HVM. So he doesn’t see where I’m coming from. 💀 He thinks celebs use it as a form of communication 24/7. And I literally sat down with him and explained the dangers of Snapchat. He refused to listen. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | He’s taking forever to text back. I want to block him.Sorry, I wasn’t really sure where to post this. Thank you! 🙏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:37 PM |
| 2 | He’s taking forever to text back. I want to block him.Thank you. My parents aren’t being supportive at all. I’m trying to tell them that Snapchat is a red flag. My dad is like “he’s just trying to market himself since he’s well established.” And I’m like no, he’s being disrespectful. Because he’s also posting stuff on his Instagram story. So he’s definitely ignoring me. Oh and btw, the guy is in the same grade as me. He was featured in an article, so it’s a real person. But yeah we’re getting older so it’s weird to use snap. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 11:32 PM |
| 13 | Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lolTell me how I got treated wayyy better when I started being mean to men. 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 04:30 AM |
| 157 | To the black queens in here: please understand that divesting is imperative for our safety and to better our chances of meeting HVM. Most black men are LVM.As a young black teenager, all I have experienced is misogyny, trauma and exploitation from my own father and other black men. It’s sickening. It took me such a long time to feel confident in my own skin and body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 10:00 PM |
| 391 | PSA: You don’t owe anyone analAnal is so normalized to the point where teenagers like myself are getting approached with this same topic from boys. Men think majority of the women gets off on it because they saw pornographic scenes. I’m just appalled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 06:08 AM |
| 9 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:Maybe I’m just overthinking at the end of day. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 26 | If men were allowed to contribute their VITALLY IMPORTANT, MUST-BE-HEARD "dating advice" on FDS:Hm, it’s kind of a red flag. We all are going to age, even him so, this statement sounds odd... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 06:32 PM |
| 6 | LV lurker gets triggered by a comment I made here, lets me live in his head rent free 😂How do you turn off DMs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 04:30 PM |
| 90 | What is with men not being able to hold a conversation?Exactly. I find myself carrying the convo majority of the time. And I’m noticing that the guys who complain about dry convos are the ones who absolutely bring NOTHING to the convo. They expect the woman to do all the work. It’s frustrating and I’m over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 12:17 AM |
| 117 | It do be like thatFacts. And it’s always the ones who don’t even wash their ass and groom themselves properly. It’s the audacity for me. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:09 PM |
| 90 | The way women take on men's burdens 🥺I feel you. This hurts me so much. My mom wakes up early, works a tiring job, pays the bills, cut the lawn, buys groceries, clothing, etc. There’s little to no reciprocation on my dad’s part. My dad has all the free time in the world and makes less compared to my mom. My dad doesn’t get my mother gifts. Nothing for her birthday and the holidays. He always made excuses and put the blame on my sister and I. He never took her out. For Christmas, I saved up money so she can go buy whatever she wants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:12 AM |
| 8 | FDS saved me todayPeriod! I’m happy for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 01:36 AM |
| 2 | He doesn't respect my opinion about porn and thinks getting coffee with a female coworker is okayI just blocked a dude over this. He was also pornsick and had poor hygiene. He doesn’t even wash his ass. You made the right choice. If you had put up with his BS, you would’ve been in for a disaster. You deserve the world sis, never settle for less. ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 10:45 PM |
| 6 | Don't debate with men about your FDS standards. It's pointless.Whew I definitely needed to hear this. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:12 PM |
| 67 | Scrolling through tik tok and all the top comments are saying to leave him and that this isn’t healthy or good for her. I am LOVING that we are telling the younger generations that they don’t have to deal with their porn obsessed boyfriends. 🥰Any man who suffers from pornsickness is automatically a LVM. 🤢Just disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:01 PM |
| 9 | Another HVM DadThat’s so kind of him! I wish I had a dad like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:08 PM |
| 21 | The body shamersThank you ma’am. I’m so thankful for this sub. Ever since I found this sub, I know how much of a narc my father is. I used to be a pick me because of him. I used to seek validation from the wrong types of men. Constantly falling into the trap of changing a man and putting up with BS. Not anymore. I will create a plan so I can move out once I am of age. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:18 PM |
| 20 | The body shamersI called CPS a few months later and my social worker did absolutely nothing. He didn’t care that I had welts from my dad putting his hands on me. The social worker was also in favor of my dad since they come from the same country. He also kept on interrupting me and made it hard for me to talk about my situation. It’s like he didn’t care at all. He just said it was discipline and he probably thought I was a rebel. My sister also called CPS and my dad found out and forced her to change up her sto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 02:10 PM |
| 36 | The body shamersIt happened around 2 years ago. I was 14. My father constantly says stuff like this. He even said that because of my attitude that a guy wouldn’t want to marry me and I’ll be lonely for ever. And I was like I don’t care and he immediately said that you will regret it and he emphasized that “the clock is ticking” and how I’m expected to have kids soon. Funny thing, this is the same father who shamed women online for ending up in abusive relationships. Meanwhile, he’s putting his hands on his own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:41 AM |
| 22 | The body shamersHe said how I’m supposed to get stretch marks during pregnancy only. Since I got them early, he said how I needed to eat healthy and how I ruined myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 11:26 AM |
| 107 | The body shamersI know right? In my situation, my father was the first person to body shame me. He felt the need to put me down since I developed stretch marks early. He said no one would want me. “Guys don’t like that.” As if I needed a guy to be able to love myself. My mother has stretch marks as well and she still went in on the shaming. Funny thing is that my dad is really overweight... 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:24 AM |
| 67 | I found a child porn sub and reported to the FBIThank you for reporting! This is so sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 03:26 PM |
| 7 | FDS helped me process the fact that I was groomedI was in the same spot as you a year ago. Most of it stemmed from my LVM father and my enabler mother. I was abused, depressed, and I was seeking love and validation from the wrong type of men. Older men took advantage of me while knowing that I am a minor. I’m so grateful for finding this sub. I regret what happened but I’m proud of the woman that I’m becoming since I found this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 06:43 AM |
| 51 | Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that.Facts. Block, delete and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 12:21 AM |
| 38 | Vetting: advice needed please. He is very devout orthodox Christian. Liturgy for him was at 0700 today. To make it clear, he seldom forgets I just don’t tolerate this behavior.“I just started using my phone for the day” Total BS. He’s clearly lying to you. If he wanted to make the effort to text you, he would have. He’s definitely not thinking of you as a #1 priority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 10:53 PM |
| 32 | The invisible labour of women and why you should pay attention to how he livesYes this post speaks volumes. I’m already seeing it with my parents. My mother is always a “manager” for my dad. She keeps on saying that he will change his ways eventually and things will get better. To this day, the house is not renovated, the pool is green, and my father is unemployed and making way less than my mom even though he has all the free time in the world. It’s been like this for 9 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 12:34 AM |
| 262 | You hate to see it. Black men degrading their own kind.I showed my LVM father this post and he said how there’s truth to this post. He continued to make so many excuses for the rapper and saying how he wasn’t being negative. I’m honestly so appalled. This post is clearly degrading black women. You do not see any woman referring to men as exhibit A or B. My father also told me how I’m playing into the “angry black woman” stereotype just for DISAGREEING with him. Oh and this is the same father who claims to support feminism. I’m so sick and tired of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:47 PM |
| 38 | How many years do you count?I’m so thankful for this sub! It’s so hard being a teenager with dysfunctional parents. It’s so easy to fall into peer pressure and horrifying situations. This sub has definitely saved my life! 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:56 PM |
| 14 | My toxic relationship story.Sis, this ISN’T your fault AT ALL. This man was going to put you through an emotional rollercoaster. He has gaslighted and ghosted you, and treated you as a second option. He did not make the effort to take you out to eat on your birthday. He also did not want to commit to the relationship. I know that this is your first love but, you shouldn’t take this to the heart. This man obviously didn’t care. If a man wants you, he’ll show it. He’ll make the effort to do anything that’ll make YOU happy. Y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:58 AM |
| 9 | Do any of you have HVM dads?Nope. My mother makes excuses and bends backwards for my LVM Dad. When I was younger, I thought my dad was a HVM until I went into my teenager years. My mom would often say how things were better with my dad when she didn’t have kids. Now he’s lazy, aggressive and grumpy. He doesn’t take my mother out to dinner anymore. He doesn’t get her gifts and he’s very hostile to my sister and I. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 06:11 AM |
| 26 | "MGTOW: “There are no real differences between a 16-year-old girl and a 30-year-old woman"...And they continue to say we're just like these pedos/predators.Oh my, I’m very appalled. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 17 | Men sending you pornI was talking to a dude about Thanksgiving and he immediately resorted to talking about jerking off. Disgusting. 🙄🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 02:03 AM |
| 55 | Why are women expected to change for men?This post speaks volumes. I remember when I made the decision to cut my damaged hair all off back in June. My low-value father immediately said something along the lines of “Your beauty will decline, are you sure you want to do this?” He didn’t even care about me wanting to have healthy hair. He immediately resorted to what men would think of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 01:53 AM |
| 39 | FDS Handbook has opened eyes to my parents' dysfunctional relationship and more...Same thing over here. My dad met my mom when she was 18. He’s 5 years older than her. As years go by, he starts to become a grumpy, narcissist individual. The house that my mom and him brought hasn’t been renovated in 10 years. He doesn’t make the effort to take my mom out, he takes extremely long to do simple tasks like going grocery shopping or fixing the light. My mom obviously makes excuses for him. My sister I were often abused and in trouble for petty things. He would constantly make up li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 02:08 AM |
| 16 | Stop letting men panic you into action.Thank you for the reminder. I’ve learned so much on this sub. Growing up with an enabler mother and a LVM father has affected me so much. Thank you again. I feel like I’m heading on the right path. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 12:42 AM |
| 15 | Before my FDS awakening, I had a long distance “friend” who said he loved me first, and that he’d date me if not for the distance. Each time we talked, everything had to be on his terms, or nothing. This is one of the times where me simply saying “I love you” supposedly “stressed” him out.Stop right there. You are worthy of love. Always remember that you are the PRIZE. Do not let the actions of a LVM bring you down. Level up and get that masters degree sis. 💁🏽♀️✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 09:38 PM |
| 136 | GhosttI wouldn’t even do Netflix & Chill in the first place. We all know where that leads up to. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:39 PM |
| 14 | How many red flags can you count? 🚩🚩🚩Poor woman desperately needs FDSThis one is definitely a rollercoaster that I do not want to end up in. 🤭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:15 AM |
| 15 | I recently realized that, when assessing mental illness patterns in women, 9 times out of 10 the root cause is some shit a man did to them (molestation, rape, abuse, etc) or some shit a man failed to do FOR them (be a father, be a good husband, etc).Yes. You hit the nail right on the head! My own father has abused me and I really thought that this was normal. He shamed me for having stretch marks when my enabler mom has it. He gaslights me and make it seem like I’m overreacting or my opinion doesn’t matter. It often made me feel depressed and I ended up seeking the wrong guys and getting groomed and taken advantage of on the internet. I’m only 16 and I’m trying to heal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:13 AM |
| 19 | Women are restricted in self expression. Wdyt?It’s really tough out here for women but do not give up on your dreams for ANY man. A lot of the women in my family made the mistake of doing that. And honestly, being single is way better than picking up LVM who will WASTE YOUR TIME and bring you suffering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 08:02 AM |
| 21 | Hard to choose just one flair for this NVM...This is just so sad to hear. I don’t know how she put up with this for so long. I’m at lost for words... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 07:52 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: September 29 2020Once again, thanks for this sub!! I’m glad to be here. I made a lot of mistakes in the past but I’m now focusing on leveling up, fulfilling my dreams and being financially secured. 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 03:23 AM |
| 5 | I made my ex cry on the phone. Did I do something wrong?Oh my, this is a nightmare. Please do not get back with that man. He’s definitely manipulating and abusing you for his own pleasure. Do not entertain those CROCODILE TEARS! 🐊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 08:24 AM |
| 11 | Im so tired of this shit, it’s like these girls have no purpose outside of sexually gratifying their partner, being the “cool gf” is their personality. It’s so pathetic, what’s worse is the number of likes and the comment section full of Pick Ames agreeing???So sad. Im getting flashbacks from the past. I’m a teen and I was groomed a lot and conditioned to believe in this way. 😔Thank god I found this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 06:10 PM |
| 26 | The 👏🏽 fucking 👏🏽 message 👏🏽I love this post. Unfortunately my mom is an enabler and my dad has put his hands on my sister and I over petty things. I can’t wait to break the cycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:40 PM |
| 39 | LVM in my local area: a play in three acts with a shocking twist ending.It’s the last slide for me. 🤢💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 10:42 PM |
| 11 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.Thank you, I don’t really have the guy’s info but he’s been trying to contact me ever since. He sent me a request yesterday but I blocked him. I might unblock him to get some proof to report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:24 PM |
| 20 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.Yes, I’m still a minor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:20 PM |
| 15 | My nudes were leaked and I feel like my life is ruined.I’m 16. The guy who did this is supposed to be 16. He distributed it to a discord server so multiple people got it. They decided to create a video as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 07:19 PM |
| 18 | Aaand we need to stop saying hi to men... I can't believe they wonder why don't we act friendly.What a weirdo...🙄🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:04 PM |
| 30 | No words.If you look at the guy’s post history, he admitted to manipulating and abusing his wife. What a piece of dog shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 01:57 AM |
| 24 | I’m black and I love black men but they’re re so hard to find.Hmm, where I’m from there’s a lot of black men. And actually it’s common for a black man to not date a dark skin. They typically go for the lighter shades. But all shades of black are beautiful so please don’t compare yourself and put down women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Don't take nude photos of yourself!Same, I want to start a YouTube channel as well but I’m afraid. What’s even worse is that the guy screen recorded me on video call without my knowledge and sent them around. 🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:14 AM |
| 2 | I feel insecureSis, you don’t need validation from men. You are beautiful just the way you are! Sheesh, I wish I was very tall. Those who have made fun of you were clearly immature. Ignore them and do you sis. 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 07:49 AM |
| 60 | Why do men try to tell me they have it worse?Exactly. Women have it way worse than men. End of discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:28 AM |
| 8 | I did it! I ended things with him! But then I was weak again :(“He thinks we're close to being something really good that he can enthusiastically commit to, but he "needs more time" to fully commit because there are some things about me he doesn't like.” This doesn’t sit right with me sis. A man saying “he needs more time to commit” will NEVER commit. He’s telling you a bunch of lies that you want to hear. “There are some things about me he doesn’t like.” Why are you even wasting your time on a man who doesn’t even like you for who you are? Please drop him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 10:57 PM |
| 3 | Is this a long term relationship with a love bomber?It’s time to leave sis and never look back. Don’t waste anymore time on him. He will DRAIN your energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 11:36 PM |
| 3 | Well, maybe if you didn't only said: ''Hi'' like the countless other men... imagine, a guy walking to you in the supermarket or at bar and only said: ''Hi'' would be pretty awkward.. maybe show more effort?!What’s worse is that I saw this post on the teenagers sub. Being a teenager myself, this is extremely frustrating. Absolutely no effort to his response. These LVM are starting real young with this type of mentality. Sick of it.🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:48 PM |
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