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FYI, I'm not sure if you mean Rogerian style therapy versus CBT, but the concepts of "talk therapy" and cognitive behavioral therapy are not mutually exclusive by any means. In fact, the term "talk therapy" doesn't actually have a definition. If you mean a format in which someone has the freedom to explore past experiences, then you're right in that some CB therapists are more structured than others and keep the focus very specific and relatively current. However, any good therapist will have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/16 10:11 PM
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Don’t start a family with this man from whom you’re very likely to end up divorced Ouch, that is terrible advice. People sometimes have low libido--it's the couple's issue, why say something so awful?
/r/MensRights15/08/13 08:54 PM
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I think you may have taken this quote out of context and misinterpreted it. He was referring to the expectation of men to devote their lives to daily toil in the system (and he wrote that before it was common for women to be a part of the workforce). I read it more like an Alfred Prufrock observation, measuring out one's life in coffee spoons and what not.
/r/MensRights15/08/13 08:49 PM
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Maybe if you see sexual partners as clients. If so, I hope you charge a flat rate, it usually comes out better that way...
/r/seduction07/08/13 05:54 AM
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Wow, you sound very misinformed pr maybe just young and inexperienced. People should respect the boundaries of others. If someone doesn't respond in person or via text, you should probably leave them be.
/r/seduction07/08/13 05:52 AM
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This relates to the idea that "masculine ideals" that are forced on men are harmful--and they are oppressive. Not that men oppress others. For example, expecting a man to pay for dinner on a date, or expecting a man to take a punch from a woman and just deal with it. These are examples of oppressive masculine ideals. The reason they have a section for "women in D51" is because a lot of women don't join because they think they won't be welcome (similar to men who want to be involved in feminist m…
/r/MensRights19/04/13 09:58 PM
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You should join APA Division 51 (Psychology of men and masculinity)! It's been around since 1995.
/r/MensRights19/04/13 05:25 PM
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meh, don't decide based on how women react. I've been with uncircumcised partners, and while i can only speak for myself, it makes no difference to me. Some partners just need some education--if they don't want to fool around just because of that, and they're not receptive to being educated, then move on and find someone who will.
/r/MensRights29/03/13 06:48 AM
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No one is forcing you to look at the ground or forcing you to do anything. It is a bit silly to act like you only have two choices: to either stare at a person or stare at the ground. Pointing out that it's rude and asking you to stop is not the same thing as having actual laws against looking at another person.
/r/MensRights13/03/13 03:03 PM
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I guess is comes down to one issue on which we do not agree: I think staring at strangers is wrong, so therefore I think asking them not to stare is an assertion of boundaries. Shaming someone for their sexual behavior (by, say calling them a slut) is ALSO an invasion of boundaries. How, exactly, are your rights being trampled when a woman asks you not to stare at her?
/r/MensRights13/03/13 01:58 PM
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calling someone a slut and telling someone not to stare are not comparable. And I'm sorry you call women sluts that's not very nice.
/r/MensRights13/03/13 05:52 AM
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Not to look--to STARE. When someone stares at you it can be very disarming. By "stare," I mean sustained attentional focus on the body (not just eye contact in service of conversation). Listen, I glance at men I find attractive, but I do not stare, because I think it is rude. I have had men stare at me, and I don't like it. I don't feel traumatized by it, but I think it is rude, and I'm not the only one I know who feels that way. If you try to have a conversation with a person who keeps looking …
/r/MensRights13/03/13 01:28 AM
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I wouldn't call it traumatizing at all, but it is rude, and calling out rudeness is not what I would call "shaming"
/r/MensRights12/03/13 10:27 PM
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I think a lot of people who are ignorant of the law are pressured all the time. It clearly happens to men (based on your experience) and I know it happens to women (I have worked in women's health). Often women are pressured to not have abortions and often given wrong information about the law...I think the main issue is that we all need to be aware of how the ideologies of individual professionals might be abused to influence citizens who are not educated on the law. Just look at all the women …
/r/MensRights21/02/13 04:17 AM
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I know there are tubal ligation laws in some areas of the U.S., too--I think it is bullshit. Like any health care rights issue, this is something I think we all need to protest. No one should require the permission of a partner to have surgery. EDIT: Regarding state law, tubal ligation is not prohibited, but many doctors refuse to do it without spousal consent (as seen in Louisiana and WV). As noted by the OP, no laws require spousal approval for vasectomies, either. I think it is important to n…
/r/MensRights21/02/13 03:55 AM
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I am a teacher (of undergrads, and I'm a doc student so not a professor) so I can tell you that from a professional standpoint I would never have a relationship with a student, not just because of my job but because it violates the trust of a student-teacher relationship . However, I am also a licensed therapist (similar set of standards with respect to sex with clients) and I can say that yes, a position of power means you should probably seek relationships elsewhere. I ask this question: why n…
/r/MensRights21/02/13 03:26 AM
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That hypothetical is not relevant to this case, as he was not a 17 yo senior in last semester.
/r/MensRights21/02/13 01:14 AM
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It's not just about statutory rape, it's about abuse of power. She was in a position of power, which she abused. I think standards should be different for professionals who work with kids who have power over kids. As a teacher, she should have recognized that it was not appropriate. EDIT for retrospect: I also don't think that only violent crimes should receive prison time. Are you saying Bernie Madoff shouldn't be in prison?
/r/MensRights20/02/13 01:39 AM
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Ugh, I hope she never teaches again. She should have gone to prison.
/r/MensRights19/02/13 11:24 PM
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my bad, I misread that part (I thought it sounded high!). Actually, homeless women are 10 times more likely to die than non-homeless folks (that makes more sense, no?). On a side note, homeless women have a life expectancy that is four years less than homeless men, and homeless women are more likely to die (though not ten times). Sorry for the mistake, thanks for pointing it out :)
/r/MensRights14/12/12 03:29 AM
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Families with children are the largest growing segment of the homeless population right now. Single men still far outnumber single women, but the number of single women is rising faster now than it ever has. While there are a lot of factors to consider (such as available programs for women with children), I think it's also important to note that homeless women are ten times more likely to die than homeless men (at least before age 45), which could account for part of the disparity, as well.
/r/MensRights13/12/12 11:35 PM
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To be fair, you are going to get complaints as a teacher. As any teacher. I get complaints all the time. From female students. From male students. About grades and bias and what not. It's not right, but it is reality of being a teacher. Everyone has to be prepared for it, not just one gender.
/r/MensRights13/12/12 09:32 AM
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Listen, you are clearly drunk. I think you should probably call it a night.
/r/MensRights13/12/12 09:11 AM
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Cosmo is a font of misinformation. Men shouldn't have to make the first move, that's a lot of pressure. I think the only place privilege comes in is if you decide to ask and then expect a definite "yes" from the lady in question.
/r/MensRights14/11/12 07:48 AM
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This is why we need unisex bathrooms everywhere, IMO. Women shouldn't barge into the men's room and vice versa--so let's just get rid of the gender stuff and have one big room.
/r/MensRights01/11/12 09:07 PM
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The woman should pay for dates as often as the man. That's the answer. I don't understand why this is so hard to understand...
/r/MensRights09/10/12 06:04 AM
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and yet, according to the same study, 1.5 million women and 835 000 men, respectively, are physically assaulted in relationships. So I guess individual women are responsible for more assaults apiece, right?
/r/MensRights09/10/12 05:53 AM
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I love the image of you asking for SAT and IQ scores prior to starting to starting a date. There are lots of indicators for intelligence. From my perspective, I like to see how a person debates a topic. That doesn't mean getting into a fight, mind you, just talk about things for which you have passion and see how she responds. See what her points of view are and how well she reasons. But please, please don't sit there in judgment, waiting to see if she passes some kind of test--people can sense …
/r/seduction21/09/12 08:23 PM
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pretty sure it's troll. Or grossly misinformed. Or both.
/r/seduction22/08/12 02:35 AM
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how is this comparison constructive? There's no way this discussion can possibly go in a positive direction. It's just going to be a bunch of people arguing over whether or not rape is worse than circumcision. Why compare them? To show us the gravity of the act? Well, using rape is a bad way to do it--from what I've seen of reedit, rape is casually equated with being down voted, being denied a tip at work, etc.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 06:16 AM
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I really don't want to defend NBC either, I am so with you there. :) When you compare the two pieces, consider this--one is an article written FOR Jezebel, and the other is an actual official promotional video put out by NBC for Youtube. Why are we equating these two? The day I see a three minute exploitation piece about male swimmer fan fiction on a major news network, I'll eat my hat.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 05:43 AM
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yes, it is normal. But I thought it was tacky for NBC to "honor" its female athletes with slow-motion ass and boob shots set to pseudo porn music. There's a reason they removed it--it looked like something a 17 year old slapped together for his you tube channel, not an official video produced by the network that is presenting the Olympics this year. If you're going to claim that you're making a video to honor women athletes, you have to include weight lifters, boxers, shot-put--not just sports w…
/r/MensRights13/08/12 05:18 AM
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age of consent is 16 in CT. Here is a link to the statutory rape laws by state. "Second-degree sexual assault to have sexual intercourse with a person between ages 13 and 16 if the actor is more than two years older" So I don't think the gender of the alleged assailant has anything to do with the charge-- in this particular case, anyway.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:20 AM
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I hope folks out there don't think Jezebel represents all feminists! I find a lot of their content problematic, including this. However, that "Bodies in Motion" thing was absolutely ridiculous and insulting, as well.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:13 AM
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that sounds like a typical abusive relationship, one that many of my friends have been through. Get a lawyer before you make any decisions, but remember to put the kids first (by which I mean, do whatever is in their interest--I don't mean "stay together for the kids.")
/r/MensRights12/08/12 05:59 AM
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how is an isolated and anonymous comment helpful to this general discussion of men's rights? It's like people are looking for random things to get upset about...
/r/MensRights20/07/12 04:12 AM
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*First point, don't use a straw-arguement ("some feminists" is actually just two women who don't agree but don't identify as feminists). *Second point--recognize that the way rape is perceived and legislated in India is very different from the way it is perceived and legislated in the U.S.
/r/MensRights20/07/12 04:11 AM
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very true. We need good teachers with good judgment! I just think it's a shame that this happened. I have had to avoid having tattoos, dyed hair and [other-than-ear] piercings because of my various jobs as a therapist. I have a Master's, yet I've been told I'll be "low class" if I put a streak in my hair or pierce my nose. Good news is, I'm going back for my Ph.D. and they don't give a shit what I do there, even though I'll be teaching...sigh....
/r/MensRights03/07/12 01:11 AM
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This is ridiculous. I would think you could go to HR with this issue. Then again, as you say, they could find some reason to fire you. Have you consulted a lawyer? Kids need great teachers, and they also need teachers that model "non-traditional gender roles," including men wearing earrings, women with buzz-cuts, etc. I'm surprised your school will allow nose rings either way--mine never would for any teacher.
/r/MensRights02/07/12 11:26 PM
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I think it's important to note that reprehensible lists like these are a major issue for women's rights as well. It's all part of mindless media geared towards consumers who don't question stereotypes and like stupid lists. Also, it seems like the writer is male (although I can't tell--I looked at the history, and I'm basing that assumption on the name "Thommy" so I could be totally wrong). Basically, this is the same kind of stereotyping lists you see on "AskMen," just in the other direction (w…
/r/MensRights02/07/12 11:05 PM
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I agree that it's wrong to shame men, but I also empathize with people who experience coercive/pushy/annoying people in public. I wouldn't label them "perverts," at all, but I would say that I have been accosted by plenty of people in public who have no respect for my personal space.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 04:44 AM
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Hi, I'm a professional therapist (Master's degree and state licensure, 6 years of practice so far) and I will be getting my doctorate starting in August. *First off, I have to say that interpreting the MMPI is a very complex thing, and although I received training, I am not "allowed" to do it because I don't have my doctorate at this point. Was this person a doctor/psychologist? *Second, what do you mean by "probably never had problems dating whoever she wants?" That sounds like you're basing it…
/r/MensRights21/06/12 01:22 AM
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"terrible decisions" is a vague phrase. Are you talking about women who get plastered, virtually pass out, and then get raped? Or are you talking about women who get drunk with men and have sex with them and then regret it? The difference is a matter of consent. If this woman you speak of gave consent, that's one thing--but "making a terrible decision" is a really loaded term.
/r/MensRights13/06/12 01:55 AM
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Well, you should say something. Always say something--for those who say you are "too sensitive," remember some others are not sensitive enough. All men are not rapists. That's ridiculous. That assumes that to be a man is to be a rapist in training. This is a men's rights issue, and a feminist issue (I prefer to refer to it as a human rights issue). Challenge the assumed stereotypes. Argue, intelligently and calmly. If it were a person assuming all black people are the same way, you'd say somethi…
/r/MensRights09/06/12 07:01 PM
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It is an awful and hateful meme. I just get annoyed by automatic singe-mother hate without context. Thanks for providing some context! :)
/r/MensRights21/05/12 11:18 PM
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that's just plain wrong. I like bucketh3ad's point below, that the comment is misogynist in itself. Why mess with single mothers? Are you saying that children of single mothers are crazy? Our President had a single mother, you know...among many other great people.
/r/MensRights21/05/12 04:09 AM
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I agree with this!!
/r/MensRights21/05/12 03:56 AM
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absolutely, this is rape, regardless of the genders being one way or the other.
/r/MensRights20/05/12 04:03 PM
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the average time served by rapists in the U.S. is 5.4 years, so I really think 40 years is nuts. That said, those comments were very apologetic of her actions (which were criminal and, IMO, totally sick). A 14 yo boy or girl can't decide whether or not to be in an "adult" relationship, it just doesn't work that way.
/r/MensRights18/05/12 03:43 AM
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It's never okay to do that. Never, ever, unless you're being attacked. End of story. I am sorry that happened to you.
/r/MensRights18/05/12 03:33 AM
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I think sexism is at fault for the disparities you list, in that many family court judges assume that the mother is the more capable parent (which is sexist--women are not necessarily better at taking care of kids than their dads are). I would urge you to consider the alternative, though--one in which a father can arbitrarily demand that a woman have an invasive procedure (abortion). I would say that you would have to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that a woman was trying to get pregnant again…
/r/MensRights18/05/12 02:33 AM
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What makes you feel powerless?
/r/MensRights17/05/12 05:41 AM
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wow, this post is hateful towards men AND women. As a woman, I can't say I represent women but I can say I don't think this way. This is awful.
/r/MensRights17/05/12 01:49 AM
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I agree with your point! I hope the OP agrees, too, as this sounds like a good arrangement.
/r/MensRights11/05/12 04:55 AM
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what's wrong with taking your fiancé's last name? It's a novel approach...
/r/MensRights11/05/12 03:54 AM
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I agree!! The sad thing in this particular case was that the mother was a victim of abuse herself. Her daughter had never told anyone but her mom. I saw her in the room, clutching her necklace and trying to hide the places she had been cutting herself, and I knew something very bad had happened to this kid. Her mom said "Yes, I knew about this, but I got him a counselor! I thought that would be enough!" Well, she got him a counselor, but didn't pay attention to the victim, who in the meanwhile h…
/r/MensRights25/04/12 03:53 AM
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in Illinois, they opened a formal case but closed it due to the closeness in age. Sadly, this happens all the time for both genders. When family members won't prosecute and leave it up to family services, abuse is frequently labeled "experimentation" due to closeness in age. Three years is the gap at which investigators draw the line. Sure, this doesn't work with the law, but families frequently don't know the law or their rights (or won't press charges because the alleged abuser is a family mem…
/r/MensRights25/04/12 03:42 AM
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Not necessarily true, depending on the state. I once treated a 13 year old girl whose 16 yo brother had allegedly forced her to perform oral sex (there were witnesses, sadly, but I'll still say "allegedly) and the state wrote it off due to age difference. In my experience, the department of family services (in IL and TX, the only states in which I have practiced) do not take gender into account when looking at age difference.
/r/MensRights25/04/12 03:29 AM
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why not?
/r/MensRights16/04/12 02:03 AM
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I think it's funny when people make absurd points and defend them with statements such as "I'm a minority myself." So what? Do all minority people think alike?
/r/MensRights16/04/12 01:30 AM
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Point one: men's "right to consent to parenting" has little to do with reproductive rights. If a woman is raped, she should have the option to have an abortion. If a woman has a fetus that will never survive, she should have the right to have an abortion. If a woman has endometriosis or PCOS or any other number of conditions, she should have access to contraceptives. And if a woman is poor, she should have access to basic women's health facilities. My congress wants to get rid of Planned Parenth…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 11:54 PM
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excuse me? Policies benefiting white women? What about the countless bills in congress dedicated to limiting the reproductive and women's health rights of women? And the fact that women vote more is not a "privilege," it means that women are more likely to choose to vote. Men aren't "disenfranchised." The majority of congressmen are men. There has never been a woman president. Congress constantly cuts funding to women's health programs and states that contraception is not a necessary medication …
/r/MensRights15/04/12 10:40 PM
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sigh, I never said I didn't have a "problem" with white privilege, in fact I acknowledged it. I know I have it. The fact that people of color have had to sacrifice themselves to preserve white privilege is a travesty. You are missing my point, and I think you are grasping at straws.
/r/MensRights15/04/12 10:28 PM
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I have no idea what that has to do with anything about which we're discussing. Are you trying to tell me that buying power en masse is somehow equivalent to the daily privileges of a white man?
/r/MensRights15/04/12 09:36 PM
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What causes the achievement gap? It's an immensely complicated issue. Cultural attitudes and racism also play a part in the achievement gap. some minority students perceive that the majority culture sees them as less capable and expects little of them. These students may not try in school, since they believe they won’t succeed anyway. Some researchers believe minority students may maintain low levels of achievement purposely to avoid “acting white," which I believe is another demonstration of wh…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 08:54 PM
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Wow, why the down votes? I think my points are valid...you could at least provide a rebuttal....
/r/MensRights15/04/12 08:33 PM
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For example, white men are more often employed in skilled trades, earn more money, hold higher status positions, receive more promotions and experience shorter periods of unemployment than people of color. (source: Royster, Deirdre A. (2003). Race and the Invisible Hand. Los Angeles: University of California Press.). Also, most white people can go into a store and not get followed around by security guards. White people are less likely to get harassed by the cops. Whiteness is glorified in socie…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 08:18 PM
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Why so many comments that vehemently deny that white privilege exists? It does. I have it. I think the main point of the letter is that people in positions of privilege should actively advocate for others. I don't take it as a personal attack on poor white people, and I don't think that it's saying that white men didn't earn what they have. But you can't deny that being white in the U.S. (and many other western countries) gives you advantages in day to day life.
/r/MensRights15/04/12 07:47 PM
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I'm saying it's normalized. It's a source of humor for many people. It's a casually bandied about term (e.g. "I totally got raped by that exam!"). I feel a lot safer in the U.S. than most countries, and I realize that rape is a daily reality for thousands of women in other countries where human rights are virtually nonexistent. But I don't understand how you can deny that American advertising, entertainment, and media coverage make light of sexual assault and violence towards women. It's everywh…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 02:13 PM
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BTW, I means Raped. Raped, silly. I don't know why you assumed I meant "rapist" except that maybe you were looking for reasons to pout.
/r/MensRights15/04/12 02:20 AM
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I really don't know why you are linking to a comic I have already read. "Every night, we are raped to sleep by the dickwolves." This statement is intended for laughs. Rape is not funny. I have lots to say about your other statements but I also have to go out...I shall return later...
/r/MensRights15/04/12 02:19 AM
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yes, I read the comic, and the fact that you asked me that demonstrates to me that you have no idea what I'm talking about. One of the ideas in the comic is that rape is hilarious. I don't think it is. And if you think it is, chances are you are not one of the people who are likely to be rapes. As a woman, I have a higher chance of sexual assault than men (at least, that's what stats say...who knows the truth? There is pressure on men to not report, so I have no idea). So I don't think reference…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 12:32 AM
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No, I think that people contribute to rape culture regardless of gender. It has nothing to do with him being a man (I can't speak for the campaign, I am only referring to a general sociopolitical idea). All I was saying is that people can contribute to a culture that condones sexual assault and abuse simply by buying into certain jokes, ignoring certain statements they hear, etc. It's similar to racism or any other ism--I truly believe that you have to actively combat prejudice when you encounte…
/r/MensRights15/04/12 12:29 AM
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I do, in how it is covered in the media (for example, the New York Time's coverage of that 11-year-old rape victim in Cleveland )and used as a punch line (I'm sure you remember that ridiculous Penny Arcade debacle).
/r/MensRights14/04/12 01:30 PM
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Well, I can't speak for "all feminists" because they are individuals. However, I speak of feminism as an idea, a system, a hope that we can increase awareness of inequality and inhumanity to man. I'm not just bullshitting. I wasn't trying to argue with OP, just making a point that I think is valid.
/r/MensRights13/04/12 11:46 PM
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I think a lot of people misunderstand the term "rape culture" and think that saying one contributes to rape culture means they are responsible for rapes. That is NOT what "rape culture" means. It refers to the fact that rape and sexual assault are normalized and excused in our culture. This isn't just referring to the rape of women, BTW, but anyone's sexual victimization. Every time you laugh at a prison rape joke, every time you automatically think a rape victim is "exaggerating" or lying, you'…
/r/MensRights13/04/12 10:14 PM
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To be fair, feminism done right IS humanism, and it is about equality, not about division. Men are affected by sexism as well, and feminism helps men. It's not about "who has it worse" by any means, but about being more aware of the prejudices we hold about ALL genders, and about being willing to question things like imagery, verbiage, basic gender assumptions, advertising, ad infinitum. Not that I disagree with you about the awesomeness that men do, but as a feminist AND a proponent of human ri…
/r/MensRights12/04/12 08:49 PM
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