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TheLemming/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 04:14 AM
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It's a really fine line you're looking for here. How's a guy supposed to know? It's this lack of flexibility that is the initial reason why guys stopped complimenting in the first place. We've been criticized for the tiniest little things, so we've stopped doing them. Imo what you need is to communicate your needs to your partners.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/24 04:51 PM
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Hah you are actually illustrating my point right here. What you just did was a form of manipulation. You're trying to get me to come around to your side, to lay off my point, out of a sense of pity. It's called the "poor me routine". You're probably pulling the same maneuvers with your husband. Be forewarned, if you don't get that type of manipulative behavior in check, your husband's libido for you will continue to drop until you have a sexless marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 06:49 PM
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He clearly stated a boundary, and bc of some stuff with your ego, you are pushing past that boundary. I think you need to give yourself a good hard look in the mirror. I'd suggest reading Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, where you might learn to communicate your needs (in this case, feeling desirable), so you can actually meet them, rather than manipulating to get them met, which will only end poorly. A lot of hormonal change is wrapped up in guys' ejaculation. To be well regulate…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 06:42 PM
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You can't say what you'd do in his shoes because you aren't in them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/23 11:42 PM
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Try not to be demanding though.. it's a partnership, not a command structure...
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 05:55 PM
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He sounds amazing, congratulations on having an amazing partner. Nobody is 100% perfect. You have a good life so it might be harder to accept the imperfections maybe.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/23 05:52 PM
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We want to be treated with respect and kindness, we want a helping hand. It's not that difficult :) Basically treat us like all humans should be treated.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/21 08:11 PM
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Maybe not envying them is enough to attract their ire. Folks like this are usually not even worth the time of day.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 07:16 PM
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I have a friend who's an antheist (and a guy) and is all about waiting till marriage. They exist!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 10:44 PM
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I was banned from blue pill for similarly reactive reasons. I think it's a good moment to remember that some people in this world are just not so bright, lack critical thinking skills, or really possibly are actually very young and ignorant, and that your own self worth has to come from within and not be based on what some random internet dummy thinks of you! Don't worry, no one subreddit is your life 😛
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 04:15 PM
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You have me mistaken for a feminist
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 06:18 AM
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Cool, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/21 05:58 AM
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Out of curiosity, what specific reprogramming is feminism shooting for, actually?
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/21 11:01 PM
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Don't worry about engaging with /u/sensuallyprimitive. They clearly are not here for or capable of making reasonable arguments, they just want to be able to be a big kid and win at an internet argument. Unfortunately these types of people exist and all the adults in the room can do is roll our eyes and not engage. Everyone reading knows you're in the right Mariposa, I think most people just haven't read this far bc it's physically painful to read this kid's words
/r/MensRights28/12/20 05:33 PM
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It sounds like you're insinuating that everybody is the same
/r/MensRights28/12/20 05:27 PM
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I see -- interesting. I've never felt like I want somebody to exert power over, but I have definitely felt powerless many times before to women. So you could be right, but it's just something outside of my immediate personal experience
/r/MensRights27/12/20 04:03 PM
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Lol it's an open forum, that is as good as a request for input. Sheesh. Edit: besides, just bc the word "tone policing" exists, and you know it, does not give you license to act like an ass precluding anybody asking you to stop
/r/MensRights26/12/20 10:48 PM
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I agree with your point about this being a blanket statement, but not about this stoking male who around wanting to find a wife. Hearing this has awakened feelings in me to the opposite extent - that I want to become celibate and never marry. That's what I feel hearing most feminist arguments and antifeminist arguments these days tbh
/r/MensRights26/12/20 05:08 PM
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As a third party observer I can say that whatever point you're trying to make _jamil_ is lost in the morass of your cringily angry tone. I think it's possible that if you took the time to be civil or genial your point would make it a lot farther.
/r/MensRights26/12/20 05:02 PM
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My gut is wondering if the smoking thing is weighing more on your heart than you're admitting? Maybe, before leaving, have a fully open conversation about how it makes you feel, and then see if any of your attraction returns?
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 06:14 PM
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Crikey, mate
/r/MensRights18/11/20 06:58 PM
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I work part time as an app developer. It's easy, just hop on upwork and start getting contracts
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 10:29 PM
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You have to understand that that's a single type of situation and not all are like that. If you project your history onto everyone else you're sure to be right sometimes and wrong others. In this situation not being able to afford it may not be a bullshit excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 10:21 PM
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All I see is the dirty blonde girl being amazing
/r/MensRights05/10/20 09:59 PM
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I've noticed most women just aren't paying attention - they're not trying to slam the door in my face, they just don't have awareness of door holding.
/r/MensRights03/10/20 08:54 PM
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For what it's worth, I'm a guy, and a number of feminist identifying women (formerly) in my life have also blocked me, some for years, for reasons that no matter how much I contemplate them, they seem thin. It seems like part of the feminist movement right now involves lots of blocking of everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 11:11 PM
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Strange thing to hear as a Jewish male. Anyways you're missing the point, I'm not comparing the two, rating their levels of victimhood against each other. I'm pointing out the danger of letting hatred against a certain group be expressed and fester in the minds of a different group.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/20 04:49 PM
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Yeah I believe so. She mentioned it explicitly, but I also don't know where else the rule would have come from
/r/MensRights01/08/20 12:45 PM
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I mean, just what you think. I get a physical and it's free. I remember having the conversation with a receptionist once, being pleasantly surprised that that was a rule.
/r/MensRights01/08/20 12:41 PM
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Weird given I'm male and collect on it.
/r/MensRights01/08/20 12:33 PM
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No not censorship, education. A nod to OP - I think the best thing to do is call it out when it's said. Have the conversation with whoever is saying it that it's wrong and not ok.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 08:05 PM
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I strongly disagree. Antisemitic talk, antifemale or antimale talk are all dangerous because they create a space in which ideas of resentment and hatred can fester. These ideas, when they're not countered by down to earth conversation, or clarity that all groups have good and bad, do lead to violence.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 08:00 PM
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For a post-bedtime rant this is amazing, I'd like to personally thank your eyelids for begrudgingly staying peeled open so you could write this!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:16 PM
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It's plainly untrue and very damaging to insist that men don't face danger on dates. It's also weird because it paints a picture of women being incapable. In this case incapable of doing harm. That's not true. Men have to face emotional and physical abuse as well. I would never go around saying "women are trash" and expect women in part or as a whole to not be offended, not be afraid, and not speak up against it. And so I don't think women should do the same either.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:13 PM
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I think in a way you're right, it should definitely not be taken personally, and it's definitely coming from a place of perceived hurt. But if I perceived myself being hurt by Jews and said things like "all Jews are sh*t".. you see how that's dangerous? I think it's the same here. So I just want to caution you about minimizing the impact here just because you're totally correct about their origins.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 07:08 PM
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This is unnecessarily presumptuous and vicious when the point of this sub is supposed to be standing up for men's rights. This is just complainy.
/r/MensRights08/07/20 07:49 PM
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Good lord: "Valliere also says that the trend of providing explanations or "receipts" for why the accusation can't possibly be true is especially damaging. "First of all, why does he have receipts from 2014? How many people have that at their disposal? That’s what perpetrators often do to attack the victim, is to attack the case," she says. Jennifer J. Freyd, PhD, founder and president of the Center for Institutional Courage and professor of psychology at the University of Oregon, has extensivel…
/r/MensRights07/07/20 03:12 AM
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"After all, few women are now full-time homemakers throughout their lives. And few men want to be little more than an emotionally distant breadwinner." Jeez. I try not to take this kind of stuff personally but... this is honestly really insulting.
/r/MensRights07/07/20 02:45 AM
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Yeah I mean I'm all for removing trolls and then enjoying the clarity that ensues but I'm no troll, but I do hold a bit of a negative view of feminists, at least hardcore and very woke feminists, because of my experiences talking with them. I'd say they could be trolls there to stoke flames but it wasn't on reddit, it was all on Facebook and in person. So dismissing my experiences or opinions as those of either a troll or someone who's been stoked by trolls is also unfair.
/r/MensRights05/07/20 10:44 PM
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I agree with the downvoting thing, it's excessive. I appreciate you continuing to respond even though you're probably going to lose karma for it. I would like to know the egalitarian feminists you know. I'd like to see if they stay egalitarian even when they're talking to, gasp, a white male. I just see so much one upping of victimhood, and then just a complete dismissal of anything I say bc of my demographic. It's frustrating. I would never deliberately do anything to harm feminist causes, but …
/r/MensRights05/07/20 10:37 PM
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You can choose to deny or belittle my experiences all you want, and it's not my responsibility to convince some aggressive internet stranger that I've had the conversations I've had. I know I've had them, and the women I've had them with know we've had them. What you find "clear as day" is wrong and I sincerely hope you examine your tendency to label and assume here. Actually to me it seems clear as day that you're here on r/mra to trash men's rights activists. I think you're a hypocrite. Btw I …
/r/MensRights05/07/20 09:50 PM
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I'm very upset with those religious institutions for perpetuating it, I have this conversation with my Jewish family whenever I can. But in this moment, I'm responding to the subject of your comment. I have to admit, your language does not leave a lot of room for good feelings here. Telling me what I'm doing, especially when it's in direct opposition to what I believe I'm doing, isn't a good way to make allies. And then you're telling me that feminists are my allies in this fight, contradicting …
/r/MensRights05/07/20 08:41 PM
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It's probably because most people on here, like me, have seen the absolute shock followed by maybe boughts of hysterical laughter that follows when we suggest MGM might be an issue of importance. All my data is anecdotal so you could be right about feminists being against all forms of genital mutilation including MGM, but that's directly contradictory to all of my personal experiences.
/r/MensRights05/07/20 08:21 PM
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I told a feminist friend one time that I thought MGM could be interpreted as a feminist issue because it's about people's autonomy with their own bodies. She rolled her eyes so hard I thought she was going to break them, then said "That's literally making feminism about the penis." Then she stopped talking to me. I appreciate where you're coming from, but I don't see that "Feminists most certainly are against MGM"
/r/MensRights05/07/20 08:18 PM
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Nope you hold yourself to a really, really high moral standard and you're virtually objectively fine.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 09:29 PM
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What I've been seeing more and more honestly is that women, at least in my life in my far left county and state (I'm far left too, at least economically, and on most social issues) are by far and away the biggest peddlers of "toxic masculinity". Makes me dislike that term even more.
/r/MensRights21/04/20 09:19 PM
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Why aren't you just telling him "Sorry SO, I'm just not comfortable with that."? Sex is a two way street. IMO it's not even enjoyable if both parties aren't enjoying it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 05:13 PM
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Sounds like the reason you're stuck is because on the one hand you want him to be honest with you but to not be honest with him, and on the other hand you know that's unfair and don't think it's a position you can feel moral about. Maybe seeing that cognitive dissonance can illustrate the importance of being honest in turn.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 11:05 PM
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Best approach would be to admit to him that you looked at who he's following, admin that you feel ashamed about that and that you think it was wrong, and apologize for doing it (meaningfully, like you mean it). Then promise you won't do it again, (and don't), and then begin the conversation about how you're uncomfortable with him doing that because of the things in your past, and because of how he said he wouldn't. Tell him you feel a little betrayed, a little scared, etc. Just be upfront and ho…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 08:54 PM
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But I told you how to do it and you just asked if I can do it for you... I can't. And I wouldn't because you can do it yourself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/20 05:19 PM
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/r/choosingbeggars
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/20 05:00 PM
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tried searching google archives? Or if the site allows web cralwers to index it, it might either 1) inspect your useragent and not hide stuff if you are appear to be a crawler, or 2) use javascript to hide the text after the fact. In case of #1, change your useragent. In case of #2, use curl or wget to download the page into a file (like tmp.html) then just open the file.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/20 04:56 PM
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Very nice, thank you for posting this. It's so validating to read, codified in scientific literature, what I'm seeing in the world around me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/20 06:33 PM
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I agree but do want to point out that this was written by two different authors. As much as I'd like to see major publications "speaking with one voice", I also feel it's important to acknowledge the sheer difficulty of doing that, especially in today's day and age when publications like this are pressured to release a constant stream of articles 24/7.
/r/MensRights17/04/20 06:12 PM
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Gotcha, thanks. Yikes.
/r/MensRights16/04/20 10:37 PM
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I keep hearing about the pink pill but I don't know what it is, and it looks like it's private. What's it all about?
/r/MensRights16/04/20 10:35 PM
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Be the bigger man, break the chain. Act civilly even when others are not acting civilly to you.
/r/MensRights12/04/20 07:24 PM
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To be fair, the link is of noise: http://www.soundcloud.com/rebecca-vitsmun/sets/originals. Some degree of fuck off is deserved for this post, however much I agree with the intent. We have to keep our arguments civilized and on point or else we'll worsen our name.
/r/MensRights12/04/20 06:24 PM
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I think this post should be more upvoted so the retorts can be more visible
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/04/20 08:17 PM
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You should post this in /r/askhistorians so it can be properly vetted
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/04/20 07:51 PM
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It won't be equal until it's all female.
/r/MensRights11/04/20 11:23 AM
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Nah, if we need to grapple for identities, as a progressive male, I simply do not consider myself a feminist. I'm ok with having differing points of view from other people in my political camp. I believe in supporting an economy from the bottom up, I believe in investing in education, I believe in the potency of removing profit motives from certain industries, and I stand for men's rights and against dehumanizing feminism. :shrug:
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/04/20 07:54 PM
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So that's a supremely fucked up situation. How dare this fucking system treat any human being like that? You're clearly suffering and that suffering is CLEARLY understandable. My only question is since you're suffering so terribly, should other people have to suffer in the same way? Even if they're the same gender as your plainly severely messed up ex wife?
/r/MensRights07/04/20 10:32 PM
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Honestly, without knowing anything about the inner goings ons of this, it doesn't sit well with me. Don't us men usually only have to pay 50%? That's still pretty harsh, but this is 75% of her net worth. What happened between them for him to deserve all that?
/r/MensRights07/04/20 10:29 PM
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Omg thank you Prim Reaper!
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/20 06:39 PM
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Are you sure he knows the full extent of your feelings about all this?
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/20 10:46 PM
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Do you know a collection of places where females are representing men's health? I'm subscribed to a few subs that I believe are true, but pretty heavy towards women, and I'd love to have some more positive stuff in my feed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates31/03/20 10:30 PM
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It's wild the times I've turned women down for sex, and they've reacted defensively by calling me the three letter F word, or throwing a tantrum in public, to which bystanders immediately believe I'm doing something harmful to her. Just feels like such a dangerous world around women sometimes.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/03/20 05:44 PM
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Welcome to the world, little buddy.
/r/MensRights27/03/20 12:49 AM
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That's why folks usually put a /s after their posts
/r/MensRights11/03/20 11:57 PM
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Oh ok sorry I legitimately did not know
/r/MensRights11/03/20 11:52 PM
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Or feeling very confused
/r/MensRights11/03/20 08:15 PM
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Damn bro are you serious?
/r/MensRights11/03/20 02:38 AM
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I'm so confused - why isn't anyone talking about putting the first Jew into office? Doesn't that count for anything??
/r/MensRights10/03/20 09:37 PM
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Honestly, it might be open mindedness. Some people really don't like having their declarations about their needs, feelings, thoughts challenged. It sounds like you might not be very open minded. Sorry to say it, I I know you're in a difficult place right now and this probably isn't making it any easier.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 06:33 PM
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> He said he wasn't felling fulfilled with me anymore. That she gets him. I don't really see any reason to ignore this. He may be really feeling these things.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/20 01:01 AM
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<3
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 05:24 PM
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Yeah it looks like the rising need for two salaries in a family is taking its tole on everyone. Thinking about it, I don't see how it could be any other way!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 08:39 PM
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Flirting is fun, sheesh.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 02:08 AM
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I think he's being very reasonable... It might be time for you to look at why this simple level of rejection is so hurtful to you. We all have our sore spots!
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 06:47 PM
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I've often heard bitchy (and assholish) applied to someone who enforces their own boundaries effectively, even if they do so with kindness. And I've heard the word "nice" applied to someone who takes care of others before they take care of themselves. The plot twist there being that if someone is not taking care of themselves, they end up being an energetic/emotional/physical drag on the people around them, not actually taking care of others at all. And I believe that's the path to codependency.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 07:22 PM
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You guys are still very young and from your descriptions, it seems like you are placing a lot of weight on things that at age 30 seem to have no weight at all. His arguments hold a lot more water these days. If you two did get married, the whole thing about when each of you graduate and who has a job will most likely be a distant memory. Financial situations shift, and if they ever did shift, his argument would hold more water. I think you're focusing too much on the current situation and not lo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 06:30 PM
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It's just a collection of activities the folks who put it on think are helpful to get into the grief. They're trying to facilitate an environment where the participants feel free and safe enough to cry openly, and then where other folks in the group can comfort them. One of their big things is that they think it's really powerful to have a community to kind of witness your grief, and that grieving and crying is somehow a lot more powerful and effective when you're with others. That's the main id…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 05:12 PM
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I'm not really a participant in this sub but I enjoy reading it. I empathize with your position and didn't find the kind of response I was looking for in the comments. So I thought I'd post. I see some folk saying maybe you're not too old, or you can adopt (which of course is true), or hit the ground running and find a man ASAP. This is all perfectly nice advice but doesn't really get into the meat of what I think you're talking about. What I think you need is a good way to grieve. Not by any me…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 04:12 PM
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Try [Metta Meditation](http://www.mettainstitute.org/mettameditation.html) -- it's changed my life and I betcha it can change yours too :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 05:23 AM
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This is one of the reasons I find myself regularly drawn to Russian women :D
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 11:31 PM
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Yes! This is exactly how I feel. Sorry for being MIA for the response here, but /u/kaossfusion nailed it. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 03:29 AM
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If he says he needs time to himself, but it looks to you like it's not working, it might be that he needs more time to himself, over a long period of time (as an introvert I can tell you that that stuff accumulates), and maybe even having it be even more alone than it currently is, like having a space in the house that's just his, that you or anyone else doesn't really go to. A man cave.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 01:35 AM
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Forgive me if I've missed something as other redditors haven't broached this bit yet, but have you tried asking your siblings to help foot the bill? If so, what were their responses?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 07:39 PM
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Really well said, ShariVegas. We all need more self love.
/r/MensRights15/02/16 02:11 AM
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I agree the internet has changed things. Especially with online dating - it seems like both sides want the top 1% now. That girl next door looks way less attractive when I can see tens of thousands of the most insanely good looking girls by opening a browser and giving it a few key strokes. And not just that - if I want to, and just about everyone wants to sometimes, I can see those girls naked. And I can see them making love. And if I want, I can see them getting plowed by dudes with dicks no s…
/r/MensRights15/02/16 02:06 AM
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I love the RPW philosophy. But it sounds to me like you're pretty much just noticing the effects of being a patient and respectful person. Those are human virtues and are virtuous for a reason. Our culture has kind of deemphasized their importance, but it sounds like we still know enough to appreciate them when we see them :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/14 02:22 PM
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The story is blatantly a warning, not feminist indoctrination.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 02:38 AM
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OP you write clearly and explain wisdom you've gained from first hand experience. Preach on brotha, don't listen to the nay Sayers, though you don't need me to tell you that.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/14 08:05 AM
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Yeah I absolutely did. I was confused and as a young person, I was easily swept along by the currents of society. Why wasn't I turned on by the 'sluts' and the 'whores' I saw in porn? Why did I feel less masculine than I thought I should? The answers are that there is too much masculinity in these types of women. I like feminine women. I've examined my own sexuality a lot. I've realized the only way for me to know my own sexuality is to be open to everything. So I've tried to keep as open a mind…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/14 05:17 PM
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Great read. In the past I would feel a chronic lack of desire for most of the girls around me, most of what the images on TV, in porn and pop culture told me I should find attractive. Lots of my 'friends' decided on their own and definitively that I was gay. But when I was like 8 through 12 I would day dream and dream of some seriously straight stuff... I'm actually not going to enumerate it on here but suffice it to say I was spending probably 50% of my time thinking about girls. The rest of my…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/14 04:14 PM
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Maybe you're right. I'm new to the place and wasn't aware of the boundaries. Though now that I've been reading, I'm thinking RPW has a much more calm, clear and reasonable tone than TRP, which strikes me as an overcompensation towards misogyny on the spectrum of reality vs. culturally induced ideals. I was asking other men, who I thought frequented this subreddit as well. But if this is in the wrong place, so be it. Though in fact, and of course (duh!) it'd be totally rad to hear if it happens w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/14 03:30 PM
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