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DiscussionTheLoneMushroom/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:44 AM
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I haven't played a console since Xbox One. What's the point if the PC experience is 10x better and basically every game is coming out on PC?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:39 AM
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Seems reasonable to me and probably a general trend when trying to date people you just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:37 AM
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Bro I'm decent looking and OLD sucks. It's depressing af. Although it's ok for passively finding a partner, you'll have way better luck meeting people irl. At our age, I had no idea how to do that for a long time. Personally I went back to college, both for a career change but also to find a partner. Probably one of the best places to meet people before you get too old. Being around the same people for awhile is the best way to find any sort of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:11 AM
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I've had bad social anxiety before (to the point it made me quit two jobs), and I still do feel my stomach drop and freak about when meeting certain people. That's just how it is. You force yourself to go through with social situations until you get better at making conversation. The anxiety gets a little better as well. Also a lot of people you end up talking probably also have social anxiety. You're not alone in this and you don't have to always be stuck in this rut. At the end of the day, it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:55 AM
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All 3 tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:43 AM
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I'd prob feel like shit, but I also would never have sex with someone I wasn't official with. Nor would I have sex with someone I didn't vet enough to learn that they aren't your typical whore. I guess my view on sexual intimacy saves me from the pain of other's infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:41 AM
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Medication, theraphy and a patient husband. Lmao you're supposed to help not rub salt in his wounds. He's talking about depression stemming from being single for an extended period of time. Though that's not to take away from your own depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:31 AM
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He's using OLD. There you go problem solved as to why no relationship works out.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:30 AM
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Tbh I'm in a similar situation and I just say have patience. If you're meeting women and you don't like them, wtf are you supposed to do? Lmao Oh nvm I misunderstood. Not getting a second date? Idk then.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:26 AM
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Yea but there are tons of people who aren't like that so if you surround yourself with them then it's not so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:22 AM
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Are you actively meeting women and asking out the ones you like?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:11 AM
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Pretty much how I see it as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:10 AM
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That's so weird to me. I mean I understand where they might be coming from, but I'm just on the total opposite end of the spectrum where I think it's incredibly attractive knowing a girl isn't interested in casual sex. A woman could be a virgin in her 30s and I wouldn't care so long as we got along.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:06 AM
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Yea prob because they're significantly more likely to be autistic or have cerebral palsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:02 AM
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Yo congrats on losing 41 lbs btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:01 AM
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I mean I'm 28 and virgin but it's cause I never find interest in anyone. I guess around 5 years ago and prior I just didn't think you were supposed to date if you had any type of depression which was a stupid belief that made me lose out on some cool people. Tbh sometimes my friends will tell their gf's or I'll tell someone I'm a virgin and I've never heard anything negative. Maybe they're shocked, but they think it's charming I actually value sex instead of fucking some random off tinder. Tbh a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:56 AM
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It's never a dealbreaker unless you're super weird about it, have a bad reason for it, or the off chance the girl's retarded which tbh I've never seen except cherry picked online I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:44 AM
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Honestly my problem with all of this is that it's incredibly complex to the point you'd have to devote an immense amount of time and research to understand it. Meanwhile everyone on these subs cherry pick, make things black and white, make sweeping generalizations, misrepresent information, rely on anecdotal evidence, etc. to support their beliefs. A lot of them can be pretty convincing, or hold partial truths people take as whole. Yet some pieces of information are factually sound and can be le…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 12:40 AM
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But is this even true? I know plenty of men including myself who really cares if someone loves me for who I am. Maybe it's just the crowd I hang out with, but it seems men who don't care are in the minority. I'm pretty sure both men and women care about being validated in both ways in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:57 PM
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Before that I was incredibly shy so I never made a move, and none of them asked me out and often had girlfriends of their own. There were a few single friends that I wished asked me out. But without knowing if they liked me back, I'm not gonna ask them, I don't want to risk making the friendship awkward. Ah man that sucks because so many people feel this way that so many potential relationships are lost. At least you're married now :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:51 PM
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I know people like you aren't rare, but why does it seem like it? Is it because I live by LA? That's literally my main barrier for dating. I don't like casual sex and I don't like casual relationships. Seemingly everyone around me does or doesn't mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:48 PM
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Yea but there are so many people who consider themselves incel that a lot of them can. Also I'm pretty sure a good amount actually do have standards. There are plenty of posts about not wanting to bang fat chicks, or some people don't even want casual sex rather real relationships. There are also a lot of variables to what makes someone truly an incel due to the combination of things that can set them back and how the semantics of that term has changed over time. Is a depressed Chad who doesn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:41 PM
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By finding a girl who loves to do housework, I guess. Doing all of the chores isn't really a part of love or a symbol of a healthy relationship. Both members should help each other out, or try to contribute in some way. You'd probably have to find some traditional girl who believes women should do all the housework. But she'd prob expect you to bring in all the money. Usually there's some transaction there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:25 PM
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And what did you have to do to find someone like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:24 AM
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Well let's say your partner tells dark jokes and you don't like them. Then your humor isn't complimentary. Basically you find each other funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:23 AM
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Hm kind of weird but a girl cheated on her partner for me and I basically stole his gf when he went off into the Army. I never though of it as a Chad thing or anything. I just had zero self esteem and didn't realize how fucked up of a thing that was (even if the guy wasn't the coolest). Only a piece of trash would want a girl to cheat on her guy for him. I rarely give it much thought since then. I'm not really that scared of getting cheated on because I figure I'd vet the right person and be a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:19 AM
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No that's fucking disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:09 AM
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Shitty sub? Yes. Hate sub? Ehh no? Hate speech? Maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:07 AM
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I think it might be different based on the individual. For me, love in the romantic sense is basically having a best friend with intimacy. Someone I click with well enough to spend the rest of my life with. I would get pleasure every day just seeing their smile or doing things to make their life a little better. I can say that I'm probably in love with my male best friend platonically, it's just there's nothing sexual there. A relationship with a girl is kind of similar, but heightened in a way.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:53 AM
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Makes sense to me. Seeing as they can only vote for one, that one would be the highest. However, I don't think it diminishes how important the other ones could be. I'd rather have an ugly caring person for life than an abusive attractive woman. However, I want to have both an attractive and caring person. Humor's also pretty important to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:42 AM
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Tbh I think a lot of men can get sex easily if they wanted to. But maybe it just depends on where they live. My friends can get it and some of them aren't even attractive tbh. It's not like they have some amazingly charismatic personality either. It's just that nobody has standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:34 AM
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Welcome to Reddit. It's rare to find a sub that doesn't have trash mods tbh. They're literal sociopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:21 AM
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Don't use Reddit to get an idea of how people act irl. Yea tons of people are retarded, but tons of people aren't. Girls LOVE it if you help with housework and show that you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 07:19 AM
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Well I'm saying you can be ugly and social and have a high n count, but not ugly and antisocial. While antisocial pretty girls still get hit up unless they're literally locked in their basement. I don't disagree with your statement, just that those ugly women are probably putting themselves out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:11 AM
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No and that's why I rarely find interest in people. Yes that's straight Dunning Kruger, but I can't help it with the dumb shit I see people say and do. I would probably go nuts dating someone who was into astrology.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 10:09 PM
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That's so true. This whole virgin thing is so stupid. It's not like intimacy is hard, it's more like problems arise when one partner doesn't care about pleasing the other. Or sexual incompatibility. If you're able to be a good friend to someone, chances are you're able to have a good relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 09:20 PM
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Oh yea I was basically only commenting on the eating shit reflex thing. Personally I know plenty of people who have no problem with someone's N count. I also know people who do. People have differences which is okay, and it's sad to see the Internet segregate everyone more and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:58 PM
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Lol there are plenty of women who think astrology is a joke so, if anything, making fun of it just prevents you from befriending/dating those types of people. And tbh I'm perfectly fine with never being friends with someone who legitimately believes in astrology. I mean think about it. The date you were born determines your actions? And that has to do with the constellations in the sky? What? Some people just don't want to socialize with people who believe in things like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:43 PM
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And I'd say the same thing goes for most men. This sub is like it's own little world. It's not about being overly emotional rather than just being human and not insecure af or toxic about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:36 PM
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Yea women might not capitalize on it as much, but that's because it's usually a shitty experience and they learn from it. The thing that annoys me is how so many women DO seem to capitalize on it at least once. I want to find a girl who's disciplined and never makes that choice to begin. 90% chance she'd be in church every Sunday tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:11 PM
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I know the having sex with eating shit comparison sounds stupid, but I actually feel a similar disgust. It's probably a learned response due to growing up with the belief that people should only be intimate with a potentially life long partner. There's definitely no moral issue with people have consensual casual sex, and some of my close friends have participated in it before. I guess I find it gross, but it doesn't affect our friendship or anything. In regards to dating and finding a life partn…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:04 PM
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This sub is shit, but not everyone here thinks alike. I'm 28 and could have casual sex if I really wanted to, but I only want to be intimate with someone I have a deep connection with. I also can probably only be compatible with a woman if she had the same "values" I did, which would imply she didn't have a high N count. I also wouldn't care how good she was in bed so long as she was willing to learn (not sure what since I'm pretty vanilla) as I'd be willing to learn whatever she needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:50 PM
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The stats are changing and sexlessness is dramatically going up. Those statistics are almost a decade old. Covid and social media played some major roles recently.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:41 PM
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30% of men aren't virgins. It's just that they haven't had sex in the last year which is still a telling statistic, just not as significant as fully being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:37 PM
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I wouldn't necessarily blame porn in general for this. I think it has to do with social media influencers and how popular things like Onlyfans became. Before there were seemingly less sex workers and it was kind of shameful, but now it's like everyone knows someone in their life with an Onlyfans account and it's "empowering" to some. Also women wear less clothes now and the medial sexualizes everything. Honestly it's pretty complex as to why everything is happening. There's more to blame than ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:31 PM
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You said that you've never heard a number less than 5 and then say you've heard 3 or 15+. Anyways from my experience (and I'm 28 in OC) most people I know have had less than 5 partners if even that. Then there are the hypersexual people who have had tons of partners. I think it really depends on if they're able to have and enjoy loveless sex or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:26 PM
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Ugly and antisocial women don't get as much success. I think you normally have to either be social or pretty, but that's just based off of anecdotal accounts I hear from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:22 PM
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Wow it's like almost everything you said is actually the opposite in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:20 AM
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What does being a 33 year old virgin have to do with anything? There are plenty of studies which how how men find youth and beauty to be important while finding a mate. So it's pretty safe to assume older women would have a harder time on average compared to younger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 04:02 AM
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Nowadays people including myself have issues dating. Basically it works by being around someone long enough to start developing feelings for each other. Issue is nobody socializes anymore, and most people at scenes where they do just want a hookup. Best bet is through school or work. Or if you have any social hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:39 AM
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Hah that's really funny because I just saw a video of Billie Eyelash talking about her porn addiction and there are tons of women on there talking about their problems. I think both sexes can get addicted to porn and have a bad reaction to it. I also think a lot of people don't have any adverse reaction to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:34 AM
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I think it matters depending on the person. If a girl isn't into that, she's not into that. A lot of people just don't care as much, and most people have only slept with a few people if even anyways. Also a lot of people from both sexes will get seduced by shitty people if they're hot. Some people just have no self control.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:29 AM
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Yea I agree with you. It's stupid when boys say they hate sluts but would be sluts themselves given the opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:04 AM
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I mean I got groped by a girl randomly and I was in too much shock to do anything (not like I could since she could just scream at me and everyone would assume I'm the assaulter). Or older women I worked with would say weird shit to me, or like I dressed up as a banana for Halloween and they all started touching the bottom part of it like it was my dick tf? I think I'd rather have the validation and attention if I have to deal with sexual harassment sometimes anyways. And by validation, I just m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:51 AM
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Yea she needed therapy. Pretty interesting documentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:49 AM
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Well M3taBuster said it perfectly. As for how I protected my values? Idk. People around me compliment me on my discipline and are amazed when I tell them I'm not into casual sex, strip clubs, or anything like that. But to me, there's no discipline at all. It's just the way my body works. I have zero desire to have casual sex, and I have zero desire for people who do have casual sex. I could view someone as the hottest girl in the world, and I could lose all attraction for her in a fraction of a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:00 PM
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Lmao what's boring is how sex obsessed people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:53 PM
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A whore to me is anyone who has casual sex regardless of their gender. They aren't by definition a whore, but I use whore/slut/promiscuous interchangeably. I have no actual problem with people who do that, and I wouldn't actually call them that to their face nor do I use that language irl except to a couple people. Most if not all of my friends would probably have casual sex if given the chance. So yea, to me the defining factor is if you have sex outside of a loving relationship. I never want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:42 PM
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I feel bad for your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:26 PM
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Lmao that's not true at all. I've met plenty of women who would never date a manwhore, and I've met plenty of men who don't give a fuck about a woman's n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:16 PM
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Some people are shit. Not everyone is shit. It's not based on gender. That guy might be great, that's why vetting is key. Be friends first and see how he's like. Or at least that's my mindset on dating. I have some male acquaintances who do the same thing as your male friends and it disgusts me. I know some women are awful too. But if there's even one person of each sex who is good, then that proves it doesn't matter who you are. Luckily I have family with good men/women, and I know myself and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 09:48 PM
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It's no different from men spending thousands on engagement rings for women Which I also find pretty cringe. Hey let's waste money on a fucking material item that's an obvious scam since these people's margins are ridiculous and diamonds aren't even uncommon. I'd rather spend it on a vacation with said person.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 09:49 PM
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Damn that sucks. I hope he gets out of the hospital soon so you guys can have a nice Christmas together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:05 PM
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Yea but I got tired of rate me subs becoming support subs where everyone was beautiful. Unless there's a better sub now. Idk haven't looked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 01:25 PM
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Idk I always find it cringe when people spend thousands of dollars on a fucking watch of all things. It's like people buying gucci or supreme. Or an NFT monkey.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:28 PM
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Yea one of the first things I ever did on Reddit was get rated, and I ended up getting sucked into it. It's interesting how subjective beauty truly is though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:21 PM
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Wow she actually downgraded herself. Humbling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:10 PM
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It's hard for me to rate instagram thots because they look like NPC's to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:09 PM
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Men Women I give an objective rating based on these standards, and a subjective rating based on how I perceive them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:05 PM
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Just vet them. I'm also disgusted by casual sex and being used even though I'm a guy. To get around that, I'd just not have sex and see if they actually care about me. Also virgin for so long? You're in highschool. Talk to me when you're 27 and still virgin like me. It cracks me up when people are all like oh I lost my virginity late and they're like 18.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 09:20 AM
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Tf does that have to do with being a pedophile lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 04:11 AM
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So do you expect girls to suck your dick if you're not a virgin? Or does this only go for women?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:50 AM
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I'm 27 and half live at home half at my friend's house. My parents are old and I figured it's nicer to spend time and take care of them before they die. There's really no point in me moving out except to impress a girl. You save so much more money this way and this house is going to be mine anyways. I'd probably move out if someone I was seeing had a problem with it, but I also think I'd rather trade my happiness for my parents happiness since they're in their 70s. My best friend owns his own ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:43 AM
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Alright I'll give it to ya
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:11 AM
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Cheater
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 03:03 AM
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I live by Disneyland and it's miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:10 AM
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Women are female. Men are male.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:53 PM
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Bro what are you talking about? All I want is a relationship. I'm not expecting her to meet my "needs" 24/7 or whatever assumption you're making about me. Is wanting love in life too much to ask for?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 10:15 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:57 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:51 PM
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Ah yes remember boys and girls, if you have depression you're undateable and can't make anyone happy. If you're not happy with yourself, you won't be able to make your partner happy either. Yup none of my depressed friends make me happy and vice versa. So it should be expected that all of them with partners are actually in awful relationships that aren't fulfilling at all. And if you're unhappy from being alone for an extended period of time, oh man you're fucked. There's no way in hell you'll e…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:38 PM
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What if you learned that these tests need to be reliable and valid for them to be taken seriously by psychologists? What if you understood that you fell for a scam?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:28 PM
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So? Also what are all my needs? All I want is companionship. We're social creatures. That's like saying oh hm it seems you need friends to be happy. Uhhh yeah, the vast majority of us do. Love and relationships are important to me and something I need in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:25 PM
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Honestly I didn't notice any at all. I graduated in 2012.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:26 AM
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Maybe. To me it sounds like it's required to list all of those while joining because it sounds like a command. But maybe it could be more clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:03 AM
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Include your reddit username, pill color, age, relationship status, and gender when you get in to introduce yourself. wut
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:56 AM
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lmfao what a beautiful subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 07:48 AM
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Medication either has no effect on me or gives me slightly negative side effects (nausea, becoming a zombie, sleep issues). I've taken quite a few different ones over the years. I'm happy it helps you as it does for a lot of people. Have you tried therapy? I'm about to see a new one who has good reviews and based on what people are saying she might be able to change my life around for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:43 AM
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Thank you. So long as I'm alive, there's still hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:39 AM
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I hate depression and I hope none of you have to deal with this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:01 AM
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Yea you're right but I think cheating is equally disgusting no matter who you are. If someone cheats they're basically sub human to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:29 AM
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Nah that's completely utter bullshit advice (for me at least). Some people need relationships and it's completely normal. The reason I've been single for so long is because I followed advice like yours and it ruined my life. I thought I couldn't date and couldn't make someone happy if I didn't find happiness from within first. Complete bullshit. Sorry, I'm not trying to be mean. It's just that it fucked me over hard. I don't need more friends, I need a partner. I didn't learn this to be the case…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:23 AM
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God bless I mean you're wrong about everything, but number 3 has some merit to it. My ex cheated on her bf for me (yea I'm an idiot), and everyone thought he was a cuck because of it. Cheating is basically one of the worst forms of betrayal imo, and it doesn't matter what sex you are. It's fucking disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 03:08 AM
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I mean I'm suicidal at this point from being alone for so long, so I'd say it can be a risk for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:39 AM
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I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:33 AM
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INTJ been alone for 11 years. I find most women and men basic as awful as that makes me sound. I'm way too picky. Regardless, Myers Briggs isn't even valid. You can't pigeonhole people like that, and your category can change just by thinking a little differently that day when taking the test.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 02:29 AM
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Nah the trick is to smoke so much fucking weed that you barely even feel it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:28 AM
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Lmao this place destroys my mental health and gives me hope at the same time. It's wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:24 AM
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You'll get Christmas off but probably not the full week after. Depends where you work, but it's unlikely to get that much time off.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:24 AM
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There are people literally commenting to me that playing games is low value. That's not an unfounded assumption. And yeah the point of my comment was to start discussion about it to show that it's a bullshit take. Most women IRL are perfectly fine with a guy playing games just like any other hobby. But there are a good amount of people on this sub who say gaming is low value (many of which are men ironically).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:12 AM
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Personally idc what she does in her free time so long as she's willing to do stuff with me. Like what if she's a movie buff and enjoys movies on Netflix? What's honestly wrong with that lol. We could watch movies together as well. I could take her snowboarding. Life would be good. I mean what do these people actually have to do for you to want to date them? Rock climb? Go out hiking every day? I'm fine with a homebody so long as she has a good personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 06:06 AM
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Sorry for the wall of text. It's just wanting someone and not finding that someone hits me deeply. No don't give up and don't compromise. You were already doing more than you should have with that one guy. Dating is incredibly hard and gets harder as you get older I think. Especially if you're online dating. You're not alone in this. Never settle. You have completely reasonable standards. I've honestly been sitting here for awhile trying to come up with some sort of answer, but I'm in a predicam…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:58 AM
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Well that's a good trait imo. You seem like a decent person. I don't think you should feel like you can't keep a man because you don't seem to be the problem here. Your post got removed so I can't go back and reference. How long have you been actively trying to find someone new to date? Have you dated anyone new since then? Just by what I read, you went above and beyond in your last relationship. Unless you're unattractive (which unfortunately is important to men even though I hate it), I don't …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:27 AM
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You should look into psychologists talking to people with problems like this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HsAvXyXyfNU
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:21 AM
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Would you still date someone who's behind in life but still wants to have a good career/contribute to the relationship? A lot of people seem to be behind.. though I don't know how many of those people actively want to better their situation. Anyways I don't know the full context of your relationship, but just based off of what I read he seems low value af. You feel like you can't keep a man, but how many men have you actually had a relationship with?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:15 AM
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Some girls actually do put effort into the relationship and want to make their guy comfortable as well. You're just describing a leech tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:10 AM
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I have no idea why any guy would have a problem with that. Not letting your SO hang out with their friends is low value af. Unless they did that constantly and didn't have time for you, then I'd understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:08 AM
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This actually slaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:06 AM
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What would you demand from them? Personally idc if my gf watches tv during her free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:05 AM
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Yes I agree that's how it is in reality. But people on here will say that gaming in general is a low value trait when it's a normal and common hobby to have. I guess the point of my original comment was to get discussion going to show that this line of thinking is bullshit for the most part. I mean even some responses I've gotten show how people do indeed think women see gaming in general as unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:00 AM
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That was kind of the point I was trying to make though. It's like a girl can do this, but a guy can't even touch a game. You say of course men can play video games, but there are people who seem to associate playing a game with being low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:51 AM
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I honestly don't think I'd care so long as we have a healthy relationship and she's not ignoring me over those things. Unless she's like some insta model trying to get validation or something. Who cares what she does in her free time so long as it's not hurting her or our relationship? TikTok is cringe tho so that's an automatic break up (jk).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 03:45 AM
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Exactly and I wish this was said more often. There's a big difference between someone who plays games and someone who's addicted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:18 AM
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Yea I agree. But there are also tons of people who play games and have a life. It just kind of sound stupid to me to not want to date someone simply cause they play Halo sometimes. Like what, I won't date a girl because she watches FRIENDS in her spare time? I despise that show but it seems pretty shallow to make that some big factor in who I want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:12 AM
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Oh GOD
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:08 AM
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Exactly. But that goes for like every unproductive hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:08 AM
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I'm 27. Personally I've never met a girl who had a problem with videogames IRL. Maybe the women in their 30s before gaming became more mainstream? Idfk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 02:05 AM
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Yea well a girl who has a problem with games is repulsive and low value to me, so I'm not missing out. So stupid to have a problem with a completely normal hobby. Your sample likely isnt very high dating market value tbh Nice assumption lmao. Good looking girl who doesn't have a shitty personality and into games? Ewwwwww
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:56 AM
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I hope you do, dude. Luckily you can still get shredded af at Planet Fitness, so it's not the worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:54 AM
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Tbh most if not all women I know have no problem with someone playing videogames. All of my friends play games and a lot of their girlfriends do too whether it be league of legends or something like animal crossing/stardew valley. I just always see this posted online and it seems pretty far from the truth. Especially since 40% of the population worldwide plays videogames now (yeah a lot of it's mobile). Hell one girl I recently talked to never even played games before and wanted to play Runescap…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:50 AM
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Congratulations :) What a wonderful chapter to begin
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:47 AM
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Hah Crunch is actually where I go to. I got lucky and one of their flagship locations opened by me. It's a literal football field of gym equipment and they even have an olympic weightlifting section, room for tire flipping and whatnot, punching bags, and tons of free weights. It's beautiful... :')
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:46 AM
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This stupid song has been stuck in my head for days especially in the morning and at night. Someone help.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:37 AM
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Yayyy! :) How do you feel being a new mother?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:33 AM
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Oh man mine was when I went and I'd be working out right under it and they'd BLAST that shit just cause some guy put his weights down too hard. It was so cringe and a billion times more obnoxious than someone dropping their weights or groaning while doing it. It's literal ear rape. And yea, your criticism is my biggest criticism as well. A free barbell is a must imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:31 AM
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Sounds good. Thx fam.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:19 AM
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No :(((( I thought it would have been connected to my Android gaming account or whatever it's called, but it's not lmao. If I'd have known, I would've made an id.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:18 AM
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I used to. Then I got a new phone and couldn't recover my account.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:09 AM
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Yea there's nobody who appreciates a guy's hard work and dedication at the gym more than another man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:08 AM
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So you're not allowed to agree with someone and discuss it? Aight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 01:05 AM
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Lunk alarm is a joke. Some literally have pizza days. The biggest one is the equipment tho. Everything is a machine and their dumbells don't go up to a normal weight. You can still get a good workout regardless, I just don't like the company.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 12:57 AM
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I never really understood why women can just sit at home and watch netflix all day/do nothing (like most people statistically do in their free time), but men can't play games.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 12:40 AM
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I'd immediately cancel my membership if they required that. But I'd also immediately cancel my membership if I went to Planet Fitness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:43 PM
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It's hilarious where I live in California. They have signs saying you need a mask but nobody actually gives a fuck and let people do whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:43 PM
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Yes though I don't think that everything is set in stone. While people tend to follow certain tropes/stereotypes, it doesn't speak for the full population. I think this stuff is way more complex than people like to believe, and I also think your environment probably has a pretty large influence on who you become rather than just your gender. Honestly I don't know what's real and what isn't at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:38 PM
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Let’s not criticize her for expressing her opinions without attacking anyone. It's just common online etiquette. but what she fails to understand is that despite what she consciously is repelled by her biology is attracted to. We're human. Even if women's biology was attracted to it, we are capable of forming new thoughts and opinions which overshadow it. For instance, you'd probably say men are biologically wired to fuck as many women as possible. Sure. But as a man, I'd prefer to only have sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:30 PM
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I didn't read cause you're already completely wrong on the first sentence. It's just not that black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:16 PM
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We're way more alike than different, and our differences are usually based on our upbringing and environment. Anyways I don't really know how my comment is considered politically correct. I just tell it how I see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:10 PM
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That's a hard question to answer. Wanting to pass on your genes is a natural instinct for the vast majority of animals, but you don't necessarily need a relationship to do that. For humans, a relationship makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint as our offspring would have a higher chance to survive since we need to take care of them. It's probably a mix between the two, though I know some people are probably happy being single and sexless. I just think it's very rare. It's also interesting w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 11:05 PM
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Do you think of yourself as a slave of evolution and nature or do you experience yourself as a rational being making choices based on reasoning? Yes in the way that I really want a relationship and I feel a void from within. No in the sense that I don't want to fuck every girl I see and dislike casual sex/heavily value monogamy. Why do you experience it the way you experience? I have no idea honestly. Probably influenced by parents and being born religious at first. It made me believe that there…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 10:00 PM
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What? No, I'm saying that just because women are more likely to attend college doesn't mean their life is any better or that they're more mature than men who don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:36 PM
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I'm the same way. Depression eats away at you and after awhile it just feels impossible to manage. I'm going to see a new therapist with good reviews who specializes in this type of stuff, so maybe that will help me. Like one guy said he lost his job in 2005 and stopped interacting with everyone including his own family due to depression for over a decade. She changed his life around entirely. Perhaps you just need to find a good therapist/life coach who actually listens and takes pride in their…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:24 PM
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That has to do with how shitty society is, not their maturity. On the flipside, a lot of women work crap ass jobs and have much more debt on average thanks to college.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:15 PM
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Might depend on where you live, but here in California it's pathetically easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:43 PM
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Man the early writers for spongebob were goated af.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:33 PM
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Dude like I agree with your comment but the fact you all cap and bold it will probably give you some fatty downvotes. You make it seem like your opinion is above everyone else's by doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:24 PM
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based
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:22 PM
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Sex isn't hard to obtain. Just fuck a fat girl off of tinder. High n count just means you're promiscuous and can separate love from sex which a lot of women don't want. Most girls who want high n count men have high n counts themselves and put sexual pleasure on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:17 PM
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Personally it makes me want to vomit. Like damn another good looking girl who's an undateable whore. Feelsbad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:09 PM
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A lot of women WANT to dress as sluts, dude. They fucking love the attention they get. It's just ironic when they dress like a slut and think they'll attract men who don't just want to use them for sex. Then they'll call men pigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 08:06 PM
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Based off of what I see irl, it's a mix and based off of luck. I know ugly girls with shit personalities who are always in a relationship. I know better looking girls with good personalities who have never been asked out. And most girls seem to only get attention from genuinely shit men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:55 PM
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And I was snapping at you to begin with. 10 more years to mature? Please lol. Women are only more mature than men when they're teens because they hit puberty first. That's literally it. And someone's environment plays way more of a role of how mature someone is than their gender. Age correlates with maturity, but I've met many old immature people and many mature young people of all genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 07:23 PM
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Yea but let's not act like just because you can be used as a pocket pussy you actually have any real value to anyone who's not low value themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 06:20 PM
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Doing pretty well right now tbh. It feels good when I have hours in a row of not having any feeling of depression whatsoever. It's fucking freeing. I just know some people never even get asked this question, and I genuinely care about how you guys are doing. Mental health can be quite the battle.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:40 AM
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Personally I'm a mix of good and bad. My mental health always feels like it's being slowly drained, but my best friend helped me feel a lot better today. I also found a therapist with actual good reviews for once, so I'm excited I might actually get the help I need to move forward. Depression is incredibly weird and annoying to deal with. I just want to enjoy the day but there's this dark sheet inside of me suffocating my happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:37 AM
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How are you doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:33 AM
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Did you like the Spiderman movie? Also what is your date #2 gonna be? And yeah I might feel burnt out too having multiple back to back dates with a new person. But maybe not. Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:26 AM
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If you think everyone of a certain sex acts the same way and is shit, I'd call that being a misogynist or misandrist. Or if you think your sex is above the other. It's just racism based on gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:24 AM
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Why? lmao Women can still read it and voice their opinion. You can still have open conversations on potentially interesting topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:13 AM
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Yea exactly. Like if I have a female friend who cares about me, they'll listen. It's just on subs like these everyone hates each other so genuine empathy and conversation can be harder to come by. Not to mention the tribalism based solely on if you have a penis or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:10 AM
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It's a complete mix. I also don't think Reddit (especially subs like these) are reflective of general society. Some women are capable of empathy, some aren't. Just like men. But yea I think in general, women have no idea what it's like dating as a male just as many men don't understand what it's like dating as a female. But once someone talks to you about their issues regardless of gender, I find most people are able to have some sort of empathy for each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 01:05 AM
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Idk personally as a guy I'd probably feel bad if she did certain things for other people and not for me. Especially if it was with someone she didn't even care about (I wouldn't even date someone like that to begin with tbh). But I'm also pretty vanilla, so I probably wouldn't even run into that problem. It doesn't make sense to me that he would eat that other girl out all the time but all of a sudden it's gross and he never wants to please his gf that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:59 AM
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Ikr? And it's not even that hard of a skill imo. In general that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:55 AM
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Same. I still know dorks who are my age (27). Men and women. I'm like a mix between stupid and incredibly stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:53 AM
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Nah you're right and I've now changed my stance. It's just my first impulse would've been to think, "Oh that person probably has a lot of sex if she needs to be tested for STDs."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:51 AM
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Not every pornographic video is a work of fiction. There are plenty of amateur couples having genuine sex, or girls just getting themselves off. TMI and might make me seem low value, but personally my fetish is a girl having a genuine orgasm, so I've definitely learned what girls like through porn. And no, I'm not watching a video of a porn star having some fake ass screaming orgasm from getting railed in an awkward position. That being said, I do agree that there is A LOT of fake stuff out ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:44 AM
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When I talk about intimacy, I'm talking about genuine love for the other person. There's obviously a difference between loving sex between a couple and casual sex with a stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:41 AM
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Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:40 AM
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Most guys who are promiscuous don't care. Men who value sexual intimacy do care.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:39 AM
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Yea except that whole men maturing slower than women is literally just because women hit puberty faster. So yeah, women are more mature when they're 13 and then men catch up. Also "maturity" isn't even concrete in its meaning and based off of social perspective. The environment you grew up in plays a much bigger role in how "mature" someone is. "A woman with a boyfriend, marriage, and children, is considered mature, while men ‘earn’ their maturity only through good education, a secured life, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:33 AM
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Lmao I'll always miss kids screaming into their low quality Xbox mics.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:26 AM
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Ikr? Plus they get full of themselves from the constant validation from online men. That being said I've met higher quality women who play shit like animal crossing or stardew valley.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:25 AM
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I completely agree with this as someone who grew up with acne and an ugly duckling. Some girl even said to me, "Will you ever be cute?" randomly. Even now, having that validation and knowing I'm attractive, I still can feel ugly and worthless simply from the experiences I had when I was much younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:24 AM
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Yea but it seems young women these days offer nothing but sex. It's just most guys are cool with that since that's what they care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:21 AM
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Are you kidding? There are tons of women who don't want to be single lmao. There are decent women who never even get asked out and I have no idea why.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:20 AM
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Man I hate to say it but yea that's kind of true. Also I read a study indicating that women who feel regret will still do the same things they're regretful about, while men are much less likely to do so. I take every study with a grain of salt, but still interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:19 AM
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Cause they start to realize most guys who hook up with women are trash and non trash guys don't want to wife a promiscuous woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:17 AM
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Dude I was scared of dating a 19 year old when I was like 25. I'm an idiot, but the stigma is definitely there even if it's bullshit. Everyone I talked to said it was perfectly fine for me to date her, but for some reason I just felt like I would've been a pedophile or some shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:16 AM
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Yea but when I actually look at the messages guys send to girls I know, it's so massively fucking cringe. The majority of guys indeed seem to be shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 12:14 AM
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Most hot girls aren’t fucking every guy they know. God I wish that were true. Like seriously this would help my mental health immensely. Well actually I guess it is true, it's just that they're fucking the top % instead of every guy. I just want someone who doesn't have casual sex who I'm still attracted to (which there are a lot I just have no idea where to find them). On a side note, it always interested me how people would call me disciplined for not having casual sex and whatnot. To me it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:15 AM
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lmao I just got done watching his new Rudolph one. Even their ads are god tier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 02:09 AM
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Thanks, fam. I'll let you know if it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:51 AM
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If you look into the numbers those are also rare as well: Just under 2% of teens who said they'd only had oral sex said they caught an STI, compared with about 5% of those who had vaginal sex only, and 13% of those who had vaginal and oral sex. These are teens though, not adults (though oral sex is common for teenagers). It's hard to find actual statistics as they haven't looked into oral STD's as much, but every resource is telling me it's not that common. I doubt too many women are going to gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:46 AM
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It's k they're just committing financial suicide. I heard blizzard's doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:22 AM
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Ok then if I was in a relationship with someone I wanted to have sex with, I would not care if I had an orgasm or not as the emotional intimacy is what's most important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:21 AM
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I'd say no and orgasm doesn't even have to do with it. Just being "hot" isn't good enough to make me want to sleep with you. Also Scarlet Johansson lmfaoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:16 AM
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Haha yea and at least you found someone. I'm suicidal every day baby. Wooooo!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:12 AM
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Not all porn is abhorrently fake lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:10 AM
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Thank god I'm pretty thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:06 AM
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So did you tell him you haven't seen any of the Spiderman movies?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 01:05 AM
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Immediately after that quote, I explained that it's because they don't use condoms and rephrased it to monogamous people who aren't morons. If monogamous people used condoms more often, the number of STD's would be way less. Also getting an STD via non sexual ways is incredibly rare. At the end of the day, it's a numbers game. The lower n count you and your partner have, the less likely you'd get an STD. I wouldn't date a girl who didn't want to use protection. Talk about a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:58 AM
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I don't even care what's more immoral or not. They're both shitty behaviors I'd want nothing to do with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:41 AM
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Damn dude you're right! High n count people and low n count people are at the same risk of catching an STD. Why did I not realize that before? /s Anyways the only people getting STD's in monogamous relationships seem to be people who cheat. Especially because they're stupid af and are less likely to use a condom. Sorry here let me rephrase the whole thing. Monogamous people who aren't incredibly fucking retarded aren't likely to get an STD. Also I wouldn't even consider someone who cheats to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:30 AM
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I'm not arguing about anything being socially constructed or not. I'm telling you that regardless of whether or not it's instinct or learned, it's still an innate feeling I have at this point. Just like, again, regardless if not enjoying a certain food type is learned, it still becomes an innate feeling you have towards that food. I already agreed with your initial debate. Also there are different reasons monogamy was introduced if you look into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:26 AM
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Well that's a good thing to teach your daughter. Better safe than sorry. And yeah wanting to test for that wouldn't be so off putting so long as I knew they weren't promiscuous. Although it would be kind of weird and out of place for a request like that as it would imply they probably are pretty sexually involved. But those are just my shitty sexual "values". (as a kid I unwittingly referred to him as my “fairy godfather” which horrified my mom but which godfather thought was hilarious) lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:05 AM
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I literally do not care so long as she's contributing in some way. And by contributing, I mean actually putting effort in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:02 AM
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I'm 27. I asked my parents what they thought of it and they weren't worried about it at all because they didn't fuck a lot of people. I've never met anyone who wanted their partner to get an STD test and whatnot, and the only people I know who have STD's are people who sleep around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 12:00 AM
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You're trolling me if you actually think truly monogamous people are at as high of a risk of STD's as people who have casual sex. Do STD's exist in a monogamous environment? Sure. Are there a bunch of other variables to consider? Sure. But at the end of the day, someone not having casual sex or practicing "serial monogamy" is going to be much less likely to have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:52 PM
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That's fine. I never said you cared or that your relationship was bad or that you have an STD. I was just interjecting my unwanted opinion that someone needing an STD test is off putting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:50 PM
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I would agree with your argument. But there are also a lot of things we learn along the way that becomes an innate cognitive action. Like not touching a hot stove or feeling grossed out from a food you learned you didn't enjoy. I have innate disgust for people who sleep around, even though I have plenty of friends like that. It still will make me cringe to learn a close friend pumped and dumped 3 women within a few months.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:47 PM
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Yea but if you've had tons of sexual partners previously, or practice "serial monogamy" then it doesn't matter. I guess this is where n count matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:40 PM
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That's true!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:39 PM
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Uh yea but it's quite obvious the less sexual partners you've had the less chance of an STD would be? Like way less?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:38 PM
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https://www.verywellhealth.com/monogamy-and-std-risk-3132807 Enjoy being stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:36 PM
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Yea if you're having casual sex, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:35 PM
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Both are right both are wrong it’s mad subjective. Never said it wasn't. Casual sex and prostitution disgust the fuck out of me, yet I think it's objectively fine to do and would even fight for prostitution to get legalized. The reason I used the dog poop thing is because I WOULD DO ANYTHING to not be like this and just have casual sex because it makes dating incredibly hard. But it's an innate feeling now, even if it was socially constructed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:32 PM
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Never have, never will.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:22 PM
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Yes it raises the odds that they don't value the intimacy I provide the same way they do to me. Although yeah there's tons of ways to show love and whatnot outside of sex, it's still an extremely loving and intimate act for me. If they're doing that with people they don't care about, it completely taints the sexual value they have in my eyes. This analogy isn't perfect, but it's like your gf makes you a thoughtful handmade gift which is really special, but then you realize she's given that same …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:18 PM
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The why is just the innate feeling you have inside. It's like being grossed out by dog poop. It's a feeling you get. I don't want to ever have sex with someone who has casual sex because it shows that sex doesn't have the same meaning to them as it does to me. For me, sex is an act you only do with an exclusive partner you're extremely close with. If I had sex with someone who fucks random people, sex with them would suck because I'd feel like just another number. Even if they deeply cared for m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:13 PM
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No. It's cause I don't date sluts. 1 in 4 americans have an STD, fam. I don't want an STD either, but I wouldn't even have to worry about it if I knew I wasn't dating a whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:10 PM
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If I knew I'd tell you. Or idk what you mean by chance. For me, I just have no idea where to find women who aren't like that. Attracting them is the easy part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:08 PM
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Even rounding down you sound like a man whore, so I don't think it matters when your n count is already that high.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:03 PM
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Man what a fucking stupid comment. No I wouldn't because that's their actual job and aren't going to offer me emotional support/love like a relationship gives you. Also it doesn't take much time to learn how to pleasure your partner if you actually care about them. You seriously think someone needs to have as much sexual experience as a dentist does with their craft to be worth anything? Pathetic af tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 11:01 PM
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Some statistics point to this too. The more promiscuous you are the more likely you have some sort of mental illness or low self worth. Some studies didn't find this to be the result tho, so take that with a grain of salt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:55 PM
3

That's because you're fucking slutty women and having one night stands where they only care about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:53 PM
5

Virgins not for religious reasons want a man who is not a virgin but has a small body count (1 - 3) Why? Imo most virgins would want a virgin so they can share that same first time experience with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:47 PM
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Personally if someone needed to show me their STD results that's already gonna be a no from me, dawg.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:44 PM
3

I can empathize with why people want to have casual sex, yet can't understand why people don't understand or even try to understand why some people only want to have sex in a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:42 PM
5

Don't most young people live with their parents these days?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:40 PM
3

I'm male and have the exact same view. Well 4 is my number, but yeah. It's all about what sex means to the person and if those values align with yours. I'm 27 myself. I wouldn't mind a higher number so long as those were healthy LTR's.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:39 PM
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Have you talked to a woman? Jk I know you obviously have and do, but in my experience both sexes have WAY more similarities than differences. And the differences tend to be more based on the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:35 PM
2

Same thing that makes a woman attractive as well. A girl who can pull but doesn't fuck everyone she knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:32 PM
2

High value guys have high N-count is the trend. Lmfao no they don't. If they have a high n count it means they either can't hold a relationship or have empty casual sex. Just because you can get sex doesn't make you high value. There are TONS of shitty people getting sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:31 PM
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I'm confident, not bad looking, and virgin at 27. There are tons of reasons why someone might not have had sex. I just haven't met anyone worth having sex with. I don't really see why a higher n count means much when casual sex is easy to come by for most people if they want it (depending on where you live). It's not like women haven't expressed interest in me, I'm just not interested back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:25 PM
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There's more to sex than pleasure for some people. The emotional intimacy is the most important part to me, personally, and I wouldn't want to have sex with someone knowing they fucked some random people they didn't care about. Sex and love/intimacy can't be separated for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 10:23 PM
4

If you haven't watched Arcane, give it a shot. You'll thank me later.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 04:00 AM
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Even having nudes of your ex is grounds for breaking up. Shit's cringe. I fucking hate nudes tbh. Most guys show their friends. I've seen nudes of my best friends gf because they broke up before but are now back together. Like wtf I will never want to have a nude or take a nude photo.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:56 AM
2

More like don't ever date a woman who doesn't care to know what her boyfriend's gone through.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:54 AM
2

ikr lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:48 AM
3

Damn you better bring a lot to the table then.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:46 AM
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Anyone who has casual sex is a slut to me. There is no double standard because I believe men are just as slutty if not more. Most of the time people don't want to talk about their sexual history is because they think their number of partners is too high according to statistics. Most couples talk about their sexual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:42 AM
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It's a huge turn off if a girl wants me cause of any assets I have. Though I'd find it a bit weird if you're being treated better by women at work simply for owning a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:38 AM
1

Cute
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:37 AM
2

Neither. It's just typical retarded shit people try to pass off as "art".
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:34 AM
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0
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:31 AM
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My ex was and I was obsessed with hers. If one of us couldn't see each other for awhile, we'd give each other a shirt we owned. I'd literally sleep on her dance outfit. I don't have feelings for her anymore or anything, but I just know if I smelled that scent again it would trigger something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:29 AM
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HVW
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:23 AM
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Yea it happens. I felt that pretty much as soon as I even started feeling attracted to women. You're just the odd one out who can never find love. Good news is that yeah, you're only 19 so that's completely normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 03:23 AM
1

That sucks because I really want to know where to find non promiscuous women other than a church.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:39 AM
1

Where are you even gonna find one?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:38 AM
3

That is fucking horrible and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you walked in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:38 AM
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27 m and virgin. I've done some sexual stuff with a girlfriend in highschool, but I didn't believe in having PIV sex with someone until I know there's a good chance I can live a life together with them. I'm still virgin simply because I rarely meet new women, and the ones I do are either taken or I'm not attracted to them based on looks/personality. I also have depression and refused to date thinking that I had to fix myself entirely, but didn't learn that was stupid until 2 years ago when my be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:30 AM
1

Yea I possibly could as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:27 AM
1

Possibly. Though that's territory I haven't really thought about so I don't know if there would be implications from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:24 AM
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Women. Better leaders. Bahahahahaahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. I'm sure some are, but not on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:19 AM
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Agreed. Kid has no idea wtf he's saying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:16 AM
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God I love comments chalk full of random assumptions like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:12 AM
2

Obviously, but that doesn't change the question. Anyways, I don't really care enough to talk about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 01:05 AM
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Even though I hate all of you, I love you all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:58 AM
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I don't agree that cheating should be illegal, but I do agree that it's one of the worst betrayals you can do to someone. My close friend's girlfriend of 7 years cheated on him and 8 months later they're now back together (after he pumped and dumped 3 girls ofc). She definitely regretted the fuck out of her decision to the point she was under extreme depression, but it's just an unforgivable act imo. She's a really sweet girl in all other aspects which is why I was in utter shock to hear what sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:56 AM
2

I mean your comment was just a mean comment so I said something mean back. What's the point of saying something like that other than to be a jerk?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:53 AM
2

Definition of Chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:45 AM
5

Same reason you have a disgusting face.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:41 AM
1

The algorithm is just really REALLY fucked up and designed to make you stay on their platform as long as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:40 AM
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I read all of them with my dad and we agree that it's pretty similar for both genders. I'm not counting, but it doesn't seem readily obvious to me that one sex has higher standards than the other in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:30 AM
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And it's clear to see a lot of people of both sexes have ridiculous standards, while some have normal ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:26 AM
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That's uh.. pretty sad. You do you tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:23 AM
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It's just so obvious you're conceited af. It's ok though. Better that than low self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:22 AM
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My sister blew up on me and said don't you dare try to tell me how to raise my child. I'm like wtf I was just letting her know. It was like out of character for her. My best friend was there and he hates her now because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:16 AM
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Almost all of them are fucking retarded just like the men here and don't represent society.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:15 AM
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Did you even read the comments lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:15 AM
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Women get a pass because they need their safe space. I remember when twoxchromosomes was a default sub even though they're toxic as fuck lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:13 AM
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Anyone who's not a slut doesn't care about disclosing their past. Although getting into details is kind of weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:09 AM
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Ikr? Circumcision is fucking awful and it's like nobody cares. I told my sister about it and she circumcised her kid anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:08 AM
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Idk dude. The fact people are writing paragraphs for their standards is pretty bad. Like good luck finding someone who fits all that?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:07 AM
2

🙏🙏🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:05 AM
5

So fucking gross dude lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 12:03 AM
2

What does very submissive even mean? Like you have zero confidence in what you say?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:58 PM
0

You forgot to list that you're full of yourself as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:56 PM
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Uhh it's fucking gross? Anybody who does that has zero value to me in terms of a relationship. Hell I wouldn't even wanna be friends with someone like that lmao. Get a real job instead of having zero self respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:54 PM
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Damn you guys have way more standards than I do and I can't even find anyone who fits mine. My standards are: Not engage in hookup culture, put effort into the relationship, be a generally good person, and I have to have some sort of attraction to her although I find I gain more attraction for people after knowing them after awhile. Also within like 8 years of my age range and not have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 11:48 PM
2

He's a madlad what can I say?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:24 PM
1

Agreed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:23 PM
4

Hey can I just get a ban here since a sub about womens anatomy thinks women can have penises? I mean really? Its like a parody of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:22 PM
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I don't agree with this fully because there are TONS of men who can easily exude that flirtation women want, but they're just being manipulative and their end goal is sex. There are also tons men who are seen for what they are pretty quickly. So it's like a half truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:11 PM
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Honestly it just depends on what aesthetic you like. Those guys are definitely healthy and have fine bodies, I just prefer more muscle. I like the natural body builder look.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 06:07 PM
1

Same. It scares me sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:57 PM
1

Yes that's very possible. I personally would think Steven Yeun looks better. But like I said before, beauty is pretty subjective. There have been a lot of people I wasn't attracted to who are considered to be good looking and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:56 PM
2

Do you think the views people have on this sub are a good representation of the general views of society?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:50 PM
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Don't let it kill your faith in monogamy. There are way more monogamous males than swingers. My faith in monogamy/true love is strained as well, but it's comments like yours that remind me there are plenty of women who still want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:48 PM
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Well the thing about the rating is that beauty really does have some subjectivity to it. The rating I gave is based off of a chart which is pretty universal and doesn't have to do with ethnicity. But that doesn't mean some girl won't see him as above average. I'm sure people are seen differently depending on where they live as well. Here's the chart that's used: https://i.imgur.com/IP2LiZ6.png I'm sure a lot of women would be happy to have him tbh. But being a med student and holding a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:45 PM
1

They're literally just skinny to me. I can't even tell if they work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:41 PM
1

Straight 5. I've been posting on /r/truerateme for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:34 PM
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Yea but this is a time and age where everything is new. Huge conglomerates, social media, the death of monogomy, peak depression/suicide, drug use. I wouldn't have had the slightest issue having a kid in the 90s or prior (if I was alive), but this is just getting ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:30 PM
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I don't want kids but that might change if I found someone. I just think the world is going downhill and I don't want to subject more people to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:24 PM
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Hahaha holy fuck I saw someone make fun of this video, had no idea people actually took these two seriously. Wtf is wrong with society?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 05:19 PM
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Nah there's just more to sex than pleasure. I don't even need an orgasm I'm just happy for the love and intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 06:16 PM
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Welp our whole conversation derived from you saying men are bad at sex and they don't take critique. We've now learned that you never even gave them critique. You just tell them they suck and then stop having sex with them. One of them actually got super upset from it too. That's more understandable. Anyways sex without orgasm is only pointless if you're having empty sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:57 PM
1

Ok so you dated those people for sex rather than love and connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:44 PM
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Wow 4% difference. Incredible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:40 PM
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That's when they get good.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:32 PM
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The same things that make a male low value. Like you say man-hatred bitterness is a low value train in women. Ok then women-hatred bitterness is something I'd also consider low value. There are no double standards with me. Other than physical appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:27 PM
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That's fine, though that would imply that you're expecting a day that you'll part ways. Tbh that's the only difference between committed and casual to me (which is just semantics again). If he's at your side for life then that's committed. Anything less is casual imo. Nothing wrong with your relationship at all or anything, it's just a bummer because I know that will eventually be a sad time to go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:26 PM
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So you just say you want to stop instead of telling him what you'd like or how he could do better?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:19 PM
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Well I guess I never felt it before either cause idk what the fuck romance would be other than just feeling deeply connected with someone. If I was in your position I'd have no problem calling that a relationship, so this is just arguing semantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 05:17 PM
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You shouldn't worry about loss of erection. Just like it takes a few seconds to get aroused, it only takes a few seconds to lose that arousal for a male. Then you can just become aroused again immediately after if you want. It's completely normal to get embarrassed from not doing well and lose the arousal. It's just not normal to go to an extreme and get super upset. I do believe a lot of males are probably like that though as a lot of people are complete idiots who never amount to anything. I j…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:57 PM
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Honestly it kind of sounds like you're in a relationship but just don't mind if he has sex with someone else or you're open to polyamory. Seems like it's an argument of semantics rather than the reality of the situation. But maybe not. You say the difference is that you don't feel romance, but what exactly is romance to you? To me, having a relationship is basically like dating a very close friend except there's intimacy involved, so maybe that's where I'm misunderstanding. I mean you probably k…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:45 PM
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But didn't you say earlier that you wouldn't mind if your lover went out and fucked other people during your relationship? I'm genuinely confused why you would even care about the intimacy if he's willing to do it with someone else. And if he had a hook up even once it would signify that he's able to emotionally detach from sexual intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:27 PM
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Yea that's not necessarily the high n count I had in mind. Regardless, I can't fathom the average male reacting that way. If that was the case, the world would be in ruin. Most people can control their anger for one, and most people wouldn't get so butthurt over that unless you were like berating them or some shit which I doubt. I'd say you're unlucky but there must be some other explanation if it's multiple encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:20 PM
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What's high n count to you? The average lifetime sexual partners in America and the UK is 7.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:12 PM
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There's more to what you're saying than just participating in hook up culture. But, I mean, just participating in hook up culture makes you lower value so there's that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:10 PM
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only beta men give a flying fuck about what women think, yes thats right Yea it's so pathetic to care what half the population thinks. Also man I hate it when a girl cares about what I say. So gross and beta amirite? ok then we are on different pages in different books. you go do you That's for sure. I don't think anyone's on your page lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:07 PM
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Ok so back to saying more about you and your friends' dating preferences. The average male doesn't have a high n count with an ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 04:03 PM
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If the average male was punching holes in walls because their gf tried to give them pointers, we'd have a much bigger problem. Maybe you're dating males on substances which can make them more aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:59 PM
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Kinda says more about you and your friends' dating preferences than the average male. The average male isn't going to punch a wall and be uncoachable when it comes to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:55 PM
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who cares if women wouldnt be happy to find that out? Because you specifically said who cares if "men" don't like it which would imply it's something only a beta male would care about. why should i have "patience" for some guy i just met? Idk because I can't even empathize with fucking someone you just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:50 PM
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Women in general wouldn't be happy to learn if men dumped them simply because they didn't satisfy him well enough in bed right away. It's just a pathetic thing to do tbh no matter the gender. It shows you lack patience and place way too much value in sexual pleasure rather than connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:42 PM
2

Lucky you. That's still low value behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:40 PM
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Because there's more to a person than how much they can sexually satisfy you, and sex can be taught. Why would any valuable man date a women who would drop him only because he didn't touch you the right way right off the bat? So cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:04 PM
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Dude my first girlfriend had absolutely no idea what to do. Some of the stuff she thought worked made me genuinely laugh when she tried it. That wasn't even remotely a turn off? Her personality is what was important, and sex can easily be taught. You sound like someone who only gets into a "relationship" for sex and jumps ship whenever you face even the smallest of obstacles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:01 PM
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Dude the penis is way less confusing than a vagina. It's like not that hard to stimulate it, and it's easy to figure out just by looking at it. Meanwhile a vagina has so much more variation to how it works. Some women get off to PIV. Others don't. Some girls want their clit directly stimulated, others it's too painful. You'd expect a girl to feel good from getting penetrated, seeing as it feels good to penetrate with a dick and that's what would make the most sense, but that's not always the cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 02:29 PM
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Well I suppose there are always other things I'd prefer a girl to have (like empathy, sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, other obvious qualities that make a good well rounded individual), but my main 3 criteria are: Doesn't fuck around, I have to be attracted to her (tho I find myself becoming more attracted to someone the more I get to know them), and puts at least some effort into the relationship. I've met very little women who don't have casual sex, and the ones who don't I haven't been…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 02:26 AM
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Sometimes. They have a 6 month vetting rule of not having sex, but almost none of them follow it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 02:08 AM
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I believe labeling someone high value actually is subjective. It just depends on your preferences though high value people usually share similar traits like not being a shitty person.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 02:06 AM
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You could consider me one of those people who can't find a HVW, but that's because I find casual sex to be something low value people do. They aren't objectively lower value in reality, just in terms of my dating preferences. Different people have different preferences, so someone being high value is subjective. I was taught that you were supposed to have a connection first before having sex. I can count the people I've met who were like that on one hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:55 AM
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Depends on the context. If the sex was during LTR's not a problem. If they were hookups/casual dates, that's disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:51 AM
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That's what HVM means to you? So does that mean all the instagram thots are HVW cause a lot of men want them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 01:48 AM
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There is no such thing as a HVM who bones thots.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 12:17 AM
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The same reason incels talk shit on women. They don't get the attention they want so blame it on the opposite sex. At least incels will attempt to put up some sort of debate. FDS users just block cause they're all huge pussies and any debate against them is sexist. That being said, it's a mix. Just like with incels, some good some bad. It just disgusts me how neither of them call each other out on their bullshit. Prob cause they're scared of getting cast out of the only thing that gives them pur…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:56 PM
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That's because they have no personality and aren't worth dating in the first place. Sometimes they won't default to "hey" and actually engage in the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:39 PM
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I literally don't know a single male who can't pull someone from OLD. My fucking shoe could get matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:39 PM
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Competition? Most women would fuck the broad side of a barn where I live. Girls around me are either taken, have the most uninteresting personalities, ugly, or slutty af. Not much to choose from. And that's the reason most men I know are single. Same for women tbh. Everyone's trash nowadays and modern dating is horrendous.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 11:34 PM
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I've been sexual with someone before, so it's not that hard for me to understand how it would feel to have the full experience. I still don't get how I could have bad sexual chemistry with someone unless they had some crazy fetish I didn't want to do. If I loved someone, I would think the chemistry would all be there by default. If there was some problem I'd just communicate. And no I haven't really heard someone say that tbh. Personally I wouldn't kiss someone right away and need to build a fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:55 PM
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Yea but in my mind they are sluts and it doesn't measure their success at all. Society in general might think differently, and I'll explain why. It's not because of the bad connotation. Women control the sexual market. If a man makes a post claiming he wants to have sex with someone online, probably nobody would respond unless he's extremely attractive. Maybe gay men. If an average woman posted that, she would get tons of offers. If she actually wanted to go through with it, she would pick one m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:44 PM
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Lmao I doubt people wouldn't like you for those reasons. Who cares who makes more money and a dark sense of humor is so much more interesting. I think a lot of people would appreciate that tbh and you probably have more good qualities than bad. Anyways yeah. I'm jealous and wish I could be like you. I just want to be "normal" and be able to widen my dating pool dramatically. It's like a gut feeling being disgusted by casual sex. I love women but I'm going to end up dying alone anyways :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:31 PM
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If you're not attracted to each other, why be in a relationship in the first place? And why can't people compromise on things and meet in the middle? I'm surprised sex is so important to people. It's like all they care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 04:24 PM
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Why sad? Idk you were like one of the only people on here I'd agree with on everything. Everyone treats sex so differently I just want to kill myself at this point from never finding someone who wants to make the same connection. It's just nice to feel like you're not alone sometimes. Oh well that's life.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 11:05 AM
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I've had girls express interest in me lol. It's not hard to be likeable. Being a virgin isn't as big of a deal as you think it is. There is way more to a person than if they had sex or not. The issue I have is that I almost never come across someone I'd want to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 10:33 AM
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I like this subreddit because you can have honest discussion. I stay because the discussion is absolutely bogus so it remains interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:18 AM
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Nah they're all in a relationship or unattractive. Idk how it's an uncommon response because that's been the response I've gotten from basically everyone who knows I'm a virgin. It always surprises them and they think it's charming that I'm waiting for love. If they have a problem with it, I wouldn't want to date them anyways. I have actually legitimately never gotten shit from anyone for being a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:08 AM
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I don't really care about it being a good look or not. My friend has asked women about my situation and they all think it's sweet that I'm waiting until I find someone I love. But yes, I should start looking soon. I just hate hookup culture so much that I haven't bothered dating anyone. It's hard because I'm almost demisexual in the fact that I need to be friends with someone for awhile before I'd even consider dating them, but I live in a world where people fuck after the first date. I'm also a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:04 AM
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Me too. It's awful. I really don't want to be this way, but I am and I can't help it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 09:01 AM
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Weird cause I have friends of both and they definitely are virgins. The ones that aren't truly religious aren't tho. This one girl literally has a guy sneak into her house to fuck her with her very conservative Muslim parents at home. I don't even know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:59 AM
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Saved. Really good sources. Looks like I'm reaching the 2.2% in a couple years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:58 AM
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How can people be sexually incompatible? I'm genuinely curious as I'm a virgin and don't really understand what would make sex incompatible other than some extreme fetish or the guy only cares about himself getting off. Isn't this kind of rare?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:55 AM
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Are virgin men just worthless in society then?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:54 AM
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But what does this have to do with anything? You can still date multiple people and not have sex with them. Unless you're talking about sexual compatibility which I would think is kind of more rare to be incompatible?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:52 AM
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I agree, but is there any evidence to rule out the possibility that they actually do have greater satisfaction in said marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:50 AM
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Bro I'm like so confused what you're trying to say. How do you not get the point I'm trying to make when I'm directly responding to what you're claiming? You're saying there's no difference between casual and monogamous sex, and that it's a "logical fallacy" to think a younger person with a high n count is likely to engage in casual sex. If someone has casual sex, it completely ruins the value and meaning of sex with someone they love. The end result isn't the same? Someone who fucked 4 people i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:40 AM
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I've seen studies on it, but I can't really find too much about women reporting lower. There's a lot on men reporting higher tho and you can find plenty of studies on that just by googling. Here's a quote and link that talks about both. See the end: In most sex studies, the reported number of sex partners by women is by half lower than that reported by men. (IPSOS) Given the fact that between genders, heterosexual individuals are represented by roughly the same share, this frequently encountered…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 08:33 AM
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I'm in the same situation as well. There are a lot of people like us. Don't feel alone!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:32 AM
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Exact same views and age here except I'm male.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:31 AM
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Dude how is it even possible to have that much sex by that age. Hahahahahhahahaa holy fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:30 AM
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Nah not all women are liars, but statistics show that most women on average tell a male she had a couple less partners than she actually had. Men do the exact opposite, and I'm not calling all men liars either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:27 AM
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I've had zero and I only want to have sex when there's love involved. So it's not impossible. I'm also 27.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:25 AM
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I've had oral sex and whatnot with one person, but I'm technically a virgin. I'd be comfortable with someone up to like 4 partners. It just depends if they were in LTR's or not. All that matters is that they have sex with someone they have a deep connection with. I'm male and 27 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:23 AM
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For me love is both, so I can't get over casual sex. I'm sorry to hear about your mother. What a pile of shit. Thank you for responding.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:20 AM
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You're right dude. If some 18 year old had 20 sexual partners, I'm completely wrong. She's just a "serial monogomist" and serial dater which is somehow different from someone having casual relationships/sex. My bad dude for the logical fallacy you can't even name.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:03 AM
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Ok good, then may I ask some questions to try to empathize with your line of thought? I genuinely want to understand and adhere to those thoughts as well as I have such a problem with hookup culture and it affects my life to the point I haven't bothered dating in 10 years. Sex to me is a pretty intimate and loving act. If someone else had a lot of sex with random people they had no connection with, I wouldn't want to have a relationship with them. It would tell me that they don't value sex the s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 07:00 AM
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The reason you can't judge people for their past is because you already fucked yours up. Regardless, I do heavily agree that you can find fulfilling love.. it's just that they're most likely going to have to be promiscuous themselves because most people with low n counts usually don't want people with higher ones. Although people can change, it's such a mind fuck to have sex with someone you love, but they've given it away to so many people before. There's no getting around it for a lot of peopl…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:55 AM
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Well I can say that I heavily believe prostitution should be legalized yet find it all heavily disgusting. People have interesting beliefs sometimes. At the end of the day, my "moral" beliefs aren't as important as objective truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:47 AM
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It's not just about the partner count. The context in which you have it is telling as well. If you fuck some random guy you have no connection to, you're a slut. This goes for males who do so as well. A hookup is a slutty thing to do, is it not? It completely ruins the value of sex as you just gave away one of the most intimate and loving acts to some random cause you thought he was hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:31 AM
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"I just killed someone yesterday" the past is the past bro
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:25 AM
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Man you're pretty grudging yourself. She has the exact same views as I do. It's not morally wrong to have casual sex and see a prostitute, and prostitution should be legal so they have better working conditions. But I'd never date a promiscuous person because sex actually has meaning to me and I wouldn't just fuck some random person I don't have a connection with. You're the one who's close minded and your comment genuinely made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:24 AM
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Finally someone with normal views. Took way too much scrolling to find one. The people on this sub blow my fucking mind continuously.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:20 AM
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Lmao you'd date someone who'd have sex with random people they have no connection to? So when they have sex with you it's meaningless as well? I honestly can't empathize with that line of thinking unless I myself thought sex was just some pleasure tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:19 AM
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Imagine having casual sex and pretending it's some intimate thing with your future relationship. Pretty fucking pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:15 AM
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There's a pretty obvious differentiation between casual sex and sex with a LTR. And there's a pretty obvious correlation between your number of sex partners and how much casual sex you have. Some people, oh idk, actually put value on the intimacy of sex and don't want to do it with new people they meet which is absurd I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:11 AM
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Damn that's pretty sad to hear from you as everything up until now I've agreed with you on. I honestly didn't expect to hear that you wouldn't mind someone you loved having sex with someone else during your relationship, but I guess being demisexual doesn't account for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:09 AM
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Yes it's the number and the context of the sex they had (like ONS). This affects a LOT of men and tons of women also don't like male whores either. I'm surprised this even needs to be debated. Pretty much every person I've talked to who wasn't a slut cared, and every person who was a slut didn't, so it's super easy to see who values sex on this sub and who doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:05 AM
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You must be pretty promiscuous yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 06:03 AM
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There are plenty of rich and successful men who have low value personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:58 AM
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How can they not view you as a slut? You had casual sex therefor making you a slut. Find a guy who wants a slut, not lie to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/21 05:55 AM
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I'm not saying you're not, I'm just genuinely asking. Are you perfectly fine with never finding love and being alone for the rest of your life? I wish I could be like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 07:41 AM
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Have you ever cried over a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 07:01 AM
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I don't have to. She gave up something she wanted. She cared so much about someone and cried about it. She believes her chances of having a husband are slim. It's clear she wants an actual fulfilling relationship, but is scared of getting hurt. That hurts people. It's not projection. It's empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 06:11 AM
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I’m getting the impression that you’re trying to get women to lower their standards because you’re not successful with girls. What exactly gives you that impression? If anything I wish women had higher standards. It's gross because it lowers the value of sex in an actual relationship. Sex wouldn't be special if your partner gave it away to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 06:08 AM
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Most women and men I know aren't like that. That's gross tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 05:02 AM
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Yea most people don't seem to care from my experience. Which sucks for me cause I actually do. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:30 AM
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I don't have a pill as that just limits your views. Anyways yeah they lie about it because they think it makes them sound cooler. Also there's tons of media about sex and how cool it is. Just look at tik tok. They aren't universally lying about it either. Go to India or Dubai or any other non westernized area. You'd be slut shamed harder than anyone could do it here. America and the like are just super "progressive". I lied about it too in highschool as well as my friends and even girls did it. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:11 AM
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https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/06/160606082607.htm "Women who married as virgins had the lowest divorce rates by far. Eleven percent of virgin marriages (on the part of the woman, at least) in the 1980s dissolved within five years. This number fell to 8 percent in the 1990s, then fell again to 6 percent in the 2000s. For all three decades, the women with the second lowest five-year divorce rates are those who had only one partner prior to marriage. Wolfinger's data revealed that in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:04 AM
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Sex and love are two completely different things that are rarely attached, if ever. Do you live under a rock? lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:57 AM
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That's funny. I have the same views but an opposite approach. I know I'm not bonded by sex because I wait to have sex and vet them first. Then sex is even better because it bolsters the intimacy and feeling of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:56 AM
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Yea as someone who's disgusted by casual sex/relationships and would never dare date someone who did that, it's completely true. So long as it doesn't go against your moral code or something, people are completely fine having casual sex. If you meet someone with the same morals/views, then there shouldn't be a problem in having a relationship. It's when the values clash and people lie when problems start.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:54 AM
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You can be inexperienced in a relationship and still be a better gf/bf than anyone. It's not like you have some relationship and you're all of a sudden mature and admirable. Plenty of people mature outside of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:49 AM
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Nah I'm virgin and I don't lie about it. It's usually just much younger people who lie about it because they aren't experienced enough to realize it doesn't matter. Lying about anything to make yourself look better is pretty pathetic tbh. Also I've never actually met anyone who wouldn't date someone simply because they're a virgin. It's more like WHY he's a virgin that's in question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:40 AM
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Yea but deep down she's probably hurting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:36 AM
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It's pretty obvious you want an actual relationship lol. You're just literally doing the exact opposite that's actually good for your mental health in the long run. Gl.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 03:36 AM
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Because women date male whores for some reason, and people have a problem when men don't want to date female whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 02:59 AM
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Same. I didn't realize you could just make your intentions known but then still be friends first. People just have to be more upfront with what they want imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 03:51 AM
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Yea you could say so :)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:05 AM
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Neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:15 PM
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You're just demisexual lol. It means to not experience sexual attraction until you have a deep connection to the person. I'm almost that way, however, I do experience sexual attraction towards other people I don't know (or at least think to myself damn she's cute or something idk), it's just a lot more rare. Plus I refuse to have sex with someone I don't have a deep connection with. We're different though. You're full on demisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:13 PM
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Because most women seem to be boring and casual sex is disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:44 AM
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Way to not actually debate anything. You're literally nothing special, fuck boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:37 AM
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How is that inaccurate? If it's easy to get laid, that means it's abundant. Only low value people have casual sex so it would be low value. Therefore, pussy and dick is abundant and low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 04:27 AM
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Why even date a male who went through a playboy phase? Anyways I’m 27 now so I may as well try again. I’m so tired of hookup culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:52 PM
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I’ve basically been MGTOW for over a decade although I don’t go on any of their subs nor do I know what I do and don’t agree with in regards to their views. I just stopped dating entirely because women (and men) around me are gross. Casual sex disgusts me. I just want a girl who takes care of herself as I do, isn’t insanely boring/basic, and doesn’t sleep around. I’ve counted girls like this in my life with one hand maybe two. Haven’t met a decent girl in 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:51 PM
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Weird cause that’s the exact opposite experience I’ve had. I only tried for a month tho. Most attractive women just wanted a hookup, and my sister showed me her tinder and every guy was a moron and also most of them just wanted a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:44 PM
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Remember bois, no gaming. You can do any other hobby tho to keep your mind off of things. Just don’t look like a fucking nerd doing it or it’s game over. I mean you’re basically an drunken porn addicted narc if you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:37 PM
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? I live in California. Casual sex is rampant here. Even my non attractive friends can get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 09:27 PM
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Yea but we’re looking for valuable women, not the hoes you fuck. You’re right tho. Pussy is abundant and low value just like dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 08:55 PM
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IMO there is no such thing as a quality hookup. Casual sex is pathetic. Sex will always be 100x better with someone who loves and cares about you, and then you give up the value of sex by giving it away to nobodies. I’m well aware of the orgasm gap. Hell I know girls who can’t even have an orgasm. Anyways I’m busy now so I’ll see you around. Ty for having this discussion with me. Ily, stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:15 PM
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Thank you. People being nice to each other is all I need.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:13 PM
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I mean I have talked about how hard it is to get a decent relationship with multiple women and people talk about how bad modern dating is all the time when I socialize. That’s how I know some women don’t know how to get casual sex either if they’re into that. That being said I’ve talked to women from all over the world. I’m sure most girls don’t have that issue here in whoreville I mean California. They certainly have issues getting quality relationships tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 08:00 PM
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I stated previously that you need critical thought and listening skills which would imply that they would need to hear what the other gender goes through.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:50 PM
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Yes. Tho I don’t know the actual statistics. Also some people have casual sex/relationships and have fruitful LTRs from it so it’s not always necessarily a bad thing. I just think it’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:47 PM
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Because I’m surprised people can’t think.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:44 PM
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Read your comments. Someone asked you if women are incapable of fathoming not being able to get sex and you said yes. Stop painting things with a broad brush because it just makes you sound completely incorrect. Or maybe specify that you’re generalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:35 PM
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What? You’re literally saying no woman can understand what a man goes through because they can’t fathom not being able to get sex. Bro I’ve talked to women who don’t even know how to have casual sex, and now you turn it around on me? Sure. Jesus Christ some of the people on this sub are next level.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:26 PM
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Because they aren’t even remotely hard to understand if you can think critically and listen to other people’s experiences. Also you said women can’t even fathom men’s experiences which would imply you can’t empathize with them. Maybe you can as an individual, but you grouped all women together.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:22 PM
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You literally just said you couldn’t empathize. And I’m in an awful mood so I apologize if I sound hostile. I’m tired of living. I’m glad you’re actually engaging and having a conversation unlike a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:19 PM
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That’s absolutely hilarious to me that the seemingly more empathetic gender is incapable of actual empathy. Anyways a lot of women can fathom that. It’s just that you’re unable to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:16 PM
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Just having casual sex once makes you a hoe IMO. Imagine fucking some random dude and acting like sex is some intimate deep experience afterwards with your betamale.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:14 PM
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And men value that too? Instead of making it about women and men, it’s more about individualism. I can easily get casual sex it’s just that casual sex is absolutely disgusting and ruins the meaning of sex entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 07:13 PM
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No it doesn't. There's a difference between an unattractive girl liking you and a gay person liking you. A gay person liking you doesn't prove that you're attractive towards women which is what straight men want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 06:17 AM
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Nice try? It’s just a statement that people keep throwing around now mostly women. Are you flattered by gay attraction? And is it the same if a girl was attracted to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:01 AM
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You don’t have to. I know it is. But there are also lesser extents of sexual assault that aren’t so traumatic. At the end of the day tho, sexual assault is disgusting and it makes me hateful that people do all these stupid things to each other. I’m tired of everyone fucking each other over.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:19 PM
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I don’t. I never did. It made me feel very uncomfortable and I didn’t even know how to react. I couldn’t even look at the girl to see who did it. I just gave her my name and left. It still made me feel attractive tho. Like wow I’m actually decent looking enough to get groped by a girl? Maybe I have a chance to attract a nice girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:18 PM
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Please tell me how my own logic warrants that. Especially after I specified the false equivalency fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:16 PM
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Lmao why are you obsessed with fucking people in the butt? It’s like you have to add that part in to make it way less appealing. Also you focus on abhorrent rape when sexual assault is a wide spectrum. Most probably wouldn’t want that but I wouldn’t be surprised if they still didn’t get a confidence boost from someone wanting that from them. My point is that in my experience being groped made me feel good. Getting my butt randomly touched by people made me feel good. I still thought it was a dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 10:14 PM
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I’m not talking about women’s issues. I’m talking about men’s issues. I’m not making a comparison and it’s not a competition. Stop acting like someone else’s misery dwarfs how valid your misery is. Both are valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:59 PM
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I’m very vanilla and virgin. I despise casual sex and my fetish if anything is a girl having an orgasm. I mainly care about the emotional connection you share with someone. Where did I ever say that it was pleasurable for women or that it doesn’t hurt you? These are two completely different issues. It hurts men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:57 PM
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What’s up with the women on here always bringing something like that up? It’s called the false equivalency fallacy. Being sexually assaulted by a man is not equivalent to being sexually assaulted by a woman. If you’re not gay, then the same sex being attracted to you is completely unwanted and meaningless. However, if you asked some incels if they wanted to be raped by a woman they’d say yes. That being said, a lot of incels are pigs. It’s a large group of people with varying opinions and person…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:54 PM
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Depends on the abuse. If it’s sexual abuse it means you have some sort of sexual value someone wants. It shows you’re capable of making someone else aroused instead of being completely unwanted. That’s literally how fucked up it gets in your mind when you’re in that position.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:33 PM
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Not really. I notice a lot of women say this on here, but it’s false equivalency fallacy. Having women attracted to you is not equal to having men attracted to you unless you’re bisexual/pansexual/etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:31 PM
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Because incels haven’t gone through that to know it’s not worth it. Instead they stew in their thoughts of worthlessness which fucks them up in their own way. I can understand both views because I was ugly in the beginning of highschool with acne and whatnot and knew what it was like to be worthless to the point that being sexually assaulted was a huge boost in confidence. Now I go through what women go through of not being able to find a relationship with someone who doesn’t just want to use me…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:22 PM
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Your replies are so bad I don’t even read them anymore. All I read is that you don’t give a fuck, so if you’re on a subreddit about discussing the differences between men and women but you don’t care, then why are you here? Honestly if anything you’re just a detriment to wholesome deliberation since you’re full of fallacies and hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:16 PM
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It’s just funny because you’re main gripe is with men online when most men don’t act like this. Maybe touch grass one of these days. Also it seems you’re the one most affected by this, so I’d actually say maybe you should be the one to toughen up. I could only imagine how mentally fucked up someone needs to be to actually create something like the pink pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:15 PM
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Hahaha ikr? They’re one in the same yet hate each other the most. It’s so ironic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:14 PM
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They’re not gay tho so what would that do for them? Being attractive to gay people means nothing if you’re heterosexual. It might be a small confidence boost I guess but not even close to how it would be if a woman paid attention to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:12 PM
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Idc about pity rather understanding. I now know that I’m relatively attractive so I don’t have the same issues anymore, however, I grew up ugly and some girl sexually assaulted me and it gave me a huge confidence boost. I felt so worthless that something fucked up like that actually made me feel good (nothing crazy just groped in a lunch line and she whispered what’s your name in my ear). Why can’t you put yourself into someone else’s shoes who not only isn’t good enough for a relationship, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 09:07 PM
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I didn’t mean they were the same thing. They’re just both dumb to me although sometimes FDS actually posts good material. You can’t honestly group all of incels out to be killers. I’m technically incel as I wish I had someone but I’m no killer. That’s such a tiny percentage for such a large group although I agree that incels are much more violent than femcels. I agree that crappy people should be called out, but instead people call out complete groups of people with varying opinions and agree wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 10:03 PM
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And I’m saying that incels would rather have that than not being fucked at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:52 PM
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I honestly don’t know how it’s so hard to make a dating account and have casual sex. Maybe it’s because I live in California. Some of my friends aren’t that good looking and they match with people just fine. When I made an account what turned me off completely WAS the number of people on there just looking for a hookup.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:47 PM
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Yet every single person I’ve showed FDS and the “pink pill” to think you guys are batshit insane. You and incels are one in the same and it’s hilarious. Incel gets mad at women for not liking him. Pink piller gets mad at men for not liking her. You both attack each other in an unending cycle of cringe instead of realizing you both make up a minority of the population. Everyone on the outside I’ve shown this to can’t empathize with this shit and whenever anyone tries to they get shut down in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:47 PM
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You don’t even try to empathize. You honestly can’t see how not experiencing anyone attracted to you whatsoever ever can mess someone up? Jesus, get some compassion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:27 PM
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If males aren’t having sex and women are, doesn’t that mean there’s less dick and more pussy going around? Technically true, though I know it’s women choosing not to sleep with lower tier males. Regardless, seeing as basically every one of my male friends can get casual sex/relationships within a few days of OLD, I’m going to guess that it’s really not that hard to get laid these days. However I would technically contribute to the sexlessness statistic because I think casual sex is disgusting an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 06:50 PM
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And women have male orbiters. It’s funny how both sexes do the same thing and complain about it like it’s only the other sex who does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 06:24 PM
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So is pussy these days ngl. Disgusting to me either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 06:21 PM
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Ok but you don’t understand what it’s like to be the guy in your position except he’s not even good enough to be used for sex. Also the fact that seeing as you’re attractive enough to get casual sex, you’re probably attractive enough to have a normal relationship as well. I think that’s the point a lot of them try to make. Many incels make that connection and think they’re undatable for being ugly/not being able to get casual sex and a women is datable because she can. I agree with your main poi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:50 PM
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I mean we just have different views. I’m not interested in just sex. I’m way more interested in the relationship that comes with it and being loved. Sex for me is used to bolster emotional connection. Also I’m a guy. I know how guys work. I know how my friends work. It’s really not that hard. Just sex can certainly be physically pleasurable, but that would leave me empty and depressed. Sounds miserable tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:19 PM
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I’m pretty sure most men want one quality partner as well. I can think of a lot of men who were hoes like that, but I can think of way more men who weren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 05:01 PM
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Why can’t you vet someone being crazy before having sex? Also if you need post nut clarity to think critically, then I’ve got some bad news.. Also some women and men will feel used for sex regardless because not all of us fuck strictly for pleasure. Sex is way more meaningful to me than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:59 PM
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I’m pretty sad that you’re trying to normalize people dating others with shitty qualities. Quality over quantity IMO. Better to wait than to be with someone you’re not happy with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:32 PM
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You should look into how sex changes how you view someone. It can make people fall for others who have trash qualities. Not saying it happens to you, but it does happen. It’s safer to get to know the person first IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:27 PM
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Tbh I think there are plenty of people who are similar to me, I just rarely meet new people. I could probably even meet likeminded people on OLD, it’s just that I never make an account. It’s definitely my fault in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:23 PM
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I’ve been alone for 10 years because of this and it kills me, but I’m much happier being alone than in a bad relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:12 PM
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No and I’d be grossed out if a girl wanted to have sex with me after just buying her dinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 07:56 PM
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That makes sense. Why not tell me that to begin with tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 07:01 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:44 AM
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Imagine wanting someone who takes care of themselves. How awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 03:11 AM
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Nothing's hotter to me than an intelligent woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 10:41 PM
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Completely agreed and I’m male. Those men are so hypocritical it’s astonishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 01:05 AM
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Because they just want sex. It’s more like they’re taking sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:31 AM
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Oh then in your case it’s perfectly fine. There’s nothing wrong with having casual sex or sex early or any of that if it actually works out for you and you get what you want out of it. Also that it doesn’t hurt other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:17 PM
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I’ve been on here for a long time then took a year break off reddit and came back. I don’t think anything really helped me here. A lot of things posted here are strewed in certain ways which makes a sex appear better/worse depending on the OP’s bias. That being said, I made my own post recently and I would say some of the comments helped me a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 10:08 PM
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That’s the point I’m trying to make. Males who do this don’t deserve sex so why give it to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 09:25 PM
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I don’t think that’s a good way to find out because a lot of people (especially men) will just use you for sex and be done with you. I’d rather risk it and wait for awhile, or just talk to them about it before getting to the point of a sexual relationship. I would think that if someone genuinely cared about you, they would probably get off to making you feel good. You could probably vet for that by just seeing if they do things for you in general over a certain amount of time. Are they helpful? …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 09:24 PM
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That's mindblowing to hear. I've never heard of someone saying that love is optional in a successful relationship. Usually relationships fall apart because of the lack of love. I guess there's arranged marriages which sometimes don't involve love which are successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 03:06 PM
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Oh well that's life I guess. Anyways marriage doesn't even mean much to me. What matters is knowing you're with someone for life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:56 PM
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Unconditional love is bad. There should always be conditions or you're setting yourself up for abuse/a bad time. I'll take loyalty over love in a heartbeat. I'll take duty over love in a heartbeat. I'll take dedication over love in a heartbeat. I'll even take lust over love in a heartbeat Why not have it all? If someone actually loves you, I don't see why you wouldn't tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:54 PM
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Well it took my friend 7 years before he was about to marry her but he got cheated on right before. And my best friend is past 2 years and I couldn't see them getting married in 3 years. I figured that was a reasonable number, but seeing as I'm also getting older... that being said, I never want to marry the wrong person. I'm 27. Oh god... my parents waited 13 years LOL. Maybe 3 years is a good number. It really depends on the relationship tbh. I have no idea yet what it feels like to want to ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:49 PM
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I don't believe that there isba growing divde between men and women. I looked it up and you're probably right. I thought I heard something about that. Honestly it's probably cause I've spent too much time online. Imma go touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:45 PM
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Yea I think that might be a deal breaker for me. Especially because marriage would probably take me at least 4 years. Though now that I'm getting older, who knows?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:42 PM
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That's a good point although I think a lot of studies are aimed at youth. Specifically college students.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:41 PM
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Yea there's definitely a growing divide between men and women. Not good at all. The issue isn't with people happily being alone and enjoy their lives. The issue is the people are are single but feel that other people need to settle for them or change for them in order to have a relationship. I agree and also think the opposite is true in some cases. Some people feel that they themselves are the problem and have zero self esteem. I've talked to a few women like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:39 PM
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What does that have to do with marriage? Regardless, I didn't mean love in my title. I meant close bond. I wish I didn't say that because it's caused so much confusion. Kind of weird how some people believe you can only be in love if you're married though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:34 PM
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I think it's because relationships are declining and single motherhood and whatnot. Some girls are just getting used because they don't vet guys. Instead they give them sex relatively quickly and the guy stops caring and moves on to the next. Pretty fucking sad tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:33 PM
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It's so interesting how people have such varied views on this subject. I think both sex early and sex later can work. It just depends on the people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:31 PM
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Where did you get that lmao. I never said that and I have multiple comments saying I wouldn't want to wait until marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:29 PM
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Thank you. People's behaviour on the internet isn't the best place to gauge what's normal. For some reason I figured Reddit would be an adequate sample size of the youth in society. And I just say no hookups please Good luck out there! Thanks! I'll do my best :D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:29 PM
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I'll definitely try those out. Tysm :)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:18 PM
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Nah because I feel sexual attraction to some people I've never met before. I thought I was for a long time. I'd love to date a demisexual tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:16 PM
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Yea they should be more detailed. Though I would think a sexual partner is anyone you've done anything sexual with. That being said is a random sexual act from someone a "sexual partner"? Also your study was done in 2003 and hookup culture wasn't as prevalent back then. Though it's probably still relatively the same I'd think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:16 PM
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Completely agreed. I just didn't want someone to reply to my comment and be all like I've fucked 30 people and have a loving relationship or something and get upset. It is possible for sure and does happen a lot, just less likely. There's also the fact that the internet/games exists and men would rather be on there than date women lol. Also hikkimori is basically becoming prevalent here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:08 PM
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Yea I just have to get lucky it seems. Oh well. This thread gave me the boost I needed though!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:06 PM
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Vanilla bean ice cream is more special to me than chocolate. Does that make liking chocolate immoral? It's the same analogy although I do see your point. I haven't had PIV sex, and while I somewhat I agree I also believe that it's one of the most intimate things you can do with someone. It's not really just sex to me, and I highly doubt it would be anticlimactic with someone I really care about. You just said that it could be a really special connection and then repeat that it's just sex. If it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 02:04 PM
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Very solid advice, but I also didn't want to be unrealistic and stay single forever. But I learned a lot from this thread, so I will stay true to myself as I know there are plenty of other people who are the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:51 PM
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I think you're spot on. Well for some people at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:47 PM
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I'm not religious so I don't think they'd date me and I also don't want to wait until marriage rather just a close connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:47 PM
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Great rule. Though in the beginning if you're dating, you might not know if they're marriage material which is why I wait. And yea. Sex is literally everywhere. Kinda crazy tbh, but pretty interesting how our brains work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:46 PM
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It's just that basically everyone I know has casual sex. Plus there are studies and statistics which prove how prevalent they are. I also live in California in a big city which probably gives me a bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:44 PM
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Here's the evidence. Didn't take long to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:42 PM
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I do get it. But I'm also surprised to see how many people just don't put a value on sex at all. Like it's some sort of fun game that has nothing to do with bonding. If you're having sex with a lot of women, then it probably wouldn't be very special having sex with someone you're actually dating. Though I do know casual sex is different from loving sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:39 PM
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This person said it perfectly. Also I'm dumb and didn't mean love. I meant a close bond.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:38 PM
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Trust me, just the fact that people like you exist is enough for me. Probably more than you know. I also will try apps again! I didn't give it that much time before as I was completely turned off by how shallow it felt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:37 PM
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The problem was that I vetted and it turned out sex was their priority. So I was wondering how to meet people who want a monogamous relationship. As it turns out, I think I just haven't met enough people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:32 PM
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No it's because I don't know another word for it. Hence why I put it in quotation marks. People just tell me I have different values so I used that word. Again, this has nothing to do with morality. What's immoral about enjoying sex? It's just a preference. Just because I like vanilla bean ice cream doesn't mean the other flavors are immoral lol. But let's be real. My post was awful. I said love when I meant closeness. And I used values when I meant preference. You actually made a good point. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:26 PM
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Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:23 PM
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I would love to date a demisexual. And yea. I don't understand it either. Actually this comment explains it rather well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:22 PM
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When I'm ready to have sex she'll definitely be desired lol. Also there's still plenty of things you can do leading up to sex that can make her feel desired. Even if it's not even sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:18 PM
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Neither. I just wanted to know why courtship has fallen out and hookup culture is in. But I also ended up getting extremely good advice as I asked how to meet people similar to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:15 PM
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Yea I find this to be the case. However, it seems based on the comments that there are still plenty of people who are capable of a healthy relationship. That being said, there are also a good amount of people who have casual sex and are able to have loving relationships as well. Though I have seen the studies and know that it's less likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:13 PM
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I'd go to church, but I'm not religious and don't know if women there would date someone like that. And yes I talk to my parents about it, but they're so out of touch with the modern world (they're in their late 60s). It's taken ages to get them to understand how prevalent hookup culture is. That's why I avoid clubs/bars and the like.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:08 PM
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I don't get how that's moral? Intimacy is just more special to me? Idk. If I thought it was immoral, I wouldn't be friends with like the vast majority of people I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:05 PM
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My parents are in love. My sister and her husband are in love. My best friend and his gf are in love. Love definitely exists, it's just that sometimes shit happens and it crushes us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:00 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I will never settle. I'd rather be alone forever as I'd probably be unhappy in the relationship and ruin their time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:59 PM
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Yea that's how I see it too. But apparently there are still a lot of people who aren't doing that, so that gives me hope. This thread was lifefuel.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:56 PM
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I agree as I had that with my previous relationship a long ass time ago. I felt all that infatuation and whatnot, but I didn't want to have sex in highschool as I figured none of the relationships would last as having a highschool sweetheart as a life partner is rare. But I still did other stuff with her. It's only natural after all ;) Nowadays I'd be much more ready and willing, just that I still want to wait a bit first to vet them. I'm glad you found your best friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:53 PM
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lmfao great username
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:41 PM
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Thank you everyone for the comments. My stomach kind of dropped when I posted this because I expected to just be made fun of/told to change, but you guys were honestly awesome. I'll be going to college and going into clubs, try OLD again, and try to meet people through my hobbies. You all seriously helped me and I'm grateful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:36 PM
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Haha dw fam. At least I'm not socially inept when it comes to women. After all, they're just people at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:32 PM
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Yea people who moved away to Texas and Kansas and the like all tell me California sucks and there's no community whatsoever here. Meanwhile they're like having BBQ's with their neighbors and stuff :(
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:30 PM
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I read the sidebar rules before posting and didn't see that rule? But that's ok. I honestly got what I wanted from this sub. I'd delete the thread, but I don't want to shut people out who want to voice their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:27 PM
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Yea I have the same views as your second paragraph. And fuck, I am a bit more emotional I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:26 PM
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Cause casual sex is off-putting and gross to me. I'm not saying you're wrong. As a matter of fact I wish I could be like you! But I'm not and it's wearing me down a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:25 PM
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Yea I thought I was demisexual for awhile but realized that I'm not as I do feel attraction towards people (although kind of rare). I'd say it's more of a choice for me but it doesn't feel like a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:23 PM
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:) that's relieving to hear. I'm really glad I made this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:22 PM
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None of those. I just want a connection first and hold sex to a higher value (idk if that is a good explanation). I also don't want to wait forever. I couldn't and don't want to wait until marriage and all that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:19 PM
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Definitely not. I don't think it's moral to not have sex, nor do I think it's immoral to have casual sex. I honestly don't know the reason I feel this way, other than I was born religious and was taught that sex was pretty special so I've held it to a higher standard despite not being religious anymore. I wish it was just a choice to me, but if I imagine having casual sex with someone I think I'd get extremely depressed after. I just want a deeper connection first.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:17 PM
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Thank you that is so relieving to hear, you have no idea. Or actually you probably do lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:14 PM
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Yea I'm in a large city. And in California. But there are so many people here that there has to be tons of people like me. I also don't mind women who wait as a test so long as they aren't having casual sex with random guys. I'm honestly kind of the same way. I'd rather vet and court someone first.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:11 PM
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I will, thank you for your input! Mostly everyone's comments have been pretty great and helpful so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:09 PM
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I guess one thing that was a big problem was that as soon as I wanted to start dating again, COVID hit and I couldn't do anything. My friends' relationships were either from highschool or OLD. A lot of them are also Muslim and haven't even had a relationship yet. Yet they're seemingly doing just fine without a partner. Meetup looks great so far! This might be just what I needed :D Also kinda sucks cause my hobbies are working out, playing games, hanging out with my friends/dogs, snowboarding, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 12:06 PM
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Well let's say I go on OLD. At the end, I express that I don't want casual sex/hookups, and it's like the girl didn't even read it. Regardless, these comments have been pretty helpful. I really think I've just gotten unlucky and I just have to try again. And yes, I took like at least a year break from Reddit or more. It's a love/hate relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:59 AM
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I did for a month. Literally every girl wanted to be sexual pretty quickly. That being said, I only swiped right on like 5% of the people on there so I probably didn't have the biggest sample size. And then my friends who use OLD all basically have casual relationships/sex so I figured it was just for hookups for the most part. Honestly though, I think you're right. I'm going to try it again. And yeah I stay away from Tinder. I was using OkCupid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:55 AM
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Yes exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:52 AM
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Idk if you saw, but I said a few times in other comments that I didn't mean love, rather a decent emotional connection. Mb for miscommunicating so much. Just talking about this is so embarrassing, and I'm trying to respond to everyone as I value their opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:50 AM
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That's what I thought as well??? I'm honestly confused as hell. It's probably just coincidence and anecdotal evidence that's made me feel this way. Also like everyone on Reddit says women are this and that and blah blah which I know is bullshit, but hearing it all the time just makes me feel grim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:47 AM
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I'm the second one you mentioned. Idk if it's because I live in California or what. I frankly have not met women who want an emotional connection before sex. Just 1 and that's because she was religious. The only people I know who have my views are people in my family and my best friend. I also don't meet new people anymore and feel like OLD is my only option. My friends don't know anyone and I'm not exactly sure how to expand my social circle at this age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:44 AM
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I guess it's cause I don't really know of any other options than OLD, and every decently attractive girl on there just wanted to hook up even tho I specifically said I wasn't looking for that. But yes, that is my problem. I'm also rarely sexually attracted to people :/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:39 AM
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How do I expand my social circle at my age? And yeah. I feel like I'm probably too old but everyone I talk to irl says I'm not. I was 24 and almost dated a 19 year old and I felt like it wasn't right. Then later everyone told me I'm stupid and people can date even when there's an age gap. Also that women prefer older men I guess. For instance my best friend's gf dated a 30 year old when she was 20. Personally I think that's pretty insane and so did he, but some woman at his work got upset with h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:34 AM
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Are you datable? Are you in good shape, clean, financially stable, kind and caring? Yes. Or I hope so anyways. I've had girls show interest in me over the years. I just never return it. Sometimes I can feel undateable and unwanted, but I know that's false as everyone tells me otherwise. How do you meet women? I honestly don't. My close circle of friends don't know anyone or really socialize. I'm going back to college just to meet people because that's the only thing I can think of. I don't think…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:29 AM
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Well I guess demisexuals are fucked then. Not saying I'm one, but how can they possibly have a relationship if they don't even feel attraction towards someone until they have that emotional bond? That's basically me except I do feel attraction. It doesn't have to be as intense and deep as you say, rather just a loving connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:25 AM
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27 and my friends don't know anyone. One of them was recently cheated on by his highschool sweetheart, and then pumped and dumped 2 random girls right after. Now he's in a new relationship but it seems to be going well? He just used OLD, but I really dislike OLD and find that the people on there just want casual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:23 AM
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Nah I messed up by saying being in love. I meant being close to someone. Number 2 for sure. Taking time before starting having anything sexual isn't that uncommon and there are a lot of people like you, especially among women. If you have some issues with it, maybe you should expand/change your social circle. I hope so, and I'm trying. I'm going back to college to take random classes and get into clubs and stuff, but everything is still online :(
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:18 AM
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I see. Thank you for such a good answer. That changed my perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:16 AM
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Idk I value having a partner and haven't had one in a long time. I also feel like I'm losing time as I'm 27. Seeing my friends go through relationships makes me jealous ngl. Also being a virgin at this age (I mean I've done things just not PIV) makes me feel like an outcast and an idiot. I saw a therapist about this and they said there were plenty of women who are like me. But I've barely met any, and the ones I have were all pretty religious. I just want to make a girl happy and feel good about…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:13 AM
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I can't do me because this doesn't work. My views don't coincide with society anymore. I have to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:08 AM
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I can't understand why someone would be shit in bed and remain that way. Like let's say they weren't the best. If you guys cared about each other, you'd probably be able to communicate what you want and they'd do it and possibly get a lot better in a short amount of time. Like a small example is when women complain about guys don't do foreplay. Couldn't they just communicate that they want foreplay and if they guy isn't trash, he'd do it? Idk. Talking about this stuff just makes me feel stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:06 AM
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That's interesting. I'm the opposite, but maybe it's because I don't have as much experience as other people. I'd rather know I'll be in a serious relationship first before having sex. I wish I could normal. I don't understand why I have these views and actually feel disgusted by casual sex. I'd rather be friends with someone for awhile before even kissing them :/
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:01 AM
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Bad title. I don't necessarily mean love, rather being very close to someone. I can't fathom having sex with someone I'm not close with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:59 AM
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Nah. I believe in being friends first. I'd still want to fuck them but hold out until I know we'll most likely have a long lasting relationship. Honestly I phrased everything so badly. I just don't believe in having sex for some time, as I'd rather save that for people who are very special to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:57 AM
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Like what kind of serious incompatibility? And no it's not a guarantee, but I'd be pretty surprised if someone who loved you wasn't willing to listen and perform what you want. Unless you mean some ridiculous fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:46 AM
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Then I'll remain alone. Only person hurt in the end is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:23 PM
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How can he suck in bed? Why not just communicate what you want? If he cares about you he'd learn, and he'd probably learn quickly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:22 PM
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Why are people like you so rare and how do I find them? Rhetorical question btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:17 AM
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Maybe try withholding sex and find someone who actually cares about you and foreplay will come naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:13 AM
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I'll never feel purely sexually desired before a relationship as casual sex absolutely disgusts me. The only discomfort I have with a women's sexual history is how many guys on tinder she's slept with. I don't want to ever date a women who has sex outside of a loving long term relationship, and I would have no jealousy for the men before her so long as I know she's in love with me. I don't have a problem with people who have casual sex as that's basically everyone I know for the most part. I jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:07 AM
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I agree for the most part, but it's not just men who need to do that. Everyone needs to watch their hate for certain groups of people. Hating people is so common these days. Just look at the political divide in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 01:01 AM
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I used to visit FDS everyday but haven't been on Reddit in quite awhile, so maybe I'm either wrong or times have changed. But I'm willing to bet everyone's the same if not worse ngl. An echo chamber is always going to be an echo chamber. Personally I have definitely seen that line of thinking multiple times as I used love to show my friends and mom on occasion how crazy everyone is lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:55 AM
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Not really given that women don't have a sub like TRP where we fantasize about raping or degrading men. Literally FDS in terms of degrading. Also why would women want to rape men when they can get consensual sex whenever they want? Except for the super ugly ones on the inside and out who actually do rape men. Nah but I'll be real, more men are disgusting pigs in that regard by far. Also this sub is primarily men arguing for taking rights from women including the right to refuse to fuck. Alllrigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:46 AM
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That's very good to hear tbh. I wish everyone knew to do that from the very start. It breaks my heart reading about how horrible people can treat each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:43 AM
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And I've been threatened to have me and my family killed multiple times. Welcome to the Internet. Not trying to downplay the actual sexual harassment you've probably endured over time, but a Reddit comment? Especially on this sub? C'mon.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:39 AM
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This entirely. They tell you they want to rape you because it's the thing that will rattle you the most. I also immediately thought about Xbox Live lmfao.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:33 AM
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Yea but they group every single person except their partner at that specific moment as LVM. Then when they have a break up, their ex becomes a LVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:27 AM
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So instead of having civil and mature discussions about how we are different, we should fight? Genius!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:25 AM
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The problem is that a lot of the time they portray all men to be a certain way and even basically say to go WGTOW. It's like an incel subreddit for girls. It's not about getting laid, rather having an unrealistic view of the opposite sex and being extremely bitter. There are definitely normal women on FDS, but there are also normal men on foreveralone or other "incel" subs. The problem is the bulk of the people are absolutely retarded, and nobody wants to call it out on their own side. Women I'v…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:19 AM
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It's only natural that women responding to the content being posted here wouldn't be impressed with men in general. Sounds like a revolving cycle since it's only natural that men responding to the content being posted here wouldn't be impressed with women in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 12:15 AM
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Great answer
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:12 AM
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Both. Some girls think they're the shit and others have zero self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:11 AM
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I haven't dated in 10 years because I thought people would mature over time and I also don't wanna date someone who has casual sex (not that it's objectively wrong or anything). Yeah that never happened. That being said, I think a lot of people are decent human beings and we just have to find them. I always have to tell myself Reddit isn't an accurate view of the world because reading this shit gives me depression lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:04 AM
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Yea I think it’s really sad how many men just want sex. It’s disgusting. The worst part is how it’s sometimes basically impossible to tell that the guy is going to turn out to be shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 10:18 PM
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I like just visited this sub and these comments are some of the most sexist trash I’ve ever seen from both sides. Pretty cringe ngl.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:03 PM
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Yea I agree they should, but so should women. It seems men are required to do all these things while women just have to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:59 PM
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Which studies?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 08:54 PM
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That’s ironic seeing as you put sex on such a high pedestal.
/r/seduction12/10/21 03:20 AM
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Because multiple studies show that casual sex is heavily linked to mental health problems and I’m sure some of the girls you had sex heavily regretted it and have self esteem issues. The overwhelming majority of women want a monogamous relationship and then they have players like you fucking it up for everyone. You’re probably a psychopath tbh, statistically speaking.
/r/seduction11/10/21 11:33 PM
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Jesus you are literally the scum of society. Wow.
/r/seduction11/10/21 10:09 AM
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I’m a 27 year old male and heavily relationship orientated. Casual sex disgusts me. All single women around me have casual sex and don’t seem to be relationship orientated in the slightest. Hell the last girl my friend wanted to set me up with ended up telling us that she just started an onlyfans. It seems a good amount of women are just like most men. I’ll never date someone who’s ever had casual sex. All I want is a normal girl I’m attracted to with values who I can care for and cares for me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:53 AM
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