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Watch a lot of Todd V content for flirting Talk to everyone, be a social butterfly Go to a lot of clubs and stuff, the social aspect is more important than the activity itself Live on-campus
/r/seduction25/05/24 07:43 AM
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I agree about developing skills from the ground up and that this is a good way to get started, but as you gain in skill, at some point it no longer remains true that you should be talking to women the same way you'd be talking to men.
/r/seduction11/03/24 06:42 PM
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This is a good attitude when it comes to getting over initial approach anxiety, but you won't learn how to flirt this way.
/r/seduction11/03/24 06:10 PM
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I would at least base the decision off what she looks like IRL and not on insta.
/r/seduction31/10/22 06:04 PM
37

This guy isn't a PUA. He's an insane stalker. I'm sorry.
/r/seduction30/09/22 11:29 AM
1

800/900 over the course of years is totally reasonable and not even that high. I've approached probably around 200 and I have been at this for less than a year.
/r/seduction06/04/22 06:18 PM
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I don't know of any actual PUAs who believe that no one will ever reject them. Not that I know of every PUA in existence, but I think this is an inaccurate perception.
/r/seduction04/04/22 04:25 PM
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What makes you so sure? There are a lot of different bootcamps out there.
/r/seduction04/04/22 08:06 AM
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I have no idea if the bootcamp itself was worthwhile, but here's the fundamental problem. When i got back to my own town I felt it very difficult to then go out and do the same on my own. I pushed myself for a little bit but eventually I just reverted back to my old self and stopped going out. If you keep doing the same thing, you'll keep getting the same results. It's like that cliched saying about how the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different re…
/r/seduction04/04/22 01:08 AM
1

Being nice is a bare minimum requirement, NOT a shining, redeeming, rare, heroic quality. It's not even a requirement, though. It's completely orthogonal (i.e. unrelated) in many cases, hence guys who are total d-bags still getting ladies despite not meeting this threshold in the first place.
/r/seduction19/02/22 10:43 PM
9

What are your online dating pictures like?
/r/seduction10/02/22 05:33 AM
5

When you grip so hard during masturbation that your penis can only stay hard if you grip it that way. You won't be able to stay hard during actual sex because her vagina won't be gripping it nearly as hard. The cure is to quit jerking off cold turkey and hope your penis regains its sensitivity.
/r/seduction09/02/22 10:26 PM
3

In terms of mindset I don't think it hasn't changed anything noticeable for me. I stopped because I was worried about deathgrip.
/r/seduction09/02/22 09:51 PM
2

I think statistically less than half of numbers pan out.
/r/seduction03/02/22 11:17 AM
19

Then you need to figure out what the fuck you are doing wrong. This doesn't happen normally even to (I hate to use this phrase but I think it matters here) extremely ugly people.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:54 AM
14

This is either an extremely extremely rare kind of thing and something I wouldn't worry about, or you were doing something really really wrong to make it happen. If this happens with any regularity at all then you are doing something very wrong.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:51 AM
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He may not ever get signs of interest, at least not on a regular basis. He needs to know when to bounce though if things aren't going well.
/r/seduction03/02/22 08:20 AM
2

I gave up on socializing in college (especially in terms of going after girls) and I deeply regret it now that I am looking back on it years later. Don't make the same mistakes I made.
/r/seduction20/01/22 05:06 AM
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In my personal case, game makes it less likely that I end up stuck in a shitty, toxic relationship. Why? Because game gives me more options, more of a chance of actually being able to get into a new relationship, when previously I had almost none. My last (and only) relationship was shitty in many ways, but I felt that I couldn't leave because I knew I would be stuck alone if it ended. And sure enough, when she dumped me, I kept begging for her to take me back because I didn't have the ability t…
/r/seduction27/12/21 03:06 PM
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Eh, shit happens.
/r/seduction29/11/21 10:30 AM
2

You can do both. You can do both social circle and cold approach. The downside to sticking exclusively to social circle is that you're going to be much more limited in the number of opportunities you have, unless you're a social butterfly with a huge social circle. In my case, it was pretty uncommon for me to have many eligible girls in my social circle back when I was in school. I'd get like 1-2 opportunities per year this way. I would have been way better off with cold approach. And now I don'…
/r/seduction26/11/21 05:17 PM
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Women on tinder are statistically more likely to have STDs than sex workers. Sex workers are less likely to have STDs than the general population.
/r/seduction25/11/21 12:14 PM
4

For example you could have kissed her when you walked her to her car instead of hugging her. It all depends on the situation. When you are alone together you should go for it.
/r/seduction21/11/21 12:18 AM
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It was a date. She is into you. The next move is to ask her on another date and then start to physically escalate a bit, e.g. at least go for a kiss at some point.
/r/seduction21/11/21 12:08 AM
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Build yourself up to it by gradually desensitizing yourself to approaching others. An example exercise is to go up to random people and ask for directions. You don't even have to focus on girls at first. Then eventually you can start asking hot girls for directions. Gradually work yourself closer and closer to actually doing a real cold approach. This is how I have desensitized myself to it over the last few months. When I started out, I was afraid to even try to approach anyone, male or female.…
/r/seduction16/11/21 08:19 AM
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I assumed you already knew her name since you are neighbors. If you don't know her name yet then you need to at least introduce yourself.
/r/seduction11/11/21 12:42 AM
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Then I would keep it up, just make sure to ask her out on another date soon.
/r/seduction10/11/21 07:29 AM
1

Okay, well you definitely need to ask her on another date. As for whether you still hang out before class or whatever, I don't know, if it's been a regular thing for a while now then I am inclined to say yes. Just don't leave it at ONLY that.
/r/seduction10/11/21 07:15 AM
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So what has happened on these dates?
/r/seduction10/11/21 06:08 AM
1

Add her on social media and send her a message maybe?
/r/seduction10/11/21 06:07 AM
11

Invite her on an actual date instead of just hanging out like platonic pals.
/r/seduction08/11/21 10:54 AM
26

Good for getting some practice in which should get your sexual confidence up if you're starting out as a virgin, but not a long term solution.
/r/seduction08/11/21 10:11 AM
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Women have to reduce their options by being selective. You are thinking purely in terms of quantity, not in terms of quality. There are plenty of women out there who want to get a higher quality man (by whatever standards they are using to determine that) than they are able to get just by standing around looking pretty at a bar or through online dating. As for what cold approach looks like for women, look at this Matthew Hussey video on the subject https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O8dZEZGBIEo Wom…
/r/seduction08/11/21 01:50 AM
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Same, lol
/r/seduction07/11/21 10:33 PM
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Girls dont do "game" lol. Not true, though it's different from their point of view. There is a dating coach named Matthew Hussey who specializes in dating coaching for women. I watched some of his content out of curiosity, and he was teaching women how to do cold approaches. They are typically women in their thirties and up who are looking for committed relationship partners, not just casual sex. So the motivations may be quite a bit different, but hey, cold approach is cold approach.
/r/seduction07/11/21 11:45 AM
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Learn about the concepts of statistical independence, expected value, and variance and you will realize the errors in your thinking.
/r/seduction06/11/21 09:09 PM
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Cold approaches are dependent of the others. It's statistically logical; if 10 girls reject you. It's HIGH probability that you'll see success the next few girls. No contradiction here This is not statistically logical at all.
/r/seduction06/11/21 08:09 PM
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Example: If I got a number on my 1st approach. It means I have to get rejected 11 straight times to get a second number. Therefore, I look for rejections and get it over with Gambler's fallacy! If each cold approach is statistically independent of the others, then the probability of rejection does not change based on the results of previous approaches. If your state/performance changes, then that could change the probability of rejection, but not the prior results themselves.
/r/seduction06/11/21 10:22 AM
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Do you think that would make it harder to meet real women and also raise someone’s standards to an unrealistic level in the future? Nope, as someone who has done this, it will do neither of those things. If anything it will make it easier to meet real women because you will be less intimidated by them.
/r/seduction05/11/21 12:10 AM
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If you are doing gymnastics just to meet girls, the girls will realize this and find you are a creep. I think you're right, and this is why I think that joining activities is actually not a very good way to meet potential relationship prospects. Yet this is still commonly given advice, unfortunately.
/r/seduction01/11/21 06:06 PM
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In that gymnastics group, better pick one or two to ask out rather than ask out all of them. What if both end up rejecting you? When do you give up on the group and throw in the towel?
/r/seduction01/11/21 09:53 AM
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Like I was in a gymnastics club full of girls and I was able to approach and talk to a lot of them because the social setting was appropriate to do so. But did any of these interactions lead anywhere? I ask because a lot of guys become afraid to move things forward with girls they meet through clubs/activities because they have to worry about making it awkward/uncomfortable at the club/activity if they get rejected. It's also easy to "get a reputation" as they say if you try to do this with more…
/r/seduction01/11/21 09:21 AM
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Those guys were sticking around for WAY too long, as others have pointed out. A course I just took had a section on daygame. The interactions are supposed to be short, and you're supposed to pay close attention to her social cues. Let's say you go up and ask her some question, like about the wildlife in the park as happened in the example she gave. Ask yourself: is her participation in the interaction limited to just the bare minimum in terms of friendliness and politeness, or more than that? If…
/r/seduction31/10/21 12:38 AM
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but there's nothing that assists you in knowing how to escalate conversation with a woman. Well, there are courses on this kind of stuff out there actually. I'm currently taking one.
/r/seduction30/10/21 07:10 PM
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Not having any good pictures of myself Needing better clothes Not knowing how to escalate or make things a man-to-woman conversation
/r/seduction29/10/21 02:16 PM
1

I think that Todd V is one of the best coaches who is currently active, but I've recommended him so many times at this point that I have practically become a Todd V stan.
/r/seduction27/10/21 01:32 PM
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If you are already getting phone numbers then I think you are already most of the way there. I would focus on learning about the specific things you are struggling with like escalation and turning getting a phone # into getting an actual date. (I am also on the spectrum)
/r/seduction24/10/21 01:41 PM
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You can dance if you want to. You can leave your friends behind.
/r/seduction23/10/21 07:36 PM
4

I think he should lose the fat before trying to put on muscle, but I'm no fitness expert or anything.
/r/seduction21/10/21 06:11 PM
7

I'm a dude so I don't think I can get tested for HPV from what I understand.
/r/seduction20/10/21 04:40 PM
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Wish I had done this before losing my virginity, but better late than never. (just because I could now have HPV without ever knowing)
/r/seduction20/10/21 11:55 AM
2

I wish I had learned this when I was 16.
/r/seduction19/10/21 11:05 AM
2

sleeps with trannies You say it like it's a bad thing?
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:02 AM
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But is he right that you sell coaching services?
/r/seduction18/10/21 08:06 PM
4

Here I was thinking British women were more likely to have casual sex than Americans or Canadians.
/r/seduction17/10/21 02:06 PM
4

I'm probably not as good looking as you, but I have a similar background. How have I improved thus far? I started watching Todd V. There are a few other content creators who I have watched as well, but Todd V's content is like miles above the rest, so that is why I mention him specifically.
/r/seduction17/10/21 12:52 PM
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Am I too young to try the pua shit or hit on chicks in public? No, you just have to figure out where the girls your own age hang out, and then start cold approaching at those locations. I wish I had started doing this at your age. I would have gone to the mall, the public library, public parks, and maybe even a few of the other schools in my town just to look for girls hanging around outside. But this was all more than a decade ago now so the world has changed. I don't even know if teenage girls…
/r/seduction15/10/21 08:34 PM
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"You seem like a cool person. We should get together for dinner - when are you free?" And then you shut up, and let her tell you what day she'll be available. I've heard precisely the opposite - that you should state a specific date and time so that she doesn't have to stress about coming up with one. But who knows.
/r/seduction15/10/21 08:32 PM
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I don't think there is anything wrong with the age difference, though it definitely makes it less likely that anything will work out.
/r/seduction15/10/21 08:21 PM
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she responded, "oh I don't really use Instagram but what about Facebook?". I immediately broke rapport and said "I don't use Facebook it's for old people" and she looked at me initially with a "can't believe you said that" look and then she laughed it off. Shouldn't you just ask for a phone # instead of saying stupid stuff like this? (No offense)
/r/seduction15/10/21 07:25 PM
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This is the creepiest thing ive ever read You need to read more.
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:52 PM
2

I would reach out to her in your shoes since there's no downside in asking her if she wants to hang out again. She might be wondering why you haven't yet. But that's just what I would do, and I am not you.
/r/seduction15/10/21 06:35 AM
2

Jason Statham is a very good looking bald man.
/r/seduction13/10/21 09:32 PM
2

I would explain to him that being a submissive is a key part of your sexual orientation. If it's as important to you as you are making it sound, then it's probably a part of you that you can't change, just like how a gay man cannot force himself to become straight via conversion therapy. Are you familiar with Jillian Keenan at all? She writes and creates youtube videos about this kind of stuff. Maybe this will help you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DpxMOTryC\_M
/r/seduction13/10/21 01:43 AM
1

Someone with similar values as mine, a similar attitude to the whole thing, and probably at a similar skill level (which for me is pretty low) so it isn't a total mismatch.
/r/seduction11/10/21 08:42 AM
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It sounds like the only guy who realized what happened was your buddy the groom, and since you're already very close friends from what I understand I don't think it's going to end up mattering. So in terms of the being embarrassed in front of other people aspect, I wouldn't stress it. If you think people were watching the two of you interact throughout the evening, just remember most people are too focused on their own shit to be paying that much attention to what other people are doing. Blowing…
/r/seduction11/10/21 03:04 AM
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You still need to have proximity to women, though. Here's an extreme example: imagine a man who is an inmate in an all-male prison with all-male guards. No matter how much he improves his inner game, he has no shot of getting with any women, not counting silliness like a serial killer who gets fan mail. For me personally, the proximity part was always the struggle.
/r/seduction09/10/21 08:26 PM
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90% of people have had sex by the time they’re 22. Good luck finding a virgin. This statistic isn't even remotely close to true these days.
/r/seduction02/10/21 11:12 PM
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I will suggest something that I don't think anyone has yet suggested in this thread: Spend time with strippers and/or escorts, specifically the ones you are the most intimidated by. The easiest thing would be to go to a decent strip club, wait until you see a girl like this, then ask her for a private dance. Depending on the strip club, you might be able to talk to some of the strippers at the bar. They are generally quite flirty and will likely end up trying to persuade you to get a private dan…
/r/seduction02/10/21 12:35 AM
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I've seen literally no dating advice for people who have some form of autism other than "date other autistic people." I just bought the book "Decoding Dating" which is specifically about dating advice for people on the spectrum. Haven't had a chance to read it yet, but you should at least be aware that books like this are out there.
/r/seduction01/10/21 11:31 PM
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Possessing a timidness that results from living in "safe spaces" and being terrified of offending others. If you are petrified to make your honest interest and intentions known, nothing will ever happen. It comes from the social conditioning that most young people, particularly young men, receive these days. Young men are conditioned to believe that to pursue a woman is basically an unethical act unless everything happens to line up perfectly.
/r/seduction01/10/21 11:30 PM
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I am not sure I agree. I've just heard too many stories of a girl bailing when she finds out the guy is a virgin or very inexperienced.
/r/seduction30/09/21 05:48 PM
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As hilarious as I think this idea is, I really do think you are better off asking him if he would want to get a drink with you sometime or something along those lines. There's a good chance that if you do flash him that he won't even act on it. If someone flashed me, I would be more likely to interpret it as being done as a joke/prank/etc. than as a way of actually trying to encourage me to make a move.
/r/seduction27/09/21 09:57 PM
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More DPS! Hit it like you mean it!
/r/seduction27/09/21 06:31 PM
1

...okay but this still means that men have to put in a lot more effort to get a certain level of attention compared to women, at least when it comes to young people. This starts to flip once people hit their mid-late thirties.
/r/seduction27/09/21 06:13 PM
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Okay well unless we're talking about a small town where a lot of people know each other and gossip then I think it would be super unlikely anyone would recognize you just from your profile even a few months later.
/r/seduction18/09/21 11:31 AM
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I don't want to standout to the point, where people remember me from my tinder profile in the year or years to come Is this a thing that even happens in major cities?
/r/seduction18/09/21 10:57 AM
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we’re in the best years of our lives I always found sayings like this to actually just make the pain and frustration worse, as on top of the shit that was already going through my head now I would also have to worry about squandering the supposedly best years of my life. I can only speak for myself, but my college years were definitely not the best years of my life.
/r/seduction16/09/21 07:07 AM
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To give you some perspective, the last 3 times I went out combined (close to 20 hours total) I got in zero conversations naturally. Zero. The closest thing would be a witty situational comment I was able to make to a girl that made her laugh but unfortunately did not lead to a real conversation. So this idea that just by going out to look at things and people will naturally lead to conversations, it just isn't always true.
/r/seduction15/09/21 05:56 AM
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Flirting is a skill that can be honed and improved. If she is already completely unattracted to you, then I don't think it's going to help. But if she is already at least a little attracted to you, then I think being good at flirting can definitely help.
/r/seduction12/09/21 01:03 AM
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Doesn't matter. I don't think it's ethical to mislead someone about your intentions. This is doubly true when they have already made it clear that their intentions are different than yours (e.g. an actual relationship not a one night stand or friends with benefits situation)
/r/seduction10/09/21 07:02 AM
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I think you should say that you aren't looking for anything serious.
/r/seduction10/09/21 04:36 AM
2

​ Maybe you have a different definition of a cold approach than I do, but approaching someone you don't already know at a social event is still a cold approach in my book.
/r/seduction09/09/21 12:58 PM
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You can keep her interested by beginning all of your conversations by mentioning that you are waiting for a pizza.
/r/seduction08/09/21 09:20 PM
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This except I think it flips around age 36-37 according to what I have read.
/r/seduction06/09/21 12:16 PM
1

The numbers really aren't the same though. In terms of number of interactions, most guys will have far fewer interactions if they never cold approach versus if they incorporate cold approaching into their nights. That doesn't mean they have to literally cold approach every single woman in sight. It's just one of the possible ways to get into an interaction.
/r/seduction06/09/21 02:24 AM
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Most dudes aren't going to get approached on the regular like that. If they are sitting around waiting to be chased, they just won't get many opportunities. This is still somewhat of a numbers game for most dudes, so in order for them to get the volume they need to find a match, they will need to be doing some cold approaching as well. It's not just about quantity. Quality matters too. But if you never build up at least a decent quantity in the first place, things are not likely to go well for m…
/r/seduction06/09/21 01:01 AM
1

That's not how even decent cold approaching should look. It would be more like the guy coming up, ideally making some kind of witty situational comment or observation, and then following that up with a brief conversation. If he gets a good vibe from her, the interaction continues and maybe he does eventually ask for contact info or tries to escalate further in some other way, if it doesn't feel that she wants to continue the interaction, he walks away. Even if the guy is getting constantly rejec…
/r/seduction06/09/21 12:23 AM
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I think this example you gave has you saying too much all at once. You should introduce yourself, wait for a response, and then follow it up with your next question. Also the best openers (according to a course I am taking on this) are situational observations, especially humorous ones. So it would be better if you could come up with something like that, then after she responds introduce yourself, then after she responds to that you would continue the conversation. If you're wondering, the cours…
/r/seduction06/09/21 12:19 AM
1

Okay, well that doesn't seem consistent with your earlier statement here: The difference between an escort and a normie that you meet on the street is that with the escort it's sex first, dates and emotions after. Yeah you can develop a good rapport with a regular. That's not the same at all as an emotional relationship with a normie. That's not what it turns into after a while.
/r/seduction06/09/21 12:03 AM
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Cold approaching is not begging lol, unless you're doing a really poor job of it.
/r/seduction05/09/21 11:59 PM
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I think there are plenty of circumstances where it's okay to make a cold approach even if she hasn't noticed you at all or given you some kind of signal yet. The catch is that you must walk away if it's clear she isn't interested in furthering the interaction. This could take up to a couple minutes to find out, maybe 5 at the max, but I personally think that's a really long time. In my own experiences it has usually been obvious pretty quickly.
/r/seduction05/09/21 01:50 PM
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now have your harem of women who actually enjoy sleeping with you in a non complicated, non emotional relationship way. Escorts are professionals, and it's extremely unlikely any of them would be sleeping with you if the money wasn't involved. You are honestly deluding yourself if you think they have fallen for you or are really into the sex for its own sake. It's their career. You're a client, not a lover.
/r/seduction05/09/21 12:46 PM
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Speaking for myself, the feeling of being legitimately desired by a woman is totally different than the feeling of being with an escort who is only there for the money. I have nothing against sex workers. I am very grateful for them. However, there are certain holes inside of me they just can't fill, if that makes any sense. And I mean that in an emotional way, not a sexual way, lol.
/r/seduction05/09/21 03:10 AM
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You should have bought her the third drink. Guys like Frank Sinatra and Hugh Hefner bought girls drinks when they wanted them. Yeah, they were rich, but the concept of not buying a girl a drink because they didn't want to be a simp didn't exist in their minds. It wasn't even in their vocabulary. If the girls around them wanted to drink, those guys made it happen.
/r/seduction05/09/21 02:53 AM
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It's probably something you have heard before but there's plenty of women out there with disabilities of some kind too. I don't know where you could go to find them though.
/r/seduction02/09/21 04:31 AM
1

That makes sense, I have had a few experiences like that too. Not sure if it's a pattern.
/r/seduction02/09/21 01:48 AM
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My experience is that they make it more obvious how they feel about you. So while their rejections may be more harsh, they also make it more obvious when they like you. But that is just my personal experience.
/r/seduction02/09/21 01:36 AM
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