TheNexum Archive

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5	Post COVID pickup trend? Yes, people naturally crave human interaction. Use this time to work on your "game" and get ready. Also, my friends and I, will go to what is open and go up to girls we are interested in whether it is in a clothing store, grocery store, etc. We have all seen great results. I made a podcast episode from our experience, and we'd love to hear what you think. https://open.spotify.com/episode/1j2c2cAczTx6DC6dLX2Sjz	/r/seduction	04/01/21 06:44 PM
1	Just failed my first cold approach and I feel great I would highly highly recommend to not go in direct if you are at a college. Its a small community and people talk. Go in indirect next time. Meaning, no more "hey, I think youre cute" then leave. Also, the "i have a bf" line is sometimes true and sometimes a filter to get you to leave. So just dont leave after that. If you need help starting a conversation and how to open in direct, I wrote an entire article about it here: https://thenexum.com/howtostartaconversation/	/r/seduction	19/09/19 11:54 PM
2	What are the best pickup bootcamps out there? 100% adam lyons, he is the one who taught a lot of the rsd guys and continue to help them. I am personal friends with Owen, Luke, and Sartain. Also i am good friends with one of his friends that is very very good.	/r/seduction	31/08/19 08:33 PM
3	Is Los Angeles the easiest city in the world to hook up? I live in LA, in particular hollywood. I have gamed celebrities, influencers, etc. To answer your questions, its harder than you think. Yes, it is a lot more free and easy going here, however, traffic is a huge factor in seeing someone again, then people are always chasing the bigger better deal. Flaking is crazy high cause there is just so much going on. Your game has to be really tight if you are competing with celebs and models. However, if you don't care about getting the real quality of LA,…	/r/seduction	31/08/19 08:32 PM
5	MYTH: Women aren't attracted to nice guys. They like jerks. I agree with neil, but there are also psychological studies that girls like the sweet guy, but this doesn't mean he's a doormat. He still establishes boundaries but is caring. Those inherently attract more neurotic girls. Psychotic girls like the bad boy type, and extrovert love the social leader. Read psychological studies, no more pick up books that only work for that specific writer.	/r/seduction	28/08/19 08:59 PM
1	Gaming in college tips? College is strictly social circle game. You need to host parties or pregames or after parties to invite people over, this will make people more comfortable at your place. Key for closing girls. I highly highly highly recommend stop keeping a tab on your approaches. You will be known as "that guy" which isnt good in a college setting., especially if youre opens are mostly direct. Be able to befriend staff at your local bars and have female friends, this will create social proof and preselection w…	/r/seduction	26/08/19 11:21 PM
6	How did you guys get over approach anxiety? I picked up girls before, but it’s been like 5 years coming out of a long relationship. Seems impossible to get restarted Other than the obvious, "just start opening" I would recommend opening a lot of people not just girls you are interested in. Just to condition your mind its ok and nothingg bad will happen. Then when you are ready, just opening girls. Start friendzoning girls, that way this whole process will be easier cause of pre selection. Then your mentality needs to switch up completely. You need to start thinking that what if this girl standing in front of you could be a great short-lved experience? What…	/r/seduction	24/08/19 09:36 PM
1	i finally did something , i think i figured out the strategy to approach anxiety Well done! I have found the best way to cure approach anxiety isn't necessarily knowing what to say it is the "what if" What if that girl standing infront of you is an amazing short-lived experience? What if she is your next girlfriend? And the biggest killer, "What if she is your potential wife?" That alone will help me go up to any girl I want to talk to, no matter what. The right lines will come, but you can't do nothing!	/r/seduction	23/08/19 01:20 AM
2	What are some good social hobbies? if you are doing this to meet women, i'd highly recommend yoga or some other fitness studios, salsa dancing, swing dancing, or something like that. This way you are actually learning a valuable game skill by learning how to lead and approach women (cause you have to inorder to dance with them) . Yoga is like 85% girls and socially acceptable for men to do it and its a great workout. Highly recommend.	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:37 AM
1	Asking a girl to text you when you # close (not intitating texting from your side to avoid BS) The advice on here is good but very vague. I personally think this idea is terrible. I do agree that if your conversion is that low that means your conversation is really bad. You clearly aren't time briding dates nor establishing any commonality. These are very important if you want to see her again. If you both enjoy something and she is already doing it, like working out, going to the beach, anything you find, it is much easier to see her again. Or if find there is something that she has alwa…	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:35 AM
2	How do you seduce your ex? I promise if/when you get her back you won't like it, you will grow which she will find attractive, but you'll find she hasn't. Which will turn you off. But to get her back, you can use a few psychological techniques that work very well. One is social proof: If you could get some of her good friends to hang out with you and you just be friendly, funny, charismatic, etc. They will tell her how amazing you are. And since they are her friends she will likely follow their word. Second is called pre …	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:29 AM
1	Incredibly easy technique to get her to put more effort into the convo The reason why it worked is you are rewarding good compliance and punishing bad compliance, you will eventually begin to condition her in a way where she has to answer you with detail because you make her feel good when she does. Just like pavlovs dogs.	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:19 AM
1	(23M good looking, astonishing lack of game) This was the loneliest summer of my life, but luckly I stumbled upon the book "the game". Just finished it and want to learn more. I want to know everything. How should I proceed. Thank you all in advanced. There are some great game books. Why Women Have sex, Never Split the Difference, Meet your happy chemicals, and Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. Rather than watching a ton of dating coaches who may or may not be good, I would recommend studying as much human psychology as you can. Your game will sky rocket, since girls are people and all of these "tactics" people say you could stem from human psychology.	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:18 AM
2	When do expect a woman to start pursuing you? Do some never pursue? you are definitely overthinking it, if she initiates thats all you need. Not sure what else you mean by pursue.	/r/seduction	21/08/19 01:15 AM