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LogisticsTheRealAlkemyst/r/seduction29/07/21 11:26 PM
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Just relax, focus on the discussion and not all of those lead to a finish. Dance, talk about the music, talk about everything. Chill. One thing I did was offer if she wanted to take off her shoes so I can rub her feet. It's non-sexual (but in fact it is). I'd find myself getting asked to go somewhere else :)
/r/seduction21/01/25 01:34 AM
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I would push back and say let's go on the date and we can both leave apart maybe the second date one of you can drive each other. Too many people treat dating like a marriage and drag things out a long time before meeting as well. This can create a fairy tale that becomes hard to break away from. Dating should be dating, and not treated as if you are married day one. Practice safe sex and don't use the other person as a toy. Make a new friend and if it grows it grows. Maybe a pun was intended he…
/r/seduction21/01/25 01:12 AM
16

This is the way, always has.
/r/seduction24/12/24 07:59 PM
9

especially someone who is a neighbor.
/r/seduction04/11/24 06:39 PM
48

username checks out
/r/seduction15/08/24 04:26 PM
0

Not always. Just letting them know what to consider.
/r/seduction25/10/22 02:29 PM
12

Remember being she is Bi it's not always going to be M/F/F and also know the male partner may also be Bi. Some guys are OK being pegged, some it's no go. I'd get the rules and what you are comfortable with settled in advance.
/r/seduction24/10/22 10:26 PM
2

I agree. I was married by 23. Up to that point my dating life was challenged and then opened up a lot (I thought). Then I went back into dating at 30 and I was like OMG! what was I missing!. Then I went back to dating at 40+ and pretty much 23 to 50 was my oyster. I had strippers and 20 somethings still calling me after I made one of my dates my forever woman (I hope). They still call once in a while and I always put it on speaker. "Hi 'Alkemyst', your birthday is coming up. Can I take you out a…
/r/seduction20/10/22 05:47 AM
3

Great analogy. So true. Yet so many are so afraid of that first step they choose to just avoid it and later regret that. "NO REGRATS!"
/r/seduction20/10/22 05:43 AM
23

Then you really aren’t in this fight. I couldn’t fanthom that and my career and education went pretty good.
/r/seduction18/10/22 03:33 AM
18

how much sex are you getting? For every 25-40 year old I hear that's living at home and saving all I end up seeing is stuff they have blown money on repeatedly. YMMV.
/r/seduction18/10/22 03:05 AM
71

I'd rather live in a dump with 3 other dudes than try to date living at home after about 23-24. That said, if your parent's house is like a 10000 sq ft place with private suites and entrances things can be different :)
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:37 AM
10

This is not to say sexual assault and rape are OK Back into your cage. Are you illiterate, drunk or stoned? Trifecta?
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:30 AM
21

people want to deny the biology behind attraction now. Women want to go out with their breasts and butt highly visible, but scold the men they don't see fit for looking. Men want to show off fancy things and scold the women that they don't see fit for being interested. Our main goal in our genetics is reproduction. This is not to say sexual assault and rape are OK, but someone has to know if they are dressing to be attractive they are going to attract some that aren't interesting to them. One sh…
/r/seduction17/10/22 10:08 PM
1

You gave a lot of unneeded detail/story. These kinds of things are usually done though by those that want some of what they say they don't so are looking to get out of that environment. When I was late teens, I was finding girls my age sexual, but didn't care for talking about all the pop stuff they did. I was sort of an individual as I was a jock (football, wrestling, martial arts, etc), nerd (genius IQ and in gifted classes), liked parties, was going to clubs and bars since 15, had three jobs …
/r/seduction17/10/22 05:29 PM
1

Except for your daughter(s).
/r/seduction16/10/22 05:17 PM
13

This is the way, even if it's a guy. People like seeing people interacting and they feel more at ease to approach themselves and ask what's so funny, or interesting. Then take it from there if you feel some chemistry. Remember too, making friends introduces you to be introduced to their single friends. Also find out where the co-eds hang out/have parties/study together/etc. Being one of a large group eases the others more than some random person approaching them out of the blue. Too many guys tr…
/r/seduction15/10/22 02:14 AM
2

The prostitution debate is not what dating is. Once you offer money for just the sex then that is prostitution. Paying for someone's time, or buying them meals/gifts aren't part of that. Also those latter two don't give any guarantees. I have known a lot of highly paid guys that have spent easily $1000 on a date or gift and the chick had no intention of ever having sex (although they sure teased about it even sending nudes). There are two types of women out there and the playing field is getting…
/r/seduction14/10/22 10:35 PM
2

First, find a new hobby than video games and snacking all day, you are not going to find a job like that. Did you get your GED? If not you will be limited in the jobs out there and those jobs usually require walking up and down a block and asking if they are hiring. Get cleaned up, start getting ready everyday as if you were going to work or going to meet someone at get out and about. You need a job and that will give you confidence. We all know the first question is usually "So what do you do f…
/r/seduction14/10/22 08:23 PM
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Personally I'd show up at happy hour. You want to bang a 45 year old not a 23 year old. Get them a drink then sit next to them and chat them up. The only lonely women at a bar are the homely ones. So I am not sure you experience.
/r/seduction08/10/22 10:03 AM
1

you lost me again. what are the jokes? who are the more attractive matches? I never dealt with this.
/r/seduction08/10/22 09:56 AM
1

didn't understand that exactly. what is interesting to you? why when they bring the conversation to their interests and hobbies is that a problem?
/r/seduction08/10/22 09:34 AM
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what's your profile look like, what do you talk about on a date, do you live with your parents, once you get a number what do you do next.
/r/seduction08/10/22 07:55 AM
2

Dude she wanted to see you when she was working not packing up her stuff and was probably hoping your friend would like some of her stuff or other things there to see how you also like the show. I am affectionate on dates. It's always worked for me. I haven't dated in about 4 years now at 51 at married again, but prior it was good. I hear now a lot of women are just looking for free meals and drinks and gifts with no intention of sex and that is terrible. She more than likely found another dude …
/r/seduction06/10/22 02:15 AM
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I would have waited to date 3 which seems to be many's magical date (unless they go home with you on date 1 which is also popular in my experience). If she has already protested say "Hey, let's just do what we did before and whatever happens, happens. I want to get to know you better and looking forward to some adventures together." and go from there.
/r/seduction03/10/22 02:53 AM
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First, not all chicks are the same. Not sure what type you are going for. There are some you can just have a lot of sexual innuendo right off the bat and some if you bring that out too soon; you are out. A date should be a little sexual, at least for me. If it's not then we'd probably not be a good match anyway. Life is short, one needs to enjoy themselves. Personally, on a first date I am not usually looking for the long term. One of the things I say is usually (not straight off the bat, but wh…
/r/seduction02/10/22 01:19 AM
1

Unless they volunteer Dutch
/r/seduction01/10/22 08:37 AM
1

Keep in mind there are many many chicks out there now just looking for a free meal and drinks with no intention of ever considering a real 'date'. They are also looking for gifts and crap right off the bat and will try to guilt you into to doing it since "everybody else does". I do a happy hour for a date, I am in for just a drink or two before I can decide if I need to bail or it may work out. If it's working out then I can bring up "want to get dinner?" and tell them I am cancelling my other p…
/r/seduction01/10/22 01:59 AM
1

saying hello is not a bold move. It was common not so long ago.
/r/seduction24/09/22 01:24 AM
1

That's the way it goes. If you have a good friend out of it that works too. Many women I dated and we just found out we were better as friends or just parting ways. Not a big deal. Some of those women and I have been friends for 10+ years now. Some have even set me up with their friends. I don't have a lot of single guy friends so I'd help them painting a room or installing an appliance. Too many treat dating as marriage....it's just a test run.
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:10 AM
1

You're in college. Perfect place to meet people like-minded. Just chat people up. Dudes too. When you present an approachable persona people will gravitate to you.
/r/seduction19/09/22 12:51 AM
1

To be exclusive, just to be exclusive is a terrible choice.
/r/seduction11/09/22 07:38 PM
1

You need to change "not fun, funny/interesting" and you are boring. No one wants that.
/r/seduction11/09/22 03:40 AM
1

3 dates and totally exclusive is a bit odd in this time. She probably wants some freedom, you can't treat dating like a marriage.
/r/seduction10/09/22 01:36 AM
1

what kind of questions are you asking them?
/r/seduction08/09/22 03:39 AM
1

They don't all have to be 10's.
/r/seduction05/09/22 07:03 PM
1

That said if she is making a 100km drive, sex would happen. The 'fairy tale' phase has been set. They both have built up a fantasy of the other person.
/r/seduction04/09/22 09:12 PM
1

My wife says I am like honey to a bee to women because I go for eye contract, make a smile and just greet them (along with guys too). Just being friendly is a big part. Of course I get the cold shoulder a lot now-a-days. Even holding a door for someone or picking up something they dropped gets no Thank You! any more.
/r/seduction02/09/22 09:00 PM
1

Don't go crazy with dinner or you will become "dinner and ditch" rather than "dinner and dick". Personally, I ALWAYS lead in with a happy hour or just for drinks and sort of a time limit ("Hey, want to grab a couple drinks my treat on Friday? I only have about an hour though and then I have some friends that are coming to town". If the drinks go well, I can ask if they would like to get a bite of food and I will call my friends to see if we can reschedule. If they agree, fake a phone call (go so…
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:36 PM
3

I used to get the the bar/club a bit early. This had two advantages, 1) I could introduce myself to the staff (which later helped in case some other dude got out of line, they'd already sort of know me) and 2) I could easily just say "Hi" to women as they came to get a drink. I'd also say "Hi" to other dude's. Striking up a conversation with people goes a long way and usually other's want to interact as well waiting for the club to fill up, their drinks to kick in, etc. A lot of times I'd go fro…
/r/seduction01/09/22 06:50 PM
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usually we'd get some drinks and then end up in my car or a room, occasionally we'd get dinner. one of the tell tale signs a woman was in a relationship was the dates would be quick to sex and then they'd have to go because "having to work early", "need to do laundry for the next day", etc and I'd never be invited over nor pick them up at their places. They'd also need to duck out to take phone calls often and/or texts. Also the occasional last minute cancelations because something came up or th…
/r/seduction01/09/22 02:18 PM
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don't know about 50, but I don't see how it would be any different than dating in your 40's. My dating from about 40-45 were some of the best dating years of my life. Pretty much almost any age of woman from 22-50+ were open to me and many younger women were cool with just hooking up since they were busy with school or getting their careers off the ground. After I got into a committed relationship many continued to call for hook ups telling me "she doesn't have to find out". That said, I also fo…
/r/seduction01/09/22 02:07 PM
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i was a late bloomer, afraid of sex since my mom was an ob gyn nurse. Got married at 21 with a chick that had 2 other guys before me. Divorced at about 26 since she was hooking up randomly. My 30's were awesome. My 40's even more. I am married again.
/r/seduction09/12/21 03:51 AM
2

My wife tells me it's the girls that watch me enter a room and also leave it.
/r/seduction27/11/21 02:59 AM
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wow NVM, I see you are attacking many now in your history. I believe you live with your parents and don't get out much if at all. Enjoy your video games.
/r/seduction22/11/21 01:48 AM
4

OMG bro. it could have been 1000's of ways. Things just happen you were not expecting when you go out and interact. There was no teleportation involved. It would be a drive to someone's home or a car or a hotel or just the beach. What are you looking for?
/r/seduction22/11/21 01:46 AM
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we'd just interact over a long period of time and 'somehow' end up at the end of a night both on the same page. It was never planned out. It just happened. Sometimes it would be just simple sex sometimes more crazy.
/r/seduction22/11/21 01:37 AM
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It's not though. Too many men go out to prove they are some kind of stud or just cower in the shadows and hope something falls into their laps. Going out to a club is not for the overly aggressive or passive. I spent most of my life in clubs (now 50 started when I was 15). I may have gone home alone at times, but I didn't go home without having a lot of fun. Also sometimes that chick is a longer term goal. There were a few I met that just didn't go home with guys. After a few weeks/months just d…
/r/seduction21/11/21 09:26 PM
6

Agreed, the goal should be have fun. Dance a bit, listen to some good music, interact, etc. Also don't make guys and / or the staff off limits. One of my things is I like to get to a club early especially one I am new too. You can find out where the quiet places are, meet the staff, and be there as people start coming in and be friendly. Being friendly and interacting with the staff goes a long way if there should be some kind of altercation later. You have already shown them (hopefully) you are…
/r/seduction21/11/21 09:18 PM
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You are going to find an opportunity to be near them, if on the dance floor find a way to mingle in. If at the bar, say a simple hi, wave, whatever....smile though. If you get a smile and a hi back then stir up some trouble :) You aren't going to be having full discussions in a club usually there are sometimes quieter places if you are hitting it off you can go. The main thing is in a club/bar you are not talking to Polly Pureheart. More than likely that chick is looking for the same thing you a…
/r/seduction21/11/21 09:14 PM
2

I mention at times I was overweight and no status. I think the main thing is being able to talk to someone / people.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:34 PM
5

you would need to get out and about to make that work. With OLD, it's hard.
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:19 AM
3

brag aside (as a very good looking white man...wtf?), this is true. You have to love yourself and be cool in your own skin before others will want to join in (outside of having a ton of cash, just being extremely good looking, having influence, etc). I have always been able to meat? women whether I am fat, in shape, poor/just getting by/making it, have my own place/sharing a place/even temporarily living at home as an adult/homeless (at one point just couch surfing), nice car/normal car/shitty c…
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:18 AM
1

Bro, serious? "As a very good looking white man I can straight up tell you that more than half the hot girls I talk too are afraid of not being good enough and will look for guys that half more imperfections than them because it will give them VALIDATION." TROLOLO
/r/seduction18/11/21 01:02 AM
1

I somehow doubt a 24F virgin today. Anyway have you considered inviting them both over? Could be a win-win.
/r/seduction17/11/21 06:13 PM
1

it's not chasing one needs to do, it's keeping them excited and interested. What I have heard is many guys are just boring and want to talk about crap like video games (which some chicks may like, but when they are trying to flirt and get sexual not) and their friends instead of pushing their buttons. The idea of meeting someone of the opposite sex for dating is sex, that is the basis and if a relationship comes out of it even better. Too many guys don't try to make the first move and end up fru…
/r/seduction16/11/21 06:32 PM
2

it's because they don't care to give the true story. If you have such an extensive history then you should know what the numbers are for someone around that age. Most women aren't going to kiss and tell about flings and one night stands though. There is no upside to sharing that information with anyone.
/r/seduction05/11/21 06:36 PM
6

If she's been sexually active since 16, I highly doubt only 7 partners in 13 years. Be careful because some women don't count sex with a condom or sex where a man cums outside them. They have some strange rules to lower the numbers. In general assume a women will have new partner every 1-3 months when not in a relationship if they are actively looking. Most women will never be honest about their numbers as both too low and too high cause them grief. I knew one woman that claimed only 3 partners …
/r/seduction05/11/21 06:16 PM
1

Her little circle was used to dating guys that made a lot more than me. The types that could pay for the women’s bills they were with.
/r/seduction04/11/21 10:56 AM
23

Making out in a club and stuff becomes par for the course. I was once at a dog park getting close to closing time. I sat down next to a chick and she gave me this look like "I just want someone now". We started talking, I noticed she had had a spinal fusion once in her life (my first wife had to have that same surgery done). She asked if I wanted to touch her scar. I did and then next thing I know we are making out and more until the Park Ranger came with her flash light and told us it's time to…
/r/seduction04/11/21 12:20 AM
1

Chances are she is on the pill, chances are most women that say "I never do this/done this before" usually do. I hooked up with a chick like 5 years or so after we originally parted ways (we were just hooking up originally too). She said the same line she did half a decade prior about "I have only been with 3 other guys and all have been long term...". I didn't say anything at first, but a couple days later I let her know she told me the same thing before and if anything she should have said 4 g…
/r/seduction11/10/21 01:25 AM
2

9 times out of 10 if a girl(s) are coming back to a guy's place they are already thinking sex may be an option in their minds. What typically happens is the guy doesn't pick up the sexuality piece and they get frustrated or becomes too aggressive and scares the f out of them. Worse are the guys that respond like father's to a woman that is trying to make the advances or willing to have sex...don't be that guy.
/r/seduction08/10/21 02:07 PM
1

A very similar Starbucks post was made a month or so ago with this same approach.
/r/seduction01/10/21 01:51 AM
1

hearings or earrings. Either way sounds creepy af.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:00 AM
2

Indeed
/r/seduction21/09/21 01:35 AM
11

I rather go out solo every time. I am looking to hook up usually or at least meet someone, I don't want to have to worry about being someone's ride or them wanting to leave before me. I will usually get to a place a little early, talk a bit with the crew working and get to know them a little. This helps out later because if shit goes down with some asshole, they already know you a bit so hopefully would know you probably weren't the catalyst. You also get to find the 'best' spot at the bar to pe…
/r/seduction20/09/21 08:48 PM
2

It's co-dependence in a way. People do this with their jobs as well. If the relationship is that sour no matter how bad it could be, rip that band-aid off and run. It's not making you a coward or a bad person, it's they are just totally wrong for you. You may have to take some licks, but in the end you will be happier.
/r/seduction19/09/21 01:26 AM
6

My trick is to find the ones looking lovingly at the cucumbers and just lick their shoulder.
/r/seduction17/09/21 10:57 PM
1

Not sure where you are coming from though. Women use make up, if you are honestly happy out and about and can chat, engage, etc...then you should find someone.
/r/seduction15/09/21 01:25 AM
3

Actually when they do this if you are already at the bar/where ever. It works great. I don't use I will invite someone else or anything with them. I am assuming you know it's a BS reason and you are already somewhere.
/r/seduction15/09/21 01:14 AM
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Sort of weird she kept the sexual conversation going when she knew it wasn't going anywhere. It happens though. I'd have kept the convo going at least with the 'yeah good to have a friend though' and see where that went. I have broken down to a few women that I didn't just see them that way, but they finally got my interested. One was a very country girl (I am not into that) that was a little heavier than I go with (not obese, but curvy with a bit of a tummy). She finally put a move on me and I …
/r/seduction12/09/21 08:27 PM
59

Here is my game in a nut, be happy. When you are happy you will attract people. Don't look at every person as someone to bone. If a dude wants to hang out with you, help him out. Don't be an asshat. I have been broke, fat, and with a crappy car and I have still met real quality women. That said, the deal was not sealed all the time. Her and I had a nice evening. A lot of my exes are still very good friends. We don't hang out and the like, but if we need something the other can help with we send …
/r/seduction12/09/21 02:29 AM
78

This is how I live my life. I have been fat, poor, etc and I end up with hot chicks. My wife says I have some kind of honey. I look at life that my best relationship is with myself. If I am happy I succeed.
/r/seduction11/09/21 07:03 AM
1

I meant sex. Are a male? I agree though height is a wash in real life. OLD different.
/r/seduction11/09/21 02:31 AM
1

what's your height?
/r/seduction11/09/21 02:17 AM
10

Yeah I agree. One of the women I was 'dating' once just hugged me and broke down crying. She was cool, but I just didn't make enough money. I have no regrets, I am married to a wonderful woman now.
/r/seduction10/09/21 01:22 AM
41

I just posted about this above...a lot of hot older women are married/with dudes that have a ton of money and are out boning younger women. They hang in because they are comfortable and just play dumb. Meanwhile while their man is away with his next surprise business trip or late night board meeting, they are at their own meating.
/r/seduction09/09/21 09:54 PM
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Dating sites under Separated. I went back to dating while I was Separated in my 40s-50 and I discovered it's the code word for MILFs looking for fun outside their marriage. Most were in marriages where their husbands had mistresses or were at least cheating on them. Also clubs on ladies nights/happy hours will bring the MILFs out. That said you have to know what you are doing and a lot of 24 yo dudes just don't. You can't talk to a MILF like she is a 21 yo about Bieber and Fortnite, your bros, e…
/r/seduction09/09/21 09:50 PM
1

Just find out where everyone hangs out and hang out there too.
/r/seduction08/09/21 01:35 PM
1

She is playing you man and loving it. Probably bragging to her friends how she has you wrapped around her finger. She's probably hoping to push you into the rape/assault zone and brag even more. Dump her.
/r/seduction31/08/21 11:43 PM
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You have created way to much in your mind based on what I am reading. I think you gave off commitment vibes and tying her down. Why are you even following her anymore? Why did she invite you to your friend's party? Why didn't they invite you? If you go, I'd not focus on her. If she come up and is down to hook up then ride it. Don't assume if things happen she's now your GF or something. Keep it casual, fun and respectful. At 20 something you should be exploring what life offers especially differ…
/r/seduction29/08/21 08:06 PM
1

I need more protein in my diet?
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:37 PM
2

Based on my experience there are two polar opposites at a gym. Guys want every hot chick and the Hot chicks don't want to be bothered. I have been with quite a few gym chicks, but most of them were targeting the dudes pretty obviously.
/r/seduction28/08/21 11:36 PM
1

ask her to spot you on bench press.
/r/seduction25/08/21 02:32 PM
0

El Capitan del pantolones loco. Some group of girls gave be that title. They also stole my belt and required making out to get it back. I ended up taking two of them to the beach later that night, but one backed out of it. She was an awesome chick actually, but sadly was leaving the country the next day.
/r/seduction24/08/21 10:18 PM
14

unless his hookup was towing her car.
/r/seduction24/08/21 03:53 AM
3

I don't even know how this conversation would have come up unless you were really trying to have 'game'. She was probably horny AF and you were there (hopefully not talking about your ex). Game is not about age nor job, game is about making your partner excited, happy, laughing, etc. Game is not about walking up to someone and saying "Hey, this ain't going to suck itself!" or "DAMN GIRL, that's a damn fine ass!". While these things can work, it's a limited market. Game is really about being that…
/r/seduction24/08/21 03:51 AM
2

I don't recommend when going out for a hookup or meeting a woman you bring friends unless everyone is driving themselves. Too easy to have one person in the herd that wants to go home and spoils the night for everyone. When I used to go out, I'd get to the bar/club early. Talk to the staff, the DJ, etc. Just mingle. As the ladies started getting there, sometimes at least one of that group would point them my way. At the bar, I'd be paying attention to everything/people watching. When you see som…
/r/seduction23/08/21 01:21 AM
0

Really depends, I will say usually one is not just going to go straight at it unless you started out and about together. Usually it's put on NetFlix and Chill. Sit close to each other, you will usually see where it's going to go. There have been a few women in my life that we were just sex buddies. We'd meet up, sleep together and then go our separate ways for the night or day.
/r/seduction22/08/21 10:33 PM
4

not ready for a relationship is not a real one necessarily. I use that line too, but it means I am just looking for something very casual and no strings attached.
/r/seduction21/08/21 11:42 PM
2

I have a lot, many of my relationships were first meet sex. Hard to put it in text, but if you excite them the dividends are great. I like to dance and I have found that is one of the best ways to open things up.
/r/seduction21/08/21 11:40 PM
1

He left out in the morning his wallet, watch and phone were gone.
/r/seduction21/08/21 11:36 PM
2

It's not really. What I say is whatever happens happens. As long as we are both having fun and respect each other. It's mostly never failed. I have had women just approach me for straight up sex as well.
/r/seduction20/08/21 02:55 AM
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I agree meeting someone in RL usually is a better first match up. However; I always have used dating sites as filler and I have found some great partners and more friends through that (chat buddies mostly, but fun). The trick is be someone they feel comfortable with and want to talk too. Too many guys make profiles that are scary/creepy to a chick. Both don't like to see a half naked dude with a 'stone cold' look. They don't want to see your car, motorcycle unless you are doing something with th…
/r/seduction19/08/21 11:55 PM
12

Sarcastic? this is the way.
/r/seduction19/08/21 11:51 PM
4

I would not take dating lessons from your grandma.
/r/seduction14/08/21 02:20 AM
4

I usually don't do approaches like that where I can't interact more and lead into getting the name and number, but something like this works for those that are working/occupied. 'My name is X, you caught my eye. I don't want to interrupt you since you look busy, but I'd like to talk to you some more.' At this point she will be able to reply and you will tell if she is interested or not. Usually something like "Hi, my name is X. I'd like to talk some more too, my number is XXXXXXXXX. I get off at…
/r/seduction13/08/21 06:39 PM
0

this is either a troll or we are missing the important details. Are the girls straight?
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:25 AM
1

how much you spending on dates?
/r/seduction13/08/21 01:24 AM
1

yeah. I have found looks < how you can talk. I can be in my worst shape and still have some hottie wanting to chat. I have been told it's my eyes, the way I speak, etc. My wife tells me I am honey for all the B's (she means bitches lol).
/r/seduction11/08/21 01:50 AM
2

with flings it's not always look. With a bartender (stripper/dancer/etc), if you come across as fun/sexual; but not 'hey baby wanna suck my D!' every other sentence and can have a great dialog with them that goes a long way. I was recently single and I wasn't looking to get in to a relationship so a local strip club or two was a cool place to hang out, have a beer and talk to some hot chicks and others while seeing some nice eye candy. I became good 'friends' with a few and we'd chill, make out,…
/r/seduction10/08/21 11:51 PM
5

She wanted more trust me, she was probably hoping for you to say that her having a boyfriend doesn't matter to you.
/r/seduction10/08/21 02:51 PM
1

"she kept her word and put some effort in it..."??????? dafuq?
/r/seduction09/08/21 06:14 PM
1

As many have said. Avoid any comment about attractive, nice tits/ass/body, do you have a bf/gf/lover/etc. I rarely do just total cold approaches, but instead wait for some chemistry and move closer then wait for something to happen or a topic to discuss. On a bus there is usually something as well...out and about there is always someone doing something funny that you can just lead in with "did you see that? lol" Then you can pick up the vibe if she is interested or not. Close with a "That was fu…
/r/seduction07/08/21 09:48 PM
3

This is all practice. The more you do it the smoother you will get and also more confident. Trust me a woman can detect that non-confidence/second guessing yourself. Also the more you do this you will start to be able to read a woman and then know what the best way to do your approach. Some women like it very direct and others subtle, then of course all the various degrees in between.
/r/seduction07/08/21 04:24 PM
1

Ok Sir.
/r/seduction06/08/21 11:22 PM
1

I don't know how true the science is in this, but it makes sense (I have a 7 year college education in biology/zoology/chemistry and I have been with quite a bit of women). Pheromones are a real thing. That said, I follow the mantra you should lick it before you stick it, but if it tastes like trout; GTFO!
/r/seduction06/08/21 11:16 PM
1

No worries hun, I go for quality over quantity.
/r/seduction06/08/21 10:59 PM
3

Could be lots of things, in my experience if you get to the heavy make out arena on a first date and hung out all night she was probably expecting sex to happen and you didn't attempt it. Some girls have a huge problem with that and look at the guy as 'unmanly' for not trying to put the moves on. It's a slippery slope since the other half of women would claim they were some how a victim for a man just asking to have sex when they are practically naked and you've been heavily petting for the last…
/r/seduction06/08/21 06:45 PM
7

A few girls from Tinder to join you? I have not ever heard of that and don't know how that would even be put together as it sound sketchy as hell. You told her to tell the guy back home she was out and about alone with you? Her saying no to the kiss and then you saying you couldn't explain why you didn't kiss her to the others? Also at 19, how many times have you really been in love?
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:33 PM
0

A few girls from Tinder to join you? You telling her to admit to the guy back home that she was out and about with you? Her saying no to the kiss, but you telling your friends you couldn't explain why you didn't kiss her? Also you saying you have been in love many times, but only 19 is confusing.
/r/seduction05/08/21 02:27 PM
1

I have been pretty successful. I may do 2-3 dates a week when I am single. Many take months to just have their first. However I think you are reading to much into things and think sex is a problem.
/r/seduction03/08/21 09:41 PM
1

Your translation is concerning. If you want to go out with someone and play future spouses that’s not worry to me. However that is so limiting. It doesn’t have to be smashing, but if physically it’s not going anywhere then move on. Too many chat/text/etc for weeks and months prior to meeting creating a fake fairy tale that they end up stuck with.
/r/seduction03/08/21 09:18 PM
2

Never said I don't give af. I said many things are just irrelevant when someone is just a stranger. Too many people treat date #1 as a marriage. The idea of dating is to meet people not build relationships. Once you meet the kind of people you find you enjoy the most then relationships begin to happen.
/r/seduction03/08/21 07:57 PM
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I agree. My date is really no one to me at that point, but someone I am sexually interested in. I don't know what hobbies, TV shows, etc they like nor really care. My goal is sex. If the sex ends up good and we have fun, then we can explore learning more about each other. If we realize we are enjoying spending time together more rather than other people we are dating (and having sex with) then there is something to work with. At this point is when things go down the path of getting more serious …
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:25 PM
1

Most don't want to date someone that looks like a child. However; yes to attract members of whatever sex you want, you have to 'do things'. Those things entirely depend on who you want to attract.
/r/seduction03/08/21 12:37 PM
1

It was on the Rude Jude show. He was taking an issue with it.
/r/seduction03/08/21 01:06 AM
1

I was just referring to the gaslight part
/r/seduction03/08/21 12:07 AM
0

The problem is gaslighting has become just lying and that is not what it is. When you are being gaslit, you really don't know that's what's happening. It's all a mess. I am just reporting what I listened too. Today, it's expected that you announce every move in the bedroom and get a sign off. That just doesn't really work in life. Body language you learn, you put a hand on someone's knee and they withdraw...that means slow your roll.
/r/seduction30/07/21 01:34 AM
2

I just heard about this today, and it's becoming a thing. The Rude Jude show on Sirius XM.
/r/seduction30/07/21 01:31 AM
0

what were your questions?
/r/seduction24/07/21 02:34 AM
1

Are you sure you are the only guy she scheduled for a date?
/r/seduction19/07/21 02:55 PM
47

Singles groups work well especially with national groups where people may travel. They obviously aren't going to meet a steady regular. Also just leading in on a date with 'what ever happens, happens and as long as we are both having fun ...' I met a lot of women in all age groups 20's - 40's that were totally cool with that kind of arrangement.
/r/seduction16/07/21 04:55 PM
1

Good luck with that and airport security.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:55 PM
11

When they walk away from it then it becomes unattended.
/r/seduction15/07/21 07:23 PM
87

....one of the rules at the airport are not to watch/hold on to any strangers belongings and to report that kind of activity.
/r/seduction15/07/21 03:31 PM
-1

Salsa is a bit different than the gym. I get I am El Capitan los pantalones loco or something. :). Dancing is a great way the meet women.
/r/seduction10/07/21 12:07 AM
-1

In today's world (for the last 5+ years anyway), dudes with game don't do well in the gym, it's become the woman's last stand more or less for a safe zone in a way. The problem many leave out is once some dude is approaching women, they tend to talk. He can have all the game in the world as soon as the other women witness the pickup, he is labelled.
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:52 PM
0

until a Karen goes to the manager and says you harassed her. they'd cut the dude's membership in two secs. many gyms have these kinds of things buried in the huge contract. Most women have reported they never want to be approached at the gym as they are already feeling too vulnerable and those that have been approached report it's been some of the creepiest things ever. If you want to meat women at the gym, put out the vibe and let them approach you. I knew a few dudes in the mid 80s to 90's tha…
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:35 PM
7

lots of first approach stories happening in gyms. it's odd because the last thing most women want is to be approached in a gym or if from your gym on their dating apps.
/r/seduction09/07/21 04:19 PM
2

also it doesn't have to cost a lot of money. also make sure you don't smell like a wet dog, don't let your clothes sit days in the washer.
/r/seduction24/06/21 04:54 PM
187

pre-op?
/r/seduction23/06/21 04:24 PM
1

I avoid getting overly chatting on text / calls prior to having the first 'real' date (where we get busy). Too easy to create a fake relationship when you are just fantasizing and then miss that you are totally incompatible in real life. In fact, I usually don't text or call at all until the first meet up happens except to confirm it the day of or day prior. I have found with online dating some just want penpals for weeks prior to any real meeting and that is just a waste of time.
/r/seduction18/06/21 07:46 PM
1

bush > balls in face.
/r/seduction18/06/21 04:37 PM
5

tl;dr. Texting is indeed the way many couples end up creating a fairy tale between them. They text, exchange a few (usually outdated pics), get into some sexting, and then think they are in love. They finally meet down the road already infatuated and usually bang on the first date. ​ Sometimes this works out, other times they begin to see the flaws / deal with real time/life issues together and realize they don't have what it takes.
/r/seduction02/06/21 07:43 PM
1

Indeed. Why I only use honey or babe. A lot of women appreciate when you approach you ask what their name is, if not in the beginning at least a few minutes in.
/r/seduction31/05/21 02:02 AM
2

YMMV
/r/seduction28/05/21 05:28 PM
12

I usually never make work my first contact subject. Find out what she likes to do for fun. Then if you do that also or are interested you can set up a date around that. "Hey, I like that too / I would love to try that, would you like to do [whatever] together around 5pm Satuday?" Let her agree or set a new date. If she doesn't then you know. If it's on close with "I will give you a call this week to set up the details." During this call you can ask about picking her up, going separate, etc.
/r/seduction28/05/21 02:58 PM
0

Very dangerous for an employee to even ask after someone giving a phone number for a work related purpose if they can call it personally. You were cool about it, but a lot of women will go straight to a manager.
/r/seduction26/05/21 03:01 PM
20

The fact that the conversation continues is my indicator
/r/seduction24/05/21 03:59 PM
11

asking for a name is a given...I usually never care about work off the bat and if they are from out of town usually they will volunteer that info.
/r/seduction24/05/21 03:24 PM
9

no one forgets their first train
/r/seduction14/05/21 05:05 AM
6

I bring a dog and big jar off peanut butter.
/r/seduction14/05/21 05:00 AM
0

Sport fucking.
/r/seduction14/05/21 04:23 AM
1

cool story bro. This is a rarity for most people. What if the guys she made jealous came to toss you up?
/r/seduction11/05/21 03:44 AM
7

That's not what I said, however; I would not tell a woman I just met that things are exclusive between us and I am not looking for a long term relationship to just start day 1. We'd need to get to know each other a while to see if that is worth working on. In the meantime, I'd expect us to live our lives and enjoy things. I'd be something we don't talk about, but that we both know may or may not be happening.
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:30 PM
13

Depends. If you go into it thinking it's going to be more than sex then that causes the issue. I think too many people love the idea of being in love and try to make that happen from the first 'hello'. Go out, enjoy sex, if that sex leads to more then pursue that. Don't treat dating like a marriage, meet a lot of people, have a lot of sex, but keep safe. Once you have been with a ton of people, then you really know your likes and dislikes and know what lovers in general like and dislike. It make…
/r/seduction07/05/21 06:08 PM
2

Indeed and fashion sense is crappy clothes that just look different.
/r/seduction04/05/21 03:29 AM
1

replying looking good for your age is never cool. I think this is a story.
/r/seduction30/04/21 12:31 AM
1

Dating apps work, the problem is as you get older it gets harder because there are less and less people. Also many don't create very good profiles. However being out and about it one of the best ways to meet someone as there is a lot to be said about body language and sexual chemistry that is lost in digital form.
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:21 PM
1

A lot of wealthy men do this. It's concealed in allowing their mistress to use a vehicle, condo, etc, but at the end of the day they know they are 'on-call' for their benefactors sexual desires. When I was back dating between 40-44 and then again around 48-recently, I met a lot of 'separated' women that told me after a few dates they were still married, but their husbands have too many girlfriends and it was time they enjoyed the same. It was cool with me since at those times I was looking for n…
/r/seduction28/04/21 02:12 PM
6

You didn't put in your back story. However; today there is a divide between a man that takes control and a man that asks for everything. It's a mess. Glad I am married now again.
/r/seduction28/04/21 12:28 AM
0

Sort of true. Also for every woman that loves to be approached with "You are so beautiful/cute/hot/etc" another is out there crying how it's just objectifying them. The reality though is attraction is often physical #1. Then the other traits become learned. I tend to look at things more from a scientific approach having 7+ years of science dealing with behavior, comparative anatomic structures, etc. I am fascinated by some of this new FDS/etc logic out there.
/r/seduction26/04/21 05:46 PM
1

For what reason? This is exactly has it gets described. Someone talks about their dream lover and it's like no holds barred. Then someone they don't really care for just says "Hi" and suddenly they are talking about being harassed.
/r/seduction26/04/21 01:58 PM
1

It works both ways. Women are not powerless.
/r/seduction26/04/21 01:54 AM
0

There is indeed. However; hearing how all it plays out is insane. Too many it's totally ok if the guy was their dream dude, he can do no wrong. Too many if some guy they aren't attracted to, just says Hi to them, it's sexual assault. It's a mess.
/r/seduction26/04/21 12:19 AM
2

?
/r/seduction26/04/21 12:15 AM
-3

Agreed. This whole thing today of people having to ask if it's ok to just give a kiss to someone is ridiculous and most people would lose their minds if seduction was: May I put my hand on your leg? May I move my hand higher? May I touch the edge of your pants?
/r/seduction25/04/21 11:23 PM
10

I wouldn't use my snapchat as a point of contact off the bat. Use a phone number.
/r/seduction22/04/21 12:49 PM
145

I read this as "It'd take good head to make a decision like that in the moment. Good job"
/r/seduction19/04/21 06:34 PM
1

Many cardiologists are finding a direct link to heart disease and decreasing testosterone levels. This is no different than women needing to take estrogen.
/r/seduction12/04/21 01:05 PM
1

You make no sense. Financial sense is one of the most important parts of surviving along with physical. You speak either as a troll or one without that experience. TRT was introduced to combat heart disease. What happens is people abuse it. I have 7 years of college study in pharmacy and biological sciences (along with advanced math and other topics)
/r/seduction12/04/21 12:48 AM
2

me too, I think (and know) I pissed off quite a few women in my early years esp. that I didn't really care for girls my own age often and would date older (like at 18 I was dating mid 20's-30's as well). In the beginning I didn't see women thought themselves sexual like me.
/r/seduction11/04/21 09:08 PM
2

Most successful men would be taking TRT or even going beyond that like most celebrities do. I had the most success dating in my late 30's and through out my 40's because I was in shape, I had my own house and apartment, I didn't need to worry about money, and I had a couple decent cars (one sports car and another sedan). I'd be on dates 3-4 times a week or more with women in their mid 20-30's. Strippers would love to just 'hang out' since I understood that whole side of things and that was fun. …
/r/seduction11/04/21 08:16 PM
3

It's never going to be like those first couple hookups where you are tearing each other's clothes off in anticipation of what's unknown. Too many think that way, so go looking for sex with new people. What you do gain is familiarity and knowing what each other likes as well as being comfortable around them. Doing little things for each other goes a long way like a random kiss or hug, rubbing their shoulders, putting a hand on their leg, etc. Bringing them home some simple trinket. Watching porn,…
/r/seduction11/04/21 08:03 PM
1

even 60's and beyond...u triggered?
/r/seduction10/04/21 10:33 PM
1

That's been my go to. I usually lead with a 'whatever happens happens as long as we are both having fun and being respectful then there should be no problems.' Some get it, some don't want that. Some ask 'what is that supposed to mean'/'what! does that mean you are just looking to hookup?!?!?' It's worked out. It's not always leading to sex or a relationship, but usually I can pick up another friend which have at times turned into more later on.
/r/seduction09/04/21 07:01 PM
5

As others have said, why even bring up you inexperience? You have autism, you are not a quadriplegic. That said even quadriplegics can find someone to love. You have a disadvantage and that's it. Build up why you'd make a difference in their lives or bed, depending on your goal. Work on it and own it. Life with your challenges and never apologize for them (no one wants to hear "oh I am sorry"). Own your mistakes. Right now it's hard with COVID, but work on yourself. Figure out who you want to be…
/r/seduction08/04/21 01:46 AM
1

Yeah, agreed. Many that it just seemed to fizzle out would call/text out of the blue and decide to totally change their mind. Too many guys I think just approach a woman with the same canned response and cannot dynamically pick up on her signals and change their game. One of my biggest lines that has been successful (again like we are talking about sometimes not initially) has been telling them "whatever happens happens, as long as we are both having fun and no disrespecting each other" more or …
/r/seduction05/04/21 03:03 PM
11

This works with both genders. They are called attention whores. They want to be the center of attention and have no plans to hook up with anyone.
/r/seduction31/03/21 11:53 PM
1

I think the #1 problem is the introvert part. You need to get out there and put yourself out there. I was dating late 20's to mid 30's even at 18-19 because like you mention a lot of younger women (and guys) are more about talking about Justin Bieber or some other BS topic than something more stimulating and fun. Also by the time a woman gets to later 20's sex is more fun and less an event of proving your undying love/etc. You need to strike up conversation with the women who interest you, if th…
/r/seduction31/03/21 08:47 PM
2

I almost always have gone out alone. I am not looking to hang with my buddies, I am looking to hook up. When you have a side kick and they aren't meeting people it works against you as they often try to occupy your time/guilt you from leaving them behind and/or get too creepy with your potential lover's friend(s) thinking if you are hooking up then they should be able to as well.
/r/seduction30/03/21 01:57 PM
5

Also speaking of Florida, usually by the time you have gotten a number or two, you are already leaving the club with them or getting into it with them there.
/r/seduction25/03/21 04:41 PM
1

This is great advice and all, but dating has nothing to do with being in a 7 year relationship. I don't get the peanut butter part though....WTF is ordering a PB&J on a date.
/r/seduction24/03/21 03:03 PM
2

Asking about a purse may stick out on the wrong team. It'd work better with something like "Hey, weird question but can I know where to get that purse? My cousin/friend/etc showed me a picture of it and really wants it, but I am clueless on purses. Her birthday is coming up." Non-confrontational approach and if she opens up and shares/talks then you have a good clue she at least hasn't written you off. I look at approaches as if I at least leave with a new friend that is cool too. Some of those …
/r/seduction13/03/21 11:50 PM
12

this is sage advice. There is no right or wrong (unless you are breaking laws) to approach sex/women. I say for every person out there that comes home to their wife cooking dinner / knitting a sweater and is happy, there is another that would be upset if they didn't walk in seeing her with someone else's dick in their mouth. Be yourself and learn how to approach and learn how to take a rejection. Not being yourself works only in the beginning. Sooner or later you are going to want to be YOU and …
/r/seduction12/03/21 09:22 PM
1

tldr; going to get laid.
/r/seduction12/03/21 06:24 PM
2

Depends on age and group
/r/seduction12/03/21 02:53 AM
11

The trick with approaching a group though is sometimes the chick you want is not the one interested. There is a bit of body language and the like to pick up on before directly trying to get one of the group. That said sometimes the whole group is game.
/r/seduction11/03/21 05:51 PM
4

Yeah, each approach makes the next easier. If you are looking to get laid, you must know chicks are also looking for that. I have made approaches that I cringed at myself internally, but they worked. I also thought I made the most smooth ones and epically failed. The trick is not to take it to personally. These chicks don't know you and chances are you may never see them again anyway. Obviously this doesn't apply to small towns. Places like NYC, MIA, etc make it a lot easier and also easier to j…
/r/seduction01/03/21 10:37 PM
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